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Your local guide to all things wedding

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Reconnect during wedding planning.........2 DIY wedding checklist............................3 Required documents list..........................3 Engagement announcement form............4 Choosing your wedding colors.................5 Spearfish weather at a glance.................5 The wedding venue................................6 The wedding party.................................7 The Four C’s: Selecting a diamond...........8 Trends in wedding rings..........................8 Wedding invitation tips...........................9 Choosing the dress...............................12 Maximize your flower budget................13 Wedding menu ideas...........................14 Emergency wedding day kit..................15 The wedding officiant...........................15 Wedding budget worksheet & notes...16-17 Choosing a photographer................18, 20 Picking the music.................................21 Wedding information form....................22 Changing your name............................24 Honeymoon planning...........................25 100 Tips: Planning your wedding......26-31

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Reconnect during wedding planning

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edding planning can be intense and often requires dedication and many hours of work. Coordinating a wedding often requires that couples make many different decisions and spend a considerable amount of time in the wedding-planning trenches.

Couples expend so much energy planning their weddings that it can be easy to lose sight of the bigger picture — namely the relationship that is the basis for the marriage in the first place. But as easy as it can be to get lost in wedding planning, couples can use this time together to connect on a deeper level and learn to work cooperatively.

• Divide and conquer.

Separate wedding planning duties so that both of you feel you are contributing equally and no one person gets overly stressed out. Stress can lead to short tempers and arguments.

• Establish a mutual budget.

Even the healthiest couple argues over finances from time to time, but budgetary debates should not set a negative tone for wedding planning.

Couples should discuss their potential budget before they even begin to

plan their weddings, and both partners should do their best to compromise while also understanding where the other person is coming from.

• Schedule time for fun. Do not let wedding planning be all-consuming.

Schedule days that allow you to enjoy yourselves together without having to think about or discuss your pending nuptials. This may include date nights that may have fallen by the wayside since getting engaged or periodic day trips to get away from it all. Explore your mutual hobbies or try something new.

• Learn to laugh at the little things. Not every detail will go off without a hitch.

How you react as a couple may influence how much you enjoy your wedding.

Recognize that certain things will not go your way, but that unforeseen circumstances will not ruin your wedding day, no matter how unpleasant they may seem.

Laugh at what cannot be changed and recognize that, in the long run, the details you think are major today may actually prove trivial when you look back on your wedding day in the years to come. n

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Wedding checklist

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I’m getting married!

What documents are required?

Marriage licenses may be obtained at your county’s Register of Deeds office.

To receive the license: • Both parties must be present.

• A valid photo ID, such as a driver’s license, state ID or passport is required.

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o you’re engaged! Wonderful!

Now comes the planning. Planning a wedding can be a beautiful headache and a second job. Deciding who will decorate, cater, provide the entertainment and photograph the event are all choices that can make or break the perfect wedding day. Here is a helpful checklist designed to ease process.

MAKE A GUEST LIST

DECIDE ON YOUR STYLE

Once you’ve chose a wedding date, now’s the time to choose the venue or venues (if the ceremony and reception are separate venues). If the venues aren’t local, factor in travel and be sure your guests are willing and able to make the special trip with as much advance notice as possible.

Whether you’ve already spent years planning your eventual wedding or you’re just getting started, compiling all the ideas you’ve culled from bridal magazines and friends’ weddings into a binder will help you narrow your focus, from the venue to the decor, the theme to the all-important dress.

CREATE A BUDGET

Paying for your dream wedding is based on a variety of factors, but a budget will help determine how much you will rely on parents or your own money. Either way, creating a realistic budget will help you stay focused and pleased with the end results.

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The size of your wedding party will determine many elements of your wedding. Sitting down as a couple and making the easy and the tough decisions will spare both of you unnecessary disappointment.

SAVE THE DATE, RESERVE THE VENUES

BOOKING THE VENDORS

The people you choose to serve and host your wedding will play a huge role in the celebration. Choosing professionals in each category — from the caterer to the florist, the officiant to the band or DJ and photographer or videographer — as early as possible and with the proper amount of diligence and investigation will ensure

• The fee is $40, and can be paid by cash and usually credit cards.

Checks are not accepted.

• There is no blood test or waiting period required.

• The license may be used the same day, and it must be used within 20 days from issue.

• The license may be used anywhere within the State of South Dakota. your wedding day goes off as planned without a hitch, so to speak.

IN THIS ORDER …

Purchase the dress.

Register.

Select and purchase the invitations.

Plan the honeymoon.

Book the rehearsal venue and dinner.

Order the cake.

Purchase the rings.

Send the invitations.

Have a party.

Get your wedding license.

Purchase gifts.

Choose or write your vows.

Stay calm. The Big Day is at hand.

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Engagement Announcements run free of charge in our Black Hills Pioneer Saturday edition or as space allows.

NOTE: Submissions may be edited according to available space.

Engagement Information Bride’s Name and Hometown: ___________________________________________________________________________ Bride’s Parents’ Names and Residence(s): __________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s Name and Hometown: _________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s Parents’ Names and Residence(s): ________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Date and Place of Wedding: _____________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Bride’s Education: _____________________________________________________________________________________ Employment: _________________________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s Education: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Employment: _________________________________________________________________________________________ PHOTO ENCLOSED:

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If photo needs to be returned, please enclose self-addressed, stamped envelope.

We strongly urge you to type this form or print neatly. Handwriting can be misinterpreted and if we can’t read your handwriting, mistakes can happen.

We cannot re-run engagement news printed incorrectly if the mistake is caused by misinterpreted handwriting.

Phone number and contact person if there are futher questions:_____________________________________________________________________________ Please Return Completed Form To: Black Hills Pioneer, 315 Seaton Circle, Spearfish, SD 57783 • (605) 642-2761 – OR –

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Spearfish weather at a glance Listed below are average temperature highs, lows and preciptation for the city of Spearfish throughout the year.

