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THE LIFESTYLE MANUAL FOR THE MODERN MOM

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MEET THESE COOL TWEENS ON PAGE 26.

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Summer!

SEND THE SEASON OFF WITH A LOVELY LUAU

FORGET THE BIRDS & BEES

HOW TO TALK TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT SEX

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AUGUST 2017 MODERN MOM 14 MAMA SAID THE TALK

16 MIND, BODY & SOUL

KEEP IT TOGETHER DURING A DIVORCE

18 SAVVY STYLE BOOK-SMART STYLE

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SAVVY FAMILY 20 ALOHA, SUMMER

SEND THE SEASON OFF WITH A PROPER LUAU

24 SAVVY’S AMAZING TWEENS (AND INBETWEEN)

READER-NOMINATED TWEENS BOUND FOR GREATNESS

33 LAST-MINUTE GETAWAYS

GET IN ONE LAST VACATION AT A LOCAL FAMILY-FRIENDLY SPOT

36 FORGET THE BIRDS & BEES

KIDS LOOK TO PARENTS FOR STRAIGHT TALK ABOUT SEX

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6 EDITOR’S NOTE 10 NEWS & NOTES

CALENDAR, CRAFTS & MORE!

38 MOM APPROVED MISSY LIPPS

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BEFORE YOU GET BACK TO THE ROUTINE... August is a month of shifting gears. It’s hard to watch those last couple of weeks of summer slip through our fingers and say goodbye to days at the swimming pool, staying up late watching movies and popping popcorn and sleeping until, well, whenever we want. There are tons of ways to get the most out of the last weekends of summer. Sometimes August takes us by surprise and we realize we never had a chance to get away with the family and make some memories. Arkansas is full of easy-to-reach locations to enjoy the outdoors, climb, explore, dig or just relax. On page 33 we offer some ideas for last-minute Natural State getaways the whole family will love. Maybe you need one last hurrah before you close the books on the season. We love any excuse to throw a party, and what better way to send off summer than with a luau? We set the scene for your end-of-the-summer bash on page 20 complete with cocktail and mocktail recipes (if you want to include the kids), decorations from Party City, DIY decor ideas, themed snacks and fashion from local retailer RockRay Clothing that help you transition to the next season in stunning style. We are also preparing our kids to head back to school, which always seems to sneak up sooner than expected. Of course they’ll need some trendy new threads, supplies and more to help them put their best foot forward on the first day. Check out our local picks on page 18. Clothes, shoes and backpacks are easy. Giving the tools of knowledge our kids need as they grow isn’t always a walk in the park. We tackle the tough topic of sex education on page 36. It’s something we need to talk with them about early and often to make sure they have a comfortable understanding of their bodies and boundaries. Kids look to parents for answers, and it’s so important to be ready when those (sometimes uncomfortable) opportunities arise. Kids have so much on their plates these days, and it never ceases to amaze me how they seem to handle it all and still find time to be amazing! This batch of Savvy’s Amazing Tweens is so impressive. Turn to page 26 to meet Evie, Casey, Karson, Brannon and Payton. They’ve competed in triathlons, volunteered in the community, defied medical odds and so much more. Their stories will offer inspiration and some much-needed motivation!

Amy Gordy Editor, Savvy @SavvyAR

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news & notes

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The Clinton Presidential Center will celebrate back-toschool with the annual “Head of the Class Bash,” a free family festival on the grounds from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m., Aug. 5. More than 3,000 backpacks filled with school supplies will be distributed to students on a first-come, firstserved basis. clintonfoundation.org.

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The Junior League of Little Rock, in partnership with UALR Children International, is hosting the fun, free family event Boosters & Big Rigs from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. Aug. 12 at the UALR Jack Stephens Center. Children can receive physicals, vision and dental screenings, explore community vehicles, play games and enjoy a bounce house and obstacle course. jllr.org.

Story time has never been wilder than at the Little Rock Zoo! The reading series, Zoobilation, in partnership with the Central Arkansas Library System, is back at the zoo’s amphitheater. Catch an animal story at 10 a.m., noon and 2 p.m. littlerockzoo.com.

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Cool off and make a big splash at the Back to School Splash at Splash Zone in Jacksonville. The mini waterpark invites families to slip, slide, dive and dance to the music of a DJ at this end-of-summer, kid-friendly party. cityofjacksonville.net.

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Explore and discover Arkansas’s great outdoors at Geocaching Weekend at Pinnacle Mountain State Park. Learn about Arkansas State Park’s geocache tour and nearby geocaches. Events are geared toward beginners. arkansasstateparks.com.

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On Aug. 21 we will experience a total solar eclipse from coast to coast for the first time in 99 years. The Museum of Discovery is hosting an educational “eclipnic” from 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. Bring a lunch or purchase slices of pizza from Damgoode Pies at the museum, and learn about the eclipse through hands-on activities before it happens! Admission includes a pair of eclipse glasses for the viewing. This event will include activities for all ages. museumofdiscovery.org.

