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Dear Readers, I’ve recently come across the book The Righteous among the Nations, published by Yad Vashem. It includes the details of about 150 stories of non-Jews who risked their lives to save a Jew – or many Jews – during the Holocaust. What really blew me away was that each of these people had every good reason to go on with their lives, maybe saying a prayer and wishing things were different, but otherwise focusing on their families and surviving the chaos of the war years. In fact, some might have argued to them that they had no right risking their lives and the lives of their families to save, in most cases, total strangers. In September of 1942, during the mass deportation of the Warsaw Ghetto to the Treblinka killing centers, the following was posted all over Warsaw: Death Penalty for Aid to Jews who have left the Jewish residential areas without permission. Recently, many Jews have left their designated Jewish residential areas. For the time, they are in the Warsaw District. I remind you that according to the Third Decree of the General Governor’s concerning the residential restrictions in the General Government of 10/15/1941 (VBL; abbreviation for Verordnungsblatt Generalgouvernement, p. 595) not only Jews who have left their designated residential area will be punished with death, but the same penalty applies to anyone who knowingly provides refuge (a hiding place) to such Jews. This includes not only the providing of a night’s lodging and food, but also any other aid, such as transporting them in vehicles of any sort, through the purchase of Jewish valu-

ables, etc. I ask the population of the Warsaw District to immediately report any Jew who resides outside of a Jewish residential area to the nearest police station or gendarmerie post. Whoever provided or currently provides aid to a Jew will not be prosecuted if it is reported to the nearest police station by 4 pm on 9/9/42. Indeed, families were hung together for helping Jewish neighbors. At times whole communities were killed because they had shielded too many Jews… One never knew if a neighbor with a grudge would tell or if someone desperate for bread would give their info to the police. No one knew who they could trust. By the time the war was over an estimated 50,000 Poles were killed for helping Jews. Who were these people? Did they always stand out? Would you be able to tell who the “typical rescuer” was? It seems most were regular people who simply couldn’t watch the suffering of another human being/s and had to do something about it. Many didn’t consider their actions heroic. In fact, the majority went back to leading regular average lives after the war and their actions were unknown for many years. Each one of these heroes deserve the Jewish people’s everlasting gratitude, and indeed Maimonides rules that all righteous gentiles will arise at the time of techiyas hameisim and have a share in the World to Come. Only then will they get their complete and deserving reward for showing the best of humanity when the rest of the word was showing its worst. Wishing you a wonderful and inspiring Shabbos, Shalom

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Mesivta Kesser Torah, Baltimore’s Newest Mesivta, Forging Strong Path By: Debbie Maimon


f beginnings are any indication, Mesivta Kesser Torah of Baltimore which opened its doors in Elul with 21 ninth graders, is joining the ranks of Baltimore’s finest mosdos. Over the course of just a few weeks, the yeshiva’s offering of exemplary chinuch for high school talmidim, and periodic shiurim for the parent body and Baltimore residents, has garnered a valued presence in the city. Supporters of Kesser Torah, led by co-founders Rabbi Tzvi Mordechai Feldheim and his son, Rabbi Avrohom Feldheim, envision the new mosad filling a significant need in the Baltimore community and beyond. The warm endorsement from local rabbonim and from baalei batim who have joined the yeshiva’s board of directors, attest to a shared belief in the bright future of Baltimore’s newest mokom Torah. “Their vision, experience and talent will go far in building a high-caliber institution,” predicted Rabbi Chaim Schwartz of Baltimore. “Rabbi Tzvi Mordechai Feldheim’s time-honored derech halimud and the innovative, creative methods of his son, Rabbi Avrohom, combine the best of the leading approaches in chinuch today,” he noted. Housed in the beautiful and spacious Etz Chaim Center, Mesivta Kesser Torah’s presence in the building is marked by a captivating display of the Torah dynasties of recent generations gracing the hallways. Portraits of Torah giants and manhigei dor, framed by their renowned yeshivas and classic seforim, proclaim the timelessness of the Torah studied inside the yeshiva’s classrooms.

The goal of Mesivta Kesser Torah, says Rabbi Tzvi Mordechai Feldheim, is to find the unique balance that will build on each bochur’s strengths, develop his abilities and his personality, and promote his success. “Success not only in learning,” the Rosh mesivta added, “but in strengthening good character, and gaining proficiency in subjects that will enable a talmid to become a productive member of the file:///E:/Chrome%20Downloads/

UA%20Yeshiva%20Edit-1%20(1).jpg community.” It is a vision that resonates deeply with the parent body. “The Feldheims understand chinuch,” remarked Rabbi Mendel Reischer, a parent in the yeshiva who is also a rebbi in Torah Institute and serves as English principal in Bais Medrash and Mesivta of Baltimore. “There’s wisdom in knowing how to strike a balance between firmness and love, structure and spontaneity. That is just one area where this yeshiva excels.” Rabbi Feldheim made his mark as a master mechanech in the two decades he served as menahel and 9th grade rebbe at Yeshivas Toras Chaim of Denver. His harbotzas Torah includes many hundreds of shiurim disseminated over Torah Communication Network to a wide audience of varied ages and backgrounds. In great demand as a speaker, Rabbi Feldheim has been asked to address mispallelim Friday nights in shul, and to give divrei hisorerus before the yomim noraim. He has also given special addresses to the mothers of the yeshiva students, fostering a sense of unity and solidarity within the parent body. The younger member of the team, Rabbi Avrohom Feldheim, brings to his current post years of experience as rebbe and mashgiach in the Mechina of South Florida where he designed his own professional, highly visual teaching materials that target a broad range of student needs. In addition to teaching a bekius shiur in the new yeshiva, Rabbi Feldheim shoulders a broad array of administrative functions, from overseeing state accreditation requirements to conferencing once a week with each talmid, ensuring that all of their needs are being met.

“It’s an exciting time, watching the yeshiva launch itself on a strong path,” he commented. “We have a great group of 21 talmidim, almost all homegrown products of our local mosdos, that have fused into a cohesive chevra.” Mesivta Kesser Torah bochurim will have the benefit of a full yeshiva schedule even as they enjoy the advantages of residing at home, Rabbi Feldheim note, with parental and community involvement playing an important role in the yeshiva’s success. The hanhala’s encouragement of parental engagement with the yeshiva has led to a highly successful Thursday night program at the yeshiva at which fathers of talmidim come to learn with their sons during night seder. Capped by a stimulating shmuess by Rabbi Tzvi Mordechai Feldheim, this event consistently draws a strong attendance. The mesivta boasts a well-structured, state-accredited secular studies department led by Rabbi Moshe Dovid Robinson, a talented educator who holds a Masters in Education. The faculty has designed a unique language arts program that draws on the 13 principles of Rabbi Yisroel Salanter. Parents are praising the yeshiva’s approach of aligning secular studies with Torah values, as well as the use of leading educational techniques to aid student progress. This includes using cutting-edge computer-based programs that enable individualized instruction. Mr. Scott Leder, father of talmid Moshe Shmuel, shared that many of his early hopes and expectations about the yeshiva “have not only been met, but surpassed.” “First of all, the student body is special,” he noted. These are kids who want to learn, coupled with a refined display of mentschlechkeit. You don’t always get that blend. Also, Kesser Torah has a special flavor. The rabbeim are top notch - but it’s more than that. They’ve hired secular studies teachers who are competent and charismatic. They too command the boys’ respect.” “Overall, I’d say the yeshiva’s specialty is that they’re not just committed to teaching students… they’re raising them. A world of difference there….What more can a parent ask?”

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Rabbi Mendel Freedman, a’h: A Mechanech’s Mechanech By: Isaac Draiman Cohn


reat sadness has descended on the Baltimore community with the passing of Rabbi Mendel Freedman on Shabbos morning, Parshas Vayaera. Rabbi Freedman was one of the pillars of the Baltimore Jewish community for the past decades. He served for close to forty years as the Principal of Bais Yaakov of Baltimore. He was an extraordinary mechanech, and thousands of bnos Yisrael were educated under his supervision. He became principal in 1979 when Bais Yaakov had but a few hundred girls, and at the time of his death, the school has burgeoned to over 1700 students. He famously ensured that he knew every student’s name, and took a personal interest in every single one of them. Rabbi Freedman was particularly dedicated to students with special needs. Many years before it became commonplace, he accepted children with disabilities into his school. He was one of the first, if not the first, principal in American Torah schools to accept students who were hearing impaired, vision impaired and others with a host of limitations. Many of these girls who received a regular Torah education went on to become full-fledged members of the community, something which was unheard of prior to the 1980s. Rabbi Freedman also pioneered the entry of students with Down’s Syndrome into mainstream schools. Rabbi Freedman was a mechanech’s mechanech, and for many years gave classes on chinuch in Yeshivas Ner Yisrael to aspiring educators. Similarly, he served as a mentor to every one of the hundreds of teachers who served under him throughout his decades of service. His Life Mendel Freedman was born in New York in 1949. His parents were both concentration camp survivors who arrived in America determined to rebuild the lives that they had known in prewar Poland. His father, the late R’ Leib Freedman, Z’L, was the sole survivor of his entire family, and his mother Tlcht”a Mrs. Chana Freedman, lost her parents and most of her family, though some of her relatives escaped the churban. Mendel attended the Yeshiva of

Eastern Parkway through high school, and was especially close to its Rosh HaYeshiva, Rav Mottel Weinberg, Zt”l. Following high school, at the urging of Rav Avraham Pam ,zt”l, he moved south to Yeshivas Ner Yisrael in Baltimore. This move would lead to fifty years of life in Baltimore. In Baltimore As a bachur, besides learning in the Yeshiva, Mendy, as he was known, established and led Pirchei Agudas Yisrael. At the same time, he was a prominent staff member in Camp Agudah for many years. In 1972, he married the former Zipporah Diskind, daughter of Rabbi Hirsch Diskind, zt”l, the legendary Dean of Bais Yaakov of Baltimore. Zipporah’s mother Mrs. Rivka Diskind, tlcht”a, is the daughter of Rav Yaakov Kamenetsky, zt”l, so R’ Mendel became a grandson in law of the Gadol Hador. In 1974, Rabbi Freedman became an eighth grade rebbe at Yeshivas Chofetz Chaim-TA. Over his five years as a rebbe he became a premier mechanech, and made a major impact on his talmidim. Many of these students credit him, until this day, for their success in Yiddishkeit. In 1979, Rabbi Freedman joined his father in law in the administration of Bais Yaakov. At first, he served as General Studies principal, and later became Menahel of the entire Elementary School, working side by side with his father in law and Rabbi Binyamin Steinberg, Z’L, the High School principal. Rabbi Freedman is credited in leading the school’s remarkable growth, and later participated in the recruitment of other stellar mechanchim to join him as the school burgeoned. Rabbi Freedman was a prominent mispalell at Rav Amram Taub’s Khal Arugas HaBosem for 45 years, and served as Baal Tefila for Yomim Noraim for many of those years. Despite his leadership position, Rabbi Freedman always saw himself as a regular member of the shul, and was an integral part of the ‘chevra’ at early morning minyan for decades. Rabbi Freedman passed away on Shabbos Parahas Vayera, which details Avraham Avinu’s Hachnasas Orchim. The Freedman home was always a hub of Hachnasas Orchim, drawing guests of all stripes and types, but with a special emphasis on the needy, suffering or

downtrodden. Similarly, for years, Rabbi Freedman’s Purim was spent visiting widows, the elderly and other downcast members of the community. A talented musician, he would circulate with his accordion or keyboard, and bring simcha and hope to the less fortunate. In 2007, Rabbi Freedman suffered heart failure and was hospitalized numerous times in serious condition. In March 2008, as the haftara of Parshas Para was read, with the sentence ‫יתתנו‬ ‫‘( שדח בל םכל‬And I shall give you a new heart’), he received a life-saving heart transplant. During this time, the Baltimore community stormed the heavens with tefilos, something Rabbi Freedman always attributed his remarkable recovery to. Rabbi Freedman regarded his successful heart transplant as a command to rededicate himself to community service. Rather than retiring, as is common for transplant patients at that age, he threw himself, reinvigorated, back into his chinuch work. With a new, young heart, he literally tired out younger staff members with his energy, and led Bais Yaakov for another 8 years. At the same time, drawing on his own experiences, he became an advocate and guide for many suffering from illness in the Baltimore community and beyond. He especially became involved in counseling and advising potential transplant patients. He recognized the natural apprehension such patients have, and he encouraged them with his own story and experiences. At times, this even included sending the videos of himself swimming or dancing vigorously, to show the choleh the potential which a transplant could hold for him or her. In 2015, Rabbi Freedman accompanied one of his own Bais Yaakov students to her own heart transplant. According the attending doctors, this

was most likely the first time in history that a student and her school principal had both received heart transplants! In 2016, Rabbi Freedman determined that the time had come to retire. Many complained to him that he was still in his prime, and that he could still carry on for more years. He responded that he prefers to retire when he is still being effective, and allow younger forces to take over. “Why not leave when I am still being successful, rather than be pushed out when I become elderly?” he asserted. Immediately upon retirement, Rabbi Freedman returned to where he had commenced his life in Baltimore- Yeshivas Ner Yisrael. He became a regular member of Rabbi Yissachar Frand’s Shiur and became chavrusos with talmidim much younger than his own children, which did not disturb him at all. He believed that during his tenure as a mechanech his time for learning was limited, but now that he had time, his place was in the Beis Medrash. A year and half ago, Rabbi Freeman was again diagnosed with a life-threatening illness. He underwent surgery and treatment, and once again, returned to active life. Now too, Rabbi Freedman considered the refuah he experienced as a charge to redouble his Avodas Hashem. In recent months, R’ Mendel was stricken by another illness, and experienced tremendous challenges and yisurim. Throughout it all, he recognized the yad Hashem and strove to be mekabel his suffering with simcha. His passing leaves his family grieving and the entire community in mourning. Rabbi Freedman is survived by his Eishes Chayil, Mrs. Zipporah Freedman, who Rabbi Freedman credited with all of his successes, and who faithfully cared for him during his illness; four sons: Paysach (Yael) Freedman of Yerushalayim, Aryeh Leib (Dena) Freedman of Baltimore, Shmuel (Rivky) Freedman of Inwood and Mayer (Shani) of Atlanta; and four daughters: Laya (Gavi) Wachsman of Toronto, Henni (Yochanon) Stein, Perel Malka (Yoel) Simpson and Golda (Dovid) Goldberg, all of Baltimore. He is also survived by his brother R’ Shmuel Freedman of Lakewood, and two sisters: Pearl Phillips and Etti Soskin, both of Brooklyn. Yehi Zichro Baruch




