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Dear Hugh Bell, Dr. Deborah Williams, Dr. Adwoa Akhu, Alexandra Eckert, Olivia Marla, Naj Buddo, Shayna Freeman, Alexander Allen, Ebony Mack-Ramos and Jacquie Berry This is our way of saying thank you for your hard work and support at Boniface Magazine.

Thank you for your smile, your wisdom, your thoughtfulness, your love, your friendship, your laugh, your generosity, generosit your devotion...hey, did I leave anything out?

Your support is truly recognized and appreciated. Thank you.

Most sincerely, Derrick Johnson Editor-In-Chief

Aytes 34 Rochelle Story Rochelle Aytes talks candidly with Boniface Magazine.

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ORLANDO PITA Grace your eyes on the artisty of Orlando Pita. “Orlo” is noted for being one of the Top hair stylist in the World.

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Editor’s Letter Contributors ON THE COVER BONIFACE Winner’s Page Etiquette 411 We Salute You!!!

Arts & Entertainment Letters to the Editor Careers Girl Talk Education Family Values

BEAUTY 13 20 30

Runway & Celebrity Hair Trends Meet the Cover Girls HJTTI 40th Anniversay Winner

HEALTH CORNER 6 67 69

Why we break out?

The facts about oral sex Are you in a stressful relationship

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From Harlem to Hollywood LaQuqn Smith Electrikfied School’s In Session Stevie Boi

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Why do Good Girls like Bad Boys Healthy Relationships Stalking & Domestic Violence

EDITOR’S LETTER

First, I must give ALL the Praise and ALL the glory to GOD. Words can not express how thankful and blessed I am

to have a beautiful Family, starting with my lovely fiancee and three children, Derrick Jr., Nia and Neylan. The two precious girls depicted above are my daughters. They are my inspiration for producing the Boniface brand. My daughter Nia actually was the one who exposed me to the name Boniface which she defined as meaning "Pretty Face".

I was struggling to find a name that would compliment the concept of this project. Little did she know that she had resolved one of my greatest dilemmas.

Boniface is a Multicultural Online Magazine in the field of beauty, cosmetics, fashion, health wellness, and nutrition marketed towards girls in the age group of 14-21, throughout the U.S.A. with a targeted demographic in The Tri-State Region. Diversity is a vital element of our Mission. We are uncompromising when it comes to providing opportunities for ALL young ladies. It does not matter what their ethnicity is, or their class, religion, sexuality or ideology. Boniface is committed to depicting young women, from all walks of life, with accountability and providing them a platform to express their individual voice, feelings, thoughts and artistic vision in the marketplace that can both encourage and inspire others.

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It was important to me to develop a magazine that was accountable but still fun, creative and interesting yet informative. It took 3 years to not just create the product of Boniface but to allow it to take on it’s it own identity.

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Why we break out?

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Clogged pores prevent the skin from breathing while forcing oil and dirt from beneath the skin to push it’s way out onto the surface, often causing a pimple, white head or black head.

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What are sebaceous glands?

Sebaceous glands create sebum or skin oil that keep our skin hydrated and supple.

Why we break out…and what we can do about it. Clogged pores prevent the skin from breathing while

forcing oil and dirt from beneath the skin to push its way out onto the surface, often causing a pimple, white head or black head. Over active sebaceous glands can stimulate more oil within the epidermal layers causing a build-up of oil beneath the skin’s surface which then pushes its way out by way of the pimple. What are sebaceous glands? Sebaceous glands create sebum or skin oils that keep our skin hydrated and supple. There are several ways these skin oil producing glands can become over active. For example, if our skin becomes overly dry, dr it will send a signal to these glands that it needs moisture. However, our sebaceous glands don’t know how much oil to produce. They just produce oil and can often produce too much, causing a pimple at the same time. If we scrub our skin too much we can irritate and stimulate our sebaceous glands making them active when our skin simply does not need them to be…not a very good look.

Poor Diet A poor diet, lacking in plenty of H2O (water), fresh fruits and vegetables and a clean digestive track, can certainly cause unnecessary break outs. What we put in our bodies is just as important as the fly gear we put on our bodies. Drinking at least 8 full glasses of water per day is absolutely a key factor in maintaining a glowing coat of skin. For those of you who have yet to acquire a true love for the taste of water, squeezing a little lemon or adding a couple of drops of juice to a full water glass can add some flavor, making water even more enjoyable to drink. Remember, just a couple of drops of juice in a FULL glass of water.

Eating fresh fruits and vegetables daily gives our bodies’ cells the dose of anti-oxidants they need to fight off free-radicals that can often cause all kinds of health issues…as well as acne.

