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Reconnect during wedding planning.........3 Engagement announcement form............4 Wedding planning 101...........................5 Required documents list..........................5 The Four C’s: Selecting a diamond...........6 Embellished invitations...........................6 Choosing a wedding venue.....................7 Taking it outdoors..................................8 Keeping everyone cozy...........................9 Spearfish weather at a glance.................9 Dress trends........................................10 All natural decorating ideas...................12 Bouquets to swoon over.......................13 Emergency wedding day kit..................13 Choosing a photographer......................14 Wedding budget worksheet & notes...16-17 Writing your own vows.........................18 Are you registered?.............................19 Seasonal touches.................................20 All about entertainment........................21 Wedding information form....................22 Open (Food) Bar.................................23 Changing your name.......................24-25 100 Tips: Planning your wedding......26-31

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during wedding planning

edding planning can be intense and often requires dedication and many hours of work. Coordinating a wedding often requires that couples make many different decisions and spend a considerable amount of time in the wedding-planning trenches. Couples expend so much energy planning their weddings that it can be easy to lose sight of the bigger picture — namely the relationship that is the basis for the marriage in the first place. But as easy as it can be to get lost in wedding planning, couples can use this time together to connect on a deeper level and learn to work cooperatively. • Divide and conquer. Separate wedding © FOTOLIA planning duties so that both of you feel you are contributing equally and no one person gets overly stressed out. Stress can lead to short tempers and arguments. • Establish a mutual budget. Even the healthiest couple argues over finances from time to time, but budgetary debates should not set a negative tone for wedding planning. Couples should discuss their potential budget before they even begin to

plan their weddings, and both partners should do their best to compromise while also understanding where the other person is coming from. • Schedule time for fun. Do not let wedding planning be all-consuming. Schedule days that allow you to enjoy yourselves together without having to think about or discuss your pending nuptials. This may include date nights that may have fallen by the wayside since getting engaged or periodic day trips to get away from it all. Explore your mutual hobbies or try something new. • Learn to laugh at the little things. Not every detail will go off without a hitch. How you react as a couple may influence how much you enjoy your wedding. Recognize that certain things will not go your way, but that unforeseen circumstances will not ruin your wedding day, no matter how unpleasant they may seem. Laugh at what cannot be changed and recognize that, in the long run, the details you think are major today may actually prove trivial when you look back on your wedding day in the years to come. n

Engagement Announcements run free of charge in our Black Hills Pioneer Saturday edition or as space allows. NOTE: Submissions may be edited according to available space.

Engagement Information Bride’s Name and Hometown: ___________________________________________________________________________ Bride’s Parents’ Names and Residence(s): __________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s Name and Hometown: _________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s Parents’ Names and Residence(s): ________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Date and Place of Wedding: _____________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Bride’s Education: _____________________________________________________________________________________ Employment: _________________________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s Education: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Employment: _________________________________________________________________________________________ PHOTO ENCLOSED:

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Planning wedding

I’m getting married!

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What documents are required? Marriage licenses may be obtained at your county’s Register of Deeds office. To receive the license: • Both parties must be present. • A valid photo ID, such as a driver’s license, state ID or passport is required. • The fee is $40, and can be paid by cash and usually credit cards. Checks are not accepted. • There is no blood test or waiting period required. • The license may be used the same day, and it must be used within 20 days from issue.

nce the excitement of being engaged settles in, you will need to begin to plan the nuptials. Many brides-to-be can’t wait to start trying on dresses — but before you head to the boutique, there are other items on your to-do list. Here are the first few things you need think about:

PICK A STYLE

Have a conversation with your fiance and discuss how you want your wedding to feel. Fun and festive? Intimate and sophisticated? Has one of you always dreamed of marrying barefoot on a beach or on the lawn of a stately mansion? What are the most vital elements of the wedding to each of you? Decide what’s most important to each of you and compromise.

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DECIDE ON A TIMELINE

While the availability of your most coveted vendors will help you choose an exact date, you still need to think about other factors that will impact your timeline: Is there a season or time of year you hope to marry in, or avoid? Holidays or other family events you need to work around? You also might consider how much time you need for planning and preparations. The answers to all of these questions will help shape the timeline of your wedding.

SET YOUR BUDGET

This can be one of the most difficult tasks of wedding planning. You need to have sit-down conversations with each other, and with each set of parents, to be clear who will be contributing what when it comes to finances.

• The license may be used anywhere within the State of South Dakota.

These numbers will impact every other decision you make, and you don’t want to plan or purchase based on assumptions.

BOOK PRIORITY VENDORS

Priority vendors will be the people in charge of the elements most important to you and your fiance. The most significant of these vendors will likely be your venue. Your venue will impact almost all other aspects of your wedding — including your date. Another vendor who will likely take top billing is your photographer. Be sure to research all your options to secure the best price with the extra amenities you want. n

The Four C’s Carat, Color, Clarity and Cut

Buying a diamond ring can be intimidating. Demystify the process by learning about the four C’s. This system of grading diamonds was developed 60 years ago by the Gemological Institute of America. • Carat is a weight measurement. A 1-carat diamond weighs 200 milligrams. But there’s no ideal size for a diamond. It depends on your budget and taste. • Color is graded by letter, starting with D for rare, colorless diamonds. E and F are considered excellent, but G or H diamonds will look just as good to the naked eye. Farther down the scale, you’ll notice differences. “If you put a K color beside a G color, you’ll notice more yellow in the K,” said Russell Shor, senior industry analyst for the Gemological Institute. • Clarity measures diamond flaws, called inclusions, which might appear as tiny spots, clouds or cavities in the stone. The clarity grade SI stands for “slightly included.” VS is a better grade, “very slightly included.” VVS is even higher, “very, very slightly included.” Most inclusions in the VVS-SI range cannot be seen by the untrained eye “unless someone tells you where it is,” Shor said.

Invitations

embellished

nvitations are more than just pieces of paper. Adding details to your paper products is a great way to add personality and originality to your wedding in a budget-friendly way. Think outside the box by adding or changing traditional elements for something more unexpected. Invitations give guests a preview of the style of your wedding, as the invitation is the first piece of it they will see. Make your invitation one to keep by considering the following embellishments.

ored invitations but a brightly colored envelope. Or use a solid color for your invitation and a muted print for your RSVP cards.

ADD A BELLY BAND

LINE THE ENVELOPES

A belly band (a thick piece of paper that wraps around your invitation) is both beautiful and functional. You can use bands printed in a complementary print or for a pop of color, all the while keeping your invitation and coordinating inserts organized.

