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OCTOBER 29, 2015 | The Jewish Home
Dating Dialogue
What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
Dear Navidaters,
I’m writing to your panel because I am at my wits’ end. My daughter is a young, beautiful woman with a ton going for her. Because she is not yet married, people (friends and even family) give the most outlandish advice to try and push us into uncomfortable situations. One example, which was the straw that broke the camel’s back, is the following.
Someone very close to us called multiple times. When my daughter finally answered, this person explained how she heard that a woman in the community lost her husband, r”l. Since
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this woman lost a relative, she told my daughter to go to the shiva house because the woman dabbles in shidduchim. These kind of bizarre “requests” from family and friends happen regularly. My question is: how do we respond to such comments? How can we show the person that their efforts to help are only hurting?
Thank you Mrs. T.*
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