The Visitor | September 2019

The Visitor

Capital Campaign News ASBURY FIRST UNITED METHODIST CHURCH September 2019 • Vol. MI No. 4 • www.asburyfirst.org

BRIGHT DAYS

OF SUMMER

AT ASBURY FIRST Check out our recap of all the Summer fun on pages 10–17

IN THIS ISSUE

A Pastoral Reflection 3 Community News 4

Music and Arts News 6 Outreach News 7

Community News 18 Building Committee 20

Library & Reading News 22 The Last Word 23

The Visitor

MISSION STATEMENT

Love. Live. Serve. Repeat.

Vol. MI No. 4

(USPS 558-470) is published 5 times a year, February/March, April/May, Summer, September, and November/December

by Asbury First United Methodist Church.

Periodical postage paid at Rochester, N.Y.

FOUR WAYS TO WORSHIP AT ASBURY FIRST

POSTMASTER: Send addresses changes to Asbury First UMC Visitor 1050 East Ave., Rochester, N.Y. 14607-2239 (585) 271-1050 Rev. Dr. Stephen M. Cady II Rev. Kathy Thiel Rev. Jacqueline Nelson Rev. Mike Mullin David Strong Carl Johengen, DMA Paula Dugan Holly Temming Richard Moncrief Morgan Dornsife Melody Guadagnino Deb Bullock-Smith James Flack Michele Cooley Sarah Brubaker Duane Prill Carol Lamica Elizabeth Church Larry Dugan

Traditional Worship in our Sanctuary 8:30 & 11 am Sunday mornings

STAFF

Senior Minister Minister for Pastoral Care Minister for Outreach Minister for Youth & Discipleship Church Administrator; Assistant Organist Director of Music Ministry Director, Children’s Ministry Children’s Ministry Assistant; Director, Children’s Music Financial Administrator Director, Development & Communications Administrative Assistant Administrative Assistant to the Senior Pastor Property Caretaker Director, Dining & Caring Center Communications Coordinator, Visitor Editor Organist Director, Youth Music Director, Asbury Ringers Director, Youth Theater

EMERITI STAFF

Rev. Dr. Theodore Weeden, Sr., Pastor Emeritus Dr. Roger Wilhelm, Director of Music Emeritus Marian R. Craighead*, Organist Emerita *deceased Cover: Summer recap of the Hug Relay, Red Wings game, Pride Parade, Tent Sunday, VBS, and Youth Mission.

Illustration credits: Sarah Brubaker and Freepik; Sarah Brubaker and Vecteezy

Please send all submissions, questions, comments, or concerns to communications@asburyfirst.org or 585-271-1050, x109.

Deadline for submitting content for the November/December issue: OCTOBER 4

Chancel Worship with Holy Communion 10 am Sunday Mornings Watch live at www.asburyfirst.org 11 am Sunday mornings Listen on WYSL 1040 AM or 92.1 FM 11 am–noon Sunday mornings WATCH PAST SERVICES IN OUR VIDEO ARCHIVE AT ASBURYFIRST.ORG ANY TIME!

INCLUSIVITY STATEMENT Asbury First United Methodist Church prayerfully strives to live in its community with open hearts, open minds, and open doors.

Affirming that each person is of sacred worth, we seek to be a fully inclusive church, believing that all people are God’s children, created in God’s image, loved and blessed equally by God. It is our purpose to be a Reconciling Congregation. This means extending hospitality and encouraging full participation of all, regardless of age, race, national origin, gender, gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, marital status or family structure, education or economic background, and physical or mental ability. We recognize that we hold a variety of opinions. We do not seek to erase our differences, but to journey together in faith toward greater understanding and mutual respect. We believe that reconciliation to God and to one another is central to our mission and ministry

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A PASTORAL REFLECTION

REV. DR. STEPHEN M. CADY II

A RETURN, AGAIN...

In August, Emily and I had the opportunity to visit the first church we served. Park Ridge Community Church is a medium-sized congregation on the northwest side of Chicago, IL. In addition to preaching from time to time, my main charge was to oversee the youth program. Though we had not been back in eleven years, we were surprised by how easy it was to step back into the relationships that we had worked so hard to build during our tenure. Sure, the middle and high school youth with whom we had worked are now full-fledged adults (some even have children of their own!), but they retain the same genuine spirit of love and openness that drew us to them in the first place.

successful Storehouse and Bake sale, a delicious Chicken Barbecue, a welcoming booth at Park Ave Festival, a lawn full of cars for the youth parking, a great (and very hot) Pride Parade, a night at the ballpark, one of the most successful Vacation Bible School weeks ever, and set the U.S. record for the longest hug relay. Oh, and we did it all without use of the fellowship hall, the organ, or AC! Now we prepare for a kind of return.

There’s a grace in a return. As Emily and I reminisced with people we had spent so much time with over four years, we recalled together those precious moments of life that we were privileged to share. We laughed at the silly things, cried at some tender memories, and mourned those who were no longer present. While there had been hard moments during our tenure, time has a funny way of smoothing those rough edges.

In the end, grace abounds.

In the end, as Emily and I learned visiting our first church, looking back gives us a new appreciation of where we’ve been, but also where we are. There’s a grace in a return and it’s meant to be shared. See you soon!

As the gears begin to turn on our new programmatic year, we find ourselves stepping back into familiar routines. In some ways, every Sunday is a kind of return to relationship, but on Together in Ministry Sunday (September 8) we make it formal. Though not all were away for the summer and not all changed dramatically, some were and some did. Some now wear a ring around a finger that was once bare. Some now sport a fresh scar and a new story.

Some now sit alone in a pew that they once shared. The good news is that, by God’s grace, wherever we find ourselves in our return this fall, we already know that there will be a place for us.

