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NEW WEB ADDRESS: PLUS MORE TO COME! ISSUE 23.12 Shoppers Guide Part 1 EDITORIAL Publisher Editor layout & design Titanium Graphics

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in the know, on the go! ASK ACE

CHICAGO bars & clubs directory


Mike Macharello Rick Karlin


photographer Oliver Aguilar editorial contributors Harry Taint Gregg Shapiro Rubberwilli Ace Magya

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SHOPPERS GUIDE Egoist Underwear 3706 N Halsted St Chicago, IL 60613   (773) 281-5137    1. Addicted long johns - Sexy low cut long johns from Winter 2012 Collection by ADDICTED. Highest quality fabric blend with a good stretch to it. Amazing fit. Contrasting blocks of colors make these johns fun and super sexy. Designed and made in Barcelona. $55.99 2. XTG Fitness shorts - Work out in style! These gym shorts from XTG are not only comfortable and sweat absorbent, but also come with functional 3 pockets. $44.99 _____________________________ Moda Boutique 5140 N Clark 5140 (773) 878-8088 3. Cream Seriano Sweater-$1 75.99.  The Detailed collard and attached belt had an edgy touch to the classic winter look. 4. Layered Zip Jacket-$135.88. This textured jacket includes detailed black and grey panels that will make everyone do a double take. _____________________________ LEATHER 64TEN-Paul C Leathers 6410 North Clark Street 773-508-0900 5. Exclusive dealer of Schott Leathers, the original motorcycle jackets American Made since 1913 Male photo is the original Schott Perfecto - $635.95 

6. Women’s jackets in lambskin and in colors from $395.00 _____________________________ Cram Fashion 3331 North Broadway   Chicago, IL 60657 (773) 477-173 7. PAN AM-707 Double Agent You are not defined by your day job, so why should your bag be? The Pan Am 707 Double Agent commuter bag is sleek and mild-mannered on the outside while concealing storage befitting an undercover agent on the inside. 8. ORIGINAL PENGUIN JOEY WATCH 9. DRAKE LAPTOP DUFFEL Slim profile duffel includes separate storage areas for MacBook Pro (up to 15”), iPad, phone, as well as general storage. Also includes removable shoulder strap, organizer and 2 rear snap pockets. Water resistant, blended wool. Steel blue logo lining. 10. Flat Card Carrier - Thunderbird in Red/Blue Card Carrier with 1 back pocket and 3 card slots. 100 percent Top Grain Leather. Contrast stitching on back packet. 11. CODE FOLIO FOR IPAD Slim profile, genuine leather, custom molded device bed, three card slots, two internal document pockets, pen holder, camera hole, multiple viewing angles.


SHOPPERS GUIDE Village Cycle Center 1337 N Wells St Chicago IL 60610 312-751-2488

Tulip Toy Gallery 3459 North Halsted Street Chicago, IL (773) 975-1515

1. The Trek CrossRip Elite. Quick in traffic, sure-footed when the weather or pavement gets rough, and comfortable over the long haul.

5) Fun between your cheeks for the holidays. experience the unique pleasures of Butt-boy. combined prostate and perineum stimulation with the added sensation with the shape when inserted or removed. sit or stand, the stimulation is hands free! this unique product is made in soft, flexible, body safe silicone. turn the ro-80mm to send powerful vibrations directly to your p spot. Available at Tulip Toy Gallery, on sale for the holidays for $20.00 off original price.

_____________________________ Windward Boardshop 3317 N. Clark, Chicago, IL 888-706-0090 2. Supra - Carry On Travel Bag - $229 The Supra Carry-On bag is outfitted in weather resistant, black TUF, which is a material that has come to symbolize the brand with its strength and durability, yet elegant look and luxurious feel. It will fit perfectly in any overhead and has plenty of space for your weekend adventure. _____________________________ The Alley Stores 3228 N. Clark St. Chicago, IL 60657 3. Furrybones Figurines. Cute Collectible witty animals and creatures designed independent artists. Price ranges from $9.95 - $19.95 _____________________________ The Leigh Gallery 3306 North Halsted Street  Chicago, IL (773) 472-1865 4. “Giraffe”, Stoneware Sculpture, 21” tall, by Sharon Stelter Elegant yet whimsical stoneware sculpture with iron oxide wash and natural coloring. $220.00 10 boi