PLAY WITH THE EDGING

While traditionally invitations have had sharp, square edging, this does not have to be the case. Think outside the box and give your invitations rounded corners or scalloped edges.

MIX PAPER COLORS

Contemplate using different, complementing colors of paper for each piece of your invitations. Instead of white for everything, maybe choose cream-col-

CONSIDER TEXTURE

Try out different paper samples, as not all are created equal. Linen paper provides a thicker feel and sense of luxury. Or forgo paper completely and transfer your invitations to another surface, such as wooden slats or vintage handkerchiefs.

Belly bands aren’t the only place to incorporate some pattern or color to your invites. Consider lining the envelopes. This can be done inexpensively by investing a little time, a lot of patience and scrapbooking paper from your local craft store.

CREATE A SUITE

There is so much more to invitations now than envelopes, RSVP cards and the invitation itself. Create a separate card for each piece of information: a card for the reception, one for directions and even a separate card for your wedding website. Expanding your invitations into a suite can make your wedding feel like the event of the season. Pocket fold envelopes can keep your invitation suite neat and organized. n

• Cut measures workmanship, rather than a diamond’s inherent qualities. The way a stone is cut enhances sparkle and luminosity and can hide flaws.

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Venue

factors to consider before choosing a wedding

nce couples become engaged and share the good news with their friends and families, the next step is to begin planning their weddings. While couples must make a myriad of decisions during the wedding planning process, perhaps none is more significant than where to tie the knot. According to The Knot 2016 Real Weddings Study, the average cost of a wedding for couples who married in 2016 was $35,329. That’s a sizable amount, and a big portion of that was spent on the wedding venue. The Real Weddings Study found that couples spent an average of $16,107 on their wedding venues in 2016. That figure easily dwarfs the next biggest expense ($6,163 for the engagement ring) for couples tying the knot. Because the wedding venue comes with such a potentially high sticker price, couples should give ample consideration to a host of factors before choosing where to get married.

SIZE

Until they can agree on a guest list, couples might want to delay even looking for venues. However, some couples might want to first look at some venues so they can determine just how many guests they can afford to invite. Whether they’re hosting small affairs or large parties, couples should choose venues that can comfortably accommodate all of their guests. If possible, look for venues with multiple reception areas, which might allow for some wiggle room if the guest list grows or dwindles during the planning process.

AVAILABILTY

Some couples might have an ideal time of year they hope to get married. Some even know the exact

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date they hope to get married. While that can help with the planning, it can also limit couples with regard to their venue options. Some venues may be booked for as much as a year or more in advance during peak wedding season. The Real Weddings Study found that the most popular months to get married in 2016 were October and September. Couples who hope to follow in the footsteps of many 2016 brides and grooms may need to book their wedding venues well in advance. Those who can be more flexible regarding their wedding dates may find it easier to book their dream venues.

INSURANCE

Ask about the venue’s insurance policies, including the policies the venue has to protect itself. In addition, ask if the venue requires couples to have their own wedding liability insurance for protection in the event of injury, property dam-

age or incidents related to alcohol. Couples may also want to make the investment in cancellation/postponement insurance, and some venues may even require it.

FINANCIALS

It’s easy for couples to be focused on the bottom line when choosing wedding venues, but it’s also important that they get a complete grasp of the financials before choosing a wedding venue. Ask about the amount of the initial deposit and if that deposit is refundable. In addition, ask when the deposit is due and when each subsequent payment is due until the balance is paid in full. This can make budgeting easier and planning less stressful. Couples should have fun choosing their wedding venues while recognizing that certain factors must be given ample consideration before signing any contracts. n

taking it

Outdoors

hile holding weddings in a church remains the most popular venue for marriage celebrations, more and more brides are seeking alternative settings. Embrace the great outdoors and work with the beauty of nature for your wedding. Consider the pros and cons of the following options.

INNS AND B&BS

Pros: Probably the best aspect of hosting an outdoor wedding at an inn or bed and breakfast over the backyard of a loved one is that there is an option to stay. Don’t want your guests to worry about transportation? They can book a room and stay the night. The celebration can continue for as long as you wish.

in the last decade, so expect to pay top dollar for the privilege.

A BACKYARD

Pros: If you know someone with a large backyard or have one yourself, Cons: You may have to rent out this location can be a great option the entire place in order to host the for keeping costs low. There will ceremony or reception at a bed and be almost no rules for how you can breakfast. While incredibly beautiful, decorate and who you can work bed and breakfasts are usually on the with. (Be respectful of your host, smaller side, so if you have to move of course.) Stringing lights across the party inside for any reason, it can the yard? Go for it. In love with a start to feel cramped very certain caterer? Book quickly. them without worrying if they are on a preferred Most popular month VINEYARDS vendors list. to get married: Cons: Be aware that & WINERIES outdoor venues don’t Pros: These venues hold the same acoustics also normally offer as many indoor venues; stunning indoor options this can make it hard for in case of inclement guests to hear the ceremony. Conweather, making your investment sider small microphones that can be feel more secure. worn discreetly, or be prepared to Cons: Wineries and vineyards can feel like you’re shouting in order for be very expensive. These locations the back row to hear the nuptials. n have gone vogue for wedding venues

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Keeping everyone

osting a wedding in the winter months offers up a lot of fun ways to embellish your nuptials — and keep your guests warm. Even if you aren’t hosting an outdoor affair, the chill has a way of sneaking inside like an unwanted guest. Chase the chill away with one (or more) of the following ideas.

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Listed below are average temperature highs, lows and preciptation for the city of Spearfish throughout the year. Month High Jan.

FOR THE CEREMONY

1. Have cozy blankets on hand for guests to wrap up. Think soft flannels and warm fleece in rich colors. Place them in baskets near the back of the aisle with a chalkboard sign reading, “To have and to hold, in case you get cold.” 2. Offer hand warmers. This is a great addition to any outdoor ceremony, and your guests will thank you for it. 3. Prepare seat-side snacking. Offer roasted chestnuts to guests as they take their seats. They not only keep the munchies at bay but create classy hand warmers for guests who would rather “hold” than “have.” 4. Add some cushion — to your guest seating, that is. Sitting on a cushioned pad instead of a cold chair can make a world of difference, and your guests will appreciate you thinking of the small creature comforts. 5. Rent portable heaters. If you are set on having an outdoor ceremony, you might look into renting portable heaters. The tall, sleek variety can be elegantly arranged to line the outer-rim of the seating area, or could be incorporated fully into your decor by lining the aisle with colorful ribbons attached to each.

