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Choosing the Right Preschool for Your Child Preventing Childhood Sexual Abuse

5 Key Strategies that Parents Need to Know

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Inside

From the editor

4 Marking Memories by the

Sea: Our Family Experience at Morillo Beach Resort

7 Preventing Childhood Sexual Abuse: 5 Key Strategies that Parents Need to Know

10 Fraser Academy: Unlocking Potential for Students with Dyslexia and Learning Differences

12 Choosing the Right Preschool

Years of Service to BC Families

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ducation extends far beyond the classroom.

It’s about understanding the style of learning for everyone—starting in preschool and extending into extracurriculars like the arts, to formal learning. Every path has a purpose to help our kids grow both academically and personally.

In this issue, you’ll find guidance on helping a Carlie Parkinson child with dyslexia, choosing the right preschool, and options for independent schools. We’re also addressing more serious topics like preventing child abuse.

Wishing you and your family a joyful school year,

for Your Child

14 Preschools to Consider 15 Tutoring Guide 16 2026 Independent School Guide

23 Painting the Future 24 Featured Art Organizations 25 5 Strategies to Support Highly Sensitive “Orchid” Children

27 Backpacks, Body Shame and the Playground of Food Talk

30 When Friendship Feels Impossible

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Making Memories by the Sea: Our Family Experience at Morillo Beach Resort

ering nature for the first time. What we do is help them all adjust and connect.”

This personalized approach turns every visit into a life-changing experience, especially for those unfamiliar with remote, untamed environments.

While at Morrillo Beach Eco Resort, we experienced hiking through lush trails, learning to surf, being immersed in the Panamanian culture, and waking to the sounds of howler monkeys. These were moments that left lasting impressions!

More Than an Eco Resort — A Way of Life

When asked what sets Morrillo Beach apart as an eco resort, the answer isn’t a checklist of features—it’s a philosophy. “It’s not just a theme. It’s a lifestyle,” Cari explained. “We want people to feel nature, not just see it.

If you don’t experience it, you won’t care to protect it.”

The goal is to foster a genuine connection between people and the environment, especially for children, so that they’re inspired to preserve what they’ve come to love. Whether it’s hearing monkeys call at sunrise or spotting a toucan overhead, guests leave with more than photos—they leave with a renewed sense of wonder.

A True Farm-to-Fork Experience

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ucked away in the remote tropical beauty of Panama’s Pacific coast, Morrillo Beach Eco Resort is far more than just a vacation destination. It’s a testament to what happens when deep respect for nature meets entrepreneurial spirit and a passion to inspire meaningful change. We were very privileged to experience the eco resort and be completely immersed in the surrounding nature.

The story of Morrillo Beach Eco Resort began in 2015 when the founders, Cari and Ryan, moved to the region and started building the resort from the ground up. It took three years to bring their vision to life, beginning with guided adventures and a restaurant in 2017, and ending in the official opening of the full eco resort in November 2018. Since 4 bcparent.ca • education issue 2025

then, Morrillo Beach Eco Resort has grown into a beloved haven for travelers seeking a balance of wild adventure, tranquility, and environmental awareness.

A Place Where Families Thrive

While the resort initially imagined that children five and up would be the ideal guests due to the rugged landscape and jungle setting, experience has shifted that perspective.

Over the years, they’ve welcomed families from across the globe. Some families with toddlers who are already intrepid explorers, and others with teens who have never stepped outside of city life.

“It’s really about the family, not the age,” says Cari. “Some three-year-olds are fearless and curious, while some teenagers are discov-

Continuing the theme of eco awareness, Cari fills her kitchen with foods grown onsite and from local farms. Farmer Ray provides her with organic, leafy greens, various vegetables, and herbs. What he does not grow, they purchase from a local woman who distributes her veggies from the farms of Eastern Panama, where the climate is a bit cooler at higher elevations and ideal to grow tomatoes, cabbage, cucumbers, and potatoes. On the resort, Cari grows her own mangoes and avocados and raises her own chickens.

The pork and beef found in some dishes are also from local farmers, who ensure the animals live happily foraging in the jungle. At the end of their lives, every bit of the animal is used to its fullest, providing for bone broth and rendered fats.

The combination of these high-quality, organic ingredients makes the most delectable dishes. Everything was delicious. Every bite had been enjoyed at the end of each meal, but there was just enough space for an appetizing dessert. My son thoroughly enjoyed the Key lime pie most nights!

Seas of Trees: A Mission to Protect the Monkeys

Alongside running the resort, Cari and Ryan are pursuing a nonprofit mission called Seas of Trees, focused on the conservation of Panama’s critically endangered monkeys.

What started as a casual observation of a local monkey troop quickly evolved into something much larger. Over time, they became unofficial caretakers for injured wildlife, including monkeys electrocuted by power lines or hit by vehicles.

As more animals were brought to them, it became clear that a formal effort was needed.

Plans to open a brewery were set aside, and the building was transformed into a wildlife rescue center, now specifically focused on primates. The first major milestone came with Melikki, a baby monkey who represented the tipping point in the journey from passion to purpose.

Though still in its early stages, the rescue center now has a network of expert advisors and is equipped to care for animals in need.

The long-term vision includes purchasing and reforesting land to eventually create a

sanctuary where injured or disabled animals can safely live out their lives in semi-wild conditions.

“We want people to feel nature, not just see it. If you don’t experience it, you won’t care to protect it.”

A Future Rooted in Compassion

While only a handful of animals are rescued each year, the work being done is already making a difference. From baby opossums to monkeys and birds, each life matters. And as the nonprofit grows, so does its potential to influence wildlife care across the region.

A stay at Morrillo Beach Eco Resort also offers children unforgettable opportunities to learn through direct experiences with conservation. Through initiatives like the Melikki Primate Rescue Center and the Sea Turtle Conservation Foundation, kids see firsthand the importance of protecting wildlife

and ecosystems. At Melikki, they learn about primate rescue and rehabilitation, and how human activity impacts vulnerable species.

The Sea Turtle Conservation Foundation introduces them to the life cycle of sea turtles, where they may even help with beach patrols, hatchling releases, or habitat protection.

These immersive activities not only educate but also inspire empathy, responsibility, and a lasting respect for biodiversity.

Visitors to Morrillo Beach Eco Resort may come for the surf and the scenery, but they often leave transformed, with a deeper understanding of their place in the natural world and the importance of protecting it.

Because in the end, it’s not just a vacation.

It’s a chance to connect, care, and contribute to something far greater.

The travel experience left a lasting impression on everyone. It is a place I will always remember and hope to return to one day.

This is a spot that is highly recommended to all! See the next page for information on how to book your own Panamanian adventure.

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Making Memories by the Sea (Cont’d)

Morrillo Beach Eco Resort is far more than just a vacation destination. It’s a testament to what happens when deep respect for nature meets entrepreneurial spirit and a passion to inspire meaningful change.

Plan Your Own Panamanian Adventure

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f you lead a busy life and want to enjoy an unforgettable vacation without the stress of planning, Morrillo Beach Eco Resort’s all-inclusive package is designed for you! Simply arrive in Panama City, and everything else is taken care of. From airport pick-up and hotel transfers to accommodations, meals, and activities, it’s all included.

Enjoy six, eight, or eleven days of surf, water sports, nature, and cultural immersion that will leave lasting memories. Packages include two nights in Panama City (one on arrival and one before departure) and three, five, or eight nights at the resort itself, where you’ll wake up to fresh, locally prepared meals three times a day, along with unlimited non-alcoholic drinks.

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Guests also have full access to surfboards, stand-up paddleboards, and kayaks, making it easy to stay active on the water. To add even more adventure, the package includes a professional surf lesson, a half-day waterfall hike, and a Panamanian Immersion Experience that connects you with the country’s rich culture. Families will appreciate kid-friendly programs such as shell painting, jewelry making, treasure hunts, and games, giving parents time to relax while children are engaged in fun, creative activities.

