The Paper April 19, 2012

Volume 43- No. 16

April 19, 2012

by lyle e davis There is this thing called Life.

It can be, and most often is, a wonderful experience.

It’s something each of us has but it’s also something that each of us will, at some point, lose.

While we need to continue to enjoy life to its fullest extent . . . we also need to prepare for that inevitable final stage.

Not only for our benefit, but for those we love.

Many North County residents, particularly in Escondido, will remember Kris Murphy. He was an Escondido City Councilman from 1988 to 1992.

Kris moved to Alabama where he met and married Dr. Monica Williams, a Board Certified Emergency Medicine Physician, who practices in one of the largest emergency departments in the United States.

As an Emergency Room Physician, Dr. WilliamsMurphy noticed, with an alarming frequency, that perhaps 10% of those patients who arrived at the ER had made arrangements which provided medical directives to their health care providers, doctors, nurses, hospitals, technicians, and, of equal importance, their family and friends.

The remaining 90%, when arriving in the ER, particularly in a critical, life-threatening situation, were in no condition to make a studied, well informed, logical and rational decision as to what they wanted in the way of health care should their condition approach being terminal.

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ness or injury, had no idea as to what the wishes of the patient were.

Dr. Williams-Murphy soon recognized the need to put together a guide to help both patients, their family and friends, as well as the medical community at large, to recognize that it was very important to plan ahead to deal with the eventuality we all must one day face . . . and to do so while we were calm of mind and spirit and able to think and plan logically.

As a result, she and Kris teamed up to write a book

called “It’s OK To Die.” Much of this week’s cover story is taken both from their book as well as a blog they have created at oktodie.com.

To quote Murphy:

Dr.

Williams-

"Like it or not, we all die. But those who have made their peace with life and who have made clear plans in advance for death, find that the end of life may be transformed into a powerful time unlike any other. Preparation prevents suffering, but also creates opportunities for peace, closure and even healing. Here at

OKtoDie.com, our goal is to educate and empower you with tools, checklists and resources.

We want to hear your end-oflife stories and discuss your ideas or concerns. Whether you are visiting this site for yourself or another, we can prepare you.

It can be OK to die."

If your end-of-life planning starts at the end of your life, you're too late!

A mother prepares for birth.

Couples prepare for marriage.

We should all also prepare for our final and possibly most profound life event, death.

Does dying deserve any less

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If death is the final act of living, the closing line to the script of the story of our lives; then it should be planned for with great care. Do not work on living a wonderful life and then allow your dying to be haphazard. Your whole endof-living era should be devoted to creating physical comfort, emotional healing, and spiritual closure. Your story, the final lines of your life, should end like a great play— with resolution, reunion, and redress. These generally do not occur accidentally, but require foresight, action, and yes, planning. Thus, your end-of-life planning should begin long before. But even more, if you address these issues now, you will find more peace even in your present phase of living.

Think ahead about selecting (or refusing) medical therapies in order to maximize your quality of time and comfort at the end of life. Discuss these desires with your doctor. Plan ahead using the Personal Self-Assessment Scale (PSAS), which clarifies and simplifies your future medical decisions. Place a copy of the Personal SelfAssessment Scale in your living will, give a copy to your doctors, and to your surrogate medical decision-makers/ family.

II. Emotional An emotional window of opportunity will open at the end of life, which allows love to be shared more freely, old grudges to fall away in insignificance, and relationship healing to occur which seemed unobtainable at other times of life. This time should be cultivated to gather in its full potential. I recommend sharing the following “Six Things” with as many people as possible.

Here’s where to start: I. Medical/Physical: Know your desires for your body, your remaining time, and the use of your energy.

1. “I’m sorry…(fill in your own words).”

2. “I forgive you…”

3. “Thank you…”

4. "I love you…”

Give Us This Day Our Daily Chuckle

boyfriend came over he found me with a black leather bodice, tall stilettos and a mask.

‘Final Stage of Life’ Cont. from Page 1 attention? I will say it probably deserves more. This is why:

This week, a compendium of wit, wisdom and neat stuff you can tell at parties.

Enjoy!

A Woman’s Report I had lunch with 2 of my unmarried friends. One is engaged, one is a mistress, and I have been married for 20+ years. We were chatting about our relationships and decided to amaze our men by greeting them at the door wearing a black bra, stiletto heels and a mask over our eyes. We agreed to meet in a few days to exchange notes..

Here's how it all went.

My engaged friend : The other night when my

He saw me and said, 'You are the woman of my dreams. I love you.' Then we made passionate love all night long.

The mistress: Me too! The other night I met my lover at his office and I was wearing a raincoat, under it only the black bra, heels and a mask over my eyes. When I opened the raincoat he didn't say a word, but he started to tremble and we had wild sex all night.

Then I had to share my story: When my husband came home I was wearing the black bra, black stockings, stilettos and a mask over my eyes.

When he came in the door and saw me he said, "What's for dinner, Zorro?"

5. “It’s OK to die…”

6. “Goodbye…”

III. Spiritual Spiritual closure will be highly individualized, with as many variations as there are people. Spiritual closure is most easily obtained after emotional healing has occurred (as discussed above).

An additional element of spiritual closure involves discovering or assigning meaning to your life. This may be accomplished by reviewing your life history and the lessons you have learned.

Sharing these lessons can be quite cathartic as well—your successes and mistakes provide guidance for others.

A final element of spiritual closure may include making amends with God, or your concept of a higher power, or finally and for once, making peace with yourself.

Here, in a composite example from three separate patients, is a scenario that rather dramatically establishes the case: Patient M.C. M.C. was brought into the Emergency Department by a loving daughter, and appeared to be dying accordhumorist when you have the whole government working for you.

This country has come to feel the same when Congress is in session as when the baby gets hold of a hammer.

We are all here for a spell; get all the good laughs you can.

We can't all be heroes because somebody has to sit on the curb and clap as they go by.

We don't know what we want, but we are ready to bite somebody to get it.

You can't say that civilization don't advance... in every war they kill you in a new way.

You know everybody is ignorant, only on different subjects One of My All Time Favorite Stories

More Will Rogers Quotes

A duck walks into a pub and orders a pint of beer and a ham sandwich.

There ought to be one day - just one - when there is open season on senators.

The barman looks at him and says,

There's no trick to being a

"Hang on! You're a duck."

ing to the wise evaluation by the Emergency Doctor caring for M.C. This doctor could see that M.C. would be best served by hospice at that time rather than a hospitalization for an attempt at curing that would prove futile and would only increase or prolong suffering for M.C. After discussing this perspective with the daughter, she agreed that the best interest of her beloved parent at this time would be to focus on comfort providing medicine and to allow M.C. to die a natural, peaceful death back at the assisted care facility.

After this discussion, the daughter actually felt affirmed that she had chosen an honorable death for her parent, a choice filled with dignity and compassion. She felt at peace as they returned to the assisted facility with plans to be admitted to hospice the next morning. The kind and wise Emergency Doctor had personally arranged for hospice and had written a Do Not Resuscitate (DNR) order on a hospital ‘Final Stage of Life’ Cont. on Page 3 "I see your eyes are working," replies the duck.

"And you can talk!" exclaims the barman.

"I see your ears are working, too," says the duck. "Now if you don't mind, can I have my beer and my sandwich please?"

"Certainly, sorry about that," says the barman as he pulls the duck's pint. "It's just we don't get many ducks in this pub. What are you doing round this way?"

"I'm working on the building site across the road," explains the duck. "I'm a plasterer."

The flabbergasted barman cannot believe the duck and wants to learn more, but takes the hint when the duck pulls out a newspaper from his bag and proceeds to read it.

So, the duck reads his paper, drinks his beer, eats his sandwich, bids the barman good day and leaves.

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‘Final Stage of Life’ Cont. from Page 2 order sheet and signed it.

Imagine her horror as she entered her parent’s room the next morning to find the staff doing chest compressions on her dear parent!

“Please stop!” she cried out.

“This is not what (M.C) wanted and not what we wanted! The doctor from the ER even signed DNR paperwork last night!”

The staff responded that because M.C. did not have signed DNR paperwork specific to their institution, they were required to do CPR… Desperate, she pleaded, “Please call our doctor and see if he can have this madness stopped!”

If your blood is boiling over, welcome to the club. I see and hear about this type of insanity all the time, usually in the following types of cases: Either: 1- End-of-life care wishes (which may exist in a living will in the third drawer of a desk at home) are not written on state approved documents and therefore, are NOT honored, OR 2- These wishes (such as DNR) are recorded on documents that are official in one facility (such as a hospital), but those documents are not transferable to other places (including home or an assisted facility). So, one might have elected to have DNR orders while hospitalized, but if these orders are not transferred to state approved DNR forms (if you are going home) or institution-specific forms (if you are going back to an assisted facility), then you will not be allowed to have a natural death … you will be “coded” and brought back to the hospital to be put on artificial life support should you “survive.”

Now to relieve your angst (and mine), I will tell you that the POLST solves all of these problems. What is POLST? POLST is an acronym which stands for “Physician Orders for Life-Sustaining Treatment.”

1st- Your end-of-life wishes will become ACTUAL

MEDICAL ORDERS with your physician’s signature.

The POLST will tell other doctors and medical personnel whether or not you want CPR, what types of medical interventions you want or don’t want-- including your choices regarding artificial nutrition, or even antibiotics.

2nd- Your official wishes documented in your POLST will be in effect wherever you are: home, gas station, assisted living facility, movie, hospital, or nursing home (as long as the form is with you, prominently posted in your home, or on file in your medical facility). The POLST is “portable” and is “obeyed” by all medical personnel regardless of place or circumstance.

Therefore, if you are in a state which has already adopted the POLST, consider yourself fortunate, thank those who lobbied for it, and get your own POLST signed by your doctor, clearly enforcing your wishes.

If you are in a state which has NOT yet adopted the POLST, get to work getting it passed … so you or your loved one will not end up like M.C. (assuming that you do not want to die in the ICU, on a ventilator, with your arms tied down, at age 94).

1- Write down all of your wishes for yourself in advance. Make them official in a living will or state approved advance directive.

2- Share these with your doctor, who will write official medical orders reflecting your wishes, if appropriate (example: Do Not Resuscitate, or Allow Natural Death orders, or a POLST form).

3- Share these wishes with your family members and your selected surrogate medical decision maker (your health care proxy or power of attorney). Make them promise to follow your wishes if you do not want them to change your plans.

4- If you or a loved one is a resident of an assisted living facility or skilled nursing facility (like a rehabilitation center or nursing home), PLEASE make sure that advance directives are on file, are well known by the staff, and are included in the medical records that accompany

Kris Murphy and wife, Dr. Monica Williams-Murphy you or your loved one when going to the hospital or to a doctors visit.

Whose Dying Is It Anyway?

Many times a patient arrives to the Emergency Department and it becomes very clear that he or she is beginning to die. What is not always so clear is whose needs we are trying to meet, the one who is dying or one of the family member’s.

“Dr. Murphy,” my nurse called out, “This man who just arrived from dialysis doesn’t look so well, would you please come to room 35?”

“Sure,” I always knew that Nancy had good judgment and when she was worried about a patient, this meant that I needed to be worried as well.

Entering room 35, I tilted my head to be aligned with my patient’s. Mr. Joe Brock was a 79-year-old man who had just been sent to the ER from a dialysis clinic. His 3-hour long dialysis session had been cut short because his blood pressure had dropped and he began to act rather lethargic.

As I looked into his face which was resting at an angle on his collar bone, he shifted his eyes to look into mine, but that’s all that he did. Mr. Brock didn’t have anything to say. When I asked him his name or where he was, he just looked at me. When I asked

him to squeeze my hand or wiggle his toes, he simply stopped looking at me.

Other than shifting his gaze, the only real physical movement he had was occurring in his chest. He was breathing very rapidly and his chest rose and fell like a pumping piston. Just standing at his bedside. I could hear the sounds of fluid bubbling up in his lungs. This sound may be caused by pneumonia or in the case of dialysis patients, extra body water building up in the lungs.

“Nancy, can you call his family or the dialysis clinic and see what he is like normally?” I asked trying to figure out where Mr. Brock was overall in the picture of life.