A clean digestive system is something no one likes to speak in depth about…and we all know why. The subject just isn’t very attractive class room conversation. But, it is a very important aspect to maintaining a healthy body, as well as clear skin. Drinking plenty of water and getting regular exercise are ways to make sure your digestive track is working properly and relieving itself by getting rid of waste daily. A digestive track that is backed up is simply jacked up…bottom line. .

Too many hair and skin products Ladies…and gents, but I’m really addressing this segment to my girls. Please keep your beauty regimen simple. I know it’s hard but it is so important if you care to keep your skin clean. I love beauty care products just as much as anyone…I make them for goodness sake. But, I stick to a simple regimen for my hair and skin. Why? Because I know for a fact that using too many different kinds of products at once can confuse your skin’s cells causing surprise break-outs even when you’re following all the ‘clear skin’ rules I’ve listed above. When you find a good face wash, moisturizer and toner that you love…stick with it no matter what. Switching up your routine with all types of products you may have bought on sale, is simply a no-no. This rule also applies to hair care products. A clean head of hair is a clean coat of skin’s best friend.

Keeping your skin clean Now I shouldn’t have to remind all of you how important it is to wash your face every morning before leaving the house. However, just in case some of you fabulous folks are just wiping the buggers out the corners of your eyes…please take it to the next level by adding water and face wash. And, for those who have yet to add the face washing routine to your nightly regiment before hitting the sheets… please do. Our bodies pick up all kinds of toxins, dirt and muck throughout the course of the day and our facial skin gets the brunt of it all. Oh, and just two last skin cleaning tips. #1- Unless you have the luxury of a fresh hand towel for every face wash try drying your skin with paper towels or tissue. #2 – Change your pillow cases at least once a week. Bacteria can build up in over used hand towels and pillow cases, which can also cause break-outs.

Manage and Reduce Stress During these times we can all find so many reasons to be stressed out. But, it is to our benefit to shy away from stress whenever we can. The best way to do this is to incorporate more preparation into our daily routines so that we are not handling our daily tasks in a rush and under the gun. When you receive a huge homework assignment, start your research right away. Don’t wait until the last minute. Even if you don’t begin putting the assignment together until a week before it is due, prepare your research materials early so that you at least know where your information is coming from. This can make finishing the assignment a whole lot easier and less stressful.

If you’ve fallen in love with a special someone who has just broken your heart? Breath…take big deep breaths as much as possible. They will balance your emotional state and make getting over the person a bit easier. Writing down your feelings in a personal journal will help as well. I have learned all of these tips over the course of my young adult life and I am sharing them with you because I know how important having a clear complexion can boost confidence and build self-esteem. If only I knew half of these things, I would have saved tons of money and time in the mirror. (Yes… I was a pimple picker. The bad habit caused lots of scarring and was a waste of my time.)

To those of you who are struggling with acne…I feel your pain and understand your frustration. My suggestion to you first and foremost is to change your diet, eat healthy. It may or may not work right away but it will certainly make you feel better and feeling good is always good for the skin. Second, try natural products with little or no chemicals. Over my 15 years of battling sporadic acne, I tried everything under the sun, including Acutane, Retinol-A, microdermabrasion, and a host of chemically based topical solutions. Very few of them worked, the rest were just too expensive to keep up with. It was when I began my learning career and experimentation with natural essential oils and aromatherapy that my skin began to clear. Now, I wouldn’t recommend that you go out and purchase a bunch of essential oils to experiment with. These oils are very powerful and should only be handled by those who have learned how to use them first.

Lucky for you gals and guys, I have done the leg work for you and will suggest a basic formula that does wonders for balancing the skin and protecting it from nasty unwanted break-outs. I’ve been using this formula for the past 4 years and it has relieved a lot of my oiliness and irritation issues. Clary Sage, Geranium, Cedarwood and Lavender essential oils when used in their appropriate percentages and diluted in distilled water or high quality carrier oils are an amazing sebaceous gland balancer. These oils have anti-bacterial properties that are very beneficial to the skin.

I hope I’ve shed some light on the mysteries of our skin and it ups and downs. Please feel free to email me should you have questions, concerns or comments, keba@butterbykeba.com or post a comment on our blog www.butterbykeba.wordpress.com . It was great sharing with you and I look forward to sharing with you again.

Keep your skin soft.

Luv, Keba www.butterbykeba.com

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8JOOFS My name is Alexandra Eckert but I like to be called Alex. I am sixteen and a junior in high school. I like sports. I play tennis and I do track. I attend the Academy of the Holy Angels. I love animals. I have three cats, TJ, Louie and Luna. My favorite subjects in school are lunch, free period and Phys Ed. I would best describe me as a giant ethic salad, a mixture of African, Germany, British and South American. I get along with most people. I am very easy going. I am not sure what I want to be but I believe it is something in the medical field, maybe a doctor, veterinarian or psychiatrist. My parents got divorced when I was two year old so I don’t know what it is like to have both a mom and dad in the same house but my parents get along. I have lived in my neighborhood all my life and everyone feels like family. I like a wide variety of music but some of my favorite artists are Beyonce, Three days grace, Michael Jackson, and Rascal Flats. In my free time I love scary movies. Boys are not the focus in my life right now. When I get a chance to shop, I like to buy clothes at Century 21, because they have a great variety of clothes for an affordable price. My favorite season is winter. I like when it is cold outside and you winte come inside to a warm and cozy house. I also like sitting by the fire place. My role model and my hero is my mom. She is like wonder woman to me because she is a single mom, works three jobs, and still somehow makes time for family.

