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All I Want For Christmas 36


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Thrifting Resolutions for the New Year 40


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f you have ever been so excited about something that you’ve used the phrase “like a kid in a candy store,” now is your chance to actually live out that metaphor. Candy necklaces, Smarties, Pop Rocks, giant rainbow-swirled lollipops...what’s your favorite nostalgic candy? Chances are, you can find it (and more!) at Sweet Amber Lynn’s, a new candy store open at 57th Street and Louise (near Panera Bread). Lori and Bob Gilliland are the owners of The Goat Bar & Grill in Hartford. After Lori’s mom passed away, she was looking for something that would help fill that hole in her heart. She and Bob have always loved stopping at Minnesota’s Largest Candy Store near Jordan, Minnesota, and the idea of a candy store had been in the back of their minds for quite some time. So, with the help of the same sales rep who fills the shelves of that store in Jordan, the couple went to work. The store’s name is a tribute to Lori’s mom. “Her name was Amber, and her middle name was Lynn,” Lori says. “It just seemed like the perfect way to honor her and to spread her joy to others.” It is not an exaggeration to say that the shelves hold hundreds of sweet treats, from

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nostalgic brands and novelties to a variety of items you can buy in bulk, from gummies, hard candies, Jelly Belly jelly beans to M&M’s - so you can mix and match your favorite colors and flavors. Sweet Amber Lynn’s also carries Shameless Snacks, which are gummies in a variety of flavors that are also vegan, gluten-free and Keto-friendly. The more unique the product, the better, it seems for Sweet Amber Lynn’s. You can find gummies in all shapes and sizes - like bacon, for example. One of the first products Lori knew she would carry is taffy. “My mom loved taffy,” she explains. “I always brought taffy back for her whenever we went on vacation. So, we have regular taffy, of course, but it was also our first private-label product that we offer as packaged freeze-dried candy.” You read that right. Freeze-dried taffy. After sampling from the shelves of sweets, you might need something to wet your whistle. The full color spectrum is represented in the bottles of soda lined neatly on the shelves. Some flavors are traditional. Others, not so much. If you like the fizz of a soda but also like your morning joe, try the coffee-flavored soda by Lester’s Fixins. Not to be outdone, Melba’s Fixins has your

dessert in a bottle, with soda flavors like key lime pie, lemon meringue pie and apple pie. For something truly unique, look for Always Ask for Avery’s soda, particularly the “Totally Gross Soda” flavors like Kitty Piddle (it’s actually pineapple orange) or Unicorn Yak (Raspberry Orange Cream). Lori invites customers to stay awhile, with a seat at the custom-made soda counter created by Brian’s Custom Counters in Hartford. It’s a candy-inspired creation for sure, with swirls of pink and teal. The store also features Lotus plant-based energy drinks. In “retro” terms, that would make Lori a “soda jerk” as she creates her own flavor combinations using candy themes like Razzles and Smarties. Sweet Amber Lynn’s has everything you need for creating a one-of-a-kind gift basket (hint: the holidays are just around the corner) or simply picking up some boxed candy for athome movie nights. It has been a labor of love for Lori and Bob, and certainly one that has brought joy to Lori as she sees her customers’ smiles as they explore the vibrant-colored store. It’s a fitting tribute for her mom, Amber Lynn, even down to the purple paint color on one of the walls Beloved.




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Handel’s Messiah Dec. 1-2 • 7 p.m. First Lutheran Church 327 S. Dakota Avenue The greatest story ever told. The most majestic music ever composed. Experience Handel’s “Messiah” — featuring the inspiring Hallelujah Chorus — in the glory of First Lutheran Church.

Winter Concert Series Friday, Dec. 1 • Noon-1 p.m. Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street Kyle Knutson will perform in the historic courtroom of the Old Courthouse Museum from noon to 1 p.m. Bring your lunch and enjoy the show! Free admission. (605) 367-4210 or siouxlandmuseums.com.

