Collaboration is the New Currency

CONNECTED • INFORMED • INSPIRED JULY 2021 - SUMMER EDITION

Carmen Ray

Crystal Thompson

Michael Damond

FOUNDER, PUBLISHER

EDITOR

DIRECTOR OF MARKETING

COLLABORATION IS THE NEW

Currency BODY

| MIND | SPIRIT | BUSINESS

| BEAUTY

LETTER FROM THE PUBLISHER

HELLO

Be Well for Women READERS

It’s here!! Our highly anticipated issue with the theme that is so near and dear to me as an entrepreneur for over 30 years is here—as a living, breathing testimony! I have learned so much and weathered many storms, but through it all I have landed firmly on my perspective on collaboration.

As many of you know, the 3 Pillars of Be Well for Women is to Be Well Connected, Informed and Inspired. I encourage you to apply this recipe as you initiate, maintain, or expand collaborating relationships.

Ingredient

START WITH THE END IN MIND

Be Well Connected to your purpose and gifts— also known as stay in your lane. It took years for me to become totally okay with writing, yet not being a professional writer. Only then would the Universe gift the Be Well for Women Community with the writing flair of our Editor In Chief, Crystal Thompson.

Connect with those that have the capacity to see the benefits of compromise, support and sharing. You will know instinctively when you’ve attracted these types of people. They come with an abundance mindset and it is highly contagious!

Ingredient

INVIGORATE IDEAS WITH TRAINING & TECHNOLOGY Be Well Informed, create the evidence by mastering the work.

Until we acquire a level of mastery, retain the services of someone that has mastered certain skills to elevate your brand.

That’s exactly what Be Well for Women has done in collaborating with WeMerge Media and Michael Damond. Yes, I would love to take the time to learn Youtube, Constant Contact, and how to scale up my Facebook business page. The Be Well Magazine exemplifies “Collaboration is the New Currency.” I have the vision, Crystal has the skill and gift of writing, and Michael’s creative genius and marketing expertise creates the look of finesse and mastery.

Carmen Ray FOUNDER

Ingredient SQUAD GOALS Be Well Inspired - collaborate with other women that live a life of inspiration. They impress and motivate us with their resilience and efforts to soar against all odds. Many of them show up so gracefully and strong at the same time. These relatable and powerful women inspire us in demonstrating how to stretch our Bodies, Spirit, Business, and Beauty. I introduce to you and present to others the Be Well Magazine Contributors for the July 1st, 2021 edition.

Enjoy, Collaboration Is The New Currency

Carmen C. Ray BE WELL MAGAZINE FOR WOMEN

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JULY 2021

"SURROUND YOURSELF WITH ONLY PEOPLE WHO ARE GOING TO LIFT YOU HIGHER." - OPRAH WINFREY

Dr. Brenetia

Beverly

Wendy

Jacqueline

ADAMS-ROBINSON

BROWN

CAMPBELL

DELANE

Shontina

Conchetta

Cyrena

GARVIN

GLADNEY

JONES

MARTIN

Jojopahmaria

Dr.Keshia

Linda Michelle

Rachel

NSOROMA

TATE

TRAINER

WALLACE

Tandra

Tamara

Shauna

WASHINGTON

WEATHERSPOON

Shehara WOOTEN

SUMMER 2021 ISSUE ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

Thank You

2021 ADVISORY COMMITTEE Carmen Ray, Founder & Publisher Crystal Thompson, Editor Dr. Keshia Tate Yolanda Anderson-Wagner Jocelyn Gillespie-Obermeyer Sandy Malone Michael Damond Cyrena Martin Laneice McGee Dr. Pamela Hemphill-Walker Patrice Register

MAGAZINE DESIGN

BY WEMERGEMEDIA.COM Michael Damond, Creative Director Makayla Campbell, Graphic Design Assistant

SUMMER 2021

Table of Contents 6

LETTER FROM THE EDITOR

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BEYOND THE BODY

by Crystal Thompson

by Tandra Garvin

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SUN-RISE TO THE OCCASSION

by Shontina Gladney SOMETHING OLD, SOMETHING NEW, SOMETHING VIBRANT, SOMETHING BLUE!

by Shauna Weatherspoon

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THE POWER OF COMMUNITY

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THE POWER OF MENTORSHIP

by Rachel N. Wallace

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COLLABORATION: THE TRUST FACTOR

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CHOOSING TO BE EXTRAORDINARY

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BLACK WOMEN AND HEALTH DISPARITIES

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COLLABORATING WITH THE ENEMY

b y S hehara Woo t e n

by Tamara Washington COLLABORATION AT THE ROOT OF SELF CARE

25 by Linda Michelle Trainer

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GO GIRL RIDE INTERVIEW

by Trenelle Doyle

by Dr. Brenetia Adams Robinson

By Dr. Keshia Tate

by Beverly Brown

CONSCIOUS COLLABORATION:

by Jojopahmaria Nsoroma

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MY JOURNEY TO COLLABORTATIVE ECONOMICS

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TIPS ON LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE

by Conchetta Jones

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READY FOR A NEW SELF-CARE STRATEGY?

by Jacqueline DeLane

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S.I.S. SISTERS IN SUCCESS

by Cyrena Martin

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FROM OUR READERS Reader letters and comments

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by Wendy Campbell

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LETTER FROM THE EDITORS DESK

DON'T STOP!

Do Wop! Entrepreneurship is often a lonely road to travel. Be Well Magazine maintains a duty and commitment to provide an impressive cache of networking opportunities and business connections to make that road less daunting. In this issue, I am personally psyched and excited to report that success is not reserved only for the solo artist. A common misconception is that our most celebrated hero’s slaved all by themselves to attain greatness. Many men and women with brilliant ideas and genius in their genes have stopped fighting for success because the tasks were too difficult, complex, or seemingly out of reach; or so they thought. Those “should-have-beens” lacked the support necessary to coach them through to the finish.

Oprah Winfrey was already a force in her field when she became a humble mentee of the late, Maya Angelou. Young Kobe Bryant sought to BE Michael Jordan, so he became a “nuisance” to MJ in

Crystal Thompson

wanting to model his intensity, finesse, and work ethic. Who was

EDITOR EDITOR IN IN CHIEF CHIEF

Mark Zuckerberg’s (CEO of Facebook) mentor? Apple’s Steve Jobs. Moral of the story, don’t stop….DO WOP!

Who remembers when “Do Wop” was the chant of many background singers back in the day?

Those ladies and gentlemen behind the lead singer were talented in their own right, yet played their role and paid attention. Artists such as Luther Vandross and Mariah Carey were background singers who used not only their talent but their observations and experiences to rise to solo stardom. The stairway to their success includes the backs of many mentors. I implore you, readers, to follow the same advice I am taking for myself—be willing to DO WOP until you reach your goals.

DO WOP means: Do hire a “Work Out Partner” (accountability/discipline) Do “Welcome Other People” into your development plan (be teachable) Do insist that “Wants Outweigh Pride” (focus) Do “Water Our Protégés” (pay it forward).

