Ambush Magazine Volume 37 Issue 06

THE OFFICIAL GAY MAGAZINE OF THE GULF SOUTH™

A Biweekly Publication Celebrating LGBTQ Life, Music & Culture Since 1982 VOLUME 37 ISSUE 06

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Dear Ambush Nation, Mardi Gras 2019 is in the books and looking back, it was definitely one of the best ever. What was a long Mardi Gras season started with Frank Perez’s Mystick Krewe de la Rue Royale Revelers 12th night party on January 6th and ended with King Cake Queen XXV Tiffany Alexander and friends at the 32nd Annual Gay Mardi Gras Bead Toss on Mardi Gras Day. What happened in between was a blur of parades, parties and Gay Mardi Gras Balls.

This Carnival season, I decided early on that I would attend all the Gay Mardi Gras Balls in New Orleans. I also attended a ball on the Gulf Coast in Mississippi. It was an amazing experience to see the creative talent of so many in our community as they designed and brought to life some of the most impressive costumes I’ve ever seen.

If you’ve never been before, I would highly encourage you to go to one or

several of the balls next year. Having never been to a Gay Mardi Gras ball before, I wasn’t quite sure what to expect. I quickly learned that all the balls basically follow the same format. They each have a theme where members of the Krewe present themselves in elaborate costumes for your viewing pleasure. Most throw in a drag number or two where they raise funds for a charity. Finally, at the end of the night a King and Queen (or just a Queen, or two Monarchs) are presented. From there the party begins, where the guests drink, dance and enjoy the fun that is Carnival Season.

Like most things in life, some of the balls exceeded my expectations and others left something to be desired. The one thing that was impressive about all the balls is the level of commitment of the members of each Krewe to keep the tradition of Gay Mardi Gras alive in New Orleans and along the Gulf South. In the coming weeks and months, Ambush would love to be

Inside this Issue of Ambush Snap Paparazzi Out & About with Steamboat Club

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Snap Paparazzi Out & About with Pauly Cajun

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NOAGE and LSUHSC’s Community Survey of LGBT Adults Aged 45 and Older

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Christopher Castellani, St. Sukie de la Croix, and Kimberly Dark

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Musings by Catherine: Gateway to the Future: Resilience

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Snap Paparazzi Out & About with the Krewe of King Arthur

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Art 101: Contemporary Works and Relationship Quirks

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Snap Paparazzi Crossing

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Snap Paparazzi Out & About with the Krewe of Queenateenas

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Under the GayDar: Along the Gulf South

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Moments in Gay New Orleans History: The Journal of Joe Wilkins

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Book Review: Once & Future

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Financial & Business: Financial Guide to Inheriting a Home

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Snap Paparazzi Out & About with the Krewe of Armeinius

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Trodding the Boards

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LGBT Owned & Friendly Business Directory

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A Community within Communities: Love is not exclusion.

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part of the conversation to help the Gay Mardi Gras Krewes thrive and expand their membership and reach. I simply cannot put into words the talent it takes to make some of these amazing costumes. I would love to see more people in our community get involved and learn the tradition and craft of making these costumes and putting on these wonderful balls. Ambush is more than willing to help in any way we can. I’m already looking forward to Gay Mardi Gras 2020!

KING CAKE QUEEN CORONATION & BEAD TOSS On Tuesday, February 26 the Krewe of Queenateenas presented to society, King Cake Queen XXV, Tiffany Alexander, The Silver Anniversary Queen. The coronation ball was held at the home of Ambush Owner and Publisher, TJ Acosta in Uptown New Orleans and was by invitation only.

Over 125 guests were in attendance with several traveling from out of state to attend the coronation. Guests lined up on the red carpet and each had their picture taken with KCQ Tiffany Alexander. The event was attended by several former King Cake Queens and royalty from several of the Gay Mardi Gras Krewes along with other guests.

On Mardi Gras Day, KCQ Tiffany Alexander and friends threw beads to the revelers down below from the balcony at 811 Bourbon Street. A special thanks to Randy Roig and Brian Weimer for allowing us to use their balcony for the event. It was so much fun for everyone there and I must say, it truly warmed my heart to see the smile on Tiffany’s face as she tossed beads to the crowds below.

I want to thank Tiffany Alexander for for being such a pleasure to work with throughout this entire process.

She is very deserving of the honor and continues to make me proud. Special thanks to Aubrey Synclaire who helped to fill me in on the history of the event and aided with reaching out to the former King Cake Queens.

I would like to also thank all of our guests who made this event a success.

It was great to see so many people from different parts of our community coming together in celebration of Carnival and the tradition of the Krewe of Queenateenas, the King Cake Queen and Gay Mardi Gras. I also want to take this opportunity to apologize to anyone who felt they were left out and did not get an invitation to the event.

This was the first time I put on this event and unfortunately there was no instruction manual nor any list of people who were invited each year. We

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did the best we could and will continue to improve the event each year.

Finally, I’d like to thank Rip and Marsha Naquin-Delain for starting such a wonderful tradition and for all their contributions to Gay Mardi Gras.

If not for them, there would be no King Cake Queen Coronation to write about. I know Mardi Gras was always a special time for Rip and Marsha and I know they were with us in spirit at the coronation and bead toss. Everything we do at Ambush continues to build upon the traditions and legacy of Rip and Marsha. And while I know Rip would have taken issue with my selection of this year’s King Cake Queen, I believe deep down he is still proud that the tradition continues. So to Rip

Naquin, Grand Reveler III, and Marsha Delain, King Cake Queen XV, I simply say Happy Mardi Gras!

GAY EASTER PARADE Planning of the Gay Easter Parade is well under way and with this being the 20th anniversary we are hoping to have record crowds at the parade this year. As always, the parade will be Easter Sunday at 4:30 pm. Once again this year there will be a series of fundraisers leading up to Easter. The money raised will be used to pay for the parade with any surplus being donated to Food for Friends. Last year the Gay Easter Parade raised over $13,000 for Food for Friends. We are in the process of finalizing the dates, times and

locations of all of our fundraisers. If you’re interested in being a sponsor or want more information about riding in the parade you can go to GayEasterParade.com or send us an email at info@gayeasterparade.com MARK YOUR CALENDARS Come Out Mobile: A Night of Unity will take place on Saturday, April 13th from 6 to 11 pm at The Ezell House in Mobile, Alabama. The event will feature live entertainment, cocktails, dinner and a silent auction. The tickets are $85 per person or $750 for a table of 10 and all the proceeds will benefit Rainbow Mobile and Prism United both of which are non-profits. This is a

great way to help support the LGBTQ community in Mobile so make plans to attend. For more information you can search for the event on Facebook or email info@rainbowmobile.org.

Flashback thru the Decades 3, a fundraiser for NOAGE, will be held on Sunday, April 28th from 6 to 8 pm at Allways Lounge & Cabaret. There is a $10 donation at the door and a 50/50 raffle will be held. Several entertainers will be there to take you thru the decades once again. NOAGE is a nonprofit that advocates on behalf of the LGBT older adult community. Allways Lounge & Cabaret is located at 2240 St. Claude Ave.

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COMMUNITY VOICE

NOAGE and LSUHSC’s Community Survey of LGBT Adults Aged 45 and Older Jim Meadows Executive Director, NOAGE info@noagenola.org In my last column, I gave an update on what’s happening with NOAGE (New Orleans Advocates for GLBT Elders), and briefly mentioned our new community survey. I’d like to tell you more about it now.

If you are 45 years old or older and identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender, we would very much appreciate your taking the survey.

You can access it online at www.surveymonkey.com/r/NOLASHINE. If you do not have internet access but would like to take the survey, give me a call at (504) 517-2345, and I will arrange for you to get a paper copy of it. We will also have paper copies available at various NOAGE events.

So what is it? The New Orleans LGBT Social and Health Information Evaluation (NOLA SHINE) is a research survey about the social and health needs of LGBT persons who are aged 45 or older and live or work in the greater New Orleans area. Similar surveys have been conducted in several cities around the country, but as far as we know there has never been a survey of this kind in New Orleans. This survey is a joint effort by NOAGE and

LSU Health Sciences Center.

The NOLA SHINE survey asks about your access to healthcare and health insurance, chronic health conditions, use of any kind of assistance for daily functioning, transportation needs, involvement with the LGBT community, experience with harassment or violence, and living situation. It also asks about the kinds of services you need or concerns you might have.

Your answers will be combined with those from others who take the survey so that we can build a profile of the health and social needs of the LGBT population aged 45 and older in the New Orleans area. This information can help inform NOAGE, other nonprofit organizations, and local healthcare providers about the kinds of services we need to offer, and what kind of staff training is needed to better serve you. We will also be able to compare the responses in New Orleans to those from other cities and determine whether local LGBT social and health needs are the same as or different from elsewhere. In turn, we can see how other cities addressed similar concerns or issues.

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We will not ask your name, nor will we collect any information that could be used to identify you. You may decline to answer any question you wish, or decide not to finish the entire survey.

However, we value your responses, and encourage your participation. We think it is vitally important to learn about the needs of our own community.

The Institutional Review Board of the LSU Health Sciences Center in New Orleans has approved this survey.

If you have questions about the survey, please contact me at info@noagenola. org or Dr. Edward Trapido at etrapi@ lsuhsc.edu.

There have been two major national surveys of LGBT adults aged 45+ in recent years. One was published

by SAGE (Services and Advocacy for GLBT Elders, headquartered in New York), and the other was published by AARP. I’d like to share some of the key findings of those surveys with you The results of the SAGE survey, called “Out and Visible: The Experiences and Attitudes of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Older Adults, Ages 45-75,” were published in 2014.

They found that LGBT older adults are more concerned than their straight and cisgender peers with personal finances, physical decline, remaining independent, loneliness, support systems, and physical attractiveness.

The SAGE survey found that many LGBT older adults (40-43%) do not disclose their sexual orientation or gender identity to their doctors and other healthcare providers, usually out of fear of being judged or given inferior care. This reluctance to come out to providers can lead to serious health problems. For example, gay men and transwomen are at a higher risk of contracting HIV than other people. If a doctor is unaware that the patient is part of an at-risk population, they are unlikely to recommend HIV testing. This could be one of the reasons that when people over 50 do get HIV diagnoses, it tends to be later in the course of the illness, when more serious health complications become apparent.

LGBT older adults in the SAGE survey also reported that they would not feel comfortable being out of the closet at a long-term care facility (e.g., a nursing home or assisted living facility). They worry that they will be mistreated by staff or bullied by their peers.

While attitudes about LGBT people have changed a great deal in recent years, older straight and cisgender people tend to be more homophobic and transphobic than younger people.

So, unfortunately, the fear of coming out in long-term care facilities may be justified in some instances.

For these reasons, it is imperative that organizations like NOAGE provide LGBT cultural competency trainings to as many long-term care facility staff as possible. Of course, the ideal solution would be to have retirement communities and nursing homes that are marketed specifically to LGBT older adults, but until that happens here in New Orleans, we need to ensure that the facilities that exist are safe for our elders.

Another important finding of the SAGE survey was that LGBT older adults are more likely to live alone, to be childless, and to lack access to a caregiver. Think about it. You move from a small community to New Orleans so that you can live an authentic life. And it’s great while you are young and healthy. But things get more complicated as you age. If you don’t have family in town, who is going to take care of you? There isn’t the same social pressure on friends to serve as caregivers. This is a problem that we all need to be thinking about. And those of us who are able should be doing everything we can to help support aging members of our community.

AARP’s survey of LGBT older adults, “Maintaining Dignity: Understanding and Responding to the Challenges Facing Older LGBT Americans,” was published last year. Many of its key findings were similar to SAGE’s.

They also found that bisexual older adults are less likely to be out and are harder to reach than their lesbian, gay, and transgender peers, and that for LGBT people of color, “concern about discrimination due to their sexual orientation or gender identity is not disentangled from concern about discrimination due to their race or ethnicity.”

We want to hear from you. If you are 45 or older and part of the LGBT community here, please visit www.surveymonkey.com/r/NOLASHINE and take our survey. Your participation will be very much appreciated, and will help us to do a better job of looking out for you in the future.

I’d love to hear from you. Do you have any ideas or suggestions for other services, events, or initiatives that you’d like NOAGE to provide for the community? You can always reach me at info@ noagenola.org. I also urge you to consider making an investment in your future by supporting NOAGE. www.noagenola.org/support

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LITERARY SPOTLIGHT Christopher Castellani, St. Sukie de la Croix, and Kimberly Dark

Christopher Castellani The Saints and Sinners Literary Festival was founded in 2003 as a new initiative designed as an innovative way to reach the community with informa-

St. Sukie da la Croix tion about HIV/AIDS, particularly disseminating prevention messages via the writers, thinkers and spokes-people of the LGBT community. It was also

Kimberly Dark formed to bring the LGBT literary community together to celebrate the literary arts.

The Festival has grown into an internationally-recognized event that brings together a who’s who of LGBT publishers and writers from throughout the United States and beyond. The Festival, held over 3 days each spring at the Hotel Monteleone in the French Quarter, features panel discussions and master classes around literary topics that provide a forum for authors, editors and publishers to talk about their work for the benefit of emerging writers and the enjoyment of fans of LGBT literature.

The 16th annual Saints and Sinners Literary Festival takes place March 29-31. For more information, please visit http://sasfest.org/#home Three authors who will be at the 2019 Festival are Christopher Castellani, St. Sukie de la Croix, and Kimberly Dark.

Christopher Castellani’s fourth novel, Leading Men, is about the relationship between Frank Merlo and Tennessee Williams (Viking). He is also the author of The Art of Perspective, a collection of essays on point of view in fiction. Christopher is the artistic director of GrubStreet, is a Guggenheim fellow, and is on the faculty of the MFA program at Warren Wilson College and the Bread Loaf Writers’ Conference.

St. Sukie de la Croix is an internationally published journalist who has been working for the gay, and alternative, press since 1978. His books include Chicago Whispers: A LGBT History of Chicago Before Stone-

wall; Out of the Underground: Homosexuality, the Radical Press, and the Rise and Fall of the Gay Liberation Front; a novel, The Blue Spong and the Flight from Mediocrity; and The Memoir of a Groucho Marxist.

He has also written two dance plays, A White Light in God’s Choir and Two Weeks in a Bus Station with an Iguana. In 2012, he was inducted into the Chicago LGBT Hall of Fame.

Kimberly Dark is a writer, professor, and raconteur who has written award-winning plays, taught, and performed for a wide range of audiences in various countries over two decades.

She is author of The Daddies, Love and Errors, and co-editor of the anthology Ways of Being in Teaching.

Her essays appear in online publications, such as Everyday Feminism and Ravishly, and her poetry and prose are published in various literary and academic publications. Kimberly teaches Sociology and Women’s Studies at CSU, San Marcos and writing and theatre courses for Cal State Summer Arts.

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The 16th annual Saints and Sinners Literary Festival takes place March 29—31.

For more information, please visit http://sasfest.org/#home

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MUSINGS BY CATHERINE Gateway to the Future: Resilience Catherine Roland catherineroland12@gmail.com Do you ever wonder what might be in store for you as life just plays along?

I know I do, especially around my birthday. As we age (and we are all in the aging process), we learn there is no way to predict the future, not even the next minute in life. Sometimes we feel that we have no power to change life’s path, and feelings of powerlessness can emerge. We all have it inside of us, that frustration, or sadness or anger that manifests in feeling powerless or even hopeless. If the aging process seems overwhelming in any sense, on any day, we can create a gateway to the future in which we do have some control.

There’s a deep fear of aging, of being old, that I see in people from all age groups. Younger adults between 25-35 feel that approaching the age of 40 will mean they ARE old; adults in their 40’s seem to dread the BIG 50; and beyond 50, the fear becomes more specific about loss, or what the deficits will be, what we will lose in skill, energy, attention, or any physical prowess. As we age, we may move toward isolation, or hesitate to connect with others outside of the family or workplace. That can actually create loneliness.

I’ll share a recent example. A friend received an announcement that his 25th-year high school reunion was planned for this August. His first comment to me was that he would not attend because a reunion would have nothing to do with his life now. We both began some reflection time where he asked me to help him reframe, as friends will do, from an objective point of view.

As I listened, I realized that my friend was looking at the deficits, in his perception, that might be observed by

people he had not seen in many years.

Things like activities in which he had been very active in high school, like playing lacrosse, photography, booster sports rallies and general hanging out with friends, seemed to be in the distant past, framed in the way a 16 to 20-year-old might frame it. Combine that with the losses that we experience throughout life as we age and the occasional narrow view of what our lives might be as we reach an older age. It sounded like what I have named the Deficit Model of Aging.

What is The Deficit Model of Aging anyway? If you feel that every year that passes, you are losing the ability to do or accomplish something, then you are subscribing to this. If you often find yourself lamenting that you can’t run five miles a day like you used to at 22, then you are choosing to see your natural developmental changes as a process that is taking away from you, or limiting your ability to do and be exactly as you used to be. Realistically that may be true in some areas, because we simply aren’t the way we were 1520 years ago. For some, that can be a profound and difficult acknowledgement, and a tangible loss.

Please don’t read this as in any way belittling the passage of time, the losses, age, and life stage, and how devastating that can seem for us all. To reframe a concept is not to negate reality, but rather a strategy in which to invest and then cultivate something new.

Sometimes just changing an attitude or an inner direction can make an enormous difference in how we negotiate the remainder of our lives, regardless of the age we begin the reframe.

Try this multi-part suggestion, if you like:

Assess your life story to date, which can be done by yourself, in a friendly group (something like NOAGE’s CoffeeTalk), in therapy, or in any way that would make sense for you. For those of you who enjoy writing, journaling or even recording, that can be an effective way to assess your life story. Narrative discussion is effective as well – it all depends on you. The sharing of the story can be most helpful; the mode is your choice. The importance is great.

