Voice of the Alliance: October Edition

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Shares her inspirational story!

Le' Siran Edwards and the 1st Black Safeguarding conference.

Jeremy Indika and his mission to break the silence on sexual abuse

of Voice of the ALLIANCE, Month. Our focus this year is plifying the voices of are transforming the world a d c alle g g outdated a atives.

This edition highlights the power of lived experience. We celebrate the stories of those who are rewriting the script, using their personal journeys to inspire change and uplift others. Their resilience and determination remind us that each of us holds the power to shift perceptions and foster a more inclusive and just society.

We also explore culturally centred care, mental wellbeing, put a spotlight on the 1st Black and Minority Safeguarding conference along will delve into the unique challenges faced by young people from diverse backgrounds. By understanding these experiences, we can better support children and families in fostering and beyond. This issue calls for us to listen, learn, and advocate for meaningful change within the fostering community.

Through shared stories and collective action, we aim to reshape narratives and create a future where all voices are heard, valued, and respected.

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Visionaries' Insights:

Feature articles from leaders and visionaries in the fostering community, sharing their insights, experiences, and perspectives.

MALCOLM GLADWELL

THE VISIONARY STARTS WITH A CLEAN SHEET OF PAPER, AND RE-IMAGINES THE WORLD.

TransformLives: FromFosterCare toCEO

Judith AM Denton

My care experience journey began when I was placed in foster care at the age of 9 I was culturally matched and placed with jamaican foster carers who did their best to stick by me and raise me amid school/college exclusions and run ins with the law, which could have resulted in my time in their home swiftly coming to an end

I became a Care Leaver at the age of 26, yes 26 My foster carers, who were undeterred and fully aware that they would not be renumerated, agreed for me to stay and live in their home for as long as I needed to be there. Moving out and living on my own, I went through a crisis which impacted my mental health, but a miraculous recovery saw me healed, focused and ready to move forward to embrace the next new chapters of my life I say the next new chapters, because I believe “Your Care Experience is a CHAPTER in your Book and is not the end of YOUR STORY”; and so the next new chapters of my story include my experience of working in the Financial Industry, to then become the Founder and CEO of The Transformed You, in 2013 The Transformed You came about whilst I was taking part in Corporate Social Responsibility initiatives within the Financial Industry. Each month I’d go into school to teach Financial Literacy and whilst there I’d witness behaviour in School, which reminded me of my school days. I had the opportunity to take a closer look into the root causes of the behaviour patterns when the credit crunch hit the UK and I was made redundant Going back into Schools and supporting pupils (as a Behaviour Learning Mentor), I saw how pupils in care were often excluded from Mainstream School & placed in a Pupil Referral Unit or an Alternative Provision They were often misunderstood by the School Staff, their Foster Carer and their Social Worker, which would lead to poor outcomes and poor life choices

This caused me to take the time to reflect on my Care Journey, see a change that is possible and embark on setting up The Transformed You, providing an Intervention and Support Mentoring Service, that transforms the lives and raises the aspirations of Children and Young People in Care and Care Leavers, whilst ensuring their needs are met and their true Voice is heard, as they journey through the Care System

Celebrating 10 years in 2023, we’ve moved into our own space ‘The Transformed You Hub’, and can now also deliver our ‘My Life, My Skills’ Group/Peer Mentoring Programme to prepare the Care Experienced with life skills and employability skills for their next chapters of life after care We have a Pantry (our Foodbank) for Care Leavers and a Drop In Support Service

More information about The Transformed You can be found at www thetransformedyou co uk Now I understand that the Care Experience Journey comes with challenges for all who enter it, however I also know that the Care Experience Journey for those who are Black, come with an extra layer of challenges This truth stood out to me through my work at The Transformed You. Working with Children and Young People in Care from varied racial and cultural backgrounds, for me, there was a cause for concern in how Black Children and Young People were being cared for

With England’s Independent Children’s Social Care Review pending, it made sense to explore this from a national perspective to make sure that the voices of the Black and In Care were included in the Reviews call for evidence Forming The Black Care Experience in 2020, our 2021 Report was presented to the Review, containing not only historical evidence of the journey of the Black and In Care from the 1950’s to the 1980’s, but also the presentday voices of the Black Care Experienced. Black we define as a Child and Young Person whose Ethnic Origin is either African, Caribbean including Mixed Race with African or Caribbean Heritage The Care Experience, we define as being in Foster Care or in a Residential Childrens Home

Collating the evidence in the 2021 Report, it was clear that the present-day voices loudly echoed the experiences of those in Care in the 1980’s in relation to, Black Children and Young People not always matched with families that kept them connected to their culture, identity and heritage This impacted on how they saw themselves and their community and impacted on how they were cared for. There was little to no preparation for the wider world of racism or discrimination, with some experiencing this as they journeyed through the Care System; and their ability to achieve their

aspirations were not always affirmed or championed Our Report also highlighted that Black Children and Young People go on to have the poorest outcomes and life chances in comparison to any other ethnic group in the Care System. To change this narrative, The Black Care Experience saw the need to actively provide the Children’s Social Care Sector, with insight and solutions on how to raise and care for Black Children and Young People in their Care

This we do through our Annual Workshop Style Conference, through our Charter, which is a set of commitments, the Sector Workforces can sign up to and use as a Framework to help improve their systems, service and practice We’ve created Handbooks and put together a Directory of Products and Services tailored to the Black Child and Young Person in Care, and we’re able to Consult and deliver our Training Course, all to equip andempower the Sector on how to make a difference in the lives of our Black Children and Young People

The mission of our work is to reshape the narrative; this principle underlies everything we do at The Black Care Experience.

To find out more and connect with The Black Care Experience, feel free to visit us at www.theblackcareexperience.co.uk and Save The Date to attend our 4th Annual Conference on Saturday 15 th February 2025

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Foster to Adopt: A Pathway to Stability for Minority Children

The foster to adopt initiative is an increasingly vital strategy that holds promise for providing stable, loving homes for children, particularly those from minority backgrounds This

approach allows children to be placed with foster parents who are open to adoption, creating an environment where they can form lasting bonds while reducing the instability that often comes with multiple placements This initiative is especially critical for Black and minority children who are disproportionately represented in the foster care system and are less likely to be adopted

Overrepresentation of Black Children in Care

Statistics reveal a troubling trend: Black children are overrepresented in the foster care system According to data from he UK’s Department for Education, Black children make up approximately 8% of the children in care, despite representing only

the UK’s Department for Education, Black children make up approximately 8% of the children in care, despite representing only 5% of the general child population. These children face longer waiting times for adoption compared to their white peers

A report from the Adoption and Special Guardianship Leadership Board indicated that in 2020, Black children waited on average 1,302 days from entering care to being adopted, compared to 919 days for white children.

This overrepresentation and the extended wait times highlight systemic issues within the foster care and adoption processes that disadvantage Black and minority children These delays can have long-lasting impacts on the emotional and psychological wellbeing of these children, making it crucial to address the barriers to adoption that exist within the system

Barriers to Adoption for Minority Groups

Several social and economic factors contribute to the low rates of adoption among Black and minority communities Financial instability, housing issues, and

systemic biases within the adoption process are significant hurdles Many minority families face economic disadvantages that make meeting the stringent requirements for adoption more challenging Moreover, the lack of targeted support and resources for minority adopters further exacerbates these issues.