Whoopi Goldberg said, “We’re here for a reason. I believe a bit of the reason is to throw little torches out to lead people through the dark.”

This July issue IS A TORCH!! It welcomes new contributors and welcomes back our legacies. Dig into this collection of reflections and fuel in the form of real life labors, victories, websites, books— hot off the press, interviews, and organizations that are literally extending a lifeline to those of you who are ready to WIN. COLLABORATION IS THE NEW CURRENCY. Be wealthy. Be Well.

Love and wellness to you all, Crystal Thompson

Editor in Chief, Be Well Magazine

BEAUTY SUMMERTIME STYLE

Sun-Rise to the Occassion

BY COACH SHONTINA GLADNEY

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LADIES, THIS IS YOUR SUMMER to truly be well as you hit the beaches and swimming pools of the World. You ARE putting some adult recess on your calendars, right? As I began to think about my summer agenda I promised myself that it would not be boring!

My first outfit selection was something flowing and comfortable. I found this amazing sheer jumper that hit the spot, whether I wanted to wear it throughout the day or to an amazing brunch—I was ready. As you begin to select your fashion for events and outings, just keep this simple suggestion in mind—be and do YOU!

As I played with the sunglasses I would wear these are my favorite go-to's! I do not have to take them off when I go indoors or when the sun goes down. I just flip them up, and voila! No more leaving sunglasses all over the world. Add a little flavor to your outfits and summer by purchasing an amazing pair of sunglasses.

For my head choice I opted to put on some sunscreen and wear it just like that! Well, that is…until I found this oversized sun hat that was absolutely stunning and served its purpose very well. As you plan for outdoors, prioritize protecting yourself with the proper clothing and lotions.

TO COVER UP OR NOT TO COVER UP?

SUMMERTIME STYLE

Sun-Rise to the Occassion

BY COACH SHONTINA GLADNEY

I used to be very self conscious of my body and would typically choose the first pair of shorts and tanks that I could. As I have become more confident with the skin that I am in, I still choose a flattering cover up. How about you? Cover up or not? Place your answer in the Be Well community with your favorite photo.

Swimsuits that you own! Do not forget to go for it! A nice swimsuit that fits your style, taste, and level of comfortability should be the goal here. When you put on your swimsuit, own it and just relax!

Beyond The Body Sometimes in the golden years of our lives there are many contributing factors to our declining health. Medical challenges play a part but the real path to feeling well is through fortifying your mind and soul as we treat the body.

We encourage you to start each day focused on conquering, which empowers us to overcome.

What do you need to conquer today?

Start each day with a grateful heart, focused on what you have rather than what you do not or wish you had.

What can you be thankful for today that shifts your focus and stirs your joy?

Meditate on those things and conquer each day.

Invest in yourself!

Do not wait for others to invest or fund your dreams; they don’t work unless you do. Do you have educational or professional goals?

Further your education, attend conferences, keep reading and studying. Do not limit yourself based on your current circumstances; have vision to see beyond where you are right now.

Self-care is not selfish.

Take care of yourself so you can rightly be there to care for others –

TANDRA GARVIN

LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE means being energized and

family, friends or professional partners. My career as a nurse

transformed well into your golden

practitioner is centered around caring for and meeting the needs of

years by striking a healthy balance

others. This great responsibility always presents the temptation to put others first— ALWAYS. I remind myself that others cannot drink

between Mind, Body, and Soul.

from an empty cup, therefore it is essential for me to take time out for self-care. Every chance I get, I am doing things I enjoy with those I love to refresh and be refilled.

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LET’S TALK HOME DESIGN… WITH SHAUNA WEATHERSPOON

SOMETHING OLD, SOMETHING NEW, SOMETHING VIBRANT,

Something Blue!

When I was a little girl, I always dreamed of being a successful, executive businesswoman who would live this luxurious, fast-paced lifestyle while, of course, being fabulous in every way my big heart could desire.

Well…1 husband, a total of 5 kids & 2 dogs later lol…let’s just say everything worked out a little different for my personal life; but just the way our Creator saw fit while still allowing this girl with BIG dreams to keep dreaming while serving others every step of the way.

Recently, my team and I got a call from a beautiful couple I adore. They are business executives in the beautiful windy city of Chicago who decided, ….”It’s time to move on.” I walk into this beautiful, 5-star, luxurious 2-bedroom/2 full bath penthouse Streeterville condo with full amenities to accommodate every lifestyle; has a master closet that will change your life, and then BOOM! The light bulb came on! Before we get the home ready to sell, let’s stage it to welcome the new, happy homeowners in the grandest of ways just the way anyone with BIG dreams could ever dream about!

For this edition, I really want to focus on sharing fresh & fabulous ideas that will “WOW” you, but at the same time not overwhelm you. Blue is trending something serious these days, and honey, we are here for ALL of it!

Be inspired to do a new thing over these summer months; home designs with blue are bold, yet beautiful—classic, yet masculine in the most stylish of ways that EVERYONE will enjoy.

When you think about redesigning your space, first DREAM about it! Envision yourself in EVERY single part of it; how you will live, work, play & entertain your special guests. Then finally… commit to doing all things with compassion and purpose as you design how you want and aspire to live in it.

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And while we’re at it…why not make your new space a 5-star retreat/staycation like this home offers right from your penthouse, rooftop, or all of the above??

Here are a few SW Living Pointers…

Start by neutralizing your space. Identify the pieces that take away from the home’s universal appeal.

Next, highlight your home’s features (which are often hidden gems!)

Find pieces that are timeless & generational. Don’t get sucked into only the modern styles trending currently…stay tuned in to pieces you love, that are meaningful to you & have PURPOSE! When shopping for new pieces…if you don’t love them- leave them there!

Every idea is from the heart…so I hope you love these designs & decor as much as we do!

Call for more information to check this beauty out today, as well as other homes just listed on the market!

Life off Lakeshore Drive might just be a good look on you.

Enjoy Darlings… www.shaunaweatherspoon.com 414.507.7653 BE WELL MAGAZINE FOR WOMEN

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BY SHEHARA WOOTEN

THE POWER OF

Community

AND COLLABORATION IN ACHIEVING WEALTH

“Your net worth is tied to your network.”

Over the years, I've heard this saying and I believe it to be true. As a financial planner, I believe it is imperative to track and be fully aware of your net worth aka “wealth”, which is your assets minus your liabilities. However, numbers tell a story. If you speak with anyone about their net worth they will tell you what was involved in arriving at their own net worth whether it was an investment, an inheritance, a bankruptcy, or a large loan. There is always a story behind the numbers which is usually linked to people. Your “Financial Capital” is only one facet of what is needed when it comes to building wealth. When it comes to building a strong financial future, I want to dispel the notion that one must pull themselves up by their own bootstraps in creating one’s own definition of financial freedom. Contrary to popular belief, it takes community—a community of like-minded individuals on seemingly separate paths coming together to create and make their financial dreams come true.

No one does this on an island. No one “makes it” by themselves. It takes collaboration.