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Clothes Minded Leave the Timberland boots, sneakers and tight low riders jeans in your closest this holiday season. Taking the time and consideration to dress up for holiday dining events conveys a message to the host/hostess that you appreciate all of the work that went into preparing a great meal.

Arrive On Time A good guest makes it a point to be on time to dinner. It let’s the host/hostess know that you respect them.

However showing up before the schedule time may be an inconvenience because they may need that time to finish the preparation for the festivities. Showing up early means that they now have to entertain the early bird guest.

Oh How Nice…For Me? Bring a gift! This is a wonderful gesture to present your host /hostess as a simple gift of appreciation for being invited to their home. Candles, holiday napkins, chocolate or even a plant may be appropriate gifts and won’t even hurt your pockets!

Participate Try being more involved in the holiday festivities as much as possible by greeting guests and helping to serve refreshments. This helps you earn cool points and allows you to show off your ability to work a room. Parents love this!

Downloading E-communication Etiquette Turning off your electronic devices during holiday gatherings will be greatly appreciated by the adults. By giving your attention and focus to family members and friends, you are demonstrating how much you value their company. Think about this….if you are e-communicating with others outside of your festivities setting, you are essentially telling others that you don’t respect the company of the people that are in your presence. Therefore, how can you expect them to have respect for you?

Dinnertime Duties Now that everyone has arrived it’s time to gather around the dining table to get your eat on.

1. Waiting for your host/hostess to be seated before you begin your meal shows great respect and discipline on your behalf. Now don’t forget to place your napkin in your lap.

2. If you are asked to sit next to a relative that you aren’t familiar with make the best of it. Be mindful that it won’t be long until the festivities are over. And who knows, you just may be surprised at what you discover about that person.

3. Participating in conversation at the dining table makes others feel comfortable. Be prepared to share some thing about yourself. However, it’s important to refrain from gossiping and discussing topics such as politics, religion, health issues, or controversial subjects at the dining table… so play it safe.

4. It is highly suggested that you taste your food before adding condiments, otherwise you run the risk of insulting the host’s cooking abilities.

5. Cut food into bite size pieces so that you are able to talk during the meal.

6. Make a conscious effort to talk to people that are in close proximity, not just the person next to you. This demonstrates your leadership abilities. Adults love that!

7. If time permits offer to help clean up -Remember those cool points are adding up .

8. Finally make it a point of thanking the host and hostess before leaving.

So there you have it … you have survived a holiday festivity and now you have more leverage to negotiate with your parents regarding your plans with friends. I assure you that they will be more flexible in granting your request.

Good luck and Seasons Greeting!

Article written by A.D.Gayles (aka That Etiquette Lady) Professional Class Etiquette Training (646)586-1806

Hal Jackson Pronounces Jacquelin Harris the 40th International Talented Teen On the Beautiful Island of Bermuda

New York, NY August 2010. “After forty years of searching for the most talented teens from across the nation and the globe, the Hal Jackson's Talented Teen International Scholarship competition has never been more challenged than this year” said Hal Jackson, radio broadcasting legend and founder of the Youth Development Foundation, Inc. For the girls ages 13-17, the competition climaxes a yearlong commitment to their talent and academics so they might have the opportunity to rise to center stage at the Ruth Seaton James Performing Arts Center in Bermuda.

This year’s theme—“40 Years: Moving Forward and Giving Thanks” honors the legacy of talent that has appeared and performed in the competition over the decades. Among the list of some of the most celebrated entertainers who have added Hal Jackson’s Talented Teens International to their credits include Vanessa Williams, Michelle Thomas, Sheryl Lee Ralph and Jada Pinkett–Smith as well as past special guest appearances by Alicia Keys, Michael Jackson and Janet Jackson. This year there were guest appearances by teen heartthrob, Omarion and the Legendary Ladies of Skyy, which made the 40th annual celebration another memorable event.

With grace and quiet confidence, Jacquelin Harris age 17 of Charlotte, North Carolina danced her way into the hearts of the judges and became the 40th winner of Hal Jackson’s Talented Teens International Scholarship Program. Jacquelin will receive over $5,000 in scholarships, a full scholarship to Seaton Hall University or William Paterson University and have the opportunity to experience other cultures through the travel abroad, which is afforded the winner. Siera Toney, Tiara Lamm, Lennasia Harvey, and Monique Melchor, first and second, third and fourth runners-ups, respectively will receive additional scholarships totaling $5,000. Other winners include NiKayla Tucker, Neiya Tingle and Gayla Williams who were chosen as Miss Personality, Miss Photogenic and Miss GPA respectively.