Grace and Peace, Stephen

As you will see in the pages of this issue of The Visitor, this summer has been filled with excitement. We saw another

Above, left: The Cady family together in Chicago, IL. Above, right: The welcome hall of the Park Ridge Community Church, where Rev. Dr. Stephen Cady served as the Youth Minister.

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COMMUNITY NEWS WORSHIP TIMES 8:30 AM

TRADITIONAL WORSHIP

UPCOMING SERVICES

10 AM

CHANCEL WORSHIP WITH HOLY COMMUNION

11 AM

TRADITIONAL WORSHIP

SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 8 Micah 6:1-8; James 2:14-26 Rev. Dr. Stephen M. Cady II, Preacher

SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 29 Luke 16:19-31 Rev. Jacqueline Nelson, Preacher

SUNDAY, OCTOBER 20 Luke 18:1-8 Rev. Jacqueline Nelson, Preacher

SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 15 Luke 21:1-4 Rev. Dr. Stephen M. Cady II, Preacher

SUNDAY, OCTOBER 6 World Communion Sunday Luke 17:5-10 Rev. Dr. Stephen M. Cady II, Preacher

SUNDAY, OCTOBER 27 2 Timothy 4:6-8; 16-18 Rev. Dr. Stephen M. Cady II, Preacher

SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 22 Luke 16:1-13 Rev. Dr. Stephen M. Cady II, Preacher

SUNDAY, OCTOBER 13 Luke 17:11-19 Rev. Dr. Stephen M. Cady II, Preacher

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 3 All Saints Sunday Luke 6:20-31 Rev. Dr. Stephen M. Cady II, Preacher

IN THE COMMUNITY DEATHS

Maggie Rose Carroll-Nellenback, daughter of Jonathan and Anna Carroll-Nellenback, baptized on June 23, 2019.

Karl Nelson on the death of his wife Patricia on May 26, 2019.

Dalton Maverick Clark, son of William and Susan Clark, baptized on June 23, 2019.

WE OFFER OUR PRAYERS AND SYMPATHY TO The family and friends of Shirley Swackhamer who died on June 8, 2019.

Harper Grace Sutton, daughter of Christopher and Emily Sutton, baptized on June 23, 2019.

The family and friends of Glenn Immegart who died on June 13, 2019.

Alayna Nadiah Plaza, daughter of Juan and Asia Plaza, baptized on August 4, 2019.

The family and friends of Hank Dixon who died on July 1, 2019.

The family and friends of Mary Vevera who died on July 4, 2019.

Adrian Melendez, son of Daniel Melendez and Gloria Vargas, baptized on August 4, 2019.

The family and friends of Mary Petronio who died on July 15, 2019.

MARRIAGES

The family and friends of Norma Ritchie who died on July 15, 2019.

WE CELEBRATE THE MARRIAGE OF

Ernie and Cindy Dankert on the death of Ernie’s brother, Thomas, on July 27, 2019.

Rachel Erin Stuart and Denton Nemeth Fogle, married on May 24, 2019.

The family and friends of Nancy Doerner who died on July 28, 2019.

Kristen Elizabeth Cronmiller and Joshua Brian Douglass, married on June 22, 2019.

BAPTISMS

Jennifer Elizabeth Power and Jacob Joseph De Buyser, married on August 10, 2019.

WE CELEBRATE THE BAPTISM OF Emma Paige Dorofy, daughter of Andrew and Lisa Dorofy, baptized on June 9, 2019.

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COMMUNITY NEWS

DISCIPLESHIP AT ASBURY FIRST

NEW CLASSES THIS FALL SUNDAY MORNINGS | 9:45–10:45 AM DISCIPLE: FAST TRACK Starting September 15 | 1010 Second Floor,

The term Discipleship is one of those insider terms we often hear in church, but might not always understand what it means. One of our goals at Asbury First is, in addition to Sunday morning worship, that every individual be involved in some type of outreach and ministry. In this way, we hope that they will build relationships both within and beyond our community, and that God’s message of love and inclusion for all will be shared and realized. These ministries range from small group meetings, to community-wide programs, to musical ensembles, to leadership teams, etc. But even with all of our current options, we recognize that we could do more. And with that in mind, we are excited to invite each of you into our process of discernment to what new opportunities Asbury First might offer in the coming year. If you have an idea for a class, program, or fellowship group that you would like to lead or participate in, please email discipleship@asburyfirst.org to let us know about it. Our Discipleship Team will then consider each of these ideas and work to figure out which ones are viable, and how best to implement them into the life and ministry of Asbury First. From running clubs, to board game groups, to new study groups, we look forward to seeing how each of you might help bring us together as a community.

LET’S GROW TOGETHER 50+ FELLOWSHIP CLASS The 50+ Fellowship meets on Sunday mornings at 9:45 am in the dining room of 1010 East Avenue. We are a group of older adults who enjoy being together for fellowship, fun and learning from knowledgeable speakers on a variety of interesting topics. Our programs are open to all whether you choose to come occasionally or every week.

SEPTEMBER 8 Welcome Back Sunday—Our Organist Duane Prill will be with us to talk about the Asbury First Sanctuary Organ and some of the enhancements that have been installed over the summer.

SEPTEMBER 15 David Basinger will be with us once again to guide us in a discussion of a challenging contemporary topic. Dr. Basinger is Chief Academic Officer at Roberts Wesleyan College.

SEPTEMBER 22 Peter Owh will be with us. He is the new Chair for Asbury First Planned Giving. This will be an opportunity to get to know Peter and learn what he sees as the direction for Planned Giving at Asbury First.

SEPTEMBER 29 RAIHN will be guests in Building 1010—no class this Sunday.