Digging through the papers sent from the dialysis clinic, she produced an official DNR form which she gave to me and a phone number of his legal guardian, his niece. She left the room to call while I reviewed the DNR document. “Looks official,” I said to myself, as I noted Mr. Brock’s own signature and that of his physician, with an additional witness at the bottom. I quickly ordered labs, IVs, medications, and a specialized external breathing mask that would help push air into his lungs to ease his work of breathing. (DNR documents alone do not limit medical care other than breathing tubes in the lungs ‘Final Stage of Life’ Cont. on Page 5

Page 4 - April 19, 2012 Driver Cannot Provide ID on Traffic Stop: Police and ICE Discover Outstanding $600,000 Warrant for Lewd Act with Child Antonio Cervantes Sarmiento had a $600K Arrest Warrant for lewd acts on a child. His whereabouts were not known until Wednesday, April 11th.

An Escondido Police Department officer made a traffic stop on Sarmiento for a moving violation. The officer did not know that Sarmiento had the warrant.

Sarmiento could not produce any identification and instead provided a false name and date of birth. The officer asked for assistance from a field ICE officer. That officer arrived and learned Sarmiento claimed he was in the US illegally and had been arrested by EPD about 10 years ago.

The traffic officer arrested Sarmiento and brought him to EPD so he could be identified. The traffic officer and ICE officer ran additional

Local News records checks on Sarmiento and discovered his true name and date of birth.

They also discovered Sarmiento had an active $600K Arrest Warrant for several counts of Lewd Acts with a Child.

Had the traffic officer and ICE officer not worked together on looking into the identification of Sarmiento, it is almost certain he would have not been identified and not been held accountable to the outstanding warrant.

The officer charged Sarmineto with the outstanding warrants and had him booked into Vista Jail. The officer also gave him a citation for the original moving violation, driving without a license, and providing false information to a police officer.

To report any suspicious activities in your neighborhood, you may contact the Police Department directly, or you may make an unidentified call on the Anonymous Tip Line at 760-743-TIPS (8477) or via the web site at bit about it. We'll be doing a cover story in a month or two and discussing the various churches available and what they offer.

Attended the Escondido Christian Center this past Sunday, will be going the Church of Rancho Bernardo next week; have visited M316, North County Baptist, Mission Hills Church, First United Methodist, New Life Presbyterian Church, among others.

Man About Town The Man About Town has been doing a survey of churches for the past several months. Looking for pastors who are outstanding and inspirational speakers . . . and reviewing the musical offerings of various churches . . . traditional, gospel, Christian contemporary, etc. If you'd like me to visit your church, drop me a note at thepaper@cox.net . . . tell me a

We are primarily looking for inspiring speakers, similar to Norman Vincent Peale, Dr. Robert Schuller (when he was healthy and active) and our current favorite, Joel Osteen. If you have a pastor who is an inspiring speaker, we'd love to hear about him or her.

Thanks in advance for any help and recommendations.

We've done in-depth profiles of both the Mormon Faith and the Baha'i Faith; would like to bring it a bit closer to home and deal with other Christian churches.

police.escondido.org.

Candidates for 3rd District Supervisor Appear at Forum Five candidates appeared at a forum sponsored by the Escondido Republican Club meeting this past Monday.

The three front-runners, Steve Dannon, Chief of Staff for Congressman Brian Bilbray; Carl Hilliard, Del Mar’s Mayor; and Dave Roberts, Solana Beach city council member, were joined by lesser known candidates, Stephen Pate, a film industry transportation worker, and Bryan Ziegler, a county attorney.

In earlier debates, only Danon, Hilliard and Roberts were featured; the other two lesser known candidates, were not invited. Even though Roberts is a registered Democrat, he was invited to appear before the local Republican club because he is felt to be a viable candidate with a reasonable chance of being elected. Though Pate and Ziegler, based on audience comments after the Great friends, Richard and Marcia Jungas, owners of California Funeral Alternatives, met us for lunch at Mike’s BBQ in Escondido last week.

Richard is a fellow Kiwanian (and past president of the Hidden Valley Kiwanis Club.) He and Marcia are two of the neatest people in all of San Diego County. Hope you get to know them.

••••• We were delighted to see Arturo Pelayo who now is taking care of his many customers at La Tapatia Restaurant on Grand Avenue in Escondido. For 14 years Arturo was with another Mexican restaurant and opted to move over to La Tapatia where Ray Alto and his wife, Arvie, (who also own the Jalapeno Grill and Cantina) are delighted to welcome all of the customers Arturo brought with him from the other Mexican restaurant (and, I suspect, the other Mexican restaurant owners are more than a bit upset that so many customers are moving from their restaurant over to La Tapatia as a

forum, were not thought to be strong candidates, they did have the opportunity of presenting themselves and their credentials.

They were novices to the political arena and most observers agreed that their inexperience showed.

Danon, Hilliard, and Roberts all were polished in their presentations, handled the questions easily and outlined specific programs they supported or opposed. Several organizers and audience members expressed a desire that they would have had more time to listen to the top three candidates and not take up the allotted time for candidates who did not appear to be viable candidates.

Only a few political barbs were thrown; Hilliard has asked that Danon release his diaries, emails, and other congressional records to prove that he is not campaigning on taxpayer money.

Danon claims he is using vacation time and normal time off, including weekends and ‘Local News’ Cont. on Page 8 result of Arturo’s new assignment). We will be going to La Tapatia much more often, thanks to Arturo. He is a waiter extraordinaire and we love the way he treats us, like royalty!

••••• Welcome to new restauranteur, Pedro Moreno and his wife, Sandra, now owners of Pedro’s Downtown Deli on Grand Avenue in Escondido. All remodeled, freshly painted, excellent menu. A family owned and operated business, I have a hunch they are going to do well.

••••• Good friend, brilliant musician, and leader of a great musical family, Pastor Clint Miller of the North County Baptist Church . .. keeps plenty busy. Not only with pastoring his church but accepting bold, new assignements to help his community.

Most recently he has adopted an international program designed for churches that is a 12 step, faith-based program that helps folks who have problems with addictions of

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‘Final Stage of Life’ Cont. from Page 3

and shocks/chest compressions.)

“His niece is in the waiting room already, so I told them to send her back,” Nancy announced returning to the room.

The niece arrived and after a I introduction, short explained, “Mr. Brock is very sick today; he has fluid in his lungs, and he seems very weak to me.” She nodded in agreement as I showed her firsthand how he was unable to move his hands or feet.

“This is not like him,” she announced with a concerned expression. “Uncle Joe is normally talkative and moves his arms and legs pretty well for someone who is wheelchair bound.”

This was just the information that I was looking for. I was trying to ascertain his most recent quality of life.

We both moved aside as the respiratory therapist entered the room with the positive

pressure airway device. I explained what we were doing for the benefit of the niece, “He needs some extra force to push air into his lungs right now. I think this machine should be fine for that and according to his paper work, his DNR, he would not want more than this anyway.”

“What do you mean?” She asked, now eyeing me warily.

“By signing that form he indicated that he would not want to be on a breathing machine that enters the lungs for any reason.”

“No, I would want you to do that if he needed it.” She responded.

“Well, these are his written wishes and that’s what I would hope that we should try to honor,” I responded, as usual, slightly put off when a surrogate medical decision maker wants to override the advance directives of the patient.

Hoping to take a different route in encouraging her to honor his plans, I asked, “What do you think he would want for himself?”

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od on any topic relating to local issues.

Perhaps we can get some answers to yet another apparent “Ooops!” by City Manager Phillips.

Commentary Can We Have A Little Sunlight Please?

Escondido residents were shocked to learn about the recent payroll debacle (where City Manager Clay Phillips awarded $204,000 in pay raises to Department Heads, ignoring and bypassing rank and file city employees who had been sitting on raises and pension issues for the past three years).

To his credit, Escondido Mayor Sam Abed, has called a Town Hall Meeting for Wednesday, May 2 at 4:30 p.m. in the Council Chambers at City Hall, 201 N. Broadway.

The meeting format will be an open question and answer peri-

The Paper has listened, several times, to a tape recording of a phone call that was made on February 28th at 5:51pm, that alleges former Deputy City Manager Gail Sullivan was terminated by Mr. Phillips; it is suggested that Ms. Sullivan threatened legal action if terminated and further alleged that, as an inducement to not take legal action, Phillips agreed to provide Ms. Sullivan with one year’s severance pay of $157,576.87.

The reliably informed source advised us she was clearly being paid all the way up to December 11th, 2011, and, the source alleged, Ms. Sullivan was in Rehab.

In addition to the paycheck, it is further alleged she was accruing retirement benefits, including vacation accrual, she would not otherwise have. If true, this will all be factored in to ‘Commentary’ Cont. on Page 13

The

Social Butterfly

Page 6 - April 19, 2012 Hills,” she added. The San Elijo Hills Visitor Center has moved across the Town Square into MarketWalk, at 1231 Elfin Forest Road West, Suite 111.

The Visitor Center is open daily from 10am-5pm. For more information on San Elijo Hills, visit www.sanelijohills.com or call toll-free 888.SAN-ELIJO (726-3545).

Art Center Announces The Center Chorale

Evelyn Madison The Social Butterfly Email Evelyn at: thesocialbutterfly@cox.net San Elijo Elementary Hosts "Country Fair" April 28 The fifth annual Country Fair on Saturday, April 28, is jampacked with old fashioned family fun and games, and is an extravaganza of sights, tastes, sounds and experiences for the whole family. The fair runs from 10am to 5pm at San Elijo Elementary School, just off the San Elijo Hills Town Square at San Elijo and Elfin Forest roads in San Marcos. It will feature live entertainment, an enormous 2400 sq.ft maze with 6foot high walls, traditional fair food and treats, carnival-style games with prizes, including an "Angry Birds" Prize Walk and a cakewalk, arts and crafts for the kids, and silent and live auctions. Admission to the fair is free and open to the public; tickets for food and games will be available for sale at the event.

Karen Jobe, vice chair of the California Center for the Arts, Escondido (CCAE), announced the formation of The Center Chorale under the direction of Dr. Joe Stanford as a major new musical activity. The Center Chorale's first organizational meeting will take place Monday, April 23, at 7pm, in Art Studio III. Auditions will be held August 6, 7, 13 and 14.

According to Dr. Stanford, "our idea is to build a comprehensive program at the center with vocal musicians from throughout San Diego County. As a dedicated and highly-trained musical ensemble, The Center Chorale will draw and excite audiences at CCAE." Also under development is the establishment of a children's choir program that will teach young singers, ages 7 through 13, to read music, sing well, and develop the skills to sing in an ensemble.

Dr. Stanford is past chairman of the Palomar College Performing Arts Department and led the Palomar Chorale for most of his 37 years at the college. Under his direction, the Palomar

to different furry, and not so furry, animals. Children learn to socialize with other kids their age, and learn lessons about animals through speakers, crafts, and stories. A series of four 40-minute classes are for ages 3 to 5. Program instructor is Kelsey Swayze, a longtime volunteer at the EHS; she is first-aid certified and has completed multiple child development credits. The program dates are April 20, April 27, May 4, and May 11. Times are 10-10:40am for 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 year olds; 11-11:40am for 3 1/2 to 5 year olds. Cost is $25, plus a $10 supply fee. Call 760.888.2261, or email to education@escondidohumanesociety.org.

Free Forum for Caregivers - The Silverado Senior Living - Escondido will host a forum for caregivers on Saturday, April 21, from 9am to 1pm, with complimentary continental breakfast, at their facility at 1500 Borden Road, Escondido. The Keynote speaker will be John W. Daly, MD, UCSD, Division of Geriatrics. Other guest speakers will be Constance Larsen, JD, LLM, Bev Brito, CLPF, NCG, and Dr. Diane Darby Beach, MPH of the Alzheimer's Association.

Space is limited.

Reservations are required, by calling 760.737.7900. For additional info, check the website at www.silveradosenior.com.

Marine Band, Navy Country Band and Local High Schools to Perform at Arts Center - California Center for the Arts, Escondido, will present the annual Spring Marine Band Concert on April 2324, at 7pm, featuring the 1st Division Marine Band from Camp Pendleton, with special guest artists "Country Current," a lively Navy band from Washington D.C., performing country and bluegrass music.

The Marine Band has performed at the Center for over a decade. This free community event is sponsored by Dr. David and Lynn Tagge and The Grand Restaurant in Escondido. For tickets, call 800-988.4253 or visit www.artcenter.org.

A pre-show will be a high school drum line competition, starting at 6pm, including schools from Escondido, Valhalla, Fallbrook, and Guajome Park Academy.