Racial bias and cultural misunderstandings also play a role Potential adopters from minority backgrounds often report feeling discouraged by the adoption process, citing experiences of discrimination and a lack of cultural competency among adoption agencies. These experiences can deter many from pursuing adoption, despite a genuine desire to provide a stable and loving home for a child

The Potential of Foster to Adopt

Foster to adopt initiatives present a promising solution to these challenges By placing children with foster parents who are open to adoption, this approach allows for the development of emotional bonds and a sense of stability early on. Research indicates that children in stable foster to adopt placements are more likely to thrive and less likely to experience the negative outcomes associated with prolonged stays in the foster care system One of the critical advantages of foster to adopt is that it allows foster parents to build a relationship with the child, which can often lead to adoption Emotional ties developed during fostering can significantly increase the likelihood of adoption However, this potential is not fully realized due to systemic barriers and attitudes within fostering agencies and local authorities

Challenges Within Agencies and Local Authorities

Despite the clear benefits, many agencies and local authorities do not fully support the foster to adopt model Some agencies view foster to adopt initiatives as "bed blocking," where children are perceived to occupy spaces that could be used for other children in need of foster

care. This perspective fails to recognize the long-term benefits of stable, permanent placements Moreover, large fostering agencies may be reluctant to promote foster to adopt due to a fear of losing foster carers. These agencies often prioritize maintaining a steady pool of foster carers over facilitating adoptions, which can limit the opportunities for children to be placed in permanent homes This short-sighted approach neglects the best interests of the children and fails to address the systemic issues that contribute to their prolonged stays in foster care

In The Role of Emotional Ties

The development of emotional ties between foster parents and children is a critical factor in successful adoptions. Studies have shown that children who form strong, secure attachments with their foster parents are more likely to experience positive outcomes and are more likely to be adopted These bonds provide a sense of stability and belonging that is essential for the child's development.

Foster to adopt placements facilitate the formation of these bonds, making it more likely that foster parents will choose to adopt the child This approach aligns with the best interests of the child, providing them with the stability and continuity that is crucial for their emotional and psychological wellbeing

Moving Forward: Encouraging Foster to Adopt

To maximize the potential of foster to adopt initiatives, it is essential to address the barriers that prevent their widespread adoption This includes providing targeted support and resources for minority adopters, promoting cultural competency among adoption agencies, and challenging the systemic biases that exist within the foster care and adoption processes

Local authorities and fostering agencies must recognize the longterm benefits of stable, permanent placements and prioritize the best interests of the children in their care This may require a shift in perspective and a commitment to supporting foster to adopt initiatives as a viable and beneficial pathway to adoption.

The foster to adopt initiative offers a promising solution to the challenges faced by Black and minority children in the foster care system By providing a pathway to stable, permanent placements, this approach can help to reduce the overrepresentation of minority children in care and increase their chances of being adopted To achieve this, it is essential to address the social and economic barriers that prevent minority families from adopting and to promote a more inclusive and supportive adoption process

At the Black Foster Carers Alliance (BFCA), we are committed to supporting foster to adopt initiatives and advocating for the needs of minority children in care. We offer a range of services, including cultural competency training, mentorship, and advocacy, to support foster carers and adoption agencies For more information about adoption and to explore the resources available, please visit Adopt England.

The 1st Black & Diverse Safeguarding Conference

Le' Siran Edwards

My Journey Into Social Work

My professional journey began in childcare, a field where I felt deeply connected to nurturing young minds Starting with out-of-school clubs and nurseries, I eventually moved into nursery management It was in this role that my path began to shift towards safeguarding, a responsibility that quickly resonated with me on a deeper level

Safeguarding was more than a nursery management task; it became a profound duty Protecting children and supporting families was not just a job but a calling The satisfaction of ensuring their safety and well-being motivated me to pursue further education, leading to a BA in Early Childhood Studies This degree enriched my understanding of child development and family dynamics, preparing me for the next step: a Master’s in Social Work

The Master’s program was a natural progression, allowing me to engage more meaningfully with children and families. Social work provided the tools to help people navigate life’s challenges and build better futures With an extensive background in childcare, transitioning to a children’s social worker felt like the perfect fit I wanted to be on the front lines, offering guidance, hope and support directly

Over 25 years, I’ve worked with children and families, witnessing their resilience and supporting their journey to stability My belief in people’s potential and capacity for growth drives me every day Social work isn’t just what I do; it’s who I am and it remains one of the most rewarding aspects of my life.

My Journey Into Coaching

My dedication to social work came with significant challenges. After years of hard work, I found myself burned out and exhausted I’d placed my well-being second! It was a difficult and isolating place, where the passion I once had seemed overshadowed by exhaustion

A pivotal conversation with a friend changed everything. They asked if I would continue complaining or do something about my situation This question struck a chord, making me realise I had the power to change my circumstances I sought out coaching, which was transformative I discovered that the issue wasn’t social work itself but my work-life balance.

Coaching played a pivotal role in helping me identify and address these challenges, empowering me to make meaningful changes in my life My growing passion for coaching led me to pursue formal training and certification For nearly a decade, I have had the privilege of coaching social workers, entrepreneurs, organisations, and clients overseas Throughout this time, I have also organised empowerment events for business owners and women and authored several books My coaching practice has continued to evolve and my commitment to this work has only grown stronger

Coaching revealed a critical need within our professional community. Social workers often neglect their own well-being while focusing on others I aimed to provide coaching alongside planners, journals, events, my Dear Social Worker Podcast and workshops to make our jobs easier and our lives more balanced I wanted to offer the same confidence and empowerment I experienced, helping to maintain retention, support emotional and physical health and minimise burnout. I’m proud to say I offer now this full time through my organisation, the Social Work Coaching Hub Coaching has been a gift, and I’m passionate about sharing it to empower social workers and leaders to thrive

The Birth of the Black Safeguarding Conference

As a Black social worker, I’ve faced the harsh realities of colourism and racism within the system Many times, I felt unsupported and isolated, experiences that deeply impacted me Despite my efforts to seek change through Black social worker groups, real progress seemed blocked The racial trauma many of us carry only deepened when I transitioned into full-time coaching. Through my coaching practice, I became a confidante for Black and diverse professionals across the country I heard stories of isolation and frustration, realising that these experiences were continuing to grow Many felt unsupported at work and unable to share their struggles with family or colleagues, who didn’t grasp the nuances of workplace racial trauma

It became clear that these professionals needed more than individual support they needed a community This led to the vision of a national conference where Black and diverse safeguarding professionals could unite, share experiences and create change Although anti-racism leaders exist throughout the UK, gathering in one space, could be powerful!

With this vision, I created a registration link for what I hoped would be the UK's first Black and Diverse Safeguarding Professionals Conference. I set a goal of 30 registrants, but nearly 200 signed up and counting!

This overwhelming response confirmed that the space was needed What started as notes and idea in a notepad had grown into a significant event, with professionals from across the UK coming together. Your feedback has guided my mission, showing a desire for a supportive environment and for those outside the Global Majority to learn how to be better allies

The conference aims to create a safe space for honest, solution-focused conversations. It’s the beginning of a movement to reshape the future of safeguarding and support each other in meaningful ways Join us for this historic event, where we can make history together and build a more inclusive and supportive profession

A Movement Towards Change and Empowerment

The inaugural Black and Diverse Safeguarding Professionals Conference represents a historic milestone As the first event of its kind, it addresses the unique challenges faced by Black and diverse safeguarding professionals

This conference creates a space to come together, share experiences and work collaboratively toward solutions that enhance our well-being and effectiveness

My experiences as a Black social worker have been shaped by colourism and racism, leading to feelings of isolation and lack of support These challenges are widespread among diverse professionals, yet a unified, national platform specifically for safeguarding professionals has been lacking

One reason for this gap might be our reliance on localised support structures While local initiatives provide valuable help, they often fall short of addressing broader systemic issues on a national scale. Equality officers, though crucial, may face their own challenges, including job security concerns This conference aims to fill that gap by providing a dedicated, safe space for support and dialogue