Porter Gale, author of Your Network is Your Net Worth, states in an article entitled, Why Your Network Is Your Net Worth, “I believe your social capital, or your ability to build a network of authentic personal and professional relationships, not your financial capital, is the most important asset in your portfolio. I believe that seeking out and working in collaboration with others who share your interests and values will provide a stronger foundation, enabling you to reach a higher level of success than you would on your own.” What a powerful word to embrace, “Social Capital”. I believe creating harmony between your social capital and financial capital allows you to eliminate the selfish pursuit of wealth. I truly believe it keeps you grounded. I also think it's a fun way to develop relationships along the way and create memories that last a lifetime.

“I believe your social capital, or your ability to build a network of authentic personal and professional relationships, not your financial capital, is the most important asset in your portfolio. I believe that seeking out and working in collaboration with others who share your interests and values will provide a stronger foundation, enabling you to reach a higher level of success than you would on your own.”

What a powerful word to embrace, “Social Capital”. I believe creating harmony between your social capital and financial capital allows you to eliminate the selfish pursuit of wealth. I truly believe it keeps you grounded. I also think it's a fun way to develop relationships along the way and create memories that last a lifetime.

There are two aspects of your wealth that enhance your social capital on your journey to financial freedom as it pertains to our collaboration being the new currency.

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BY SHEHARA WOOTEN

These are a few of the questions to ask yourself as you are building your community and social capital. When I read the book of Genesis

Those aspects are having trusted advisors and a community around you to help you along the way.

The Need for Trusted Advisors

in the Bible, I’m reminded that “…everything produces after its own kind.” What “kind” of people are in your network? You should also do the same exercise for those people in your life that are considered liabilities. How can you make sure you are creating a

positive net worth when it comes to your network and your social The power of community is displayed in the form of hiring trusted capital? It’s important to take an honest look at who is in your advisors. As a fee-only financial planner, I am a fiduciary under network and determine how to create more opportunities to meet obligation to act in the best interest of my clients and to provide

unbiased financial advice. I think it's important to have a fiduciary financial planner on your team. As a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ professional, I have gone through training and a rigorous examination which allows me to provide financial advice in multiple areas for people seeking a financial planner. There are resources by which to search for a fee-only fiduciary financial advisor/planner. Those are napfa.org which is the National Association of Personal Financial Advisors, Fee-Only Network

more people that enhance your life.

When it comes to finances, I find that there is power in community and working towards financial goals with like-minded individuals and those that have achieved more than you. Just like a team of advisors will hold you accountable, there is nothing like having a network of people in agreement to link up with that are pursuing similar or greater financial goals than you. For instance, an article

entitled, “How to stay committed to your goals: Tell someone more and XY Planning network. A CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ successful than you, says new study”, states, professional will hold you accountable, educate you on your financial situation so that you can reach your financial goals, help you to prepare for anticipated life transitions, and provide objective insight on your financial situation to help you focus on what matters. There are many professionals that wear the

“…that sharing your goal with a higher-up does more than keep you accountable, it also makes you more motivated, simply because you care what this person thinks of you.”

financial advisor title but finding one that is a fiduciary and acts in your best interest is imperative.

Accountability and motivation are immeasurable qualities Other professionals that are extremely helpful and important to your team are a tax advisor and an estate planning attorney. The tax advisor, who can also be a Certified Public Accountant, will help you navigate the tax implications of your financial decisions.

of a strong community.

As a financial planner, I help people move from unsure or anxious about money to confidence so that they can achieve their own

Another professional to have on your team is an Estate Planning

definition of financial freedom and have the peace of mind and

attorney so that you can prepare a will or trust to have in effect

security they seek. Recently, I decided to start a group coaching

upon your death. It is important to utilize professionals so that

program to provide professionals with access to a CERTIFIED

you are tapping into reliable resources on your wealth journey.

FINANCIAL PLANNER™ professional, education, accountability and community. It is great for those who don’t have that

Friends, Family, and Group Programs

community of like-minded people to surround themselves with or

Just like building our financial capital takes deliberation and

who want to increase their social capital and also want access to

intentionality, building our social capital takes time and devotion

financial education. To learn more about the program reach out to

as well. Using the Net Worth Equation as a framework, it is

Shehara Wooten, CFP® at yourstoryfinancial.com.

important to take an assessment of the people in your life that are valuable to you who would be considered an asset and the people in your life who are considered liabilities. Who are they?

What role do they play in your life? How do they make you feel?

What are their goals in life? How do their goals align with your goals? What are their strengths? What are the areas they need to develop? How can you meet more people like the ones you consider to be assets?

________________________________________________________________ REFERENCES Gale, Porter. (2013) Your Network Is Your Net Worth: Unlock the Hidden Power of Connections for Wealth, Success, and Happiness in the Digital Age. New York, NY; Atria Books.

Ohio State University. (2019, September 8). “How to stay committed to your goals: Tell someone more successful than you, says new study.” HeadTopics.com

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ENTREPRENEURS IN THE SPOTLIGHT

It's Go Time!

Ride share has become a way of life for many, nowadays. Heading to the airport or to a concert? Uber and Lyft have been the go-to in helping folks to avoid parking and, perhaps, to provide a designated driver. ENTER….The GG Team.

These women put their heads together, considered all of their previous ride share observations and experiences—some of which were wreaked in trauma, discrimination, and fear—and decided to change the game.

Recently, Be Well Magazine had an electrifying, virtual sit-down with Trenelle Doyle, one of the founders of GO GIRL RIDE—a new, revolutionary ride share company created to be that safer transportation option for women, yet also hoping to address other underserved groups that might find a more positive experience and refuge in their vehicles. Be Well is delighted to share this discussion filled with powerful dialogue and revelations, and also sharing Go Girl Ride’s plan for national expansion.

This video is for YOU and your family, Be Well Community! It is an ode to collaboration and…yet another dynamic addition to the BE WELL INTERVIEW SERIES. We could not ask for a better video spotlight to share in this issue! Let’s find ways to support Go Girl Ride! Watch. Listen. Enjoy!

Watch the Interview on YouTube

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THE POWER OF

Mentorship

Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another. ~ Proverbs 27:17 Public speaking was a fear of mine. I often preferred going unnoticed and hiding in the background.

No one reaches a level of success alone without help along the way. Having a good mentor or multiple mentors can be pivotal during major junctures of life —both personally and professionally. I have always been a strong advocate of mentoring and benefited from some amazing women.

Mentors can provide guidance and encouragement, steer you clear from disaster, provide insight into things you can’t see, and heal your soul (and often your body, too) when you’re hurting.

RACHEL N. WALLACE

Born and raised in Detroit, Michigan my first mentors were my parents who led, taught, directed, guided, counseled, protected and corrected me in every stage of my life. I learned from my mother how to carry myself as a lady, taking care of family and the importance of putting family first. I learned work ethic, business mindedness, and the importance of integrity from my father. Even today at 49, my parents who have been married for 57 years still shine that guiding light I need and have grown to count on from time to time. Additionally, both of my grandmothers provided my spiritual foundation—sound Godly wisdom and sharing the power of prayer. I watched my grandmothers faithfully serve in church; praying and singing church hymns. They reminded me to never be too busy to spend time with God and thank him just for who He is.