Each drum line will perform for a 10minute set and judged for musicality, technique, staging, and creativity. The panel of judges include Lori StephensonGrasz and Heather Barclay from Palomar College, Steve Wright from San Elijo Middle School, and David Whitman, D.M.A. from San Diego State University.

The winning team will be announced prior to the Marine Band performance.

Carlsbad Republican Women to Host Superior Court Judge Candidates Forum - On Tuesday, April 24, Mike Slater, 760 KFMB Talk Radio, will emcee an important election educational forum hosted by the Carlsbad Republican Women Federated (CRWF). Superior Court Judge candidates David Berry for Seat #24; Jim Miller and Robert Amador for Seat #25; Gary Kreep, and Garland Peed are vying for Seat #34. All three Seats are being vacated by retiring judges. This forum is to educate voters about the least known candidates on the ballot. With the erosion of our constitutional rights, it

Country Fair Festivities from last year

Photo Credit: Ed Philbrick

Attendees are urged to drop off school supplies for the school's community service project called "San Marcos Kids Pack for Education." “This annual festival is one of the most anticipated events of the year in the community," said Halé Richardson, director of marketing for San Elijo Hills. “It’s a great way for neighbors to mingle and for visitors to experience life in San Elijo

Chorale performed hundreds of concerts in the region as well as in Europe, Mexico, and New York's Carnegie Hall. For more information about The Center Chorale, contact Dr. Stanford at 760.728.8499 or jstanford@roadrunner.com Meeting/Events Calendar Escondido Humane Society Offering Parent and Tot Program - The EHS is bringing back its popular four-week program of parent and tot-classes for Critter Connections where they are introduced

is most important to elect judges that we believe will uphold the law. The forum will be held at the Hilton Garden Inn, 6450 Carlsbad Blvd., Carlsbad. Cost is $29 for members and $35 for non-members. RSVP's are required. Contact Jackie Peacock at 760.390.4452 or jpeacock2306@gmail.com to see if space is available since the deadline for reservations has passed. More info about the Carlsbad Republican Women Federated club is available at www.carlsbadrepublicans.com.

Escondido Woman's Club fundraiser "April in Paris" will be held on Saturday, April 28, with social starting at 11am, and buffet lunch at 12noon. The event will be held at their Clubhouse, 751 North Rose, (corner Mission Ave.), in Escondido.

There will be raffle prizes and gift baskets.

Entertainment will be at 1:30pm by a group called Rhapsody who will sing songs from the 20s to the 60s. Funds raised go to many local organizations that are supported yearly, such as Serenity House, Burn Center, Sunburst Camp, Interfaith Community Services, and others. In addition, each year scholarships are given to high school seniors and nursing students. Other on-going yearly projects the Woman's Club members work on are coupons for military families, stamps for the VA Rehab program, towels and newspapers for the animal shelter, Christmas cards for the VA Hospital, bingo prizes for Life Care Center, and more. The Escondido Woman's Club was started in 1910, over 101 years ago, by Mrs. Wohlford of Valley Center. This was the first organized club in Escondido.

Some of her family members were honored at the 100th anniversary celebration in October 2010.

Call Rita at 760.745.3102 for tickets. Tickets cost $25/person.

Beta Sigma Phi Sorority to Observe 81st Anniversary - The Hidden Valley Vista Council of Beta Sigma Phi (BSP) International Sorority invites all Beta Sigma Phi's, active, inactive, and transferees, to "Share The Traditions" luncheon celebrating the 81st Anniversary of the founding of BSP, starting at 10am, on Saturday, April 28, at the Lake San Marcos Country Club, 1075 San Pablo Drive, Lake San Marcos. Following lunch, there will be a "vintage clothing fashion show" presented by the Women's Museum of California, rituals, and installation of new officers.

Price is $23.50/person. For reservations and information, call Nancy at 760.796.7824.

BSP is a social, cultural and philanthropic sorority, headquartered in Kansas City, Missouri, with chapters throughout the world. If you are interested in belonging to a special organization and make many new friends, call Barbara at 760.743.3459.

Escondido Humane Society Invites Furry Alumni Back for Reunion - The Escondido Humane Society is inviting all of their furry alumni (and their families) back to the shelter for the second annual

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‘Man About Town’ Cont. from Page 4 every description. Showing an 85% success rate, we are proud to recognize Pastor Miller and his wonderful work. (His 11am service on Sunday rivals the best music you can find anywhere.

Great singing, great music.

Pastor Miller picks a mean guitar, son Cheyenne Miller plays a superb bass . . . and Cody Miller? Just about the most masterful pianist you’ll ever find. Joining in the song is Candy, Pastor Miller’s wife, and Erin Miller, Cheyenne’s wife. Just great music. Period.

••••• Always wanted to go for a ride in a B-24 bomber? Or a B-17 bomber? Or a P-51 Fighter?

These World War II planes will be on display April 27th through 30th, at McClelland Palomar Airport and will also be offering rides on all of the above aircraft. Known as the Wings of Freedom Tour, you can see their ad on page 10 of this edition. We’ll likely be there for the show, so stop by, introduce yourself and I’d love to shake your paw.

••••• The Man on the Street and his lady, Evelyn Madison, were privileged to help out last Sunday as we and several hundred other helpers packed 208,000 packets of food at Lexus of Escondido, who donated their entire parking area as a base of operations for this ambitious program.

The 208,000 food packets contain between 385 and 395 grams of protein, spices and rice.

They are packed, weighed, sealed, and boxed, all in assembly line fashion. Lots of smiling faces and eager hands made the job both easy and fun. You sign up for one hour shifts (which goes by quickly). This past Monday, those 208,000 packages of food shipped out to Haiti. In another month or so a similar project will get under way for food to go to Tanzania, Africa. The program is a product of FFCC (Friends Family Community Connection) - coordinated locally by Dave Geary of Dave’s Computer Repairs

‘Social Butterfly’ Cont. from Page 6 Alumni Reunion and Open House on April 28, from 10am to 2pm, at the Humane Society, 3450 E. Valley Parkway, Escondido. This is the only event of its kind in San Diego County.

An estimated 70 four-legged alumni attended last year's reunion, but everyone in the community is welcome, whether they have adopted from EHS, are looking to adopt, or are simply a supporter of the cause. The event will feature food, games for people and pets, contests, and a group photo at 10:30am that will hang in the hallways at EHS. All adult dog and cat adoption fees will be waived that day for potential adopters who donate a new, unused item(s) from the Humane Society Wish List worth more than $25 (people are asked to please bring a copy of their receipt). Alumni bandanas and T-shirts will be available for purchase, with proceeds benefiting the animals who are still waiting to become alumni of EHS. For more info, call 760.888.2235, email media@escondidohumanesociety.org, or visit www.escondidohumanesociety.org.

CCCBand Presents "A Salute to Young Musicians" - On Sunday, April 29, at 2pm, the Coastal Communities Concert Band will present its annual Encinitas Pops Concert at the San Dieguito Academy, 800 Santa Fe Drive, Encinitas.

Approximately 30 musicians from the San Dieguito Union High School District, chosen by their band directors, will join the CCC Band for the second half of this concert of popular msic.

Many of the students also auditioned for scholarships from the CCCBand, and these awards will be presented at the concert. Last year's outstanding Caneva Scholarship winner, Ashley Kim, will also perform a flute solo with the band.

Join this award-winning band and its director, Dr. Robert Fleming, in honoring these talented students and supporting music education. General Admission is

and Sales. Dave is president of the Hidden Valley Kiwanis Club and just recently returned from a humanitarian trip to Tanzania, delivering food. He goes back in August to deliver food as well as computers and set up a computer network for the various villages. The network will then be administered by nuns who have worked closely with the villages, orphanages, and the natives in general.

We’ll keep you posted as to the next event. We’ve already volunteered so hope you will too. Just one more way to get to know you and your neighbors and help out some fine but needy people in the process. A great work!

••••• Speaking of great works, former Escondido City Council member, Kris Murphy, moved to Alabama where he met and married an Emergency Room physician, Dr. Monica Williams-

$12/person; Seniors and Students, $10.

For tickets, call Kris Sims at 760.436-6137, and Buck Abell at 858.793.8258. Check the website at www.cccband.com. This concert is sponsored by a grant from the City of Encinitas and the Mizel Family Foundation.

Great Music for All Ages...Even 10 year olds! - Share a rare experience with JungHo Pak as he leads Orchestra Nova Masterpiece Hits, with Gorden Cheng, guest pianist, with selections from the world's greatest and most popular classical music. This program at the California Center for the Arts, Escondido, on Sunday, April 29, at 4pm will feature music written by a wide range of composers, including Beethoven, Mozart, Tchaikovsky, Bernstein, Gershwin, and more. As a special offer, the Center is making a limited number of free tickets available for children 12 and under with the purchase of an adult ticket. Make the event more special by staying for a reception and 3-course dinner, matched with selected wines, in the Concert Hall. Call 800.988.4253 for tickets.

Business Women's Association to hold Wine and Roses Fundraiser - The American Business Women's Association (ABWA) Wine and Roses fundraiser will be held on Sunday, May 6, from 2-6pm, hosted by the Sunshine Mountain Vineyard, and will include a private wine tasting with a refreshing summer lunch, and gift baskets. Cost is $35/person or $65/couple. Reservations by April 30, by calling Lisa at 619.892.0181.

Upcoming Auditions in Vista for Youth and Adults - Sunday, April 29, 12noon to 4pm, will be auditions for "Alice in Wonderland" for youth ages 7 to 17 years, at the Off Broadway Theater, 131 Main St., Vista. Playing dates will be June 17 and 22, in Vista's Avo Playhouse.

Then on Monday, May 7th, from 6pm10pm, at the Broadway Theater in Vista, 340 East Broadway, auditions for five adults of "a certain age," two women and

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three men, will be held for "Too Old For The Chorus, But Not Too Old To Be A Star!" Eleven playing dates will be in June at the Lawrence Welk Resort Theater in Escondido. Also on Monday, May 7, from 6-10pm, auditions for five women of "a certain age" will be held for "Hot Flashes: The Musical." The playing dates of this show will be a 5-week run from June 22 through July 22, at the Broadway Theater in Vista. Pay is scheduled for these two shows. For more information on all these events, visit the Auditions Page at www.broadwayvista.com.

Scholarships Offered by AAUW - The American Association of University Women Escondido-San Marcos branch is offering two $3,000 scholarship awards for women attending college as re-entry students. A re-entry student can be someone who started college then dropped out for a time, then re-entered at a later date, or a student who was unable to attend immediately following high school but is now attending college. Applicants must plan to earn a four-year degree and will have earned 60 or more units of credit (equivalent of two years of college) by June 2012 and will attend a four-year college in the fall of 2012. Applicants must have a minimum 3.0 grade point average.

Application deadline is Friday, May 4.

For information and to receive an application, email susanduey@cox.net and indicate AAUW Scholarship in the subject heading, or call 760.295.5917.

San Marcos Seeks Youth Ambassadors The City of San Marcos Community Services Department is seeking qualified applicants to serve as Youth Ambassadors for a one-year term, beginning July 1.

The Youth Ambassadors will provide volunteer event and program assistance to the City, the Chamber of Commerce, as well as local service clubs and charities who provide benefit to the community.

The Ambassadors will gain experience,

‘Social Butterfly’ Cont. on Page 17 thoughtful consideration and action. As you will see, many of these stories are very, very touching and will likely touch your heart.

••••• Another good friend, and former member of the Hidden Valley Kiwanis Club, Lieutenant Chris Wynn of the Escondido Police Department, is attending the FBI National Academy in Quantico, Virginia. He is filing daily/weekly reports on Facebook and it is fascinating to learn all of what he is experiencing and learning.

Chris will come back armed with all of this marvelous knowledge and techniques to help keep our community safe. The Escondido Police Department is fortunate to have such talented and dedicated people such as Lieutenant Wynn. Another reason we think Escondido’s Chief of Police, Jim Maher, is probably the best Chief of Police that city has ever had.

Page 8 - April 19, 2012 ‘Chuckles’ Cont. from Page 7

The same thing happens for two weeks.

Then one day the circus comes to town. The ringmaster comes into the pub for a pint and the barman says to him "You're with the circus, aren't you? Well, I know this duck that could be just brilliant in your circus. He talks, drinks beer, eats sandwiches, reads the newspaper and everything!"

