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Around the Community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .6 Community Calendar . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 44

JEWISH THOUGHT Rabbi Zvi Teichman. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34 Rabbi Motty Rabinowitz Dating Dialogue. . . . . . . 38 Rabbi Dovid Jaffe Dating Dialogue . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40 Rabbi Naphtali Hoff. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 62 Rabbi Berel Wein. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 83

PEOPLE 613 Seconds with Yudy Brody . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19

HUMOR & ENTERTAINMENT Notable Quotes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 48 Uncle Moishy Fun Page Dating Dialogue. . . . . . . . 53 Centerfold. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 54

JEWISH LIFE From Wheatfield to Pesach Table . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42 Political Crossfire. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46 Dating Dialogue. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 56 World Builders. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 64 To Passover or Pass on Over . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 66 BizWiz. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 68 Mental Health Corner. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 72 An Unforgettable Passover. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 73 Living Entebbe Every Day of His Life. . . . . . . . . . . . 74 Barrels of Beer on the Riverbank. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 78 Health and Fitness. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 80 Life Coach. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 82 Your Money. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 84 Gluten Free Recipe Column. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 86 Cooking for the King. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 87

Dear Readers, L’shana haba’a b’yerushalayim - next year in Jerusalem! Every year Jews in every corner of the world announce this wish at the end of the seder. In fact, we’ve been doing so for the past two thousand years. Picture a yid in Spain in the time of the Inquisition, a yid in the time of the pogroms, or a yid in one of the ghettos saying these words and fervently praying and hoping that maybe, just maybe, next year in Jerusalem. Where does this faith come from? Truth is, it’s the same now. In a general sense we have been successful both materially and spiritually. Things are pretty good. In fact, in a few weeks we will celebrate the miracles of the Six Day War, the liberation of the Western Wall, and we can even hop on a plane to see Jerusalem for real! So why do we feel this isn’t the real deal and still say these words yearning for the Messianic times? Why aren’t we satisfied with the great developments taking place all around us, as if we’re not complete while in golus? The answer lies with the soul. The Jewish soul will not rest and is not at peace till its G-dly spirit is tangible and can be seen. It’s this uneasiness which keeps us ultimately dissatisfied with the status quo. In our minds we might find this or that reason, but at the core we’re unsettled because we’re not at peace with our current reality. True freedom is when the soul can be its natural self. Recognizing this saves us the time looking for temporary fixes to cover this emptiness. It also empowers us with the energy needed to infuse our physical lives with G-dliness through learning Torah, doing mitzvos and many acts of goodness and kindness. May we be the ones who finally experience the dream of our parents and grandparents going all the way back to the beginning of time; (by) next year, we should all be in Jerusalem! Wishing you a wonderful Shabbos Hagadol and Chag Hapesach kasher v’sameach, Shalom

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Pre-Purim events at Mesivta Neimus Hatorah

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t Mesivta Neimus Hatorah, the regularly scheduled onegs and mesibos are an important and enjoyable part of the program. This past Adar was no exception. The action began on Shabbos Zachor with a special Friday night Carelbach- style Kabolas Shabbos at Rabbi Noff’s shul on Park Heights Ave. Members of the community joined the yeshiva for a joyous davening-led by Nechemya Jakobavits- filled with singing, dancing, and ruach, along with powerful words of chizuk from Rabbi Noff. Special thanks to Mr. Ari Gruner for his help. Next up was a Motzai Shabbos Melava Malka/Kumzitz at the home of Dovid Weingot. With Yitzy Kaplowitz and Sholom Tennebaum leading on the guitar, and the one and only Rabbi Sholom Weingot of Bneinu providing inspiration as only he can, it was an

enjoyable and uplifting evening for all. On Monday evening, it was time for the eagerly anticipated Purim Mesiba. With the festively decorated dining room tables set with an array of refreshments,blaring music, and some great costumes, the mood was set for a real Simchas Purim. After a few nigunim and Divrei Torah, the program began with the traditional gramen, in which the boys engaged in some good natured ribbing while showing off their songwriting skills. This was followed by the rebbeim reciting their own compositions that brought out a positive trait in each talmid. After spirited dancing, it was time for the annual “wrap-your-friend competition” and other fun games. The evening ended with a special Purim Shpiel, with a group of young “actors” putting on a great performance.Written and directed by Zohar Killian and Chaim Maza, it was clear that a lot of effort had gone

into it. “I always look forward to the Purim Mesiba,”said Rabbi Shmuel Weissman. “It provides an opportuni-

ty for the boys to use their talents in a productive way, all the while strengthening the kesher among the talmidim and the rebbeim.” Mesivta Neimus Hatorah is a highschool serving aspiring Bnei-Torah who are looking for a setting that understands and works with their specific needs. To find out more, please call 301-300-1767 or email as@neimushatorah.org.


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Baltimore Chesed League Weeks 5 and 6

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ike the first four weeks of the season, the Baltimore Chesed League spent the final two weeks of “Season 2” bringing joy to many individuals, as well as helping with a variety of Pesach preparations. In week 5, several BCL teams had the opportunity to connect to community members in local assisted livings/ nursing facilities. Team King David Nursing and Rehabilitation Center visited residents of (you guessed it) King David Nursing and Rehabilitation Center. The boys schmoozed with the residents, performed some crazy card tricks, and played very competitive games of Rummikub and Sorry! The residents had a great time and were very appreciative of the visit. Similarly, the boys of team Early Steps Therapy partnered with Suburban Orthodox to provide cookies, smiles, and some singing entertainment to some of the Shul’s elderly members who are current residents of Levindale Hebrew Geriatric Center.

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Team ARI Concrete visited the residents of Tudor Heights. While the facility was still without power due to the recent wind storms, the boys “recharged” and “brightened” the residents’ day! Team BCL Board had the privilege of visiting Sterling Assisted Care where they helped serve dinner and visit with the residents. Team Amuze joined forces with the Friendship Circle for some pre-Pesach fun. The boys visited with residents and other families to decorate Haggados and sample some matzah snacks. The program culminated with a rousing BCL chorus of Mah Nishtana and Dayenu. Another theme throughout the BCL season has been restoring kedusha to different places. That theme was on display in Week 5 as well. Team Big UPS of MD, restored a local shul to being a mikdash me’at by putting sefarim away, vacuuming, and creating a lost and found. In the same vein but in a different venue, Team DC Dental, (a team full of non-kohanim), performed a tremendous mitzvah by cleaning debris that had accumulated at Hebrew Friendship Cemetery, the first Jewish

cemetery in Baltimore. To wrap up week 5, BCL teams helped some local organizations with post Purim/pre-Pesach preparations (say that 5 times fast!) Teams Price Busters Discount Furniture and David Flamm Nationwide Agency collected non-perishable extra Mishloach Manos from the community on behalf of Ahavas Yisroel. (Both teams reported a large amount of food donations.) Team CBT Baltimore assisted the NWCP by cleaning its patrol car for Pesach while team Sage Management helped clean the Shomrim vehicle for Pesach. Columbia Group, on behalf of Chai Lifeline, went on a shopping trip where they purchased items that will be used to decorate the hospital room of a child. Week 6 brought more amazing chesed opportunities for the boys of the BCL. Meeting at Suburban Orthodox, teams Blue Ocean, Sage Management, Big UPS of MD and DC Dental, coordinated a fun afternoon of bingo with residents of the Jewish Community Services group homes. The boys helped call out the numbers, man the prize table, played with the residents, and helped support the activity in multiple other ways. Team Pricebusters Discount Furniture enjoyed a special visit with Menucha where the boys participated in indoor sports games, worked on a joint project, and then enjoyed a delicious group dinner. Team David Flamm-Nationwide Agency had the pleasure of visiting residents of Tudor Heights. The boys showed off their singing abilities and other talents. Special shout-out to Sammy Statman for his piano playing skills! Team CBT Baltimore worked with Mrs Tzilah Raczkowski in cleaning and organizing the Purim Costume Gemach (Keren Reva). ARI Concrete assisted the Jewish Caring Network by cleaning a car for Pesach while King David Nursing and Rehabilitation Center supported the Chai Lifeline Mid-Atlantic office by visiting the home of a Chai Lifeline family and helping clean their cars for Pesach. Team Columbia Group helped

with the packaging and organizing of food packages for families in the community. On top of that, the team (along with members of Big UPS and DC Dental) visited Baltimore Yachad on their shabbaton at Ner Tamid on both Shabbos day and Motzei Shabbos. The team socialized with the friends they had made during their activities from earlier in the season. Incredible!! For team Early Steps Therapy’s activity, they had to pull up their collective sleeves and get busy. The team helped Bnos Yisrael lay down a few tons of woodchips on their beautiful playground. The boys learned the meaning of a hard day’s work, though they also learned how to make it fun. All in all, they were smiling the whole time knowing that the mitzvah they did will be enjoyed by many Jewish children for years to come. To wrap this article up, all-star coach Gary Guttenberg shared his sentiments of the 2018 BCL season, “Coaching a BCL team was a tremendous privilege. Besides the zechus of the mitzvah performed, it was inspiring to see boys devote time to per-

form chesed and grow in their middos. Some weeks the boys felt comfortable right away, while other weeks the boys had to step out of their comfort levels to fully perform the task at hand. Their growth in this area was superb!” For more information about the Baltimore Chesed League please visit www.baltimorechesedleague.com


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Dalya Attar’s Campaign Headquarters Grand Opening Event Draws Large, Energized Crowd By: Jeff Cohn BaltimoreJewishLife.com/Jeff Cohn

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ith just a little over three months until voting begins for the Maryland Democrat Primary, Dalya Attar held a grand opening of her campaign headquarters last night, to a packed, diverse crowd of close to 300 supporters. The event was held on Thursday, March 8th in honor of International Woman’s Day, a special date marking the achievements of women throughout various arenas and industries. “I am running for the House of Delegates to represent everyone - men and women, children and seniors, people of all races and nationalities. My parents fled economic and political discrimination of radical extremists,

to benefit from the opportunities offered in the United States. And while I am privileged to have been born and raised right here in Baltimore, we need more women in office who will make Maryland a better place for our families,” said Dalya. Dalya is a first-time candidate running for one of three House of Dele-

gate slots. She was joined at her event by several slate-mates running for the Democratic Party Central Committee: Tehila Fink, Kalman Finkelstein, Shevi Friedman, and Shmop Weisbord. Only registered Democrats can vote in the Democratic Primary on June 26, with early voting beginning on June 14.

The campaign office is at the corner of Taney and Greenspring Avenue, and the public is invited to volunteer to knock on doors, host meet and greets, phone bank, and put a lawn sign at your home or business. Please visit www.DalyaAttar.com to learn more about her campaign or to volunteer today.

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Annual Nonpublic School Rally In Annapolis Draws A Large Crowd Of Young Advocates By: Jeff Cohn BaltimoreJewishLife.com/Jeff Cohn

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n Tuesday March 13th, Maryland’s nonpublic school community came out in droves to the State Capital of Annapolis for the annual student rally hosted by Maryland CAPE. Despite the chilly temperatures more than 1,100 students, teachers, parents, and advocates from numerous faith communities, gathered on Lawyer’s Mall facing the State House to express their appreciation for programs like the BOOST (Broadening Options and Opportunities for Students Today) Scholarship Program, and other programs that benefit nonpublic schools and their students. With the ninety-day legislative session heading into its final few weeks, the rally was timely, as the General Assembly is deciding the budget allocations for the upcoming year. Before heading outside, arriving

students were greeted by Senate President Thomas V. “Mike” Miller, who welcomed them to Annapolis and spoke of the virtues of having both public and nonpublic school options for children in Maryland. As the students filled the open area of Lawyer’s Mall they chanted “support all kids” while waving “thank you cards” that were later delivered to their legislators. Governor Larry Hogan mixed with the crowd, engaging the children in small talk and taking selfies with the guests. The governor was introduced by the event’s co-chairs Rabbi Ariel Sadwin, director of Agudath Israel of Maryland and president of Maryland CAPE; and Garrett J. O’Day, Esq., associate director for education at the Maryland Catholic Conference and steering committee chair of Maryland CAPE, and lauded for his record-setting allocations to both public and nonpublic education. In his remarks, Governor Hogan

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Rabbi Sadwin and Mr. O’Day then presented Maryland CAPE’s inaugural Career Appreciation Award to Senator James “Ed” DeGrange. Senator DeGrange has been the foremost legislative champion for the cause of nonpublic schools and their much needed financial support for many years. After the current session ends, Senator DeGrange intends on retiring from elected office, much to the chagrin of the members of the nonpublic school coalition. Among the multitudes of participants was a 100 person delegation from the Jewish day schools, with large groups from both Bais Yaakov and Bnos Yisroel high schools. Rabbi Yochanan Stengel, Bnos Yisroel’s high school principal commented, “It was very meaningful for our girls to see firsthand the results of Agudath Israel’s tireless efforts to establish relationships with our elected officials. Rabbi Sadwin’s presence and rapport with the governor and delegates reinforced to our students the importance of his work on behalf of the schools in our community”.


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ongregation Tiferes Yisroel, affectionately known as Rabbi Goldberger’s shul, celebrated their 32stAnniversary celebration with a concert featuring the inimitable Israeli master of Jewish song, Yehuda Green. The concert took place on Sunday, March 4th, 2018 and was well received by a large and enthusiastic audience of shul members, their guests, and the community at large.  This year, Tiferes Yisroel honored longtime shul members Louis and Gail Feinstein and Lev Avraham and Rachel Rosenstock. Both couples have given amply, freely and devotedly to the shul’s membership and its needs over the years, and it is with great pleasure that we gathered to acknowledge these two dedicated couples for their service. Additionally, our community service award was presented to two of community’s pillars, Moshe and Shula Davids. Moshe’s well known hasmada and chazzanus, and Shula’s extensive role

as mikveh attendant made this wonderful couple a delightful and exceptional choice to be honored. A brief and touching awards ceremony was followed by a moving and soulful  performance by Yehuda Green. Shortly after it began, listeners became participants, as the men joyfully stood and began the familiar circle dance that has become emblematic of shul and communal celebrations. Classic pieces mingled with modern hits, and an awesome time was had by all. We again applaud or honorees, the Feinsteins, Rosenstocks, and Davidses, and wish them continued hatzlacha, brachas and nachas throughout their ongoing journeys. We also want to give a huge ‘yasher koach’ to all those, both in front of, and behind, the scenes, who helped make this momentous occasion as special as it could possibly be. Thank you to our Rabbi and Rebbetzin, and thank you to the Baltimore Jewish Community, for joining us this year, and every year, as we continue to exemplify and bring to life the spirit of achdus. Mazel tov!

