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CONTENTS COMMUNITY

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Around the Community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .6 Community Calendar . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 36

JEWISH THOUGHT Rabbi Zvi Teichman. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 Rabbi Rabbi Dr. Naphtali Hoff. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34

PEOPLE 613 Seconds with Rabbi Elie Tuchman, Ed.D. . . . . 17

HUMOR & ENTERTAINMENT Centerfold. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 44 Notable Quotes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46

LIFESTYLES Tribe Tech Review. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40 Dating Dialogue. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 52 Health & Fitness. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 58 Political Crossfire. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 60 Mental Health Corner. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 64 The Wandering Jew. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 66 Your Money. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 68 Gluten Free Recipe Column. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 70

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Dear Readers, “A kohen may walk over coffins… to greet non Jewish kings, so that a distinction will be able to be made between them and Jewish kings when their glory will return to its place.” (Rambam, laws of mourning 3:14) When seeing the glory of an inauguration or the intensity of a Super Bowl, the natural reaction for a Jew is to long for the return of the splendor and greatness of our own Jewish leaders. To yearn for a return to a time when G-d’s presence was tangible in the mundane and holiness was the going currency. America is the kindest superpower to have ever existed. Founded in the G-d given rights of every human being, it has become the beacon of light for freedom around the globe. Although reluctantly at first, we Jews have been allowed to and indeed have been given complete freedom in making this our newest home in the wonderings of the past two millennia. In just a little over seven decades we have established vibrant and flourishing Jewish communities throughout the United States. One can choose a daf yomi shiur in Minnesota, a chassidus shiur in Houston, and chalav yisrael pizza in Atlanta, in addition to the schools, shuls, mikvaos and myriads of Jewish organizations peppered throughout the United States. Yet something fundamental is missing. Without it, it all feels like a shell. Hollow, like a body without a soul. “There’s nothing more complete than a broken heart.” The Jewish heart yearns for a moral world. A world free of pain. We don’t feel at peace with ourselves if there’s injustice anywhere in the world. On a spiritual level, we feel incomplete when our beliefs aren’t self-evident. We are restless as long as there is even one individual who isn’t looking to connect to the source of life, broken by the friction between the creator and the created. In the past we were “broken” by libels and pogroms. We now produce the “squeezed out pure olive oil” from an internal dichotomy, an internal “squeeze” that we don’t see truth as it is. Though it’s beautiful to visit the land of Israel – who doesn’t have great memories of their first visit? – the inner Jew won’t feel at home till he’s living at home, with the rest of the family. In the final chapters of the laws of kings, the Rambam makes clear that we won’t know the details of Moshiach’s arrival till it happens. How he will come, we don’t know. When he will come, we hope very soon! U’bichesed u’birachamim. Wishing you a wonderful Shabbos, Shalom

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Reaching for the Stars

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e are often told to reach for the stars, but sometimes this task may seem difficult. In order to do so, it helps to actually see the stars. On December 10th, some of our Chai Lifeline kids, along with their Big Sibs, had the opportunity to look into the galaxy with a new perspective. PhD students of Johns Hopkins University invited our boys to the rooftop of the Bloomberg Center in Johns Hopkins University for an exclusive VIP tour of the observatory. The graduate students showed them the Morris W. Offit Telescope, which is one of the largest telescopes on the East Coast. After the students showed our group the moon and stars, the kids each had a turn to

Sharma (PhD, Quantum Gravity) for this exclusive tour and for teaching our boys about our cosmos.

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ewish Experience completed a very successful fall semester at Johns Hopkins University. The AEPi house was the setting for a series of fun dinners with Rabbi Zvi Schwartz, director of Jewish Experience. It was an informal opportunity for students to discuss fundamen-

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choose what they wanted to see through the telescope. The boys had fun trying to guess which planet they were looking at, and they enjoyed learning new information and fun-facts about our solar system. Chai Lifeline would like to thank Erini Lambrides (PhD, Galaxy Evolution and Active Galactic Nuclei Feedback), Brian Welch (PhD, Sounding Rocket Instrumentation), Oz Amram (PhD, High Energy Particle Physics), Dr. Dunkin Watts (PhD, Observational Cosmology), Alexander de la Vega (PhD, Galaxy Evolution), and Utkarsh

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Rabbi Schwartz says, “We’ve been fortunate that leaders of AEPi headquarters in Indianapolis have worked with us to reach AEPi students. Jewish Experience has provided unique programming for many other AEPi Chapters including University of Delaware, Brandeis, William & Mary and Mizzou. We hope to reach more students and connect them to our summer Jinternship program which is already receiving applications.” Earlier in the year, the Managing Director of AEPi, Mr. Jay Feldman, flew in to Baltimore from Indianapolis headquarters to learn more about the Jinternship program which has scores of AEPi students and Alumni from around the country.


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Lev Has Been There For Us...It’s Now Time For Us To Be There For Them

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By: BJLife/Chaim Spero BaltimoreJewishLife.com/Jeff Cohn

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y now, I am sure everyone has heard about the fire that has devastated the Lev Shlomo building. Speaking with people in the Lev community, it is obvious that while no one was physically hurt, there is a world of pain that they are going through. Many people have been shaken up by this fire. It made me think about Lev and what it has meant to me, and my family. I consider myself one of the lucky ones. I am one of the people who belong to the Lev community. Lev is the place where my wife and I enjoy going for a warm Friday night davening. It changes how our entire Shabbos, no, our entire week goes. The warmth in the room is infectious. People are so genuinely happy to see each other, that it draws you into its beauty. Men, women and kids, of all backgrounds, coming together to celebrate the coming of Shabbos. There is more back slapping and hugs that go on there, than in a winning locker room. I know that we are far from the only ones who think this way. But Lev is much more than that to

us. Lev is where our son Ari has found a home. It’s the place he has lived since he came back from Israel. Lev, run through two giants of men, R’ Aryeh Zigdon, and R’ Shaya Kohn, is not just a place for enrolled students. You see, Ari was never officially enrolled at Lev. But that didn’t stop Aryeh and Shaya from taking him under their wing. Shabbos meals, heart to heart talks, job placement assistance, summer work, etc. You name it, and they were there for him. Last year, Aryeh and Shaya flew to Israel with Ari, taking time away from their own families, just to find a possible program for Ari. They didn’t ask to be paid, they didn’t ask for a donation to Lev- they just saw an opportunity for one of the Lev guys, and they dropped everything to try and make it happen. We are far

from the 1%, but that was no factor. They do this for every person who passes through Lev. Lev is not just about the boys currently enrolled there, it’s for every boy who has passed through the building. If you touch the doorknob of Lev, you are member of the Lev family. There is no downtime at Lev. Meetings can take place as easily at 11 PM as they do at 11 AM. Lev is changing lives. Even though Ari is moving out at the end of the year, Aryeh and Shaya are still planning on keeping him in their lives. That is what they do. It’s not a job to them, it’s life. Why am I writing now? While

there are a core of supporters that help Lev, I am afraid that Lev has not been thought of as a go-to tzedakah, like many of the other fine institutions and causes in our community. The entire city has a responsibility to help an organization like Lev...now, more than ever. Lev will rebuild, and continue to be there for all the people in our community. Let’s take this time now to show Lev that we are there for it.

Why Mesila of Baltimore Matters

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hy does a frum community require an organization that helps its members become financially responsible? Let’s pretend we’re not dealing with a frum family. Take an average American family. Double or triple its size, send each child to a private school and place the family in desirable neighborhoods. Then, raise their meat cost 20 percent, expect them to prepare a Thanksgiving-style meal twice weekly, send their post-high school children to study abroad for a year – and, even after the grown children marry, support them financially for several years. That’s why. That is close to the reality for many families and these financial demands require a higher level of focus for frum families to live. Mesila works with families, early on, preparing them to face the challenge of living a financially balanced life. We do this by provid-

ing education, training and coaching. There are many reasons why a family doesn’t achieve a balanced budget –not earning enough, and an unsupportable lifestyle being the most common. This is basically Economics 101, and certainly FFE (Frum Family Economics) 101: live within a balanced budget. In the first decade of our existence in Baltimore, Mesila has counseled approaching 500 families. We serve families at any stage of life. Our greatest impact is on young families, because early consultation can set people up for a lifetime of good savings/spending habits. At this early stage, couples are not yet locked into a financial lifestyle that might preclude them from living within a balanced budget. In fact, Mesila recommends that couples approach us before getting married. Mesila believes that putting differences in attitudes towards money on the table up-front is far preferable. Doing so helps to resolve differences

in attitudes and expectations toward money. The result: much-improved shalom bayis. We teach such fundamentals as: Earning – and how education and training opportunities that offer higher earning potential are generally still available; Spending – and how to understand the harm coming from taking on expenses and a life-style with unsustainable, harmful long-term impacts; and Saving – and establishing good financial habits with a long-term view. Through working with families on budgeting, Mesila counselors have

learned that communication within a family about money is vital. That is, spouses need to communicate well to understand each other’s relationship to money. Earning and spending money are frequently surrogates for other, deep-seated issues; unless communication of those issues is brought to the surface, couples will struggle in balancing a budget – irrespective of income. Many Baltimore families utilize our counseling services. Even more attend our seminars. We will be running a free two-part seminar on January 6 and 13 at Bnai Jacob Shaarei Zion synagogue. To register or to inquire about the seminar, e-mail MesilaBaltimoreClass@gmail.com. Individuals who might benefit from our expertise are urged to e-mail Mesila at MesilaBaltimore@gmail. com or call us at (877) 303-6662 and leave a message. All inquiries are confidential and counseling is offered at no cost.