Pricing varies by length of stay, starting at $1,711 per person for six days, with holiday rates slightly higher from November 1 to May 2. With everything bundled into one thoughtful offering, this package de-

livers not just convenience and value, but also the chance to immerse yourself fully in Panama’s beaches, culture, and natural beauty—without the hassle of planning each detail yourself.

Morrillo Beach Eco Resort morrillobeachresort.com WhatsApp text or email Cari (no calls please): info@morrillobeachresort.com Tel: 507-6017-0965

Preventing Childhood Sexual Abuse: 5 Key Strategies that Parents Need to Know

By Jessy Wollen

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ne thing I love about the parent education nights that I teach are the wonderful and hilarious stories that parents share. Humor helps us to get more comfortable with a tricky topic.

An opening story

A mom once shared the common experience of bringing her child into the bathroom stall with her to keep her from bolting. In this case, she was on a ferry with her four year old, who saw the mom changing her menstrual pad in a bathroom stall, and was concerned about the blood. The mom gave a great explanation and mini health education lesson. Of course, kids get curious about what they see in these kinds of situations … but they are not always great about observing privacy, are they?

Fast forward to the food lineup at the ferry cafeteria where the four year old proudly and loudly announces to everyone in the line: “Hey everyone! My mom has a huge cut on her vagina, but don’t worry, she has a huge bandaid to catch the drips!”

Mortified, the mom said she wished she had Harry Potter’s invisibility cloak in that moment so she could sneak away.

Why this issue is important

When the topic is kids’ bodies, their health, and sexuality, it’s an emotionally charged topic that activates our values and our sense of safety. And yet, it’s very important that we have clarity and intention in this area of

parenting. This issue has directly impacted me and probably many of you as well. In fact, the reason why I’m in this work is because of how many unsafe experiences me and my friends had growing up in a small town in BC in the 1980–90s. The intention here isn’t to frighten or create hysteria, but to share the facts and offer actionable strategies to help you feel more empowered in preventing abuse. By having the courage to have these conversations and use these strategies, we better protect our kids, ourselves, and our communities. This is why I’m so passionate about this work, despite some of the pushback that I sometimes get.

Some statistics you should know about

I want to share some stats with you, they are sobering and tough to look at, but important for us to know as parents and caregivers.

According to a 2019 report by the Canadian Centre for Justice Statistics (CCJS), approximately 1 in 10 Canadians (10%) reported experiencing childhood sexual abuse (CSA) before the age of 15.1 The same report found that girls are more likely to experience CSA than boys.

Specifically, 14% of women and 6% of men reported experiencing CSA before the age of 15.

A 2018 study published in the Canadian Journal of Psychiatry found that individuals who experienced CSA were 2 to 3 times more likely to develop mental health disor-

ders, such as depression, anxiety, and PTSD in adulthood.2 Individuals who experience CSA are significantly more likely to develop depression and anxiety disorders. A 2018 study published in the Canadian Journal of Psychiatry found that survivors of CSA were 2 to 3 times more likely to experience these conditions compared to those without a history of abuse.3 CSA is strongly associated with increased rates of suicidal ideation, attempts, and selfharm. A 2017 study published in Child Abuse & Neglect found that survivors of CSA were 4 times more likely to attempt suicide compared to those without a history of abuse.4 OK—we got through that—the good news is that there are some proactive steps that you can take to make CSA less likely. These are based on 23+ years of parenting and 15+ years of teaching sexual health education.

5 Key strategies for preventing abuse 1.Talk with your kids and be clear about what kind of touch is—and is not—okay

You are the most important person in the prevention of CSA. Talk about the rules of touch with your child. Be specific—where the child can touch their own penis or vulva (i.e. in private, behind closed doors), which family members (be specific) can wipe your bum, and when they can learn how to wipe your own bum. This person or that person bcparent.ca • education issue 2025 7

Preventing Childhood Sexual Abuse (Cont’d) can help you wash your body, and then you will be able to wash your own body. Kids like clear examples of when a person, a safe family member, medical professional, dentist, may need to touch or help with their genitals or put something in their mouth (dental care).

I told my sons that no one is allowed to touch their penis under their underwear, except for Mama, Dada, or Auntie when she’s helping to wash their body. Being specific and talking about what is okay and not okay when your child is 3,4, or 5, in preparation for kindergarten.

2. Be aware of who is alone with your kids

Perpetrators of child sexual abuse and assault are most typically: • Male (more than 90%) • A person known to the child (approximately 50%) • A member of the child’s family (approximately 25–33%) • Over age 18 (76.8%), although it is important to note that nearly 20% of perpetrators are between ages 12 and 175 Pay attention to your intuition about who is and who is not safe. Without becoming hysterical or paranoid, consider carefully and act rationally regarding who you feel comfortable leaving alone with your child.

This includes things like going to the pool, sleepovers, and overnight birthday parties.

3. Encourage and praise kids when they are honest and create an atmosphere of open dialogue

Research indicates that childhood sexual abuse is significantly underreported. A 2013 study by the Public Health Agency of Canada estimated that only 10% of cases are reported to authorities, with many survivors disclosing abuse years or even decades later, 6 or sadly, often not at all.

Talk to your age 4+ kids about what to do if someone does touch their genitals for no reason, if they weren’t helping you. “I want you to tell me if that ever happens, I wouldn’t be mad, it’s my job to keep you safe. If someone touches your genitals for no reason, you say, “NO,” go away from that person and Tell.” Say it with your kids a few times, “NO, GO, TELL.” I ask kids to say it like a growling bear with a mean face: we won’t be scared, we will be brave, NO, Go, Tell. Talk with kids about who the safe adults in their lives are, who they can “tell”.

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4. Help them to manage their online interactions

We are currently in the wild west of having our kids online, with few or no maps on how to navigate this new world we’re all in.

We found out recently, for instance, that on a very popular online shooter video game, it’s very common for children to be shouting the N-word at each other repeatedly.

Online video games are also common places for predators to fish for new victims, often posing as a peer or an older friend.

In our home, kids aren’t allowed to be on screens behind closed doors. They do not have unlimited access and we have the right to look at any of their devices to make sure that they are being safe online. We restrict access to adult websites and other harmful materials—there are some great apps, browsers, and browser extensions for this. It’s also good—if you allow screen use—to participate in it with your children, play games with them, check out websites together, and model healthy tech use.

5. Support sexual health education in schools

Children who are familiar with the anatomical terms for their body are more likely to disclose abuse because they can clearly and accurately describe what happened to them.7 Using anatomical terms helps to normalize talk about bodies, and reduces shame. This creates a relationship with your kids where they will be more comfortable reporting uncomfortable or unsafe situations.

Perpetrators commonly target kids who appear vulnerable or uninformed about their bodies. Teaching children anatomical terms and body safety can act as a deterrent, as perpetrators are less likely to target children who can articulate and report abuse. A 2016 study found that children who were taught anatomical names were less likely to feel ashamed or confused about their bodies, which can deter perpetrators who rely on secrecy and shame.8 Sexual health education is a right that children have, and essential as a deterrent to CSA. Shift Education Inc. has an innovative product called the Sex Ed Circuit, which uses station-based learning to help teens to learn about their anatomy, consent, infection prevention, and more. If we can help you, your school, or your district with this, please reach out to me, Jessica@shift-education.com.

You’ve got this, parents and caregivers! I hope these strategies help you to navigate this tricky area of parenting and help to keep your kids healthy and safe.

About the author: My name is Jessy Wollen, I live on the Sunshine Coast BC. I’m a mother of three boys and a teacher, and my work is focused on health education, healthy relationships, and sexual health education through my company, Shift Education Inc. I’ve been doing this work for 15 years and work with many students, PACs, and school boards across BC: www.shift-education.com References 1. Burczycka, M. (2019). Childhood Maltreatment in Canada, 2019. Statistics Canada. Retrieved from https://www150.statcan.gc.ca 2. Afifi, T. O., et al. (2018). “Childhood Adversity and Mental Health Outcomes Among Canadian Adults: A Longitudinal Study.” Canadian Journal of Psychiatry, 63(11), 732–741. DOI: 10.1177/0706743718774806 3. Afifi, T. O., et al. (2018). “Childhood Adversity and Mental Health Outcomes Among Canadian Adults: A Longitudinal Study.” Canadian Journal of Psychiatry, 63(11), 732–741. DOI: 10.1177/0706743718774806 4. Martin, M. S., et al. (2017). “Childhood Sexual Abuse and Suicidality: A Systematic Review.”

