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WHAT DO YOU FINK?

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The Gift of Memories It was a Nat King Cole song, and my boyhood nickname: “Nature Boy.” My classmates meant it both mockingly and respectfully, an odd mix.

The lyrics and melody were taken from a Yiddish klezmer source as a possible “B” side for a recording, but the public went for it. So did I. I always liked the idea of wilderness, and of its message that we grew both as a species and even as individuals, from Genesis and from Evolution.

In grammar school, which was located just a quick uphill hike to the corner, I did a special project by huddling under the tables and setting up a model of the caves where as Neanderthals we lived from hunting, gathering, and mimicking what was there among the trees and fellow creatures of Eden. And the kids brought me wounded animals and birds as though I might be able to heal and cure them and then let them go free among the “lots,” the abandoned pastures and orchards.

When our own family house went up toward the firmament, my father used the camera he had purchased from a pawnshop, a leather-bound cumbersome gadget with a gorgeous emerald lens on a sort of bellows contraption and a pulley, all folded up into the complicated contraption. Dad unfolded it and posed us among his possessions to record our progress here in this compressed continent on the East Side hillside. He even had found a way to develop some of the pictures and mom placed them in a black album tucked away in a diningroom buffet

drawer.

Well, the years and decades slipped by and away and eventually I inherited the dwelling and went through all the secret closets, trunks, and boxes from the basement to the attic...and came across a large envelope of negatives.

I took them to be developed and discovered an entire history I had never seen, witnessed, remembered. There were images of newlyweds eloping from Montreal over the border to Vermont. There were portraits of the bride in the 1920s car. And there were a few images of the three sons, either sitting on the front of the gray Dodge with its license plate like a declaration of both security and flexibility. The posture of each of us hints at our characters and personalities.

Among both the surprises and the souvenirs there were a very few that were mysterious...although also familiar. In my knickers and cap with ear-muffs and my jacket with a belt to make sure I was carefully wrapped against wind and cold, I am waiting for my mother, in her housework outfit with saddle shoes, to emerge from the back door and accompany me to the car for the adventure to Thayer Street, maybe to get a hot chocolate?

There is also a snapshot of us two emerging from the cafe, if that is what it was, and my mother is huddling within the fur collar of her coat. I stare at this pair of photos trying to understand what it says about our connection.

Did you know?

Kwanzaa traces its origins to Africa and is celebrated across North America and other nations that have large populations that trace their heritage to Africa.

The holiday begins on December 26 and continues until January 1. The main components of the celebration include family, community and culture. Kwanzaa was not designed to replace Christmas. In fact, many Kwanzaa celebrants also celebrate Christmas. The word “kwanzaa” is from the Swahili phrase “Matunda ya kwanza,” which means “first fruits.” Maulana Karenga, the professor who created the holiday in 1966, chose Swahili as the language associated with the holiday because it isn’t affiliated with a particular African region or tribe. At the heart of the holiday are seven principles that celebrants embrace and follow: unity, self-determination, collective responsibility, cooperative economics, purpose, creativity, and faith.

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Yes, I had friends, comrades, brothers, neighbors, even aunts and uncles and cousins, but these images say that I needed my mother. Whoever held the camera captured it all, without comment, and I found it under the roof or rather the crawl space.

Like the soul of the house, the ghosts, the memories made actual and real.

I actually tried to get these pictures transcended into paintings that study the accidental poetry of otherwise undistinguished sketches the camera grabs, sometimes pointlessly and with artificial grins or fixed frowns against the sun. Nobody, so far, has found it a project worth pursuing. And so I tap out this memoir/essay.