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Have you ever wanted to study the Bible as a whole book? This is a trimmed down version of the popular “Disciple” Bible Study. Throughout the year you will get to read excerpts from every book of the Bible and gain a better understanding of each book in their own right, as well as how they fit into the whole.

FAITH QUESTIONS Starting October 6 | 1010 Red Room

Who is God? Did Jesus rise from the dead? Does God have gender? If someone asked you these questions, how confident would you be in your ability to answer? Join Rev. Dr. John R. Tyson as we dig deeper into these tough questions, and many more.

WHAT’S A TITHE AND DOES IT MATTER? October 6–27 | 1010 Second Floor

A tithe is church jargon for giving 10% to the church.

But is it really Biblical? Do people really do that? And what is the good message in all of this for me? Join Rev. Mike Mullin and Morgan Dornsife on Sunday mornings to discover the Biblical roots and meaning of tithing, and how our financial contributions to Asbury First are helping us to do more good.

WEDNESDAY EVENINGS | 6:00–7:00 PM A GOOD END October 9–30 | 1040 Room 201

As we explore what it means to live well, we should also take the opportunity to discuss what it means to end well. This four-week series will explore topics like the spirituality of death, financial planning, tools for beneficiaries, and service planning. There will be lots of times for questions, both in the group setting and one-on-one with one of our instructors. This course is designed for all, whether you are attending with yourself in mind or someone you love.

METHODISM 101 October 30–November 20 | 1040 Room 203

What’s up with the name “Methodist?” Why do our ministers move around so much? Why do we use grape juice during communion? Whether you’ve been a United Methodist all of your life, or have just heard of us, this class is for you! The Rev. Dr. Stephen Cady will lead this four-week discussion about the history, structure, beliefs, and challenges of The United Methodist Church.

MUSIC & ARTS NEWS DIFFERENT ENSEMBLES:

SAVE THE DATE ASBURY FIRST MUSICAL ENSEMBLES

Wednesday, September 4, 5:30 pm, Gathering Center Traditional “Welcome Back” Potluck Supper With the church’s program year starting up in early September, it's time to consider joining or re-joining Asbury First’s musical ensembles. Our traditional “welcome back” potluck supper will be held on Wednesday, September 4 at 5:30 pm in the Gathering Center, and several of our groups will have their first rehearsals that evening. Ensemble members, watch your in boxes for more specifics about the potluck supper itself.

All our ensembles are eager to welcome new members, and the beginning of the season is the perfect time to join! Please consider

SANCTUARY CHOIR Dr. Carl Johengen, cjohengen@asburyfirst.org Wednesdays, 7:30–9 pm; and Sunday 11 am service ASBURY SINGERS Dr. Carl Johengen, cjohengen@asburyfirst.org Sundays 7:45 am rehearsal and 8:30 am service; a Saturday morning “kick-off” retreat will be held on September 14, 9 am to 12 pm ASBURY RINGERS Elizabeth Church, echurch@asburyfirst.org Wednesdays 7–8:30 pm YOUTH CHOIR AND RINGERS, Grades 6–12 Carol Lamica, clamica@asburyfirst.org Wednesdays 6–7 pm HALLELUJAH KIDS, age 4 through Grade 1 Holly Temming, htemming@asburyfirst.org Wednesdays 5–5:30 pm WESLEY SINGERS AND RINGERS, Grades 2–5 Holly Temming, htemming@asburyfirst.org Wednesdays 6–7 pm

whether this might be the year to get involved in one of our groups.

If you’re interested, please come be our guest at the pot-luck on September 4, where you'll learn about each group and meet some of our musicians.

If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to get in touch with our Director of Music Ministry, Dr. Carl Johengen (cjohengen@asburyfirst. org), or with the directors of each individual group (see right).

Asbury First rejoices that our worship is enhanced by so much wonderful music!

If you have an interest in the Flute Ensemble, Orchestra, or Men's Choir, which meet less regularly, please contact Carl Johengen who will put you in touch with the directors to add you to their contact list.

EMMANUEL COLLEGE CHAPEL CHOIR

Friday September 13 7:30 pm We are proud to host the Emmanuel College Chapel Choir from Cambridge University. The Choir is comprised of about eighteen singers, and has a large repertoire of sacred and secular music.

Their principal function is to sing one Communion service and one service of Evensong each week—though they also entertain at dinners and undertake various external engagements.

Besides these regular commitments in the College, the Choir has a very active profile, both across England and abroad. Over

the past year residencies have included Southwark Cathedral (in London) and St. George’s Chapel (Windsor Castle). The Choir toured in Barcelona in the summer of 2018, and in Poland in 2017; and the Choir will tour in the United States in 2019.

Concert engagements in Michaelmas 2018 included Verdi Requiem (with another choir) at the Hampstead Arts Festival (outside of London), and future plans include the first British performance of Stölzel’s Passion.

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OUTREACH NEWS STOREHOUSE HELP

STOREHOUSE PLAYTIME On July 22, the youth, youth pastor, and counselors from St. Paul’s United Methodist Church in Brick Township, NJ stopped by Asbury First. They helped sort loads of clothes for the Storehouse. We are grateful for their help and care!

It was a particularly busy day at the Storehouse on July 25, and every family came with kids. They all ended up playing together very nicely in our play area. It is a wonderful thing to provide clothes for those in need in the Rochester area, but it is also amazing to have a safe place for children to play together!

D&CC NARCAN TRAINING HABITAT 2X4 SIGNING

The Dining and Caring Center hosted a Narcan Training on July 17. Olinda Ford, MSW, from Trilium Health, led the group through the proper techniques and procedures for using Narcan to stop an overdose. Each person at the training received a kit to use in case of an opioid overdose. The Community Opioid Overdose Prevention and Naloxone Training, which is hosted by Trillium Health, holds trainings at 1 pm on the fourth Saturday of each month at 259 Monroe Avenue. They are free and open to the public. For more information, please contact Trillium Health at (585) 210-4146 or at OOP@trilliumhealth.org.