Hal Jackson, the first African American inducted into the Radio Hall of Fame, with his strong commitments to youth founded the Youth Development Foundation, Inc. and launched Hal Jackson’s Talented Teen International (HJTTI) in 1970. The scholarship program devoted to “Promoting Culture and Education through the Performing Arts” has played an instrumental role in cultivating and supporting the academic achievement and artistic growth of over 25,000 young women between the ages of 13 to 17.

Over 90% of the young women that have participated in the HJTT program have gone on to graduate from college. The HJTTI program operates in the United States, the Caribbean, Canada and Africa impacting the lives of over 500 young women each year.

The 40th Annual Hal Jackson Talented Teen International is sponsored by Hal Jackson Productions, ICBC Broadcast Holdings, Inc., our platinum sponsors American Airlines, Seton Hall University, and William Paterson University, our gold sponsor Bermuda Tourism. Thanks also to The Fairmont Southampton Hotel, Bermuda Ministry of Culture and Rehabilitation, My Feet Travel, Make the Grade Foundation, CHIPS and Hollis Group. For more information on the HJTTI Scholarship Program visit them online at www.talentedteens.org.

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New York City native and star on the rise, Rochelle Aytes began her early career as a gifted dancer. The multi-talented actress danced her way through college and her passion lives on even now. From ballet to African dance, it was the combination of her grace and expressive body movements that would soon lead her to acting career. Her diverse work extends from Broadway’s critically acclaimed Aida to America’s favorite comedies, White Chicks and Madea’s Family Reunion. She has also appeared on various sitcoms including Bones, CSI, My Wife and Kids and The Forgotten. Not only is she extremely talented, but her beauty will leave you speechless! We had the opportunity to speak with her in this interview where she talks about her childhood, and her life as a rising actress.

Naj: So tell me a little about yourself, and your background.

Rochelle: Well I grew up here in Harlem. Some of my background consists of dancing. I did that as a child and I took classes at a place called Ruth Williams dance studio. I studied ballet, modern, jazz, tap and African. I did all of that stuff.

Naj: Where did you go to school?

Rochelle: I went to LaGuardia High School for Performing Arts Naj: A lot of “greats” came from that school.

Rochelle: (giggles) Yes, they call it “The Fame School”. I majored in dance there.

Shayna: So after majoring in dance in High school did you do the same in college?

Rochelle: Umm… What did I take? I took modern and I got a BFA in dance.

Naj: How did dance lead into acting?

Rochelle: Once I graduated from college I went to a dance company called Ballet Hispanico and I did a lot of free- lancing. I did commercials and I did a Broadway show called Aida. In Aida, I had to dance sing and act and that was kind of the transition into acting.

Shayna: Did your first acting gig involve dance at all?

Rochelle: No… umm uh my first acting gig was “Sex in The City”. I think I had about five or six lines and that was a big deal!

Naj: What character did you play?

Rochelle: I played a waitress in a restaurant.

Naj: I love Sex in The City so I'm trying to see if I remember (laughs).

Rochelle: It was the last year in the episode “Sexpectations”. They play it too much on TV. I played a hostess at this restaurant. It was a vegan restaurant that they all went to, Samantha and all of them. And yea I had to say some lines like “Ms. Jones your table is ready, enjoy your meal.” (giggles).

Shayna: So that’s when you decided to put up your dancing shoes?

Rochelle: Umm… no I didn’t didn really put them up, I still took classes and I did actually dance in a TV show. It was a short-lived show called Johnny Zero. I played a singer who was an artist and I had to dance.

Naj: So what talent do you favor?

Rochelle: Hmm… good question!

Naj: Well do you like both equally?

Rochelle: Hmm… I think dancing will always be my first love. I’ve been dancing since I was a child so it’s in my bones. Even if I’m not dancing I have to be stretching or exercising because it’s apart of me.

Shayna: Yea it’s definitely your passion.

Naj: So do you have any advice for young girls who are trying to make it in the industry? What would you tell a young lady who has a special love for dance but feels like they can’t take it to the next level?

Rochelle: My advice for a dancer is to definitely study and take classes. If you really want it, you have to be disciplined and you have to put in the work because it’s a lot of hard work and it’s a lot of competition. You may experience rejection so you have to really want it and know what it means to go for it. Take a class every day. You know, it can be tough.

Shayna: Is there more rejection in terms of dancing or in general?

