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‘KENTUCKY COMMUNICATIONS NETWORK
AUTHORITY IS DECEIVING THE PUBLIC’ ACCELECOM RESPONDS TO KENTUCKYWIRED FALLOUT
Broadband operator accuses state agency of mismanagement, warns KentuckyWired network—and critical services—are at risk due to contract dispute
BY CALEB STULTZ
Accelecom, hired to run KentuckyWired, has increased its criticism of the state body supervising the network as Kentucky’s massive statewide broadband project looks doubtful. Accelecom charged the Kentucky Communications Network Authority (KCNA) in a May 12 statement with deceiving the public and endangering vital services all over the Commonwealth.
Citing claimed commercial breaches, the sharply worded statement follows KCNA’s earlier decision this month to terminate its contract with Accelecom. Accelecom issued warnings following that action over the possibility of internet service being denied to hundreds of government offices, hospitals, and educational institutions.
Accelecom is now rebounding with a fresh story.
“The Kentucky Communications Network Authority is deceiving the public about the KentuckyWired project, which it has completely mishandled,” the company wrote in a May 12 press release. “In an attempt to conceal its gross incompetence—which has already cost the Commonwealth a fortune, with more to come—KCNA has advanced the false narrative that others, this time Accelecom, are to blame for the state of the project.”
KentuckyWired was started in 2015 with the purpose of providing high-speed internet
to underserved regions by developing a 3,200mile fiber optic backbone. Expected to link to this “middle mile,” local internet service providers (ISPs) would bring services straight to households and businesses. But the project has been beset with delays, increased prices, and logistical challenges since its inception.
Accelecom says that, far from abandoning its responsibilities, it has gone above and beyond to support KCNA—even lending the state agency “millions” to rebuild dilapidated infrastructure. The company also claims that KCNA is postponing or denying further sales, including those that have been outstanding since 2023. Currently, the company has 44 wholesale clients.
“KCNA complains publicly of the absence of wholesale customers and dark-fiber sales, yet Accelecom currently has 44 wholesale customers for dark-fiber and lit services,” the statement reads. “KCNA is denying dozens of wholesale dark-fiber sales transactions.”
Accelecom also accuses KCNA of mismanaging construction funding and sabotaging the project by handing away valuable dark fiber in exchange for building work.
“KCNA breached the Wholesaler Agreement by giving away thousands of miles of its dark-fiber network to third parties in exchange for construction services,” Accelecom said. “The dark fiber capacity given away by KCNA is many times what it expected Accelecom to sell over its entire lifetime of the contract.”
In its prior discussion with LEO Weekly, Accelecom’s CEO Brad Kilbey underlined that the state’s intention to cancel the contract might interrupt services for more than 240 healthcare clinics, 634,000 K-12 students, 44 ISPs, and hundreds of businesses across Kentucky.
Accelecom maintains there is no technical or legal justification for service interruption presently.
The company is exhorting the people to ask
state officials for KCNA to take responsibility. As of yet, KCNA has not addressed the most recent claims. Meanwhile, stakeholders across Kentucky—including schools, hospitals, local governments, and rural ISPs—remain in limbo while the future of KentuckyWired hangs in the balance.
“Concerned citizens and business owners should make their voices heard and hold KCNA leadership to account,” Accelecom said. “It is not too late to salvage this critical infrastructure project, but it soon will be. The time to act is now.”
Accelecom has responded to KentuckyWired’s claims in its latest release.
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A 2020 update on the state of KentuckyWired_s plans to build an internet infrastructure across the Commonwealth. This is the last update on the site currently. KentuckyWired webiste
sMall Business, Big IMPaCt:
Meet the louisville entrePreneurs redefining CoMMunity and Care
From wellness and wine to fashion and food, these locally owned businesses across Louisville are doing more than staying afloat—they’re shaping the heart and health of our city.
At a time when headlines often focus on uncertainty, Louisville’s small businesses are offering something different: resilience, innovation and deep-rooted community connection. This spotlight celebrates the local leaders behind the storefronts—visionaries like Kristina Pohl, CEO of Eternity Wellness, who is transforming the way our city thinks about healthcare.
Located at 1220 E. Kentucky Street, Eternity Wellness is more than just a clinic. Under Kristina’s leadership, the center is pioneering a holistic model of care that addresses root causes rather than just symptoms. Through personalized services like functional medicine, IV hydration, hormone therapy and integrative wellness programs, the practice empowers people to take control of their healthspan and healing journey.
As this series unfolds, you'll meet more business owners just like Kristina—individuals who are building not just sustainable operations, but vibrant, inclusive spaces that reflect the strength and spirit of Louisville.
Brow BaBes;
Charee MarnieCe, owner
1448 Gardiner Ln STE 103
1. Can you provide a general overview of your business, what you do and how you individually impact the community?
I’m the proud owner of The Brow Babes, established in 2018, specializing in luxury permanent makeup for brows, lips, eyeliner, and scalp micropigmentation (SMP) to restore hairlines and confidence. Since 2016, I’ve been helping clients correct sparse, uneven brows, fading lips, and thinning hairlines — restoring balance, saving time, and boosting confidence. Whether due to aging, thinning hair, or poor eyesight, these small beauty details can be frustrating or even embarrassing, and permanent makeup offers an effortless, empowering solution that helps clients feel polished and self-assured every day.
Beyond services, The Brow Babes is a hub for training and mentorship, showing aspiring artists that you don’t need any prior beauty industry experience to become a successful cosmetic tattoo artist. You just have to be willing to dig in, work hard, and never stop learning. You too can change your life and rewrite your legacy.
2. How are you holding up in a contentious economy that holds an uncertain future?
As a single mother since I was 19, I understand how often women — or however you identify — put their own needs behind their family’s. That’s why I’ve always worked to make permanent makeup affordable and accessible — we were pioneers in offering split payments and financing so clients could invest in themselves without the burden of paying all at once.
Even in today’s tough economy, I’ve stayed focused on providing high-quality services at fair prices, making sure everyone can prioritize something for themselves. It’s been challenging, but our commitment to value, flexibility, and client care has helped us hold strong.
3. How did you get your start? Where do you see yourselves from this point?
I got my start in a pretty unusual way! I was a boudoir and wedding photographer and a cheerleading coach, but after years of burning the candle at both ends, I was feeling burned out. Then, one day, I blew out my knee at cheer practice — and it hit me: I needed to find something I could do that was easier on my body.
I ended up working the front desk at a laser spa, where I climbed the ladder into laser and skincare work. That’s when I started hearing buzz about microbladed eyebrows (which, for the record, I would never recommend now because of the scar tissue and unpredictable results — but hey, you live and learn, right?).
I decided to go to the best artist in the city — and as fate would have it, she was someone I had known since childhood. I had my brows done by her and was so enamored with the process that I asked how I could break into the field. She told me she was hosting a training, but when I heard the price, I almost died — as a single mom making $17 an hour at the time, there was no way I could afford it.
A few days later, she asked if I thought my boss at the laser spa would be willing to trade services — laser for training. Somehow, I convinced him, and I hit the ground running. I’ve never looked back.
I went from being broke, with no end goal in sight, struggling to get off government assistance. I still remember the first year I no longer qualified for food stamps I ugly cried— I was so happy, because never in my life did I see that happening. Coming from a household that lived off government help my entire life, that was the only life I knew. I was so proud that I decided I wanted
something different — and I changed.
I thank my mentor, Hotaru, every year because she truly changed the path of my life. I went from survival mode to building a thriving business and being able to provide more than I ever imagined for my family. She showed me I was meant for greatness — and I carry that belief forward in everything I do.
4. Anything else you’d like the community to know about your business?
The Brow Babes is about so much more than beauty. It’s about transformation, empowerment, and helping women — or however you identify — feel confident, polished, and proud in their own skin.
I know the horror stories you see online — brows turning gray, heavy or unnatural results — and yes, those things can happen if you don’t do your research. But when you choose a skilled artist, check Google reviews, and look closely at social media portfolios, you’re setting yourself up for a beautiful experience that lifts your confidence and keeps you feeling put-together for years to come.
I’m deeply grateful for the trust the Louisville community has placed in me and my team. We are committed to continuing to raise the bar — not just in our artistry, but in how we care for and support every single client who walks through our doors. Call me, text me, or come in for a consultation. See our space, feel the energy, and we hope you become part of our tribe!
Bourke aCCounting;
Bill lentini, Managing Partner
1019 S 4th Street
1. Can you provide a general overview of your business, what you do and how you individually impact the community?
At Bourke Accounting, we specialize in providing comprehensive bookkeeping and tax services tailored for small to medium-sized businesses and individuals across a wide range of industries. What sets us apart is our unwavering commitment to quality over quantity. Unlike larger firms,we take the time to get to know you, ensuring that every interaction is thoughtful, thorough, and never rushed. We believe in building strong, lasting relationships by delivering personalized service with care and integrity. Beyond our professional services, we are proud to support and uplift our local community. One of our tax managers serves on the board of the Louisville Independent Business Alliance, and we actively sponsor and donate to local businesses—especially minority-owned enterprises that drive meaningful impact in the area.
2. How are you holding up in a contentious economy that holds an uncertain future?
We have been in business long enough to know that uncertain times in the economy can cause strain on our clients and our business. To hold up, we strive to follow our philosophy of teaching all clients about financial health and provide additional consulting so that they may navigate a changing business landscape and prepare for long-term changes. This specific issue has been a hot
topic in the non-profit world and we can help offer solutions to ease the burdens they may experience.
3. How did you get your start? Where do you see yourselves from this point?
Tim Bourke started the company over 23 years ago. While we do have a new managing partner, a new office recently acquired in Old Louisville, and experienced growth over the years, we have kept the name that we believe solidifies are place in the local community. We see the company continuing to expand in all services that we
CaMBiuM Marketing; lauren hendriCks, david niChols, & aMBer revard 414 Baxter Ave #210
1. Can you provide a general overview of your business, what you do and how you individually impact the community?
At Cambium Marketing, we specialize in helping purposedriven brands grow through authentic, community-centered marketing strategies. We believe marketing is more than just promotion—it’s about storytelling, connection, and building trust. That’s why we work closely with mission-aligned local businesses, organizations, and nonprofits, to amplify their voice and extend their reach in meaningful ways. Our core services include digital marketing, content creation, campaign strategy, and event marketing, all designed to elevate businesses that aim to make a positive impact.
