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JBN Picture Pages. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .8 Around the Community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10 Community Calendar . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 36

JEWISH THOUGHT Rabbi Zvi Teichman. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 30 Rabbi Silber. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 Rabbi Berel Wein. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34 A Fulfilled Life. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38 All Things Considered. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42

HUMOR & ENTERTAINMENT Notable Quotes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43 Centerfold. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46

FEATURE All Eyes on the Candidates How Debates Swing Elections. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 56

LIFESTYLES

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613 Seconds with Jonah Lerner. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19 Travel. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40 Health & Fitness. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40 Travel. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 54 Dating Dialogue. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49 Political Crossfire. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 52 Studying Smart. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 60 Political Crossfire. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 62 Your Money. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 63 Biz Wiz. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 64 Forgotten Heroes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 68 Gluten Free Recipe Column. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 70 Cooking for the King. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 71

Dear Readers,

What is the first thing that comes to mind when we hear the word “Moshiach”? Is it an automatic “I can’t wait”? Are we truly longing each day for “Moshiach” to arrive? Is it simply human nature to feel comfortable with what we know and resist what we don’t? Is it the fear of facing our shortcomings? Do we subconsciously feel that we will somehow be unmasked for all to see? While these feelings are only human, allowing them to rule the day would be like failing to show up for the job interview of a lifetime or some other rare opportunity because we’re apprehensive, throwing in the towel, at the last second, because we can’t take the heat. In reality Moshiach is the culmination of all the good mankind has done since the creation of the world. True, evil sometimes appears to triumph, but the Torah teaches us that bad is like a shadow: the absence of “light” (good). As soon as the good is revealed,

negativity will simply disappear. Rashi, in his commentary of the word echad in the posuk of Shema, writes that when Moshiach comes it will be Hashem echad, G-d of the whole world; the whole world will come together to serve Hashem. Think of it as everything we believe being revealed in such a tangible way that even social media will buzz about it. We believe good will triumph evil? Check. G-d is the essence of good? Check. Man has a divine spark which once recognized puts us in a whole new light? Check. Bottom line: instead of being small-minded and focusing on all that’s wrong and incomplete in this world, let’s focus on the greatness of the human spirit and be ready for it to be revealed in its full glory speedily in our days. You said Moshiach is coming? I know that already and I’m actually looking forward. Wishing you a wonderful Shabbos and a ,‫כתיבה וחתימה טובה‬ Moshe Meir

NEWS Israel News . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22 That’s Odd. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 26

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Cheswolde’s ‘National Night Out’ By Isaac Draiman BaltimoreJewishLife.com/Jeff Cohn

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housands of communities nationwide gathered for the “33ndAnnual National Night Out” (NNO) crime and drug prevention event this Summer. National Night Out, which is sponsored by the National Association of Town Watch (NATW) and sponsored locally by the Cheswolde Neighborhood Association (CNA) on September 6, 2016, brought out over 500 people to celebrate the Police-Community Partnership. Over 800 Kosher hot-dogs and burgers were consumed by the en-

thusiastic crowd that gathered in the expansive backyard of the CNA Vice-President Isaac “Yitzy” Schleifer and his wife Lauren’s home. There was a multitude of children and families enjoying the various attractions, a live DJ and, of course, plenty of food and snacks. When asked what a night like this meant to him, Mr. Schleifer, excited to see such an enthusiastic crowd stated, “My goal has always been to bring the community together and to demonstrate unity. Tonight as we celebrate our NNO event I look at all the smiling faces interacting with law enforcement and elected officials, and I am struck with an overwhelming sense of pride. I realize how lucky I am to be able to give back to my communi-

ty, and look forward to continuing to serve the interests of my neighbors, advocating for the needs of everyone. “Local sponsors of the CNA event included Healthy Neighborhoods, Raffle Ready, Tov Pizza, Baltimore Shomrim Safety Patrol, Blue Ocean Realty, Baltimore Jewish Home, and Pickwick East Apartments. Nathan Willner, President of the Cheswolde Neighborhood Association remarked, “the National Night Out is designed to generate support for local law enforcement and to strengthen neighborhood spirit and the police-community partnerships. While other communities around the country at times find this a challenge, we truly appreciate the sacrifice our first responders make for our neighborhoods.

Nothing brings that message home stronger than to see the caliber of attendees at this event. From the Mayor-Elect Katherine Pugh, City Council President Jack Young, Baltimore City State’s Attorney Marilyn Mosby, and the highly respected U.S. Congressman John Sarbanes to Baltimore City Police Commissioner Kevin Davis, almost every branch of government and rank of law enforcement are represented here tonight. We even have Circuit Court Judges in attendance, including our very own Judge Karen Chaya Freidman. Once again for a second year, without the hard work of my Vice President Yitzy Schleifer and Treasurer Alan Goldfeder this immensely successful event would not have come to fruition.”


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Governor Larry Hogan Addresses Israeli Tech Conference

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overnor Hogan today addressed more than 250 Israeli high-tech entrepreneurs at the GIA TLV 2016 conference on the campus of Tel Aviv University. The GIA, which stands for “Government, Investors, and Accelerators,” gathering is hosted by SpeedMind!, an organization that links Israeli start-up companies with financing opportunities. SpeedMind! is affiliated with Israeli consulting firm FreeMind, whose clients service numerous U.S. federal facilities like the National Institutes of Health, the U.S. Department of Defense, and the Food and Drug Administration, as well as private foundations.

The governor highlighted Maryland’s unique assets for global companies, including a highly-educated workforce, world-class infrastructure,

proximity to the nation’s capital, and the numerous successful partnerships between the state and Israeli businesses to date. He also discussed the impact of the technology industry on healthcare, cybersecurity, and society and Maryland’s leadership in these areas. “Maryland truly is at the forefront of science, technology, business, and policy, and we want Israeli companies to continue to be a key part in our success,” said Governor Hogan. “We are committed to creating a culture in our state where all businesses can grow and thrive, and in this increasingly competitive economy, where companies can – and do – locate virtually

anywhere, we want to look beyond our borders for more opportunities. We want to forge more international partnerships around the world, and we want to start right here with our friends and allies in Israel. “To any Israeli company that wants to look to Maryland as a place to do business, you will find an open door in our state, a seat at the table, and a good friend of Israel in the governor’s office,” the governor continued. Governor Hogan has been in Israel since Tuesday as part of a weeklong economic development trade mission. He is leading a delegation of state officials, business leaders, and Jewish community leaders.

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The Jewish Community Football League (JCFL) by “Shindler by the Case” kicks off their 2016 Season Labor Day. To most, it’s a public holiday in the United States, celebrated on the first Monday in September to honor the American labor movement and the contributions that workers have made to the strength, prosperity, laws, and well-being of this country. But for the thousands of fans of the Jewish Community Football League, sponsored by Shindler by the Case, Labor Day 2016 meant one thing. The opening week of the JCFL Season! (It should be noted that not only does Shindler by the Case serve as the JCFL league sponsor for 2016, but they also offer quality kosher products (like chicken, meats, and fish) at discounted prices. All JCFL fans know to email shindlerbythecase@gmail.com, whenever they’re in need of quality kosher products at prices that can’t be beat.) For the fifth consecutive year, 80 men from the local Baltimore Jewish community (both young and not quite as young) have committed their Sunday mornings (from 9:30 AM to about 11:30 AM) to a pursuit that combines athleticism, competition, and friendship in such a way that arguably, can’t be rivaled in this community. Prior to the opening week, the league’s 80 players were divided amongst eight different teams via a draft system, ensuring parity between the teams. The eight teams are each named for their individual team sponsors: Big Daddy Addi Promotions, Crafted Kosher, Elle Remodeling,

Harris Automotive, Limited Goods, Mama Leah’s Pizza, Park Heights Roofing, and Y and L Landscaping. Following the draft, teams were provided their team jerseys (manufactured by “Big Daddy Addi Promotions”) which observers have described as, “Unusually dapper for a football jersey” and players have described as “snug, yet surprisingly comfortable.” Like previous seasons, all eight teams will compete for seven regular season games, with the top four teams facing off in a round of playoffs. The playoffs winners will then battle each other in the league championship, The Booksmart Kosher Bowl, with each hoping to take home the coveted, Booksmart Kosher Cup. As of this publication, three weeks have been completed. The current standings are as follows:

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To learn more about the league, check out their website: http:// www.leaguelineup.com/welcome. asp?url=jewishcommunityfootball&sid=968244742 For a recap of the excitement from the first Week 1 of the season, along with some phenomenal photographs

of the action from Week 2, taken by renowned local photographer, Uri Arnson (http://uriarnsonphotography. pixieset.com/), keep reading: Week 1

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The defending JCFL champion, Park Heights Roofing, picked up right where they left off last season as they defeated Crafted Kosher, 34-20. Although PHR lost numerous veterans to free agency this offseason, there were some familiar faces on the field. Reigning self-appointed MVP, Chaim Finkelstein threw four touchdowns and no interceptions and also ran in a touchdown. The “Ageless Wonder” (Yaakov Spatz) was making plays on both sides of the ball, all game. Former teammate Tied Pct. and pro bowler, Justin Nicholas 0 1.000 was back on the field after 1 1.000 taking a year off. He blocked well, caught 8 0 .667 passes and was wreaking havoc 0 .667 on the defensive line all morning. 1 .500 L e v i Zaslow, PHR’s 0 .333 big offseason signing, caught two touch0 .000 down passes and played 0 .000 very physical defense. Shimon “Gabbai” Kanter, another key offseason addition, added a touchdown reception and an interception. Justin Myrowitz, Yitz Cusner and Shmuel Fischler added veteran leadership to the team and made their presence known from the opening whistle. Newcomers Daniel Schmerling and Uri Rabinowitz proved that they can dominate in this league both on

offense and defense. Rabinowitz made numerous acrobatic catches and added a long touchdown catch and run. And Schmerling played flawless on the offensive line and wore down the other team’s players on the defensive line. Park Heights Roofing made a statement in the opening game that they have every intention of defending their title as champions. Next week they face Y&L Landscaping in a re-


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“hairstyle,” Bittan provided the first “wow” moment of the season with a rare double-flag-grab sack. Limited Goods’ defensive backfield was equally formidable. Harris Automotive played well in defeat. Center/Tight end/Wide Receiver/Defensive lineman/back hybrid Howie Friedman provided Harris Automotive’s highlight of the game by chasing Flamm down from behind and diving to grab Flamm’s flag, registering its sole sack.

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Kosher Italian Coffee Shop Coming To 1 E. Pratt St. By Joshua Gordon BaltimoreJewishLife.com/Jeff Cohn

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owntown office workers and tourists will have another spot to get their caf-

feine fix. Filicori Zecchini, a nearly 100-year-old Italian coffee company, will be moving into 1 E. Pratt St. in

downtown Baltimore. The newest shop will occupy the space that previously housed Nature’s Table, a soup, salad, wrap and smoothie eatery that closed last June after less than three years in the location. The space has been empty since the closure of Nature’s Table. Filicori Zecchini opened its first U.S. coffee shop in New York City and followed up with its first Maryland location in 2015 as part of the Towson

Town Center Mall. The company has not expanded outside of New York or Maryland in the United States, but has retail shops in Canada, Italy, Czech Republic and Romania. The shop’s roughly 1,700-squarefoot space in Baltimore can be accessed through an entrance off Pratt Street next to Kona Grill or by the main lobby. The PNC building sits at the corner of Pratt and Light streets.

It was evident early on that both teams were using the 1st week of the season to shake off the rust and get back in game shape. The high-turnover, defense controlled 1st half ended with Elle Remodeling leading 12-7. Elle QB Yoyo Strauss hit Shulie Hochman and Zack Pomerantz for TDs in the 1st half. Big Daddy Addi Promotions QB Asher Sondhelm avoided the blitzing Strauss and connected with WR Josh Zaslow on a deep score for their first TD of the season. The second half saw BDAP take a short-lived lead 14-12 after Sondhelm again hit Zaslow for a long TD. On the next drive, however, Strauss hit Hochman for his 2nd TD on the day. A successful 2 point conversion gave Elle the 20-14 lead. Late in the game BDAP tied it up at 20 after Sondhelm connected with WR Rafi Strum in the front of the end zone for another Big Daddy score. After Elle failed to convert on 4th and goal from the 2, BDAP got the ball back with 1:50 left on the clock but a huge sack by Elle Remodeling DE Seidel put an end to BDAPs next drive. Elle got the ball back with about 1 minute left. QB Strauss systematically drove Elle down the field, carving up Coach Joey Pollack’s newly installed defensive scheme. With only 5 seconds left on the game clock, Strauss evaded a fierce pass rush and hit WR (and realtor) David Pensak for the game winning TD in the back of the end zone.