Teachers, Administers & Counselors play a pivotal role in a young person’s life... ...especially during those early formative years. My grade school teacher Mrs. Johnson continued to mentor me during middle school, high school, and even college. She was instrumental in why I chose to attend an HBCU, (Central State University in Wilberforce, Ohio) and why I pledged Delta Sigma Theta, Sorority Inc. Mrs. Johnson spoke fondly about her HBCU college experience which consequently provided me, too, with a phenomenal educational experience.

In college I was blessed with 2 idyllic mentors— Mrs. Sampson, the Director of Career Services Center, and Mrs. Devond, the Assistant Director. They took

"I can attest to having mentors that have shaped and molded me into the woman I am today because of their wise advice, guidance, and counsel."

me under their wing and impacted my life the most during my time at Central.

These ladies taught me how to dress properly and prepare for an interview. I credit them both for helping me get internships and my first two jobs after college. I still draw from their lessons after 27 years.

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THE POWER OF

Mentorship

During my 10-year career at General Motors there were two women that mentored me—Janice Simpson and Saloni Janveja. Both

women were instrumental in helping me navigate my way through GM. Janice Simpson encouraged me to go back to school to get my MBA. Later, Saloni Janveja connected me with an opportunity of a lifetime. Because of her recommendation and vision, I was able to survive a grueling interview process and land the prestigious position of Global Marketing Manager.

Lorraine Thomas is one of the most influential women in my life today.

Upon moving to Atlanta in 2009 I took a Christian Education course called, “Emotional Healing” at church. Lorraine was the teacher assistant for the class. Lorraine noted my quiet and observant demeanor; I was hesitant to share. She often referred to me as an “onion” because she recognized there were many layers I had yet to unfold. She, along with the teacher, encouraged me to write and journal. As God would have it, when Lorraine later taught a Christian education course called, “Communicating God’s Love in Relationships,” she asked me to be her Teacher’s Assistant. Lorraine is not only my spiritual mentor, she also serves as my Spiritual Mother. Her presence has been essential in helping me to discover my God-given talents and my true purpose.

Lorraine stretches, pushes and challenges me to dig deeper. Because of her mentorship, she has been able to pull things out of me I didn’t realize were in me.

Fast forward to today, I am now a conference speaker and serve as the Prayer Leader/Intercessor for the ministry. While I love and enjoy working at Cox Communications as a marketing professional, it is my work with Life Empowering Truths ministering to families and the homeless that brings me great fulfillment and joy. I credit Lorraine for helping me find my purpose.

Anyone and everyone can and should seek a mentor, however it is up to you to build and cherish the mentor relationships you have, and never take for granted the people who can help you. Above all, recognize that mentors can be everyday people who have extraordinary and timely advice. They do not have to be superheroes or millionaires or bigtime CEOs. If your mentor chooses you as mine did, agree to be chosen. If not, hand pick someone who can help you get out of your own way.

Proverbs 15:22 says, “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.”

To find out more about Life Empowering Truths Ministry, visit us at: https://lifeandtruth.org OR email us at: contact@lifeandtruth.org

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THE DESTINY D.I.V.A.

DR. BRENETIA ADAMS-ROBINSON

COLLABORATION

The Trust Factor

In our post-pandemic world, we are hearing a lot as it relates to collaborating in order to make success happen. From

corporate entities bringing resources together for community problem solving, to team members collaborating to enhance special project outcomes, to individuals bringing resources together to ensure success for the collective whole; collaboration has proven to lead to stronger, more productive outcomes for all.

At the core of any collaborative relationship is the simple but profound concept of trust. If an individual has dealt with emotional wounds caused by a traumatic situation, the capacity to trust will be negatively impacted. As a result, true collaboration will be almost impossible.

Trust is best defined as a belief or confidence in the probability that connecting to another entity will result in positive benefits. This definition recognizes that trust encompasses an inherent risk of vulnerability and the possibility of additional hurt or disappointment if trust is violated. Without trust, collaboration will never be established, or will fall apart quickly if the trust foundation is damaged.

When a person has been hurt or traumatized by life’s issues, the capacity to trust diminishes. Whether an individual is consciously aware of it or not, after trust is shaken, the subconscious mind automatically seeks to self-protect and ensure that future disappointment is minimized.

Without healing, that intense need to selfprotect will lead to feelings of ‘you against the world’, which can result in the belief that the only person you can depend on is you, undermining the capacity to pursue a true collaborative relationship.

Collaboration is the most powerful tool in today’s society to enhance an individual’s success strategy, especially for those seeking to reach their next level. So, if one’s capacity to trust has been shattered, how do you jumpstart your journey to be able to collaborate without fear? Below are 3 power strategies to propel you on the journey.

Release Your Fears: You must first face whatever has occurred in your past that fractured your capacity to trust. Dealing with your past issues will put you on the path to healing and help you deal with the fears that drive your inability to let down your guard. Healing is critical to opening yourself up to trust and potential vulnerability.

Connect Outside of Comfort: Realize that stepping out of your comfort zone to connect to someone in collaboration will not be easy; but do it anyway. Practice pushing past fears and embrace the idea of being vulnerable to trust. Start with baby steps. Begin attending network events and connecting with just one person to put yourself out there. In the process, remind yourself to give new people a chance and get to know them.

Avoid the urge to pre-judge them through the lens of mistrust.

Push Even in Discomfort: The more you put yourself out there, the easier it is to be bold in seeking more collaboration opportunities. Building trust again will take time, but it will come if you are persistent in pushing past your fears. Be adventurous in pursuing opportunities to network. Reach out to individuals you do not know who have similar goals and interests. Be willing to open yourself up to the amazing opportunities to see where a connection can lead.

Deciding to collaborate when you have been disappointed by the traumas of life will not be easy. You will need to ask yourself one simple question -- are you going to allow your fears to undermine your capacity to see your dreams manifest in your life? Success is not built in the silo of your safe environment. You must step out of your comfort zone and make it happen.

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Choosing to Be EXTRAORDINARY

COLLABORATIVE ECONOMICS Great, fantastic and AMAZING day, world!! I am more than excited to take my place on this platform and excel on the Be Well Network. Even more than that, I am elated to provide insight on the topic of Collaborative Economics being TODAY’s new currency!! I am Tamara Washington; a wife, a mother of five children—ages 23, 20, 13, 11 and 9; a grandmother to a four-year-old, and a serial entrepreneur of not one, but 5 businesses. Today I have chosen my newly established business, Not Your Ordinary Mom (N.Y.O.M) to help me break down the value of collaborative economics.

NYOM was derived from the very nature of this topic.

TAMARA WASHINGTON

You see, we know that individually we can achieve many great things; but when we join forces with like-minded individuals working with energy and in synergy toward a common goal, that is what will change the game; which in turn leaves greater imprints and changes in the world!