Individually, each member of our team contributes to the community in their own individual way through volunteering, mentoring young professionals, or supporting local initiatives and causes. Whether it’s through pro bono work for grassroots nonprofits or educational workshops for small businesses, we actively invest our time and skills in helping our community thrive.
2. How are you holding up in a contentious economy that holds an uncertain future?
We recognize that the current economic climate presents real challenges, but also opportunities for resilience, creativity, and meaningful connection. Like many small businesses, we’ve had to adapt by streamlining operations, staying agile, and prioritizing the services that provide the most value to our clients. Despite the uncertainty, our commitment to purpose-driven work keeps us grounded. We’re seeing more organizations look for authentic ways to engage their audiences, and that plays to our strengths. By focusing on long-term relationship-building over
short-term trends, we’re not just weathering the storm—we’re helping our clients do the same. While the future isn’t perfectly clear, we remain optimistic, mission-focused, and committed to growing with integrity.
3. How did you get your start? Where do you see yourselves from this point?
Over 30 years ago, the company began as Impact Communications Inc., founded by a small group of partners with a focus on video production. In 2012, Lauren joined what had eventually become a+h marketing and welcomed David to the team in 2017. Over time, the company expanded its offerings to include content marketing, social media, website development, strategic marketing, and branding and design. In 2019, Lauren and David began a succession plan with one of the original founders, officially completing the ownership transition in 2021.
Following the transition, the company underwent a major rebrand and emerged as Cambium Marketing. Shortly after, Lauren and David welcomed Amber to the team and continued to provide strategic marketing services to businesses throughout the region. With deep roots in Louisville and a strong client base of local businesses, nonprofits, and community events, we are proud to grow alongside the city we call home.
4. Anything else you’d like the community to know about your business?
We want the community to know that Cambium is more than a marketing agency—we’re partners in building a more thoughtful, mission-driven community. We’re deeply invested in the success of our clients and the well-being of the communities they serve. Every project we take on is rooted in collaboration, purpose, and
offer and much of that is because we continue our philosophy of quality over quantity that began over 30 years ago and continues with Bill Lentini, the current managing partner.
4. Anything else you’d like the community to know about your business?
We would like for anyone in the community to take a look at our website and read up on all the services that are offered. There is no one too small for our services and we always offer free consultations to see if we are a good fit with a new client.
a genuine desire to make a positive impact. We also believe in transparency and accessibility—great marketing shouldn’t be limited to big budgets. That’s why we offer scalable solutions and support for small businesses and nonprofits that are doing meaningful work.
WorK thE MEtal; JaCK Mathis, oWnEr
1201 Story Avenue
1. Can you provide a general overview of your business, what you do and how you individually impact the community?
Work the Metal (WTM) is an experience for everyone to feel included, comfortable and just have fun. The store brings many people into the Butchertown Market area (locals as well as tourists) that may not experience this historic area otherwise. Once in the area, they can explore the other restaurants and shopping the neighborhood has to offer. I feel that WTM’s impact on the community has been tremendous. The number of other businesses opened since its inception in 2003 is a true testament to WTM’s impact.
2. How are you holding up in a contentious economy that holds an uncertain future?
The Louisville community has been so good to us. They come back time and time again, as well as bring friends and visitors to our store. That loyalty has helped us during some difficult times. Obviously, the tariffs that may be enforced could see some changes in the retail environment. There is so much uncertainty with that issue we are doing our research and taking it on a day by day and vendor basis. All small business owners are used to making those tough decisions and this is another one we all will have to make.
3. How did you get your start? Where do you see yourselves from this point? Work the Metal opened in June 2003 so we will be celebrating our 22nd birthday very soon. At its inception it was a 300 square feet retail store sharing space in the Butchertown Market with two other retailers. Over the years, WTM has grown to 15,000 square feet of retail space with items for the entire family. We see ourselves continuing to be a part of the Louisville community and introduce our store to a new generation of Louisvillians. We also want to continue giving back to the charitable organizations in our community that work so hard in helping others.
4. Anything else you’d like the community to know about your business? Work the Metal has won the Leo Readers Choice award for “Best Place to Buy a Unique Gift” for 10 consecutive years. We consider it such an honor to earn this designation from the Louisville community. We will continue to work hard and enhance the shopping experience to be considered for the next 10 years. We also want to help continue the development of the Butchertown Market neighborhood.
EtErnity WEllnEss; Kristina Pohl, CEo 1220 E. Kentucky Street
1. Can you provide a general overview of your business, what you do and how you individually impact the community? We are a wellness center committed to transforming how people experience healthcare. Our mission is to empower individuals to understand and heal their bodies by identifying the root causes of illness, rather than simply treating symptoms. Through integrative approaches including functional medicine, nutrition, mind-body therapies, and education. We help patients take control of their healthspan and feel like active participants in their wellness journey. In a system that often leaves people feeling unheard and powerless, we offer clarity, support, and real solutions. Our impact extends into the community through wellness workshops, partnerships with like minded businesses and most importantly, we are improving the health of those in our community.
We offer advanced testing not typically available through traditional primary care providers, such as in-depth hormone panels, micronutrient testing, food sensitivity analysis, gut health evaluations, and more.
Our services include IV hydration and vitamin injections, light therapy, infrared sauna, body composition analysis, hormone therapy, medical weight loss programs, and yoga classes. We also host ongoing educational and community wellness events designed to give people real tools and knowledge to live healthier, longer lives.
2. How are you holding up in a contentious economy that holds an uncertain future?
We’ve found that in times of uncertainty, people crave more agency over their well-being, and that’s exactly what we offer. While the economy may be challenging, our clients recognize that investing in their health is one of the most powerful and
proactive decisions they can make. Our membership model provides ongoing support, access to premium services, and a personalized roadmap for optimal health, all while maintaining affordability and flexibility. By focusing on prevention, education, and empowerment, we’re not just weathering the storm, we’re helping others rise above it.
3. How did you get your start? Where do you see yourselves from this point?
Our center was created by a nurse practitioner who saw a major gap in the current healthcare system, where patients are often left feeling confused, unheard, and powerless. We started with a clear mission: to return the focus of care to the patient and empower them to understand and transform their health. From our beginnings as a small practice, we’ve grown into a comprehensive wellness hub. Looking ahead, we plan to expand our offerings both in-person and virtually, with the goal of reaching more people, building a thriving member community, and continuing to change the way healthcare is experienced, one empowered patient at a time.
4. Anything else you’d like the community to know about your business?
We’re not just a place you go when you’re sick. We’re a partner in your long-term vitality. Whether you’re looking to optimize energy, manage stress, balance hormones, lose weight, optimize your body composition, or simply feel better in your body, we offer personalized, science-backed care that gets results. Our membership options are designed to provide ongoing access to transformative services, and our team is here to guide and support you every step of the way.
onE lovE hEMP DisPEnsary; nanCy robErts & Jana GroDa, FounDEr/CEo 1906 Bardstown Road + 10117 Taylorsville Road + 1400 Main St. Suite 111, Clarksville
1. Can you provide a general overview of your business, what you do and how you individually impact the community?
One Love was the first hemp dispensary to open in the Louisville area, launching in August 2018 under the leadership of co-owners Nancy Roberts and Jana Groda. From the beginning, our mission has been to help people live their best lives through the power of plants. We believe that healing isn’t just about relief—it’s about joy. That’s why we infuse everything we do with community, compassion, and a healthy dose of fun.
In 2020, we launched Gummy Girl, our terpene-infused cannabis gummy line, which has since grown into a regional favorite with over 150,000 jars sold. Our products are crafted to support wellness and connection—because we’ve seen firsthand how cannabis can help people feel better, communicate more openly, and strengthen their relationships.
At One Love, we believe cannabis is a family value. We’re proud to be part of a movement that brings people together, uplifts lives, and broadens perspectives. Whether through our innovative product offerings or our warm, welcoming team members, we strive to make a positive impact on every person who walks through our doors.
2. How are you holding up in a contentious economy that holds an uncertain future?
How are we holding up in a contentious and uncertain economy? Honestly, this kind of uncertainty is nothing new for us. The hemp industry has always operated in a volatile landscape, with shifting laws, regulatory gray areas, and a lack of traditional business support. We’ve never had the luxury of longterm planning—so we’ve learned to thrive in the unknown.
Over the years, we’ve grown more resilient. We’ve embraced the “Four Walls” business mindset—focusing on what we can control: our products, our people, our community, and our purpose. We’ve weathered unreliable banking access, lost credit card processing more than once (a common story in our field), and operated with little access to conventional funding. It’s forced us to stay lean, think creatively, and manage stress in a positive way.
We’ll face this economy the same way we’ve faced every other challenge: with clarity, calm, adaptability, and a commitment to keep showing up for our customers. And when the going gets tough… let’s just say Gummy Girl helps take the edge off!
3. How did you get your start? Where do you see yourselves from this point?
My journey into cannabis began with advocacy, long before it became an industry. My mother battled breast cancer and passed away when I was still young, and I spent years advocating for medical cannabis in her memory. At the same time, I was navigating my own neurodivergent mind and found that cannabis helped me function and feel like myself. That personal connection led me to start growing cannabis in the mid-1980s, which eventually evolved into owning an organic and hydroponic garden center that I ran for thirty years.
When the 2014 Farm Bill passed, Jana and I knew we wanted to step into this emerging space together. At first, we imagined going the agricultural route—working with clones and tissue culture—but by 2018, our focus had shifted to cannabinoids and terpenes. That August, I sold New Earth, and together we opened One Love. We haven’t looked back since.
Looking ahead, we plan to keep formulating and creating innovative products that reflect our values and love for the plant. Most importantly, we want to continue investing in our community—educating, supporting, and guiding others to discover the same healing and empowerment we’ve found in cannabis.
4. Anything else you’d like the community to know about your business?
We want the community to know that we truly care—and we’re here for you. Our team includes experienced cannabis consultants who are passionate about helping you find relief, feel better, and live well. Whether you’re exploring cannabis for the first time or are already familiar with its benefits, we’re here to guide you with knowledge, compassion, and care.