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While the season kicked off on a beautiful Labor Day morning, this game started off as a defensive battle as both sides struggled to move the ball. However, toward the end of the first half, Mama Leah’s offense kicked into gear as QB Avi Yudkowsky hit WR Moshe Gholian for a pair of TDs, putting ML up 12-0 at the half. In the second half, Y and L Landscaping QB Dan Gutman provided his team with some strong offensive play but it seemed like every time they scored, Mama Leah’s would respond with a big play as the pizza shop’s WR, Yoni Gugenheim hauled in a pair of long touchdowns (which he then celebrated with his signature celebratory punt.) Dan hit his brother Ben with a couple of TDs late but it wasn’t enough as Mama Leah’s cruised to the 38-28 win in the opener.

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Limited Goods held Harris Automotive to one touchdown in a 21-6 victory. The game looked like it might be a blowout after Limited Goods’ QB David Flamm threw TDs to WR Mosheh Afrah on its 1st two drives of the game and converted both extra points (14-0). However, Harris Automotive battled back to score a touchdown on a long drive, narrowing its deficit to 14-6. The remainder of the first half was a defensive battle, with Harris Automotive unable to sustain any drives, or even getting a first down, and Flamm throwing 2 interceptions in the red zone, killing 2 more scoring chances. The second half continued to be a defensive battle, with Flamm throwing another TD to Afrah (plus the extra point) and Harris Automotive unable to generate any offense, due in no small part to the pressure primarily provided by former housemates and the 2 strongest (certainly per pound) players in the league, Limited Goods’ defensive linemen Jeromy Bittan and Yoseph Orshan. Limited Goods’ defensive line took advantage of the absence of Harris Automotive’s stalwart offensive lineman, Eli Cohen, and used an array of speed and power pass rushing moves to consistently beat double teams to keep QB Ross Mailman under constant pressure (a number of sacks plus countless pressures), wrecking his ability to complete forward passes. Showing off his new

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How long have you been involved in NCSY? It all depends on how you look at it. I have been involved in some aspect of NCSY (with the exception of 2 years studying in Eretz Yisroel) since I was in the 4th grade, when we restarted the local Chapter in Cherry Hill, New Jersey. As a professional, I started 19 years ago as a Madrich in an NCSY summer Kollel (which is still going strong, having another banner year with 250 participants). Since then, I have served as a local advisor, regional advisor, associate regional Director and now as the Regional Director of Atlantic Seaboard, which spans from Eastern Pennsylvania to Virginia. How is this region different and unique?

Our region is made up of three large metropolises; Greater Philadelphia, Baltimore and Greater Washington plus some smaller communities. Each one of the large areas could be its own region, as they have its own unique set of demographics. What works in one city may not succeed in another. However as a whole, I find our region is blessed with strong community lay leaders and professionals that are real partners in this holy work. People care about the Jewish future and are committed to helping the next generation connect to God and the Jewish people. We are also still growing, going from 500 teens a few years ago to 1700 this past year. What’s the one thing you have learned about the Baltimore Jewish community? Baltimore, while certainly not the largest Jewish community in the US, is known for having a really strong communal infrastructure. While others may be slowing down, Baltimore continues to grow and thrive. Each day the community is building and growing. Is there a special Rosh Hashana message you give to the teens you work with? Rosh Hashana unlike the secular

new year isn’t about celebrations and parties. It provides us with an opportunity each year to reconnect and think about finding meaning in our lives. The Jewish community is always open to you and now is the perfect time to see the beauty and love the Jewish community has to offer. What message can you give to those who are interested in getting involved in NCSY? You can always support the annual concert on January 15th; but the truth is we need you in so many other ways as well. Teens so often feel that a meaningful Jewish life and being successful in the “real world” are a contradiction. So many teens don’t even try and unfortunately, give up on their Jewishness. Our community is full of role models who each and every day are a synthesis of being both Bnai and Bnos Torah, who are also a part of the world at large. People do not realize what role models they can be by just being who they are. We are always looking for good people; to be mentors for our successful Senator Ben Cardin Jewish Scholars programs, people to present at a Latte and Learning, be on a panel at JSU club in local secular high school about work/ life balance or opening your home for Shabbos and Yom Tov meals.

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How long have you been living in Baltimore? How does it compare with other communities you have lived? It’s hard to believe that we have been here for over 6 years now. This is the longest time we’ve been living anywhere since we have been married. This is not my first stint in Baltimore. I attended TA for high school and lived in the dorm for 4 years. Baltimore is really a great community to raise a Jewish family. I think that is something that is easily taken for granted. Having had the opportunity to have lived in other communities, we have really found Baltimore to be unique. There are so many options here for Shul’s, schools, eateries and Jewish businesses. The strength of the Associated and the level of cohesiveness, is very special. It is also very unique that

most of the Shomer Shabbat community is really within walking distance. We honestly never thought we would be able to live in such a rich Jewish environment. When we got married, my wife and I knew we were going to be involved in Kiruv and Jewish education. We just assumed we would always be living in a real out of town environment. We never thought that we would be given the opportunity to live in a such a large vibrant community like Baltimore.

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Economic Cooperation and Development’s average of $10,493. Israel is improving and has shown increases but there is still a way to go. From 2008 to 2013, the Jewish State raised its spending per student by 17% which is way higher than the 8% average increase amongst other countries. While student population increased by 11% the overall education budget increased by 30%. The report also compared the differences in education levels between men and women. While women are almost twice as likely to have a degree, they are still less likely to have a job. 84% of female college grads have jobs, while 90% of their male counterparts are employed. Income inequality is a big issue as well. Women earn only around two-thirds of the salary that their male counterparts receive.

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Remembering 23 Palmach Heroes Great Britain has finally recognized the lives of 23 young Jewish men that were lost helping England in pre-state Palestine in 1941. Martin Sugarman, a British archivist and historian, has made many appeals to the British government to memorialize the brave young men of Operation Boatswain and was finally successful this past month. The operation is well-known to Israelis but is barely heard of in England.

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er, in 1941, the Brits were looking for help in running a mission against the French forces in Lebanon and Syria. The goal of the mission was to sabotage an oil refinery in Tripoli, Lebanon. Twenty three young members of the Palmach, the Haganah’s elite fighting force, came forward. The plan was to take a boat up the Lebanon coastline to Tripoli and plant explosives in the refinery. After rigorous training, the group set out on the night of May 18, 1941 – and were never seen again. Multiple theories exist as to what happened to the men; they have been listed as “missing in action” ever since that tragic night. Although multiple searches have been commissioned over the decades, no traces of the men have ever been found. The story of the 23 men has long been memorialized on Mount Herzl in Jerusalem and in many streets across the Holy Land but England has never honored or even acknowledged the brave men who heroically volunteered. Sugarman has made it his mission to procure acknowledgment from England. He wrote to the Commonwealth War Graves Commission, explaining all the details of the case and all of the documented information surrounding the mission. Surprisingly, the Commission responded and has set up a memorial at Brookwood cemetery. The cemetery is the largest in country, and one of the biggest in Europe. Hopefully this posthumous tribute will comfort the loved ones of the 23 brave heroes.

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Indian-American Milan Chatterjee was an unlikely choice as an anti-BDS movement poster boy when

he started UCLA law school in 2014. The Las Vegas native was the Graduate Student Association president at UCLA, but has now chosen to leave the school and complete his degree at NYU. His nearly year-long battle with the members of the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions movement against Israel led to his decision to leave the school. Chatterjee was harassed incessantly by BDS activists after stipulating that a diversity event would receive no funding if its organizers had any connection to the BDS movement. According to Chatterjee, “The administration is working in collusion with BDS activists.” It all began when a group called the Diversity Caucus organized a panel event and requested $2,000 from the Graduate Student Association in funding. After initially agreeing to vote on the funding, Chatterjee sent an email stipulating that the group could not receive the funding if it “engaged with any groups that supported divestment from Israel.” He said that giving funds to the Students for Justice in Palestine, a national anti-Zionist group, would imply that the university took a stand in the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. He also mentioned that some members of the student government were uncomfortable with giving funds to the group. The pro-Palestinian group complained to the administration and the Pandora’s Box has not closed since. The school launched an investigation and concluded that Chatterjee broke the school’s viewpoint neutrality rules. He contends – and the school admits – that the rules were never clearly explained. Chatterjee wants his record wiped clean but the university has refused to do so. The 27-yearold also claims that UCLA allowed BDS to leak the confidential report online. This is all in addition to the intense harassment he was subjected to by campus members of the BDS movement. Chatterjee is not fighting his battle alone. In the past week, over 500 UCLA alumni have signed an online petition calling for a public apology from the university. Donors have threatened to stop giving, and Helen Jacobs-Lepor, a vice president of a large biomedical device company, wrote on her Facebook page that she has taken UCLA out of her will. “I am


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An investigation led by Israeli police has revealed that over 20 activists and members of the Arab-Israeli party Balad hid the origin of millions of shekels in party donations. The police arrested senior Balad members, lawyers, activists and accountants. The three-seat party is one of the four Joint (Arab) List parties. The investigation began when a state comptroller report alerted the attorney general that senior members and activist had developed a way to “systematically misrepresent” the origins of millions of donated shekels. Allegedly, Balad reported large donations as having come from “various sources in Israel and abroad” as if they were smaller contributions that came from within Israel. The police report also said the party was involved in suspicious activities including “falsifying corporate documents, forgery, use of forged documents, money laundering, and violating the party financing law.” Unsurprisingly, Balad denied the charges, calling them “fabricated” and “baseless.” “The latest arrests are a brazen and dangerous escalation, but will not deter us from continuing our work,” their statement said. The founder of Balad, Azmi Bishara, fled Israel for Qatar in 2007 after he was accused of providing Hezbollah, the Lebanese terror group, with information during the Second Lebanon War. The party’s three Knesset members were heavily criticized and condemned for visiting the fam-

Heading to the Guggenheim one of these days? You’ll be treated like royalty – when you go to the bathroom, that is. The New York museum has installed an 18-karat gold toilet in its fourth floor restroom. Visitors can use the commode just like they would use any other porcelain model. The golden throne is part of Italian artist Maurizio Cattelan’s “America” exhibit. This is the first piece he’s displayed in the Guggenheim since 2011. According to the Guggenheim, the exhibit “offers a wink to the excesses of the art market but also evokes the American dream of opportunity for all.” Being that the museum is located in the Big Apple where people need to chain their benches to their homes for fear of theft, there is a guard standing outside the bathroom door to remind visitors that it’s a piece of art. Considering that it’s all made of gold, the toilet probably is worth between $1,474,592 and $2,527,872 just in gold alone. That’s like pouring your money down the toilet.

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“We can’t give you big money, but we can give you an awesome life,” the company’s Facebook post reads. “[W]e can offer you a great incentive to come and try us out. One thing our business does have is LOTS of LAND.” Upon being accepted for the job, the new employee will get access to two acres of land to put a home on. If the employee stays on at The Farmer’s Daughter Country Market for five years, and everyone still likes each other after that time working together, then the land is granted to the employee.

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What will your new home look like if you decide to relocate? “It is an area surrounded by beautiful mountains and the shining Bras d’Or lake where kayaks and canoes outnumber motorboats,” the post describes. “We are looking for people who are environmentally conscious, want to be part of a community and will see our business not as you work for us, but we all work together to create something to be proud of.” Sounds like a dream job. Do they have laundry services too?

Hitchhike or Bust

A Frenchman threw a hissy fit in a small New Zealand fishing village after trying to hitchhike from the town with no success. It seems that for four days the 27-year-old stood with his thumb out and there were no takers. After the long days, the Frenchman went “berserk,” attacked the “Welcome to Punakaiki” sign and threw road signs into the local river. The town of Punakaiki is home to just 70 fulltime residents. It has no grocery and only minimal public facilities. You have to give the traveler credit though for his consistency. He stood at the same spot for four days – even though it was a corner with poor visibility and with nowhere for cars to pull over. It would

have taken him a day and a half to walk to the next town over. “Oh he threw an absolute hissy fit; he was lying prone on the road screaming that New Zealanders were [garbage] and he couldn’t wait to get back to Europe,” says local Neil Mouat, who eventually called police. “He was a spoilt millennial, and he created a … din.” The ride seeker had a good night’s sleep, though. He was arrested and is now out on bail.

Wang has been called “the nation’s husband” because he is China’s most eligible bachelor. He is part of the nation’s second-generation rich, sons and daughters of tycoons that are best known for flaunting their decadent lifestyles. But not everyone is swooning over his wealth. Last year, the official Xinhua news agency published a blistering commentary about Wang accusing him of having “stained the purity of the Chinese (people)” and warning others not to copy the “arrogant and coarse celebrity.” Seems like his taste and manners are going to the dogs.