Month High

Low

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Jan. 40˚ 19˚ 0.51”

Feb. 41˚ 20˚ 0.74” Mar. 49˚ 27˚ 1.18” Apr. 59˚ 37˚ 2.47” May 69˚ 47˚ 3.88” June 79˚ 55˚ 3.65” July 88˚ 62˚ 2.21” Aug. 87˚ 60˚ 1.64” Sept.

76˚ 50˚ 1.78”

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ou can have your dream day draped in shades of blush and bashful, but there are a range of other colors out there you may have not thought of pairing up. Take a look at these palettes for some great ideas for your summer wedding.

MAGENTA, POPPY AND YELLOW

Wedding site The Knot recommends this palette for an outdoor summer wedding, and they’re spot on. With colors this bold, though, dress the rest of your ceremony and reception in neutrals.

CORAL AND GREEN

Cool off a hot coral with cool, sagey greens. Martha Stewart Weddings recommends accents in shades of orange and yellow.

Oct. 62˚ 39˚ 2.05”

GOLD, GREEN AND WHITE

Pair these classic colors with warm rattan and for an inviting daytime ceremony, suggests Sunset magazine, maybe even a brunch. Keep your golds classy, not glitzy.

DOVE GRAY AND ECRU

This neutral natural palette is great for upscale rustic weddings, The Knot says. Let wood, rock and other natural elements into your ceremony to set off this elegant palette, along with bouquets of white flowers.

As always, your local florist can help you pick flowers and arrange a palette that best suits you, your ceremony and your venue. And don’t forget the budget. n

Nov. 49˚ 28˚ 1.19” Dec. 40˚ 19˚ 0.61”

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ach of these suggested vistas can host the perfect setting from rustic to modern, offering couples and their guests a unique experience.

Access the great outdoors to take advantage of the foliage or invite the colors inside. No matter which location you choose, there are a bounty of gorgeous color palettes, decor and attire options.

OUTDOORS

The weather, the beautiful colors, the romantic and celebratory atmosphere all conspire to almost demand an outdoor wedding.

Farms and barns: No setting guarantees a rustic vibe more than an atmospheric country farm or barn.

The outdoors lets nature take care of itself as a setting, but transforming a

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barn into a reception-worthy venue takes some diligence. But the result will be entirely memorable and worth the extra trouble.

Vineyards and wineries: Postcardand picture-perfect, rustic and elegant, choosing a vineyard venue literally says “celebration.” Pre-stocked with wine, gorgeous and unique settings indoors or outdoors, it’s no wonder vineyards have become popular wedding destinations. Decide early if you’re thinking of a particular destination.

Gardens and forests: Weddings are all about nature, and the outdoorsy and nature-lovers will naturally be drawn to a forest- or garden-themed wedding. The value-added, nature-provided decor makes these venues both beautiful and cost-effective. But take

INDOORS

Pulling off a wedding indoors can also be an inviting choice. The weather is no longer a concern and bringing the fall atmosphere indoors is all about the decor. Color palettes and decorative elements can be easily adapted for indoor settings.

Restored warehouses: A different kind of vintage appeal can be easily achieved by booking a restored warehouse for a wedding venue. Many downtowns have reinvigorated their appeal with restorations that retain a location’s retro elements, and many offer open-air areas. Features such as vaulted ceilings, exposed brick, and natural light offer a warm canvas.

Cozy inns or hotels: For a more intimate, charming setting, small historic inns, lodges and hotels offer both the warmth and romance of dark, romantic rooms featuring fireplaces as well as terraces and patios that allow guests to bask in the weather and foliage. n

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looking beyond gender for your

a rise in “groomswomen” and “bridesmen,” blurring the lines of wedding traditions. Couples have often said that choosing whomever they desire to stand beside them during the wedding is more authentic than separating people simply because of gender.

Take for example a groom-to-be who is especially close to his sister. Such siblings may serve as bridesmaids, but grooms may want to have their sisters by their sides on their big day.

Foregoing gender roles In ancient Rome, may make for a unique, custhe law required 10 witnesses to be tomized wedding. However, part of the wedding it does create the question ceremony. of what wedding party members will wear. Again, there for the ceremony and are no firm rules, but coorreception. The wedding dination can make for better photos. A resource The Knot says the days of havwoman standing on the groom’s side can ing men on one side and women on the coordinate with the color of the brideother are gone. Coed wedding parties maids dresses, but wear a different style. enable brides and grooms to have their Or she can wear a dress that matches favorite people by their side, regardless the color of the groomsmen’s suits. A of gender. man standing with the bride can have According to The Daily Mail, over accessories, such as tie, vest and pocket the past year, weddings across Australia square, that match bridesmaid dresses. n and other areas of the world have seen

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ouples are increasingly bucking long-established trends to make weddings uniquely their own.

One of today’s more popular tradition-busting trends is not adhering to gender lines when couples select friends and family members for their wedding parties.

Until recently, the vast majority of wedding couples selected members of the same sex to fill the roles needed

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The Four C’s Carat, Color, Clarity and Cut

Buying a diamond ring can be intimidating. Demystify the process by learning about the four C’s. This system of grading diamonds was developed 60 years ago by the Gemological Institute of America.

Wedding rings trends in

• Carat is a weight measurement. A 1-carat diamond weighs 200 milligrams. But there’s no ideal size for a diamond. It depends on your budget and taste.

• Color is graded by letter, starting with D for rare, colorless diamonds. E and F are considered excellent, but G or H diamonds will look just as good to the naked eye.

Farther down the scale, you’ll notice differences. “If you put a K color beside a G color, you’ll notice more yellow in the K,” said Russell Shor, senior industry analyst for the Gemological Institute.

• Clarity measures diamond flaws, called inclusions, which might appear as tiny spots, clouds or cavities in the stone.

The clarity grade SI stands for “slightly included.” VS is a better grade, “very slightly included.”

VVS is even higher, “very, very slightly included.” Most inclusions in the VVS-SI range cannot be seen by the untrained eye “unless someone tells you where it is,” Shor said.

• Cut measures workmanship, rather than a diamond’s inherent qualities. The way a stone is cut enhances sparkle and luminosity and can hide flaws.

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his year’s engagement rings go way beyond the classic sparkler. Here are a few of the top engagement ring trends from the folks at InStyle.