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Second Floor Lobby Tell Santa your wish list and take photos. Write a letter to the North Pole and mail your letter in one of the mailboxes located in the Raven Children’s Studio or in the second floor Concessions lobby. Bring the whole family! INFO washingtonpavilion.org Annual German Christmas Service Sunday Dec. 3 • 2 p.m. First Lutheran Church 327 S. Dakota Ave. Join us for German Christmas Goodies and Fellowship after the service. INFO e-mail: sfgermanchristmas@gmail.com Paul Horsted Presents: Exploring with Custer, 1874 Black Hills Sunday, Dec. 3 • 2 p.m. Old Courthouse Museum 200 West 6th Street In the updated 4th edition of Exploring with Custer,

the first photographs ever taken in the Black Hills are precisely matched with 50 modern images showing the same locations today. Rare reports, journals and diaries of Custer and his men guide you along their trail, from your armchair or out in the Black Hills. Books will be available to purchase, admission is free! (605) 367-4210 or www. siouxlandmuseums.com.

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Shaun Johnson and the Big Band Experience 2023 Holly Jolly Holiday Tour Dec. 7 • 7:30 p.m. Washington Pavilion 301 S. Main Ave. This holiday, Shaun Johnson is celebrating the season with passionate and melodic, big band driven traditional pop. As the lead singer of Tonic Sol-fa - and an Emmy winner - Shaun reworks classic Christmas fare with a charismatic charm, and his performances

Flower and Flame at the Old Courthouse Museum Winter Concert Series Friday, Dec. 8 • Noon-1 p.m. Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street Flower and Flame will perform A Christmas Carol in the historic courtroom of the Old Courthouse Museum. Bring your lunch and enjoy the show! Free admission (605) 367-4210 or www. siouxlandmuseums.com.

Junkin’ Market Days Winter Market December 8 • 4-7 p.m. December 9 • 9 a.m.-4 p.m. W. H. Lyon Fairgrounds Boutique clothings, home decor, jewelry, gourmet foods, one-of-a-kind finds and so much more! INFO junkinmarketdays.com

Mason Dixon Line Presents: A Kickin’ Country Christmas December 9 • 7 p.m. Historic Palace Theatre Luverne, MN. Tickets $25. For tickets, visit palacetheatre.us Christmas with the Symphony: ‘Tis the Season! December 9 • 7:30 p.m. December 10 • 2:30 p.m. Washington Pavilion 301 S. Main Ave. A holiday tradition for your family and friends with heartwarming and jovial timeless classics plus a sing-along! This concert also features SDSO 2023 Young Musician Concerto Competition winner, oboist Jacob Pagone. INFO washingtonpavilion.org Chanukah Celebration and Menorah Lighting December 10 • 3:30 p.m. Empire Mall - Free Celebrate Jewish pride and


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unity this Chanukah together with local dignitaries and community leaders. South Dakota’s eighth annual Public Menorah Lighting will be a spectacular day with family and friends. Including an epic Gelt Drop by the Sioux Falls Fire Department and their fire trucks! Enjoy hot potato latkes, donuts, and of course, loads of chocolate ‘gelt’! This event is for all ages, fun for the entire family, open to the public and free of charge. Storytime with Santa & Mrs. Claus at the Old Courthouse Museum Sunday, December 10 • 1-3 p.m. Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street Bring the kids to the Old Courthouse Museum for Storytime with Santa & Mrs. Claus! Kids can get their picture with Santa and hear a story from Mrs. Claus. Stories begin every half hour. Admission is free! Fiber Fun at the Old Courthouse Museum Sunday, December 10 • 1-4 p.m. Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street Do you like to knit, crochet, needlework, or dabble in any other fiber arts? Come join members from the Crossthreads Fiber Guild for an afternoon of Fiber Fun! Attendees can work on projects, ask for suggestions, and just enjoy the company of fellow fiber friends. INFO (605) 367-4210 or www. siouxlandmuseums.com Behind the Scenes Tour of the Old Courthouse Museum Tuesday, Dec. 12 • 1:30 p.m. Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street Take a look behind the closed doors of the Old Courthouse Museum and learn about the construction and use as a courthouse. Space is limited