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Coco may be the luckiest dog in the world but her owner is just a tad crazy. As Apple fans lined up across China last week in the craze to get their hands on the latest iPhone, Coco lounged on his couch while her owner – or probably his valet – scooped up eight iPhone 7s for her. Wang Sicong is the son of Chinese billionaire Wang Jianlin, who is estimated to be worth $30 billion. His son makes it his business to show off his bank account to the rest of the world. Just last year, he posted a photo of Coco, his Alaskan malamute, with two Apple watches on her doggie “wrists” that were worth more than $37,000. Last week, on the day the iPhone came out, Wang shared a photo on Weibo with Coco lounging with her eight black and rose gold iPhone 7s. In China, an iPhone 6 costs 6,988 yuan ($1,047), while the larger iPhone 7 Plus goes for 7,988 yuan ($1,197). “I don’t understand all the showoff posts on (social media),” read the post alongside the photos. “What’s the point? Don’t make me do it?”

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It’s No Laughing Matter! By Rabbi Zvi Teichman

After the Jewish nation heard the ninety-eight curses enumerated in the Admontion, they became frightened and discouraged. Moshe sought to comfort them saying that despite their many failures they are obviously still ‘standing’ before G-d, He clearly hasn’t forsaken them until now, He most certainly will maintain them in the future as well. Moshe is not negating the consequences of their sins but merely reiterating the fact that it is going to take a lot before G-d gives up on them. In fact, in the later verses Moshe forewarns them of G-d refusing to forgive them and expressing ‘smoking’ anger against them. Is that really consoling? Is their merely knowing they will one day survive, enough to keep them buoyant and prevent them from despairing in the interim of their seemingly endless pain and suffering? • The Midrash in discussing their state of terror of the future describes them as ‫הוריקו פניהם‬, their faces turned green. Is that the only way to depict fright? ‘They trembled’, ‘they panicked’, ‘they fell on their faces’ are much more descriptive of the state of worry and hopelessness they experienced, why the emphasis on their ‘faces turning green’? • The Talmud reveals that at the moment of a person’s death the Angel of Death arrives with a sword dripping with ‫מרה‬, ‘bitter’ poison. As the angel stands over the person he suddenly catches sight of this scary angel. Being seized with fear, his mouth opens, and a drop enters. The drop kills him, makes him decay, and ‘turns his face green’. ).‫(ע"ז ד' כ‬ The Maharal teaches that there are three stages in death. First the ‫נפש‬, the animative spirit diminishes, then the ‫גוף‬, our physical body begins to decompose, and finally the ‫צלם אלוקים‬, the ‘Image of G-d’ leaves. The ‘green face’ represents the departure of our unique spiritual luminescence, that piece of G-d, as it were, we each possess, that radiates outward from our countenance. •

There are many challenges in life. Some of them sap our emotional energy, leaving us at times immobile, without ambition or drive. Our ‫נפש‬, our soul, is emotionally drained. At times we must endure physical suffering, when our bodies are afflicted with disease and attrition. Our ‫גוף‬, our body, begins to feel the effect of lifelessness. Though it is difficult, a person can often muster the requisite inner emotional and physical strength to conquer and defeat these dangerous forces that seek to destroy us. But when we lose our Tzelem Elokim, that sense of knowing we are special and worthy in G-d’s eyes, there is no turning back, which is when we truly ‘die’. • What the nation feared was not necessarily the consequences they would have to endure to affect atonement. What ‘frightened them to death’ was they felt as though G-d was rejecting them. To that misconception Moshe quickly responds and gathers them together and enthusiastically declares, ‫אתם נצבים‬ ‫היום כלכם לפני ד' אלקיכם‬, You are standing, all of you, before G-d, your Lord. Moshe doesn’t rely on referring to them all in one fell swoop, but goes on to enumerate every single one of them, from the children to the wood choppers and water carriers, asserting how beloved they all are in G-d’s eyes. The Midrash in fact states that this appellation being conferred on them as '‫'נצבים‬, standing, is similar to G-d’s description of ‫מלאכים‬, angels, as ‫עומדים‬, standing, and is intended precisely to emphasize how much ‫חיבה‬, love, G-d has for his children.)‫(ילקוט ראה‬ Once they had their ‘standing’ with G-d reiterated, they were emboldened to take on whatever ‘punches’ may come their way! • The beloved and eternally ebullient Gaon and Mekubal, Reb Gamliel Rabinowitz, once shared with me the following gem and requested that I spread it. Years ago there was a young Gerrer

chosid who was a student learning in Israel at the illustrious Sefas Emes Yeshiva in Jerusalem. As he was returning shortly to the States he felt driven to go to the Western Wall one more time before leaving to express gratitude to G-d for the precious years he was privileged to spend learning in the Holy land and to pray for his success in the future. As providence would have it, his revered Rebbe, the Bais Yisroel, was there when he arrived. In this young man’s enthusiasm and excitement to pour out his heart in thanks to G-d, Who had been so benevolent to him, he approached his Rebbe and asked him to teach him what is the greatest praise one could possibly bestow on such a loving G-d at this inspired moment. The Rebbe who was renowned for his terse and succinct responses quickly uttered, “az der Eibishter lacht nisht!’, and then characteristically scampered away. Literally translated this means that G-d, ‫אינו צוחק‬, doesn’t laugh. The young man was clearly bewildered and perplexed. Hoping that his Rebbe would share with him some elevated insight or purposeful expression, instead all he told him was to thank G-d for not laughing! The student quickly returned to his Yeshiva and headed straight to the Rosh Yeshiva, the esteemed Gaon, the Pnei Menachem, who one day would serve as Rebbe as well, and shared with him his strange tale. The Pnei Menachem lovingly explained to him the depth of what the Rebbe had meant. We come each year before the Almighty beseeching him to bestow us with blessing. Have we changed? Have we taken any steps towards improving our behavior? Don’t we stumble time and again on exactly the same errors and delusions? Yet we ask for His kindness, for His forgiveness, for His unconditional love. Have you heard anything more comical in your life? Yet, He doesn’t laugh! Now tell me,

is there a greater Father than the One we have in Heaven? • One of the great early twentieth century rabbinic scholars and leaders in Hungary, Rabbi Fischel Zussman-Sofer gives a most fascinating interpretation of the ‘moment of death’ at the hands of the deathly angel. In life we are willing to swallow bitter pills for a greater return. Who wouldn’t invest ‘blood, sweat and tears’ to build up their own business? Who wouldn’t be willing to endure painful medical treatment with the promise of restored health and vigor? But how much ‘toil and suffering’ are we willing to commit towards growing spiritually? Would we devote sleepless nights to poring over the treasures of our Torah? Would we shake off sleep to pray on time and with exuberance? How much are we willing to knock ourselves out in order to help out another Jew? At that last breath of life the Angel of Death is teaching us a most vital lesson. As man fears death he instinctively opens his mouth to willingly swallow the bitter pill he desperately hopes is the medicine that will bring him back to life. It is precisely at that moment that he ‘gets it’. Where was I with that same sense of desperation to attain spiritual growth and a closer connection to G-d in the course of my life? It is at that moment that man’s ‘Image of G-d’ follows suit and says goodbye. )‫(מטה נפתלי דרוש מא‬ • The ‘drop’ of bitterness used here is perhaps instructive. The Chofetz Chaim was wont to say that one should never talk in terms of things being ‘good’ or ‘bad’ in life. Everything is good. However, we do accept the fact that we sometimes must live through ‘bitter’ times. That’s why we often refer to the ‘bittereh (bitter) galus’ rather than a ‘shlechter (bad) galus’. You cannot reconstitute something that is bad and spoiled, but we can always sweeten that which is merely bitter. If we live with that consciousness of G-d’s absolute love that prevents Him from ever laughing at us, we will be able to transform those bitter moments into something bittersweet. We wish each other a ‫שנה טובה ומתו־‬ ‫קה‬, A good sweet New Year, because it is always good, we just fervently pray that it will be exquisitely sweet as well! May we be willing to undertake a regimen of bitter medicine in our quest for spirituality because therein lays the secret to living a long, healthy and very sweet life! ‫בברכת כתיבה וחתימה טובה‬ ‫ושנה טובה ומתוקה‬


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The Torah tells us very little when it comes to the Yom Tov of Rosh Hashanah. We are told about the sacrificial obligations and rites and yet there is no mention that it is a universal day of judgment. In fact, the Torah does not even identify this sacred day as “Rosh Hashanah” (the beginning or “head” of the year) rather, the Torah refers to it as “Yom Teruah,” the day on which the Teruah is sounded.

The Rabbis explain that the Torah is teaching us about the special mitzvah of the day – the Shofar. But what is the meaning of this mitzvah? What is the message contained in the powerful blasts of the Shofar? Why did God choose to anchor the identity of this sacred and hallowed day in this particular obligation? Rav Saadiah Gaon (882-942) explains that one of the reasons we

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sound the Shofar is to commemorate a miracle that occurred thousands of years ago in the city of Yericho (Jericho). When the Jewish people entered the Land of Israel under the leadership of Yehoshua (Joshua) they were faced with the immediate challenge of conquering the border city of Yericho. Yericho was surrounded by heavily fortified, tall walls and the only way to enter the Promised Land was through its gates. God commanded Yehoshua to circle the city; blow the Shofar and the city walls would crumble. Yehoshua did as commanded and miraculously the walls of Yericho fell (according to some commentaries the walls sank into the ground). On Rosh Hashanah we remember the miracle of the crumbling walls of Yericho. While this is a beautiful idea, we are left to ponder; what is the connection between Rosh Hashanah and the crumbling walls of Yericho? Rebbi Nachman of Breslov (17721810) explains that we each have some obstacle we feel is insurmountable; a challenge we cannot overcome. We each have our “life wall” that we simply cannot scale. More often than not – this is but an illusion. As God demonstrated in Yericho even the strongest of walls can be brought down, even the most grueling of challenges can be met. Rebbi Nachman explains that this is the meaning of Rav Saadiah Gaon’s statement – we blow the Shofar on Rosh Hashanah to remember the victory over Yericho, to remember that we have the ability to meet every life challenge head on, to bring down every wall that stands in our way. We may not immediately realize success, but we have the tools

to begin the process. This is why the Torah refers to this holy day as, Yom Teruah. This is the very essence of our new year. Rosh Hashanah is our opportunity to commit to bringing down the walls that have kept us from accomplishing, growing and becoming more. If the Shofar can bring down the walls of Yericho, it can give me the courage to demolish my walls as well. Randy Pauch was Professor of Computer Science at Carnegie Mellon University. In August 2006, he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and pursued aggressive treatment. However, by August 2007 he was told it had metastasized and his condition was terminal. On September 18, 2007, Dr. Pauch delivered a moving talk that was titled, “The Last Lecture.” He said, “The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. The brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough.” As we take leave of 5776, we are reminded of the times in life when we looked at the wall, felt overwhelmed by its height and turned around. In just a few days we begin anew. Let us allow the sounds of the Shofar to fill our hearts and inspire us to aggressively overcome our obstacles, scale our walls and enjoy success in our life endeavors. I wish each of you beautiful and sweet New Year. May we merit a year filled with holiness, happiness, peace and beautiful life accomplishment. Good Shabbos and Kesiva V’Chasima Tova


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Parshat Ki Tavo By Rabbi Berel Wein

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he warnings to the Jewish people as contained in this week’s Torah readings are awesome (how I despise that word as currently used in popular vernacular!) in their ferocity and cruelty. Unfortunately, they are also unerringly truthful and accurate. Everything in its minutest detail did befall us, not only over the long millennia of our existence as a people but as an accurate description of our fate in the last century. The eternal question that nags at our very being as a people is “why?” or perhaps better still “why us?” Though the Torah implicitly and explicitly puts the onus for all of this on the obstinacy and waywardness of the sinful behavior of the Jewish people, Jews throughout the ages have found it difficult to fit this punishment to the crime.

correct, exquisitely so, but completely beyond human understanding and rationalization. Though the Torah demands rational thought and analysis in interpreting its laws and value system, in essence it is obvious that it must be dealt with, in its authority and influence over human events, more as a matter of Heavenly understanding than human intelligence. We have the great example of Rabi Akiva, who saw in the destruction of the Temple and the terrible scenes of cruelty that the Romans wrought against the Jews, the seeds of rebirth and resilience of the Jewish people. It is one of the mysteries of nature that destruction is always part of rejuvenation and renewal. The raging and most destructive forest fire somehow preserves and guarantees the growth of a new, greater and more verdant forest.

It is one of the mysteries of nature that destruction is always part of rejuvenation and renewal.