"Sounds marvelous," says the ringmaster, handing over his business card. “Get him to give me a call."

So the next day when the duck comes into the pub the barman says, "Hey Mr. Duck, I reckon I can line you up with a top job, paying really good money."

"I'm always looking for the next job," says the duck.

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Letters to the Editor Dear Mr. Davis: I was wondering if I can arrange a meeting with you some time soon, regarding a Soccer Scholarship Fund that I am currently working on. This is a fund I started last September within our Barca FC Academy soccer club in Temecula. The purpose of this scholarship fund is to help kids who possess the talent and passion to play soccer at a highly competitive level, but their families just don't have the resources to help them to play at a competitive club level.

Last year through this scholarship fund I was able to help four kids play with our club. Two of the boys I was able to provide full ride scholarships for, the other two I was able to provide partial scholarships.

Gretchen and her twin brother Gunther are now all ready for a forever home. They are 5 months old. Both are very bright in puppy school, gentle, and playful with other animals and people. They both have slightly different but equally wonderful personalities and will probably be about 12-15 pounds full grown. Both will be great for an active family as I know they love the beach, boating, kids, hiking and finally collapsing in a little heap to sleep through the night.

Our tax deductible adoption donation includes spay, rabies certificate and microchip with registration when age/size appropriate. There vaccines are all up to date. They come with food for their transition and any favorite toys and or bedding they may have come to love. For more information on Gretchen and Gunther or any of our wonderful pups call 949-246-1280, email admin@forgottenpaws.org or log on to www.forgottenpaws.org.

I was very blessed to have had a fantastic set of parents, but I was also blessed to have such mentors along the way. Some of my fondest childhood memories are from the time that I spent with your "Los Caballeros de Aventura" boys club. Between the hiking, camping, fishing, plane ride and flight instruction I received, along with the camaraderie I developed with my fellow members, these truly aresome of my favorite memories.

I still have the pictures to remind me of these great outings. However there is one memory that I will forever treasure. That memory was when you provided me the opportunity to play a sport that I am so passionate about, "SOCCER," on an organized team.

This is something that would never have been possible for me because my family did not have the resources to pay for it.

However you stepped in and made it happen for me and for that I will forever be grateful.

This blessing has led me to volunteer my spare time to coach, referree and now manage my son's soccer team. Because of this great opportunity that was given to me, I now try my best to create soccer scholarship opportunities for other kids.

If I could have a moment to dis-

Rocco, the Rock Star is Pet of the Week at your Rancho Coastal Humane Society.

This big goof ball is a 2 year old, 74 pound, neutered, male, Doberman Pinscher.

The care providers say he's an "exuberant" pooch with brown fur and a heart of gold.

Rocco is a happy guy who needs an active family and plenty of exercise. Be sure to check out his video online.

Rocco's adoption fee of $125 includes up to date vaccines, veterinary exam, neuter, and microchip.

Rancho Coastal Humane Society is at 389 Requeza Street in Encinitas. Adoption hours are 11 am to 5 pm Wednesday through Monday.

For more information call 760-753-6413 or log on to www.sdpets.org. cuss a possible sponsorship opportunity with you I will be very grateful. Thank you for your time my dear friend.

Sincerely, Joel Morales Editor’s Comment: I absolutely love Joel and his entire family.

One of the finest families we’ve ever known. Joel and his brothers made Evelyn Madison and I very, very proud. They all turned out just fine!

We will be happy to assist in scholarship support. If any other readers are interested, give me a call at 760.747.7119.

Loves Will Rogers I enjoy reading your daily chuckle. I especially enjoy quotes from Will Rogers My Dad, Tom Horner, was a newspaper man all his life. He used to enjoy telling stories from his early days as a reporter for the Amarillo News Globe in Amarillo, Texas.

At the time, Amarillo was a major airport in the country.

There were no cross country flights. If someone wanted to

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Holland is a 2-year-old spayed female shorthair mix, ID 57653.

Holland is an active, playful young girl. Her favorite thing in the world (other than her people friends) is to play with her kitty toys, so she would love to find an active family who loves to play as much as she does (it will be entertaining and fun for you, too!). But don’t let her energy fool you.

Once play time is over, she loves to cuddle and is a great lap cat. Holland is available for adoption at the Escondido Humane Society, 3450 E. Valley Parkway. Her $85 adoption fee includes her spay, microchip, up-to-date vaccinations and vet exam. For more information, call (760) 888-2247 or log on to www.escondidohumanesociety.org.

The Escondido Humane Society Adoption Center is open from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. seven days a week.

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The next panel discussion will be sponsored by the Escondido Republican Women, Federated, on Wednesday, April 25th, at 11:30. The event will be at Cocina del Charro, 890 W. Valley Parkway, Escondido.

The meeting is free but if you want lunch, the fee is $12.00.

So far, Steve Danon and Carl Hilliard have confirmed.

Reservations required at 760.489.1407.

Reward Increased in Escondido Slaying Case Authorities have upped the reward money to $2,000 in an attempt to generate leads and/or location of a suspect in the recent slaying of Viridiana Rodriguez by gunshot. The suspect sought is the woman’s boyfriend, 21 year-old Ruben Anthony Cepeda.

While it is thought he may have fled to Mexico, they

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Town Hall meetings are a good way to give residents an opportunity to express their opinions and discuss their concerns in a less formal environment than regular council meetings. In fulfillment of one of my campaign promises, I held two Town Hall meetings in 2011, my first year of office. Each meeting attracted close to 100 people. At both meetings I reached out to our residents, listened to concerns, and responded to questions openly and honestly.

My next town hall meeting will

be held on Wednesday, May 2 at 4:30 p.m. in the Council Chambers at City Hall, 201 N. Broadway. The meeting format will be an open question and answer period on any topic relating to local issues.

This is your opportunity to share your views on the issues facing our City Council and to discuss any subject that matters to you or your business. We will follow up with the appropriate City department to resolve any issues.

I encourage you to attend and participate in the discussion, or even just say hello and introduce yourself. Working together we can help Escondido become a better city.

Rancho Bernardo • Mayor Jerry Sanders As the people of San Diego know, we’ve all been through some tough times around here over the past few years. When we took office, the situation at City Hall was quite bleak, as we all remember, and then a dour international recession struck not long after.

But we went to work – and put in place a game plan to get this city turned around. On Wednesday, I was proud to announce that due to our reforms efforts and a slight increase in revenue, our budget for the 2013 fiscal year is the first

structurally balanced budget San Diego has seen in decades.

In this budget, you will find no service cuts, as in years’ past. In fact, this budget includes funding for more library hours, more recreation center hours, and more police officers.

All told, we will leave for the next mayor a combined estimated surplus of $119 million over the next five years – that’s money that can be used for more library hours and to hire more police officers and firefighters.

Today, San Diego is in much better shape than it has been in a very long time.

The San Marcos Senior Center has a new intergenerational garden project that connects volunteer seniors and special needs students from Woodland Park Middle School. The teachers and seniors work together to provide students with weekly hands-on experience working in the adjacent San Marcos Community Garden. One of the main goals is to help teach healthy eating to the students. Both have the opportunity to share their talents and resources in a way that is beneficial to each other and the community.

The students learn firsthand about how food grows, as well as the fun of planning, planting, harvesting and eating the fruits of their labor.

They take back to their classroom and families not only the lettuce, parsley, beans and cauliflower but also the positive feelings they experience from working with seniors.

“This has become a great way to relate to pre-teens,” said one senior who participates in the garden project. “I’m not only watching the plants grow, but the students too!”

The garden is funded by a $10,000 grant awarded to the City of San Marcos from the County of San Diego’s Aging and Independent Services as part of “Live Well San Diego!”

Oceanside • Mayor Jim Wood Green Week in Oceanside Everyone is invited to celebrate Green Week 2012 with us in Oceanside!

This annual environmental celebration is being coordinated through the efforts of City of Oceanside departments and local organizations who will be hosting a variety of activities and events that will be FREE and FUN for all ages. An Environmental Film Festival will take place on April 26 from 6-9 PM at the historic Sunshine Brooks Theater; Composting Workshops will be held on April 24 at 6:30PM in the Civic Center Community Rooms

and on April 28 at 12PM at the Oceanside Pier Amphitheater; the 12th Annual Loma Alta Creek Cleanup will be taking place on April 28 from 9AM-12PM along the coast of Buccaneer Beach; the Green Fair at the Beach, North County’s largest Earth Day Celebration, will be held on April 28 at the Oceanside Pier Amphitheater from 11AM-4PM; a free E-Waste Drop-Off of your electronics for recycling will be available on April 28 from 11AM4PM at Oceanside Parking Lot 24 (corner of Mission Avenue and Myers Street). For more information, please visit our website at www.ci.oceanside.ca.us and

search “Green Oceanside”, email us at greenoceanside@ci.oceanside.ca

Vista • Mayor Judy Ritter With the warmer weather and the arrival of spring comes the annual tradition of “spring cleaning”. During this time of the year, many homeowners organize garages, clean out attics, and clear off patios to prepare for the summer.

While clearing out closets and storage areas, think about items you no longer need or want. Goods such as clothes, furniture, books, small appliances and toys may still have life in them. Don’t throw them away with your regular trash; instead, consider diverting these items from the landfill by donating

them to a charity. Many organizations are always looking for goods that can be reused and possibly resold at thrift stores. Donating to thrift stores can provide others a means to purchase gently used items at a significant discount, while helping non-profits generate income.

If you discover half-empty cans of paint or oil, used batteries, or other toxic materials in your garage not suitable for donation, take them to the Vista Household Hazardous Waste facility.

Electronic waste can also be dropped off. The facility is located at 1145 E. Taylor Street and is open from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. on Saturdays. No appointment is necessary, but proof of residency is required.

Cinco de Mayo Celebration at Melrose Ranch The Escondido History Center invites your family to a fundraiser at the:

Melrose Ranch 16757 Old Guejito Grade Road Satuday May, 5, 2012 11am-3pm Explore the 115 acre working ranch, its gardens, vineyards, long horn cattle, goats, all kinds of wondrous things to see and do!

Mexican Fiesta Lunch - Wagon Rides - Pinatas - Games Demonstrations by:

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Nome and Paul Van Middlesworth email: pvanmid@yahoo.com The Computer Factory Don’t Count on Your Internet Security Software

“I can’t have a virus. I’ve got Norton Antivirus and three different spy-ware program and all I ever do is check my E-Mail.” We hear it all the time. Last week a customer brought in a badly infected PC. We had to completely erase his hard drive and load a clean Windows. We installed Windows Security Essentials and Malwarebytes.

Their PC was clean and well protected. They took it home on Friday and brought it back in on Monday. Over the weekend they picked up an infection that again corrupted Windows and we had to reinstall their OS all over again.

While that was a freakishly rare occurrence, it makes the point

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that Anti-Virus software can’t completely protect your PC from malware infection. Mac or a PC, you can get hit any time, anywhere. Our good friend Dr. Sherman E. DeForest (sdeforest@roadrunner.com) publishes a newsletter called Sherm’s Senior Service Newsletter. I highly recommend it. Sherm knows his stuff and always has useful information for PC users of any age. In Sherm’s April 9th news letter he said “I can only repeat my warning over and over: you are the first line of defense. Do not rely on your anti-virus software to protect you. Think of it as a backup. Anti-virus software is like a seatbelt in an automobile. It is great when you need it, but you try to avoid needing it by driving carefully.”

Malware (malicious software) is the generic term for what we don’t want on our PC and includes everything from popups and social engineering to data miners and botnets. Since writing those articles in January we have changed our minds concerning “automatic updates.”

In January we recommended not enabling automatic updates from Microsoft. Auto-updates may come at inopportune times and interfere with an application in process. We don’t use the auto-updates feature on the PCs we are using here in the shop. But, we regularly go to Microsoft’s site and download the critical updates.

We’ve reversed our position on Microsoft auto-updates for our users because we find that most folks either forget or simply don’t bother to go to the Microsoft site for critical updates. These up-dates are very important for the maintenance of security on Windows XP, Vista and 7. We now say yes, enable the auto-updates for Microsoft. Do not accept update Internet invitations for any other third party software (Java, Adobe, Real Player etc).

While it is important to keep these “add-ons” updated for security sake, always go to their web site for the updates, never trust an Internet invitation. If they offer an auto-update option on their web site, take it.