call (605) 367-4210 to register. $5 admission. Christmas at the Cathedral Cathedral of St. Joseph 521 N. Duluth Ave. Dec. 14, 15 • 7:30 p.m. Dec. 16 • 1 p.m. & 7:30 p.m. Dec. 17 • 2 p.m. & 7:30 p.m. The 27th annual Christmas at The Cathedral will be performed with six concerts. This year’s theme, “The Heavens Declare,” is a first-hand account of the monumental events surrounding Jesus’ birth and His miraculous mission and impact through the experience of one of the magi. A Holiday Evening at the Pettigrew Home & Museum Thursday, Dec. 14 • 5-8 p.m. Pettigrew Home & Museum 131 N. Duluth Avenue Experience A Holiday Evening at the Pettigrew Home from 5-8 p.m. Enjoy a special evening tour of the historic Pettigrew Home, take a neighborhood horse drawn wagon ride, and enjoy holiday music and refreshments in the Pettigrew Museum. Admission is free. INFO www. siouxlandmuseums.com The Good Night Theatre Collective Presents A Miracle on 34th Street: A Live Musical Radio Play December 14-16 • 7:30 p.m. Washington Pavilion 301 S. Main Ave. Just in time for the holidays, experience the classic, heartwarming story of the man who might be Santa Claus like never before. Join us for the musical radio play adaptation of the beloved and timeless tale… A Miracle on 34th Street! INFO washingtonpavilion.org Dakota Academy of Performing Arts Presents: A Christmas Line December 15 • 7 p.m.

December 16 • 2 p.m. Washington Pavilion 301 S. Main Ave. It’s the casting call for the annual holiday revue, and a host of familiar North Pole faces are lined up to audition with headshots and resumes in hand. Three Elves, a not-so-famous Reindeer, a stage-worthy Snowman, Mrs. C. herself and regular kid Cameron make the first cut and are put to the test by their director — Santa Claus! INFO washingtonpavilion.org Christmas with Lorie Line 2023 December 15 • 7 p.m. Washington Pavilion 301 S. Main Ave. Simple and elegant, Ms. Line will be presenting an all-new solo piano show that features both the classics and some of the newer songs that make the season special. She will be featuring an all-new vocalist this year! And bells are back! Yes, this year Dept 56 will introduce Dasher The Deer who will ring in the season with Lorie Line fans. (Bells will be available for purchase at the show!) INFO washingtonpavilion.org Studio B Jazz at the Old Courthouse Museum Winter Concert Series Friday, Dec. 15 • Noon-1 p.m. Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street Studio B Jazz will perform “A Charlie Brown Christmas” in the historic courtroom of the Old Courthouse Museum. Bring your lunch and enjoy the show! Free admission (605) 367-4210 or siouxlandmuseums.com. Holiday Jam with Spooncat! December 16 • 7:30 p.m. Washington Pavilion 301 S. Main Ave. To celebrate their 15th year, Holiday Jam welcomes the rest of Spooncat!, merging

two large groups for a total of 14 musicians who will perform a night of exciting and versatile holiday music. INFO washingtonpavilion.org BritZa ‘Tis The Season December 17 • 4 p.m. Washington Pavilion 301 S. Main Ave. With elegance and creativity, this performance is a meaningful way to start your holiday season. This performance includes favorite Christmas songs, memorable dances and a nostalgic sendoff at the end. Please, no flash photography. Children 2 and under free. INFO washingtonpavilion.org Rosemaling Demonstration at the Old Courthouse Museum Tuesday, Dec. 19 • 1-4 p.m. Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street Eileen Halverson will be demonstrating the Norwegian folk art of Rosemaling (decorative painting) in the second-floor hallway of the Old Courthouse Museum. Stop in any time for a demonstration or to ask questions! INFO (605) 367-4210 or www. siouxlandmuseums.com Kid’s Activity Day: Let it Snow! at the Old Courthouse Museum Thursday, Dec. 21 • 9-11:30 a.m. Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street Kids can learn about history and make your own crafts to take home. 15 minute sessions run throughout morning times. Call to reserve times. Free admission. INFO (605) 367-4210 or www. siouxlandmuseums.com Live & Local Presents: Janice Gilbert & Andrea Ross and Robbie Erhard December 21 • 7:30 p.m. Washington Pavilion

