Extra marital relationships

Extra marital relationships According to Wikipedia- Extramarital affairs are relationships outside of marriage where an illicit romantic or sexual relationship or a romantic friendship or passionate attachment occurs.

People all around are having extramarital affairs. Here are some possible reasons as to why people indulge in an

1. Early marriage People who marry in their early 20s achieve some level of stability and social standing by their mid-30s and they possible miss out on what they could have done in their 20s and find it exciting to indulge in an extramarital affair. It is their way of experiencing the thrill and excitement of dating.

2. Married for the wrong reasons Many people get married and realize later it was for the wrong reason.

Pressures from family and society is the culprit. Many people agree to marriage without even getting to know their life partner.

Once married, they realise the mistake they have made in terms of the choice of their life partner. If they meet someone who is a better match than their current spouse, they are immediately attracted to him/her. And that sets the stage for an extramarital affair.

3. Inability to deal with crisis Life throws challenges at us almost every day. Most of us are able to deal with the small twists and turns of life but some are not able to deal with bigger crisis such as — a serious illness in the family, death, loss of employment, financial loss, etc. Many people turn to someone outside their marriage to find comfort and support.

4. Parenthood Becoming a parent changes everything about a husband-wife relationship.

Priorities change, the time you can give each other shrinks and your immediate living environment alters drastically. While most women give their 200% to being mothers, most men who feel lost and unimportant at home, and indulge in extramarital affairs. And since most women are usually so busy being mothers, they probably don't even realize this soon enough.

5. Being sexually unfulfilled This is probably one of the most common causes for people to get involved in an extramarital affair.

6. Emotional disconnect Sometimes a couple grows emotionally disconnected from each other due to lack of time and lack of communication with each other. Emotional connection comes with sharing, talking to each other, listening, laughing together, showing care and affection.

If you don't do this, over a period of time, chances are high that you will get emotionally disconnected from each other as a couple and start getting emotionally connected with someone else. What starts out as an emotional bond with someone can eventually lead to an extramarital affair.

7. Disagreements on core values Tough situations in life test your core values and you have to make decisions which may not be palatable to your family — especially your spouse.

Sometimes this could trigger irreconcilable differences, which leads to an extramarital affair.

8. Differing life priorities A couple don’t discuss their life priorities at the time of marriage but with time, the priorities start getting clearer and more pronounced, and increasingly divergent. Over time, these become so different that it becomes tough to live together and agree on even basic things on a daily basis.

This can be a catalyst for an extramarital affair.

9. No common interests If you have nothing in common with each other, you'll eventually get absorbed in pursuing your own divergent interests. You will end up not spending enough time together. As you spend time away from each other, you get opportunities to interact with others and gradually start building a bond with those who share your interests.

10. Need for excitement Marriage can make sex, mundane and boring and to break the monotony drudgery of everyday life, some find it easy to have an extramarital affair.