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WHAT’S INSIDE

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Upfront

Out & About: Photos From Around Town

Profile: Richard Mitchell

Local Leaders: Godfather of the West Side

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Feature: Breaking Barriers Oklahomans Who Made Black History Feature Sponsor Story: Around Town With Edgar Weston

Funny You Should Ask: The Winds of Same

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Once Upon A Time: Contemplating Life Local Legends: Lives Well Lived

Kids Calendar

On the Road: The Dos Muchachas Way Birthday Gift Turning Into a Business Venture

Chick-fil-A Events Calendar

Now You Know: Underground Railroad... A Look at Freedom’s Trail

Arts & Entertainment: BiB! Season Continues More Shows Coming to The Center This Month

Everyday Adventures: A Shark Diving Adventure

Looking Back: Eat More Holes The Story of Grayson Donut Holes

Unsung Heroes: Bill Boatright

A Good Word: Encountering Hope... In Black History Month

Tribute: Joan Pascal Killingsworth Dreisker

Annual Events: Shamrock the ‘Ville

A Fresh Perspective: A Happy Age

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UPFRONT

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Welcome to February friends. Every February since 2018, we have dedicated this issue to Black History Month. In those five years we’ve covered everything from Black towns of Oklahoma to the award winning feature story on the 100th anniversary of the “Tulsa Massacre.” That was the most emotional feature and cover that we have put together. It is still my favorite cover of all time. This year’s cover shows the struggle that many, if not all, African Americans went through just to be noticed, just to be recognized, or just to be an equal American. After looking at thousands of pictures, this one totally jumped off the page. I already had the title “Courage” in my head. I just had to find the picture to go with it. It is a powerful photo. That’s what I want people to see, but let’s not forget what it was like at one time in our history. This year I called on Natasha Mitchell, as I do every year, to write the feature for our Black History Month issue. We went back and forth on what to write this year. I wanted her to write about black Oklahomans who made a substantial difference not only for our state but for the country. As she always does, she knocked it out of the park this year. When you read it, you will know what courage it took for these individuals during the most turbulent time in our country to stand up and say NO - we will not be treated like we are invisible. These Americans stood and fought to change the country for good and to remind us all what it says in the Declaration of Independence… “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that ALL men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are LIfe, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness”. As a country for almost 190 years, we did not let that happen for so many of our brothers and sisters. In early January the forecast was for Artic air to sweep down into Oklahoma causing dangerously cold temperatures with wind chills hovering around -20 degrees. Christy and I started planning to get the warming shelter ready to go. On January 11th with afternoon temperatures in the 60s, we knew Mother Nature’s coldspell was moving in. We opened the shelter at 4 p.m. knowing by the morning of the 12th we were going to have single digits. Mother Nature didn’t let us down. By morning the winds were 25 to 30 mph and wind chills near -10 degrees. As our homeless community started coming in from the cold and the word got out, we had 15 guests and 3 dogs that next night. We understand how important their dogs are to them because in many

circumstances that’s all they have. Many would not come into the shelter without them. I don’t have enough space to write about each story, but that night we had a 19-year old join us. He had his first shower in months. We could totally see a new man (boy) appear. We have seven kids older than this young man, and I just can’t tell you how happy this makes our heart. The most important thing we can say is how the people of Bartlesville showed up and showed up BIG! When we had a need, we asked for it on our Facebook page. Within an hour we had it. We asked for dog crates, and we had just regular people giving theirs up. We also had the SPCA take care of that need too. I believe it was day 4, and we asked for sweatpants. Within 2 hours we had 70 pairs at the mission! To all the volunteers who came and served hour after hour and day after day, we could have never achieved this without you. We want to say a special thank you to Stacey and Randy, Debbie and Larry, Shannon, Stephany, Tamara, Randy and Sam and our night guys Guidion and Christian. Without these individuals who stepped up, we could have never kept the chaos down to a peep. At the end of 10 days, we had 263 guests, 12 dogs, and a cat spend the night, get new clothes, eat 3 meals a day, take showers and most importantly feel loved! We truly believe that our homeless friends noticed in these 10 days that the people of Bartlesville do truly care and want to help. We can not tell you enough…Thank You! Thank you for having a heart that wants to give, to love, and to put a smile on a person’s face who literally has nothing but maybe a tent or just a few blankets under the stars. Thank you for being HIS hands and feet with us and giving…Hope to the Hopeless, Food to the Hungry, Love to the Lost, Healing to the Broken, and Shelter for the Struggling. God bless, Keith and Christy

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PROFILE

Richard Mitchell Attorney Providing Heartfelt Service to Those in Need

by Sarah Leslie Gagan The Bartlesville area is blessed with a strong legal community. One shining star among us is Attorney Richard Mitchell, who has served this area for over 35 years. Throughout his entire career, giving back to the community has been such a large part of who he is. He has made a positive difference in many lives. Growing up in Chicago, Illinois, Richard was one of seven siblings. His mother was a huge influence in his life and placed high value upon education for all her children. In many ways she was Richard’s greatest champion as he grew and decided upon a career path. After his graduation from Harrison High School, Richard attended Illinois State University. After his graduation from the university, Richard moved to Louisiana to attend the Southern University Law Center. Once Richard graduated with his law degree, he was offered a position with Phillips 66 in Oklahoma City. After working for the company for a year, the company gave Richard the option to move to Bartlesville or be laid off. It was our good fortune that he chose to move to Bartlesville. He experienced 27 successful years as an attorney for Phillips 66, working in various departments. After his retirement from Phillips 66, he wasn’t going to simply take to a rocking chair, he wanted to serve, so he entered private practice which he still enjoys today. Richard specializes in the area of criminal defense, often taking cases from the Public Defenders Office. He finds his work very satisfying and much more fulfilling now as opposed to corporate work. Richard’s desire to make a difference in people’s lives has always been a driving force in his life, and he frequently did pro-bono work for people during his years at Phillips 66. He also currently sits on the Criminal Justice Act panel which is both and honor and opportunity. 8

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PROFILE Richard shares, “I have a willingness to really serve and help others because I have been truly blessed. And when a person is truly blessed, I think you should have a willingness to give back. And so now that I’ve been blessed, at this stage of my life I have a willingness to help and serve others.” Richard readily admits he gains much more fulfillment helping members of the community with their legal situations as opposed to his former career of corporate work. He is doing challenging work he loves for a community he calls home. He is blessed to do the work that he wants to do and help the people that he desires to help. One of the things that Richard loves about Bartlesville is the vast opportunities to serve. He recognizes the many non-profit organizations in the area and believes it is a wonderful characteristic for a community to have so many different areas for citizens to give back. He loves the willingness our community has to care for one another and meet a need when they see one. Richard is involved within our community, sitting on the board of Eldercare, is the current Statewide Board President of Legal-Aid, serves on the Westside Community Center board, and is on the board of the Christian nonprofit WatersEdge. Richard loves the work he does for the Legal-Aid board because they are a great organization that truly helps the indigent. They are a statewide organization focused on helping those who have a legal problem without the means to hire representation. Currently the need is larger that they have staff for, but the work is rewarding. Legal-Aid provides services beyond legal help, they assist with housing and consumer issues as well. Above all Richard does, he believes that his relationship with God and church is critical. He is an active member of Greater First Church and serves as trustee, usher, and anywhere he can

make a difference. He admits that everything he does is purely by the grace of God. Richard has also served two terms on the Bartlesville City Council in past years. It was at a city council meeting that he met his wife Natasha, who was covering the meeting as a reporter. They got to know one another, and eventually married and have built a wonderful life together. Richard isn’t all about work. He loves to spend time reading and enjoys fishing, but readily admits he doesn’t get to fish as often as he would like. He is also interested in the field of finance and plans on spending more time dedicated to growing his knowledge and skill in that area. Richard shares that if people model their behavior after Christianity and Jesus, our society would be much better off. It’s one thing to pay lip service to Christianity, but the real question is, do you model the behavior? Modeling it, not just when things are going well, but also when there is difficulty and adversity in life. That, according to Richard, is when the true measure of Christianity is reflected. Richard would like to encourage the young people to stay in school, get an education, and continue on with any type of advanced training. He encourages everyone to take advantage of the many educational opportunities we have available to us. He believes very strongly in getting an education, which was a great value instilled in him by his mother. Our community is blessed to have Richard Mitchell living and working in it. He is a man of integrity and humility who uses his talents and gifts to better the lives of others. Yes, there are days when his work is challenging and tests his patience, but at the end of the day, he feels truly blessed to do what he does and to live where he lives. Attorney Richard Mitchell, we are proud to have you among us and consider ourselves greatly blessed by all you do. Thank you! FEBRUARY 2024 | bmonthly

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Black History Month is a crucial period that honors and applauds the accomplishments and contributions of African Americans throughout history. It provides a dedicated opportunity to contemplate the challenges and victories of African Americans, and their instrumental role in molding the nation’s cultural, political, and societal fabric. This month-long observance is not just a tribute to their tenacity and strength, but also a chance to educate and raise consciousness about the often neglected or marginalized black history. By celebrating this rich and diverse

history, Black History Month fosters understanding, equality, and mutual respect among all races. It serves as a reminder of the progress we’ve made in the quest for racial justice, and the distance we still need to cover. The recognition of trailblazers who surmounted racial barriers holds immense importance for a multitude of reasons. Firstly, it acknowledges the bravery, resilience and determination of these individuals who, in spite of adversities, made noteworthy contributions to society. Their stories act as potent narratives of victory against challenges, inspiring future generations to aim for success. Secondly, it aids in rectifying historical narratives that have often marginalized or overlooked the contributions of individuals from diverse racial backgrounds. This acknowledgment thus cultivates a more inclusive comprehension of our collective history. Thirdly, it underscores the systemic barriers that these trailblazers had to surmount, thereby raising awareness about the ongoing issues of racial inequality. This acknowledgment serves as a call to action, reminding us of the efforts that still need to be undertaken to achieve genuine equality and justice. Lastly, by honoring these trailblazers, we not only celebrate their individual achievements but also the strength and richness of the diverse racial and cultural communities they represent. Their success stories bear witness to the potential that resides within all of us, irrespective of our racial or ethnic backgrounds. It’s a celebration of diversity, unity and human potential. As we commemorate Black History Month, let’s pay tribute to these pioneering Oklahomans who, as the first Black Americans, surmounted racial hurdles to make historic contributions both within the state and across the nation.