We’re a small business built by family and friends, united by a shared mission: to make our community stronger, healthier, and more joyful—one gummy at a time.
sassy Fox; JEssiCa MorElanD, oWnEr 150 Chenoweth Lane
1. Can you provide a general overview of your business, what you do and how you individually impact the community?
Sassy Fox Upscale Consignment is a ladies consignment boutique that carries name brand and designer clothing and accessories ranging from athletic to formal wear. We opened in 2005 in St. Matthews. We curate a collection to keep women in the area stylish without blowing their budget. Shopping second hand is also a great way to help the environment by reducing waste from fast fashion and the creation of new clothing. There is currently enough clothing in existence to clothe the next few generations.
2. How are you holding up in a contentious economy that holds an uncertain future?
I believe shopping second hand is actually quite beneficial in this uncertain economy and there are no tariffs on second hand goods! It’s a great way to save money while helping the environment.
3. How did you get your start? Where do you see yourselves from this point?
I opened Sassy Fox in 2005. My mother had a consignment store in Lexington, KY and I worked with her until moving to Louisville in 1998. I always knew that I wanted to open my own store eventually and when my building came up for lease on Chenoweth Ln, I knew that it was the right time. The building had such character and has a beautiful Red Bud tree in front (which is my favorite tree). In September, Sassy Fox Louisville will be celebrating 20 years in business!
4. Anything else you’d like the community to know about your business?
My staff and I truly enjoy what we do. We have the best customers and consignors. We have wonderful regulars that we’ve gotten to know personally and also love meeting new customers!
Simply Thai; Kelly Saing, Owner 12003 Shelbyville Road Ste.101 + 323 Wallace Avenue
1. Can you provide a general overview of your business, what you do and how you individually impact the community?
Simply Thai is a family-owned restaurant with two locations, serving authentic Thai cuisine and sushi. What began as a small neighborhood spot has grown into a local favorite known for fresh, made-from-scratch dishes and warm hospitality. Our goal has always been to create a welcoming place where people can gather and enjoy flavorful food rooted in tradition.
We also proudly support our local community by donating to various charity organizations, employing team members from the area, giving young people their first job opportunities, and now offering catering services for schools, businesses, and special events. Whether we’re serving lunch in a classroom or providing dinner for a company celebration, we love being part of the moments that matter to people.
2. How are you holding up in a contentious economy that holds an uncertain future?
Like many small businesses, the current economy has brought real challenges — from increasing costs to staffing shifts. But through it all, we’ve remained committed to what matters most: our people, our quality, and our purpose. We’ve leaned on faith, community support, and resilience to keep going. Every decision we make is grounded in taking care of our team, our guests, and our future.
3. How did you get your start? Where do you see yourselves from this point?
Simply Thai’s story began with our family, who came to this country as refugees with a desire to build a better life. What started as a way to provide for our loved ones has grown into something much greater. We are still a family-run business, and we continue this work not just for ourselves, but to serve others and honor the opportunities we’ve been given — with humility, hard work, and a heart of service to our guests and to God.
Looking ahead, we hope to expand our impact by growing our catering services, creating more jobs, and continuing to offer a space where people feel cared for. Growth for us means deeper community ties, not just more tables.
4. Anything else you’d like the community to know about your business? We want the community to know how grateful we are. Your support means everything to us — not just in helping our business survive, but in allowing our family’s dream to continue. Every meal we prepare is made with love and purpose, and every guest we serve is part of our story.
Thank you for allowing us to share our food, our culture, and our hearts with you. It’s truly an honor to serve.
DerBy Dinner playhOuSe; Tina JO wallaCe, prODuCing arTiSTiC DireCTOr
525 Marriott Drive, Clarksville
1. Can you provide a general overview of your business, what you do and how you individually impact the community?
Derby Dinner Playhouse is proud to be one of the oldest, continually-operating dinner theaters in the country. We serve more than 200,000 people each year with our performances and classes. Located in Clarksville, Indiana, just minutes from downtown Louisville, the 450-seat theatre is noted for our professional productions of Broadway musicals and comedies.
The Playhouse’s schedule includes eight mainstage shows running Tuesday through Sunday year-round. We also present four Children’s Musical Theatre productions each year that include Breakfast or Lunch, and several musical concerts. We have a Performing Arts Academy that runs year-round and offers Musical Theatre and Acting Workshops for students ages 5 to 17, serving thousands of children over the years.
The Playhouse currently operates with approximately 150 local employees who help us make the over 500 performances we do each year happen. Derby Dinner is also a major stop for tour buses. Every year, hundreds of tour buses carrying thousands of visitors from all over the country patronize the Playhouse. In addition to purchasing dinner theatre tickets, tour groups usually spend at least one night in area lodging and part of another day visiting local attractions and shopping.
2. How are you holding up in a contentious economy that holds an uncertain future?
We are holding up in a contentious economy by striving to provide the highest quality entertainment at the best value for your entertainment dollar. Though
our costs have been rising along with everyone else’s, we kept our season ticket prices the same this year. We know our patrons are feeling the pinch too. We are also trying to keep our costs down to avoid passing those on to our customers. We are continuing to engage with our audience base through social media and marketing in the hopes that they will continue to choose us when deciding where to spend their time and money.
3. How did you get your start? Where do you see yourselves from this point?
Derby Dinner just celebrated our 50th Anniversary season, and will open our 51st season May 21st. Our connection to our community has allowed us to weather many storms over those 50 years. We listen to our patrons and they, in turn, continue to support us with just over 10,000 patrons choosing to be season subscribers. In addition, we know that to weather the next 50 years, we will need to continue to bring in new audiences as well. With that many varied stakeholders, we craft each season to offer variety along with quality.
4. Anything else you’d like the community to know about your business?
Derby Dinner is a one-stop shop for the perfect date, meet up with friends and/or outing with your kids or grandkids. There is plenty of parking and its free. You can have a quick drink in our lounge or browse our gift shop before being seated or during intermission. You get to leisurely enjoy an all-you-can-eat buffet, then watch professional musicals and comedies in an intimate theatre where there are no such thing as nose-bleed seats. All of this at a great price. If you haven’t been, we hope you will give us a try!
FOur pegS SmOKehOuSe; ChriS williamS, Owner 1053 Goss Avenue
1. Can you provide a general overview of your business, what you do and how you individually impact the community?
Four Pegs Smokehouse is a local bbq joint serving up the best smoked meats in Louisville. From our award winning wings, ribs and chili to our delicious vegetarian jackfruit, and to our 12 craft drafts and 85 bourbons there sure to be something for everyone in the family. Chef Chris is extremely active in the community. He loves to support the service industry through his mental health event Taste for Life. He also supports Apron Inc and Germantown Baseball, along with various causes including houseless children and local charities.
2. How are you holding up in a contentious economy that holds an uncertain future?
Everyday is something new right now. Food costs are on the rise as well as everything else it takes to get food to the plate. We try to roll with the punches as much as possible without increasing our pricing. Hopefully things will level out before we have to do that. We try to focus on what we can control, which is continuing to provide delicious food in a welcoming environment and give back to the community as much as we can.
3. How did you get your start? Where do you see yourselves from this point? I started out BBQing professionally 15 years ago with 502cafe food truck. Thankfully through a lot of time on the street I built up enough of a following to move into a brick and mortar location. 6 years ago I moved into Four Pegs and things really began to take off. A couple of appearances on the Food Network and a ton of hard work and dedication later and we are moving on to the next phase! This month we are opening up our additional location at 3rd Turn Brewing Oldham Gardens!
4. Anything else you’d like the community to know about your business? We are extremely excited to get going at 3rd Turn Oldham Gardens! It’s an opportunity to bring our delicious smoked goodness to a whole new demographic. We can’t wait to get going and keep Filling Bellies & Feeding Souls!
VineS wine Bar & SpiriTS ShOp; JD & BeTh malCOm, JOhn riDgill, OwnerS
1985 Douglass Boulevard
1. Can you provide a general overview of your business, what you do and how you individually impact the community? At Vines, we offer a thoughtfully curated selection of wines at every price point, with special focus on bottles you won’t find lining the shelves of every big-box store. Our spirits collection rotates regularly, ensuring interesting options across all categories. We serve wine and cocktails by the glass, and we’re working on adding a few local beers to round out our offerings. Most importantly, we’re a community gathering place. Our space hosts everything from lively book clubs to birthday celebrations and college graduation parties. Our roots as “Vines & Canines” remain close to our hearts—everyone who works here loves dogs, which is why we actively support organizations like the Arrow Fund and local businesses like Rudy Greens, who create fresh, wholesome treats and meals for our four-legged friends.
We believe a strong, thriving Douglass Loop commercial center benefits both the neighboring community and small businesses like ours. That’s why we’re committed to building up and supporting other local establishments in the Loop. Between great restaurants like Good Belly, Havana Rumba, La Suerte, and Twig & Leaf (whose amazing Guatemalan food deserves your attention), and small businesses including 502 Power Yoga, Loop Barber Shop, Woody’s Barber Shop, Luna Salon, Monet’s Market, *Free Hype Shop, and Peace of the Earth Refillery—there’s a remarkable amount happening within just two blocks.
2. How are you holding up in a contentious economy that holds an uncertain future?
Wine and spirits are undeniably luxury items that often get trimmed from budgets when the economy struggles. That’s precisely why we focus on people rather than just products. While we appreciate when someone purchases a special $200 bottle of Cabernet Sauvignon, we equally value our neighbors who stop by weekly for a single glass of rosé and the chance to connect with friends.
Tariffs could certainly impact pricing in our industry. We’re committed to finding products and deals that minimize these effects for our customers. However, we also believe in transparency—if tariffs significantly increase costs, we’ll add that
as a separate line item on receipts so customers understand why their favorite $20 bottle of Sangiovese suddenly costs $35.
3. How did you get your start? Where do you see yourselves from this point?
Our business began on Frankfort Avenue as “Vines & Canines,” originally featuring both wine and dog accessories, like leashes and collars. We moved to Douglass Loop almost a decade ago and have changed hands a few times since then, primarily among neighbors who were loyal patrons.
We purchased Vines earlier this year—also as neighbors who wanted to ensure this special place remained part of our community. We’ve been making thoughtful indoor and outdoor updates while preserving the relaxed atmosphere and neighborly spirit that makes Vines what it is.