The Black and Diverse Safeguarding Professionals Conference addresses these needs by offering a comprehensive platform to discuss experiences, seek guidance, and develop strategies for overcoming barriers It’s a place to connect with others who understand our challenges and work together for positive change

This event celebrates our shared experiences and fosters a sense of community. It’s an opportunity to build networks, exchange ideas, and develop solutions that benefit us all By coming together, we can address systemic issues, support each other’s well-being, and make a meaningful impact on the lives of the children and families we serve

The Black and Diverse Safeguarding Professionals Conference is more than a gathering it’s a movement towards the support and change we need I invite you to be part of this historic event and help shape a more inclusive and supportive future for our profession

The Vision Behind the Black Safeguarding Conference

The inaugural Black and Diverse Safeguarding Professionals Conference marks a historic milestone As the first event of its kind, it takes a bold step towards addressing the unique challenges faced by Black and diverse safeguarding professionals This conference is designed to be a space where we can come together, share experiences, and collaboratively work on solutions that enhance our well-being and effectiveness in the field

My journey as a Black social worker has been shaped by personal experiences of colourism and racism experiences that often left me feeling isolated and unsupported Unfortunately, this feeling of isolation is all too familiar to many of my colleagues from diverse ethnic backgrounds. Through my coaching practice, I’ve come to realise that these challenges are far more widespread than I initially imagined Despite the increasing presence of equality officers and a growing focus on diversity, a unified national platform specifically for safeguarding professionals has been absent.

Similar to my Empowering Social Workers events in London, this conference is designed to fill a gap It’s a dedicated and safe space for us to have the candid conversations that we may not feel comfortable having in our workplaces

Here, it’s an opportunity to connect with others who truly understand our challenges, build allies and work toward real, lasting change in our profession

More than just a professional gathering, this event is about building a supportive community, that will not just benefit us but the vulnerable communities we serve. It’s acknowledged all issues and challenges cannot be addressed and solved in a one day conference but it’s a start

The Black and Diverse Safeguarding Professionals Conference is more than just an event it’s a movement By coming together, we have the power to shape a more inclusive and supportive future for our profession. I invite you to join us at this historic event and be a part of creating the change we all need.

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Our Stories, Our Strength:

Personal stories and experiences from foster carers, care experienced adults and others in the fostering community, highlighting strength, resilience, and shared journeys.

I ALONE CANNOT CHANGE THE WORLD, BUT I CAN CAST A STONE ACROSS THE WATERS TO CREATE MANY RIPPLES.

Barrel Children: A Story of Fostering, Family, and the Windrush Generation

The Story of Trevor

Trevor's story begins in a small village in the parish of St. Ann, Jamaica, where he was born to parents who were part of the Windrush generation. Like many others during that time, his parents left Jamaica for England in the 1950s, seeking better opportunities and a brighter future. Trevor, however, did not initially accompany them. Instead, he remained in Jamaica, under the care of his grandparents and close family friends. This practice was not uncommon and led to the term "barrel children."

The term "barrel children" refers to children left behind in their home countries by parents who migrate abroad for work. These parents wo-

uld send barrels filled with goods, such as clothing, food, and toys, back home to support their children and show their love from afar While these barrels provided material support, the emotional and psychological impact of separation often left a lasting impression on these children.

Trevor grew up in this environment, receiving barrels from his parents in England The community around him embodied the African proverb, "It takes a village to raise a child " His grandparents and family friends provided the care, guidance, and love he needed, creating an informal but effective network of support

An interesting twist in Trevor’s story is that he had two dates of birth One was the actual date he was born, and the other was the date when his birth was officially registered a common practice in the Caribbean. This discrepancy often caused confusion for people like Trevor when they moved to England, leading to bureaucratic challenges and personal frustrations as they tried to reconcile these differences with official records in the UK

At the age of ten, Trevor's parents were finally able to send for him Arriving in England was a culture shock; he was not only reuniting with his parents but also adjusting to a new country, climate, and way of life His parents had settled in Birmingham, and their home was always open to other children and families in need, a reflection of the village mentality they had left behind in Jamaica

Trevor noticed that his parents frequently took in children of family friends and extended relatives who were in transitional phases This informal fostering was a cultural norm, emphasizing community support and collective responsibility The idea of fostering was deeply embedded in their values, even though it was not formally recognised by the externally.

As Trevor grew older, he married his childhood friend, Marcia, who had a similar upbringing Together, they decided to formalise the informal fostering tradition they had known all their lives They became registered foster carers, driven by a desire to provide stability and support to children in need, just as their families had done. Trevor and Marcia's fostering journey was inspired by their experiences and the values instilled in them by their parents and grandparents They understood the importance of providing a nurturing environment, especially for children from minority backgrounds who often faced additional challenges. Their home became a sanctuary for many children, reflecting the cultural norm of looking after one another, regardless of formalities

The concept of informal fostering is deeply rooted in many cultures, particularly among Caribbean and African communities It is a testament to the resilience and adaptability of these communities in the face of migration and separation. The Windrush generation, in particular, exemplified this practice, ensuring that children were cared for by trusted family and friends when parents moved abroad

This practice highlights the importance of community and shared responsibility in child-rearing It underscores the belief that the well-being of children is a collective concern and that everyone has a role to play in their development and success This cultural norm has continued to influence fostering practices in the UK, particularly among Black and minority families

Recognizing the value of informal fostering, Trevor and Marcia took steps to formalize their roles as foster carers. They underwent training and became accredited foster carers, bringing their lived experiences and cultural insights into the formal fostering system Their approach was holistic, focusing not only on the immediate needs of the children but also on their cultural identity and long-term well-being

They provided cultural competency, preparing children for transracial placements, and advocating for the needs of Black and minority children in care Their home was a place where children could see their cultural heritage respected and celebrated, which is crucial for their identity and self-esteem.

Fostering, whether formal or informal, comes with its own set of challenges Trevor and Marcia faced numerous hurdles, from dealing with bureaucratic processes to addressing the complex emotional needs of the children in their care. However, the rewards far outweighed these challenges. They witnessed firsthand the transformative power of love, stability, and cultural affirmation in the lives of the children they fostered

Their efforts also highlighted the need for greater support and recognition of the unique contributions that Black and minority foster carers bring to the system By integrating their cultural norms and practices into their fostering approach, they provided a model for how the system can be more inclusive and supportive of diversity

Trevor's story is a powerful reminder of the enduring legacy of the Windrush generation and the cultural practices that continue to shape fostering in the UK The concept of barrel children and the village mentality they grew up with are not just historical anecdotes but living traditions that inform and enrich the fostering community today

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Jeremy's Story: Breaking the Silence

In March, Rachel from the Black Foster Care Alliance (BFCA) sat down with Jeremy to discuss a topic that is often shrouded in silence: childhood sexual abuse and the profound impact it has on the lives of survivors. Jeremy shares his story a journey through pain, healing, and the drive to make a difference for others who have faced similar experiences

Jeremy’s experience with abuse began at the age of eight, lasting until he was ten years old. A trusted family friend would sneak into his bedroom at night or act when nobody else was around. Jeremy described those years as a time of confusion and isolation, compounded by the lack of education on boundaries and consent that was prevalent in the 1990s. The absence of this crucial knowledge left Jeremy, like many children of that era, vulnerable and unable to fully comprehend or articulate what was happening to him.

The abuse started with seemingly innocent interactions and gradually escalated. Jeremy was manipulated into believing the abuse was special and kept it a secret. After the abuser moved away, Jeremy continued with his life, excelling in his studies and career. He was a popular and confident child, and nobody suspected he was being exploited.