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Misaskim of Maryland: Alleviating Tragedy with Compassion By: Margie Pensak

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ave you ever paid a shiva call in the tri-state area and noticed additional amenities made available to aveilim there, not offered in Baltimore? In all likelihood, they were provided by Misaskim, an organization which offers unique assistance to bereaved families during the week of shivah, in addition to other related services. Now, thanks to the local efforts of community members, spearheaded by Reb Aryeh Leib Freedman, Misaskim of Maryland can offer our aveilim similar items and services. The independent, locally-run, non-profit 501 (c) (3) organization was founded in memory of R’ Aryeh Leib’s father, Rabbi Mendel (HaRav Menachem Mendel Don ben R’ Aryeh Leib) Freedman, z’l, a pillar of the Baltimore Jewish community who was the principal of Bais Yaakov of Baltimore for close to 40 years. The Local Launching Over the years, numerous Baltimore aveilim who had to scramble for shiva house items approached the New Yorkbased Misaskim organization, post-shiva, hoping to emulate its unique services, locally. These well-meaning attempts did not come to fruition, however, until R’ Aryeh Leib Freedman persisted after his family’s personal shiva experience. “When we started sitting shiva, we were very uncomfortable eating our meals on our laps,” recalls Mrs. Zipporah Freedman. “One of my daughters asked, ‘Why don’t we order folding tray tables?’ We ordered three packs of four tables from Amazon, which came the next day--enough for all the aveilum, with some to spare.” Ahavas Yisrael’s Executive Director, Rabbi Boruch Brull, a friend of the Freedman family, heard about their purchase the day after and offered to pay for them so they could be used for the community. “When I heard that, I thought, I’m not going to share the bill with Rabbi Brull; we’re going to do this l’zecher nishmas my husband,” shares Mrs. Freedman. “I ordered a couple more sets to lend out to the community. After shiva, my daughter, who is in the business of personalizing things, wrote on them that they are l’zecher nishmas Menachem Mendel Don ben Aryeh Leib Freedman.” The original order came just in time to share the extra, unneeded tables with an-

other family that was sitting shiva at the same time. They were also used by another family that sat shiva soon after the Freedmans’ shiva concluded. Since then, the folding tables have been loaned multiple times. The Freedmans’ table “gemach” was the catalyst for the researching of additional needs of aveilim and shiva houses, on top of what Levinson’s was already providing. “Levinson’s is amazing and goes above and beyond as a community resource” remarks R’ Aryeh Leib. “They provide aveilim with items such as chairs for aveilim and shiva house guests, yarmulkes, nusach Ashkenaz siddurim, candles, and coat racks, which they don’t charge for--even if the levaya is not held there. We are building on their foundation, offering additional items and services to help out the shiva house.” “Baltimore is a growing community,” explains R’ Aryeh Leib. “We should have access to the same wonderful services and items that Misaskim provides in the tristate area and beyond. Rabbi Brull and Reb Menachem Levitansky have both been very involved in getting things off the ground.” Filling the Void The gap that Misaskim of Maryland fills, mostly, is taking care of the shiva house and other needs of aveilim above what Levinson’s and other organizations already graciously provide community members. Some of these items and services include: Nusach Sefard, Ari, and Edut Hamizrach siddurim; low tables, an aron kodesh; a sefer Torah; a bima for laining; a tallis to cover the bima; a shtender for the chazan; a lending library of English and Hebrew seforim about the halachos of mourning; Mishnayos charts and more. “To get Misaskim of Maryland started, we had many meetings with the Rabonim of Baltimore; with the Bikur Cholims; the Chevra Kadishas; Agudath Israel of Maryland and, with Sol Levinson,” mentions R’ Aryeh Leib. “All have given their backing, support, and encouragement. We also went to New York to meet with Misaskim, to benefit from their 17 years of experience. They are very encouraging of our opening up in Baltimore.” In addition to providing shiva house items, Misaskim of Maryland also offers: Emergency Disaster/Recovery Clean-up; Coordinating Emergency Transports; Meis Mitzvah/Cremation Prevention Education;

Community Awareness; and Education of Law Enforcement. “We are working with existing organizations, such as with Agudath Israel of Maryland’s Rabbi Ariel Sadwin, to coordinate with medical examiner issues, and with the Chevra Kadisha regarding accident clean-ups,” emphasizes R’ Aryeh Leib. “We are not replacing or duplicating existing organizations. Rather, we are working with them and referring to them— likewise, they will refer to us if they don’t offer a particular service. How to Access Misaskim’s Services When someone is nifter, r”l, a family member, preferably, should call Misaskim of Maryland at 443-265-2300, so the numerous amenities they offer can be coordinated. Mention where the shiva is being held, from when to when, and how many aveilim will be sitting shiva. To date, as many as three shiva houses have benefited simultaneously, from Misaskim of Maryland’s services--all offered and delivered gratis to the community. “Whereas in the past, some additional items were available from various places or individuals, contacting Misaskim of Maryland is a streamlined, one-call resource that provides a full suite of services--alleviating with compassion those in need in their most difficult time,” notes R’ Menachem Levitansky. A caring community member, Dovid Davis has provided one of his Sefrei Torah to be used by Misaskim of Maryland. With Baltimore being such a large community, there is a need for additional Sifrei Torah, cargo delivery vans, and other resources to service multiple shiva houses, simultaneously. Even before the organization’s official launch, it maxed out on its resources and supplies. Community Kudos A local family who was recently helped by Misaskim of Maryland was amazed at their responsiveness and helpfulness. Misaskim assisted in every step along the way, including arranging for a

tahara during a break in transporting a niftar interstate, providing handy tables for aveilim and repeatedly checking to see if there was anything else that could be done. This proactivity is apparently a trademark of the high-energy Aryeh Leib Freedman, Misaskim of Maryand’s point of contact for this family. This fact was corroborated by Aryeh Fischer, whose family recently got up from sitting shiva for his father, Eugene, a”h. “Misaskim was a tremendous resource for us during our aveilus. Aryeh Leib got my number from my cousin and called me on my cell and asked me what I was getting from Sol Levinson. They were very careful to fill in the gaps, as opposed to stepping on toes—in other words, Sol Levinson did this, Misaskim did that. Specifically, they gave us small tables so the aveilim could eat from their seated position—a huge help for us. They gave us cushioned chairs—a simple thing; game changer. They brought the aron, they brought a sefer Torah. We daven nusach Sefard—Sol Levinson gives nusach Ashkenaz siddurim. They were in and out of our house; not at all, in any way, interfering. Just sort of seamless. True baalei chesed and just an incredible resource. I can’t say enough. Baltimore is lucky to have them.” “I am very excited about the newly established Misaskim of Maryland,” shares Rabbi Brull. “It is a wonderful addition to our many chesed organizations in our city and will give physical and spiritual comfort to those in mourning. I have met and spoken with R’ Aryeh Leib Freedman and R’ Menachem Levitansky, who are truly amazing and dedicated to making this organization run successfully. Ahavas Yisrael joins the community in thanking them and all of Misaskim’s volunteers!” “Misaskim of Maryland has been needed for quite some time,” concludes Jewish Caring Network Director of Operations Stacey Goldenberg. “The caring Misaskim team takes care of everything the family needs--from covering the mirrors to delivering water coolers. They truly want to make sure that each and every family feels loved and taken care of during this extremely difficult time. No words can possibly thank them enough for all they do. May their tremendous efforts be a z’chus for an aliya for Rabbi Mendel Freedman’s neshoma.” For further information, visit: misaskimmd.org, or call: 443-265-2300.


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Father of 4 Stabbed to Death

Adiel Kolman struggled with his attacker as he was being stabbed to death in the Old City of Jerusalem on Sunday. The 32-year-old father of four from the Kochav Hashachar settlement in the West Bank was fatally stabbed by a Palestinian terrorist who had been issued a temporary permit to seek work

in the capital. The killer, who was killed by police at the scene, was identified as 28-yearold Abd al-Rahman Bani Fadel, a father of two from the village of Aqraba, near the West Bank city of Nablus. At least eight Arabs were arrested after the attack for witnessing the stabbing and ignoring it. Kolman’s mother, Yael Kolman, told the Hadashot TV news channel that her son, who was employed at an archaeological dig, was not afraid of working in the Old City’s Muslim Quarter, despite the dangers. “Even though he worked in a dangerous place, he did not express fear or concern,” she said. She said that although Adiel was trained in special education, he had worked at excavations the Old City for the past five years. “Recently, he spoke with us a lot, as though he knew that he was going to leave,” she added. The bereaved mother recalled how when she first heard of the stabbing on the radio she turned it off, because she

knows other terror victims and found it too upsetting to listen to the news reports. It was only later in the day that her husband informed her that it was their son who had been stabbed. “He was a great soul; we called him ‘the jewel,” she continued. “He was a social person, loving and embracing. G-d plucks the flowers.” Yael Kolman said that she drew inspiration from Miriam Peretz, a prominent educator who was declared winner of the Israel Prize on Monday. Peretz lost two of her sons in combat during separate incidents when they were serving in the IDF. At the funeral Yael sobbed, “We would like more. Everything good we want more. To enjoy your pleasantness – more. But no. G-d gives and G-d takes away. This was your time,” she said. “But the children will miss you,” she added. “The children!” his bereaved mother screamed a second time, breaking down into tears along with many in the crowd.

Speaking to Army Radio, Meir Kolman, brother of the victim, said that the stabbing was a reminder of Israel’s broader security situation. “This is here an incident that tells our story as a people, they came and killed a lovely man – we must not forget that we are at war with them,” he said.

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the essence of the story of Zionism, the shatterer of the glass ceiling. “I gaze upon your image, David,” Bennett concluded, “and see us. Congratulations to the people of Israel!” Levy, a father of 12 who recently celebrated his 80th birthday, was born in the Moroccan capital of Rabat in 1937. He made Aliyah in 1957 and was elected to Knesset for the first time a little more than a decade later, in 1969. After the 1977 political upheaval following the Likud’s first election win, Levy received the duty of absorption minister in Menachem Begin’s cabinet.  Following the 1981 elections Levy aroused public outcry by refusing to attend the second Begin government’s swearing-in ceremony until he was appointed deputy premier. Thereafter, in the 10th and 11th Knessets, he served as deputy prime minister and housing minister, using the latter portfolio to push through Project Renewal. He was one of only two Likud ministers to vote against the IDF’s withdrawal from Lebanon. Two of Levy’s children are members of the Knesset. Miriam Peretz is mother to Uriel and Eliraz, both of whom were killed in action fighting in the IDF. When Bennett visited her home to inform her of the honor, Miriam demurred, “I’m unworthy, it’s theirs – Uriel and Eliraz’s – it’s not mine.” Miriam has lectured extensively in Israel and around the world about Israel, the IDF, and the indefatigable Jewish spirit. Miriam also made aliyah from Morocco. She came to Israel in 1964 with her family and resided in a ma’abara near Be’er Sheva. In the mid-seventies she married Eliezer Peretz and the couple moved to the Ofira settlement in Sinai, where Uriel and Eliraz were born. She had six children in all.   Miriam was the principal of Givat Ze’ev first school and today serves as supervisor at the Education Ministry’s Youth and Society Administration.  Her eldest son, Lieutenant Uriel Peretz – commander of a reconnaissance platoon in Golani’s 51st Battalion – was killed on November 25, 1998, in a south Lebanon ambush. On March 26, 2010, another son, Major Eliraz Peretz, was killed after encountering terrorists in the Gaza Strip. Natan Sharansky will also be hon-

ored with the Israel Prize next month. According to Bennett, he “symbolizes the fulfillment of the Zionist dream, from the darkness of a Soviet prison to the light of freedom as the leader of the Jewish Agency.” In response, Sharansky said, “When it comes to kibbutz galuyot, ingathering the exiles, this prize also goes to (my wife) Avital and to all the Aliyah activists and Prisoners of Zion in the Soviet Union who fought valiantly for the right to immigrate to Israel. It also goes to the entire Jewish people, which supported the refuseniks’ struggle for freedom,” he wrote. “The ingathering of the exiles continues. Aliyah today is an Aliyah of free choice: Israel is the best place for self-actualization as a Jew and for impacting the future of the Jewish people. We must do everything to ensure that Israel remains a home to every Jew in the world.”  Born in 1948 in the former Soviet Union as Anatoly Borisovich Shcharansky, Sharansky was denied permission to immigrate to Israel by the government in 1973 for alleged information he was given which was vital to Soviet national security. He then became a human rights activist, working as a spokesperson for the Moscow Helsinki Group, one of Russia’s leading human rights organizations, and a leader for the rights of refuseniks.  In 1977, Sharansky was arrested on multiple fabricated charges including high treason for spying for the Americans and sentenced the following year to 13 years of forced labor.  When given his sentencing, Sharansky famously stated that “to the court I have nothing to say—to my wife and the Jewish people I say, ‘Next Year in Jerusalem.’“  He spent nine years in a Siberian prison. Half of that was spent in solitary confinement, where his health deteriorated to the point of endangering his life. Sharansky, a chess prodigy, later said that he managed to keep himself sane by playing chess with himself, in his head.  After nine years in prison, thanks to considerable international pressure and a campaign led by his wife, Avital Sharansky, Sharansky was released on February 11, 1986. That same day, he immigrated to Israel and arrived in Jerusalem, where he continued to fight for the rights of refuseniks. 


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The Week In News From 1996 to 2000 he served as Minister of Industry and Trade and then as Minister of Internal Affairs, leaving the government when it was suggested that former Prime Minister Ehud Barak’s negotiations with the Palestinians would result in a division of Jerusalem. Sharansky remained the chairman of his party, which was later merged into the Likud. He later served in the government in 2001-2003 as Deputy Prime Minister and Ministry of Construction and Housing, and in 20032005 as Minister of Jerusalem Affairs.

In 2009, Sharansky was elected Chairman of the Jewish Agency for Israel, remaining in the position until 2018. For his activism, Sharansky was awarded the two highest civilian awards in the United States, the Congressional Gold Medal and the Presidential Medal of Freedom, in 1986 and 2006 respectively, and the Ronald Reagan Freedom Award in 2008.   He continued to lead human rights initiatives both through his writings and through his public activism. His memoir, Fear No Evil, was published in the United States in 1988 and trans-

lated into nine languages. His book, The Case for Democracy: The Power of Freedom to Overcome Tyranny and Terror, starred in the New York Times bestseller list.

Israel Knew of Developer of Chemical Agent Israel was suspicious of Anatoly Kuntsevich, the soviet general be-

hind the development of a deadly nerve agent suspected of being used in a poisoning attack last week in the UK, back in the 1990s. The leading chemical weapons expert had led the development of Novichok, a highly potent, Soviet-designed nerve agent which was used on former double agent Sergei Skripal and his daughter on March 4. After the collapse of the Soviet Union, Kuntsevich began trying to sell his knowledge to the Syrians, and Israel knew all about it. Tel Aviv repeatedly tried to warn Moscow about it, but according to a report by Israeli journalist and author Ronen Bergman, “It was believed that [Russian president Boris] Yeltsin either could not, or did not want, to intervene.” It is not known if the Syrian government developed chemical weapons based on information provided by Kuntsevich, however, the country has used chemical weapons since then. Syria agreed to give up its chemical arsenal in 2013 when President Barack Obama threatened missile strikes in retaliation for a chemical attack on a rebel-held suburb of Damascus that killed more than 1,000 people. Obama never attacked Syria, although they have been accused of using chlorine gas in attacks multiple times since then. On April 3, 2002, Kuntsevich died mysteriously on a plane. Although no one has ever taken responsibility for the death, it is widely thought that the Mossad was behind the assassination.

IDF Gets High Score for Protecting Civilians Although a state comptroller review of the Israeli army’s handling of the 2014 Gaza war found some flaws, overall the military received a passing grade. Among the highlights of the report was the high grade given for the IDF’s extensive efforts to avoid civilian casualties during the conflict. The report focused heavily on Israel’s effort to keep civilians safe. “The IDF does its utmost and examines every target before attacking it in order to distance civilians from it,” State Comptroller Yosef Shapira wrote. The


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issue of civilian casualties was discussed during security cabinet meetings repeatedly throughout the war. Still, Shapira called on the National Security Council and the IDF to take international law and civilian casualties more seriously during a future military action. He noted that there is room for improvement. For example, the army’s internal system of reviewing potential breaches of international law could be more thorough. There were 464 such “exceptional incidents” that were reported in the 2014 war. Shapira said that although the IDF acted “in good faith and with a sincere desire to … arrive at the truth,” the “fact-finding assessments” were not always completed in a timely manner or as efficiently as possible. The 169-page report was published for the first time in both Hebrew and English. In response to the document, the IDF said that “most of the specific suggestions regarding these mechanisms have already been fixed and addressed.”

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Polish Minister Attempts to Change History A diplomat from Poland is vowing to “intervene” and have text removed from the Yad Vashem Holocaust museum in Israel that referenced “Polish police” during the Nazi occupation. Jan Dziedziczak, the deputy director of the Polish Foreign Ministry, was interviewed while visiting Israel last week. The passage that he was referring to says that “Polish police” guarded the entrance to the ghetto in Lodz. “When I saw this inscription, I asked for immediate intervention from our diplomatic mission in Israel,” Dziedziczak said. “We will not leave this matter and we will do everything to change this information immediately.” He added that this would be the first of various “actions to restore the truth.”

Sylwia Szymańska-Smolkin of the University of Toronto, have studied the Polish police’s role in the Holocaust and specifically in connection with the Lodz ghetto. It was employed “on a wide scale against the Jewish population,” Yad Vashem writes, and “had an active role in policing ghettos in occupied Poland and searching for Jews who sought refuge with the local population after escaping from ghettos and camps.” The Polish police demonstrated “absolute devotion” to the Nazi authorities, according to Yad Vashem, “although a handful of cases of assistance to Jews by some officers also occurred.” Changing the inscription upon Dziedziczak’s insistence will be changing history.

Speech Cancelled After Poland Objects In another story connected to Poland’s outrageous new Holocaust law, on Monday, an Israeli mayor was forced to cancel a speech he was planning to deliver to Israeli high school students on a trip to Poland after Polish authorities censored his prepared remarks.