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The Arkansas Razorbacks bring the college football season opener against the Florida A&M Rattlers to War Memorial Stadium. Get the tailgate fired up and the drinks iced down—it’s sure to be a hot one! arkansasrazorbacks.com.

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savvy craft

A TOP-SHELF PROJECT

My final summer project is finding creative ways to store books and display our favorite tchotchkes. I’d heard about different ways to upcycle old drawers and thought I’d try it out! I visited the Habitat ReStore to scope out materials and was pleased to find some drawers that weren’t part of a whole dresser or desk! Those are the only items I purchased for this project, as I already had paint and hardware at the house. Incredibly, the cost was only $4! And the result is adorable—I made some for my daughter as well, and she loves them in her room. The simplicity of this project is the best part—it’s so easy I’m planning to upcycle more shelves for the playroom!

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· As many old drawers as you please! · Chalk paint in any color · Interior paint in any color · Foam paint brushes · Regular paintbrush · Picture-hanging materials (wire and hooks) · Sandpaper

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HOW TO:

1. Wash and sand the drawers to remove dirt and old paint. Determine which way you want your drawer to hang on the wall. Flip it over, and install the picture hanging material (wire and hooks). 2. Paint the exterior of the drawers with chalk paint using a regular paintbrush (or whatever paint you prefer). 3. Paint the interior of the drawer for a color contrast using the foam brush to add a little texture to the project. Get creative and look for stencils, appliques, whatever your heart desires. 4. Let it all dry before applying the next coat. I’m guilty of moving too quickly and smudging the color with the white paint. 5. Hang on the wall and style with books, vases or anything else you love! By Becky Pittman, communications consultant for Habitat for Humanity of Central Arkansas

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mama said...

THE TALK BY JEN HOLMAN

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never had “the talk.” My mother, bless her, looked away as she shoved an archaic religious book at me. It was sterile, a technical manual with a parts list and instructions for installation and operation. It also presented as fact the correlation between purity and worth, a shallow minefield I must now navigate as a mother of daughters. Remember Elizabeth Smart? At 14, she was abducted from her bedroom in Salt Lake City and rescued nine months later. She now speaks out about the lasting emotional damage of tying a young woman’s worth to her virginity. After being kidnapped, she recalled a metaphor she’d been taught equating girls to pieces of gum. A girl who’d had sex before marriage was used, like a chewed-up piece of gum. “Who wants a piece of gum that,s already chewed up?” she asked. “No one." Though Elizabeth Smart had no choice in the matter, she felt “hopeless, useless, dirty.” Certainly, there are variations of this same idea. In Victorian times, women who’d lost their virginity were “ruined,” but “damaged goods” is currently popular. I don’t know about you, but I can’t recall a single instance of these same terms being applied to boys. Speaking of boys, good grief, I am not looking forward to that version of “the talk.” Mine is too young yet, but I’ve been thinking about it, as has my husband. Of particular concern is a healthy understanding of consent, and instilling respect for women (and himself) considering easy access to pornography. Technology has eliminated the hoops kids years ago had to jump through, like access to an uncle’s VHS stash or a parent-free night and a subscription

to Cinemax. Now, kids can simply enter search terms on their phones and free hardcore videos appear. We want to reach our kids before this happens for a number of reasons. It’s important we’re both the first source and primary resource when they have questions, because despite what they may have heard, everything on the internet is not, in fact, true. To date, my experience with “the talk” has been difficult—for both parties involved. I had to have it with my daughter much earlier than anticipated when she overheard my friend discussing an unexpected pregnancy. I’d already given her all the usual blow-offs. You know the ones. We loved each other so much God gave us a baby. Cabbage patches, storks, angels, Amazon—whatever. She wasn’t buying it. Like certain fairies and bunnies, she saw straight through the façade and wouldn’t be satisfied without the truth. So, I gave it to her straight. She found the whole thing utterly repulsive, and was relieved to know we only did it three times to conceive her and her siblings. There was no sex ed in my tiny rural town. The high school basketball coach taught a semester of health class, pointing to fundamentals on an overhead projector. I don’t want my kids to feel ignorance or guilt or shame— or worse. I want them to be safe, healthy, informed and respectful. As parents, we must all do what works for us and our own families. Some parents may deliver “the talk” with confidence, while others look away and push a book into mortified hands. Whatever your method, I wish you luck and a kind audience. If you have a moment, send me happy thoughts for the same.

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Jen Holman is determined to be a voice of reason in the cacophony of reality TV and mom-judgment-gone-wild. She is often irreverent and frequently imperfect. But she’s happy, by God, and that’s what matters. She lives in Little Rock with her husband and three (im)perfect children.

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mind, body & soul

KEEP IT TOGETHER DURING A DIVORCE

As a mom, you can take steps to protect your kids and yourself while maintaining a workable relationship with your children’s parent. BY KD REEP

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BE REASONABLE ABOUT SHARING THE KIDS. WHEN YOU HIRE A LAWYER, YOU WANT SOMEONE WHO IS COMPETENT, ACCESSIBLE, ACCOUNTABLE, TIMELY AND REASONABLE.