_____________________________ Unabridged Bookstore 3251 North Broadway   Chicago, IL 60657 (773) 883-9119 6) ALL PLAYERS by Rick Day.  List price: $174.99. Unabridged Bookstore’s Price: $122.49 “Rick Day’s opulent coffee-table books Players and Players Two both became instant bestsellers. At first glance, the photographs are all about sports, about immaculate and trained bodies in rugby wear, tight trunks or nothing at all. But Rick Day doesn’t just take pictures of masculine sex appeal. His work impresses with an almost corporeal tension. The interaction of straightforwardness and intimacy keeps us wondering: Who is the subject and who is the object? Rick Day’s photographs are perfectly staged. All Players is a 288-page compilation with a lot of new unseen material.”

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Dinner & Theater Rick Karlin’s Big Bite

Gregg Shapiro’s Theater Scene

Pizza Rustica “Burger & Beer” night on Wednesdays, highlights a different specialty burger each week with a coordinating side for $10. Burgers may also be paired with along with a paired brew . 3908 N.Sheridan, 773.404.8955,

Opening Black Ship Co. presents the Chicago premiere of “Foreverendia” by Brian Tuttle, directed by Nicki Mazzocca, in the Athenaeum Theatre’s newly remodeled Studio 2, Nov. 28-Dec. 23.

Burger Joint serves up your usual late night drunk fare; burgers, gyros, polish, dogs, chicken pita, fresh cut fries and shakes. Is it no wonder it was voted best late night eatery in 2011 by the Red Eye? What is more suprising are the healthy alternatives; veggie and turkey burgers and fresh salads. The ‘late night” designation can be confusing as the storefront is only open until 8 on week nights, til 5 a.m. on Saturday and Sunday, with delivery to all college campuses until the wee hours. 675 N. Franklin 312.440.8600, Wrigley BBQ “Is just a cute little barbecue joint in Wrigleyville,” says Jack Jones, the owner of Jack’s on Halsted of his new place. ““I don’t need to worry about wine glasses and fancy plates and cloth napkins.” Jones serves ribs, chicken, pork, and brisket in a smoker fired with cherry, oak, and apple wood. Burgers are made from grass-fed, free-range beef and sides, such as a creamy cheddar mac, maple whipped sweet potatoes, and beans with burnt ends are included in the barbecue platters, which cost about $10. 3555 N. Broadway, 773.472.1227. First Slice will win you over with its high quality desserts, salads and entrees. But if that’s not quite enough for you, how about the fact that chef Mary Ellen Diaz created First Slice, as a selffunded charity to feed the needy and homeless, more than a decade ago. First Slice today funds its efforts with a “shareholders program,” with some 100 subscriber families receiving home-cooked, restaurant-quality meals weekly. Funds from those subscriptions are used to make the same quality meals for people in need. Community volunteers, working with First Slice staff, serve often 300-plus needy and homeless each week through several social service organizations, such as Streetwise. There are three cafes: 4401 N. Ravenswood, 773.506.7380; 4664 N. Manor, 773.267.0169 and 5357 N. Ashland in Andersonville, 773.275.4297, 14 boi

A look at what’s happening on Chicago’s stages.