FOR THE RECEPTION

1. Stoke open fireplaces (where possible). Is there a fireplace at your venue? Ask if lighting a fire is an op-

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tion. Or if your venue allows, create a bonfire outside. There is nothing like the crackle of a fire to keep things toasty. 2. Let your guests enjoy a coffee or hot cocoa bar. Nothing makes people feel warm like a hot beverage. You can offer add-ons, such as shaved chocolate sprinkles, marshmallows, whipped cream, cinnamon sticks and vanilla beans. Don’t forget about other toasty drink options, such as mulled wine or cider. 3. Start the meal with something seasonal. Nothing beats a winter soup, soft cheese plate or roasted root vegetables. 4. Serve a warm dessert. While wedding cake is always a winner — and classic choice — consider adding something warm to your dessert menu. A fruit crisp or warm bread pudding with a bourbon-butter glaze is sure to chase the chill away. 5. Gift warm wedding favors. Everything from mittens, pocket warmers and shawls to mixes of hot cocoa or jars of salted caramel will delight guests and are sure to be used. n

June 78.5˚ 55.3˚ 3.65” July

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Dress trends C

hoosing a wedding gown can be one of the hardest decisions a woman makes. It is built up through history, through the media and through the sheer fact that it is most likely one of the most expensive garment purchases she will make in her lifetime.

BLUSHING

with gusto and really allow a bride to flaunt some personality.

When the days are longer and the sun kisses the sky at dusk, throwing SHORT a pink haze over everything. Why not Audrey Hepburn and Mia Farrow have your dress match the long sumboth went short on their mer nights in a blushing big day, and you can’t get shade of pink? Blush-colmore iconic than that. ored dresses range in Average spent on Show some leg (tastefully, hues of a whispery light a wedding dress: of course), and evoke a pink to a deeper rose. chic, old Hollywood style. Ombre dresses — or Whether you choose a mini dresses that layer color or a dress that shows your to start lighter and deepankles but no more, you are en with the length of the guaranteed to have all eyes on you. n dress — embrace the summer season

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ETHEREAL

Ethereal wedding gowns have soft and feminine silhouettes. Romance is the name of the game with ethereal dresses. They’re ideal for the bride who covets billowing tulle or admires a beaded sleeve. Ethereal dresses also pair well with nature and are a fantastic option for the beach bride, or brides choosing to marry outdoors.

MINIMALIST

Forgo the complicated bustles, layers of tulle and overly embellished details in favor of a simple stunner. Remember, you want to wear the dress, the dress shouldn’t wear you. Dresses that stick to simple lines and luxe fabrics allow you to shine. Make sure it fits like a dream and you will feel like you’re in a fairytale all evening.

OFF THE SHOULDER

Open backs and plunging necklines are everywhere in bridal fashion these days, and while both are alluring options for flashing some skin, don’t overlook their more demure and classic, “off-the-shoulder” sister. Off-theshoulder dresses scream romance but give more detail than strapless gowns. The best part? So many designers are incorporating the trend that you are guaranteed to find one in your style — whether covered in lace or a more structured satin fashion.

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All-Natural decorating ideas

ne of the best ways to make your wedding day stand out is with unique, nature-inspired decorations. From the centerpiece to the cake, nature can find its way into your wedding to make a lasting impact on your guests. Let the rustic charm of Mother Nature take over your decorations at your venue of choice. Just be sure to ask if there are any limitations on what you can bring into the space.

CENTERPIECE IDEAS

Your wedding ceremony will spark great emotion from your guests, while your reception tables will bring them together for laughter and conversation deep into the night. You can enhance their experience by adding colorful, all-natural centerpieces to the tables. Show off your creativity by incorpo-

rating your personality into the centerpiece. Go with fresh, seasonal flowers for a big statement. Incorporate wood or wood-tone containers for a natural feel. Your guests will marvel at your attention to detail as they celebrate your special day.

NATURAL MATERIALS

When it comes to finding natural materials for your wedding ceremony and reception, there are many options that can come straight from the great outdoors. These include leaves, acorns, twigs, evergreens or even fresh fruits like apples or cranberries. Of course, you can add artificial materials such as glass icicles, marbles or fake snow for added effect. There is no limit to your creativity when it comes to pulling together a natural decoration scheme.

GET YOUR GUESTS INVOLVED

To really push your wedding into a level of natural sustainability, encourage your guests to recycle their cups, napkins and any other items that can be reused. Use invitations made from recycled paper and include the same type of material for the RSVP cards that your guests will send back. You also can ask your guests to avoid wrapping your gifts in paper and instead use eco-friendly bags that you may be able to reuse for weddings you attend in the future. This level of commitment to the environment will make for the ultimate all-natural wedding while also making a statement about your values. n

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Pack an emergency wedding day kit • needle and thread in white, black and the color of bridesmaid gowns

Bouquets

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to swoon over

arrying a bouquet that is “in season” will not only help tie your wedding together, but is oftentimes gentler on the budget. Need help putting together a memorable bouquet? Make a trip downtown to your local flower shop. Bring a notebook of ideas and see how they can help you make it happen while meeting your budget. Consider the following elements when dreaming up your perfect bridal bouquet:

DEEP AND VIVID COLORS

Spring and summer are typically the seasons we associate with budding flowers, but many blossoms are blooming like crazy any time of year and are available in many colors. Ranunculus, roses and heather are always classic beauties. But not to be missed are velvety coxcomb, cornflowers and dahlias in early fall, and Amaryllis in late fall. Don’t forget a sprig of heather for good luck.

LOTS OF TEXTURE

While a lush bouquet accented with plenty of greenery is a classic

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choice, don’t overlook other options. Leaves, berries and grasses all add a spark of beauty. Also consider lotus pods, fiddlehead ferns and fuzzy lamb’s ear for a distinct look.

FRUITS AND VEGETABLES

Adding fruit or vegetables to a bouquet can be absolutely stunning — and perfectly on-trend. Pomegranates, apples and artichokes are popular choices right now. Don’t forget smaller fruits, such as cheery little kumquats. If you love your greens, cabbage and kale also add a dramatic flare to any arrangement.