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he breakup of a marriage is devastating, but when children are involved in the dissolution, divorce can be an ongoing nightmare. It is the dark side of the American dream. According to a report by the Associated Press, Arkansas ranked fourth nationally in our rate of divorce, which increased between 2014 and 2015, while the national rate declined. “All divorces can be boiled down to eight issues,” said Victoria Leigh, an attorney and mediator in Little Rock. “Those are grounds, child custody and visitation, child support, spousal support and alimony, real property, tangible personal property, financial assets like investments or bank and retirement accounts, and debts. In most divorces, couples are not disputing in all eight areas. There is a range from uncontested in which the divorcing parties agree on everything and just need help with formalities to arguing in every area.” Leigh notes that mediators can bring out the best result for the divorcing parties and their children. “Divorces don’t have to, nor should they be, knock-down, drag-out fights,” she said. “Very rarely should a divorce go to a final trial; however, if it does, the judge will likely give you some of what you want but not everything. Neither you, your ex or your children will be happy, and divorcing is difficult enough without being antagonistic and unreasonable.” Parents should focus on what is best for their child’s life and schedule. For example, can you and your ex agree to shared custody throughout the week, or is it better for the child to have weekends free to be with either parent? Another thing to consider is how this may change as the child gets older. “Don’t think in legal terms such as ‘sole custody’ or ‘joint custody,’” Leigh said. “Legal standards and definitions change over time, and in different counties there are different nuances. Think in terms of what you think sharing the children should look like— week on, week off? Every other weekend? A strict, set schedule? Or fluid? Splitting summers down the middle is great when a child is 5, but what about when she’s 15? She wants to go to camp or spend the night at friends’ houses? Where might your job take you in the future? Do you want to be tied to a specific town until your kids are grown? Can you each handle getting kids to school on your week? Who should make religious and educational decisions if you

disagree? Your goal is to avoid having to come back to court in the future, so you should consider all the different angles.” Rebecca Ward, a licensed clinical social worker in Little Rock, advises parents to talk to children together when divorce has been decided. “You and your spouse should tell your kids in a calm and patient manner about how you are restructuring the family,” she said. “You have to reassure them you are still their parent and will see them as much as possible. Be clear about what changes and what stays the same, where they will live, where they will go to school, etc. The fact you are divorcing does not change the fact you are both your children’s parents. Put your feelings for your spouse aside and focus on all the changes your kids are about to go through,” Ward said. If you are divorcing in Arkansas, it is a requirement for parents divorcing to attend a parenting class. Ward stresses that these classes help you and your ex act like parents and put the needs of the children first. “This class helps you not leak out anger toward each other in front of your kids,” she said “The bottom line is it is not your kids’ fault you are divorcing. Your kids are and will be suffering as collateral damage. Do not disparage your spouse in front of the children. Bottom line: If your ex is a scoundrel, your kids will figure that out on their own. If you constantly run down your ex, your kids will feel conflicted and it may damage their self-esteem. To help avoid this, it’s vital you consciously carve out time for yourself so you can continue the rigorous demands of your life.” As professionals who have dealt with divorcing and divorced parents, Leigh and Ward stress it is important to keep track of facts and seek assistance. “Put together a reasonable budget and get tax returns and bank statements together. Be reasonable about sharing the kids. When you hire a lawyer, you want someone who is competent, accessible, accountable, timely and reasonable. In fact, legal advice is moving in a modern direction—flat fees, limited scope, payment plans. There are many options to fit services into your budget. The most important thing to remember is legal services are affordable, and not having counsel is too expensive to not figure out a way to afford. Divorces do not have to be complicated or bankrupt you,” Leigh said. THESAVVYMOMS.COM | AUGUST 2017

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savvy style

BOOK-SMART STYLE Kids are ready to hit the books and want to look good doing it! Get your pupil ready with a few fashionable essentials and extras from local shops.

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1. Carry scholarly essentials in this kid-sized backpack by State. The stand-out unisex pack is loaded with zipper pockets and pouches to keep organized, and an interior lined with a city map to add an extra touch of style. For every backpack sold, the company donates a backpack full of school essentials to an American child in need! Available at Bologna Joe’s, facebook. com/shopbolognajoes. 2. If your to-do list never gets shorter then this handy, pocket-sized notepad is perfect when you’re on-the-go or off to class. It’s lined to help keep things straight! Available at Stifft Station Gifts, facebook. com/stifftstationgifts.

