THE MESSENGER | SUMMER 2017
A MISSIONARY WIFE’S PERSPECTIVE
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he Oxford definition of unique, “being the only one of its kind; unlike anything else,” is a very accurate description of the life of a foreign missionary wife. The very fact that God created each of us with unique personalities, gave us different backgrounds and sent us to different fields of service argues that the blessings and challenges that make up the life of every missionary wife are as unique as each woman. In preparation for this article, many current missionary wives from a variety of fields of service around the world contributed their thoughts. As to be expected, their responses were . . . unique! This article is largely a synthesis of their contributions. The blessings of being a missionary wife truly are innumerable! The privilege of sharing the Gospel, discipling new believers, helping to grow local churches and, as one missionary wife stated, “spending your life impacting people for this life and the life to come” cannot be adequately expressed in words! While, to be sure, challenges abound in establishing churches with primarily first-generation Christians, the wonder of new life is exciting and even contagious. Blessings on the personal level are of real significance. Missionary life necessitates a close marriage and family relationships that are . . . well, unique! Being alone (even with the advantages of technology), living far away from family and home church, experiencing together the ups and downs of living in a culture not your own 1 Phraseology taken from Surprised by God by Faith Cook
and serving the Lord together develops close, loyal bonds. Rearing a family on a foreign field presents a variety of tough challenges, but there are also so many blessings that a book could be written on them alone! For instance, the simplicity and somewhat slower pace of life, compared to that of most American families, offer greater amounts of meaningful family time and opportunities to train children how to serve the Lord in a local church. Small churchplanting works always need Bible club leaders, Sunday school teachers, nursery workers, musicians, visitation partners, and the list goes on. These needs become opportunities for MKs (missionary kids) to serve the Lord, often at a younger age. Additionally, MKs benefit from the crosscultural experience that helps them develop a missions perspective and a vision for how the Lord could use a life wholly dedicated to Him. The challenge of adjustment to a new country and culture demands flexibility in almost every area of life. Tackling new languages and adapting to foreign ways of thinking are daunting tasks. Returning for furlough may suggest a reprieve from the incessant need for flexibility, but those hopes are short-lived. One missionary wife taught kindergarten on the floor of a small-town laundromat because the older children needed all the space in the hotel room for their schoolwork. Thousands of miles in the family car invite misery to children who may be prone to motion sickness, requiring more flexibility than even the most laid-back personality could possibly possess. Each missionary wife probably has hours’ worth of real-life stories in which human adaptability was stretched beyond reality!
Another challenge faced by many a missionary wife involves her own spiritual growth. Her personal walk with the Lord requires a deeper level of devotional study than the preparation for a ladies’ Bible study for first-generation Christians. Finding time for sufficient study is a universal problem certainly not limited to missionary wives! But ministry on the road in the States often robs missionary wives of privacy and time. If the wife does not schedule time for personal study of the Word of God and fellowship in prayer, she will shrivel up like a plant without water and will easily become overwhelmed by the challenges of missions. Thankfully, there are many accessible resources today to encourage our walk with the Lord! The challenges may sometimes seem to overshadow the blessings. Such was the case for the psalmist in Psalm 77. After crying out to God and listing his troubles, he counseled himself by turning his focus to God and His sufficiency. It would be wise for us to counsel ourselves in like manner. God is much greater than any challenge! It is easier to keep the challenges in proper perspective when we keep in mind that “faithful is He that calleth you who also will do it” (1 Thessalonians 5:24). The challenges, though they are often huge and harsh, will become blessings as we turn them into “many errands to the throne of grace,”1 giving us more reasons to spend time with the Lord, whom we are privileged to serve. Fixing our eyes on Him opens up a whole different set of blessings—a peaceful heart, a growing faith and a vessel fit for service for our sufficient God! ABOUT THE AUTHOR Katie Graham and her husband Eric have four children. Their family has served with BWM in South Africa since 1994.