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Clara Shepard Luper (May 3, 1923 – June 8, 2011) Born in Okfuskee County, Oklahoma, in 1923, Luper is a

notable figure in the civil rights movement. As a schoolteacher and activist, she made significant strides in her career. She earned a bachelor’s degree in mathematics with a minor in history from Langston University in 1944. In 1950, she broke barriers by becoming the first African American student in the graduate history program at the University of Oklahoma, earning a master’s degree in history education in 1951. Luper is renowned for her leadership in the 1958 Oklahoma City sit-in movement, according to author Carmen Smith-Estrada. Along with her young son, daughter, and several members of the NAACP Youth Council, she successfully led nonviolent sit-in protests at downtown drugstore lunch counters, leading to the reversal of their segregation policies. Her actions were inspired by the success of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and the Montgomery Bus Boycott. The success of the sit-in led Luper to spearhead various sit-ins across Oklahoma City from 1958 to 1964. Her perseverance led to Katz desegregating the lunch counters in all 38 of its stores across Oklahoma, Missouri, Kansas and Iowa. Luper also championed the integration of Oklahoma City Public Schools and led the first ‘Freedom March’ in Tulsa to desegregate public accommodations. In 1972, Luper ran for the United States Senate but was unsuccessful. When questioned by the media if she, as a black woman, could represent white people, she confidently responded, “Of course, I can represent white people, black people, red people, yellow people, brown people and polka dot people. You see, I have lived long enough to know that people are people.” Luper received numerous awards and was inducted into the Oklahoma Hall of Fame, the Oklahoma Women’s Hall of Fame, and the Oklahoma Afro-American Hall of Fame, among others. The Clara Luper Scholarship, a full scholarship provided by OklaFEBRUARY 2024 | bmonthly

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homa City University, is awarded annually to 30-45 students, primarily targeting minority students from under-served high schools or low-income households. Luper, a trailblazing leader, passed away in 2011. George McLaurin (September 16, 1887 – September 4, 1968) In 1948, McLaurin was among six black Oklahomans who sought admission to various graduate schools at the University of Oklahoma, spanning disciplines from zoology to social work. Their applications were all rejected due to segregation. As reported by the New York Times, a federal court deemed the University of

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Oklahoma’s denial of McLaurin’s admission unconstitutional on Sept. 29, 1948. In order to adhere to segregation laws, OU president George Lynn Cross orchestrated McLaurin’s classes to be conducted in classrooms with an anteroom, allowing him to maintain distance from white students while still attending all his classes. Initially, McLaurin was compelled to sit outside the classroom in the hallway next to the door with his desk and chair, enabling him to hear the lectures while remaining separate from the white students.

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McLaurin lodged a lawsuit arguing that such conditions stripped him of equality. The case, spearheaded by Attorney Thurgood Marshall, posed another challenge to segregation in higher education. On June 5, 1950, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled in the case of McLaurin v. Oklahoma State Regents that the segregation restrictions imposed on McLaurin at OU hindered his ability to study. The ruling signified that blacks could no longer be segregated at OU and were now eligible for admission to graduate schools at all state-supported colleges and universities nationwide. McLaurin went on to teach at Langston University and earned a master’s degree from the University of Kansas. As per The Daily Oklahoman, he passed away in 1968. A campus lounge featuring a memorial display at the University of Oklahoma’s community center is dedicated to McLaurin and Sylvia A. Lewis, another student who contested segregation at OU. In 2020, David Levy published a book about McLaurin titled “Breaking Down Barriers – George McLaurin and the Struggle to End Segregated Education”.

OU’s law school. As per the University of Oklahoma, Fisher, after earning her law degree in 1951, practiced law in Chickasha and subsequently became a faculty member at Langston University. She concluded her career 30 years later as the assistant vice president of academic affairs. In 1991, OU bestowed upon her an honorary doctorate of humane letters, and the next year, she was named to the OU Board of Regents, the same body that had once denied her admission. In 2004, a painting of her (created by artist Mike Wimmer of Norman) was dedicated in the Oklahoma Senate Chamber. She passed away in 1995 at the age of 71.

Ada Lois Sipuel Fisher (Feb. 8, 1924 – Oct. 18, 1995) Born in Chickasha, Fisher tied the knot with Warren Fisher in 1944. Post her graduation from Langston University, she took a stand against racial segregation in higher education by applying to the University of Oklahoma law school in 1946. Her application was turned down due to her race, sparking a three-year legal battle. The U.S. Supreme Court, with Fisher represented by attorneys Thurgood Marshall and Amos T. Hall, unanimously ruled in her favor. On June 18, 1949, she made history as the first black individual to gain admission to FEBRUARY 2024 | bmonthly

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John Hope Franklin (January 2, 1915 – March 25, 2009) Dr. John Hope Franklin, born in Rentiesville to Buck, a Tulsabased lawyer, and Mollie Franklin, was a historian and civil rights activist who overcame racial obstacles to earn a doctorate from Harvard University. He penned the influential historical work “From Slavery to Freedom: A History of African Americans,” providing a black viewpoint on American history.

His father Buck not only endured the 1921 Tulsa Race Massacrebut also triumphed in a lawsuit against the city. This case, ruled on by the Oklahoma Supreme Court, invalidated a Tulsa law that obstructed black residents from rebuilding their ravaged community. John Hope Franklin graduated with high honors from Fisk University in Nashville in 1935. He obtained his master’s degree in history from Harvard in 1936, taught at Fisk University, and returned to Harvard to complete his doctorate in history in 1941. During his time at Harvard, he took up a teaching post at St. Augustine’s College, a predominantly black college in Raleigh, North Carolina. As per blackpast.org, this role enabled him to finish his research for his dissertation, published in 1943 as “The Free Negro in North Carolina, 1790-1860.” This work solidified his importance in southern history, leading to an invitation in 1949 to present a paper at the Southern Historical Association, thereby breaking its color barrier. In 1956, Franklin became the first black person to head a history department, a role he held at Brooklyn College. This led to an endowed chair at the University of Chicago in 1967,

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where he also served as department chair until 1970. He remained at the University of Chicago until 1982 when he assumed the James B. Duke Professorship at Duke University.

Born just north of Muskogee by the Arkansas River, Sango received a 160-acre allotment and pursued a career in teaching.

Franklin also contributed to the legal brief that resulted in the landmark Supreme Court decision that outlawed public school segregation, Brown v. Board of Education of Topeka (1954), and played a crucial role in the establishment of African American studies programs at colleges and universities.

He served as the superintendent of the Tullahassee Manual Labor School and later became a trustee. In 1895, he was appointed as an attorney for the Creek Nation and was elected to the House of Warriors in 1899. Before statehood, Sango held the position of president of the Muskogee Republican Club and was the Superintendent of the Colored Orphans School.

In 1995, U.S. President Bill Clinton awarded Franklin the Presidential Medal of Freedom. Franklin, who led a distinguished life, passed away at the age of 91 in 2009. On May 31, 2018, the John Hope Franklin Reconciliation Park in Tulsa was designated as a Literary Landmark in his honor.

In 1899, when Muskogee was in its second year of providing public education, many community churches also sponsored schools. That year, the African American Baptist congregations initiated a new school named Sango Baptist College, in honor of Sango. The school was situated at Fifth and Howard streets.

A.G.W. Sango (1868) As per the Muscogee Creek Indian Freedmen Band, Sango, alawyer, newspaper editor, and founder of a school in Muskogee, was among the city’s most influential African American leaders.