RIBBON AND TWINE

What you use to secure your bouquet can significantly add to its beauty. If you are having a rustic wedding, consider twine, which can be found in many colors. Using a ribbon is a classic choice with so many options. Consider the thickness of the ribbon, material (silk, satin, velvet, lace) — not to mention color. Be sure the color you choose complements the bouquet rather than detracting from it. n

• extra pairs of pantyhose • pain reliever pills/antacid • quick-clean detergent stick • bandages • powder • deodorant • double-sided tape • black buttons • sanitary pads • mints/gum • makeup for touch-ups • extra cash • slippers or a change of shoes • umbrellas • hairspray • hair pins • names and phone numbers of all wedding vendors • static cling spray • hair dryer • contact lens solution/ eye drops • nail file/clipper • straws (to sip drinks without ruining lipstick) • safety pins • black socks • earring backs

s p i t 5 on choosing and working with a wedding photographer (AP) — Your wedding is fast approaching and you have an un-blissfully long to-do list, from finalizing your flower selection to choosing your menu to deciding on your dress. Near the top of that list you might want to put “select photographer.” That way, one of the most important parts of your wedding — the memories — will be preserved. Think about booking your photographer soon after you have selected your venue, and make sure he or she is a good fit with your personality. Look at potential photographers’ electronic portfolios, pricing and availability, and plan to meet several candidates to gauge their sensibility. Below are five tips on choosing and working with a wedding photographer: • Look for depth. Ask to see a complete portfolio from beginning to end for at least one or two weddings. You don’t want to see only a few “best” photos. “It’s easy to show a bunch of terrific single images taken at many wed-

dings,” says Radhika Chalasani, “but a great wedding photographer has to capture an entire wedding beautifully from start to finish.” The New Yorkbased Chalasani has been photographing weddings since 2004. Looking at portfolios will ensure that the photographer wasn’t just an assistant or a guest with a camera. You can see how the photographer handles all parts of the wedding, including the preparations, ceremony, cocktails, portraits, speeches, dancing and cake-cutting. • Get a contract. A wedding photographer without a contract (and without liability insurance) is likely not a professional. The contract should spell out what the photographer will provide, and whether the pictures will be on DVDs, an online gallery, a finished album, etc. It will include the hours worked, and what happens if you ask the photographer to work longer. In addition, you want to know how things will be handled if the photographer becomes unable to work on the wedding day due to illness or injury. He or she should have a back-up. The contract also should spell out the cost, the amount of any deposit and when the balance must be paid. Small, casual weddings might not seem to require a contract, but having one will protect both you and the photographer. • Don’t be shy about what you want. “There’s no harm in being specific,” says Chicago wedding photographer Candice C. Cusic, a photojournalist for 15 years and a teacher at Northwestern University. Tell the photographer what the most important aspects of the day are to you, whether it’s exchanging rings or walking down the aisle. “Brides should be realistic about their day and make every possible effort to help their photographer capture great imagery,” Cusic said. A bride or groom getting ready inside a messy hotel room, for instance, will not make for strong pictures, she noted. • Make sure your personalities jibe. Other than your significant other, the person with whom you’ll

spend the most time on your wedding day might well be your photographer. He or she will be with you as you get ready and as you go through the emotional highs of the day. The photographer might guide you and your family through a portrait session, walk backward as you process up the aisle, and hang close by during your first dance. So this person’s personality — sense of humor, demeanor, even appearance — should be a good fit with both of you. Craig Warga, a New York-based wedding photographer, said “good photography happens when you can get close to your subjects, and they feel completely comfortable being natural and themselves in front of your lens. If you don’t like some one, you’re not going to have that level of comfort in front of them, and it will affect the pictures.” If you like a sassy personality who will add some color to your day, then by all means hire a vibrant, outgoing photographer who exudes energy. On the other hand, if you want a subtle documentary photographer who will capture important moments without being intrusive, go for someone who won’t talk loudly over you when you first meet, and who seems cool and composed. The right photographer, said Warga, is someone who leaves you thinking, “it’d be nice to have that person as a guest at my wedding.” • Sweat some details. Ask if the photographer has a full set of equipment: multiple bodies and lenses with back-ups. Will he or she be working with an assistant or second photographer? If so, what is the additional cost and does that person need to be there all day? If your venue will be dark, can the photographer handle it? Is the photographer able to work in adverse conditions such as rain at an outdoor ceremony? • Finally, make provisions for your photographer to eat; it’s hard to be “on” for eight to 10 hours straight. A 15-minute meal break might just be the best thing you do for the photographer. n

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budget Ceremony

Use this list to help you develop a budget and keep track of spending as you plan for your wedding.

BUDGETED:

Venue Fee....................................... _____________ Officiant Fee/Donation............. _____________ Ceremony Décor......................... _____________

ACTUAL COST:

_____________ _____________ _____________

Reception Venue Fee....................................... _____________ Rentals............................................ _____________ Food & Service............................ _____________ Beverages & Bartenders........... _____________ Cake & Cutting Fee................... _____________ Reception Decor.......................... _____________

_____________ _____________ _____________ _____________ _____________ _____________

Attire & Beauty Gown & Alterations.................. _____________ Veil................................................... _____________ Jewelry............................................ _____________ Bride’s Accessories...................... _____________ Hair & Makeup.......................... _____________ Pre-wedding Pampering........... _____________ Groom’s Tux or Suit.................. _____________ Groom’s Accessories.................. _____________ Shoes................................................ _____________ Undergarments............................ _____________

_____________ _____________ _____________ _____________ _____________ _____________ _____________ _____________ _____________ _____________

_____________ _____________

Photo + Video Photographer................................ _____________ Videographer................................ _____________ Prints & Videos........................... _____________

_____________ _____________ _____________

Flowers Bride’s Bouquet............................ _____________ Bridesmaid Bouquets................. _____________ Groom & Groomsmen Boutonnieres................................. _____________ Flower Girl Flowers................... _____________ Additional Boutonnieres & Corsages................................... _____________ Ceremony...................................... _____________ Reception ...................................... _____________ Centerpieces.................................. _____________

ACTUAL COST:

_____________ _____________ _____________ _____________ _____________

Music Ceremony Musicians................. _____________ Cocktail Hour Musicians......... _____________ Reception Music......................... _____________

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Transportation + Lodging Limo or Car Rental.................... _____________ Guest Shuttle or Parking.......... _____________ Bride/Groom Hotel Room(s)............................. _____________