The point is obvious; driving safely is far more likely to keep you alive than your seat belt.

Safe driving on the Internet is far more likely to keep your PC clean than your Internet security defenses. In truth, it is a combination of both smart surfing and ironclad protection software and hardware that will keep your PC running optimally. We ran a four part series on keeping your PC infection free starting with the January 5th issue of The Paper. You can access them in the archives at www.thecommunitypaper.com .

bonds, dividends, matured or Protecting our Elections terminated insurance poliProcess California currently holds cies, trust funds, escrow $6.1 billion in unclaimed accounts and certificates of Currently, there is no way property belonging to 17.6 deposits. to verify that a person castmillion individuals and organizations. The State The Unclaimed Property ing a ballot at the polling acquires unclaimed property Program was established in place or vote by mail is through California's 1959 to reunite lost and aban- indeed who they claim to Unclaimed Property Law, doned property with the be. This allows persons which requires "holders" such rightful owner or heirs. such as convicted felons, as businesses and financial Unclaimed property is held fictitious persons or those institutions, etc., to annually indefinitely for safekeeping report and deliver property by the State Controller’s using the names of the deceased to commit voter to the Controller's Office Office. fraud. Just this year we after no “customer contact” To view unclaimed property have seen several highly for three years. visit www.claimit.ca.gov publicized examples.

Often the owner forgets where you can search the about the account or moves Unclaimed Property dataand does not leave a forward- base or call the State I have authored AB 1716 Office at 800- to protect the integrity of ing address. In some cases, Controller’s 992-4647. the voting process and to the owners die and their heirs have no knowledge of Mark Wyland repre- protect our constitutional the property. The most Senator AB 1716 will the people of the 38th right. common types of unclaimed sents Senate District, which includes require individuals voting property are: bank accounts, cities in north San Diego at polling places to show a safe deposit boxes, un-cashed County and the south Orange cashier's checks and money County cities of San Clemente valid picture ID before they are given a ballot and orders, stocks, mutual funds, and San Juan Capistrano.

absentee mail ballots will require voters to provide the last 4 digits of an identifying number from an approved list. Envelopes will also be equipped with a security flap or sleeve to conceal the voter’s signature and personal information.

With no safeguards in place to ensure a secure election process, we leave a gaping hole that is an invitation to fraud by noneligible individuals. It is important that we do everything we can to preserve the fundamental right of every legal citizen, to cast their ballot with the knowledge that the state of California has this basic right protected.

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‘Final Stage of Life’ Cont. from Page 5 She responded, “Uncle Joe doesn’t know what he wants for himself. He always asks me how he is doing and I tell him that he is doing just fine.”

“So, what is it that you want for him?” I queried in a firm voice, seeing that she would not be viewing the situation from the perspective of his best interest, but rather her own interest and whatever forces belied that position.

“I’m 59 years-old and he needs to stay around at least until I’m 60.” She replied very matterof-factly.

“But this is not about us, it is about him, his comfort, his dignity…” I began to explain, trying my best to veil a sense of growing anger about such selfish intentions.

Holding up her hand, she cut me off, “You just go ahead and give him what he needs to keep him here. He has gotten sicker than this and pulled through before. Doctors have tried to talk me out of other treatments but I have my attorney’s office number on speed dial. You know what I’m saying?” She then placed her hand on my folded arms and smiled coolly.

“Excuse me?” I felt my eyes narrow, almost becoming slitlike and my legs began to quiver with adrenalin.

Just then the secretary paged me, “Dr. Murphy, you have a phone call at the desk.”

I left the room shaking my head partially in anger and partially to re-orient myself, to make sure that I heard all of that correctly.

I gripped the phone and answered gruffly, “Emergency Department, this is Doctor Murphy.”

It was the physician-assistant from the dialysis clinic. “Hi, Doctor Murphy, this is Ron the PA (Physician Assistant) with the Kidney Specialists. How is Mr. Brock doing?”

“Boy am I glad to talk to you,” I replied. “Mr. Brock is in pretty bad shape. He is in respiratory distress, possibly leading to respiratory failure and his

niece, the power-of-attorney, wants to reverse his DNR and make him a full-code!” my voice was growing louder, despite my attempted selfcontrol. I noticed all of the nurses near the desk now staring at me. Nurses are accustomed to hearing doctors grumble in general, but they were staring because this is not my usual disposition.

computation of her retirement benefits, to the detriment of the city and its taxpayers.

According to the source, Ms. Sullivan has not yet been awarded her retirement.

“Do you have any ideas?” I continued. “This type of conversation is normally my specialty, I’ve written a book on it for heavens-sake, but I’m not sure at this point that Mr. Brock’s niece and I will be able to get on the same page.”

We responded: “Clay, she’s a public employee, or at least was.

It’s public money and should be information available to the public.”

Smart doctors know when they are in over their heads and call in support. When it comes to end-of-life dilemmas, this may be hospice consultants, ethics boards or simply and sometimes most effectively, the healthcare provider who knows the family best. Today this was Ron. .

‘Final Stage of Life’ Cont. on Page 14 ‘Letters to the Editor’ Cont. from Page 8 go to Los Angeles from New York, they would take the night train out of New York to Chicago, then a plane to Amarillo. Another plane then from Amarillo on to Los Angeles. Dad covered the airport where all the stars came through. One person he got to know well was Will Rogers.

Will’s home was in Oklahoma.

So he would use Amarillo airport going to and from his home.

One day Will got off the plane and as usual, there was a large crowd gathered around to meet him. He apologized that he could not stand there and talk to them, but he and Tommy (that’s what he called my Dad) had a very important appointment and they were late.

Will grabbed Dad’s arm and off they ran down the hallway.

Dad not knowing about any appointment went along anyway. As they rounded a corner away from the crowd, Will turned to Dad and said, “Where’s the bathroom?!” /s/Jack Horner San Diego County Editor’s Note: Will Rogers was one of a kind! Will Rogers and Mark Twain . . . wordsmiths!

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We asked Clay Phillips to confirm or deny these allegations.

His answer: “I can’t discuss that.”

“I just can’t discuss it.”

We understand it was, in fact, discussed during Executive Session by the Escondido City Council. The results of that discussion, however, are not known.

While details of Executive Sessions are not required to be made public, state law–mainly in the form of the Brown Act and the Public Records Act–governs access rights at the local level. Cities and counties are free to enact ordinances that provide GREATER RIGHTS OF ACCESS than state law. These local laws providing extra rights are often referred to as “Sunshine” laws.

In Escondido, sunshine is needed. Badly.

At last count, seven local governments in California had enacted such laws: Benicia, Contra Costa County, Milpitas, Oakland, Riverside, San Francisco, and Vallejo.

Recent legislation, AB 1344, effective January 1, 2012, modifies the Brown Act by prohibiting any legislative body from holding a special meeting regarding the salary, salary schedule, or other form of compensation for any local agency executive. The bill also requires local agencies to post the agendas of meetings of their legislative bodies on the agency’s website (if the agency has one), including all regular and special meetings, as well as standing committee meetings.

Agencies that don't already follow these practices will need to prepare to do so in order to comply with the new law.

We submit it is high time that the city of Escondido take note

of the lack of sunshine within its government and that the City Council, as policy maker, immediately: • Require strict compliance with AB1344.

• Insist that its city manager and all department heads comply with the Public Records Act and immediately provide requested material that falls under the Public Records Act and stop making taxpayers jump through hoops to get basic information. (And, if challenged by the city, I’ll be happy to provide examples.

They are numerous).

• Rein in the authority of City Manager Clay Phillips and let him and his department heads know that this is not their personal fiefdom; that the funds they are administering are our funds, not theirs; that they are our employees, not our rulers.

•Set limits as to how much Phillips can allocate in salary funding without first consulting with the Council.

•Demand answers, and share with the public, the circumstances surrounding former Deputy City Manager Gail Sullivan, and her departure from the city; under what circumstances and at what cost to taxpayers.

•Finally, the Mayor and City Council members of Escondido need to take a hard look at themselves. Yes, they have balanced the budget. But, have they allowed the inmates to run the asylum? Does the Mayor and City Council exercise enough oversight to the city staff and its management?

We argue, given recent events, the answer is a solid “No!” Bring on the sunlight! Now!

Agree? Or Disagree?

Your views are welcome via Letters to the Editor.

Certainly, Escondido City officials, both elected and appointed, are welcome to respond to our commentary.

Please submit your comments to: thepaper@cox.net Letters to the Editor

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‘Final Stage of Life’ Cont. from Page 13 “This has happened before. I’ll be right over,” he replied.

“Thank you!” I said even more loudly than before.

When I hung up the phone, the secretary asked, “May I get you a cup of water or something Doctor Murphy?”…

Within minutes, Ron was at my side carrying a stack of paper which turned out to be Mr. Brocks chart from the dialysis center and a history of his hospital admissions.

“She has alternated his code status a lot. It seems that when he is stable and not ill, she is comfortable with keeping his DNR orders active, but when he becomes ill, she panics and changes her mind.”

I was slightly relieved to find out that this was the case.

Maybe I was not a miserable failure in discussing end-oflife care in this instance, but unbeknownst to me I had simply entered the stage of an ongoing drama.

While Ron was in the room with Mr. Brock and his niece, the respiratory therapist brought me the results of a special test I had ordered showing decreasing oxygen and increasing carbon dioxide levels in his blood. We looked at each other knowingly. The positive pressure mask was not as effective as we had hoped it would be, and his respiratory status was growing worse. Unless Ron could convince the niece to honor Mr. Brocks wishes, I would be obligated to put a breathing tube in his throat and place him on a ventilator— exactly what he had decided that he didn’t want for himself when he personally signed his Do Not Resuscitate orders.

Soon Ron came out of the room smiling, a very different expression than the one I had when leaving earlier. “She agreed to keep his status as DNR” he said with relief.

“How did you get her to agree to that?” I asked wanting to know his secret.

“Sometimes it just takes someone you know to put their arm around you and to remind you

of the bigger picture.” His words rang loudly with great truth.

“This is why the primary care providers and specialists who care for these people must be having these types of conversations more frequently,” I said.

“I am nothing more than a stranger to my patients. They want and need to be having these conversations with the health care providers who know them best.” I said aloud but wondered silently to myself how emergency doctors had become the defacto experts on end of life decision making. It’s hard for strangers to talk about the intricacies of life and death. It’s never easy, but it’s certainly easier among friends, those with relationships built on time and trust; like Ron that day.

I thanked Ron and went back in to check on Mr. Brock. He was now nearly unresponsive, slipping further into the deep sleep that overtakes when breathing shallows and death nears. This time his niece made no mention of attorneys, or tubes, she simply asked that they be admitted to a quieter room. A purple DNR bracelet was slipped onto his wrist. She touched the letters and then stroked his hand. Bending forward she placed a kiss on his forehead, “I love you Uncle Joe, I always will.”

It is never easy to lose the ones we love, it is even harder to choose to let go.

Lessons from Mr. Brock and his niece, the power of attorney: • When we are making end-oflife decisions for a loved one, we must try very hard to extract our personal desires from the decision making process and instead focus on the person who is dying. Attempt to make decisions that they would make for themselves.

• When we become fearful, we may express ourselves in defensive or aggressive manners.

Remember, when someone is dying, decisions should not be based on our fears or regrets but should instead serve the best interest of the person for whom you and the doctor are caring.

10 reasons why it's wrong for me to do chest compressions on your 90 year-old grandmother:

Below, I have compiled a list of 10 reasons why it's wrong for me to do chest compressions on your 90 year-old grandmother. Please share this list with everyone you know...

1- CPR is ineffective in the very old and very frail.

2 - I will break all of her ribs.

If all of her ribs are broken but her heart is actually restarted, she will most likely be on full life support. And: 3- She will likely die within a few days anyway... or, if she lives longer: 4- She will probably never get off of life support -- her family will have to decide whether or not to remove the machine(s), or 5- If in the very, very rare event that she regains consciousness, enough to feel that all of her ribs are broken, she would wish that she were dead, or 6- She would die of the complications of the multiple rib fractures anyway.

Other reasons why it is wrong to perform CPR on your 90 year-old granny: 7- If the family witnesses effective chest compressions being performed on their granny, they will be horrified at how violent it appears and this may be the last mental image they have of the end of her life.