Looking forward, we aim to serve as an anchor for a Douglass Loop revival that extends throughout the upper Highlands. We’re committed to being part of the neighborhood’s continued growth and vitality.
4. Anything else you’d like the community to know about your business?
At Vines, we host free wine tastings on the first Friday of every month where neighbors can sample new selections and connect with fellow wine enthusiasts. We’re also launching a monthly wine club featuring bottles that introduce members to different regions, varietals, and styles—a straightforward way to discover wines you might not typically choose. Special orders are always welcome here. If something’s available through Kentucky distributors, we can bring it to our shop for you—whether it’s a unique specialty wine or a case of your go-to favorite.
We believe everyone should feel welcome in our space, which is why we maintain a large variety of non-alcoholic options alongside our wines and spirits. We’re also planning collaborative events with our neighbors at Good Belly and Highland Fish Market—think roast beef paired with robust reds or champagne alongside oysters and caviar. While the pairings might sound fancy, our atmosphere remains deliberately casual. We take our wine seriously, but never ourselves!
EAT, DRINK AND SEE IN THIS WEEK’S STAFF PICKS
THURSDAY’S, MAY 22, 29
Mike Linnig’s 2025 Rod Roundup
Mike Linning’s | 9308 Can Run Rd. | FREE | facebook.com/events/1358594085034986 | 4pm - 8pm
Head to a South Louisville favorite, Mike Linnig’s, every Thursday in May (after Derby) for the 2025 Rod Round Up at Mike Linnig’s. Mark your calendars for the remaining dates, May 22 and 29 from 4-8pm. Benefiting Crusade for Children, the event will have raffles, live music, cool cars, and the best seafood around. Come on out and see this hidden gem on the Southend!
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SATURDAY, MAY 24
Fleur de Flea
Waterfront Festival Plaza | 231 East Witherspoon St. | FREE | thefleurdeflea.com/index.php/specialevents/fleur-de-flea-waterfront | 10am
Fleur de Flea Vintage Market returns with Kentuckiana’s largest and most popular outdoor vintage market at scenic Waterfront Festival Plaza. Over 200 participating vendors throughout the region will be selling antiques, collectables, vinyl, vintage clothing, handmade and repurposed furniture, and more. The event is FREE, pet friendly (must be on a leash), and open to the public. Louisville’s best food trucks will be on hand along with pop-up bars serving specialty cocktails and local craft beers. Shoppers can also enjoy local DJ’s spinning great music as they browse throughout the entire day.
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SUNDAY, MAY 25
360 ALLSTARS
Old Forester’s Paristown Hall | 724 Brent St. | $35+ | ticketmaster.com/ event/16006179C6391FE3 | 7pm
A phenomenal physical performance exploring all forms of rotation, 360 ALLSTARS connects the street with the elite to deliver a supercharged urban circus. Boasting a stellar cast of World Champion and World Record holding artists and athletes, 360 ALLSTARS is a spectacular fusion of the extraordinary artistry that emerges from street culture. Add to this a stunning live soundtrack delivered by award winning musicians, coupled with spectacular video projections, 360 ALLSTARS is as aurally exciting as it is visually astounding. A magnificent, colorful and astonishing expression of a generation that has reinvented the circus, 360ALLSTARS is a revolutionary production that will leave you dizzy with excitement!
—LEO Weekly
Friday, May 30
Godawfuls, Remote Controls, Shock Probation Air Devil’s Inn | 2802 Taylorsville Rd. | facebook. com/airevilsinn | Free | 8 p.m. | 21 and over
If you’re not already hitting up these over 21 local punk rock shows, get off your ass and do so! There is a whole scene within a scene going on and the bands playing them are making some of the best punk music that has ever graced Louisville, and this show is an excellent example. Godawfuls bring their brand of wild, fast, loud, punk rock and roll. You also get the Screeching Weasel-esque sounds of The Remote Controls (Indianapolis), who swing by to promote their excellent new single “American Standard”. And the multifaceted punk rock and roll of Shock Probation, who I certainly hope will have something to release soon. And it’s at the perfect location - the diviest of dive bars: Air Devil’s Inn!
—Jeff Polk
Saturday, May 24
Louisville Punk Rock Night Presents: The 2nd Annual Ramones Bash The Alcove | 246 Spring St, Jeffersonville | thealcovebar.com | Free | 9:00 p.m. | 21 and over
Beatles fans, take a night off from the Beatles cover bands and come listen to bands cover the greatest Beatles-inspired band of all time; The Ramones! Just one block over from Abbey Road on the River, three bands will be performing the first three Ramones albums, (and a few extras), without repeats! Hymans, (featuring current and former members of Indignant Few, Reagan Youth, Creeps Inc, and Wiirmz), take on the self-titled first record. The Dee Dees, (featuring current/ex-members of The Char, Cock Off Wego, Tsunami Samurai, Auntie Madder, and Niles Foley) are doing Leave Home. And Loud Pedal from Columbus, OH will perform Rocket to Russia. Dress in your best Ramones attire for a chance to win a prize. But please note: due to the potential of explosion, mice without adequate hearing protection will be turned away at the door, (IYKYK)!
—Jeff Polk
Saturday, May 31
KXD Events Presents: Feed Louisville Benefit Show
The Whirling Tiger | 1335 Story Ave. | thewhirlingtiger. com | $15 | 6 p.m. | All ages
Hunger is a humanitarian crisis happening every day in our community. Feed Louisville is a team of professional chefs on a mission to address this crisis by preventing perfectly good food from being wasted, and use it to make beautiful meals for our unhoused and food insecure community. And you can help them by simply attending one hell of a show! The lineup is absolutely stacked: Why DOMS, Deep Above, Pravus Warlord, Barclays, NiseTheNymph, Narco, and Hope2. So you’re getting an amazing mixed bag of rap, grunge, hardcore, punk, indie, and everything in-between! And per promoter KXD Events, 100% of the proceeds are going to Feed Louisville.
— Jeff Polk
SUNDAY, MAY 31
Vintage, Antique, and Handmade Market Harrison County Fairgrounds | 341 S. Capitol Ave, Corydon In. | $10+ | corydonextravaganza.com | 8am (Eearly Bird) or 10am (GA)
Located only 30 minutes from Louisville, get ready for the ultimate spring shopping experience at one of Southern Indiana’s best Vintage, Antique & Handmade Markets! 50+ Hand Selected Vendors! Vintage, Antiques & Handmade Goods, wide array of food, live music, and a wine bar! As an indoor-outdoor festival, we have something for everyone to enjoy! Bring the family, or your friends out for a day to escape in the local charms and beautiful scenery.
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MONDAY’s & WEDNESDAY’s, STARTING IN JUNE
Let’s Get Artsy!
Jeff Public Arts Center | 296 W. 7th Street, Jeffersonville, In. | FREE | fundforthearts.org/culturalpass
“Let’s Get Artsy!!” Open Art Space. Located at the Jeff Public Arts Center in the NoCo Arts and Cultural District. All ages and skill levels are welcome to explore, create, and play with a variety of art materials in our inspiring creative space. What to expect: * All materials provided - new art supplies featured each week! * Weekly themes offered, but feel free to create whatever inspires you * Self-directed creative environment * Drop in anytime during studio hours - no registration required * Adults must accompany and stay with children * Come see a real working studio artists’ space while trying out materials! No experience necessary! Come discover your artistic side in a supportive, welcoming environment. Stay for a few minutes or the whole morning - it’s up to you!
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SUNDAY, MAY 31
WonderFest
Crowne Plaza Louisville Airport Hotel | 830 Phillips Ln. | $10+ | wonderfest.com | 10am
WonderFest is a weekend of hobby escape that’s usually held every Summer in Louisville, Kentucky USA! WonderFest features movie special effects guests, the largest model contest in the U.S. for sci-fi, horror & comics-related subjects, model and toy dealers galore, and seminars to entertain and improve hobbyists of all ages!
—LEO Weekly
SUNDAY, MAY 31
Touch-A-Truck
Kentucky Kingdom | $10 | facebook.com/ events/1359677518357195 | 9am - 2pm
Enjoy a day of hands-on family fun at Junior League of Louisville’s Touch-A-Truck presented by Kentucky Kingdom. Get up close and personal with large vehicles and learn about the different types of trucks and the people who operate them. Enjoy: 20+ Trucks: FBI Tech Van and Patrol Car, Firefighter Vehicles, Cement Truck, Street Sweeper, and more! Yard Games and Other Activity Stations Early Bird ticket holders will receive admission to Touch-A-Truck, plus a FREE admission ticket to Kentucky Kingdom.
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SUNDAY, JUNE 1
Community Free Day - Ali Fest Carnival 2025
Muhammad Ali Center | 144 N 6th St. | FREE | alicenter.org/events/community-free-day-ali-festcarnival-2025 | 12pm
The Muhammad Ali Center will be open free to the public on Sunday, June 1, 2025 from 12 p.m. to 5 p.m. for our Ali Fest Carnival, sponsored by Passport by Molina Healthcare. Enjoy free admission to the Muhammad Ali Center in addition to food, games, music, face painting and more! The Ali Fest Carnival is part of this year’s Ali Fest celebration, gathering the community together to highlight Muhammad Ali’s impact and celebrate the city he called home.
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Sunday, June 1
Bill Clark and the Route 15 Band
CD Release Party
Murcurio’s Music & Resto Bar | 2931 Richland Ave. | mercuriosrestobar.com | $15 | 4 p.m. | All ages
Having had the opportunity to watch Bill Clark play a handful of times, I have to say it is amazing! Blues, folk, bluegrass, rock, country, the man can play it all. And when I saw the list of musicians that make up The Route 15 Band: Tom Roller, Mark R. Miller, Tom Hardy, Katrina Harper, Eli Lewis Hall, and special guest musicians for this show: Eddie Hysinger, Ellie Miller, and John McClure, wow! These are some of the best musicians in the business! And when it’s been 49 years between your debut and sophomore records, it’s kind of a big deal! Read the review of Through the Years in the latest Listen Local column, put on your dancing shoes, and come join in the celebration! New Country Folk opens.
Jeff Polk
LISTEN LOCAL: NEW LOUISVILLE MUSIC YOU NEED TO HEAR THIS SPRING!