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Gifts Attendant Gifts............................ _____________ Favors.............................................. _____________ Parent Gifts................................... _____________ Flower Girl & Ring Bearer Gifts................... _____________

Event Planner............................... _____________ Marriage License......................... _____________ Dance Lessons.............................. _____________ Rehearsal Dinner ....................... _____________ Rentals & Lighting.................... _____________ Tip Money for Vendors............ _____________

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Travel.............................................. _____________ Lodging.......................................... _____________ Entertainment.............................. _____________ Souvenirs........................................ _____________

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Stationary Save-the-Dates ............................ _____________ Invitations & Reply Cards...... _____________

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Rehearsal Dinner Invites.......... _____________ Ceremony Programs.................. _____________ Thank You Cards....................... _____________ Postage............................................ _____________ Guest Book.................................... _____________

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Wedding Rings Her Ring........................................ _____________ His Ring......................................... _____________

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here is nothing more priceless than writing your own wedding vows. These carefully chosen and spoken words will reveal the essence of your love for each other and serve as special memories that can literally last a lifetime. If you’re considering writing your own vows, there are some steps to take before making your final decision. Read on for tips on how to work together with your spouse to prepare your special vows.

THE GROUNDWORK

The first thing to do is to make sure you both agree on the idea of writing your own vows, and if so, whether you will write them together or keep it secret until the wedding. To make sure you stick to a reasonable time limit, make sure to build in a specific word count. Vows that last five minutes or more may be a bit excessive, so keep the words smooth and concise. Be sure to discuss the idea of reciting your own vows with your officiant. Some may prefer traditional vows, but there may be a way for you to also work in your own wording. Let the officiant know what you are thinking and be open to different ways to pull it off.

PERSONAL VOWS

A good place to start when writing your vows is how you met. Pinpoint that first moment you laid eyes on your spouse and bring back the memories with poignant words. Another good idea is to borrow quotes from books or poetry that have a special spot in your relationship. After describing the beginning, move to the present. Now is a good time to describe the personal and enduring traits — loyalty, strength, humor — that caused you to end up here on your special day with your spouse. Finally, end your vows with your hopes and dreams for the future. Promise all the things you are prepared to do to make your marriage last forever.

ADDITIONAL TIPS

There are no rules for writing your own vows, but it’s best to follow the cues of your relationship. Be authentic. You know your spouse better than anyone else, so understand whether the moment will call for humor or more serious, sensitive words. Maybe you want to deliver one powerful sentence or sing your vows. There are countless ways to express your love, so take the time and put in the effort to kick off your marriage the right way. n

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egistering for your wedding can be a great way to stock up on everything you need to begin your married life, as well as help guide your guests to items you would most enjoy receiving. However, a registration list can also be stressful to create. Here are some of the most important things to remember as you navigate through the process: DO set up your registries early and check them often. As soon as you announce your nuptials, you will have guests who want to know where you are registered. You will also want to check your registries often to make sure that as guests purchase items, there are still gifts at a variety of price points from which others can choose. DO register at more than one place. Guests may prefer one retailer to an-

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other. Perhaps they don’t like to shop online and certain shops are easier for them to visit. Registering at multiple locations also allows you and your significant other to pick out a variety of items. Choose retailers that you and your spouse enjoy shopping at frequently. DON’T overlook the everyday items. Even if you already have a house or apartment, or you and your spouse are living together and you think you have everything you need. There are items that you will never stop needing, or not want multiples of. Use this opportunity to upgrade your bath towels, or register for another set of bed sheets in a fun print and high thread count. DON’T request cash. It is always going to be tacky to outright request

a dollar amount from your guests. If you and your spouse are trying to save for a big-ticket item, set up a registry account. This allows guests to feel like they are contributing to your future, instead of handing over an impersonal check or gift card. Also expect that some guests will want to give you a tangible gift no matter what. DO it together. Creating a wedding registry is not only a time for you and your spouse to bond but to mesh your styles into one. Discussing patterns and color preferences now will make putting it all away and using it more enjoyable later. DO write prompt and personalized thank you notes. There is no exception. You must thank every person who gives you a gift. Customize each thank you card by mentioning the gift and how you plan to enjoy it. This will show that you were thinking of that guest, and her thank you card isn’t a carbon copy of another. n

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hether you’re planning outdoor nuptials or a reception in the comfort of air conditioning, there are a lot of things to consider while preparing decor. While details feel important, don’t get lost in them. Pick just a few areas and concentrate your efforts there. If you invest your labors in concentrated areas, your guests are sure to notice your hard work.

CREATE A FOCAL POINT

If you are having an outdoor ceremony, the area you will definitely want to focus on is creating an altar. This can be done by choosing a location that already provides a landmark, such as a live oak. Consider hanging a large piece of luxe fabric behind the officiant, or standing between two large planters

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filled with flowers or greenery. Other places on which you might want to concentrate could be the dance floor or head table, if you choose to have one.

LET THERE BE LIGHT

Paying special attention to lighting at your event can be a great way to punch up the style of your wedding. Cafe lights are great for illuminating an outdoor ceremony or reception, and any type of strung lighting complements white paper lanterns hung at varying levels. Mason jars can be found on the cheap at many flea markets and yard sales and are the perfect vessel for containing small votive candles. You can create dimension by placing lanterns of various heights on tables or lining doorways. If you are after

a real “wow” factor, plan a send-off with sparklers.

HAVE FUN COMMUNICATING

Guests are happiest when they are informed. Everyone likes to know what to expect, where to go and what they need to do. Have fun communicating to your guests. Sandwich boards (the two-sided chalkboards commonly seen in cafes) are a great way to point guests in the direction of seating, the dance floor or the ceremony space if you are hosting the ceremony and reception in the same location. Easels are fantastic for displaying menus or placards, and chalk board hangtags add a special touch to drink stations and buffet tables. n

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Entertainment

our wedding should not be just a day for you to remember. Traditionally, a wedding reception is a party thrown in honor of the bridal couple, but is hosted for the wedding guests as a thank you for their presence at the nuptials and for their gifts. With the right planning, your reception can be just as memorable for your guests as it is for you and your family. Do research and think about what you’ve enjoyed (and haven’t enjoyed) as a guest at weddings. Here are a few suggestions to get you started.

HIRE A CARICATURIST

Caricaturists always add a playful dose of entertainment, and their popularity at weddings in recent years

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has grown significantly. Not only are they entertaining to watch during your reception, but they can offer your guests a unique, personalized item — which you can use as a wedding favor — to take home with them at the end of the evening.