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TA to Open Expanded Campus in September By: Rabbi Yaacov Cohen Cohn


eshivas Chofetz Chaim – Talmudical Academy of Baltimore has been at the forefront of Torah chinuch in Baltimore for more than a century. Having just celebrated its 100th year, the Yeshiva is now poised to serve our community’s children with an enhanced campus and more resources. This September, TA will open with an additional 75,000 square feet of space, and fully renovated educational areas. The addition of brand new, state-of-the-art Early Childhood and Mesivta facilities will allow each of TA’s 4 divisions – Early Childhood (3-

5 year olds), Elementary School (1st5th grade), Middle School (6th-8th grade), and Mesivta (9th-12th grade) – to operate out of separate buildings, giving them ample space to expand and improve educational programs. The new Early Childhood building will feature 17 new classrooms, tutor and reading rooms, a library, music room, PT/OT room, large multi-purpose “fun room”, and 2 playgrounds. The building will also include a Mikva for the use of the adjacent Scotts Hill community. With the opening of this new building, TA will be expanding its current 3-year old program with an additional class in the fall. The new Mesivta building will include a large, beautiful Bais Medrash

which will doubly serve as the new shul for the Scotts Hill community, kitchen and cafeteria facilities, 12 new classrooms, computer and science labs, library, additional spaces for tutors and supplemental educational programs, and a new gymnasium. Plans for renovating the current educational buildings are also underway. While some minor improvements were made this past summer, the bulk of the work will take place next summer. Both of the current educational buildings on campus will be upgraded

with new lighting, flooring, doors and painting, in addition to upgrading the infrastructure throughout the building to provide better technology and communication between buildings, and within the classrooms. At the conclusion of this project in September, all of TA’s over 1,000 talmidim with iy”H benefit from a beautiful, green and spacious completed campus encompassing 6 buildings, 3 Batei Medrashim, 2 cafeterias, 5 outdoor play areas, 3 gymnasiums, and many additional parking spaces, all designed to help TA’s administrators, Rabbeim and teachers instill ahavas Hatorah, foster simchas hachaim, develop midos tovos, and cultivate greatness in every single TA student.

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Local Chef Wins Kosher Chopped All Stars! By: Isaac Draiman Cohn


unday night was Jew in the City’s 5th Annual Orthodox Jewish All Stars Awards Show and Premiere Party, which honored an incredibly accomplished and diverse group of individuals who have achieved great success in their respective fields while maintaining a Torah-observant lifestyle. A crowd of nearly 500 guests attended the red carpet event at Midtown Manhattan’s Convene. For the first time, the event featured a Kosher Chopped All Stars competition presented by and hosted by Naomi Nachman (Aussie Gourmet)The dishes were judged by Chanie Apfelbaum

(Busy in Brooklyn), Daniella Silver (The Silver Platter Cookbook series), Eitan Bernath (Teen Chopped/ Food Network),and audience vote on Facebook via Esty Wolbe (I Don’t Cook But I Give Out Recipes.) The field of contestants who sent in videos was Chopped to 3 to compete LIVE. In the end, Baltimore’s Shira Guttman was crowned Kosher Chopped Champion!

Important Letter to the Baltimore Community from the Vaad HaRabbonim of Baltimore By: Vaad HaRabbonim of Baltimore To our Dear Community Members, We are privileged to live in a beautiful community of Torah and Chesed. But we must be aware and ever vigilant of our surroundings. Crime is an unfortunate reality with which we must contend. City and County police work hard to protect the citizens of our community day and night. Communal organizations like Northwest Citizens Patrol (NWCP) and Shomrim are here to be the eyes and ears of our residents. If you are the victim of a crime and there is a concern that the criminals involved pose a potential danger

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JCFL by Mama Leah’s Pizza at the mid-season break – the CWS Meats Cup is anyone’s for the taking


ith three of the seven regular season games complete, the potential playoffs candidates are starting to emerge. However, with tight and competitive battles each week of the season, any of the eight teams can still make a run for the title. For a recap of the excitement from Week 3, keep reading:

Y and L Landscaping My Goods

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With the pre-game analysts pegging this one as a slug-fest, Y & L Landscaping and My Goods helped that come to fruition by participating in good old fashioned defensive battle. While Y & L took a 7-6 lead in to halftime (on the heels of a Dan Gutman to Shmuely Luxenburg TD), both teams came out firing to start the sec-

ond half. My Goods opened the half with an impressive drive into the red zone and looked to be in position to take control of the game. But the “Bend but don’t Break” Y & L defense held strong as Moshe “Ben-Am” Gholian picked off QB Dovid Flamm in the end zone, deflating the drive. It didn’t take long for Gutman to capitalize on the turnover, finding David “Close friend to Deonte Thompson” Pensak for a quick TD strike. On the ensuing offensive drive, Gutman connected with Gholian for another TD, putting Y & L up for good at 21-6.

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Led by their dominant defense and radicalized enthusiasm, Harris Automotive rolled to their second victory of the season over Big Daddy Addi Promotions.

DL Shmuel Moinzadeh led the way with 3 sacks and 2 INTs. Harris Captain/QB Moshe Afrah added an INT on defense while also running for a TD and throwing for 3 more, including 2 to TE Jason “Macho” Mann and another to WR Mike “Franz” Khoshkerman.

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ER started fast with an interception by Yoyo, who then took his first snap of the season and hit WR Josh “Charm City Builder” Resnik for a quick touchdown. ER didn’t look back from there as they went into the half up 32-12. The second half was more of the same great defense and even better offense for ER. When the final whistle was blown, Elle stood victorious (with a final score of 48-20.) The Remodeler’s totaled 3 interceptions on defense while QB Yoyo threw 6 touchdowns and then ran one in for a 60 yard TD to close it out. This win gives Elle Remolding a 3-0 record and sole possession of 1st place

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After a forgettable preseason, the perennial power-house, Park Heights Roofers manhandled the Dougie’s team to notch their first win of the season in a 37-19 blowout.

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Dalya Attar level office – the Maryland House of Delegates.  People keep asking me where are the yard signs, or why they aren’t getting campaign mail. That won’t start for several months, because my election is not until June.  I have to submit a campaign  finance report to the State Election Board soon, so over the next few weeks my focus will be working to raise a lot of money. My district is much larger than Yitzy’s, so I have to raise more funds than he did, to reach out to a lot more voters and educate them about why I am the best candidate. I offer the most experience in understanding crime and drug issues from an up-close perspective, and I am committed to making our streets safer. I use public transportation to get to work and know we need to improve it, whether it is getting people to jobs or kids to school. I pay taxes and want to keep more of my hard-earned paycheck, like you do, without my electric or tax bills going up. I am a mother of two school kids and know we have to give all Bal-

timore City kids real opportunities for quality education. If you are happy with the way things have gone in Baltimore City, vote for those who have gotten us here. If you want stronger leadership in Annapolis, vote for me andget involved with my campaign as well. Do you really have a chance to win? I wouldn’t have agreed to run if I couldn’t win. I reviewed the numbers from Councilman Schleifer’s race, and was surprised by how many frum Jews didn’t vote – either because they aren’t registered or because they simply didn’t take the time. I cannot win without the full frum community turning out, and cannot emphasize enough that everyone needs to register…and to vote.  Tell us something about yourself that even your close friends reading this don’t know about you: Everyone thinks I love political science or history classes, but my favorite subject in school was actually math.

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What is it like to be a political candidate? I was asked to run for office, and it wasn’t an easy decision but my husband was very supportive, so I agreed to do it once community, business and Rabbinical Leaders got behind my candidacy.  Like most Jewish mothers, I am a multi-tasker. That means I may be doing a load of laundry while Tell us a little about yourself In a nutshell, I was born and making fundraising calls for my raised in Baltimore to immigrant campaign or handing out camparents. I went to Bais Yaakov paign literature at PTA meetings. and have a law degree from I have to balance working full University of Maryland. I time, parenting, and campaignam married to Asaf Mehrza- ing, but as we have seen from the di and we have 2 adorable children.  election of Yitzy Schleifer, having someone in public office is so imTell us about your work I work as an Assistant State’s portant to our community. In the Attorney for Baltimore City’s top coming years, there will be many lawyer, State’s Attorney, Marilyn critical issues decided in AnnapoMosby. There are a number of as- lis, and it will be very beneficial to sistant state’s attorneys, including have someone who works for the myself, working under her. It is my entire district but understands the responsibility to prosecute crimi- nuances of our community.  Are you running nals who have been arrested by the against Yitzy Schleifer? We are a police, working to keep them off the streets and behind bars. It’s little confused… Yitzy is a councilman in hard work and long hours, but I am Baltimore City and has his election doing my part to help make Baltiin 2 years. I am running for a state more a little safer. 






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We in Baltimore live in a singular quality and beauty of the community world of gmachs, organizations dedi- we live in, but one in particular reachcated to the benefit and wellbeing of es into the very core of everyone’s all members of the Jewish community. daily life. Simchas Esther is a gmach Having a party and short of tables and established for the sole purpose of chairs? Don’t worry; there is a table enhancing one’s upcoming wedding, and chair gmach. Need some medi- by alleviating the stress associated cal equipment for last-minute ill or with financing the myriad needs of elderly company? Don’t fret; there are the event. Founded almost 15 years garages and basements full of wheel- ago by a group of committed and chairs, crutches, and all sorts of phys- concerned women, Simchas Esther ical therapy paraphernalia. Just call takes the mitzvah of hachnasas kallah and sign, and these items are available (providing for a bride) to a new levto you. There is even a shalom zach- el. Named in memory of Mrs. Esther ar gmach, which takes care of all the Lemberger a”h — a special woman Friday night celebration needs for that in our community who involved hernew baby boy, no matter how close to self in this mitzvah — Simchas Esther provides Kallah Packages of houseShabbos that child is born. clothing vouchers, appliAll the gmachs described above, Wishing You hold Anditems, Your Family and the dozens too numerous to men- ances, and partially subsidizes sheitel A Happy And Healthy New Year tion here, add immeasurably to the (wig) purchases.

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In addition, Simchas Esther has branched out into a number of auxiliary gmachs. The Binyomin Levik Bregin Interest-Free Loan Gmach offers sizeable loans for those paying for a wedding; the Ateres Chaya Gitty Gmach (in memory of Mrs. Chaya Gitty Hess) rents magnificent tablecloths of all sizes and colors for a minimal fee and donation; the Table Top Gmach makes a large variety of candlesticks, vases, and trifle bowls available to enhance a party setting; a Gift Room in a volunteer’s home contains donated new and unopened wedding gifts, which the kallah is free to select from. Last, but certainly equally important, is the Minchas Asher Gmach, established by the Prero family in memory of Asher Prero, which grants financial assistance to the chassan, to be used exclusively for his personal wedding needs. Since its inception, Simchas Esther has helped approximately 625 brides and over 300 grooms, to the amount of $1.5 million in goods and services, currently carrying a budget of $200,000/year, with needs and costs constantly on the rise. To offset its many obligations, its dedicated cadre of volunteers have discreetly solicited donors and manned the phones. Plus: they created Chodesh Gelt, where people sign up and offer to give a donation each month; at different points, they sent out beautifully laminated candle-lighting cards for Shabbos and mizrach posters for the sukkah; and most recently, they mailed a “wedding invitation” to the Baltimore community, to recruit more members to the Simchas Esther drives. This coming February, Simchas Esther hopes to produce its major fundraising event, the yearly Purim Spiel Production, which involves a broad spectrum of women in the Jewish community, and is looked forward to by one and all. At its most recent, overwhelmingly successful production, directed by Mrs. Mimi Biegacz, more than 700 women attended in a

standing-room audience. As with all its fundraising activities, all the work is done by volunteers and supplies are either donated or obtained at cost. All questions and issues pertaining to the running of Simchas Esther are addressed to Rav Yaakov Hopfer, who has always provided wonderful guidance and encouragement to the organization. One of the most important aspects of Simchas Esther is its commitment to its goal of providing for the needs of its kallos in a discreet and dignified fashion. Indeed, the concerns of a kallah to have everything she needs to start her household are handled with sensitivity and finesse by the Simchas Esther volunteers, as is clearly evident in the many personal notes written by thankful recipients, young couples and their parents alike: Thank you so much!! You have made the start of our marriage far easier and more comfortable than it would have been otherwise. We can’t describe how much we appreciate what you have done for us. May there be many more simchos. *** No words can describe the deep feelings of hakaras hatov (gratitude) we feel toward the Simchas Esther organization for all the outstanding gifts and gift cards we received in honor of our daughter’s wedding. Indeed, the assistance you provided was an absolute lifesaver! A Jewish chassan and kallah begin their lives anew on the day of their wedding. By helping out with many of the trousseau expenses along the way, it is Simchas Esther’s aim to make that beginning as stress-free and positive as possible. With your continued generous help and support, the chassanim and kallos of tomorrow will feel the same joy and happiness under the chuppah that has been the heritage of millions of Jewish couples throughout the ages.