Life as a mom and a wife and an entrepreneur was quite a juggling act. It wasn't until 2019, that I experienced the perfect storm of my son going to college and not knowing where to start for grants. I found myself hustling with 4 jobs to ensure that he was good. I cried taking that loan out because I felt like I should have been prepared. I thought hustling was enough and I never thought to ask for help. A parent at the school whose two sons previously graduated was quite savvy and showed me the ropes of how to research and secure scholarships. After growing through that entire experience, I began to brainstorm how I could pay it forward and help someone else to be better equipped—not just with pre-college information, but for all of the struggles, successes, and failures that I had endured and valued as it pertained to business and entrepreneurship.

"We all help one another not only in making money together but in spending money together."

Tamara Washington CEO of Not Your Ordinary Mom

Not Your Ordinary Mom LLC, is an organization for Boss Moms and women. Whether an entrepreneur, a wife, a mother, or all of the above...these individuals will benefit from our consortium. I know that today's collaboration is today's new currency and that our network is our net worth. Women that join NYOM will hear from awesome, powerhouse individuals as it pertains to health, wealth, family, and fun. I assist individuals through one-on-one coaching and mentorship to GROW through the obstacles in life that they may go through. We offer free membership, platforms to access opportunities to start their entrepreneurial journey, support from other likeminded bosses, and a way to connect on all things relative. The collaboration is that individuals from my current business pertaining to travel and health & wellness lend their voices on my website, which allow them to gain exposure and support to their other platforms.

There is something to be said when we come together in numbers, aligning networks, earning and investing together; then turning around to reach for the hands of those individuals who are hungry for the knowledge to achieve and accomplish the same. That something is SUCCESS. There is no person too old or young that will not benefit from collaborative efforts! The ability to pool resources and share them, to bring together individuals from different walks of life, to pour into the masses and to cheer for one another as milestones are accomplished, is exactly what I visualize when I hear the words, COLLABORATIVE ECONOMICS. It is this very initiative that is going to make all the difference in our communities for generations to come.

So Cheers in advance to this new Currency of Collaborative Economics…

I am so here and ready for it!!

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Black Women AND HEALTH DISPARITIES

Hey You, Black Woman!

Recently, I along with six other black female doctors wrote a book titled, The Black Woman’s Health O Pedia. We could no longer sit on the sidelines and watch our sisters succumb to health conditions that could possibly be eradicated with the proper knowledge, resources, and guidance. With alarming statistics like the ones below, it is time we RISE UP and share our knowledge and expertise to help our sisters.

According to the CDC: A black woman is 22 percent more likely to die from heart disease than a white woman A black woman is 243 percent more likely to die from pregnancy or childbirth related causes A black woman is 71 percent more likely to perish from cervical cancer

DR. KESHIA TATE

In a national study of five medical complications that are common causes of maternal death and injury, black women were TWO to THREE times more likely to die than white women who had the same condition Without a doubt, ‘Houston, we have some problems! These statistics are startling and something MUST be done to address these health disparities. For decades, these imbalances have persisted and continue to grow.

It is truly alarming that regardless of socioeconomic status and economic advantages these inequalities still exist. Think about this for a moment. Some might recall when Serena Williams delivered her baby. She informed her medical providers that something was wrong with her. They dismissed her and told her that the pain medication was making her confused. It was discovered that she had several blood clots that could have been detrimental to her life. Another very prominent person, Dr. Shalon Irving who happened to be an Epidemiologist with the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, died from complications of hypertension just a few weeks after giving birth. Like Serena, Dr. Irving informed her medical team that something was wrong, but they continued to dismiss her concerns.

These are not isolated incidents.

Over and over again we hear of black women who are feeling invisible when interacting with their medical providers. Oftentimes, these providers have equated being “Black” with being uneducated, unworthy, noncompliant, or poor.

Clearly, the subconscious biases that are embedded in the medical system continue to affect the quality of care for black women. Enough is enough! We decided to change the course of these types of outcomes.

Black Woman, we want you to know that ...

we SEE you, we HEAR you, we LOVE you, we ARE you!

Get your book today!

Ebook on Amazon: drkeshiatate.com Paperback, Workbook & Notebook: gum.co/docofhealthandwealth

This book is our Love Letter to the Black Woman! We wrote this book as a response to the health disparities in the African-American communities of the United States. In particular, it was written to address some of those disparities that greatly impact the health and the lives of Black Women.

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THE GLOBAL ENCOURAGER LINDA MICHELLE TRAINER

COLLABORATION AT THE ROOT OF

Self Care

The Bible states that God is Love. I have come to know (even beyond my knowing) that it is the Love of God for me that enables me to do all that I desire to do; to recognize when I need to rest, as well as knowing when I need to work. It is that same steady stream of God’s love which strengthens me to care for others around me.

I heard a quote that said “His name is Jesus – He is happening all over the World. The roar of victory in Him is big in my spirit. Together we will do everything He has assigned us to do.” (Ken Copeland) Regardless of your religious background, spirituality is about a relationship rather than customs and habits. Similar to the GPS – Global Positioning Satellite Systems installed in our cell phones, cars, and watches that helps us to know where we are going and how to get It has been said that one of the most difficult tasks women have is learning how to practice self-love. It has also been said that self-care is self-love. Women are often experts at loving and taking care of what needs to be tended to around us, things outside of us and often neglecting ourselves until we are completely depleted of any and every form of strength or desire to continue forward. Or worse yet, until we are flat on our backs, looking up in dismay.

there, your spiritual GPS – “God’s Power System” is more than capable of directing and protecting your journey. It is activated by faith and implementing God’s Word. It begins with acknowledgement of His presence and acceptance of His gifts of supply in every need.

It is absolutely vital that you “fill your cup” so that you will be able to meet the needs of your responsibilities, while simultaneously sustaining your energy and focus to take care of yourself.

That can be accomplished by connecting to and collaborating with the

One definition of self-care is an activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional and physical health. Good self-care is key to improved mood and reduced anxiety. It is also key to good relationships with oneself and others. When considering collaboration in selfcare, I realize that self-care goes beyond just me, myself and I, but it is rooted in the essence of my life – in the Spirit inside me from which I live, move, and embody my

Creator of Creation – the Life Force inside of you. John 15, the Passion

very being.

…So you must remain in life-union with Me, for I remain in lifeunion with you. For as a branch severed from the vine will not bear fruit, so your life will be fruitless unless you live your life intimately joined to Mine.”

Just as a car cannot operate properly without the engine and instruments that work in tandem to become the essence of the car, neither can we, as human vessels, function without the Life Essence of the Creator of Creation.

Translations says, “I Am a true sprouting vine and the farmer who tends the vine is my Father. He cares for the branches connected to Me by lifting and propping up the fruitless branches…….. to yield a great harvest.…As you live in union with Me as your Source, fruitfulness will stream from within you, but when you live separate from Me you are powerless.”