TWICE AS NICE, BANDS AND STONES

If one giant diamond is good, two must be better. For the chicest of rocks, put two stones on one single band. Or, keep the single stone and choose a ring with a double band, lined in diamonds or not, your choice.

GEM DANDY

More couples are ditching the traditional diamond for colored gemstones like sapphires, rubies and emeralds.

Making the switch may get you a bigger stone for your money and speak to a bride that makes her own lane.

PUT A HALO ON IT

Halo effect rings have smaller diamonds ringing the center stone, often making it look larger than it is.

Work with your jeweler to find the perfect diamond to accent this unique setting.

PURE PEAR

This year’s hottest diamond shape is the pear.

A pear diamond, the Gemological Institute of America (GIA) says, consists of the head (the bottom), the shoulder (where it starts to move toward the point), the belly (the middle), the wing (as the diamond tapers) and the point.

GIA says the perfect pear has gently rounded shoulders and wings. Wings should form attractive arches so that the stone doesn’t look too narrow or too short. n

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Invitation

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nvitations are a key component of wedding planning. Not only can invitations set the tone for a wedding — giving guests an idea of whether it is formal or casual while offering clues to the theme — but also they are essential for conveying important information about the festivities.

Due in large part to computer and internet access, and myriad user-friendly design applications, it’s easier than ever to design high-quality wedding invitations.

START WITH THE PAPER

The heavier the stock, the more luxurious the invitations will feel. Quality stock also costs more. Wedding invitations should be printed on substantial stock so they don’t bend or feel flimsy.

Expect to pay more for natural or handmade papers.

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ENGRAVING & LETTERPRESS

Engraving and letterpress techniques are an art form and create unique wedding invitations. Engraving creates raised lettering while letterpress presses the lettering into the paper. Many people do not have the equipment necessary to produce these designs at home, and if they want a truly high-end invitation, they’ll need to use a professional printing service.

PRINTING COMPANIES

Options abound in regard to in-store and online printing companies. Many companies offer self-service design templates that enable customers to tweak text and placement of some graphic elements and then have the invitations printed and shipped to their homes.

AT-HOME PRINTING

One of the more accessible invitation production methods is at-home printing.

However, there are some limitations when printing at home. For example, couples who do not have a high-end printer may find that the text on their invitations is not as crisp and the ink may smudge. Also, paper options may be limited to what the tray feeder can accommodate. Stock that is 80 pounds or 12-point stock is preferable, but anything more may jam around the print head.

It may take some trial and error (and wasted paper) to perfect alignment and achieve the desired look. n

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Dress

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they want to downplay others. Try on gowns that play up your best features.

If you have shapely legs, consider a dramatic gown with a slit to show them off. Certain gowns can enhance the decollete or show off an hourglass shape. Remember, many gowns can be modified so that you feel secure and confident. Sleeves can be added or fabric placed to cover up any perceived flaws. Confidence and pride are important parts of the comfort factor.

GET SIZED CORRECTLY

Bridal gown sizes do not coincide with street sizes. Depending on the manufacturer, brides may have to select gowns that are several sizes larger than they would normally wear.

This should not be a cause for alarm.

Brides should go by their measurements. Attempting to squeeze into a dress that is too small will only lead to discomfort on the wedding day.

PURCHASE THE RIGHT UNDERGARMENTS

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brides may prioritize beauty over any brides-to-be visit bridal comfort, even though it’s entirely posshops with specific goals in sible to find a gown that’s both stunmind regarding the style of ning and comfortable. When friends their wedding gowns. Some women or family who have come come equipped with magazine tear-outs or pull along to offer advice start up ideas on their mobile to blush over wedding Average spent on phones. Others may have gowns, brides-to-be may a wedding dress: an entire scrapbook filled feel pressured to downplay with various ideas they’ve any discomfort they feel. been compiling for years.

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Improperly fitting bras, shapewear and other undergarments can lead to discomfort as well. Some seamstresses can sew in supportive cups to remove the need for separate bras. Brides can explore various options to reduce the visibility of certain accoutrements.

MOVE AROUND

Brides should not just stand in front of the mirror and smile when trying on gowns. Put them through their paces. Try sitting, bending and even a little dancing. Make sure the dress is comfortable to move around in.

TRY DIFFERENT OPTIONS

The gown brides have in mind may not be the one they ultimately go home with. Explore different styles and materials. Choose cooler, breezier fabrics and lightweight gowns, like crêpe, georgette or organza, for summer weddings. Heavier fabrics, such as brocade, may be more comfortable in the winter.

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ext to your dress, flowers are perhaps the most visible part of your wedding. According to Brides magazine, you should be budgeting around $3,000 for your big day’s blossoms. For that kind of money, you need to be careful who (and what) you pick. Here are some tips saving some green on your wedding flowers.

THINK SEASONAL

Ask your florist to work with seasonal foliage to not only give your wedding a sense of time and place but also to save on your budget. If you just have to have that special, costly flower, go for it, but ask the florist to keep it minimal and mix in other, less expensive blossoms.

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PUMP UP THE VOLUME

REUSE

GO BIG, BUT JUST ONCE

GET CREATIVE

Go for flowers with large, showy blooms instead of lots of smaller stems. Florists may also opt to mix in structural pieces like branches to make arrangements look fuller. Give the florist their head, but also reiterate that you’re on a budget.

If your heart says flowers everywhere on every surface but your wallet says bud vase, see if your florist can make one big show-stopping arrangement and deploy it effectively. Place this bad boy in one key area and opt for smaller, less-expensive arrangements elsewhere.

Have the florist recycle ceremony flowers at the reception. And, when possible, use the venue’s own natural beauty to accentuate the blooms.

Use lighting or other decor to add some umph to what you can afford, and guests won’t notice what’s not there.

Instead of giant floral centerpieces on tables, mix in smaller arrangements with things like personal keepsakes, pictures, candles or other items for a cozy, intimate feel. Consider using plants, too, instead of cut flowers for a savings. n

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here’s likely a vision in your head about wedding food, perhaps positively or negatively influenced by past weddings you may have attended.