Child Abuse & Neglect, 72, 10–27. DOI: 10.1016/j. chiabu.2017.07.013 5. https://www.cfchildren.org/policy-advocacy/ child-sexual-abuse-prevention/ 6. Public Health Agency of Canada. (2013).

The Chief Public Health Officer’s Report on the State of Public Health in Canada, 2013: Addressing Stigma. Retrieved from https://www. canada.ca 7. Wurtele, S. K., & Kenny, M. C. (2010). “Partnering with Parents to Prevent Childhood Sexual Abuse.” Child Abuse Review, 19(2), 130–152.

DOI: 10.1002/car.1112 8. Sanderson, J. (2016). “The Role of Body Knowledge in the Prevention of Childhood Sexual Abuse.” Journal of Child Sexual Abuse, 25(4), 389–403. DOI: 10.1080/10538712.2016.1156204

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Fraser Academy:

Unlocking Potential for Students with Dyslexia and Learning Differences

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or many children, school is a place to grow, learn, and discover who they are. But for students with dyslexia or other language-based learning differences, a traditional classroom can feel isolating, overwhelming, and even discouraging. Lessons can feel like a foreign language, and repeated struggles often chip away at self-esteem. Fraser Academy, located in Vancouver’s Kitsilano neighbourhood, is rewriting that story—turning struggles into strengths and helping students achieve their full potential. For many, that means gaining the skills and confidence to earn admission into top post-secondary institutions, opening doors to futures they once thought out of reach.

Spotting the Early Signs

Parents are often the first to notice when something isn’t clicking. Maybe a child struggles to follow instructions, mixes up sounds in words, or has difficulty remembering sequences in a story. Speech delays, challenges identifying letter sounds, or persistent mispronunciations (like “paschetti” for “spaghetti”) can be early indicators of dyslexia. These signs may appear as early as age two or three, and if left unrecognized, can grow into larger academic challenges once school begins.

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Research shows that up to 20% of the population is affected by dyslexia, yet nearly 80% remain undiagnosed. That means millions of children grow up without the specialized support they need. Early intervention is key. When families and educators understand what to look for, children can receive the right help before frustration turns into avoidance or loss of confidence.

A Targeted Approach Grounded in Research

Fraser Academy’s approach begins with a simple principle: children with dyslexia are not less capable, they simply learn differently.

The school is the only fully accredited day school in Western Canada dedicated to students in Grades 2 through 12, whose primary challenge is dyslexia or other language-based learning difference.

The foundation of its academic model is the Orton-Gillingham (OG) approach, an evidence-based, multi-sensory method designed specifically for learners with dyslexia. Instead of expecting students to adapt to traditional teaching, OG instruction adapts to them—breaking language into small, manageable steps and engaging multiple senses to reinforce learning. This method, combined with the principles of the science of reading,

ensures that children learn to read, write, and spell in a way that aligns with how their brains process information.

But teaching techniques alone aren’t enough. Success also comes from the frequency and consistency of support, with students receiving individualized lessons multiple times each week. Small class sizes—capped at 12 students—allow teachers to meet each child where they are academically, building confidence step by step. This targeted approach makes learning less intimidating and far more rewarding.

“When kids feel competent, they gain confidence in every area of life,” says Colleen Chow, Fraser Academy’s Executive Director of Training & Learning. That ripple effect— academic strength leading to emotional resilience and self-assurance—can be seen across the student body.

Transformations in Action

The stories of Fraser Academy families highlight the life-changing impact of this approach.

Daniel Wilson, a North Shore parent, recalls the moment he realized his two daughters needed something different. “It felt like they weren’t learning in a way that matched their abilities,” he says. After transferring to

Unlocking Potential for Students with Dyslexia and Learning Differences Fraser Academy, the shift was immediate. “It was incredible to see my girls not just catching up but thriving. Their confidence grew, and so did their excitement about learning.”

For Maddy from South Surrey, reading struggles turned school into a place of anxiety. Traditional solutions only added stress. “It felt like giving glasses to someone who’s blind instead of teaching them how to read braille,” her mom, Stephanie Morales, explains. At Fraser Academy, Maddy discovered that her resilience and creativity were seen as strengths. Today, she talks about her future with optimism, considering university and a career path that excites her.

Ethan from Richmond experienced a similar transformation. Enrolling in Grade 3, he quickly benefited from daily OG instruction and supportive teachers. His mom Jenny Lee, a former educator herself, calls Fraser “one of the best schools for dyslexia in Canada.”

Ethan now enjoys school, feels empowered, and approaches challenges with enthusiasm.

“What we see time and again is that once children are truly understood and supported, they flourish—not just in the classroom, but socially and emotionally as well,” says Dennis Innes, Fraser Academy’s Head of School. “The transformation is remarkable.

Students who once felt defeated begin to see themselves as capable learners and confident individuals. That shift doesn’t just change their academic path—it changes the trajectory of all aspects of their lives.”

Beyond Academics

Fraser Academy is committed to educating the whole child. In addition to literacy instruction, students participate in a broad curriculum that includes daily physical education, fine and applied arts, drama, music, and leadership development. These experiences build confidence outside the classroom and allow students to explore passions that may one day guide their careers.

Recognizing that many children with dyslexia also face challenges in areas like mathematics and executive function, the school offers tailored instruction in both areas. For executive functioning, the school embeds its approach across the board by both explicitly teaching about the different executive function skills and equipping students with time, tools and strategies to practice these skills. For math, the school provides teacher training to enhance teachers’ ability to support students

with challenges in math, as well as employing additional math remediation specialists to support in math classes to help target specific needs.

This wraparound support ensures that once children make progress in literacy, they are also equipped to succeed in other key areas.

Building Community and Expanding Access

The impact of Fraser Academy extends beyond the classroom. For many families, the school is a lifeline. Parents find comfort knowing their children are surrounded by peers who also learn differently, while students build friendships across grades that provide encouragement and mentorship.

“Ethan has a mentor-like bond with older students and friends across different grades,” Jenny shares. “Fraser Academy is such a supportive place, not just for him, but for us as parents too.”

Accessibility is also a priority. The school provides a bus service connecting students from across Metro Vancouver, including the North Shore, Richmond, and South Surrey.

To ease financial barriers, donor-funded bursaries, sibling discounts, and tuition relief strategies are available, reducing costs for eligible families by 20-70%.

Beyond the day school, the Fraser Academy Outreach Centre (FAx) reaches into the wider community. Families can access tutoring, consulting, and Summer Boost Camp, along with free early literacy screenings. These screenings, offered in partnership with Kitsilano Neighbourhood House, identify children at risk for reading difficulties and provide a parent workshop as well as up to six weeks of free intervention. FAx tutoring services are offered 1:1, in-person and online, and include OrtonGillingham instruction to build foundational skills in reading, writing and spelling, Math Essentials, a structured program that builds strong numeracy skills, and executive function coaching, which helps students improve organization, time management, and working memory. Another tutoring option, NILD Educational Therapy, takes a holistic view of learning by developing academic abilities alongside growth mindset practices.

Preparing for the Future

Fraser Academy’s day school also helps students prepare for life after graduation.

Experiential programs such as Odyssey, designed for Grade 11’s, is a research-based and innovative curriculum where students spend time in field work and expeditions developing leadership skills, improving executive functioning skills, understanding risk and decision-making, and cultivating personal, environmental, and social awareness. Graduates leave not only with academic strength but also with real-world skills that carry them into adulthood.