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301 S. Main Ave. Experience local singersongwriter Janice Gilbert! Her country, Americana and folkinspired music tells the stories of her experiences growing up in the Midwest and will be sure to spark soul-stirring feelings from the crowd! Finishing out the evening is internationally renowned Broadway and jazz singer Andrea Ross and her husband, Robbie Erhard, principal cello for the South Dakota Symphony Orchestra! INFO washingtonpavilion.org Elisabeth Hunstad at the Old Courthouse Museum Winter Concert Series Friday, Dec. 22 • Noon-1 p.m. Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street Elisabeth Hunstad will perform in the historic courtroom of the Old Courthouse Museum from noon to 1 p.m. Bring your lunch and enjoy the show! Free

admission (605) 367-4210 or www.siouxlandmuseums.com. Away in the Basement: A Church Basement Ladies Christmas December 23 • 2 p.m. Washington Pavilion 301 S. Main Ave. And out of the basement shall come a Church Basement program of good tidings, great humor and joy! The ladies are serving it up again, and this time around it’s an all-new holiday show. Troupe America, Inc., the producer of the nationally acclaimed musical comedy Church Basement Ladies and Church Basement Ladies 2: A Second Helping opens the holiday season with a new musical comedy Away in the Basement: A Church Basement Ladies Christmas. INFO washingtonpavilion.org Doc Walker Trio at the Old Courthouse Museum Winter Concert Series

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Friday, Dec.29 • Noon - 1 p.m. Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street The Doc Walker Trio will perform jazz in the historic courtroom of the Old Courthouse Museum from noon to 1 p.m. Bring your lunch and enjoy the show! Free admission (605) 367-4210 or www.siouxlandmuseums.com. To Kill a Mockingbird January 12 • 7:30 p.m. January 13 • 2 & 7:30 p.m. January 14 • 1 & 6:30 p.m. Washington Pavilion 301 S. Main Ave. All rise for Academy Award® winner Aaron Sorkin’s adaptation of Harper Lee’s Pulitzer Prize-winning masterwork. The New York Times Critic’s Pick TO KILL A MOCKINGBIRD is “the most successful American play in Broadway history” (60 Minutes). Recommended for ages 12 and up. Children

under the age of 4 are not permitted in the theater. INFO washingtonpavilion.org Bill Peterson & Friends at the Old Courthouse Museum Winter Concert Series Friday, January 5 • Noon-1 p.m. Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street Bill Peterson & Friends will perform in the historic courtroom of the Old Courthouse Museum from noon to 1 p.m. Bring your lunch and enjoy the show! Free admission (605) 367-4210 or www.siouxlandmuseums.com. Tony DePaolo at the Old Courthouse Museum Winter Concert Series Friday, January 12 • Noon-1 p.m. Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street Tony DePaolo will perform in the historic courtroom of the Old Courthouse Museum. Bring your lunch and enjoy the show! Free

admission (605) 367-4210 or www.siouxlandmuseums.com. Fiber Fun at the Old Courthouse Museum Sunday, January 14 • 1-4 p.m. Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street Do you like to knit, crochet, needlework, or dabble in any other fiber arts? Come join members from the Crossthreads Fiber Guild for an afternoon of Fiber Fun! Attendees can work on projects, ask for suggestions, and just enjoy the company of fellow fiber friends. INFO (605) 367-4210 or www. siouxlandmuseums.com Live & Local Presents: The Good Night Theatre Collective January 18 • 7:30 p.m. Washington Pavilion 301 S. Main Ave. 25 Years of the Washington Pavilion: A Good Night

Broadway Revue is a homage to the Pavilion’s first 25 years of touring shows, featuring live, professional vocalists and musicians, humor and storytelling set to a setlist of Broadway standards! It’s a Good Night cabaret fit for the bright lights of Manhattan! INFO washingtonpavilion.org Kid’s Activity Day at the Old Courthouse Museum Thursday, Jan. 18 • 9-11:30 a.m. Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street Kids can learn about history and make your own crafts to take home. 15 minute sessions run throughout morning times. Call to reserve times. Free admission. INFO (605) 367-4210 or www. siouxlandmuseums.com Ted & Alice Miller at the Old Courthouse Museum Winter Concert Series Friday, Jan. 19 • Noon-1 p.m.

Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street Ted & Alice Miller will perform in the historic courtroom of the Old Courthouse Museum from noon to 1 p.m. Bring your lunch and enjoy the show! Free admission (605) 367-4210 or www.siouxlandmuseums.com. Mozart and More January 20, 2024 • 7:30 p.m. Washington Pavilion Bookended by compelling symphonies from classical masters Mozart and Haydn, this concert also features Pulitzer Prize winning composer Caroline Shaw’s “Entr’acte”, a world premiere by Thomas Parente, and SDSO’s own principal oboist Jeffrey Paul takes the stage for Vivaldi’s Oboe Concerto. INFO washingtonpavilion.org Ceili Dance at the Old Courthouse Museum Thursday, Jan. 25 • 6:30 p.m.

Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street Ceili (pronounced KAY-lee) is an Irish social dance. Whether you are a beginner or an experienced dancer, Ceili dancing is a fun and energetic way to spend an evening. Get ready to dance to live music at the Old Courthouse Museum! Beginners welcome. Free admission. INFO (605) 367-4210 or www. siouxlandmuseums.com. Dakota String Quartet at the Old Courthouse Museum Winter Concert Series Friday, Jan. 26 • Noon - 1 p.m. Old Courthouse Museum 200 West Sixth Street Dakota String Quartet will perform in the historic courtroom of the Old Courthouse Museum from noon to 1 p.m. Bring your lunch and enjoy the show! Free admission (605) 367-4210 orsiouxlandmuseums.com.

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Zintkala Nuni - Lost Bird around age 3 in her parent’s Washinton, D.C. home.

Lost Bird - as an actress

Lost Bird

OF WOUNDED KNEE By Wayne Fanebust


he infamous Wounded Knee massacre of December 29, 1890, has for decades, troubled the American conscience. The terrible orgy of gunfire and death occurred on the Pine Ridge agency in southwestern South Dakota. It cost the lives of an estimated of 170 to 300 Lakota men, women and children, all of whom fell victim to the guns of white soldiers who had gathered at the camp to disarm the warriors that were treated as prisoners of war. Although there are some history people who still call it a “battle,” it was mass murder that took place during a cold winter on the rugged Dakota frontier. Many memories took root because of the incident, but one in particular became a popular talking point just four days after the guns went silent. While the authorities were searching the area for the dead, all of whom were to be tossed unceremoniously into a common grave, someone heard the sound of a baby crying. Then, after turning over the body of a woman, an infant, covered in blood, was found alive. The dead woman was the baby’s mother. And when she was shot dead,

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she fell on top of her child, almost strategically, so as to protect her. The baby girl--who was about four months old--was tightly wrapped with her head covered by a buckskin cap beaded on both sides with American flags. The infant’s head was cold as ice and she was suffering from frost bite, but she somehow survived. Among the men who were in charge of cleaning up the awful mess was General Leonard Colby, a man destined to become a part of the orphan’s life. Colby was a lawyer and had served with honor and distinction in the Civil War. At the time of the massacre, he was the commander of the Nebraska National Guard. His wife Clara was a wellknown suffragist, a writer and the publisher of a newspaper entitled The Women’s Tribune. She was acquainted with the renowned Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton, both of whom were leaders in the movement to bestow voting rights on women. Because of their status, the Colby’s were a high-society Washington, DC couple. When Colby saw the baby who had miraculously survived the