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The Week In News the number of Israelis who are refused visas to the U.S.” She is reportedly meeting with the U.S. Consulate General to discuss the provisions further.

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Tzachi Hanegbi is very critical of the deal that was struck. Hanegbi said that he does not feel the deal went far enough. The pact “does not meet Israel’s unequivocal demand that there will not be developments that bring the forces of Hezbollah or Iran to the Israel-Syria border in the north,” he said.

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with me for 72 years now.” Other members of the 50-plusyear-married club had similar stories about weddings that took place under extraordinary circumstances. The feeling at the event was one of hope and pride at what can be accomplished through patience and hard work. When asked what the secret was to their 65-year marriage, 85-year-old Jenny Ursu said that her rule was that “the kitchen is under my exclusive control. He doesn’t even dare open the fridge on his own.” Wise words, indeed.

Brain “Naps” without Sleep The State Israel has almost completed a visa waiver agreement with the United States. The arrangement will allow 90-day visits to the U.S. for business or tourism for Israelis without the need to apply for a visa to gain entry. Currently, there are 38 countries that participate in the program with the United States. “We are finalizing a deal to cancel the visas,” Justice Minister Ayelet Shaked tweeted. “Ever since I took up the post we have been working with the Americans to join the group of select countries whose citizens are exempt from obtaining an entry visa to the USA. We found the balance between protecting the privacy of Israeli citizens and the demands of the Americans.” A main issue that has delayed the agreement has been granting the United States access to Israeli fingerprint records. Israel has a Biometric Database Law which prohibits the transfer of details such as fingerprints to any foreign government unless it is for a specific criminal investigation. A major step forward was taken when Israel negotiated that only Israelis with a criminal record would have their fingerprints passed to American authorities. Another issue holding up Israel’s entry into the program is the requirement that visa denials be under three percent. Deputy Foreign Minister Tzipi Hotovely said that her department was “acting on various levels to reduce

Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu has said that Israel will continue to operate in southern Syria when necessary. Bibi spoke at a weekly cabinet meeting in response to a ceasefire deal that was reportedly struck between the United States, Russia, and Jordan to keep foreign fighters away from the northern border of Israel. “I have clarified to our friends in Washington and our friends in Moscow that we will operate in Syria, including southern Syria, in accordance with our understanding and in accordance with our security needs,” Netanyahu said, describing Israel’s security policy as “the right combination of firmness and responsibility.” Israel has carried out many airstrikes against weapons convoys in Syria that were headed to Hezbollah militia, which are backed by Iran. The ceasefire, which was announced by both the United States and Russia, calls for the “the reduction, and ultimate elimination” of foreign fighters in Syria. Israel was not a party to the deal and has been clear that the IDF will continue to defend its interests in the war-torn region. “We have proved that before and we will prove it again in the future,” asserted Intelligence Minister Yisrael Katz. Regional Cooperation Minister

Eighteen couples who survived the Holocaust renewed their wedding vows this week. As part of a conference on the rights of Holocaust survivors, the Senior Citizens Service held a vow renewal ceremony for any survivors that have been married for more than 50 years. Two of the eighteen couples were immigrants from Russia that had never had a Jewish wedding and finally stood under a kosher chuppah together. The men at the ceremonies wore suits, and the women wore donated wedding dresses. The students of the Naamat Holon high school took care of the makeup, hair-styling, and photography at the weddings. One of the couples who renewed their vows this week was Rachel and Eliezer Greenfeld, who met in Lodz, Poland, after the War was over. Lodz, at that time, was turned into a training and organizing kibbutz to help promote the Aliyah Bet, the illegal immigration effort by Jews to Israel under the British Mandate. Eliezer served as treasurer of the kibbutz. Rachel recalled that when she was 20, she “returned from Auschwitz to Lodz and I thought I would meet someone from my family there. I didn’t meet anyone, but I met him, going with one of my girlfriends. He asked if he could walk me home, and he has been walking

Researchers at Tel Aviv University, UCLA, and the University of Wisconsin-Madison have released a study on the brain activity of those that are sleep deprived. It turns out that lack of sleep doesn’t just mean bleary eyes the next day. The researchers showed that individual neurons slow down when we don’t get enough sleep and that the brain’s visual perception and memory associations are damaged. Many studies have been done on the bad effects of not having enough sleep, but this study looked at exactly how the lack of sleep took a toll on brain activity and subsequent behavior. The researcher found that neurons – the nerve cells inside the brain – in the temporal lobe of the brain need to take a break when they are overcome by slow brainwaves and almost take a nap, which results in slower overall brain function. The slowdown of the individual neurons leads to delayed behavior responses to events taking place around



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the human brain,” Nir said. “It revealed that sleepiness slows down the responses of individual neurons, leading to behavioral lapses.” Nir said he hopes the results of the study will translate into practical ways to measure drowsiness in tired individuals before they pose a threat to anyone or anything, “since drowsy driving can be as dangerous as drunk


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Despite Israel’s growing concerns about an escalation of hostilities with the southern enclave, Palestinian sources within Gaza had said that Egypt has been exerting significant pressures on the PIJ to desist from launching any kind of revenge attack.   On Saturday night, Israel promised to respond to any revenge attack from Palestinian Islamic Jihad with “power and determination.”  Warning the PIJ in Arabic that it is “playing with fire” in a video posted online, Maj. Gen. Yoav (Poli) Mordechai stressed that Israel would respond to any attack against the group itself and Hamas. “We will respond with force against Hamas,” Mordechai said.  The next day, members of the terrorist organization said the threats were are tantamount to “a declaration of war.”

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your level as a pilot and as a soldier when compared to others.” “What’s really interesting to see during the exercise itself is how each country brings its culture into the exercise,” Cpt. Noam, from the Israeli Air Force, noted. “Some are more precise and ‘strict,’ let’s call it that, when it comes to punctuality, while others in charge have more of the Israeli creative thinking mentality, with a little more flexibility.” He further stated that “what’s really fun to see is how each country brings its own colors to the exercise itself.” Several scenarios are presented and practiced in the exercise. Although no specific enemy is identified, each pilot was given an Arabic name and intel they must use to overtake the enemy. The scenarios range from head-on aerial attacks to facing UAVs, dropping ammunition, and attacking and evading anti-aircraft systems.

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Heading to Denmark for vacation? You may want to bring along a chair. This week, police in Denmark announced that a man is suspected of stealing twelve of Copenhagen’s iconic green public benches that Danes instantly associate with the capital city. Investigator Jesper Cederholm says the unidentified Dane, who was briefly detained on August 29, had confessed to stealing twelve benches out of a total of 65 benches that have gone missing and selling them online. Copenhagen is home to about 3,000 of the green benches, which feature a dark grey painted iron frame with wrought swirls and weigh approximately 77 pounds. They cost about 8,000 kroner ($1,250) each and were first introduced in the 1880s. The perpetrator will soon be brought to justice. Authorities will not stand for this type of criminal behavior.

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Most Expensive Wine Ever

The most expensive wine ever sold was just bought at a charity auction for $350,000. The 2015 cabernet sauvignon was created by celebrity winemaker Jesse Katz, the youngest person ever to become a head winemaker in the U.S. The standard-size 750 ml bottle was blended for renowned Hollywood agent Shep Gordon – subject of Mike Myers’ 2013 documentary “Supermensch.” Gordon donated one of his bottles to the Emeril Lagasse Foundation’s Carnivale du Vin annual charity




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The only other bottle of wine that has sold for more was a special imperial-sized bottle of cabernet sauvignon sold at a Napa Valley charity auction in 2000 for $500,000 but that bottle holds as much wine as 8 standard wine bottles so there’s really is no comparison. Chances are the group of Mississippians won’t be uncorking this bottle any time soon.

Clean Clothing?

You know who loves you? Your cleaners. Yes, they tell you that every time you take a shirt out of your closet: We Heart Our Customers. Now, you can wear this love on your sleeve. Recently, Moschino debuted some clothing that many people would think of dumping in the trash. Among the items was a dress, called a “cape sheer overlay dress,” that was composed of the cleaners’ iconic white triangle on top with their slogan of love for their customers along with the long, sheer plastic overlay. It is intended to be worn over something else (thank G-d) and is sold for only $737. We don’t know how many people will be buying this piece of garbage. We do know, though, that those who buy the plastic sheeting/clothing have truly been taken to the cleaners.

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Officers in Billings, Montana, were pulling over residents by the dozen last week. But drivers were happy they were stopped by police. Instead of tickets, the cops were handing out frozen turkeys and a warning for traffic violations. A local businessman donated twenty turkeys to the department for police to hand out to local families. One driver, Larry Riddle, was extremely appreciative for the unexpected present after he was pulled over for not signaling a turn. Riddle, whose wife died of cancer, said he lives alone on a limited budget and the turkey surprise will make this year’s holiday meal he tries to cook for his daughter and himself each year a little easier. This is the first year the police department has handed out fowl for infractions, but people are not crying foul.

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For the Love of Life By Rabbi Zvi Teichman Hate and love are two of the most powerful and intense emotions one experiences in the sojourn called life. Love can distort one’s perspective allowing one to overlook even glaring and dangerous faults in others, and hate can extinguish all reason and promote harmful and even murderous intentions against those one despises.

conquering '‫'שונאיו‬, his despised enemy Yaakov! It is for this reason the Chasam Sofer claims we recite this ‘blessing’ at the badeken of a Kallah so as to counter Lavan’s sinister intention, by more accurately appealing to G-d that Yaakov bear Yitchok’s promise and overcome his spiteful enemy, Esav.

Yitzchok is described as the beloved son of Avraham, ‫אשר אהבת את‬ )‫ב‬,‫יצחק (בראשית כב‬,whom you loveYitzchok, in the Torah’s very first use of the verb ‫אהבה‬, love.

The very first open expression of hatred in the Torah is in conjunction to this relationship. ‫וישטם עשיו את יעקב‬ )‫מא‬,‫(שם כז‬, Now Esav harbored hatred towards Yaakov!

Rivkah is the object of Yitzchok’s love, as the Torah so tenderly portrays the comfort he finds in his discovery of this embodiment of all the values of his dear mother Sarah, declaring: ‫ויאהבה‬, and he loved her. )‫סז‬,‫(שם כד‬

How in a home so filled with love could this deep and most brutal hatred evolve?

From this union is born children who are the apple of their parent’s eyes and the beneficiaries of their selfless love, )‫כח‬,‫ויאהב יצחק את עשיו (כה‬, and Yitzchok loved Esav, ‫ורבקה אוהבת‬ )‫את יעקב (שם‬, and Rivka loved Yaakov. Yet, even prior to their birth the Torah makes reference to the emergent hatred that Esav will develop towards Yaakov. When Lavan blesses his sister Rivkah after observing the inevitable providence in her ‘shidduch’, he exclaims: ‫אחותנו את היי לאלפי רבבה ויירש‬ '‫זרעך את שער 'שונאיו‬, Our sister, may you come to thousands of myriads, and may your offspring inherit the gates of its foes. )‫ס‬,‫(שם כד‬ The Megaleh Amukos explains that Lavan prophetically knew of the contention that would ultimately develop between Esav and Yaakov, and intended to ‘bless’ Esav with being the true heir of the legacy of Yitzchok,

The Mishna in Pirkei Avos )‫י‬,‫(א‬, exhorts us: ‫אהב את המלאכה ושנא את‬ ‫הרבנות‬, Love work and hate lordliness. Strong words; ‘love’ work, ‘hate’ authority. Rarely do we find such strong language used in directing us towards positive behavior and away from negative ones. The very first title bestowed on Esav is '‫'רב‬, lord. When Shem foretells to Rivkah the imminent birth of her twins he expresses "‫"ורב יעבד צעיר‬ )‫כג‬,‫(שם כה‬, and the ‘greater’ one shall serve the younger. There are people whose entire goal in life is to amass fame, fortune and comfort. The position of stature and subsequent authority and powerful influence that comes with the territory is all they strive for. When that alone is the objective then the work and effort needed to attain the goal is merely an expedient but has no inherent value. That results in extreme impatience when barriers stand in the way of the

aspiration, resulting in resentment and spite.

the process evidently is much greater than the number of sheep one owns!