Sango began his educational career at the Tullahassee Mission School, which originally catered to Creek children but was transformed into a school for Creek Freedmen after the Civil War. At the dawn of the last century, Sango held a significant position in Muskogee’s black community. In addition to leading the Baptist school, he served as the editor of the Morning Sun, an African American newspaper. The Sun, the second black newspaper to operate in Muskogee, was part of a surge in such publications nationwide at that time. Although it was only printed for about two years, other newspapers for the African American community continued for several years, including the Muskogee Cimiter, published by Sango’s friend and fellow attorney, William H. Twine. Known for his eloquent speeches, Sango served as a delegate to a statehood convention in Muskogee in 1901. The convention primarily consisted of debates on whether the Indian Territory and Oklahoma Territory should merge to form one state or

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seek separate statehood. Sango advocated for single statehood. Beyond these details, little is known about Sango, except that he lived well into the early decades and remained dedicated to serving the community. Green I. Currin (Oct. 20, 1842 – Oct. 21, 1918) As stated by the Oklahoma Senate, Green I. Currin holds the distinction of being the first African American to serve in the Oklahoma territorial legislature. Born on October 20, 1842, in Williamson County, Tennessee, he resided in Nashville following emancipation until he participated in the significant westward movement. By 1877, he had made Kansas his home and eventually became a lawman in Topeka. During the Land Run of 1889, Currin staked a claim in Kingfisher County, Oklahoma Territory. Backed by Republican voters, he was elected as one of five delegates to the

House of Representatives from Kingfisher County. On August 27, 1890, Green I. Currin assumed his position in the First Session of the Legislative Assembly of Oklahoma Territory. He proposed the first civil rights legislation in the territory, which, unfortunately, was not passed. After serving a term in the legislative assembly, he took on the role of Deputy United States Marshal and was appointed to the Board of Regents of the Colored Agricultural and Normal University (Langston) in 1897. Currin and his wife Caroline were parents to five children. Green I. Currin passed away at his Dover residence in 1918. J. Coody Johnson (July 27, 1864 – February 27, 1927) The Encyclopedia of Oklahoma History and Culture identifies Johnson as one of the most distinguished African American attorneys in Oklahoma. Born on July 27, 1864, north of what is now Wewoka, he was the grandson of a slave owned by William McIntosh, the esteemed Coweta chief of the Creek Nation. As per author and historian John J. Dwyer, Johnson attended a Presbyterian mission school north of Wewoka. His African Creek father, Robert, served as a language

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SUTTERFIELD FINANCIAL FEATURE interpreter for the Seminole nation, foreshadowing Johnson’s lifelong association with both tribes, which initially started as one. The Seminoles sponsored his education at Lincoln University in Chester, Pennsylvania. After graduation, he returned to the southwest and spent a year and a half as a cowboy, a common occupation for many African Americans during that period. When his father passed away in 1886, Johnson returned to the Creek Nation and became an interpreter for Federal Judge Isaac Parker, who presided over the United States District Court for the Western District of Arkansas. After studying law under Judge Parker, Johnson practiced law in federal courts and was granted dual citizenship in both the Creek and Seminole Nations. He served as an advisor to Seminole Chief Halputta Micco and an official interpreter to the Seminole Nation. Before Oklahoma achieved statehood in 1907, Johnson was the president of the Negro Protection League and emerged as a leading advocate for African American rights and a staunch opponent of the introduction of Jim Crow laws in Oklahoma. When Oklahoma attained statehood in 1910, he and fellow Black and Creek attorney, A. G. W. Sango, fought a five-year legal battle to outlaw the grandfather clauses. Their efforts attracted the attention of the NAACP, which was in its early stages and seeking a test case to initiate its legal advocacy. When the federal government sued Oklahoma election officials for their role in denying black people their voting rights, the NAACP joined the effort, and the case eventually reached the United States Supreme Court. Although Johnson and Sango were not mentioned in the briefs filed by either the government or the NAACP, history acknowledges their significant contribution in leading the fight to protect black voting rights. Johnson later transitioned into business and achieved success. He founded the Black Panther Oil and Gas Co., and owned the Black Panther Hotel in Wewoka. His Johnson Building, where he maintained his law practice and business interests, is listed in the National Register of Historic Places. Johnson passed away at his home in 1927. Thelma Reece Parks (April 4, 1923 – Sept. 11, 2019) Thelma Parks, a native of Muskogee, was a dedicated educator and a fervent civil rights activist. She served the Oklahoma City Public Schools Board for an impressive tenure of 22 years. In 1945, she earned her degree in elementary education from Langston University. Her relentless pursuit of professional development led her to attain a master’s degree in Guidance from the University of Oklahoma and a Professional Certificate in Guidance and Counseling from Central State University in Edmond.

in Muskogee, overcoming hiring obstacles. Despite a prevailing rule that barred individuals from teaching in their own school system, she challenged the status quo and taught at Wheatley Elementary School for a span of four years. As reported by The Oklahoman, Parks’ teaching journey in Oklahoma City commenced at Dunbar Elementary School. She later made history by becoming one of the first black teachers at Truman Elementary, the city’s inaugural integrated school. Her illustrious career also included a stint as a reading teacher at Douglass High School and the distinction of being the first black counselor at U.S. Grant High School in 1971, predating the admission of the first black students. Parks’ significant contributions were not confined to the classroom. In 1987, she was elected to District 5 seat on the Oklahoma City Public Schools Board of Education. She served as the board president in 1993, overseeing the successful approval of the second largest bond issue in Oklahoma City’s history. This funding enabled substantial improvements across the district, including the installation of air conditioning and major repairs in all schools. In 1997, Thelma Parks Elementary, located at 1501 NE 30, was named in her honor. Parks was a recipient of the Oklahoma City NAACP Lifetime Achievement award and was inducted into the National Black College Alumni Hall of Fame. A remarkable pioneer in her field, she passed away in 2019. In wrapping up, the celebration of Black History Month and the acknowledgment of pioneers who broke racial barriers are crucial to our comprehension and appreciation of our shared history’s rich diversity. These practices not only pay tribute to the tenacity and contributions of African Americans but also serve as a reminder of our collective duty to foster equality, justice and mutual respect. They motivate us to carry forward the work of those who preceded us, to challenge systemic obstacles, and to work towards a society where success is not dictated by racial or ethnic backgrounds. As we honor these remarkable individuals and their accomplishments, we are reminded of the strength inherent in our diversity and the potential within each one of us to bring about positive change. The legacy of these pioneers serves as a guiding light, leading us towards a more inclusive and equitable future.

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Around Town with Edgar Weston by Debbie Neece, Bartlesville Area History Museum Welcome Back… As you remember, in January, our tour left us on Keeler Avenue at 7th Street. Kenneth Stanley “Boots” Adams began his illustrious career as a Phillips Petroleum Company warehouse clerk in 1920 and quickly rose to become President of the company; a position he retired from in 1964, although he continued to serve on the board. In 1968, 7th Street became Adams Blvd. in his honor, joining the Adams Building at 411 S. Keeler Avenue and Adams Municipal Golf Course at 5801 E. Tuxedo Blvd. From the corner of Keeler Avenue and Adams Blvd., look just over your right shoulder and you will see the U.S. Post Office which opened at 615 S. Jennings in 1966. Lyndon B. Johnson selected K.I. June as the last presidentially appointed “acting postmaster” in 1966 and he also served as postmaster from 1968 to 1993. Seventh Street at the railroad tracks has been a convenient off-load location for lumber companies since 1908 when Samuel Hanks Lumber operated at that location; then American Lumber (1910-1922) McGraw-Baughman-Bearly Lumber (1923-1927) and Baughman Lumber Co. at 415 W. 7th Street/Adams Blvd. (1929-1996). Dunlap Construction occupied this building from 1997-2015 and Bowline Bail Bonds now resides at that location. And, this very large parking lot on our right was once home of a Phillips 66 Performance Plaza convenience store/gas station at 200 SW Adams Blvd., from 1985 until it was razed in 2013. Just down Armstrong Avenue are a couple of “shotgun houses” relocated from the Smelter area. Shotgun homes are

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small narrow 3-5 room homes with the rooms on one side of the structure, said to allow a “bullet to pass from the front door out the back without hitting a wall.” A few more blocks south is the railroad viaduct at 11th Street and Armstrong Avenue, long since closed except to foot traffic; however, in earlier times, the viaduct was a quick way to avoid waiting at railroad crossings. In 2015, the Sonic at 1317 SW Frank Phillips Blvd. closed and our new Sonic at 271 SW Adams Blvd. brought fast food to the Highway 60 corridor. And just over the railroad tracks is the Washington County Correctional Facility at 611 SW Adams Blvd., which opened in 2011. Just behind that building is the 1926 Missouri, Kansas and Texas coaling tower. Reportedly our abandoned cement coaling tower is one of only two like it left in Oklahoma, the other is in Cushing. If you look back to the left, the seven-story Phillips Hotel towers over the trees at 821 S. Johnstone Avenue. The Hotel opened June 1, 1950 to help ease the Bartlesville area housing shortage with 206 fully airconditioned units available and is an asset to downtown Bartlesville and weary travelers. The current owners of The Apartments at Hotel Phillips are breathing new life into every aspect of the building; where once 1950s metal kitchenettes were considered luxury, the fully renovated efficient kitchens offer dishwashers, stainless steel appliances, granite countertops and more. Move-in accommodations range from one-bedroom/one-bath to two-bedrooms/two-baths in varied square footages; and, if you are just looking for an overnight stay, Hotel Phillips offers lodging in a historic building within walking distance to downtown events, entertainment and amenities. ~ To Be Continued…

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Thu, Feb 1 7:30 PM

Broadway in Bartlesville Presents Mean Girls The Center 300 SE Adams Blvd.

Fri, Feb 2 5:30 PM

Bartlesville District Science Fair Phillips 66 Research Center US 60 & OK 123

6:30 PM

Real Help for Grieving Hearts

Mardi Gras 2024

Bartlesville Seventh Church 4811 Nowata Rd.

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Sat, Feb 3

Wed, Feb 7 7:30 PM

The Center 300 SE Adams Blvd. Mardi Gras 2024, benefiting Martha’s Task, is a spectacular fundraiser party featuring drinks, hors d’oeuvres, dancing and silent auction!