In 1904, Clara sold some of her belongings massacre and the intense cold, general insisted to pay the tuition for Zintka to attend the All on adopting her. There was resistance among the Saints School for one-half a year. She was 13 Lakota people but the general persisted and was years old when she enrolled in the prestigious able to adopt the child, having falsely claimed school for girls. Prior to that she had attended that he too was Native American, a member of public schools in Washington, DC. But private the Seneca tribe. His baby daughter was called school did not suit her and she wrote long letters Zintkala Nuni, Lakota for Lost Bird. Without to her mother begging to be brought home. even informing his wife that he finagled an The situation was so bad that the head of adoption, Colby took the baby to Nebraska and the school, Helen L. Peabody, wrote to Clara gave her an Anglo name: Marguerite. It was the commenting on Zintka’s erratic behavior. She beginning of a long and turbulent relationship. had threatened to kill anyone who came near her Colby broke the news to his wife and soon and kill herself as well. Since she was an Indian in Clara was on her way to Nebraska to take on an all-white institution, the other girls shunned her role as the mother of Lost Bird, the miracle her. While Zintka could not adapt to the baby. While her husband considered the child a rigid and cruel environment, she was musically war trophy or a curiosity, Clara was immediately talented and learned to play the piano. attracted to the baby and threw herself into She somehow managed to finish the semester what became a long struggle to raise and educate Lost Bird Historic Marker but since her father refused to pay tuition for her daughter. another semester, Zintka found herself back in Washington, DC. She Lost Bird was called Zintka by her devoted mother, and because of was sent to an Indian Industrial School in Chamberlain, South Dakota. the wealth and status of her parents, the child’s life with the white couple Although the school was badly managed and overcrowded, the girl was showed promise. But General Colby proved to be unworthy of the effort happier surrounded by Native kids. Nevertheless, it was just another for he abandoned his wife and daughter, leaving behind accusations of stop along the way of a short and chaotic life of the restless child. sexual abuse of Clara and Lost Bird. Thereafter Clara struggled to raise She hit the road, so to speak and was put on display at the Buffalo an adopted Indian girl in a time and place where racism and cynicism Bill Wild West Show and appeared in silent movies; she also joined a cloaked the relationship with doubt and shame. While many white vaudeville act where her native culture entertained curious audiences. Americans were shocked and angered over the loss of life at Wounded Lost Bird tried to capitalize on her novelty; she became a side-show Knee, they were still living with the terrible defeat of Colonel George A. oddity the type that appeared in dime-novel museums. It was a time Custer at Little Big Horn in 1876. As such, Indians, including the little when leisure time activities were limited so curious folks packed such Lost Bird were at best tolerated, but never fully accepted. places to see a freak or at least someone unusual. The girl was insulted and mistreated by her own relatives. In 1901, She got married and seemed to be happy. But that ended when her while in the company of her younger cousins, Zintka was derisively husband gave her syphilis, causing her to become seriously ill. For nearly taunted: “Ha Ha yer ma’s a dirty squaw.” This so angered the Lost Bird a year her dear mother cared for her. She married two more times and that she kicked her tormentor hard in the stomach. The girl’s crying became mired down in abusive relationships. Zintka had two children, alerted Zintka’s father who promptly beat her badly. one of whom died young; the other child was given to a Native woman Clara Colby who was better able to care for the boy. sent Lost Bird to Zintka made one last trip to South Dakota to seek out relatives, private schools but she was treated with suspicion by the Lakota people because her includ ing Al l life’s experiences had rendered her culturally unpalatable to them. Saints School for They simply did not understand her, nor did they acknowledge her girls in Sioux Falls, indomitable spirit. South Dakota. She returned to California with her third husband where they lived It was started by with his parents. The time remaining in the troubled life of Lost Bird Episcopal Bishop was uneventful except for an illness during the influenza outbreak that William H. Hare caused her death in 1920 at the age of 29. Her husband had her buried in 1884, and was considered to be one of the best in the country. The at in a California cemetery. facility itself was unique, having been elegantly constructed of quartzite The story doesn’t end there for there was sufficient interest in having stone quarried locally and strategically on a prominence on the south Lost Bird reburied at the Wounded Knee site. Thanks to people like side of Sioux Falls. Famed architect Wallace Dow designed the school her biographer Renee Sanson Flood, in 1991, the legendary Lost Bird that included a chapel. The small student body was made up of white of Wounded Knee now rests among her own people. girls from wealthy families. As such, Lost Bird was clearly out of place.