Recently, Israel and Poland’s relationship became strained over Poland’s new controversial law which makes blaming Poland for the Holocaust a criminal offense. Israeli politicians and citizens protested the law loudly and forcefully. The argument is that it prevents open discussion and may limit research on thousands of Poles who betrayed Jews to the Nazis or killed Jews. It also, according to some, will begin to distort the truth of what happened, as evidenced by Dziedziczak’s comments. According to the Yad Vashem website, most of the police officers that served before the German occupation of Poland in 1939 complied with the occupiers’ orders for them to return to duty under German auspices. By 1943, more than 16,000 Polish officers, some of them armed, served under the Germans. Many historians, including

Kiryat Bialik Mayor Eli Dukorsky, who is heading the Israeli delegation and who is the son of a Holocaust survivor, was meant to deliver his speech on Monday along with the mayor of Radomsko, Kiryat Bialik’s Polish twin city. However, before Dukorsky could deliver his address, the Radomsko municipality asked to go over his speech in light of a new law criminalizing the mention of complicity by the Polish state or nation in the Holocaust. After authorities reviewed the planned speech, they requested that Dukorsky either omit parts of it that dealt with Poles who turned Jews in to the Nazi occupiers or blame Ukraini-


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busy summer season, he was hit with a major fine: around $3,700. Now that’s a lot of dough. Supporters from his town – and probably fans of his famous pastries – are trying to get the fine waived and to get the town to change the archaic rule. An online petition to change the rule has more than 2,000 signatures. That’s pretty impressive given that Lusigny-sur-Barse only had about 2,000 residents in 2014. “To the workers’ inspector and the city government: Help our bakery!” the petition reads. Vaivre said he loves his job. “We’ve got to stop [penalizing] people who work,” he said. This is not the only law that limits workers’ hours in the country. In January 2017, France passed a law that gives workers the right to limit their out-ofoffice and after-hours correspondence. The country’s 35-hour work week has been in place since 2000, but various reforms have softened these rules over time and some industries are granted special exceptions. Because, you know, well, someone has to bring home the dough.

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The very first service that was performed daily in the Temple was the scooping up of a shovelful of ashes from the innermost ashes on the Altar and placing it on the floor of the Courtyard, east of the ramp that leads to the Altar. This is known as the Terumas haDeshen, the separating of ashes. This deceivingly simple task of housekeeping required the service of a Kohen in his priestly garments.

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Normally once a consecrated object fulfilled its purpose it became permitted for mundane use. It would stand to follow that the sacrifices consumed on the Altar having been transformed into total ash would have achieved their objective and thus be permitted. Yet in an exception to this rule these ashes remain consecrated and prohibited forever. We derive this from the verse that states )‫ושֹמו אצל המזבח (ויקרא ו ג‬, and

place it (ash) next to the Altar. This intimates a permanent placement of the ashes there, thus indicating its being prohibited from use. One of the miracles that took place daily in the Temple was that these ashes were miraculously absorbed into the ground becoming one with the earth. ).‫(יומא כא‬ It is quoted in the name of one of the Baalei Tosafos, Rav Yehuda Barzelai, that God mourns over the destruction of His Temple at precisely the junctures during the night when this service was performed while the Temple stood. ‫ תוספות‬,‫(תוספות הרא"ש‬ ).‫הר"י ברכות ג‬ On Yom Kippur the Terumas haDeshen was performed at midnight, on Holidays at the end of the “first watch” of the night and year round about dawn. During these hours God bewails: “Woe to the children whose sins have

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What of all the sacrifices, the incense and so many other significant rituals? Does God bemoan the memory of the removal of ashes more than He does the absence of the ‫עבודת יום הכי־‬ ‫פורים‬, the inspiring service that was performed on the Day of Atonement or the joyous ‫ניסוך המים‬, Libation of Water service that took place on the holiday of Sukkos? Rav Samson Raphael Hirsch teaches us a most thrilling message that underlies this unassuming law.

God does not mourn as much over the lack of our ability to serve as previous generations might have, as He grieves over that gap that we have created between our mission and that of our predecessors. The lost faith in ourselves and our ability to bring about the greatest hopes and aspirations of our ancestors is indeed the greatest tragedy, because when we lose our resolve all hope is lost. On the eve of Pesach we ponder this very lesson. We assert with confident exuberance, !‫בעבור זה עשה ה' לי‬, because of this purpose and mission, God took me, not merely ‘us’, out of Egypt!

...The scoopful of the Terumas haDeshen have been laid down as a remembrance of the devotion represented by the sacrifices of the past day to God and to His holy Torah... primarily for the permanent consciousness of the Nation. It would give the idea, as the introduction to the service of the day, that:- Today brings no new mission, it has only to carry out, ever afresh, the mission that yesterday too was to accomplish. The very last grandchild stands there, before God, with the same mission of life that his first ancestors bore, and every day adds to all its predecessors in the whole passing of centuries, his contribution to the solution of the task given to all generations of the House of Israel.

For each one of us God wrought his miracles; so that ‘I’ would bring about the purpose of creation, the purpose of the exodus from Egypt; so that ‘I’ would bring to fruition the mission of our Forefathers.

The Terumas haDeshen is what bridges the past with our future. No wonder it retains its sanctity, no wonder it requires the skill of a Kohen.

The Talmud )‫ (תמורה לד‬analyzing the verse directing us to carefully place the ashes next to the Altar, instructs: ‫ושֹמו‬, and place it; ‫ושמו בנחת‬: and he shall place it gently; ‫ושמו כולו‬: and he shall place it completely; ‫ושמו‬ ‫שלא יפזר‬: and he shall place it that it not scatter.

It is the conclusion of each day’s service that inspires with refreshing excitement our dedication anew every day laden with opportunity. The awareness of that privilege, that we carry the very same banner our ancestors bore, and that we, with whatever our limitations, must and can achieve what they set out to accomplish, is at the core of who we are.

We build on the ‘ashes’ of the past, ashes that maintain their sanctity, that meld into our essence, inspiring our very being. Perhaps its placement adjacent to the Altar is reminiscent of the creation of Man from that very earth beneath the Altar, conjuring as well the merit of the ashes of ‘Yitzchak’ that remain forever heaped on the Altar post the Akeidah.

May I humbly suggest that the secret to assuring a successful transmission of this noble notion to future generations lies in making sure our presentation is ‘gentle’ and sweet, that we devote ourselves and our attention fully to the task so that our children


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The ability to reach our children, to connect with each other is contingent on careful, deliberate and constant effort. G-d directs us to write the beautiful song of Torah teaching it to the Children of Israel, ‫שֹימה בפיהם (דברים‬ )‫לא יט‬, place it in their mouth. When the Torah discusses the implementation of peace too it states, )‫וישֹם לך שלום (במדבר ו כו‬, and may He place peace for you. In both sentiments the key is ‫שוֹם‬, placing, gently, wholeheartedly and consistently. Perhaps we call it the ‫ליל סדר‬, a night of ‘orderliness’ emphasizing the need to place ourselves before our loved ones, devoted to those we cherish, with kindness, focus and commitment. Only in that way can we present who we really are and what we seek to convey in an effective and meaningful way.

The numerical equivalent of the ‫שֹם‬, to place, is 340 equal to ‫ליל סדר‬ plus its letters! In our effort to achieve this goal we are actually emulating an attribute of God Himself. Man’s very encounter with God was his ‘placement’ by the hand of God when He gently, with devotion and consistence placed Adam in the Garden of Eden. ‫וישֹם שם את האדם אשר יצר (בראשית‬ )‫ב ח‬, and He placed there the man whom He had formed. When our children sense our focus solely on them is when they will begin to fathom the attention G-d pays to each one of us. This is the story of our people. Despite the travail and troubles that may give us an appearance as a people abandoned, we reassert each Pesach the lesson we have reviewed time and again, the message that’s built upon the holy ashes of our past. There is no being more dedicated, conscious and involved than the G-d who took us out of Egypt and nurtures, protects and cherishes us till this very day. May we merit accepting and appreciating our strengths, and resolving to bring about the day that we will declare once and for all that our mission has been accomplished. Building upon the holy ashes of our ancestors that inspire our every breath may we strive and yearn for the final redemption, living each day with an infectious freshness that will elevate our families, our community, our people and all of humanity.


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Oy, It’s Hard Work! By Rabbi Motty Rabinowitz

As the calendar not so slowly inches towards Pesach, it seems that universal exhaustion starts to set in. Between cleaning, tidying, cooking, schlepping around kitchenware, shopping and more shopping, many of us arrive at our Seder ready for bed. This Pesach thing is really hard work. Ironically, the medieval halachic authority, the Sefer Rokeach (Ch’ 273), stipulates that this is the one statement we should never utter about Pesach. This is based on a passage in the Talmud Yerushalmi (Pesachim 10:4) that attempts to understand the words of the wicked son mentioned in

our Haggadah stating, “What is this work for you?” (Shemos 12:26). While the Haggadah indicates that the wicked son is emoting his disdain for Judaism in general, the Talmud understands his statement as being indicative of something entirely different, “Why do I need to bother with such hard work every year?!”. Thus, the Rokeach explains, anyone who moans about the hard work for Pesach is following in the footsteps of the wayward son. This seems like pretty harsh labelling for this annual rite. Indeed, the Chok Yaakov (Orach Chaim 469:3)

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notes that the general custom is not to follow the prohibition of the Rokeach – no kidding! He explains the Talmudic passage and prohibition as specifically referring to the offering up of the Paschal lamb, but not to the annual pre-Pesach cleaning and cooking marathon. Whichever approach one takes, one thing is clear - Pesach seems to be have a unique criterion attached to it. We shouldn’t complain or kvetch, but instead take it on the chin. For no other mitzva do we find the Torah relating about an evil child expressing contempt for the hard work. No other Temple sacrifice triggers a warning about such possible negativity. Why is it that we are instructed to keep negativity out of Pesach at all costs? The Yiddish author Sholem Aleichem famously coined the idiom,” It’s hard to be a Jew”. This phrase eventually developed into a Yiddish musical in the 1920’s and to a degree epitomized the challenges that confronted Jews of yesteryear. Whether it was the financial difficulties making ends meet, the predicament of finding a stable job without working on Shabbos, or the challenge of being embedded in a gentile culture, this was an oft groaned statement. Unfortunately, the consequence of such an understandable attitude was the grand loss of a whole generation of Jewish children. When a child hears day in and day out about the how shver it is to be Jew, why would he want to continue in such miserable footsteps? Who wants to live a life of supposed misery, when the allure of the outside culture promising the pursuit of happiness, beckons? Children acutely pick up on emotional nuance, they can sense when their parents are fed up, and make up their own conclusions about what is valuable or miserable in life. Which brings us to Pesach. We get together across the world to celebrate the formation of our people, and their grand exit from the persecution of

Egyptian slavery. This is the point in time when our national identity was forged. This is the moment where our Jewish pride was formed, and our relationship with G-d solidified. It is not for naught that the Pesach Seder is celebrated across all ends of the Jewish spectrum, in one form or another. We recognize that this is the foundation for our unified identity, one that must be passed on diligently to the next generation. At this formative juncture, we have to therefore make a profound and far-reaching choice. Which Jewish identity do we really relate to? Which identity do we want to pass on to the next generation? Do we want to pass on the legacy of how tough and exhausting Pesach and our heritage can be? Do we want our children to listen to our incessant complaints of how tough things are? Or do we want to infuse excitement and authentic pride about who we are as a nation, “‫ךמעכ ימ‬ ‫!”לארשי‬ There are many reasons to take it easy and not overdo it before YomTov, not least of which is the mitzva of being happy on Yom-Tov. But specifically when it comes to Pesach, we are additionally setting the tone for what it means to be a Jew. This is the subliminal messaging that our children will take away from these upcoming weeks. We must take care to retain our focus on what’s really important. Instead of an intense mad rush in the moments before Pesach, perhaps we can create a more relaxed atmosphere, have the table fully set before YomTov, and enter this special day with a calm and enthusiastic excitement. As the Rokeach instructed, let our homes radiate not the craziness and labor, but the beauty of our heritage and the pride we wear as members of the Chosen people. So Sholem Aleichem, you got it all wrong - It’s beautiful to be a Jew! Chag Kasher Vesameach!


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Loshon Hora in Regard to Shidduchim By Rabbi Dovid Jaffe

This article is adapted from Rabbi Dovid Jaffee’s upcoming sefer on the laws of Loshon Hora in contemporary times. All halachos mentioned herein are complex and part of a larger framework. The purpose of the article is to raise awareness of these essential halachos; one should not draw any practical conclusions without first consulting a rav. Introduction One of the most important, but least understood, applications of the laws of Loshon Hora is the topic of shidduchim. It is accepted in the Orthodox community that when searching for a partner in marriage, one does research about the potential candidate before (and sometimes during) the dating process. This is most commonly done by speaking to teachers, friends, and colleagues of the candidate and asking personal questions regarding the potential candidate to better ascertain the suitability of the match. Here, in particular, it is understood that every piece of information which is related can greatly affect the life of the individual under discussion. Therefore, one must exercise extreme caution before revealing anything negative. On the other hand, there are times when there is an obligation to relate certain information. One who withholds information which he is obligated to say is held responsible for the adverse effects of his silence. There are, unfortunately, too many stories of ruined marriages in which essential information about one of the parties only came to light after the marriage. Had this information been revealed prior to the marriage, the marriage never would have taken place, thus preventing much suffering. Revealing such information is known

as speaking Loshon Hora for a to’eles (a constructive purpose), which is a permissible form of Loshon Hora. Thus, it is of utmost importance for one to familiarize himself with these halachos to know when to relate negative information in regard to shidduchim and when to refrain. It must be noted that these halachos are intricate and very subjective. Therefore, it is of the essence to consult with a qualified halachic authority before deciding whether or not to reveal certain information. However, there are two reasons that it is necessary even for the layman to be familiar with the basic halachos. First of all, he needs to know when questions must be posed to a rav. For example, many people feel that one can just omit questionable information or even outright lie in order to conceal negative information. They might feel that they are doing a great deed by refraining from relating Loshon Hora. One who is familiar with the halachos will know that this is not necessarily true and that sometimes it is a terrible aveira (sin) to withhold information. He will realize that he must consult with a rav before proceeding. Furthermore, there are situations where one is put on the spot and he must respond immediately. He must be familiar enough with the halachos in order to make an educated decision as to how to respond. In many instances, one may only disclose negative information about an individual after he was asked about these qualities in the individual. However, at times, one may divulge information even without being asked for his opinion. In this article we will discuss some of the guidelines for the latter situation – offering unsolicited negative information.

Severe Deficiencies One may only offer information regarding a significant deficiency of which it can be assumed that the other side would never go through with the marriage if this deficiency was known to them. Examples of this can include serious diseases, hereditary diseases, severe psychological disorders, unusually flawed character traits, and significant deviations from the outlook on life or the halachic standards practiced by the community of which the other party is associated. One who is aware of an issue which will preclude one of the party’s abilities to have a successful marriage is not only permitted to inform the other side, but he is obligated to do so. The Obligation of the Individual Himself It should be noted that in such situations there is an obligation for the individual with the deficiency himself to disclose this information. Just as one may not sell an item to another based on false assumptions, so too in regard to marriage. The obligation of the individual himself goes above and beyond the obligation of others. Hence, there are situations in which others need not and may not reveal information about a certain individual, but the individual himself is indeed required to disclose such information to the other party. Furthermore, sometimes it is prudent for one to disclose information before the other party discovers it from another source. Certainly, if the other party only becomes aware about it after the engagement or marriage, that party will likely feel that they have been deceived. If this were to happen, it could have adverse effects on the marital harmony of that couple. Additionally, when a third party discloses negative information about an individual, it can be perceived as a more severe deficiency than if the individual disclosed the information himself. Of course, one should always consult with a halachic authority regarding whether or not to reveal the information and how to do so. People

can cause themselves undo harm by revealing information that does not need to be revealed. When the Other Party has the Same Deficiency An exception to the above is when a similar deficiency is found in the other party, as well. In general, in such a situation there is no reason to assume that the other party will be particular about such a deficiency. Similarly, if one of the parties is concealing information, one may not reveal it if the second party is also concealing information. A Subjectively Severe Deficiency Sometimes there is a deficiency which is not particularly serious from an objective point of view, but one knows that the other side is very sensitive to this deficiency and would never marry someone with this particular issue. Here, too, one is permitted and required to inform the side who has this sensitivity that this shidduch is not for them. Example: The Schwartz family is a very refined family. They have sterling character traits and are always calm. When faced with someone who is angry, they become unsettled and cannot properly deal with the situation. Their daughter, Rivka, is considering dating a certain individual. This individual, although endowed with good middos, occasionally loses his temper. Knowing Rivka and her family, it is clear that such behavior would render a marriage with this individual untenable. In this situation, one may take the initiative (after consulting a rav) and tell Rivka not to go out with this individual. If necessary, it is even permitted to mention explicitly that the individual sometimes loses his temper. All of these dispensations to speak Loshon Hora for a to’les, are subject to certain conditions enumerated by the Chofetz Chaim. Perhaps these will be discussed in a future article. *Interested readers can e-mail dovidjaffee@gmail.com to receive the sources for the rulings.