Tue, Feb 6 2 PM

Adult Crafting Frosted Glass Candle Holders

Dog Days of Winter

The Center 300 SE Adams Blvd.

Empire Trio presents the most beloved and famous songs from the world of film, from c. 1930 until the mid-1990s. Songs from Casablanca, James Bond, Titanic, The Wizard of Oz, and more.

Thu, Feb 8

Bartlesville Public Library 600 S Johnstone Ave.

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Heart to Heart Valentine’s Lunch The Salvation Army 101 N Bucy Ave.

Create a heart craft with Alice Winkler! Be inspired by Fran Carona on “How’s Your Heart?” RSVP by Tuesday, Feb. 6 at noon by texting 918-397-7388.

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Valentine’s Brunch

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Sweetheart Dance Camp

Join us for a Valentine’s weekend brunch! We’ll have coffee, desserts, and a tastefully curated menu prepared by Chef Marjorie. No reservation required, just come hungry!

Stage Art Dance 318 S Quapaw Ave. 11 AM

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Cooper and Mill Brewing Company 200 Dewey Ave.

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Thu, Feb 22

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Come share your sewing skills as we try to meet our goal of making 100 port pillows for our cancer patients!

The sale runs February 24.

Hopestone Cancer Supports Center 206 SE Frank Phillips Blvd.

Tue, Feb 20 7:30 PM

Broadway in Bartlesville Presents Hairspray The Center 300 SE Adams Blvd.

Get ready to be swept off your feet and transported to the dazzling world of rhythm, romance, and rebellion as “Hairspray” hits the stage at the Bartlesville Community Center.

Wed, Feb 21 9 AM

Paint the Light Watercolor Workshop

Washington County Fairgrounds 1109 N Delaware St., Dewey through

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Sat, Feb 24 12 PM

Central Classic 5K & Fun Run Central Middle School 815 Delaware Ave.

Tue, Feb 27 5:30 PM

Grocery Giveaway City Church 422 Rice Creek Rd.

Free groceries are provided, one bag per family. First come, first served. Two locations: City Church in Bartlesville and Tri County Tech Business Development Center in Pawhuska.

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Underground Railroad... A Look at Freedom’s Trail

by Debbie Neece, Bartlesville Area History Museum The Underground Railroad acted as the first multiracial civil rights movement in this country. There was no locomotive or caboose and it was neither a railroad nor underground. In addition, there were no maps with clear routes to guide the travelers who hid by day and traveled by night. However, there was a substantial network of sympathetic people of all skin colors who acted as travel conductors, offering shelter and necessities to enslaved freedom-seekers as they made their way to a brighter future.

were not allowed access to public libraries. Brings to mind our own Bartlesville Librarian, Ruth Brown, dismissed for her civil rights activities in 1950. With the first “black-owned bookstore,” Ruggles made anti-slavery publications readily available. His efforts continued from 1833-1841, as he became deeply engaged with The Emancipator and The Mirror of Liberty, both abolitionist publications. Ruggles did not hide his work as an Underground Railroad conductor, assisting at least 600 enslaved people on their path to freedom, which brought fierce backlash.

Sydney Howard Gay was the editor of the weekly abolitionist publication, the National Anti-Slavery Standard (1855-1856). He was deeply involved in the Underground Railroad around New York City and kept a two-volume treasure-trove history of fugitive activity titled The Record of Fugitives, which detailed “how and why slaves escaped, who assisted them, and where they were sent from New York.” Among the referenced was a well-known Underground Railroad conductor, Harriet Tubman. Born Araminta One of the most Ross to Benjamin and Harriet Green Ross, Tubman took her brazen and well-known mother’s name after her marriage to John Tubman and she rose conductors was David to notoriety as a scout, spy, and Union Army nurse, believed to Ruggles, an African-American abolitionist who assisted hundreds be the first African American woman to serve in the military. She of freedom-seekers and mentored abolitionist Frederick was enslaved, escaped and served other enslaved people as an Douglass. In 1828, Underground Railroad Ruggles established a conductor marching In Sarah H. Bradford’s 1886 book “Harriet: The Moses of Her People,” New York grocery store them to freedom as the Bradford took liberty in referencing Tubman as Moses because her heroic where he circulated “Moses of Her People.” cry to the slave-holders was much like Moses to Pharaoh, “Let my people reading materials for go!” Tubman was quoted as saying, “I never ran my train off the track and The life of African Americans who I never lost a passenger.” Maryland born

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NOW YOU KNOW Frederick Augustus Washington Bailey began as an orphaned slave and, at an early age, he taught himself to read. At just twelve years of age, he had saved to buy The Columbian Orator, a book of revolutionary speeches, debates and writings about natural rights. Sharing his knowledge with other enslaved people brought trouble with his slave owner, leading to his escape and eventual freedom. He married, changed his name to Frederick Douglass and raised five children. He was a traveling spokesman of freedom, supporting anti-slavery, women’s rights movements and the Underground Railroad. In 1866, Douglass, Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Susan B. Anthony founded the American Equal Rights Association. In the meantime, Abraham Lincoln was elected President of the United States in 1860 with a recorded 4-million enslaved people. Although Lincoln’s antislavery platform fell short of emancipation, his presidency struck fear in the southern states of Texas, Arkansas, Mississippi, Louisianna, Tennessee, Alabama, Virginia, North Carolina, South Carolina, Georgia and Florida bringing all eleven states to secede from the Union and create their own Confederate States of America with their own currency, flag and government. Civil War erupted in 1861 over saving the Union but when Lincoln signed the Emancipation Proclamation on January 1, 1863, freeing all Confederate owned slaves and creating economic turmoil for the Confederate states, the war shifted to a fight for freedom as most newly freed people joined the Union forces. The Nation’s bloodiest war on home territory ended in 1865, when Confederate General Robert E. Lee surrendered to Union General Ulysses S. Grant at Appomattox Courthouse in Virginia. Thus, ending the Underground Railroad as well.

speaking about the effects of slavery, the Underground Railroad, the Civil War and the Emancipation Proclamation. Indian Territory was a bicultural and multiracial melting pot where Indian tribes, blacks and white traders vied for their place of settlement; where once buffalo roamed the open unsettled land that became recognized as Oklahoma. This was a destination to escape to and from with tense relationships between Indian tribes, populations of enslaved citizens and freedmen, government agents and the bordering states of Kansas, Missouri, Arkansas and Texas. Prior to the Civil War, state’s boundaries were blurred or non-existent; although, Indian Territory was the domain of organized Indian Nations with their own tribal governments. Kansas entered the Union as a free state in 1861, while Missouri, Arkansas and Texas held close to their slaveholding roots. To believe that Indian Territory was not involved in the Underground Railroad or the Civil War would be a gross misjudgment. I.T. was, for the most part, a lawless land. In the words of Bob Fraser, past CEO of Woolaroc, “Indian Territory was a refuge for the worst of

Complete emancipation did not arrive until the Thirteenth Amendment was signed by President Lincoln on February 1, 1865. Word of the Emancipation Proclamation and the Thirteenth Amendment purposely traveled slow. It was not until June 19, 1865 that enslaved people in Texas were greeted by Union soldiers announcing their freedom, creating an annual celebration Named in tribute of Frederick recognized as Juneteenth. Douglass’ civil right work, On June 17, 2001, Bartlesville’s Douglass School President Biden signed functioned as a segregated into law “Juneteenth” as elementary and high school the eleventh American from 1907-1956 when Jane federal holiday. Morrison became the first black student to attend College High Indian Territory School. Douglass continued as represented a unique a school through 1971. set of complex circumstances

when

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NOW YOU KNOW freedom-seekers on (N3960 Rd) which their trek north offering a was once the original safe haven in the valleys Highway 75. and caves along Bird, Before the turn of Candy, Panther and Jesse the nineteenth century, Creeks. One of the chief freedmen often danced Underground Railroad both sides of the Indian trails in this area ran from Territory/Kansas line. present Skiatook, north They became known as through Washington squatters or intruders, County along the Osage nonchalantly moving County line. Three miles into I.T. as if they south of Bartlesville, the belonged and peacefully trail forked as it forded settling. Some settled the Caney River. The at Gooseneck Bend northern path traveled along the Verdigris past the Trottingwolf River, near Lenapah. As place towards Silver Lake early as 1888, four-toand the Union Salt Works eight-day Emancipation Trading Post operated Celebrations occurred at Gooseneck Bend and Hickory by intermarried trader Joel Bryan, then north to Butler Creek at Creek with huge BBQ picnics, bands, dancing, carnival-like Butler’s trading post/post office near present Oak Park. This was games, political speeches and most importantly, reading of the also the crossing of the Black Dog Trail which led west to the Salt Emancipation Proclamation. Plains and northeast into Kansas. The northwestern path leaned Yes, the Underground Railroad traversed Washington towards the wagon trail of “Gap Road” and headed to Jesse County; yes, our county experienced the Civil War; and, yes, Thompson’s hotel/log cabin near Circle Mountain. Thompson northeastern Oklahoma was a pro-northern To read about Washington County’s involvement in Creek Chief experienced brutal, Cherokee and he Opothleyahola’s Trail of Blood on Ice Campaign during the Civil War, visit unspeakable acts of offered a daytime bartlesvillemonthly.com, May 2022. violence, unspoken in hideout/waystation history books. However, for the Underground the Underground Railroad offered hope and survival through Railroad. This area became the home of Jesse Creek School courage and perseverance. In the words of Joe Sears, whose and cemetery, which became the eternal resting place of Jesse family roots are deeply embedded in the foundation of Indian and wife Eliza Thompson. The cemetery is under the care of Territory and Washington County, “Hiding from history doesn’t the Cherokee Nation and was recently tended to by County make it go away. We must learn to prevent repeating.” Become Commissioner Mike Bouvier. sensitive to the past of others and discover the resilience in our Insert: 3940 Road has been given many derogatory names. history. As Americans, we have faced immense trials but we have However, this is the shortcut or “Gap Road” between “Moose risen above, embraced our lessons and created a path where we Lodge Road,” at W2400Rd and Highway 75, as it travels to walk as one Nation Under God with God given freedoms…”life, Highway 123, southwest of Bartlesville, past Silver Lake Road liberty and the pursuit of happiness.” Some might say the Underground Railroad continues today, at our southern border, as many thousands of people flee north to escape poor conditions in their homelands in search of the promise…a better life and freedom in the United States of America. Be part of a movement for positive change and hope

