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BY DAN SAVAGE Dear Dan: A male friend — not my about it afterwards — and hears about it best friend but a close one — told me his from those other men — that condition has wife was really attracted to me, another to be met for the sex she’s having with male, and asked if I was attracted to her. other men to be consensual. And while the His wife is an incredibly hot woman and I calls afterwards aren’t a turn-on for his thought it was a trick question. I read your wife, DACUCK, if those calls make it possicolumn and listen to the Savage Lovecast, ble for her to sleep with other men and she Dan, so I know there are guys out there enjoys doing that, well then, the calls actuwho want other men to sleep with their ally are doing something for her too. You’re wives, of course, but I didn’t want to risk not obligated to have these conversations offending this friend by saying “FUCK with your friend if they make you uncomYEAH” too quickly. After he convinced me fortable — because of course you’re not — it wasn’t a trick, I told him that of course I but if you were to refuse, DACUCK, then wanted to have sex with his ROMAN ROBINSON your friend might withdraw wife. She’s incredibly beautihis consent for you to fuck ful and a really great perhis wife. Your friend and his son. I told him that I am not wife might be willing to the least bit bisexual and revise these conditions just not into MMF threesomes for you, DACUCKS, so it and he told me he wouldn’t couldn’t hurt to ask. But if he even be there. He just wantsays no you don’t get to fuck ed to hear all the details his wife anymore. Or if he later — and hear them from says no and his wife keeps me, not her. fucking you, well then, she’s I’ve slept with his wife cheating on him for real and four times since and the sex not “cheating” on him for we’ve been having is phefun. nomenal for both of us. But the talks I have Zooming out for a second: you knew afterwards with my friend make me uncom- this was a turn-on for your friend before fortable. We’ve gotten on the phone later in you fucked his wife. You knew he was a the day or the next day and I give him the cuckold, which means you knew he would details and insult him a little, which he likes, be getting off on you fucking his wife, and honestly none of that is the problem. DACUCK, which means you knew he’d be What makes me uncomfortable is that I out there somewhere beating off about you can hear him beating off during these and your dick. Even if he didn’t want to phone calls. Which makes me feel like I’m hear from you directly afterwards, even if having phone sex with a guy. I’m not comhe was pumping the wife for the details, fortable with this and I feel like our friendyour friendship was sexualized pretty much ship has become sexualized in a way that from the moment he asked you to fuck his just feels unnatural for me. The one time wife and you agreed. we met in person to talk after I fucked his So the problem isn’t the sexualization wife he was visibly aroused throughout our of this friendship or the awareness that this entire conversation. I would like to keep dude is out there beating off about you. fucking my friend’s wife and she wants to The problem is having to listen to him beat keep fucking me but I don’t want to talk off when you get on the phone — or having with my friend about it afterwards. to see him become visibly aroused when Shouldn’t it be enough for him to just know you meet up in person — and there’s a I’m fucking her? pretty easy workaround for that. (I love a —Distressed Aussie Chafes Under solvable problem!) Instead of giving him a Cringe Kink call after you’ve fucked his wife, use the P.S. This is his thing, not hers. She voice memo app on your phone to record a loves having sex with me but the calls to long, detailed, insult-strewn message after her husband don’t do anything for her. you’ve fucked his wife and send it to him. You’ll still get to fuck his wife, he’ll still get Dear DACUCK: It’s obviously not to hear about it from you, and you won’t enough for him to know you’re fucking his have to listen to him doing what you damn wife. If that was enough for him, DACUCK, well knew he’d be doing after you fucked he wouldn’t want to get on the phone with his wife, i.e., furiously beating off about you afterwards. you. This is a consent question. If your Send questions to mail@savagelove. friend consents to his wife having sex with net, follow Dan on Twitter @fakedansavage other men on the condition that he hears and visit savagelovecast.com I
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