When you have finished with the story to date (you will be finished when you feel you are), put it away and out of your mind for at least two days. During that time, take part in some activity that is enjoyable. Maybe that is work, friends and family gatherings, planning your next trip, getting your garden in shape or watching a favorite movie.

Then discuss the story with the group you joined, the friend(s), or counselor.

Say it out loud if you can. Step out of yourself. And listen as though you are the most objective person you can be in that instance.

Resilience; if you are over the age for a 25-year high school reunion, then you are a survivor, and so much more.

Read your own story and look for certain things, one at a time. One is resilience, so ask yourself “what have I been through that was difficult?” Go on to “what are my accomplishments as others might see them?” And finally, for this exercise, ask “who have I impacted, in any way, during my life so far?”

This exercise relies on an honest interpretation of the things you have done, with no modesty allowed. Might as well sing your praises, you’ll see how good it feels.

Write down the answers to these questions, and share those answers with the group, friend or therapist.

Keep your copy of all of the things you write. Find some pride in your accomplishments, the difference you have made, and your successes at times that were challenging and even perhaps life-threatening. You survived

them.

Lastly, remember those people or that person you were sharing with? Ask them, simply, “why are we doing this, and why have you decided to listen to me?” See what the response is; you will likely be pleasantly surprised at the support you receive. It’s from that support you can build the gateway to your future.

All of us lead unique lives with varying career paths, relationships and challenges. These things are true of us through any age. I feel the resilience and reframing exercise, as well as personal introspection, can be done as we age, from young adulthood on.

There are countless young adults I meet within my role as counselor in their 20’s and early 30’s who have serious doubts about their goals, direction in life, their self-esteem, and how they feel about relationships. While we can’t reverse the aging process, we can use our inner power of resilience and reframing for the next day, year and rest of our lives.

If you can be objective about your life, and can garner hope that your strength will continue to reward you and impact those around you, the Deficit Model of Aging is no longer going to plague you. Consider the positives about getting older. As we age, most have more financial stability, are afforded more respect, more career power, and for lack of a better word, more wisdom than years before. We have successfully gotten through situations we did not anticipate, gaining the kind of experience and savvy that’s simply not available to younger adults. Embrace that inner grace we develop as we age, enjoy some of the ‘riches’ that can be available, having nothing to do with money or power. More, accept who you are, and where you are in your life stage. Your gateway to the future is open!

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THE ROCKFORD FILES

Filthy Whore SEEKS Hopeless Romantic Ryan Rockford RyanRockfordNYC@gmail.com As with any relationship, there are so many questions that two men have to answer and negotiate in a romance’s fledgling stage, that it can be make for a rocky start for anyone who isn’t prepared for the doors of communication to be blown open. Considering the times we live in one of the questions that many find uncomfortable (including myself) is, “Will your new relationship be ‘open’ or ‘monogamous’ or somewhere in between?”

If you were to ask anyone who knows me why I’m single, most could probably whip out a Top Ten list faster than you can drop a bad habit. My friends, even those closest to me, tend to assume that because I’m single and have made my way around the block more than a few times that I enjoy sex too much to want a relationship. That simply isn’t true.

I do want a relationship, I want one badly. As a single gay man, I’m free to engage in sex with whomever I want, when I want. But in contrast, when it comes to relationships, I am very traditional. People look at me like I’m crazy or gag on their cocktails when I tell them I want sexual exclusivity, a mo-

nogamous relationship with a man who loves me as much as I love him.

“What?!?” is the typical response.

I certainly feel in the minority with my ‘old school’ outlook. It seems every other guy I meet is in some sort of open relationship – whether their partner knows it or not. And finding someone in these modern times that is interested in old world views in New York seems impossible.

New York is not about relationships. New York is about sex; you’re either having it, looking for it, or selling it. The reason this city never sleeps is because everyone is running around trying to get laid.

Finding someone special enough for a ‘relationship’ is difficult, no matter where you live. But in New York it’s even harder. One reason why is that the population in New York is so transient. As a result, there’s a never-ending parade of delicious eye-candy, in every size, shape and color imaginable. The caveat being that this feast for the eyes starves the heart.

It’s maddening. For many of those just moving to New York, experiencing so much visual stimulation becomes

too much to handle. Within days of arrival, many develop an acute case of Rubber-Neck Syndrome (RNS). RNS is a temporary condition caused by the excessive thrashing and twisting of the cervical spine, brought on by compulsive hyper-cruising every motherf*cker that walks down the street. Signs/ symptoms may include: The inability to hold a conversation; lack of commitment; loss of friendships; inability to keep one’s dick in their pants; prolonged erections; deterioration of dignity. Side effects: Whiplash; extreme shallowness; isolation; decreased job performance; blue balls; chafing, blisters and soreness from constant fellatio.

Maybe it’s unfair for me to say that New York is not about relationships. It might be better to say that New York is not about the kind of relationship that I want and I’m saddened to think that it might not be possible.

Technology has made sex easier than ever to find. Getting laid is very much like New York’s other favorite means of survival--ordering take-out.

Open one of your favorite menus, whether it’s Chinese, Italian, Lithuanian, French, Middle-Eastern, Greek, whatever, and the choice is yours. Select your dish and have it delivered, usually in thirty minutes or less, 24/7, 365 days a year. New Yorkers don’t like relationships for the same reason they don’t like to cook– it’s too much work

especially with the relationship drama of a bitching boyfriend or cheating spouse.

Is there any wonder why those of us who actually do want a relationship are fighting an uphill battle? With the odds stacked against us, maybe the reason men are willing to enter into thruples and other multi-amorous situations is the rationale that something is better than nothing. But is it really?

Am I really that out of touch and antiquated to believe that what I want is still possible. Is it really that outlandish to admit that I want a man to call my own? A man I don’t have to share with random strangers? I want to belong to someone. I believe we all do, on some level.

I believe that, all of us, deep down, want to be somebody’s ‘boo’, and his alone. I want a man I can keep all to myself. Is that crazy? Has the trade-off of finding someone to share your affections and dreams with come at the expense of self-respect and emotional integrity, all for the sake of variety?

Studies suggest, nationwide, that gay men who are over forty and single will most likely remain that way. How exciting is that to look forward to? If the situation is bleak in small towns, where competition among older gays is presumably minimal, what are my chances of finding love in Gotham? I’ll give you a hint, rhymes with “gritty”.

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FROM SQUIRT.ORG #CensorshipSucks Andrew Nolan andrew@squirt.org

Tougher community guidelines on social media have resulted in deleted accounts for many and the ever increasing censorship is now impacting dating apps. Our digital safe-space is being eroded and censorship seems to be the go-to option for governments and companies around the world it feels like anything that’s a bit queer or a bit sexual is at the top of the hit-list.

Here at Squirt.org, we love sex.

We think that sex is a good thing, and that our bodies – whatever the shape, size, colour, or age – are beautiful and should be celebrated. We believe that there’s nothing wrong with getting your clothes off – that there’s no shame attached to nakedness.

Obviously, not everyone feels the same way. Differences of opinion about sexual expression aren’t a new thing, but there appears to be a growing shift to a more socially conservative outlook on the world.

Obviously, if you own the platform – if you’re someone like Facebook, Instagram, Tumblr, or YouTube – then you get to decide what content you’re going to allow your users to publish. We might not like the decisions they make, or the way they go about it, but they get to make the rules.

However, censorship impacts us all, and it can often be in quite unexpected ways.

Hook-up apps are being forced to introduce new guidelines for user profile photos. The new guidelines specified that “photos in underwear, jockstraps or bikini style bathing suits are no longer permitted in profile photos.” Given that these are gay hookup apps, on the face of it that seems like an odd move. But, they have been

backed into a corner. They rely on app stores to distribute their service to users, and app stores are becoming increasingly cautious and conservative when it comes to anything that might be considered adult-oriented.

From a Squirt.org perspective, we don’t rely on app stores to connect with our members, so we’ve been fortunate to dodge that particular bullet. However, we’re acutely aware that censorship of adult and sex-positive content is only increasing. We can’t be complacent.

The rising tide of censorship and online regulation could soon put us all out of business, making it no longer feasible for us to provide the types of services and content that our members value – services and content that also play an important role in our community.

So, we want to take a stand. We want to send a message. We can’t stay silent in the face of increasing censorship.

We’ve launched out #CensorshipSucks campaign to allow people to have their voices heard.

Support for the #CensorshipSucks campaign “A society that is comfortable with every detail of violence being broadcast on every channel but not comfortable with the broadcasting of examples of the love, lust, compassion, caring, and sexual freedom the porn industry portrays, is a society that seriously needs to reconsider their viewing priorities”. - Jack Andy (@jackandyxxx) “I think censorship limits creativity and self-expression. This concept of safety by hiding sexuality of nudity never really did anything to help human trafficking nor folks being raped or abused. Some of my friends think nu-

Jack Andy (Image Courtesy of Andrew Nolan) dity is dangerous. We have to stop the bad connotation associated with the human body and what we do with it.” River Wilson (@riverwilsonxxx) “The whole point about the internet is the freedom to post or create media without censorship. A world with online censorship brings us back to the 1980s. Being a Model and Director in Gay Porn, I think it’s crazy since many men like to and do express themselves in a sexual and more natural manner.

People shouldn’t be censored on what they want to express sexually. Even censoring nude photography is a big shame as that’s art, art of the male form. We are now in 2019, censoring things online is quite ridiculous and a step backwards as it’s nothing new and

nothing to be ashamed of – people and companies have been doing this a long time.” - DICE (@DiceInPDXXX) “When it comes to the increasing of online censorship, I feel as though that it is Prehistoric. We are living in a time and age where everything is more advanced. For me personally, I think it is a double-edged sword because there are many things in this world that aren’t censored. Take for instance, various paintings and statues. Those are considered national treasures; however, still showing full on nudity for all to see. The body is an art form, it shows the beauty and uniqueness in all of us.

It is a sign of self-confidence. Others can say it’s too much or vulgar, but that just a closed-minded perception of how to think.” - Tigger Redd (@Tigger_ReddXXX) About Squirt.Org: Where men meet other men for sex, fun, and friendship – this is the foundation for Squirt. org, a website established in 1999 and operated by Pink Triangle Press. True to its tagline, “Hot ‘n horny hookups,” Squirt.org is a completely uncensored hookup/cruising site for gay, bi, and curious men who want to skip the pretense of dating and get right to the sex.

Consisting entirely of user-generated content, the site is continually growing to provide men around the world a way to meet. Squirt.org is available on mobile, desktop, and tablet platforms through any web browser without the need of downloading any apps. All are welcome in the Squirt.org sex-positive community independent of weight, age, or race, which equates to a great chance at getting laid. For more information, visit www.Squirt.org.

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INTERVIEWS FROM KEY WEST

Art 101: Contemporary Works and Relationship Quirks Kevin Assam kevin-assam@hotmail.com Frame trends! Offerings to the gods! And Sex and the City! This interview explores the world of contemporary art and contemporary relationship woes. Brandie Sager is the Director of Effusion Gallery Key West — a glorious wave of present day pop art and a rich tropical art deco downtown vibe.

In addition, she’s a total babe capable of maneuvering the pitfalls of life. Thus making her this week’s perfect subject.

Q: What does it mean if art is on consignment and why does that sound cheap?

Brandie: Art on consignment means there is no exchange of money between the gallery and artist until an artwork is sold. The pieces are basically on loan from the artist with the intention for the gallery to sell it. It only sounds cheap if you aren’t ‘in the know’ as most artists who offer consignment have a strong market value and confidence that their works will sell. Not at all the same as a consignment shop where you sell clothes you don’t want anymore.

Q: I’m looking for a striking piece to hang above my bed and look at while making love. Are there

any up and coming artists whose pieces you would recommend?

Brandie: First of all, focus on your lover whilst making love or look in a mirror like the rest of us. But if you want erotic art — the place to look is actually Instagram. Just don’t do a search for #eroticart Q: How would you advise lovers of contemporary art to best study it given its continually evolving nature often in real time?

Brandie: I think you just have to be in it. Because it’s constantly evolving — you just have to passionately be in it and explore. Go to gallery events and larger shows. But also [explore] social media. Artsy.net is a great resource and their articles are super informative.

Q: Is Charlotte from Sex and the City someone I should model my art gallery profession after?

Brandie: Nah. No offense to Charlotte, but no. That would be about as successful as modeling your writing career after Carrie — not successful at all in real life. Charlotte gave up her career after getting married. So if your end goal is to be a kept human — go

for it.

Q: What’s the current trend with frames? Are we moving toward or away from more ornate options?

Brandie: Away! Simple floating frames are in. Let the artwork speak for itself. Think clean lines, always.

Q: My ex-partner has gone on to be tremendously successful in the art community. I feel that I inspired some of his most lucrative pieces when we were together. How can I claim my fair share creatively and monetarily?

Brandie: You could be very ‘Murican and try to sue. Instead I recommend taking your amazing muse talents to a more deserving person who will cherish your gift and reward you financially and emotionally.

Q: What’s the best strategy to get myself invited to that fancy exhibition or opening that my good for nothing ex will be attending? I have zero affiliation to the place.

Brandie: Call the gallery directly and tell them you’re interested in the works and are looking to add to your collection.

Q: I’m making an offering to the gods on Saint Patrick’s Day for success and well-being. Who’s a fun contemporary artist I should look at?

Brandie: For success and well-being look to Nelson de la Nuez. All the luxury and cash money vibes will flow to you and make you smile at the same time.

Q: I just moved into my own office at work and have a decorating allowance. I enjoy highly provocative and sometimes erotic pieces of art. My clients already know my style and don’t seem to mind. Should I suppress my personal tastes for the sake of co-workers?

Brandie: That’s a good one. My heart wants to tell you erotic art all the way if that’s what makes you happy. However, I think toning down the provocative [display] is the prudent choice. Or find something with hidden

Brady Sager, Director of Effusion Gallery

meaning or imagery! It might be even more enjoyable knowing what it really is while the rabble is left unaware.

Q: An artist steeply discounts his work because of his love for my bubble butt. The problem is that I’m a lesbian. I do enjoy his art and flexibility with pricing but am wary of leading him on. Help!

Brandie: Let him know your sexual preference but maintain the friendship.

If he wants to discount his art for you let him. Hello — momma got bills to pay and art is an investment!

Kevin Assam is an average writer and hilarious interviewer originally from the Caribbean. He can be best described as a forty year old imaginative mind trapped in a pint sized twenty something year old body. His upcoming book is a collection of outrageous things overheard in Key West.

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Party Down Tony Leggio ledgemgp@gmail.com Mardi Gras 2019 is a wrap and what an amazing year it was. From the parades and balls to the bead throwing from balconies and the parties, it was non-stop action for two weeks straight.

I began my adventure leading up to Mardi Gras on Monday, February 18 with the Armeinius King’s Party at the Corner Pocket. You know it’s going to be a great week when you start it off with a cocktail reception at the CP. Boys dancing on the bar, free flowing libations and lots of food all in honor of the new king of Armeinius Barrett Delong-Church. The event was hosted by the current reigning monarch Ned Pitre. There were lots of well wishers as the krewe mingled with supporters of the krewe as well as some scantily clad young men. Best Monday ever (that was until Lundi Gras)!

On hump day of that week I attended the grand opening reception of Mirepoix Event Catering at Copeland’s Tower in Metairie. Remember that place, back in the day there was a happening disco on the top floor? I’ve just aged myself. A division of Copeland’s, Mirepoix Event Catering menu offers comfort food taken up a notch, including Copeland’s famous appetizers, pasta and seafood entrees. The event was wonderful that evening and

the food was equally delicious, so next time you are looking for a caterer, give Mirapoix a try.

The following day I went to the Meeting Professionals Industry’s Kickoff to Mardi Gras, a networking reception at Lucy’s Retired Surfer Club.

It’s been a hot minute since I’ve been there and it’s just as much fun as I remembered it with all the great drinks, especially the Shark Attack. The event was held in their private event space upstairs with a balcony overlooking Tchoupitoulas Street. The Milkshakes performed for us dressed in sultry 1950’s housewife attire and they were fabulous. Another great evening.

I started my first weekend with a day of drinking with the Krewe if Starz, not the Mardi Gras krewe, but a private group that only allows 30 members.

The afternoon started with a lunch with free-flowing wine and champagne at Broussard’s followed by a second line to a balcony on Bourbon Street with an open bar and beads to toss. Everyone dressed as a famous person, either dead and alive, and there was a costume contest. We had people dressed as Jack Sparrow, Daphne and Fred from Scooby Doo, Merlin, Snoop Dogg and Martha Stewart to name a few. Talk about a day of festivity. And

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no matter how long I have lived in this city, I still love tossing beads from a balcony to screaming tourists.

Saturday, I decided to take a break from the Mardi Gras craziness and add a little magic in my life by attending Southern Decadence Grand Marshal 44 Adikus Sulpizi’s birthday at his gorgeous home in the Marigny. The theme was unicorns and there truly was magic in the air. Maybe it was the cocktails, but there was an overabundance of hot men in attendance. It was quite the wild night and living up to the theme of his year, I believe Adikus released his inner beast. Happy birthday to a great guy and wonderful ambassador for our community.

Sunday was all about throwing me something. I ventured with my friends uptown and caught the Krewe of Carrollton and King Arthur parades. Both parades were lovely, but King Arthur brought it. I knew so many people in the parade; the gay community was represented quite well. Thank you to all who threw me grails I have added them to my Mardi Gras holiday decor. And if you have ever been to my house, you know I love decorating for all holidays. If you are interested in riding in a great parade that has lots of people in the gay community, check out King Arthur, their early registration is going on right now. It’s only $275 for the year, a great deal!

I was back at Broussard’s the following Friday for their Krewe of Bubbles luncheon which centered on champagne. A king and queen appeared as well as a scrumptious lunch offering and a fabulous selection of bubbly both by the bottle and glass.