Technology also plays a role in bridging gaps. While tools like spellcheck and AI can help level the playing field, Fraser emphasizes the importance of foundational skills.

Students are taught to use technology as a support, not a crutch, ensuring they can communicate effectively, think critically, and understand their own work.

The results are impressive: 95% of Fraser Academy graduates pursue post-secondary education, entering fields as diverse as engineering, healthcare, creative arts, and entrepreneurship.

Why Fraser Academy Matters

Dyslexia is often misunderstood, mistakenly seen as a limitation rather than a difference. Yet research and experience show that individuals with dyslexia frequently excel in creativity, problem-solving, and innovation. With the right support, these traits can become superpowers.

Fraser Academy exists to unlock that potential. By combining structured literacy with a holistic, nurturing environment, the school transforms not just the lives of students but also the dynamics of entire families.

As Daniel reflects, “When your kids are in the right environment, it transforms not just their lives, but the whole family.” Stephanie adds, “Maddy feels hopeful about her future.”

And Jenny concludes simply: “We’re all happier because of it.”

Discover What’s Possible

Fraser Academy is more than a school— it’s a community, a support system, and a springboard for future success. For families searching for answers, it offers something even more powerful: hope.

Learn more at fraseracademy.ca, call 604-736-5575, or email admissions@fraseracademy.ca to schedule a personalized tour. Let’s unlock your child’s potential together. bcparent.ca • education issue 2025 11

Choosing the Right Preschool for Your Child

By Sarah Jensen, Early Childhood Education Writer

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hoosing a preschool is one of the most important decisions parents make in their child’s early years.

While it’s easy to think of preschool as simply childcare, the reality is that it’s so much more. Preschool is where children begin developing social and emotional skills, building confidence, and laying the foundation for a lifelong love of learning.

But with so many choices it can be overwhelming to know where to start. Should you go with the closest location? An available space? Or the program your friend swears by?

The truth is finding the right preschool means looking beyond convenience and availability. It’s about finding the environment where your child will thrive.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you choose the best preschool for your family.

Step 1: Know What Matters to Your Family

Before you start touring schools or filling out applications, take time to think about what’s important to you. Ask yourself: • Do I want a play-based, academic, or alternative philosophy?

• How structured do I want my child’s day to be?

• Is location or schedule flexibility a top priority?

• What budget is realistic for our family?

Understanding your priorities makes the search less overwhelming and helps you evaluate options more clearly.

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Step 2: Learn About the Different Types of Preschools

Not all preschools are the same. Each has a unique approach to early childhood education. Here are the most common types you may encounter: Play-Based Preschools

• Philosophy: Children learn best through play and exploration.

• Classroom style: Toys, art, music, and freechoice centers like blocks, dramatic play, and sensory tables.

• Focus: Social skills, creativity, problemsolving, independence.

• Best for: Children who thrive in flexible, less-structured environments.

Academic Preschools

• Focus: Life skills, concentration, responsibility, respect for the child’s pace.

• Best for: Children who enjoy working independently and families who value structure with freedom.

“An authentic Montessori preschool is the right fit for every child. Each Montessori follows a carefully planned holistic curriculum and emphasizes active, self-paced, individualized learning based on children’s interests. Specially trained teachers observe and facilitate the use of the multi-sensory Montessori materials to develop concentration and capacity for learning. Through this engaged process of discovery, children become more confident, independent, self-regulated and self-disciplined.” — Tiffany Goulding, Head of School North Star Montessori

• Philosophy: Early preparation for Kindergarten and Grade 1.

• Classroom style: Structured lessons in letters, numbers, reading, writing, and worksheets.

• Focus: Cognitive development, early literacy, numeracy.

• Best for: Families wanting a strong academic head start.

Reggio Emilia

Montessori

Outdoor Learning/Forest Schools

• Philosophy: Independence and self-directed learning, based on Dr. Maria Montessori’s methods.

• Classroom style: Specialized materials, mixed-age classrooms, and lots of choice for the child.

• Philosophy: Children are capable, competent, and full of potential.

• Classroom style: Open-ended projects, lots of collaboration, documentation of learning.

• Focus: Creativity, self-expression, critical thinking, inquiry.

• Best for: Families who want child-led learning and strong parent involvement.

• Philosophy: Emphasizes connection with the outdoors, risk-taking in safe environments, and holistic development.

• Classroom style: Activities take place almost entirely outdoors rain or shine, using natural elements as learning tools. Teachers

Choosing the Right Preschool for Your Child guide rather than direct, allowing child-led exploration and discovery.

• Focus: Resilience, confidence, creativity, problem-solving, environmental awareness, physical literacy, and sensory-rich learning.

• Best for: Adventurous children and families who value nature-based education, handson learning, and holistic development.

Multi-Disciplinary Preschools

• Philosophy: Children thrive in a balanced environment that mimics life by offering both structured and flexible opportunities to practice a full range of academic, creative, and socio-emotional skills.

• Classroom style: Free-choice centers and structured activity areas that are open or closed at different times of the day.

Emergent self-guided elements complement structured teacher-led lessons.

• Focus: Development of the whole child, preparation for success in the academic world, and life in general. Individualism balanced with a sense of community.

• Best for: Children who thrive in an environment that provides freedom of expression with opportunities to try new things and the reliability of a consistent routine.

“All children are unique, with different family backgrounds, diverse cultures, and coming from a wide range of parenting styles. Providing a first classroom that meets children where they are in their learning journey is key to building their confidence. Having a blended philosophy gives the teachers a bigger toolbox from which to help each child reach their greatest potential.” —Miss Jennifer, Director of My Whole Earth Academy Co-operative Preschools aka PPP

• Philosophy: Parents and teachers run the preschool together.

• Classroom style: Parents volunteer in classrooms and help with administration.

• Focus: Community, affordability, parent involvement.

• Best for: Families who want to be hands-on in their child’s education.

Language Immersion Preschools

• Philosophy: Children learn in a second (or third) language.

• Common in BC: French, Mandarin, Spanish.

• Classroom style: Activities conducted in the target language.

• Focus: Bilingualism, cultural awareness,

cognitive flexibility.

• Best for: Families wanting children to grow up multilingual.

Knowing these options will help you choose a program that fits your child’s personality and your family’s values.

Step 3: Visit and Observe

Once you’ve narrowed down your list, schedule visits or tours. Being in the space gives you an immediate sense of whether the preschool feels warm, organized, and inviting.

While visiting, notice: • Children: Do they look engaged and happy?

• Teachers: Are they warm, patient, and respectful?

• Classrooms: Are they safe, clean, and full of stimulating activities?

• Atmosphere: Does it feel calm and joyful, or chaotic and stressful?

Trust your gut—first impressions are often telling.

Step 4: Ask the Right Questions

During a tour, don’t be afraid to ask lots of questions. Good ones include: • What’s your daily schedule like?

• How do you handle discipline and conflict resolution?

• What is the teacher-to-child ratio?

• How do you communicate with parents?

• What’s your policy on naps, snacks, outdoor play, and screen time?

• How do you support children during transitions or separation anxiety?

Step 5: Look for Consistency and Communication

A great preschool isn’t just about curriculum—it’s about relationships. Young children thrive with consistent caregivers and clear routines. Ask about staff turnover rates and how teachers build connections with children.

Equally important is how the preschool communicates with parents. Do they send daily updates, weekly newsletters, or use apps? Feeling informed builds trust and strengthens the parent-school partnership.

Step 6: Consider Practical Details

While philosophy and environment matter most, practical considerations also play a role: • Hours of operation and flexibility.

• Location and commute.

• Cost and payment options.

• Availability of part-time vs. full-time spots.

Balancing these logistics with your child’s needs is key.

Step 7: Prepare for the Transition

Once you’ve chosen a preschool, ask about how they help children adjust. Many programs offer gradual entry, where children start with shorter days before moving into the full schedule. Talk to your child about what to expect and keep drop-offs consistent.

Some tears at the beginning are normal, but with support, most children settle quickly.