Even in Second Temple times already, the rabbis were hard pressed to determine the cause of the Temple’s destruction and resorted to explaining it in terms of baseless internal feuds and hatreds. As destructive as these traits undoubtedly are, they are difficult to pin down and identify as part of a national policy of a society of millions of individuals. We are therefore left to deal with the issues purely as a matter of faith and acceptance. G-d’s judgment and policies are

There is an interesting interpretation of the well-known verse in Kohelet: “A generation departs and a generation arrives and the earth survives forever.” Aside from the usual understanding of the verse in regard to human mortality and the unchanging state of the world and its challenges, the verse can be viewed as teaching us another lesson. Namely, that it is only because of the departure of one generation and the consequent renewal caused by the arrival of another generation

that the world is able to survive and remain vital. Now this begs the question as to why G-d created nature and the world in such a pattern. But, at least to me, it does signify the eternal path of the Jewish people through history

as being in line with nature’s pattern of eternity itself. Just as nature with its very destructive forces nevertheless guarantees the eternity of the world, this parsha guarantees the survival of the Jewish people. Shabbat shalom.


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ast week Sunday, our nation and the world commemorated the 15th anniversary of the tragic events of September 11, 2001. During the many memorial tributes and services, people spoke of the horrific attacks that were unleashed on lower Manhattan and the Pentagon on that day. They also recounted the countless acts of selfless heroism that occurred on that day by individuals

who rose to the moment by helping others in need. And of course, there was much focus on rebuilding, on the fact that Americans did not hunker down in fear following the tragedy. But there was more to 9/11, certainly with regards to the long term impact of the attacks. The masterminds and executioners of the attacks did not “just” wreak havoc and destruction on thousands of people.

They instilled a sense of lasting fear in millions in this country. Americans who felt safe and untouchable on their own soil were now permanently vulnerable knowing that they could never fully anticipate or prevent future attacks. The impact also extended to the way we travel and the way we think of others. New regulations were enacted to reduce the risk of terrorist violence, including increased airport security (costing our nation billions of dollars annually) and limitations on traveling with such “innocuous” items as shoes, toiletries and laptops. Identification requirements are now stricter and more extensive than ever before. Moreover, we are warier and less trusting of others than we once were, particularly those that fit certain external profiles. 9/11 was a watershed moment in American history, a paradigm shift that has permanently altered our basic way of thinking. It marked the end of a time when wars were conducted on foreign soil, and terrorist victims were people in other countries, fighting over causes not particularly important to or understood by the local conscience. 9/11 brought international struggles and violence to our doorstep and made terrorism an American problem. This week’s parsha also presents a paradigm shift, a stark contrast between the blessings that we will receive if we act in accordance with Hashem’s will, including peaceful, blessed residency in our homeland, and the dire consequences that we will face – including destruction and exile – if we choose the opposite path.

And it shall come to pass, if you shall hearken diligently unto the voice of Hashem your G-d, to observe to do all His commandments which I command thee this day, then Hashem will set you above all the nations of the earth. And all these blessings shall come upon you, and overtake you (Devarim 28:1-2) But it shall come to pass, if you will not hearken to the voice of Hashem your G-d … that all these curses shall come upon you, and overtake you … Hashem will send upon you cursing, confusion, and rebuke, in all that you put your hand to do, until you be destroyed … because of the evil of your doings, whereby you hast forsaken Me… And all these curses shall come upon you, and shall pursue you, and overtake you, till you be destroyed; because you did not hearken to the voice of Hashem your G-d, to keep His commandments and His statutes which He commanded you. (Ibid 15ff) In contrast to the harrowing events of 9/11, the reality shift that our parsha described was clearly in our hands to determine. Let us hope speedily for a time in which we will enjoy clear, direct divine providence, a time in which we will no longer have to fear the impact of such traumatic external changes, so that we can fully invest our physical and emotional energies, not to mention our resources, fully in the service of our Maker.

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enormous capacity for healing without intervention, that plants thrive with just a little kindness, and that which is pliable will bend in the storm, but not break. I am amazed that I have yet to witness the actual glorious transition of bud to flower, and learn that nature always takes a gradual approach. It is in the smallest increments that the moon becomes full, the day breaks, and the bird’s nest is made. The spectacular is created in quiet moments. Summer is over, and I wistfully witness yellow school buses vacuum up students from street corners, bringing them to schools in which to learn. The somber indoors, where education occurs in the setting of artificial light tempered by artificial air, replaces the great outdoors, where the Great University of Higher Learning is rich with genius and majesty. It reminds me of the science of hydroponics, where plants are grown in liquid nutrients, rather than in soil. It reminds me, too, of vertical farming, done in a controlled environment. On these contested issues, I know for certain which side I’m on. It is a season for turning over a new leaf, but no, not from the tree, for THE LAST LEAF will soon have fallen, but in the book. The field of education is no longer in the field. Feet, once running wild and bare in the meadows, are shod in Nikes and aligned under metal desks, and the unbridled spirit is now contained by conformity. All are disciplined by the BELLS, BELLS, BELLS, THE JINGLING AND THE TINKLING OF THE BELLS. I take to heart the lesson of the perennials, that there will yet be an EXODUS from the brick and mortar into the embrace of nature’s soul. Until then, may all students be blessed with success and merit to see the fulfillment of their GREAT EXPECTATIONS!

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– From a Politico article detailing how Clinton’s distain for drinking water led to her dehydration

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The real issue is chronic dehydration, exacerbated by her lung problem and Clinton’s reluctance to drink water, which has become a source of tension with her staff. “She won’t drink water, and you try telling Hillary Clinton she has to drink water,” said a person in her orbit.

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I drink tons of water. Just as much water as I can possibly drink. – Hillary Clinton in an interview with Katie Couric in 2008, professing her love for water

This weekend, Martha Stewart said Donald Trump should not be president because he is “totally unprepared.” Though to be fair, by Martha Stewart’s standards, we’re all unprepared. – Conan O’Brien

- Instagram post by Donald Trump Jr., commenting on a t-shirt which declared “Vote Bigly,” a word that his father seems to say often

I will consider it a personal insult, an insult to my legacy, if this community lets down its guard and fails to activate itself in this election. - President Obama speaking at the meeting of the Congressional Black Caucus Foundation

- White House Spokesman Josh Earnest, on CNN, one day after several ISIS-inspired terrorist attacks in NY, NJ and Minnesota

There’s been a lot in the news about Hillary Clinton’s recent bout of pneumonia. Hillary herself tweeted about it yesterday, saying just like any sick person, she’s “just anxious to get back out there.” That shows how out of touch Hillary is with regular people. People don’t want to go back to work. Nobody’s in bed at 1 p.m. thinking, “Oh man, I wish I was watching Linda’s PowerPoint on how to fill out my expense reports.” – James Corden

I’m not owned by corporate+ I don’t worship the $ nor do I care what Zionists think of me. - Tweet by Newsweek magazine’s senior deputy editor Leila Hatoum after she was accused of being anti-Israel

Her doctors say she’s doing so well, she’ll be up and deleting emails in no time. – Ibid.

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A woman in Oregon who was hospitalized for E. coli after eating Chipotle is suing the company for free Chipotle. It’s all part of Oregon’s “right to die” law. – Conan O’Brien

Yesterday Hillary tweeted to her supporters that like anyone who’s ever been home sick from work, she’s just anxious to get back out there. Then those people said, “Nope, we’re pretty happy just staying home and watching Netflix.” – Jimmy Fallon

Donald Trump admitted to Dr. Oz that he is overweight, loves fast food, and doesn’t exercise. In a related story, Trump just won Wisconsin. – Conan O’Brien

I don’t know about you guys, but I am so relieved that the whole birther thing is over. I mean, ISIL, North Korea, poverty, climate change, none of those things weighed on my mind like the validity of my birth certificate.

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- President Obama joking at a fundraiser on Saturday night, several hours after ISIS-inspired attacks in NY, NJ and Minnesota

Yesterday Joe Biden told some of Hillary’s campaign workers that he’s also had pneumonia before, and that if the doctor tells you to take three days off, you should actually take six days off. Of course, that advice only really works if your job is vice president. – Jimmy Fallon

Most damaging of all may have been a remark she made at a fundraiser on Friday when describing Trump’s voters as a “basket of deplorables.” Wow. Hillary should put her insults in “the hamper of awkwardness.” – Steven Colbert

It sounds like the worst-selling item at Edible Arrangements. Or maybe your cousin’s suburban punk band. Or even better, maybe the Korean translation of the “Minions” movie. - Ibid.

Hillary Clinton is taking the day off again, she needs the rest. Sleep well Hillary — see you at the debate! - Tweet by Trump six days before the debate, noting Hillary’s lack of scheduled events until the debate

Wal-Mart is working on a self-driving shopping cart that would return itself to the store after you’re done using it. Though the minute that Wal-Mart shopping cart becomes self-aware, it’s going to drive itself to Target and never look back. – Jimmy Fallon

Papa John’s has announced it will be coming out with an app for Apple TV that will allow customers to order pizza from their screen. You get a soda, breadsticks, and a large pizza when you say, “Siri, how will I die?” - Seth Myers

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I’ve been briefed about the bombings in New York and New Jersey, and the attack in Minnesota. – First sentence of Hillary Clinton’s short statement to the press shortly after the Saturday night bombings

Secretary Clinton, do you have any reaction to the fact that Donald Trump, immediately upon taking the stage tonight, called the explosion in New York a “bomb”? – First question to Clinton after her statement

You are welcome Colin Kaepernick. - Tweet by New York Rep. Lee Zeldin (R) on Monday, taking a swipe at cop-hating NFL quarterback Colin Kaepernick after authorities took custody of the Chelsea bombing suspect

Well, I think it’s important to know the facts about any incident like this… I think it’s always wiser to wait until you have information before making conclusions because we are just in the beginning stages of trying to determine what happened.

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Donald Trump’s childhood home in Queens is going up for auction next month. Apparently, the house has five bedrooms, or as Trump calls it, “20 walls.”

– Clinton’s response

– Jimmy Fallon, after Clinton collapsed at the 9/11 memorial ceremony

There have been smarter and better looking men than me who are no longer alive. All that is left for us to do is to keep working as hard as we can and rebuild what we lost. - 113-year-old Yisrael Kristal, of Israel, upon celebrating his bar mitzvah a century after he was unable to celebrate due to World War I

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Riddle me this? There is a party of 100 highpowered politicians. All of them are either honest or liars. You walk in knowing two things: - At least one of them is honest. - If you take any two politicians, at least one of them is a liar. From this information, can you know how many are liars and how many are honest? See answer on next page

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2. Under my plan, I will put Medicare in an ironclad lockbox. 3. I want you to know also I will not make age an issue of this campaign. I am not going to exploit for political purposes my opponent’s youth and inexperience. 4. I knew Jack Kennedy; Jack Kennedy was a friend of mine. Senator, you’re no Jack Kennedy. 5. Sorry. Oops. 6. We can no longer afford to be second best. I want people all over the world to look to the United States again, to feel that we’re on the move, to feel that our high noon is in the future. 7. There is no Soviet domination of Eastern Europe. 8. When I hear your new ideas, I’m reminded of that ad, “Where’s the beef?” 9. I never attacked him or his looks, and believe me, there’s plenty of subject matter right there.

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Answers to Who Said It: 1-C. President Jimmy Carter in the 1980 debate with Ronald Reagan. 2-H. Al Gore at the 2000 debate with George Bush. 3-G. Ronald Reagan during the 1984 presidential debates when asked if, at 73, he was too old to be president. 4-I. Democratic candidate Lloyd Bentsen in the 1988 vice presidential debate when Dan Quayle likened his political experience to that of John F. Kennedy. 5-E. Texas Gov. Rick Perry during the 2012 Republican primary debate after he spent 52 cringe worthy seconds trying to remember the name of a governmental department that he promised to close. 6-F. John F. Kennedy in the 1960 presidential debate with Richard Nixon. 7-B. Gerald Ford, during the 1976 debate against Jimmy Carter. 8-A. Walter Mondale during the 1984 Democratic presidential primary debate. 9- D. Donald Trump during the 2016 Republican primary debate when he was accused of attacking Sen. Rand Paul. Wisdom key: 8-9 correct: You, my friend, are Jack Kennedy! 4-7 correct: You are not a bad debater, but where’s the beef? 0-3 correct: Sorry. Oops!

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Dating Dialogue

Dear Navidaters,

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Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

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What Would You Do If… Chaim and I have gone out already for several months. Things have been moving along very nicely and progressing without a hitch. We’ve started having more serious conversations and Chaim felt it was important for me to meet his parents before we took any further steps.

Since you don’t know who I am, I can comfortably say this. I can’t stand Chaim’s mother! From the very first moment that I met her she made me feel enormously uncomfortable. She blatantly and without any shame looked me up and down, as though I was a piece of meat at a butcher! She started assaulting (that’s how it felt) me with dozens and dozens of questions, some very personal. She asked many personal questions about my parents and there was a judgmental edge to her reactions and responses. We sat in their living room for maybe half an hour. It was the longest, hardest half hour I ever remember experiencing. I couldn’t get out of there fast enough.