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From Wheatfield to Pesach Table: STAR-K Kosher Certification Takes You Behind the Scenes at Migrash Farm By Margie Pensak The hefty $20-$50 price per pound of handmade shmura matzah may cause you to raise your eyebrows, especially when comparing it to the price of machine-made matzah, but if you only knew what goes into manufacturing the crisp, paper-thin, artisanal specialty item you would understand why it is so pricey. To keep up with the increasing demand for handmade shmura matzah, matzah bakeries around the world start baking as early as October! But, actually, the labor-intensive process of producing STAR-K certified shmura flour began a few months before, in July. That is when HaRav Moshe Heinemann visited the 28-acre Migrash Farm—located inside the Chesapeake Watershed, just a stone’s throw from STAR-K’s Baltimore headquarters. The farmer, R’ Yosef Hertzmark, who doubles as a STAR-K menaker, accompanied the Rav as he walked the fields to supervise the shmura wheat harvest, deeming its extra level of scrutiny-- “shmurah m’shaas ketzira” (guarded from the time of harvest). The flour’s supervision began even earlier than July 11: it started when the grain was planted, last fall, to ensure the crop would be yoshon, and then when the plants started to form seed heads, these were monitored for grain fill and sprouting. Once the kernels start to harden—but, before they sprout new shoots—the wheat is plucked. Since it will be stored until it is milled months later, it must be guarded and stored in a climate-controlled environment. If it is too dry, it will have poor milling qualities and thus poor baking qualities; if it is too moist, it could become moldy and or chometz. As its Hebrew name “shmura” implies, the ingredients that go into this type of matzah are “guarded” against leavening, or becoming chometz, by taking extra precautions.

Wheat Harvesting 101 The shmura wheat manufacturing process is not simple. An understanding of the general life cycle of the crops and the harvesting process will give you a better understanding of what is involved. The planting takes place in the fall; there is initial growth and then dormancy in the winter; there is heavy growth in early spring; and, finally, the flowering and grain set in early summer. The harvesting process includes: the cutting of the crop in the field; threshing the crop to separate grain from chaff; winnowing to clean separated grains from the stalks and chaff; and, drying down grains to 1416% moisture for storage. “We keep tabs on the weather because we want to be harvesting the grains at their peak ripeness while the shibolim are at their peak dryness,” explains R’Yosef. “Too early, and the grains will be under ripe, and without quick drying, these grains are more prone to sprouting or molding, thus making them posul for shmura. if the grains stand on the stalk too long in the field, they are also more prone to sprouting. If the grains are ripe, but there has just been a rain, the wet grains will be hard to harvest and again will be more prone to sprouting and/or molding in storage. We are looking for the perfect intersection of ripeness and dryness.” To properly understand the cereals in the context of shmura matzo (and yoshon), the two main areas of understanding and experience are: 1) grass anatomy and morphology, i.e., what are the different parts/structures of the plant and how do they vary between varieties and species; and 2) crop phenology, i.e., how the crop develops and grows through its lifecycle.

“Regarding structures, we are primarily looking at the grain heads (shiboles in Hebrew) and then specifically at the grains themselves,” notes R’Yosef. “Are the kernels cured or are they starting to grow? We check this both in the field before harvest and in storage. For the life cycle, we are interested in when the kernel starts to root in the ground after seeding the field as

this determines that crop’s status relative to yoshon.” Keeping Crops Separate Because we require an unadulterated grain crop for shmura matzo, we concern ourselves with other seeds that might mix in with the crops. There are many field crops and weeds that share a similar seasonal timeframe with the


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STAR-K Kashrus Administrator Rabbi Zvi Goldberg accompanied HaRav Heinemann to Migrash Farm, and concludes: “I’ve had the zechus to see Rav Heinemann in many areas of halacha--selling a Jewish-owned animal to avoid the concerns of a bechor; selling chometz; checking esrogim, and so on--but I’ve never seen the checking of a shmura field. When I heard the Rav was checking one nearby I jumped at the opportunity to observe this. The Rav checked three areas to be machzik that the kernels had not become chometz. When he made a brocho (hoadomo) and ate some, at first I didn’t realize that it was part of the process to ensure that they are hard and not soft. The Rav joked that you can tell it is ready if it breaks your teeth!”

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n his chilling account of the Romanov dynasty, the British historian Simon Sebag Montefiore quoted Peter Stolypin, who was interior minister for Nicholas II, the last of the tsars: “In Russia, nothing is more dangerous than the appearance of weakness.” Montefiore explained that in the 300-plus years of Romanov rule, power had been an instrument not simply of governing, but of survival. He cited the aphorism of the French writer Madame de Stael: “In Russia, the government is autocracy tempered by strangulation.” President Vladimir Putin embodies this Russian paranoid ethic, never more than in his belligerent March 1 speech boasting of a new generation of “invincible” nuclear-powered missiles and super-fast torpedoes. Putin’s address included video mockups of new cruise missiles that were so hokey they would embarrass a Hollywood studio. What should Americans make of Putin’s speech and the policy challenge it implicitly poses for the United States? Some analysts were quick to discount Putin’s military claims as fanciful. The new Russian technologies he described were already wellknown to U.S. intelligence agencies, analysts said. The speech was obviously a message to Washington, but one with several layers of meaning. On its face, it was meant to frighten and intimidate, but at that level, it surely failed. The U.S. has vast military power to deter Russia, including new weapons systems that are at least a

match for what Putin described. At a deeper level, Putin’s speech was a plea for attention, by a leader who sees himself avenging his nation’s humiliation after the collapse of the Soviet Union. Despite Putin’s wounded, chip-on-the-shoulder posture, this struck me as the core of his address, and worth a well-considered response. The crux of Putin’s argument is that Russia was ignored during its years of weakness and is taken seriously now only because it looks

able one. He has been advertising his desire to restore Russia’s lost glory since he became president in 2000. Last month’s indictment by special counsel Robert Mueller of 13 Russians for meddling in the 2016 election describes an organization, the Internet Research Agency, that, according to other accounts, field-tested his internet manipulation techniques in 2014 in Ukraine before deploying them in America. To manage these covert actions, he turned to a billionaire oligarch pal, Yevgeniy

“Russia is not preparing for war with the West; the war is already being actively conducted - on Russia’s terms.”

threatening. Putin recounted that before he took power “the military equipment of the Russian army was becoming obsolete, and the armed forces were in a sorry state.” With the collapse of the Soviet Union, he said, the nation had lost 23.8 percent of its territory, 48.5 percent of its population, 41 percent of its GDP and 44.6 percent of its military. “Nobody really wanted to talk to us about the core of the problem [of the nuclear-weapons balance], and nobody wanted to listen to us. So listen now,” he demanded. Putin is a bully, but a predict-

Prigozhin, who also helped organize Russian mercenaries in Syria. Ukraine has been Putin’s laboratory. Oleksandr Danylyuk, chairman of the Center for Defense Reforms in Ukraine, warned in a 2016 paper for the Naval Postgraduate School that Russia has “been carrying out not only information operations but also other clandestine and special operations against Ukraine for more than a decade.” His conclusion: “Russia is not preparing for war with the West; the war is already being actively conducted - on Russia’s terms.” Just because Putin proposes re-

newed discussions with the U.S., that doesn’t mean it’s a bad idea. Israel, Saudi Arabia, Japan and India all have serious dialogue with Russia about key foreign-policy issues, but the U.S. doesn’t. That’s a mistake, especially now. It was unwise, for example, for the U.S. to suddenly cancel talks on cybersecurity that were planned for late February with a 17-member Russian team headed by Putin’s cyberadviser, Andrei Krutskikh. The Russians responded by canceling planned discussions about strategic stability. The two countries’ militaries continue to have daily “deconfliction” consultations in the congested battlespace of the Middle East, but the dialogue should be broader. This barren Russian-American landscape is a perverse consequence of Putin’s attempts to meddle in U.S. politics and foster the candidate who kept proclaiming what a great guy the Russian leader was and how much he wanted a rapprochement. Paradoxically, Donald Trump’s election has made dialogue with Russia politically toxic, and arms control has all but disappeared from the U.S. agenda. “In an autocracy, the traits of character are magnified; everything personal is political,” wrote Montefiore about the Romanovs. Putin is inescapable. The U.S. military will counter Putin’s death-star weapons, but in the meantime, American diplomacy needs to open better channels. Ignoring Russia may be good politics, but it’s bad policy. (c) 2018, Washington Post Writers Group


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I meant no disrespect to any individual or group. And I want to look to the future as much as anybody. - Hillary Clinton in a longwinded Facebook post responding to backlash to her recent comment in India that 52% of white women in the U.S. voted for Trump because their husbands made them do so

Who’s more likely to get killed? A celebrity who’s protected by 35 guards or you, when you go for a walk at night? How come they have guards for them? You know what this guard is carrying? What do you think he’s carrying, a pastrami sandwich? A cookie? He’s carrying a gun. So if a gun is important for him, how come it’s not important for you?

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Went up in Eastland and shot a policeman… I’m trying to pull the trigger but it’s stuck…. Put your hands down…I ain’t gon’ shoot you... -Some of the less violent lyrics of a Detroit-based rapper, who last Sunday night slammed gun owners and the National Rifle Association (NRA) at an awards show for “loving their guns more than our children”

Costco is selling a Doomsday food kit that can feed a typical family for a year. Walmart sells the same kit, but it only feeds a typical Walmart family for six days. – Conan O’Brien

Man, it just started snowing out of nowhere this morning, man. Y’all better pay attention to this climate control, man, this climate manipulation. And D.C. keeps talking about, “We a resilient city.” That’s a model based off the Rothschilds controlling the climate to create natural disasters they can pay for to own the cities, man. Be careful. - Washington, D.C., Councilmember Trayon White Sr. spewing Jew hatred in a video on his Facebook page

March Madness is officially underway. An interesting poll says that 17 percent of March Madness viewers watched the game with their boss last year. The bosses called it “tons of fun” while employees called it “mandatory.” – Jimmy Fallon

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According to Politico, the publishers of former FBI Director James Comey’s upcoming memoir are taking extreme precautions to prevent the manuscript from leaking. Yeah, it would be a shame if something got out at the wrong time and ruined everything for him. - Seth Myers

We can have all the blue ribbon committees we want, but if we don’t get tough on the drug dealers, we’re wasting our time. Just remember that. We’re wasting our time. And that toughness includes the death penalty.

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- President Trump speaking in New Hampshire about the opioid crisis in America and calling for the death penalty for serious drug traffickers

A new report has found that more animals have died while in the care of United Airlines than any other U.S. airline over the last three years, while animals who flew Spirit Airlines only wished they were dead. - Seth Myers

The big story is still March Madness. The tournament has been crazy so far. The other night, a 16th-seed beat a No. 1-seed for the first time ever when UMBC beat Virginia. It’s pretty nuts — until last weekend, everyone thought UMBC was a bank. - Jimmy Fallon

The ambassador, David Friedman, said they’re building on their own land. You son of a dog, building on their own land?! You are a settler and your family are settlers! - PA President Mahmoud Abbas at a Palestinian leadership meeting this week

The time has come for President Abbas to choose between hateful rhetoric and concrete and practical efforts to improve the quality of life of his people and lead them to peace and prosperity. Notwithstanding his highly inappropriate insults against members of the Trump administration, the latest iteration being his insult of my good friend and colleague Ambassador Friedman, we are committed to the Palestinian people and to the changes that must be implemented for peaceful coexistence. We are finalizing our plan for peace and we will advance it when circumstances are right. - Statement by Jason Greenblatt, President Trump’s Middle East envoy

His response was to refer to me as son of a dog. Is that anti-Semitism or political discourse? I leave that up to you. - Ambassador Friedman when asked about Abbas’ comments at the Global Forum for Combating Anti-Semitism conference

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The Russian presidential election was this weekend, and to get people to vote, Russian officials were offering prizes like Apple Watches. It sounds fun — until you open the box with your Apple Watch, and it’s still attached to a hand. - Jimmy Fallon

I made some exaggerations. When you talk about fishing, you can’t help exaggerating. - Vladimir Putin joking during an interview on Russian TV about his conversation with Melania Trump about his outdoor adventures when he was seated near her during an official dinner at the Group of 20 summit in Hamburg, Germany, in July

Vladimir Putin has been re-elected to a fourth term as president of Russia. The final vote tally was: 76% Putin, 24% shot this morning. – Conan O’Brien

A spokesperson for House Speaker Paul Ryan said yesterday that Special Counsel Robert Mueller should be able to do his job. What a brave stance from the spokesperson for the speaker of the House. Why does a speaker have a spokesperson? YOU’RE the speaker. That’s like someone from Geico saying, “The lizard believes he can save you 15 percent on car insurance.” I want to hear it from the lizard. – Seth Myers The Jewish Home | OCTOBER 29, 2015

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Actress Cynthia Nixon today announced her bid to run for New York governor, and she debuted her campaign slogan, “Nixon 2018: No Relation.” - Seth Myers

They are coming after me because of my city, and they are against…against poor children. That has been my mantra, the poor children of America that I am here to support. Yes, I am a liberal. - House Minority Leader Nancy Pelosi at her weekly press briefing talking about GOP attacks against her leadership

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“We’re shorthanded, Yankel,” the boss replies. “I can’t give you the day off.” “Thanks, boss,” says Yankel. “I knew I could count on you!”

Things You Learn While Cleaning For Pesach Bleach really does ruin clothing.

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Children do eat in the bathroom. If you think the sanitation workers are going to come tomorrow, they won’t.

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You can never have enough old undershirts. So that’s where the matzah from the eruv tavshilin went! You have more shoes than DSW under your bed.

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When needed most, you will be unable to tear off a paper towel using just one hand. Despite the three containers full of varied type of nails, you will certainly have to visit the hardware store at least three times before yom tov to get just the right nail for different projects. Those counter covers really are ugly; it’s not your imagination.

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I just got engaged to an amazing guy. I know this should be a very happy time in my life but, instead, from the moment that our parents got together to start discussing the wedding plans, I’ve been miserable. As much as my chosson Josh and I have in common and get along so beautifully, my parents and his parents could not be more different from one another. They live in different communities, have very different lifestyles and values, and can’t seem to agree on anything. It’s gotten to the point where they actually yell at one another! I’ve walked into my house and seen my mother on the phone, her face as red as a beet, yelling into the phone. Turns out, she’s on the phone with Josh’s mother. My parents are not necessarily the easiest-going people in the world, but they are reasonable and I’ve never seen my mother yelling at anyone – aside from her children! Every decision they have to agree on seems insurmountable. They have totally opposite visions for everything related to the wedding, related to where Josh and I will live, related to how much or how little each of them is willing to help us out with... it’s a nightmare. I am seriously considering breaking off the engagement. I can’t imagine a lifetime of fighting parents and in-laws any time some kind of agreement has to be made. It’s just too much. Josh is also aware of the problem, but he doesn’t seem to be as affected by all of it as I am. I suspect that he’s used to his parents being very different and I think he’s able to tune most of the fighting out. Am I being ridiculous to think that marrying into such a family would be a terrible mistake and that as much as I feel very strongly for Josh, our love might not be enough to compensate for combative parents?

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The Panel The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. t’s not marrying into Josh’s family which is the question. It’s not the issue of battling mechutanim that is the issue; families frequently have strong disagreements which turn unpleasant when it comes to wedding planning. The real question in your mind seems to be can Josh and I handle conflict, now and in the future. You grew up with difficult people with whom it is not easy to get along and you are wondering what that bodes for your future. You are framing it as marrying into his problematic family and that is not the right question. Before you know it, both you and

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A rabbi or trusted party can mediate the conflict of the parents before the wedding and endeavor to get them to focus on you and Josh and not themselves. You and Josh, however, are more important than the parents at this juncture. Learn, grow, and equip yourselves so that your relationship is strengthened to withstand external and internal conflict.