8- It causes PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) for the healthcare providers who are dutifully crushing her chest wall in attempts to perform CPR on her, and she may in fact look like their own grandma.

9- Grandma probably didn’t want all of this anyway!

10- Yet, the last and possibly most compelling reason is this true story, a real-life summary of all the above points, submitted by my doctor-friend, Daniel MD: “I was an intern doing an EMS rotation, and one of the first patients we got called on was to the bedside of a 90-something year-old man who had terminal cancer-- as his family had found him unresponsive. We arrived about seven minutes later and found an extremely thin, wasted, pale gentleman lying on his bed, not breathing and without a heartbeat. He was still warm, and the family was crying and asking us to do "everything to save him". Thus, we initiated CPR, with me starting on chest compressions while the paramedics obtained

an IV and gave medications.”

“I will never forget that first compression, as every rib in his chest shattered and I felt the sickening crunch of many newly-fragmented bones under my hands. I proceeded for the next 10 minutes or so as we transported him to the emergency department to crunch up and down on his now severelydeformed chest, despite the fact that, as he had been dead at least seven minutes without CPR (and was elderly and terminally ill), the chances of a meaningful recovery were essentially zero, and I can only imagine what all the sharp bone ends were doing in there as they ground up and down.”

“As would be expected, he stayed as dead as we found him, but now with a great cavity in his chest where his chest had collapsed, and the memory of that feeling of doing that to his body and the absurdity of what we were doing haunts me to this day.”

“If someone went into a funeral home and did that to someone lying in a casket, they would almost certainly be arrested and get psychiatric evaluation, and yet, somehow that was what the family thought they wanted. We have a long way to go in educating people on what is possible, what is realistic, and most importantly, what is dignified and natural about a good death.”

Amen, Daniel, Amen…

"I'm done..."- Supporting Self-Determination at the End of Life He looked dead.

The paramedics brought him down the hall toward one of my critical care beds, and for a moment I thought the patient was dead. He was nearly the same color as the pale sheet covering his thin frame. His cheeks were sunken in and his eyes were gazing upward, in what I sometimes call the “death stare.” Then, surprisingly, he moved his arm upward to push his oxygen mask off of his face, resting it atop his head like one would wear a pair of glasses not in use.

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Page 15 - April 19, 2012 ‘Final Stage of Life’ Cont. from Page 14 “You may want to come in here,” said Tina, the veteran nurse of the night shift, who motioned me in the room with her-- not so much as an invitation but as a direction.

“Hmm,” I said entering the room beside her, as I looked at his body: pale skin, spindly legs, swollen scrotum, and pumping belly. His belly was pumping up and down because his whole torso was in overdrive- with his belly muscles acting as a bellows to suck air into and out of his failing lungs.

“Where did he come from?” I asked the paramedics.

“Home, but he was just discharged from the hospital this morning.”

The medic responded.

I raised both of my eyebrows and then lowered one. This was correctly interpreted by the paramedic as an expression meaning, “Excuse me?

How could he be dying and discharged from the hospital only to arrive back in the ER on the same day…I need more information.”

He responded with the data I was seeking, “Mr. Harris, here, is 48 years old, has been paraplegic (paralyzed from the waist down) for 12 years after a car wreck broke his back. He was in the hospital with an infection for two weeks. Today, against the wishes of the doctors, checked himself out and his family took him home.”

“Thanks man, I’ve got it from here,” and I gave him a pat on the shoulder. Visibly relieved, he left the room.

Tina and I got to work on our new patient. She put an IV in while I talked to him.

“Mr. Harris,” I said leaning over the stretcher near his head, “can you see me?”

His upward gaze moved from the ceiling to my face “Good. That’s good,” I said, “I’m going to listen to your lungs now, ok?”

He closed his eyes in response, a submissive gesture, as if to say, “Do what ever you want, Doc.” As I moved my stethoscope toward his chest, I noticed the old scar of a tracheostomy in his lower neck. I touched it gently and observed aloud, “You were on a ventilator for a long time after your car accident weren’t you, Mr. Harris?”

He opened his eyes and furrowed his brow into a deep frown. Lifting his head off the bed he nodded slowly up and down while he came up to look me directly in the eyes.

No words were necessary. I could see all that I needed to hear in his penetrating gaze.

What he was explaining to me in that moment is nothing another human being can fathom, save that they have experienced it for themselves.

Prolonged artificial ventilation can be painful, even torturous.

My eyebrows relaxed as he talked, as I now understood the situation, at least partially.

I held his gaze as I placed my stethoscope on his right upper chest, then his right lower chest, and then I moved across his body to the left side. Everywhere I listened the sounds were ominously the same. The sounds of pneumonia crackled in every portion of his chest, every single lobe of his lungs. No wonder his belly had pitched in to help out.

“Didn’t they send him home on hospice or home-health? Who is taking care of him? Does he live with his son?” As I rapid-fire questioned the paramedic, I noticed a slightly panicked look and fine beads of sweat forming on his forehead. He didn’t know any more than I did. Realizing this, I showed some mercy.

“Oh dear,” I said in my mind as I removed the stethoscope from my ears. I stood up straight and looked at the oxygen monitor above us which remained low despite the oxygen mask on his face. I looked back down to Mr. Harris whose gaze had never left my face, and I held his hand.

“After he got home, his son said he could hardly breathe, so the son called 911. When we got there his oxygen level was very low (57%), so we put an oxygen mask on him and brought him back.”

“Mr. Harris,” I said, stating the obvious. “You are in critical shape. You have developed a bad pneumonia and your lungs are failing. Maybe we should put you on a ventilator…”

Leaning forward I tried to calm him, “I am so sorry, but it is his choice to make, not ours.”

I had no more gotten the first syllable of the word ‘ventilator’ out of my mouth, when he began to shake his head side to side and mouth the word “No!”

He pulled the corner of his jacket over his eyes to hide his tears. From behind the jacket he asked chokingly, “Will he die without it? Without the breathing machine?”

I leaned down toward him again, “I know you have been on one before and it was uncomfortable. But, if we choose not to use a ventilator it could mean that you will die.

Do you understand this choice?”

“Yes. I'm sorry, I think so; but the pneumonia is so bad that I think he would even die with it.

What I am saying is that I think he is dying no matter what we do,” I paused respectfully as his sobs grew louder.

Softly, I explained, “He has suffered for many years. Of any patient I’ve ever had, your dad knows first-hand what it’s like to be on a ventilator, what it’s like to be on artificial life support…and to be on it for a long time.“This is something I don’t know. Something you don’t know. But, he knows…”

Up and down he vigorously shook his head while staring me straight in the eyes, no less intensely than before.

I went on to explain other therapy options and to my great surprise, he refused them all except the oxygen mask that I had repositioned on his face.

I paused and glanced down the length of his body which bore the scars and signs of many years of illness and debility. A tracheostomy scar in his neck, old IV sites, a permanent urinary catheter exiting the tip of his penis. His legs, tiny and limp, lay spread out on the bed as they had for the last 12 years, lying in whatever position they had fallen. There were sores scattered along them, caused from the pressure of lying in the same place for too long.

His body was like a war memorial, with markers for battles waged and won, until now.

I looked back into Mr. Harris’ eyes, haggard but determined. We both knew that he was done fighting.

Now, I shook my head, “Yes, I believe that I understand your wishes, Mr. Harris.”

distress, “He HAS to be put on a breathing machine!”

His sobbing intensified and he pulled his jacket up to cover his entire head and leaned forward to rest his face in his lap. “He can’t leave me.

He needs to be on the ventilator.” I heard him repeat the same words in muffled and broken tones.

All I could offer was touch. I placed my hand gently on his back. With this touch, he released the jacket and sat up, “I need to see him, please.”

We walked to Mr. Harris’ room and I stood by without saying a word.

“Come on, Daddy, let them put you on the ventilator…please,” he begged. “Please don’t leave me alone.” He cried against his father’s cheek. Slowly, his dad reached up a weakened hand to cradle his son’s head.

The son’s tears flowed over his father’s oxygen mask. A few dripped from his chin, pooling in his father’s tracheostomy scar at the base of his neck.

Back outside of the room, his son arrived. We sat in a quiet corner to talk. “Your dad has a severe pneumonia, it’s in every part of his lungs. I can hear it with my stethoscope and I see it on his x-ray. I have talked with him and he doesn’t want to be on a breathing machine...”

My heart broke. I felt my eyes grow full and tears escape down my own cheeks.

I felt so torn for this family. I could sense the deep agony of both men, the son in his need to keep his father with him and the father’s love for his

Before I could finish my words, the son interrupted in

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‘Final Stage of Life’ Cont. from Page 15 son warring with his readiness to leave his physical suffering behind.

I thought that I should call for the respiratory therapist. I was sure Mr. Harris would relinquish his will for his son’s great agony and love. I felt sure that he would agree to be intubated… but he did not.

“No son,” Mr. Harris mouthed. “I’m done.”

I turned from the scene. The pain was too great, the choice too hard for me to face directly.

As a parent and a child, I could imagine myself as both Mr. Harris and his son: “How could Mr. Harris not fight just one more time for his child’s sake?”

“How could the son not understand that his father’s suffering had already been too great?”

Yet, this choice was neither mine, nor the son’s. It was Mr. Harris’ alone.

Later, estranged family arrived to the Emergency Department to see Mr. Harris as he began to die. Hugs were exchanged among longtime rivals. Walking together to and from Mr. Harris’ room, injured relationships were healed. Peace blossomed— one of the great gifts available at the end of life.

The son came out of the room to find me, his eyes swollen and red, but his demeanor calmed. “He wants to take off his oxygen mask to try to talk to us. And, he wants some ice chips and something for pain.”

“Yes, of course.” I was surprised at the son’s ability to deliver the request.

The order was filled. Then, I spent time explaining the plan to the admitting doctor and made arrangements for comfort care measures.

Afterward, I walked by the room to leave, my shift long over. I stepped in to say “goodbye.” Mr. Harris had pushed his oxygen mask back up to rest on top of his head again, like he might have with

a pair of sunglasses. His skin was paler, and now blue-hued from his lowering oxygen levels. The pumping piston motion of his chest and abdomen was slowing.

Despite all this, his gaze met mine. I nodded my head and so did he.

A HUGE GAP exists between what Americans want for end-of-life care and what they actually receive.

90% of people wish to die at home, yet nearly 80% of us actually die in institutions (hospitals and nursing homes.)

For Believers

This crisis was unintentionally created by our modern beliefs and practices regarding death. Listed below are what I believe to be the 4 core beliefs and practices that have led to this dilemma:

For believers, death may be viewed as a holy moment by those who see it as a passage to another type of life.

Samples of holy writ from some of the great world religions affirm this belief that a "core" of us survives physical death.

Judaism/Christianity "Then shall the dust (physical body) return to the earth as it was; and the spirit shall return unto God who gave it."

— The Holy Bible, Ecclesiastes 12:7 "…the day of death (is better) than the day of one’s birth."

— The Holy Bible, Ecclesiastes 7:1 Islam "To Him will be your return— of all of you. The promise of Allah is true and sure."

— The Holy Qur’an, 10:4 Hinduism "The Spirit that is in all beings is immortal in them all: for the death of what cannot die, cease thou to sorrow."

— The Bhagavad-Gita, 2:30

1- Death is a “medical event” that must be treated in a medical facility.

2- The use of high technology can “cure” us of death or at least delay it for a later or more appropriate time.

3- We don’t talk about death socially, so therefore, no one plans for it (ex: living wills, powers of attorney, etc).

4- We have lost deep connectedness and intimacy with others in the modern world. This translates into a scramble to keep the actively dying alive at all costs in efforts to gain time for creating closure and saying the things which need to be said.

These four issues have created this very real social crisis and they contribute to the strain that exists within the Medicare/Medicaid systems.

Buddhism "So, just as a traveler who sets out on the road when the time has come to go, I will not remain in this world any longer, but will go to dwell in the stronghold of the great bliss of deathlessness."

— The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying

So, now I ask you: How do we solve the 90-80 Dilemma?

How do we find a way to allow those who desire it, to pass away in the peace and comfort of their own homes, surrounded by those who love them most; instead of dying alone, in an ICU, in the middle of the night?

Baha’i "The soul, after its separation from the body, will continue to progress until it attaineth the presence of God, in a state and condition which neither the revolution of ages and centuries, nor the changes and chances of this world, can alter."