New releases by Producing a Kind Generation, Cookie Delight, Ian Abel Band, and more!
BY JEFF POLK
Bill Clark and the Route 15 Band Through the Years - album
After collaborating on a few tracks over the years, rapper Allen Vice and producer Roundtree set out to create a full-length album, but in a rather unique way. Said Roundtree, “The process and end result were never discussed - beats were sent, raps were spit, and we called it finished when it felt like a complete idea. The creation process from top to bottom was impulsive. This is a great record solely because we’re great at what we do.” And he’s right! Vice has garnered critical acclaim through his prolific output and numerous collaborations with Louisville musicians and producers. Roundtree, who originally hails from Boston but now calls Louisville home, has quickly gained status within the Louisville hip-hop community through his unique sample choices and techniques not usually explored within the genre. Together they create psychedelic hip-hop soundscapes that are unlike anything I’ve ever heard before. Roundtree described it as such; “The production sources samples from unusual places. Vice raps one-liners à la MF DOOM about a multitude of topics from religion, weed, and life experiences as a resident in the West End (to name a few).” And the result is incredible! Vice’s flows are smooth but hit hard. Roundtree’s use of samples from Muzak, R&B, and lounge jazz, (often all simultaneously), but all chopped up and skewed is something I can only describe as a 1970’s acid trip and a fever dream combined. This is far from your run-of-the-mill hip-hop; this is something completely unique and very special! Just trust me, you need to experience this!
allenvice.bandcamp.com
It’s only been a few years since Bill Clark released his last album - 49 years to be exact! He might have broken a record with the length of time between debut and sophomore albums. Of course he never stopped playing or writing songs during all of those years, they just took a backseat to raising a family and a 40-year career outside of music. Now things have come back around full circle for Clark, and he is back where he belongs. Through The Years is just that; a collection of songs written over many years with a few covers thrown in, (“The Dutchman” by Michael Smith - popularized by Steve Goodman, Mindy Smith’s “Come To Jesus”, and Gordon Lightfoot’s “Sixteen Miles to Seven Lakes”). If I may get oddly specific; the eight original tracks that make up the rest of the record sound how I believe James Taylor writing songs for Jimmy Buffett, who is being backed by Elvis’ TCB Band would sound like. Folk rock with a pronounced Caribbean music flair mixed with a bit of country, bluegrass, and rooted in the blues. It’s an uplifting sound, to be sure. The talent level here is extraordinary! Not only is Clark still at the top of his game, but he also has a veritable gold mine of Louisville musicians backing him! And together they hit every note just the right way to assure that the crowd will be up on their feet. Because if these tracks don’t get you up and dancing, you might want to check your pulse.
billclarkandtheroute15band.com
Cookie Delight
Live Under the Solar Eclipse - EP
You know, I’ve never thought about what the perfect soundtrack to a full solar eclipse might sound like. But for 40+ minutes during last year’s eclipse, TJ Cole and Emily Ravenscraft created it! Cole (synthesizer and processed vocals), and Ravenscraft (processed violin), are both classically trained, highly accomplished musicians. As Choir Siren, the duo mix improvisation with live processing to create unpredictable, immersive performances. Their music mixes elements of avant-garde classical, ambient, and noise for a sound that is ever-evolving. Or as they put it; “Two bleep bloopers constantly stimming at each other with weird noises.” They describe their debut EP, Live Under the Solar Eclipse as follows: “On April 8th, 2024, during the total solar eclipse, we gathered outside as the world held its breath. With everything set to start at a precise moment, we had no plan - just the open sky and the shifting light. What followed was completely improvised. No stage. No audience. Just two people, our instruments, our recording equipment, the neighborhood, and the sky. We set up in Emily’s front yard - eclipse glasses on standby, mics on, pedals dialed in. The goal: time the peak of our set with the moment of totality.” What they got was beyond what they had expected; both “feeling like we had just performed a ritual,” which is certainly an accurate description. The music here is quite indescribable - dark yet uplifting, haunting yet spiritual, frightening yet calming, creepy yet beautiful, unstructured yet melodic. The sheer joy in the duos’ voices at the end of the recording as the magnitude of what they’ve just created begins to set in speaks volumes and wraps it up perfectly!
instagram.com/choirsiren
Favorite Ex - single
You may know Katie James from her time as a solo singer/guitarist/songwriter, but you probably know her by her alter-ego; Cookie Delight, frontwoman and guitarist for The Delighters, (who just released a new EP in March). But, as she said in her email; “After years of performing raunchy rock and queer anthems with my band, I’m now stepping into a new era - solo pop music as Cookie Delight.” So I loaded up the video for this song on YouTube only to find out it was directed by my old friend and former bandmate Teresa Finley, so we’re already off to a good start! When I say this song is catchy, I mean you’re going to be hearing this in your head on repeat while singing and tapping your feet along to it for days afterwards! This is an earworm’s earworm. Bubblegum pop with a strong early 80’s flare to it that makes it both dreamy and nostalgic, bringing to mind the poppier hits of The Cars and The Go-Gos. Regarding “Favorite Ex,” Cookie’s debut single, she said; “This is a passion project that blends my DIY roots with my love for pop, storytelling, and queer joy.” On the inspiration for the song, Cookie said; “The song was written after reconnecting with my ex-girlfriend and it’s about savoring the kind of moment you know probably won’t last forever but still feels like magic.” Overall, this song is just flat out fun! Upbeat, happy, and highly danceable; I’m fairly certain that it is physically impossible not to smile while listening this song! katiejamesjams.bandcamp.com
Allen Vice and Roundtree ViceTree - album
Choir Siren
Ian Abel Band Home - single
For singer/guitarist/songwriter and Louisville native Ian Abel, all it took was him seeing the movie School of Rock as a young teen to kick start the long road of his career. Influenced by the movie to play guitar, Abel took lessons, joined a jazz band in high school, studied music at Western Kentucky University, moved to Los Angeles for several years, and eventually ended up in Nashville, where he is currently based. He’s toured as lead guitarist for Grand Ole Opry legend T. Graham Brown and has had songs featured in All Elite Wrestling, (wrestler Cody Rhodes is a fan). On “Home”, his 14th single since 2019, Abel gives a glimpse into his internal dialogue, reflecting his drive to become a better man, both for himself and those closest to him. Exploring themes of shame, self-loathing, substance abuse, and loss, Abel’s deeply introspective lyrics lay his most vulnerable thoughts bare and show him confronting his past while taking control of his future. By doing so, he hopes to inspire others who may be in similar situations. The music is a powerhouse mix of honky-tonk, country, and bluesy rock that brings to mind what Chris Stapleton might sound like with The Black Crows backing him. This is quite simply top-notch songwriting executed by top-notch musicians! Keep an eye out because Ian Abel returns to his hometown for gigs fairly often, and eventually when the ‘Ian Abel’s Louisville’ banner goes up and he’s headlining arenas, you’ll want to say you saw him before he became a superstar! Jack Black would be proud! ianabel.band
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Producing a Kind Generation Slump - album
Easily one of the most productive bands in Louisville, PAKG returns with Slump, their fifth full-length album since 2019. And that doesn’t include the singles they’ve released between albums. With the overwhelmingly majority of bands, that’d be way too much material, resulting in a whole bunch of throwaway songs. PAKG is the one of the very, very few bands that is turning out consistently great material back-to-back without resorting to filler songs. Slump is a great example of that; every song on this record needs to be here. No clunkers or skip-overs, just 10 solid tracks of PAKG doing what they do best, (borrowing a couple lines from a previous review I wrote for them): smooth, melodic, groove-oriented alt-rock at heart with its feet planted firmly in funk and its soul rooted in the blues. Slump sees the PAKG refining their sound and charting new territory for the band with tracks like the grungy “Broke Boy”, the bluesy rock of “The Pill” and “Tew Jahbz” (pronounced “Two jobs”), and the straight up funk of “Right Now”. But of course you still get that familiar alt-rock funk sound PAKG has perfected over the years on tracks like the opener “Wannabe”, “Me & You”, and the slower grooves of “Break Me” and “The Button”. Comparisons to Red Hot Chili Peppers aren’t unfounded, but also aren’t particularly fair either. Maybe a less pretentious, more honest RHCP is a better description. PAKG has been on a roll since day one, and Slump is proof they aren’t coming off it anytime soon. This is music that stands on its own and needs to be heard!
pakg.world
Punji Pit
Intermittent Inculcation/ Decadence - single
Being familiar with Punji Pit’s debut EP Sweating Bullets, Keeping Beat, released last summer, I had a certain expectation going into this. And that expectation wasn’t just met, it was exceeded! The band continues to evolve and grow their sound with their two latest tracks. While the punk element is still there and as strong as ever, the band seems to have moved away from the early alternative/indie rock influence heard on the debut EP and leaned into their gungier side, creating a sound reminiscent of early Soundgarden, Melvins, and Nirvana material mixed with just a tiny bit of that late 70’s/early 80’s Louisville punk of bands like Babylon Dance Band and Malignant Growth. And with their heavy, fuzzed-out guitar and bass riffs and the thundering drums, these two tracks almost border stoner rock and honestly aren’t far removed from local greats The Glasspack. But with both tracks clocking in at barely over two minutes each and packed full of high-energy, these are far more punk than anything else. Having only been together for less than two years, Punji Pit has come a long way in a short period of time. They’ve created a truly unique style and sound, they are constantly playing shows around the Louisville area and beyond, building their fanbase and getting a lot of recognition. If you’re not already familiar with Punji Pit, they definitely need to be on your radar because this is a band you’re no doubt going to be hearing a lot about in the very near future!
linktr.ee/punjipit
Tripendicular
Come
Hither - single
Louisville native, vocalist, and multi-instrumentalist Todd Groemling, (pronounced GREMM-Ling), had a problem. A guitar player was looking for help with an Antônio Carlos Jobim-inspired guitar-only, bossa nova-style composition. Groemling, (who is also one-half of the band My Infatuation, who’s single “A Kiss” was recently reviewed by yours truly for LEO Weekly), provided a recording for consideration that included the original guitar with added instruments, lyrics, a melody for the lyrics, and the vocals. Yet the guitarist was not interested. So Groemling, not wanting to waste the great piece that he had created, challenged himself to replace the original guitar part - but not to recreate it - by reimagining the role of the guitar from the playing style to the tone. The result is a far less Jobim-inspired song that mixes bossa nova, dream pop, and a bit of a samba flair for a very sexy, sultry, yet a little dark and mysterious sound that brings to mind some of Rob Thomas’ more Latin-tinged material. If you’re as old as me and remember the series Red Shoe Diaries on Showtime back in the 90’s; this song would be right at home on one of those episodes. Groemling proves his talent in spades here by providing vocals, acoustic guitar, (which takes on more of a Spanish guitar tone), bongos, drums, and when that soft sax solo hits during the bridge, forget about it! Groemling should start keeping a score chart, (pun intended), of all the children he’s indirectly responsible for with this one! This is the type of song that resulted in many of us being here in the first place!
tripendicular.carrd.co
AURORA GALLERY AND BOUTIQUE MAKES A BITTERSWEET DEPARTURE
The queer women artists center gratitude in their final days in the Shelby Park space.