Did You Know? The Federal Writer’s Project was established under President F.D.R. to employ historians and writers during the depression. Between 1936-1938, the Slave Narratives Project interviewed formerly enslaved people, gathering first-person accounts of their struggles. The result is a prime source of undeniable Black History which is available for you online at the Library of Congress.

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Eat More Holes

The Story of Grayson Donut Holes by Kay Little, Little History Adventures

In 2006, a young couple, Allan and Becky Cruz, decided to sell their business, Madison Donuts, to Tramon Grayson. They included the special donut recipe and encouraged Tramon to never franchise, so he would be his own boss. Tramon renamed the store Grayson’s Donut Hole. Tramon eventually started making little square cake donuts and named them Mia’s Minis, for his daughter. These donuts are only sold in the summertime, every other Saturday. He also has TJ’s cookies and cream donuts, named for his son. Tramon works at the Bartlesville Research and Technology Center, but in the mornings before he goes to work, he is at the donut shop making the donuts and other treats, which include sausage rolls, cinnamon rolls, apple fritters, biscuits and gravy and their specialty, maple bacon donuts. The shop also sells coffee, milk and juice. His

behind our heavenly donuts, his passion has turned a simple indulgence into an experience we cherish. Although we don’t post all that he does for others, his

uncle, Robert Grayson, goes in when Tramon

commitment to serving our community

leaves and works in the shop the rest of the

continues to leave a “donutlicious” mark on

mornings, Monday-Thursday. On Fridays

many hearts. People describe his Uncle

and Saturdays, Tramon’s mom, LaDonna

Robert as delightful, personable, kind,

Austin, works in the shop.

charming and funny. You always leave with a smile on your face. I love when

I recently had the pleasure of

I go in to the shop, and get to visit with

visiting with LaDonna and realized how

important

the

Grayson

family

is to the community. Not only do they provide yummy treats, they sometimes host fundraisers, at times having the kids work in the store. One employee said, “Tramon is not just the mastermind

LaDonna or Robert. Not only do I leave with a smile on my face and yummy treats in my hand, but I leave uplifted and feeling like family.” You will not see much advertising about Grayson’s Donuts, except on their Facebook page. Tramon believes that the best advertising is word of mouth; “If you have a good product, they will come.” In 2023, they won the “Best Desserts Award” and have an overall 4.9 star rating. There are themes for each day, including Monday Motivations: When life gives you Mondays, dip them in chocolate and make them delicious! Tasty Tuesdays, Wisdom Wednesdays with hexagon shaped donuts because circles are boring. You can also find recipes on the Facebook page for tasty desserts using Grayson’s donuts. October 2023, Grayson’s Donut Holes celebrated 17 years. You can find Grayson’s Donuts at their main store at 809 S Madison, but also at the Bartlesville Eggberts and the Baked Bean in Ramona. Grayson’s Donut Holes has definitely come a long way since 2006. FEBRUARY 2024 | bmonthly

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Encountering Hope...

A GOOD WORD

In Black History Month

by Stephen T. Ivey, Senior Pastor at Greater First Church

As we embark on the journey of Black History Month, we are reminded of the rich tapestry of resilience, perseverance, and triumph that characterizes the Black experience. It’s a time to honor and celebrate the invaluable contributions of Black individuals throughout history, who, despite facing unimaginable challenges, have left an indelible mark on our world. In times of adversity and struggle, it can be easy to lose sight of hope and succumb to despair. During Black History Month, we reflect on the journey of Black people who, like the Israelites of old, endured enslavement, oppression, and discrimination. Yet, amidst their struggles, they clung to their faith and found hope in the promise of freedom and justice. Their

unwavering resilience serves as a testament to the power of hope and the enduring spirit of humanity. As we celebrate the resilience and perseverance of Black individuals, we are reminded that their stories are not just a chapter in history but a living testament to the triumph of the human spirit. Their legacy inspires us to renew our commitment to liberty, equity, and justice for all of humanity. February is not only a time to commemorate the struggles and triumphs of Black people but also a reminder that no matter how dire our circumstances may seem, there is always a bright side, a glimmer of hope. Just as the dawn follows the darkest of nights, hope springs eternal for those who place their trust in God. In the midst of oppression and despair, enslaved and oppressed individuals found solace and hope in Jesus Christ. They found strength in their faith and resilience in the promise of liberation. Their faith not only sustained them through the darkest of times but also inspired future generations to persevere and press on. As we honor the legacy of resilience and perseverance during Black History Month, let us also remember that the same opportunity to access hope is available to us today. Regardless of our circumstances or background, we are all invited to partake in the boundless grace and love of God. Let us embrace hope in Christ as we celebrate Black History Month. Let us draw inspiration from the stories of resilience and perseverance, knowing that God’s love knows no bounds. May we renew our commitment to liberty, equity, and justice for all of humanity, guided by the light of Christ’s love. May you find and be filled with hope by this promise from God found in Isaiah 41:10, “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be afraid, for I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will help you; I will hold on to you with my righteous right hand.”

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A Happy Age

A FRESH PERSPECTIVE

Be Happy With The Reflection You See in the Mirror by Brent Taylor My dad was walking along 3rd street downtown sometime in the great middle of his life and he looked sideways at what he thought to be his father walking along beside him. It was, of course, his own image reflected in storefront glass. He realized in that instant that his subjective age did not align with his actual age. Most of us struggle with where we are in time. Even 17 year olds do this, perceiving their subjective age to be greater than it is, eager to be taken seriously as adults, even though their prefrontal cortex is basically 1.21 Gigawatts of jumbled uninsulated electrical wire arcing across all five senses. As people age, this reverses. For instance, my mom is 88, and she told me that she is 75 in her head. But I asked my 32-year-old daughter how old she was in her head, and she said 32. No kidding. Even Christian theologians find thirtysomething to be a compelling age, asking the fascinating question, “How old are people in Heaven?” The most common answer is 33, partly because of Jesus’ age at the crucifixion. Most of us gravitate along a strong impulse to be who we were when we still had unanswered questions but seemingly unlimited potential. In other words, we mostly think of ourselves as younger than we are. A good friend just told me that he is starting a new business at the age of 57. He told me the age in his head is 50. Thus, we live in moments along a timeline, but reminiscence draws us back to a place when feelings were intense, and the world was our oyster. As Nathaniel Hawthorne once wrote, “Time flies over us, but leaves its shadow behind.” This is why many of my Spotify playlists tend to run shamelessly into different iterations of Jimmy Buffet, Van Morrison, and U2. Music etches itself deeply into our most intense moments.

My personal assessment of the subjective age in my head is 45 (I’m 64). I know this is way off, but it is consistent with my scientific evaluations from Facebook pictures of friends from college and from attending high school reunions. Not to mention the Paul McCartney concert I attended where everyone was twenty years older than me, or so it seemed. I wonder about McCartney at age 81. Does he have a subjective age in his head as he is singing, Hey Jude. Na…nana… nananana…I feel 29. Most of us who are older, perceive our subjective age to be less, as if old age is anathema. We look in mirrors and are startled, as if there has been some sort of mistake. While we gravitate toward the need to subtract, a more credible answer could be that viewing yourself as younger is a form of optimism. It says that you envision productive years ahead. But for some of us, having a subjective age too far below our actual age can lead to social awkwardness. I think of myself as beyond recognition, that twenty year olds only believe me to be twenty-five years older and still in touch with all the settings on my Iphone, until I say something to the cashier like, “Hold on a minute, I think I have exact change.” Recently, a Starbucks employee was making genial morning conversation, which I respect, but don’t enjoy, before my coffee is in my hand. This inter-generational banter stopped me in my tracks. The barely out of high school barista handed over my coffee and said, “Has anyone ever told you that you look like Bruce Willis?” I immediately replied, “Moonlighting, Die Hard, or Sixth Sense?” She looked befuddled, like she was trying to figure out how to write out a million dollar check in cursive and she said, “Bruce Willis was in Moonlighting?” She had no clue that he once had a nice head of hair, and then the recession traced the path of least resistance through his subsequent films, until there was simply a finely shaped cue ball. Moments like these remind me that I’m dealing with someone who has a wildly different perspective and memory than I, and that our conversations are appropriately asymmetric because of this time and age abyss. I’m happy with my age. I think most of us would say the same. Time gives us a bountiful harvest of wisdom, self-worth, and memory. But I also think it is healthy to see ourselves as younger. That doesn’t make us delusional. It just means there are more trails left to blaze, more hope to fuel our adventures, flavored with a realistic acceptance of our actual age. FEBRUARY 2024 | bmonthly