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Baltimore Shabbos of Inspiration – “The Inspiration Goes Both Ways” By: Rabbi Gavriel Horan

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n November 30th Etz Chaim and Project Inspire sponsored a Shabbos of Inspiration throughout the Pikesville Jewish community. Following the mission statements of both organizations, the goal was to inspire community members to reach out to their neighbors, coworkers, and relatives to share the beauty of Judaism and increase Jewish unity throughout the greater Baltimore Jewish community. The packed program featured renowned speakers from all over the world, including Rabbi Chaim Sampson, Founding Director of Project Inspire, Rabbi Steven Burg, CEO of Aish HaTorah, and Rabbi Ephraim Shapiro, Rav of Congregation Shaaray Tefilah in North Miami Beach. Guest speakers included bal habatim who were inspired by Project Inspire to make Jewish outreach a major focus of their life and their community as well as balei teshuva from around the world who shared their stories of how interactions with regular observant families changed their lives. The lineup also included Rabbi Yitzchak Fanger, acclaimed Israeli lecturer for Arachim and Hidabroot who shared his story, “From Buddhist Monk to Haredi Rabbi,” at multiple locations over Shabbos. The idea began when Etz Chaim approached a few prominent community members and put them in touch with Project Inspire. The community-run grassroots committee planned every detail of the event and were instrumental in getting the majority of Synagogues involved on multiple levels. Across the board, the Rabbanim of the community were supportive of every aspect of the event and felt that it was in line with the core values of Baltimore– a community that has always believed in Jewish unity. Sixteen shuls including Shearith Israel, Shomrei Emuna, Kol Torah, Suburban Orthodox, and Merkaz Torah U’Tefillah - to name a few - participated in multiple events throughout the Shabbos. There were also seven Onegs at the homes of community members located throughout the area that each featured panel discussions and Q & A sessions

Ashley Blaker brings the crowd to tears through his humor and personal story of Teshuva

Eli Klein, MC of the Melava Malka

moderated by Etz Chaim staff. Many hundreds of people attended events Friday night that addressed common questions regarding how to engage in Jewish outreach. “I always assumed outreach was for outreach professionals,” attendee Mr. Yaakov Horowitz said. “This Shabbos I learned that it’s not about outreach – it’s about ahavas Yisrael – love of one’s fellow Jews. All it take is being a caring individual.” The event culminated in a totally free Melava Malka Motzei Shabbos in Bnai Jacob Shaarei Zion. The evening featured words from Rabbi Hopfer, a riveting multi-media presentation, and a standup performance from renowned British comedian Ashley Blaker who humorously shared his teshuva story – as well as a delicious spread of food. Over 350 people attended the event that was standing room only. At the end of the event hundreds of people filled out pledge cards to get more involved by learning with a weekly study partner, taking on leadership roles, or sharing Jewish knowledge with others. “What struck me most of all during the event was to learn that the inspiration goes both ways,” one attendee commented. “When you share Judaism with others, you yourself will develop a greater appreciation of the tremendous treasure you already have.” Project Inspire, a program of Aish HaTorah, was founded over a decade ago and has impacted the lives of thousands of Jews. Project Inspire has hosted similar events in Cincinnati, San Diego, and Denver, but this will be their largest event to date outside of New York.

“Baltimore is a community that is passionate, professional, healthy, and inspired,” Project Inspire Director of Programming, Rabbi Yaakov Giniger, said. “This is the ideal community to create a dynamic of mutual inspiration between Jews of all backgrounds and religious affiliations. Our mission is to light the spark and we are confident the community leaders will continue to put it into action with the support of Etz Chaim’s talented staff.” Etz Chaim has been a leading provider of Jewish adult education in the Baltimore area for almost 40 years. Their mission is to inspire Jews of all backgrounds to grow closer to Judaism and each other through meaningful Jewish experiences, relationships, and education. Under the new leadership of Director, Rabbi Zev Pomeranz, Etz Chaim has been expanding rapidly over the past few years. They currently run multiple programs that cater to Jews throughout the lifecycle from college students, to Young Professional, newly married couples, families with young children, and seniors.

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The crowd of over 350 enjoying the inspirational Multi-Media presentation

“With our years of experience in Jewish outreach and education, we have found that showing others the beauty of Judaism is actually the best way to instill a love of Judaism into our own families,” Rabbi Pomeranz said. “There are countless Jews in Baltimore of all ages who are yearning for greater Jewish involvement and are just waiting for someone to welcome them in at their level. We believe that this event was a win-win for the greater Baltimore community!” Plans are already underway to follow up with interested community members to form action groups, shul ambassadors, and to set people up with partners in Torah. “The Shabbos was wonderful but it was just the beginning,” Rabbi Sampson said. “People are responding and getting involved but now is the critical point to put the inspiration into action. Inspiration has an expiration date if we don’t put it into effect. With Hashem’s help we look forward to making a difference in the lives of the greater Jewish community of Baltimore.”


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NASCK Joins Local Organizations to Help Baltimore Take Action on Crucial End-of-Life Issues By: Sara Arno

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nd of life. It is a topic as important as it is difficult, a topic most people prefer to avoid. And yet we cannot avoid it forever. The mission of TEAM Shabbos, the Traditional End-of-Life Awareness Movement, is to break the silence before an emergency occurs, before a crisis makes it too difficult — or too late — to think clearly. TEAM Shabbos, which takes place every Parshas Vayechi, has rabbonim in shuls across Baltimore opening a conversation about the crucial issues that we will all face. And starting motzei Shabbos, it will

you be sure that the person of your choice — and the rabbi of your choice — will guide the medical decisions made on your behalf? A halachic living will is simple to execute, and has helped countless Jews avoid life-threatening errors in care. End of Life Decision-Making The documentary Being Mortal, which puts a human face on end-of-life decision-making, will be followed by a panel discussion. Volunteering for Hospice Families who have a member at the

very end of their life need our support. Come to a hospice volunteer training session to find out how you can do bikur cholim with this special population. Bringing Simcha into all Stages of Life The world-renowned Rabbi Pesach Krohn will be speaking on the subject of simcha in honor of the first yahrzeit of Mrs. Chaiya Drabkin, a”h, co-founder of the Jewish Caring Network. See our ad on page 57 for times and locations of all events. Visit teamshabbos.org and click on the Baltimore tab for additional information, written by Baltimore rabbanim and community members, about these crucial topics. Email saraarno@nasck.org with any questions.

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be time to take action on these issues. The National Association of Chevra Kadisha (NASCK), the creator of the national TEAM Shabbos program, which includes nearly 500 rabbonim in 250 communities across the country, has partnered with a spectrum of Baltimore organizations to help Baltimoreans take appropriate action. Along with Bikur Cholim, the Jewish Caring Network, Seasons Hospice, and Gilchrist Hospice, NASCK is sponsoring an ongoing series of events that address specific end-of-life issues. Dates and times for all events can be found in our ad on page 57. Halachic Living Wills What happens if you cannot speak for yourself in a medical emergency? How can

very year thousands of lives are lost due to pedestrian fatalities. Studies have shown that wearing a reflector belt increases your nighttime visibility by over 10 times. On the heels of a “Chanukah Lights” free reflector giveaway campaign, the following letter from a very grateful community member was sent to The Chesed Fund & Project Ezra: Thank you so much for supplying reflective belts to numerous locations in town last week. Wearing a reflector belt literally saved my life! As I was leaving Bnai Jacob Shaarei Zion on a rainy and foggy Friday night, while crossing the street, a car was forced to make a sudden stop to avoid hitting me. The driver apologized and said she would never have seen me in time if it

were not for the reflective belt I was wearing over my black raincoat! As per the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration, “Unfortunately, pedestrians were one of the few groups of road users to experience an increase in fatalities in the United States in 2016, totaling 5,987 deaths. Additionally, the highest percentage of pedestrian fatalities, 26%, occur between 6 P.M. and 8:59 P.M.” Several months ago, a 90-year-old Holocaust and cancer survivor was killed one night in Brooklyn, NY when trying to cross the street on his way to shul. Just a little over a week ago, a prominent community member in Lawrence, NY was tragically killed when he was hit by a car while walking home from shul on Motzae Shabbos. Over the years, there have been several people in Baltimore who were in-

jured or killed because of this issue. Research shows that when driving at 30 miles per hour, drivers can only spot a person when they are as close as 70 feet away. If a person is wearing reflective clothing, they can be seen from 744 feet away! When The Chesed Fund & Project Ezra ran their free reflector vest giveaway in June, Mr. Chernitzky credited wearing his vest in saving his life. “My tire blew out one night and I pulled over to the side of the highway. I remembered I had just picked up a reflector vest, so I put it on. AAA and the police officer who came to assist me both said that without that vest I easily could have been killed.” On average, a pedestrian is killed every 1.5 hours in traffic crashes. Check your shul for free reflector belts available for adults and make sure to pick

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islev and Chanukah at Yeshivas Kochav Yitzchok/Torah Institute is an especially joyous time. The special Chanukah activities truly enhance the ruach throughout the school. The “Mommy and Me” project, preschool Chanukah carnival, “Build Your Own Menorah” contest,  middle school talent presentation, school-wide mesibos and special 3rd-5th grade daily Chanukah davening in the Beis Medresh are just some of the highlights of this zman. 

one up. Schools have also distributed student-sized belts for your children. Check their backpacks and make sure they use them if walking outside at night. Let’s not help these statistics rise and make sure you, your family, and your friends protect themselves and wear reflector belts to be safe and seen. For helpful pedestrian and driver safety tips, visit https://www.nhtsa.gov/ road-safety/pedestrian-safety#2231.For more information about the various security and community initiatives by The Chesed Fund Limited and Project Ezra of Greater Baltimore, Inc., please visit www.chesedfund.com. For any questions or comments, please call Frank Storch at 410-340-1000, or email chesedfund@ gmail.com.