“Auld Lang Syne” is a Scottish poem that was written by Robert Burns in 1788. Burns claimed when he wrote the words down and put them to music, and later sent them the poem to the Scots Musical Museum, that “Auld Lang Syne” was an ancient song, but he had been the first to record it on paper. According to Scotland.org, the phrase “auld lang syne” translates roughly to “for old times’ sake.” Others have translated it to mean “time goes by” or even as “once upon a time.” The song is about preserving old friendships and reminiscing about events that occurred during the year. Many people sing it to evoke fellowship and nostalgia, though most cannot fully get past the first verse of the song. Its lyrics are a challenge to the unfamiliar - even among those who grew up in the United Kingdom. According to a 2018 poll by the British supermarket chain Sainsbury’s, just 3 percent of people who live in England know the words to “Auld Lang Syne.” Among Scots, only 7 percent know all the lyrics. Even still, people may be content to hum along when “Auld Lang Syne” is traditionally sung on New Year’s Eve. Chanukah is a Jewish celebration that lasts for eight days and nights and commemorates the victory of the Maccabees over the Greek-Syrian ruler Antiochus IV Epiphanes roughly 2,200 years ago. Chanukah is called the “Festival of Lights” in recognition of the day’s supply of oil that somehow burned in the temple for eight days. Chanukah celebrations are rife with tradition. Families eat latkes and sufganiyot, which are fried in oil to commemorate the miracle of the oil. Children are rewarded for their Torah studies by receiving Chanukah money and presents during the eight-day celebration, which also includes a recitation of the entire Hallel.

Individuals light a special nine-branched candelabrum called a menorah. In ancient times, oil was used to light the menorah, but nowadays many Chanukah celebrants use candles to light their menorahs, which are typically placed in prominent spots in their homes. GG169423 December 2019

Gratitude, Time & Memories (Family Features) Any time can be the right time to enjoy memorable moments with family members, but the holidays present a special opportunity to have meaningful conversations and interactions with loved ones.

One of the best ways to spark creativity and generate memories is through activities that get the conversation started, whether it’s remembering favorite moments from the past or simply sharing notes of appreciation.

Gratitude Tree

Start a new tradition by creating a gratitude tree, a simple decoration you can look forward to using each year as a reminder of what you and your family are thankful for.

To make a gratitude tree, collect twigs or branches, dry them out and cut them to the desired lengths. Put the branches in a vase or decorative container. Punch holes at the tops of fall-colored paper to be used as tags then instruct guests to write what they’re grateful for on each tag.

Take turns reading the tags and tie them to the branches then keep the handwritten tags in a safe place until they can be read again each holiday season. Over the years, as the tree fills up, you’ll have a lifetime of memories to share.

Time Capsule

Making a holiday-inspired time capsule can help strengthen family bonds while preserving treasured memories and creating opportunities for future holidays when it’s time to reopen the contents.

Use a sealed container or plastic bag to protect items from moisture and mold then place the container in a box that can be decorated and stored in a safe place with related holiday decorations. Mark on the container the date it was created for future reference, and pack it with items like family-favorite recipes; notes about significant events from that year like births, weddings, graduations and more; copies of newspapers detailing high-profile happenings; and pictures, drawings and notes from the year.

If you’re patient enough to wait, try leaving the contents undisturbed at least five years to give the memories even more meaning when the time comes to relive those special moments.

Memories Tablecloth

To help keep important family footnotes front and center during future celebrations, a memorial tablecloth provides each person an opportunity to personalize a piece of popular decor. As you gather around the table for holiday meals, ask each family member to jot down a favorite memory or something he or she is thankful for along with a signature and date.

You can make it an annual event by using the same tablecloth each year and, before long, it will be filled with personal memories as a way to cherish relationships as time goes on. Just use an appropriately sized, inexpensive white canvas drop cloth. Place fabric markers in the center of the table before inviting guests to participate, and to help distinguish each year, try using different colored markers.

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‘TIS THE SEASON

by LARRY GRIMALDI

A Christmas Gift Every Day We’ve all heard the adage, “Man plans and God laughs.” As in life, it’s the truth when it comes to freelance writing. Like many writers, I keep a notebook to jot down idea, phrases, or inspirations for future columns, lest they be lost in the noise of everyday comings and goings. Occasionally, life events supplant those inspirations and what’s on the docket for that month’s PRIMETIME column. This is one of those months. So you’ll have to wait a little bit longer for “You Can’t Make it Up, Chapter II.” This summer, doctors discovered a small mass on my left kidney. Initially, there was some question as to whether the mass was malignant or not.

However, CAT scans and other tests revealed that the mass was cancerous. This was not the first time I had heard the diagnosis of cancer. In 2008, my bladder and prostate had been removed in a sixhour operation at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston. ™ Thanks to the skills of that talented surgical team in Boston, I have lived normally for the last 11 years, with very few lifestyle changes. I have watched my twin 16-year old granddaughters Kailyn and Sophia, and their 10-year brother Nicholas, grow and prosper. Last year, my son and daughterin-law welcomed a new baby boy, Benjamin Dale, Jr. into our family. Kathy and I (we celebrated 49 years of marriage in November) have enjoyed many adventures including a cross-county drive in 2015, a trips France and Ireland, a family vacation in the Caribbean, and a cruise through the Panama Canal. For the last four years, we escaped the New England winter spending a few months in Florida.