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In July, our congregation signed 2x4s that were donated to the next Asbury First/Harvest Home Coalition/Flower City Habitat Home for the Abdulaziz Abdulahi Family! The 2x4s will be used in the framing of the two-story home in the Josana neighborhood on Holworthy Street. Visit https:// give.rochesterhabitat.org/ge/ thriventharvest2019 to check it out and see how the build is going. For more information contact Rick Kuempel at kuempel84@gmail.com.

OUTREACH NEWS

WATER FOR SOUTH SUDAN

PHOTOS COURTESY OF LYNN MALOOLY AND ERIN RUTH

W

e are pleased to report that Water for South Sudan (WFSS) has drilled the well that Asbury First sponsored.

Water for South Sudan has now drilled over 390 wells since 2005. They are deeply grateful for the continued support from donors like us which enables their work.

WFSS will continue to provide access to clean water and hygiene education, led by our South Sudan team. Although parts of South Sudan continue to experience unrest, we have been able to continue drilling wells safely. Their work continues to provide grass root development and sustainability for rural villages and schools. The installation of a new well can also serve as a starting point for conflict resolution between different groups, bringing peace and stability.

Our well is in the village of Achir in Palou, Wau, South Sudan. The village chief is Mabior Parek Machar. GPS coordinates of our well are N: 08' 06' 192.4"; E: 028' 55' 017.8".

Thank you for your support and generosity, which is now helping to provide fresh, clean water, and a new future to the people of Achir, South Sudan.

For more information about Water for South Sudan, please visit www.waterforsouthsudan.org.

WATERING THE SEEDS OF CHANGE IN SOUTH SUDAN Rehabilitated Wells Since 2017

Wells Dug Since 2005

399

338

119

50

New Wells (2018-19)

Over 300,000 People Served

Hygiene Trainings Since 2014

60

Rehabilitated Wells (2018-19) 8

110

Hygiene Trainings (2018-19)

OUTREACH NEWS DINING IN FOR OUTREACH IS OCTOBER 5 Do all the good you can, by all the means you can, in all the ways you can, in all the places you can, at all the times you can, to all the people you can as long as ever you can.”

­— John Wesley

Dining In For Outreach supports our efforts to do more good by offering food, clothing, health care, and shelter to those who need it. Thanks to the passion of many, we serve God’s children in places near and far.

Through our ministries, we are following Jesus’s command to love our neighbors as ourselves.

The event benefits our many ministries listed: LOCAL OUTREACH • Dining & Caring Center • Asbury Storehouse • UR Well Clinic • Grocery Bag Ministry • RAIHN • School 17 & 45 Tutoring • Habitat for Humanity All are welcome to join a Dining In For INTERNATIONAL OUTREACH Outreach table so that we can serve more • Miracle Garden, India of those in need. Asbury First members host • Project Chacocente, Nicaragua dinners in their homes. Their guests enjoy a great dinner and each other’s company This is an opportunity to serve: and also donate money in support of our Host a dinner. Attend a dinner. many ministries.

Sponsor the event. Your help is essential.

For further information or to volunteer, please contact this year’s Dining In For Outreach chairpersons: Adelaide Svoboda at ajsvobod@gmail.com or Bob Castle at 166rcastle@gmail.com.

Also, on Sundays during September, look for us before and after the services to sign up for a dinner or to ask for details.

BE SURE TO SAVE THE DATE! SATURDAY, OCTOBER 5, 2019

Some groups choose to meet on convenient alternate dates. Let us know if that would work for you.

GROCERY BAG MINISTRY The Grocery Bag Ministry was happy to receive our first delivery from our friends at Gleason, as part of their food drive campaign. They had three very full boxes of our various staples after only three weeks of their eight-week campaign.

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SUMMER AT ASBURY FIRST Asbury First was BRIMMING with activity during the summer months. As we head into fall, here is a look back at the incredible memories we made together. From the Pride Parade to Tent Week and the Hug Relay, our congregation reveled in fellowship, raised money for our incredible Outreach Ministries, and spread the love—one hug at a time.

The next few pages are filled with moments both simple and extraordinary. Asbury First showed our commitment to the community and that ALL ARE WELCOME in our doors.

PARK AVE FESTIVAL AND PARKING

PRIDE PARADE RECONCILING CHURCHES MARCHING

The youth group worked to park cars during the festival. This raised thousands of dollars for our 2020 Youth Mission trips! Also, our booth at Park Ave Festival spread the word about Asbury First and other Reconciling United Methodist Churches—highlighting the Hug Relay, the Storehouse Summer Sale, and the Chicken BBQ. — Rev. Mike Mullin

This year, in scorching heat, people from the four reconciling congregations in our United Methodist district (Asbury First, Covenant, Fairport, and Macedon Center), as well as marchers from Penfield, Salem and Centenary, and even from Brevard in North Carolina joined together to march in the Rochester Pride Parade. We played hand chimes and sang “Rainbow Connection,” and reminded parade goers that despite the recent events in our denomination, our churches remain committed to being open to all. — Deb Bullock-Smith

RED WINGS GAME

On a beautiful Wednesday night on July 31, Asbury First was out in force as the Red Wings beat the Scranton RailRiders 6 to 1. About 45 of us were fortunate to be able to sing God Bless America during the 7th-inning stretch at Frontier Field. It was an enjoyable evening of baseball, singing, and fellowship. — Sarah Brubaker 10

SUMMER RECAP STOREHOUSE SUMMER SALE

Another successful Storehouse Summer Sale is in the books! Thursday, August 1 through Sunday, August 4, the second floor of the education wing buzzed with buyers rushing to score the perfect deals! For over 25 years, the Storehouse has hosted this important fundraiser, but with the HVAC and asbestos removal in Fellowship Hall this summer, we found a new location on the second floor. The space proved to be welcoming, and our customers loved it! The Summer Sale is only possible because so many contribute to it year round.