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3. Fidget spinners are trendy toys to soothe those with wandering minds. We don’t know if they work, but they’re fun! Pick up this one with pink cheetah print at Bologna Joe’s, facebook.com/ shopbolognajoes. 4. For the big birds leaving the nest and heading to college, don’t forget to pack some tech essentials. This canvas iPad case by Izola has a zipper closure and a padded interior for extra protection. White lettering makes an important pro-local library statement. Available at Stifft Station Gifts, facebook.com/stifftstationgifts. 5. This set of three ninja erasers makes making mistakes fun! Stealthy ninjas in red, blue and black are ready to come to the rescue when solving those tough math problems. Available at Stifft Station Gifts, facebook.com/stifftstationgifts. 6. Dazzle your senses with these brightly colored scented pens with glitter ink. Perfect for writing notes to friends or keeping a colorcoded calendar, you’ll love the pretty ink and delightful aromas. Available at Stifft Station Gifts, facebook.com/stifftstationgifts. 7. Tote your lunch in style with this washable organic cotton zipper lunch pouch by Fluff. The multi-colored cacti create a vibrant landscape to hold a full-sized lunch and drink. Don’t be afraid to throw it in the wash after a spill! Available at Bologna Joe’s, facebook.com/shopbolognajoes.

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(Left) Off-the-shoulder is a huge trend! This striped top transitions well into fall because it can be paired with white jeans or black jeans. It’s great for gameday, dinner and pretty much any occasion. (Right) This comfortable, breathable polyester red and white ruffle skirt has the perfect amount of frill. Pair it with a basic tank and simple necklace. It’s great for gameday!

Aloha, Summer!

Aloha, Summer! BEFORE YOU CLOSE THE BOOK ON ANOTHER SUMMER, GET THOSE LAST FEW MINUTES OF FUN IN BY THROWING A LUAU! MAKE IT JUST ADULTS, OR INVITE THE KIDS HEADED OFF TO COLLEGE FOR A PROPER SEND-OFF. IT’S EASY TO CREATE YOUR OWN TROPICAL PARADISE WITH GOOD FOOD, REFRESHING COCKTAILS AND MOCKTAILS, LIVELY DECOR AND THE RIGHT OUTFIT. STORY AND STYLING BY KERRY GUICE & AMY GORDY, PHOTOGRAPHY BY LILY DARRAGH 20 AUGUST 2017 | THESAVVYMOMS.COM


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s we enter August, you have just enough time to send summer off in style with these easy party ideas. Rather than wowing guests with a giant spread and expensive décor, focus on using these few thoughtful food, drink and decoration ideas and leave your friends already thinking about next summer! When you aren’t sure who at your party will or won’t be drinking alcohol, colorful fruity ice cubes are the perfect solution. Set up a bar with clear liquors and mixers (think vodka, gin, tonic and club soda). Display a rainbow of ice cubes made with different juices (if you have an ice cream maker, the insert is the perfect way

to keep the cubes cold for hours). Your guests can either liven up their gin and tonic or their club soda with a fruity cube! Having something for everyone is always appreciated in the drink department. With our Cucumber Melon White Sangria, you’ll never want summer to end! It’s always hard to find the right balance between overdoing the food at a party and not having enough. When you only focus on a couple of snacks, you have more time (and more money) to impress. Try this Coconut Shrimp and Pineapple Shishito Salsa. They taste like summer in a bite! Both are beautiful, complementary and easy to make. THESAVVYMOMS.COM | AUGUST 2017

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Aloha, Summer!

Coconut Shrimp 1 lb. shrimp, peeled with the tail on 3 eggs, beaten ¼ cup coconut milk Juice of 1 lime 1 tablespoon honey ½ teaspoon red pepper flakes ½ teaspoon salt ¼ teaspoon pepper 1 cup unsweetened coconut flakes

Pineapple Shishito Salsa 1 pineapple, cut in half lengthwise, one side hollowed out and set aside 1 cup diced pineapple 2 tablespoons cilantro ¼ cup diced red onion 1 tablespoon diced jalapeño ¼ cup corn

1 clove minced garlic ½ cup halved grape tomatos 12 shishito peppers ½ teaspoon salt and pepper ¼ teaspoon chili powder ¼ teaspoon cumin 2 tablespoons olive oil

DIRECTIONS: Toss shishito peppers with 1 of the tablespoons of olive oil, a pinch of salt and pepper, and roast at 400 degrees for 10 minutes, shaking the pan halfway through to turn the peppers for a char on each side. While the peppers are roasting, add the rest of the ingredients in a medium bowl. When peppers are finished, pull the stem off and chop the peppers, then add to the bowl. Toss to combine, adding more salt and pepper if needed. Serve inside the hollowed out pineapple half, with corn chips and/or tortilla chips.

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DIRECTIONS: In a medium bowl, combine the eggs, coconut milk, lime, honey, red pepper flakes, salt and pepper. Add the shrimp and let sit 20 minutes. Meanwhile, pour the coconut flakes onto a large plate or shallow bowl. One at a time, remove the shrimp from the batter and place in the coconut flakes, turning to coat on all sides. Place on greased cookie sheet and bake in a 400-degree preheated oven 10-12 minutes until shrimp is pink and coconut is toasted. Serve with a squeeze of lime. (Both of these appetizers taste amazing eaten together!) Grab a palm tree toothpick like this one from Party City!