It wasn’t until Jeremy reached the age of 25 that he began to process the abuse he endured This delay is not uncommon, as many survivors of childhood sexual abuse struggle for years before they can confront their past The societal stigma and fear surrounding this issue often prevent survivors from coming forward, leaving them to grapple with the trauma alone Jeremy shared that for years, he felt a deep sense of shame a burden that many survivors carry, often in silence.

At 25, Jeremy’s mental health began to suffer as memories turned to flashbacks, which turned into night terrors He kept having the same dream where he was that boy again under the duvet in bed Realizing that the trauma never left him, Jeremy decided to confront his past and seek help

The abuse started with seemingly innocent interactions and gradually escalated. Jeremy was manipulated into believing the abuse was special and kept it a secret After the abuser moved away, Jeremy continued with his life, excelling in his studies and career He was a popular and confident child, and nobody suspected he was being exploited

It wasn’t until Jeremy reached the age of 25 that he began to process the abuse he endured. This delay is not uncommon, as many survivors of childhood sexual abuse struggle for years before they can confront their past The societal stigma and fear surrounding this issue often prevent survivors from coming forward, leaving them to grapple with the trauma alone Jeremy shared that for years, he felt a deep sense of shame a burden that many survivors carry, often in silence

At 25, Jeremy’s mental health began to suffer as memories turned to flashbacks, which turned into night terrors

He kept having the same dream where he was that boy again under the duvet in bed Realizing that the trauma never left him, Jeremy decided to confront his past and seek help

Creating Safe Environments for Disclosure

Today, Jeremy is committed to raising awareness about childhood sexual abuse and providing support for survivors He emphasises the importance of creating environments where children feel safe to disclose abuse Jeremy believes that education is a powerful tool in preventing abuse and advocates for comprehensive education on consent and boundaries in schools abuse, as Jeremy points out, is perpetrated by individuals known to the child, not strangers. This familiarity can create an even greater barrier to disclosure, as children fear the consequences of speaking out against someone they know or love.

foster parents and caregivers play a vital role in breaking down these barriers Jeremy emphasises the need for foster parents to continually reassure children that abuse is never their fault He urges them to create an atmosphere where children feel supported and understood, no matter the circumstances

To facilitate this, Jeremy believes training should be mandatory for all foster parents so they are equipped to support children who have experienced sexual abuse. This training should provide caregivers with the knowledge and tools to handle disclosures with sensitivity and care It also helps foster parents to initiate conversations about boundaries and consent in an ageappropriate way, laying the groundwork for children to feel safe to speak up

Jeremy’s Mission: Raising Awareness and Providing Support

Jeremy’s goal is to bring the issue of childhood sexual abuse into the open He is committed to raising awareness through various media platforms, where he highlights not only the harms but also the solutions. By confronting societal fears head-on, Jeremy believes we can create a more supportive environment for survivors Through his platforms, Jeremy has built a community where survivors and their supporters can share their experiences and access resources This community offers a safe space for those who might otherwise feel isolated in their journey. It’s a place where survivors can find strength in their shared experiences and where supporters can learn how best to help

Jeremy’s Mission: Raising Awareness and Providing Support

Jeremy’s goal is to bring the issue of childhood sexual abuse into the open. He is committed to raising awareness through various media platforms, where he highlights not only the harms but also the solutions By confronting societal fears head-on, Jeremy believes we can create a more supportive environment for survivors Through his platforms, Jeremy has built a community where survivors and their supporters can share their experiences and access resources. This community offers a safe space for those who might otherwise feel isolated in their journey It’s a place where survivors can find strength in their shared experiences and where supporters can learn how best to help

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10 TIPS TO SUPPORT CHILDREN WHO HAVE BEEN ABUSED

CREATE A SAFE AND STABLE ENVIRONMENT

Establish routines and boundaries that provide a sense of security Consistency helps build trust and reassures the child that they are in a safe place

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BE PATIENT AND UNDERSTANDING

Recognize that children in foster care may have experienced trauma They might need extra time and patience as they adjust to their new environment and process their experiences

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MAKE TIME TO LISTEN TO THE CHILD WITHOUT JUDGEMENT

Sometimes, they just need to be heard Validate their feelings and let them know it’s okay to express their emotions

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ENCOURAGE OPEN COMMUNICATION:

Create an atmosphere where the child feels comfortable discussing their thoughts and feelings Encourage them to share their experiences and reassure them that their voice matters

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Their Background: Take the time to learn about and respect the child’s cultural, religious, and familial background Incorporate elements of their culture into your home to help them feel more connected to their identity

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SUPPORT EDUCATION AND PERSONAL GROWTH

Advocate for their education and extracurricular activities

Encourage their interests and help them discover new hobbies that can boost their confidence and skills

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PROMOTE HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Help the child maintain positive connections with their biological family, if appropriate, and foster new friendships Social connections are crucial for their emotional well-being

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TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF:

Being a foster carer can be emotionally challenging Make sure to take time for self-care and seek support when needed A healthy and balanced carer is better equipped to provide the necessary support for the child

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STAY INFORMED AND TRAINED

Engage in ongoing training, particularly in trauma-informed care, cultural competency, and understanding the needs of children in care The more knowledgeable you are, the better you can support the child

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PRIVATE TUTORING: A SUPPORTIVE MEASURE

Acknowledge and celebrate the child’s achievements, no matter how small Positive reinforcement can help build their self-esteem and encourage further progress.

For more information on how BFCA can support you in your fostering journey, or to access resources on safeguarding and supporting children, please contact us Enquiries@blackfostercarersalliance.co.uk

FROM FOSTER CARE TO COMMUNITY ADVOCATE

AN INTERVIEW WITH SEKIA BLYE:

In this inspiring interview, Sekia Blye shares her remarkable journey from growing up in foster care to becoming a passionate community advocate.

Through her personal experiences of overcoming the challenges of foster care, Sekia has turned her past struggles into a driving force for positive change. As the founder of It’s A Family Thing CIC, she is dedicated to creating a supportive space for children and families in her community. Her story highlights the power of resilience, compassion, and the importance of fostering a sense of belonging for those who may feel overlooked.

“I grew up in foster care, which had its challenges. Constant changes and uncertainty were tough, but those experiences also shaped who I am today’’

BFCA: Can you start by telling us a bit about yourself and your journey through the foster care system?

Sekia: I grew up in foster care, which had its challenges. Constant changes and uncertainty were tough, but those experiences also shaped who I am today. Even as a child, I found joy in caring for others and creating a sense of belonging wherever I went. Those early experiences sparked a passion in me for helping children feel supported and loved, especially those who might feel invisible or overlooked like I sometimes did.

BFCA: How did those experiences influence your decision to start It’s A Family Thing CIC?

Sekia: The idea for It’s A Family Thing actually came from my daughter. She wanted to connect with like-minded people in our community, and that made

me realise there was a real need for families to come together in a positive and supportive way. I knew that I could use my own experiences – both the struggles and the strengths – to create something special for children and families in our area. Our goal is simple: to give children a space where they can be themselves, build friendships, and create memories that last.

BFCA: What kind of activities does It’s A Family Thing offer, and what impact have you seen so far?

Sekia: We focus on creative play and coach trips, mainly for children aged 5-12. Over the last year, we’ve organized several outings at affordable costs so that no one feels left out. These trips have done more than just provide entertainment; they’ve helped families build lasting friendships, improved health and well-being, and created a real sense of community.

Sekia and her daughterr

BFCA: What motivated you to take on work and build it into what it is today?

Sekia: For me, it’s all about seeing children and families thrive. When I was growing up in care, I often felt isolated. Now, I want to create spaces where children feel safe, supported, and included. I know how important it is for kids to feel like they belong, especially those who might not always have that in their everyday lives. My motivation is to see those kids smile, make friends, and build memories that stay with them forever

BFCA: How do you keep your groups small, and what difference does that make?