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Godfather of the West Side Remembering Egynn Kasay Thomas Sr. by Debbie Neece, Bartlesvile Area History Museum From “sunup to sundown” Egynn Kasay Thomas Sr. was a proud man from humble beginnings with his “eyes on the prize” and he wrapped his ever-loving arms around his family and our community to make that prize a reality. Egynn graduated from College High School, where he participated in sports and band; then, married sixteen-yearold Mary Little on December 29, 1958. He found employment as a florist deliveryman and Holiday Inn porter while Mary completed her GED education. Their first home was at 514 SW Morton Avenue, where four children joined their union: Egynn Kasay Jr., Conrad, Deborah and Jacqueline. As parents, they set high goals for their children’s educational must-haves while generously supporting our community. Egynn shared his love of music with his children and, on Christmas Day, the Thomas children entertained visitors by playing varied musical instruments, led by Egynn Sr’s clarinet. He also played with the Bartlesville Symphony Orchestra as an adult. Mary Thomas’ mother was employed as a maid and Mary briefly followed her mother’s career path. She refused to teach her children domestic duties because she planned higher expectations for her children. At the end of her workday, she prepared the family meal and expected everyone to join the family dining table. Mary Thomas was among the first group of seven African American ladies to be hired by Phillips, joining Bettye Williams. She attended professional “charm school” and worked at Phillips over twenty years, moving up the ranks to Human Resources. Egynn later moved the family to 601 S. Virginia and found employment at Reda Pump, then National Zinc. In 1969, the family moved to 1577 Colorado, in the Jane Phillips Addition. The doors of Jane Phillips School had opened for students in 1949; however, the Thomas’ were the first black children to grace the halls, transferring from Douglass School. According to daughter Deborah, they often felt isolated and unwanted until other black children moved to the area. For Egynn, keeping your eyes on the prize carried educational, religious and civil rights goals. All of which were core strengths he embraced and supported. The Thomas’ were active members of the Bethel A.M.E. Church. Egynn and his mother owned and operated the first recycling center in Bartlesville and operated the House of Faith, the first adult homeless shelter. Additionally, he was deeply involved in the westside community: 1966-1968 Director of Westside

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FUNNY YOU SHOULD ASK

by Jay Webster

The “self-improvement” market in the U.S. is estimated to be worth $13.4 billion per year. That’s a whole lot of books, apps, and “patented 10 easy steps.” I am currently about four months out on vacuuming my car. I know. It’s ridiculous. Here’s what makes it worse: Every time I get in my car . . . every time . . . I am confronted with the light level of outdoor debris on my floorboard (winter grass, dead leaves, and unidentifiable fabricated fuzz) and I shame myself for it. (What if someone has to get into this car with you? How can you live with yourself? Have you no pride?) In one of the twelve factory-issued cupholders in my car lies the remnant of a “friendship bracelet” that self-destructed when my daughter tried to Dukes-of-Hazard-climb into the vehicle for fear of being late to middle school. The beads sprang loose like Black Friday Walmart Shoppers across the car before being corralled into the cup holder with the promise that they would be reassembled into a united seal of kinship after school. (I can only assume two and a half months later, the relationship with her Bestie is still on hold since the wrist wedding band that held them together is still riding loosely with me in coffee-stained cupholder number four. 46

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And yet, no vacuum has been applied to take the little multicolor emotional support beads to their final resting place. Instead, now they only repeat the phrases of my parents about how someday when you own your own car you can leave it like this, but for now . . . Since we are here, can I digress for just a moment? Thanks. A lot has been said in recent years about how younger generations now live in a time in which they have never not known cell phones. And while that is true (and the consequences or peril of that state is mighty) - what about cupholders? If you are 40 or older, there’s a very good chance that most of the vehicles in your life never had a single cup holder. Growing up, the second car my family ever owned was a full-sized travel van. It sat 8 to 40 passengers depending on how strict you were about laws and seatbelts. The back seat folded down into a bed. It had a pullout bar/kitchenette in the back, a luggage rack, and a TV with rabbit ears, specifically designed to only receive religious programming every 25 miles. You could live in the van! You just couldn’t put a drink down because there wasn’t a single cupholder in the entire efficiency apartment on wheels. Think about it. Growing up you had add-on cupholders in a vehicle. Maybe the earliest model was the one that resembled an

FUNNY YOU SHOULD ASK office organizer. It sat between the driver and passenger and had spaces for loose change and Kleenex, with a cupholder on either side. On the bottom were half a million tiny plastic spikes that gripped the car so things wouldn’t slide onto the passenger’s legs.

on, and repeat to others. This is the world you and I have helped create. And, if we are waiting on the other side to change, well that’s putting our fate in the hands of someone else. There’s no empowerment in that. (And really very little hope. If we aren’t willing to change, why would they?)

If you didn’t have one of those luxury items you might have had the clamp-on equivalent. These single cupholder devices had an upside-down J-hook that slid in between the glass and the window lip. They specialized in a false sense of confidence. One pothole and . . .

In November I will vote. I will stay informed. I will read. I will research. And I will vote.

That’s why most of us just used the lap-vise. You would lock 32 ounces of sweaty pop between your thighs and just hope it didn’t leave a ring when you got out of the car. Occasionally, you’d have to do that “napkin-koozie” around the outside of the cup. (But God help you if your lid was loose . . .)

My vote will be loudest with you. How I treat you. How I respect you. How I resist letting the demand for conflict infiltrate my community one relationship at a time. That will be my loudest vote.

Cupholders went from a “non-thing” to being a deciding factor in a car’s purchase. Only a couple of years ago NCH (number of cupholders) was the leading factor (even over gas mileage) on which new car to buy. Wow. How did you get us onto NCH? Anyway, despite my daily inner loathing, guilt, and shame . . . I haven’t vacuumed my car. (In my defense - it is winter. And also I just haven’t wanted to.) Now we are in a new year, and like most people I am left asking: Is there any hope for a “better” me in 2024? For that matter, what’s the outlook for the country or even the world at large? What do we have to look forward to? Every day it seems like we hear about some new low in human behavior. Our public officials have abandoned the “honor of their office” and their sworn duty to serve us (or even just behave as decent human beings).

And yet if I vote Republican or Democrat, since I live in a state where Republicans are a supermajority my vote will not be as loud as I wish.

I can choose to not reward ugliness, acrimony, and vitriol simply because it’s entertaining or makes me feel good. I can choose to believe that others want the best for this country even if they vote differently than I do. I can choose to be more concerned about Washington County than Washington DC. Look vacuuming sucks (pun intended). But it needs to be done. Change is hard. Turning the TV off. Loving your neighbor. Doing good to those you don’t like. But there’s hope in that. Same is just the same. Change requires us to do something differently than we are today. If we can put a man on the moon, along with his cupholder, we can do anything. Don’t wait for someone else. What’s one thing you could do today to make things better? Be the change you want to see. Cheers my, friends.

Stock Markets rise and plummet. The Earth is grumpy and throwing fits. And rightfully so. And yet not a one of these issues is new. There was no surprise attack by Global Warming or Indecent Politicians. We’ve been on a slow ramp for years. Far from the Winds of Change, we enter this new year blown by the hot breath of the Winds of Same. Same is the default. Same is the expectation. Same is the course we can expect to run unless we choose something different. Same is the self-fulfilling promise of tumult in an election year where the outlandish is rewarded and hate encouraged. Same is the car left un-vacuumed because I haven’t (really) gotten sick enough of it to actually take action. I guess what I am saying is - change is possible, but only if we want it more than same. It will be easy this election year to get disgusted. To be aghast. To point and shake our heads and whisper “What is the world coming to?” But this is the world we’ve helped build, isn’t it? We choose this world with what we personally watch, click FEBRUARY 2024 | bmonthly

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ONCE UPON A TIME

Contemplating Life by Rita Thurman Barnes I’m sitting here looking out the window as the early winter sky envelops the pink and blue sunset after a long and cloudy day. There’s a pot of chili simmering on the back burner of the kitchen stove and cornbread all ready to slip into the oven. It’s the New Year again and the day is almost over - this second Sunday in January.

and family would live forever. That stuff I really want.

Another holiday season is officially over with Epiphany today and all the candles being lit at morning church services near and far. I think I heard the angels as they heaved a big sigh from all the extra work they had to do just to get us poor humans through another season of celebrating way too many things besides the birth of the Babe in the manger.

I smell the chili. I think it’s about ready to serve now. I can smell the brown-top crust on the cornbread and it reminds me of my grandma’s house and of my own kitchen years ago when my boys practically lived in that room salivating at everything that went into and made its way out of my old coppertone-tinted oven.