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Rabbi Elie Tuchman, Ed.D. Rosh HaYeshiva-Head of School, Yeshivat Mekor Chaim far less frontal, lecture-style teaching than is common in most schools. Will there be a girls division? Why choose to start with boys? The Yeshiva was initially conceived of by community leaders who felt strongly that there is a great need in this community for a boys Yeshiva with this particular vision of chinuch. The overwhelming response that we have received, as people hear about our school, has confirmed that the founders were correct. As we’ve begun to develop the program and the school, we heard from many people that there is also a need for a girls school with this approach. Right now, we are focused on developing and opening the boys Yeshiva, and do not believe that we can undertake the creation of a girls division at this time, as well. However, our leadership is sympathetic to that need and would certainly consider the establishment of a girls division in the future. What kind of family might feel at home at YMC? The environment in our Yeshiva is designed to be inclusive and I expect that families from a fairly broad range of backgrounds will join our community. What unites us, is our commitment to high level Torah study and observance, a belief that strong general studies supports our Torah learning and our service of Hashem, with a mission to help each young man discover and develop his unique talents.

Where will the school be located? Obviously, we are planning to be in Baltimore, but we have not yet finalized a specific location. We expect to be in rental space for the first few years, as the school grows. We are in the process of selecting the space that we believe will best help us meet the needs of our students. Is the school affiliated with any local Rabbonim and/or lay leaders? I have met with many of the Rabbonim in the community, and – baruch Hashem – they have been very supportive of our plans. We are also blessed with a very committed group of lay leaders who are prepared to make sure that our school thrives. I am also fortunate to have a relationship with HaRav Hershel Schachter, shlit”a , who has agreed to serve as our official posek and is available to me for any questions that arise. How can I apply or find out more? We are opening in September 2019 with a Freshman class. We are currently accepting applications for next year’s 9th grade. Our application is available online at www.yeshivatmekorchaim.org/apply. The best way to find out more about our plans and the program is to call the Yeshiva at 443-399-3153 or to email office@yeshivatmekorchaim.org to set up a personal meeting.

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Welcome Rabbi Tuchman. What are your first impressions of Baltimore? Thank you, it’s wonderful to be here. Everyone has been very warm and friendly and excited about the school. My wife and I have felt very welcomed and very much at home. The Baltimore community has that caring, family feel that one often only finds in smaller Jewish communities. Yet, the infrastructure, the high level Torah scholarship, and the sheer number of families make Baltimore one of the major Jewish centers in the US. I’ve also been impressed at the great diversity within the community, the degree to which everyone gets along and works together. That’s the kind of environment that I want to live and work in. How did you get started in teaching? I decided to be a teacher during my years studying in Israel after High School. I always loved working with

kids. Over the years, I’ve been involved in many different kinds of education, both formal and informal. I was an NCSY advisor, a camp counselor and Director, and I ran a program in Israel for Ethiopian olim. It’s important to enjoy what you do and to be properly trained as well. I received smicha from Yeshiva University, where I also earned both a Masters in Jewish Education and a Doctorate in Educational Leadership. My first formal full time teaching position was as an 8th grade Rebbe in Westchester Day School in Mamaroneck, NY. Since that time, I’ve been Head of School in California, New York, and New Jersey. So Baltimore is opening another high school? I thought we had plenty of choices. Baruch Hashem, there are many excellent schools in the Baltimore community. Yeshivat Mekor Chaim, is first and foremost a Yeshiva and the study of Torah is the core of everything we do – it is our mekor chaim – the source of our life. We also believe that the study of and deep engagement with general studies are an important part of our avodas Hashem – our service of G-d. We view general studies as in intrinsic part of the development of a complete ben Torah. We also have an approach to learning which is very student-centered, in which we help each student to identify and develop his individual strengths. Much of our learning is hands-on, with

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Two Soldiers Killed in Shooting Attack

Two IDF soldiers were gunned down while they protected a hitchhiking post at a Jewish village a few miles north of Jerusalem last Thursday.

A preliminary IDF investigation found that two terrorists drove up to the hitchhiking post near Givat Assaf in the Binyamin region and opened fire from point blank range. Sergeant Yovel Mor Yosef, 20, and Corporal Yosef Cohen, 19, were killed instantly; another soldier was seriously injured when he was shot in the head. Bet El-native Shira Sabag was moderately hurt as well but is expected to make a full recovery. The two terrorists then fled the scene with a gun belonging to one of the soldiers before abandoning their vehicle near Ramallah. The IDF and Shin Bet internal security service has launched a massive manhunt after the perpetrators and have sealed off several Arab villages. Mor Yosef and Cohen had both served in the Netzach Yehuda-Nahal Haredi unit that caters to ultra-Orthodox troops. The male-only unit offers special conditions for charedi soldiers, such as food with a higher level of kashrut and a unit rabbi who looks

after the spiritual needs of the troops. “They were such sweet boys, always wore smiles on their faces. Their friends loved and admired them; they were friends with everyone,” Netzach Yehuda Rabbi Yehuda Fuchs told Arutz Sheva. “To hear that guys like that, boys who were so full of energy, happy, upbeat, have fallen is indescribably painful. I met now with their friends; everyone is in terrible shock.” The attacks came amid an upsurge of terrorism in the Binyamin area. Earlier in the week, a terrorist opened fire at a hitchhiking stop in Ofra, only a mile away from the attack in Givat Assaf. Seven people were injured in the shooting, including 21-year-old Shira Ish-Ran, who was 30 weeks pregnant with her first child. Doctors worked feverishly to save Ish-Ran’s child after performing an emergency c-section but he tragically passed away four days later. Another soldier from Netzach Yehuda was also seriously injured a day later after he was stabbed by a terrorist in Bet El. The IDF has sent more troops to the area amid fears that a third intifada is underway.

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Journalist Who Survived Auschwitz Passes Away

Noah Klieger, a Holocaust survivor who went on to become a prominent journalist, passed away at the age of 92 in Israel last week after battling heart problems. Born in France, Klieger had been sent to the Auschwitz death camp as a child and was selected for the gas chambers. Klieger managed to talk his way out of certain death by convincing the infamous Dr. Joseph Mengele that he was an accomplished

boxer. Klieger’s fictitious boxing career enabled him to join the death camp’s boxing team, which enjoyed better conditions than their unfortunate brethren. Following the camp’s liberation, Klieger moved to Israel and fought in the War of Independence in 1948. Klieger went on to become a celebrated journalist for Israel’s Yediot Aharonot newspaper, authoring a number of books and a weekly column that ran for over 45 years. Due to his personal experience, Klieger was known as one of Israel’s most preeminent authorities on the Holocaust and covered the trials of Adolph Eichmann and John Demjanjuk, otherwise known as “Ivan the Terrible.” Klieger also covered the trials of other prominent Nazis in Europe. In 2016, Klieger related his own personal story before the United Nations General Assembly. Recounting his hellish experiences at the hands of the Nazis, the journalist said that he was determined to live as long as he could in order to tell others what he went through. “When I tell the story, people do not believe me. This chapter is not over. I’m in my 90s and I work for Yedioth Ahronoth. I was born as a journalist and I will die as a journalist,” Klieger told the UN. “The only thing I could do in Auschwitz was to dream knowing that I could never realize them,” Klieger. continued. “When I was in Auschwitz, I had three dreams: the first was, of course, to survive this hell on earth, and I was convinced that I would not because no Jew was brought to this camp to survive, only a few. “The second was that I would survive because I had to. My mission is to tell as many people as possible what the Nazis did to the Jews, and for 60 years I have been speaking in Israel and all over the world,” Klieger added. “My third dream was to assist the Jews regain their land from which they were expelled into exile. This dream was realized in Israel, our Jewish historic homeland. I am very proud that I have achieved all my dreams.”


