Memorial service for lani spivey rite ii

T RINITY C HURCH M YRTLE B EACH

A Celebration of the Life of

Lani Hillwig Spivey October 21, 2017 - 10:00 a.m.

LANI HILLWIG SPIVEY August 7, 1945 - October 13, 2017

MEMORIAL SERVICE: RITE TWO Saturday, October 21, 2017 – 10:00 A.M.

The Word of God PRELUDE

“Amazing

Grace”

Nell Ciaccio

OPENING SENTENCE

Book of Common Prayer, p. 491

Please stand as you are able.

I am Resurrection and I am Life, says the Lord. Whoever has faith in me shall have life, even though he die. And everyone who has life, and has committed himself to me in faith, shall not die for ever.

As for me, I know that my Redeemer lives and that at the last he will stand upon the earth. After my awaking, he will raise me up; and in my body I shall see God. I myself shall see, and my eyes behold him who is my friend and not a stranger.

For none of us has life in himself, and none becomes his own master when he dies. For if we have life, we are alive in the Lord, and if we die, we die in the Lord. So, then, whether we live or die, we are the Lord's possession.

Happy from now on are those who die in the Lord! So it is, says the Spirit, for they rest from their labors.

GATHERING HYMN

Wings”

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“On Eagle’s Please sing together.

COLLECT FOR LANI

Book of Common Prayer, p.

494

Celebrant: The Lord be with you.

And also with you.

Celebrant: Let us pray.

People:

A brief silence

O God, whose mercies cannot be numbered: Accept our prayers on behalf of your servant Lani, and grant her an entrance into the land of light and joy, in the fellowship of your saints; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever.

People: Amen.

All are seated for the readings from Scripture.

FIRST LESSON

Isaiah 40:28-31

Read by Mrs. Nancy Jarrett

A reading from the Book of Isaiah.

Have you not known? Have you not heard?

The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth.

He does not faint or grow weary; his understanding is unsearchable.

He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength.

Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men shall fall exhausted; but they who wait for the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.

People:

The Word of the Lord.

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PSALM

Psalm 63:2-8 Read by Mrs. Christi Sloan

So I have looked upon you in the sanctuary, beholding your power and glory.

Because your steadfast love is better than life, my lips will praise you.

So I will bless you as long as I live; in your name I will lift up my hands.

My soul will be satisfied as with fat and rich food, and my mouth will praise you with joyful lips, when I remember you upon my bed, and meditate on you in the watches of the night; for you have been my help, and in the shadow of your wings I will sing for joy.

My soul clings to you; your right hand upholds me.

SECOND LESSON

1 John 4:7-17

Read by Mrs. Marcia Martin

A reading from the Book of 1st John.

Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.

By this we know that we abide in him and he in us, because he has given us of his Spirit. And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. Whoever confesses that Jesus is 4

the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God. So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. By this is love perfected with us, so that we may have confidence for the day of judgment, because as he is so also are we in this world.

People:

GOSPEL HYMN

The Word of the Lord.

Thanks be to God.

“I’ll Fly Away” Please sing together.

Please stand as you are able.

GOSPEL

John

16:20-24,33 Reader: The Holy Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ

according to John.

People: Glory to you, Lord Christ.

Truly, truly, I say to you, you will weep and lament, but the world will rejoice. You will be sorrowful, but your sorrow will turn into joy. When a woman is giving birth, she has sorrow because her hour has come, but when she has delivered the baby, she no longer remembers the anguish, for joy that a human being has been born into the world. So also you have sorrow now, but I will see you again, and your hearts will rejoice, and no one will take your joy from you. In that day you will ask nothing of me. Truly, truly, I say to you, whatever you ask of the Father in my name, he will give it to you. Until now you have asked nothing in my name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be full.

People:

The Gospel of the Lord.

Praise to you, Lord Christ.

Please be seated.

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EULOGY

Mrs. Anastasia Wenz Mr. Bayliss Spivey Mrs. Catherine-Alexa Rountree Mr. Windom Spivey

HOMILY

The Rev. Gregory Smith Rector

THE APOSTLE’S CREED

Book of Common Prayer, p. 496

Officiant and People read together, all standing

I believe in God, the Father almighty, creator of heaven and earth. I believe in Jesus Christ, his only Son, our Lord. He was conceived by the power of the Holy Spirit and born of the Virgin Mary. He suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, died, and was buried. He descended to the dead. On the third day he rose again. He ascended into heaven, and is seated at the right hand of the Father. He will come again to judge the living and the dead. I believe in the Holy Spirit, the holy catholic Church, the communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins, the resurrection of the body, and the life everlasting. Amen.

PRAYERS OF THE PEOPLE

Book of Common Prayer, p. 497

Leader: For our sister Lani, let us pray to our Lord Jesus Christ who said, "I am Resurrection and I am Life."

A brief Silence.

