AwareNow: Issue 19: The Source Edition

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WOULD YOU LOOK UP TO YOU It's harder to lead myself than it is to lead others.

We judge others by their actions, what are they doing. From this perspective, we can coach, train, and counsel others effectively in our own minds. If they do better, we've done a good job of influencing them to do so. That's leadership, correct?

I find, sometimes I, and I will go out on a limb to say we, struggle to heed our own advice. I can be the motivating factor and inspire others to go to the gym, finish the challenge, and focus on overcoming the obstacle. But, I sometimes struggle to do this for myself.

Human nature allows us to look at others more objectively than we do ourselves.

For them, it's about the actions. Based solely on observations. When assessing ourselves, we resort to a more subjective criterion and it shifts our perspective. We look at our intent, our own feelings, and our own beliefs. This allows us to justify our actions or lack of.

What works for me in times of not leading myself in the way I would lead others or simply match the accountability standards I set for others, is to eliminate all considerations outside of my actions.

At the end of the day, your actions are what really matter.

Ask yourself, would you look up to you as someone to follow based on your actions? ∎


Speaker, Author & Former NFL Player Empowering sales professionals and leaders with ‘Principles of Winning’ to create a standard of excellence, Desmond Clark is a former star NFL Tight End, Entrepreneur, Philanthropist, Author, Speaker, and Inspirational Business Coach. During his 12 year tenure in the NFL, he played with the Denver Broncos, Miami Dolphins, and 8 years with the Chicago Bears, retiring as the second leading Tight End in Bears history for catches, yards, and touchdowns behind only Hall of Famer Mike Ditka. Before entering into the NFL, Desmond set Wake Forest University receiving records and finished his college career as all-time leading receiver in Atlantic Coast Conference history and a degree in communications. For more information about the ‘Principles of Winning’ group coaching course call 863.581.5161 or email