Sekia: We intentionally keep our groups small so that we can focus on each child and family individually. This allows us to provide personalised activities and support, helping each child develop skills, try new things, and grow in confidence. By working closely with local creatives and organizations, we’re able to offer a wide range of activities that cater to different needs and interests. It’s all about finding what works best for each child and making sure they feel valued and encouraged.

BFCA: You’ve mentioned collaboration as a key part of your approach. How do you bring people together to support your work?

and community groups to offer a wider range of opportunities for our families. But it’s not just about what we do – it’s about listening to the community and responding to their needs. My advice to anyone looking to make a difference is to start by asking what people actually want and need. Don’t be afraid to ask for help along the way – collaboration creates stronger, more sustainable projects.

BFCA: What advice do you have for others who want to create positive change in their communities?

Sekia: Start by understanding your community. Ask questions, listen, and be open to new ideas. Building something that truly benefits people takes time, patience, and teamwork. You can’t do it alone, and that’s okay. Lean on others, share resources, and celebrate each step forward. Most importantly, keep your focus on the people you’re trying to help –their needs should guide everything you do.

BFCA: What’s next for It’s A Family Thing? What are your goals moving forward?

Sekia: We want to keep expanding our activities and reach more families, while staying true to our values of connection and care.

children and families build memorable experiences together. We’re also looking to explore more collaborations with local creatives and organisations, so we can keep offering new and exciting opportunities for our community. It’s all about growing together, learning together, and having fun along the way.

BFCA: How can people get involved with It’s A Family Thing or learn more about what you’re doing?

Sekia: We’re always looking for more people to join our mission! Whether you want to volunteer, participate in events, or simply support what we’re doing, there are many ways to get involved.

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The Inspirational Journey of Clair Graham, we salute you!

Clair Graham's extraordinary journey from a challenging childhood to her present position as a symbol of hope and transformation in social work and foster care showcases the incredible resilience and capacity for redemption inherent in the human spirit. Growing up in an environment filled with hardships and unpredictability, Clair's formative years were characterized by a lack of stability and significant obstacles that could have hindered her path before it truly began.

During her teenage years, Clair struggled through challenging circumstances, her journey hindered by the sharp edges of exclusion, disadvantage, and vulnerability. At just 14, she was permanently expelled from school, confronting a bleak future with limited educational opportunities and personal development. Adding to her challenges was a criminal record, a constant reminder of the errors and difficulties that marked her tumultuous youth, overshadowing her dreams and raising questions about her ability to rise above her situation.

Amidst the turmoil and unpredictability, a ray of hope shone through in the shape of motherhood. For Clair, becoming a parent at just 17 years old marked a pivotal change, a 'reachable moment' she affectionately calls it, which sparked a powerful determination to forge a new path and provide a better life for herself and her child. However, her strength was quickly challenged when she endured a violent attack and robbery, a traumatic event that compelled her to leave her hometown of Sandwell in pursuit of safety and stability.

In the vibrant city of Birmingham, far removed from the shadows of her troubled past, Clair discovered both refuge and opportunity. Empowered by her newfound anonymity and driven by a fervent desire to break free from the cycles of disadvantage that had long constrained her, she embarked on a transformative journey of self-discovery, resolute in her quest to forge a brighter future for herself and her family.

With steadfast determination and an unquenchable thirst for knowledge, Clair dedicated herself to volunteer work, drawing upon her personal experiences to connect with and support vulnerable populations within her community. This grassroots involvement became a catalyst for her entry into the field of social work, where she quickly established herself as a compassionate and committed advocate for those in need.

Despite not possessing formal qualifications, Clair's inherent talents and determination captured the attention of local organizations, leading to her appointment as a Social Work Assistant In this capacity, she was immersed in the complexities of casework, tackling the nuances of child protection and welfare while skillfully navigating the intricate social services landscape

Clair's desire for knowledge and steadfast commitment to personal development motivated her to pursue higher education at Birmingham City University (BCU). There, within the esteemed academic environment, she not only acquired the educational foundation necessary to support her aspirations but also connected with a community of mentors and peers who recognized her potential and fostered her talents

Clair's university journey was fraught with challenges. Her previous interactions with the criminal justice system and the accompanying stigma threatened to impede her academic progress and jeopardize her dreams of a brighter future Nevertheless, with the steadfast support of her professors and fellow students, she persevered, overcoming hurdles with resilience and determination, ultimately emerging stronger than ever before.

During her tenure at BCU, Clair’s experiences as a care-experienced individual served as a beacon, guiding her academic pursuits and shaping her approach to social work. Through her coursework and field placements, she gained invaluable insights into the complexities of the child welfare system, developing a profound understanding of the root causes of societal inequities and injustices This foundation enabled her to hone her skills as a compassionate and effective advocate for change

Upon graduating from BCU, Clair embarked on a career with Birmingham Children's Trust, where she ascended through various roles to ultimately become the Head of Service for Contextual Safeguarding In this position, she oversees initiatives designed to address the unique risks and challenges confronting children and young people in urban environments, tirelessly working to foster safer and more supportive communities for all. However, Clair's most significant impact may be found in her role as a foster carer Together with her husband, she has opened her heart and home to children in need, providing them with a safe haven amidst life's challenges, as well as the love, support, and stability they desperately seek. Her decision to become a foster carer was deeply personal, rooted in her own experiences of trauma and resilience, and motivated by a desire to give back to those who find themselves in similar circumstances

The journey to becoming a foster carer is often fraught with challenges, ranging from the emotional demands of the assessment process to the complexities of parenting children with diverse needs and backgrounds. Nevertheless, Clair confronts each obstacle with unwavering determination, drawing upon her training and support networks to navigate the intricacies of foster care with grace, empathy, and resilience

As a foster carer, Clair's approach is deeply rooted in empathy and understanding, shaped by her personal experiences of trauma and adversity. She acknowledges that each child in her care is a unique individual, deserving of love, respect, and support as they embark on their journey toward healing and wholeness Clair is committed to fostering a nurturing environment that enables these children to thrive and flourish

In addition to her role as a foster carer, Clair serves as a tireless advocate for systemic change within the social care framework She actively speaks out against injustices and inequalities, leveraging her platform to amplify the voices of marginalized and oppressed individuals Clair is dedicated to creating a more equitable and compassionate society, ensuring that every child has the opportunity to reach their full potential.

We extend our heartfelt gratitude to Clair Graham for your unwavering commitment to fostering systematic change and advocating for the welfare of children.

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CulturallySensitiveCareand Safeguarding:Essential PracticesinFostering

In the multifaceted realm of fostering, culturally sensitive care and safeguarding are essential not only from an ethical standpoint but also as practical necessities. As the fostering community becomes increasingly diverse, with children from a wide range of cultural, ethnic, and religious backgrounds joining the system, it is vital for social workers and foster carers to comprehend and

adopt culturally sensitive practices. This article explores the importance of culturally sensitive care and safeguarding in fostering, providing thought-provoking insights and actionable recommendations. Culturally sensitive care involves recognizing, respecting, and responding appropriately to the cultural needs and values of children and families It requires an awareness of one’s own cultural biases and the ability to adapt caregiving practices to meet the diverse needs of children from different backgrounds In fostering, culturally sensitive care is about more than just acknowledging cultural differences; it’s about integrating cultural understanding into everyday practices This includes understanding the child’s cultural identity, maintaining connections with their cultural heritage, and fostering a sense of belonging and self-esteem. Culturally sensitive care helps build trust and rapport between foster carers, social workers, and children When children feel understood and respected, they are more likely to open up about their experiences and challenges This trust is crucial for effective safeguarding and support Children who feel culturally alienated or misunderstood may experience higher levels of stress, anxiety, and depression By providing culturally sensitive care, foster carers can create a supportive and nurturing environment that enhances the emotional well-being of children