After that, my friends and I barhopped through the Quarter stopping at Arnaud’s French 75 Bar and Patrick’s Bar Vin before making it down to the gay part of Bourbon and settling on Lafitte’s in Exile where I was overserved. Friday turned out to be the only day in the weeks leading up to Fat Tuesday, where I think I had too much go-go juice. I woke up with lots of Bourbon bruises the next day, but oh what fun I had, at least the parts I remember.

Saturday was all about Armeinius, of which I am a member. They held their 51st annual Ball at Mardi Gras World and, despite crazy traffic, had a sold-out crowd. I did not don a costume this year, taking a year off, but enjoyed watching the Ball from the front of the house; usually, I miss the ball because I’m backstage. I got to appreciate every unique and decorative costume and performance. Varla Jean Merman and Ryan Landry were the emcees for the evening and kept the show moving quite well. If you’re looking for a creative krewe with a fun-loving group of guys, you should check out Armeinius. Their rush party is coming up at the Crossing on March 24 from 2 to 4 p.m. Come check us

out.

One ball is never enough I guess unless you are Lance Armstrong, so I doubled my ball pleasure the next day by attending the Lords of Leather Ball at the Alario Center in Westwego. I know ‘Pull your passport out,” it is the Westbank girl, but well worth the trip. These guys did a spectacular job on their costumes, each one just as colorfully over the top as the next one. Thank you Gary Vandeventer for inviting me to your table. If you have not been to a Lords of Leather ball, you need to go. Better yet check out the krewe at their rush party also on March 24 at The Phoenix from 3 - 6. It feels like pledge week back in college.

Now let’s talk about how much fun Lundi Gras is in our city. I began by attending the Fat Monday Luncheon at Arnaud’s. “What is the Fat Monday Luncheon?” you may ask, well, I’m glad you did. Here is a history of one of the oldest gay traditions in the city.

It all started when Bob Demmons was entertaining out-of-town friends at Mardi Gras in 1949. Since Monday was sort of a quiet time, he took his group of six to lunch at Brennan’s. But his guests were in for a special treat.

Demmons surprised everyone at the table by producing a tiara and crowning one of his guests as Queen of the luncheon. And he presented the Queen with a bouquet of gladiolas.

Demmons then escorted his party to the street, with the Queen gaily tossing gladiolas to astonished diners at Brennan’s, where a horse-drawn carriage was waiting, and they proceeded through the streets of the French Quarter.

Thus was born a tradition. Each year the party grew, and soon Demmons decided it was getting too expensive to host by himself, so eager participants agreed to pay their own way.

Before long, the group expanded to 55, the largest number the private dining room at Brennan’s could accommodate.

In the early 1970s Demmons died, so his good friend Jim Wynne took over the duties of coordinating the traditional Queen’s Luncheon on the day before Mardi Gras. Wynne, who happily continued as Master of Revels for many years, explains that, with time, the group of Monday merrymakers became too large for the private room at Brennan’s, so he decided it was time to move. Besides, Wynne says today, it became clear that Brennan’s was not exactly happy with this rowdy group.

Thus began the years of the Diaspora, with the luncheon nomadically moving from restaurant to restaurant (With stops at Entre Nous, Cafe Sbisa, Restaurant Jonathan, and Menefee’s, all of which subsequently closed, incidentally, although Sbisa later reopened).

In the early ’80s, Wynne decided to approach Arnaud’s Restaurant which

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became their happy home ever since thanks to the wonderful Lisa Sins, Director of Sales and Marketing there for 34 years, who passed away in 2015.

The festivities, which Wynne renamed The Fat Monday Luncheon, has expanded over the years. Now two Queens are crowned each year, “An ‘Out-of-Town Queen’ and a ‘Town Queen’,” says Wynne. And, in the spirit of Mardi Gras mockery, a number of participants are singled out for dubious distinction “awards.” All are humorous and most are ribald, such as the Drag Queen Award and the Size Queen Award.

After the meal, the Queens then lead the other diners in a second-line parade, complete with band, from the restaurant to a 2:30p.m. Queen’s Reception at Good Friends Bar. Each of the two designated Queens is allowed to keep her tiara for the year, but must relinquish it the following Fat Monday.

However, Queens are also presented with a special pin, a permanent gift that is proudly worn long afterwards. After the 1995 luncheon, Wynne retired as coordinator and was designated ”King Emeritus.” Bill Bryan and David Hood

now host the affair, which always sells out the 200- seat room.

Okay that was a little long, but it is such a great event and very important in our LGBT community.

After the luncheon, I stopped briefly at Broussard’s before making it down to the Riverwalk to watch the meeting of Rex and Zulu. I have lived in this city my entire life and had never attended this event, so I especially enjoyed seeing it. Cowboy Mouth performed right before the festivities got underway which ended with a fireworks show. If you have not seen this historic event, it is definitely worth checking out at least once. And you are right next to Riverwalk so you can go shopping afterwards.

Mardi Gras was quite the whirlwind; between the parties, bead toss and costume contest, it made for a very full day.

I started at 8 a.m. by attending Adikus Sulpizi’s Carnival breakfast at his house. I was in my decorated toga, the first of three costumes I would sport that day. Adikus had great food and free-flowing champagne and Bloody Marys for guests. I had a

small nip there and then walked over to Laura Tennyson’s house (also in the Marigny) for her Mardi Gras morning breakfast party. Her husband Gary is a chef and they had salmon, fried chicken (best in the city), baked macaroni and pasta, so lots of heavy food to lay the groundwork for a day of drinking.

So many people do not understand it’s a marathon not a sprint, and you need stamina to get through this day.

Next I was off to the French Quarter for the Bourbon Street Awards.

This was their 55th annual ceremony, now at their new home in front of Good Friends. People line the streets to get a good look at the elaborate costumes from all the various gay krewes as well as those creations by civilians. It’s always a spectacle, and we were treated to some pretty amazing outfits this year. I even donned a costume worn

by Paul Metoyer in the Armeinius Ball because he was unable to attend. Congrats to the Krewes of Armeinius and Apollo Baton Rouge for bringing home four of the top awards - Best Drag, Best Individual, Best Leather and Best of the Best.

After the contest, I made it to the

Gay Mardi Gras Bead Toss held at the home of Randy Roig and sponsored by Ambush Magazine. Tiffany Alexander was lovely as she reigned supreme as the King Cake Queen of the Krewe of Queenateenas keeping the legacy of Rip and Marsha Naquin-Delain alive.

I tossed a few beads and then moved on to my friend Ali Landry’s party in the Marigny which was just wrapping up as I made my way closer to my home.

My last and final stop of the day was back at Laura’s as we sat on her porch drinking wine and watching the sun set on the day. We met so many wonderful people just hanging out on the porch. What a great way to end a fabulous day!

I hope that everyone had an equally special Mardi Gras as we make our way to St. Patty’s Day, St. Joseph’s Day and Easter. Here we go, you got this!

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UNDER THE GAYDAR

New Orleans Hot Happenings

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Mardi Gras has passed, but do not fret, there are still many things to keep your attention in the Crescent City as we approach the celebrations for St. Patrick’s and St. Joseph’s Days as well as Easter. You do not need a crystal ball to foresee more parades on the horizon. Here are a few hot happenings to fill up your time between the parades. (If you have a fundraiser, party, show or event coming up and would like to be listed in the calendar, please email me at ledgemgp@gmail.com).

WEEKLY EVENTS EVERYDAY

Happy Hour: The Crossing; 439 Dauphine St.; 7 days a week from open until 9pm (7AM to 9PM). It’s $3 domestic beer and well drinks. $1 off everything else.

Happy Hour: Golden Lantern; 1239 Royal Street.; 7 days a week from 8 a.m - 8 p.m.

Happy Hour: GrandPre’s; 834 N Rampart St.; 12 p.m. - 9 p.m. $3 Well/ domestics

Happy Hour: Oz New Orleans; 800 Bourbon St.; 4 p.m. - 8 p.m.

777 Happy Hour: Kajun’s Pub; 2556 St. Claude Avenue; 7 a.m. - 7 p.m.

Kajun’s Karaoke: Kajun’s Pub; 2556 St. Claude Avenue; Karaoke from 5 p.m. until.

MONDAY

Martini Mondays: Crossing; 439 Dauphine St.; (all day) Tito’s and Deep Eddy martinis will be $3.

Karaoke Monday: The Bourbon Pub; 801 Bourbon St.; 7 - 9 p.m. Enjoy happy hour prices all night long. Hosted by Denny with VJ Dollabill.

S.I.N. Night: The Corner Pocket; 940 St. Louis St.; Starting at 9 p.m.

Come drink with Ashlee. Get your SIN card and receive $2.50 canned beer.

Pool Tournament: Rawhide 2010; 740 Burgundy St.; 9:45 p.m. $2 PBR and $50 gift certificate for Rawhide Lazy Susan Karaoke: Oz New Orleans; 800 Bourbon Street; 9 p.m. – 1 a.m. Join bartender Mark and a revolving cast of drag queen hostesses for LAZY SUSAN KARAOKE with Music

by DJ Lucius Riley. Mondays are a drag, so make them fabulous and sing the night away. The line-up this month is 3/11 Hannibelle Spector.

NOAGE & Stonewall Sports Walk/ Run Club: Audubon Park; 6:15 p.m.

Join Stonewall Sports New Orleans and NOAGE starting at 6:30 p.m..

Meet for the walk/run at Audubon Park by the Magazine Street entrance parking lot. This will be a weekly event for walkers and the Stonewall Run Club will join every 3 weeks. This group is for ALL fitness levels, and you can go at your own pace. Whether that’s running, jogging, leisurely walking, or using a wheelchair or walker, this group is for you. If you are worried that you’ll be left behind, don’t worry; someone will walk with you. If you are the fastest person there, we’ll see you at the finish line. If you need assistance or have questions, call Jim at (504) 228-6778.

Service Industry Night: Four Seasons Bar; 3229 N. Causeway Blvd.; Open to close. $2.50 domestic beers; $3 well cocktails; $3.50 imported beer; $5.50 Tito’s; $6 Jameson.

Underwear Night: The Eagle at

the Phoenix; 941 Elysian Fields Ave.; starting at 9 p.m. The Eagle now is open EVERY Monday night. Happy Hour prices if you’re in your underwear.

Doors open at 9 p.m. and NO COVER. Primal Nights: Bacchanal Wine; 600 Poland Avenue; 5:30 - 8:30 p.m.

The team at Bacchanal is happy to announce a new season of Primal Nights!

If you’ve been to a Primal Night before, you know that they’re big ol’ backyard bbqs to benefit a good cause! Guest chefs come and grill out a personalized menu, the plate donations (~$20) all go to the charity of their choosing. Primal Nights have raised over $18,000 for notable local causes. They’ve decided to donate all of Winter 2019 Primal Nights to the Calfund Wildfire Relief.

S.I.N.: Kajun’s Pub; 2256 St. Claude Ave.; 1 a.m - 4 a.m. 2 for 1 drinks.

Happy Hour All Night: The Page Bar; 542 N Rampart St.; Open to close.

Well, Domestic, and Wine.

TUESDAY

Tequila Tuesdays: Crossing; 439 Dauphine St.; (all day) Tequila drinks

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$5.

Kocktail Karaoke: Good Friends Bar; 740 Dauphine St.; 9 p.m. - 1 a.m., Join us at Good Friends Bar for Kocktail Karaoke. The winner gets a $25.00 bar tab. $5 Fireball.

Country Dance Lessons: GrandPre’s; 834 N. Rampart St.; 8 p.m.

Tuesdays are Country Dance lessons with the Big Easy Stompers from 8 - 11 p.m.

Bourbon Boylesque: Oz New Orleans; 800 Bourbon St.; 8:00 p.m. See the Men of Oz like you have never seen them before. The show stars Atomyc Adonis, Bobby B, Franky, Phathoms Deep and other special guests. Hosted

by Trixie Minx.

Tacos, Tequila and Tiaras: Buffa’s Bar and Restaurant; 1001 Esplanade Ave.; 8 p.m. Tacos, Tequila, and Tiaras is one of New Orleans’ only family friendly drag shows! Join hostess Vanessa Carr Kennedy every Tuesday, have a taco or two, and learn a little bit about the art of drag.

Tunes Tuesday: Four Seasons Bar; 3229 N. Causeway Blvd.; Open to close. Free Jukebox credits with a $4 drink purchase.

Trivia Night: MRB; 515 St. Philip St.; Starts at 8 p.m. Every Tuesday at 8 you can join us for Who Wants A Dollar? Trivia! Free to Play. Plenty of Prizes. Tons of Fun. Teams of 1-6 welcome. Enjoy some killer drinks, amazing food from Woodies @ MRB, and out of this world trivia.

Happy Hour All day and Night: 700 Club; 700 Burgundy; 9 p.m. - 2 a.m.

Every week on Tuesday from 9:00 PM to 2:00 AM the next day.

Happy Hour: The Page Bar; 542 N Rampart St.; 5 p.m. - 8 p.m.

Burlesque Bingo with Lefty Lucy: The AllWays Lounge; 2240 St. Claude Ave.; 6 p.m. - 8:30 p.m. Loose Hellfire presents their free weekly grown-up game show where everyone’s a winner! There is NO COVER for this sexy and silly game. Just buy a drink from the bar & Tsarina Hellfire will give you a Bingo Card! Each round winner gets a BUCKET of prizes including exclusive prints & a grand finale prize from Abita Brewing Company! Just for showing up you get to enjoy the free BURLESQUE side of this unique game! Between every round, Lefty Lucy performs an improvised striptease to a song the crowd selects, removing only one item per round—Don’t miss your chance to win the finale prize, and to see the tassels twirl!

Trivia: Cutter’s; 706 Franklin Avenue; 7:30 p.m. Join your host, bartender and local music legend Johnny Sketch, at 7:30. Join a trivia team or bring your own and test your knowledge across multiple categories to win an often odd and useful assortment of prizes!

WEDNESDAY

WednesGays at LPK Uptown: Louisiana Pizza Kitchen; 615 South Carrollton Ave.; 5 p.m. Join us every Wednesday to celebrate diversity. See old friends or make some new ones and find out what’s happening in the Nola community. All this while enjoying 1/2 price drinks from the bar. Invite your friends.

Kafe Karaoke: Cafe Lafitte in Exile; 901 Bourbon St.; 9 p.m. – midnight. $25.00 Bar tab and Free Shots & Givea-ways with Happy Hour All Day. Oz Show Night: Oz New Orleans; 800 Bourbon St.; 10:30 p.m. This popular drag show is hosted by Persana Shoulders and features Connie Hung, Anastascia Davenport; ChiChi Rodriquez and Dominique DeLorean.

Honey Bee Trivia: GrandPre’s; 834 N. Rampart St.; 7 p.m. Wednesdays are Trivia with Honey Bee at 7 p.m. with free jello shots and Bar Tabs.

Hump Day: Rawhide 2010; 740 Burgundy St.; 4 - 9 p.m. 2 for $4 wells, draft, and domestic beers.

Wine Night: Four Seasons Bar; 3229 N. Causeway Blvd.; 5 p.m. close. $15 bottles of wine.

Video Game Night: GrandPre’s; 834 N. Rampart Street; 8:30 p.m. midnight; The bar is doing Video Game Night starting at 9 p.m. Come and compete for prizes and Grab some Drinks.

Movies in the Courtyard: Flamingo A-Go-Go; 869 Magazine Street; Double-feature movie nights. Showtimes 7pm and 9:30pm Happy Hour: The Page Bar; 542 N Rampart St.; 5 p.m. - 8 p.m.

THURSDAY

Honey Bee Trivia: GrandPre’s; 834 N. Rampart St.; 7 p.m. Thursday is Honey Bee Trivia at 7 p.m. Four rounds with jello shots to the winner of each round and a Bar Tab to top person/team of the night.

Girl | Crush: Oz New Orleans; 800 Bourbon St.; 9 p.m. Girl | Crush is brings you a weekly event for girls who like girls, and their friends! This flavor of CRUSH entitled DTF is exclusive to New Orleans’ #1 Dance Club, Oz and happens every Thursday night.

The Jeff D Comedy Cabaret: Oz New Orleans; 800 Bourbon St.; 10 p.m. The Comedy Cabaret stars Jeff D. featuring Gia Giavanni. Enjoy hilarious comedians, amazing talent and the Ladies of Oz. Strip Off: Oz New Orleans; 800 Bourbon St.; Midnight. Persana Shoulders hosts the Strip Off every Thursday night. Sign up begins at 11 p.m. and the show features a spotlight performance by Miss Gay Louisiana America 2013 Mercedes Ellis Loreal. Winners receive 1st PLACE - $100 Cash • 2nd PLACE - $50 Bar tab Prime Time Trivia: Four Seasons Bar; 3229 N. Causeway Blvd.; starts at 9 p.m. Come out and enjoy trivia with

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great prizes with your host Honey Bee. Retro Night: The Corner Pocket; 940 St. Louis St.; starts at 10 p.m. Enjoy drink special from 10 p.m. to midnight and the best hits from the 80’s and 90’s.

Happy Hour: The Page Bar; 542 N Rampart St.; 5 p.m. - 8 p.m.

Looped: Mags 940; 940 Elysian Fields; 7 p.m. Come see a boozing, pill-popping Tallulah Bankhead (played

by Elizabeth Bouvier) get off some “savage” one-liners as the sound editor, Danny Miller (played by Greg Nacozy) tries to get one line looped, or re-recorded, for her last picture, 1965’s Die! DIe! My Darling! and forces him to “spill the tea”! - Shows March, 14, 21 and 28.

FRIDAY

Music of Senator Ken: Golden Lantern; 1239 Royal St.; 7:30 - 9:30 p.m. Enjoy live music with Senator Ken playing all your favorites.