Cucumber Melon White Sangria 1 bottle Riesling 8 ounces lime flavored vodka 16 ounces club soda Juice of 2 limes, plus 2 additional limes, sliced 2 cups honeydew melon chunks 4 mint sprigs 1 English cucumber, sliced DIRECTIONS: Combine all ingredients in a large pitcher or beverage dispenser. Let sit in refrigerator or on counter for at least an hour. Serve chilled, over ice.

(Left) This comfortable olive green sweater dress is great for any occasion, day or night. The denim jacket creates a comfortable and casual look. Olive is a must-have color for fall! (Right) A blouse with a print that isn’t too loud is perfect! The neutral pattern can pair with several different bottoms and jackets. This breathable top paired with jeans is a great dayto-day look. (Facing page) The comfortable and conservative mocha mock neck midi dress is great for the working woman, and can easily go from work to play. The black duster is a great accessory to dress up any outfit.

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Place a few of these in high-traffic areas of your party space to set the vibe and really transform the room into a tropical paradise.

Fruity Cocktail Ice Cubes Ice cube tray (preferably one that makes large cubes) Assortment of juices (orange, grapefruit, cranberry, pineapple, etc.) DIRECTIONS: Pour one juice at a time into each ice cube tray. Use those ice cubes in place of regular ice in your guests’ gin and tonic, vodka and soda, club soda, lemonade, etc. The juice adds a steady flow of new flavors and pretty colors!

YOU’LL NEED: YOU CAN A hula hoop MAKE IT, TOO! Neutral duct tape Double-sided tape Invisible thread Balloons of varying colors and sizes Floral accents A seaweed lei (we found ours at Party City) HOW TO: 1. Wrap the hula hoop in a neutral duct tape. 2. Blow up the balloons to varying sizes and tie two sections of them together along a string of invisible thread. Space the large balloons about five inches apart. 3. Wrap the string of balloons in two clusters on the hula hoop, and secure with duct tape. Fill in smaller balloons with double-sided tape. 4. Once the clusters are secured, add in floral accents and vegetation for a more organic look. We used clippings from real and faux monstera plants, hydrangea blooms and faux flowers, and topped it off with a draping seaweed lei. 5. Hang your hoop wreath and let the tropical vibes flow. THESAVVYMOMS.COM | AUGUST 2017

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Noun. tween (plural tweens) an amazing child on the brink of becoming a teenager. Often filled with love, energy, questions and the ability to conquer anything they put their mind to. We’ve found quite a group for this edition of Savvy’s Amazing Tweens! PHOTOGRAPHY BY LILY DARRAGH SHOT ON LOCATION AT BIG ROCK FUN PARK

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EVIE DROSTE

This amazing tween is an impressive athlete who took up triathlons after a family member suffered a terrible, disabling accident while training for one. Ten-year-old Evie took up the extreme hobby as a way to motivate and encourage her great uncle through recovery. She’s competed in more than 50 junior triathlons (where she’s sometimes the only girl in her age division), picked up several corporate sponsorships and participated in three USA Triathlon Youth & Junior National Championships. On top of that she’s a competitive swimmer, loves gymnastics and excels in school where she’ll accelerate from fourth to sixth grade this year. Evie and parents Lindsey and Roy live in Vilonia. Here’s what Mom had to say about her exceptional champ: “Evie is absolutely an amazing tween. She took up kids’ triathlons as a way to encourage my uncle through his rehabilitation and recovery, and he’s now able to attend some of her triathlons and cheer her on in person, using his walker or cane. To top it all off, Evie excels at school where teachers determined she was a great candidate for acceleration though they have only granted it to three kids in over 25 years. Her greatest strength is reading, and she finished the ‘Harry Potter’ series in a little over two months!” THESAVVYMOMS.COM | AUGUST 2017

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CASEY REED

This impressive 10-year-old is a teddy bear with an ambitious resume. He consistently makes the A and B honor roll at his school, where he’s a member of the news team and earned a leading role in their theatrical production of “King Lear.” He volunteers with his mother and sister at the Arkansas Dream Center to feed the community as well as at the Humane Society of Pulaski County, where he provides snuggles and human contact to animals, which helps increase their chances of being adopted. He stays active playing football, soccer, swimming and basketball, and has been a member of Boys Scouts of America for five years. You may recognize this dashing smile as the reigning Junior Mr. UAPB at the University of Arkansas at Pine Bluff! His proud parents Melanie Madkin and Timothy Reed Sr. live in Little Rock. Here’s what Mom had to say about her impressive tween: “What makes Casey an amazing kid? First, coming from a single parent’s household, Casey is an exceptional young man. He’s a kid with a huge and comical heart. Not only is he an awesome son and big brother, but he’s a great student that loves to ask a LOT of questions. Casey is an exceptional student, brother, athlete and Christian, and he was recently honored by Healthcare Express for completing the leadership program and received a trophy for having the highest points in the elementary level.”