Hell in a Handbag Productions remounts “Rudolph the Red-Hosed Reindeer,” David Cerda’s parody of the classic Rankin/Bass holiday TV special “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer” at Mary’s Attic, Nov. 29-Dec.30. Ongoing Court Theatre in Hyde Park, presents a reimagining of James Joyce’s “The Dead,” with book by Richard Nelson, music by Shaun Davey, lyrics conceived and adapted by Richard Nelson and Shaun Davey, through Dec. 9. Neil Simon’s classic comedy “The Odd Couple,” runs through Dec. 9 at Northlight Theatre in Skokie. Next Theatre Company presents the Midwest premiere of Julie Marie Myatt’s “Welcome Home, Jenny Sutter,” at Noyes Cultural Arts Center in Evanston, through Dec. 23. About Face Theatre serves up its own special blend of classic Christmas and queer pop culture in the world premiere production “We Three Lizas,” by AFT Artistic Associate Scott Bradley and Alan Schmuckler, through Dec. 23, in The Steppenwolf Garage. Directed and choreographed by Jeff Award winner Tammy Mader, “My One And Only,” a musical romance featuring a dazzling Gershwin score and breathtaking dancing, through January 6 at The Marriott Theatre in Lincolnshire. Featuring one of the largest all-star casts ever assembled on-stage at the Drury Lane Theatre in Oakbrook Terrace, the musical comedy “Singin’ in the Rain,” based on the 1952 film, runs through January 13. Returning Profiles Theatre presents the 20th Anniversary production of “Hellcab” by playwright and former cab driver Will Kern, through Dec. 23 at The Main Stage in Uptown. Extending Mary Zimmerman’s Tony Award-winning production of “Metamorphoses” at the Lookingglass Theatre Company has been extended through Dec. 16. Now in its fifth year in Chicago at the Apollo Theater, “Million Dollar Quartet,” continues through April 28, 2013.

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BOI’S BEST RESTAURANTS Andies 1467 W. Montrose 773.348.0654. 5253 N

Clark 773.784.8616. Specializing in Mediterranean and vegetarian cuisine, specialties of the house include steak kabobs, gyros, and poultry dishes such as Greek Chicken and Lebanese Style Chicken Kefta Kabob. And as befits the cuisine, desserts include a very tasty baklava. The Sunday buffet brunch is extravagant and reasonably priced.

Anna Maria Pasteria 4400 N. Clark

773.506.2662. Owned by sisters who hail from the Basilicata region of southern Italy, this neighborhood gem creates homemade modern and traditional Italian dishes that are authentic, delicious & inexpensive.

Ann Sather 929 W. Belmont 773.348.2378.

5207 N Clark 773.271.6627 & 3411 N Broadway 773.305.0024. These bustling hot spots, serving traditional Swedish pancake house fare, are best known for hearty fare and delish cinnamon rolls.

Angelina Ristorante 3561 N. Broadway

773.935.5933. Hosting the coolest and hippest Sunday brunch crowd in Lakeview, the menu includes Eggs Benedict, fritattas, Croque Monsieur and mufaletta sandwiches, almond-crusted stuffed French toast, and the free flow of Champagne mimosas. Brunch here is loud, raucous and FUN! Great for dinner, as well.

The Bagel 3107 N. Broadway 773.477.0300

The quintessential Jewish style deli is the perfect spot for a corned beef or pastrami sandwich, some chicken soup, lox and bagels or a full dinner that tastes as if someone’s Jewish momma made it.

Cesar’s 2924 N. Broadway 773.296.9097 and at

3166 N Clark 773.248.2835 This family-owned operation offers an enticing menu full of delicious Mexican recipes, popular house specialties, irresistible desserts, and their signature “Killer Margaritas.”

Chicago Diner 3411 N. Halsted 773.935.6696

This world famous vegetarian restaurant offers vegan and organic offerings. Organic beers, wine, and spirits are also available.

Clark Street Dog 3040 N. Clark 773.281-6690. Open until four in the morning and serving up all the deliciousness you can imagine after you leave the bar.

Club Lucky 1824 W. Wabansia Ave. 773.227.2300. Popular Bucktown/Wicker Pk. restaurant & unique cocktail lounge. Generous portions of traditional Italian specialties and daily specials. Outdoor patio.

Crew 4804 N. Broadway 773.784.2739. More than just a sports bar, the menu includes a variety of hamburgers, sandwiches, salads & comfort food.

Gyro-Mena 905 W. Belmont 773.935.2600.

Augments the Athenian Gyros by satisfying the American desire to pick our own toppings! True Athenian Gyros is a choice of all natural non-ground meat (pork or chicken) stacked and cooked on a rotisserie.

Dragon Lady Lounge 3188 N. Elston 773.267.1970 Serving Korean-Latin fusion dishes from delicious fresh Bi Bim Bop and Kim Chi Veggie burgers, to delicious tofu tacos and beef Kim Chi burgers. El Mariachi 3906 N. Broadway 773.549-2932

and at 3420 N. Broadway 773.549-7020. Quickly becoming one of the very best Mexican restaurants in the city, the focus is on using fresh, high-quality ingredients for its “south of the border” cuisine. Full bar featuring over 100 brands of tequila.