Play Girlz: Golden Lantern; 1239 Royal St.; 10 - 11:30 p.m. Drag show featuring Gia GiaVanni and special guests.

New Meat Amateur Dance Contest: Corner Pocket; 940 St. Louis St.; 6:30 p.m. Anyone can enter - $100 cash prize.

Fireball Fridays: Four Seasons Bar; 3229 N. Causeway Blvd.; Open to close. $4 Fireball Shots.

Take It Off Fridays: Four Seasons

Bar; 3229 N. Causeway; 5 p.m. - 12:30 a.m. Includes $2.50 domestic beers and $3 well drinks from 5 - 9 p.m.; $15 drink and drown from 9 - 11 p.m. all well cocktails; and Underwear Party with free well. Cocktails for those who strip down to their underwear from midnight to 12:30 a.m.

Misc4Misc: Oz New Orleans; 800 Bourbon Street; 9 p.m. Enjoy this wonderfully weird drag show hosted every week by Apostrophe. Cover is $5.

Late Night Happy Hour: Cru NOLA; 535 Franklin Avenue; 10:30 p.m. - 2 a.m. Come by and get to know Executive Chef Marlon Alexander and sushi and vegan Chef Kelseay Dukae during their late night happy hours.

They look forward to serving you some delicious drink specials and amazing food from our kitchen. Come chill out in the iconic courtyard.

Beat The Clock; 700 Club; 700 Burgundy; 5 - 9 p.m. Well Drinks: 5 PM - 6 PM $1.50, 6 PM - 7 PM $2.00, 7 PM - 8 PM $2.50, 8 PM - 9 PM $3.00 Happy Hour: The Page Bar; 542 N Rampart St.; 3 p.m. - 8 p.m.

SATURDAY

Music of Vanessa Carr Kennedy; Golden Lantern; 1239 Royal St.; 7:30 - 9:30 p.m. Enjoy songstress Vanessa as she sings some of the tops hits of yesterday and today.

Divas R Us; Golden Lantern;

1239 Royal St.; 10 - 11:30 p.m. This wonderful drag show directed by Monica Sinclaire Kennedy includes a special guests stars.

Piano Bar with Trey Ming; Good Friends Bar; 740 Dauphine St.; 4 – 7 p.m. Sing along with your favorite songs with talented piano player Trey Ming.

Drag Dingo: Oz New Orleans; 800 Bourbon Street; 6 - 8 p.m. Catch ChiChi Rodriquez, Persana Shoulders for Drag Bingo! 11 games of Bingo, 11 chances to win prizes! All the fun starts at 6 pm till 8 pm in their upstairs bar with your favorite bottom, Jake, slinging drinks for you all night long!

Late Night Happy Hour: Cru NOLA; 535 Franklin Avenue; 10:30 p.m. - 2 a.m. Come by and get to know Executive Chef Marlon Alexander and sushi and vegan Chef Kelseay Dukae during their late night happy hours.

They look forward to serving you some delicious drink specials and amazing food from our kitchen. Come chill out in the iconic courtyard.

Happy Hour: The Page Bar; 542 N Rampart St.; 3 p.m. - 8 p.m.

Queer Meditation: Mid City Zen; 3248 Castiglione Street; 10:30 a.m. A queer and trans centered meditation group meeting regularly on Saturday mornings. Open to all LGBTIQ+ people, and all folks interested in holding and sharing an intentionally queer-centering mindful space. Join for a sit,

breathe, notice, rest; to cultivate presence and kindness together. Free/by donation.

SUNDAY

Bottomless Mimosas: Cafe Lafitte in Exile; 901 Bourbon St.; 1 - 4 p.m.

Bottomless Mimosas are offered upstairs from 1 - 4 p.m. for $12.

The Original Trash Disco: Cafe Lafitte in Exile; 901 Bourbon St.; 410 p.m. Includes the original napkin toss and the best music videos to sing along with.

You Better Sing Karaoke: GrandPre’s; 834 North Rampart St.; 7 p.m.

Join DJ Dereesha as he plays Karaoke.

The Half Assed-Straight Boys: Golden Lantern; 1239 Royal St.; 3 - 5 p.m.

Jubilee: Golden Lantern; 1239 Royal St.; 5 p.m. This Sunday Funday show stars Reba Douglas and special guests.

Zingo: Corner Pocket; 640 St. Louis St.; 6:30 p.m. Play Bingo followed by the Barry BareAss Dancer of the Week Contest.

Oz Show Night: Oz New Orleans; 800 Bourbon St.; 9:30 p.m. This popular drag show is hosted by Persana Shoulders and features Connie Hung, Anastascia Davenport; ChiChi Rodriquez and Dominique DeLorean.

Drink Drown and Drag: The Bour-

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bon Pub; 801 Bourbon St.; 6 - 9 p.m.

Sunday Funday upstairs at The Parade. $15 Drink and Drown from 6 – 9 p.m. with a star studded drag show starting at 8 p.m.

Sunday Worship: Metropolitan Community Church of New Orleans (MCCNO); 5401 S. Claiborne Ave; 10:00 a.m. New Orleans first LGBTQ church welcomes you to join us for our Sunday worship service where they celebrate God’s Love for everyone.

Drag Dingo: Oz New Orleans; 800 Bourbon Street; 6 - 8 p.m. Catch ChiChi Rodriquez, Persana Shoulders for Drag Bingo! 11 games of Bingo, 11 chances to win prizes! All the fun starts at 6 pm till 8 pm in their upstairs bar with your favorite bottom, Jake, slinging drinks for you all night long.

Mama Honey’s Drag Brunch: Cru NOLA; 535 Franklin Street; 11 a.m.

For tickets, go to www.crunola.com.

Vanessa Carr Presents Mama Honey’s Drag Brunch featuring an amazing menu from Chef Marlon Alexander and awesome entertainment! Come celebrate with the phenomenal talents of Vanessa Carr Kennedy and Friends!

Divas at the Dive: Kajun’s Pub; 2256 St. Claude Ave; 5 p.m. Vanessa Carr LIve. 6:30 p.m. Drag Karaoke. 8 p.m. Audience Karaoke Drink and Drown: 700 Club; 700 Burgundy Street; 5 - 8 p.m. Unlimited well drinks, Bud Light and Miller Lite draft $10

Happy Hour/ Drink Til You Drop: The Page Bar; 542 N Rampart St.; Happy Hour 3 p.m. - 8 p.m. and Drink Til You Drop $12 6 p.m. - 9 p.m.

SPECIAL EVENTS TUESDAY 3/12 – SUNDAY 3/31

Hamilton: The Saenger Theatre; 1111 Canal Street. New Orleans premier of the smash musical. Tickets are available online at www.thatsliveneworleans.com. Hamilton tells the story of America’s Founding Father Alexander Hamilton, an immigrant from the West Indies who became George Washington’s right-hand man during the Revolutionary War and was the new nation’s first Treasury Secretary.

Featuring a score that blends hip-hop, jazz, blues, rap, R&B, and Broadway, Hamilton is the story of America then, as told by America now. With book, music and lyrics by Lin-Manuel Miranda, Hamilton is based on Ron Chernow’s biography.

THURSDAY 3/14

Top Taco 2019: Woldenberg Park; 1 Canal Street; 6 - 10 p.m. The third annual celebration of tacos, tequila and cervezas is back! 50 of the top restaurants in New Orleans compete for the crown of Ultimate Top Taco.

Tickets can be found at www.events.

com.

Hinge Pictures: Eight Women Artists Occupy The Third Dimension: Contemporary Arts Center; 900 Camp Street; 11 a.m. - 5 p.m. Hinge Pictures: Eight Women Artists Occupy the Third Dimension is an exhibition in eight-parts, a confrontation with the patrimony of European modernism in the practices of eight leading women artists: Sarah Crowner, Julia Dault, Leslie Hewitt, Tomashi Jackson, Erin Shirreff, Ulla von Brandenburg, Adriana Varejão, and Claudia Wieser. Across eight successive galleries, this exhibition presents practices that evolve from the flat plane of the wall to immersive sculptural environments.

Staging a performance of material history, spatial occupation, and social positioning, Hinge Pictures: Eight Women Artists Occupy the Third Dimension resuscitates abstract modernist vocabularies, marked by patriarchal and colonial histories, for use in a new feminist formalism.

FRIDAY 3/15

Lark 2019: City Park; 7 - 11 p.m.

Join City Park for the premier Party in the Park with fabulous food, drinks, and live music on Victory Avenue and in Storyland! VIP Party - 7:00 PM – 8:00 PM; Gala - 8:00 – 11:00 PM. Proceeds will benefit the revitalization of Storyland. For tickets, go to www. friendsofcitypark.com.

The Transiberian Nightmare: Siberia Lounge; 2227 St. Claude; Door at 9 p.m. The Transiberian Nightmare is back! Hosted by Carina von Tuna and ST!NK, featuring the talents of Gayle King Kong, Holly N Dazed, and P*$$Y D’Lish, as well as an amateur performance competition* The winner will receive a Paid spot in the following month’s show. $5 cover.

Southern. Decadence Grand Marshal Announcement Party: The Crossing; 439 Dauphine Street; 7 - 10 p.m.

Beware the Ides of March! SDGMs XLIV Frank Perez and Adikus Sulpizi have set the SDGM Announcement Party for March 15 at Crossing. Entertainers include: Justin Betwener , Scarlet Michaels, Glory Bea, and Countess C. Alice This year’s Announcement Party will take place at Crossing, formerly the Double Play, at 439 Dauphine Street. Reserved VIP table seating (4 seats) is available for $100. Contact Frank Perez or Adikus Sulpizi to reserve a table. All money raised at the event will go toward producing the 2019 Southern Decadence Parade, which takes place on Sunday, September 1.

SATURDAY 3/16

Drag Queen Storytime: Alvar Library; 913 Alvar Street; 1 - 2 p.m.

Come listen to the beautiful and talented Vanessa and friends read stories.

Open to all families, caregivers, and

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GrrlSpot Shenanigans: QiQi; 1515 Aline Street; 11 a.m. - 11 p.m. Grrlspot is getting down uptown for the Irish Channel St. Patrick’s Parade at NOLA’s newest queer hotspot, QiQi. Drinks, Limited Edition GrrlSpot Schwag, DJs, and more Grrls than you can shake a shillelagh at.

It’s Showtime on Rampart Street; GrandPre’s; 834 North Rampart St.; 10 p.m. Come out and catch this exciting drag show starring Moanalot Fontaine and special guests.

The Irish Tenors: Jefferson Performing Arts Center; 6400 Airline Highway; 7:30 p.m. FINBAR WRIGHT • ANTHONY KEARNS • RONAN TYNAN - Since 1998, The Irish Tenors have been performing at such venues as Radio City Music Hall, Sydney Opera House, Carnegie Hall, and major concert halls throughout the world. Join JPAS for this once-in-a-lifetime concert event for one night only! For more information or tickets, go to https://www. jpas.org.

2019 Irish Channel St. Patrick’s Day Parade; Irish Channel; 1 p.m.

Celebrate St. Patrick’s Day New Orleans Style with the annual Irish Channel St. Patrick’s Day Parade! Enjoy this truly essential New Orleans St. Patrick’s Day experience and catch our throws which include flowers, beads, kisses, cabbages, and much more! As always, mass begins at Noon at St. Mary’s Assumption Church. 2030 Constance St. and is open to the public.

The parade begins after mass, around 1:00.

SUNDAY 3/17

Metairie Road St. Patrick’s day Parade; Metairie Road; Noon; The annual Metairie Road St. Patrick’s Day parade will take place at noon in front of Rummel High School on Severn Avenue, goes down Severn to Metairie Road, then Metairie Road to the parish line. For more information: http:// stpatsmetairie.com/.

St Patrick’s Day at Crossing: Crossing; 439 Dauphine St.; (all day) Drink Specials & Surprises.

MONDAY 3/18

GLOW UP Trivia - 80’s Flashback: Bar Redux; 801 Poland Avenue; 9 - 11 p.m. Bar Redux & Honey Tangerine Present GLOW UP Trivia Night: 80’s Flashback Don your neonest of leotards and largest of hairs, and join us for a night of trivia hosted by Honey Tangerine! Featuring three rounds of cut-throat trivia on Wrestling, the 80s and/or Nerd Culture. $2 gets you a trivia sheet, or you can throw in $5 and play for all three rounds! Each trivia round winner will receive a prize package chock full of Swag, Comics, Coloring Books, Games, Toys Self-care products and tons of 80s Goodness.

Take an 80’s dance break with our go-

go dancers! Enjoy delicious Nachos, visit with Janya behind the bar and watch a couple episodes of GLOW on the patio with us to cap off a perfect evening with GLOW UP TRIVIA: 80’s Flashback.

TUESDAY 3/19

Disco Noir: Banks Street Bar; 4401 Banks Street; 9 p/m. - 3 a.m.

Disco Noir is a synth heavy goth dance party for all the queers, outcasts, people who vibrate in a corner, and most importantly it’s for those who enjoy dark sounds. DJ faeriegothmother brings you mixed sounds of 80s goth to today’s edm. They play local favorites, and the mind numbing sounds we all dance to. DJ Cardinal Sin conjures up those rarities you’ve heard before but can’t quite place. She gets you moving, and often you forget where you are. DJ Olivette selects those synthy hits from the late 70s until now. She knows what she likes and will show you when she leaves the booth to dance with you. As always, Disco Noir has no cover, but is a 21 and up event.

WEDNESDAY 3/20

Life Is A Bitch - The Lyrics and Poetry of Fran Landesman: Cafe Istanbul; 2372 St. Claude Avenue; 7 p.m. Life is a bitch. the lyrics and poetry of Fran Landesman-a cabaret with Raynel Shepard and Harry Mayronne (piano), with Ben Fox (bass) and Michel Skinkus (percussion). $15, cash only, at the door. Ever heard of Fran Landesman? “Spring Can Really Hang You Up the Most,” perhaps? Landesman published five volumes of poetry and wrote lyrics for hundreds of songs over the course of a career which began in the 50’s. She rubbed shoulders with artists and poets from the Beat Generation: Jack Kerouac, Lenny Bruce, and Allen Ginsberg; dropped acid with Timothy Leary; collaborated with composers Steve Allen, Tommy Wolf, Roy Kral, Dudley Moore, and Simon Wallace. Nearly forgotten after her death in 2011, she is happily being rediscovered and her work revived by the incomparable vocalist, Raynel Shepard. Come and enjoy the humorous, bittersweet, ironic and sometimes irreverent songs and spoken poetry of this under-appreciated “Queen of the Bohemian Dream” - Fran Landesman.

THURSDAY 3/21

FlamBOYant: The AllWays Lounge; 2240 St. Claude Avenue; 8 - 10 p.m. The New Revolution of Boylesque continues! Come see the flamBOYs bare it all as they dance and twirl in the most flamboyant of fashions. Featuring flamBOYs Danny Girl and Expecta Patrone. Hosted by the always outrageous Atomyc Adonis.

Doors at 7pm, Show at 8pm, $5 cover.

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FRIDAY 3/22

Gimme A Reason with Rich King: Poor Boys Bar; 1328 St. Bernard Avenue; 10 p.m. - 4 a.m. Gimme a Reason returns in March with none other than cosmic daddy, celestial papa, disco sex shaman, RICH KING of the infamous NYC shindig, Easy. Joining him are Trax Only party starters Father Figure and Bouffant Bouffant after their performance at Buku Music + Art Experience. $5 before midnight. $10 after midnight.

SATURDAY 3/23

Dykes Do Deadlifts: Vitality by Kristin; 4304 Firestone Road; 11 a.m.

They’re back at it again with another fun workout for a good cause! We’re partnering with the creators of Dykes Do again to bring you Dykes Do Deadlifts! A space for queer women to get our pump on in a judgement-free zone. This event’s proceeds will benefit BreakOUT! “BreakOUT! builds the power of LGBTQ youth most impacted by the criminal justice system to affect concrete policy change to fight the criminalization of LGBTQ youth in New Orleans, LA.” Don’t let the words “deadlift” freak you out. Dykes Do Deadlifts, and all programming at Vitality, is first-timer friendly.

Big Easy Sisters Bingo: The Phoenix; 941 Elysian Fields; 6 - 9 p.m.

COME WIN STUFF! Join the BIG EASY SISTERS for their bi-monthly

Bingo - drink specials, bingo and fabulous prizes with all proceeds going to local charities.

Crescent City Leathermen Beer Bust: The Phoenix; 941 Elysian Fields; 9 p.m. Hosted by the members of Crescent City Leathermen at their home bar, The Phoenix & New Orleans Eagle. This will immediately follow BINGO with the Big Easy Sisters.

Come on out and make a night of it! $5 buy-in with $1 refills.

Prophylactic Prom: The Art Garage; 2231 St. Claude Avenue; 8 - 11 p.m. OHL’s Prophylactic Prom is back again! Join them March 23rd at The Art Garage for a funky, fun special event, loosely resembling your high school prom, but rather than taffeta and tuxes, this prom’s court attire will feature creative costumes designed out of ONE Condoms. The winning condom costume will take The Crown of the Prophylactic Prom Court and will be awarded with the opportunity to parade in their condom-best during the 2019 New Orleans Pride Parade! Prophylactic Prom is an opportunity to have fun, break the mold and support Odyssey House Louisiana in providing holistic, non-judgmental, compassionate care. Prom is an opportunity to support our efforts in educating, equipping, and empowering our community, while celebrating and embracing sexuality.

Enjoy snacks from Messina’s Catering and Events, drinks, a raffle, and

performances from the Disco Amigos, NOLA Jewels, Roux La La, and more to come soon! TICKETS are just $20 and include TWO COMPLIMENTARY DRINKS. Not drinking? Purchase our $10 “Designated Driver” ticket. Learn more at www.ohlprom.com.