We have written two books together.

Looking back, I realized that have received many gifts in the last 11 years. You could say that I’ve been favored with Christmas gifts every month of each year since my first cancer operation in November, 2018. Those gifts of family, friends, love, support, and a strong spiritual foundation are truly priceless.

That being said, a diagnosis of cancer always carries with it an implied aura of human mortality.

The stark reality of one of the world’s most dreaded and powerful diseases is a cloud that instantly alters your perspective and places the rest of your life in physical and psychological limbo.

While initial analysis of tests indicated that only part of my kidney might need to be removed, surgeon Dr. Dragan Goolijanin prepared us for the possibility of there being “more than meets the

eye” when surgery was performed. Perhaps the entire kidney would have to be removed. The silver lining was that surgery would preclude the need for any additional treatment such as chemotherapy or radiation. I felt very fortunate that my first cancer surgery did not require any aftercare either.

At 6:00 a.m. on October 7, Kathy and I showed up at the Miriam Hospital surgical registration desk. I remember hoping that the surgical team had at least one cup of coffee in them by then. At 7:00 a.m., I was wheeled into the pre-op wing for final surgery preparations. At that point, I began the constant repetition of reciting my name and birthday to a squadron of nurses, interns, physician assistants, and doctors in Gooljanin’s team, the anesthesiologist and anyone else who asked. I was convinced that I would surrender my name and birthday to the sanitary engineer if he asked.

Finally, they marked my abdomen and I was transported into the theatre of operation. I glanced over to the console where Dr.Goolijanin would take the controls of a robot that would assist him in the surgery. I remember hoping that he had been extremely good at X-Box when he was a kid. After one last round of identifications, the final dose of anesthesia was administered and I entered the Twilight Zone.

During the five-hour procedure, Dr. Gooljanin discovered that the mass on my kidney was deeper and more extensive than originally thought. My entire kidney was removed. When he the extent of the surgery was revealed to us, my wry sense of humor clicked in to note that I didn’t have too many spare parts left.

My recovery has been a bit slower than I would have liked; but patience was never one of my more developed character traits. The long recovery has given me a chance to remember two necessary elements of a contented and mindful life… appreciation and gratitude. I have vowed to appreciate and be grateful for the gifts of family, friends, health, and solid spiritual beliefs. I realize that I receive precious and invaluable Christmas gifts every day….the gift of life and another chance to live it one day at a time.

I wish you a very joyous and peaceful Holiday Season and best wishes for a happy, healthy, and productive New Year.

Larry Grimaldi is a retired freelance writer living in North Providence. Comments can be e-mailed to lvgrimald2149@gmail.com.

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Fat Is Good Sometimes With the holiday season upon us (always a challenge when it comes to weight control), I’ve gone into my files for some information that put a spring in my retirement step.

A study from York University’s Faculty of Health News blog showed that, under certain conditions, people who are obese are actually less likely to die of cardiovascular causes than skinny folks. I’ll bet that got a lot of you to sit up and take notice.

The study was conducted by a team of mostly Canadian scientists over a 16-year period. The team compared the mortality risk of 6,000 obese Americans with that of lean subjects. Here’s the catch. The chubby folks had to already be a tad overweight as young adults and had to have been less obsessed with losing weight than the lean folks. That is, they would have tried less often throughout their lives to lose weight.

The pleasingly plump also had to have no serious “physical, psychological or physiological impairments.” I did not dig for details on what impairments made the list. In my experience, Canadians have a much higher tolerance than Americans for non-conforming behavior, so I’d probably clear the hurdle on this one.

Apparently, being content with one’s body, even if it was carrying a few more pounds than ideal, meant that these subjects were likely to have a healthy lifestyle. They were physically active and ate healthy food (though probably too much of it). The combination of activity and a balanced diet with lots of fruits and vegetables seems to lead to healthier hearts than yo-yo dieting.

