BOOMER BUZZ BUZZ WITH BEVERLY Another form of fraud is if you get a call or an email from a friend or relative in need of monetary assistance, make sure you contact other friends or family to verify the story, and never give out financial information over the phone or send money to an unknown source Be careful and NEVER send money. Even if it is just a few dollars. You will never see your money or your love again. Margaret, I hope this helps you and all of my readers protect themselves when dating online.
Dear Beverly, It has been many years since I have been on a date. I know things have changed so what protocol should I follow? John - North Dallas That is a great question John because there are certain things you should do and ways you conduct yourself that will help you have a pleasing experience. First you want to put your best foot forward because it is hard to change a first impression. In dating a bad first impression may result in rejection. I don’t think that is why you wanted to go on the date in the first place. You want the person to get to know you. You don’t want to pretend to be someone you are not, however please dress appropriately. I have always been impressed by a gentleman in a suit. Of course if you are going bike riding you will be in shorts or jeans or biking pants. The essence here is that you should look and dress nicely. This will show the other person you care about your appearance but you also care about what they think about you. Ladies should dress in a manner that portrays the type of person she is and how she wants to be
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treated. Overly sexy attire may bring a conversation or treatment that is unwelcome. If you don’t care about what the other person thinks then you probably shouldn’t be going out on a date. I met a gentleman for a first meeting at a restaurant and he appeared to be getting ready to work in his yard. He had plenty of time to change into a more appropriate dress. His lack of caring about his first impression led me to a conclusion that he either thought he was God’s gift to women (he wasn’t) or he just didn’t care. His attitude and his inappropriate questions made for an unpleasant evening. I ended that date quickly. Dating etiquette includes not making the other person feel as if they are on an interview. It is common for people on a date to ask many questions because they want to get to know the other person. Some people ask questions in a way that you feel that you are part of an inquisition. As a Boomer I enjoy having a gentleman take me out. Men should remember to open the car doors and all other doors for your date. If the woman you are going out with objects to your opening doors then let her open the doors and do things for herself or it will bother her. Please be on time. Don’t make your date wait. This is another area where you can’t redo the first impression. If you did the asking out be prepared to pay for the entire date. Don’t take your date somewhere you cannot afford and never ask your date for money to cover the bill. Choose somewhere that you are comfortable with or give your date 2 or 3 choices of places to go. She does not know your budget. Don’t make her guess. Be sure to create a comfortable and open atmosphere which allows for open communication. You want to get to know each other enough to decide if your date is 2nd date material. John, when dating use common sense and follow the golden rule. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Margaret and John will receive a copy of my book “From Prude to Siren, 3 Stages to Fantastic Sex and a Rewarding Relationship” available from Authorhouse.com, Barnes and Noble and Amazon. Send your questions to GoSeeBeverly@yahoo.com.