Krewe of Amon-Ra Rush Party: Cafe Lafitte in Exile Balcony Bar; 901 Bourbon Street; 3 - 6 p.m. Come join the Krewe of Amon-Ra for fun and merriment! Learn more about our functions and Balls! Food will be provided!

View the Ball DVD!

SUNDAY 3/24

Lords of Leather Rush Party; The Phoenix; 941 Elysian Fields; 4 - 6 p.m.

Join the Lords for their Lords of Leather RUSH PARTY for our 37th year! Come meet the Krewe, officers, and royalty, and learn more about what a year of Leather, Love, and Laughter can mean for you! Light snacks and free entry -- come get to know us! Applications for membership will be available (and you can apply for only $25). The Mystic Krewe Lords of Leather is the only leather-oriented Mardi Gras Krewe in the world. As a leather-oriented social club, the Krewe conducts special activities of interest to the leather community and to the community at large by promoting general education, public awareness and appropriate charitable fund raising activities related to issues of significance to the gay and lesbian

community. However, the primary purpose of the Krewe is the presentation of a Mardi Gras Bal Masque; we spend the year raising funds to produce this extravagant event. Bal Masque XXXVII will be held on Sunday, February 23, 2020 at 8pm. During that time, in accordance with a theme held secret until late Fall 2019, we will present fabulous costumes, entertainment, and crown our new royalty, Lord King XXXVII and Lord Consort XXXVII. More information is available via our Facebook Group (Lords of Leather Monthly Events) and http://lordsofleather.org Krewe of Armeinius Rush Party: The Crossing; 439 Dauphine Street; 2 - 4 p.m. Come rush to be part of New Orleans’ largest gay krewe as we pilot into our new year. There is no better time to join and be part of our organization than now. Don’t know how to do what we do yet? No problem, we are an educational preservation organization that is willing to teach you how. Let your friends know.

MONDAY 3/25

New Orleans Drag Workshop Cycle 9 Draguation Part 2: AllWays Lounge; 2240 St. Claude Avenue; 10 p.m. Now in its sixth year, the New Orleans Drag Workshop continues to inspire and nurture the truly adventurous in spirit and turn out sickening after sickening queens, kings and all things in between. Cycle 9 is no ex-

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ception. They are actually only half way through the program and already practically famous!. We have LOOQS, we have DRAMA, we have COMEDY, we have CLASS, and we even have a LIFE FORCE from a whole other planet. Come celebrate the hard work and DEADication as it hits the stage for the first time. As alWays, this show sells out. Doors are at 10pm and the doors are locked at 10:30pm. Click HERE for tickets https://www.brownpapertickets. com/event/4107670

FRIDAY 3/29

Horsefeathers: Rites of Spring: Cafe Istanbul; 2372 St. Claude Avenue; 7 - 10 p.m. High Fashion, Flying Circus, and Spiritual Elevation! A tour de force of Self Care via the Occult and Gestalt.The Grand Dame of the Damned herself is conspiring with the Ingenious Androgyne for a night that’s sure to leave you feeling light as a feather, stiff as a board. Enjoy Horsefeathers! by Precious Ephemera. This event features VIP Priority Seating that includes swag bags with free gifts from local sponsors and personalized memorabilia from the cast. International Superstar Tarah Cards (Haus of Cards) presents Dante The Magician, Liza Rose (Fly Circus), Hann Cowger (NYC), Juno (Inferno Burlesque), Jyldo (CHI), Ariana Amour (Reigning Unicorn of the Crescent City), Nicole Marquez (Inherently Valid Fund), Tammy (#pre-

ciousandtherealgirl) – Voiced By Gayle King Kong and introducing The Show Ponies via Rocket Babe Burlesque.

For tickets, go to https://neworleans. boldtypetickets.com/events/92456777/ horsefeathers-by-precious-ephemera or their Facebook page.

Cinema Twain featuring Val Kilmer: Joy Theatre; 1200 Canal Street; 7 p.m. Val Kilmer Live & Jonathan Mares present Cinema Twain - 7 p.m. doors; 8 p.m. show. Cinema Twain is the film version of the one-man play Citizen Twain written, produced, directed and starring Val Kilmer based on the life of Samuel Clemens, and of course his writings as Mark Twain. The Top Gun, Batman Forever, Tombstone, and The Doors star will introduce the 90 minute film and conduct a question & answer session with the audience following the screening. SUPER VIP ticket holders will have the opportunity to attend an exclusive happy hour hors d’oeuvres reception and meet & greet with Kilmer before the film. Thesetickets are extremely limited and will not last long. For tickets, go to www.ticketfly.com/purchase/event/1827094.

Lords Bust One… Year 37: The Phoenix; 941 Elysian Fields; 9 p.m.

- midnight. Join us for our 5th Friday “Filth Friday” 9pm Meat & Greet and 10pm-Midnight beer bust! Come enjoy a gathering of leather love and laughter in our favorite spot, The Phoenix! $10 donation goes toward our Bal Masque

XXXVII which will be held Sunday, February 23, 2020.

NOCCA Concert Series presents Jeremy Jordan with Seth Rudesky: NOCCA; 2800 Chartres Street; 8 - 11 p.m. Tony Award Nominee Jeremy Jordan (NBC’s Smash, Supergirl & Broadway’s Newsies) with Host Seth Rudetsky will appear in a Broadway @ NOCCA series concert to benefit the NOCCA Institute. For tickets and more information, go to https://m.bpt.me.

SATURDAY 3/30

Louisiana Queer Conference 2019: Louisiana State University Business Education Complex; 501 Nicholson Drive Ext (Baton Rouge); LAQC is a statewide, student-run, free conference inspiring Louisianans to LGBT+ activism and community solidarity. We attract attendees from across the South to attend workshops and learn from speakers about the LGBT+ community and how they can better the world for queer people. For more information go to https://lsu.edu/ lgbtqproject/laqc/laqc.php#.

It’s Showtime on Rampart Street; GrandPre’s; 834 North Rampart St.; 10 p.m. Come out and catch this exciting drag show starring Moanalot Fontaine and special guests.

Dodwell Extravaganza: The Dodwell House; 1519 Esplanade Avenue; 6 - 10 p.m. A great evening: food, entertainment, cocktails, wine pull, auc-

tion items and frivolity. This is to raise restoration funds for this very historic property. Advance tickets $60; $70 at the door. Go to https://dodwellhouse. org for tickets or more information.

FRIDAY 4/5 – SUNDAY 4/7

SouthernMost Puppy V: The Phoenix; 941 Elysian Fields. SouthernMost Puppy presents their 5th title year April 5 - 7! This contest is free to all, contestants and supporters alike!

All events take place or start at the New Orleans Phoenix, unless otherwise stated. Schedule will be as follows: Friday April 5th: Meet and Greet - 9PM til Midnight. (Contestants will be introduced and given numbers). Saturday April 6th: Closed Interviews: 10 AM until complete. Pup Crawl: 4 PM to 6 PM; Contest: 9 PM til Midnight Sunday April 7th: Victory Brunch and Community Awards: 11AM to 2PM. For more information, go to http://nolapah. wixsite.com/southernmostpuppy.

FRIDAY 4/5

Stonewall Sports First Friday Happy Hour: Phillip’s Bar and Restaurant; 733 Cherokee; 5 - 8 p.m. Join fellow Stonewallers for a monthly happy hour on the first Friday of every month at Phillip’s Bar, one of our Stonewall Sports New Orleans Sponsors.

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UNDER THE GAYDAR

Along the Gulf South BATON ROUGE MONDAY

Game Night: George’s Place; 860 St. Louis St; 10p.m. Hosted by Chance

WEDNESDAY

Queens Karaoke: George’s Place; 860 St Louis St; 10p.m. Hosted by Alvin McGee Free Cover Wednesdays: Splash Nightclub; 2183 Highland Rd; 9pm

THURSDAY

Double Trouble Thursday: George’s Place; 860 St Louis St; 7pm. $6 Double Wells and $10 Double Calls Show Night: Splash Nightclub; 2183 Highland Rd; 11:30pm. Featuring the Bombshells of Baton Rouge

FRIDAY

THE ROUNDUP 560 E Heinberg St

TUESDAY

Karaoke; 9 p.m. - 2 a.m.

THURSDAY

Speed Quizzing Trivia; 7 p.m. - 9 p.m.

FRIDAY

Drag Bingo with Monica Heart; 6 p.m.

- 8 p.m. Win cash and prizes

GALVESTON 23RD ST. STATION 1706 23rd Street

LAFAYETTE BOLT BAR & PATIO 114 McKinley St

THURSDAY

Thirsty Thursday; No Cover. $4 Double Wells and $2 wine

FRIDAY

The Ladies of Bolt; 11:30pm. $5 cover

SATURDAY

Dance Night; No Cover. Happy Hour 5 p.m. - 8 p.m.

LAKE CHARLES CRYSTAL’S DOWNTOWN 720 Ryan Street

TUESDAY

Anything But Techno Tuesdays; 10 p.m. No Cover. Ladies drink half off

WEDNESDAY Drag Bingo & Show

THURSDAY

Drink & Drown Karaoke; $10 selective alcohol with $1 refill

Mobile Hot Happenings WEEKLY AT FLIP SIDE

WEEKLY AT B-BOB’S

SUNDAY Funday with Karaoke MONDAY Service Industry Night TUESDAY Karaoke WEDNESDAY Rock n Roll Bingo 8PM THURSDAY Karaoke SATURDAY SEC Football

TUESDAY Gay Bar BINGO 9:30 & 11PM THURSDAY Amateur Drag Night 11PM FRIDAY & SATURDAY Midnight Drag Show

54 S. Conception St., Mobile, AL (251) 431-8819

213 Conti St., Mobile, AL (251) 433-2262

Happy Hour every day until 7 p.m.

MONDAY

Texas Hold ‘Em 7pm

Upstairs Karaoke: Splash Nightclub; 2183 Highland Rd; 9pm $1 Martinis 9-10pm

UNDER THE GAYDAR

TUESDAY

Tube-ular Tuesday with Jim 8pm

ARE WE MISSING YOUR EVENTS? Email info@ambushpublishing.com

WEDNESDAY

Ladies Night w/ Piano 6pm

THURSDAY

Movie Night with Chris 8pm

FRIDAY

Live Entertainment 6pm

SATURDAY

Live Entertainment 9pm

SUNDAY

Sing Along Sundays w/ Piano 4pm7pm

RUMORS

3102 Seawall Blvd.

Happy Hour every day until 7 p.m.

FRIDAY & SATURDAY Show Nights 11 p.m. & 12:30 a.m.

SUNDAY THRU THURSDAY Karaoke 8 p.m.

SUNDAY

The Sunday T with Carly & Kymber 4:30 p.m.

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MOMENTS IN GAY NEW ORLEANS HISTORY

The Journal of Joe Wilkins Frank Perez frankearlperez@gmail.com Not long ago, an acquaintance called me and said he had something the LGBT+ Archives Project of Louisiana might be interested in. It was the personal journal of his deceased friend, Joe Wilkins. The name did not ring a bell but as a historian, I was curious. Bring it over, I said.

As far as I can tell, Joe Wilkins was not a public figure—just an average gay man who recorded his daily experiences. He died in 2014. His journal is fascinating, and chock full of insights into what it was like to be gay in the 1970s and 1980s. According to the journal’s donor, the people mentioned in the following passages have passed away and he has granted me permission to publish the following excerpts: Saturday, January 19, 1980. Gus and I leave for New Orleans—8:30— arrive about 5:00pm—thru Mobile— ugly—stay at Old Town Villa on Ursulines near Royal—good location . . . out to eat . . . walk around . . . home to bed early Sunday, January 20—walk to French Market flea market . . . so, so . . . into Jewel’s Bar at 7:00am . . . a few tired people . . . move to Ursulines Guest House . . . nice . . . to bars . . .

shopping etc.

To: Bourbon Pub Lafitte’s T.T.’s Le Bistro Jewel’s Golden Lantern The Galley Tigers Louisiana Purchase Mississippi River Bottom (N.O. same after 7 years . . . looks the same except for a few new buildings)—Eat at the Fatted Calf . . . hamburgers Monday, January 21—drive looking for Gus an apt. . . . Buster Holmes to T.T.’s . . . rather hot Tuesday, February 19—walk to Tim’s (Gus’s Tim) house at 9:00 . . . walk alone in Quarter . . . Tim not at hotel . . . to Lafitte’s . . . to Bunk House (now called Quarter Scene) . . . to Canal parade . . . nice . . . love the parades . . .to T.T.’s at noon . . . come out and eat at Golden star with Lionel . . . walk to Lafitte’s . . . Pub . . . Tigers for drinks . . . back to T.T.’s come out to see the Comus parade . . . home at 11:00 Sunday, May 31, 1981—to Lafitte’s with Bobby—to Jewel’s—see Mauricio! looks wonderful—but not interested in me—we talk for a long time—feels so good---to Lafitte’s—see Robin—fun night—home early—too bad about Mauricio—he is so handsome and has such a beautiful body!!! Best dancer in the world

Wednesday June 17—Bob out on wild drunken spree—from T.T.’s walking home hot trick picks me up on street—jeans—big box—undershirt— black hair and mustache—WONDERFUL arms—wants me to fuck him—so hot—wonderful cocksucker—hairy chest and body—big legs—works out—can’t keep his mouth off my cock—wants me to tie him up and beat him—so what’s new—he loves it—face fuck him—hard—fuck him hard—heaven October 1981—still hot—to Lafitte’s—to T.T.’s—Loading Dock—to Celestial Knight’s show—good—Baby Jane, etc.

Thursday, Dec. 17, 1981—Christmas alone! Ugh! Talked to mother and she said she could pay for a ticket for me to come to Atlanta—haven’t heard from Davison’s—do I want to move to Atlanta??? Was sad when I went up for Davison’s interview—thank God Bobby was there—too sad to see all the places Tim & I lived—all the shops, cafes, bars etc.—watch tv Muppets and Magnum—Jeff from next door comes over—to Jewel’s—to T.T.’s— home in an hour—cold Thursday, Dec. 31, 1981—work,

leave at 3—Tim calls Bobby still in NY—seems in good mood—I’m going to Bourbon Pub tonight—to Pub with Jeffrey from next door—streets packed with people from Georgia and Pittsburgh here for the Sugar Bowl game— nice to see the streets full again—sit at the bar and watch this line of people going upstairs to the Parade—all the disco queens—Marcus from flea market and I walk to Lafitte’s—toooo crowded—(I’m too old for all that?)— go to T.T.’s—fun in back room—carry on with naked bar dancer on the bar— from S.F.—home with him to 620 Burgundy—his name is Joel The Joe Wilkins journal is exactly what archivists are looking for. The information contained therein is an invaluable resource for researchers. If you are in possession of journals or letters or anything else that chronicles local LGBT+ history, please consider donating that material so that it may be properly preserved for future researchers. For more information, please visit the LGBT+ Archives Project of Louisiana website at https://www.lgbtarchiveslouisiana.org/ or email me at frankearlperez@gmail.com.

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BOOK REVIEW Once & Future Frank Perez frankearlperez@gmail.com

Once & Future. Amy Rose Capetta and Cori McCarthy. Little, Brown, & Co., 2019. 351 pages.

Once & Future is a young adult science fiction fantasy novel that gender fucks the Arthurian legend. Arthur is a teenage girl. Merlin is gay. Capitalism is evil. In space.

Ari Helix has been chased her entire life. An illegal immigrant in territory controlled by the evil Mercer Corporation, Ari has always had to hide who she is. Until she crash-lands on Old Earth, pulls a magic sword from its ancient resting place, and becomes the forty-second reincarnation of King Arthur.

The wizard Merlin awakes to find that having aged backward over the centuries, he is now-wretchedly-a teenager. Training the girl king may be Merlin’s final chance to break the curse that keeps Arthur coming back—before Merlin himself blinks out of existence.

He just needs Ari to embrace her des-

tiny as the ruler who will unite a galaxy against a corrupt, tyrannical government and bring peace and equality to all humankind. No pressure.

This retelling of the Arthurian legend in which all our traditional assumptions about gender and sexuality was perhaps inevitable. Amy Rose Capetta and Cori McCarthy, literary as well as personal partners, thankfully handle their subject matter with wit and grace.

They capably add interesting layers to familiar characters while simultaneously providing an exploration of the complex web of connections between class and gender.

By challenging convention and including multiple and fluid sexualities and non-binary identities, Once & Future is reminiscent of Sir Gawain and the Green Knight, the 14th century Arthurian poem in which all the “norms” of Camelot are inverted in the Green Knight’s castle. The Gawain poet would approve of Once & Future.

And yes, there are space dragons.

FINANCIAL & BUSINESS Financial Guide to Inheriting a Home Scot I. Billeaudeau, JD, LL.M. ADPA® s.billeaudeau@ampf.com If you stand to inherit a property, such as a family home or vacation condo, the gift presents a critical financial decision: whether to sell, rent or keep the home. And oftentimes, this decision is handled while dealing with the loss of a loved one. Spend time today thinking about how the property may fit into your lifestyle and financial picture. When the time comes, taking the following three actions can help inform your choice: Set up an appraisal to learn the home’s value. Hire a professional appraiser who can determine the fair market value of the property on the date you assumed ownership. Having a solid idea of the value can not only help you decide whether to sell or keep the home today, but it can establish a cost basis should you decide to sell it in the future.

Calculate the cost to maintain the home. Mortgage payments, annual property taxes and utility bills will be your responsibility. Factoring in other regular expenses, such as yard maintenance, snow removal, and housekeeping, can give you a realistic picture of what it will take financially to keep the home. Also, check with your attorney to ensure there are no tax liens or other assessments on the property.

Determine your ability and desire to maintain the home. Do you have the time to handle the upkeep?