I’ve been on more than an occasional diet throughout my life, but I wouldn’t say that I fall into the yo-yo category. I was more of a “special occasion” dieter. You know, upcoming vacation to a beach destination, good friend’s wedding, high school or college reunion. By the time I reached my forties it was more like “important job interview.” You can imagine how rare those became as I got older.

Moving on to one of my favorite medical subtopics, acronyms. The researchers for this study used (and I quote) “a new grading tool, the Edmonton Obesity Staging System (EOSS).” This tool from the University of Alberta has been shown to be more accurate than the more widely known and enormously popular BMI (Body Mass Index) in identifying folks who need to lose weight.

For those not familiar with the BMI, here’s a layman’s description of how it works. You fill a bathtub to the brim

with water and plop your body into it. If the water that overflows takes more rolls of paper towels to mop it up than you got on sale at Costco last month, you’re probably too fat. Likewise, if you float when you get into the tub, you should think about toning up.

BMI is also sometimes shortened to the catchy “pinch an inch” criteria, meaning that if you can pinch more than an inch of fat anywhere on your body, your B has too much M. (Or as my internist used to so tactfully put it, “There’s too much of you.”) Personally, I think that the fat under one’s neck should be excluded from the pinch test for those over 60. Also upper arms for women over 55.

The EOSS incorporates the BMI, waist-to-hip ratio and some obesity-related medical conditions (such as hypertension and diabetes.) High blood pressure runs in my family, and it caught up with me years ago, so I’m not sure how I would fare with the new grading tool. I figure I can’t do any worse than I would with the old one, even disallowing my neck wattle and arm flaps.

The EOSS classifies five stages of obesity. The report does not itemize these, but after considerable digging, I’ve uncovered all five. If you recognize yourself as number three or higher, you need to lose weight even on the new EOSS scale.

The five stages are (from least obese to most): 1. I bet everyone pinched your cheeks when you were a baby.

2. Did you forget your Spanx, or is that a seriously out of control muffin top?

3. This little piggy went to market, but apparently this little piggy forgot to go home.

4. Jiggle, jiggle, wiggle, wiggle. Is there any part of you that doesn’t shake when you walk?

And the highest level: 5. YAHO (EOSS, BMI—forget how we measured it.

You Are Hopelessly Obese.)

Keep this in mind when you sit down to your holiday dinners. Or not.

Copyright 2019 Elaine M. Decker Elaine M. Decker’s books include Retirement Sparks, Retirement Sparks Again, Retirement Sparks Redux and CANCER: A Coping Guide. Her essays appear in the anthologies: 80 Things To Do When You Turn 80 and 70 Things To Do When You Turn 70. All are available on Amazon.com. Contact her at: emdecker@ix.netcom.com

Continue The Giving Spirit The holiday season is a time of giving.

The generosity on display during the holiday season may not have an official start date, but the first Tuesday after Thanksgiving Day may be the unofficial beginning of the giving season.

The first Tuesday following American Thanksgiving has been referred to as “Giving Tuesday” since 2012. The event was started by the 92nd Street Y in New York City, the United Nations Foundation and the technology website Mashable as a response to the commercialization of the holiday season and the rampant consumerism that seems to start as soon as the last bite of turkey is digested. Today, Giving Tuesday harnesses the generosity of millions of people around the world and helps millions of dollars to find its way into the coffers of organizations that need it most.

Giving Tuesday inspires people to volunteer or give back to causes that are near and dear to their hearts.

Thanks to technology, giving has the capacity to go viral and inspire others to engage in their own charitable efforts. Since its inception, Giving Tuesday has evolved.

The event now underscores how communities can harness the power of people working together to elicit great change.

Even though Giving Tuesday may be the catalyst for charitable efforts, it doesn’t need to end there. People are urged to be generous all year long, including throughout the holiday season. Here are some seasonally specific ways to give back a little more.

• Pay it forward by treating someone behind you in the checkout line to coffee, fast food, a candy bar, or whatever else suits you at the time. Perhaps he or she will do the same and keep the generosity going.

• Keep extra dollars in your pocket and be generous to charities seeking donations outside of stores. A cup of coffee or hot chocolate goes a long way toward warming up the people manning the collection pots as well.

• Adopt a family who is less fortunate and purchase some gifts on their wish list.

Many community centers and churches have contacts for needy families who could use some support this season.