Those, on the other hand, who live with a heightened consciousness, know that the slow, painstaking and methodical commitment to ‘work’ is what builds true character. That is the ultimate purpose in whatever activity we are involved in, to see them as opportunities for greater self-awareness in improving our skills and temperament, and in increasing our sensitivity towards others we may be engaged with.

When Esav offers later on to accompany Yaakov, Yaakov tells him, Please go ahead of me, my lord, ‫ואני‬ )‫יג‬,‫אתנהלה לאטי לרגל המלאכה (שם לג‬, I will lead my group slowly, following the pace of the work.

One is consumed with hate when all one sees is oneself, and views all others who stand in their way as interfering in their desperate objectives of gaining supremacy. ‫ שנא‬- hate, the Rabbis instruct us, that which breeds hate, ‫ רבנות‬- lordliness! ‘Lord’ Esav is the purveyor of hatred in the world! Yaakov is the ‫ישב אהלים (שם‬ )‫כז‬,‫כה‬, abider of tents. In its simplest meaning, the verse is contrasting the restless hunter Esav, the hungry man of the field, with the quiet and contemplative Yaakov, who dwells at home silently, calmly and happily, the ultimate ‘homebody’. The Rashbam and Ibn Ezra parallel this usage to the first time it appears in context of the ambitious and industrious ‫יבל‬, Yaval, who is described as the )‫כ‬,‫אבי ישב אהל ומקנה (שם ד‬, the ancestor of all those who live in tents and keep herds. Yaakov, they assert, was a dutiful son who tended to the successful advancement of his father’s sheep. Yet all the Torah seems to be accentuating, in Yaakov’s case, is his introspective nature of a ‘shepherd’ more than the goal of sheep production, with nary a mention of the sheep! The value of ‘work’ and what one gains in

Herein lies the critical difference in their perspectives and attitudes. Esav is impatient because he sees no value in the pace. Yaakov however, understands and appreciates '‫'מלאכה‬, labor, and how it affects us positively! Yaakov invests seven hard years of labor to merit his beloved Rachel. The Torah tells us that despite the passage of so many years, it seemed ‫כימים‬ )‫כ‬,‫אחדים (שם כט‬, like no more than a few days, ‫באהבתו אתה‬, in his love for ‘her’. Perhaps we can suggest ‫באהבתו‬ '‫'א ָֹתה‬, refers not solely to Rachel, but alternatively to his ‘love’ of ).‫מלאכה (נ‬, ‘work’, because when one appreciates the value of work and what it does for the enhancement of character and integrity, one realizes how valuable the investment is and the vast personal dividends it brings. With that awareness it indeed felt like ‘only a few days had elapsed’! Yaakov epitomized the dictum ‫אהב את המלאכה‬, love work! One who truly values hard work and self-development is incapable of feelings of hatred and resentment. May we emulate the ways of our illustrious Patriarchs and Matriarchs in valuing the journey and the development of character it brings, and never be blinded by the prizes that dangle before our eyes. The pot of gold is not what awaits us at the end of our travels but rather in the following of the rainbow and discovering one’s true colors.



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Don’t Burn Your Bridges By Rabbi Motty Rabinowitz We focus this week on the Torah’s first official ‘Off-the-Derech’ child, Esav. While Yishmael who preceded him was definitely no angel, he didn’t have the benefit of a stable home with two ‘Jewish’ parents, as Esav did. As the Parsha unfolds, we are told of the gluttonous and wild nature of Esav and are privy to the parental preferences of Yitzchak and Rivka. It appears that despite Esav’s excesses, deceitful behavior and roughness, Yitzchak preferred Esav and requested his assistance, as he prepared to be-

stow the blessings of Avraham on him. The commonly asked question is how could the holy Yitzchak fall for such deceit? Was he totally unaware of the reality of Esav? Many theories have been penned attempting to understand the underpinnings of this story. As is often the case, I believe that the simplest explanation is probably the correct one. For all his failings and wrongdoings, Esav was still Yitzchak’s son. Yitzchak in the depths of his heart believed that his son, at his core, still possessed a good heart, and

was capable of doing Teshuva, repentance. In his capacity as a parent, he could not consider Esav a lost cause, but pined for the time when Esav would grow up, realize his own potential and turn the ship around. By requesting his service, he kept open the lines of communication and gave Esav self-dignity and belonging. Rivka of course, felt otherwise. It is intriguing, that while we find that Yitzchak conversed with both Esav and Yaakov, nowhere do we find any interaction between Rivka and Esav. It is almost as if she cut him off and could not maintain any relationship with him. Rivka with her powers of prophecy understood that creating a lineage and destiny for the Jewish people could only occur with the righteous Yaakov. She felt that Esav had no place in the Jewish people’s destiny and must therefore be totally shunned. Clearly, the critical question is, who was right? We all know how the blessings unfolded, and common belief would therefore be that only Rivka’s approach was the correct one. I beg to differ. The Talmud (Sotah 13a) describes the later burial of Yaakov in Chevron. Esav arrived on the scene to contest Yaakov’s spot in the burial chamber as his own. After a long dispute, Chushim the son of Dan chopped off Esav’s head, which then rolled into the cave to be buried there. What gave Esav the merit of having his head buried with the rest of the Patriarchs and Matriarchs? The Sefas Emes upends conventional wisdom and explains that Esav actually did Teshuva and reconsidered his evil ways. He was unable however to translate his thoughts and aspirations into action, and continued his immoral behavior. His head, which contemplated repentance, merited entrance into Ma’aras Hamachpeila, but his body that couldn’t follow through, did not. Reading through the story of the blessings, it is clear that this repentance occurred at the precise moment when Esav realized that he had lost the blessings. “And he cried a very piercing and bitter cry” (Breishis 27:34). While Yitzchak had been roping in Esav with the hope of encouraging his return to the fold, Esav realized at that moment that he had been cut off from destiny and was no longer part of the tribe. He was now rejected from

a spiritual future, a fate too painful to accept. It is for this reason that the Midrash attributes calamities later suffered by the Jews, to Esav’s piercing scream. It was a painful, but perhaps authentic yearning for Teshuva. I cannot help but think that Yitzchak’s approach to embrace Esav was ultimately also valid. It was undoubtedly Yitzchak’s unwavering belief in him, that kindled this flame of repentance. This of course brings us to the painful and complex modern-day approach to ‘teens at risk’, or those who have already left the fold. Even in the case of a fundamentally evil person like Esav, there is good reason not to burn bridges, and to never give up. All the more so with our own flesh and blood. Shunning individuals who are legitimately confused and tested with the seductive world around us, accomplishes nothing. Boundaries must be set, and certain actions cannot be condoned, but we must never condemn and cut-off these Jewish souls from the bright future that could await them. None other than the Chazon Ish (Y”D 2:16), wrote emphatically about the approach we must pursue when dealing with Jews who have left the path of Torah. He explained that the various punitive practices mentioned in the Talmud were relevant only in days long gone, when the Jewish community was insular and self-governing, and such measures helped bring back lost souls. However in our times, such measures are destructive and achieve nothing. Since the goal of our actions must be to remedy the situation, we must solely pursue the path of love and warmth. As I was writing this article, I encountered a different take on the Talmudic passage we mentioned earlier. The Talmud describes that the head of Esav landed in Yaakov’s lap, at which moment Yaakov’s eyes opened, and he smiled in recognition of the justice served to Esav. However, the Targum Yonoson (Breishis 50:13) portrays a quite different ending. It tells us that Esav’s head rolled and landed on the chest of his father Yitzchak, where it laid to rest. It was Yitzchak who never stopped believing in him, who never gave up on him, and who ultimately succeeded in at least bringing part of his wayward son back with him to a holy burial.



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etting babies to sleep through the night is one of the questions most often addressed to pediatricians. For some parents, it’s a nonissue. For others, it’s a barrage of negative emotions. Here are nine points for babies up to 12 months of age based on my 30+ years as a pediatrician, father and grandfather. 1. Make sleep a priority. Why should you be concerned about your baby’s sleep? All human brains – including yours and your baby’s – run on sleep. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) has linked babies’ frequent night wakings to many things, including postpartum depression in moms to future obesity and behavior problems in kids. Children who don’t get enough consolidated REM sleep have shorter attention spans, so they don’t learn as well. These babies also release more of the stress hormone cortisol, setting them up for frequent night wakings and stunted naps. 2. Let’s define “sleeping through the night” according to scientific terms. When physicians speak about sleeping through the night, they mean that the baby sleeps 5-8 hours straight by the time he’s 6-months-old. Please ignore the “but my baby is sleeping 12 hours straight” comments. I highly doubt that’s the case as babies typically don’t drop a night feed until they’re between 5 to 12 months of age. 3. Make sure your baby is ready for sleep training. Speak to your pediatrician to discuss issues you or your child might have that will affect sleep. If your baby, for example, has colic or acid reflux, their sleep will be disturbed. Likewise,

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during the night for as long as you thought. Five minutes of fussing can feel like 50 minutes when it’s 2 a.m. 5. Create a routine. Fifteen minutes is all you need to create a quiet, soothing time filled with Krias Shema, lullabies and other quiet singing, reading books, and cuddling to reassure your baby that you love him. Keep anything stimulating (i.e., an iPad or television) out of the picture. If your baby is

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rolling on his side or tummy. Once these milestones are met, sleep training becomes an option. Also, is your spouse on board? Sleep training successfully is a team effort. 4. Log your baby’s sleep. A log will help you notice patterns. It’s hard to remember how many times your baby woke up last night, let alone recall what happened last week. Track his sleeping patterns – both day and night – over one week. Then you’ll have objective information to start figuring out a bedtime. You might notice, “Oh, he’s always fussy at 7 p.m. – that’s probably when I should be putting him down, and I’m missing the window.” A log will also let you see that your baby may not have cried

over 6-months-old, you may give him a blanket or stuffed animal. 6. Pick a start time. Yes, there’s no time like the present but let’s be smart about this. It will take several nights and possibly up to two weeks. Make sure your calendar is clear so you can focus on the process. Some parents choose a Thursday night and then use the weekend for follow up. No one yet has told me they used vacation days for this purpose. 7. Create the right environment. The crib should be a completely flat surface with a tightly fitted sheet. No bumpers or toys please in the crib. Make sure the room is cool (no more than 70 degrees) and dark. You might want to install room

darkening shades. A nightlight is a good idea. 8. Put them baby in the crib drowsy but still awake. Run through your routine – Krias Shema, lullabies, stories, etc. Then when you baby is drowsy, put him in the crib before he’s fully asleep. Expect some tears, especially if he’s accustomed to going to sleep in your arms. Wait outside the room in increments of 5, 10, 15 and 20 minutes before going back, talking reassuredly to him without patting him on the back or picking him up. You may give him the pacifier. Note: this step may have to be repeated several times. 9. Be consistent. Regression is normal even when you think you’re over the hump of sleep training. Accept it and be consistent in getting your baby back on track to sleeping longer stretches at night. Has traveling or yom tov wreaked havoc with your baby’s sleeping? Is your baby teething? These can cause sleep interruptions. Stay calm and just get back on track right away. Good habits begin when your baby is little and will lay the foundation for other good habits. Don’t listen to everyone else – follow your own G-d-given intuition. Every child is unique. Sleep well. Dr. Hylton Lightman is a pediatrician and Medical Director of Total Family Care of the 5 Towns and Rockaway PC. He can be reached at, on Instagram at #dr.lightman_ or visit him on Facebook.



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Finally, I saw that Starbucks just unveiled its holiday cups, which had illustrations that customers can color in themselves. It’s perfect for people who are too busy to make their own coffee at home, yet still have enough time to color in a coffee cup.


Notable Quotes


- Jimmy Fallon

The reason I’m so excited to see you all here today in part is because this is where I started. This isn’t where I was born. I was born in Kenya – that’s a joke. - Barack Obama, speaking at the Obama Foundation Summit in Chicago

-From a recently disclosed letter written by Prince Charles in 1986

-Steve Bannon in a speech to the Zionist Organization of America last weekend, talking about the Washington establishment

We’re a nation at war. This war is only going to be won if we bind together and work as partners. -Ibid.

Amazon has unveiled a new way to view its products in 3-D. Amazon is calling its new invention “a store. - Conan O’Brien

Ladies and gentlemen - Term now banned by the MTA of the hyper-politically correct City of New York


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I now appreciate that Arabs and Jews were all a Semitic people originally and it is the influx of foreign, European Jews (especially from Poland, they say) which has helped to cause great problems. I know there are so many complex issues, but how can there ever be an end to terrorism unless the causes are eliminated? Surely some U.S. president has to have the courage to stand up and take on the Jewish lobby in U.S.? I must be naive, I suppose!.

That’s how you get the Iran deal. That’s how we still allow the American government to finance people that have blood on their hands of innocent Jewish civilians.