HIRE DANCE INSTRUCTORS

Sometimes enticing guests out on the dance floor can be a struggle. Offering up some entertainment on the dance floor could be just the ticket to get guests into the groove of things. Instructors can frequently be hired by the hour, so you can easily limit your costs. Your guests will never forget that your wedding is where they learned (or relearned) how to swing, waltz or salsa.

OFFER A PHOTO BOOTH

A photo booth is quickly becoming an icon at contemporary weddings. Many professional photographers offer a photo booth as an add-on option to most packages or you can create your own. Consider crafting your own backdrop. Pick up fun props at a party store or thrift store, and use an iPad on a tripod to capture the mischief. If you’ve got young cousins itching to be involved, have one of them man the camera. You don’t need to spend a fortune. But whatever you choose, you need to enjoy it. If you are happy and having fun, your guests will, too. n

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Open (Food)Bar

ave fun planning your wedding reception by thinking outside the traditional sitdown dinner and wedding cake. Serving food at stations or “bar style” can be a fun option for offering up (un)traditional fare in a fresh way. Whether you want to incorporate a food bar just for appetizers or dessert, or you are looking to forego a formal dinner, these tasty and innovative stations are one more way to show your guests who you are as a couple. Here are a few reception bars that have nothing to do with cocktails:

FONDUE STATION

Cheese or chocolate? Both are crowd-pleasers and both offer a variety of tasty dipping accoutrement that will delight guests. Fondue works great during cocktail hour, or

in addition to or in lieu of wedding cake.

ANTIPASTO

Think crostini station, the intersection at which crusty breads meets your choice of tomato bruschettas, olive tapenades, spicy salamis and a variety of cheeses.

CANDY BAR

No cake? No problem. Satisfy your guests’ sweet tooths by showcasing your favorite candies in clear glass jars, like you’d see in a vintage drugstore. You can even offer small paper bags or boxes so that guests can fill them and take them home, doubling your dessert as guest favors.

POPCORN BAR

What is a better late night snack than popcorn? If you plan on danc-

ing the night away with your guests, a popcorn bar could be a fantastic addition to your reception. You can offer various flavors, such as movie style, cheese or kettle corn. Encourage guests to spice it up with different salts or spices, such as cinnamon or paprika. The best part about reception bars? Your imagination is the limit. Virtually any food can be turned into a chic, self-serve station. They are totally customizable to your taste, personality, and even geography. Hosting a Southern fete? Offer a biscuit bar with various spreads and toppings. Or a sweet tea bar with assorted syrups guests can add, such as peach or raspberry. Never been a fan of the traditional “chicken or beef” option? Create a taco station. Any one of these is sure to be something your guests remember forever. n

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Name

changing your

fter months of planning your wedding and all the details that go along with making your special day one to remember, you’re finally able to relax and enjoy spending time with your new spouse. But if you or your spouse plan on changing your name, there is more work to be done. How does that work, exactly? From changing your driver’s license, to bank account, Social Security card, and more, getting your name changed on all official documents can be a process, but it is important to ensure accuracy.

Don’t try to start the name change game before you say, “I do.” It’s a waste of time and you have plenty of other priorities to take care of. Instead, start after you say your vows. First, stop by your county’s Register of Deeds office and get at least two certified copies of your marriage license. It is a good idea to make several more non-certified copies as well. One of the first documents that should be changed is your Social Security card. This should be on the top of your to-do list as some banks want your

new name on your Social Security card before opening an account. Updating your card will also ensure your wages are posted correctly to your Social Security records. Changing your Social Security card cannot be done online; however there is no charge to make the changes. To change your name on your Social Security card you will need to complete Form SS-5. These forms can be obtained at http://www.socialsecurity.gov/forms/ss-5.pdf. Additionally, you will need proof of your identity. Sometimes you also may need to

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If your license does not contain prove your current U.S. citizenship or the star you will need to bring more lawful noncitizen status. This can be items. This includes a document that done with a driver’s license, passport, proves your date or state-issued, of birth, identity non-driver ID card. and citizenship. Mail your applicaThis can be a valid tion to your local and unexpired U.S. Social Security Passport, a certified office. copy of your birth To change your certificate as well as driver’s license, • Thank you notes other items. stop by your local You will also department of mo• Vendor reviews need to bring doctor vehicles office. uments that prove You will need to • Dress cleaning and/or your Social Security bring a certified preservation copy of your number. This can • Gift returns marriage license. be your Social SeIf your license has curity card, a W-2 • Registry completion form, pay stub with a gold star in the your name and upper right corner, you will also need full Social Security number. For more to bring your curinformation on rent driver’s license what documents are needed, visit http:// or ID card, two documents proving your residential address such as a utility dps.sd.gov. Now that you have a new Social bill, bank stub, phone bill among other Security card and driver’s license, other items.

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documents can be updated. If international travel is in your future, be sure to update or receive a passport. You may run into troubles if you have a passport in one name and a driver’s license in another. Find need to know info at http://travel.state.gov. It does take a while for your passport to be issued - four to six weeks, however expedited processing can be requested for a charge. If you are honeymooning abroad and are using your maiden name and will later change your name, don’t worry about losing all your visas and stamps. Your old, cancelled passport can be sent separately from your new passport. Other documents should be changed such as bank accounts and mortgages, credit cards, investments, utilities, health insurance, voter registration, other legal documents and with your employer. Each entity seems to have its own policy when it comes to the name change game, but relax, and enjoy your new spouse. n