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Last week, Israeli Special Forces killed the terrorist responsible for a shooting attack at the Barkan Industrial Zone in October, capping off an intensive two-month long manhunt. The Israeli Police’s elite Yamam unit had closed in on Ashraf Na’alowa at a factory near Nablus. After Na’alowa had refused to give himself up, Yamam commandos opened fire and killed him after a short firefight. The Shin Bet security service said in a statement that Na’alowa was about to commit another terror attack, something “which was prevented with the

thwarting of the assailant.” Na’alowa had tied up Kim Levengrond Yehezkel and Ziv Hajbi on October 7 at the Barkan Industrial Zone in Samaria where he worked before escaping. Na’alowa managed to evade an intensive manhunt for more than two months before security forces finally tracked him down. Na’alowa’s mother, father, and brother were already indicted by the IDF for being aware of his murderous plans, yet failing to alert authorities. Na’alowa’s father also attempted to prevent the Shin Bet from uncovering his whereabouts by hiding his car and destroying closed circuit television footage surrounding their home in the Palestinian city of Tulkarem. The successful operation came hours after Yamam killed one of the terrorists responsible for the shooting attack in Ofra a few days earlier that led to the emergency delivery and subsequent passing of an unborn baby. The families of the Barkan attack victims praised the successful liquidation of the person who had taken their loved ones but decried what they said was the government’s lax policies to-

wards terrorism. “This won’t bring back Kim or Ziv, but I had preferred that the terrorist not be caught alive,” Levengrond’s husband told Hadashot News. “He would’ve been jailed and released in ten years with an academic degree, so this is a small consolation. I never thought it would take this long.” “It’s not consolation, but there is relief that the murderer of my son is no longer alive,” Hajbi’s father added in an interview with Ynet. “We feared he would be captured alive and then we would have to deal with him in court. So I’m happy they killed him.”

Cancer is Israel’s Biggest Killer A new study has found that cancer is responsible for the most amount of deaths in Israel, followed by heart disease and diabetes. According to the report, which was compiled by the Central Bureau of Statistics, 43,966 Israelis passed away

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Wildlife officers interviewed suspects from Missouri, Kansas, Nebraska and Canada, tying 14 Missouri residents to more than 230 charges across 11 counties. Berry was arrested on August 31, 2016, alongside David Berry Sr. and Kyle Berry after an almost nine-month investigation, and other Missouri residents were ordered to appear in court on related charges, most having to do with illegally taking deer. Charges from this group alone to-

tal more than 300 in state, federal and international jurisdictions. Perhaps the prison should rent out a movie theater for all these felons to watch the classic film.

No Fly Fish Lanice Powless was left fish-less while boarding a Southwest Airlines flight in Denver. The airline told the

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the slippery pet, the airline said that only small animals that can fit under a seat can be brought onboard. Fish can be brought on planes as carryon luggage, according to the TSA. The airline did not allow Powless to leave the fish for someone to pick it up. Instead, Powless found a passenger on another airline to take her fish for her. She said she doesn’t have that person’s name or contact information, so she doesn’t know how she’ll get her pet back. Southwest representatives said they offered to book Powless on a later flight; she insisted on flying on her originally scheduled flight. Powless is home for the holidays but said it won’t be a happy time. “Everyone’s laughing at me,” she told KGTV. “Yes, it’s a fish. I know. But dang, it was my pet. And just because it wasn’t a cat or dog, it wasn’t as important?” In August, Southwest Airlines announced it was limiting passengers to one emotional support animal per person ― and only dogs and cats are permitted. Sounds like Powless is like a fish out of water with her fish.

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is only the second time this has happened,” Antosh said. Despite its worth, Antosh is going to hold onto this prized possession. He hopes it will bring him good luck. The chance of a pearl forming in an oyster is estimated at 1 in every 10,000. It usually occurs when a piece of sand gets in the shell.

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Thieves better beware. Mark Rober is on your case, and it’s not going to be pretty if you start up with him. The former NASA engineer spent six months perfecting the perfect booby-trooped package for would-be thieves who snatch deliveries off people’s porches.

Rober said in a YouTube video that he was inspired to take matters into his own hands earlier this year when an Amazon package was stolen from his porch and police told him they didn’t have time to investigate the theft. “If you’ve ever been a situation like this, you just feel violated,” Rober says in the video. “I just felt like something needs to be done to take a stand against dishonest punks like this.” Rober developed a package that covers anyone who opens it in glitter and envelops them in a sulfurous smell. In other words, steal Rober’s package and you’ll end up smelling like bad eggs and shining like a sixyear-old at their birthday party – not a good way to spend your day. Rober left the packages on some friends’ porches to bait thieves, and the resulting instant karma was captured on video by phones hidden inside the boxes, which Rober said were quickly abandoned by the thieves once the traps were discovered. “So the moral of the story is: just don’t take other people’s stuff. Not

only is not cool, but on the plus side, you’ll never find yourself in this situation,” Rober says. Um, Mr. Rober, I need some of those packages for my porch – pronto.

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As Yaakov was about to proceed to confer his blessing upon Efraim and Menashe, the children of Yosef, a strange exchange takes place between Yosef and his father. Yaakov asks incredulously, ‫מי אלה‬ )‫(בראשית מח ח‬, “Who are these?” Yosef bewilderedly responds, ‫בני‬ )‫הם אשר נתן לי אלקים בזה (שם שם ט‬, “These are my sons who G-d has given me here.” After this terse exchange Yaakov

continues with his original intention and blesses them. Was this Yaakov’s first encounter with his grandchildren that he couldn’t identify them? Rashi indicates that Yaakov actually had no difficulty in recognizing them. His hesitance rather stemmed from a sudden prophetic revelation that disclosed to him that the future wicked kings, Yerovam, Achav and Yehu would descend from these chil-

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the rest is history, begetting children and restoring his legacy. This dialogue is strikingly parallel to the one between Yosef and his father. Yaakov echoes Chizkiyahu’s concern and questions whether indeed he should play any supportive role in the future wicked children that are to be born. Just as Chizkiyahu seeks to refrain from marrying and bringing wicked children into the world, so too Yaakov recedes from granting them blessing. In a strikingly similar response to that of the Prophet Yeshayahu, Yosef asserts with great flourish, raising his documents in hand: “Here is the testament to my having done everything, precisely according to the traditions of our Torah.” Echoing the exact sentiment the prophet would one day declare before the king, Yosef intimates: “Why, father, are you calculating excuses justifying your reluctance to bless them?” What do you have to do with the secrets of the Merciful One? “Haven’t I acted in accord within the precise guidelines of Torah as evidenced in my marriage document?” You should do what is commanded to you... “Cheshbonos have no place where one follows loyally the word of G-d, don’t interfere with G-d’s doings.” ...and the things that are up to the Holy One, let Him do. Yosef was absolutely correct, as was the prophet, and Yaakov, as Chizkiyahu, relents, going on to fulfill his duty and obligation to bestow his blessing upon Efraim and Menashe without “chesbonos”, unequivocally. The Book of Bereishis began with the descent of Adam, when he and Chava resorted to all sorts of justifications to abrogate the very first command. It aptly ends with the reaffirmation of the vital principle to do what we must and rely on G-d for the rest. So often in life we face similar situations, rationalizing our reluctance to commit to what we really should, finding “good excuses” not to. If we want to deserve G-d’s blessing we must live without “chesbonos”! As long as we fulfill our end of the bargain dutifully we are guaranteed that G-d will take care of the rest.


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ecently, I was out driving on the highway during a rainstorm. I signaled right and started to switch lanes. The problem was that, due to low visibility, I failed to see a van that was moving into the same space. Its tail swiped the front side of my car. For the next few days, I drove around with increased hesitation. Before turning, I would double and triple check. My driving speeds were down a few miles. In general, I was more cautious. After a while, however, I was back to my New York driver self, navigating the streets with (semi) reckless abandon. It’s common for people who experience a setback to be more cautious the next time. The problem is, many folks will often view a single failure as an indictment on past efforts and not try again. For example, they make a large number of sales calls that don’t convert. Or they produce a product, service or program that they believe will sell and get almost no response. So, they quickly throw in the towel and give up. While there is merit to failing fast, which encourages us to quickly identify when an approach won’t work and move on before investing large quantities of time, capital, and other resources, we also need to be able to persevere in the face of adversity and try again when the situation calls for it. In Think and Grow Rich, author Napoleon Hill tells the story of a man who traveled from his home in Maryland to Colorado in pursuit of gold. After weeks of labor, he was rewarded by the discovery of the shining ore. He needed machinery to

bring the ore to the surface. Quietly, he covered up the mine, retraced his footsteps to his home, and told his relatives and a few neighbors of the “strike.” They got together money for the needed machinery and had it shipped. He and his nephew went back to work the mine. The first car of ore was mined and shipped to a smelter. The returns proved they had one of the richest mines in Colorado! A few more cars of that ore would clear the debts. Then

drilling. That is exactly where it was found. The “junkman” took millions of dollars in ore from the mine, because he knew enough to seek expert counsel before giving up. The question is, how do we know that we need to buckle down and give it another go or when it’s time to cut our losses and move on? Here are some questions that can give you clarity: 1. Do you offer a product people

His calculation showed that the vein would be found just three feet from where the others had stopped drilling.