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Trinity Rep Presents A Christmas Carol 42nd Annual Holiday Tradition Returns Trinity Repertory Company presents A Christmas Carol. Directed by Kate Bergstrom. Performances run through December 29. Tickets start at $27 and are available online or by contacting the box office at (401) 3514242, www.TrinityRep.com, or in person at the theater’s box office at 201 Washington Street, Providence. Trinity Rep’s 56th season is sponsored by Ocean State Job Lot Charitable Foundation and the Rhode Island State Council on the Arts (RISCA).

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A Tiny Big Role Ask Honesto Aguinaldo the names of his brothers and sisters and his parents and the third grader rattles them off. Well, of course, that’s what you’d expect only, in this case Honesto’s name is Tim and he’s a Cratchit.

Honesto plays Tiny Tim in Trinity Rep ’s 42nd annual production of A Christmas Carol running through Dec. 29th. Honesto loves the spotlight. He said he was selected for the role after two auditions. He’s been boning up on the show between schoolwork.

Among the ten most-attended productions of A Christmas Carol in America each year, Trinity Rep ’s production has become a southern New England tradition, serving over 1.6 million people since its inception more than four decades ago. Last year ’s production was the highest -selling show in Trinity Rep ’s history.

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Supporting Alzheimer’s Caregivers During the Holidays (StatePoint) More than 16 million family members and friends are serving as Alzheimer’s caregivers in the U.S. As families approach the holiday season, there are easy ways to support caregivers that can ease the burden of caregiving and help make the holidays a joyous time for everyone.

“Holidays can be stressful for all of us, but they can be especially demanding for caregivers,” says Ruth Drew, director of information and support services at the Alzheimer’s Association. “It’s easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of the holidays, but little gestures can go a long way and can be easier than you think – just one hour of help can make a big difference for a caregiver.”

An Alzheimer’s Association survey reports that many caregivers are not getting the help and support they need – an overwhelming 84 percent of caregivers say they would like more support in caring for someone with Alzheimer’s, especially from family members.

The Alzheimer’s Association offers tips for families that can help ease the burden on caregivers this holiday season: 1. Build on traditions: Caregivers may feel overwhelmed by maintaining traditions. Experiment with new traditions that might be less stressful or a better fit for the caregiver. For example, turn the traditional holiday dinner into a lunch.

2. Adjust expectations: The stress of caregiving responsibilities layered with holiday traditions can take a toll. If a caregiver has traditionally hosted family celebrations, offer to host instead.

3. Give them a break: Make a standing appointment to give caregivers a break.

Offer to spend time with the person living with Alzheimer’s to allow the caregiver a chance to run holiday errands or engage in an activity that helps he or she recharge.

4. Check in regularly: It’s easy for people to lose touch during the holidays.

Calling to check in, sending a note or stopping by for a visit can make a big difference in a caregiver’s day and help them feel supported.

5. Tackle holiday to-do lists: Caregivers are often overwhelmed by the demands of caregiving and it can be hard for them to find time to complete simple tasks that others may take for granted. Offer to tackle a caregiver’s holiday to-do list – cooking, cleaning, gift shopping or wrapping.

6. Adapt gift giving. Caregivers often neglect their own well-being. Select gifts that can help them take care of themselves and provide some relief. For example, gift a household chore service or meal delivery service.

To learn more and access resources, visit www.alz.org, the website of the Alzheimer’s Association or call its 24/7, free Helpline, even during the holidays at 800-272-3900.

Caregiving needs will intensify and become more demanding as Alzheimer’s progresses. While it’s important to check in and support caregivers throughout the year, offering additional help during this busy time of year can ensure that caregivers have a reliable and flexible support network.

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Sweet Candy! Candy is now available for adoption! She was abandoned at the Warwick Animal Shelter in the middle of the night, left tied to the fence and alone. Well no one ever came forward so she is ready to start over and find a loving forever home, hopefully in time for the holidays! She is a beautiful girl, sweet just like her name indicates and available to meet at 101 Arthur W Devine Blvd Warwick, RI. You can call for more information at 401-468-4377. The shelter is open Monday-Wednesday 12-4, Friday 12-4, Saturday & Sunday 11-3 and closed on Thursday. Please tell everyone you know about Candy, this girl deserves all the love in the world!