El Nuevo Mexicano 2914 N. Clark 773.528.2131. Cozy dining room along with authentic Mexican cuisine makes this a great place for delicious dining. Open for lunch & dinner, great patio for summer outdoor dining. Delivery available too!

Fiesta Mexicana 2423 N. Lincoln Ave

773.348.4144 (2nd Location) 4806 N. Broadway 773.769.4244. Traditional favorites along with great ambiance. Nice place to bring your family, friends or bring a date to. The Lincoln location has daily specials & live music.

Golden Nugget Family Restaurants

2406 W. Diversey 773.252.8903. 1765 W. Lawrence 773.769.6700. A great option for after bar dining as they are all open 24-7, and have free parking. The large menu is sure to please, especially the classic breakfast and hearty dinners. Everything is housemade, known for fluffy buttermilk pancakes.

The Gardens at Cocktail 3359 N. Halsted

-773.472.1420 The Gardens serves delicious homemade pizzas, at a great price, with drink specials to match!

Halsted’s Bar & Grill 3441 N. Halsted 773.348.9696 This Boystown eatery serves up a wide array of tasty appetizers, burgers, sandwiches, and popular comfort food items at very reasonable prices in a fun and inviting atmosphere. Beers on tap are aplenty and the weekend brunch draws an attractive crowd.

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BOI’S BEST RESTAURANTS Hamburger Mary’s 5400 N. Clark

773.784.6969. “Eat, Drink and be... MARY” at this fun and popular Andersonville restaurant which features a wide array of burgers and sandwiches, along with an interesting selection of tasty appetizers. Wash it all down with one of Mary’s home-brewed ales.

Horizon Café 3805 N. Broadway

773.883.1565. This long-time popular Lakeview family restaurant serves up big portions of creative homestyle dishes as well as healthy fare at affordable prices. Breakfast served all day long. Delivery available.

IHOP 3760 N. Halsted 773.296.0048. More

than a pancake house, this 24-hour Boystown institution serves up affordably priced appetizers, sandwiches, and entrees that are sure to satisfy varying after-bar wants and needs.

Jury’s 4337 N. Lincoln 773.935.2255. Watch all

Nookies Tree 3334 N. Halsted 773.248.9888 and Nookies Edgewater1100 W. Bryn

Mawr 773.516-4188. A regular haunt for the locals of Boystown (also Edgewater) and popular with hangover recoveree. Open 24 hours on weekends.

Panino’s Pizzeria 3702 N. Broadway

773.472.6200. Panino’s has established itself as a Boystown favorite with its varied menu selections, including gyros and burgers, pasta entrees, and of course pizza. Delivery available.

Philly’s Best 907 W. Belmont 773.525.7900.

Authentic Philly cheese steak sandwich. Their meat is brought directly from Philadelphia. Also, medium crust pizza, oven baked grinders & fresh salads.

Pie Hole Pizza 3477 N. Broadway 773.525.8888. Their “hole” is open Sunday-Thursday from 11amMidnight and Friday & Saturday until 3am. Grab it and go or have it delivered.. your pizza, that is!!

the poplular sports at this friendly neighborhood sports bar. Known for their killer burgers. They offer a late night menu along with daily specials and even brunch on Sundays.

Rainbow Pizza 3450 N. Halsted . Serving up pizza

Kit Kat Lounge 3700 N. Halsted

773.661.9893. El Marchi Hospitality Group rolls out a fine dining stakehouse experience. Comfort food in a comfortable atmosphere with a full bar & wines.

773.525.1111. Providing the best of diva entertainment along with a full dinner menu, they offer ½-price cocktails and Buy 1 Get 1 Free Entree on Wednesdays.. On Monday nights get 50% off your entire bill.

Las Mananitas 3523 N. Halsted St.

773.528.2109. Traditional & regional Mexican dishes along with freshly squeezed limes for margaritas. Nice place to eat, drink and window watch people on Halsted St. Has a full bar & plenty of hardy dishes to satisfy any appetite. Serving the community for over 28 years.

Mia Francesca 3311 N. Clark St. 773.281.3310.