Placement stability is a critical factor in the success of foster care Culturally sensitive care can help reduce placement disruptions by ensuring that children feel comfortable and supported in their placements. When children feel culturally safe and understood, they are more likely to thrive in their foster homes

Safeguarding in fostering involves protecting children from abuse, neglect, and harm while ensuring their overall well-being Culturally sensitive safeguarding recognizes that cultural factors can influence how abuse and neglect are understood and experienced It requires social workers and foster carers to be aware of cultural norms and practices that may impact safeguarding decisions Different cultures have different norms and practices regarding child-rearing, discipline, and family dynamics. Social workers and foster carers must be able to distinguish between cultural practices and actual harm For example, certain disciplinary practices that are acceptable in one culture may be seen as abusive in another

Cultural barriers can affect the ability of children and families to seek help and disclose abuse Language barriers, fear of discrimination, and mistrust of authorities can prevent children from reporting abuse Culturally sensitive safeguarding involves creating an environment where children feel safe and empowered to speak out When safeguarding concerns arise, it’s important to provide support that is culturally appropriate and sensitive. This may involve working with community leaders, cultural organizations, and interpreters to ensure that children and families receive the support they need

Attachment theory, pioneered by John Bowlby and further developed by Mary Ainsworth, has long been regarded as a cornerstone of understanding parentchild relationships in Western psychology. However, as our understanding of cultural diversity evolves, it becomes increasingly apparent that attachment theory may not fully capture the nuances of parentchild dynamics across different cultural contexts

In Western culture, attachment theory emphasizes the importance of a secure attachment between infants and their primary caregivers, typically the mother This attachment is believed to form the foundation for healthy emotional and social development, with secure attachments characterized by trust, safety, and emotional responsiveness However, this perspective often overlooks the rich tapestry of cultural norms and practices that shape parent-child relationships in non-Western contexts

For example, in many African and Caribbean cultures, the concept of the "village mentality" prevails, where raising children is a communal effort involving extended family members, neighbors, and community elders. In such cultures, the emphasis is not solely on the mother-child bond but rather on the collective nurturing and support provided by the entire community.

Furthermore, attachment theory's emphasis on maternal caregiving may not fully resonate with cultural norms in other parts of the world In Japanese culture, for instance, there is a strong emphasis on interdependence and harmonious relationships within the family unit As a result, caregiving responsibilities are often shared among multiple family members, including grandparents, aunts, and uncles, rather than being solely the mother's domain

Similarly, the attachment behaviors observed in Western studies may not be universally applicable across all cultures. Research has shown that cultural differences in child-rearing practices, such as sleep arrangements, feeding patterns, and physical contact, can influence attachment dynamics. For example, in some cultures, cosleeping is the norm, while in others, infants may sleep separately from their parents These cultural variations can impact the way attachment is experienced and expressed within different cultural contexts

The cultural biases inherent in traditional attachment assessments pose significant challenges for professionals working in diverse communities Standardized measures of attachment, such as the Strange Situation Procedure developed by Ainsworth, may not adequately capture the attachment styles prevalent in non-Western cultures As a result, there is a risk of misinterpreting or pathologizing culturally normative behaviors.

Moreover, interventions based on Western notions of attachment may not always be appropriate or effective in culturally diverse settings Approaches that prioritize individualistic concepts of autonomy and independence may clash with collectivist cultural values that emphasize interdependence and communal harmony

To address these challenges, it is essential to adopt a more culturally sensitive approach to understanding and supporting parent-child relationships Professionals working in child protection, mental health, and social services must recognize and respect the diverse cultural norms and values that shape family dynamics

When children feel culturally safe and understood, they are more likely to thrive in their foster homes.

One valuable resource for professionals seeking to navigate cultural differences in child protection is the book "Cultural Diversity in Child Protection" by Jan C Fook This comprehensive resource explores how cultural beliefs, values, and practices influence parenting styles, child-rearing practices, and attitudes toward child welfare in diverse cultural contexts

By embracing cultural diversity and challenging Western-centric perspectives on attachment, we can foster more inclusive and culturally responsive approaches to supporting families and promoting child well-being. By acknowledging and honoring the unique strengths and resilience of families from diverse cultural backgrounds, we can create a more equitable and effective system of care for all children, regardless of cultural heritage

Despite the clear benefits, implementing culturally sensitive care and safeguarding in fostering is not without challenges. Many social workers and foster carers lack the training and knowledge needed to provide culturally sensitive care This can lead to misunderstandings, biases, and inappropriate responses to cultural differences Systemic bias and discrimination within the child welfare system can undermine efforts to provide culturally sensitive care. Children from minority backgrounds may be disproportionately represented in the foster care system and face unique challenges related to their cultural identities Limited resources and funding can hinder the ability of fostering agencies to provide culturally sensitive services. This includes access to interpreters, cultural consultants, and culturally appropriate materials and resources

There can be tensions between respecting cultural practices and ensuring child safety Social workers and foster carers must navigate these tensions carefully, balancing cultural sensitivity with the need to protect children from harm. To address these challenges and enhance culturally sensitive care and safeguarding in fostering, the following strategies can be implemented Provide comprehensive cultural competence training for social workers and foster carers This training should cover cultural norms, values, and practices, as well as strategies for effective communication and engagement with diverse families Build relationships with cultural communities and organizations Engage community leaders and cultural experts to provide guidance and support This can help bridge cultural gaps and build trust with children and families

Review and revise policies and procedures to ensure they are culturally inclusive This includes recruitment, assessment, and placement processes, as well as safeguarding protocols Provide culturally appropriate resources, such as books, toys, and materials, that reflect the diverse backgrounds of children in foster care. Ensure that information and support are available in multiple languages

Encourage children to express their cultural identities and provide opportunities for cultural activities and celebrations This can help children maintain connections with their heritage and feel a sense of belonging. Advocate for systemic changes to address bias and discrimination within the child welfare system This includes promoting diversity and inclusion at all levels of the organization and challenging discriminatory practices and policies

At the Black Foster Carer’s Alliance (BFCA), we are committed to promoting culturally sensitive care and safeguarding in fostering. We offer a range of CPDaccredited training programs designed to equip social workers, foster carers, and anyone working with looked-after children with the knowledge and skills needed to provide culturally responsive care Our training covers topics such as cultural competency, preparing for transracial placements, and advocating for minority children.

By working with BFCA, you can benefit from our lived experiences and connections within diverse communities We have developed an online support group that listens to the voices of foster carers and individuals embarking on their fostering journeys We are also working with agencies to support representation on fostering panels and address biases within the system.

By embracing culturally sensitive care and safeguarding practices, we can create a more equitable and supportive foster care system that respects and values the diverse backgrounds of all children and families

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In the United Kingdom, the foster care system plays a vital role in providing safe and nurturing environments for children in need However, for Black individuals considering fostering, the journey can be fraught with emotional and mental challenges that are often overlooked. From cultural barriers to identity struggles, navigating the foster care process can be daunting Fortunately, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) offers a powerful toolkit for Black foster carers, equipping them with the resilience and strategies needed to thrive in this rewarding but demanding role.

The UK foster care system operates under stringent guidelines to ensure the well-being of children Yet, for Black individuals hoping to foster, there are unique obstacles to overcome. The underrepresentation of Black foster parents is a concerning issue, perpetuating a cycle where Black children may not have the opportunity to be placed in culturally familiar environments. This lack of representation not only affects the availability of suitable homes but also impacts the emotional well-being of Black children who may struggle to connect with caregivers who understand their cultural background.