— Reflections on the Life of the Spirit by Baha’u’llah

Here are my 4 recommendations to solve this dilemma:

Taoism "Birth is not a beginning; death is not an end. There is existence without limitation; there is continuity without a starting point." — Chuang Tzu

1- Take a natural view of death.

Understand that death is a natural event that can usually be comfortably and peacefully managed at home or in a pleasant hospice setting.

2-Understand that the most appropriate use of medical technology at the end of life is the aggressive treatment of pain or any uncomfortable symptoms, and not the selection of medical technology that artificially prolongs the dying process such as ventilators, ICU admissions,

and CPR. 3-The above items can be accomplished if we are able to re-introduce death and dying into public conversations. Why should we be afraid to talk about one of the most fundamental facts of life…that it ends? Further, people who can openly discuss death are more likely to make advanced plans, easing the decision-making burden on family and loved ones when “their time” comes.

4-Finally, we must discover the power and gifts inherent in the end-of-life period. In the face of the sure knowledge of coming death, an emotional window of opportunity opens—love may be freely expressed, old grudges may fall away in insignificance, and closure may be obtained that remained elusive at other times of life. We must focus on creating quality of time at the end of life so that these gifts may be enjoyed.

All of us, together, can choose a different way. We can solve the 90-80 dilemma and create peace and dignity at the end of life. By consciously changing our beliefs and practices regarding death and dying, you may take your last breath in your own bed, held in the arms of those who love you most … as you (and 90% of Americans) wish.

Five ways in which it is NOT OK to die I want to tell you about fiveways in which it is NOT OK to die. You may avoid these scenarios for yourself and those whom you love by using our checklists and resources to assure a better way when your time comes.

That better way is to place yourself in the dignity-providing, comfort-focused care of palliative/hospice professionals.

It is NOT OK to die: --As an 88 year old woman with advanced dementia with a feeding tube sticking out of your belly. You may have to be restrained just to use the darn thing! Being confused and tied down is not the way to leave this life!

--As a 50 year old man with widely metastatic cancer, in an ICU, unresponsive, with a tube down your throat, a tube in your penis and a large IV in ‘Final Stage of Life’ Cont. on Page 17

Page 17 - April 19, 2012 ‘Final Stage of Life’ Cont. from Page 16 your neck. You do not want this to be the last vision your family has of you, and you deserve more dignity.

--As a 70 year old on dialysis with no Do Not Resuscitate/Allow Natural Death orders; because, when you die, your family may have to witness you receiving ribcracking chest compressions and perhaps, electrical shocksall the while thinking that you had already suffered enough.

--As an 80 year old man during your fifth hospitalization for the year. Increasing doctor’s visits/hospitalizations in the elderly often signal the end of life and no elderly person I know wants to die in a hospital.

--At the end of a long life or terminal illness receiving the “full court press” medical-style.

Pursuing maximum curefocused medicine may rob you of the quality of time needed to make the end-of-life a time of closure and peace.

Talking about the taboo topic...Death I know that many will not like what I have said, but it is the truth as I know it. I suspect that many other doctors feel the same, but due to personal, social or cultural inhibitions, have not felt comfortable speaking so openly.

However, the era of silence is over. The only way we can avoid the above five scenarios and to create a ‘good death’ for ourselves and those whom we love, is to talk openly about topics related to death and dying. That means we ALL should be discussing this: Doctors, nurses, patients, families, extended families, even neighbors. So, start talking today!

"Not talking about death does NOT in fact calm the patient," only when dying is openly discussed can one finish the inner work required for closure.

Adapted from Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, MD The time for avoiding the topic of death is over.

Americans are suffering precisely because this topic is

shunned, ignored and labeled "taboo." If no one talks about dying, then no one prepares for it. If no one is prepared for dying, then when terminal illness strikes or death is impending, our default mode is to attempt to extend "life" at all costs, even in the face of futility. This artificial extension of life (which is really just artificial extension of death) is responsible for a lot of suffering- for both the patient and the family. I see this every day in the ER and I say to myself "Not me! I am not going out this way...connected to tubes, wires, breathing machines and beeping monitors."

My family will not be forced to struggle with how long I would want to be on artificial life support, or whether I would even want to have it at all.

(Names and elements of patient stories have been altered to protect the privacy of the patient and family.)

Editor’s Note: We believe Dr. Monica Williams-Murphy Author, with husband, Kristian Murphy, of “It’s OK To Die” this book should be required reading in every household.

More and more retirement homes and nursing facilities are recognizing the need for what Dr. Murphy recommends.

Many have POLST forms and other needed documentation.

In addition to “It’s OK to Die” and its related website, where you can find the necessary forms, there are several other sources as well, including more and more hospice organizations.

‘Social Butterfly’ Cont. from Page 7 meet new people and learn about their city while earning valuable community service time. They also will serve as positive role models to local youth. Criteria and applications can be found on www.san-marcos.net. Deadline to apply is May 7, at 5pm. For more info, call 760.744.9000.

Heartbeat Classic Chevys Club car show is to be held on Sunday, April 29, at Bates Nut Farm in Valley Center, from 9am-3pm, with registration starting at 7:30am. Pre-registration is $25, and day of event is $30. All pre-1973 cars and older are welcome. Also, there will be Big Rig Tractors on display, eligible for a trophy. Proceeds will be donated to the North County Interfaith. Last year's donation to Interfaith was $4,000. Also at Bates Farm on that day will be a craft show, barbecue and the Lion's Club pancake breakfast. For more info, call Patricia Knutson at 760.745.2064.

Former Senator Bill Morrow, Keynote Speaker at Community Prayer Breakfast in Carlsbad - On Thursday, May 3, the Carlsbad and Oceanside Republican Women Federated will host a nondenominational National Day of Prayer Community Prayer Breakfast at the Hilton Garden Inn, 6450 Carlsbad Blvd, Carlsbad, from 7-9am. Public officials, military personnel and business professionals will join former Senator Bill Morrow on the program. The event is patterned after the National Day of Prayer Breakfast held annually in Washington, D.C The cost is $30 per person. Businesses and community organizations are encouraged to purchase a table for $300. Purchase advance tickets by Wednesday, April 25. Make checks payable to: CRWF and mail to National Day of Prayer c/o M. Towns, 2895 Torry Court, Carlsbad, CA 92009.

The San Diego Archaeological Center has opened a new exhibit, "Camp Winacka: Digging into History," to run through December. The Girl Scouts celebrate their centennial this year. For generations, scouting has offered girls the opportunity to explore everything from archaeology to zoology. In 1970, the Girl Scouts purchased a large piece of property in the Cuyamaca Mountains with profits from cookie sales. A survey or the property revealed the presence of bedrock milling stations, indicating the area was once home to native Americans. An archaeological team from San Diego State University developed an excavation testing plan that allowed Girl Scouts to participate and gain more in-depth knowledge of past lifeways than was available in schools. Excavations were conducted from 1971 to 1978. Girl Scouts between the ages of 12 and 19 excavated what would become Camp Winacka. This exhibit features some of the artifacts the Girl Scouts excavated, as well as the humorous entries from their excavation notebooks.

Girl Scout leaders are encouraged to schedule a troop meeting at the Center Museum during the exhibit run. In addition to the exhibit, the girls will enjoy exploring the past with the Archaeology Quest Activity and create, make and take projects. To schedule your visit, contact Program Coordinator Annemarie Cox at acox@sandiegoarchaeology.org, or by phone 760.291.0370. The Center is located at 16666 San Pasqual Valley Road, Escondido. For more info, check the website at www.sandiegoarchaeology.org.

Daytime Meeting for Freemasons Freemasons in North County are welcome at the North County Daylight Masonic Lodge, No. 843, F&AM, that meets every Wednesday at 10:30am at the

REDUCE patient suffering REDUCE family suffering REDUCE unnecessary Federal and State spending

Escondido Masonic Center, 1331 So. Escondido Boulevard, Escondido. This lodge provides an opportunity for retired Masons and those who do not drive at night to enjoy lodge activities and fellowship. All that’s needed is a current dues card. Fellowship time is 9:30am for coffee, donuts and wild tales of bygone years.

The Lodge is opened at 10:30am for degree work or Masonic education, and a great way to reconnect for Masons who have been away from Lodge. Questions or information, contact Otto at ottorev@aol.com or 760.726.8577.

Bus Trip to the Autry Museum and Tournament of Roses House and Gardens - The El Camino Real Chapter of Questers is planning a Spring Bus Tour on Thursday, May 17, to the Autry Western Heritage Museum in Griffith Park in Los Angeles, then to Pasadena to visit the Tournament of Roses House and Gardens. The Autry Museum presents the history of America's westward movement and its depiction on the big and small screens, with an audio tour pack, included. Lunch on your own; either take your own or there is an onsite cafe with hot and cold food available.

Following lunch, the tour heads to Pasadena to visit the Italian Renaissancestyle mansion filled with Rose Parade memorabilia, including gowns and tiaras.

The home was formerly owned by chewing gum magnate, William Wrigley, Jr. A docent-led tour is included.

Pick-up locations will be at the Park & Ride on the SW corner of Hwy. 78 and College in Oceanside at 7:30am; and Daniel's Market on Hwy. 76 and Mission in Bonsall at 7am. Expected return is 6:30pm. Cost of the trip is $60, and includes deluxe motor coach transportation, driver gratuity, admission to venues, docent-led tour; and light refreshments en route. Make checks payable to The Questers, mail to LaVerne Laws, 1777 Victoria Way, San Marcos, 92069, and must be received by Friday, May 11. No refunds given after that date. Seat assignments will be made when check is received. Each ticket purchased shall receive a receipt for $20 income tax deduction for charitable purposes. All proceeds beyond the expenses will go to the Mission San Luis Rey courtyard.

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The Paper FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-007409 The name of the business: Covers With Love, located at 1237 Camino Del Lago, San Marcos, Ca. 92078, is hereby registered by the following: Audrey Eller 1237 Camino Del Lago San Marcos, CA. 92078 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business was 01/15/2012. /s/Audrey Eller This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 3/15/2012.

3/29, 4/05, 4/12 & 4/19/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-008417 The name of the business: Powerhaus Auto, located at 911 Jana Pl., Escondido, Ca. 92026, is hereby registered by the following: David A. Ellis 911 Jana Pl. Escondido, CA. 92026 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business was n/a. /s/David A. Ellis This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 3/26/2012.

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FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-008284 The name of the business: Rams Trading Inc., dba US Automart, located at 557 S. Escondido Blvd, Suite A Escondido, Ca. 92025, is hereby registered by the following: Rams Trading Inc. 174 W. Lincoln Ave., #212 Anaheim, CA. 92805 This business is conducted by a corporation. First day of business was 3/23/2012. /s/Fardin Rameshjan, President This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 3/23/2012.

3/29, 4/05, 4/12 & 4/19/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-007206 The name of the business: Khati Auto Wholesale, located at 827 Rancheros Dr., Ste A, San Marcos, Ca. 92069, is hereby registered by the following: Khati Investments, Inc. 827 Rancheros Dr. Ste A San Marcos, CA. 92069 This business is conducted by a corporation. First day of business was n/a. /s/Hrand S. Younis, CEO This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 3/13/2012.

3/29, 4/05, 4/12 & 4/19/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-008192 The name of the business: Bootcamp Films and Productions, LLC, located at 4202 Sorrento Valley Blvd, #N, San Diego, Ca. 92121, is hereby registered by the following: Bootcamp Films and Productions, LLC 4202 Sorrento Valley Blvd. #N San Diego, Ca. 92121 This business is conducted by a Limited Liability Company. First day of business was 1/1/2012. /s/Shigeaki Koike, Managing Member This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 3/23/2012.

3/29, 4/05, 4/12 & 4/19/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-008488 The name of the business: Starcia Group, located at 211 N. Citrus Ave.,

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FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-007864 The name of the business: Grand Centre Massage, located at 1568 Creek St., San Marcos, CA. 92078, is hereby registered by the following: Amy Calvert-Coopman and Carla Coopman 913 Ashton Ct. Vista, CA. 92081 This business is conducted by State or Local Registered Domestic Parnters. First day of business was 8/02/1992. /s/Amy Calvert-Coopman This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 3/20/2012.