BY ARIA BACI
In a time of increasing social conservatism, political authoritarianism, and economic uncertainty, arts organizations struggle to thrive. Here in Louisville, independent businesses struggle to thrive. Aurora Gallery and Boutique (1264 S Shelby St.) is such a business, a professional and communal enclave for women, queer people, and creatives on the fringe. After two and a half years in their Shelby Park space, the owners have decided to close their doors.
Aurora Gallery and Boutique is a collaborative effort of Lyndi Lou, Alexandra Rumsey, and Mia Farrugia. The physical space is a thoughtfully carved niche for the macabre and the transgressive that cultivates an appreciation for the often-overlooked beauty of death and decay.
Raised on a cattle and tobacco farm in Kentucky, Lyndi Lou has since become a star in the constellation of the Louisville arts community. She is a tattoo artist, and opened Mama Tried Tattoo Parlour (1052 Bardstown Rd.) in 2017. She is also a watercolor painter and a terrarium designer who constructs with plant matter, preserved insects, and skeletal remains.
Originally from Lexington, Rumsey earned a Bachelor of Fine Arts from Eastern Kentucky University and a Master of Fine Arts from Southern Illinois University. She is both a mixed media visual artist and a professional graphic designer. Death, funerary rites, and reincarnation are recurring themes in her work, while her motifs often recall occult traditions.
Farrugia is a mixed media artist with a concentration in jewelry. Originally from Detroit, she opened local art boutique in St. Louis before relocating to Louisville in 2012. Soon after she arrived, she launched her jewelry collection Dandelion. Her designs incorporate organic material like bone, tooth, antler, leather, and stone to inspire the wearer to connect with the natural world.
The three artists opened Aurora on Saturday, October 29, 2022. Their inaugural event was “Season of the Witch,” a group exhibition of masks and mask-themed art by local artists that became an annual event in subsequent years.
Since then, Aurora has curated events as aesthetically diverse as “Echoes of Endings” (with guest curator Bearykah Shaw), a pictorial exploration of trauma, loss, grief, and healing; candle-making workshops; and “Fever Dreams,” oil paintings by Jessica Chao side-by-side with “Ephemeral,”
ceramics by Tiffany Phan.
In April, Aurora decided to close their business. Their final week will be Sunday, May 25–Saturday, May 31. Until then, the gallery and boutique will be open Thursdays 3:00–8:00 p.m., Fridays 12:00–8:00 p.m., Saturdays 12:00–8:00 p.m., and Sundays 12:00–7:00 p.m. The lease on the space will terminate Sunday, June 1.
“We want to thank all of the artists and customers who have trusted and supported us these past few years,” they said in an Instagram post. “Aurora would not have existed without you all, and we are forever grateful to all of you.”
Their final opening reception and farewell party will be Saturday, May 17 from 6:00–10:00 p.m. The last show, aptly titled “Curtain Call,” is a curation of work by queer artists from Louisville. “We thought as our final hurrah that it was important to highlight folks who are celebrating queer joy and living their truths in our community,” Aurora said in an Instagram post. “Today’s current climate is often scary, and at times feels dark and uncertain. Let’s spend our last opening
reception lifting up these voices and celebrating alongside them!”
“Curtain Call” will feature the work of R. Harless, Kobe Sawyer, Mia Farrugia, Damian R. H. Botner, a. e. Botner, J.D. Dotson, Lalana Fedorschak, Backyard Kiln, and Imani Burns. The work will be on view until Saturday, May 31.
Lou, Rumsey, and Farrugia said that their hope has always been to nurture a healthy and mutually supportive arts community in Louisville. “We wanted to have large, open submission art shows, making a space for folks of all backgrounds and skill sets to showcase their artwork, which in turn created a holistic and welcoming environment,” they said. “We feel we have done that, and hope to continue this work outside of the walls of Aurora as members of the Louisville arts community. This work does not end with Aurora!”
The space that was once Aurora will transmogrify into other creative spaces across Kentuckiana. Lou still owns Mama Tried Tattoo; she will continue to create her art outside of the parlor and be a guest curator
for art exhibits around Louisville. Rumsey co-owns Pale Moon Tattoo (2209 Charlestown Rd., New Albany, IN) and will continue to develop her brand Hekas Creative; she will also be a guest curator at local galleries and participate in regional art fairs. Farrugia will remain a dedicated and active member of the Louisville art scene with Dandelion, and will also participate in fairs and shows.
Aurora Gallery and Boutique will close its doors with gratitude. “Thank you again,” the owners said. “While this decision is bittersweet, we are so grateful for this experience, and we will cherish the memories we have made with all of you.”
All images courtesy of Aurora Gallery and Boutique
Aurora Gallery and Boutique Aria Baci
From Left: Alexandra Rumsey, Lyndi Lou, Mia Farrugia Aria Baci
LOCALLY-RUN GRAVITY MAGAZINE AIMS TO HIGHLIGHT CREATIVITY
BY DEBRA MURRAY
When Savannah Clarkson was a child, she was always creating something. Even then, she would staple together construction paper to create magazines for her family. Now, she runs Gravity Magazine.
Gravity Magazine is a magazine aiming to share the creativity of diverse voices. The first issue was published in August 2024, which showcased Louisville-based musicians, nail artists, designers and more.
“I was inspired to start Gravity because I wanted to have an outlet that combined my love for photography, design, writing, and community,” Clarkson said. “A magazine felt like the perfect combination of these things. Making this magazine as an adult feels very full circle for me.”
Clarkson is also a photographer. During a space-themed photoshoot, she was inspired to name the magazine “Gravity.”
“Gravity is an invisible force that holds us in place; it draws us to one another,” Clarkson said. “Which perfectly parallels my goal of fostering community with the magazine. The outer-space themes just naturally stuck with the name.”
Clarkson said the most rewarding part of creating the magazine is being able to connect with creative people in Louisville.
“There’s so many passionate individuals in our city, and I’ve really enjoyed getting to connect with so many of them,” she said. “I’ve formed some close friendships through the magazine, and I think that’s been my favorite part about this whole thing. Human connection is something I value so much, and I’m so grateful to have started a project where people can come together and share our love for art and friendship.”
While Clarkson primarily works with Kentucky-based creators, Gravity’s slogan is “For creators near and far.” Submissions to the magazine have come from all over the country, including New York, California, Tennessee, Ohio, Washington, New Jersey, and more.
“It’s been such a pleasure getting to work with so many creative individuals from my hometown and beyond and being able to introduce them to one another,” Clarkson said.
Beyond creating the magazine, Clarkson
has collaborated with local venues such as the Wandering Treehouse to host community arts-based events to inspire creativity and provide an opportunity to connect with other people with the same interests.
“By highlighting creativity and creators, I hope to foster a sense of belonging and inspire others to get creative. Creativity is how we make sense of the world. It builds bridges across differences; it acts as a powerful force for connection. With Gravity, I want people to be able to pick up a magazine, come to an event, come to our online spaces, and feel seen and celebrated.”
The second volume of Gravity Magazine will be launching this summer. To learn more about local events and involvement opportunities, visit their Instagram @thegravitymag.
“I hope this project will encourage everyone to get out of their comfort zone,” Clarkson said. “I want to remind everyone that every single person can be creative. Creativity isn’t just about painting, taking photos, or other art mediums; it’s being you and expressing it.”
Debra Murray
FREE WILL ASTROLOGY
Week of May 23
ROB BREZSNY
ARIES (March 21-April 19): I think you’re ready to establish new ways of nourishing and protecting what’s valuable to you. Your natural assertiveness will be useful in setting boundaries and securing resources. Your flourishing intuition will guide you to implement adjustments that safeguard your interests while remaining flexible enough to permit legitimate access. Be extra alert, Aries, for when you need to balance security with accessibility. Your best defenses will come from clever design, not brute force. Do what you need to feel secure without feeling trapped.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20): In July 1971, 26-year-old Taurus poet Bernadette Mayer kept a scrupulous diary. Every day, she shot a roll of 35 mm film, wrote about the day’s events, and recorded herself reading her accounts. By Aug. 1, she had accumulated 1,100 photos and six hours of readings. One of her goals in doing the project was to learn more about how her memory worked. What was worth remembering, and what wasn’t? She also hoped to gain an objective perspective about her routine rhythm. Years later, she acknowledged that though this was a narcissistic experiment, she had no shame about it. Inspired by Mayer, and in accordance with astrological omens, you might find it worthwhile to lovingly and thoroughly study the details of your daily life for a while. It’s an excellent time to get to know yourself better.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20): Gemini writer Raymond Carter (1938–1988) established a reputation as a master of terse minimalism. One critic noted that he practiced the “Theory of Omission” — an approach to writing fiction that mandates the elimination of superfluous narrative elements. But it turns out that Carver’s editor Gordon Lish had a major role in all this. He deleted half of Carver’s original words and changed the endings of half his stories. Years after his death, Carver’s widow, Tess Gallagher, published the original versions, with the omitted material reinstated. I believe the coming weeks will be an excellent time for you to make comparable restorations, Gemini. In every way you can imagine, tell the full story, provide the complete rendition, and offer elements that have been missing.