Additionally, think about how you’ll manage the property in retirement if you’re unable to perform maintenance tasks yourself.

As you work through these actions, here are some additional considerations that come with the decision to sell, rent or keep the home: Sell Parting ways with a family home can be emotional – even when you know doing so is the right decision. Give yourself time to prepare the home for sale. This way you can sort through your loved one’s belongings and find closure at your own pace.

When the time is right, a cleaning company, home staging services and a realtor can help you put the property on the market. If you make a profit on the sale, apply the money toward your financial goals. The extra sum can help make your goals of retirement, college tuition for grandkids or estate plans a reality. Selling the home has tax implications that vary by state, so talk to a tax professional for guidance.

Rent If renting the home is appealing to you, research what the rental market is like in your area. Determine if a reasonable monthly rental price

provides enough cash flow to cover upkeep costs. Hiring a management company to clean, make minor home repairs or manage the rental process may be attractive, particularly if the property is miles away from your primary residence. Additional tax considerations may apply depending on the number of days you use the home versus rent the space to others. Consult a tax professional to understand if and how your tax situation may change.

Keep The ability to continue family traditions, have a future retirement space or a vacation getaway may make keeping the home the right decision for you. If you’re sharing ownership with a sibling or another family member, decide how you will split the financial and maintenance responsibilities. If you inherit the home outright, the choices are yours to make. However, communicating your intentions with others may help alleviate tension, especially if the home has sentimental value to your family.

Consider the following financial steps as well: Purchase home insurance. If the property has a pool, trampoline, boat or other recreational items, you may need additional coverage.

Save strategically for a remodel

or upgrades if you want to adapt the home to suit your family’s lifestyle.

Update your estate plan. If you intend to keep the home in your family for another generation or two, don’t wait to prepare your legal documents.

Advance planning can help pass the property smoothly to your inheritors.

Have a conversation with your beneficiaries so they know what to expect.

Making decisions after the loss of a loved one can feel overwhelming. It’s okay to take your time and ask for help with choices along the way. Guidance from a realtor, attorney and financial advisor may help you be thoughtful about how the inherited home fits into your lifestyle and financial plan.

Scot I. Billeaudeau, JD, LL.M. ADPA®, is a Financial Advisor with Waterfront Wealth Management, a private wealth advisory practice of Ameriprise Financial Services, Inc. He specializes in addressing the unique needs of the diverse LGBTQ community, fee-based financial planning and asset management strategies, and has been in practice for 11 years.

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Maya Snorkel Adventure at the Audubon Aquarium of the Americas

I love snorkeling and don’t get to enjoy this fun activity often enough.

So you can imagine how disappointed I was last year when, during a 5-day Mexican cruise, my one snorkeling day had to be cancelled due to rough waters.

In November, however, when I attended NOAGE’s gala at the Audubon Aquarium, I was intrigued to see a sign that offered a snorkeling experience at the Aquarium. I made some inquiries and last month finally had the chance to go snorkeling right in my own backyard.

The Maya Snorkel Adventure gives you the opportunity to dive in and become part of the Aquarium’s exhibit.

Unlike the fish, you won’t be fed any broccoli or kale, but you will have a very memorable experience.

The program, which has existed for only a few years, begins with a 8-minute film that introduces you to the types of fish you’ll encounter and describes the Aquarium’s conservation efforts.

Then, after some do’s and don’ts, it’s into the tank. Dive Program Coor-

Our legacy is yours.

New Orleans Advocates for GLBT Elders (NOAGE) provides services and advocacy for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender older adults in the New Orleans metro area.

We host regular social events for LGBT older adults and their allies, and we provide cultural competency trainings for healthcare and other service providers.

To learn more, visit www.noagenola.org, or call (504)517-2345.

dinator Jessica Harshbarger is one of the people who oversees snorkelers, and hers is a lovely, knowledgeable and helpful presence.

As for the fish, about three dozen different types can be found in the tank, though that includes 6-9 varieties of grunts alone. Why are they called “grunts”? Because of the sound they make, of course.

Amid the artificial coral reefs, electric blue surgeon fish and schools of silvery iridescent lookdowns swim by.

Grey angelfish mate for life and hence travel in pairs. Porkfish groom other fish and a red squirrelfish can be spotted.

Four of the creatures, however, completely enraptured me.

Along the bottom by a short wall separating two sections of the tank, four Southern stingrays kept playfully sidling back and forth like chorus girls getting ready before the curtain goes up.

A dozen or so cownose rays flapped their fins and seemed like a frisky flock of birds flying around you. Though some came quite close (they’re one of the few creatures you’re allowed to touch...gently) as they zoomed by with the grace of a corps de ballet, Jessica said that when they’re breeding, they can get feisty with each other; if you see any missing a tail, you’ll know why.

“Patty” the pufferfish, about 18 inches in length, came up to me and seemed to give me the stink eye, but it turned out she was just hoping for some food.

And a Caribbean spiny lobster left his two girlfriends on the floor and climbed up the wall to his man cave.

Inches away from me, its purplish skin with flecks of orangy gold dazzled and its antennae, when extended, can have a four foot span. Incredible! I did feel a little guilty wondering how its tail would taste.

The Maya Snorkel Adventure takes place Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays at 10:30am and 1:30pm.

Each time slot is limited to a maximum of 4 participants, so it’s best to book ahead. And while at $125 per person (including admission to the Aquarium) this isn’t cheap, the funds go towards the Aquarium’s Conservation Initiative.

And it’s a LOT less expensive than hotel and airfare to get to Hawaii or the Carribean for some snorkeling.

Though the Aquarium’s Great Maya Reef covers only a relatively small area, so much fascinating activity occurs that you will not want to leave even as your skin gets pruny. The Adventure’s 45 minutes may go by very fast, but you’ll never forget your time in

With Dive Program Coordinator Jessica Harshbarger at the Great Maya Reef the Aquarium’s waters.

The Chefs Taste Challenge at the Morial Convention Center/Edible Schoolyard’s Annual Garden Party on April 4

Last September I attended the fourth annual Chefs Taste Challenge, a fun, fresh take on food competitions aimed at broadening awareness for the use of healthy, sustainable ingredients in preparing meals. It featured a face-off between the best farm-to-table chefs in the greater New Orleans region versus the best farm-to-table chefs in the greater Gulf Coast region.

The eight chefs, four on each team, competed to create the best dish that utilized farm-fresh items from a pantry of pre-selected ingredients.

Billed as a “One Night Culinary Clash”, the dinner was judged by a panel of industry-renowned experts who, along with event attendees, voted for their favorite dishes. I loved all but two of the dishes, one of which turned out to be the Fan Favorite. Go figure.

My favorite was Duck Legs & Sweet Potatoes by Roseann Rostoker of Red Gravy in the CBD. Absolutely scrumptious. Right behind it were Brandon Burleson’s Venison & Jackfruit; Frog Legs & Breadfruit by cute Matthew Guillory of the New Orle-

ans School of Cooking; and Miami’s James Versfelt who did Drum Filets & Hearts of Palm.

Also tasty were Chris Motto’s Shrimp & Collard Greens and the Judges’ selection for Best Dish Whole Tuna and Green & Yellow Squash

by Justin Ross of Peche Seafood Grill, but they did not quite excite my tastebuds as much as the dishes with the more exotic ingredients.

Now why am I bringing this up six months later? Because a beneficiary of the evening was Edible Schoolyard New Orleans, a very worthy organization which changes the way children eat, learn, and live at five FirstLine charter schools here. Their aim is to improve the long-term well being of students, families, and the school community by integrating hands-on organic gardening and seasonal cooking into the school curriculum, culture, and cafeteria programs.

If this sounds like a cause you want to support or if you’re just a foodie who likes to have a good time, then plan to go to Edible Schoolyard’s 10th Annual Garden Party on April 4 at the Langston Hughes Academy (3519 Trafalgar St.). There’ll be small plates from over 30 New Orleans restaurants, a beer garden, live music featuring the George Porter, Jr. Trio led by the Grammy Lifetime Award winner of The Meters, a silent auction, and more.

I went last year and had an absolute

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blast. And the cost for General Admission tickets is an incredibly low $60.00.

Hope to see you there!

Jump Jive and Wail! The Music of Louis Prima at the WWII Museum’s Stage Door Canteen March 22 through April 7

[Jump Jive and Wail! returns to the WWII Museum’s Stage Door Canteen for a brief run this Spring. The following are excerpts from my review which originally ran in October 2012.]

The Stage Door Canteen has a winner with its new, take-no-prisoners revue Jump Jive and Wail! The Music of Louis Prima. What in any other city might’ve been merely a cheesy stroll down memory lane geared towards fans of an older generation, at The WWII Museum is an authentic, rollicking tribute to a native son, superbly done.

Even more so than 2011’s Glenn Miller show, Jump Jive and Wail! successfully integrates music with Prima’s life story, a tale of ups & downs and constant re-invention, that for those unfamiliar with the details of his career keeps you wondering as to what comes next. And because Prima covered a wide range of styles and song genres, Jump Jive and Wail! provides a variety of tempos and moods, never settling into just one groove.

Prima must’ve been quite a guy.

Rather than run from his Italian heritage during World War II, he took a chance and embraced it leading to such hits as Angelina and Zooma Zooma. At a time when the armed forces and many other institutions were still segregated, Eleanor Roosevelt heard him play at a black nightclub in Washington, D.C. and invited him to perform at FDR’s birthday celebration. How did he greet the President? “Hey, Daddy-o!” FDR loved it.

As Prima’s popularity began to fade in the early 1950s, he moved to the up’n’coming Las Vegas with his soon-to-be wife, Keely Smith. In November 1954, they opened the Casbar Lounge at the Sahara and by 1958 they were doing five 45-minute sets six nights a week starting at midnight each night(!!!). Prima and Smith became known as the “King and Queen of Vegas” and “the greatest stage act couple in American history” with her playing “straight guy” to his wild stage antics.

They would go on to win a Grammy at the first Awards ceremony in 1959 for “Best Performance By A Vocal Group” for That Old Black Magic.

There’d be more drama in the ’60s as Smith, the fourth of his five wives, divorced him and rock’n’roll threatened to eclipse him. But he changed styles, remarried (Gia Maione who served as an advisor to the show), and scored one of his biggest successes as the

Chef Roseann Rostoker and her Duck Leg Quarters & Sweet Potatoes at the Chefs Taste Challenge 2018 voice of King Louie, the King of the Orangutans, in Walt Disney’s animated film The Jungle Book, which spawned the hit song I Wanna Be Like You. Bandleader Tom Hook, who came up with the concept for Jump Jive and Wail! along with Victoria Reed, captures Prima’s enthusiastic joie de vivre as vocalist/pianist and is an engaging narrator. The six outstanding musicians who back him up for the 20+ numbers are all a bunch of showmen as befits a Prima tribute and they’re all pretty good singers too.

Prima’s songs and recordings remain invigoratingly timeless yet the audience I saw it with skewed older including some WWII vets. There’s nothing wrong with that (and might be explained as it was a matinee up against a Saints game), but I hope new generations will go and discover this vibrant part of New Orleans’ and America’s musical heritage. Jump to it!

Curtain Up

The 33rd Annual Tennessee Williams/New Orleans Literary Festival kicks off Wednesday, March 27, with a theatrical adaptation of the Pulitzer Prize-winning novel A Confederacy of Dunces. Over the next four days, there’ll be panels, walking tours, readings, the annual Stella and Stanley Shouting Contest, and much more.

Three productions make up this year’s major theatrical offerings for the Festival.

The Tennessee Williams Theatre Company of New Orleans presents Suddenly, Last Summer at Loyola’s

Lower Depths Theater beginning on March 28. After her triumphant Amanda Wingfield, Gwendolyne Foxworth returns to Williams-land in this psychological thriller set in the Garden District. As the formidable matriarch Violet Venable, Foxworth will try to silence Catharine Holly (Elizabeth McCoy) who knows a little too much about the violent death of Violet’s son Sebastian.

Performances continue through April 13.

From March 15-31 at Le Petit, Baby Doll, based on Williams’ one-act play 27 Wagons Full of Cotton and the controversial 1956 film, will run.

Set in the sweltering summer heat of 1950s Mississippi, this dark comedy is a game of cat and mouse that explores the desires, desperation, and prejudices of two rival cotton gin owners and their attempts to seduce a young bride called Baby Doll after a suspected act of arson.

Southern Rep is doing something a little different by offering the world premiere of Azul by New Orleans native Christina Quintana from March 27-April 14 in partnership with the Saints and Sinners Literary Festival.

At age nine, Yadra left Castro’s Cuba.

Now, as Alzheimer’s sets in, her mind returns to that time and place, bringing family secrets to light. Spanning two countries and three generations, Quintana fuses music and memory to ask, “What is the true language of love?”

And if the Festival’s star wattage is not quite what it used to be, Val Kilmer will be ramping it up when he appears at The Joy Theater on March 29 to introduce the film Citizen Twain which

he wrote, produced, directed, and stars in. Based on the life of Samuel Clemens, and of course his writings as Mark Twain, we’ll hear his thoughts on politics (including his famous disdain for the U.S. Congress), his family and ultimately his faith in God, as well as a series of his timeless yarns told with his incomparable wit. Kilmer will conduct a question and answer session with the audience following the screening.

Far removed from Tennessee Williams (or maybe not), BODYART launches Maison, the first in a series of site-specific immersive dance experiences highlighting New Orleans’ architecture and dining culture.

For two nights (March 29 & 30), guests are invited to spend an evening roaming a private New Orleans residence, tasting dance-inspired dishes and experiencing immersive performances found in the home’s unique nooks and crannies. The evening is comprised of two acts, an intimate dinner and a roaming party.

Act One’s mobile dining experience is for 12 bold guests and features five courses designed collaboratively with Maison’s resident chef. Each course takes place in a different part of the house, inspired by the architecture and individual performances around you. Act Two is a party that offers the opportunity to find community and explore with your fellow theatergoers.

Tickets are available at https://bodyartmaison.splashthat.com/ Please send press releases and notices of your upcoming shows to Brian Sands at bsnola2@hotmail.com.

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Mobile, AL [251] B-Bob’s Downtown, 213 Conti St., 433.2262, B-Bobs.COM Flip Side Bar & Patio, 54 S. Conception St., 431.8819, FlipSideBarPatio.COM GABRIEL’S DOWNTOWN, 55 South Joachim St., 432.4900 The Midtown Pub, 153 Florida St., 450.1555 Pensacola, FL [850] THE ROUNDUP, 560 East Heinberg St., 433.8482 Baton Rouge, LA [225] GEORGE’S, 860 St. Louis, 387.9798, SPLASH, 2183 Highland Rd., 242.9491, SplashBR.COM Lake Charles, LA [337] CRYSTAL’S, 112 W. Broad, 433.5457 Metairie, LA [504] FOUR SEASONS & PATIO STAGE BAR, 3229 N. Causeway, 832.0659, FourSeasonsBar.com New Orleans, LA [504] 700 CLUB, 700 Burgundy, 561.1095, BIG DADDY’S, 2513 Royal, 948.6288 BIG EASY DAIQUIRIS, 216 Bourbon, 501 Bourbon, 409 Decatur, 617 Decatur THE BLACK PENNY, 700 N. Rampart BOURBON PUB & PARADE, 801 Bourbon St., 529.2107, BourbonPub.COM Café Lafitte in Exile, 901 Bourbon Street 522.8397, Lafittes.COM. Café Lafitte in Exile is the oldest continuously operating gay bar in the United States.

CORNER POCKET, 940 St. Louis, 568.9829, CornerPocket.NET COUNTRY CLUB, 634 Louisa St., TheCountryClubNewOrleans.COM, 945.0742 CUTTER’S, 706 Franklin, 948.4200 CROSSING (formerly THE DOUBLE PLAY), 439 Dauphine, 523.4517 THE FRIENDLY BAR, 2301 Chartres, 943.8929 GOLDEN LANTERN, 1239 Royal, 529.2860, Facebook.COM/GoldenLanternBar Good Friends Bar, 740 Dauphine St, 566.7191, GoodFriendsBar.COM. Designed for a casual night out or a quiet evening with that special someone, we offer a wide selection of liquor, beer, and the world renowned Separator.

GRANDPRE’S, 834 N. Rampart St., 267.3615, Facebook.com/grandpres KAJUN’S PUB, 2256 St. Claude Ave., 947.3735, KajunPub.COM MAG’S 940, 940 Elysian Fields Ave., 948.1888 NAPOLEON’S ITCH, 734 Bourbon St., 237-4144 OZ NEW ORLEANS, 800 Bourbon, 593.9491, OzNewOrleans. COM THE PAGE, 542 N. Rampart St., 875.4976 PHOENIX/EAGLE, 941 Elysian Fields, 945.9264, www.phoenixbarnola.com Rawhide 2010, 740 Burgundy St., 525.8106, Rawhide2010.COM. Leather, Dark Rooms, & Bears All Around. You can feel the throb of excitement and smell it in the air. This isn’t just a bar. This is an experience!