Volunteers worked tirelessly to help with everything from crowd control, setting up tables, distributing posters, advertising, arranging the displays, and assist customers. The Asbury First family continues to demonstrate God’s love through our Outreach programs and care for others. Thank you for helping make that possible! — Elizabeth Church, Sale Coordinator

BAKE SALE

Our talented bakers produced delicious goodies to support the Asbury Storehouse and our many Outreach Missions. We sold pies, cupcakes, cookies, breads, brownies, coffee cakes, and many unique creations. We earned $1,245 and provided a lovely space to enjoy our treats. Special thanks for the decorations goes to Sue Bickel, who brought in a variety of fabrics, sunflowers, and more to add to the ambiance. — Beth Woolever, Sale Coordinator

CHICKEN BBQ

A tiny bit of rain didn't dampen enthusiasm for the second chicken barbecue to benefit the Asbury First Dining and Caring Center.

We served nearly 200 people—about half dining center guests and half other members of the Asbury First community. In all, we took in $2,100 in sales, including five dinners from a fellow who was just passing by and realized he was going by the take-out table!

Thanks to all the volunteers, especially to Martha Neubert, who brought leadership to organizing this event; and Stuart Mitchell, who built and ran the barbecue pit. Thanks also to the many donations of dinners for guests and other items that helped us keep costs lower.

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here are moments when this world feels hopeless. With each horrific headline, with every juvenile expression of political factionalism, it can feel like the division in our world is inevitable. Then comes a moment like August 8.

We may not have set the world record for the longest hug relay, but despite the rain, despite the division, despite the inertia of isolation, we brought hundreds of people together to share a moment of genuine connection. I will never forget the laughter, the visceral sense of fun, or the authentic affection people shared with each hug. The gospel of Jesus Christ is grounded in the promise that when we love our neighbor as ourselves we find life—not at death. But right now, on that night, one hug at a time, we preached that sermon to this entire community.

These events can seem rather silly at first glance, but we live in a world with people dying for human connection. We gave hundreds of people in this community (over 600 at last count) a story to tell and a chance to rehearse a better way of life. Some may never darken our doors on a Sunday morning and some might. Either way, we gave people a glimpse of what true community looks like. In short, we reminded people that there is always hope.

Thank you to all of the participants, the volunteers, the staff, the planning team, and sponsors who helped make this world better, one hug at a time.

— Rev. Dr. Stephen Cady, II

Keep a look out for the video on our website! www.asburyfirst.ogr/hugrelay/video HUGGERS ASSEMBLE!

Thanks to Jake Schwartz for getting these shots of the Hug Relay line progression from the rooftop!

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We’ve been married for over 60 years and were excited to hear about this event. We thought it sounded like a lovely way to share the joy and love we’ve shared for so long.

Tim is 95 years old and can’t wait for his hug.”

— Peggy Epping, Participant (pictured above)

SUMMER RECAP

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The Hug Relay was such a breath of fresh air! I watched everyone, from entire families to individuals who came alone, bond with one another in a unique way over a short amount of time. The joy and laughter were contagious. We were all one big happy group of people celebrating the gift of being together!”

— Rev. Jacqueline Nelson

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The Hug Relay was an unforgettable experience. Even as I witnessed people passing their hugs along, I could see the joy and love as they did it. As fun and silly as we were at times, I don't think the message was lost. Each of the hundreds of hugs given that day were so desperately needed. It was awesome to see the physical manifestation of kindhearted people doing what they do best— spread kindness and love. It all starts with such a small simple act!”

— Yvonne Colton, Volunteer

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SUMMER RECAP

VBS 2019 THE POWER OF SMALL THINGS

This year’s Vacation Bible School (VBS) theme was The Power of Small Things! We learned about the tiny mustard seed and how it grows to be a big tree, and other wonderful Bible stories about small deeds creating big results. This amazing group of kids raised money to support the cost of lunch of the students in Project Chaocente in Nicaragua. They also supported The Shoes That Grow ministry. The Shoes That Grow is a shoe that expands five sizes and lasts for years, and was created for kids living in poverty. Along with the congregation, we raised enough money to buy over 300 pairs! For more information about the shoes, visit www.becauseinternational.org/the-shoe-that-grows. The children also supported our own outreach a the Asbury Dining and Caring Center by making over 100 snack bags for our guests. Overall, the kids did a great job raising money for those in need, learned about the power of small things, and had a blast doing it!

— Paula Dugan, Director of Children’s Ministry

JR YOUTH MISSION

For our Mission work, we started at Begin Again Horse Rescue where we helped clean some feed buckets, do some painting, and hung out with the minis Beau and Legend. We also worked at the Gandhi Institute in the community garden. We had a great day at Foodlink learning about all the amazing outreach they do, and helping to sort donations. Then, we helped the Storehouse move items from their sale, as well as helped folks get ready for the Hug Relay. It was a great week with a lot of hard work and long days helping at VBS and then helping our Rochester community. This crew deserved a good time on our trip to Hershey Park.

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SUMMER RECAP SR YOUTH MISSION TRIP WASHINGTON D.C.

Mission trips have a tendency to teach you things you never expected to learn: how to avoid looking like a tourist on the Metro, how to peel a watermelon, and how important it is to listen before we make assumptions. While there are a handful of stories from our D.C. mission trip that I could share regarding all three of these skills, the latter is what speaks to me.