CANCER (June 21-July 22): Even if you don’t regard yourself as a psychic or prophet, I suspect you now have an uncanny knack for deciphering future trends. Your intuition is operating at peak levels, especially when you focus it on the big picture of your long-term destiny. As long as you’re not overconfident about this temporary bloom of expansive
vision, you can trust your ability to see the deep patterns running through your life story. To make the most of this gift, take a loving inventory of where you have been and where you are going. Then devote relaxed meditations to adjusting your master plan.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): River deltas form where rivers meet the sea, creating fertile and complex ecosystems that nourish abundant life. Some of my favorites are the Rhône River Delta in France, the Po River Delta in Italy, and the Shinano River Delta in Japan. In the coming weeks, Leo, I will visualize you as the metaphorical equivalent of a river delta. I’ll call you the Leo Delta, trusting you will be inspired to celebrate and cultivate the rich intersections that characterize your life — areas where an array of ideas, paths, and relationships converge. Be open to synergizing different aspects of your world: integrating emotions and logic, connecting with diverse people, blending personal and professional goals.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Your natural inclination is to solve problems through detailed planning and careful analysis. On occasion, that process dead-ends in overthinking, though it often works pretty well. In accordance with current astrological omens, however, I suggest an alternative approach for you in the coming weeks. Instead of trying to figure everything out, how about if you simply create a relaxed spaciousness for new things to emerge? Experiment with the hypothesis that progress will come not from doing more, but from allowing more.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): As they climb, mountaineers carefully assess every handhold and foothold. Unfailing concentration is key. I recommend adopting their attitude in the coming weeks, Libra. You are entering a phase when ascension and expansion will be among your main assignments. The best approach to your adventures is to make steady progress with precision and thoughtfulness. Rushing rashly ahead or taking needless risks could be counterproductive, so be scrupulous about planning and preparation. Trust that the most efficient path to the summit will be via small, deliberate steps. Your winning combination will be ambition leavened with caution.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): At age 42, Scorpio painter Georgia O’Keeffe left her busy New York art career and traveled to New Mexico for the first time. The landscape’s beauty overwhelmed her. She wandered around the desert for three months, creating no art at all. A few critics accused her of wasting time. She
rejected their ignorant misunderstanding of her process, replying, “To see takes time. I had to learn the country first before it would let me paint it.” Her most iconic paintings emerged after this phase of pure observation. I’m recommending a similar period for you, dear Scorpio. While your instincts may tempt you toward a flurry of activity, I believe now is a time to wait and see; to pause and ponder; to muse and meditate.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): By the 20th century, the 483-mile-long Seine River in France was so polluted that most of its fish were gone. But clean-up efforts have been successful. Now there are 32 fish species, including the Atlantic salmon. The Seine is also very close to being completely safe for humans to swim. I would love it if you were inspired by this success story to undertake a comparable project in your own life, Sagittarius. What would you most like to see revived and restored? Now is a good time to begin the effort.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Until she reached her 70s, Capricorn visual artist Louise Bourgeois was a peripheral figure in the art world, modestly respected but not acclaimed. Then New York’s Museum of Modern Art presented her work in a major show. In response, the New York Times reviewed her work, saying it was “charged with tenderness and violence, acceptance and defiance, ambivalence and conviction.” I bring this to your attention, Capricorn, because I suspect the coming months will also bring you recognition for labors of love you’ve been devoted to for a while — maybe not in the form of fame, but through an elevated appreciation by those whose opinion matters to you.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): The name of the old Talking Heads album is Stop Making Sense. One of its many implications is that we periodically derive benefit and relief from being free of the pressure to sound reasonable and be consistent. According to my detailed, logical, in-depth analysis of your astrological omens, now is a perfect time to honor this counsel. I hope you will give yourself a sabbatical from being sensible, serious, and overly sane. Instead, please consider a sustained pursuit of pure pleasure, fun foolishness, and amazing amusement.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): Be on high alert for fleeting intuitions that flow through your awareness. Really good ideas may rise up only briefly and only once, and you should be ready to catch them in the ripe moment before they fade away. Do you hear my urgency? Pay special attention to passing thoughts or sudden insights. They may contain more value than initially apparent. I will even speculate that seemingly ephemeral inspirations could become foundational elements in your future success. Document your hunches, even if they seem premature.
Homework: What meaningful message could you give to a person you hurt?
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Crown Castle Fiber, LLC is proposing to construct a 46-foot tall (overall height) small cell pole telecommunications structure near 3334 Taylor Boulevard, Louisville, Jefferson County, Kentucky (38° 12’ 2.5” N, 85° 46’ 57.6” W). Crown Castle Fiber, LLC invites comments from any interested party on the impact the proposed undertaking may have on any districts, sites, buildings, structures, or objects significant in American history, archaeology, engineering, or culture that are listed or determined eligible for listing in the National Register of Historic Places. Comments may be sent to Environmental Corporation of America, ATTN: Annamarie Howell, 1375 Union Hill Industrial Court, Suite A, Alpharetta, GA 30004 or via email to publicnotice@eca-usa. com. Ms. Howell can be reached at (770) 667-2040 x 108 during normal business hours. Comments must be received within 30 days of the date of this notice. 25-000925/JET
Crown Castle Fiber, LLC is proposing to construct a 46-foot tall (overall height) small cell pole telecommunications structure near 2521 Grinstead Road, Louisville, Jefferson County, Kentucky (38° 14’ 42.9” N, 85° 42’ 8.3” W). Crown Castle Fiber, LLC invites comments from any interested party on the impact the proposed undertaking may have on any districts, sites, buildings, structures, or objects significant in American history, archaeology, engineering, or culture that are listed or determined eligible for listing in the National Register of Historic Places. Comments may be sent to Environmental Corporation of America, ATTN: Annamarie Howell, 1375 Union Hill Industrial Court, Suite A, Alpharetta, GA 30004 or via email to publicnotice@eca-usa. com. Ms. Howell can be reached at (770) 667-2040 x 108 during normal business hours. Comments must be received within 30 days of the date of this notice. 25-000926/JET
Crown Castle Fiber, LLC is proposing to install a 46-foot small cell telecommunications pole at the following site: 7201 Fegenbush Lane, Louisville, Jefferson County, Kentucky, 40228. Lat: 8-08-42.02, Long: -85-37-38.96. The structure will be in the public right-of-way on the northeast side of Fegenbush Lane. Crown Castle invites comments from any interested party on the impact of the proposed action on any districts, sites, buildings, structures or objects significant in American history, archaeology, engineering or culture that are listed or determined eligible for listing in the National Register of Historic Places and/ or specific reason the proposed action may have a significant impact on the quality of the human environment. Specific information regarding the project is available by contacting Christopher Moore, c.moore@trileaf.com, and 314-997-6111, during normal business hours. Comments must be received at 1515 Des Peres Road, Suite 200, St. Louis, MO 63131 within 30 days of this publication.
Crown Castle is proposing to install antennas at a centerline height of 35.4 feet on an existing 41.8 foot utility pole telecommunications structure. The structure will be in the public right-of-way near the intersection of Trevilian Way and Ridgefield Road at the following site: 1297 Trevilian Way, Louisville, Jefferson County, KY 40213. Lat: 38-12-31.2834, Long: -8542-24.84. Crown Castle invites comments from any interested party on the impact of the proposed action on any districts, sites, buildings, structures or objects significant in American history, archaeology, engineering or culture that are listed or determined eligible for listing in the National Register of Historic Places and/ or specific reason the proposed action may have a significant impact on the quality of the human environment. Specific information regarding the project is available by contacting Madelyn Schmidt, m.schmidt@trileaf.com, (314) 997-6111 during normal business hours. Comments must be received at 1515 Des Peres Road, Suite 200, St. Louis, MO 63131 within thirty (30) days of this publication.
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JERKED AROUND
BY DAN SAVAGE
Hey Dan: I recently came home from a short meeting to find my husband in the bathroom with the door locked — locked to keep the kids out — meaning that he was secretly jerking off to porn while I was out. This has happened a few times before while I was home or out briefly and I’ve tried to explain how hurtful it feels to me. If he’s that interested in sex while I’m away briefly, I would rather he ask me to have sex, include me in watching porn, or even tell me his plan so it doesn’t feel like a secret. I have nothing against him watching porn and we sometimes do so together. It’s the idea of him doing it at home secretly when I’m out briefly that upsets me. It makes me feel like he is waiting for an opportunity alone and jumping on it as soon as he can, and that he prefers this to sex with me. And though he insists that watching porn doesn’t mean he isn’t also attracted to me, the secret nature of this makes me feel unattractive. He says that the secret nature is not part of the desire for him. Rather, jerking off is more akin to boredom/enjoyment, like deciding to “eat a bowl of ice cream.” He travels a good bit for work, and I’ve encouraged him to watch porn freely when he’s away. He insists that he’s satisfied with our sex life, including how frequently we have sex. He says that his interest in porn is just something fun that he — like most men — likes to do, and that it’s an entirely different category than our sex life. But there’s something about looking at women with perfect/fake bodies while I’m out briefly that feeds into my insecurities as a middleaged woman and makes me extremely angry. Am I being unfair in asking him to stop jerking off to porn secretly when I could walk in on him easily? What else could we do to solve this problem?
—Porn Over Reality Needles Offended Spouse
“Any time porn use is causing problems in a relationship, it is important to assess whether it’s actually the porn use that’s the problem or the masturbation,” said Dr. Sprankle, a professor of clinical psychology at Minnesota State University and the author of DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History of Science and Masturbation. “How would PORNOS feel if her husband wasn’t watching porn and was just masturbating to a fantasy while in the bathroom? Would there still be concerns that he’s dissatisfied in the relationship? Would there still be feelings of insecurity and anger over the thought of him fantasizing about other women?”
Dr. Sprankle noticed that you used
“secret/secretly” a half a dozen times in your question.
“A secret would be you suspecting him masturbating in the locked bathroom, but when confronted, he lies and just says he has IBS,” said Dr. Sprankle. “But PORNOS is aware that her husband masturbates, and he’s admitting to it, so the issue isn’t secrecy. Often for couples, the true objection is not to porn in and of itself, but the fact a partner has a solo sex life, and it doesn’t make a difference what they’re using to reach orgasm alone, whether we’re talking about porn, their own fantasies, or Chris Isaak music videos.”
Focusing on the real issue — which, again, isn’t porn but your husband having orgasms on his own once in a while — could help you work through this conflict.