Final Thoughts

Choosing the right preschool is about finding a place where your child will feel safe, supported, and inspired to learn. Preschool is more than daycare. It’s the first step into the world of education, friendships, and independence.

Take your time, ask questions, and trust your instincts. When you find the right fit, you’ll know and your child will thrive.

Sarah Jensen is a writer on parenting and an early childhood educator with over a decade of experience helping families navigate preschool choices. She blends research with practical advice to support parents in making confident, informed decisions.

Top 5 Questions Parents Forget to Ask

When touring preschools, parents often focus on daily schedules and tuition—but these overlooked questions can reveal a lot about how the program really works: 1. How do you handle sick days and contagious illnesses? Policies vary widely and can affect your work schedule.

2. What is your approach to conflict between children? Understanding whether teachers redirect, problem-solve, or discipline is key.

3. How do you support children with different learning styles or temperaments? Every child is unique—look for flexibility in approach.

4. What kind of professional development do teachers receive? Ongoing training shows a commitment to quality care.

5. How do you help children transition into and out of your program? From the first week to kindergarten readiness, support matters.

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Preschools Worth Exploring Goodwin Academy Currently 8 Surrey locations, with a 9th opening soon goodwinacademy.ca They strive to provide safe dependable childcare when you need it. Let them care for your child. They provide parents with peace of mind through their many safety features, extended hours, educational components, arts programs, open layouts, and caring staff.

Oakridge Montessori School Vancouver, 604/263-1686 oakridgemontessori.com Oakridge Montessori School is a BC Certified, independent school for preschoolaged children to Grade 3 and is dedicated to providing all children with a vibrant, enriching, and distinctive learning journey that instills a lifelong love of learning.

My Whole Earth Academy Kerrisdale, Vancouver mywholeearth.ca They go beyond traditional preschool! They blend Montessori, Reggio, Waldorf, and the BC ELF to create personalized learning plans for every child. Their unique curriculum teaches life skills through developmentally appropriate, project-based learning. And you’ll enjoy their flexible scheduling, parentteacher consultations, and deep family partnerships. Book a visit to learn more!

North Star Montessori North Vancouver, 604/980-1205 northstarmontessori.ca North Star offers Montessori programs for Infants & Toddlers, Preschool & Elementary aged children. Committed to meeting the developmental needs of each child, we foster

a love of learning, independence, and respect.

Practical experiences build confidence and inspire an intrinsic motivation to ‘learn’ and ‘do’ that students carry with them throughout their lives.

WMA Early Learning Centre Vancouver, 604/434-9611 westsidemontessoriacademy.ca The new WMA Early Learning Centre offers year-round, full-day Montessori programs for preschool-aged children, fostering joyful learning, creativity and independence.

Located at 668 East 20th Ave, we’re the sister school to Westside Montessori Academy at 5550 Fraser St.

Providing an education as unique as your child.

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Independent and Private School Guide SCHOOL NAME Alexander Academy

400-570 Dunsmuir Street, Vancouver, BC V6B 1Y1 604/687-8832; alexanderacademy.ca

British Columbia Christian Academy

1019 Fernwood Avenue, Port Coquitlam, BC V3B 5A8 604/941-8426; bcchristianacademy.ca

Bodwell High School and Bodwell Academy

955 Harbourside Drive, North Vancouver, BC V7P 3S4 604/924-5056; bodwell.edu

Brockton School

3467 Duval Rd., North Vancouver, BC V7J 3E8 604/929-9201; brocktonschool.com

Columbia Academy

Vancouver, 778/379-6811 columbiaacademy.ca

Children’s Hearing & Speech Centre of BC 3575 Kaslo St., Vancouver, BC V5M 3H4 604/437-0255; childrenshearing.ca

Choice School

20451 Westminster Hwy, Richmond, BC V5M 3H4 604/273-2418; choiceschool.org

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16–20

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15–20

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Claren Academy

201–1085 Homer Street, Vancouver, BC, V6B1J4 clarenacademy.org Claren Academy is a progressive, independent K–7 school in Yaletown. We prepare our students for their real future with strong academics, soft skills, and plenty of joy in learning. We are proud of our small classes, amazing educators, and enrichment such as Mandarin, Claren Market, and more!

Collingwood School

70 Morven Drive, West Vancouver, BC V7S 1B2 604/925-3331; collingwood.org

Cousteau, l’Ecole Française Internationale de Vancouver 3657 Fromme Rd., North Vancouver, BC, 604/924-2457; cousteauschool.org

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Independent and Private School Guide SCHOOL NAME Crofton House

3200 West 41st Ave., Vancouver, BC V6N 3E1 604/263-3255; croftonhouse.ca

Eaton Arrowsmith

213–2150 Western Parkway, UBC, Vancouver, V6T 1V6; 604/264-8327, eatonarrowsmith.com

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Fraser Academy

2294 W. 10th Avenue, Vancouver BC 604/736-5575; fraseracademy.ca Fraser Academy is an accredited, independent day school for students with dyslexia in Grades 2–12. With personalized instruction, small classes, tuition relief options, and bus service across Greater Vancouver, they empower students to thrive academically, socially, and personally.

Fraser Valley School

19533 64th Avenue, Surrey, BC, V3S 4J3, Langley, BC 604/427-2282; fves.bc.ca

HongDe School

100-688 West Hastings St, Vancouver, BC V6B 1P1 604/416-0386; www.hongdeschool.ca

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671 Carter Road, Bowen Island, BC 604/947-9311; islandpacific.org

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420 Seymour River Place, North Vancouver, BC; 604/985-5224; kgms.ca

Little Flower Academy

4195 Alexandra Street, Vancouver, BC V6J 4C6; 604/738-9016; lfabc.org

Madrona Independent School

2064 West 10th Avenue, Vancouver BC; 604/499-7303; madronaschool.com

Mia Montessori Academy

Richmond, BC; 604/726-8428; mia-montessori.com

Meadow Montessori Elementary & Preschool

11391 Dartford Street, Maple Ridge, BC; 604/465-3492; meadowmontessori.ca Meadowridge School 12224 – 240th Street, Maple Ridge, BC; 604/467-4444; meadowridge.bc.ca

Mulgrave School

2330 Cypress Bowl Lane, West Vancouver, BC; 604/922-3223; mulgrave.com

GENDER

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Co-ed

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173

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8–12

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K–9

8–10

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Co-ed

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55

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PS–7

10–15

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16–20

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K–12

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K–12

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8–12

10–15

160

Co-ed

K–12

15

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8–12

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Co-ed

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8–15

225

Co-ed

K–12

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K–12

15

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North Star Montessori

1325 East Keith Road, North Vancouver, BC 604/980-1205; northstarmontessori.ca North Star offers Montessori programs for Infants & Toddlers, Preschool & Elementary aged children. Committed to meeting the developmental needs of each child, we foster a love of learning, independence, and respect.

Practical experiences build confidence and inspire an intrinsic motivation to ‘learn’ and ‘do’ that students carry with them throughout their lives.

Oak and Orca Bioregional School (OL)

Online; oakandorca.ca A personalised, flexible approach rooted in bioregionalism, diversity, and collaboration! With a balance of inquiry and structure, compassionate teacher guidance, and a curated collection of resources, we support home learners around BC from kindergarten to graduation (Dogwood/ Evergreen). We also have a brick & mortar school in Victoria. Inclusive supports available.

Oakridge Montessori School

7190 Oak St, Vancouver, BC V6P 3Z9 604/ 263-1686; oakridgemontessori.com Oakridge Montessori School is a BC Certified, independent school for preschool-aged children to Grade 3 and is dedicated to providing all children with a vibrant, enriching, and distinctive learning journey that instills a lifelong love of learning.