The last site my group served in was 801 East Men’s Shelter and Housing. Prior to arrival, I remember thinking it was odd that out of all the in-need demographics in Washington D.C., this charity’s board of directors had decided to create a shelter exclusively for men. However, in our short time there, I started to see how much the organization impacts lives. The 380-bed shelter provides housing, showers, a hot meal, and access to different professionals­—including social workers, legal counselors, doctors, and dentists. They also have multiple transitional programs where homeless and at-risk men work directly with case managers and learn valuable skills they otherwise would not have the opportunity to develop.

Sometimes, especially as a youth, it can feel like there is so much work to be done across the world: we strive to end wars, solve world hunger, save the planet. It’s hard not to get lost in such a multitude of problems. I think part of the reason why this men’s shelter has stayed with me is because someone just picked an issue and started working to solve it. They focused all their efforts on helping individuals get back on their feet, 380 men at a time. — Elizabeth Roote, Student

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SUMMER RECAP

SUMMER BY THE NUMBERS PARK AVE PARKING

62 Volunteers Over 1,000 Cars parked $6,721 AMOUNT RAISED RED WINGS GAME

72 Attendees

43 Singers on the field $1 Hot Dog Night

VACATION BIBLE SCHOOL 2019

PRIDE PARADE

8 Churches represented 4 Years marching

Over 300 pairs of shoes 119 students 34 volunteers 1 Magician 1 Minion

STOREHOUSE SALE

About 45 volunteers for set up and throughout sale 5 Rooms used 332 Hours worked (excluding moving sale items and displays between 1040 to 1010 and back again)

$10,388 AMOUNT RAISED

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SUMMER RECAP

BAKE SALE

CHICKEN BBQ

TENT SUNDAY

About 40 bakers 15 Volunteers plus committee members $1,245 AMOUNT RAISED

Almost 200 people served 200 Half chickens barbecued $2,100 AMOUNT RAISED

364 Attendees

601 HUGS!!

around barefoot

HUG RELAY

1,500 Slices of Pizza 45 Volunteers

1 Minister walking

1 Radio station broadcasting live from our event

2 Countdown clocks

SENIOR HIGH MISSION WORK

1 Drone

JUNIOR HIGH MISSION WORK

42 missioners 750 miles traveled

25 missioners 600 Miles traveled

Worked with at least 10 different agencies in Washington, D.C. 800 HOURS WORKED

Worked with 4 different agencies in Rochester area 500 HOURS WORKED 17

COMMUNITY NEWS

PHOTOS BY SARAH BRUBAKER, AND COURTESY OF MARTHA HUNT AND NANCY ADAMUS

Preparing God's Table THE ALTAR GUILD

The Altar Guild is instrumental in preparing the Sanctuary each week for worship. Altar flowers, candles, Bibles, and linens are attended to each Saturday and Sunday.

“I have always enjoyed setting up on Saturdays, working with friends and I especially enjoy following the routines of preparing the Chancel for Sunday worship.

To me, the experience as a whole, is Holy,” said Jane Jeszenka.

After the 11 am service, altar flowers are divided into six bouquets and delivered to Asbury First members unable to attend church. If anyone in the congregation knows a friend or family member going through a difficult time they are welcome to come to the sacristy door (the room behind the organ) and ask whether we have extra bouquets that they could deliver. “It is special to deliver flowers on Sundays and to see the smiles they create,” said Ann Fulreader.

Many hours are dedicated to creating the special altars for World Communion Sunday, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter—and then clearing them away without a trace.

“I think many congregants think flowers

appear by magic,” said Deb McClean. “They have no idea that after the service we share them not only with church members, but with other people facing life’s challenges.

We spread joy, offer comfort, and sometimes offer company.”

Last year, the Guild gave support to the participants of seven weddings; 16 memorial services/funerals; two Older Adult Communion services; and the services for Ash Wednesday, Maundy Thursday, the Longest Night, Christmas Eve, and New Year’s Eve. “I am on the wedding committee,” said Sharon Parker. “We try to make the couples’ individual services go as smoothly as possible. These duties make me feel like

I have a small part of people’s experiences when they come to Asbury First.”

Through the Guild, the congregation is given an opportunity to dedicate flowers to loved ones on a weekly basis, as well as at Christmas and Easter. They ensure that the altar candles will not run out of oil, the linens will be ready, the correct antependium (banner hanging on the lecturns) will be in place, the pew candle holders will have fresh wax candles at each Christmas Eve service and the Chancel woodwork will be cleaned every Spring.

“One thing that I didn’t even know until I joined the altar guild, is that we don’t get

REGULAR, WEEKLY DUTIES

The regular, weekly work includes (from left to right): Saturday set up; Sunday take down, bouquet separation, and delivery; and filling the candles.

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COMMUNITY NEWS BUILDING CHRISTMAS

SPECIAL ALTARS/EVENTS

Not only does the committee put together breathtaking altars for special holidays, they also set up for memorials, funerals, and weddings (above, left). Another task is to separate the individual palms from the main stalk for Palm Sunday (above, right).

any money from the Asbury First budget,” said Martha Hunt, current president. “All of the flowers are paid for by dedications/ donations.” If you would like to donate flowers, look for the envelopes with the purple label in the Welcome Hall.

“I will always remember Robin, a past youth minister at Asbury First who compared the Altar Guild to a family member who was called in to set the table for dinner. Sure, anyone can eat without the formality, but having the table set gives greater aesthetic meaning to what happens when the family gathers,” said Cindy Dankert. “Anyone can have a house but it takes a special person to make it a home.”

Guild members gave approximately 900 volunteer hours last year. The greatest

WE NEED YOU!

challenge the committee currently faces is the fact that they are currently working with only 26 members.

“I am a humble servant of the Lord. I serve his house. I serve the pastors and our church family and I serve our community,” said Martha Tuke. “I have received more from this experience than I could have ever expected.