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44 As against our gauzy national hopes, I will teach my boys to have profound doubts that friendship with white people is possible. When they ask, I will teach my sons that their beautiful hue is a fault line. Spare me platitudes of how we are all the same on the inside. I first have to keep my boys safe, and so I will teach them before the world shows them this particular brand of rending, violent, often fatal betrayal. - From an op-ed in last Sunday’s New York Times by Ekow N. Yankah, who is a professor at the Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law

A new iPhone glitch is causing the lowercase letter “I” to be replaced by weird symbols. Have you experienced this? It’s so odd. Apple addressed the issue with an official statement saying, “What are you gonna do, buy a Samsung?” -James Corden

I am so disappointed. I used to love, during the fall and winter, to watch the NFL on Sunday. And it’s not that I’m some great patriot. I was in the Navy for a year. Didn’t go anywhere. Didn’t do anything. But I have overwhelming respect and admiration for anyone who puts on a uniform and goes to war. So the only thing I can do in my little way is not to preach. I will never watch another NFL game. - Vin Scully, the legendary Dodgers broadcaster who left the booth after 67 major-league seasons last year, talking about the NFL National Anthem protests

In order to maintain your attention they have taken all the techniques of Edward Bernays and Joseph Goebbels, and all of the other people from the world of persuasion, and all the big ad agencies, and they’ve mapped it onto an all-day product with highly personalized information in order to addict you. We are all, to one degree or another, addicted. - Early Facebook investor Roger McNamee, in an interview with The Telegraph, talking about the dangers of Facebook and other social media

No, I hate everything.

- Gov. Jerry Brown (D-CA) when asked by a reporter whether he was enjoying himself at a UN climate conference in Germany

It’s not my personal mission, but it is an objective that I — I have an objective that Mitch McConnell will not be majority leader, and I believe will be done before this time next year. - Steve Bannon, in an interview with the New York Times

You can write that down. I laughed. Ha-ha. - Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell (R-Ky.) responding to Steve Bannon’s pledge, in his own interview with the New York Times

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Reckless remarks by an old lunatic like Trump will never scare us or stop our advance. On the contrary, all this makes us more sure that our choice to promote economic construction at the same time as building up our nuclear force is all the more righteous, and it pushes us to speed up the effort to complete our nuclear force.

Why would Kim Jong-un insult me by calling me “old,” when I would NEVER call him “short and fat?” Oh well, I try so hard to be his friend – and maybe someday that will happen!

I wish I wasn’t in this situation, but it’s been one of the great gifts in my life. - Michael J. Fox in an interview on CBS Sunday Morning about his decades-long battle with Parkinson’s disease

- Tweet by President Trump

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- Statement by North Korea about President Trump’s criticism of them while in Asia


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Los Angeles apparently will be one of the first cities to get flying Ubers. L.A. is perfect because who is more qualified to fly you through the sky at 5,000 feet than an out-of-work actor-deejay-dog walker?

The cracks in the foundation are there. The day-to-day issues, as serious as they may be, they may come and go. But you cannot change the nature of the game. I certainly would not let – if I had an athletically gifted 12- or 13-year-old son – I would not let him play football. - NBC sportscaster Bob Costas at a sports roundtable last week

These people, they come to the country and they hurt us. I just think that vetting should be a lot more difficult to allow these people who come into the country, especially a single man. You get these radicals, and my son is the victim. - James Drake, whose 32-year-old son Darren was killed in the New York terrorist attack last week carried out by a radical Islamist who immigrated to the U.S.

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When NASA was preparing for the Apollo project, they did some training on a Navajo Indian reservation. One day, a Navajo elder and his son were herding sheep and came across the space crew. The old man, who spoke only Navajo, asked a question which his son translated. “What are these guys in the big suits doing?” A member of the crew said they were practicing for their trip to the moon. The old man got all excited and asked if he could send a message to the moon with the astronauts. Recognizing a promotional opportunity for the spin-doctors, the NASA folks found a tape recorder. After the old man recorded his message, they asked the son to translate it. He refused. The NASA reps brought the tape to the reservation where the rest of the tribe listened and laughed but refused to translate the elder’s message to the moon. Finally, the NASA crew called in an official government translator. He finally was able to translate the old man’s message for the moon: “Watch out for these guys; they have come to steal your land.”

So Many Ways to Say In how many languages can you say “thank you”?

Language 1. Arabic 2. Cantonese 3. Finnish 5. German 6. Greek 7. Hawaiian 8. Hebrew 9. Hungarian


10. Icelandic

A. M h ̀ ’gōi

B. Todah C. Takk D. Shukran E. Gamsahamnida F. Mahalo G. Kiitos H. A Dank I. Ngiyabonga J. Jenkoo-Yen K. Terima Kasih L. Efhahreestoh M. Köszönöm

N. Arigatô O. Xièxiè P. Spuhseebuh Q. Grazie R. Merci S. Danke

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ed in a Native American language? a. Iowa b. Texas c. Wyoming d. Colorado 8. In what year did all Native Americans get U.S. citizenship? a. 1776 b. 1835 c. 1924 d. 1938 9. Where did the term Buffalo Soldier come from? a. Native Americans gave the term to regiments of African-Americans fighting in the Civil War b. It was a name given to soldiers who rode on buffalos c. It was a term for soldiers, derived from a song by a Jamaican artist (Go ahead hum along—oy, yoy, yoy, oy, yo yo, yoy) d. It was a term given to people who hunted buffalos

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c. Montana d. Alaska 5. What is the Trail of Tears? a. It refers to a ceremony that Native Americans conduct in which the group leader cries and everyone cries after him b. It refers to a journey that took place when Native Americans were forced out of their lands and had to travel thousands of miles to new land c. It was a war between Native American tribes d. It refers to a journey which Native Americans went on in order to discovery Canada 6. Which one of the following is the largest Native American tribe? a. Navajo b. Cherokee c. Sioux d. Chippewa 7. Which of the following states does not have a name root-

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1. Why did Christopher Columbus call the natives “Indians”? a. Because he located the first ones in Indiana b. Because he observed that they were very “independent” c. Because he thought he had landed in the East Indies d. Because they spoke a language called Indianas 2. Which Native American tribe celebrated the first Thanksgiving with the colonists? a. Wampanoags b. Passthewassabis c. Wannagoshoppings d. Palewyamis 3. Approximately how many Native Americans are there in the U.S. today? a. 5 million b. 12 million c. 20 million d. 30 million 4. Which state has the most Native Americans? a. South Dakota b. New York


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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

Our daughter has been on a track to get engaged in the near future. Her future chosson seemed all right, though my husband and I were never totally smitten with him but figured we weren’t the ones marrying him and if our daughter was so happy with him we would go along, though cautiously and with a bit of hesitancy.

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Recently, I got a call from someone I know only casually. She sounded very nervous and almost reluctant to talk to me, but felt that she had an obligation to share something with me that she knew about the young man our daughter is dating. She said that her daughter was now divorced with two small children and wishes that someone had come clean with her about certain details that definitely would have shut down any chance of her daughter marrying the man she ultimately divorced. Without going into detail, the information she shared with me was definitely of great concern to us, and I thanked her for making the hard call. I discussed it with my husband and we both felt that we had to share this information with our daughter as soon as possible so that she could walk away from this relationship that was getting more serious by the minute. When we shared what we knew with our daughter, who just turned 20 and, honestly, isn’t the most mature 20-year-old, she basically told us she didn’t care, that she was in love and was going to get engaged to him and get married – whether or not we were on board with her. She’s always been strong-willed and sometimes impetuous, but we were shocked by her reaction. We figured maybe she needed a few days to let it sink in. But she just kept digging in her heels over her determination to marry this man, with no thought or care about his past. She had an excuse for everything and basically told us that if we refused to be excited for her and refuse to make her a wedding, his family would make a wedding for them. Our guess is that his parents are so desperate for him to get married that they’ll do whatever they can to seal the deal. Where do we go from here? Do we support our daughter, even though we feel in our hearts that she’s walking into a horrible marriage that will probably end badly? Do we tell her that we don’t support her and won’t attend any wedding with this man? What is our best recourse at this point?



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Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. ou need help now that your daughter is not even considering the information you shared with her (hopefully after you checked it out). Get your team together to work on communication and reducing the tension. That’s the short term goal. You don’t have to break a plate yet. As you said, she is on track to getting engaged. She is not there yet. Who are the team members? Her mentors and teachers, your rabbi, a therapist, his mentors and teachers, and his family’s rabbi. They will help the parties move from a standoff situation to a process. It’s going to take time and it’s going to take a lot of self-control but by jumping the gun you will only make it worse. Make sure that your team has a leader, someone whom you know for a long time as smart, understanding, and skilled. Don’t bounce from person to person seeking reassurance and trying out the advice on the others. You will soon see who the leader will be by his/her skillful understanding and articulation of the issues and suggestions for thought and responses on your part. Be smart and don’t make any strong statements to your daughter about attending a wedding or anything serious. She is trying to push you into acquiescence with threats. Be wise and be circumspect with her in your communication. Temper the situation with self-control and advice. Good luck!

Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A. or those of you keeping track, this sort of “deal-breaking” information is not new to our panel. My answer is now, as it has been in the past, you can’t stand idly by and watch your daughter jump off a treacherous cliff. Or, as my mother used to tsk, “You don’t lay a healthy head into a sick bed.” The big problem here is not the chosson or his past. The real issue is your daughter – immature, impetuous, strong-willed, and only twenty. If I had to guess, she’s gotten away with eating candy for breakfast (i.e., spoiled behavior) most of her life. Even if she was engaged to a real mensch she would probably mess up. After all, few husbands would tolerate the tantrums and door-matting you have come to accept and enable. If she goes ahead with the nuptials, the prognosis is grim. Moreover, as in your friend’s case, the ramifications of a divorce are lifelong and bruising. What to do? If you daughter was, chas v’shalom, OTD, you would seek professional help and show her unconditional love and support. This situation is just as critical; the solution is the same. Run, do not walk, to the best counselor you can find – one with a specialty in dealing with difficult adult children. Your daughter may continue to demonstrate irrational behavior; she may continue to make poor, impetuous choices. In the meantime, you and your husband must acquire the tools and confidence to interact with her and parent her in a loving, yet more effective, manner.

Michelle Mond ith such few details, it is hard for me to guide you properly through this very complex situation. Questions I have are the following: Have you confirmed the information which you received from this acquaintance to be true? If so, have you spoken to people directly who were involved with his growth process afterwards and how he got to where he is today? How serious are these allegations from the acquaintance? Is it something from his past that he could have actually genuinely moved on from which is why your daughter is not worried about it? Like the caller mentioned, her daughter got divorced based on hidden information and she felt compelled to tell you some information about this boy so your daughter can make her own decision. This woman’s daughter is not your daughter and it seems that this information is not news to your daughter, and, furthermore, she sees no reason to forgo the relationship. As a panelist who has almost no information and knows no details, it would not be appropriate to give such advice on whether to try and stop this wedding from happening. However, one suggestion would be to speak to someone who knows of the alarming information you received – a maven in the issue – and to speak with your daughter about how it can affect a marriage. For example, if the information you were told is that this guy went through a period of time where he used to drink, you may want to get a therapist involved to speak to your daughter



Do we support our daughter, even though we feel in our hearts that she’s walking into a horrible marriage that will probably end badly?


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about the effects of marrying a man who once had a drinking addiction. All you can do is work with the information you were given. Since your daughter is a grown woman, communicate the issues to her the best you can, get people involved who can advise her on this particular issue, and be there for her in the decision she makes.

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t sounds as though your daughter has always had a mind of her own and not someone who can easily be “managed.” Sometimes it’s a matter of her being spoiled and led to believe that she can do anything she wants without consequences. Other times it’s a reflection of a personality type that

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52 one is born with which makes raising such an individual really challenging, if not at times, almost impossible. Whatever the reason that you can’t control her and this situation – and I’m assuming that you’ve done some due diligence to ensure that this story was more than just heresy and also that the issue involved is something meaningful – here you and your husband are feeling as though your hands are tied and you have no options left. Actually, you have two options.