3/29, 4/05, 4/12 & 4/19/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-008566 The name of the business: Follow Up Savvy Services, located at 18580 Caminito Pasadero, San Diego, CA. 92128, is hereby registered by the following: Wanda Allen 18580 Caminito Pasadero San Diego, CA. 92128 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business was 3/01/2012. /s/Wanda Allen This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 3/27/2012.

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ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE FOR CHANGE OF NAME 37-2012-00052182-CU-PT-NC TO ALL INTERESTED PERSONS: Petitioner Amber Dawn Hagen Gahn filed a petition with this court for a decree changing names as follows: Present name: Amber Dawn Hagen Gahn, Ethan Henry Gahn, and Keira Grace Gahn, respectively, to Proposed name Amber Dawn Hagen, Ethan Henry Hagen, and Keira Grace Hagen, respectively.

THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the petition for change of name should not be granted. Any person objecting to the name changes described above must file a written objections that includes the reasons for the objection at least two court days before the matter is scheduled to be heard and must appear at the hearing to show cause why the petition should not be granted. If no written objection is timely filed, the court may grant the petition without a hearing.

NOTICE OF HEARING: Date: May 8, 2012, 8:30a.m., Department 3. The address of the court is: 325 S. Melrose, Vista, CA. 92081. A copy of the Order to Show Cause shall be published at least once each week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the following newspaper of general circulation, printed in this county: San Marcos News Reporter, dba, The Paper, 845 W. San Marcos Blvd, San Marcos, Ca. 92078. Dated 03/23/2011. /s/Aaron H. Katz, Judge of the Superior Court 4/05, 4/12, 4/19 and 4/26/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-008698 The name of the business: La Favorita Market #6, located at 245 W. El Norte Parkway, Escondido, CA. 92026, is hereby registered by the following: Abu Saja, Inc. 1060 Via Blairo Corona, CA. 92879 This business is conducted by a corporation. First day of business was 3/20/2012. /s/Mohammed Shalabi, CEO This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 3/28/2012.

4/05, 4/12, 4/19 & 4/26/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-008763 The name of the business: San Marcos Landscape, located at 485 Jennileah Lane, San Marcos, Ca. 92069, is hereby registered by the following: Dagoberto Santos 485 Jennileah Lane San Marcos, CA. 92069 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business was 3/29/2012. /s/Dagoberto Santos This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 3/29/2012.

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ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE FOR CHANGE OF NAME 37-2012-00052625-CU-PT-NC TO ALL INTERESTED PERSONS: Petitioners Brandon Barrett and Mandy Frakes for minor, Sebastian William Barrett, filed a petition with this court for a decree changing names as follows: Present name: Sebastian William Barrett, to Proposed name Sebastian William Frakes THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the petition for change of name should not be granted. Any person objecting to the name changes described above must file a written objections that includes the reasons for the objection at least two court days before the matter is scheduled to be heard and must appear at the hearing to show cause why the petition should not be granted. If no written objection is timely filed, the court may grant the petition without a hearing.

NOTICE OF HEARING: Date: May 22, 2012, 8:30a.m., Department N-3.

The address of the court is: 325 S. Melrose, Vista, CA. 92081. A copy of the Order to Show Cause shall be published at least once each week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the following newspaper of general circulation, printed in this county: San Marcos News Reporter, dba, The Paper, 845 W. San Marcos Blvd, San Marcos, Ca. 92078. Dated 4/06/2012. /s/Aaron H. Katz, Judge of the Superior Court 4/12, 4/19, 4/26 and 5/03/2012

FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-009594 The name of the business: Precision Shredding, Inc., located at 215 S. Pacific St., #108, San Marcos, CA. 92078, is hereby registered by the following: Precision Shredding, Inc. 215 S. Pacifid St., #108 San Marcos, Ca. 92078 This business is conducted by a corporation. First day of business was 1/18/2012. /s/Cecilia Jimenez, CEO This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 4/06/2012.

4/12, 4/19, 4/26 & 5/03/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-009176 The name of the business: “157”, located at 1362 Calle Colnett, San Marcos, Ca. 92069, is hereby registered by the following: George G. Lackerdas 1362 Calle Colnett San Marcos, Ca. 92069 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business was n/a. /s/George G. Lackerdas This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 4/03/2012.

4/12, 4/19, 4/26 & 5/03/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-010004 The name of the business: Hart and Huntington, located at 1835 Aston Ave., Carlsbad, CA. 92008, is hereby registered by the following: HH Distribution, LLC 1835 Aston Ave. Carlsbad, CA. 92008 This business is conducted by a Limited Liability Company. First day of business was 04/03/2012. /s/Edward Upshaw This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 4/10/2012.

4/12, 4/19, 4/26 & 5/03/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-009657 The name of the business: Rams Tradeing Inc., dba Easy Auto Repair & Transmission, located at 557 S. Escondido Blvd, Ste B, Escondido, CA. 92025, is hereby registered by the following: Rams Trading Inc. 174 W. Lincoln Ave, #212 Anaheim, Ca. 92805 This business is conducted by a corporation. First day of business was 04/06/2012. /s/Fardin Rameshjan, President This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 4/06/2012.

4/12, 4/19, 4/26 & 5/03/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-009668 The name of the business: So Cal Appliance Repair, 1st Response Appliance Repair, First Response Appliance Repair, located at 655 Rowley Way, Ramona, Ca. 92065, is hereby registered by the following: Bradley W. Jeusen 655 Rowley Way Ramona, Ca. 92065 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business was 10/07/09. /s/Bradley W. Jeusen, Owner This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 4/06/2012.

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FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-009148 The name of the business: Dreaming of Tomorrow, located at 1250 Calle Colnett, San Marcos, Ca. 92069, is hereby registered by the following: Peter Drown 1250 Calle Colnett San Marcos, CA. 92069 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business was n/a. /s/Peter Drown This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 4/03/2012.

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FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-008598 The name of the business: 3Rise, located at 1683 Neptune Ave., Encinitas, CA. 92024, is hereby registered by the following: Cindy Villalpando 4187 Lonnie St. Oceanside, Ca. 92056 Michael Apodaca 1683 Neptune Ave. Encintas Ca. 92024 This business is conducted by A General Partnership. First day of business was July 31, 2003. /s/Cindy Villalpando This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 3/27/2012.

4/19, 4/26, 5/03 and 5/10/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-010013 The name of the business: Straight Street, located at 955 Park Center Dr., Vista, Ca. 92081, is hereby registered by the following: Rayzist Photomask, Inc. 955 Park Center Dr. Vista, CA. 92081 This business is conducted by a corporaton. First day of business was 8/14/1994. /s/James R. Kemp, Controller This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 4/10/2012.

4/19, 4/26, 5/03 and 5/10/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-010321 The name of the business: TACMAT Outfitters, located at 310 S. Twin Oaks Valley Rd., Suite 107347, San Marcos, CA. 92078, is hereby registered by the following: Stanley R. Farwell II 637 Shenandoah Ave. San Marcos, CA. 92078 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business was n/a. /s/Stanley R. Farwell II This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 4/12/2012.

4/19, 4/26, 5/03 and 5/10/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-010303 The name of the business: Spinal Care Center, San Diego County Spinal Decompression Center, located at 700 Rancho Santa Fe Road, Suite 4, Encinitas, Ca. 92024, is hereby registered by the following: Richard J. Horne 3001 Via da Caballo Encinitas, Ca. 92024 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business was n/a. /s/Richard J. Horne This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 4/12/2012.

4/19, 4/26, 5/03 and 5/10/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-010333 The name of the business: Coastal Precision Contracting, located at 370 Chinquapin Ave #2, Carlsbad, CA. 92008, is hereby registered by the following: Adam Burgess 370 Chinquapin Ave #2 Carlsbad, CA. 92008 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business was n/a. /s/Adam Burgess This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 4/13/2012.

4/19, 4/26, 5/03 and 5/10/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-009038 The name of the business: Nattiya Thai Restaurant Northern Spirits, located at 727 W. San Marcos Blvd, #115-116-117, San Marcos, Ca. 92078, is hereby registered by the following: Nattiya LLC 934 Brian St. San Marcos, Ca. 92069 This business is conducted by a Limited Liability Company. First day of business was 12/19/2007. /s/Nattiya Sontisap, Managing Member This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr.,

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NOTICE OF PETITION TO ADMINISTER ESTATE OF JACQUELINE CREW Case No. 37-201100150656-PR-PW-NC To all heirs, beneficiaries, creditors, contingent creditors, and persons who may otherwise be interested in the will or estate or both, of JACQUELINE CREW Petition for Probate has been filed by Braeden Blunt in the Superior Court of California, County of San Diego, 325 S. MELROSE DR., VISTA, CA. 92083, NORTH COUNTY BRANCH. The Petition for Probate requests that Braeden Blunt be appointed as personal representative to administer the estate of the decedent.

The petition requests the decedent’s will and codicils, if any, be admitted to probate. The will and any codicils are available for examination in the file kept by the court.

The peition requests authority to administer the estate under the Independent Administration of Estates Act. (This authority will allow the personal repreesentative to take many actions without obtaining court approval. Before taking certain very important actions, however, the personal representattive will be required to give notice to interested persons unless they have waived notice or consented to the proposed actions.) The independent administration authority will be granted unless an interested person files an objection to the petitions and shows good cause why the court should not grant the authority.

A hearing on the petition will be held in this court as follows: Date: 5/11/2012 Time: 9:30 a.m. Dept: 23 Address of court: Same as noted above.

If you object to the granting of the petition, you should appear at the hearing and state your objections or file written objections with the court before the hearing.

Your appearance may be in person or by your attorney.

If you are a creditor or a contingent creditor of the decedent, you must file your claim with the court and mail a copy to the personal representative appointed by the court within four months from the date of first issuance of letters as provided in Probate Code section 9100.

The time for filing claims will not expire before four months from the hearing date noticed above.

You may examine the file kept by the court. If you are a peson interested in the estate, you may file with the court a Request for Special Notice (form DE-154) of the filing of an inventory and appraisal of estate assets or of any petition or account as provided in Probate Code section 1250. A Request for Special Notice form is available from the court clerk.

Attorney for the Petitioner: John Smylie 3643 Grand Avenue San Marcos, Ca. 92078 (760) 727.4248 4/19, 4/26, 5/03 & 5/10/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-010320 The name of the business: Ammar Equipment, located at 3460 Marrow Rd. #103.370, Oceanside, CA. 92056, is hereby registered by the following: Stanley R. Farwell II 637 Shenandoah Ave. San Marcos, CA. 92078 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business was n/a. /s/Stanley R. Farwell II This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 4/12/2012.

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April 19, 2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-009921 The name of the business: John Nguyen Photography, located at 7512 Circulo Sequoia, Carlsbad, Ca. 92009, is hereby registered by the following: John H. Nguyen 7512 Circulo Sequoia Carlsbad, CA. 92009 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business was 04/01/12. /s/John H. Nguyen This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 4/10/2012.

4/12, 4/19, 4/26 & 5/03/2012 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2012-010241 The name of the business: Bridgeholt, located at 1177 Santa Luisa Drive, Solana Beach, CA. 92075, is hereby registered by the following: Lars Bergholdt 1177 Santa Luisa Drive Solana Beach, CA. 92075 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business was n/a. /s/Lars Bergholdt This statement was filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 4/12/2012.

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NOTICE OF APPLICATION TO SELL ALCOHOLIC BEVERAGES Date of Filing Application: January 24, 2012 To Whom It May Concern: The Name of the Applicant is: MICHAEL LEE The applicant listed above is applying to the Department of Alcoholic Beverage Control to sell alcoholic beverages at: 344 S TWIN OAKS VALLEY RD ST 147 SAN MARCOS, CAL. 92078 Type of license applied for: 47-On Sale, General Eating Place 4/19, 4/26 and 5/03/2012

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• High quality, professional, caring service • Cremation and Burial Services • Significant savings on caskets and urns • Funeral Services tailored to your individual needs • Many arrangements may be made on the Internet, telephone and by fax • Pre-need arrangements guaranteeing today's prices • In-home consultations if necessary • Veterans and Social Security information • Direct Cremation • Cremation with Memorial Services • Graveside Services • Traditional Funeral Services - Viewing • Forwarding Remains to Another City/State • Receiving Remains from Another City/State • Scattering Cremated Remains

We are available for emergency 1020 E. Pennsylvania Ave. calls 24/7

Poway

760.737.2890

858.842.3000

Lic. # FD1624

Lic. # FD1994

14168 Poway Road #106