Maybe it was a buffet or limited-choice meal delivered by waiters.

But don’t let the past lock you in. There are lots of new choices to consider this year. Here, we’ve collected a “buffet” of trends happening that will hopefully spark your culinary imagination and kick your own wedding event up a notch.

DRINKS

Stations are in. Instead of a standard bar or roaming waiters, interaction is the keyword for wedding cocktails this year, claims an expert on the website Delish.

Flavored syrups, fruits, edible flowers and herbs can be featured for guests to add to their drinks.

SEATING

stations turn the event into an extended cocktail hour. The popularity of healthy, locally sourced ingredients is filling the choices at those food stations.

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DESSERT

A mix of rectangular market tables and round tables are trending, as are wooden market tables. The juxtaposition creates different textures, shapes, dimensions along with textured linens and velvet, the site reports. An uptick in picnic-style seating should blend well for fall weddings held outdoors or in rustic spaces such as barns or warehouses.

DINNER

Wedding planner Kylie Carlson reports that the popularity of intimate weddings is leading to couples — especially foodies — developing tasting menus featuring six or seven small courses. The trend toward the less formal continues with wedding dinners. Roaming dinners in which guests visit food

The iconic wedding cake also changes with the seasons. The once-popular “naked” cakes have given way to elegance and sophistication with wedding experts seeing more polished creations. To create a decidedly less traditional and fun feel, alternative cakes made of Belgian waffles or pancakes, cinnamon buns and donut cakes are trending options.

LATE-NIGHT SNACKS

If you expect your wedding bash to extend into the wee hours, late-night snacks are an expected (and necessary) final touch to the party. Expect to see the food station and healthy trend extend to these snacks, featuring such items as açaí bowls, vegetarian options and cheese and fruit pairings.

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Pack an emergency wedding day kit • needle and thread in white, black and the color of bridesmaid gowns • extra pairs of pantyhose • pain reliever pills/antacid • quick-clean detergent stick • bandages • powder • deodorant

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any people play a role in a wedding. The bride and groom, bridesmaids, groomsmen, ring bearers, and flower girls are front and center on the day a couple ties the knot.

Another central, and very important, figure on a couple’s wedding day is the officiant.

Civil officiants make sure marriages are legal, and they also make great options for couples who just want to get hitched without a grand ceremony.

PROFESSIONAL OFFICIANT

Couples who want traditional religious ceremonies often choose a religious officiant, such as a parish priest or rabbi, with whom they’re familiar. For example, couples who grew up attending a particular church might choose the priest who’s been preaching to them since they were children, while others might choose the priest at their current place of worship.

Professional officiants are not affiliated with a particular religious organization. That makes them great choices for couples who aren’t religious as well as those who come from different religious backgrounds and won’t be converting to the same faith. Professional officiants typically meet with a couple once or twice to get to know them before writing the speech they will give during the ceremony. Many will share the speech with the couple in advance of the big day, and some even allow couples to write the speech.

CIVIL OFFICIANT

LOVED ONES

RELIGIOUS OFFICIANT

Civil officiants are officers of the court, such as a judge or justice of the peace. Many couples who are planning destination weddings abroad still choose to have a civil officiant perform a wedding ceremony at home. This is because some overseas officiants may not be authorized to marry couples in their home countries, meaning their marriages won’t be recognized once they return home.

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Many couples ask a friend or family member to officiate their weddings, which can add a fun and very personal component to the ceremony. Couples who want to take this route should research local laws to determine the steps loved ones must take to become ordained ministers who will be recognized by the state or country where the ceremony will take place. n

• double-sided tape • black buttons • sanitary pads • mints/gum • makeup for touch-ups • extra cash • slippers or a change of shoes • umbrellas • hairspray • hair pins • names and phone numbers of all wedding vendors • static cling spray • hair dryer • contact lens solution/ eye drops • nail file/clipper • straws (to sip drinks without ruining lipstick) • safety pins • black socks • earring backs

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budget Ceremony

Use this list to help you develop a budget and keep track of spending as you plan for your wedding.

BUDGETED:

Venue Fee....................................... _____________ Officiant Fee/Donation............. _____________ Ceremony Décor......................... _____________

ACTUAL COST:

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Reception Venue Fee....................................... _____________ Rentals............................................ _____________ Food & Service............................ _____________ Beverages & Bartenders........... _____________ Cake & Cutting Fee................... _____________ Reception Decor.......................... _____________

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Attire & Beauty Gown & Alterations.................. _____________ Veil................................................... _____________ Jewelry............................................ _____________ Bride’s Accessories...................... _____________ Hair & Makeup.......................... _____________ Pre-wedding Pampering........... _____________ Groom’s Tux or Suit.................. _____________ Groom’s Accessories.................. _____________ Shoes................................................ _____________ Undergarments............................ _____________

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Photo + Video Photographer................................ _____________ Videographer................................ _____________ Prints & Videos........................... _____________

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Flowers Bride’s Bouquet............................ _____________ Bridesmaid Bouquets................. _____________ Groom & Groomsmen Boutonnieres................................. _____________ Flower Girl Flowers................... _____________ Additional Boutonnieres & Corsages................................... _____________ Ceremony...................................... _____________ Reception ...................................... _____________ Centerpieces.................................. _____________

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ACTUAL COST:

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Music Ceremony Musicians................. _____________ Cocktail Hour Musicians......... _____________ Reception Music......................... _____________

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Transportation + Lodging Limo or Car Rental.................... _____________ Guest Shuttle or Parking.......... _____________ Bride/Groom Hotel Room(s)............................. _____________

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Gifts Attendant Gifts............................ _____________ Favors.............................................. _____________ Parent Gifts................................... _____________ Flower Girl & Ring Bearer Gifts................... _____________

Event Planner............................... _____________ Marriage License......................... _____________ Dance Lessons.............................. _____________ Rehearsal Dinner ....................... _____________ Rentals & Lighting.................... _____________ Tip Money for Vendors............ _____________

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Travel.............................................. _____________ Lodging.......................................... _____________ Entertainment.............................. _____________ Souvenirs........................................ _____________

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Other

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Honeymoon

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Stationary Save-the-Dates ............................ _____________ Invitations & Reply Cards...... _____________

BUDGETED:

Rehearsal Dinner Invites.......... _____________ Ceremony Programs.................. _____________ Thank You Cards....................... _____________ Postage............................................ _____________ Guest Book.................................... _____________

Miscellaneous

Wedding Rings Her Ring........................................ _____________ His Ring......................................... _____________

BUDGETED:

TOTAL .............................................. _____________

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5 tips on choosing and working with a wedding photographer

(AP) — Your wedding is fast approaching and you have an un-blissfully long to-do list, from finalizing your flower selection to choosing your menu to deciding on your dress.