I really don’t know what to do. I’ve started slowing things down with Chaim, but haven’t told him why. I don’t want to hurt his feelings and it’s not his fault that his mother is so aggressive and rude. My own mother thinks I should run for my life. (Apparently, she didn’t have the kindest mother-in-law either and knows what it’s like to be saddled with a harsh one.) I figured it can’t hurt to get all of your perspectives on this problem. Should I take my mother’s advice and run for the hills?

Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration. Check out Soon By You’s Aftershow with the Navidaters on YouTube for a sit-down with coproducer Danny Hoffman.

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Chaim is great. He is such a wonderful guy and has all the qualities I’m looking for. But now I’m feeling as though marrying into that family and winding up with a mother-in-law like his mother could be the end of me.


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his is a tricky one. Your instincts are probably right but I think you and your mother should do your due diligence before you make a decision. Do your homework and ask around to see if she is truly a harsh and difficult person. You may have felt insecure under scrutiny because the nature of the meeting was about getting to know each other and you were in the hot seat. The onus was on Chaim’s mother to try to put you at ease. Clearly she didn’t do this and therefore the encounter felt very unpleasant. It could very well be that she had not done her due diligence regarding you and you may be from a different community than the one she is familiar with. You may be overreacting. Give her the benefit of the doubt as you clarify what she is all about and what happened exactly. If she is truly difficult and unpleasant, you should have gotten wind of this from Chaim during the months of dating and he should have prepared you a little. Something is off here; there is something wrong at one end or the other.

tions. Maybe she was uncomfortable. Maybe she’s nervous. Maybe she’s never done this before. Right away you’re assuming she’s your enemy – wow! If I were Chaim, I would run away from the girl who thinks like that about his mom. And if you really liked him, you would try again to meet up with her and see for yourself that maybe you’re looking at this through the wrong lens. Maybe you are the one who is assaulting her. In her eyes, you’re a stranger. How else is she supposed to know anything about you if she doesn’t ask? How can she know anything about your parents, if she doesn’t ask? I think it’s pretty sad that you are already thinking this way about her. You don’t even know her. And just because your mom wasn’t comfortable with her mother-in-law, doesn’t mean she has to reflect that back onto you. Your mom should be encouraging you to look at the positive and find out more. If you meet again and see the same pattern, at that point you can decide. But for now, I think you should change your tone. Put on a different pair of glasses. Go out with her, be friendly and move on from there. Good luck.

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ow, you sound really angry, and personally, you sound to me to be just as judgmental as you think Chaim’s mother was to you. You write how she looked you up and down and assaulted you with questions. That’s some description. Hashem gave you two eyes. You have a choice how to use them. Step back and ask yourself if maybe she was curious about who her son is dating and was just asking ques-

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ull disclosure: For all of you who believe there can never be an amicable shvigger-daughter-in-law (DIL) relationship, I am living proof that you can love your shvigger. Thanks Ma, for being the kindest, most generous, most easygoing shvigger. That said, getting along with your shvigger is a challenge for every new DIL (see Megillas Rus). Meddlesome mothers-in-law are among the top five reasons marriages break up. The good news regarding your predicament is that

you were exposed to her nastiness before joining the family. Talking to Chaim about Mommy Dearest may either 1) offend him (“My mother?”); 2) baffle him (“My mother?”); 3) or put him on the defensive (“Nothing to worry about. She really likes you but has a hard time showing it”). I wouldn’t take the chance. Listen to your mom on this one; run for the hills…or Australia…or South Africa. Ten thousand miles should make a comfortable distance.

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s someone who has experienced both ends of this scenario, I have compassion for both you and for Chaim’s mother. I can still remember back what it was like for me to meet my mother-inlaw for the first time. I was only 18-years-old, very immature and inexperienced. She appeared to me to be bigger than life and, frankly, kind of scary. I felt myself shaking as she tried to get to know me by asking questions about myself and my family. I was sure she hated me and that I made an awful impression. Luckily, my now-husband reassured me at the time that his mother was fond of me and that it went well. Through my young eyes, I had no idea. Ultimately, my mother-in-law and I became very close and best of friends. And we have looked back and laughed together over the first meeting and how nervous we both were. As the potential mother-in-law, I have sat more than once with perspective daughters-in-law, being the one asking the questions and trying to put the young woman at ease. I’m sure I did not necessarily succeed. But ultimately, it was a tough process that we had to go through.

The most important part of this conversation is how Chaim reacts to your feelings and whether he values them.

Think about it. Two strange women, thinking about sharing the same man in different ways, and both assessing each other’s worthiness. Not a simple situation! I do believe it is incumbent upon Chaim to help you feel more comfortable about the whole thing. Though I don’t think you should tell him that you don’t like his mother, you certainly can tell him that you felt uncomfortable being questioned by her. And see where Chaim takes it. He may reassure you and tell you that in fact his mother was even more nervous than you were and that his mother felt the meeting went very well and that she was enamored with you. Or he may in fact tell you that his mother is not the easiest of women, but that he is aware of it and will always stand by your side. Either way, the most important part of this conversation is how Chaim reacts to your feelings and whether he values them and is anxious to make you feel safe and secure. That’s truly the key – that he is prepared to always prioritize you. After all, you won’t be marrying your mother-in-law.

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see whether he goes into defensive mode and gets upset at you for saying something negative about his mother. Whether married with a difficult mother-in-law as part of the deal or with a good one, you need to be a team and always support each other. So Chaim’s job, once married

Couples have to talk about uncomfortable feelings or situations that arise.

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is Chaim’s. The other school will tell you that a mother-in-law can make your life and your marriage miserable. Why marry into this situation? The third school of thought is to ignore everyone, forget about Chaim’s mother for a while, and focus on your relationship with Chaim. I think it is imperative that you speak with Chaim about this issue. The most important factor and the only thing that matters to me for now is how comfortable you are telling Chaim about your feelings, how Chaim will handle your feelings, and what action he will take to help you cope with or manage these feelings. In other words, I want you to become hyper-focused on your relationship with Chaim right now. Can we talk about this productively? Will it lead to a fight, or will it lead to feeling heard, validated and soothed? Will Chaim stick up for his mother right off the bat? How will you and Chaim navigate this situation as a couple? Perhaps Chaim will completely agree with you, or completely disagree with you. We can’t know that right now. But what you need to find out is, is

Chaim here for me? And you need to ask yourself first and foremost, am I here for Chaim? Now, let’s talk about what has prevented you from speaking about this with Chaim, thus far. I think it is significant that you have been dating for months and find yourself pulling away from him without giving him a reason. What’s going on? What is your insight or understanding of this? I’m feeling badly for the guy. Here he is, on Cloud 9 (dating the most wonderful girl in the world, I’m sure) and without reason, she has pulled away and left him in the dark. I can’t imagine how he is feeling right now. Even though it is hard to talk about uncomfortable things like not loving his mom, I think you need to have this conversation. Couples have to talk about uncomfortable feelings or situations that arise. And whether you wind up marrying Chaim or not, this is a wonderful opportunity for you to practice handling your own personal discomfort with maturity, grace and kindness. If you never see Chaim again, I would bet that you will find yourself in another uncomfortable situation with another guy somewhere down the road, whether dating or married.

Will you avoid it and ruminate? Or will you face it head on, taking your discomfort along for the ride? In conclusion, for now at least, don’t worry about either of your mothers. Put them both away, mentally, for another time. You need to focus your energy on talking to Chaim. I would begin with owning your own behavior with regard to why you have slowed things down. (Don’t be too hard on yourself. These situations don’t come with manuals). And then tell him why you have slowed down the relationship and what has been on your mind. You can do this! Sincerely, Jennifer

Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed, clinical psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up an appointment, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail. com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram.

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o one likes to feel judged or on display. Most of us have at some point or another felt someone’s disdainful eye taking in every inch of us. When in the company of someone truly disapproving or hypercritical, an energy descends upon the room. And for those of us who feel born with a sixth sense, that energy is almost palpable. Rachel Chafetz’s insight is that perhaps you are the judgmental person in this situation. I respectfully disagree. It doesn’t matter who was or was not judging. You felt something, strongly. As a therapist, I work with people’s feelings and intuitions. I don’t know what went on in that room because I wasn’t there. But I know you felt judged, belittled, demeaned, looked over, etc. And it is OK to trust your intuition. So, here you are in a relationship with Chaim, not a big fan of his mom, and your own mother is waving a red flag, telling you to run for your life. What’s a girl to do? Let’s cut to the chase with the two schools of popular thought when it comes to a potentially “difficult” mother-in-law. One school will tell you that you don’t marry someone’s mother and that everyone comes with a pekalah … this

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n the event of a victory by Donald Trump in November, political analysis will take on a forensic cast. How did establishment politics – first in the GOP primaries, then in a national electorate – come to die? Privately, Democrats would regret their selection of one of the most joyless, least visionary presidential candidates of recent memory. Publicly, they would blame trends that incubated within the Republican coalition, particularly a nativism incited by conservative media and carried by a candidate – alternately cynical and frightening – who is unbound by truth, consistency or decency. And, by G-d, they would be right in much of this critique. But this is really only adequate to explain how Trump seized a powerful plurality of Republican primary voters. Stipulating a Trump victory, Democrats could not dismiss the winning coalition as an ocean of deplorables. If Hillary Clinton loses, it will be because she was the resume candidate in an anti-establishment wave election. It will be because she argued that

America, with incremental corrections, is on the right track set by Barack Obama, while more than 60 percent of Americans believe the country is off course, and have thought so for years. If Trump succeeds in essentially turning out the midterm electorate in a presidential year – whiter, older, angrier – the main, motivating issue may be the restriction of immigration. But the general atmosphere of contempt for government that helps Trump – of disdain for the weakness and incompetence of the political class – is due to the Affordable Care Act. More than six years after becoming law, the proudest accomplishment of the Obama years is a political burden for Democrats. A recent Gallup poll found that a majority of Americans disapprove of Obamacare. The deeper concern for Clinton and her party comes deeper in the numbers. Only 18 percent of Americans believe the Affordable Care Act has helped their families; 80 percent say it is has hurt or had no effect. A higher proportion of Americans believe the federal government was behind the 11/9 attacks than

believe it has helped them through Obamacare. The Affordable Care Act has come to embody and summarize declining trust in political institutions. The law was passed in a partisan march, without a single Republican vote. The system’s federal website was launched with a series of glitches and failures that still make “healthcare.gov” a byword for public incompetence in the computer age. Only 17 state-based exchanges (16 states and the District of Columbia) were created. Of that number, four (Hawaii, New Mexico, Nevada and Oregon) have failed, and Kentucky’s will be dismantled/shuttered next year. According to a recent report by the House Energy and Commerce Committee, the Oregon exchange received $305 million in federal funds but never created a functional website or enrolled a single person in private insurance online. Premium costs in the exchanges increased about 12 percent nationwide from 2015 to 2016. Current rates are now being finalized, but it looks like the increase from 2016 to 2017 will be double that. “This suggests that the system is not finding

its balance or approaching stability but actually getting more unstable,” says Yuval Levin of National Affairs. “People just aren’t finding the insurance offerings in the exchanges attractive, and the law leaves insurers very few options for improv-

and right Obamacare’s listing demographic ship. It is less a solution than a concession of helplessness. Trump calls attention to these failures, while offering (as usual) an apparently random collection of halfbaked policies and baseless

A higher proportion of Americans believe the federal government was behind the 9/11 attacks than believe it has helped them through Obamacare.

ing them. The insurers are increasingly fleeing – a third of counties in the U.S. will have only one option in the exchanges next year. And there isn’t much the administration can do about it.” Because of a poisoned legislative atmosphere, there is no prospect of legislative fixes to an unstable and perhaps unsustainable system of health exchanges. So President Obama is left to call a “Millennial Outreach and Engagement Summit” later this month, urging the kids to buy health insurance

pledges (“everybody’s got to be covered”) as an alternative. There is no reason to trust Trump on the health issue; but there is plenty of reason to distrust Democratic leadership. No issue – none – has gone further to convey the impression of public incompetence that feeds Trumpism. If Trump wins, there will be a host of reasons, but one will be this dramatic failure of liberal governance. (c) 2016, Washington Post Writers Group