Pacific Spirit School

4196 W. 4th Ave., Vancouver, BC; 604/222-1900; pacificspiritschool.org

Pattison High School

981 Nelson Street, Vancouver, BC V6Z 3B6 604/608-8788; pattisonhighschool.ca

Pear Tree School

215–2678 West Broadway, Vancouver, BC V6K 2G3; 604/355-2155; peartree.school

Pearson College UWC

650 Pearson College Dr, Victoria, BC V9C 4H7, Canada; 604/391/2411; pearsoncollege.ca 391 2411

Pythagoras Academy

8671 Odlin Crescent, Richmond, BC V6X 1G1; 604/370-0199; pythagorasacademy.ca

Diamond School

18620 Highway 10, Surrey, BC V3S 1G1; 604/574-4736; diamondschool.ca

Richmond Jewish Day School

8760 No. 5 Rd., Richmond, BC; 604/275-3393; rjds.ca

Alcuin College

200–1046 St Georges, North Vancouver, BC V7L 3H6; 604/360-8656; alcuin.ca

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100

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25

325

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15

30

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n/a

1500–2500

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K–12

16–24

663

Co-ed

K–12

16–24

674

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K–12

16–22

545

St. George’s School

4175 West 29th Ave., Vancouver, BC; 604/221-3890; stgeorges.bc.ca

St. John’s School

2215 W. 10th Ave, Vancouver, BC V6K 2J1; 604/732-4434 or 604/629-2458; sjs.ca

St. John’s Academy

369 Boundary Rd, Vancouver BC V5K 4S1; 604/683-4572; sjavan.ca

St. Mary’s School

5239 Joyce Street, Vancouver, BC V5R 4G8; 604/437-1312; stmary.bc.ca

Saplings Nature School

1390 W 22nd St, North, Vancouver, BC, V7P 2G4; 778/838-0335; saplingsnatureschool.ca

SelfDesign Learning Community – Distributed Learning School

PO Box 74560, Kitsilano RPO, Vancouver, BC; 1 (877) 353-3374 (1-87-SELFDESIGN); selfdesign.org

Southpointe Academy

1900 – 56th Street, Tsawwassen, BC; 604/948-8826; southpointe.ca

Southridge School

2656 160th Street, South Surrey, BC V3S 0B7; 604/535-5056; southridge.bc.ca

Stratford Hall

3000 Commercial Drive, Vancouver, BC; 604/436-0608; stratfordhall.ca

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Kwantlen Park Secondary School, Surrey 604/564-0486; surreygermanschool.com Students meet on Saturday mornings to learn German in a supportive, academically rigorous environment. Classes are offered from preschool to adults and for any previous knowledge. School runs from September to May. Certificates are accepted for credit at schools and universities.

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1189 Rochester Avenue, Coquitlam, BC V3K 2X3; 604/931-7265; traditionallearning.com

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5621 Killarney Street, Vancouver, BC V5R 3W4; 604/436-2332; vfa.bc.ca

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998 West 26th Ave., Vancouver, BC; 604/736-7307; talmudtorah.com

Vancouver Waldorf School

2725 St Christophers Road, North Vancouver, BC, V7K 2B6 604/985-7435; vancouverwaldorfschool.ca

VISST - Vancouver Independent School For Science & Technology

#200 – 1490 W Broadway, Vancouver, BC V6H 4E8; 604-566-7836; visst.ca

West Point Grey Academy

4125 West 8th Avenue Vancouver, BC; 604/222-8750; wpga.ca

GENDER

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18–22

500

Co-ed

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20–30

300

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15–20

60

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PS–7

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16–20

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Westside Montessori Academy (WMA)

5550 Fraser Street, Vancouver 604-434-9611; westsidemontessoriacademy.ca Co-ed, grades K–7 (early-learning centre coming soon) WMA’s not-for-profit mission is to provide a safe, supportive educational environment that nurtures every child’s natural love of learning. We are committed to providing the tools, the guides and the prepared environment to allow each child to flourish socially and academically, reaching their full potential.

Westside Montessori School (WMS)

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Painting the Future

How Arts Education Shapes Confident, Well-Rounded Kids

By Geoffery Leigh

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n a world that often prioritizes math, science, and test scores, the importance of the arts in a child’s education is sometimes overlooked. Yet, art is not merely about painting a pretty picture or learning to play a few notes on an instrument. It is about developing skills and qualities that extend far beyond the classroom and well into adulthood. Children who engage in artistic activities gain more than just technical abilities—they nurture resilience, self-expression, and a strong sense of identity.

Building Resilience Through Creativity

One of the greatest benefits of arts education is resilience. When a child picks up a brush or practices a new dance routine, mistakes are inevitable. A misplaced stroke or a missed note doesn’t mean failure—it becomes part of the process. Learning to persevere, adapt, and try again builds the kind of grit and determination that supports success in all areas of life.

Resilience gained through creative practice becomes a foundation for tackling challenges far beyond the art room.

“Theatre and arts education gives young people the skills to work in teams, solve problems, build confidence, and be creative. All skills that are necessary for a healthy, and well rounded education that will serve them, no matter what path they follow later in life.” —Billie Murphy, School Director at Vancouver Westside for Lights Up Musical Theatre Schools A Pathway to Self-Expression

For many children, words are not always enough to express feelings or ideas. Art pro-

vides a safe and accessible outlet for emotions and thoughts that might otherwise remain unspoken. Whether sketching in a notebook, acting out a role, or composing music, children learn to communicate in ways that are deeply personal and meaningful. This freedom of expression fosters confidence—helping them feel heard, valued, and understood.

“Music teaches children to tell their own stories, shaping self-expression and the human experience. As Plato said, ‘rhythm and harmony find their way into the inward places of the soul.’ Combined with language, music supports emotional development and fosters empathy. When adults share music with little ones, it strengthens their connection to language, emotions, heritage, and culture. Introducing cultural music in early childhood, especially across generations, helps children understand that their voice matters and builds family and community bonds.” —Linda Shirley, President & Founder, The Arts Connection Strengthening Identity and Confidence

Arts education plays a powerful role in shaping a child’s identity. Engaging in creative pursuits encourages children to explore who they are and what they value. With every finished painting, every performance, and every creative challenge, children build a sense of accomplishment that strengthens their selfesteem. This confidence doesn’t stay confined to the art world—it spills into academics, friendships, and personal growth, supporting the development of well-rounded individuals.

The Ripple Effect on Other Skills

The benefits of arts education extend well beyond creativity. Numerous studies show that engaging in the arts enhances problemsolving, critical thinking, and collaboration.

Students who are active in the arts often perform better academically, as creative activities encourage focus, discipline, and the ability to see connections across subjects. In this way, the arts serve as a bridge between imagination and intellect.

“The musical knowledge that children learn and experience in the classroom helps to translate beats and rhythm. Learning tempo and making their own music can provide connections that require applying critical thinking skills.” —Donna Maurer, Musician Preparing Children for the Future

In an ever-changing world, the careers of tomorrow demand flexibility, creativity, and emotional intelligence. Arts education equips children with these essential skills, ensuring they are not only academically capable but also adaptable, innovative, and empathetic.

By fostering both creativity and confidence, the arts prepare children to meet life’s challenges with curiosity and courage.

The arts are not an “extra” in education, they are an essential part of raising confident, resilient, and well-rounded children. When we invest in arts education, we are painting a brighter, more balanced future for the next generation—one where children are free to express themselves, grow with confidence, and step into the world with both courage and creativity. bcparent.ca • education issue 2025 23

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5 Strategies to Support Highly Sensitive “Orchid” Children

By Judith Orloff MD

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ighly sensitive ‘orchid’ children are help them feel comfortable in their own skin gifts to the world and need to be now and as they mature into sensitive adults. nurtured.

As a psychiatrist and highly sensitive per- 5 Strategies to Support son myself, I’m often asked by parents for Orchid Children advice on raising their sensitive children. Like 1. Encourage openness many orchid children, I never felt like I fit Invite your children to speak openly to you or in. My ordinarily loving mother would call supportive others about their abilities. Teach me “too sensitive” and would say, “You need them to value their uniqueness and trust their to get a thicker skin.” So, I grew up believing gut feelings and inner voice. Then, they will there was something wrong with me and felt see their gifts as natural. shame about my sensitive self.