Near the top of that list you might want to put “select photographer.”

That way, one of the most important parts of your wedding — the memories — will be preserved.

Think about booking your photographer soon after you have selected your venue, and make sure he or she is a good fit with your personality.

Look at potential photographers’ electronic portfolios, pricing and availability, and plan to meet several candidates to gauge their sensibility.

Below are five tips on choosing and working with a wedding photographer: • Look for depth. Ask to see a complete portfolio from beginning to end for at least one or two weddings. You don’t want to see only a few “best” photos.

“It’s easy to show a bunch of terrific single images taken at many weddings,” says Radhika Chalasani, “but

a great wedding photographer has to capture an entire wedding beautifully from start to finish.” The New Yorkbased Chalasani has been photographing weddings since 2004.

Looking at portfolios will ensure that the photographer wasn’t just an assistant or a guest with a camera.

You can see how the photographer handles all parts of the wedding, including the preparations, ceremony, cocktails, portraits, speeches, dancing and cake-cutting.

• Get a contract. A wedding photographer without a contract (and without liability insurance) is likely not a professional.

The contract should spell out what the photographer will provide, and whether the pictures will be on DVDs, an online gallery, a finished album, etc.

It will include the hours worked, and what happens if you ask the photographer to work longer.

In addition, you want to know how things will be handled if the photographer becomes unable to work on the wedding day due to illness or injury.

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He or she should have a back-up.

The contract also should spell out the cost, the amount of any deposit and when the balance must be paid.

Small, casual weddings might not seem to require a contract, but having one will protect both you and the photographer.

• Don’t be shy about what you want.

“There’s no harm in being specific,” says Chicago wedding photographer Candice C. Cusic, a photojournalist for 15 years and a teacher at Northwestern University.

Tell the photographer what the most important aspects of the day are to you, whether it’s exchanging rings or walking down the aisle.

“Brides should be realistic about their day and make every possible effort to help their photographer capture great imagery,” Cusic said. A bride or groom getting ready inside a messy hotel room, for instance, will not make for strong pictures, she noted.

• Make sure your personalities jibe.

Other than your significant other, the

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person with whom you’ll spend the most time on your wedding day might well be your photographer. He or she will be with you as you get ready and as you go through the emotional highs of the day. The photographer might guide you and your family through a portrait session, walk backward as you process up the aisle, and hang close by during your first dance.

So this person’s personality — sense of humor, demeanor, even appearance — should be a good fit with both of you.

Craig Warga, a New York-based wedding photographer, said “good photography happens when you can get close to your subjects, and they feel completely comfortable being natural and themselves in front of your lens. If you don’t like some one, you’re not going to have that level of comfort in front of them, and it will affect the pictures.”

If you like a sassy personality who will add some color to your day, then by all means hire a vibrant, outgoing photographer who exudes energy. On the other hand, if you want a subtle

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documentary photographer who will capture important moments without being intrusive, go for someone who won’t talk loudly over you when you first meet, and who seems cool and composed.

The right photographer, said Warga, is someone who leaves you thinking, “it’d be nice to have that person as a guest at my wedding.”

• Sweat some details. Ask if the photographer has a full set of equipment: multiple bodies and lenses with backups.

Will he or she be working with an assistant or second photographer? If so, what is the additional cost and does that person need to be there all day?

If your venue will be dark, can the photographer handle it?

Is the photographer able to work in adverse conditions such as rain at an outdoor ceremony?

• Finally, make provisions for your photographer to eat; it’s hardto be “on” for eight to 10 hours straight. A 15-minute meal break might just be the best thing you do for the photographer. n

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ew things set the tone for a wedding ceremony and reception better than music. Music establishes ambience and serves to transition guests through the various components of the day.

Music is played in various ways throughout a wedding. For example, the wedding ceremony may be accompanied by a pianist or violinist, while music during the reception is usually provided by a band or DJ. The decision of whether to hire a band or DJ often comes down to personal preference and budget.

BAND

A live band can bring with it a sense of sophistication. Performers can tone the music to the crowd and improvise if necessary to meet the needs of the room.

songs, and not a band’s take on those songs.

DJs also can read the crowd and make adjustments to the music at any time. If a particular genre is not working, DJs can easily transition to another type of music. That’s not always possible for bands whose repertoire is exclusive to a particular genre.

Many DJs also blend songs seamlessly and may incorporate lights and other effects into their performances, which can encourage guests to loosen up and hit the dance floor.

DJs also tend to travel with less equipment than bands, so they will take up less space in a party room.

No matter which road a couple chooses to travel, it’s a good idea to listen to a DJ or band perform in a live situation before making a final decision.

Couples should provide a list of songs they want to hear well in advance of their wedding day. This affords a DJ ample time to find each song or bands to learn the songs before the big day arrives. n

Many wedding bands can competently play songs from various genres of music, while some are especially skilled at recreating the sound of a particular group.

Bands tend to be more expensive than DJs, and that’s something couples must factor into their budgets if they prefer a band to a DJ.

DJ

The DJ is one of the first vendors people think of when they envision a wedding reception.