Rochelle: There is a lot of rejection as a dancer and as an actress. I’m auditioning all the time so I’m used to it. I mean, to get into LaGuardia High school I had to audition. To get any job I ever had, I had to audition. There are many jobs that I didn’t get and I just kept pursuing it and pushing. I had to except it. You have to understand that it will hurt. You will be disappointed at times in this industry.

However, if you really, really love it you continue on.

Shayna: You were also featured in Madea’s Family Reunion. That’s like a comedy and a tragedy all in one. How was that?

Rochelle: Yes it was. Did you see it?

Shayna: I did see it Naj: I didn’t Rochelle: (looks over with a playful disapproving look) You were supposed to see it before giving this interview (laughs) No I’m kidding …Ok so about the movie. …Well, in Madea’s Family Reunion, I played the sister. Madea was my great aunt I think, and I was engaged to Blair Underwood who played an abusive obsessive, controlling man. My character was very timid, scared and fearful of him. It took a lot of strength to finally leave him but with the advice and help of Madea and my sister, I was able to finally leave. This actually sent out a good message. A lot of women have come up to me since then thanking me for inspiring them. So many women, young and old have gone through abusive relationships and it was good to see it and to see that someone can actually get out of it. So I felt good about that.

Naj and Shayna: Let’s talk about White Chicks (both sheepishly giggle) Naj: How was it working with the Wayans brothers? Do they keep you laughing or do they distract you?

Rocelle: The Wayans brothers were a lot of fun. They were amazing to work with. I remember auditioning for it in L.A. I was living in New York and I flew out there for the call back. I met Shawn, Marlon, and Keenan at the audition and they were really cool. You know, I had to sit next to Shawn and do the scene and Keenan was sitting right over there. He was just so nice. When we shot the film, we shot it in Canada for four months. There was a lot story telling and joking going on. We hung out we partied a lot. We got along like family.

Naj: What are your plans for the future? Where do you see yourself ten years from now?

Rochelle: Hmm… ten years from now I see myself married with some children. I see myself with my own production company, producing my own films. I can see winning an Oscar… that would be nice, but if not, it’s okay. I could see being on a successful show and just being unstoppable!

Written by: Princess St. Paul

Special Thanks to Rochelle Aytes for supporting Boniface Magazine Special Thanks to Naj Buddo for interviewing Rochelle Aytes Special Thanks to Shayna Freeman for interviewing Rochelle Aytes Special Thanks to Princess St. Paul for writing this story.

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Rochelle played Tara Kole in the TV show, NCIS from CBS and in the 2009 independent film Trick R Treat.

She also played "Eva" in the hit TNT series Dark Blue in 2010.

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Electrik Red is an ALL Girl singing group, comprised of 4 sexy girls, they hails from both New York City and Canada. Binkie and Lesley, who attended NYC’s prestigious LaGuardia School of Performing Arts, met the Toronto born Naomi and Sarah while individually performing as back-up dancers for artists like Usher, Mariah Carey and Ciara.

The girls kept running into each other at auditions and parties, and eventually formed a friendship. “We’d get together on our off time, and strategize,” says Naomi. “For some of us the ultimate was getting to work with an amazing performer, like a Janet or Madonna,” explains Binkie. “But once you hit that mark it’s like li ok, now where do I want to take it? In our case, making music was the next plateau to aim for.”

LESLEY

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While their individual careers started with dance, the girls all grew up studying music. Binkie the business early from her father who was a member in the legendary Caribbean soul group Kid Creole and the Coconuts. Lesley began vocal training at age three while Sarah studied the piano as a young girl. Once they decided to form a group, the girls decided on the name Electrik Red that they felt exuded their collective sensuality.

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In 2005, the foursome recorded a demo, and instead of calling on their long list of family friends and contacts in the music industry, Electrik Red decided to keep their new project under wraps. In February of 2007, that one shot came when Electrik Red secured a deal with Def Jam. Paired with Grammy Award-winning writing/production team The Dream and Tricky Stewart the hottest hit makers in town, who had worked with everyone from Mary J. Blige to Beyonce and is responsible for (Rihanna’s “Umbrella”).

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Thanks to the massive buzz surrounding Electrik Red’s first single, “Drink In My Cup.” The slinky, yet hard hitting atmospheric “Drink In My Cup” showcases the girl’s flowing harmonies and edgy phrasing. The mix of street and seduction makes it clear Electrik Red is taking mainstream R&B to an entirely new level.

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PARTY LIKE A ROCK STAR by Lady X The party never stops….from Queens to Manhattan clubs, teen jams and 19 and up parties….. it all happens the good, the bad and the ugly! It’s the fun life……with a chance to be a socialite and everything that comes with it.