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Dirshu Worldwide Yom Limud and Tefillah on Yahrtzeit of the Chofetz Chaim Distinguished Rabbonim to Daven on Behalf of Klal Yisrael at Kever of Chofetz Chaim The yahrtzeit of the Chofetz Chaim is a special eis ratzon, a remarkably opportune time to invoke rachamei shomayim. This year, on Tuesday, 24 Elul/September 27, Klal Yisroel will utilize this eis ratzon by engaging in an International Yom Limud and Tefillah. Jews from all over the world will recite specific chapters of Tehillim and learn segments from the two seminal seforim written by the Chofetz Chaim, the Mishnah Berurah and the Sefer Chofetz Chaim. The Yom Limud and Tefillah, being held under the auspices of Dirshu and its kiruv arm, Acheinu, is designed to reach out with a message of achdus to all Jews from across the spectrum and at all levels of observance, promoting Torah learning and tefillah. There is so much strife in the world, so much polarization and heated rhetoric. Combining sur meirah with aseh tov the Yom Limud and Tefillah has been designated as a day when all Jews are urged to make a special effort to avoid discord, lashon hara as well as any form of gossip and learn the seforim of the Chofetz Chaim. The Optimum Hakaras Hatov: Perpetuating the Legacy Indeed, Yidden the world over owe a profound sense of hakaras hatov to the Chofetz Chaim for bestowing two gifts, the Mishnah Berurah

and the Sefer Chofetz Chaim, upon us. Last year, Hagaon HaRav Shlomo Kanievsky, shlita, Rosh Yeshivas Kiryas Melech and a son of HaGaon HaRav Chaim Kanievsky, shlita, addressed this issue in the aftermath of the visit to Radin, by a large group of Gedolei Yisroel. From Radin the delegation went to the Volozhiner yeshiva. In front of the Volozhiner yeshiva, Rav Kanievsky said, “The feeling that we must have as we approach the holy kever of Rav Chaim Volozhiner is an overwhelming one of hakaras hatov. The greatest way to express that hakaras hatov is to continue his legacy by perpetuating the derech of the yeshivos begun with Volozhin, educating our bachurim in that derech and supporting the yeshivos hakedoshos.” Generating a Tremendous Atmosphere of Goodwill and Achdus in Klal Yisrael This year’s Yom Limud and Tefillah is the second such event. Last year’s event attracted some 500,000 Jews worldwide. This year, organizers hope to reach well past that goal, tapping into the innate feeling of every Jewish neshamah, that extraordinary times such as the ones in which we live, with threats from within and without call, for a concentrated effort in tefillah and achdus to invoke rachamei shomayim in the zechus of the heiligeh Chofetz Chaim who was so moser nefesh to promote these ideals among Klal Yisroel. Hundreds of yeshivos, c h a d o r i m , schools, shuls and even individual businesses from across America, Eretz Yisrael, Europe, South America, South Africa and Australia,

have signed up to participate in the yom tefillah on Tuesday 24 Elul/September 27. They will recite two chapters of Tehillim and learn the daily limud of Daf HaYomi B’Halacha, as well as select halachos from the sefer Chofetz Chaim. The anticipated Yom Limud and Tefillah has already begun generating a tremendous atmosphere of goodwill

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and achdus amongst Klal Yisrael. A peek into just a few of the institutions in America that have signed up to participate and take advantage of the auspicious time to daven with so many likeminded Yidden attests to that achdus. The partial list includes Shaagas Aryeh – Lakewood, NJ, Yeshiva Ohr Eliyahu – Los Angeles, CA, Yeshiva Derech HaTorah – Cleveland, OH, Yeshiva Torat Emes – Houston, TX, Torah Day School of Phoenix, Torah Day School of Atlanta, Talmudical Academy - Baltimore, Yeshiva High School of Arizona, Torah Day School of Dallas, Yeshiva Ohr Yisrael – Boston, Torah Academy of Boston, Providence Hebrew Day School, New England Academy of Torah, and the Providence Community Kollel. Some of the participating shuls are, Mevakshei Hashem – Brooklyn, NY, Ahavas Yisrael – Cleveland, OH, Beis Medrash Kol Aryeh – Lakewood, NJ, Satmar Beis Medrash – Lakewood, NJ, Zichron Schneur – Lakewood, NJ and Beis Medrash of Westgate of Lakewood. These are in addition to the hundreds of similar institutions across the length and breadth of Eretz Yisroel and many locales in Europe,

By Chaim Gold the Former Soviet Union, Mexico, South America, Canada, South Africa and Australia. “The Nazis are Gone, the Communists are Gone, but the Chofetz Chaim and His Mishnah Berurah are Eternal!” Another closing of circles, as it were, will be the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha shiur in the Chofetz Chaim’s sefer Mishnah Berurah delivered by Rav Dovid Hofstedter at the Radin Yeshiva established by the Chofetz Chaim. A shiur in the seforim written by the Chofetz Chaim, in the yeshiva founded by the Chofetz Chaim some 75 years after Radin’s Jews were killed by the Nazi’s, embodies the ideal of ‘Netzach Yisroel lo yishaker.’ Indeed, at a previous journey to the Chofetz Chaim’s kever, Rav Hofstedter said, “Hitler destroyed so much of European Jewry. He thought he could wipe them out, but he didn’t. The Communists tried to destroy the Jewish religion. They caused a tremendous churban, but they still did not succeed. The Nazis are gone, the Communists are gone, but the Chofetz Chaim and his Mishnah Berurah are eternal!” Join Klal Yisrael This Tuesday, 24 Elul/September 27! We are living in truly perilous times. Even in the United States there is a certain sense of instability, as we are in the throes of a tumultuous and nasty presidential election. There is civil unrest as well as the threat of terrorism at home and abroad that can have severe ramifications. At this uncertain juncture we are in dire need of tremendous rachamei shomayim. Now is the time to join together with untold numbers of Jews all over the world to daven for Klal Yisrael. The yahrtzeit of the Chofetz Chaim is a remarkably auspicious time to invoke Divine mercy. Now is the time to Join with Klal Yisrael in the Yom Limud and Tefillah this Tuesday, 24 Elul/September 27 and tap into this unique eis ratzon!


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onald Trump seemed mad this summer when he complained that the proposed debate schedule was arranged so that the general public would not be interested in watching him browbeat his opponent. Just after the Democratic Convention he took to Twitter to complain, “As usual, Hillary & the Dems are trying to rig the debates so 2 are up against major NFL games. Same as last time w/ Bernie. Unacceptable!” In all likelihood, the Republican nominee was simply creating an opening for himself to back out of participating in the longstanding presidential election tradition just in case it would make sense to sit it out when the time came. Trump appears to have come to terms with sharing the spotlight with this week’s Monday Night Foot-

ball, perhaps after he himself scored a key team member in the Fox News’ fallen CEO, Roger Ailes, who can teach the billionaire a thing or two about debating; but the upcoming

ing two against President Obama in 2008. Hillary Clinton is a seasoned politician who knows her talking points and more importantly, the times

Viewers thought the tanned and handsome Kennedy soundly beat the older and fatigued Nixon; radio listeners considered the results a tie. debates – three in all – could pose ample reason for the candidate to worry. For the first time in his life, Trump will participate in a one-onone debate on the national stage with an opponent who has completed no less than five of them, includ-

when she should not be talking. Trump’s only experience in debating so far has been in the Republican primary debates this year, when he was able to get by with promises of “winning so much” and talking down to “Low Energy Jeb.” Trump has con-

tinuously avoided discussing much of his policies in depth throughout his campaign. In the second Republican debate, Trump’s explanation about how he would go about building a wall was to say, “We have a lot of really bad dudes in this country from outside… They go. If I get elected, first day they’re gone. Gangs all over the place. Chicago, Baltimore, no matter where you look.” And by debating amongst a group of presidential hopefuls, Trump was able to retreat into the shadows of the stage when a topic was beyond his scope and come back with a quick zinger when the time was right. If Trump were to decide this Monday morning that it would serve him better not to show up against Clinton, the independent Commission on Presidential Debate, which has been in charge of the past seven series of presidential debates, may


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Debating foreign and economic policy is not something that Donald Trump should consider one of his strong points, but one thing Trump knows a thing or two about is how to perform for the camera. The Apprentice star knows when exactly to smile for the viewers and how to dominate the stage. In fact, the ones who really control the debates, the TV executives, know this and are very appreciative at having a master showman dominate the program-

and the staid politician, the misogynist and the feminist champion, is sure to attract even the least politically interested viewers. Moreover, people are waiting to see how the poor-mouthed Trump will denigrate a Clinton and if/when his poor taste will backfire. The first debate to be televised, which took place in 1960 between Richard Nixon and John F. Kennedy, was watched by 36 percent of

“I will not make age an issue of this campaign. I am not going to exploit, for political purposes, my opponent’s youth and inexperience.”

ming. Trump is such a draw that he has been allowed to call into Sunday morning television shows, something other candidates are rarely permitted to do. Ironically, it may very well be that Monday Night Football should be the one who is concerned with going up against a Trump-Hillary showdown. Monday Night Football receives fewer than 20 million viewers on a good week. This is in contrast with the 67 million viewers who tuned into the first debate between Mitt Romney and President Obama. This election’s matchup, between the blowhard billionaire

the U.S. population. That would be the equivalent of almost 120 million viewers today, more than even the most popular Super Bowl. A lot of debates took place since then, and if history is any teacher, we may be able to learn a thing or two from presidential hopefuls and their previous sparrings. Looking back, Trump’s lack of indepth knowledge and debate skills may work in his favor. Consider the fact that most people can barely remember the key points made at presidential debates. Instead, they remember the little things, the highlights that are repeated over and over

by the news stations the day after the event. In 2012, it was President Obama laughing off Mitt Romney’s reference to his retirement account having Chinese investments in blind trusts, “You know, I — I don’t look at my pension. It’s not as big as yours so it doesn’t take as long.” The matter of blind trusts went well over the head of the average viewer; the fact that billionaire Romney got schooled by the hardworking Barack Obama did not. It didn’t either help Romney that he looked feeble in the face of his opponent’s criticism. Experts point out that ever since the presidential debates began being televised, what one says may not even matter at all. How a candidate appears on television, handsome or haggard, poised or sweaty, is what shapes the public’s perception of who was the winner or loser. Indeed, surveys of people the day after the 1960 Nixon-Kennedy debate displayed a discrepancy between those who saw the debate on television versus those who listened to it on the radio: Viewers thought the tanned and handsome Kennedy soundly beat the older and fatigued Nixon; radio listeners considered the results a tie. In the second debate between incumbent Gerald Ford and Jimmy Carter, Ford posited that Eastern Europe was not controlled by the Soviets. It was obvious that he meant that the Communists could not control the spirit of the Polish people, but the moderator accused him of saying that the Poland was not under Soviet rule of law, asking

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be forced to cancel its plans. Or it may allow Gary Johnson, the Libertarian former governor of New Mexico, who is currently polling at 8% by some accounts, allowance onto the stage, something which he has been vying for for quite some time. Johnson is well below the 15% threshold set by the Debate Commission, but in the absence of an opponent for Hillary, he may be asked to go up there. Such an occurrence, when a front-runner refuses to debate, has its place in history. In 1980, the year that Ronald Reagan ended up soundly defeating the incumbent Jimmy Carter by ten percentage points, President Carter refused to participate in the two first scheduled debates, citing the fact that John Anderson would be included in them as well. Anderson was the candidate that refused to die, and after losing the Republican nomination that summer, he ran as a member of the National Unity Party. His refusal to back out of the race irked President Carter. Carter’s decision to take a stand against Anderson worked against him and painted him as an obstinate. Moreover, it gave Reagan the platform to drive back the president’s assertions that he was a “dangerous radical” without having the president there to rebut. Carter was polling well ahead of Reagan before the debate began. After the debate between Anderson and Reagan, the tide began to turn and Carter was forced to come to an agreement with Reagan.

Reagan wanted to remind Americans of Carter’s track record. “Are you better off than you were four years ago?”

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Dan Quayle was insulted when his opponent said, “I served with Jack Kennedy. I knew Jack Kennedy. Jack Kennedy was a friend of mine. Senator, you’re no Jack Kennedy.”

him, “Did I hear that right?” Ford doubled down on his statement and came across looking like a stumbling fool. The Yale graduate was not able to recover from that gaffe for the rest of the campaign and he ultimately lost to Carter. Ronald Reagan can credit his

victory over Jimmy Carter to his Hollywood training to look cool and in control while in front of a camera. Reagan is perhaps most famous for his response in the 1984 debates to the question of whether he was too old to be president by announcing, “I will not make age an issue

Even Mondale laughed at Reagan’s witty comeback regarding his age

of this campaign. I am not going to exploit, for political purposes, my opponent’s youth and inexperience,” which even elicited a laugh from Walter Mondale, his opponent. And he was able to disarm Jimmy Carter in 1980 by repeating the refrain “There you go again” to many of the attacks Carter lobbed at him. Viewers did not seem to care that there was nothing notable about the line; Reagan’s poise in brushing off his opponent helped him appear more able to lead over the purse-lipped incumbent. It also was not helpful to Carter that he credited his young daughter, Amy, with giving him the idea that the world’s most pressing issue was nuclear warfare. Impressions matter more than reason to debate viewers. In 1988, Massachusetts governor Michael Dukakis, an opponent of the death penalty, was asked the loaded question of what he would do if his wife, Kitty, were grotesquely murdered. Dukakis stuck to his guns and answered, “I think you know that I’ve opposed the death penalty during all of my life. I don’t see any evidence that it’s a deterrent and I think there are better and more effective ways to deal with violent crime.” While that may have been the correct answer, and there really should be no difference to one who opposes capital punishment whether the victim is his wife or a stranger, Dukakis came across as uncaring and unreasonable, sealing his fate as the loser in the election.