The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A. everal years ago, before my children were married, I attended my friend’s daughter’s Shabbos sheva brochos. At the end of the seudah, the chosson’s father approached his new mechutan and declared loudly and ceremoniously, “Thank you for a beautiful simcha. Bye-bye for now, we’ll see you at the bris!” My reaction then: “How crass!” My reaction now: “How true!” Full disclosure: I love all my mechutanim and have enjoyed amicable relationships with each. Truth be told, the engagement period, with its ongoing discussion over narishkeit – wedding colors, flowers, seating protocols, minhagim – can be destabilizing for an engaged couple. Not to mention, the nitty-gritty negotiations over support and living arrangements. One irate motherin-law threatened to break up an engagement when her son rented an apartment five blocks closer to the in-laws than to her. Talk about Mars and Venus colliding! I’m sorry that your families are on different wavelengths and the fur is flying; I can assure you this happens more than you know (see above). Wake up from your nightmare; stop dreaming about the idealized engagement and tune out the static! Concentrate on this: from the moment Josh asked for your hand, you and he committed to becoming a couple. You pledged your loyalty

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to each other despite differences in your respective “communities, lifestyles and values.” Going forward, conversations regarding choice of neighborhood and means of support (ideally, self-support) should be handled calmly and peacefully between the two of you. If, after discussing your financials, you think you’ll need monetary help, I suggest you and Josh approach each set of parents discreetly and respectfully (i.e., no demands, ultimatums, or pressure). The decision to “help” (via gift or loan) should be based on what they are willing or able to spend; parental support should never be a reaction or retaliation offered in response to “what the other side is giving.” To avoid potential conflict, what each side decides to contribute is a private matter between them and the couple. Still, if you feel the mechutanim madness is complicating an already stressful period and may negatively impact your marriage, get thee to pre-marital couples counseling to help you with strategies on dealing with difficult in-laws. Bear in mind: the engagement will soon be over; your marriage must last a lifetime.

The Shadchan Michelle Mond hey say that the engagement period is the hardest time and now you have found out why. It is written that finding a shidduch is comparable to Krias Yam Suf. How is this so? During Krias Yam Suf, Hashem defied the pattern of nature and split one body of water into different parts – something seemingly impossible. With a shid-

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60 duch He does the opposite. It seems absolutely impossible for two individuals from different communities and backgrounds, molded by different experiences, to come together and agree on everything, let alone choosing a marriage partner! So thank you to Hashem for bringing you through step one: finding an amazing guy whom, despite your different backgrounds and upbringings, is interested in marrying you and you, him. First, acknowledge this miracle and realize how lucky you are. Now on to step two: the parents. Suppose you squander a relationship with this incredible man for the parents’ inability to agree. You mentioned yourself that your parents are not the most easygoing people. Can you guarantee you won’t repeat this exact scenario with some other man’s parents? While the fighting might not involve financial support, gown colors, or whether to place fresh flowers

on every table, some friction will certainly come about somewhere. So, it is up to you to step in and work it out. Emulate Josh’s logical approach of tuning out the noise so you may enjoy your relationship together. Remember: this phase will not last long. Once the wedding is over, there will be no more wedding logistics to figure out and no reason for the parents to hash things out. Mazel tov – you will get through this!

The Single Tova Wein rom what I hear, it’s the exception rather than the rule, for wedding plans to go totally smoothly between two sets of parents. There is so much at stake. First and foremost, the happiness of the young couple getting married. Also, everyone is nervous about planning such a major event.

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he behavior of all the parents in this situation leaves much to be desired. Regardless of whether or not Josh’s parents are “worse” or more difficult than yours, your parents should be trying to shield you from this stress-inducing drama. But instead, everyone is putting their own egos before their children. You are a grown woman and you don’t have to be babied or coddled, but certainly you should not have to come home to Pink organza!?!?!? Were you raised in a barn? Or, Over my dead body will they moving to Bumblebee, Kentucky! They’re going to live near us. Or, That’s all you can contribute financially? You people are taking us for a ride! Neither side has to be fond of the other, but for the sake of the children, both sides should be able to control the screaming and

yelling. By exposing you to all the chaos, your parents are acting recklessly. I’m sorry you have to deal with both sets of parents’ immaturity during what should be a very special, joyous time. Believe it or not, more important than your parents’ fighting is how you and Josh handle it as a couple. I’m curious if Josh knows the extent of how you are feeling. Feeling close to breaking your engagement tells a serious story. You mentioned that Josh doesn’t seem as impacted by the parental tension and all-out war, but you don’t mention how the two of you handle this as a couple. Have you told Josh you are considering breaking off the engagement? If so, what was his reaction? Telling Josh how you are feeling about very

There is always concern about the big decisions that have to be made, affecting large sums of money, different taste levels ... so many areas in which parents can easily disagree. Obviously, some parents are better at holding it together and putting class and politeness above getting their way. Others don’t. Sounds like in your case it’s the latter. What I think is the important lesson to take from this is how well you can handle chaos that goes on around you. Are you able to take Josh’s lead and tune it out? Or do you find yourself always getting pulled into the drama? That’s what you need to work on. Once you get married, your life will only become more and more complicated. You have to learn how to ignore the noise and focus on what is important. In this case, the fact that you found a wonderful man to marry should trump everything else that’s going on. The engagement period will end

important matters (and vice versa) is crucial to a healthy marriage. How Josh reacts to you (and vice versa) is equally as crucial. Marriages will face all sorts of internal and external stressors. Your relationship is under an incredible amount of stress right now. With the right self-expression and the appropriate response (listening, validating and sending the message of We’re going to get through this together), a solid relationship can weather the storm. I want you to think about what it is that Josh could do to help you through this stressful time. Is there something that you need from him? Do you need his support? Do you need him to simply recognize how awful this is for you? Do you need him to speak to his parents and ask them to stop their end of things? Ask him for it. Josh may be an incredibly easygoing guy or he may be avoiding the situation/ or acting passively because he doesn’t know how to handle it. Before you make any sudden decisions, you and Josh need to talk

It’s time for you and Josh to be the adults in the room

and the yelling matches should hopefully end as well. If they don’t – it’s none of your business. Mind you, the more independent you and Josh are once you are married, the less your parents and Josh’s parents need to be pulled into anything. Aim for self-reliance. That’s the ticket. But to consider ending this engagement over bickering parents would be something you would always regret. It’s time for you and Josh to be the adults in the room!

heart-to-heart about how the two of you, as a couple, can work together to handle the stress. You two may not be able to stop the feuding parents (though I think it’s perfectly fine to tell both sets of parents, separately or together, that the fighting must stop once and for all… and if you’re reading this Moms and Dads… knock it off!), but you can try to work on your communication now. If you need help learning the tools and skills necessary to communicate and protect your relationship, you can go into premarital therapy now. All the best, Jennifer Mann, LCSW Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed, clinical psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up an appointment, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. To learn more about their services, please visit thenavidaters.com. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@ gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.


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esach commemorates the redemption of a band of Hebrew slaves from extended, torturous Egyptian bondage. We sit around a regal table as kings and queens, as we recall our ancestors’ transition from servants to freedmen and celebrate their glorious fate on that special date some 3,300 years ago. However, the holiday is not intended to simply be a historic commemoration of a bygone era. Instead, we are admonished to view the experience as if we, the present edition of our ancient nation, are personally leaving a land of oppression for a new life. “A person is obligated to see himself as if he were leaving Egypt.” (Pesachim 116b) A number of questions arise from this mitzvah as well. First, what exactly is the nature of this obligation? In which specific respects are we to attempt to “relive” yetzias Mitzrayim? In addition, even if we were to clearly define the exact obligation, is the expectation realistic? Can we really view ourselves, living as we do in a free country with great liberty and freedom far removed from the abject suffering of slavery, as if we are leaving Egypt? How then do we go about achieving a meaningful connection? I would like to answer these questions homiletical-

ly, by suggesting an alternative explanation for the words of Chazal. Instead of understanding our obligation at the seder as being simply one of reliving yetzias Mitzrayim, let us substitute the word “meitzarim,” meaning straits or confinement. In our new version, the mitzvah reads: “In each and every generation a man is obligated to see himself as if he has left behind his personal confinements.” One such confinement, or limiting belief, comes from the feeling of rejection. The Hebrew slave nation experienced a sudden transformation from a state of perceived rejection (Is G-d ever going to take us out of here? Did He leave us here to rot in turpitude, slaves forever?) to one of miraculous redemption, complete with supernatural miracles and newfound glory. If we are to take a stab at replicating that ancient experience we may wish to spend some time considering our own transitions from rejection to redemption. We have all tasted the bitter pill of rejection. There was the time that we were not selected for the school performance or failed to make the basketball team. We know what it’s like to be kept out of select social cliques or told “no” by the person with whom we sought a re-

lationship. Not every school that we applied to accepted us; nor did every would-be employer. Perhaps we even had the misfortune of being rejected by an employer, or worse, a spouse or family member. Rejection is one of the worst feelings that a person can experience. When we are rejected we feel unwanted, unloved and perhaps inadequate. These emotions and thoughts cut at our very essence, leaving us with questions about our true worth and capabilities. We fear moving forward (who is to say that we won’t be treated similarly in the future?) and tend to hunker down in some form of anger-driven selfpity, blaming others, circumstances, and the like for our misfortune. Pesach teaches us that the best way forward is to not get pulled down by past troubles. If there is something to learn from the experience (and there always is) then by all means do so. But we cannot achieve, let alone thrive, if we are to spend all of our time and energies thinking about what could have been or who did us wrong. We must be able to be forward thinkers, using every new experience and opportunity as a path to move forward and grow. I would be the last to suggest that such a mental transformation is simple.

The Torah underscores this by sharing that the Hebrew nation repeatedly demonstrated their “slave mentality” after they had left their land of bondage. Time and again they pined for a return to oppressive Egypt rather than endure the new challenges that they faced in the Sinai Desert. Moses had to continually remind his nation of G-d’s love and munifi-

ter, more positive outcomes? But sometimes the outcome really had nothing to do with us or was simply a matter of timing or need. Some of the world’s most accomplished and capable people were rejected for the pettiest of reasons, before (and perhaps even after) the greatness was made known. To be free is more than a physical state; it is a mind-

We must be able to be forward thinkers, using every new experience and opportunity as a path to move forward and grow.

cence in order to move them forward. Still, what kind of life do we live when we are filled with bitter resentment and refuse to move forward and embrace new opportunities? In order to emerge healthy and whole from a challenging experience, one in which we felt hurt, unappreciated and perhaps even hated, we need to study the causes. Assuming that we really had anything to do with the rejection in the first place, what could we have done differently? What can we do in the future to experience bet-

set first and foremost. We cannot necessarily choose what others’ reactions and decisions will be but we can choose our behaviors and our responses. At this time of freedom, the best choice is the one that only you can make, which is a choice to live your life to the fullest, in perpetual growth mode. Rabbi Naphtali Hoff is an executive coach and president of Impactful Coaching and Consulting (ImpactfulCoaching.com). He can be reached at 212.470.6139 or at nhoff@ impactfulcoaching.com.


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“My father and mother are both physicians who changed the world,” said Steinherz. “My father is a Holocaust survivor and escaped the Germans with his mother three times. He came to the United States and became a doctor who specializes in child oncology. At some point, he decided that he was going to change the world, and through his work, he ended up raising the survival rate of children who suffer from leukemia by almost 50% via medical protocols that he developed.” Steinherz spoke equally highly of his mother. “My mother was born and raised in the United States and met my father in school. She became a pediatric cardiologist at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center and was equally devoted to medicine and caring for others. So that is the world in which I grew up – a world that revolved around the philosophy that G-d puts each of us in this world and gives us certain strengths and it is our responsibility to use those strengths.”

Steinherz added, “My parents always told me that you need to ask the question, if you have strengths, then how will you use them to help others. My parents took their strengths, and in addition to being doctors, they began Camp Simcha, a day camp for kids with cancer in addition to the Chai Lifeline.” For those who are unfamiliar Chai Lifeline, it is a year-round project that supports Camp Simcha and provides year-round support for the kids who attend the camp. “As a young child, I was always expected to be a doctor and be a surgeon,” Steinherz said. “When I was little I thought I would be a cardiologist and work with my mom. But at the age of ten I was really into contact sports, so my interest changed to becoming an orthopedic surgeon. To begin that journey, I became a volunteer EMT with the Bergen Ambulance Department. I started emergency medical training at age 12 and became an EMT at 17. In between, I worked as

a lifeguard. Before I graduated high school I was already volunteering on an ambulance in the Catskills with the local Hatzolah there.” Steinherz continued, “I went to early admissions pre-med furthering my plans to be an orthopedic surgeon. During my studies, I took a year off to come learn in yeshiva in Israel. While I was in yeshiva everything began to change. I learned that there was so much more to taking care of a person than taking care of the physical and my strengths may lie in helping people in other ways. I learned that the word ‘ability’ is the root of responsibility and that the more abilities you have the more responsibilities you take on. “I stayed in yeshiva and eventually became a rabbi. I had realized that I didn’t want to spend ten years being totally focused on becoming a surgeon. I switched my degree to educational psychology and received smicha three times. I also received a


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framework to create a preexisting accepted concept that investing into our own mental health and longevity was necessary for us to be able to continue doing what we are doing at the highest level.” Steinherz pointed to a biblical passage (Deuteronomy 4:16) stating that

"If we are not taking care of ourselves we cannot take care of anyone else."

the Bible tells us that we must take care of ourselves before we set out to take care of other people. “If we are not taking care of ourselves we cannot take care of anyone else. They understand this on airplanes as every video states that you need to put your mask on before helping others for the very simple fact that if we cannot create our own ability to function we cannot be there to help anyone else. So not to develop in an EMS system the concept of self-care, their own personal emotional immune system allowing them to process and share their emotional difficulties with others that will allow them to receive the support that they need to be able to function properly in the field, then we are doomed as an EMS organization.”

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endless traumatic scenes and don’t have a natural culture or framework within the EMS world in Israel to be able to deal with these experiences. Most often responders are so busy that they never stop to process their own experiences and really understand what they are going through. These things build up, and as much as a person tries to run away from their own experiences and their own suffering, we know that if a person keeps suppressing these emotions then one day they will wake up and try to look at themselves in the mirror and they won’t recognize themselves. The reason we began the unit was that I, together with Miriam Ballin and others, felt that it was incredibly important to create a cultural shift within the EMS

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bine all of my talents and help people in a complete way, by answering all of their needs by utilizing all of the talents available to us as responders.” Steinherz explained, “I always believed that we need to have an in-house psychological care for our EMS responders who are exposed to

Steinherz quoted statistics that showed that in the United States and around the world the profession with the highest level of PTSD is EMS, and paramedics specifically. “More than the military, police and even firefighters, paramedics have the highest rate which is above 20 percent. So statistics show that we were doomed without a self-care system being put in place.” Steinherz ended off the interview with a message of hope. “G-d took the time to create you because you have strengths that no one else has and you received those gifts because you have a contribution to give to the world that no one else can give. But if you never take the time to ask the questions of ‘what are the special strengths that I was given? What do I need to give back to the world?’ Then you will never find the answers and you will never fully come to appreciate a true sense of fulfillment. Because that comes from a personal relationship between man and G-d and if you aren’t working to enrich that with your entire being, then you’ve missed the entire point. “Once I realized this, I changed my own rhetoric and realized that our abilities don’t give us more responsibilities, but rather, they open the door for us to have more possibilities.” On a personal note, he added: “I have been given, together with all of my fellow first responders, the ability to touch and affect other people for the better at the worst moments of their lives. That is what I have decided to dedicate my life to, as do all of my fellow responders around me. This level of giving to others is now being incorporated directly into a first response system and it is a game changer. Our model provides a medical, emotional and spiritual support system in active traumatic situations, or what I term, whole-person support. This is exactly what a person suffering a trauma needs. We see the qualitative difference that we are making among the people who are suffering. And the results speak for themselves.” Steinherz said that he believes that in another handful of years, every EMS system across the globe will have a similar unit helping people deal with the emotional and psychological distress of their traumatic situation.