My name is Lady X and I am an 18 year old party promoter. I first began my career as a party promoter at the ripe old age of fifteen (15). Originally I would lie to my parents about where I was going and what I was doing, telling them that I was going to spend the night with a friend. In my mind it was only a partial lie since I was going to end up staying the night with that friend, frien the other part was what we were going to be doing before we went to bed. First let me start with the fact that not all promoters are bad people, party animals or whores. For the most part we are serious about socializing and found a way to make money while building our network of associates that we can use for job leads, school info and just back-up in general.

My name is Lady X

I got started promoting parties by accident at 15 years old. I was best friends with a very popular girl who was 18 years old at the time and we were very pretty and sexy. A male friend who was promoting parties asked us if we would let him put us on the marketing to promote the parties and we loved to be seen so we said yes. The best part was that we would get to go to the parties for free. fre It was great and we watched how he ran his parties and how he would promote them on My Space. He would hand out flyers and get people to sell tickets. When we saw how much money he was making, we realized that we could do the same thing.

I went to my mother and told her what we wanted to do, how much money we needed and how much money we could make. I also told her how we were working for another promoter and we knew we could do it ourselves. She refused to loan us the money so we started and joined several party teams (that’s what we call groups of promoters). We were making more money with very ve little money coming out of pocket and it was great fun.

PARTY LIKE A ROCK STAR One night at a club in Manhattan I met a girl who would become one of my best friends, she had gotten drunk and guys were pushing up and trying to take advantage of her. I kept her safe that night got her home in one piece and we have been BF’s since then.

We promote our parties primarily through handing out flyers, posting it on My Space, word of mouth and getting the “beautiful people” to sell tickets.

We use the “beautiful people” to sell tickets by giving them a block of tickets and giving them 10% of each ticket they sell. We usually try to sell the ticks for $20-$40 depending on what age we are targeting for the party. ta The reason I love promoting parties is because I like to be social and enjoy fun with friends without drugs or sex. Not to say that it doesn’t happen in the parties, but I love myself too much to get involved in the drugs or loose sex. Still, guys will say they hit it when they didn’t and it makes it hard on a girl’s rep. But as my parents say, “if you know the truth and we know the truth, FORGET ‘EM and anybody who chooses to judge you.”

I am now 18 years old and I pick very carefully who, where and how I party. I try to limit my appearances, believing that less is more!

My advice to all girls looking to join the party scene is to go with friends you trust and watch each other’s backs. Do not leave without one another.

Do not leave a drink unattended and come back to sip. Get a new one. Most of all KNOW WHO YOU ARE, trust that you are beautiful no matter what people say and listen to your parent’s lame advice on safety. At the end of the day you want to always be able to hold your head high and keep a good rep with your name and image. Remember the word…. Socialite… not the words Social Whore.

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Why do good girls like bad boys?

This is a question that many parents would like the answer to, as it would probably save their child a lot of heartache. As a n innocent child, a girl tends to follow the rules, rarely causing trouble. That is up until the day she discovers boys, bad boys in particular.

“Why do good girls like bad boys?” This is a question that many parents would like the answer to, as it would probably save their child a lot of heartache. As an innocent child, a girl tends to follow the rules, rarely causing trouble. That is up until the day she discovers boys….bad boys in particular. Since bad usually means: awful, terrible, and dreadful, why do young ladies continue to deal with someone that fits that description? What is the attraction to bad boys? The answer is simple. Bad boys have a sense of adventure, so the good girl knows she won’t be bored. Since she’s always played it safe, this is her opportunity to explore another part of life that seems fun. It seems to work for him so she thinks it will work for her. he Now if by chance you don’t know what bad boy is, a bad boy is known as a thug, roughneck, rebel, a shot calla’ and a person without a cause. Bad boys are the type of guys your mama warns you about.

However, since he has thug appeal your common sense goes right out the window–causing you to lose your mind!

WHAT SHE THINKS

There are two kinds of bad boys: boys who flirt with danger and those who are just dangerous. Most girls will probably tell you that they like bad boys because of the challenge, the excitement of being outgoing or the thrill of not doing the same old things. Sometimes it’s just their swagga’ or the way he acts like he doesn’t care. Maybe it’s because he doesn’t have a curfew, or the fact that he doesn’t answer to anyone. All of that may sound appealing to some but what girls don’t understand is that bad boys are just thatBOYS…and they offer a double dosage of pain and pleasure. Bad boys will use girls for their own purposes. They like to show girls off to impress their friends or they’ll get girls to buy them things. Bad boys love to fill the girls head with all kinds of things (what they think the girl wants to hear). All of these things will make the girl feel like he loves and values her. These boys will do anything to get what they want, even if it means selling an innocent girl an unrealistic dream.

WHAT HE THINKS

Bad boys just have that “something”. It’s what draws people to them. It even makes some girls think they can save the boy or change him somehow. The funny thing is that bad boys won’t change for anyone except themselves. They are usually seeing two or three different girls all at once, while telling each girl that she’s the only one. Being immature, disrespectful and selfish are the primary characteristics of these individuals.