Celebrating over 20 years in Lakeview. A zesty, earthy cuisine of Rome and the surrounding areas of Tuscany, Umbria and Lazio. Encourages the lively art of dining with a contemporary, casually sophisticated trattoria ambiance, simple, rustic cooking, friendly service and fair prices. Beautiful private outdoor patio and weekend brunch.

Melrose 3233 N Broadway 773.327.2060. This Lakeview institution has been catering to the after-bar crowds for decades, serving breakfast anytime along with typical diner fare. Open 24 hours. 18 boi

by the slice. Open late nights Wed.-Sat. and cater to the hoards on Halsted looking for a quick bite to eat.

Revolucion Stakehouse 3443 N. Broadway

Stella’s Diner 3042 N. Broadway 773.472.9040.

Friendly staff serve up delicious diner fare, such as; fresh salads, a large selection of wraps, sandwiches, hearty entrees, pastas, and homemade desert

The Edge 2720 N. Clark St 773.929-7024. A bar

and grill serving breakfast, steaks, seafood, ribs, with a full bar until 2am. Free parking lot and open 24hrs.

Viaggio at the Park 401 W. Fullerton 773.747.3333, and Viaggio Ristorante & Lounge 1330 W. Madison 312.829.3333

Both locations provide a unique, memorable, dining experience by satisfying three essential must-haves, superior food-quality, a beautiful, comforting ambiance, and a service-staff that makes you feel like family. What more could you ask for??

Wilde Bar & Restaurant 3130 N. Broadway 773.244.0404. This cozy upscale Irish pub offers a laid back and warm atmosphere and a wide ranging menu. Expect updated versions of pub favorites such as chicken pot pie, meatloaf, fish & chips and burgers. Is your target market in our distribution area?? ADVERTISE YOUR RESTAURANT IN BOI MAGAZINE Call 773.975.0264 or email us at More listings @, click on Dining link

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FRANKIE KNUCKLES In the Chicago Spotlight Interviews with leaders in Chicago’s GLBT community

Universally credited as a pioneer of dance music and famously crowned “The Godfather of House Music” Frankie Knuckles made his name at Chicago’s groundbreaking nightclub The Warehouse in the ‘80s. His 1997 Grammy Award for Remixer of the Year and his work with mainstream pop and R&B superstars such as the Diana Ross and The Pet Shop Boys are just a few of his accomplishments. When did you come out and what was the experience like for you? I can’t say I ever remember being in. I’ve always lived a pretty open life. It probably disturbed my family a bit but I’ve always been the same guy. Name five of your GLBT heroes and explain why you’ve chosen them. James Baldwin - What can I say about James Baldwin that hasn’t already been said? A great American novelist/ playwright. My literary hero, along with Tennessee Williams. Sylvester - The first gay artist I met who truly lived in his truth. We became great friends and bestest girlfriends. I hate that I never got the chance to work with him. I miss him so much. Steve Ostrow - Owner of the legendary Continental Baths the grandest gay bath house in the history.He gave me my first professional job as DJ 5 years before I moved to Chicago. Steve also discovered Bette Midler, Barry Manilow and Wayland Flowers and Madam. Steve now lives in Sydney, Australia, working in AIDS advocacy. Keith Haring - Apart from being such a gifted artist Keith was also one of the nicest and most generous men I’ve ever know. Keith gave so much to inner city youth programs charities worldwide. Larry Levan - My best friend from childhood Larry was beautiful and as elusive as a butterfly. Growing up in this business he inspired and pushed me towards my dreams. He’s the main reason why I came to Chicago. There’s not a day 22 boi

that goes by that I don’t draw inspiration from the very thought of him. What do you consider to be your most significant contribution to the LGBT community in Chicago and at large?  Chicago adopted me a long time ago. My club ‘The Warehouse’, although off the beaten path, was very much a part of the community. I worked hard at bringing focus and recognition to who we were and our role in the community. Doing countless fundraisers in NYC for GMHC, God’s Love We Deliver and the Harvey Milk School, because of the level of success I’ve achieved throughout my career I’ve always felt it necessary to give back. Every award and reward I received I felt it my duty that someone, everyone in the community should benefit from in some way. A door of opportunity opens for me I try to take as many folks thru as possible. What are your future goals and aspirations?  My immediate goals are the launch my latest album project, “Tales Beyond the Tone Arm” and embark on a global tour in support of it, beginning in Asia at Christmas. And with my new launch pad moniker, ‘Director’s Cut’ continue to be a conduit for new artists, as well as established ones get their foot in the doors of the industry worldwide. We’re a bit of a pro bono production. So many young people in our community, and some great well established artists that the industry may have turned their backs on, have dreams that they’re trying to achieve. If my production work can gain attention for them and get their foot in the door, then we all succeed.  Words of wisdom to the next GLBT generation.

