Being dominant is not the most important quality of a dom

Being Dominant Is Not the Most Important Quality of a Dom I was thinking about this earlier today and wanted to get it written down. Being dominant is not the most important quality of being a dom. I cannot stand it when a dom starts telling me about how dominant they are, as if that's the only quality I'm looking for.

It says to me that they don't "get" it, that they don't understand that a mutual connection is needed before I'll even consider kink with someone.

The list of qualities I look for in a dom are pretty much the same list of qualities I look for in a friend or a lover.

I look for someone who is intelligent, confident, and down to earth. I look for someone who knows how to communicate well, because that's one of the most important things that will come into play.

I look for a whole list of qualities, and most importantly I look for someone I feel a connection with AND who I feel comfortable around... someone I think I can learn to trust.

So, don't think that just because you call yourself a "dom" and approach me, that I'm automatically going to be intrigued. You're going to have to know how to carry on a conversation.

You're going to have to show an interest in me as a person and be willing to cultivate a relationship, even if it's just a friendship.

Stop trying to lead with your sexual dominance. Lead with your friendship. Get to know me, and if we're both still interested, the rest may follow.

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