Dan Quayle’s reputation suffered from the effects of having to ask his opponent, Lloyd Benstein, in 1988 to apologize for saying he was “no Jack Kennedy” to the laughter from the audience. And Al Gore came across as brazen for sighing too much at George W. Bush in 2000. During debates, the public looks to latch onto the simple lines, the smart talking points. “Ask not what you can do for your country,” “I have a dream.” The six-foot-two Trump, who can preen for the camera better than the best of them, may very well be able to get away with positions like, “That’s what’s going to happen with our enemies and the people we compete against. We’re going to win with Trump. We’re going to win. We don’t win anymore. Our country doesn’t win anymore. We’re going to win with Trump. And people back down with Trump. And that’s what I like and that’s what the country is going to like.” But then again, all Hillary Clinton has to do is to allow Trump to become caught in a display of ignorance and attempt to sputter out of it. Or she could allow him to go off his rails while she stands by, looking at ease and complacent.

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ntrepreneurialism is a highly revered skill in America and a major part of our foundation as a country. Nowadays, our news feeds are dominated with coverage of tech startups and overnight ragsto-riches success stories. The wildly popular TV show Shark Tank has reinforced the perception that we are all just one good business idea away from becoming fabulously wealthy. However, the publicity has created an illusion that masks a more unsettling reality. In a TJH article last year on the merits of entrepreneurialism vs. a more traditional 9-5 job, I noted that America had strayed from its business-oriented roots. A Gallup poll showed that while 61% of employed Americans want to start their own business, just 10% of adults are self-employed, and a mere 4% own their own business with employees. This trend leads to numerous economic issues from stagnant job growth to an increasing salary gap between America’s “one percent” and the rest of the masses. So, in light of that, why don’t our schools teach business concepts?

THE FACTS Robert Kiyosaki, renowned author of the bestseller Rich Dad Poor Dad, asserts that “our schools train students to be employees who look for jobs rather than train en-

trepreneurs who create jobs and businesses.” His contention is true and the aforementioned Gallup poll illustrates just how low the business ownership levels have fallen in America. But the scarier fact is that 50%80% of new businesses fail within a year (depends upon how you define “new business” and “failure” and which research you use), and 96% of businesses fail within 10 years! That means even the people who try to start new business almost always fail! There is clearly an informational disconnect in a system where 96% of the people who aspire to own their own business are doomed to failure.

THE FICTION The above numbers are perturbing and are at odds with the image we have of an America where Jan Koum can sell Whatsapp for over $18 billion and sign the sale documents on the steps of the welfare building his mother took him to as a child. So how can we reconcile the fact that Silicon Valley and a select minority of new businesses seem to be thriving and yet almost all other new businesses fail? The answer is obvious: many people are ill-equipped for the myriad logistics, skills and rigors comprised in the management of any new business. Passion and a creative idea can only get a person so far;

running any business of nearly any size requires the owner to be proficient in a multitude of roles and be willing to invest the time and effort necessary for long-term growth and success. Even massive, established companies can go under if they can’t adapt and stay relevant in the fastpaced, evolving markets of the 21st century! (Think Kodak and Blockbuster.) Launching and growing a business is difficult. Consider the case of someone who comes up with a unique concept for a restaurant (note: restaurants have one of the highest failure rates among new businesses). They need to research legal requirements, restaurant standards, employment law, and inventory options. They need to rent a location, invest in supplies and machinery, create the necessary website and branding, hire staff and determine the right price points. And those are just a few of the factors they need to research and pursue before even getting close to a Grand Opening!

THE NEED FOR BUSINESS EDUCATION The above facts are not intended to dissuade people from starting businesses or pursuing new ideas. Owning your own business can be a truly rewarding and liberating experience. Building up a business

or two and eventually one’s asset column is the way to follow Robert Kiyosaki’s next premise: “The poor and middle-class work for their money while the rich make their money work for them.” That is just one example of an aphorism that isn’t taught in school but should be. Our schools and our parents encouraged us to do well in school so we could do well in college so we could do well on interviews so we could do well as employees so we could climb the corporate ladder, live frugally, save money and maybe retire one day with a small nest egg if we are lucky. And now we are propagating the same myths to our own children! Did you know that the middle-class pays the most in taxes? Did you know that large businessowners often pay little to no taxes? The government wants large businesses to succeed and flourish so that they continue to hire employees thereby stimulating economic growth. As a result, the tax code is built to favor such companies and their owners at the expense of the poor and middle classes. So why are our schools still ignoring financial education as a means to teach students how to excel and thrive in the new global economy we live in?

A SOLUTION Schools and teachers need to


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“The poor and middle-class work for their money while the rich make their money work for them.”

gamut from business to economics to leadership. They are enlightening and edifying reads that hopefully offer you a new perspective on business and the keys to success in any

to take the initiative and educate ourselves and our children. Don’t assume that financial success and financial freedom are beyond you. After all, the ultimate businessman Henry Ford once proclaimed, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right!”

Chaim Homnick is the College Advisor at Mesivta Ateres Yaakov of Lawrence and also teaches 5 periods of Honors/AP English Literature. Chaim is the owner of Five Towns Tutoring (fivetownstutoring.com) as well as Machane Miami Day Camp of Florida (machanemiami. com). He scored in the 99th percentile on the SAT and the LSAT and tutors both extensively. He has a Masters Degree in Educational Leadership and Administration as well as an MBA. For questions, comments, previous articles or tutoring, he can be reached directly at chomnick@gmail.com.

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porate America rather than teaching them how to become financially successful through the accumulation of cash flow through assets and passive income. Schools need to under-

arena. • Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki • The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey • Freakonomics by Steven D. Levitt and Stephen J. Dubner • Outliers: The Story of Success by Malcolm Gladwell • The Art of the Deal by Donald Trump • How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie • The Lean Startup by Eric Ries Ultimately, the books listed above provide a far more in-depth analysis of the leadership, interpersonal and business skills required for success in the global economy we live in. These books and others like them should be required reading in school in order to better equip students for true financial success and freedom. Since the schools aren’t teaching those business skills, we need

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f you are the status quo candidate in a change election in which the national mood is sour and two-thirds of the electorate think the country is on the wrong track, what do you do? Attack. Relentlessly. Paint your opponent as extremist, volatile, clueless, unfit, dangerous. Indeed, Hillary Clinton’s latest national ad, featuring major Republican politicians echoing that indictment of Donald Trump, ends thus: “Unfit. Dangerous. Even for Republicans.” That was the theme of Clinton’s famous “alt-right” speech and of much of her $100 million worth of ads. Problem is, it’s not working. Over the last month, Trump’s new team, led by Kellyanne Conway, has worked single-mindedly to blunt that line of attack on the theory that if he can just cross the threshold of acceptability, he wins. In an act of brazen rebranding, they set out to endow him with stature and empathy. Stature was acquired in Mexico whose president inexplicably gave Trump the opportunity to stand on the

world stage with a national leader and more than hold his own. It’s the same stature booster Sen. Barack Obama pulled off when he stood with the French president at a news conference in Paris in 2008. That was part one: Trump the statesman. Part two: the kinder gentler Trump. Nervy. Can you really repackage the boasting, bullying, bombastic, insulting, insensitive Trump into a mellow and caring version? With two months to go? In a digital age in which every past outrage is preserved on imperishable video? Turns out, yes. How? Deflect and deny – and pretend it never happened. Where are they now – the birtherism, the deportation force, the scorn for teleprompters, the mocking of candidates who take outside money? Down the memory hole. Orwell was wrong. You don’t need repression. You need only the sensory overload of an age of numbingly ephemeral social media. In this surreal election season, there is no past. Clinton ads keep showing actual Trump sound bites

meant to shock. Yet her numbers are dropping, his rising. How? Trump never goes on the defensive. He merely creates new Trumps. Hence: (1) The African-American blitz. It’s a new pose and the novelty shows. Trump is not very familiar with the language. He occasionally slips, for example, into referring to “the blacks.” And his argument that African-Americans inhabit a living nightmare and therefore have nothing to lose by voting for him hovers somewhere between condescension and insult. But, as every living commentator has noted, the foray into African-American precincts was not aimed at winning black votes but at countering Trump’s general image as the bigoted candidate of white people. Result? A curious dynamic in which Clinton keeps upping the accusatory ante just as Trump keeps softening his tone – until she finds herself way over the top, landing in a basket of deplorables, a phrase that will haunt her until Election Day. (Politics 101: Never attack the voter.) (2) The immigration wob-

ble. A week of nonstop word salad about illegal immigration left everyone confused about what Trump really believes. Genius. The only message to emerge from the rhetorical fog is that he is done talking about deportation and/or legalization. The very discussion is off the table until years down the road. Case closed. Toxic issue detoxified. Again, that’s not going to win him the Hispanic vote.

well, Obamacare. But wait. Didn’t Trump’s acolytes assure us that he spoke for those betrayed by the sold-out, elitist, GOP establishment that for years refused to stand up to Obama’s overweening mandates, Big Government profligacy and budget-busting entitlements? No matter. That was yesterday. There is no past. Nor a future – at least for Ivanka-care. It would never get

It is meant to signal what George H. W. Bush once memorably read off a cue card. “Message: I care.”

But that wasn’t the point. The point was to soften his image in the Philadelphia suburbs, pundit shorthand for white college-educated women that Republicans have to win (and where Trump trails Romney 2012 by 10 points). Which brings us to: (3) The blockbuster childcare proposal. Unveiled Tuesday, it is liberalism at its best, Big Government at its biggest: tax deductions, tax rebates (i.e. cash), and a federal mandate of six weeks of paid maternity leave. The biggest entitlement since,

through the GOP House. Nor is it meant to. It is meant to signal what George H. W. Bush once memorably read off a cue card. “Message: I care.” And where do you think Trump gave this dish-theWhigs cradle-to-college entitlement speech? Why, the Philadelphia suburbs! Can’t get more transparent than that. Or shameless. Or brilliant. And it’s working. (c) 2016, The Washington Post Writers Group


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his estate as he wants to his second wife Alexandra, where it escapes tax until her death? Or leave it to his kids from his first marriage, where the IRS grabs 40%, without remorse, immediately upon his death? The usual solution is something called a “qual-

trust for Alexandra, a family trust for Alexandra and their young daughter, and a children’s trust for the four kids from his first marriage. Under the usual rules, the marital trust would escape tax and the family trust and children’s trust would pay. But after

When he died suddenly in 2013, his estate was worth $86 million — not bad for a guy who started writing part-time while selling insurance.

ified terminable interest property” trust, or Q-TIP. Without getting into the weeds of Treasury Regulation §20-2056(b)-7(b)(2)(ii) here (which, trust us, you do not want to get into), this gives Wife #2 (or #3 or #4 or #5, as the case may be) the income from the trust while she’s alive and defers tax on the principal until the kids get it at her death. Clancy’s will left the real estate to Alexandra and divided the rest of his estate into three parts: a marital

he drafted the original will, Clancy added a Q-TIP provision to the family trust and a “savings clause” to protect the marital deduction to the maximum amount possible. When Clancy died, the will directed that taxes be paid out of the residuary estate — the family trust and the children’s trust. That would have meant a $15.7 million bill, split between the two trusts. But that creates a problem: if Clancy’s executor uses money from the tax-exempt family

trust to pay tax, that amount becomes subject to tax itself. Clancy’s widow objected, pressing to take advantage of the Q-TIP provision and savings clause. That would lower the tax bill to just $11.8 million but stick it all to the children. (Holiday dinners at the Clancy house must be a hoot.) Naturally, the dispute wound up in court. Last year, a Baltimore probate judge ruled that the savings clause trumped the directions to pay tax from the residuary. Last month, an appeals court agreed. (Don’t feel too sorry for the kids — they’ll probably inherit plenty more from their mother Wanda, who made out just fine when she and Clancy split in 1999.) Here’s the lesson from today’s story, and you don’t have to work for the CIA to see it: poor planning poses a clear and present danger to your finances! So have a plan before you die, and keep Uncle Sam from playing patriot games with your tax dollars!