I hear many things simmering in the background of this cold winter’s eve - the clock ticking its way to the springtime I know it hopes will come. The humidifier on a table across the room that keeps me from shocking the cat. The sounds of yet another football game which I’m ashamed to say after being married to a lover of football for over 55 years I still don’t understand or know the difference between one team from the other. So much ho-hum, hum drum, yet so many blessings to count that if we’re not careful this time of year will simply slip by us. I can say in all honesty there is not a single thing I want or need that I don’t already have or that, if I wanted it badly enough, I could not get it. You’ll notice I said “things”. I think by the time people get my age if they’re still wanting “things” they may be in a little bit of trouble. Oh, I still want “stuff” - stuff like a good night’s rest, a winter without a blinding blizzard, that the dog who lives behind me would finally get tired of barking and that my friends

I’m getting used to living at the new place - one day at a time. I don’t know that I’m really all that much at home anywhere these days - anywhere, except when my family is all together. That’s when things are complete. That’s holy time for me. But, now so many of them are gone.

I never thought I’d get to the point where I enjoyed smelling the food as it’s cooking more than I do eating it but I have. I always thought I’d spend the whole of my life cooking for two sons and a husband but now it’s just hubby, me and the dog and neither of them complains too much. No one rushes me because they think they’re going to starve if I don’t hurry up the food. The pink and blue through the kitchen window is gone now. The sun has gone wherever it goes on cold January nights and I wish my sons were ten and five once again and screaming for me to make them brownies and to leave out the nuts. Sometimes I can hear them as much as I hear the ticking of the clock or that same football game that keeps repeating itself no matter how many new TVs we buy. The chili does smell good and I’ll butter up my hunk of cornbread. I never have to worry whether I’ve prepared enough or not anymore. The sun has set now and there is always more than we need these days. Way more than we ever need . . .

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LOCAL LEGENDS

Lives Well Lived . . . Remembering Harold and Cleo Brown by Debbie Neece, Bartlesvile Area History Museum When you look about your surroundings, what brings you happiness? What brings you the most fulfillment? Harold and Cleo Brown were philanthropists. Their happiness and fulfillment came from being servants to the community and their church. They did not have children and their individual families had dwindled over the years but their friends and church family spurred their active service. Oklahoma born, Cleo Lodema DeGraffenreid attended Central State University in Edmond where she received her bachelor’s degree; then continued her education at the University of Oklahoma in Norman where she received her master’s degree. Kansas born, Harold Wilfred Brown grew up in Norman, OK and attended Central State University in Edmond where he received his bachelor’s degree; then continued his education at the University of Oklahoma in Norman where he received his master’s degree and PhD. In addition, Harold was a twotimer…he served in the U.S. Coast Guard during WWII and then served during the Korea Conflict. However, that’s just the introduction…their lives became a dance when they married October 24, 1936. They settled in Bartlesville where Cleo was briefly employed at Phillips Petroleum Company and then Bartlesville school system from 1957 until her retirement. Harold became the Executive Secretary for L.E. Fitzgerald, Superintendent of Partnership Relations at Phillips Petroleum Company. His employment brought him titles at Phillips such as Safety Director in Oklahoma and Texas, and World-Wide Safety Director for Norway until his retirement in 1986. Together they brought joy to the Bartlesville community. Cleo was deeply involved in several church and teacher’s organizations; while Harold was a licensed pilot, owned a plane and played drums with the Rhythm Makers Band. Among their shared loves was their abundance of friendships in the Philtones and at Bartlesville’s First Christian Church, where they both served as Ushers. Insert: Organized in 1962, the Philtones was a musically talented group of Phillips employees who performed throughout the community as ambassadors of Phillips Petroleum Company. Harold was best known for always having sweet treats of individually wrapped candy pieces for Sunday School children. What parent doesn’t want a sugar-hyped child during Sunday service,

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ON THE ROAD

The Dos Muchachas Way Birthday Gift Turning Into a Business Venture by Kelly Hurd “I wish I had a horse,” she said as her eyes looked down and then out across the pasture where John Hurd was about to compete with his yellow dog in a competition down in southern Oklahoma one Saturday in November. Lilly Boss, aka Justice Brown, is my numero uno granddaughter from South of the Red River – Amarillo to be exact - and she had been watching other kids at the dog trials trot around on their daddy’s horses during the morning. It pulled on my heart. She turned 10 last year in August and for her birthday she asked to come to Pigeon and Papo’s (aka John & Kelly’s) to learn to ride a horse - and she got her wish. Now, don’t think I’m just a softie as a grandmother (Pigeon is my preferred title), but when I saw her eyes and heard her heart that morning, I decided this Pigeon was going to come up with a plan to grant that little gal her wish, and this past weekend we did just that. Across a few miles of back roads to a gorgeous part of Osage County in the middle of ranch land, Papo and Pigeon went to look at a filly colt a man by the name of Don E. Bruce had for sale and before the day was over, we’d made the trade and had that filly loaded in the trailer and headed for home. Of course, I Facetimed Lilly Boss, who was on her way to Red River, New Mexico with her parents and she beamed with glee and continued texting the rest of the evening her suggested names that we would call the papered Molly’s Miss 007. By bedtime we had decided on calling the pretty sorrel filly Sunny. You see, this is just the beginning of something I hope will become a lasting legacy in my granddaughter’s heart. Instead of just giving her a horse, I wanted to give her a vision. We’ve started a partnership of entrepreneurial adventure in the equine industry - and we’re calling it the Dos Muchachas Horse Company. Our goal is to own a few excellent mares that Papo will get to add to his string, and then when the time comes, we’ll get them bred and raise a few colts to sell – just Lilly Boss and Pigeon, for now, with the possibility of enlarging our horse company to include other granddaughters in the years to come. Who knows, before it’s all said and done, we could be the Tres Muchachas or the Quatro Muchachas – but for now, we’re the Dos Muchachas Horse Company located in western Osage County, Oklahoma.

The way I see it, legacies are left on purpose – intentionally. I could have just bought her a horse, but instead I wanted to give her an adventure, a business, and a memory that will outlive the giver. It’s an investment in the future – of my granddaughter’s heart – and one that I believe will pay better dividends than any stock on the market. The return on investment I’m looking for is one found in a grown little lady one day down the road filled with business savvy and self-confidence, a deepened love for horses, and the memory of a Pigeon in Osage County, Oklahoma, who took her under her wing, made her a partner, and showed her how to live life to its fullest – the Dos Muchachas way! And y’all, that just makes me smile. Well, this is me - over here in the Osage, encouraging you to invest in the future by leaving a legacy in your grandchildren’s hearts – one amazing adventure at a time! Until next time! Thanks for going On the Road with me this month! FEBRUARY 2024 | bmonthly

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I take my kids on a coming-of-age trip when they enter their teenage years. It’s a chance to spend time together, make special memories, and talk about their impending life changes. My oldest son chose a camping trip on Lake Michigan. We roasted hot dogs, slept in a tent, and lazed the days away reading, hiking, and lounging in hammocks. This is my happy place. When it was my daughter’s turn, I was prepared to endure a weekend of hotels, pedicures, and shopping malls. Instead, when I asked where her trip would be, she exclaimed “LET’S GO SHARK DIVING!” “Why would anyone get in the water with sharks when aquariums exist?” I protested. “Sharks have teeth!” But she wrapped me in a hug and said “Pleeeaaaassseeee!” I immediately booked tickets to Miami. From moment we arrived, things went badly. Our Uber driver stood us up at the airport at 2 a.m., so we attempted to walk the mile to our hotel. We ended up on the wrong side of an alligator-infested canal at 2 a.m., and had to be rescued by a stranger. The sharks had migrated up the coast, requiring us to drive an extra two hours to meet our boat. Along the way, I knocked my backpack out of the car and drove off without realizing that both it and my GoPro were lost on the side of the road. So much for a once-in-a-lifetime video. When we finally arrived at the dock, a storm was slowly rolling across the area. The ocean was churning with the largest swells the crew had ever sailed, and they informed us every single person from the previous dive had thrown up. If any of us wanted a rain check, they would happily take us out tomorrow. However, we were flying home the next day, so we had the choice of sea sickness or skipping the shark dive. To me, it seemed like the universe was giving us sign after sign that swimming with apex predators was a bad idea, but one look at my daughter told me skipping was not an option. So eight lunatics boarded a tiny boat and motored out into a storm. Two of them worked on the boat. Two were honeymooners, drunk on young love. Two were Norwegian tourists who I assume mistranslated the word “shark” as “fish that can’t eat us.” One was a very excited 13-year-old girl, and the last was her dad, seriously questioning his life choices. We

rode the massive waves a mile and a half out into the ocean. At that distance, the shore is still visible, but you’re far enough that beach goers can’t hear you scream. These eight people then jumped out of their perfectly good boat into shark-infested waters. We were instructed to hold onto a line attached to the boat. The crew assured us it was so no one would float away, but I felt like bait attached to a fishing line. Snorkels firmly attached to masks, we lowered our faces below the surface of the Atlantic. At that depth, the water was a disconcerting gradient fading from light blue, to sapphire, to navy, and then to black abyss. The crew tossed bits of fish into the water, and we waited. And waited. And then, from the darkness of the continental shelf, the sharks appeared. They came in twos and threes. Sleek and graceful, they were the epitome of raw predatory power. They were ten feet long, and so close we could have touched them. They were majestic. Awe-inspiring. Terrifying. And totally peaceful. They knew the crew. They were used to people in the water with them, and they had no interest in us. They were content to let us gawk while they got a free lunch before gliding back into the darkness. The dive was slated to last 45 minutes, but I only made it 15. My daughter made it 25. At that point we were both so seasick we abandoned the sharks, climbed back into the boat and commenced puking over the starboard bow: an ignoble end to a transcendent experience. We rode back to shore in a full-blown thunder storm, which had all the comfort of falling down a flight of stairs. By the time we arrived at the dock, we were exhausted, green with sea sickness, and soaked to the bone. By any objective standard, the entire experience was a disaster. Nothing went as planned. However, we will both tell you this is one of the best trips we’ve ever taken, not in spite of our hardships but because of them. Our challenges weren’t the enemies of a great time, they were essential to it. We had an unforgettable experience because we embraced the chaos, and we wouldn’t trade those misadventures for anything. Also, nobody got eaten. That’s a plus. See you on the next adventure!