TROPICAL ISLE: Home of the Hand Grenade, 721 Bourbon St., 529.4109, TropicalIsle.COM VALIANT THEATRE AND LOUNGE, 6621 St. Claude Ave., Arabi, LA, 504.900.1743 Slidell, LA [985] BILLY’S, 2600 Hwy. 190 West, 847.1921

Biloxi, MS [228] CLUB VEAUX, 834 Howard Ave., 207.3271

bookstores

New Orleans, LA [504] FAB - Faubourg Marigny Art & Books, 600 Frenchmen St., 947.3700

circuit/events

Easter Sunday, April 11, 2018, 19th Official Gay Easter Parade, New Orleans, sponsored by Ambush, GayEasterParade. com

costumes

New Orleans, LA [504] QT PIE BOUTIQUE - 241 Dauphine St., 581. 6633

galleries

New Orleans, LA [504] CASSELL-BERGEN GALLERY, 1305 Decatur St., cassellbergengallery.com, 504.524.0671

guides

AMBUSH Mag, 828-A Bourbon St., New Orleans, LA 70116-3137; 504.522.8049, AmbushMag.COM; marsha@ripandmarsha.com

groceries/delis

New Orleans, LA [504] QUARTERMASTER DELI, THE NELLIE DELI, 1100 Bourbon, 529.1416

hair salons

New Orleans, LA [504] Two Guys Cutting Hair, 2372 St. Claude Ave., Suite 125, appointments: Adikus 215.519.5030, Trent 504.239.2397

hardware

New Orleans, LA [504] MARY’S FRENCH QUARTER HARDWARE, 732 N. Rampart, 529.4465. More than just a hardware store, Mary’s Ace French Quarter Hardware also features an extensive selection of kitchen and bath items upstairs.

accommodations

New Orleans [504] AARON INGRAM HAUS, 1012 Elysian Fields, New Orleans, LA 70117, PHONE: 504.949.3110, www.ingramhaus.com/xqey, e-mail us at ingramhaus@yahoo.com.

Condos with queen-size beds, private entrances; located only six blocks from Bourbon Street and walking distance to most New Orleans attractions. Several favorite bars are within one block. [0118] BLUES60 GUEST HOUSE, 1008 Elysian Fields Ave. New Orleans, LA 70117, Phone: 1.504.324.4311, www.blues60guesthouse.com, info@blues60guesthouse.com. The Blue60 Guest House with 5 suites provides a peaceful retreat in the center of the Faubourg Marigny, just blocks from the French Quarter and Frenchman St. [1115] BURGUNDY BED AND BREAKFAST, 2513 Burgundy St., New Orleans, LA 70117, PHONE/FAX: 504.942.1463, Toll Free (Continental US only): 1.800.970.2153, www.theburgundy.com, E-mail us at theburgundy@cox.net. Gay owned and operated in newly renovated 1890’s double. Four guest rooms with private baths, guests’ parlor and “half-kitchen”, courtyard and half-open tubhouse with spa (hot tub/ whirlpool). Clothing optional in sunbathing and hot tub area. Walking distance to French Quarter. Immediate vicinity of gay and lesbian bars/venues. [0815] The french quarter guest houses, 1005

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St. Peter, New Orleans, LA 70116, Phone: 1.800.367.5858, FrenchQuarterGuestHouses.com, email: Info@frenchquarterguesthouses.com. Four meticulously restored boutique inns located in the heart of the French Quarter’s most popular LGBT neighborhood. Each building’s individual character and charm provides an unforgettable authentic French Quarter experience!

media

New Orleans, LA [504] AMBUSH Mag, Official Gay Easter Parade Guide, Official Gay Mardi Gras Guide, Official Gay New Orleans Guide, Official Gulf South Guide, Official Pride Guide, Official Southern Decadence Guide, P.O. Box 2587, LaPlace, LA 70069, 522.8049, AmbushMag.COM; email: info@ambushpublishing.com

organizations

FOOD FOR FRIENDS, 504.821.2601 ext. 254 FRIDAY NIGHT BEFORE MARDI GRAS (FNBMG), 504.319.8261, www.fridaynightbeforemardigras.com GAY APPRECIATION AWARDS, 828A Bourbon St., 70116-3137; 522.8049; AmbushMag.COM/GAA GAY EASTER PARADE, 828-A Bourbon St., 70116-3137, 504.522.8049, info@ gayeasterparade.com, GayEasterParade.

COM GAY MARDI GRAS, 828-A Bourbon St., 70116-3137, 504.522.8049, GayMardiGras.COM GAY NEW ORLEANS, 828-A Bourbon St., 70116-3137, 504.522.8049, GayNewOrleans.COM HAART (HIV/AIDS Alliance Region Two, Inc.), 4550 North Blvd. Ste. 250, Baton Rouge, LA 70806, 225.927.1269, www. haartinc.org, offers a complete continuum of care to people living with HIV/AIDS including housing, primary care, medications, case management, and an array of supportive services. In addition HAART provides HIV prevention education and FREE testing to the Baton Rouge area.

HALLOWEEN IN NEW ORLEANS, INC., PO Box 52171, 70152-2171; HalloweenNewOrleans.COM KREWE OF AMON-RA, PO Box 7033, Metairie, LA 70010, KreweOfAmonRa. COM KREWE OF ARMEINIUS, 433 N Broad St, New Orleans, LA 70119, www. armeinius.org KREWE OF MWINDO, PO Box 51031, 70156; 913.5791, KreweOfMwindo.ORG, krewe@kreweofmwindo.org KREWE OF NARCISSUS, PO Box 3832, New Orleans, LA 70177. Contact: 504.228.9441 KREWE OF PETRONIUS, PO Box 1102, Kenner, LA. 70063-1102, www. kreweofpetroius.net KREWE OF QUEENATEENAS / KING CAKE QUEEN ROYALTY CLUB, 828-A Bourbon St., 70116-3137, 522.8049, Gay-

MardiGras.COM/KCQ LGBT+ Archives Project of Louisiana, 1308 Esplanade Ave., New Orleans, LA 70116, 504.475.7911, www.lgbtarchivesla.org MYSTIC KREWE OF LORDS OF LEATHER, 1000 Bourbon St #B415, New Orleans, LA 70116, www.lordsofleather.org MYSTIC KREWE OF SATYRICON, 2443 Halsey Ave., New Orleans, LA 70114, 504.906.7990 Todd J. Blauvelt / Secretary, krewe.of.satyricon@gmail.com, MysticKreweOfSatyricon.COM NO/AIDS TASK FORCE, 2601 Tulane Ave., Suite 500, 70119; 504.821.2601; NOAIDSTaskForce.COM NEW ORLEANS PRIDE, info@neworleanspridefestival.com; 504.321.6006; NewOrleansPrideFestival.COM; NOLAPride.

ORG; New Orleans Pride fully embraces the message of “One CommUNITY” as we celebrate our history and promote the future prosperity of New Orleans and the Gulf Coast Region. We use public awareness and education about the LGBT+ community as a way to combat “phobias” and discrimination. Our programs, seminars and events leading up to, and during Pride weekend, are meant to include individuals from all walks of life.

RENEGADE BEARS OF LOUISIANA, PO Box 3083, New Orleans, LA 70177; renegadebearsoflouisiana@gmail.com SOUTHERN DECADENCE, 828-A Bourbon St., 70116-3137, 504.522.8049, SouthernDecadence.COM ST. ANNA’S EPISCOPAL CHURCH, 1313 Esplanade Avenue New Orleans, LA 70116 504.947.2121, stannanola.org Metropolitan Community Church of New Orleans (MCCNO), 5401 S. Claiborne Ave — Pastor Alisan Rowland: New Orleans first LGBTQ church welcomes you to join us for our weekly Sunday worship services at 10:00 AM, where we celebrate God’s Love for everyone.

pharmacy

Mumfrey’s Pharmacy, 1021 W. Judge Perez Dr., Chalmette, LA 70043, 504.279.6312, www.MumfreysPharmacy.COM. Supporting & serving the LGBT Community for over 20 years. Local pharmacy offering personalized family-like service, automatic refills & free metro wide confidential pickup & delivery. Also offering shipping for out-side our delivery area.

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New Orleans, LA [504] GRAHAM/STUDIO ONE NEW ORLEANS, by appointment, grahamstudioone. com

restaurants

Metairie, LA [504] Chef Ron’s Gumbo Stop & Pub, 2309 N. Causeway Blvd., 835.2022, GumboStop.com

New Orleans, LA [504] The Bombay Club, 830 Rue Conti, 577.2237, www.bombayclubneworleans. com Broussard’s Restaurant & Courtyard, 819 Rue Conti, 581.3866, http://broussards.com Cafe Sbisa, 1011 Decatur St., 522.5565, www.cafesbisanola.com Cheezy Cajun, 3325 St. Claude Ave., 265.0045, www.TheCheezyCajun.com Clover Grill, 900 Bourbon St., 598.1010, www.CloverGrill.com. Since 1939, our quirky, cozy, unique diner has been home to the best breakfasts & burgers on Bourbon Street–maybe even the whole French Quarter!

Country Club Restaurant, 634 Louisa St., www.TheCountryClubNewOrleans. com, 945.0742 Gene’s Po-Boys & Daquiris, 1040 Elysian Fields Ave., 943.3861, www.genespoboys.com Ilys Bistro, 1040 Elysian Fields Ave., 947.8341, www.Facebook.com/ILYSBistro Kingfish Kitchen & Cocktails, 337 Chartres St. 598.5005, www.KinfishNewOrleans.com Louisiana Pizza Kitchen Uptown, 615 S Carrollton Ave, 866-5900, www.louisianapizzakitchenuptown.com Mona Lisa Restaurant, 1212 Royal St., 522.6746 Orleans Grapevine Wine Bar & Bistro, 720 Orleans, 523.1930, www.OrleansGrapevine.com Quartermaster: The Nellie Deli, 1100 Bourbon St. , 529.1416, www.QuartermasterDeli.net Royal House Oyster Bar, 441 Royal St., 528.2601, www.RoyalHouseRestaurant.com

real estate

New Orleans, LA [504] Engel & Völkers New Orleans, Michael Styles, Realtor — Michael specializes in helping first-time homebuyers and real estate investors find the perfect New Orleans properties. 504.777.1773, NolaStyles.com Latter & Blum, Steven Richards Realtor, 504.258.1800, SteveRichardsProperties.com

retail/shopping

New Orleans, LA [504] BOURBON PRIDE, 909 Bourbon, 566.1570 COK (Clothing or Kinkl), 941 Elysian Fields, 945.9264 MARY’S FRENCH QUARTER KITCHEN & BATH, 732 N. Rampart, 529.4465 QT PIE BOUTIQUE - 241 Dauphine St., 581. 6633 XXXSHOP, 1835 N. Rampart St., 504.232.3063

services

New Orleans, LA [504] Formal Connection, 299 Belle Terre Blvd. LaPlace, LA, 985.652.1195

theatres

New Orleans, LA [504] CAFE ISTANBUL, 2372 St. Claude Ave., #140, 504.974.0786, CafeIstanbulNOLA.COM

tours

New Orleans, LA [504] Gay New Orleans Walking Tour, Crescent City Tour Booking Agency, (LGBT Business of the Year) 638 St. Ann St., 568.0717. follow Gay New Orleans Walking Tour @ Facebook.COM

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A COMMUNITY WITHIN COMMUNITIES

Love is not exclusion.

The Very Rev. Bill Terry+ fr.bill@stannanola.org

1 Corinthians 13:4-6 New International Version (NIV): Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love, it seems, is something that Christians talk about a lot. There is no denomination that says they don’t love.

Why? Because that is precisely what Jesus taught about. The bottom line? If you love, you don’t exclude. If you love, you stretch your arms wide open and meet creation where it stands, right in front of you.

You would not invite someone to your home then have them sit in the parlor while you invited other guests to eat in the dining room. You would not say welcome, then turn your back to your guest and not speak with them.

Such is the way of some denominations and it angers me. No not just the UMC, but also others. Some are notorious and others more subtle. That said, there are faith communities that do offer real welcome. Do not despair.

In the same way, when a denomination or self-proclaimed Christians vet who can come to the banquet and who can receive the healing love of Christ

and who can’t, simply put, that is not love. Period!

When language like “intrinsically disordered” is use about gay community it is not love. Period!

When you say that you show love and that all shall be treated with dignity, then you say, “You cannot marry in our church. You cannot be a pastor in our church. You cannot preach in our church”, that is not love. Period! There are plenty of examples of so-called “Christians” who spout off hate speech but these are perhaps worse.

I am writing this on Ash Wednesday. It is in the afternoon. It is cold and crisp outside. We had a good turnout for our noon service and I am looking forward to the evening service. “Ya got ya ashes yet?” After the noon mass, a few of us, maybe just five of us, walked the neighborhood saying the Stations of the Cross. We brought ashes for those that wanted them. Our church sits on the fringe of poverty. That is the direction that we walked.

As we wandered around, we gave ashes to several folks who were shutin but expecting us. We have been doing this for a few years. Then we travel to the N. Claiborne corridor. There, as many know, live homeless folk and beggars. One flagged us down as he plied his trade. We took a moment and prayed with him, my hand touching his shoulder. When I applied the ashes, his eyes spoke, “I am human. I mat-

ter. And thank you.” Again, a man sitting next to the street. “From dust you came, to dust you shall return.” Again, with his eyes and with his smile, “I matter. I am human. I have a heart. I feel.

Thank you for noticing me.”

On this crisp day after traveling with ashes around the neighborhood, we traveled to a few spots to offer folks, and particularly service industry people, a chance to begin a “good and Holy Lent.”

Among them was the ever-present Princess Stephanie. She told us about her encounter with usual miscreant haters on Bourbon Street on Mardi Gras. She gleefully said that they were not targeting Gays this year; this year it was Catholics. So she, as Stephanie, as is her custom, engaged one of the haters. They were condemning folks to hell. She talked about the love of Jesus instead of the condemnation that they spouted. Good for her. As she told the story, the bar customers all listened closely and at the end of her story a cheer went up. “You go girl. Preach it sister.” You see the hater had no response for love. The only response was “move along.”

So, to all who want to love and be loved, move along to a place that invites and offers you full access to unqualified love. Move along you people of God and find that Holy place where your prayers are recognized as fully

valid. Move along to a place that offers hope not hate; offers inclusion not exclusion; offers patience not long suffering sighs; offers the fullest of communion in community not a sacrament to be withheld, but a sacrament to be given to all who come believing, questioning, wondering. “You go girl.”

This season, Lent, is a season that I adore. I find it refreshing and transformative. I find it a time to really and intentionally ask myself, “How can I love more fully?”

That is what Lent is about, learning to love more fully. That may mean learning to accept yourself in a new way, that you are not broken but that you are precious in the sight of God. Or it may mean reconciliation, to make amends with someone from whom you have been estranged.

It may mean simply getting your act together and to be less concerned with how you look and more concerned with how you feel.

There is a whole warehouse full of ways to learn to love more fully. Lent is that time to take a fearless personal inventory and then to act upon those things that cause us to love less fully.

To transform ourselves into vessels of sacred hope, charity, and love. Hope, charity, and love as verbs not nouns.

Love without loving is a platitude and not genuine.

Take this Lent, make it and you Holy. Learn indeed to love more fully.

“A new commandment I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you MUST love one another.” John 13:34 Jesus used love as a verb; so should we.

ANNOUNCEMENT Saints and Sinners Festival to Feature Panel on Social Justice Frank Perez frankearlperez@gmail.com

The Saints and Sinners Literary Festival will feature a panel discussion entitled “And (Social) Justice for All.” The following panelists discuss the quest for social justice in historical and contemporary times.

Robert W. Fieseler, author of Tinderbox: The Untold Story of the Upstairs Lounge Fire and the Rise of Gay Liberation, describes a turning point in the way we look at gay lives,

respond to hate crimes, and work toward a better future.

Anne-christine d’Adesky chronicles her life of activism in The Pox Lover: An Activist’s Decade in New York and Paris, as well as in Moving Mountains: The Race to Treat Global AIDS. Lawyer Elizabeth F. Schwartz reports from the front lines of the legal struggle for same-sex marriage in Be-

fore I Do: A Legal Guide to Marriage, Gay and Otherwise.

Richard Schneider, editor of the Gay and Lesbian Review Worldwide, talks about 25 years of writing about these issues.

Moderated by Frank Perez, author and president of the LGBT+ Archives Project of Louisiana. Sponsored by The Ethel and Herman L. Midlo Center at the University of New Orleans., the

panel discussion takes place on Saturday, March 30, at 11:30am at Hotel Monteleone, Lobby Level, Royal Salon D. Ambush readers interested in attending the Saints and Sinners Literary Festival enjoy a 20% discount off the registration fee by entering the code AMBUSH20. Register or learn more at http://sasfest.org/

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COMMUNITY ANNOUNCEMENT ODYSSEY HOUSE LOUISIANA’S 2nd ANNUAL PROPHYLACTIC PROM High school: glad that’s over, right? And prom was supposed to be the BEST NIGHT EVER…probably not even close, huh? But what if you could have a re-do of prom, complete with music, dancing, libations and…LOTS

of condoms?

That’s the idea behind Odyssey House Louisiana’s (OHL) Prophylactic Prom, a fun and funky fundraising event, taking place Saturday March 23rd at the Art Garage. OHL has teamed

with ONE Condoms to put on an event that encourages open conversations around sexual health and destigmatizes what is often seen as “taboo” subject matter.

Prophylactic Prom will feature

dance performances from your favorite parading krewes including the Disco Amigos and NOLA Jewels, an open dance floor, a raffle for prizes, and a prom court competing in their very own condom couture--that is, original outfits handmade out of condoms--for the chance to take home the Prophylactic Prom crown! Prophylactic Prom will support help Odyssey House Louisiana’s encompassing system of care and its new facility, set to open in summer 2019.

Odyssey House Louisiana is a nonprofit with a mission to provide holistic and client-centered services in a safe environment that address the full continuum of special care needs for the state of Louisiana. OHL’s encompassing system of care includes detox, treatment, behavioral and medical healthcare, life-skills, counseling, and case management.

At OHL, we believe in educating, equipping, and empowering our community. We don’t have to tell you that there are still many challenges here in the South involving lack of access to resources, or the need to have more open, honest conversations on topics relating to sexual health. At OHL, we aim to develop and sustain innovative, evidence-based substance use disorder and health services in New Orleans and the state of Louisiana.

Prophylactic Prom is a way to bridge that gap and, honestly, just have fun! Prom attire from any decade is encouraged but not required. We can’t wait to see you there. Tickets are on sale now at ohlprom.com Who: Movers, shakers, and change makers! All are welcome (over 21 years of age, please)!