would come the big profits. Down went the drills. Up went the miners’ hopes. Suddenly, the vein of gold ore disappeared. They drilled on, desperately trying to pick up the vein again, all to no avail. Finally, they decided to quit. They sold the machinery to a junkman for a few hundred dollars and took the train back home. The junkman called in a mining engineer to look at the mine and do a little calculating. The engineer advised that the project had failed because the miners were not familiar with fault lines. His calculations showed that the vein would be found just three feet from where the others had stopped

are willing to pay for? If you’ve done your research and people said that they would pay for what you’re making/selling, then you may be closer to succeeding than your initial sales indicate. Try to determine what prevented them from stepping forward the first time and adjust your approach accordingly. 2. Are you making progress? Use the business goals that you set and measure your progress. The benchmarks you set for your venture should give you an idea of your progress. 3. Are you/can you be better than your competition? You don’t have to be much better. Just 1 or 2% will suffice. And it can be in your service as

much as your product. 4. Have you cultivated die-hard fans? If you can’t even get a small group of people to love your product, there is almost no chance that your business will succeed. 5. How passionate are you about your business? Without passion, you will most likely fail. If you are not getting pleasure out of your business, it may be time to try something else. No matter how much you love your business, there will be ups and downs. Passion helps you get over the downs, and there are many. 6. Is your business relationships-based? The more that your product or service depends on how much trust people need to have in what you’re offering, the longer it will typically take for you to gain traction. 7. How would you advise someone else? It’s often much easier to look at your situation objectively when you take a step back and remove the emotional triggers, such as how much time, effort and emotion you’ve already invested. 8. Is it in you? Much of success is based on your capacity to push ahead. If you don’t have the skills required, can you build the team that does? If you don’t have the right connections, can you hustle to open the right doors? Rabbi Naphtali Hoff, PsyD, is an executive coach and President of Impactful Coaching & Consulting. For a free, no obligation consultation, please call 212-470-6139 or email nhoff@impactfulcoaching.com. Check out his new leadership book, “Becoming the New Boss,” on Amazon. Download his free eBook for understaffed leaders at ImpactfulCoaching.com/EPIC.


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here are many smart security cameras on the market. Nest is a popular brand offering cameras at $199 and $299. Netgear, another popular brand, offers the Arlo camera at $199, while Amazon offers the Cloud Cam for $119. Nest requires a subscrip-

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which are saved for 14-days without a subscription. That is a huge advantage over some other services that charge hefty fees for a similar feature. I found the motion sensor to be accurate, detecting primarily actual movement. Occasionally, I received empty motion clips that seemed to be triggered by cloud movements and shadows. There is a sensitivity option that I dialed down to address this. The sound clips did not seem very helpful, in my experience, though I did discover that houses make sounds — be it the air conditioning or heating or the refrigerator compressor switching on. I dialed down the sound sensor drastically, hoping it would still capture a glass breakage or other loud sounds and not be sensitive to the rest. There is a separate smoke and carbon monoxide alarm sensor that will notify you if any of your external house alarms are triggered, which can be very helpful in a real emergency. The camera also has wide-angle (110 degree) viewing capabilities. When I placed it in my foyer, I was able to monitor both my front and side doors simultaneously, since they are set at a 90-degree angle from each other. If you require coverage of angles wider than 110 degrees, you can use two cameras and daisy chain from one power source to multiple cameras, avoiding extra wires. There is also a night vision mode that I set to auto; it produces high quality videos even with all the lights in the house switched off.


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smart home devices. When speaking with halachic authorities, the common opinion is that triggering motion detection that is not for your benefit is not a problem. (Please consult with your rav about this topic.) However, where the trigger is for your benefit it can be problematic. For example, if your neighbor’s motion light sensors are triggered when you pass on your way

In a previous article, I quoted rabbinic authorities who believe keeping an Amazon Echo listening in your home on Shabbat is problematic for similar reasons (see tribetechreview.wordpress. com for archives). The app allows for turning off the motion detection at certain times during the day but does not allow you to choose the day of the week or to

My wife Bibi’s reaction was, “Wow, this camera is cute.”

home, this may not be an issue since the motion detection is for your neighbor’s benefit and not yours. However, setting up a motion sensitive camera in your own home is clearly for your benefit and this may not be permissible if it will trigger events on Shabbat.

choose times based on sunset for Shabbat. Plugging the camera into a smart switch that turns the entire camera off for Shabbat is a solution (one that I previously recommended for the Amazon Echo, itself). I did this for a while, and it rebooted after Shabbat without issue.

However, I wanted to find a way to keep the safety of the recording going 24/7 but to just turn off the motion detection triggers over Shabbat and yom tov. I believe I have found a solution and it is a solution that may work for other smart device integrations. It is a bit elaborate, so it will require a second article. Please visit my blog at tribetechreview.wordpress.com or stay tuned for Part II in two weeks’ time. Shabbat shalom!

Dov Pavel is a tech enthusiast who reviews personal technology and home automation through the lens of a shomer Shabbos consumer. He is not affiliated with any of the companies whose products he reviews and the opinions he expresses are solely his own. Dov is not a halachic authority and readers should consult their own rabbi as needed. Dov lives in Teaneck with his wife and three children. Previous articles an be found at TribeTechReview.com. Follow @ TribeTechReview on Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn.

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1. On December 21, 1968, Apollo 8 was the first U.S. mission to orbit the moon. How many astronauts were on the Apollo 8?

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4. Apollo 8’s journey across the Atlantic Ocean took only minutes. After settling into orbit around Earth, the crew of Apollo 8 received the “go” from NASA for trans-lunar injection. This meant they were clear to fire their engines and aim for the moon. But 18 hours after launch there was a problem that almost caused the mission to abort. What happened?

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4. A- The commander felt better after getflight tomorrow, you’ll burn 10 times more fuel than I did all the way to Paris,” referring to his historic solo flight over the Atlantic Ocean.

ting some sleep, but as a precaution, the other crewmembers radioed to Earth on a private channel and explained Borman’s predicament. NASA performed a private medical consultation for Bor-

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Peter Morgan, an author, said, “No family is complete without an embarrassing uncle.” We have too many embarrassing uncles in the United States Senate. -Sen. Claire McCaskill (D-MI) in her farewell address after losing her election

- NASA spokesman Allard Beutel responding to NBA superstar Stephen Curry who said in a recent podcast that he does not believe the U.S. really landed on the moon in 1969

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I have noticed that Junior here has a habit of posting nonsense about me whenever the Mueller investigation heats up. Please, keep it coming, Jr. – it’s definitely a “very, very large brain” idea to troll a member of a body that will have subpoena power in a month. - Socialist Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez threatening to abuse the powers of her elected office to retaliate against Donald Trump Jr., after the president’s son trolled her on his personal Instagram account

He was thanking me for a birthday to remember…. He said it made him and his wife cry, and he said, “I am so glad we were on the same flight.” - Kelsey Rae Zwick – who was switched to first class while flying with her sick 11-month-old daughter from Florida to a hospital in Philadelphia after a first class passenger asked the flight attendant to give Zwick his seat – recalling what the man, whom she did not cross paths with on the plane, told her when she was finally able to talk to him on the phone several days later after the random act of kindness went viral

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I served in the IDF and became religious after the Yom Kippur War. I am an Israeli; I am the product of a crisis in secular Israeli society. I understand that everyone has to live by his faith and values, but mutual respect must be preserved – this hatred must end. It is impossible to build a home and a state like this. Beyond all the arguments, why do we only meet after a bereavement and say, “We are brothers”? Let’s meet at celebrations. - Rabbi Eliyahu Merav, the stepfather of Yossi Cohen, one of the soldiers who fell in the shooting attack at the Givat Asaf junction last week

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What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

My mother has always been beyond meticulous with her research before she allows me to be set up with anyone. Until someone is given the green light it can take a while, but I have still managed to go out quite a bit. Not too long ago, I was permitted to be set up with Chaim. We’ve gone out a few times, and he seems to have a lot of potential for me.

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When I got home Sunday evening from a date with Chaim, my parents were waiting for me and told me that they had something very important to discuss with me right away. From the look on their faces, I thought, G-d forbid, that someone had died. They seemed very serious and concerned. Basically, what they needed to talk about was the fact that it had just come to their attention that Chaim’s parents did not have a great marriage. In fact, “rumor” had it that they were possibly on the verge of divorce. My mother has always been very concerned with me marrying someone who came from a home where shalom bayis was very important. My parents’ feelings are that if someone is raised in a home with lots of fighting, they will be unable to know how to be a good husband to me because fighting will be what they consider the norm. And since Chaim – my mother now knows – does not come from a peaceful home, how will he ever know how to be a good husband? My parents both then urged me to end things with Chaim. I hear what they’re saying, and it makes sense to me, but I wonder if they are entirely correct. Chaim seems like an easygoing, considerate, eager-to-please person. Can’t someone come from a chaotic background and still be capable of having a great, successful marriage? I’ve been able to put Chaim on hold with the holidays, claiming that I’m too busy to date right now. The fact is that I would hate to let Chaim go at this point because I really do like him. But I’m curious whether the panel agrees that you stay away from anyone who is coming from a home lacking in shalom bayis.