The Bible states that God is Love. I have come to know (even

Your well-being is the prerequisite for the well-being of those around you. How much wiser is it to collaborate and remain connected to the Life-Source where our fruitfulness will stream from and through us?

beyond my knowing) that it is the Love of God for me that

There can be no self-care without collaboration. Herein is found the

enables me to do all that I desire to do; to recognize when I

most priceless of all sustaining collaborations. Stay connected to the

need to rest, as well as knowing when I need to work. It is

Vine, precious one, and be fruitful in your self-care.

that same steady stream of God’s love which strengthens me to care for others around me.

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BEVERLY BROWN

Collaborating WITH THE ENEMY

How does the song go?

“If you don’t know me by now……you will never, never, never, know me….”

Anyone remember that lyric? Well, if you don’t then google it and discover that Simply Red released it in 1989; and if you’re REALLY nostalgic (like me) then let’s go back to Harold Melvin and the Blue Notes in 1972! So why on earth was that the first thing that came to my mind regarding this quarter's magazine theme—Collaboration is the New Currency?

If you don’t know it all by now, then chances are you will never, never, never, know it all! The truth is, we are NEVER in the know and the NOW at the same time, but there may be a way to remedy that.

As we travel through this (now) ready-set-go climate of on-line collaboration, we have to realize that if you are not collaborating with someone, something, somehow, someway—in some form or fashion, then chances are you are feeling a little stagnant; and likely a little left behind. Wake up Dreamers, you need someone else to HELP you bring your dream to pass!

Let’s explore the definition of COLLABORATE: to work, one with another; cooperate, as in a literary work: They collaborated on a novel. to cooperate, usually willingly, with an enemy nation, especially with an enemy occupying one's country: He collaborated with the Nazis during World War II.

That second definition from Dictionary.com – very interesting. It even states to “cooperate” (usually [hopefully] willingly) with an enemy nation. How powerful is that?

Collaboration is so necessary that you may even need to collaborate with “the enemy” in order to achieve your goal.

And what exactly does that mean to you—the Dreamer and Entrepreneur?

So, of course we should, first, explore the real definition of ENEMY: a person who feels hatred for, fosters harmful designs against, or engages in antagonistic activities against another; an adversary or opponent. enemies, persons, nations, etc. that are hostile to one another: Let's make up and stop being enemies.

something harmful or prejudicial: His unbridled ambition is his worst enemy. the Enemy, the Devil; Satan.

Notice the last definition taken directly from Dictionary.com – the devil; Satan.

You mean to tell me that you may even have to collaborate with the devil? “Dreamsteerer, are you crazy?” Absolutely, I’m not; and, yes, you may have to. As the saying goes, ‘what the devil meant for bad, God can turn into good’.

The best and classic story that comes to mind is that of Joseph and what his brothers did to him (collaborating with the devil) that turned out the best for not only his family but for an entire nation. His brothers collaborated to destroy him and ended up selling him to someone else.

Once he was sold he found favor and became the leader of the King’s household. Then the king’s wife collaborated with the men in the household to say that Joseph had defiled her and caused him to be sent back to prison.

Again, he found favor among the guards of the prison and became a leader in prison. As a leader he collaborated with two prisoners to mention him to the King when he interpreted what their dreams were. Once they remembered to mention him to the King he was brought before the King and also interpreted the king's Dreams.

This collaboration caused him to be even more recognized for his Dream interpretations as he described /predicted what was about to happen to the land over the next 7 years, and produced a bounty for the king as the land dried up. This, in turn, caused his brothers to collaborate with their father to send them to Egypt to purchase food for their families. Joseph then collaborated with them to bring his baby brother and father to him to bow before him (just as he had stated in his very FIRST vision to them).

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Whenever you have a goal, dream or vision, it may involve others that will help you in ways you never thought possible, and might even align with other Dreamers you never thought would or could be part of it. Think about some of the people in your life that have participated in your Dream that you may have inadvertently or unknowingly collaborated with to achieve the final GOOD or GREAT outcome.

These same Dreamers were all a part of the bigger story, all from the very beginning. Collaboration is the new currency because CURRENCY is defined as something that is used as a medium of exchange; money. a time or period during which something is widely accepted and circulated. the fact or quality of being widely accepted and circulated from person to person.

Therefore, are you collaborating (connecting) to create the new method of currency (circulation) to get your Dream out to the new world? If not now, you may never, never, ever have a chance to at all.

When considering the person or persons that wronged you, or the family member that sold you out, or the woman or man that lied, scorned, talked behind your back, and just, down right, hurt your heart - think again.

They may have done you the biggest favor in the world.

Stay on YOUR path of GOOD and God will surely reward you in the presence of those same “wrong-doers” or “users”.

He will always put people in your path that serve a greater purpose than you can imagine at the time. We must learn to interact (collaborate) with them in order to learn and gain something even more powerful in our advancement to the greatness that God has already ordained us to have.

Thank you to Carmen Ray for collaborating with a great group of Dreamers to bring this Be Well Magazine to fruition with a great team of writers, editor, design and marketing geniuses – TRULY a great collaborative effort and I am proud to be part of it!

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JOJOPAHMARIA NSOROMA

Conscious Collaboration:

ATTRACTING HEALTHY, FUNCTIONAL, AND FUN COLLEAGUES Although I have always believed that two or more brains are better than one when taking the necessary risks to achieve your dreams, it has taken me about 40 years to attract and work with colleagues who are not only talented but healthy, functional, and fun.

When I first became self-employed, I entered into a partnership where I quickly discovered that our personal goals for the work we were mining did not match.

We separated over a project I decided to take on that was aligned with MY higher purpose, but not that of my partner. I made many more attempts over the years to find the right persons with whom to collaborate; even putting the word “collaborative” in the name of my business. But the experience of an authentic and healthy business collaboration continued to elude me.

Finally, last year, I experienced what I had dreamed of for so many years. I formed a collaboration with three other people whose personal goals and unique talents aligned with mine. Most importantly they are committed to self-mastery. (Please see my article from the Spring 2021 Be Well Magazine, Self-Mastery: How Your Business Can Thrive During a Global Pandemic.) My colleagues also believe that a lifestyle of thriving and ‘happy endings’ is the normal and natural result of doing work you love in collaboration with other fabulous and fun people.

Our first year of profit was twice the amount we anticipated, and this year we are on track to double that amount.

As a result of this very successful collaborative experience, I’ve now attracted two more situations with highly talented people committed to wellness. So, you’re probably wondering what changed for me. The answer lies in three personal and spiritual development practices I strive to do on a daily basis to raise my consciousness for attracting the experience of fulfillment in life: Morning Surrender: I consciously let go of thinking that my limited mind can figure out what is truly best for me to achieve my dreams and I prayerfully surrender to the Will of my Greater Order and Direction

Afternoon Gratitude: I consciously take a moment or two to stop and say, “thank you God & the Universe” for enabling me to receive my blessings, regardless of what form they take

Evening Forgiveness: I express willingness to let go of whatever and whoever doesn’t serve my highest good, and to receive forgiveness for any conscious or unconscious transferring of my pain onto others, and myself.