Cultural identity is a fundamental aspect of a child's well-being, influencing their sense of belonging and self-esteem For Black children in foster care, being placed with caregivers who share their cultural background can make a world of difference. Studies have shown that children who can identify with their caregivers experience improved emotional stability and a stronger sense of identity

However, becoming a foster carer, especially for Black individuals, requires more than just a willingness to provide a loving home It demands emotional resilience and the ability to navigate complex emotions This is where CBT steps in as a valuable resource.

CBT is a therapeutic approach that focuses on changing negative thought patterns and behaviours, empowering individuals to manage their emotions effectively For Black foster carers, CBT can provide

Cultural identity is a fundamental aspect of a child's well-being, influencing their sense of belonging and self-esteem For Black children in foster care, being placed with caregivers who share their cultural background can make a world of difference Studies have shown that children who can identify with their caregivers experience improved emotional stability and a stronger sense of identity However, becoming a foster carer, especially for Black individuals, requires more than just a willingness to provide a loving home It demands emotional resilience and the ability to navigate complex emotions. This is where CBT steps in as a valuable resource CBT is a therapeutic approach that focuses on changing negative thought patterns and behaviours, empowering individuals to manage their emotions effectively. For Black foster carers, CBT can provide Additionally, CBT teaches coping mechanisms to manage stress and anxiety Fostering can be emotionally taxing, with carers facing a myriad of challenges Learning how to recognize and address stressors can prevent burnout and ensure that carers are better equipped to provide a stable and nurturing environment for the children in their care

Furthermore, CBT emphasises the importance of self-care. Foster carers often prioritise the needs of the children they care for, sometimes neglecting their own well-being in the process CBT encourages carers to prioritise self-care activities that promote emotional and mental wellness, ensuring that they have the resilience to cope with the demands of fostering.

For Black foster carers, embracing CBT can be a transformative journey, enabling them to overcome obstacles and fulfill their desire to provide a loving home for children in need. By addressing cultural barriers, fostering resilience, and promoting selfcare, CBT empowers Black individuals to become confident and capable foster carers

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WEEK 1- 2

Understanding Motivation and Addressing Doubts.

Identify personal motivations for fostering, considering cultural and familial influences.

Use cognitive restructuring to challenge any doubts or negative beliefs about your ability to foster. Engage in self-affirmations and visualize successful outcomes to bolster confidence.

WEEK 5- 6

Coping with Uncertainty and Anxiety

WEEK 3- 4

Building Resilience and Stress Management

Practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation to manage stress. Develop a self-care routine that prioritizes physical, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing.

Utilize cognitive-behavioural coping skills to challenge and reframe stressful thoughts related to the fostering process.

WEEK 7- 8

Cultivating Patience and Persistence

Use mindfulness techniques to stay present and manage anxiety about the application and assessment process. Engage in problem-solving strategies to address any logistical challenges or uncertainties.

Seek social support from friends, family, or support groups to alleviate feelings of isolation or overwhelm.

Practice cognitive restructuring to challenge impatience or frustration with delays in the assessment process. Set realistic expectations and focus on the progress made rather than dwelling on setbacks.

Utilize assertiveness training to advocate for yourself and communicate effectively with social workers or assessors. Transitioning to Fostering

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Establishing Support Networks and Cultural Competency

Connect with other Black foster carers for peer support, sharing experiences, and practical advice.

Seek out cultural competency training or resources to prepare for fostering children from diverse backgrounds. Use assertiveness skills to communicate cultural needs and preferences to social workers or placement agencies.

Creating a Nurturing Environment

Set up your home to be welcoming and culturally sensitive for the child you will foster.

Practice active listening and empathy to build trust and rapport with the foster child.

Utilize positive reinforcement and praise to encourage positive behaviours and reinforce a sense of belonging.

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Lola's World of Diversity is a children's book that celebrates inclusivity, cultural diversity, and acceptance. The story centers around transracial fostering, exploring the challenges and joys of fostering children from different racial backgrounds, while promoting love, belonging, and cultural understanding.

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THERAPEUTIC PARENTING: A LIFELINE FOR TRAUMATISED CHILDREN

By The Bridge stands out as one of the few truly therapeutic fostering agencies in the UK because we offer a fully integrated, specialised service, offering a therapeutic parenting approach.We know from our years of experience and expertise that the nurturing family environment offers the potential for creating a continuously available arena for therapeutic healing By offering therapeutic parenting our families give our children the essential relational experiences they have missed. We place important emphasis on a depth of nurture, empathy and attunement. Therapeutic parenting is significantly different from traditional parenting It requires a deep commitment to understanding the underlying causes of a child's behaviour and responding with empathy and patience A therapeutic parenting approach asks that foster parents look beyond the presenting behaviour and consider what these behaviours communicate about the child's emotions and needs.Maria Kendall-

Head of Therapeutic Services at By The Bridge emphasises, "It can be a big ask to expect children that have Trust, once broken, takes time to rebuild, and therapeutic parenting provides a safe and nurturing way for this delicate process to have a positive lasting effect on a child”Maria Kendall, encapsulates the essence of therapeutic fostering: "We seek to understand why many children in care display certain kinds of behavio-

urs We ask our foster parents to understand the ‘need behind the behaviour". We hold in mind that our children are responding from a place of trauma and they have had to adapt so they can survive their past experiences. This insight is crucial, as it shifts the perspective from seeing a child as 'naughty' to recognising their behaviour as a manifestation and adaption of past trauma and survival.”

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TO THERAPEUTIC FOSTERING IS THE CONCEPT OF NURTURING WITH

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fostering is the concept of nurturing with lots of care, commitment, support and investment This involves more than just providing physical care; it requires a willingness to engage emotionally with a child, offering acceptance and understanding of them and their unique life stories. Relational engagement helps create a sense of security, inclusivity and belonging, which is vital for children who have adverse experience such as abuse and neglect By helping a child to work Though their traumatic past experiences our therapeutic parenting approach contributes to breaking the cycle of trauma

Therapeutic practice is embedded throughout the agency. The internal therapeutic team provides support across the agency and to external professionals It offers expert advice and support in understanding the individual therapeutic needs of each child This therapeutic support is interwoven into all stages of the foster parents’ Journey with the agency The team offers a highquality level of training for foster parents and staff Consequently, the therapeutic team is highly appreciated ”The outcomes of therapeutic fostering can be transformative. Children who have been given the opportunity to heal in a nurturing environment often show remarkable progress. They begin to develop trust, form healthy attachments, and rediscover their capacity for joy and learning Through reliable therapeutic parenting our children are better equipped to develop into well-adjusted adults who can contribute positively to society By The Bridge provides not only a place of safely for children, but also a structured pathway for foster parents to become confident in their therapeutic parenting Our continuous focus is on supporting the well-being of our foster parents helps them to offer a child what is needed.

We encourage you to join our amazing organisation, because you can really make a difference to a child’s life You will be fully supported in your therapeutic fostering journey Our team of expert social workers, therapists and educational advisors offers comprehensive support New foster parents are not expected to have prior experience of looking after a traumatised child, as By The Bridge helps to educate and develop parents to become skilful, knowledgeable, effective in their therapeutic parenting.

Our agency invests significantly in our 20-day progressive therapeutic training program, which helps support our parent’s therapeutic journey We encourage anybody who is interested in therapeutic fostering or knows somebody to get in touch to find out more

We encourage anybody who is interested in therapeutic fostering or knows somebody to get in touch to find out more Tel: 0800 644 6230

GRACE INITIATIVE

Compass Fosteing remains dedicated to fighting inequality and fostering inclusivity. Through our GRACE initiative and commitment to supporting our foster carers, we hope to continue transforming the lives of vulnerable children across the UK while also inspiring other agencies to follow suit.