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The Panel The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. hile I understand that your parents are concerned about Chaim’s relationship and communication skills that may affect him in a marriage, what’s important is the answers to related follow-up questions. The question really is: has Chaim been exposed to healthy relationships in a marriage outside of his parental home? How are his relationships with roommates? Camp friends? Bunkmates? How does he handle conflict? Does he withdraw, negotiate, attack, or become defensive? Is he a growing person? Does he confide in a mentor? Discuss relationships with someone skilled? These are more important than the fact that his parents have shalom bayis issues. The fact that you have already dated Chaim and like him will give you a basis to explore these questions with hm. You now have a roadmap. I will also share some insights from some experiences I have had as a longtime volunteer with Sister to Sister, the network for Orthodox divorcees. As a facilitator on a panel on shidduchim at one of their annual weekend retreats, we heard concerns about labels and dating challenges of children of divorced parents. Experienced mothers whose children were married shared their experiences. They said that people want to know whether their children have been exposed to wholesome marriages and relationships outside their own divorced families. They also shared that people want to know if the children have been in therapy and/or dealt successfully with the divorce. Other questions that comes up in the inquiry process is whether the divorced parents maintain a decent relationship and whether the child has a good relationship with each parent.

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In a talk by Dr. David Pelcovitz to therapists and others connected with Sister to Sister several years ago about staying together for the sake of the children, he spoke on the long-term effects of divorce in the frum community. He mentioned some markers of success – financial stability, marriage, etc. used in the general community and shared that the research shows that people who are children of divorce are just as likely to succeed as the general population. I do not have the research data available to me but I do remember that he said that in our community it seemed that children of divorced parents are very vested in raising a healthy wholesome family and making things work. Children are harmed when they are in a very high conflict environment. To answer your question, I think that it is unfair to cancel out all those whose parents have or had shalom bayis issues. What is going on in the home and what the young person is like are really more germane questions.

The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A. orry to inform you, Chaim is history. Your mother has completed her meticulous research, swallowed the gossip and hearsay, sniffed out the “D” word, and decided that Chaim is disqualified. No one on our panel will dispute that a couple’s shalom bayis is fundamental for the future marital health of their offspring. So are other middos like kindness, yiras Shomayim, work ethic, generosity, sense of humor – the list goes on – traits that a person may have inherited from his parents or has developed on his own. It’s the old nature vs. nurture debate. Some of

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the most loving spouses I know are the progeny of a divorced home. By the same token, some of the most despicable characters I have met stem from intact, “prominent” families. Too often yechus serves as a smokescreen for mediocrity. Going forward, I advise your mother, the forensics expert, to proceed with caution when doing her checking. Find out about the family, sure, but place greater emphasis on a young man’s personal reputation – his menschlechkeit, temperament and maturity. Bear in mind, a shidduch is like a beautiful package – the wrapping (family, financial standing) can be alluring, but it’s what’s inside (the essence of a person) that counts.

Can’t someone come from a chaotic background and still be capable of having a great, successful marriage?

Speak to him about your predicament and seek his counsel on how to proceed with Chaim, while also keeping your parents happy. Hatzlacha!

The Shadchan Michelle Mond his is a perfect example of the adage, “Man plans, G-d laughs.” Your parents did deep research to make sure all your suitors come from perfect homes, and now that you are dating someone seriously secrets have come to light about this particular family. You do not mention anything that you are concerned about with Chaim, but are feeling pressured to end the shidduch nonetheless. There are people who come from all different types of homes who manage to get married and have happy marriages. It is true that people who come from troubled homes have a harder time managing a happy marriage, but it is possible. The key is to find out if the man you are dating has worked on himself, is personally happy, and is emotionally healthy. Your parents are truly doing what they feel is best for you but if you really feel passionate about this shidduch, I recommend you reach out to your family’s rav.

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arning: I have very strong feelings about this subject at-large. If you were a new client of mine and came into the office, I would not necessarily share my personal views on this matter. I would help you process your feelings and help you figure out if you would feel comfortable proceeding. It would be all about you; helping you tease out your feelings from your parents’. Helping you explore any potential “hang-ups,” concerns, or fears about dating someone from a divorced home. This is a very personal decision, and you would have to do what feels right for you. Maybe it would be breaking up, or maybe it would be continuing to date Chaim and being at peace with dating someone from a divorced home. However, since I know I have an audience reading this paper, I feel I have an obligation to share my personal opinion. It is an opinion, and I am not trying to pass it off as a fact that everyone must agree with. In my opinion, I think that everyone who comes from a divorced home is just as worthy of being dated as everyone who comes from an intact family. When I meet with men and women who come from divorced homes, or have any kind of story that is not societal per-

fection, my heart breaks for them, as they have to deal with rejection after rejection over something that was not their doing. They carry this burden around and feel “less than” or ashamed as people research their families. It absolutely breaks my heart! My goal is always to help them heal their shame and be able to live life with their heads held high. Some of the most fabulous people I know, both personally and professionally, come from divorced homes. They saw what didn’t work in their parents’ marriages, and they devoted their lives to their own personal growth and having their own healthy marriages. Are there people from divorced homes who were negatively impacted and are not ready to be a healthy partner to someone? Of course. Are there people from intact families who were negatively impacted, or weren’t but who have their own meshugas and are not ready to be a healthy partner to someone? Of course. There are a lot of couples who stay together until they marry off their children. They are not happy, and there was oodles of dysfunction and toxicity that greatly impacted

you believe that he can very possibly be your bashert, you may want to visit a dating coach, once or twice, just to openly discuss your parents’ concerns about his upbringing. This way, both you and your parents can be reassured that Chaim is the real deal and that he is not an extension of his parents.

their children. But because they are “married,” the package looks nice and pretty. Sometimes, when a marriage is toxic, the healthiest decision is to divorce and the kids benefit from the shalom that then ensues. It is my belief that every individual should be given a chance. It may turn out that Chaim is not the guy for you – or he may be Mr. Right! The only way to find out is to give him a chance. Keep your eyes open, as I would suggest to anyone dating, for red flags: being inconsiderate, selfish with his time, emotionally shut down, drinking or drugging, secrecy, lack of motivation, bad relationships with others, and a mentality that everything is everyone else’s fault, etc. Keep your eyes open for wonderful, healthy traits as well: happiness, fulfillment, chein, eager to please, attentive, growth-oriented, and healthy relationships with people, food and alcohol. I understand your parents’ concern for you. I really do. From a very practical perspective, I ask, To what end? Do concerns begin and end with a divorced family? Or do we not date people with family members with learning disabilities, addiction, cognitive impairments, physical limitations, financial limitations, a father’s “wild past,” etc.? Are we looking to mate with perfection? Sometimes this all feels very Darwin’s Law of Evolution by Natural Selection. Where does it stop? (By the way, this Darwinian feeling I have not only applies to the shid-

It is my belief that every individual should be given a chance.

duch crisis, but to the tuition crisis as well; with Orthodoxy becoming more and more like a rich man’s club that is not very understanding or welcoming to the “un-rich.” What are we doing to ourselves?) I typically do not present my strong feelings about a topic in my responses, and I am not looking to persuade you, the writer, into dating Chaim or not. It is a decision that you will have to reach. Is dating someone from an intact family a non-negotiable for you? You will decide. With shidduchim being as challenging as they are, this is my opportunity to ask for more open-mindedness, more sensitivity to those individuals who do not come from “perfect.” It’s a matter of will my imperfect match well with his imperfect? I leave you with lyrics from Leonard Cohen’s Anthem: “Ring the bells that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack, a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.” Just my opinion. All the best, Jennifer Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. Visit www.thenavidaters.com for more information. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.


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Your Guide to Healthy Shabbos Eating: Challah By Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN

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hen it comes to dieting many people feel the need to cut out bread completely. However, the right type of bread can actually be good for a diet. Certain breads fill you up with fiber and whole grains that your body benefits from. There’s no need to ban bread completely from your diet. Shabbos is a different story, though, especially since bread is an obligation for three meals on Shabbos. Even though bread shouldn’t be banned, the rationale behind skipping challah on Shabbos makes sense. Firstly, when you sit down for the Shabbos meal very hungry, chances are you will stuff your face with the first thing you get your hands on: challah. Overeating challah in general is a problem primarily because of the white flour and sugar and because chances are you don’t stop after one slice. After all, how could you when you’re served soft, freshly baked homemade challah with the sweet crumb topping?! However, an even bigger problem is that most people don’t just eat challah alone. Challah is generally doused in an array of dips. So not only are you getting all the calories from those five slices of challah, you’re also getting all the calories from the fatty, mayonnaise-based dips. Luckily, this problem can be avoided. I’m not going to ask you to cut out bread entirely on Shabbos because we know that is not going to happen. Stick with dietitian approved breads and portion sizes, and you’ll be okay.

If you insist on having your traditional white flour challah, one bite should be enough to be yotzei the bracha of hamotzi. If you must have a whole slice, have one thin slice. And stop there. (We’ll get to the dips conversation next week.) If you’re too tempted to eat more challah, remove it from the table. If you know that you cannot stop after one slice and simply “need” more challah, go for a healthier version. What can we use as a substitute for white-flour challah? The ideal would be whole grain challah. Whether buying from the bakery or baking it yourself, whole grain challah means that the grain is still intact and hasn’t been processed and essentially re-fortified. Whole grain challah (and bread) is rich in fiber which helps regulate digestion, lowers cholesterol levels, and helps keep you fuller for longer. Whole grains have been found to reduce your risk for heart disease, diabetes, and even assist in weight management and weight loss. If you really want to get the health benefits, try eating sprouted whole grain bread at your Shabbos meal. Sprouted grains convert some of their starch to protein, vitamins, and minerals, so breads made with them tend to be more nutrient-dense than non-sprouted breads. Sprouted whole grains have been found to fight against diabetes, cardiovascular disease, fatty liver disease, and high blood pressure. The most popular type of sprouted bread is Ezekiel bread.