The world we live and play in is so different today. It’s so much smaller. The color lines have blurred regardless to what the old guard or, what I like to call yesterday’s queens may say. If we doing nothing else, we have to live in our truth. It’s all that we have.

IN THE KNOW, ON THE GO Street Talk Late Night Andersonville & Late-er Night Andersonville on Friday, Nov. 30, will feature more than 40 stores staying open late and offering great savings on distinctive holiday gifts and delectable meals… The debut of @mosphere 2.0, the take is an upscale dive bar on Fri Nov. 30. There will be dancers and a show..The grand opening of Mixt, the new clothing shop by the folks behind Egoist on Friday, Dec.7 should have the walls at 3526 N. Halsted shakin’ and quakin’... “Barlesque - The Final Tease”, the victory party for the 12 participants of this year’s “Barlesque” online strip-a-thon to raise funds for TPAN. Takes place at North End Friday, Nov. 30. It’s your last chance to donate to your favorite bartender… On Tuesdays DS Tequila Company celebrates starving artists with $5 create your own burgers, $3 Jameson’s and slammers and it’s only $2 for all canned bees. Aren’t we all artists in some way or another?... Work off some of that turkey fat by stopping in at the Center for open volleyball starting at 6 p.m. What’s the T? An event that photographer Steve Starr was organizing to mark 45 years in the business will now be a tribute to Starr, who recently passed away. The event will highlight Starr’s photos of journalists, broadcasters, reporters, columnists and publishers. “The Face of News” takes place on Wednesday, Dec. 12, from 6-9:30 at the Murphy Auditorium, 50 E. Erie. Younger readers may not know that before Starr began photographing events in the community he organized a number of large-scale benefits for GLBT groups. For more information, check out stevestarr.… Is it possible that Berlin’s Madonnarama has been around 8 years

already? Yep, on Sunday, Dec. 2, celebrate eight years of celebrating her Madgesty and kick off Berlin’s 29th anniversary week with a commemorative T-shirt giveaway… Every Sunday, Taverna 750 offers gourmet portions of its menu with three plates for $15 or 3 for $18… Holiday Happenings Take your clothes off and get your Santa on! Join the 2nd annual Santa Speedo Run, one mile through the heart of Boystown to raise money for GLBT non-profits in Chicagoland on Saturday, Dec. 1 at noon. There’s a $25 minimum donation to sign up for the race, with prizes for top fundraisers and a raffle. If you’d rather hang out and watch the guys freeze their jingle balls off, they’ll accept donations, too… “Santa’s Dead! & Dirty Carol’s Christmas” on Fridays and Saturdays at Hydrate will be too sickening for words. The folks behind “Snow White and the Seven Drag Queens” and “Alex in Wonderland” are premiering an homage to classic noir films and Christmas television specials… The always-interesting Theater Wit will present David Sedaris’ anti-Christmas show, “Santaland Diaries this season… Windy City Gay Chorus and Aria present “Wholly Family” (sic) on Saturday, Dec. 1 and Sunday, Dec. 2 at Senn Hall, 5900 N. Glenwood. The concert embraces a myriad of possibilities of what family is and what family means… Thursday, December 13th from 8pm-10pm Cram Fashion invites you to join them for their Naughty & Nice Christmas Party. Raffles, gift bags, music, models, complimentary drinks for 21+ at 3329 N. Broadway.… Finally, “Make The Yuletide Gay” with CGMC on Friday, Dec. 7 and Saturday, Dec. 8, at Francis Parker Auditorium, as the chorus reprises some of its greatest hits from its first 30 years. boi 25