Meet Vinny! This handsome boy was saved from living outside! He now is learning to enjoy basking in the sunlight as it comes through the windows. Vinny has totally come out of his shell due to the love and attention he is receiving at the Warwick Animal Shelter but his dream is to find a loving home of his very own. His time spent living outside on his own must have been tough, he has a few scars to show for it and he is FIV+ but none of that has stopped this boy from being happy and playful once he feels comfortable. You can go in to meet Vinny at the shelter, they are located at 101 Arthur W Devine Blvd Warwick. You may also call for more information at 401-468-4377. Their hours of operation are: Monday-Wednesday 12-4, closed Thursday, Friday 12-4 and Saturday & Sunday 11-3. Vinny will be waiting and hoping that he will soon be snuggling up with you!

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SENIOR ISSUES

POSITIVE AGING

by PAT R I C I A R A S K I N

Being a Role Model This is a pertinent topic for me as I am an early baby boomer. At this stage in our lives, we have reached achievements and milestones. Many of us are parents and grandparents and we are seasoned in life and work.

Here are three ways I feel that we older adults can be role models.

• Create a strong support system. Many of us as we get older, have lost loved ones and become resigned to relationships that are known and reliable but do not serve us. This involves re-evaluation of our support system and reaching out for new support which will help us solve problems and live happier lives.

CLUES ACROSS 1. No longer on the market 5. W. African language 9. A way to open 11. A type of pigeon 13. Japanese warrior 15. Pelvic areas 16. No seats available 17. Not working 19. In a way, soaks 21. Growing outward 22. Ritzy local __ Air 23. Telegraphic signals 25. Metric units 26. Large wine cask 27. Fiber from the husk of a coconut 29. Gets up 31. French river 33. Witnesses 34. They make great neighbors 36. The sun does it 38. Used to store ashes 39. First Chinese dynasty 41. Network of nerves 43. Word element meaning ear 44. Metric unit of length (Brit.)

46. Tributary of the Danube 48. Off-limits 52. Appeal earnestly 53. ItÕs good to have them 54. Commercial flying company 56. Acted out in protest 57. Took to the sea 58. Cuckoos 59. Drove fast

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CLUES DOWN 1. Trapped 2. About osmosis 3. Romanian monetary unit 4. Form of Persian 5. Cold wind 6. Leave out 7. Small vehicle 8. A little off 9. Soviet Union 10. A narrow path or road 11. Contrary beliefs 12. One who speaks Gaelic 14. Private school in New York 15. Jackson and Townshend are two 18. Soldier in an airborne unit 20. Taken illegally 24. Capital of Valais 26. Male reproductive organs 28. State capital 30. One with supernatural insight 32. Starts all over again 34. Jai alai arena 35. Star Wars antagonist 37. Freestanding structure 38. The ideal place 40. The extended location of something 42. Made level 43. Distinctive smell 45. Greek goddess of discord 47. Got older 49. Type of monkey 50. Travels to 51. Geological times 55. Edge

• Merge High-tech with high-touch. Understanding the language and technology of today not only helps us build confidence, but also helps us appreciate our own communication skills. In the movie the Intern, Ben, played by Robert De Niro counsels a millennial who is lamenting about the break up with his girlfriend because of his behavior. Ben asks the young man if he has spoken to her. The man responds with “NO I texted her.” And Ben says, “You texted her?” And the man responds, “Oh, but then I e-mailed her!” Ben is amazed and encourages the man to speak face to face to the girlfriend. This is an example of being more reliant on technology than verbal communication. Our generations can learn from each other.

• Engage in positive talk about aging. This means avoiding engagement in stereotypes about aging. The subject of aging is in the repertoire of many comedians. The jokes refer to having less from diminished drive, sexual energy, physical capacity, brainpower, hair and function in general. These stereotypes as well as vitality are not dependent upon chronological age. In today’s world with so many advances in medicine, we are living longer and we have the opportunity to live longer, healthier and we see so many examples of this.

I think that by embracing who we are and learning how to comfort ourselves is a way to good health. If we can grow older gracefully accepting our age, wisdom, knowledge and experience, we can relax more and enjoy who we are as people.

Patricia Raskin, President of Raskin Resources Productions, Inc, is recognized as the “powerhouse voice” of positive lifestyle and aging and “positive media” pioneer. An award winning radio producer and business owner, she has served as a catalyst for creating positive change for almost four decades.