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master’s in clinical social work specializing in cognitive behavioral therapy and schema therapy. Simultaneously, I became an EMDR practitioner who specializes trauma therapy. To top it all off, I did become a surgeon of sorts when I became a mohel,” he quipped. Waxing philosophical, Steinherz said: “I believe that all human beings are complex and that each person has at least three or four deep and broad worlds. That is why when we chose the Psychotrauma and Crisis Response logo for United Hatzalah we chose a number of puzzle pieces interconnecting. If a person doesn’t integrate all of those worlds together, then they are only having a fragmented experience. The more a person integrates these worlds the fuller an experience that individual will have. Each person has an intellectual world, an emotional world, a spiritual world, and a physical world. Fully actualized mental health is about how we take these elements and put them together so that we can all have a full experience. That is really the theme of what we are talking about. If a person has gifts and abilities then they need to tie them all into together into their lives in order to live a fully experienced life. When that stops, or something blocks it, such as a trauma, people need help to get back to living a fully experienced life,” Steinherz asserted. Steinherz himself tries to live this way and actualizes all the abilities that he has and uses them to help others. That is one of the reasons that he is so dedicated to his work as one of the leaders of the Psychotrauma and Crisis Response Unit. “I’ve always had this passion and felt that there is so much more that we could be doing. When I was working as an EMT I saw that we were only touching people on the physical aspect and dealing with their physical suffering. This was utilizing only one aspect of our abilities to treat one aspect of their being. We can help people with our complete abilities and provide a fuller treatment. Through the Psychotrauma Unit, we take volunteers and get them to help people in a much fuller and more integrated way, helping their physical ailments as well as their psychological and emotional needs. This, for me, was a way to com-


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s the majority of us know all too well, any attempt at healthy eating goes out of the window on Pesach. We tend to conveniently forget about our health and diet, and instead, take the opportunity to overindulge in every way possible. Even when trying to watch what we eat, the continuous large meals make it difficult to prevent weight gain. When one hears the word “Pesach,” the foods that tend to come to mind are generally eggs and potatoes. Let’s go through the list of traditionally eaten Pesach foods and decide which foods one should “pass over” and which foods one should request to “pass on over.”

1. Potatoes, potatoes, and more potatoes

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Potatoes are a great side dish for Pesach since they are not chometz, cheap, easy to prepare, and versatile. Potatoes can be served as mashed potatoes, roasted potatoes, potato kugel, French fries, or even latkes! They are rich in iron, phosphorous, calcium, magnesium, and zinc which all contribute to the building and maintaining of bone structure. Additionally, potatoes’ fiber, potassium, vitamin C and vitamin B-6 content, together with its lack of cholesterol, all support heart health. Another beneficial nutrient found in potatoes is choline. Choline helps with sleep, muscle movement, learning and memory. Choline also helps maintain the structure of cellular membranes, assists in the transmission of nerve impulses, aids in the absorption of fat, and reduces

chronic inflammation. Potatoes also contain folate which plays a role in DNA synthesis and thus can help prevent the forming of cancerous tumors. Potatoes definitely have a lot of nutrients to offer, however, let’s not forget that they are considered a starchy vegetable and should be consumed in moderation. Over Pesach, try to limit the potatoes to only once a day. An even better, healthier option would be to substitute regular potatoes with sweet potatoes. So what’s the verdict? After one serving a day, “pass over” the potatoes.

2. Eggs

Eggs are a great meal throughout Pesach, especially on Chol Hamoed. Eggs can be hard boiled, soft boiled, scrambled, sunny side up, made into an omelet, served as egg salad, deviled eggs, and even the popular Israeli dish, shakshuka. Eggs are among the most nutritious foods on the planet. They are a great source of protein, iron, vitamin A, folate, vitamin B5, vitamin B12, vitamin B2, phosphorus, and selenium. Eggs also contain lutein and zeaxanthin, antioxidants that have major benefits for eye health. Eggs are known to raise HDL cholesterol, the “good” cholesterol, however, there are still mixed reports regarding their effects on LDL or “bad” cholesterol. Therefore, try not to consume more than two yolks a day. Eat as many whites as you’d like since they have many health benefits and few calories. So when you’re served eggs after eggs after eggs over Pesach, make sure

you say, “Pass on over the eggs!”

3. Fried foods

Yom tov is a time of indulgence and delicious foods. However, that usually means unhealthy, oil-saturated foods. Fried foods damage your body and brain in many different ways. The damage is not just a long term consequence, but a short term danger as well. Similar to a car that needs good clean oil to run efficiently and not break down, your body requires foods that can easily be digested and not clog the “machine.” Fried foods clog arteries which lead to strokes and Alzheimer’s disease. Clogged veins and arteries cause heart attacks and aneurysms. As enticing as they may look, definitely “pass over” the fried foods.

4. Kugels

Kugels are an easy and popular side dish for any yom tov meal. Don’t be fooled by the type of kugel. Many people trick themselves into thinking that kugels are healthy since they are made of broccoli, spinach, carrots, zucchini, etc. Kugels contain a lot of oil and potato starch; many include sugar and other products that should be limited. A small bite of kugel to taste is OK, anything more than that deserves a “pass over.”

5. Vegetables

Vegetables are the body’s best friend. All vegetables contain vitamins and minerals that are essential and beneficial to our bodies in many ways. Most vegetables are not problematic over Pesach in terms of chometz, and should be eaten generously. Vegetables can be eaten fresh on a platter, in a sal-

ad, roasted, steamed, and grilled. Eat as many as you’d like, wherever you’d like: as a snack, part of a meal, on the go and in the house. Make sure you ask to “pass on over” the vegetables.

6. Cookies, Cakes, Chocolates, and Macaroons

No one ever said dieting is easy, especially when your menu is limited. However, no good can come from turning to baked goods, except for filling a sweet tooth. In any case, when it comes to baked goods and chocolates, “pass over” is the name of the game. Hopefully this guide will enable you to make wise eating choices over Pesach and keep the weight gain to a minimum. I wish you and your families a chag kasher v’sameach!

Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN, is a Master’s level Registered Dietitian and Certified Dietitian-Nutritionist. She graduated CUNY Brooklyn College receiving a Bachelor’s in Science and Master’s degree in Nutrition and Food Sciences. Her Dietetic Internship was completed under Brooklyn College primarily in Ditmas Park Care Center and Boro Park Center where she developed clinical and education skills to treat patients with comprehensive nutrition care. She is currently a dietitian at Boro Park Center and a private nutrition consultant. She can be reached at CindyWeinberger1@gmail.com.


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At first glance, the story of our people’s sojourn (a word that sounds more like a relaxing vacation then a few hundred years of back-breaking labor) to Egypt can seems quite simple. Evil Pharaoh enslaves the Jews, G-d saves the Jews, and a free nation is born! From a business management perspective however, I found myself kind of fascinated by how this transformative slavery began, ended, and its impact for all time. How does a nation fall so fast from the revered status obtained by Yosef, the trusted right hand of Pharaoh? What makes such a successful, profitable, and bonded working relationship dissipate so quickly? How could Pharaoh (the successor or the newly enlightened) turn on the very same nation that saved his people from famine and helped the empire of Egypt grow and prosper to such incredible wealth and prosperity? Can you imagine such a thing happening in a modern-day business relationship? *Mic drop* Um… yea… happens all the time. So… with that, I would like to draw an HR/business lesson from the story. Yes, I know it’s complicated, and as I have often pointed out, I am just a guy with a dangerous mastery of Google and the Hebrew language so please… it’s just a thought, take it or leaven it. We often focus on the slavery & the redemption but let’s talk about how we got there first. Yosef was no stranger to conflict. In fact, he had a history of attracting negative atten-

tion. As always, G-d had a plan, but the “natural” flow of things was that he attracted the negative attention of his brothers, not simply because they were jealous, but because they felt threatened. Yosef was right, righteous, and worthy, but they read him the wrong way. So, lesson 1: Just because you are right, does not mean you are doing it right. Be attentive to those around you so they understand your intentions, goals, and allegiances and don’t feel threatened by you. Fast forward to the rise of Pharaoh 2.0. Yosef is gone, but his legacy & impact no doubt remain. The Pasuk points out that the new Pharaoh did not “know” Yosef, and took note of the way his nation had grown, prospered, and taken such a prominent role in society. Here again, it’s not so much jealousy but rather fear that motivated an attitude of concern that the Jews would overshadow the Egyptians, to the point that they would join up with an enemy to overthrow them. Lesson 2: History and relationships matter. With Yosef gone and the rapidly growing population of Jews comfortably settled into society, only the Jews forgot they were “different.” To Pharaoh, they were still a foreign nation, and to see them so established and successful was threatening. When Pharaoh and Yosef were still working together, it was clear who was boss. In the post-Yosef reality with that relationship gone, skepticism, fear, and distrust took over. Knowing how you

got to where you are is as important knowing where you are headed, and that shared history is an important bond with those who have been there for the journey. Another important management lesson comes from Pharaoh’s (over) reaction to something he feared, asserting dominance and control. The agenda is made very clear, let’s show them who is boss. Back-breaking menial labor building pyramids, which symbolize the greatness and power of the Pharaohs was the perfect way to regain control and let the Jews know where they stood. From the upper echelon of Egyptian high society to slave labor, that should fix the problem. Notice, he didn’t expel them. In fact, when they begged to just leave, he kept them!* (*Source: No, no, no, I will not let them go). His fear caused him to turn on a nation that could have brought him tremendous success and had proven it! Lesson 3: Don’t let fear and misunderstanding motivate your reactions and don’t be fooled into thinking that resentful dominance will help you regain control; in fact, you may lose all control. And finally, a lesson for all time: G-d has a plan. I am already over my word count limit so let me wrap this up succinctly. There is much debate about why we had to become slaves. Was it Avraham Avinu’s sin? The Brothers? Yosef? The assimilation of Jews in Egypt? I saw a great piece that quoted the Abrabanel who

focuses on what resulted instead of why it happened. In Hashem’s incredible wisdom, he was able to weave together poor choices, predestined slavery, and the actions of other nations into the process which transformed us into a nation. Our ancestors may have played a role in how it came to be, and at times those moments were errors, but it was always part of the plan. Each became an opportunity to form our bond as a nation and to our real boss through trials, errors, hardship, conflict, and self-discovery. Seder night is the antidote to all the lessons we listed. We study the past, understand where we come from, appreciate how we came to be, and take ownership of our duty to move forward on the foundation that it created for us as a people. Lessons for life, at work, at home, and at the Seder table. ‫ יד יד‬for now! Azi Rosenblum is a business consultant and the founder and CEO of RemSource, an outsourced provider of administrative and bookkeeping services for small businesses. To suggest a topic or ask a question for a future #BizWiz column, email BizWiz@ baltimorejewishhome.com. Azi Rosenblum is a business consultant and the founder and CEO of RemSource, an outsourced provider of administrative and bookkeeping services for small businesses. To suggest a topic or ask a question for a future #BizWiz column, email BizWiz@ baltimorejewishhome.com.


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this man? “We’ll see,” Merimzon said to his comrade. They remained at the assembly point and waited. They waited for one hour and then another. Suddenly the man returned with a cab. The cabby yanked on the reins and the horses took off. The merchant led Merimzon and Zaks up a dark stairway to the top floor of a home. He opened the door of a large and lavishly decorated chamber. From the ceiling hung a bronze chandelier; pictures

room was brightly lit by chandeliers and candelabras. The table was adorned with a magnificent bottle of wine. There were small goblets at each place and a large goblet set aside for Elijah the prophet. At each end of the table was a china plate with three matzos wrapped in new silk napkins. The glasses were filled with wine and the host who had found the Cantonists, Avraham Moisevich, placed his glass upon his right palm and recited the Kiddush in the

In the morning, Moisevich and his wife delivered them back to their commander just as parents see off their beloved sons on a long journey.

traditional melody. Then he invited the soldiers to follow suit. Merimzon remembered how he used to do it at home; he chanted the words with joy and clarity. Then it was Saks’ turn. The children present then asked the traditional “four questions” which were answered by the adults. At the meal, matzah balls were served with a tasty soup and a large portion of goose. Following the meal, the Seder continued and everyone sang merrily. The final song of Chad Gadya was sung to the tune of a Russian folk dance. Merimzon and his friend slept in soft beds until Moisevich called them for morning prayers. It was quite a change from the wake up calls they had heard over the past years. What a contrast! For the next several days, life was like a dream; another Seder and more festive

Larry Domnitch is the author of The Cantonists: The Jewish Children’s Army of the Tsar, released by Devora Publishing.

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were placed upon the walls along with mirrors in gild frames. Velvet armchairs rested around the room. At the large table, a middle-aged man in a long frock coat was reciting from the Haggadah. The man arose and offered the Cantonists his hand, “Shalom Aleichem,” he said. They replied in kind. Merimzon asked him, “Who are these people who appear Russian but seem as Jews?” The Jew smiled. “They are converts to Judaism, they are Subbotniks who enthusiastically practice Judaism. The government persecutes them cruelly but they have found a place in my landlord’s home to observe religious practices. This evening they will gather to sell their chometz, and tomorrow evening they will gather to pray.” The two were asked to stay for the holiday. They gladly accepted. The next night at the Seder, the

meals, with their gracious hosts. The guests were content, well fed, and at peace. When the final day of the holiday arrived, the soldiers were due to leave their temporary paradise and return to the misery that had been their lives for so long. As Moisevich was still reciting the Havdalah prayer, which marks the end of the holiday, members of the community began arriving bearing gifts, which included clothing items, food and a prayer book. Coins of all values were contributed as well. The hosts gave each a ruble, “Listen boys,” they implored, “Hold onto your holy faith. Don’t be tempted when someone else promises you riches or rank. Go on believing in the G-d of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob. Be firm. ” Merimzon’s heart ached at the thought of his departure, but the time had come to leave. The guests bid their farewells to members of the community. In the morning, Moisevich and his wife delivered them back to their commander just as parents see off their beloved sons on a long journey. For that Passover, they were indeed, family. That Passover helped sustain the strength of two heroes to continue a long struggle and journey. Several years later, Merimzon would be released from the military, and he would make his way back to his home and family. His unexpected return completely astonished his parents and community. The years passed but he never forgot the kindness displayed to him on that Passover.

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ne particular Passover for the young Cantonist, Chaim Merimzon must have seemed like a dream. Merimzon was one of thousands of Jewish children who were victims of Tsar Nicholas’s zealous obsession to force them to accept baptism. One day, at the age of twelve, he was literally snatched from his home and forced to face years of hardship as a Cantonist. He stubbornly resisted incessant pressure to accept baptism and remained a committed Jew. After years of “service,” Merimzon, already a seasoned servant of the Tsar, was being transferred to another battalion. Along with another Cantonist, Mikhail Zaks, he waited for a group to arrive to be transported together down the Volga River to the province of Saratov. Merimzon and Zaks began to converse. It was the day before Passover, and the two commiserated. Tomorrow their parents would sit at the Seder while they were far away. They reminisced about their lost childhoods and wept. Suddenly, an elderly man approached. He wore a long coat of dark blue broadcloth belted with a red sash, along with a thick reddish beard. He stopped the men and questioned them. From where had they arrived? Where were they being sent? He did not ask their nationality since he noticed they were Jews. He only asked whether they had converted. Merimzon and his companion responded that they had not. “I find that hard to believe,” said the merchant. “You were in the Cantonists and able to remain Jews?” He bid them not to leave and told them he would soon return. Merimzon and his friend stood there in bewilderment wondering, who was

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Shai Gross with his family after their rescue in 1976

Living Entebbe Every Day of His Life TJH Speaks with Shai Gross

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nce upon a time, the State of Israel evoked admiration and respect whenever having to tenaciously defend her borders, defeat her enemies, and provide a national safe-haven for Jews. Long before BDS and the demonization of Israel became politically correct, Israel was once perceived as the heroic nation of the chosen people. It was almost 40 years ago when many of us were ushering in America’s 200th year anniversary through an endless stream of parties and mesmerizing fireworks displays going on until the

wee hours of July 4, 1976; in a country called Uganda, the frightening specter of Palestinian Arab terrorism had reared its ugly head, but was defiantly crushed with the exceptional courage of the leaders of Israel and an Israeli commando unit that defied all logic by pulling off the greatest rescue operation of Jews since the days of the Holocaust by freeing 105 Israeli and Jewish hostages bringing them back home to Israel. On June 27, 1976, Air France Flight 139 took off from Tel Aviv, Israel, bound for Athens, Greece, and

eventually Paris. There were 246 passengers and 12 crew members aboard. Not long after the plane took off from Athens, four terrorists – two German nationals and two Palestinians –hijacked the flight. They were armed with pistols as well as a grenade with the pin removed, which one of the terrorists held onto as insurance against being attacked or overwhelmed by the passengers. The hijackers, who were affiliated with the terrorist groups, the Popular Front for the Liberation of Palestine and the Baader-Meinhof Gang of West