Lord, you consoled Martha and Mary in their distress; draw near to us who mourn for Lani, and dry the tears of those who weep.

People: Hear us, Lord.

You wept at the grave of Lazarus, your friend; comfort us in our sorrow.

People: Hear us, Lord.

You raised the dead to life; give to our sister eternal life.

People: Hear us, Lord.

You promised paradise to the thief who repented; bring our sister to the joys of heaven.

People: Hear us, Lord.

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Comfort us in our sorrows at the death of our sister; let our faith be our consolation, and eternal life our hope. Father of all, we pray to you for Lani, and for all those whom we love but see no longer. Grant to them eternal rest. Let light perpetual shine upon them. May her soul and the souls of all the departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.

People: Amen.

GREETING OF PEACE Celebrant: The peace of the Lord be always with you.

People: And also with you.

The Holy Communion PREPARATION AT COMMUNION

“Indescribable�

Please sing together.

GREAT THANKSGIVING

Eucharistic Prayer

A,

Book of Common Prayer, p. 361 Celebrant: The Lord be with you.

People: And also with you.

Lift up your hearts.

We lift them to the Lord.

Let us give thanks to the Lord our God. It is right to give him thanks and praise.

Celebrant: It is right, and a good and joyful thing, always and everywhere to give thanks to you, Father Almighty, Creator of heaven and earth.

Through Jesus Christ our Lord; who rose victorious from the dead, and comforts us with the blessed hope of everlasting life. For to your faithful people, O Lord, life is changed, not ended; and when our 7

mortal body lies in death, there is prepared for us a dwelling place eternal in the heavens.

Therefore we praise you, joining our voices with Angels and Archangels and with all the company of heaven, who for ever sing this hymn to proclaim the glory of your Name: Holy, holy, holy Lord, God of power and might, heaven and earth are full of your glory. Hosanna in the highest.

Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord. Hosanna in the highest.

Please KNEEL as you are able.

Celebrant: Holy and gracious Father: In your infinite love you made us

for yourself, and, when we had fallen into sin and become subject to evil and death, you, in your mercy, sent Jesus Christ, your only and eternal Son, to share our human nature, to live and die as one of us, to reconcile us to you, the God and Father of all.

He stretched out his arms upon the cross, and offered himself, in obedience to your will, a perfect sacrifice for the whole world.

On the night he was handed over to suffering and death, our Lord Jesus Christ took bread; and when he had given thanks to you, he broke it, and gave it to his disciples, and said, "Take, eat: This is my Body, which is given for you. Do this for the remembrance of me." After supper he took the cup of wine; and when he had given thanks, he gave it to them, and said, "Drink this, all of you: This is my Blood of the new Covenant, which is shed for you and for many for the forgiveness of sins. Whenever you drink it, do this for the remembrance of me."

Therefore we proclaim the mystery of faith: People: Christ has died.

Christ is risen.

Christ will come again.

Celebrant: We celebrate the memorial of our redemption, O Father,

in this sacrifice of praise and thanksgiving. Recalling death, resurrection, and ascension, we offer you these gifts.

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Sanctify them by your Holy Spirit to be for your people the Body and Blood of your Son, the holy food and drink of new and unending life in him. Sanctify us also that we may faithfully receive this holy Sacrament, and serve you in unity, constancy, and peace; and at the last day bring us with all your saints into the joy of your eternal kingdom. All this we ask through your Son Jesus Christ: By him, and with him, and in him, in the unity of the Holy Spirit all honor and glory is yours, Almighty Father, now and for ever. AMEN. And now, as our Savior Christ has taught us, we are bold to say, People: Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy Name,

thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever and ever. Amen.

THE BREAKING OF THE BREAD Celebrant: Alleluia. Christ our Passover was sacrificed for us: People: Therefore let is keep the feast. Alleluia.

INVITATION TO COMMUNION Holy Communion is an open and welcoming Table as the Lord himself is the host of this meal. All who have been baptized are invited forward to receive the Body and Blood of Christ. Those who prefer not to receive Communion are welcome to come forward for a blessing.

COMMUNION HYMNS

High”

“Lord, I Lift Your Name on “Lord, Reign in Me” “Shout to the Lord” “How Great is Our God” 9

POST-COMMUNION PRAYER

Book of Common Prayer, p.498

Celebrant: In thanksgiving, let us pray.

People: Almighty God, we thank you that in your great love you

have fed us with the spiritual food and drink of the Body and Blood of your Son Jesus Christ, and have given us a foretaste of your heavenly banquet. Grant that this Sacrament may be to us a comfort in affliction, and a pledge of our inheritance in that kingdom where there is no death, neither sorrow nor crying, but the fullness of joy with all your saints; through Jesus Christ our Savior. Amen

COMMENDATION

Book of Common Prayer, p. 499

Celebrant: Give rest, O Christ, to your servant with your saints, People: where sorrow and pain are no more, neither sighing, but life

everlasting.