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 yea rs in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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ovelist Tom Clancy shot to the top of the bestseller lists when former president Ronald Reagan called his debut, The Hunt for Red October, “the best yarn.” His stories featuring CIA analyst-turned-president Jack Ryan redefined the “techno-thriller” genre, with hyper-realistic plots that foreshadowed real-world developments. Clancy earned special praise for his obsessive attention to detail, especially with military hardware. But that attention to detail didn’t quite extend to his finances — and a Maryland court just ruled that it would cost his children millions in estate tax. Clancy made a fortune from his books and invested his royalties into an impressive collection of toys: six penthouse condominiums totaling 17,000 square feet at Baltimore’s Ritz-Carlton, a 535-acre estate on Maryland’s Chesapeake Bay, a Sherman tank (!), and a 12% stake in his beloved Baltimore Orioles. When he died suddenly in 2013, his estate was worth $86 million — not bad for a guy who started writing part-time while selling insurance. But Clancy faced a dilemma common to divorced men with children who later remarry. Leave as much of


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Every business should be in a regular process of development and self-improvement, after all, “if you’re not growing, you’re shrinking”. Triggered by a major change, a burst of vision, or just the time of year, when it comes to making changes it takes more than just a dream to deliver real results. So is there a formula for making it happen? Starbucks and Apple products sounds relaxing, right? Interestingly, these two international brands share a very bumpy road to success which includes humble beginnings, great moments of success, and painful setbacks. What’s even more interesting is that they also share the return of a founding CEO to the helm of a company in a downward spiral only to see the company regain its previous successes and then continue to take things to the next level. The story of Starbucks and Howard Schultz, its CEO once removed, is not nearly as well known as the story of Steve Jobs who also returned to the company he co-founded and led it from financial losses to incredible success. Though Starbucks is now synonymous with a modern, hip culture that perfectly blends everyone from Wall Street tycoons to stay-at-home moms, college kids, and hipsters, Starbucks itself is actually in its mid-40’s. It opened its first location in 1971 in Seattle’s Pike Place Market, however it was not until the late 80’s that the company even started its expansion to more locations. In 1990, they had only 84 stores and as of June 2015, the count was over 22,000. Like Steve Jobs, Howard Schultz stepped away from his role for some time and returned in a time of crisis. After an eight year hiatus, he returned in 2008 to a company with shockingly low profits that had dangerously overextended itself. It was a difficult time

for the economy, gas prices were over $5 in some places but Schultz was not looking for excuses, just solutions. This is where the parallels between Jobs and Schultz start to appear. Reading articles and reports on both leaders, I noticed a pattern where they immediately focused on three critical steps as part of their turnaround. Recognizing and addressing errors, refocusing on relationships with customers and employees, and financial investment. When Jobs returned in 1997, the company had 350 products; two years later it had 10. In 2008, Schultz turned his focus to the wildly rapid growth the company had undergone and started closing locations that didn’t make the cut. Both men also led their companies with a serious focus on developing a stronger connection with their customers and employees, recognizing that without these strong ties, excellence was impossible. And last but certainly not least, they were both ready to invest in getting there with bold steps like the one Schultz took by closing all 7,100 US stores for 3.5 hours at the same time to retrain baristas on how to make the perfect espresso. Recognizing and addressing errors with a focus on quality, building relationships, and investment… hmmm. Starbucks and Apple products are starting to sound like a shmooz I once heard in Yeshiva. I won’t tell you to dip the Apple in the coffee (unless it’s the new water-resistant iPhone 7), but I do wish you a happy and sweet New Year. Azi Rosenblum is a business consultant and the founder and CEO of RemSource, an outsourced provider of administrative and bookkeeping services for small businesses. To suggest a topic or ask a question for a future #BizWiz column email BizWiz@ baltimorejewishhome.com.


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esperados ruled the towns, cities, roads and other areas in the post-Civil War era in the western part of the U.S. Usually the local sheriff or marshal could contain most situations; however, it was the most daring outlaws that needed outside help. Known as the Wild West, local authorities were fighting a losing battles against these world famous gunslingers with some of the law enforcements officers even being “bad guys” themselves. Before the FBI was created, a private agency, the Pinkerton Detective Agency, was called in to capture these criminals. Chasing legendary figures like Jesse James, the Reno Gang, and Butch Cassidy and his Wild Bunch put the Pinkertons into the headlines. They usually got their man but sometimes the dangers of the job proved too much for the men who used the motto “We Never Sleep.’ At first outlaws were merely a nuisance that could be contained locally. Eventually, some decided to get more brazen and started robbing banks and trains. This was hindering the national economy and something needed to be done. Pinkerton’s agency was soon called in to hunt down one of the first band of thieves in America, the Reno Gang. Hailing from Indiana with roots

in the border state of Kentucky, the Reno brothers were breaking the law even before the Civil War started in 1861. Four of the brothers – a fifth was called Honest Clint and a sister never got involved in the gang’s actions – were accused of horse stealing, arson, and cheating during card games. The town of Rockford chased them out of the city but they continued their mischievous ways. During the war they became known as bounty jumpers by enlisting in the army, collecting pay and disappearing before being put to battle. They did this several times under false names and at different locations. Other people started joining the brothers and in 1864 joined together with Frank and John Reno leading the gang. Murder and thievery became the norm for them as they terrorized merchants and travelers alike. Other criminals took after them and the rise of gangs became a real problem on the national level. The Renos’ first train robbery caused the railroad to hire the Pinkertons after a passenger identified the gang. The passenger was mysteriously killed and the charges on the gang were dropped. John Reno was arrested by the Pinkertons after a robbery in Missouri and was sentenced to 25 years in prison. Three gang members,

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including Frank, were arrested by William Pinkerton, Allan’s son, but escaped prison. Several other trains and banks were robbed and at some of them the Pinkertons were there to greet the gang. At one train robbery a gunfight ensued with many gang members receiving severe wounds. The brothers staged their fourth train robbery in May 1968 and stole close to $100,000. In July the Pinkertons were hot on their trail and stopped another train robbery by hiding on the train. One member was caught, and even though the brothers initially escaped, they were caught the next day. Other members were caught by the Pinkertons soon after. In all, ten gang members were lynched by vigilantes and only John survived as he was already in jail. The nation’s first train robbers were caught but others were quick to cash in on the lightly guarded railways. Perhaps the most famous of the Wild West outlaws was Jesse James of the James-Younger Gang. There were at least fifteen members who joined this gang at several points. Missouri stayed in the Union during the Civil War but many locals chose to fight for the South. Both families owned slaves and soon the brothers joined a rebel guerrilla band under the notori-

ous William Quantrill. Quantrill was killed at the end of the war and soon the guerrillas became outlaws. They started robbing banks in 1866, and after a bank robbery in Iowa in 1871 the Pinkertons were called in to hunt down the gang. An agent was found dead after tracking the gang in 1874, and another Pinkerton employee was killed in a shootout with John Younger who was also killed. After severely wounding the James’ mother in an attempt to capture the brothers who had just escaped, the Pinkertons called off the chase. Too many agents had died, and they were being mocked by the press. In 1976 the gang rode up to Northfield, Minnesota, to rob a bank. Local civilians would have none of it and a shootout ensued. All of the gang members were shot and two were killed. The rest left town but a posse (local vigilantes) was in hot pursuit. Only Frank and Jesse James escaped while the others were rounded up. In 1882 Bob Ford finished the job the Pinkertons had started and killed Jesse James. Frank James turned himself in but was acquitted after serving only a year in jail. Butch Cassidy and the Wild Bunch Gang had a different code of ethics than the Renos and the James. Butch


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in 1908, the Wild West that is known in folklore for the most part ended. The lawlessness that existed after the Civil War had morphed into a tranquil West that lasted until the Great Depression. The Pinkerton Detective Agency also went into protection services when the FBI was established in 1908 as a national force to track down lawbreakers. The FBI learned many lessons from the Pinkertons includ-

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ing compiling an extensive database of wanted suspects that included mug shots, identifying marks, newspaper clippings, prior arrests, known locations and anything else that could help capture a criminal. Pinkerton agents were involved in cracking many cases in the Wild West and brought some law and order in an otherwise lawless time. Other private eye organizations, a term coined

by the Pinkertons, existed in the past century but none were as well-known and effective as the first detective agency in America – the Pinkerton Detective Agency. Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@ gmail.com.

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was not into killing people, although other members of the gang broke that rule. This gang was active after the Pinkerton Agency was subject to government regulation in 1894 and even though the agency was involved in hunting them down it was local authorities who had the gunfights with the Wild Bunch. With Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid being killed in a shootout

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Honey Cake

In a recent issue of Mishpacha magazine, Shaindy Berger of Monsey submitted her best honey cake recipe.  I was challenged to transform it into a gluten-free version, and here is the delicious result!!

Preparation: 1. Preheat oven to 335 degrees. Grease a 9 inch tube pan with margarine. 2. Dissolve the honey in coffee mixture, and cool.

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What You Will Need: 3 large eggs- separated 1 ½ tsp coffee dissolved into 3/8 cup warm water ½ cup sugar + 1 Tbl. sugar ½ cup millet flour 3/8 cup oil ½ cup potato starch (not potato flour) ½ Tbl vanilla sugar ½ cup tapioca starch 1 tsp sweet liqueur 1 tsp baking powder ½ cup honey ½ tsp. baking soda

3. Beat yolks and ½ cup sugar for a few minutes. When fluffy, slowly add oil, then the liqueur, and vanilla sugar. In a small bowl, combine the millet flour, potato starch, tapioca starch, baking powder, and baking soda, and add to the batter alternately with the cooled coffee/honey mixturestarting and ending with the flour mixture. 4. In a separate clean dry bowl, beat the egg whites until frothy. Slowly add another 1 Tbl. sugar and beat whites until stiff. Fold whites into the batter. Pour batter into greased tube pan. Bake cake for 40 minutes and then lower the temperature to 325 degrees and bake for 15 more minutes. Check the top; if it’s getting too brown, cover cake with foil until cake is done. Check with a cake tester. 5. Cool cake completely before carefully removing from pan. Sprinkle with confectioner’s sugar, if desired. Enjoy!!


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Chocolate Pomegranate Cookies

Ingredients: 2 tablespoons olive oil 8 boneless chicken breasts, rinsed and patted dry ½ cup flour 3 teaspoons cumin 2 teaspoons cinnamon 2 teaspoons turmeric 2 teaspoon chili powder 1 teaspoon salt 1 large onion, finely chopped 2 cups pomegranate juice 1/4 cup orange juice

Preperation: 1. Preheat the oven to 350° F. In a large skillet, heat the oil over medium–high heat. Place flour in a bowl and add 1/2 teaspoon each of the cumin, the cinnamon, the turmeric and the chili powder to the flour. Dredge the chicken in flour mixture and brown on both sides, then transfer browned chicken to a roasting pan. 2. Reduce heat and add the remaining cumin, cinnamon, turmeric and chili powder, the salt, and onion to the skillet. Cook, stirring constantly, until the onion is soft, about 5 minutes.

3. Add the pomegranate juice and orange juice. Stir well to combine, scraping browned bits from the bottom of the skillet. Bring to a boil and let boil for 5 minutes. Pour the sauce over the chicken in the pan to thoroughly coat. 4. Cover the roasting pan tightly with foil and bake for 45 minutes.

Ingredients: 1 cup margarine 3/4 cups white sugar 3/4 cups brown sugar 2 eggs 1 teaspoon vanilla 2 cups flour 1 teaspoon baking soda 1 teaspoon salt 3/4 cup cocoa powder 1 cup pomegranate seeds* 1 cup white chocolate chips

Preperation: Makes approximately 36 cookies 1. Preheat oven to 350°. Line a baking pan with baking paper. With an electric mixer, cream together the margarine, sugars, eggs and vanilla. Beat the mixture on medium-high for 3-5 minutes until fluffy. 2. Reduce the mixer speed and add flour, baking soda and salt, mixing until combined. Add cocoa powder and mix until incorporated. Stir in the pomegranate seeds and chocolate chips. 3. Scoop the dough by tablespoons to form small balls. Bake on the prepared pans for 9-10 minutes.

*QUEEN IN THE KITCHEN TIP: To easily separate the seeds of a pomegranate, cut off the top of the pomegranate just below the crown. Score the skin vertically in 4 sections. Fill a large bowl with water, and submerge the pomegranate. Use your hands to pull apart the sections of skin and the white pith from the fruit. Then, still underwater, separate out the seeds. The skin and pith will float to the top of the bowl. The seeds will sink to the bottom. Skim off the skin and pith, then carefully drain until you are left with only the seeds.

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Tart pomegranate, delicious by itself, reaches a whole new level when added to the list of foods that are enhanced when encased in chocolate. I like adding white chocolate chips to these cookies for a color contrast but you can make them even richer and higher in antioxidants by substituting dark chocolate bits for the white chips.

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The centerpiece of a delicious Rosh Hashanah - or any special autumnmeal. For the perfect complements, choose side dishes featuring the simanim such as carrots and leeks.

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