These kids are likened 2. Honor your to orchids (versus the I grew up believing there children’s feelings typically thicker-skinned Listen carefully to what was something wrong “dandelion” children) your children feel and with me and felt shame because of their vulnerrespect it, even if it about my sensitive self. able nature which lets means the occasional them tune into the emoday off from school. If tions of others, and their your child needs to crawl under the dining specific needs that must be met for them to room table or leave a large gathering, don’t be comfortable in their environment. drag them back into the party. Don’t shame For instance, orchid children are often them for wanting to escape. Just let them more reactive to stress. They often need more stay on the sidelines where they can observe alone time or prefer to be with one or a few and absorb without becoming overwhelmed. people rather than in groups. They thrive in supportive environments and struggle in 3. Educate family members and teachers negative or stressful ones. Orchard children Educate your children’s teachers and family prefer routines and stability. A predictable members about their gifts and tendency for schedule can help them feel safe and secure. sensory overload. Ask them to support your They may be overwhelmed by loud sounds, children if they are bullied or teased. strong smells, and prefer walking in nature rather than going to a big sports event. Many 4. Support your children in taking alone sensitive children prefer reading, music, or time to be quiet and creative other creative activities rather than actionEmpathic children thrive on free, unstrucpacked electronic games. tured time to be creative and allow their My new book, “The Highly Sensitive imaginations to wander. They recharge and Rabbit,” takes you on the journey of a carcalm down when they are alone. This reduces ing orchid bunny who was shamed for her their stimulation level. Sensitive children sensitivities but eventually came into her often have imaginary playmates. power and honored her needs. The book is for highly sensitive children, their parents, 5. Teach your children breathing and friends, teachers and for the sensitive child meditation exercises within everyone.

When empathic children are stressed, or if If you’re the parent of an orchid child, it’s they feel as if they’ve taken on other people’s important to support their sensitivities and emotions (including your own), teach them help them embrace their abilities. This will

to take a few deep breaths to calm down. In addition, they can close their eyes for a couple of minutes and meditate on a relaxing image.

When children learn to manage their sensitivities early on, their childhood and adult lives are easier and more fulfilling. From this perspective, parenting sensitive children is an important loving act that can support their happiness and self-esteem.

Judith Orloff, MD is a psychiatrist, an empath, and a New York Times bestselling author whose books include her debut children’s picture book The Highly Sensitive Rabbit, which is about a caring rabbit who learns to embrace her gifts of sensitivity through the support of other animals. A UCLA Psychiatric Clinical Faculty Member, she blends the pearls of conventional medicine with cutting-edge knowledge of intuition and empathy. Dr. Orloff specializes in treating highly sensitive people in her private practice and online.

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Backpacks, Body Shame and the Playground of Food Talk

What kids carry home from school in their backpacks goes beyond homework— it includes body shame and the food messages they absorb from peers.

By Penny Greening The Quiet Rise of Disordered Eating in Elementary Schools

Packing snacks and lunches was always an adventure when my daughter was in grade school. She was commonly called a ‘pickyeater’ amongst friends and teachers. By the time she stopped needing (or wanting) my help in high school, I was nostalgic for one last chance to sort through the epic challenge of ensuring she didn’t reject my latest flavour/ texture solution for the nutrients I knew her body needed for fuel.

Little did I know that by the time she graduated from high school this summer, I would know more about children’s eating disorders today than I did when I secretly struggled with two of them myself, growing up.

As a reflection of just how early kids begin forming beliefs about their worth based on how they look, a joint 2016 report by the

BC Ministry of Education and BC Children’s Hospital cites a study finding that “being fat is more frightening to some girls than cancer, nuclear war or even losing their parents.”¹

BC Children’s Hospital cites a study finding that “being fat is more frightening to some girls than cancer, nuclear war or even losing their parents.”

Children as young as second grade have been diagnosed with eating disorders, and by kindergarten, many girls already report being “concerned about their weight or shape.”

While rates are highest among girls, disordered eating is also on the rise among boys

and gender-diverse youth. Kids of all body types, in both public and private schools, are absorbing powerful messages from the appearance economy—long before we expect them to.

Body-based Bullying in Schools

Body-based bullying is the most common form of bullying in today’s schools. According to the National Eating Disorder Information Centre (NEDIC), approximately 40% of 11to 12-year-old students in Canada report having been teased about their appearance.² It goes to show just how common appearancebased teasing happens at school—especially during the vulnerable pre-adolescent years.

The fallout? It isn’t just emotional. It has serious mental health consequences.

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Backpacks, Body Shame and the Playground of Food Talk who are bullied are at significantly higher risk for: • Anxiety and depression • Low self-esteem and body dissatisfaction • Social withdrawal and academic decline • And – this one is meant to alarm you – selfharm and suicidal ideation Learning Starts at Home

The playground is like a petri dish, where the conditions are just right—peer interactions, teasing, comparison, group dynamics—for body-shame messages to grow and multiply. But it’s not the only place where body talk takes root. From climbing domes to kitchen cupboards, the pressure to get things “right”—to eat right, look right, be right—is mounting. And the cost is growing, for kids as much as for their parents.

When bullying targets appearance or body size, it often overlaps with weight stigma—a form of discrimination so normalized on playgrounds, in media, and within families that it often goes underchallenged. Why? Weight stigma isn’t new—it’s been passed down through generations. Kids overhear adults critiquing their own bodies—or someone else’s—and gradually absorb the message

that “thinner” or “muscular” is better, and that their body is something to fix.

For children who are sensitive, anxious, or perfectionistic, food can become a way to feel in control. (This is especially true for kids who are neurodivergent—those with ADHD, autism, or with traits of OCD— who may already be navigating heightened sensory input, rigid thinking, or a deep need for routine.)

For any child struggling to deal with emotional regulation – eating behaviours can quickly turn into coping mechanisms, especially if adults in their lives avoid conversations around heavy emotions out of fear of “making it worse.”

Silence does not prevent struggle—conversations do. When we intervene early, we don’t just help our kids feel better now—we help them avoid a longer and more painful road later on.

How Kids Absorb ‘Body’ Messages

Children don’t just absorb messages from the media they’ve got access to, they soak up beliefs from peers. Teasing from classmates about being “chubby,” “too skinny,” or “looking weird” can cut deeply, especially when

When kids say something negative about their body, pause before correcting.

Gentle questions— not correction— build connection and keep the door open for future conversations.

kids are already confused about how their bodies are changing while moving towards puberty.

At the same time, kids notice how their elders talk about food. They listen in on teachers, older cousins and siblings, and most powerfully— grandparents and parents.

Comments like, “I need to be good today,” or “This has too many calories,” may seem harmless but quietly teach that some foods— and by extension, some bodies—are bad.

Body image isn’t just about appearance— it’s about how kids feel in their bodies. When children start comparing themselves to older siblings or socially admired children in other grades, they may feel like their own body doesn’t measure up. This gap between perception and reality is where shame begins to settle in.

Helping children become media-literate— able to spot filters, stereotypes, and unrealistic appearance standards—builds self-protection.

But media messaging is just one piece. Kids also need space to express their feelings about food, bodies, and identity without being shut down or rushed to reassurance.

Disordered Eating Might Not Look Like What You’d Expect

Unfortunately it only takes a few months of repeated disordered eating habits to turn into a mental health crisis. A child with an eating disorder might appear healthy by any standard, at first. And depending on body type, things can fly under the radar at home and school if elders or peers take notice of weight loss as an “accomplishment”.

Newly formed food-feelings and patterns can secretly evolve when nothing else seems to help reduce stress, uncomfortable emotions, insecurity, etc. Unless a child appears underweight, most other signs of eating disorders go unnoticed. Your child doesn’t have to “look sick” to be struggling on the path towards an eating disorder. But parents can sense something is “off ”—long before a growth chart confirms it.

How to Talk About Bodies and Food— Without Shame

If your child says, “I hate my [body part],” your first instinct might be to fix it—“But you’re not fat!”