As womanizers, these bad boys are natural charmers so buyer beware...ladies be careful. If you’re in a Bad boy-Good girl relationship, you should get out of the relationship and go to someone who will treat you with respect. If you are one of those good girls who have a deep attraction for bad boys, make sure you choose the one that flirts with danger because the other type will break not only your heart but your spirit as well.

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RELATIONSHIPS

HEALTHY

RELATIONSHIPS

D omestic violence arises often in the media. The recent public scrutiny of Chris Brown and Rihanna’s relationship has also

highlighted domestic violence but little has been said about healthy relationships. Healthy relationships make people happier and ease stress, are about sharing and talking and provide a sanctuary from racism, sexism and other worldly stresses.

However, when you are new at the dating game it can be hard to tell if you are in a healthy relationship, or one that could lead to more than just a broken heart. Like quicksand it can be hard to get out of a domestic violence relationship once you are in. Understanding the foundations of a healthy relationship, respect, trust and fairness can help you sidestep domestic violence quicksand before you get stuck.

A first date can forecast the tone of the entire relationship. Be aware of some people using “company” manners, in other words are on their best behavior, when they meet someone new. But, with that in mind, you should expect to be treated with respect, trust, and fairness during your first date, if you are not there if no need for a second date. If he makes it past the first date keep watching to see if he continues to treat you with respect, trust, and fairness as you relax and get to know each other.

The earlier you notice that these things are lacking in someone you are dating the faster and easier it will be to move on to someone new.

The best way to guarantee that you will have healthy dating relationships is to practice the foundations of healthy relationship with your friends and family. Remember the golden rule and treat others with the same respect, trust and fairness you will now expect.

Respect: In a healthy relationship your date listens to your experiences without judging you. He emotionally supports you and tries to understand where you are coming from, even when he does not agree. He values and seeks out your opinions.

If your date puts you down, makes you feel bad about yourself, calls you hurtful names or embarrasses you in front of your friends you are being emotionally abused.

Trust: You have the right to be friends with whomever you want. You should feel free to go any place you like and to do the things that make you happy. A healthy relationship does not restrict your freedom. People in healthy relationships make sure they spend time with family and friends as well as that special someone.

Jealously is usually a sign that your date is trying to have control over who you spend time with not a sign that they care. When someone tries to limit or control your other relationships or where you go they are attempting to isolate you. Isolation is not healthy.

Healthy Relationship Quiz

Are you scared to disagree with your date?

Does he criticize you or humiliate you in front of other people?

Does he make you feel like you are wrong, stupid, crazy or inadequate?

Do you feel that, with he, nothing you do is ever good enough?

Is he always checking up on you?

Does he question you about what you do without he?

Does he repeatedly and wrongly accuse you of seeing or flirting with other people?

Does he try to stop you from spending time with friends or family?

If you answered yes to any of these questions you are NOT in a healthy relationship.

Get support with domestic violence at my blog: Fairness: In a healthy relationship couples make http://www.DrAkhu.com/blog decisions together. Even when they disagree couples seek a mutually satisfying resolution to the conflict.

Both members of the couple are willing to compromise to make each other happy.

One person making most of the decisions and/or using guilt or threats to control the other person is not healthy. BY DR. AKHU

Dr. Akhu is a New York State licensed Clinical Psychologist. She is the founder and executive director of The Sankofa Center for Health and Healing (http://www.SankofaCenter.com) a multidisciplinary holistic healing center in Brooklyn, NY. For more information about domestic violence visit: http://www.domesticviolence.org If you need help contact the national domestic violence hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE(7233)

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SO YOU HAVE DECIDED TO HAVE ORAL SEX (OR GIVE BRAIN)

Know The Facts Girls believe that oral sex is better than intercourse because even if I have an STD I can still have oral sex and not give it to the boy? False If you have an STD or HIV and have gum disease, or your gums bleed when you brush them or you have an open sore you can transmit STD/HIV to your partner even if he does not have an open sore. Blood from your mouth may enter your partner’s body through the opening tip of the penis or any cuts or open sores. A condom can protect him as well as yourself.

Many times younger teens perceive older teens as being adult and comfortable in their bodies and believe that the way to get to that comfort zone is through sex. They tend to watch how older teens get the attention of boys and begin to want the attention and popularity that these girls have because this is considered a status symbol. Hooking up with a boy for sex allows for girls to be accepted and but also says she is available for anything. Girls are faced with the pressure of having sex with boys and sometimes decide that oral sex is safe because of the following: no pain, no infection and no pregnancy.

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eenagers in the 10th grade are sexually active and having more oral sex than intercourse. In addition having oral sex over intercourse is more popular not only with 10th grade teens but also with teens in ninth and eighth grade and the pre-puberty group in 7th and 6th grade.