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3 Decide on the size and formality of your wedding. 4 Interview party planners or wedding consultants with a reputation for a job well done. If time is at a premium for you or distance is a problem, a professional planner is well worth the fee. With so many details to look after, their experience can help save you costly mistakes. 5 Consider unusual locations to hold the celebration. Contact your local parks department or historical society. 6 Select the place you’d like to hold the reception. Make reservations if it is in a club, hotel, catering hall or restaurant. If it is to be at home or at a place that does not provide food, check into catering services and book them. Ask to see a variety of possible menus; inquire if a wedding cake is This checklist is packed with all included or if one must be arranged the essential steps you need to know for separately. about during planning. The more time 7 Start shopping around for your you have, the more opportunity you’ll wedding dress, headpiece and veil. have to comparison shop. And you’ll 8 Make alternate plans for an also feel less pressured to commit to outdoor wedding in case the weather something that does not seem right is bad. The most logical options for you. However, if your timetable include a very sturdy tent and a is condensed, simply move the steps platform that withstands rain, or an up. For a much shorter schedule, a indoor, alternative location that is wonderful wedding can still be had indicated on the reception invitation. by making some 9 Invite relatives and/ logical compromises. or friends to be in For example, plan your wedding party. on a morning/noon Talk over finances wedding, with a of brides use Pinterest with them and be breakfast or brunch/ to communicate their considerate of their luncheon reception, wedding-day vision to limitations. or a Friday or Sunday planners and vendors. 10 Select two or evening ceremony and three possibilities reception. In some for your attendants’ areas of the country gowns and arrange an there is also more flexibility for appointment with the shop to bring hiring choice resources for a Saturday your attendants in to see their choices. wedding on shorter notice during Because they pay for their own the months of January, February and dresses, it’s thoughtful to do this, if March. Happy planning! possible. After a review of the styles, the final decision is yours. 12 to 24 MONTHS 11 Buy calendars for attendants BEFORE THE WEDDING and immediate families and mark important wedding-related dates for 1 Visit your clergy together and set them in red. As other dates are made the date for the ceremony. during the planning they can plug 2 Discuss expenses with all concerned them into their calendar. and establish a firm budget. 12 Draw up the guest list. Notify

hen was the last time you planned a party this big? If you’re like most brides, this event is a first in size, details — and pressure! Because wedding planning is so time consuming, being well organized is the only way to keep things under control. Most weddings, especially large ones, require lots of advance planning in order to book the best bridal resources, many of which are reserved one or two years before the event. Today’s long engagements — 14 months on average — allow couples time to pull the details together and save for the expenses they may be handling or sharing with parents.

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your fiancee’s family to do the same. 13 Interview photographers, videographers, musicians and florists. Make a separate folder for each service you select. Keep contracts, notes, questions and all pertinent data in them for a handy and quick reference.

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14 Select and order your invitations. Include extra envelopes in case of mistakes, and a few extra invitations to have as mementos for you and your family. If you want calligraphy and find handwork too expensive, look into computer resources. Ask for envelopes to be delivered early so you can address them leisurely. At the same time, order personal stationery (an ample supply of both letter and notepaper) for writing thank-you notes. 15 Have mothers select their dresses. The bride’s mother has the

privilege of first choice so that she 4 MONTHS can have the color and style she BEFORE THE WEDDING prefers. The groom’s mother chooses a dress similar in formality and in a 19 Address invitations and complementary color. Both should announcements. All addressing, blend with your bridal-party color stuffing and stamping should be scheme. completed in time to mail the 16 Decide upon the men’s attire. invitations four to six weeks before Accompany your fiancée to a the wedding. If you have an “A” and formal-wear specialty shop in your a “B” list, you may mail “A” eight locale to select what the groom, best weeks in advance. When you receive man, ushers and regrets, you may invite fathers will wear. people on “B” four 17 Register with weeks (and no less than Besides the reception, the bridal gift three weeks) before the most expensive parts registry in your the wedding. Prepare of the wedding are favorite store. Meet engagement rings ($6,163), maps and directions to with the director photography and video include with invitations. ($3,378), music ($1,297), of the registry and 20 Check with the post & wedding rings ($1,727). her trained staff for office for the postage help choosing your needed to mail the china, crystal, linens invitation when all the and other household pieces are enclosed in the envelope. preferences. Indicate engagement Purchase pretty “Love” stamps for an and shower gift choices, as well as appropriate wedding touch. wedding presents. 21 Schedule professional dance lessons 18 Reserve the location for your to make your first dance memorable. rehearsal dinner.

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22 Meet with the caterer to firm up the menu and all the details. If any guests require special food, arrange that now. Be sure all your expectations are clearly defined in a written contract, which should include taxes, any service charges, and additional fees to bartenders and waiters, if not included in the package. Also, you should make certain that the location — which should be a licensed catering establishment — carries basic liability insurance. 23 Engage a baker to create a special wedding cake, if you want something more elaborate than what your caterer offers. Inquire about a cake-cutting charge if you bring in the wedding cake from elsewhere. 24 Investigate having air-conditioning in a tent when the wedding is to be held in warm weather. 25 Plan a rehearsal dinner. Members of the wedding party, their spouses, fiancee’s or significant others should be invited, along with both your

immediate families. If possible, invite this information, might be a refreshing basket of fruit, snacks or other food out-of town guests, too. 26 Arrange accommodations for that your region is known for. 28 Ask a friend or relative to check attendants who do not live in town. If neither you nor any of your on your out-of-town guests to be family, friends or neighbors have the sure they are comfortable and answer facilities to house them, make hotel any of their questions. Provide that reservations. Your fiancée does the person’s name and phone number in same for his attendants. your letter because you will be so busy those last few days. 27 Reserve a block of rooms at a 29 Visit your florist with dress-color hotel for out-of-town guests. Most swatches to help with hotels offer discounts the selection of flowers to guests for a for your wedding wedding weekend. In and reception. Ask advance of mailing of marrying about providing the invitations, write couples choose to aisle runner for the to your guests and write their ceremony. Again, be enclose the hotel own vows. sure everything is information so clearly itemized in a they can make their contractual agreement. reservations directly. 30 Decide on your Once they arrive, honeymoon destination. Consult a have waiting for them a complete travel agent. Traditionally, the groom information packet, including city makes these arrangements, but if maps, transportation schedules and you’re better at that, don’t hesitate to prices, sights to see and restaurants. offer. An additional courtesy, included with 31 Hire limousines or other specialty cars for the wedding party members. 32 Investigate resources for designing and printing a program to distribute at the ceremony. Desktop publishing should make that possible at a reasonable cost to you. 33 Consult with your officiant about any restriction on photography and videography. 34 Discuss with helpful family or friends the possibility of their inviting out-of-town guests to dinner the night before the wedding, if you can’t include them at your rehearsal party. Also, they might host a breakfast or lunch for travelers, if the wedding is late in the day.