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Bill Boatright was born 1948 in Borger, Texas. His father worked for Phillips Petroleum Company and moved to Bartlesville before Bill started school. He graduated from Bartlesville College High school in 1966. During high school, he worked for Oakley Pontiac, washing cars and said the Oakley family was great to work for. Bill later attended Oklahoma State School of Technology in Okmulgee for one year studying engineering mechanics. In 1967 he lost his student draft deferment and visited the Navy Recruiter so as not to be drafted. Bill was accepted into the Navy and arrived in San Deigo California September of 1967. Boot Camp was not difficult for Bill because marching in the high school Band built in a military style discipline. In Boot camp you are exposed to Naval techniques and other disciplines. During the nine weeks Bill was introduced to and did volunteer for Submarine Service and was later assigned to Submarine School in New London Connecticut. Here is where the training starts. You are evaluated to see if you can work well with others in close quarters, learn Submarine systems and survival techniques. A good example was the simulators of submarine controls, maintaining depth and steering. Also included was a 100-foot escape tower where sailors would experience the challenges of a buoyant life jacket ascent as would be experienced in a rescue operation. In May 1968 Bill was assigned to the USS Barb SSN596 and remained with her until discharge in July 1971. Barb was a Nuclear Sub located in Pearl Harbor, Hawaii at that time. The Barb was assigned to a year of repairs until operations took her from the West coast of the US to many operations in the open waters. During these periods Bill was studying the ships systems to demonstrate his knowledge of the boat to a board of certified peers and qualify as a Submariner and receive the coveted emblem of the Dolphins. Shortly after Bill’s arrival in Pearl Harbor the submarine force suffered a loss of the USS Scorpion and Bill had the honor of representing the USS Barb in the memorial service at Pearl. Bill’s first duty on board Barb was to assist in the galley in food preparation as was usually the duty of a new member on

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Joan Pascal Killingsworth Dreisker by Jan Dreiling Born in Seminole, Oklahoma, Joan Pascal Killingsworth moved to Duncan with her family in 1948. She graduated from OU in 1960. Her enthusiasm for Pi Beta Phi and OU football never wavered. Joan married Bartlesville native Dave Dreisker. Their life together took them to Lagos, Nigeria, for almost five years and to Tokyo, Japan, for seven, returning to Bartlesville in 1982. Joan loved Nigeria. She told stories of the beach with her children, eight and six when the family arrived, and of their two Nigerian dogs, Silky and Snoopy, who traveled with them to Japan and home to Bartlesville. In Japan, Joan was active in “Theatre for Children” where her friend, Judy Sackheim, directed and often narrated the plays. One highlight was in 1979 when Joan played “Mother Duck” in “The Ugly Duckling,” at the palace in Tokyo for the Crown Princess, her Ladies-inWaiting and their children. In Bartlesville, Joan and Dave took care of aging family members, including Joan’s father, Pat, who lived with them until he died at 100. Joan and Dave practiced an art of hospitality, perhaps unmatched in the community, by feeding their many friends and entertaining them with Dave’s story-telling. Dave died in 2017. Joan soldiered on, continuing the hospitality and doing the story-telling herself! Proud of her native American ancestry that included a great-grandparent with an original Cherokee allotment and many “unenrolled” Choctaws, Joan was heard to say at the end of watching “Killers of the Flower Moon” shortly before her death, “those are my people – the prairie has my heart.” The Dreisker home in Osage County, planned and built with loving care and perfection in 2000, was indeed where Joan’s heart remained.

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Lace up your sneakers and get your green gear ready! The 15th annual Shamrock the ‘Ville 5K and Fun Run is just around the bend on March 9th. This chip-timed run is certified by USATF and sets off from Unity Square while meandering through the streets of historic downtown Bartlesville. Plus, it’s all for a great cause – proceeds benefit Catholic Charities Mary Martha Outreach (CC-MMO), a local organization that provides much-needed items to those in need. So, run or walk your way to serving the community. “Our need is larger now than before,” said Misty Wishall, CC-MMO director. “With the rise in our economy we are finding many more people who could make ends meet before but now are unable to. We hope for our anniversary year we can also make this our largest turnout ever.” Awards are up for grabs for the top three racers based on age and gender, with youth and overall male/female categories. But it’s not about the awards that has kept participants coming back each year, but the fun nature of the fundraising race. “We’re proud that this run has become known as a funfilled, costume-wearing, laugh-out-loud kind of run where everyone is a winner at their own pace,” said Wishall. “So, go ahead and let your inner superhero shine on the course!” Services at CC-MMO include a food pantry, clothing center and crisis response. They also provide diapers and haircuts to anyone who needs them. This fundraiser is vital to provide sustainability to their mission and to this community. Last year, CC-MMO distributed over 2.5 million pounds of food last year and this race is vital to help continue that mission. “This is our sole fundraising event,” emphasized Wishall. “By paying registration fees, you provide us with the means to purchase food items, hygiene products, new school clothes, and winter coats. It allows us to continue to collaborate with other agencies, as a United Way Partner Agency, we not only assist families in need, but we also contribute to other organizations’ endeavors. We work with around 60 local agencies and provide aid to domestic violence survivors and burnout victims as well.” Avoid the line on race day by registering online and attending the pre-party and

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The Candy Man

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Those who know me know I have a fascination with local railroad history. As a child, my parents frequently took me downtown to the depot to see the trains pass through Bartlesville. Even better, as a first grader in 1971, our class took a field trip on the Santa Fe passenger train, the Tulsan, from Bartlesville to Independence, Kansas, to visit the Ralph Mitchell Zoo. A few years ago, while doing research at the Bartlesville Area History Museum, I located several photos of passengers boarding at Bartlesville on April 30, 1971, for the last run of the Tulsan. I showed the photos to a friend of mine who lives in Chanute, Kansas, and is a retired Santa Fe employee. My friend, Ed Brinkmeyer, is a second-generation railroader as his father, Vernon Brinkmeyer, also worked for the Santa Fe out of Chanute. Ed had always told me Vernon was the brakeman on that last passenger train. While showing the photos to Ed, he commented on one of them, “That’s Conductor W.D. Sperry, ‘The Candy Man.’” I should tell you by now, our conversations and reciprocal photo sharing usually lead to more research and investigation, and when I heard “Candy Man” I knew I needed to hear more. Ed explained Sperry got his nickname by handing out candy while working as conductor on the Tulsan. The passenger train ran between Tulsa and Kansas City for many years and Ed said Sperry was known for treating the children on the passenger train with candy. Ed said even after the passenger trains ended, Sperry still found a way to connect with the children by throwing candy out from the caboose. Ed recalled the local Bartlesville newspaper doing a story on “The Candy Man”. That was my green light. Let the research begin! I learned Sperry lived in Chanute, Kansas, and, according to some Santa Fe railroad seniority rosters I had previously collected, started working for the railroad 1941, and worked his way up in conductor seniority by 1950. Sperry worked the Tulsan during the 1960’s and always enjoyed handing out candy to children riding the train. It seems only right, then, on that day in April, 1971, Sperry worked that last passenger train through Bartlesville. News reporters documenting the event actually took Sperry’s photo as he took tickets that 74

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morning from local children boarding the train. After the passenger train was discontinued, Sperry went back to working as a conductor on freight trains that ran between Tulsa and Chanute. Back then, conductors rode in the caboose at the rear of the trains. Sperry became popular with children who lived along the tracks because he often threw candy from the rear platform of the caboose as the train passed them by. In September, 1971, the Tulsa World did an article on Sperry titled, “Throng of Thrilled Children Finally Meets Candy Man”. That evening, in a small neighborhood near the tracks between Owasso and Collinsville, Oklahoma, the train came to a stop so Sperry could get off the caboose and pass out candy to a crowd of approximately fifteen children while the reporter interviewed him. During the interview, Sperry explained he had been working for the railroad for 30 years to that point, first on freight trains then he eventually moved up to the conductor position on the passenger trains. Sperry said he learned early on, the best way to connect with children on the train was to pass out candy. Often times, it was the conductor who was in charge of looking after children traveling alone, as well as all of the other passengers, to make sure everyone traveled safely and got off at the correct towns along the line. Soon after the quick stop for interview and to hand out candy, Sperry boarded the caboose and disappeared into the darkness as the train had a schedule to keep. According to Ed, word got around and soon every community along the line developed large groups of children who gathered along the tracks each evening, awaiting the arrival of the freight train and its Candy Man. In Bartlesville, a common location at which the children would gather was the railroad crossing on 14th Street. Ed said as the groups of children and the frequency of their attendance grew, the railroad began to see it as a safety issue and Sperry was told to stop handing out the candy. Sperry eventually retired from the Santa Fe but his impact and legend lived on. He passed away in May, 2002, at the age of 84 years.

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