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amazingBRANNON MCMINN

Brannon is an impressive 12-year-old who seems to excel in anything he tries. He’s honed his theatric skills at The Rep’s SMTI program, received the lead role of “Elvis” in the annual Cabot Middle School North’s Rockin’ at the Hop program, and also played “Daddy Warbucks” at Ward Central Elementary School’s production of “Annie.” He’s an accomplished trapshooter, and has competed in a state competition; plays football; was selected to be a member of the school band percussion section; and still makes time to excel in his schoolwork. His parents, Jimmy and Stacey, of Cabot, are so proud. Here’s what Mom had to say about her well-rounded son: “Brannon is an amazing kid because he is so versatile. In addition to his extracurricular activities, he volunteers regularly for both Beyond Boundaries, an equine-assisted therapy center, and Leaping Beyond, a modified sports camp for children with disabilities. He has maintained A’s and B’s throughout his six years of school and has received numerous scholastic awards such as the Honor Roll, “Out of the Box” and Music Award.

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PAYTON HAMMOND

Payton is a mild-mannered gentleman with a ton of original style. He’s an obvious trendsetter and bound for great things! He’s defied a diagnosis of autism at age 3 and, now at age 11, has grown leaps and bounds beyond the many things he was told he would never do. He’s a compassionate big brother to two in a house full of boys, and has shown great ability for art and math and continues to impress his parents, Kamilah and Terrell of Little Rock, daily. Here’s what Mom had to say about her Picassoin-the-making: “Let me tell you guys about this 'au-some' tween named Payton Hammond! Not only does his character speaks for itself, but he never lets his diagnosis define him. Over the years, Payton has not only met his milestones but exceeded them. He’s very verbal and his communication skills are off the chart. He is so smart and he loves math. He has two loving baby brothers and the love he shows for those two is amazing! He’s taken an interest in drawing (freehand) with a pen, and makes no mistakes. How much more amazing can he be?! “

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KARSON PRINCE

This 7-year-old little ray of sunshine has been defying odds and impressing her parents, Jeff and Aimee of Conway, since she was born—2½ months early. She was released, much to the doctors’ and nurses’ surprise, after only 30 days at UAMS and hasn’t slowed down since. She’s an entertainer with a giving spirit. Because of her outgoing personality, she was chosen as the spokes-kid for United Way of Central Arkansas and just finished filming her first commercial. She also had a cameo in the past three Conway High School musical productions. For her last birthday, Karson collected school supplies instead of presents for Stuff the Bus, and also competed in a milkshake-eating contest sponsored by Purple Cow where she won the “Spirit Award” for raising the most money in her division for Bethlehem House, a local homeless shelter. Here’s a little of what Mom had to say about her precious angel: “Karson was born a fighter and has continued to amaze us all since birth. She’s such a kind-hearted child. She’s witty, funny, loving and a joy to be around. Karson loves her family and her dog, Ryce, and she’s considered the chicken whisperer around our house because the chickens no longer run from her, they sit down when she comes their way because they know she’ll pick them up and love them. She’s an all-around awesome kid and we are blessed to be her parents.”

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Make the most of the end of summer with these nearby family-friendly spots BY DWAIN HEBDA

FISHING ON PETIT JEAN!

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Hard as it is to believe, the summer break is nearly gone, but families can still find time for one last mini-vacation given the many attractions to be had right here in the Natural State. Here are a few of our favorites:

STAY IN A YURT AT PETIT JEAN

Petit Jean State Park

Arkansas’s first state park, Petit Jean is an Arkansas treasure with plenty for the whole family to enjoy. Within the park are three National Historic Districts containing more than 80 structures, trails and bridges. Hike or bike the trails, take in the stunning vista from one of several overlooks and experience the beauty of Cedar Falls, one of the mostphotographed waterfalls in the state. You can also enjoy a kayak, paddle boat or canoe trip on Lake Bailey and Lake Roosevelt. To really add something to your stay, check out the park’s roster of programming designed to help visitors better understand and appreciate the natural wonder that surrounds them. Petit Jean State Park 1285 Petit Jean Mountain Road, Morrilton 501-727-5441, petitjeanstatepark.com

Turpentine Creek Wildlife Refuge

Founded in 1992, Turpentine Creek Wildlife Refuge reached verified status with the Global Federation of Animal Sanctuaries (GFAS) in 2015. Formal and self-guided tours are held daily, whereby visitors learn about the lions, tigers, bears, bobcats and other rescued exotic wildlife that live there. For a truly memorable experience, a variety of onsite overnight accommodations gives guests a taste of safari living without leaving the Natural State. Nearby, find Eureka Springs, one of the most eclectic and fascinating spots in all of Arkansas. The winding main street, built into a hillside and on the National Register of Historic Places, is home to a delightful collection of shops, galleries and cafes. Turpentine Creek Refuge 239 Turpentine Creek Lane, Eureka Springs 479-253-5841, turpentinecreek.org Eureka Springs City Advertising & Promotion Commission eurekasprings.org

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CLIMB AT LOCO ROPES!