I believe that by keeping myself consciously aware of how I am feeling, thinking, and believing about myself and others, then cleaning up and releasing any and all negativity from my perception of others, life, and myself, I am able to be an empty vessel for my right stuff.

I encourage you to create or sustain your own unique practice of daily personal and spiritual development. And just watch how quickly you find yourself connected to a collaborative experience full of health, wealth, and fulfillment. May it be so. Ashé!

About Jojopahmaria Nsoroma Jojopahmaria Nsoroma, owner and steward of Higher Expectations Consulting Collaborative, is an accomplished innovator and influencer of human and organizational change. Since 1979, she has made significant contributions as a human services professional through a wide variety of educational and program leadership roles. In addition to her organizational and professional development work, Jojopah also provides spiritual coaching and guidance to individuals, broadcasts a weekly internet radio program (Wisdom Walk Talk), is a YouTube influencer (Wisdom Walk to Self-Mastery), and has published her first book, (Wisdom Walk to Self-Mastery: ancient wisdom for transforming pain). She currently resides in Santa Monica, CA where she can easily walk to the ocean, practice her skills as a classical pianist, and visit restored movie palaces in Hollywood.

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MY JOURNEY TO

Collabortative Economics FROM SEA TO SEE!

My Grandfather was one of my favorite people in the world. He was the first entrepreneur I knew personally. He owned land and rental properties in the little town of Rillito, where my family grew up. We even have a Campbell Street there. I didn’t know it at the time, but he was building a legacy for his children to leave to their children. I did not know if he partnered with anyone; I never saw anyone but him handling the business. Perhaps I was too young to know what was really going on. When my Grandfather passed, he left his business to his children. It seemed that running a business was easier with one person at the helm than it was with multiple. Everyone had their own ideas of what should happen, and everyone ended up doing their own thing with what Grandpa left them.

I went off to college to get my business degree. I knew that was going to serve me well.

I wanted to be like Grandpa. I wanted to own a hotel and live the life they led on the television show “Hotel”. Growing up in Tucson was much different than life at the HBCU I attended. There were a lot of ambitious black men and women there “getting theirs”. Attending college in the south was a totally different experience for me; probably because I used the word “totally” more than almost everyone on campus.

I did not feel I belonged.

Although I looked like them, I felt like my aspirations were not high enough. Maybe I wasn’t even black enough to be there. Most of the students didn’t know there were black people in Arizona. I felt alone.

I found myself back in the band and it was good to be surrounded by people that had a love for music, and loved being around each other working towards a common goal.

My second semester in college, I became a member of the band sorority, Tau Beta Sigma because I wanted to serve the band while enjoying being part of the band. I was part of the dance committee, captain of the Flag Line, and drill sergeant. There wasn’t room for personal agendas with over 100 people that needed to learn, master, and perform their parts in excellence. I wore my letters with pride, but never with arrogance. I loved being a leader. I loved teaching others, and I loved that the band director could count on us to do what was necessary so everyone could be great.

After college, I got married, had kids, got divorced, and got a 2nd job to support my children. I don’t know what happened to my dream of owning a hotel. I’m sure it got lost in my everyday—my new normal as a single mother. I had no time to consider a business, but I told myself after they graduated high school I would reconsider. When I thought about it again, I assumed I would align with the industry I was already in—the restaurant business. I researched what it would take to open a restaurant. When that began to get overwhelming, I “back-burnered” that dream, too.

Someone spoke to me about the travel business and I started hearing phrases like, “You are in business for yourself but not by yourself”, “…personal development system with a compensation plan attached”, “Everyone has the same opportunity”, and “COLLABORATIVE ECONOMICS.” I thought to myself ‘ok, ok this is the business spiel; I am sure you don’t mean that.’

Soon after, I found myself on a Disney cruise with Carmen Ray and Shontina Gladney.

I knew I was out of my league being on a cruise with these powerhouse women.

WENDY CAMPBELL I figured I would be the odd woman out, doing my own thing on the cruise while they were doing their thing.

But it was their first cruise and I had something to offer them.

Knowledge of cruising. They had something to offer me. Knowledge of the business. It was an equal exchange of information, and my first glimpse of what this business was really about. My connection with these ladies provided clarity of what Collaborative Economics looks like in action. I will forever call them my Sisters because they never made me feel out of place, or less than. I have learned to speak up, be brave, follow, and lead.

"We can be great together. We can build together. Everything we do as an organization is done together. We move, grow, build, and live life together. This is Collaborative Economics, and we are better together. "

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TIPS FOR

Living Your Best Life ON THE JOURNEY TO YOUR DREAM LIFE

Greetings!

I am really happy to be a writer for Be Well Magazine, and I decided my first article should encourage living your best life. As a Personal Development and Confidence Coach, I help my clients create a life that they love—RIGHT NOW. So basically, living their best life on the journey to living their dream life.

I have decided to share some simple tips that you can implement into your life immediately. Often, we receive information and advice that is complicated to carry out; there are just too many steps. We cannot envision how to add this or that into our routine, so we become overwhelmed and, instead, do nothing.

The first four are things that you need to STOP doing. They are causing you unnecessary stress. Following these are six action items that you should START doing today. Are you ready?

1. Stop feeling unworthy – When you say or think that you are not good enough, you are not appreciating the greatness that is in you.

2. Stop hanging around with negative people – Some people are just negative about life. They never see the good in anything. Being around them for any length of time makes you take on those same negative vibes.

3. Stop living in the past – The past is just that—the past. It is gone. Do not waste your time thinking about what didn’t work, what you didn’t do, or what should have been. Leave the past in the past.

4. Stop comparing yourself to other people – This is a big one, and with social media it can be hard not to see all of the great things others are doing, and wonder why your life is not as fabulous. Don’t do that to yourself. You ARE fabulous. Where you are is where you are supposed to be at this time. If changes need to be made, don’t compare. DO something.

1. Take responsibility for your life – You make decisions for what is right for you. You are the person that can make things happen in your life.

2. Experiment with life – Start doing new things. Step outside of your comfort zone and do things that you have always wanted to do. Try something new everyday, once a week, or whenever you choose. Stretch yourself.

3. Develop an action plan and implement – Do not just wait around for things to happen. Decide what outcomes you desire, then create your action plan and start executing. Schedule these items on a calendar so that you will hold yourself accountable.

4. Find a Mentor – Is there someone who is modeling the traits

CONCHETTA JONES I want to give you some action items that you can start doing RIGHT NOW to create your best life!

When you allow the real YOU to come out—doing what you want to do and what you are destined to do, you will be able to celebrate living YOUR BEST LIFE!

that you would like, or who is doing the things that you would like to do? Ask them if they would consider mentoring you.

5. Be Grateful – Find something daily that you are grateful for.

6. Stick with it – The hardest thing to do is to stick with it once you have decided to do something different. On this best life journey, you will be stalled at different times. Just don’t stop. Stick with it.

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JACQUELYN DELANE

READY FOR A NEW SELF-CARE STRATEGY?