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ASK ACE Not A Kept Boy I have found the man of my dreams. He is handsome, fairly well off and is smart and funny. HE treats me well and the sex is great. He’s also 35 years old than I am. Neither he nor I have a problem with our age difference but our friends do. His friends think I am a gold-digger and have said so right to his face (but not mine). My friends call him my “sugar daddy” right in front of him. He does not support me, I have a full time job, granted I don’t make as much as he does, but I pay my share. Is there anything wrong with this?

about expressing exactly what you want to do. Those in leather and fetish community are usually very frank about their desires and expect others to do the same. You might also want to check out or, which is written by Jack Rinella, who has written about the leather scene for many years. If you are interested in men of color, the Men Of ONYX Yahoo! Group is a good starting point. The leather scene is all about trust, don’t get yourself into any situation where you don’t feel you can trust the other person.

Dear NAKB, Yes, but it’s not you who are wrong but your friends and his. Even if he was supporting you, it’s nobody’s business. Many couples, regardless of the age difference have a disparity in salaries. How they decide to handle their finances varies with each couple. If your arrangement works for the two of you ignore what your friends say. However, you should tell your friends that he isn’t your sugar daddy and you won’t allow them to refer to him that way. As for his friends, he should address their disparaging remarks in a similar manner. There are any number of successful May-December relationships, Don Bachardy and Christopher Isherwood were about 30 years apart in age and were together for years.

Couch Potato My girlfriend and I have been a great pair because we’ve always had such similar interests. We both love to snuggle up on the couch and watch old movies, play cards, stay in bed on Sunday mornings with the paper and coffee and then have some mind-blowing sex. I should say that’s how we used to be. A year ago she had a minor heart issue and it really scared her. Now she runs an hour a day, prefers to go for long walks rather than hang out at home and is hanging out with an entirely new group of women who are all jocks. I feel like we have nothing in common any more. She’s lost about 60 lbs and looks at least ten years younger than she used to. I’m afraid that I’m going to lose her to someone younger and better looking. What can I do?

Curious but Cautious I am interested in getting into the leather scene. I’m single and not very muscular, so I’m a little afraid to just go into a leather bar and pick someone up. I’m afraid that if someone started to go too far, I could be over-powered easily. I want to be dominated, but have a say in how far things go. Dear CBC, The best way is to develop friendships with people in the leather community. Get to know some people for a while and follow your gut. You’re right to be wary of going home with someone you just met in a bar. That’s always good advice, but especially so if you’re going to put yourself in a position (such as bondage) where you have to relinquish control. Don’t feel uncomfortable

Dear CP, That depends, are you willing or able to become more active so that you can join her in some of her new activities? If so, that would help. If not, you need to sit down and have a long talk with her about your fears. Mention to her that you miss the times you used to spend together and that you’d like to do more of that. Mind your tone; you don’t want to come off as accusatory or blameful. State the facts. Ask if there’s some way she can alter her routines or if there are activities that you can do together. She has had a life-changing event in her life and it sounds as if she’s responding to it in an appropriate manner. She may be perfectly happy in your relationship as it is now. However, couples that have little in common do drift apart, so it’s important to find a middle ground you both can share. boi 29

CHICAGO BARS & CLUBS Boystown / Lakeview

3160 3160 N.Clark G&L, LM,DS Berlin 954 W. Belmont G&L, D, 4 Bobby Love’s 3729 N. Halsted G&L Cell Block 3702 N. Halsted G, LF Bonsai 3503 N. Halsted G&L Cell Block 3702 N. Halsted G, LF Charlie’s 3726 N. Broadway G, D, W Cocktail 3359 N. Halsted G, GB Elixir Lounge 3452 N. Halsted G, 4 Hydrate 3458 N. Halsted G, D, DS, 4 Kit Kat 3700 N. Halsted G&L, DS, R Little Jim’s 3501 N. Halsted G, V, 4 Lucky Horseshoe 3169 N. Halsted G, GB Manhandler 1948 N. Halsted G, W, 4 Minibar 3341 N. Halsted G, R North End 3733 N. Halsted G Roscoe’s 3356 N. Halsted G, D, V, DS Scarlet 3320 N. Halsted G Sidetrack 3349 N. Halsted G, V Smart Bar / Metro 3730 N. Clark MS, D, 4 Spin 800 W. Belmont G&L, V, 4 The Closet 3325 N. Broadway G&L, V, 4