DJs are advantageous for various reasons. Thanks to the accessibility of digital music, DJs can often procure just about any song a couple desires for the reception. That’s a significant benefit for couples who want to hear the original versions of their favorite

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fter months of planning your non-certified copies as well. wedding and all the details that One of the first documents that go along with making your should be changed is your Social Secuspecial day one to remember, you’re rity card. finally able to relax and enjoy spending This should be on the top of your time with your new spouse. to-do list as some banks want your But if you or your spouse plan on new name on your Social Security card changing your name, there is more before opening an account. Updating work to be done. your card will also How does that work, ensure your wages exactly? are posted correctFrom changing ly to your Social your driver’s license, Security records. to bank account, Changing your Social Security card, Social Security and more, getting card cannot be • Thank you notes your name changed done online; on all official however there is • Vendor reviews documents can be no charge to make • Dress cleaning and/or a process, but it is the changes. important to ensure To change your preservation accuracy. name on your • Gift returns Don’t try to start Social Security the name change card you will need • Registry completion game before you say, to complete Form “I do.” It’s a waste SS-5. These forms of time and you have can be obtained plenty of other priorat http://www. ities to take care of. socialsecurity.gov/ Instead, start after you say your vows. forms/ss-5.pdf. Additionally, you will First, stop by your county’s Register need proof of your identity. Sometimes of Deeds office and get at least two you also may need to prove your curcertified copies of your marriage license. rent U.S. citizenship or lawful noncitIt is a good idea to make several more izen status. This can be done with a

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driver’s license, passport, or state-issued, non-driver ID card. Mail your application to your local Social Security office.

To change your driver’s license, stop by your local department of motor vehicles office. You will need to bring a certified copy of your marriage license. If your license has a gold star in the upper right corner, you will also need to bring your current driver’s license or ID card, two documents proving your residential address such as a utility bill, bank stub, phone bill among other items.

If your license does not contain the star you will need to bring more items.

This includes a document that proves your date of birth, identity and citizenship. This can be a valid and unexpired U.S. Passport, a certified copy of your birth certificate as well as other items.

You will also need to bring documents that prove your Social Security number. This can be your Social Security card, a W-2 form, pay stub with your name and full Social Security number.

For more information on what documents are needed, visit http://dps.sd.gov.

Now that you have a new Social Security card and driver’s license, other documents can be updated.

If international travel is in your future, be sure to update or receive a passport. You may run into troubles if you have a passport in one name and a driver’s license in another. Find need to know info at http://travel.state.gov. It does take a while for your passport to be issued - four to six weeks, however expedited processing can be requested for a charge.

If you are honeymooning abroad and are using your maiden name and will later change your name, don’t worry about losing all your visas and stamps.

Your old, cancelled passport can be sent separately from your new passport.

Other documents should be changed such as bank accounts and mortgages, credit cards, investments, utilities, health insurance, voter registration, other legal documents and with your employer.

Each entity seems to have its own policy when it comes to the name change game, but relax, and enjoy your new spouse. n

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oneymoons often mark couples’ first trip together after tying the knot. Whether couples are working with shoestring budgets or have some financial flexibility, it’s wise to consider various factors before choosing a honeymoon destination.

DISTANCE

A remote, exotic island might sound like the perfect place for couples to visit on their honeymoons. However, couples who spent more than a year planning their weddings may prefer somewhere less remote than an exotic isle that requires multiple flight transfers and possibly even days of travel to get to.

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honeymoons, and then find somewhere that both partners are excited about.

AMENITIES

Many resorts offer honeymoon packages that include a host of amenities, including all-inclusive food and beverage, spa access, access to water sports,

and even airport pickup and dropoff.

Such packages can save couples substantial amounts of money, which can help those who might have spent more on their weddings than they initially intended.

RECREATION

Couples also may want to consider the accessibility of local recreational activities before choosing a honeymoon destination. Some couples may just want to spend the duration of their honeymoons unwinding on a beach, while others may want to mix relaxation with exploration. All-inclusive resort packages may or may not include off-site resort activities. Couples who want to do some exploring away from their resorts should investigate both the accessibility and safety of doing so.

BUDGET

If budgets were stretched for the wedding, couples should not discount the benefits of planning a post-wedding weekend getaway and then saving some money for a more traditional honeymoon down the road. n

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Being well informed about every detail - big or small - will make all the difference.

to comparison shop. And you’ll also feel hen was the last time you less pressured to commit to something planned a party this big? that does not seem right for you.

If you’re like most brides, However, if your timetable is condensed, this event is a first in size, details simply move the steps up. For a much — and pressure! Because wedding shorter schedule, a wonderful wedding planning is so time consuming, can still be had by making some logical being well organized is the only compromises. For example, plan on way to keep things under control. a morning/noon wedding, with a Most weddings, especially large breakfast or brunch/luncheon reception, ones, require lots of or a Friday or Sunday advance planning in evening ceremony and order to book the reception. In some areas of the country there is best bridal resources, also more flexibility for of brides use Pinterest many of which are hiring choice resources to communicate their reserved one or two for a Saturday wedding wedding-day vision to years before the on shorter notice during planners and vendors. event. Today’s long the months of January, engagements — ­ 14 February and March. months on average Happy planning!

— allow couples time to pull the details together and 12 to 24 MONTHS save for the expenses they may be BEFORE THE WEDDING handling or sharing with parents.

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1 Visit your clergy together and set the date for the ceremony.

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3 Decide on the size and formality of your wedding.

4 Interview party planners or wedding consultants with a reputation for a job well done. If time is at a premium for you or distance is a problem, a professional planner is well worth the fee. With so many details to look after, their experience can help save you costly mistakes.

5 Consider unusual locations to hold the celebration. Contact your local parks department or historical society.

6 Select the place you’d like to hold the reception. Make reservations if it is in a club, hotel, catering hall or restaurant. If it is to be at home or at a place that does not provide food, check into catering services and book them. Ask to see a variety of possible menus; inquire if a wedding cake is included or if one must be arranged for separately.

7 Start shopping around for your wedding dress, headpiece and veil.

8 Make alternate plans for an outdoor wedding in case the weather is bad.

The most logical options include a very sturdy tent and a platform that withstands rain, or an indoor, alternative location that is indicated on the reception invitation.

9 Invite relatives and/or friends to be in your wedding party. Talk over finances with them and be considerate of their limitations.