If you decide to engage in oral sex, here are some recommended tips to reduce the risk of infection: Make sure that your partner showers or cleans his/her genitals before engaging in oral sex.

Do not brush or floss your teeth before having oral sex this may irritate your gums and increase exposure to infection.

Before engaging in oral sex look at your partner’s genitals with the lights on and make sure he/she has no open sores, dripping infections or unusual smells.

Make sure the latex condom that you will use is not a novelty condom or says "for novelty use only.” These types of condoms will not protect you from STDs. Avoid deep thrusting this causes abrasions and tears to the back of the throat and makes you more susceptible to throatbased gonorrhea and herpes.

And lastly, always remember to be safe and take it slow.

You have your whole life ahead of you, why not live it in good health.

Girls believe that they cannot get a sexually transmitted disease from oral sex? False Millions of teenagers become infected every year with sexual transmitted disease (STD) like gonorrhea, herpes, HPV (human papilloma virus), hepatitis, syphilis and HIV. If you are receiving oral sex and the boy is positive for an STD or HIV your can become infected. HIV and STD can be in the preejaculate fluid (pre-cum) or in the semen. If you suffer from bleeding gums when you brush your teeth or have an active open sore, the infection can enter your system anytime you have oral sex. Using a condom can protect you and if things go further, the condom can protect you in the future.

Girls believe that oral sex is better than intercourse because they cannot get pregnant? True Howeve whether you are However, receiving vaginal-oral sex or giving penile-oral sex, either one can lead to intercourse if not then at a later date. Using a condom or plastic food wrap can be a barrier to diseases

STALKING

Domestic violence can take the form of stalking if the stalker is or has been in an intimate relationship with the victim.

Stalking, unlike domestic violence, can also be committed by a total stranger. Psychology, the legal system, and the dictionary all have slightly different definitions of stalking. The common elements include repeated unwelcome attention from one person to another that provokes discomfort or fear.

Stalking itself can take a wide variety of forms including phone calls, emails, text messages, gifts, and following.

These actions can range from the benign, for example, sending repeated gifts to the more hostile, threatening violence or damaging property. Stalking can remain at the level of repeated annoying activities or escalate to physical attacks or sexual assault.

Stalkers are often delusional. A delusion is a firm belief that is false and may even be fanciful with no relation to reality.

Stalker’s delusions usually involve the false belief that the other person likes or loves them and desires his/her attention.

Receiving gifts or messages may be exciting at first. However, the person who is the object of a stalkers attention may soon find the attention frightening. Victims of stalking report feeling vulnerable, depressed, anxious, a loss of selfesteem, shame, and hopelessness. These feelings can persist long after the stalking has ended. Victims may even blame themselves if there was an established relationship with the stalker. Friends and family may contribute to a victim’s guilt and depression through their misunderstanding of stalking, causing them to blame the victim.

Victims may also experience a number of disruptions in their day-to-day life as they make efforts to escape the stalker’s attention. For example, victims may need to change phone numbers, move to new locations, and change job locations. Stalking also has a cumulative effect, which takes a toll on the victim's well-being and can lead to a sense of isolation.

If you think you are a victim of a stalker it is very important to get professional assistance. Stalker’s delusions make them psychologically unstable thus increasing the chance of physical harm. The laws regarding stalking are complex.

Victims often require professional advice to navigate the legal system. In addition, as mentioned above, being a victim of stalking is scary. Victims also deserve the emotional support they can receive from a professional.

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STOP! “When I’m arguing with Tony, I find myself feeling depressed and hopeless. Am I wrong?”

Below are some suggestions to follow while you are seeking professional assistance and support: - Tell him/her that the relationship is over as soon as possible.

- Communicate in clear terms. Avoid using terms that could be misconstrued as implying that the stalker may get a second chance or that you are playing hard to get. Don’t worry about be nice or sparing the persons feelings but be respectful.

- Be as firm, assertive and direct as possible.

- Avoid all contact with the stalker. Answering the phone, responding to letters, or counter-harassing can be misinterpreted by the stalker encouraging him/her to continue the unwanted attention.

- Document all contacts and attempted contacts as this information may be needed if things escalate to involving law enforcement.

More information and support are available at: The Stalking recourse center - www.ncvc.org/src/main.aspx?dbID=dash_Home The Stalking Victims Sanctuary - www.stalkingvictims.com The National Organization for Victim Assistance (NOVA): 800/879-6682 or 202/232-6682 National Center for Victims of Crime: 800/FYI-CALL (800/394-2255) The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800/799-SAFE

GET MORE ADVICE FROM DR. AKHU VISIT WWW.DRAKHU.COM Dr. Akhu is a New York State licensed Clinical Psychologist. She is the founder and executive director of The Sankofa Center for Health and Healing (www.SankofaCenter.com), a multidisciplinary holistic healing center in Brooklyn, NY.