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One is figuring out whether there is someone meaningful in your daughter’s life whom she can trust and listen to without her usual knee-jerk rebellious response. If such a person exists, see if you can engage her or him to talk to your daughter. Perhaps someone who is not a parent might have a better chance of talking some sense into your daughter. Otherwise, you can try negotiating with her. It would look like this. Explain to her that you understand she

ou don’t mention the specific, hair-raising information brought to your attention by this well-meaning caller. I have to imagine that it is of a very serious nature: history or current use of drugs or alcohol, mental illness, risk-taking behaviors, possible personality disorder, and the like. Some email submissions leave me more hesitant to give clear direction than others, and yours is one of them. I am not privy to the following information which I need in order to give you a suggestion of any kind: 1. What exactly is the issue at hand? 2. Is there a history of being critical of your daughter or your daughter’s choices, or of being intrusive and lacking boundaries? 3. Does your daughter have a history of making poor choices, mental illness, cognitive deficits? Does your daughter have friends? In other words, what did her personal life look like before this boy came around? 4. Was the information you received confirmed? 5. Who put her on this “track” to get married? Was it her idea? Was it your idea? Was it agreed upon? 6. If you agreed to it in any way,

shape or form, knowing she is immature and somewhat defiant, what is your understanding of your reasoning? (If this is true, get into therapy ASAP to help you have a really clear understanding of the situation at hand and how to break the cyclical, negative dynamics between you and your daughter. There may be some enabling at play.) The answers to these questions are critical. Without it, I’m afraid I can’t be of much help to you. I have to assume too much, and I don’t want to speak irresponsibly. This is time sensitive as your daughter is moving forward full steam ahead. I suggest you speak with someone sooner rather than later, be it a trusted rav and/or therapist experienced with parenting adult children. I say the following speaking to the general issue at hand and not to your specific situation. If a young adult child has always been levelheaded, has been overall respectful (including the expected and normal teenage attitude and drama) and has made age-appropriate informed decisions, and then suddenly acts out (atypical behavior, “out of the blue”), there is cause for

has very strong feelings for this young man and understand that she believes that he would make an excellent husband for her but that you have reservations. Therefore, create a contract with her that if she agrees to be in therapy for six months, half the time alone and the other half (should she still be fighting for this marriage) with the young man in question and they get the support of a therapist that this is a viable relationship you’ll agree to make a beautiful wedding for them and have a

concern and good reason to get involved. The hope is that the parents have leverage and their involvement will help the situation. If such an adult child were to suddenly find herself in a relationship with a troubled young guy, my general leaning would be to influence parents to encourage her to exit the relationship. We would discuss gentle and collaborative yet firm strategies to help the child out of the risky relationship. However, if the adult child has always been a “handful,” i.e., defiant, engaging in unhealthy risk-taking behaviors, refusing suggestion or help of any kind, etc., the strategy to attempt to remove a child from an unhealthy adult relationship looks different. This child has never listened to you before, so to think she will listen currently (when she is emboldened by her new relationship) is futile. Fighting or arguing with such a young adult is pointless. Generally speaking (though the strategy is different for every situation) you profess your love, you express your concern, you tell them you will not fight about it, you make it clear the choice is theirs, and tell them what consequences will follow (you as the parents choose your consequences. That is often the most confusing part for parents). Children need love. The defiant, distant, troubled ones need it the most. Children need boundaries. The defiant, distant, troubled ones need

The goal is to keep your child out of the relationship and to keep her in your life. smile on your face for the entire affair!

it the most. This is the truth. Our job as parents is to hold these two somewhat paradoxical truths. The goal is to keep your child out of the relationship and to keep her in your life. What’s the big fear every parent with a defiant adult child has? In a nutshell, I’ll lose her forever. Many risk-taking, defiant children are capable of cutting out their parents. Parents have to look that fear in the eye and make the very personal decision: Will I go along with her program so I can have her in my life? Or, Can I no longer watch her ruin her life and prepare myself to possibly lose her? This is one of the hardest decisions a parent could ever make. Back to you, Mom. Seek counsel now. Your daughter is in trouble and you need counsel. Be sure to discuss questions 1-6 to help inform your next move. Sending you positive thoughts and wishes for a wonderful outcome, Jennifer Mann Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. Visit for more information. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.



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years ago a Christian nation (the British Empire) took away the Holy Land from a Muslim nation (the Ottoman Turks) and offered it to the Jewish nation via a letter dated November 2, 1917, personally delivered to 148 Piccadilly, London, home of Lord Walter Rothschild of the banking dynasty (“His Majesty’s Government view with favor the establishment in Palestine of a national home for the Jewish people...”). No, this was not a Chelm fairy tale. This was the real McCoy of geo-politics in the midst of a catastrophic World War I. Thus was modern Christian Zionism born. Lord Balfour was a religious Christian who read the Bible every day. 31 years later, a sovereign Third Jewish Commonwealth came into being in May 1948, rising phoenix-like from the ashes of Treblinka, a sight unseen in Judea since the ancient times of the Roman occupiers. But not so fast! Yes, we owe an enormous debt of gratitude to the British Empire for their support but remember: this is also the country that cruelly reversed itself in 1939, the year the Holocaust began, with its callous, duplicitous missive (the “MacDonald Paper”) that placated Arab states by restricting Jewish immigration to Palestine to 15,000 a year for the next 5 years. To put this in perspective, 12,000 Jews were incinerated daily at Auschwitz. The Brits had sealed off the only escape route from Europe and signed the death warrant for millions. A fact: the first shots the Brits fired in World War II was not against Nazi Germans but against German Jews fleeing oppression and trying to find shelter in the Holy Land.

The double-dealing came as no surprise. After dangling all of their ancestral 3,000-year-old land, the Brits cowardly capitulated to appeasement and chopped off nearly 80 percent to “invent” a new Kingdom for the Arabs. We know it as “Jordan.” The “leftovers” went to the Jews. As the Talmud says, “A gentile usually makes himself heard!” And from London’s Government House came several roars. A rabid anti-Semite, Haj Amin al-Husseini, was appointed Jerusalem’s grand mufti. This sick individual promoted pogroms in the Yishuv, cuddled up to Adolf in Berlin, and lobbied Hitler to import his genocide law of the jungle into Palestine. Lord Robert Peel presented a 400page Royal Commission on July 7, 1937, four years after Hitler ascended his powerful throne in Berlin, that recommended a Solomonian slice-it-in-half approach to the problem. (On the other hand, they did a spectacular job of rescuing 10,000 Jewish children from (mainly) Germany, Austria and Czechoslovakia on the Kindertransports in 1938-39. Go figure!) The Balfour Declaration was unprecedented but we shouldn’t get ahead of ourselves. Jews got a Jewish state not because of anything the gentiles did but because of sustained deliberate Jewish action. Balfour did not change gentile thinking or actions. But it did have an extraordinary effect on the Jews in the Diaspora whose collective thought process was jolted overnight into the real possibility of embryonic national self-rule. The laser-like focus on independence by beleaguered Jews in exile was stunning. Even a foothold was worth fighting for after 1,900 years. However, in the Orthodox bloc, especially among the rabbinic hierarchy of the nascent Agudas Yisrael political movement formed in 1912, the idea of publicly forgoing

parts of the Promised Land as part of negotiations with foreign powers caused further strain and disunity among brothers. The problem was not just geo-political; it was spiritual. The idea that Jews could participate in molding their own fate as active players on the world stage was near-blasphemy for a faithful folk who were waiting patiently for Messianic redemption.


he Peel report was déjà vu for the startled Agudas Yisrael, a sharp reminder that the reality of a Jewish homeland was creeping closer by the hour. And again they faced a thorny dilemma: how to seek a working relationship with the emerging Jewish state? In short: how to support Zion but not Zionists? And this time it was different. England had forced the question of “Whose land is it?” to the forefront of practical discussion as never before. Three months after the Peel shocker Aguda held its Third Kenesiya ha’Gedola in Marienbad, a resort in the Czech Republic. The British edict threatened to dismantle the fragile Jewish unity that had (somewhat) coalesced in the face of the emerging Nazi fury. Sensing a public display of sinas chinom several Admorim begged the delegates and speakers to be careful not to express bitterness or display hostility to other Jews as they expressed their opinions. When Rabbi Menachem Ziemba, a senior spokesman of Polish Jewry and member of the influential Warsaw rabbinate, was tasked with presenting both sides of the argument, R’ Chaim Yitzchok Eizik Yeruchim, the Alstater Rav, demanded (unsuccessfully) that the Peel issue not even be raised because of the “three oaths” in the Talmud that discuss





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the prohibition of rising in force to occupy the Holy Land, a position that the Satmar Rav, R’ Yoel Teitelbaum, built his anti-Zionist case around after the war. Although Rav Ziemba tried to keep his opinion to himself it was obvious: “Only the same wicked people who rip pieces off the Torah could agree to rip pieces off Eretz Yisrael!” (Rav Ziemba, 60, was shot to death with his 5-year-old grandson, Yankele Ber, during the ghetto uprising over Pesach 1943.) In agreement was the elderly Gerer Rebbe, R’ Avraham Mordechai Alter, and the Litvishe hierarchy led by brothers-in-law R’ Elchanon Wasserman and R’ Chaim Ozer Grodzinsky (who had stayed in Vilna because of his deteriorating medical condition) who strongly opposed any partition. “From the River Egypt unto the great river of Euphrates” belonged only to the people of Israel, the Gerer Rebbe reminded all, a promise from G-d repeated multiple times to our forefathers that created a contract in perpetuity – and nothing Robert Peel did or said changed that fact. The German rabbis disagreed: Britain’s position was not a halachic issue per se but a political one since the Führer could not have been less ambiguous as to what he intended to do to the Jews of Europe. They favored a quick split of the Holy Land’s real estate in order to provide an immediate safe haven for the millions of anxious Jews desperately wanting to get out of Europe. They were supported by the prominent Rabbi Yitzhak Unna, av bes din of Mannheim, southwest Germany, and by R’ Moshe Perlow of Stolin, son of the famous R’ Yisrael (Yenuka), Admor of Stolin-Karlin, who made a passionate plea for flexibility and political pragmatism. Rav Perlow urged the Moetzei Gedolei HaTorah to immediately accept the Partition proposal. He was convinced it would prompt thousands of Aguda members to leave and be spared the fate he (correctly) feared. He argued that the Peel Commission should not be viewed through the ideological lens of anti-Zionism nor as a waiver of Jewish rights of ownership but as a rare window of opportunity of pikuach nefesh (saving Jews). Rav Perlow was prescient. Out of six brothers, only two survived; he was murdered at Stolin, Belarus, in 1942, age 47, with his wife, Dvora Lea, and son, Nachum Solomon. Lord Peel was not the only spoiler in the convention hall. Floating menacingly above the 720 prestigious delegates and 2,000 spectators was Adolf Hitler. His was a suffocating “presence.” His was the

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Aguda poster: “It is a mitzvah to vote in the elections” The Satmar Rav: “You mean it’s a mitzvah like matza?” The Gerer Rebbe: “No, it’s a mitzvah like maror [bitter herbs]” -A (not necessarily true) anecdote

background noise of Jewish blood already drip, drip, dripping in Germany, Austria, and Czechoslovakia, that drowned out all the rejectionists. And all present knew Poland was next. The reality was this: rabbinic absolutism was a non sequitur in a hall crowded with fear, anxiety, uncertainty. With the (SS) writing clearly spreading on the blood-stained walls of Europe, very few present were prepared to automatically jump aboard a blame-the-Zionists wagon. Even less were willing to label as “heresy” the idea of a Jewish state. This lenient bloc included Rabbi Mordechai Shlomo Friedman, the Boyaner Rebbe, R’ Avraham Yaakov Friedman, the Sadigora Rebbe, R’ Yehuda Leib Tzirelson, the elderly chief rabbi of Bessarabia who had been an Aguda leader since its inception, the brilliant Rabbi Aaron Levin, head of the Moetzes Gedolei HaTorah and a member of the Polish Parliament (Sejm), R’ Zalman Sorotzkin, the famous “Lutzker Rav,” and others. But some wouldn’t waver. Rabbi Elchanon Wasserman, the deeply respected saintly rosh yeshiva of Baranowicz, addressed the delegates and called the Zionist leadership “Amalekim,” defined “[secular Zionist Jews] as rodfim [persecutors, deserving of death],” the Mizrahi movement as an “avodah zorah mixed with Yiddishkeit,” and as evil as the dreaded Yevsektsia in Stalinist Russia, a group of Russian Communist Jews who were destroying traditional Jewish life and persecuting and killing community rabbis. Dealing with them was a waste of time because, Rav Wasserman argued, the land of Israel would inevitably “vomit them out,” a Biblical term for idolaters. As Polish delegates shifted uncomfortably in their seats, the rabbis of Hungary and Czechoslovakia supported Rav Wasserman’s call to “cast out” the enemies of Torah. Rabbi Mordechai Rottenberg, the Rav of Antwerp, Belgium, and father of Recha Sternbuch, the rescue activist housewife from Switzerland, teamed up with R’ Aharon Kotler, the young and fiery rosh yeshiva from Kletzk, Poland, and rejected any type of Jewish state “even if it were a religious Torah state [yesodos hadas, because] it would still be a chillul Hashem because it was built al yesodos hakefirah, venimtza shem Shomayim mischalell [on the foundations of heresy] and showed a lack of faith, kefirah b’emunas bias haMoshiach [the coming of the Messiah].” This type of talk incensed Rabbi Yosef Shlomo Kahaneman, the fiercely independent-minded Rav and rosh yeshiva from

Ponevezh, who rebuked anyone who dared suggest that the Jewish state would fail because of its secular underpinnings. Instead he waxed poetic (and accurately) about a future Torah renaissance in Palestine. When the time came to vote, the majority of Lithuanian rabbis agreed to support a Jewish state but after a rare and uncharacteristic public rebuke from Jerusalem-based R’ Avraham Yeshaye Karelitz (Chazon Ish), the Litvisher bloc reversed their consent. From Brisk, Rabbi Yitzhak Ze’ev Soloveitchik brushed aside the votes of his Lithuanian colleagues with a Talmudic adage, Kesher reshaim eina min haminyan (“The opinion of the wicked does not count”). This public scolding caused so much tumult that the Brisker Rav quickly softened his tone and reassured the Lithuanian delegates that they were not “wicked” and clarified his position to mean that the very subject (secular Zionism) of discussion was so evil that it tainted all who came near it. Rav Kotler then announced that since Rav Soloveitchik’s opinion was greater than the (combined) votes of all the other attendees, all future decisions would no longer be based on a majority vote.