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Chicago Downtown-Near north

Baton Show Lounge 436 N. Clark DS Crimson Lounge 333 N. Dearborn MS, D, R Downtown Bar & Lounge 440 N. State G Dragon Lady Lounge 3188 N. Elston Excalibur/Vision 632 N. Dearborn MS, D, 4 House of Blues 329 N. Dearborn MS, LM, 4 Krush/Prop House 1657 N. Elston G&L, D, 4 Nikki 1543 N. Kingsbury St. MS, D, 4 Second Story Bar 157 E. Ohio G, V

Chicago Northside

The Anvil 1137 W. Granville G, V @mosphere 5355 N. Clark G&L, V, GB Big Chicks 5024 N. Sheridan G&L, D, R

312.644.5269 312.923.2473 312.464.1400 773.267.1970 312.266.1944 312.923.2000 773.486.2390 312.857.5009 312.923.9536 773.973.0006 773.784.1100 773.728.5511

G------------------------------------------------------------------Gay L---------------------------------------------------------------------Lesbian G&L---------------------------------------------------------Gay & Lesbian D-------------------------------------------------------------------Dancing V-----------------------------------------------------------------------Video GB-------------------------------------------------------------Go Go Boys DS--------------------------------------------------------------Drag Show R--------------------------------------------------------Restaurant, Food

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Chicago Northside CONTINUED

Crew 4804 N. Broadway G&L, V, R 773.784.2739 Davenport’s 1383 N. Milwaukee G&L, LM 773.278.1830 Fat Cat 4849 N. Broadway MS, R 773.506.3100 Green Mill 4802 N. Broadway MS, LM, 4 773.878.5552 Jackhammer 6406 N. Clark G, D, V, GB, LM, 4 773.743.5772 Joi de Vine 1744 W. Balmoral L, R 773.989.6846 Marty’s 1511 W. Balmoral G&L 773.561.6425 Mary’s Attic 5400 N. Clark G&L, D, V, R 773.784.6969 Parlour On Clark 6341 N. Clark 773.564.9274 Mary’s RecRoom 5402 N. Clark G&L, D, V, R 773.784.6969 Scot’s 1829 W. Montrose G&L 773.528.3253 Sidecar Bar 6920 N.. Glenwood 773.764.2826 T’s 5025 N. Clark G&L, R 773.784.6000 The Call 1547 W. Bryn Mawr G&L, D, DS, V, LM 773.334.2525 The Glenwood 6962 N. Glenwood G 773.764.7363 Touché 6412 N. Clark G, V, LF, 4 773.465.7400 Uptown Lounge 1136 W. Lawrence 773.878.1136

Chicago Southside

Inn Exile 5758 W. 65th G&L, D, V Jeffrey Pub 7041 S. Jeffrey G&L, D, V, 4

773.582.3510 773.363.8555

Chicago Suburbs Hideaway 7301 W. Roosevelt Forest Park G, D, V, DS, GB


Club Krave 13126 S. Western Blue Island G&L, D, V, DS, GB, 4 708.597.8379 Hunters 1932 E. Higgins Elk Grove Village G, D, V, GB, 4


Mission 209 E. Chicago Downtown Elgin G&L, D, V


Adult Entertainment

Banana Video 4923 N. Clark G, BK Bijou Theater 1349 N. Wells G, GB, BK Man’s Country 5017 N. Clark G, GB, BH Steamworks 3246 N. Halsted G, BH, FC The Ram 35111/2 N. Halsted G, BK, D

773.561.8322 312.943.5397 773.878.2069 773.929.6080 773.525.9528

4-------------------------------------------------------------Open til 4am MS--------------------------------------------------------Mostly Straight LF---------------------------------------------------------Leather / Fetish W-------------------------------------------------------------------Western LM--------------------------------------------------Live Music / Cabaret BH--------------------------------------------------------------Bath House BK----------------------------------Adult Book, Booth & Video Store FC-------------------------------------------------------------Fitness Club


BOI Magazine, Issue 23.12

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