You only are immortal, the creator and maker of mankind; and we are mortal, formed of the earth, and to earth shall we return. For so did you ordain when you created me, saying, "You are dust, and to dust you shall return." All of us go down to the dust; yet even at the grave we make our song: Alleluia, alleluia, alleluia.

Give rest, O Christ, to your servant with your saints, where sorrow and pain are no more, neither sighing, but life everlasting.

Into your hands, O merciful Savior, we commend your servant Lani.

Acknowledge, we humbly beseech you, a sheep of your own fold, a lamb of our own flock, a sinner of your own redeeming. Receive her into the arms of your mercy, into the blessed rest of everlasting peace, and into the glorious company of the saints in light.

Amen.

BLESSING

Celebrant: May the Holy Trinity make you strong in faith and love,

defend you on every side, and guide you in truth and peace; and the blessing of God Almighty, the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit be among you and remain within you always.

People: Amen 10

RECESSIONAL HYMN

“Oh, Happy

Day”

Mt. Moriah Missionary Baptist Church Choir Please sing together.

Oh, happy day When Jesus washed my sins away He taught me how to watch and pray And live rejoicing every day

DISMISSAL Celebrant: Let us go forth into the world, rejoicing in the power of the

Spirit.

People: Thanks be to God.

The family invites you to a reception at the Dunes Golf & Beach Club immediately following the service: 9000 N. Ocean Blvd., Myrtle Beach, SC 29572.

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Lani Hillwig Spivey

August 7, 1945-October 13, 2017 On Friday October 13th, 2017, Lani Spivey, after running the race of her life, crossed the finish line to come home and be with Jesus in Heaven. She was surrounded by her loving husband Larkin, her children Anastasia, Bayliss, Catherine-Alexa, Windom, their spouses, and her 10 grandchildren. Greeting her with jubilation in Heaven are her mother and father, Eleanor and William Hillwig, and her big brother Billy Hillwig, all of Allentown, PA. Lani entered this earthly world on August 7, 1945 in Paterson, NJ, and brought joy and happiness to all around her from the very beginning. As a child she was the quintessential tomboy, running faster and climbing higher than any of her compatriots a quality that she never outgrew as she traveled the world, delighted in athletic endeavors, and scaled mountains, both metaphorical and literal. Once she set her mind at something, there was nothing she couldn't accomplish.

While sunbathing on the rooftop terrace of their shared apartment building in Arlington, VA, a simple glimpse between Larkin and Lani in 1969 sparked a great love story that would last for 48 years on earth and forevermore in the hereafter. They had an epic, adventurous and passionate marriage and produced four amazing, beautiful children (if their children do say so themselves). Lani was an exemplary Marine Corps wife, creating warm home bases in Washington DC, California and South Carolina, even during prolonged separations with Larkin's deployments to Southeast Asia.

Lani attended the Sorbonne University in Paris, where she studied art history, and her artistic sensibility and joie de vivre colored every aspect of her life. She was a painter, garden curator, decorator, and award-winning photographer with impeccable style.

When Lani spoke to you, it felt like time stood still and that you were the only person in the world, as she endeavored to give visibility and validation to everyone who crossed her path. Her insightfulness allowed her to glimpse a person's true potential, and she never missed an opportunity to make people feel unique and loved. Thanks to Joe Gibbs, Bible Study Fellowship, and friends at Trinity Church she came to Christ in 1992 and began a new journey of service in God's Kingdom, sharing the Gospel with her family, friends, and countless others.

Lani has always been proudly patriotic and enduringly supportive of military and veteran causes, raising funds for wounded warriors through her work with Heal Our Patriots and Fisher House of Charleston. She also strove to bring joy and recognition to WWII and Korean veterans during Honor Flights she helped organize.

The world will never be the same in the absence of this spectacular woman. Her family feels her loss acutely, a pain that is only ameliorated by the fact that she is now dancing in the loving presence of her Heavenly Father. It elicits a smile to know that Lani is able to explore the rapturous beauty of Heaven ahead of us, just as her adventurous personality would have desired.

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Participating in the Liturgy: PALLBEARERS Tommy Brittain Erick Ficken Vaughn Foxwell David Gravely Ricky Gray Jimmy Merritt CELEBRANT The Rev. Greg Smith, Rector READERS Mrs. Nancy Jarrett Mrs. Christie Sloan Mrs. Marcia Martin EULOGIST Mrs. Anastasia Wenz Mr. Bayliss Spivey Mrs. Catherine-Alexa Rountree Mr. Windom Spivey HOMILIST The Rev. Greg Smith, Rector MUSICIANS Nell Ciaccio The Trinity Church Band Mt. Moriah Missionary Baptist Church Choir

The flowers on the altar were given to the Glory of God and in memory of Lani Spivey by Joe and Nancy Jarrett.

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The mission of Trinity Church is to share the Gospel, make Christ-Centered disciples, and equip Ambassadors for a broken world.

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