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nest recipes 21 Festive without the Fuss

a-list 24 at home 26 The Doug and Marcy Bird Home

vino 36 All I Want For Christmas

man in the kitchen 38 New Old Favorites

thrifting home 40 Thrifting Resolutions for the New Year

knick knacks of life 42 A Big Car Tiny Car Story

Festive without the Fuss BY JO MCCLURE

Cream Cheese Spritz Cookies 1 cup shortening 3 ounce package cream cheese, softened 1 cup sugar 1 egg yolk 1 tsp vanilla 2 1/2 cups flour 1/2 tsp salt 1/4 tsp cinnamon Beat shortening and cream cheese until well blended. Add sugar, egg yolk, and vanilla and beat until creamy. Combine flour, salt and cinnamon and gradually add to the creamed mixture...add food coloring if desired. Using a cookie press with the disk of your choice, press out dough an inch apart onto an ungreased cookie sheet. Decorate with colored sugar or sprinkles if your little heart desires. Bake at 350˚ for 9-12 minutes or until set. DO NOT brown these cookies. Yields about 7 to 8 dozen.

Chocolate Thumbprint Cookies 1/2 cup plus 1 tablespoon butter...please don’t use margarine 1/4 cup brown sugar 1 egg yolk 1 tsp vanilla 1 cup flour 1 egg white, lightly beaten 3/4 cup finely chopped pecans 3/4 cup milk chocolate chips Cream 1/2 cup butter and brown sugar in a mixing bowl. Beat in egg yolk and vanilla and gradually add the flour. Cover and chill for 2-3 hours. Roll dough into 1 inch balls and dip in the beaten egg white and coat with the chopped pecans. Using the end of a wooden spoon handle, make a 1/2 inch indentation in the center of each cookie. Bake at 325˚ for 10 minutes and then press again into the indentation and bake another 10-13 minutes or until the pecans are golden brown. Cool cookies. Heat the chocolate chips and a tablespoon butter until melted and smooth. Spoon the chocolate into the cooled cookies. Yields about 1 1/2 dozen.

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oug and Marcy Bird moved into their Queen Anne-style home in 1990, and have quite a history together, with 33 years living in the historic Cathedral district and 52 years of marriage. Preserving the history of their home — ­ and the neighborhood — is important to the couple. Their home, for example, was built in 1902, by Wallace Dow, who has been referred to as the “Builder on the Prairie” and one of the premier architects of his time. Dow’s handiwork is visible across the city in both homes and other notable structures like the original Minnehaha County Courthouse (now the Old Courthouse Museum) and All Saints School (now Touchmark at All Saints). The home was originally built for the John Randolph family, and it remained in their family for 70 years. In fact, Marcy explains, the Randolph twin

daughters lived in the house until the 1970s. During the 1930s and 1940s, the family would rent out some of the upstairs rooms. Restoring as much historical character as possible was a priority when the Birds moved in. The Birds believe the original wrap-around porch might have been taken off the house in the 1950s, but they added one back on in 2003 based on an old photo. The Birds also restored the original wood floors and the beautiful maple and oak woodwork. They also opened a wall that had been added between the entryway and the parlor. “At some time, the parlor had been used as a bedroom,” Marcy explained. “But originally, when you would have come into a house like this, you would have been escorted into the parlor. So, I talked Doug into taking out that wall, and we found the original opening.” There’s just something special about seeing

a historic home decorated for Christmas, and that is both a love and a skill that Marcy brought to the home. When you step into the foyer, your eyes go to the lit greenery up the staircase and the little upside-down tree hanging from the antique chandelier over the stairs. In the cozy sitting room off the entry, quilted red and green stockings hang above the fireplace with a delicate lace nativity scene draped over the top mantel. Blue is the decoration theme for this room, complementing the blue tile around the fireplace. A wreath with gold and blue ornaments and ribbon hangs on one wall, and a little tree in gold and blue sits on a tabletop. On another wall hangs a pastel-colored painting of the house done by well-known Midwest artist Bill Burgess, who worked for years as a framer at Harold’s Photo in town.