Hot Springs National Park

There’s never a dull moment in Hot Springs, from the downtown’s Historic District to the miles of surrounding lakes. Check out the city from 1,200 feet at Hot Springs Mountain Tower or ride the roller coasters at Magic Springs Water and Theme Park. Don’t miss the National Park Aquarium, or go wild with the reptiles and animals at the Arkansas Alligator Farm & Petting Zoo. For tamer nature attractions, see Garvan Woodland Gardens, a 210-acre gem on Lake Hamilton. The Evans Children’s Adventure Garden, a 1.5-acre interactive garden, features 3,200 tons of Arkansas-quarried boulders, a man-made cave, wading pools and 12-foot waterfall to explore. Hot Springs Convention and Visitors Bureau 1-800-SPA-CITY, hotsprings.org Garvan Woodland Gardens 550 Arkridge Road, Hot Springs National Park 800-366-4664, garvangardens.org

Blanchard Springs Caverns

For something really different, visit Blanchard Springs Caverns near Mountain View. Operated by the USDA Forest Service, the attraction offers guided walking tours of massive caverns filled with ever-changing formations as well as a Wild Cave tour for the truly adventurous. Above ground, there’s camping, fishing the White River or floating the Buffalo River as well as miles of bike and hiking trails. Don’t miss the Ozark Folk Center State Park’s living demonstrations of the handiworks, music and lifestyle of pioneer Ozark families. And if you still haven’t had enough, find fun in the treetops with the Loco Ropes rope course, climbing walls and forest zipline. Blanchard Springs Caverns, Mountain View 870-757-2211, blanchardsprings.org Ozark Folk Center 1032 Park Ave., Mountain View ozarkfolkcenter.com Mountain View Tourism & Visitor Guide 122 West Main St., Mountain View 870-213-5865 THESAVVYMOMS.COM | AUGUST 2017

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FORGET THE BIRDS & BEES

Kids look to parents for straight talk about sex, which isn’t always easy. Therapists suggest you start ‘the talk’ early and often, and prepare for the flock of questions that may come as early as preschool.

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aureen Skinner remembers the moment she was jolted to reality on the subject of discussing sex with her son. “When my son was in the fifth grade there was a pregnant girl in every class from the fifth grade all the way through senior year,” she said. “That’s not as uncommon as we might think. So it becomes really important that we start those discussions early enough.” Now a behavioral health care professional with Little Rock-based Chenal Family Therapy’s Conway office, Skinner didn’t mess around with the subject. She bought a box of condoms and proceeded to have a no-holds-barred talk with her youngster. “I told him, ‘I want you to read this box and read the packages and open it and look at it and put it on yourself, appropriately,’” she said. “I said, ‘I don’t want the first time you open one of these to be crunch time somewhere in the future.’” If Skinner’s frank and unedited sex talk seems like overkill, current statistics beg to differ. Last fall the Guttmacher Institute reported the average age for first-time sexual intercourse among U.S. teens is about age 17. Between 2011 and 2013, a little more than one in 10 girls and nearly two in 10 boys under age 15 reported having sex. And while the overall percentage of sexually active teens age 15 to 19 declined slightly in recent years, it’s still been near 50 percent since 2002. One need only look at Arkansas’s ranking fourth in the nation in teen pregnancy for girls 15 to 19 and first for 18- to 19-year-olds to see how well we’re doing as a state. Equally interesting is why teens do—or don’t—decide to have sex. About 89 percent of girls and 95 percent of boys who had sex before age 20 reported their first sexual experience as something they

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consented to; the majority of the time this was with a steady partner, reported 73 percent of females and 58 percent of males. Among sexually inexperienced teens, 41 percent of females and 31 percent of males said saying no was a function of their morals and values. This suggests that when parents take the time to communicate and reinforce such messages, they have staying power. Without them, teens are at the mercy of natural urges and opportunity. Still, most parents balk at the notion of having “The Talk”; a level of discomfort experts suggest is a sign of taking the wrong approach. “It’s important to not look at this as being a single sit-down talk about the birds and the bees,” said Dr. Nicholas Long, director of Pediatric Psychology at UAMS and Arkansas Children’s Hospital. “What’s more effective are ongoing discussions and conversations over the years that are geared toward the child’s developmental level. It’s not one talk, it’s more discussion at teachable moments over time.” Long said parents need to broaden their horizons when they consider what’s a sexual conversation and what isn’t. Preschoolers and early elementary age children bring up sex a lot, but it’s generally centered on their own body or parroting terms they may have heard. These are good “warm-ups” for the heavier conversations to come. “Parents have a hard time bringing [sex] up out of the blue; it’s easier for parents to bring up different topics related to sex when children are exposed to messages that they may hear on television or the radio or see something in a magazine or a friend tells them,” Long said. Like it or not, once kids are in elementary school, many are aware of the general concept of sex, even if they don’t feel sexual drive, per