Patricia’s programs have aired on FOX, PBS, NPR affiliates and for ten years on WPRO radio in Providence. Her internet radio & podcast program, The Patricia Raskin Positive Living Show, in its seventeenth year, is heard on VoiceAmerica.com and iTunes.

Patricia has interviewed over 3,000 people including Maya Angelou, Marianne Williamson, Jane Seymour, Jack Canfield, Dr. Memhet Oz and Joan Lunden.

Patricia has worked with Blue Cross and Blue Shield of Rhode Island and Age- Friendly Rhode Island to create radio programs and seminars on healthy aging. Currently, Patricia is producing and hosting a pilot program for Rhode Island Public Television entitled “Positive Aging.”

Patricia a recipient of the 2015 Rhode Island Small Business Administration Award, presents and trainings and workshops locally, regionally and nationally.

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Festival of Lights Step back in time and enjoy an old-fashioned New England Christmas during Wickford’s 34th annual Festival of Lights.

Thousands of beautiful white lights will transform the historic village into a winter wonderland, while the streets are bustling with shoppers and the air is redolent with balsam and Christmas spice. Wickford is holiday shopping as it used to be, unhurried with personal service and unique selections.

Thursday, Dec. 5 6 p.m.: The lighting of the town Christmas tree and a visit from Santa Claus in Updike Park launches the season in Wickford. The North Kingstown High School band and community youth chorus will perform.

Friday, Dec. 6 5:30 p.m.: Santa will arrive by boat at the Brown Street dock led by his kayaking reindeer.

6-8 p.m.: There will be horse-drawn hayrides with Santa around the village. The tours launch from the Brown Street parking lot. Cost is $3 per person.

6:30-7:15 p.m.: The North Kingstown Community Chorus will sing Christmas carols in Updike Park.

7:15-8:15 p.m.: The Lafayette Band will perform its holiday concert at First Baptist Church on Main Street.

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Saturday, Dec. 7 Noon: Elves are needed to march in elf parade from The Wickford Collection at 30 West St. to the town dock on Brown Street. Everyone is invited to dress as an elf and join the procession.

12:30 p.m.: Santa will arrive by boat at the Brown Street dock led by his kayaking reindeer.

1-4 p.m.: There will be horse-drawn hayrides with Santa around the village. The tours launch from the Brown Street parking lot. Cost is $3 per person.

3:15-4 p.m.: The Ladies of the Rolling Pin will perform traditional Border Morris musical dances at Updike Park.

7 p.m.: The North Kingstown Community Chorus will perform its concert at North Kingstown High School, 150 Fairway Drive.

Sunday, Dec. 8 12:30 p.m.: Santa will arrive by boat at the Brown Street dock led by his kayaking reindeer.

1-4 p.m.: There will be horse-drawn hayrides with Santa around the village. The tours launch from the Brown Street parking lot. Cost is $3 per person.

3 p.m.: The North Kingstown Community Chorus will perform its concert at North Kingstown High School, 150 Fairway Drive.

3:15-4 p.m.: The Ladies of the Rolling Pin will perform traditional Border Morris musical dances at Updike Park.

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THAT’S ENTERTAINMENT

LIFESTYLES

by DON FOWLER

2019 Holiday Entertainment You owe it to yourself to take time out to enjoy the many arts and entertainment activities available in Rhode Island during the month of December.

Christmas isn’t just for kids, although you may wish to bring the grandchildren/ great grandchildren along as you enjoy one or more of these events.

PROVIDENCE PERFORMING ARTS CENTER Broadway’s new musical, “Come From Away” is at PPAC December 3-8, and it’s a winner.

The musical takes you into the heart of the remarkable true story of 7,000 stranded passengers and the small town in Newfoundland that welcomed them. Cultures clash and nerves ran high, but uneasiness turned into trust, music soared into the night, and gratitude grew into enduring friendships. wWhat better way to kick off the holiday season.”Dr. Seuss’ How the Grinch Stole Christmas-The Musical” is part of PPAC’s Encore series, playing December 17-22.This is the one to bring the kids to. Call 421-ARTS for reservations.

RHODE ISLAND PHILHARMONIC Handel’s Messiah is been a sellout annual event performed by the Rhode Island Philharmonic Orchestra.