10 Select two or three possibilities for your attendants’ gowns and arrange

them leisurely. At the same time, order an appointment with the shop to bring personal stationery (an ample supply of your attendants in to see their choices. both letter and notepaper) for writing Because they pay for their own dresses, thank-you notes. it’s thoughtful to do this, if possible.

15 Have mothers select their dresses.

After a review of the styles, the final The bride’s mother has the privilege decision is yours. of first choice so that she can have the 11 Buy calendars for attendants and color and style she prefers. The groom’s immediate families and mark important mother chooses a dress similar in wedding-related dates for them in red. formality and in a complementary color.

As other dates are made during the Both should blend with your bridalplanning, they can plug them into their party color scheme. calendar.

16 Decide upon the men’s attire.

12 Draw up the guest list. Notify your Accompany your fiancée to a formalfiancée’s family to do the same. wear specialty shop in 13 Interview your locale to select photographers, what the groom, videographers, Besides the reception, best man, ushers and musicians and florists. the most expensive parts fathers will wear.

Make a separate folder of the wedding are 17 Register with the for each service you engagement rings ($6,163), bridal gift registry in select. Keep contracts, photography and video ($3,378), music ($1,297), your favorite store. notes, questions and all & wedding rings ($1,727).

Meet with the director pertinent data in them of the registry and her for a handy and quick trained staff for help reference. choosing your china, crystal, linens and other household 6 to 12 MONTHS preferences.

Indicate engagement and BEFORE THE WEDDING shower gift choices, as well as wedding presents.

14 Select and order your invitations.

18 Reserve the location for your Include extra envelopes in case of rehearsal dinner. mistakes, and a few extra invitations to have as mementos for you and your family. If you want calligraphy and find 4 MONTHS handwork too expensive, look into BEFORE THE WEDDING computer resources. Ask for envelopes 19 Address invitations and to be delivered early so you can address announcements. All addressing, stuffing and stamping should be completed in Photo courtesy Watson Photography time to mail the invitations four to six weeks before the wedding. If you have an “A” and a “B” list, you may mail “A” eight weeks in advance. When you receive regrets, you may invite people on “B” four weeks (and no less than three weeks) before the wedding. Prepare maps and directions to include with invitations.

20 Check with the post office for the postage needed to mail the invitation when all the pieces are enclosed in the envelope. Purchase pretty “Love” stamps for an appropriate wedding touch.

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21 Schedule professional dance lessons to make your first dance memorable.

22 Meet with the caterer to firm up the menu and all the details. If any guests require special food, arrange that now.

Be sure all your expectations are clearly defined in a written contract, which should include taxes, any service charges, and additional fees to bartenders and waiters, if not included in the package. Also, you should make certain that the location — which should be a licensed catering establishment — carries basic liability insurance.

23 Engage a baker to create a special wedding cake, if you want something more elaborate than what your caterer offers. Inquire about a cake-cutting charge if you bring in the wedding cake from elsewhere.

24 Investigate having air-conditioning in a tent when the wedding is to be held in warm weather.

25 Plan a rehearsal dinner. Members of the wedding party, their spouses, fiancées or significant others should be invited, along with both your immediate families. If possible, invite out-of town guests, too.

26 Arrange accommodations for attendants who do not live in town. If neither you nor any of your family, friends or neighbors have the facilities to house them, make hotel reservations. Your fiancée does the same for his attendants.

27 Reserve a block of rooms at a hotel for out-of-town guests.

Most hotels offer discounts to guests for a wedding weekend. In advance of mailing invitations, write to your guests and enclose the hotel information so they can make their reservations directly. Once they arrive, have waiting for them a complete information packet, including city maps, transportation schedules and prices, sights to see and restaurants. An additional courtesy, included with this information, might be a refreshing basket of fruit, snacks or other food that your region is known for.

28 Ask a friend or relative to check on your out-of-town guests to be sure they are comfortable and answer any of their questions. Provide that person’s name and phone number in

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your letter because you will be so busy those last few days.

29 Visit your florist with dress-color swatches to help with the selection of flowers for your wedding and reception.

Ask about providing the aisle runner for the ceremony. Again, be sure everything is clearly itemized in a contractual agreement.

30 Decide on your honeymoon destination. Consult a travel agent.

Traditionally, the groom makes these arrangements, but if you’re better at that, don’t hesitate to offer.

31 Hire limousines or other specialty cars for the wedding party members.

32 Investigate of marrying resources for designing Photo courtesy Watson Photography couples choose to and printing a program write their to distribute at the Within two months 49 Meet with the musicians or DJ own vows. ceremony. Desktop of returning from engaged to play at the reception to plan publishing should your honeymoon, you the selections you and your fiancée make that possible at a should acknowledge all want, from your song to the dance reasonable cost to you. wedding gifts. tempo you expect them to maintain.

33 Consult with your officiant about 40 Call to confirm the exact date and Plan a variety of songs so there’s any restriction on photography and time of rehearsals with your officiant. something older guests will enjoy as videography.

Notify attendants and family of the time well as what’s hot among your peers.

34 Discuss with helpful family or and place.

Caution the musicians about excessive friends the possibility of their inviting 41 Send out all invitations to the volume — it can ruin a reception. Tell out-of-town guests to dinner the night rehearsal dinner. them about any ethnic favorites you 42 Plan a get-together party for your before the wedding, if you can’t include may want so they’ll be familiar with the attendants. them at your rehearsal party. Also, they music. Inquire about breaks, continuous 43 Select gifts for wedding attendants. might host a breakfast or lunch for music and overtime. Get it all in writing.

Your fiancée does the same for his. travelers, if the wedding is late in the 50 Speak with the caterer about the 44 Begin trousseau day. food you want to serve shopping for lingerie, to your photographer honeymoon clothes and and musicians.