When: Saturday, March 23 from 8:00pm-11:00pm Where: Art Garage 2231 St. Claude, Ave. New Orleans Why: To support a great community cause and to have fun!

Tickets: $20 for entrance + 2 drink tickets/ $10 entrance only (cash bar available)

For more information regarding OHL or Prophylactic Prom, contact Donor and Community Relations Specialist Michelle Lopez at (504) 376-9979 or mlopez@ohlinc.org

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ANNOUNCEMENT

LGBT+ Archives Project Launches Oral History Initiative Frank Perez frankearlperez@gmail.com The LGBT+ Archives Project of Louisiana has launched an Oral History Initiative. The goal is to record, preserve, and make accessible to the public, interviews with figures from the LGBT+ community that have personal experience with significant events and topics in our history.

The Archives Project is seeking people who are willing to be interviewed on the following topics: • The 1977 Anita Bryant Protest • Police raids of gay and lesbian bars • Lesbian bars • The Up Stairs Lounge fire • Southern Decadence • HIV/AIDS

• • • • • • • •

African-American bars LAGPAC and other activist groups Faubourg Marigny Arts & Books Transgender discrimination Gay Fest / Gay Pride Gay Carnival LGBT Community Center Conversion Therapy Interviews are audio only and, as a rule, last no more than 90 minutes per session.

The Oral History Initiative is a collaborative effort between the LGBT+ Archives Project of Louisiana and the T. Harry Williams Center for Oral History at L.S.U. in Baton Rouge.

The mission of the LGBT+ Ar-

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chives Project is to promote and encourage the protection and preservation of materials that chronicle the culture and history of the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender community in Louisiana. The Project’s main purpose is educating the community on the importance of archiving LGBT+ historical materials and making them available for future generations to access, research, and study. By developing financial resources to assist in the preservation and availability of certain LGBT+ collections, the Project hopes to promote the proper maintenance and preservation of historical LGBT+ materials and then index, publish, and maintain a current list of these materials and where they are located.

The Williams Center is the largest and most comprehensive oral history repository in the state of Louisiana, and one of the largest in the South. The Center, named for the renowned historian and Pulitzer Prize-winning scholar, T. Harry Williams, was founded in 1991 with a three-fold mission: to document Louisiana culture and history through recorded oral history interviews, to preserve the oral histories collected and

make them available to researchers, and to actively engage in outreach, assisting university and public community members in learning about oral history research, and in creating their own projects.

According to the Williams Center: “Oral histories provide glimpses into the behind-the-scenes workings of significant cultural and historical events and figures. Moreover, oral history lends itself well to documenting those who have been absent from or underrepresented in the written record – African Americans and other minorities, immigrants, members of the working class, women, and other groups outside of the mainstream of American life. The aggregate of their stories and voices provide us with a deeper, more inclusive understanding of our past.

It is a method well-suited to the study of the state of Louisiana, which is renowned for its diversity.”

Persons interested in being interviewed, or learning more about the Oral History Initiative, should contact LGBT+ Archives Project President Frank Perez via email at frankearlperez@gmail.com.

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ANNOUNCEMENT Southern Decadence Grand Marshal Announcement Party Set for March 15

Frank Perez frankearlperez@gmail.com Beware the Ides of March! SDGMs XLIV Frank Perez and Adikus Sulpizi have set the SDGM Announcement Party for March 15 at Crossing.

The SDGM Announcement Party is one of the most highly anticipated events in the annual New Orleans queer calendar. Because the Grand Marshals have the sole discretion to name their successors, speculation grows as the announcement party

draws near. Some years, the choices are obvious while other years the choices seem to come out of left field.

The choice is significant because the Grand Marshals are responsible for not only raising the money necessary to produce the parade, but also for selecting a theme and official colors that dictate costuming and decorating choices for the big Labor Day weekend extravaganza. In recent years, the

Grand Marshals have also selected an official charity.

The Announcement Party is usually accompanied by a drag show and this year is no exception. Sulpizi confirms that Analia XO, Justin Betwener, Scarlet Michaels, Glory Bea, and Countess C. Alice will perform at this year’s party.

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Eyeing sleeper 2019 NFL draft prospects Rene Nadeau, Crescent City Sports Andy Isabella, a product of UMass, has the speed and playmaking skills NFL scouts notice.

Analyzing college football talent for the NFL is a tedious process vital to be successful. Looking in nooks and crannies hoping to uncover a gem or two is part of the process for franchises across the league.

The New Orleans Saints are one

of those teams that has demonstrated a propensity to recognize talent in the lower rounds of the draft, some of whom did not perform in the limelight of college football.

The NFL Combine in Indianapolis is a time of evaluation and discovery but just part of the process leading up to late April.

The Saints will need to be selec-

tive and creative in this year’s draft since they currently have a late second round choice as their highest pick and then don’t pick until the fifth round.

Two picks in the sixth and a couple in the seventh round amount to lotto tickets more than the likelihood of reliable help.

Here a some names you need to know as a Saints fan looking for one of the those lotto tickets to hit the jackpot.

Some were invited to Indy, while others will have tougher road to hear their name called on draft day.

A player who is rocketing up the charts is UMass receiver Andy Isabella. The 5-foot-8, 186 pounder possesses blazing sub-4.3 speed. He is a possible late second or third rounder who will evoke comparisons to recent superb slot receivers in the mold of Julian Edelman.

Among the three finalists for the 2018 Biletnikoff Award, Isabella totaled 231 career grabs for 3,526 yards and 30 touchdowns. In ’18 alone, he had 102 catches for 1,698 yards and 13 scores on a team that posted a 10-26 record the past three years.

Isabella, who currently working out with Randy Moss, participated in the Senior Bowl. He can take the top off of a defense with his 10.51 hundred meter speed and also averaged 8.6 yards per carry as a runner in 2018. Skill set comparisons are made to Antonio Brown. The best part? The Minuteman has only played wideout for the past three years, so he is a bit of a novice with super upside. Could Isabella be the perfect complement to Michael

Thomas in New Orleans?

Keelan Doss (6-2, 205), a wide receiver from Cal-Davis, gains great separation in route, high points passes, shows good body control and footwork with great effort.

Key to play for the Saints, Doss will block on the edge.

The tireless worker in 2017 tallied 115 catches for 1,499 yards and seven TD’s before making 118 grabs for 1,334 yards and nine scores last season.

Dooss has terrific upside, making him a third or fourth round possible.

Davion Davis (5-11, 185), receiver from Sam Houston State, had 78 catches for 1,206 yards and 17 TD’s last season. He makes off-the-charts level plays with an impressive catching radius. Davis is also steady, displaying good concentration and running consistent routes. Capable of monster games at the FCA level, Davis shows velcro-like hands and quick twitch reflexes.

Let’s talk about offensive guard Larry Allen (6-3, 290), who made 40 starts for the Crimson. If name sounds familiar, his dad Larry, Sr. may have been the best offensive guard in the history of the game, a 10 time Pro Bowler and Hall of Famer who starred for the 1990’s Dallas Cowboys.

The younger Allen is a two-time All-Ivy League selection who did miss 2017 due to injury. Allen is a force, standing out as a pulling guard who also excels in both run and pass blocking. He delivers a thump while also a technician who grew up learning from the best. Interior o-line is an area of need in New Orleans.

A player who is rocketing up the charts is UMass receiver Andy Isabella.

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Georgia’s Lamont Gaillard (6-2, 308) arrive with Bulldogs as defensive tackle in 2014 but switched to offense, first as guard and then center.

He made 14 starts at guard and 29 at center where he was first team AllSEC. Gaillard is an agile zone blocker, able to make tough reach blocks. The Saints, Vikings, Dolphins, Panthers and Ravens have been keeping tabs on him. I’ve seen a third round grade so far.

Daniel Cooney (6-8, 315, 5.35 forty), an offensive tackle who played at San Diego, was once 343 pounds but shaped up to become a two-time FCS All American. He has good reach for a developmental NFL pass blocker with a late round grade, Cooney is a bit of a project but has potential if placed in the right system.

A local product on defense to watch is B.J. Blunt (6-1, 220), a star at linebacker for McNeese State out of McDonogh 35. He signed with McNeese in 2014 but did not qualify so he went home and got a job. Came back to McNeese after attending Garden City JUCO where he recorded eight interceptions in 2016.

Despite looks from Tulane, LA Tech, Mississippi State, Southern Miss and Texas Tech, he had something to prove in Lake Charles. Blunt added strength, moved from safety to outside linebacker and terrorized the Southland Conference. He can find a way to get his uniform dirty on a artificial surface. Blunt created violent collisions, practices full speed, covers in space and makes plays as a blitzer. Blunt sets the tone for the defense. He’s a fourth or fifth round possibility who I bet will bring his desire to special teams assignments if asked.

Defensive end Kahzin Daniels (6-4, 242) out of Charleston could go anywhere from the third to fifth rounds after tallying 31.5 career sacks.

Despite being blind in right eye from a childhood accident, Daniels is effective on the field. Remember, Shaquem Griifin made an NFL roster with only one hand so scouts are willing to give Daniels a second look. He has caused a buzz among scouts, similar to Griffin in 2018 draft. Burst off edge and able to use his hands well, Daniels uses a superb swim move. and tries to mimic Dolphins pass rusher Cameron Wake.

Justin Green (5-10, 206) hails from St. Francis College. A experienced running back who played in 47 college games, he did missed six in 2018. yet still leaves school with 4,912 career yards (6.2 yard average) and 54 touchdowns. Green is clearly consistently productive, making yards after contact.

He explodes through the line, shows pass or run blocker. Squats over 600 lots of wiggle and blocks well. Scouts lbs. 4 year starter. Physical. Diamond like how Green has burst, reaching full in the rough. speed on his second step.

How about some project quarterAnother runner, Lehigh’s Dominck backs?

Bragalone (5-11, 228, 4.55), had three Maybe he’s not a true project but consecutive seasons with over 1,000 Easton Stick (6-2, 225, 4.55) followed in yards rushing. The 2014 Parade All the footsteps of Carson Wentz at FCS American was superpower North the first freshDakota State with Maybe he’s not a true proj- great success The man at his school to exceed 1,000 ect but Easton Stick (6-2, native of Omayards on his way Nebraska 225, 4.55) followed in the ha, to over 4,000 cahad 8,693 career footsteps of Carson Wentz passing yards for reer yards and 42 touchdowns. at FCS superpower North the Bison with 88 Bragalone is a TD passes and classic workhorse, Dakota State with great suc- 41 more as a power runner who cess The native of Omaha, runner. He gradgives 110 percent Summa Nebraska had 8,693 career uated effort. He squats Cum laude in jsut 640 pounds with passing yards for the Bison three and a half a 465 lbs. bench with 88 TD passes and 41 years with seven press. Not on disemesters on the more as a runner. mensional, he Dean’s List. Smart also averaged aland skilled, Stick most 15 yards per started 52 games catch as receiver. Models his running with a 49-3 record. Stick may be more style after Marshawn Lynch. advanced at this point in his career Rashad Robinson (5-10, 185, 4.4 than top overall pick Went was. Cool speed) out of James Madison. missed under pressure, Stick goes through 2018 with foot injury which occurred progressions and is a tough, effective late in August. He could have redshirtrunner when needed. ed and returned for 2019 but the feisty Amir “Showtime” Hall (6-4, 180) cover cornerback with 20 starts for the starred as th quarterback at Bowie Dukes believes he is ready to take on State, taking home Division II HBCU the pro. Robinson was a FCS All-AmerNational Offensive Player of the Year ican in 2017 after recording seven inhonors last season. Some scouts comterceptions. His highest possible draft position may be late third round.

Thomas Costigan (6-2, 240, 4.7) played for the Bryant Bulldogs. He has long hair similar to another rangy linebacker, Alex Anzalone (Saints).

In 2018, Costigan managed 81 tackles, four sacks and an interception after making 103 tackles and 11.5 sacks in 2017. He is an intense player who buries ball carriers as well as the hardball as a power hitter on Bryant’s baseball team.

Outside linebacker Terrill Hanks (6-3, 230) shined at New Mexico State, making 43 starts. The Miami, Fla. native missed three games in 2018 with an ankle injury but came back to play in the NFLPA Collegiate Bowl (Jan. 19th) and Senior Bowl (one week later).

Hanks has the range of a safety (which he played for the Aggies), racking up 395 career tackles, 11 sacks and eight interceptions. Extremely quick and athletic with good upside, Hanks has a third round projection.

RT Oli Udoh (6-6-355) was 384 lbs.

Elon College. Runs 5.2 forty. Played in East-West game Jan. 19th. 46 starts, either RT or OG. 3rd day draft option ( maybe 5th or 6th round). Dependable

pare him to former NFL starter Tarvaris Jackson. In 2018, Hall threw for 3,519 yards and 49 touchdowns with only four interceptions. Teammates refer to him as “Superman in shoulder pads.”

He also ran for 661 yards the past two seasons. You can argue with the level on which he played but not his level of production.

Samford’s Devlin Hodges (6-1, 210) threw for 4,283 yards and 32 TD’s with 16 interceptions to cap a college career that included 14,584 yards passing with 111 TD passes with 41 picks and a Drew Brees-esque 70.5 completion percentage. He broke Steve McNair’s FCS passing mark. Not afraid to tuck it and go, Hodges ran for 1,017 yards. He has a tight wind up and quick delivery, making good placement on throws and capable of tear drops on target deep down field.

Anthony Lawrence (6-0, 185), University of San Diego quarterback, made 48 starts with a 40-8 record. He has a classic delivery and follow through but not the preferred build for the position.

12,628 career yards, 120 TD’s and just 24 interceptions while highly accurate at 65.6 percent. Lawrence is said to have leadership skills, a high IQ and unshakable temperament.

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Defensive end Kahzin Daniels (6-4, 242) out of Charleston could go anywhere from the third to fifth rounds after tallying 31.5 career sacks.

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Dillard headed back to NAIA nationals after second straight GCAC crown Lenny Vangilder, Crescent City Sports It was a great weekend for New Orleans-area NAIA women’s basketball.

One day after Loyola won the Southern States Athletic Conference tournament championship, the Dillard women captured their second consecutive Gulf Coast Athletic Conference tournament title, assuring the New Orleans area of at least two teams in the NAIA national tournament.

The Lady Bleu Devils, seeded third in the GCAC tournament, defeated Rust in the quarterfinals, 13thranked Talladega in the semifinals and host Edward Waters 64-62 in Sunday’s championship game.

“It was definitely intense,” Dillard coach Norbert Rome said Monday morning. “It was not a neutral site; it was definitely a road game. Edward Waters did a great job of hosting, but they had all their fans there. It was a packed house.”

Dillard overcame early-season adversity when it lost its leading scorer from last year, Shaelynn Moore, to a season-ending injury in the third game

of the season.

“She took on a different role,” Rome said. “She wasn’t a player, but she was more of an … assistant coach.”

Rome also complimented two other seniors who played big roles this weekend.

“Adriiana Jackson did a great job of being a coach on the floor,” he said.

“Alyssa Washington started all 31 games; she’s been our bedrock. Wherever I need her to go, she was all over the floor.”

Dillard sophomore Jaiylan Brown, who came off the bench to score 16 points in the title game, was named the tournament’s most valuable player. Brown scored 20 and had five three-pointers against Talladega.

Jaiylan Brown, Dillard “Jaiylan does a good job of putting in work throughout the year,” Rome said. “Her performance was spurred on by Adriiana. JB does a good job of catching and shooting. She wanted to step up and play her role. That was huge for us.”

Rome also complimented two other seniors who played big roles this weekend.

Brown averaged 15.7 points in three tournament games – nearly double the 8.2 points she averaged in the six games prior to Dillard’s arrival in Jacksonville.

“It’s always somebody that comes off the bench to provide us a spark,” Rome said. “This team is much deeper than last year’s from top to bottom. We can actually play about 10 players and there’s no dropoff.”

Sunday’s game was a rematch of last year’s final, won by Dillard 63-59.

While the championship game was a tight struggle throughout, Saturday’s semifinal against Talladega had huge swings in the first half alone.

Talladega led 24-8 after the first 10 minutes before the Lady Bleu Devils flipped the script, scoring the first 12 points of the second quarter and outscoring the Tigers 24-5 in the period to take a three-point halftime lead.

Last year’s conference tournament title put Dillard in the NAIA nationals for the first time since 2004. The Blue Devils lost to Montana Western in the opening round last year.

“There were some unknown factors (last year),” Rome said. “Having had that opportunity go there, we can make those adjustments. Early on, we were controlling the game. We were forcing turnovers and getting steals, but we weren’t converting.

“With the high altitude, we had to go into our bench. They took a lead.

We had a push in the fourth quarter, but it wasn’t enough.”

Dillard is on a five-game winning streak heading to nationals, all of them away from Dent Hall. The streak, which is the Lady Bleu Devils’ third of at least five games this season, started Feb. 23 with a 68-62 overtime win at Tougaloo.

“One of the things I knew going into the tournament, we turned our season around on the road against Tougaloo,” Rome said. “We were down 10 at Tougaloo and came back to get the game into overtime. I think that was a turning point in the season.

“This particular game, we came together as one group. I reminded them of that. I told them we needed to stay in that place.

“We had already proven we can go on a win streak.”

And now they have another streak to take back to Montana next week.

The 2019 NAIA national tournament begins March 13, with the 32-team field announced Wednesday afternoon. It’s possible the New Orleans area could get a third team into the tournament if Xavier – ranked 23rd nationally and the GCAC regular-season champion – can earn an at-large berth.

Last year’s conference tournament title put Dillard in the NAIA nationals for the first time since 2004. The Blue Devils lost to Montana Western in the opening round last year.

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