Recruitment lies at the heart of our mission to build a diverse community of foster carers and staff Over the years, the recruitment process has been redesigned to remove barriers and biases, ensuring equal opportunities for all applicants Compass platforms and website do not request information such as age, gender, religion or ethnicity upon enquiry, offering a non-prejudice service in line with our core values

Additionally, Compass has also implemented innovative programmes such as the Carer for Carer initiative, providing a platform for foster carers to network, share experiences and offer mutual support. This bespoke service not only fuels a sense of community, but also empowers carers to navigate through the challenges of fostering together. Applicants are also offered a wide array of in-house training, equipping them with the knowledge and skills necessary to provide the best possible care

Compass’ commitment to inclusivity extends beyond recruitment, permeating every aspect of our operations The GRACE (Group and Regional Ambassadors Committed to Equality) initiative exemplifies our efforts, with staff and carers coming together to tackle inequality and discrimination head-on

Through four dedicated GRACE groups focusing on Anti-Racism, Disability, Mental Health and Gender and Sexuality, Compass aims to understand and address the diverse needs of its community comprehensively, hosting a range of awareness events and fundraisers throughout the year

However, what we’re most proud of is the impact that our commitment to equality has on our foster carers “We joined Compass because they had a good record of delivering training and support through their foster carers”, shares one of our foster carers, Anjilah. Together with her husband, Anjilah joined Compass with a desire to make a difference, particularly in the lives of Black children. Their journey highlights not only the importance of foster carer communities, but also the transformative power of support and training provided by Compass “My husband and I knew from the beginning of our fostering journey that we needed to have a network of experienced foster carers around us ”

As they continue to make a lasting impact on the children within their care, Anjilah hopes that their story will “inspire and motivate potential foster carers, especially those from

the Black community, to engage in the fostering industry” She emphasises that the need for Black foster carers is greater now than it was 25 years ago, when she first began her fostering journey “As a black foster carer, you are fulfilling a specific cultural need that hopefully improves the experience of black individuals in care by meeting their cultural identity needs' '

Despite making significant progress, we continue to recognise persisting challenges faced by foster carers, especially those from minority backgrounds We hope that as an organisation we can inspire others to begin their fostering journey, particularly those from underrepresented backgrounds, so that they can use their voices to help us advocate for a better and more inclusive world where every child has the opportunity to thrive

If you’re passionate about diversity and making a difference in the lives of vulnerable children, we welcome you to join our community Together, we can build a brighter future where every child feels valued, supported and loved

To learn more about Compass and how you can get involved, visit www.compassfostering.com or give us a call on 0333 272 4129 Our friendly team are always on hand to answer any concerns of queries that you may have, ensuring that your fostering journey is as smooth as possible

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BFCA caught up with Sabrina Hewitt, who recently published her thought-provoking book on Amazon, Life on the Lines: Kyle's Story.

Combining her personal experience of exploitation with her role as a specialist trainer, Sabrina shares a unique narrative that takes readers into the unknown territory of county lines. Her story brings to life the struggles of Kyle, a 14-year-old boy navigating the dangerous world of exploitation, offering a raw and insightful perspective on an issue that affects many vulnerable young people.

As someone who was criminally exploited from a young age, I draw on my personal experiences to provide expert training, advice, and guidance to professionals and organisations working with at-risk children and young people.

Driven by a deep passion to raise awareness about exploitation, I decided to write Life on the Lines, a fictional story about Kyle, a 14-year-old boy from London who is groomed and exploited through county lines. Fiction is a powerful way to highlight society’s darker realities, and Kyle’s story serves multiple purposes—it doesn’t just entertain; it educates and initiates critical dialogue about the pressing issues surrounding child exploitation.

Children, particularly teens, are vulnerable to manipulation and exploitation. Through Kyle’s journey, I aim to bring visibility to the overlooked aspects of this reality, showing how predators manipulate young minds. His story serves as a lens to help readers understand how such situations unfold and how easily anyone can fall victim, regardless of their background.

Focusing on Kyle’s adolescent perspective allows me to delve into the emotions, confusion, and decision-making challenges young people face. Adolescence is a vulnerable time when external pressures and lack of life experience can lead to poor choices. Kyle’s story humanizes a demographic that is often judged rather than understood.

Narratives around criminal exploitation open up essential conversations about youth protection, legal accountability, and community support. My hope is that Kyle’s story will challenge stereotypes, spark discussions, and inspire policy changes. By framing this issue within a personal and relatable story, I aim to make these abstract concepts feel immediate and urgent, prompting readers to reflect on how society can better protect its youth.

Fiction has long been a tool for inspiring social change. Kyle’s story shines a light on the systemic failures—broken families, inadequate social services, and educational shortcomings—that allow children to be exploited. It evokes compassion, outrage, and a desire to repair these cracks, empowering readers to become part of the solution.

Many view crime simplistically, seeing only wrongdoers rather than victims of circumstance. Kyle’s story challenges this perspective, encouraging empathy for those coerced into criminal activity. By exploring the psychological impact of exploitation, it highlights how deeply these experiences affect a young person’s mental health, selfworth, and future. Kyle’s journey through trauma and recovery offers a deeper emotional connection, encouraging readers to understand the complexities faced by real-life victims.

Writing Life on the Lines allows me to mirror real-life issues and raise awareness about how society must protect its most vulnerable members. This story is not just about Kyle—it’s about the countless young people facing similar situations, and it calls for change.

If Kyle’s story resonates with you and you want to gain a deeper understanding of the realities faced by vulnerable children, Life on the Lines is a must-read. By supporting this book, you’re not only embracing a powerful narrative, but also raising awareness about the critical issue of child exploitation. Together, we can spark much-needed conversations and drive change.

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In today's increasingly digital landscape, children face heightened exposure to cyber threats, including exploitation, grooming, and harmful content. The Learn with Lolonyo platform, developed by Vivean, offers educational resources designed not only to foster academic development but also to equip children with essential knowledge and tools for online safety Resources such as storybooks, workbooks, and interactive puzzles prioritize positive representation, mental well-being, and safe internet practices, empowering children to navigate the digital realm with confidence

"Children's potential to thrive is deeply connected to the environments in which they learn," states Vivean. It is imperative for educators and caregivers to integrate academic instruction with an emphasis on online safety awareness. By addressing mental well-being and the various challenges children encounter online, we can create a nurturing environment conducive to learning and personal growth. Through materials that reflect diversity and encourage self-expression, children can develop the skills necessary to traverse digital spaces securely and confidently

Caregivers and educators play a vital role in guiding children through the digital landscape, ensuring they are equipped to handle challenges such as cyberbullying, identity threats, and harmful interactions. The aim is to create learning experiences that not only foster academic success but also empower children to safeguard their mental and emotional well-being in an online world

Learn with Lolonyo is committed to promoting inclusive, safe, and enriching learning environments both in the real and digital world so that every child can reach their full potential without fear of harm

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5 STEP TO SAFEGUARD CHILDREN ONLINE

Teach Online Privacy: Educate children on the importance of safeguarding personal information, including their full name, address, phone number, and school details Emphasize the significance of maintaining their privacy online

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Set Strong Passwords: Instruct children on creating robust passwords that are difficult to guess Remind them to keep their passwords confidential, sharing them only with trusted adults

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Monitor Screen Time and Content: Utilize parental controls to oversee the websites, applications, and games your child engages with, ensuring that the content is age-appropriate and devoid of harmful material

Encourage Open Communication: Ensure your child understands that they can approach you regarding any uncomfortable situations they may encounter online, such as cyberbullying, inappropriate messages, or dubious interactions.

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Educate About Online Scams: Inform children about phishing scams and fraudulent websites. Teach them how to identify and avoid clicking on suspicious links or downloading unknown files that could expose them to online threats.

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