If sprouted whole grain bread sounds too daring for you, go with whole what bread. Whole wheat bread falls behind sprouted whole grain bread but it’s still a great choice. Look for any whole wheat bread that has less than 20 grams of carbs per slice. Ideally, look for a slice of bread that has no more than 110 calories per serving. Additionally, look for bread with more than three grams of fiber – greater than 3 grams of fiber is considered a good source and greater than 5 grams is considered an excellent source of fiber. Filling up on fiber especially at the beginning of the Shabbos meal can do you a whole lot of good. Furthermore, any bread that has ingredients like flaxseed, sunflower seeds, pumpkin seeds, and sesame seeds ought to have a high protein count. Pick a bread that has three or more grams of protein. Protein is equally important as fiber when it comes to dieting. Stay away from bread that has saturated fat and more than four grams of sugar. Some people feel that bread is too addictive and thus dangerous for their diets and that they don’t find matzah as tempting. The truth is that bread and matzah are made of mostly the same ingredients; their nutritional facts are very similar. The omission of yeast or baking soda will have no nutritional impact. One nutritional difference between the two is that matzah has more calories and grams of carbohydrates per serving than bread due to its density. Matzah also has a higher glycemic index, making

it a poor choice for diabetics. Matzah is also highly processed and has a lot of sodium. Since matzah is so thin and not as dense as bread, it is also less filling than bread. However, one advantage over bread is that matzah has more protein and more fiber. But then again, if you choose a bread that is high in fiber and protein, you’ll get the same benefits as matzah without all the added calories and grams of carbohydrates. On Shabbos, as you start your meal, you can choose to either have challah, which may require a lot of self-control, or you can choose from any of the healthier options and enjoy a little more than just a taste. Either way, don’t think that because you’re eating whole grain challah you can have five slices at the meal. Whole grain challah still has calories. Try to have no more than two slices of challah by each meal. Even healthier foods have to be eaten in moderation. And remember: don’t fill up on challah – you still have a whole meal ahead of you. Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN, is a Master’s level Registered Dietitian and Certified Dietitian-Nutritionist. She graduated CUNY Brooklyn College receiving a Bachelor’s in Science and Master’s degree in Nutrition and Food Sciences. She is currently a dietitian at Boro Park Center and a private nutrition consultant in Brooklyn and in the Five Towns. She can be reached at CindyWeinberger1@gmail.com.


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For Taiwan, the “Status Quo” is an Increasingly Delicate Balancing Act By David Ignatius

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f you like betting on embattled underdogs, President Tsai Ingwen is worth a look. She’s tempting the wrath of her powerful neighbor in mainland China by arguing that Taiwan must maintain its own open culture, democratic values, and, yes, its sovereignty. Tsai is a petite woman, dressed in a plain black suit, who speaks the careful language of a Cornell-educated lawyer. But her low-key message of self-determination makes her something of a rebel in an Asia where China’s autocratic President Xi Jinping is an increasingly dominant presence. Tsai’s modest demand is to preserve the status quo in Taiwan – namely, the ambiguous formula that allows Taipei and Beijing to agree that there is one China, and that Taiwan is part of it, but allows them, while waiting for an eventual “peaceful settlement,” to go their semi-separate ways. Like nearly every Taiwanese I met during a visit here this week, Tsai affirmed this “status quo.” Never has the bland phrase sounded so luminous. To the Taiwanese, it means freedom and a kind of quasi-independence, so that the island continues to benefit from its cultural and economic ties with a rising China but isn’t subjugated by Beijing’s authoritarian

political system. Tsai describes herself as a “balancer” in a world where Taiwan is caught between two battling giants, China and America. She explains Taiwan’s dilemma: “China is here, and the U.S. is far away. When you have a big neighbor, you have a reality to face. People here like the U.S. because it’s a democracy and it’s affluent. On security issues, we work with democracies such as the U.S. And on trade, we still consider China an equally important partner.” Not exactly revolutionary stuff, but as the trade war intensifies between Washington and Beijing, it’s getting harder for the pragmatic balancers to keep their footing. Tsai and her Democratic Progressive Party have faced a barrage of criticism from Beijing since her election in 2016, including what her advisers say was a calculated effort to meddle in last month’s local elections, which Tsai’s party lost badly to a pro-Beijing slate. Tsai blames that recent political defeat on domestic issues that “are not universally popular” – such as pension and labor-law reform – rather than on the great game between Beijing and Washington. The real political test will come in Taiwan’s 2020 presidential elections, when many predict Beijing

will push for a more China-friendly government. Security officials here have prepared a detailed factsheet showing how Beijing directs money, social media and political action to back pro-China candidates. Argues Tsai: “People will be more mindful of Chinese influence [after last month’s local elections], and they will be more careful. This is a test of the maturity of Taiwanese democracy. This is about sovereignty, and whether we want to bow to China.” Taiwan’s deeper problem is that U.S.-China engagement, launched by a 1972 communique and its ambiguous language on Taiwan, is giving way to a new strategic consensus that China and America are headed for “competitive coexistence,” as Jake Sullivan, Hillary Clinton’s top foreign policy adviser in 2016, describes it. My fear is that in this more combative world, typified by recent news that the Trump administration will condemn China for its hacking and economic espionage, there may be less space for Taiwan’s straddle – and more pressure on Taipei to accept Beijing’s line. A senior Taiwanese official explains what he fears is ahead: “Xi is a disciple of Sun Tzu’s line: To win a war without launching a battle. That is what Xi is trying to do with Tai-

wan. He’s aiming at a 2014 Crimea solution, by using hybrid tactics against Taiwan.” What can America do to help Taiwan, whose plucky spirit is impossible not to admire? One thing is simply to pay more attention to the island, which exists in a kind of political netherworld. That was one purpose of the bipartisan trip here this week organized by the German Marshall Fund and led by Sullivan, which I accompanied. (I’m a GMF trustee.) What else makes sense, if you’re betting on the underdog? America should think about signing a free trade agreement with Taiwan, which could encourage other countries to do the same. Hopefully, China won’t seek a military confrontation. “I don’t think Xi is there yet,” said Tsai. “He thinks there are other ways to attain the same objective.” Sometimes just treading water is the best strategy. As Tan Sun Chen, head of a government-linked think tank here called the Prospect Foundation, told us: “Status quo is a major word. It means we get to preserve our country. If we say ‘independence,’ that goes too far.” That sense of balance has allowed Taiwan to survive. (c) 2018, Washington Post Writers Group


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The Pain of Rejection By Rabbi Azriel Hauptman

Sarah expected to be accepted into the high school of her choice. After all, she had excellent grades and came from a nice family. She was shocked when she received an apologetic letter from that school informing her that she was not accepted. Sarah was completely blindsided and fell into a depression. She lost her appetite, had trouble sleeping and became very irritable. Her parents were surprised by

her reaction. It is certainly painful to not attend one’s school of choice, but why was she overreacting? Before we even attempt to explain Sarah’s reaction we must first point out that a similar reaction is recorded in the Gemara (Taanis 23a) concerning the great Tanna, Choni Hama’agel. The Gemara relates that Choni fell into a slumber that lasted many years. Not knowing where he

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was, his community assumed that he died. When he woke up many years later, he was not recognized by the new generation. (This was before the advent of Gedolim pictures!) He came to the Bais Hamedrash and said, “I am Choni Hama’agel!” Nobody believed him and therefore did not accord him the respect that he deserved. He felt so dejected that he davened to Hashem that he should die and Hashem accepted his prayers! The great Amora, Rava, said that from here arose the adage, “Either companionship or death.” There are many profound lessons to be learned from this Gemara. One of these lessons is that it is extremely painful to not have your true value recognized by others. Why indeed is this true? Why do we feel such emotional pain when our standing in our social circle is jeopardized? Isn’t is enough that we know our own self-worth? As with human nature in general, it is not always easy to understand our behavior. We do know that Hashem created us with an innate desire to be part of a group. This is why solitary confinement is considered a form of torture. Belonging to a group is beneficial for our survival, as raising families, doing Mitzvos, and making a living cannot be properly accomplished when we are isolated. Once we have this need to be connected to a group, our sense of value and worth become intertwined with membership in that group. When we are not allowed to be part of our group of choice, we are not simply being denied the benefits of being a member of that group. Rather, we are receiving a message that we are not desirable and do not have value. The intellectual knowledge that

the cause of this specific rejection was not due to our value and worth does not necessarily diminish the emotional pain. Our emotions judge a situation without heeding our intelligence and therefore the feelings of rejection can be felt acutely even when we fully understand the real reason for not being accepted. In Sarah’s case, the knowledge that there were simply too many qualified applicants and that someone needed to be denied acceptance does not prevent the pain of rejection from consuming her. Some people, such as Sarah, internalize rejection. This reaction leads to depression and other internal emotions. Another reaction would be to externalize the rejection by viewing those who rejected him as being very mean people. This reaction can lead to aggression. Someone who is already dealing with a mental health disorder is especially at risk, since the disorder can make one predisposed to experiencing trauma from the rejection and that the rejection can exacerbate those preexisting conditions. The understanding that rejection is painful should help us feel compassion for those who are experiencing that pain. It should also inspire us to reach out more to our friends, families, and neighbors. The more people we befriend, the fewer will have to suffer rejection. This is a service of Relief Resources. Relief is an organization that provides mental health referrals, education, and support to the frum community. Rabbi Yisrael Slansky is director of the Baltimore branch of Relief. He can be contacted at 410-448-8356 or at yslansky@reliefhelp.org