he Aguda convention in Marienbad ended with shattered nerves all around. It was to be the last gathering on European soil. The subject of Zion and the Zionists remained Aguda’s Achilles heel as an overwhelming majority of their one-million strong (worldwide) members were simply not willing to automatically reject a potential sanctuary in Palestine. For millions of Orthodox Jews in Central and Eastern Europe the road to Zion was much more appealing than the roads being paved by the Gestapo with vandalized Jewish tombstones leading towards their total extinction. The hard line at Marienbad was unsustainable as the barbarians and their collaborators began circling Jewish communities. Few of the rank-and-file members were concerned about Mizrahi-Aguda differences in politics and hashkofas (“ideology”) in the aftermath of the mass arson of synagogues (Kristallnacht) in November 1938 followed by families in Germany receiving envelopes of ashes of their loved ones from Dachau. The giant flapping red-and-black swastikas were blocking out the sun for both Orthodox camps. The once elusive search for Judaic unity and cooperation was now motivated not by love but fear of the Third Reich’s stated intent to pillage, plunder,


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 Rabbi Elchanon Wasserman, the saintly rosh yeshiva of Baranowicz, considered the Zionist leadership “Amalekim” and was convinced that the land of Israel would inevitably

 With the tacit approval of his powerful father-in-law, the Gerer Rebbe, and in a de facto recognition of “the enemy from within,” R’ Yitzchak Meir Levin, the popular head of

“vomit them all out,” a Biblical term for idolaters (above, from L-R: Rav Wasserman, R’ Moshe Blau, and R’ Aharon Kotler, Mariendad, 1937)

Aguda in Poland and Israel, signed Israel’s Declaration of Independence on May 14, 1948, side-by-side with 36 “heretic, non-believers. (above, Rav Levine at the microphone,

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 Lord William Peel (above) leaving the King David Hotel, c. 1936

speaking at the groundbreaking ceremony of the Sfas Emes yeshiva, Jerusalem, 1925; R’ Yisrael Alter [Beis Yisrael] is seated to his left)

The difficult task to make shalom fell to a selfless illui (“genius”) from Zachrina, Lithuania. Rabbi Zalman Sorotzkin, alumnus of Volozhin and Slabodka and the Rav of Lutsk, Ukraine, had escaped from Vilna with his wife, Sarah Miri, daughter of R’ Eliezer Gordon, the Telzer Rav and rosh yeshiva, and family, at the beginning of the war; his daughter, son-in-law, and their children were murdered by the Germans. Rav Sorotzkin was a multi-faceted scholar blessed with an energetic stellar personality. Respected by all, his was a historic mission: to frame a post-Auschwitz Aguda position on Zionism in the face of a pending non-Torah Jewish state. And yet, even with his formidable skills, Rav Sorotzkin found his assignment much more difficult than he ever imagined. Even calling for a meeting took superhuman patience. Consider: Rav Kahaneman, the Ponevezher Rav, would only attend if it was held at the Chazon Ish’s house. R’ Zalmen Yankelewitz wanted to invite as few people as possible in order to be productive “[because of the many] differences of opinion.” Others wanted a full-fledged attendance with a public statement released afterwards. R’ Re-

faul Katzenellenbogen thought “Torah sages” should not be invited because “they have enough difficulties already and don’t need political problems.” R’ Avrohom Yaakov Friedman, the Sadigora Rebbe, rebuked his colleagues for “shirking involvement in matters that concern all Israel.” When they finally met the most senior rav present was Rabbi Isser Zalman Meltzer, 77, chairman of the Council of Torah Sages and dayan of all Litvishe roshei yeshivas. Rav Meltzer was blunt. He told his colleagues the time had come to unite and support the creation of a Jewish state. He was supported by R’ Friedman, R’ Klein, R’ Kahaneman, R’ Moshe Blau, R’ Meir Karelitz, brother of the Chazon Ish, and R’ Dr. Yitzchak Breuer, R’ Samson Raphael Hirsch’s grandson and spiritual heir, who added a caveat that he would only recognize Israel “de facto, not de jure!” In opposition was Rabbi Eliezer Yehuda (“Reb Laizer Yudel”) Finkel, the 77-year-old head of Mir in both Poland and Jerusalem, Harry Goodman, the London-based vice-president of the Agudas Yisrael World Organization, and R’ Yaakov Rosenheim, the American-based long-serving presi-

dent of Aguda, who argued that since Israel would not be run according to Jewish law it was better to remain under British rule as long as Orthodox Jews had religious freedom. Rav Sorotzkin also sought the opinions of those who were not present. But R’ Avrohom Yeshaya Karelitz (Chazon Ish) begged off and said he needed more time to think about the issues. R’ Akiva Sofer, the great-grandson of the Chasam Sofer and head of the local Pressburg yeshiva, was also cautious and wanted to stay “off the radar.” R’ Yitzchak Ze’ev Soloveitchik, the 62-year-old powerful Brisker Rav and a non-Aguda member, didn’t want to get entangled in anything political; he had even refused to sign entry documents when fleeing into Palestine because they were from the Sochnut, the secular Jewish Agency. Rav Dushinsky, 81, head of the Edah HaChareidis, didn’t want his opinion publicized. Many were simply turned off “politics.” Consider R’ Yisroel Zev Gustman, the rosh yeshiva from Grodno and Vilna. “After all my zeideh witnessed in the Holocaust,” his grandson, R’ Avrohom Berniker, reflects, “he wasn’t capable of rejecting another Jew. It cured him of being a ‘party-man’ and,

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torture, rape, and murder European Jewry. The entire agenda of “Zion vs. Zionists” became moot erev Shabbos, September 1, 1939. The Holocaust began. The endless debates ended. The majority of delegates from Marienbad, most in a state of shock, having focused on the wrong enemy, were on the run. Most perished with their families, friends, and communities. There were soon more Agudas Yisrael rabbis in Palestine than in all of Poland. The center of the movement shifted to Jerusalem the moment the Gerer Rebe, the chassidic head of Agudas Yisrael, escaped to Palestine in early 1940. It was obvious to all sides that a united front be presented to the United Nations as the war raged out of control. With the Third Reich busy depleting the Jews of Europe, the Jewish underground actively fighting the British occupiers of Palestine, the United States about to enter the war, and political pressures mounting at the United Nations, the Aguda hierarchy was faced with fast-moving events that precluded any wavering. The time was critical. Relationships with secular Jewish leaders could no longer be ignored. The probability of a secular state was looking more and more realistic.

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miraculously, even in the polarized climate of Eretz Yisrael, he succeeded in remaining above factional politics. His friend, Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach, would often comment how ‘jealous’ he was of my zeideh’s ability to remain completely apolitical.” Rav Yankelewitz had been correct. The first round of meetings was unproductive. However, with the tacit approval of his powerful fatherin-law, the Gerer Rebbe, and in a de facto recognition, R’ Yitzchak Meir (“Reb Itche”) Levin, the popular head of Aguda in Poland and Israel, went ahead and signed Israel’s Declaration of Independence on May 14, 1948, side-by-side with 36 “heretic, non-believers.” Had Chelm made its way to the Mid-East? The once fiercely anti-Zionist bloc had thrown their lot in with a secular Zionist government in a move that would have been considered treasonous by the founding fathers at Kattowicze in 1912, and even only a few years earlier. On November 5, Rav Levin articu-

lated his position. Just as one cannot support the state in full conscience, one cannot oppose it either, because this would lead to sacrilege, for which we [Aguda] would be held fully responsible, with hareidi Jews perceived as a hindrance and an impediment… [Thus we have decided] not to do anything to oppose the Jewish state or to block achievement of a two-third [majority] in the United Nations to establish a Jewish state. This announcement was an ideological earthquake. The tremor was felt everywhere. For the first time, the senior hierarchy of Agudas Yisrael had announced a willingness to work together with the secular (and previously loathed) Jewish Agency (Sochnut) of David Ben-Gurion, the biggest rasha of them all. The new Aguda position spread like wildfire. Rav Soloveitchik begged his colleagues (unsuccessfully) to desist in all diplomatic activities (“Even if the prophets say it

will happen anyway, it is forbidden for us to help!”). But it was too late. “After 2,000 years of exile and servitude, we are given part of the land of Israel to establish a Jewish state with the assent of all nations of the world. There is no doubt that this is supernatural Divine Providence,” read the statement from Rabbi Aaron Katzenellbogen and R’ Yaakov Chanoch Sankowitz on behalf of the World Agudas Yisrael Executive Committee on erev Shabbos, May 14, 1948, (5 Iyar 5708). This position was unthinkable only weeks earlier. For the first time since their formation in 1912, Agudas Yisrael was now officially willing to work together with assimilated secular Jews, in this case to establish a secular Jewish state. High-ranking Aguda leaders, activists and members, were stunned that Jewish history had taken this turn, seemingly against the Torah and against the wishes of practically the entire pre-war chassidish and Litvish European rabbinate. But facts were facts.

Herr Hitler’s Holocaust had not only radically changed the geography and demography of the Jewish folk, it had also altered the behavior and thought pattern of thousands of Orthodox leaders and hundreds and thousands of their followers not only in the Holy Land but throughout the Diaspora. Aguda, keenly aware of their limitations at that time and place, had decided that only through patience and participation from within the Israeli electoral process could they preserve the minimum standards of a Torah lifestyle while gradually trying to change attitudes. The final word goes to Rabbi Elazar Menachem Shach, rosh yeshiva of Ponevezh. When asked why he recognized a Jewish state by voting in Israeli elections, he replied, “With facts you don’t argue.” Joe Bobker is the author of the popular series on “Torah With a Twist of Humor” and the 18-volumes on the Historiography of Orthodox Jews and the Holocaust. He can be reached at

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If you are one of the quarter million Marylanders insured by Individual medical plans, you may want to go through that pile of mail you have been avoiding. According to the Maryland Insurance Administration, while 90% of Maryland residents are covered by large employer plans, companies that self-insure, or grandfathered plans, those with individual plans are in for a big surprise… an increase of 33% on average. Ouch! To put things in perspective: the guy who inspired this article got a premium increase notice taking him from $979.83 monthly in 2017 to $1,543.09

monthly for the same coverage with a $13.5k deductible. On a bad year (Chas Ve’shalom) that’s over $32k out of pocket for medical expenses!!!!! By the way: if you are not affected by all this, I humbly suggest that you read this article and tell your friends about it in compliance with the concept of “Nose Be’ol Chavero” - shouldering the burden of your friend – and you also should be mindful of saying things “Be’Shem Omro” so let them know that Azi from RemSource, the premium solution for Business Services & Virtual Office Team for solo practicing business owners, provided

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the data. Let’s talk about why this is happening, and then some potential ideas about what to do. Baffled by increases of this magnitude, I checked in with my good friend Ari Gross at The Columbia Group. As crazy as these numbers sounded, there had to be a reason (I didn’t say a good one) for this. Ari explained a few interesting things about the market which basically boiled down to an underwriting/regulations issue. Individual plan providers were mandated to take on policies without the right to refuse coverage or exclude preexisting conditions. One of many other factors also include an older policy change which allowed children to stay on family policies well into their 20’s even if they were married. Can you imagine the cost to the insurance company of a policy that paid out 3 maternity claims, in addition to the regular healthcare costs for a family of 6 with 3 married daughters under 25, Ke’Neayne’Hura! These changes flooded the pool of insured individuals with folks that cost the insurance companies a lot more than the customers paid because they joined and immediately started making claims well in excess of their premiums. The situation has gotten so bad that some insurance companies threatened to leave Maryland unless their increases were approved - in fact, Cigna pulled out of the Individual plan market in Maryland for 2018. The simple math is that they need to recover the money or go broke. Hence, the approved increases. So now… some ideas of what to do. DISCLAIMER: I am not an insurance broker. These are just a curious guy’s ideas, they are not professional advice, nor are they endorsed by this newspaper or its advertisers. Do your own research and thinking before making any big decisions (that’s good

life advice in general, too). #1. This is why some candidates consider their employer’s medical coverage so carefully when job seeking. If you are in transition employment-wise, keep this in mind. #2. Shop the market. Always shop. The Maryland Health Connection site (www.marylandhealthconnection. gov) will provide you with available plans and take into account any subsidies you may qualify for. Open enrollment is from now through December 15th so the time to shop is now. #3. Consider small business plans. During the open enrollment period there has also been a reduction in the normal qualifications to start a business plan. You can literally start one for one employee. Incredibly while “company plans” always had a reputation for being more costly than individual plans, the tables have turned and between tax benefits and the rapid increase of the individual plan costs, these small business plans are not only more affordable in some cases, but increasing at a much lower rate. Small business plans went up an average of only 1.7% for the 2018 premiums compared to the 33% that individual plans went up. #4. Check out It’s a Healthcare sharing plan organized by a Mennonite Church Group (membership to the Church not required). The buddy that inspired this article ended up there with a Liberty Complete plan for $449 a month and a $1,500 deductible. Savings of… A LOT. Question is, can I still eat at his house? (Just kidding) Azi Rosenblum is a business consultant and the founder and CEO of RemSource, an outsourced provider of administrative and bookkeeping services for small businesses. To suggest a topic or ask a question for a future #BizWiz column, email

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Adolescence By Rabbi Azriel Hauptman

Shimon had always been a sweet and obedient child. However in the year following his bar mitzvah his behavior changed dramatically. He would not clean his room unless asked 10 times, he started liking very loud music, he started hanging out a lot with his friends, he would roll his eyes at his parents when they would try to assert their authority, and he started wearing clothing that was more on the “cool” side. Shimon does not have a mental health disorder. He “suffers” from adolescence. Levi had also always been a sweet and obedient child. He also started changing in the years after his bar mitzvah. He started acting abusively towards people that he did not get along with, he had a sense of sadness that seemed to not go away, he started hanging out with the wrong crowd, and he was even caught stealing.