Germany, forced the plane to land in Benghazi, Libya, and eventually in Entebbe, Uganda. The passengers who were not Israeli nationals were released within two days, but this left over 100 innocent Jews still in their hands. The terrorists demanded that the Israeli and other Western governments release 53 prisoners held in Israel, Kenya, Switzerland, France and West Germany, and if their demands would not be met, they threatened to start killing the Israeli hostages one by one on July 1. The 105 Israeli passen-

gers were held in the old Entebbe terminal for a week. Finally, the Israeli government approved the legendary, risky rescue plan, and the secret mission was underway. On July 3, four Hercules aircraft took off from Sharm el-Sheikh and flew to Entebbe to rescue the Israeli hostages. The horrifying ordeal came to a dramatic end on July 4, when the Israel Defense Forces carried out a hostage rescue mission, and a group of Israeli commandos stormed the complex. When the rescue mission was over, five Israeli commandos were wounded


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Copies of the diary written by Shai’s mother, in the case that they would survive the ordeal

seat, covering him with her dress. He recalls his petrifying fear of being separated from his mother and hid quietly without uttering a sound for 2 ½ hours until the children were reunited with their parents. Even then, Shai refused to come out and continued hiding under the seat even longer. Shai remembers asking his

A handwritten prayer by Rabbi Shlomo Goren

hazi, Libya, where the plane was refueled and additional terrorists were allowed to board and reinforce the four terrorists already on the plane. The plane continued onto Uganda where all the hostages and crew members disembarked and were held in the terminal building. The terrorists placed explosives throughout the ter-

terrorists. All the passengers were held together in a common hall until the fourth day of captivity when the terrorists gathered all the passports and began a process of “selection,” separating the non-Jews from the Jews. An older woman started yelling at a German terrorist, folding up her sleeve, exposing

Shai remembers standing with his mother near a window and looking at two stars in lieu of two Shabbos candles.

minal building to deter any resistance on the part of the hostages. During the first three days of captivity, the conditions where substandard; much of the food was spoiled, causing severe vomiting and diarrhea among many of the hostages. Shai remembers that his parents refused to eat treif, preventing them from consuming spoiled food. He played with the other children in and around the terminal hall; at one point, he made too much noise and remembers being slapped by one of the

a number on her arm from the concentration camp in which she was interned. She yelled at the German that he should be ashamed. He responded by hitting her and throwing her into the hall with the remaining Jews. All of the non-Jews were released and taken out of Uganda, leaving the remaining Jewish passengers in the terminal. The French captain and his crew refused to be released with the nonJews and remained with their Jewish passengers until the ensuing rescue later in the week. Years later, the

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mother at the time, “Does it hurt to die?” Shai reminded me that the plane flew for almost 24 hours, being denied by every nation the right to land and embark. This refusal to open their gates and allow the plane with her Jewish hostages to land was only the first of many instances of events during the week of being held hostage that resembled the behavior of many, if not most nations, during the Holocaust. Being refused by tens of nations the right to land, the plane was diverted to Beng-

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It was within this context that I met Shai Gross, at the time, only 6 years old, being the youngest hostage of Entebbe. Today, Shai is married, the proud father of four. He named his youngest son Yoni in memory of Yoni Netanyahu, Prime Minister Netanyahu’s brother who was killed while commanding the IDF rescue team at Entebbe. Yet despite the 40 years that have passed since those eventful days and nights in the sweltering terminal hall at the Ugandan Airport, Shai speaks about his life-changing experience as if it happened only yesterday, vividly recalling those terrifying moments as a sixyear-old hostage. For Shai and his parents, the flight was their first time ever as passengers on a jet plane and their first time that they left Israel to visit abroad. The night before, neither Shai nor his parents slept being excited about their first flight abroad and visiting Los Angeles, their final destination. About 40 minutes after taking off from Athens, the plane’s first stop, Shai remembers hearing yelling, and seeing men on the flight brandishing weapons. Within minutes of commandeering the plane, the terrorist hijackers took all the children to business class at the front of the plane separating the children from their parents. The hijackers isolated the children from their parents so as to ensure that the adults would not attempt to overcome the terrorists. Shai’s mother instinctively told him to hide under her

captain, Michel Bacos, was awarded the National Order of the Legion of Honour, the highest decoration in France. He was also awarded a medal by the Israeli government for refusing to leave his Jewish passengers behind when the terrorists released their non-Jewish hostages and offered to release Bacos and his crew. Among the non-Jews who was released was a woman who evidently succeeded in hiding her Jewish identity. Shai remembers this woman and how she stayed to herself during the days of captivity. The woman, who went by the name Moranu, had a very important role in the success of the rescue mission. During her days of captivity, she made secret drawings of the terminal hall where everyone was being held, drawing specific locations of windows, doors, descriptions of all the terrorists, places where explosives were placed, and so forth. Upon reaching the safety of Paris and being released, she handed over the drawings to relevant parties and these drawings played an important role in the planning stages of the rescue mission. July 2 was Shai’s 6th birthday and despite his captivity he wanted to eat the cake that his grandmother had put in their bag. But his mother responded that they had to save the cake for a day when they might not have anything to eat. In retrospect, Shai describes this memory of a child being denied food for fear of starvation as directly reminiscent for him of the Holocaust experience for millions of Jews. He also reminded me that his name, Shai, was a conglomeration of two names of uncles who were murdered in the Holocaust – Shmuel and Yaakov

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and one, commander Yoni Netanyahu z”l, was killed. Three hostages and 45 Ugandan soldiers, as well as all the hijackers, were also killed.


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With Gilad Shalit

– Shin and Yud form the name Shai. Later that day, Idi Amin Dada, the President for Life of Uganda, came to visit the Jewish hostages with his son. It was evident to all that the leader of Uganda was fully cooperating with the Palestinian and German terrorists throughout the whole ordeal. With Shabbat approaching and still being held hostage, Shai remembers standing with his mother near a window and looking at two stars in lieu of two Shabbos candles and making the blessing that Jewish women have been making for generations. Shai’s mother also spoke about her two other sons who were older than Shai and had remained with the grandparents in Israel. That Shabbat of captivity was Parshat Chukat and the Chief Rabbi at the time, Rabbi Shlomo Goren, had written a special prayer to be said in all the shuls of Israel during this tense time. Shai’s grandmother had gone to shul to say the tefilla. According to what Shai knows, his grandmother left the ezrat nashim, entered the men’s praying section, went up to the Aron Hakodesh, threw herself on the Torah scrolls and uttered the blessing, pleading to G-d to safely release the

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hostages. The whole congregation wept along with her. Shai believes with all his heart that this blessing uttered by his grandmother, begging for rachmanus, is what touched G-d, opening Shaar Shamayim. It was Motzei Shabbat between July 3 and July 4, 1976, just before midnight, when the shooting started. Shai and his parents

take to kill 100 Jews?” But suddenly, an Israeli soldier stuck his head into the room, and his father yelled out in Hebrew that they were Israelis. The soldier picked him up and covered Shai with a blanket so that he wouldn’t see the deadly carnage outside the room as Shai was taken with his parents directly to the first IDF evacuation plane. “After a few moments,

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town of Givat Shmuel just outside of Tel-Aviv, 40 years later, Shai is now a grown adult with four children of his own. As he collects his thoughts and shares his life-changing experience, it becomes evident from the very beginning that for Shai, Entebbe has become forever embedded in his thoughts. He is never truly free of the ramifications of the trauma he experienced

“After a few moments, we realized that we were being rescued by the IDF. That dramatic rush from desperation to salvation … that is a joy I will never forget.”

thought that the terrorists had started executing the hostages. There was chaos, darkness, smoke, shooting in all directions. His parents took him into an adjacent room, put him under a mattress and both parents laid on the mattress so as to protect Shai with their bodies. Shai remembers feeling a sense of choking and being unable to breathe. The shooting was continuing for way too long; Shai remembers his father asking rhetorically, “How long does it

we realized that we were being rescued by the IDF. That dramatic rush from desperation to salvation … that is a joy I will never forget.” Shai recollects that on the plane not far from where he sat was the covered body of a soldier, Yoni Netanyahu z”l, the fallen commander of the rescue forces. In Shai’s own words, only then did his life really begin. Taking a leap in time, sitting with Shai in a friendly coffee shop in the sleepy

as the youngest hostage of Entebbe. For Shai, Entebbe is intertwined with his personal identity, and with his personal destiny in life. Every year, when attending the memorial service of Yoni Netanyahu z”l, rubbing shoulders with the younger brother, Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, or requesting to speak before an audience about the Entebbe hijacking throughout the year, he becomes a living testament of those frightening few days, highlight-

ing that he and a whole nation were able to overcome then and now any and all threats to Israel at home and abroad. No one threatening Israel is immune from retribution or accountability. Entebbe has become a symbol of Israel’s national heroism, eliciting admiration and even envy. Israel, the small and struggling nation, fighting for her existence even before her establishment, was able to show the world how to combat and respond to Palestinian and international terror way before the world realized that by condoning Palestinian terror against Israel, the world has empowered today’s radical Islam to attack the West. On a personal level, Shai has been able to translate his unique life experience into a few simple words: to help others and to give of himself. Immersing himself into the public movement to release Gilad Shalit from his imprisonment in the Gaza Strip became one of Shai’s two passions to help others. Shai acknowledges the immense differences between Entebbe and the kidnapping of Gilad Shalit, but on a personal level, he knows that Gilad underwent a horrifying experience and he knows the kind of help and accompaniment he would need


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hood with individual tailored programs, designed to help participants reach their full potential and integrate into the community. Inspired by the willingness of soldiers to participate, Shai later decided to volunteer at Shalva, in an effort to mirror what those Israeli soldiers had once done for him and give back to the people of Israel. Having personally experienced how a child can be expected to overcome challenges that would try an adult, Shai has added empathy for the children of Shalva. “Shalva doesn’t see children with disabilities. No. They see superheroes that just need to conquer some challenges. After volunteering at Shalva myself, I have come to realize that we’re all the same:

potential heroes trying to overcome our struggles.” Shai was awarded with the Shalva Spirit of Hope award in recognition of how he had met his personal challenges and used that experience to help others. From a 40 year prospective, the Entebbe rescue mission became a milestone event for the State of Israel. The nation was at its peak, proving to the world that the Jewish people can and will conquer terror. Generations of youth have been inculcated with this message, empowering Jews throughout the world to believe in themselves, the power of prayer, and the State of Israel. Indeed, Shai, the youngest hostage at Entebbe, has carried this message with him through-

out his life. His passion for giving is a symbol of how the Jewish nation has endured and has come out stronger throughout the generations.

The writer, a 25-year veteran of the I.D.F., served as a field mental health officer and Commander of the Central Psychiatric Military Clinic for Reserve Soldiers at Tel-Hashomer. Since retiring from active duty, he provides consultancy services to NGO’s implementing Psycho trauma and Psychoeducation programs to communities in the North and South of Israel and is a strategic advisor to the Chief Foreign Envoy of Judea and Samaria. He can be reached at medconf@netvision.net.il.

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Shai’s second passion and need to help others has been with the children of the organization Shalva, an NGO dedicated to helping children with major disabilities. For Shai, the moment when the unbelievable happens before your very eyes, when the darkness is suddenly transformed to light, such as Shai experienced in Entebbe, is also a familiar occurrence in the Shalva center in Jerusalem. For 26 years, Shalva has been helping children with special needs move beyond their limitations. Shalva programs and services are designed to provide individual treatment for the child while strengthening the fabric of the family. The program accompanies each child from birth to adult-

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upon being released. For that reason alone, Shai used his public name and status with Israel’s former President Shimon Peres (who served as Defense Minister at the time of Entebbe), and with Esther Wachsman, the mother of Nachshon Wachsman Hy”d; he used all of his personal powers of persuasion to help a fellow Jew be released from captivity. Upon Gilad’s release in October 2011, Shai befriended Gilad, opening up his home and helping him with the long rehabilitative process that awaited him. Today Shai and Gilad are good friends and meet occasionally, sustaining their relationship with an understanding that they share a unique yet similar life experience.


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FROM THE CHASSIDIC MASTERS

One of the central figures in the history of Chassidism was the famed “Seer of Lublin,” Rabbi Yaakov Yitzchok Horowitz (1745-1815), who presided over the spread of Chassidism in Poland and Galicia; many of the great Chassidic masters of the time were his disciples. This story, however, is not about the “Seer” but about his maternal grandfather, Rabbi Kopel of Likova; in fact, it happened many years before the Seer’s birth.

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eb Kopel earned a living by purchasing barrels of vodka and beer from the local distillers and selling his wares to the taverns in and around his native village of Likova. It was not an easy life, with the heavy taxes exerted by the government and the hostile environment facing a Jew in 18th-century Europe. Yet his faith and optimism never faltered. Each year, on the morning before Passover, Reb Kopel would sell his chametz to one of his gentile neighbors. Chametz is “leaven” – a category that most famously includes bread but also all food or drink made with fermented grain. The Torah commands the Jews that absolutely “no leaven shall be found in your possession” for the duration of the Passover festival in commemoration of the leaven-free Exodus from Egypt. In the weeks before the festival, the Jewish home is emptied and scrubbed clean of chametz; on the night before Passover, a solemn candle-lit search is conducted for every last breadcrumb hiding between the floorboards. By the next morning, all remaining household chametz is eaten, burned or otherwise disposed of. What about someone like Reb Kopel who deals in leavened foods and has a warehouse full of chametz? For such cases (and for anyone who has chametz they don’t want to dispose of) the rabbis instituted the practice of selling one’s chametz to a non-Jew. Reb Kopel’s neighbors were familiar with the annual ritual. The Jewish liquor dealer would draw up a legally-binding contract with one of them, in which he sells all the contents of his warehouse for a sum equal to their true value. Only a small part of the sum actually changed hands; the balance was written up as an I.O.U. from the purchaser to the seller. After Passover, Reb Kopel would be back, this time to buy back the chametz and return the I.O.U. The purchaser got a tip for his trouble – usually in the form of a generous sampling of the merchandise that had been legally his for eight days and a few hours.

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ne year, someone in Likova came up with a novel idea: what if they all refused to buy the Jew’s vodka? In that case he would have to get

rid of it. Why suffice with a bottle or two when they could have it all? When Reb Kopel knocked on a neighbor’s door on the morning of Passover eve, Ivan politely declined to conduct the familiar transaction. Puzzled, he tried another cottage further down the road. It did not take long for him to realize the trap that his gentile neighbors had laid for him. The deadline for getting rid of chametz – an hour before midday – was quickly approaching. There was no time to travel to the next village to find a non-Jewish purchaser. Reb Kopel did not hesitate for a minute. Quickly he emptied the wooden shack behind his house that served as his warehouse. Loading his barrels of chametz on his wagon, he headed down to the river. As his neighbors watched gleefully from a distance, he set them on the riverbank. In a loud voice he announced: “I hereby renounce any claim I have on this property! I proclaim these barrels ownerless, free for the talking for all!” He then rode back home to prepare for the festival. That night, Reb Kopel sat down to the Seder with a joyous heart. When he recited from his Haggadah, “Why do we eat this unleavened bread? Because the dough of our fathers did not have time to become leavened before G-d revealed Himself to them and redeemed them,” he savored the taste of each word in his mouth. All his capital had been invested in those barrels of vodka and beer; indeed, much of it had been bought on credit. He was now penniless, and the future held only the prospect of many years of crushing debt. But his heart was as light and bright as a songbird. He had not a drop of chametz in his possession! For once in his life, he had been given the opportunity to truly demonstrate his love and loyalty to G-d. He had removed all leaven from his possession, as G-d had commanded him. Of course, he had fulfilled many mitzvot in his lifetime,

but never at such a cost – none as precious – as this one! The eight days of Passover passed for Reb Kopel in a state of ecstatic joy. Then the festival was over, and it was time to return to the real world. With thoughtful steps he headed to his warehouse to look through his papers and try to devise some plan to start his business anew. Clustered in the doorway he found a group of extremely disappointed gentiles. “Hey, Kopel!” one of them called, “I thought you were supposed to get rid of your vodka. What’s the point of announcing that it’s ‘free for the taking for all’ if you put those watchdogs there to guard it!” They all began speaking at once, so it took a while for Kopel to learn the details. For the entire duration of the festival, night and day round the clock, the barrels and casks on the riverbank were ringed by a pack of ferocious dogs who allowed no one to approach. Reb Kopel rode to the riverbank. There the barrels stood, untouched.