se. Popular culture and easy access to information online helps ensure that. “I think in elementary school it’s still, ‘Boys have germs, girls have cooties,’” said Scotty Smittle, a therapist with Rice Clinic in Conway. “They may be aware of sex, but it’s just a behavior. It’s this activity that adults do.” The parent’s goal at this age is to be the voice that rises above the din, particularly when the child reaches middle school and hormones kick in. “You have to be honest and you have to essentially beat them to the school bus. They need to hear it from you first,” Smittle said. “Research has shown that teenagers, especially, say that their parents are the No. 1 influence on their sexual decisions. So you are it, which means if you aren’t willing to have the conversation, they’ll seek it elsewhere. They’ll either look online or they’ll ask their friends who also don’t know what they’re doing.” In addition to the usual biological topics, parents have a prime opportunity to discuss moral or religious beliefs and broader issues of consent, responsibility and respect, said Beth White, psychotherapist and clinical director of Riverstone Wellness Center in Little Rock. “The most important thing is an open line of communication. That’s of paramount importance,” she said. “Becoming involved in their lives is the first step to lead into discussions that are more about sensitive topics like sexuality, about boundaries, that no one has the right to touch them and make them feel uncomfortable and that they have a right to say no to touch that they do not want.” Of course, even the best-intentioned parent comes up against the teen years when it seems like nothing one can say gets more than an eye roll and a brush-off. All the more reason to be persistent and creative in one’s approach, White said. “For teenagers, this is a time when their minds become more sexually aware, dealing with physical attraction, noticing the physical attributes of their peers and their bodies are maturing,” she said. “Teenagers are also coming from a place that is different from where adults come from; the rational part of their brain is not developed yet, so they’re often coming from their emotions. [Parents] have to work pretty hard to get messages about sexuality and anything else across to this age group.” White said parents shouldn’t jump out of the way when their child is poised to exercise greater independence, such as going away to college. Instead, discuss the impending freedoms that college freshmen are exposed to, which often pose the most severe test to their value systems and, with sexual assault and alcohol abuse an issue on many campuses, their health and well-being. “There is a wide range of knowledge that students bring in terms of their education about sexual health and family planning. Some have received sex education from their parents, schools or other entities and others come to college with very little knowledge,” said Kristy Davis, associate dean for student wellness at Arkansas Tech University in Russellville. “Parents can talk to their sons and daughters about safe sex practices and encourage them to take advantage of the services on campus which will expand their knowledge in this area.” Like most Arkansas colleges and universities, ATU takes steps to address sexual issues through ongoing programming. Arkansas institutions are required by state law to provide information on unplanned pregnancy, and ATU has shown leadership on this and related topics. “We provide unplanned pregnancy prevention education for both freshmen and transfer students through new student-orientation programs,” Davis said. “When we provide educational programs related to sexual health and family planning, we often include information about obtaining consent when having sex. We place this message about consent in any program where it seems appropriate in order to increase awareness and create a safe campus.”

START THE TALK EARLY TIPS FROM THE EXPERTS MAUREEN SKINNER

Lessons of consent start early “Regarding consent, it’s best to start talking about it when they’re toddlers. Like ‘No, she doesn’t want a hug.’ It’s also really important as parents that we don’t insist that our children hug or touch other adults if they don’t want to because we’re reducing their ability to consent before they’re even old enough to know what it is.”

BETH WHITE

Draw from your own experience and mistakes “I think that type of discussion is very important because if we appear as if we are infallible and we’re just laying down the way our young people should behave, then we’re not as approachable. Coming from our experience it one of the best ways that we can talk with our children, our teenagers and young adults about sex and anything else.”

SCOTTY SMITTLE

Don’t let questions shock you “You have to remember that your kid is a kid, they have a curious mind. The flip side of that coin is often they’re asking a question as a sort of test to see if you can handle answering honestly. If you react rather than respond to their question it either scares them away or it tells them ‘Well I certainly can’t talk to Dad or Mom about that.’ Take questions at face value and answer them for what they are.”

NICHOLAS LONG

Stay age-appropriate, but don’t shy away from correct terminology “It starts really very early with preschool in terms of labeling body parts correctly and parents trying to be very honest with their child at the level they can understand. This is important because it’s laying the foundation for later on, as teens especially. They’ve used the right words over time, they’re aware of the body parts, and that makes things much easier later on.” THESAVVYMOMS.COM | AUGUST 2017

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Missy Lipps is a self-proclaimed “Mama Lion.” She’s passionate about the local community where she thrives as an artist, business owner and community servant. Raising her three girls in a community in which they serve and have purpose is vital to her parenting style. She believes that when we invest and serve in our community it's both empowering and rewarding, which is the most inspiring payoff. Her favorite compliment to give and receive is, "You're such a good citizen," which her kids love to hear. Here are a few of Missy's favorite mom-approved things:

PINK HOUSE ALCHEMY IS THE PERFECT ADDITION TO TEA, LACROIX OR YOUR COCKTAIL. THIS PLACE AND THEIR PRODUCTS ARE AN ARKANSAS JEWEL.

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