Reflections Book

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Hospital Notes

Art at the Heart of the RUH


Thank you

Our thanks go to the staff on Pulteney and Midford wards for their support of the project. But most of all we would like to thank the patients who took part in the creative reminiscence sessions, for sharing their memories with us. Over the summer of 2013, Frankie Whittingham (Musician in Residence) led a 12 week creative reminiscence project assisted by Elodie Guest (Creative Arts Therapies student). The project aimed to: Provide stimulating activities for patients Induce a feeling of achievement and happiness for patients Improve patients’ wellbeing Increase patients’ self-esteem and confidence Encourage and support social skills and interaction between patients Prompt reminiscence and memory recall The sessions took place every Friday on Pulteney and Midford wards and involved 36 patients. The group sessions were based on a different theme each week; and within each session the patients had the opportunity to work with a variety of creative stimulus including poetry, music, photos, and reminiscence objects. A selection of responses collected throughout the project are included in this booklet. We hope you enjoy reading the great memories which were recalled along the way.


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Childhood What was your favourite childhood toy? “I still have a teddy bear from my childhood, stuffed with straw.” “Piglet was my constant companion. Still got him. Very threadbare! He had a wardrobe of clothes, knitted blanket, a suitcase, everything!” “ I walked a good half hour to school. Always went with a handful of raisins in a screwed up piece of paper. Couldn’t have sweets as they were rationed.” “I lived in India until I was four. I had an Ayah and I remember she had a lovely red ruby in her nose. I loved her. She spoke Hindi to me and bought me spun glass bangles that clinked when you shook your wrist. “

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What was your favourite place to go as a child? “We went on a day trip to Weston SuperMare. We built sandcastles and had ice creams.” “Cheddar Gorge, we picked the strawberries.” “I used to go on the old steam trains on the deck where my cousins worked, we wou ld cook bacon on the coal shovel. Such a lov ely smell!”

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What was your favourite food as a child? “We had ice cream once a week, they cos t a penny. The cardboard triangle water ice ones. It came on a tricycle, we used to wait for the ping of the bell!” “Never saw bananas during the war. My dad used to smuggle them in, and we did n’t know whether to eat the skin or not!”

Family Christmas Apples and Oranges Gathering together Giving presents to brothers and sisters You would get one or two presents and be grateful for that. Children just grow up and get married and then boss you around! When you want to be a family, you’ve got to stay together.

Just My Mum My mum was very tall and elegant She had big well done hair And was never without a boyfriend We had a picture of her in the hallway And when we had visitors, they would ask ‘Is that a film star relative of yours?’ And I’d say, ‘No, that’s just my mum’

Do you see your family often? Always. Always. It was always an open house in my house Go out 2-3 times a week. All the family comes over at the weekend to eat. Of course I cook.

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“We spent our lives in the field. Once we found a blackbird so we buried it” “Oh we used to have funerals galore! We buried mice, birds and even a worm! We had proper funerals with flowers”

“I had a cat called Whiskey” “Had a cat called He-she. Was black and white. Didn’t know if it was a he or a she. Heshe would look up at me when I was watching tv as if to say ‘may I?’ and then jump onto my lap always taking the same position. Sometimes in my sleep Heshe would paw at my face!”

“In your life you’ll start again, make a new life for yourself over and over, so many times that you’ll lose count.”

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“As soon as I met him, I knew I would marry him . We married one week later. He knew everythi ng I didn’t know. He taught me how to cook.”

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“I was walking home one evening when a gentleman came up to me and asked “where are you going?”. “Home” I said. He then asked if he could walk me home and I said Yes! We walked holding hands”

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