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Dear Future Me
My parents have been divorced for a few months now and I think I’ve dealt with it okay. I go between my mom and dad’s house every few weeks and it seems to be going alright. But this is going to be the first time I’m going to have to choose which family to spend the holidays with. I’ve always been closer with my mom, but my favorite cousins are on my dad’s side. Both of them are trying to bribe me over with big gifts and promises of fun vacation spots, but I don’t want to have to -Past You pick sides. I feel like no matter what I do, I’ll end up hurting someone’s feelings. -Past You Holidays with separated families can definitely be difficult. It’s important to know that you are not alone in this though! Many kids and tweens struggle with trying to “pick the right side” and avoid hurting their parents. This time of the year should be about love and compassion, not manipulation. In such an important time of the season, you could try to make a compromise by spending one holiday with your mom’s side, and another with your father’s side. Most of the time this can make everyone happy without having to make a big sacrifice on anyone’s part or feeling like you have to pick a favorite. However, this isn’t always an option. If this is the case, I suggest doing whatever is going to be healthiest for you and will make you feel better. I guarantee your parents will love you no matter who you choose to spend this time with, so you should focus on your wellbeing rather than trying to please them.
DEAR PAST ME
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-Future You
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