Levi’s behavior is not typical adolescent behavior. Levi is suffering and needs help. An understanding of adolescence will help us understand why Shimon’s behavior is considered normal and Levi’s is not. The word adolescent is a Latin word that means “coming to maturity”. It is a bridge between childhood and adulthood. Adults are mature, responsible and goal oriented – or at least they are supposed to be – and are more or less on their own. Children, on the other hand, need the adults in their lives to guide them in order to maintain their safety and facilitate their growth and development. During adolescence, teens start to feel capable of being independent of their parents and to start making their own decisions, but in reality they are not totally there yet. Additionally, every human being

wants to be a distinct and unique individual. During childhood, the identity of the child is enmeshed with that of the parents. During adolescence, the desire to separate from the parents kicks in, often with a vengeance, and subconsciously spurs the adolescent to act in ways that express their individuality. This process is known in psychology as individuation. It is for these reasons that it is normal for teens to disobey parental demands to do chores, roll their eyes at their parents, and desire to spend more time out of the house. Shimon’s behavior is therefore completely normal and developmentally appropriate. He is merely going through a phase, as it was once said that snow and adolescence are the only problems that disappear if you ignore them long enough. This does not mean that Shimon’s parents should just watch passively. Parents play a very important

role in the life of an adolescent and therefore they might need guidance to fine tune their parenting skills for this pivotal period in their child’s life. Levi’s behavior, on the other hand, is not merely an expression of his individuation. Something is going on inside Levi’s soul and professional intervention is likely necessary. The adolescent years are confusing for both parents and children. With some guidance and wisdom, this tumultuous period can be successfully navigated. This is a service of Relief Resources. Relief is an organization that provides mental health referrals, education, and support to the frum community. Rabbi Yisrael Slansky is director of the Baltimore branch of Relief. He can be contacted at 410448-8356 or at yslansky@reliefhelp. org

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and heard a voice say, “Come in!” This was it. I sent up a quick tefillah that the interview should go well. Then, with one hand on the wall for leverage, I used the other to pull the heavy door open. Quickly, I wheeled in before it could close on me. A dainty woman sat behind a broad desk, her black sheitel straight and neat, her eyes piercing behind small square frames. “Welcome, Mrs. Marks.” “Thank you,” I said, stopping in front of her desk. “I’m so sorry I’m late. I didn’t have your number on me, so I wasn’t able to call.” Mrs. Greenstone nodded. “You’re in luck. If you’d come on time, you would have had to wait anyway. One of our teachers called in saying she had an emergency and couldn’t come, so we had to scramble to find a sub.” She gave a small sigh. “But moving on; I appreciate you traveling all the way from Lakewood for this.” “It’s a good thing my sister lives here,” I said, smiling. “I wouldn’t have made the trip to Baltimore on an Erev Shabbos otherwise.” “Oh, you have a sister here? What’s her name?” “Rochel Waldman. She runs a playgroup,” I said. “She’s the one who let me know that the High School was looking for teachers.” “I see.” Mrs. Greenstone shifted papers around on her desk until she pulled out the resume I’d sent her. “I was very impressed with your experience, Mrs. Marks. A degree in education and five years of teaching at Bais Leah. Who is the principal there?” “Rabbi Lander. Sadly, the school just closed from lack of funding. I

worked there before and after my accident.” I played with the rings on my finger, waiting for her next question. I’d been to three other interviews before this one, and they’d all wanted to know how being in a wheelchair would affect my teaching. For example, what were my limitations and obstacles? Was I really in fit condition to be handling the stress and responsibilities of teaching along with family life? I’d answered a little coolly to that last one, admittedly. Just because I couldn’t move my legs didn’t mean the rest of me worked any differently. But Mrs. Greenstone surprised me. “We only briefly discussed your situation over the phone, Mrs. Marks. Based on your references and experience I fully recognize your capability to teach. What I am curious to know is how your students reacted to your return after the accident.” I tilted my head. It was a good question, and a new one at that. “Well, for the first few days, and even weeks, they obviously felt uncomfortable. They weren’t sure how to act, what to say, and what not to say. But I worked hard to assure them that they could ask whatever they wanted, and that the only thing that had changed was my mobility. It took a while, but we finally fell back into a normal routine.” Mrs. Greenstone looked thoughtful. “What grades are you used to teaching, Mrs. Marks?” “I used to teach younger grades, 4th and 5th. When I got back to my job I mostly taught in the high school.” “Why is that?” I smiled. “Nothing to do with my situation. It’s just where they needed me. And I found I could connect bet-

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out and quickly assembled my transportable wheelchair. He affixed the wheels in place, then set the chair down right beside my open door. With some shuffling, the help of a slide board, firm gripping, and a smooth shift, I transferred to the wheelchair. “Wish me luck,” I said as I unlocked the brakes. “Let me walk you to the door,” Raphael said. I could open doors just fine on my own, but I could tell he was anxious, so I followed him silently to the school’s double doors. It was twenty minutes after school had officially started. Thankfully, the doors were still unlocked. Raphael held the door open for me and I wheeled into the building. “Hatzlacha!” he called. “Thanks!” I gave him a wave, then headed in. My name is Avigail Marks. I’m a paraplegic. About eight years ago, when I was twenty, I got into a car accident that left me paralyzed from the waist down. No more walking, running, or even standing for Shemonah Esrei. The feelings of helplessness and despair I had for the first several months come back every so often. It’s not an easy thing, being in a wheelchair. But I’ve learned to roll with it. Literally. It didn’t stop me from teaching, and it didn’t stop me from getting married five years later and giving birth to a baby boy. Hashem has given me many blessings, and focusing on them is my greatest tool when the despair over my legs wells up. I wheeled forward. There on the right - a wall plaque confirmed it was Mrs. Greenstone’s office. I knocked

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There are times in life when things fall perfectly into place, when you have that sure feeling that everything’s in control and the world is on your side. This was not one of those times. “Stop sign! Stop sign!” I shrieked. Raphael slammed on the brakes, and we skidded to a stop, avoiding an oncoming car by feet. “Quick, it’s green up ahead!” Raphael slammed on the gas. “No, no, no – it’s yellow! Slow down!” “I can see that!” he snapped. We jolted to a stop before Raphael made a right turn. “We can go forty here.” “The sign says twenty-five.” “It’s fine, it’s fine.” “You know,” my husband remarked, tapping nervous fingers on the wheel, “You’ll be even later to the interview if we crash.” “Good point. Go thirty-five.” “Avigail.” I glanced at my watch. I was already ten minutes late. Even worse, I’d neglected to save the number to call to let them know I was delayed. “You’re doing great,” I assured my husband. “I have complete faith that you’ll get us there within two minutes.” Siri piped up to let us know we needed to make a U-turn and go back the way we’d come. “What?” Raphael asked incredulously. “I thought I looked up the directions right -” I jabbed my finger at the GPS mounted on the dashboard. “We follow Siri!” Five minutes later we pulled up in front of the school. Raphael jumped


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ter to the older girls. That’s why I was looking specifically for a high school position.” “I see. Well, we need a Chumash teacher this coming year for 11th graders.” “Okay. I’ve taught Chumash and that age level before.” Mrs. Greenstone drummed her fingers on the desk, thinking. Abruptly, she asked, “Mrs. Marks, why did you decide to become a teacher?” Taken aback, I paused to think. “Well,” I said slowly, “I love giving over knowledge. And I was zoche to many wonderful teachers who inspired me to go into the field.” Mrs. Greenstone nodded. “Mrs. Marks, I’m sure you’re aware of this, but you are in a unique position to give over much more than information to these girls. Many teachers try to tell their students that everything Hashem does is for the best, but – and forgive me if I’m being too forward – it would

be much more meaningful to hear that message from someone in your situation. If given the chance, I would love for you to talk to them about accepting those things in life that are hard for them. It’s a valuable message for them to hear at their stage in life.” I thought for a moment. Mrs. Greenstone shifted uncomfortably in her chair, probably wondering if she’d made me uncomfortable. I folded my hands in my lap. “Mrs. Greenstone, it sounds like you want me to tell the students that I get up each morning and say, ‘Thank You, Hashem, that I can’t walk.’” She blinked in surprise. “Well, no – not in those words -” “And why not, if it’s really all for the good?” Silence. “I’m not perfect, Mrs. Greenstone. I don’t get up each morning and say that,” I said. “What I do is get up and say, ‘Thank You, Hashem, for a new

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day with my beautiful family.’ To be honest, thanking Hashem for my situation is not something I can express right now, even after years of living in it. I’m not about to preach to teenagers a concept that I still struggle with. They can see right through that.” Mrs. Greenstone smiled, nodding her head. “I appreciate your honesty and anavah. But really, just being up there in front of the girls teaches them. You face an incredible nisayon and choose not to let it dominate your life. That is a powerful message in itself.” I felt my face grow warm. We were getting off-topic. “Mrs. Greenstone, I will let them come to that conclusion on their own. My job is to give over Chumash as the Torah we live by, not as a subject, and to support my students throughout the year. That’s all.” Mrs. Greenstone nodded. “I understand, Mrs. Marks. I apologize if I made you uncomfortable.” “Not at all,” I said. “I see where

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What You Will Need: 1 ¼ cup gluten free cookie or graham cracker crumbs 3 Tbl. sugar 4 Tbl. margarine, melted 5 packages plain Tofutti cream cheese

1 cup sugar 3 Tbl. potato starch 1 Tbl. vanilla 1 cup Tofutti sour cream 4 eggs 3 Tbl seedless black berry jam- whisked until smooth

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paper, allowing ends to extend over sides. Combine crumbs, 3 Tbl. sugar, and melted margarine; Press with back of spoon onto prepared pan. Bake 10 minutes. 2. Beat cream cheese, 1 cup sugar, potato starch, and vanilla with mixer until blended and smooth. Add sour cream and then the eggs one at a time, mixing on low speed after each addition. Pour over crust. Gently drop small amounts of blackberry jam all over batter; swirl gently with knife. 3. Bake 1 hour or until center is almost set and edges are light brown. Refrigerate 4 hours. Use paper “handles” to lift from pan before cutting to serve. Can be made with regular cream cheese and sour cream as well. Enjoy!

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ormer President Jimmy Carter once called our tax code “a disgrace to the human race,” and there’s really not a lot to like about it. There’s at least some consolation, though, in the fact that we’re all stuck with the same maddening rules. If you and your spouse file jointly, and your ordinary taxable income is $100,000, you’ll pay the same amount as any other joint filers reporting the same $100,000 in ordinary taxable income. That’s not always the case with state and local taxes, though. If you’re big enough, and you’re willing to flex a little muscle, you can find someplace willing to court you like royalty. Most cities are more than happy to trade away a bit of property tax on a corporate headquarters in exchange for the payroll taxes, income taxes, and sales taxes they can levy on the people who work there, along with the economic development that comes with new jobs. Other places are willing to offer

flat-out bribes in the form of tax credits. And that brings us to this week’s story.... Amazon. com started life in 1994 as an online bookseller. Since then, though, it’s grown to become the largest online retailer in the world. For four glorious hours this July 29, founder Jeff Bezos was the richest man on the planet. (The company reported

In September, Amazon announced plans to drop $5 billion on a second headquarters equal to their current home in Seattle, codenamed HQ2. They want to locate the new facility in a metropolitan area of at least a million people, within 45 minutes of an international airport, with a highly educated workforce. The lucky winner will get

values up an estimated 2%. They’ll need places to eat, drink, and shop. Amazon reports that every dollar they currently invest in their current headquarters generates $1.40 for Seattle’s economy overall. Naturally, every city in America wants in. By October 18, 238 municipalities had submitted their bribes bids, from 54

Seriously, winning HQ2 is the closest thing any city will ever come to winning the Powerball.

disappointing earnings at the end of that day’s trading, and Bezos’s stock tanked $6 billion overnight. Must have been nice while it lasted!) If you’re reading these words, you’ve bought something from Amazon, and you’re probably one of its 80+ million Prime members.

up to 8 million square feet of new space and up to 50,000 new jobs paying an average of $100,000 per year. But the benefit of the new headquarters will ripple throughout the winning town’s economy. Those 50,000 employees will all need places to live — pushing property

states, provinces, districts, and territories across North America. Seriously, winning HQ2 is the closest thing any city will ever come to winning the Powerball. New Jersey has offered $7 billion in tax rebates if Amazon picks Newark. Pennsylvania has offered up

to $1 billion in breaks, with Philadelphia throwing in $2 billion more over the next 10 years. (That’s a lot of cheesesteaks!) Several cities went even further to stand out from the crowd. Tucson, AZ, sent a 21-foot-tall cactus. The Mayor of Charlotte, NC, declared October 18 to be “#CLTisPrimeDay.” And the town of Stonecrest, Georgia, offered to rename itself Amazon. We realize you don’t have enough muscle to negotiate your own tax rate. The good news is, you may not have to. Remember that tax code that Jimmy Carter called a disgrace to the human race? It’s got 70,000 pages full of deductions, credits, loopholes, and strategies that you can use to pay less. So call us for a plan, and see how much we can deliver! Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 yea rs in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at






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