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Backpacks, Body Shame and the Playground of Food Talk in your body today. Can you tell me more about that?”

• “Bodies change in all kinds of ways. That’s normal—and it’s okay. Is there any reason you chose that body part?”

These kinds of responses normalize discomfort without reinforcing shame.

Watch out for moralizing language around food. Phrases like “You were so good today” or “Let’s be bad and have dessert” may seem playful, but they attach value to food choices in a way that can lead to confusion or guilt.

Instead, use body neutral language. Talk about how food helps us feel energized, focused, strong, or satisfied. Eating should be experienced as something safe, flexible, and emotionally supported—not a test of willpower or worth.

Age-appropriate early intervention means listening sooner and acting gently but decisively when something feels off. It means creating space for feelings, before food avoidance becomes the place where feelings hide.

What Are Some Early Signs to Watch For?

You know your child best. When their eating habits or emotional tone around food starts to shift, you don’t need to wait for extreme symptoms to take it seriously. Watch for: • Skipping meals or hiding food • Refusing to wear certain clothes or participate in gym • Talking about “fixing” or “shrinking” their body • Avoiding eating in front of others • Hyper-focusing on “healthy” foods, calories, or ingredient labels • Complaints like “I feel fat” or “This has too much sugar” • Distress about trying new foods, texture aversions, or mealtime panic Children who seem outwardly well-adjusted may be quietly distressed. Some may be praised for being disciplined, while privately dealing with overwhelming anxiety or depression.

When they say something negative about their body, pause before correcting. Try: • “Can you tell me more about when that started?”

• “That sounds like a hard feeling. Do you remember when you first thought that?”

These questions build connection, not correction—and should keep the door open for future conversations.

Resilience doesn’t mean brushing off body shame or pretending it doesn’t hurt. It means facing it openly, staying curious about our children’s inner worlds, and being willing to unlearn our own internalized narratives too.

This kind of age-appropriate early intervention simply means listening sooner and acting gently but decisively when something feels off. It means creating space for feelings, before food avoidance becomes the place where feelings hide.

References 1. D. Mogensun and L. Yiu, Understanding Eating Disorders in BC Schools: A Guide of TraumaInformed Practices for School Professionals (Kelowna: Kelty Eating Disorders Resource Centre, 2016), https://keltyeatingdisorders.ca/ wp-content/uploads/2016/06/UnderstandingEating-Disorders-in-Schools.pdf.

2. National Eating Disorder Information Centre (NEDIC), “Beyond Images,” accessed August 2025, https://nedic.ca/beyond-images/.

Penny Greening is the founder of Reframe Voices, a BC non-profit on a mission to provide early eating disorder education to parents, guardians, and educators. Drawing on research, childhood, youth and adult ‘lived’ experiences, and board experience in clinical psychology, education and parenting, Penny and her team have developed programming that helps parents break-down the hidden roots of eating disorders to lean into models of prevention and awareness rather than secrecy and shame. Learn more about the ‘Beyond Body Talk’ workshop or other ways to help families in need at ReframeVoices.ca.

Raising Resilient Kids

We can’t shield kids from every toxic message, but we can help them by building the tools for ourselves to question, reject, and replace outdated messages. bcparent.ca • education issue 2025 29

When Friendship Feels Impossible Supporting Neurodivergent Girls Through Middle School

By Kristi Rigg, CEO/Founder, West Coast Centre for Learning

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arah’s mom watches her daughter climb into the car after another school day, shoulders slumped and eyes downcast. “How was your day?” she asks. “Fine,” comes the familiar response, but Sarah’s mom sees the truth. Her bright, creative daughter sits alone at lunch while other girls chat in animated groups. She may try her hardest to fit in, yet true friendships still feel out of reach. If this feels familiar, you’re not alone. For many neurodivergent girls, these struggles show up in subtle ways — and middle school can make them even harder. Recognizing them is the first step to helping your daughter find confidence and connection.

What Social Struggles Can Look Like

For many neurodivergent girls, the first signs of social difficulty aren’t loud or disruptive, they’re subtle. She may talk over peers, get stuck on a favourite topic, or miss the quiet signals that a conversation has shifted. She might attach closely to one friend, then feel crushed if that friend needs space or turns to others.

At school, it can seem like she’s blending in, but often she’s working extra hard to “mask”—copying the behaviour of others, carefully watching for cues, and putting on a performance that hides how uncertain she feels. Teachers may call her social, but at home you see the cost: tears, irritability, or sheer exhaustion from holding it together all day.

If you notice this pattern, the most helpful step is to make home her safe place. Let her know she doesn’t have to perform for you, and that it’s okay to rest and recharge.

Small changes like creating downtime after school or simply listening without rushing to correct can go a long way toward rebuilding her confidence.

Recognizing these hidden struggles early is powerful, because it gives you the chance to support your daughter before the pressure builds. And there’s no time this matters more than in the middle school years, a stage that can be especially tough for neurodivergent girls.

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The Perfect Storm: Why Grades 5–8 are Especially Brutal

Middle school is especially challenging for neurodivergent girls. Driven by the intense desire to be liked, teens spend 95% of their days avoiding embarrassment, which makes social interactions feel like a minefield.

During these years, loyalties switch often.

Your daughter may feel left out, unable to predict or navigate the shifting dynamics.

These are often called the “mean girl” years, though it’s important to remember that this behaviour usually comes from insecurity and anxiety, not true confidence.

For a girl already working harder to decode social situations, the constant shifts can be exhausting and drain her emotional energy.

This makes it harder to form the authentic connections she wants, and why your support is so important during this stage. Remind her that she doesn’t have to change who she is to be accepted, the right friends will appreciate her just as she is.

Building Real Connections: Supporting Your Daughter’s Authentic Self

The key to helping your neurodivergent daughter lies in shifting focus from forcing social conformity to supporting authentic connections. As parents, we need to remind our children that friendship is a choice—we don’t get to be friends with everyone, and everyone doesn’t get to be friends with us.

Explore a “friendship formula” together (the qualities of a true friend). Compare this to the friendships she’s seeking so she learns not everyone will be the right fit.

Find extracurricular activities outside of school that align with her interests. These provide an opportunity for her to develop friendships that fit her “formula,” free from the stigma of daily school labels.

As your daughter explores new friendships, she will also encounter unkindness or criticism that can chip away at her confidence. Mean girls may disguise criticism as “just trying to help,” which can damage fragile self-esteem. Remind her that her value

isn’t defined by fitting in and help her sort through tricky moments. One simple way is to teach her the difference between a joke (something meant in fun), an accident (an honest mistake), and a nasty deed (deliberate meanness). This framework builds resilience and helps her feel more secure as she chooses which friendships deserve her energy.

When Professional Support Makes the Difference

Even with your best efforts, there may be times when your daughter’s struggles feel bigger than what you can manage at home. That doesn’t take away from all you’re already doing—it simply means she may benefit from some extra coaching, the way an athlete leans on a coach for new techniques. With that support in place, you’re free to take your most important role: the steady cheerleader on the sidelines, reminding her she’s capable and loved.

Professional help can mean seeing a counsellor, where girls may open up more easily, or speaking with a pediatrician for guidance.

Evidence-based programs like PEERS® for Teens and Secret Agent Society® (SAS) are designed to teach real-life social skills in safe, engaging environments where neurodivergent girls can practice authentic connection without the usual social pressures.

Reaching out doesn’t replace your role as a parent, it strengthens it. These supports give your daughter concrete strategies while freeing you to focus on being her champion.

Remember, your neurodivergent daughter is fully capable of building deep, lasting friendships. With your encouragement and, when needed, the right professional guidance, she can learn to navigate relationships with confidence and joy.

Kristi Rigg (BEd, MEd), Founder and CEO of West Coast Centre for Learning, has over 25 years’ experience supporting neurodivergent children and families. Based in Surrey, BC, WCCL provides psychoeducational assessments and award-winning, evidence-based social skills programs online and in person.

Learn more at www.wccl.ca

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