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35 Compile a list of all the friends and family members you would like to have invited to showers. 36 Tell the hostess for parties in your honor where you are registered. That store may be indicated right on the shower invitation, but not on the

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wedding invitation. 37 Now’s the time to put your wedding invitations into the mail. 38 Record your wedding gifts as they arrive. Note the giver’s name, address, type of gift, date received and date you acknowledge them. 39 Write thank-you notes promptly. Within two months of returning from your honeymoon, you should acknowledge all wedding gifts. 40 Call to confirm the exact date and time of rehearsals with your officiant. Notify attendants and family of the time and place. 41 Send out all invitations to the rehearsal dinner. 42 Plan a get-together party for your attendants. 43 Select gifts for wedding attendants. Your fiancée does the same for his. 44 Begin trousseau shopping for lingerie, honeymoon clothes and other items you’ll need depending on where you plan to live. 45 Purchase a pretty wedding guest book for friends and family to sign at continuous music and overtime. Get it the reception. all in writing. 46 Check with local authorities to see 50 Speak with the caterer about whether a blood test is needed for a the food you want to serve to marriage license. your photographer and musicians. 47 Make an appointment with your Something simple to eat, a beverage doctor for a complete physical. See and a place to sit that’s away from your dentist, too. your guests are 48 Meet with the considered sufficient. organist and anyone The reception 51 Meet with the accounts for else you have asked person handling your to play or sing at the reception and firm up service to determine every detail. If rental of wedding costs, the music. equipment is required, with an average price tag 49 Meet with the make arrangements of $12,343. musicians or DJ for it. engaged to play at 52 Select your the reception to plan wedding ring(s). the selections you and your fiancée Arrange for engraving. want, from your song to the dance 53 Set a date with your photographer tempo you expect them to maintain. for a formal bridal portrait to be Plan a variety of songs so there’s made four weeks before the wedding. something older guests will enjoy as 54 Discuss having a portrait of well as what’s hot among your peers. both of you done for the newspaper Caution the musicians about excessive announcement. This is an alternative volume — it can ruin a reception. to the traditional formal newspaper Tell them about any ethnic favorites photo. Or you may submit a wedding you may want so they’ll be familiar photo of the two of you taken on your with the music. Inquire about breaks, wedding.

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55 Check with your local newspaper for the form and timing of your wedding-announcement submission. 56 Select party favors to present to your guests to thank them for sharing your happiness. For this purpose, a groom’s cake, in a traditional fruitcake or deep, rich chocolate, may be ordered from your baker. Guests take a piece home in little boxes. 57 Give thought to your cake top. Porcelain figurines are beautiful and will be a lasting memento. A creative baker will most likely have other ideas to present to you. 58 Talk about ways to personalize your ceremony and then discuss your ideas with the officiant. 59 Check with the church sexton and manager of the reception location for accessibility to accommodate handicapped or elderly guests. Inform ushers of this. 60 Buy fake rings to sew on your ring bearer’s pillow. The best man carries the real ones.

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61 Finalize plans with your photographer and draw up a list of pictures you definitely want taken during the ceremony and reception. 62 Ask a relative or friend who knows the family well to help the photographer identify the people to be included in your photos, especially if there is a divorce or remarriage, or any type of sticky situation among the parents of the couple. 63 Develop an orderly system of tracking guests’ responses and any special information you need to remember. 64 Discuss the bachelor party with your fiancée. Suggest the event be scheduled at least a week before the wedding day so there’s plenty of time to recover from the revelry. 65 Have a final fitting on your gown and make certain it will be ready to take to your bridal-portrait sitting. 66 Make an appointment to have your hair styled just before your

for those in the wedding party. formal portrait is taken, and again the 72 Select a special wedding gift to day before or day of your wedding. give each other. 67 Check apparel for the wedding 73 Go over all procedures of the party. Have bridesmaids’ gowns wedding ceremony and receiving line fitted. Get swatches of material and with each other. have shoes dyed to match. If any 74 Make seating plans for the attendants live out of town, send their rehearsal dinner, ceremony and dresses to them to be fitted. Check reception. mothers’ dresses and 75 Write out place accessories. cards, if you plan to 68 Call the caterer Recent trends in have a bride’s table and make a final wedding planning and a parent’s table. decision on the indicate September and Also complete table reception menu. Be October to be the number cards for sure that the cake has most popular guests if you’re hosting been ordered. months to get married. a sit-down dinner. 69 Give your caterer a reliable estimate 76 Decide which of the number of members of the wedding will be guests expected at the wedding reception, so they can give included in the receiving line and plan their positions. you a written confirmation of cost per 77 Keep gift checklist up to date, and person with an itemized accounting write thank-you notes daily. - to the smallest detail - of what they 78 Consult professional movers for promise to provide. estimates to move your gifts and 70 Confer with the florist to be sure personal belongings to another town, everything is ordered. Confirm the if you’re relocating. time that flowers will be delivered and 79 Make certain you are insured decorations will be completed. against damage or loss in transit. 71 Arrange a transportation schedule

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80 Set a date with your fiancée to get your marriage license. 81 Be sure that the clothing and accessories for all members of the bridal party are in order. 82 Check with the society editor of your local newspaper and your groom’s hometown paper to find out what form they wish you to follow to submit your wedding announcement and photograph. Mail the materials soon. 83 Change your name on your bank account, Social Security card, license, insurance and other important documents, if you are assuming your husband’s name.

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84 Finalize your rehearsal dinner arrangements. 85 Wrap gifts purchased for your

attendants and groom. Present them at the rehearsal party. 86 Make plans to transport any gifts brought to the reception to your parents’ home or other designated place. 87 Call guests who have not responded to their invitation to ask if they’ll be attending. 88 Add last-minute acceptances and phone your caterer with the final guest count. 89 Confirm ceremony vocalists and musicians, and recheck your musical selections. 90 Arrange your gift display. All cards should be removed. Checks are not displayed, but a card stating “Check from Aunt Louise” may be substituted. Insure gifts. 91 Invite friends and relatives to drop by to see your gifts. 92 Present a small gift or note of appreciation to friends and relatives who did special favors that made planning run smoothly. 93 Do a final check on details with your florist, caterer, sexton, clergy,

musicians and photographer. 94 Finalize your honeymoon plans and begin packing.

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95 Have a manicure, pedicure and even a massage to pamper yourself and help you feel relaxed. 96 Attend the rehearsal. Review all important duties with the principals in the wedding party. 97 Give ushers the list of guests to be seated in the reserved section. THE

WEDDING DAY 98 Rest and thoroughly relax in a nice warm bath. 99 Allow plenty of time to dress about two hours before the ceremony begins, if possible. 100 Have a wonderful wedding day and enjoy every beautiful moment! n

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Main, Spearfish • 605-722-5100 • 866-654-4523 • bridalboutiqueandbling.com 2017 - 2018 • Black Hills I DO