But he made no move to load them on his wagon. “If I take them back,” he said to himself, “how will I ever know that I had indeed fully and sincerely relinquished my ownership over them before Passover? How could I ever be sure that I had truly fulfilled the mitzvah of removing chametz from my possession? No! I won’t give up my mitzvah, or even allow the slightest shadow of a doubt to fall over it!” One by one, he rolled the barrels down the riverbank until they stood at the very brink of the water. He pulled out the stops in their spigots and waited until every last drop of vodka and beer had merged with the river. Only then did he head back home.  Reprinted with permission from Chabad.org.

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Sore Throat, Strep Throat and Tonsillitis By Hylton I. Lightman, MD, DCH (SA), FAAP

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t’s no revelation that nasty sore throats are a part of kids and life. It can happen a lot, especially once your child begins attending play group or school. After all, sharing germs is part of growing up. And sharing germs has its good points but that’s for another time. Sore throats happen even to doctors’ kids; one of our own is suffering from one at this moment (and the strep tests were negative). But not all sore throats mean a strep throat. It’s hard to sort through when medical intervention is needed and when it’s not needed. It’s exacerbated because the terms tonsillitis, strep throat, and sore throat are used interchangeably. How’s a parent to sort through all this? Tonsillitis refers to tonsils that are inflamed. Signs of tonsillitis include a sore throat, red or swollen tonsils, a yellow or white coating over the tonsils, uncomfortable or painful swallowing, swollen lymph nodes in the neck, or a fever. They can become enlarged out of nowhere and shrink without treatment. Often, the lymph nodes can remain enlarged for a longer period. When it comes to sore throats, the most frequent cause is a viral infection. When a virus is responsible, no specific medicine is required

(not good news for moms and dads who beg for prescriptions). Antibiotics work for bacterial infections, not viral ones. Allow about 7-10 days for your child to get better. It’s not uncommon for a viral sore throat to be accompanied by a cold and, possibly, a mild fever. Generally, they aren’t too sick but they can eat your heart out. Be sure they hydrate well and get extra rest. Coxsackie is a virus seen most

virus have few or no symptoms. Strep throat is caused by GAS – Group A streptococcus. In some measure, the symptoms of strep throat depend on the child’s age. • Infants and toddler may have a low fever and a thickened or bloody nasal discharge. These children are generally cranky, lack appetite and have swollen neck glands. Some toddlers complain of tummy aches rather than sore throats.

Left untreated, the infection may worsen or spread to other parts of the body.

often during the summer and fall months. It may cause a slightly higher fever in a child, as well as more difficulty swallowing and a sicker overall feeling. Coxsackie infection can also be accompanied by blisters in the throat and on the hands and feet (which is why it’s also known as Hand, Foot and Mouth Disease). Mono, or infectious mononucleosis, can cause a sore throat together with tonsillitis. Most young children who are infected with the mononucleosis

• Children ages 3+ years are often more ill and have extremely painful throats, fevers over 102 degrees Fahrenheit (38.9 Celsius), swollen neck glands, and pus on the tonsils. It’s important to differentiate between sore throats and strep throats because the latter are treated with antibiotics. How is strep throat diagnosed? If your child has a sore throat that persists (meaning one that does

not go away after his first drink in the morning), you should call your pediatrician. This means you should call even if there’s no accompanying fever, headache, stomachache, or extreme fatigue. It’s a more urgent call to the pediatrician of your child seems quite ill as demonstrated by drooling or difficulty breathing. It is not a dire emergency to go to an urgent care for a throat culture in the middle of the night except if, as mentioned, drooling and difficulty swallowing are issues. A peritonsillar abscess has to be excluded in those situations. Your pediatrician will examine your child and may perform a throat culture to determine the source of infection. Most pediatric offices perform rapid strep tests that provide results within minutes. If it’s negative, it is presumed to be viral and antibiotics are not needed. Some pediatric offices will do a dual strep culture, meaning cotton-tipped applicators touch the throat and tonsils simultaneously so if the rapid test is negative, the tip of the other applicator is smeared onto a special throat culture dish that allows strep bacteria to grow if they are present. The culture dish is usually examined 24 hours later to see if bacteria has grown. Strep throat is treated with an-


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the hands of infected children or adults. Therefore, it makes sense to keep your child away from people who have symptoms of this condition. However, and please, don’t shoot me – I’m only the messenger, most people are contagious before

their first symptoms appear. Often, then, there’s really no practical way to prevent your child from contracting the infection. Since GAS throats are so highly contagious, it’s recommended that children stay at home for a mini-

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mum of 24 hours. I know this can cause havoc with working schedules outside the home, etc., but again, I’m only the messenger and I’m here to advocate that all children are healthy. A tonsillectomy is recommended when there have been seven documented strep throats within a 12 month period. Remember: many sore throats can be viral. However, there are other causes and a chronic sore throat may be because of silent laryngoesophogeal reflux or even a malignancy, G-d forbid (usually associated with other symptoms and signs). Stay in touch with your doctor. As always, daven.

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tibiotics which are taken by mouth. It’s most important that you make sure your child complies with the full course of treatment even if the symptoms get better or appear to disappear. You are compromising your child’s welfare by not making sure they comply with the full treatment protocol. Left untreated, the infection may worsen or spread to other parts of the body which can lead to more serious problems. Untreated strep infections can lead to rheumatic fever, a disease which can cause permanent damage to the heart. Rheumatic fever is rare in the United States but a strep throat left untreated or treated improperly can result in this sickness that doesn’t have to be. It is rare for children under 2 years of age to get rheumatic fever. Please know that most throat infections are contagious. They are passed primarily through the air on droplets of moisture or on


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Ready or Not, Here I Come By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS

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ne thing is for sure. They say there’s no playing around when it comes to this holiday. But I’ve noticed that there’s a lot of playing “hide and seek” that goes on even in the weeks leading up to Passover. First, you spend weeks seeking dirt. Looking, looking, looking, as if it actually has some exciting value! Then you spend days hiding what you couldn’t even find. But if you couldn’t find it, how can you hide it? Nevertheless, you lock it up, tape it shut, or label it off limits. And as if that isn’t enough, you then sell everything anyway. That’s so brilliant!

paraphernalia that you’ve hidden from the year before. But it doesn’t end there. Oh no! You start the seder and right away you wash your hands. But you must hide the bracha. Yup, the bracha is nowhere to be found! And then, within a short time, you’re hiding that all important middle matzah, a pivotal theme of the night. You bet! And, of course, you must find a truly challenging spot. Great, you think, “They’ll never find it!” Right? Wrong – someone must find it! And furthermore, you must reward them for doing so. Hide it, find it, lock it, sell it, reward someone for finding it – when

Are you nervous your chometz is going to come and find you?! Do you not feel confident that you’ve sealed it up securely enough?

So why couldn’t you just do that from the start?! Then, for many, it gets really personal. You hide yourself in some random hotel instead of staying home! Are you nervous your chometz is going to come and find you?! Do you not feel confident that you’ve sealed it up securely enough? And then you are far from done! You begin to unearth all the Passover

you knew all the time where it was! Seriously, what in the world is going on?! Well, no one complained in Egypt, when G-d couldn’t find a single Jewish home to kill a firstborn in. Why start asking questions now?! Whoops, oh yes, do ask questions. That is another important theme of the night. We are all trying to find out what

this is all about. And that, my friend, is half the message. Be intrigued! Look for the message of the night! G-d seems to be hidden or far away at times. But, G-d wants us to know: I’m right here with you. And if you seek G-d in the right place, even when it’s challenging to find Him,

there’s a big reward for finding Him! So ready or not, here it comes ... and may G-d be with you! Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com

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In all relationships in life a command structure is necessary in order for achievement and accomplishment to occur. By the nature of human society there must exist those who will command and those who, in turn, will obey and execute those commands. That is why the word for an imperative fulfillment of a positive act of spirituality – mitzvah – has as its root the word for command. The difference throughout the ages, between traditional Judaism and those groups within the Jewish people who created for themselves new and different ways of Jewish thought and observance, has always been this concept of command. We

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he entire relationship between G-d and Israel is reflected in the opening verb of this week’s Torah reading. The word “tzav” reflects an attitude of command and of subservience. Even though explanations for the command may be given and understood, the command itself remains viable and imperative no matter what. The L-rd called the Jewish people “an army of G-d.” An army operates on commands and discipline, on following orders and executing them faithfully and accurately. Though individual initiative is always to be treasured and admired, an army that operates completely on that initiative is doomed to defeat and destruction.

and the deprivation of other human beings. Even at the risk of sacrificing one’s own life, one is not allowed to kill others wantonly. The Torah therefore emphasizes that one is not permitted to add or detract from the G-dly commandments ordained for us. The rabbis of the Talmud and of later generations built a fence around those commandments to protect them and preserve them. But there is no change in the value and method of observance of the commandments. A commandment that can be countermanded or ignored at one’s own whim is in reality no commandment at all. In a society where there are no fixed commandments and all morality is relative and subject to change, chaos and immorality will undoubtedly eventually prevail. All of history, both Jewish and general, testifies to this immutable truth. We are sanctified by obeying G-d’s commandments and Jewish tradition. Shabbat shalom.

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are commanded to observe the Torah in a detailed and sophisticated manner. By substituting our own whims, ideas and political correctness for G-d’s command we invariably slip down the road of historical extinction. At Sinai we declared that we would do and obey and only then submit the command to rational explanation. In an age when loyalty and obedience to any authority has become rare and even subject to being looked at askance, the triumph of traditional Judaism is based, now as always, on obeying commandments and executing them faithfully. Judaism has a moral code that prevents it from obeying the commandments and orders that are within themselves intrinsically evil and immoral. The explanation given by all of the Nazi war criminals for their bestiality and atrocities committed in World War II has always been that they were only following orders. Judaism does not allow for obeying immoral orders of murder


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he three-martini lunch has a long and mostly honorable history as a deductible business expense. President Jimmy Carter, tried (and failed) to cut the deduction from 100% to 50%. The Tax Reform Act of 1986 succeeded in that goal, and today’s business dinner has probably switched from martinis to white wine. But old habits die hard — check any happening lunch spot and you’ll find happy diners eating partly on Uncle Sam’s dime. A certain rapper – and we’re not naming names – may have 99 problems, but reaching for the check isn’t one. Last month, he treated the president of his talent agency to an epic birthday night in Manhattan. The posse started with dinner at Zuma in midtown, where he dropped $13,000. After dinner, he took them uptown to Made in Mexico for $9,000 worth of drinks. And a group of six stragglers finished off the night at a club. Apparently, said rapper and his friends were very thirsty, very generous, or both. The group’s bar tab — ticket #48 — included 20 bottles of Ace of Spades brand “gold” champagne at $1,200. Each.

Plus 20 bottles of “rose” champagne at $2,500. Each. Plus $6,035 in sales tax (of course). Plus an $11,100 tip. Grand total, $91,135.00. Hear it for New York! So ... he takes his employee out to dinner. Surely they talked business while they were painting the town. Should he just stuff his receipt

deductions for “associated entertainment” expenses, like golf or a ball game taking place before or after t hat business discussion. However, some tax professionals read the new law as eliminating the deduction for meals, too. But even assuming the deduction survives the new law, there’s

Grand total, $91,135.00. Hear it for New York!

in a shoebox to save for this year’s tax return? For starters, there’s a debate brewing over whether business meals are now deductible at all. For 31 years, there was no debate that you could deduct 50% of meals where there was a substantial, bona fide business discussion. The Tax Cuts and Jobs Act clearly eliminates

another hurdle to overcome. Code Section 274(k) prohibits deductions “for the expense of any food or beverages unless such expense is not lavish or extravagant under the circumstances.” Now, you can argue that if you’re said rapper, you’re expected to make it rain with $74,000 worth of champagne. And if you’re talking a glass or two to celebrate

signing a big deal, you might even be right. But we can probably assume that even his fans at the IRS would draw the line somewhere well before the 40th bottle. As for that $11,100 tip, sure it sounds like a crazy move. But it’s actually just 15% of the pre-tax tab, and pretty stingy for New York! Plenty of celebrities are known for being better tippers. Shaquille O’Neill asks servers to tell him how much they want. And George Clooney routinely leaves servers a 150% surprise. When was the last time you went out for a really special meal? Was it a birthday, an anniversary, or some other celebration? It probably wasn’t deductible. But careful tax planning might keep enough in your pocket to cover your own epic night out. Make sure you have a plan when you’re ready to save, and let’s see if you can raise a glass of bubbly to the results!

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.


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by Mrs. Elaine Bodenheimer

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Apple Cake

(easy)

(I can’t believe it’s pesachdik!)

What You Will Need: What You Will Need: 5 large baking apples, peeled & grated on the large side of the grater

6 eggs 1 ½ cups sugar 1 tsp salt 1 cup oil 2 lemons, peel grated and juiced 1 ½ cups gluten-free cake meal ½ cup potato starch

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Topping: ½ cup coarsely chopped walnuts or pecan 1 Tbl. cinnamon ¾ cup sugar

Preparation: 1. Preheat oven to 375, and grease a 9 x 13 pan. 2. Grate apples and set aside. 3. Beat eggs for about 5 minutes. Beat in sugar and salt, then oil, lemon juice and grated lemon peel. 4. Mix together the GF cake meal and potato starch. Add to batter while beating. 5. Pour half the batter into the greased pan. Top with the apples. Sprinkle with half the topping. Pour remaining batter, and sprinkle with the rest of the topping. 6. Bake for 45 – 55 minutes or until done. Enjoy!!

The Cake: 1 1/3 cups potato starch 1 cup oil 1 cup brown sugar 1 cup white sugar 4 eggs 2 ½ Tbl vanilla 1 1/3 tsp baking powder 1/3 tsp salt 1 cup ground nuts (opt.)

The Filling: ¾ cup whipping cream 4 Tbl instant vanilla pudding Ganache: 1/4 cup whipping cream 2/3 cup chocolate chips

Preparation:

1. Pre-heat oven to 350 degrees. 2. Spray 2 9-inch round baking pans with oil and line with parchment paper. 3. To make the cake, beat eggs and sugars together. Add oil, baking powder, potato starch, nuts, vanilla, and salt. Beat well and pour into prepared pans. Bake for 40 minutes or until cake tester comes out clean. Cool. Invert one of the cakes so the flat side is up. 4. To make the filling, beat whipping cream with instant pudding until thick. Spread onto cake with flat top. Place other cake on top of filling. 5. To make ganache, heat whipping cream and slowly add chocolate chips. Mix until chocolate is smooth. Pour over top of cake. Enjoy!!


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Forgotten Zucchini~from Cooking for The King

Good as Gold Potatoes

One day, with too many pots on the stove, I forgot to keep my eye on this dish. The result was a dish that met with a resounding agreement that this overcooked oversight was a “keeper”

Here is one of those exceptional recipes in which the prep time is minimum and the payoff maximum. Be sure to use kosher salt, since table salt doesn’t work here.

Ingredients:

3 tablespoons olive oil 2 onions, chopped 6 garlic cloves, minced 2 pounds zucchini, sliced into 1/4” thick rounds 2 pounds tomatoes, chopped; or 1 (28 ounce) can diced tomatoes 3/4 teaspoons kosher salt 1/2 teaspoon sugar 1/4 teaspoon pepper

3 pounds small red or white potatoes, cut in to ½” cubes 2 red bell peppers, cut into ½” pieces 1/4 cup vegetable oil 1/2 cup honey 1 tablespoon granulated garlic 2 tablespoons kosher salt 1 teaspoon black pepper

Preperation: 1. In a large skillet with a lid, heat oil over medium heat. Add onions and cook, stirring occasionally, 10 to 15 minutes, until soft. Add garlic and stir one minute. 2. Increase heat to high, add zucchini and tomatoes. Bring to a simmer, cover, reduce heat to low and cook 30 to 40 minutes. Uncover and continue cooking until liquid is almost evaporated, 8 to 12 minutes. Gently stir in salt, sugar and pepper. Makes: 8-10 servings ~ Can make ahead Active time: 15 minutes ~ Cooking time: 1 hour

Preperation: 1. Preheat oven to 375°F. Line a large baking pan with foil and coat with vegetable cooking spray. 2. In a large bowl, combine red peppers, oil, honey, garlic, salt and pepper. Add the potatoes and toss to coat. 3. Place potatoes in a single layer in prepared pan, scrape out any ingredients remaining in the bowl and pour over potatoes. Cover the pan tightly with foil. 4. Bake, covered, for 30 minutes. Remove foil, stir potatoes and continue baking for 30 minutes or until a fork slides in easily and they are golden brown. If potatoes are tender, but not browned, broil for 1 to 2 minutes. Makes: 10-12 servings ~ Can make ahead Active time: 15 minutes ~ Cooking time: 1 hour

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