I serve not for the recognition, but for the abundant joy that fills my heart.”

The Altar Guild is a working committee and only has three meetings a year. We are looking for some bright new volunteers! We'd be happy to chat more about Altar Guild duties. For more information, contact Altar Guild President Martha Hunt at (585) 455-4681 or huntms@ rochester.rr.com. We’d LOVE to have you!

FLOWER DONATIONS

To donate/dedicate flowers, please contact Jeanne Ristau at (585) 223-4356 or jeanneristau6064 @gmail.com, or fill out a purple Altar Guild donation envelope (found in the Welcome Hall) and place it in the offering plate.

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The process for decorating the altar for special holidays, such as Christmas, is more involved.

BUILDING COMMITTEE UPDATES 1040 INFRASTRUCTURE PROJECT

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BY CHUCK HANRAHAN, PHOTOS BY JAMES FLACK

he infrastructure project in 1040 East Avenue is well underway. Asbestos removal is now complete. The second old boiler has been removed along with many ceilings and floors and asbestos pipe wrap. The rest of the demolition is underway with duct work and other equipment coming down. The boiler room is being re-configured and made larger (by adding the old bell room) to allow space for the air-handlers to be installed on the floor so that they are serviceable—currently they are mounted in the ceiling. Equipment has been ordered and we are currently on our established schedule. The electrical re-wiring will begin shortly and will continue for some time. Lighting work in the chancel is scheduled for October.

Fellowship Hall is both a construction zone and our control center. The labyrinth floor has been projected with a Masonite covering, and there is temporary lighting in place. The contractors are using all of the space! The lower level (Fellowship Hall and the kitchen) will remain closed throughout the project. Outside we have several dumpsters and equipment trailers. Soon there will be some excavation for a new fresh air vent on the west side of the church. Thus far, things are going very well and we expect to complete the project by year end.

BOILER UPDATE

Above: Previous boiler that failed last year, which is being dismantled and removed during the asbestos abatement.

Below: The original boiler was removed to accommodate the two new boilers.

ASBESTOS ABATEMENT

Below: Fellowship Hall kitchen work.

Right: Exposed ducts and pipes in Fellowship Hall during asbestos abatement.

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BUILDING COMMITTEE UPDATES 1040 INFRASTRUCTURE PROJECT TEAM The 1040 Infrastructure Project Team attends biweekly meetings with all the stakeholders involved in the project.

FRONT ROW (left to right): Tony from Larry Masci Electric; Bryan Marianacci, Frank J. Marianacci General Contractors; Chuck Hanrahan and Wayne Turnblom, Asbury First; Anna Dnistrian, Bero Architecture. BACK ROW (left to right): Troy Peterson, Monroe Piping and Sheet Metal; Dan Fox, IBC Engineering; JD from Larry Masci Electric; Don Jones, Frank J. Marianacci General Contractors; Richard Osgood, Bero Architecture; David Strong, Asbury First.

If you have any questions, please contact David Strong at dstrong@asburyfirst.org or at (585) 271-1050 x110, or Chuck Hanrahan at chuck.hanrahan@gmail.com or at (585) 690-7509.

DID YOU KNOW? We have a written history of Asbury First that extends from 1820­—the beginning of the First Church founding—up through 160 years. It also encompasses the completion of the 1040 East Avenue building in 1955 and the union of Methodist and Evangelical United Brethren denominations in 1968.

It was created and revised during 1978–1981 by the Church Records and History Committee under the chairmanship of Richard W. Henn. You can find it and borrow it from the Church Library. It tells that over this historical period, the church has owned five church edifices, a separate Sunday School-Chapel building and several parsonages.

The history also documents that the church in this period has had 48 head ministers, assistant ministers, and devoted a fluctuating drop in membership during the ’50s, ’60s and laymen and women. The actual count is somewhat difficult to ’70s from a high of 2,734 in 1959. verify, but can be checked in the listing of the ministers in the very back of the book.

Want to know more? Check out A History of Asbury First United Methodist Church in the Church Library.

The listing of ministers in this index shows that The Reverend Ogden in 1820 was the earliest minister through to Rev. Dr. Keep an eye out for a future update! We are working Theodore J. Weeden in 1982. Also, in the statistical portion on updating the history for the 200th Anniversary of this history book is a listing of the membership totals in 2020. from 1820 (30) to 1981 (1,830). This last number reflected 21

LIBRARY & READING NEWS

SEPTEMBER

NEW ADDITIONS

LIBRARY TEST

ANSWERS ARE BELOW AND IN THE CHURCH LIBRARY

1. The church library is open: A) 8–5 pm daily B) when the church is open C) by appointment only 2. The cost to borrow books from the church library is: A) nothing B) 25 cents C) depends upon how long you keep the book 3. The church library is located in: A) the Narthex B) 1010 East Ave. C) right off the Gathering Space 4. Books may be borrowed from the church library for: A) 1 week B) 3 weeks C) forever 5. The church library has books for: A) children B) young adult C) all ages 6. Who may borrow books from the church library?

A) Children B) adults C) everyone 7. Funds for the church library come from: A) church budget B) donations C) memorial gifts 8. Church library books include: A) reference books B) fiction C) non-fiction.