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s the title implies, this article deals with my trip to Romania, the first time in 1980. Between 1978 and 1979, I had already traveled to Eastern Europe and the Soviet Union three times – once with Pesi and twice alone. Each trip involved different missions, of which I will share in future

columns. Being the quintessential sightseer, I always sought out tourist attractions and was keenly interested in each country’s history and culture. Pesi and I shared an interest in visiting museums and historical sites, and we loved walking the streets to absorb the local flavor. We always brought home some me-

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mentos from the places we visited, toys for our children and folk art to display at home – nothing expensive, yet every item was attractive and distinctive. I remember coming home from Poland once, with an entire suitcase full of souvenirs, which cost less than fifty dollars in total! After returning from each trip, I would share my escapades with family and friends. On one occasion, a friend, who was always looking for new business ideas, approached me and asked if there were items that could be imported from Eastern Europe. He proposed financing my trip in exchange for me bringing back samples and then seeing if there was a market for them in the United States. I readily accepted his offer. I was never an entrepreneur, and this could be an opportunity to go into business and make some money! I set myself an itinerary to vis-

it Poland, Romania, Hungary and Czechoslovakia, and in New York met with the trade commissions of each of these countries before my trip. They set up appointments for me with various companies in each of those places. My first stop was in Poland, and I spent four days meeting with nine different exporters in Warsaw and Lodz. I chose various items, and they arranged to ship samples to me when I would return home. Besides the possibility of making a profit, the sensation of acting as a businessman gave me great satisfaction. Leaving Poland on Friday morning, my next stop was Bucharest, where I would spend Shabbos with the Jewish community. My parents were in Bucharest after the War, and now, 35 years later, so was I. Jewish life in Romania was very different from other Iron Curtain

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Although I was able to meet and talk to Rabbi Rosen, the person who impressed me most was a chassidishe rav, Rabbi Yitzchok Meyer Marilus, who spent a lot of time with me. He ate with me on Shabbos at the restaurant and told me of his difficulties and successes. He spoke

The new Jewish family after their geirus in Bucharest

From the hatofas dam milah of the grandfather, his three sons and one grandson, to the tevila of all the participants including two toddlers, the simcha was overwhelming.

of his loneliness and his longing for a Yiddishe environment. But he was determined to stay on, and his mesiras nefesh kept the flame burning. At one point during our conversation, Rav Marillus paused, and in a hushed tone told me that me coming to Bucharest was truly “min Hashamayim.” He said that there were ten members of a gentile family waiting to go through conversion, and they needed a third member for the bais din to proceed with this geirus. For many years Rabbi Rosen refused to allow any geirus to take place in Romania, fearing that the underlying reason was to emigrate, since Jews could get visas to go to Israel. After determining their sincerity to keep the Torah and join Klal Yisroel, he finally gave the family the green light to convert, although he himself was reluctant to officiate. Besides Rav Marilus there was the shochet/

mohel who would join me in the bais din. The males would not have to do a circumcision since the matriarch of the family, the grandmother, did it for them. She based it on her reading of the Torah when Tzipora sharpened a stone and circumcised Moshe Rabbeinu’s son, Eliezer. She did exactly the same thing for her entire family! The geirus was set for Sunday afternoon, and I would be the third dayan. I cannot begin to describe the joy this family displayed during the entire ceremony. From the hatofas dam milah of the grandfather, his three sons and one grandson, to the tevila of all the participants including two toddlers, the simcha was overwhelming. I was overcome with happiness, and yet my eyes were welled up with tears. We then helped them choose Jewish names, all coming from Torah personali-

ties, which they were quite familiar with. It was an experience I will never forget! We took photographs, and Rav Marilus and I gave our new Jewish family brachos for spiritual growth and successful lives. For the next ten days I continued meeting with manufacturers in Bucharest, Budapest, and Prague. Nothing ever happened with the import business that I wanted to launch. The dream of building a lucrative business may have eluded me, but my trip to Romania was a resounding success. Hershel Lieber has been involved in kiruv activities for over 30 years. As a founding member of the Vaad L’Hatzolas Nidchei Yisroel he has traveled with his wife, Pesi, to the Soviet Union during the harsh years of the Communist regimes to advance Yiddishkeit. He has spearheaded a yeshiva in the city of Kishinev that had 12 successful years with many students making Torah their way of life. In Poland, he lectured in the summers at the Ronald S. Lauder Foundation camp for nearly 30 years. He still travels to Warsaw every year – since 1979 – to be the chazzan for Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur for the Jews there. Together with Pesi, he organized and led trips to Europe on behalf of Gateways and Aish Hatorah for college students finding their paths to Jewish identity. His passion for travel has taken them to many interesting places and afforded them unique experiences. Their open home gave them opportunities to meet and develop relationships with a variety of people. Hershel’s column will appear in The Jewish Home on a bi-weekly basis.

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countries. There were four active synagogues in Bucharest, a mikvah, a community center with a kosher restaurant, a Yiddish theatre, a Yiddish-Romanian newspaper, and a small afternoon Talmud Torah for children. What was even more unusual was that Romania had diplomatic relations with Israel and allowed Jews to emigrate there. This was due in great part to Chief Rabbi Moshe Rosen, who had built a relationship with the Communist dictator Nicolai Ceausescu. To be sure, the rabbi did not have an easy time getting the government to approve his requests, but considering the situation of Jews in Eastern Europe at the time, Jewish life was far richer in Romania than in neighboring countries. Over Shabbos I davened in two different shuls and was asked both times to be the baal tefilla. One shul was called the “Malbim Shul,” because the Malbim davened there when he was chief rabbi of Bucharest. A few years later, as part of Ceausescu’s plan to redesign the city, the shul was razed and gone forever.

Hershel in the A.B. Zissu Shul where he was the baal tefila for kabbalas Shabbos

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Rav Yitzchok Meyer Marillus, z”l, the last of prewar rabbanim


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f you pay attention to financial news, you can’t escape hearing about Bitcoin and other cryptocurrencies. Bitcoin is just like country music, Justin Bieber, and pineapple on pizza — people either love it, or hate it, but there’s no middle ground. The billionaire Warren Buffet dismisses it as a “mirage,” a “Buck Rogers” phenomenon, and “rat poison squared.” But legions of fans see it someday replacing government-backed currencies. Odds are good that one of the millennials at your holiday table believes in Bitcoin as hopefully as they used to believe in Tooth Fairy. Just as Pinocchio always wanted to be a real boy, Bitcoin wants to be real money. That means accomplishing two goals. First, it has to serve as a store of value. You have to be confident that if you put something in, you’ll be able to get the same value out. And second, it has to serve as a medium of exchange. That means you have to be able to use it to pay for things just like you would use cash. So far, Bitcoin’s record in both areas is spotty. If you were one of the unfortunates who jumped into the market a year ago at $17,900, you’re

probably not feeling the love now that it’s collapsed to $4,000. Similarly, if you’ve tried to use it to pay for gas or groceries, you’ve probably gotten blank stares from the cashier. And so, at least until now, Bitcoin and its blockchain-based peers like Ethereum have made news mainly for their wild price fluctuations. But

team.) Treasurer Mandel, who at age 41 is young enough to consider himself an honorary millennial, is a longtime fan of the currency. But last month’s move is part of a broader effort to attract software engineers and tech startups to the state. “We’re doing this to plant the flag in Ohio

Just as Pinocchio always wanted to be a real boy, Bitcoin wants to be real money.

last month, Ohio Treasurer Josh Mandel announced the Buckeye State would become the first to accept Bitcoin for tax payments. For now, the program is limited to business filers, although they can use Bitcoin to pay for any type of tax. However, the state plans to expand the program to individuals down the road. (We’re not sure if that will happen before or after Ohio finally gets a decent professional football

as a national and international leader in blockchain technology,” said Mandel. Ohio has set up a website (of course) at OhioCr y pto.com to accept payments. They’ve engaged a company called Bitpay to process the transactions and convert the coins into cash. The fee for that service is just 1%, which is cheaper than using a credit card. Will virtual currencies someday

break through into the mainstream? At this point, who knows? (We’re still waiting for the flying cars we saw on The Jetsons — although Rosie the robot housekeeper is almost here, and you can buy a watch to make video calls with Mr. Spacely for $279.) And while Bitcoin itself is grabbing most of the cryptocurrency headlines, it may not be the ultimate winner. (Google wasn’t the first online search engine, either.) If recent trends are any guide, Bitcoin will remain a punchline until suddenly, one day, it’s not. Here’s the real bottom line of last month’s news. The world is changing — and, like it or not, we have to change with it. That’s true for tax professionals, too. The Flintstones may have been perfectly happy with someone telling them how much they owe. But the Jetsons want to know how to pay less. So make sure you have a plan so you can save money through 2019 and beyond!

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.


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