“PORNOS and her husband need to figure out what role masturbation has — and should have — in their marriage and ensure they’re on the same page about it,” said Dr. Sprankle. “Our solo sexuality exists whether or not we are in a relationship, and masturbation does not have to compete with partnered sex. Even though an orgasm is an orgasm, there are different motivations for masturbation compared to partnered sex, and each one can meet unique needs the other isn’t equipped to meet.”
While your husband needs to be considerate of your feelings, PORNOS, you need to accept that your husband has a solo sexuality and is entitled — as we all are — to a zone of erotic autonomy. Meaning, he’s allowed to have fantasies that don’t revolve around you, just as you’re allowed to have fantasies that don’t revolve around him. So long as his fantasies don’t consume all of his erotic energy, i.e. so long as he’s not neglecting your needs, and so long as he can indulge them without neglecting or endangering your kids, attempting to police your husband’s solo sexuality is unnecessary and unwise, as doing so creates conflict.
After answering your question, PORNOS, Dr. Sprankle wanted to put one to you.
“PORNOS said that he — her husband — is satisfied with their sex life,” said Dr. Sprankle, “but is she satisfied? Is he meeting her sexual needs? Is she able to masturbate as often as she would like? Is she having sex as often as she would like? Have there been instances in which you tried to initiate sex, but he turned you down because he masturbated earlier that day? That would suggest his masturbation frequency is interfering with PORNOS sexual satisfaction, and that would definitely be a problem. If she communicated this to him, along with her feelings of insecurity and anger, and he continued to lock himself in the bathroom, essentially dismissing her needs and feelings, that would be an even bigger problem.”
But if you’re generally satisfied — if you’re satisfied enough (really, the best any of us can hope for! — and your husband isn’t neglecting you or the kids and he’s making a good-faith effort to masturbate when you’re less likely to “catch” him (not to keep secrets,
but to be considerate) — you’re going to need to shrug it off when you realize the bathroom door is locked for that reason.
“They’re both still individuals in this partnership,” said Dr. Sprankle, “and individual needs require a certain amount of space and alone time. And that alone time may include occasionally locking yourself in the bathroom, and it shouldn’t matter whether the person in there is masturbating to porn videos on their phone or taking a dump.”
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Hey Dan: I’m a cis female in my late thirties and my partner is a cis male in his forties. We have been married for ten years, together for fifteen, and have school-aged children. I actually met my husband when I started dating his then-wife. This situation was not a trio, but I was around him a lot, so we became friends, and eventually the three of us talked about all moving in together. Ultimately, I got scared and ended the relationship with his wife. It was a confusing time in my life, and I made the decision that I did not want to be with a woman long-term. Things happened, he and his wife split, and he and I fell madly in love. In the beginning of our relationship, we had a LOT of conversations about commitment, about my sexuality and about my past (I had significantly more experience), and I explained to him that I could not be happy “going without” being with a woman ever again. He knew I was bisexual and that I needed openness. For many years we were open in this way — mostly threesomes or foursomes together, but there were a couple times where I had sex with another woman without him. He also had sex with other women without me. Over time, I began wanting to explore sex with other men, but this has been a hard “no” on his end. He says that’s not what he agreed to, which is true. We have had many discussions about this over the last five years, but I eventually gave up. It’s definitely caused some resentment on my end, and because of what I perceive to be an unfair dynamic, I closed our relationship completely a few years ago. It wasn’t out of spite; I just no longer felt good seeing him enjoy a freedom born out of MY sexuality and MY needs in the beginning. Our sex life has gone downhill since. I don’t know how to move past this resentment. I feel misunderstood and I feel locked in a cage over this issue. I think we are at an impasse, and I don’t know how to get back to a happy, healthy place together. How do we fix this?
—Bi Lady And Annoyingly Het Spouse
You have two shit options here, BLAAHS: you can live with a deeply frustrating status quo — no fucking other people and no desire to fuck each other — or you can issue an explosive ultimatum. And while it’s tempting to say, “What do you have to lose?” (since your sex life is a wreck and resentment is a cancer), it’s not just your marriage that’s at stake. You have kids . If your kids are still young and/or you can’t afford to
divorce, it may be in their best interest for mom and dad to suck up a few sexless-ornearly-sexless years before mom attempts to impose terms. (You did sign up to be parents, BLAAHS, and parenting sometimes means doing what’s best for the little shits.)
Zooming out for a second…
You hammered out an asymmetrical agreement at the start of your marriage: to accommodate your bisexuality, you were allowed to sleep with other women — and so was your husband. Your husband had the freedom to pursue anyone he might be interested in while you could only pursue half the people you might be interested in. Now, I think you deserve a lot of credit: I’ve gotten countless letters from married bi women over the years who felt entitled to a get-out-of-monogamy-free card that allowed them fuck other people (with vaginas) because their husbands couldn’t meet that need… but who didn’t think their husbands should be allowed to fuck other people. Sorry, but if you get to sleep with other people, your partner gets to sleep with other people. It’s only fair.
Also only fair: if your spouse can pursue 100% of the people they’re into… you should be able to pursue 100% of the people you’re into. Still, when your husband says, “This isn’t what I signed up for,” he’s not lying, BLAAHS, which, also to your credit, you’re able to acknowledge. You agreed to a “one-penis policy” back when you weren’t interested in other penises, BLAAHS, but that’s changed — you’ve changed — and that change has already changed your marriage. You went from seeing each other as the reason you could (you could have a loving commitment and crazy sexual adventures) to seeing each other as the reason you can’t (you can’t sleep with other men; he can’t sleep with other women). When he refused to grant you complete freedom you longed for, BLAAHS, you took back the complete freedom he’d always enjoyed. So, you didn’t go from an open relationship to a closed one, you went from an open relationship to a hostage situation… and hostage situations aren’t sexy.
Getting your marriage back to a happy, healthy, and horny place is gonna involve risk. (I’m supposed to pay lip service to compromise here, but there’s no compromise position between “you’re allowed to fuck other men” and “you’re not allowed to fuck other men.”) Maybe a hostage negotiator could help you hammer out a truce — sorry, maybe a couples counselor could help you navigate these issues — but a serious conflict is unavoidable. If divorce (as opposed to sexlessness) is your worst-case scenario, BLAAHS, you may have to learn to live in that cage for a while.
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POWER GRID
BY BRENDAN EMMETT QUIGLEY
PUZZLES
EDITED BY WILL SHORTZ
Brendan Emmett Quigley is a full-time crossword constructor in Brookline, Mass. He creates a Sunday puzzle every other week for The Boston Globe and, since 2008, a couple puzzles a week for his blog, brendanemmettquigley.com. ‘‘A few weeks after I got married, I told my wife that I was going to be giving away puzzles on the site for free,’’ he says. ‘‘That she didn’t divorce me then and there was something of a miracle.’’
— W.S.
Across
1 Cartridge from the 1980s
10 Source of the words ‘‘galore’’ and ‘‘smithereens’’
15 ‘‘Nice!’’
20 Drag-racing venue
21 Nature personified
23 ‘‘Pinky-swear?’’
24 Step on a scale?
25 The Beatles’ ‘‘White Album’’ has four of them
26 Sphere of influence
28 1957 Isaac Asimov novel, with ‘‘The’’
29 Command that might be represented by a curved arrow pointing left
30 Outer layer of the brain
32 Inveigle
33 Package drop-off sites: Abbr.
34 ‘‘Council,’’ in Russian
35 ‘‘Flower Myth’’ painter Paul
36 Takes a bit off the top
40 Showed off on an instrument
41 Follow closely
42 Note-to-self medium, perhaps
43 Beers from Bremen, informally
46 Zingy flavor
47 Way off in the distance
48 Agreeable words
49 Defeated decisively
50 Fish that passes the ‘‘mirror test’’ of self-recognition
52 Salon sound
53 Poker declaration
54 ‘‘I’ve Been Everywhere’’ singer in the Country Music Hall of Fame
55 Mass agreements
56 ‘‘Whoever did this has it coming!’’
59 Lynn ____, Super Bowl X M.V.P.
60 At the end of the day
61 Recently
62 ‘‘Phooey!’’
63 Right of way, say
64 Cornmeal dish at a trattoria
65 ‘‘I you!’’
66 Eternity
67 Partner of 74-Across
68 Acted diplomatically
Spots for lavalier mics
38 Shopgirl in a Paris boutique
39 Freezes
40 Homo ____ neanderthalensis 41 Strong urge 42 Cough up
43 Cake with a distinctive swirl
44 Casual and not meant to be taken seriously, as a remark
45 Spinal cord membranes
46 Shade akin to pumpkin
47 Court favor in a cringey fashion
50 Beasts with enormous tusks
51 Shake up
52 Show warmth to 54 Like recording studio equipment
55 Plague
57 Take in
Adding up (to)
Home of the Italian soccer club
Fighting (with)
Fictional character who says ‘‘Here’s to my love! O true apothecary! Thy drugs are quick’’
Mechanism that controls a camera’s aperture
Dashboard device, in brief
Tavern offering
school reunion topic
Uninteresting game, perhaps
Word with a commonly misapplied apostrophe
Climbed, as a rope
Greek goddess depicted holding torches and snakes
Person on a nominating committee, say
Goes nowhere in particular
Psyche’s partner
‘‘Well ____’’
in a hedge
With style
‘‘Let’s eat!’’
School whose sports teams are known as the Golden Flashes
Traveling from place to place
58 Archer’s gift
63 Old curse word
64 Actor Pascal of ‘‘Gladiator II’’
66 What provides the big picture?
68 Noon or 6 p.m., for some
70 Reality TV star Hadid
71 Something sown, per an idiom
72 Macho stereotype
74 Goes in and out
75 Word before knows or cares
76 Chess opening 77 Dime store?
78 In need of a haircut, say
80 Limerick, e.g.
81 Tricked out with the latest technology, say
82 One-named Brazilian soccer star who is a six-time FIFA World Player of the Year
83 Body building?
84 ____ Crown Theater (downtown Chicago landmark)
85 Acting without thinking
86 Candy brand with a crown in its logo
87 See 89-Down
89 87-Down makeup
91 It may be rolled out in the backyard
92 Setting for Jacques-Louis David’s painting ‘‘The Death of Marat’’