9. Asbury has had a church library for: A) 42 years B) 25 years C) since the beginning of time

ANSWERS

1. The library is open whenever the church is open.

2. Borrowing books from the church library is absolutely free.

3. The church library is located right off the gathering space (Church Resource Library).

4. The book borrowing time is 3 weeks. For those who may have borrowed books from the church library “for forever”—now is a good time to return

• JASPER AND OLLIE by Alex Willan—A tale of a sloth and a fox (a modern version of the hare and the tortoise) beautifully illustrated and narrated for children • GIRL GONE VIRAL by Arvin Ahmadi—A book for youth (in the YA library book case) about technology and friendship • YOU ARE HOME: AN ODE TO THE NATIONAL PARKS by Evan Turk—A not-to-be-missed picture book about the national parks and all those creatures who live there • HOLD HANDS by Sara Varon— Colorful, cartoony illustrations encourage young listeners about the rewards and comfort of holding hands • THE INVISIBLE THREAD by Laura Schroff and Alex Tresniowski— A true and touching encounter of a young single career woman and a raggedy, homeless boy

them absolutely free of charge.

5. The church library has books for all ages.

6. Everyone may borrow books from the library.

7. Funds to support the church library come from the church budget, donations, and memorial gifts.

8. Church library books include fiction and nonfiction, and reference books.

9. The first church library was started in 1977 (that’s 42 years ago) with a single bookcase in a small

• THE END OF YOUR LIFE BOOK CLUB by Will Schwalbe— A mom and son share books and thoughts during her treatment for pancreatic cancer.

Recommended by library committee member Monica Gilligan • HOW TO READ A BOOK by Kwame Alexander and Melissa Sweet—A stunning new picture book on the poetic and beautiful experience of reading • WHEN SADNESS IS AT YOUR DOOR by Eva Eland—A young reader book about sadness • Five books by Rabbi Jonathan Sacks—Not in God’s Name: Confronting Religious Violence; Dignity of Difference: How to Avoid the Clash of Civilizations; To Heal a Fractured World: The Ethics of Responsibility; and The Great Partnership: Science, Religion; and the Search for Meaning

room. It is now filled with thousands of books, videos and DVDs. The book collection, in 37-plus categories, ranges from general reference, life stages, religion and science, Bible, theology, and spirituality to fiction, church history and Christian education. Come see the displays of hymnals, Bibles, the many varied categories of materials— books for children, youth, adults, large print, special needs, DVDs, and parenting.

NEED IDEAS FOR ADULT CLASSES?

Check out the church library. The library has purchased two new DVDs complete with course books. They are The Lives of Great Christians and Comparative Religion. The library has also added the NOOMA series. Each film has a specific topic and lasts 10–14 minutes featuring Pastor Rob Bell relating Christian teaching to real life experiences. Each DVD is accompanied by a discussion brochure making it perfect for use as a discussion starter in small groups.

All are available for loan in the church library for free.

Want to renew a book, ask about a book, and find out church library information? Just e-mail the church library at library@ asburyfirst.org.

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THE LAST WORD

BY REV. KATHY THIEL

Be Still

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WHEN DEALING WITH STRESS—LOOK TO JESUS’S EXAMPLE

esus Christ was many things in this world: healer, teacher, preacher. He was a leader, a friend, a son. He shared radical ideas and had a compassionate heart that wanted to change the world. For each of us, we can find something in his life with which we can identify.

One of his great examples is that within and throughout all that he did, he knew a deep relationship with God which he experienced through the Holy Spirit. This connection gave him strength when he felt weak, supported him when he needed help, and gave him courage to accept and face stressors in his life. And there were many. One of the things I admire about Jesus and his life is that he knew when he needed to take a break from whatever was going on around him. He knew when the circumstances he was facing merited being fully rested, calmed in his heart, and centered in his soul. He knew what worked for him and he did it.

to your stressful situation. Second, take a deep breath. Clearing the air always helps. Third, change your perspective. Try and see the situation from a different angle. This can help us have empathy for a person who may be causing us stress, to be able to see what’s going on through their eyes and appreciate their feelings about it. Fourth, open a dialogue about what’s going on.

Perhaps it doesn’t have to be as stressful as you are feeling. If you are worried that you did something you wish you hadn’t, or left something undone you should have done; offer an apology and accept grace and forgiveness for any error you have made.

Worrying about a situation will not solve it, will not make it better, and will certainly not add to your peace and health.

We can look to Jesus as our example when our lives become a little too stressful for us. What do you do when it feels as if you are out of steam, when life is just too much? It’s important to remember a few things when facing stress. First, know yourself. Know when you are nearing your limit of coping. In my family, we use the phrase, “I hit the wall,” and as I grew and learned more self-awareness, I added the phrase, “I see the wall.” I knew myself well enough to know the signs that I was about to hit the wall, and so I stopped, had a glass of water, took a nap, called a friend—whatever it was at that moment that would help keep me sane and further from the stress of hitting the wall.

It’s not easy, because as we all know, we feel the stress of obligation, responsibility, and commitment. But we have tools with which to deal with these stressors when they present themselves in our lives. First, self-awareness. Know what your triggers are and when you need to step away—and make the boundary in your life to do just that. Understand that it might be a short break, but even that will help you refocus when you return

Find the ways that make you feel more calm. They are different for each of us. Perhaps you are one who is comforted by words.

Try Psalm 46, verse 10: “Be still and know that I am God.” Repeat it over and over, leaving off a word or two each time you do.

Be still and know that I am God. Be still and know that I am.

Be still and know.

Be still.

Be. Find the ways that stress you out, be aware of them, and think through some of the ways that make you feel less stressed about stress. And then work to remember to pray, or repeat the above when you are anxious; find that smooth, worn stone in your pocket When something worries you; these are some ways that can help lessen stress and anxiety.

You will have stress in your life—we all do—and when we learn the best way for our own self to manage it, we will be calmer. Know that God surrounds you, day and night. Bidden and unbidden, you are loved when you are stressed and when you are at peace. Dealing with ways to handle stress is a transformation, and it takes time. Take the time and try different ways until you find the one that works for you. Find a few example from Jesus, who escaped from the crowds, had supper with friends, and prayed. “Be still, and know that I am God.”

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