2 MONTHS The reception other items you’ll need Something simple to BEFORE THE WEDDING accounts for depending on where eat, a beverage and a you plan to live. place to sit that’s away 35 Compile a list of all the friends and 45 Purchase a pretty from your guests are of wedding costs, family members you would like to have wedding guest book for considered sufficient. with an average price tag invited to showers. of $12,343. friends and family to 51 Meet with the 36 Tell the hostess for parties in your sign at the reception. person handling your honor where you are registered. That 46 Check with local reception and firm store may be indicated right on the authorities to see up every detail. If shower invitation, but not on the whether a blood test is needed for a rental equipment is required, make wedding invitation. marriage license. arrangements for it.

37 Now’s the time to put your wedding 47 Make an appointment with your 52 Select your wedding ring(s). Arrange invitations into the mail. doctor for a complete physical.

See your for engraving.

38 Record your wedding gifts as they dentist, too.

53 Set a date with your photographer arrive. Note the giver’s name, address, 48 Meet with the organist and anyone for a formal bridal portrait to be made type of gift, date received and date you else you have asked to play or sing at four weeks before the wedding. acknowledge them. the service to determine the music.

54 Discuss having a portrait of 39 Write thank-you notes promptly.

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and manager of the reception location for accessibility to accommodate handicapped or elderly guests. Inform ushers of this.

60 Buy fake rings to sew on your ring bearer’s pillow. The best man carries the real ones.

both of you done for the newspaper announcement. This is an alternative to the traditional formal newspaper photo.

Or you may submit a wedding photo of the two of you taken on your wedding.

55 Check with your local newspaper for the form and timing of your 1 MONTH wedding-announcement submission.

BEFORE THE WEDDING 56 Select party favors to present to your guests to thank them for sharing your 61 Finalize plans with your happiness. For this purpose, a groom’s photographer and draw up a list of cake, in a traditional fruitcake or deep, pictures you definitely rich chocolate, may want taken during the be ordered from your ceremony and reception. baker. Guests take a Recent trends in 62 Ask a relative or piece home in little wedding planning friend who knows the boxes. indicate September and family well to help the 57 Give thought October to be the photographer identify to your cake top. most popular the people to be included Porcelain figurines are months to get married. in your photos, especially beautiful and will be if there is a divorce or a lasting memento. remarriage, or any type A creative baker will of sticky situation among most likely have other ideas to present the parents of the couple. to you.

63 Develop an orderly system of 58 Talk about ways to personalize your tracking guests’ responses and any ceremony and then discuss your ideas special information you need to with the officiant. remember.

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64 Discuss the bachelor party with your fiancée. Suggest the event be scheduled at least a week before the wedding day so there’s plenty of time to recover from the revelry.

65 Have a final fitting on your gown and make certain it will be ready to take to your bridal-portrait sitting.

66 Make an appointment to have your hair styled just before your formal portrait is taken, and again the day before or day of your wedding.

67 Check apparel for the wedding party. Have bridesmaids’ gowns fitted.

Get swatches of material and have shoes dyed to match. If any attendants live out of town, send their dresses to them to be fitted. Check mothers’ dresses and accessories.

68 Call the caterer and make a final decision on the reception menu. Be sure that the cake has been ordered.

69 Give your caterer a reliable estimate of the number of guests expected at the wedding reception, so they can give you a written confirmation of cost per person with an itemized accounting - to the smallest detail - of what they promise to provide.

70 Confer with the florist to be sure everything is ordered. Confirm the time that flowers will be delivered and decorations will be completed.

71 Arrange a transportation schedule for those in the wedding party.

72 Select a special wedding gift to give each other.

73 Go over all procedures of the wedding ceremony and receiving line with each other.

74 Make seating plans for the rehearsal dinner, ceremony and reception.

75 Write out place cards, if you plan to have a bride’s table and a parent’s table. Also complete table number cards for guests if you’re hosting a sit-down dinner.

76 Decide which members of the wedding will be included in the receiving line and plan their positions.

77 Keep gift checklist up to date, and write thank-you notes daily.

78 Consult professional movers for estimates to move your gifts and personal belongings to another town, if you’re relocating.

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79 Make certain you are insured against damage or loss in transit.

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80 Set a date with your fiancée to get your marriage license.

81 Be sure that the clothing and accessories for all members of the bridal party are in order.

82 Check with the society editor of your local newspaper and your groom’s hometown paper to find out what form they wish you to follow to submit your wedding announcement and photograph. Mail the materials soon.

83 Start gathering documents to change your name on your bank account, Social Security card, license, insurance and other important documents, if you are assuming your husband’s name.

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84 Finalize your rehearsal dinner arrangements.

85 Wrap gifts purchased for your attendants and groom. Present them at the rehearsal party.

86 Make plans to transport any gifts brought to the reception to your parents’ home or other designated place.

87 Call guests who have not responded to their invitation to ask if they’ll be attending.

88 Add last-minute acceptances and phone your caterer with the final guest count.

89 Confirm ceremony vocalists and musicians, and recheck your musical selections.

90 Arrange your gift display. All cards should be removed. Checks are not displayed, but a card stating “Check from Aunt Louise” may be substituted.

Insure gifts.

91 Invite friends and relatives to drop by to see your gifts.

92 Present a small gift or note of appreciation to friends and relatives who did special favors that made planning run smoothly.

93 Do a final check on details with your florist, caterer, sexton, clergy,

musicians and photographer.

94 Finalize your honeymoon plans and begin packing.

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BEFORE THE WEDDING

95 Have a manicure, pedicure and even a massage to pamper yourself and help you feel relaxed.

96 Attend the rehearsal. Review all important duties with the principals in the wedding party.

97 Give ushers the list of guests to be seated in the reserved section.

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WEDDING DAY 98 Rest and thoroughly relax in a nice warm bath.

99 Allow plenty of time to dress - about two hours before the ceremony begins, if possible.

100 Have a wonderful wedding day and enjoy every beautiful moment! n

It’s good to be unique. forever

Begin your at this beautiful venue where history meets the future.

Photo Courtesy of Studio LB

2019 - 2020 • Black Hills I DO

605-584-3110 160 W. Main St., Lead, SD 31

Rustic Elegance at Elkhorn Ridge

on the Historic Frawley Ranch in Spearfish 32

elkhornridgeresort.com • 605.722.1800 • golfelkhorn.com

2019 - 2020 • Black Hills I DO