Conductor Bramwell Tovey will lead the orchestra for the first time, with Christine Noel directing the Providence Singers, joined by soprano Andriana Chuchman, alto Marian Newman, tenor Isaiah Bell, and bass Gregory Dahl. The special concert is scheduled for Saturday, December 14 at 7:00 p.m. Call 2487000 for reservations.

THE ARCTIC PLAYHOUSE “The Gift of the Magi”, adapted from stories by O. Henry, will be at the Arctic Playhouse in West Warwick from December 5-21.

Directed by Rachel Hanauer, the story tells of a young husband and wife and how they deal with the challenge of buying secret Christmas gifts for each other with little money. The sentimental story has a moral lesson about gift-giving, with an interesting plot and twist ending. For reservations, call 573-3443.

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THE GAMM THEATRE The Gamm Theatre in Warwick has a wonderful holiday treat for the entire family, with the popular Christmas movie, “It’s A Wonderful Life”, turned into a live radio play.

We’ve see the production a couple of times, and it is just the right play for the holidays, as is the movie.

“It’s a Wonderful Life” is at Gamm December5-22. Call 7234266 for reservations.

TRINITY REPERTORY COMPANY What would Christmas be without Trinity Rep’s “A Christmas Carol”!

We’re proud to say that we have seen every production (two in some years) of the classic. That’s 42 + performances since 1977, and we are still enthralled with the performances every year.

The directors and cast and crew always find something new and different without changing the basic script.

One of the newer additions to the Trinity family, and one fine actor, Jude Sandy, will play Ebenezer Scrooge. The show runs through December 29. Call 521-1000 for reservations.

“Fade”, a play about a Mexican born woman and a Latino janitor plays in the downstairs theater December 5 through January 5. It is described as a witty dramatic comedy about class, integrity and culture.

FESTIVAL BALLET Festival Ballet dances the Christmas classic, “Nutcracker” on the stage of the Providence Performing Arts Center December 13-15. Bring the whole family, because this spectacular ballet has something for everyone. Call 213-0875 for reservations.

AT THE MOVIES After a less than satisfactory year at the movies, two long-anticipated films will open Christmas week: “CATS” and the last episode (so they say) of “STAR WARS”.

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YOUR TAXES

PROFESSIONAL PERSPECTIVE

by M E G C H E VA L I E R

Make a Difference: Become a Tax Volunteer If you ever wonder how to make a difference and help people in your community, then becoming a tax volunteer may be just right for you. The IRS is looking for people who will provide free tax help in 2020. You will receive all the tax training you need so you can help others file their tax return.

The IRS sponsors two programs that offer free tax help across the country.

These are the Volunteer Income Tax Assistance and Tax Counseling for the Elderly programs. Many people know them by their initials. In 2019, VITA and TCE volunteers prepared more than 3.5 million tax returns at no cost for people with low-to-moderate incomes. In Rhode Island volunteers filed more than 18,000 federal tax returns.

Here are five good reasons why you should become a VITA or TCE volunteer.

1. No prior experience needed. You’ll receive specialized training and can serve in a variety of roles. If you are fluent in another language, you may be able to help those who speak that language.

2. Free tax law training and materials. You’ll learn how to prepare basic tax returns and learn about tax deductions and credits that benefit eligible taxpayers. These include credits such as the Earned Income Tax Credit, Child Tax Credit and Credit for the Elderly.

3. Volunteer hours are flexible. Volunteers generally serve an average of three to five hours per week. The programs are usually open from midJanuary through the tax filing deadline in April. A few sites are open all year.

4. VITA and TCE sites are often nearby. More than 11,000 sites were set up in neighborhoods all over the country this year. They are often set up in community centers, libraries, schools, shopping malls and similar places. Chances are good that you can volunteer at a site near you more than 60 sites in Rhode Island.

5. Continuing education credits for tax pros. Enrolled Agents and noncredentialed tax return preparers can earn credits when volunteering as a VITA/TCE instructor, quality reviewer or tax return preparer.

As a volunteer, you’ll join a program that’s helped millions of people file tax returns at no charge for more than 50 years. Your help will make a difference. It’s people helping people. It’s that simple.

To find out more, visit www.IRS.gov/volunteers. If you’d like to become a volunteer, contact Meg Chevalier at Miguelina.y.chevalier@irs.gov.

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