Travel Together Well, HELLO SUMMER! This is a wonderful time of the year, especially for those of us who live in the Midwest. Our winters can often be long and brutal, but summer is finally here.

Yay! We are able to move about the planet more freely than we could at this time last year, still taking precautions as advised by scientists and health professionals in order to remain as healthy as possible.

What I really want to do is highlight and reiterate how to incorporate collaboration into your self-care regimen. There are many avenues for selfcare; do what works for you and what fits your needs.

Self-care Collaboration Suggestions: Take a walk with a group of other walkers Meet at the health club to work out with friends Select a different restaurant and meet up with business partners each month Schedule a virtual meet-up to discuss what self-care strategy works best for you Meet on Zoom to discuss highlights of a book you’re reading with others Travel with a group of like-minded individuals

Take note that this is merely a handful of activities encouraging collaboration.

Please create a list that works for you. Personally, I simply love to travel! As I always say, “Travel is in my DNA”.

Recently, I had the pleasure of traveling to Cancun with seven of my business partners. This was a collaboration that we all planned, executed, and profited greatly from. At the end of 2020 we decided to join forces and attend a free virtual training offered by one of the travel suppliers through our host agency. This training was extremely informative and beneficial. We learned all about the many brand resorts (all inclusive, of course) that are offered by this supplier. We were able to clarify information about the brand and ask questions. At the end of the training presentation I simply asked the manager (who was the presenter) if she could arrange a time for us to visit one of the resorts. This conversation led to our recent trip.

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We had the pleasure of conducting site visits at seven of the resorts owned by this brand; greeted exclusively by the resort manager at each property, and given a tour of their restaurants, spas, accommodations, pools, etc. The purpose of these visits was to acquire valuable information in order to recommend the best resort vacations to our clients based on their individual needs and desires. We had an awesome time as a team collaborating and discussing benefits the resorts can offer our clientele, the wonderful amenities, and the friendliness and personable treatment we all received!

The wisdom, the camaraderie, and positioning ourselves for higher-level earning potential is the CURRENCY gained from COLLABORATION. If you would like more information on how to collaborate with us, please contact me at yourselfcare2day@gmail.com.

In addition, feel free to visit jacquelyndelane.inteletravel.com and plannetmarketing.com/wegotravel.

In the meantime have a safe, fun-filled, exciting, self-care summer!

JACQUELYN DELANE

READY FOR A NEW SELF-CARE STRATEGY?

Travel Together

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S.I.S.

Sisters In Success

"WHEN WOMEN SUPPORT WOMEN, AMAZING THINGS CAN HAPPEN" - VIOLA DAVIS

Hey Sis, Sister, Sistah!

We are Daughters, Mothers, Aunties, Grandmothers, WOG (Women of God), Entrepreneurs, Girlfriends, and yes— we are Sisters. Have you experienced those awkward moments when you are in awe of other women yet not quite sure what to do or say? You are loving her outfit, her business savvy and confidence but instead of a compliment or asking where she purchased her shoes, you remain silent. You never make that initial contact or introduce yourself. Why is there such hesitation to jump at the opportunity to congratulate our sisters for their style, charisma, and accomplishments? And even more importantly, why don’t successful, powerful women in leadership take the time to coach, mentor and uplift those who are struggling to start a business, get promoted, or secure a seat in the executive board room? One of my

CYRENA MARTIN

favorite sayings is: “We are much more alike than different:”

Our Journeys Are a Collaboration, NOT a Competition!

“While we may be individually strong, we are collectively powerful.” ~Rakhi Voria, Worldwide Inside Sales Business Manager with Microsoft.

Collaboration is similar to cooperation. It is the process of two or more people, entities or organizations working together to complete a task or achieve a goal. Collaboration is a working practice whereby individuals work together for a common purpose to achieve business benefit.

Far too often we miss opportunities to elevate by supporting and uplifting others while on our respective paths. Yes we work hard and often discover new doors for advancement on our journeys, however we cannot forget that the goal is collaboration, not competition.

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Let’s normalize some best practices for healthy collaboration:

Create opportunities to connect away from work. Get to know each other; find out about another woman's passion, family, goals and dreams. The mere six degrees of separation is likely at play, and you will surely find something in common.

Be Trustworthy! Never repeat or share information learned without permission— no matter what!

Confidentiality will build trust and keep your reputation intact. Repeating or sharing can easily turn into or be perceived as gossip. Be the safe space for your sisters. Let them know you will be completely honest and that she will receive the support she needs to be successful. By the same token, if you are the one receiving support, be mindful of boundaries, be respectful of time, and value any corrective action or critique.

Join groups, organizations, or clubs that are in alignment with your aspirations. Be an active member and attend both educational and entertainment events. Listen, learn, ask and contribute to conversations.

Prioritize exchanging ideas and creating teams who work together to reach goals and fulfill missions so that no one person feels overwhelmed or overworked. Celebrate each other together and out loud—(“We did it!”) Those we join forces with become our best supporters because they come to know our work ethic, dedication, and desire to be successful.

Encourage, empower, and lift each other up often. It is always ok to compliment, support, and cheer on your Sister. Today is her day and it’s ok to let her shine. Acknowledging the achievements of others shows security and strength; knowing that tomorrow, someone will take time to see you at your best, too. Set competition aside— what is meant for you is meant only for you and cannot be copied or taken from you.

We are born with skills and talents which need to be nourished. Our uniqueness is what makes us successful at whatever we choose to do. Believe in yourself!

Tell your story. Transparency saves lives. Although you make it look easy and glamorous, be forthcoming about the challenges that present before the triumphs. There is a sense of empowerment when we do not feel alone in the struggle for success. We are role models! However, if we do not share the entire story (including obstacles), onlookers may give up after facing the same missteps we once encountered. Share the journey, not solely the success.

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GO BIGGER GO BRIGHTER GO BEYOND THE STATUS QUO Submitted by Melvette Scott The pandemic was a perfect example to how many of life’s events, situations and circumstances can happen beyond the status quo of what’s expected in both the expected and unexpected.

However, to go bigger, go brighter, and to go beyond the status quo encompasses who we are!

It personally means to embrace our unique experiences and implement the power and the ability to reach beyond the limits we set on ourselves and/or others may set on us. It’s to live and believe outside of the box. Go big go brighter go beyond the status quo is an appropriate topic for the SPRING issue of Be Well Magazine, because, spring represents TRANSFORMATION! Spring represents a fresh start. Spring is a new display of God's presence and power — a renewal which comes from the putting forth of Divine energy. It’s a season of harvest, and while it’s good to harvest much, we must always strive to plant bigger, brighter and beyond its status quo as well. I’ve grown so much in terms of my perspective and expectations in life.

The pandemic we’re experiencing has really opened my eyes and given me a different outlook on life that speaks to this issues theme. It’s left me inspired by the rhetorical question I live by, which is, if life’s situations, events and circumstances can happen beyond the status quo, then shouldn’t our faith present bigger, brighter and beyond the status quo?!

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