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The “pink parlor” is a nostalgic step back in time, with the pink upholstered Victorian settee and the 1935 baby grand piano in the corner. A tall evergreen tree stands next to the piano with crystal icicles, a variety of white ornaments and a pink angel topper. Under the tree, in a rocking cradle made by Marcy’s grandfather is a Shirley Temple doll that was her mom’s. Other “gifts” under the tree include a little stuffed dog, an ornate wood train, vintage skates and a personalized holster that Marcy’s dad made for her to hold her cap guns. Double pocket doors open to the formal dining room where little Victorian skaters hang from the chandelier. Those were a gift from Doug’s sister, says Marcy. A little tree tucked into a wicker basket sits on the buffet, with little candles and glass ornaments on its branches. Those who know the book A Cup of Christmas Tea would appreciate the holly-patterned tea set and plate inspired by the story that are placed next to the little tree. Many of the plates and other

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keepsakes in the china hutch are antiques from the Birds’ grandmothers, and a row of Snow Babies figurines line the top of the hutch. In the kitchen, a collection of village pieces sits above the cabinets, and those stay in their place all year long. A cute ceramic Christmas tree on top of the refrigerator is a piece that Marcy made and that she used to take to work at the holidays before she retired. The main level bathroom was originally the pantry, but with the addition of grandkids to the family, they decided back in 2008 that having a bathroom off the kitchen was more important. It is a cute little space with white shiplap on one wall, textured wallpaper on the other, and a little tree with adorable snowmen and white snowflakes. Marcy admits that even with all the historic charm of the house, her favorite room is the all-season porch. The Birds added storm windows and a little fireplace so they could use the room all year. The tree in the corner is filled with ornaments from when their

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children were little; either things they made together or ornaments they received as gifts. “When the family is over for the holidays, we put a table out here on the porch to make room for everyone,” Marcy says. Upstairs, the Birds have a room that serves as both office and library, with rows of books on wooden shelves that are topped with an array of family trophies and awards. This

room gets a tree in gold and green with musicthemed ornaments as a tribute to the time that Marcy and their kids spent in band. The upstairs bathroom, which originally would have been the home’s only bathroom, has little blue tiles on the floor and blue and white patterned tiles on the walls. An antique oak dressing table with a mirror is next to the original claw-foot tub and holds a little tree

with white ornaments and white lace garland. In the hallway, a little tree in floral pinks and purples coordinates perfectly with the flowered wallpaper. While the wallpaper is not original, thanks to Marcy’s love of decorating and preserving the home’s historical charm, it certainly looks like it could be. One of the upstairs bedrooms, now a guest room, is pink and green with a flowered border along the

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top of the wall and a collection of cute little dolls nestled atop the armoire. At Christmas time, it is transformed with holly berry bedding and an angel tree. Marcy explains, “This was our daughter’s room, and she told me ‘I’m a perfect angel,’ so her tree became the angel tree.” The beautiful green stained-glass tree on the pink side table was created by their neighbor,

who was a stained-glass artist. The other guest room is their son’s former bedroom. When they moved in, it originally had pink rose wallpaper. That came down, says Marcy, and he picked out grey and white wallpaper instead. Now, it is decorated in classic blue and white, with snowflakes on the bedding and a pretty blue and white tree. Hanging above the bed is a framed

needlepoint made by Marcy’s great-greatgrandmother in the late 1800s. “It was rolled up in a special tube,” Marcy says, “For a long time I didn’t know it was still in the family.” The main bedroom upstairs has a character all its own, with a small attached sitting room that is the turret you can see from the street. With blue walls and light blue flowered

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bedding and drapes, the holiday decor here is also blue and white. A tree in the sitting room sits on a table adorned with blue roses and ribbons and white candles, and their neighbor made the pretty blue angel on the wall. Doug finished the lower level for the family, which includes a family room, laundry room and an added bathroom. The nostalgic family room, complete with a jukebox and pool table, features Coca-Cola collectibles year-round and a special white tree with Coca-Cola

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ornaments for the holidays. As an added bonus, they can also repurpose the pool table as a dining table when they need additional seating. All totaled, Marcy says, she decorates around twenty trees for the home. That doesn’t count, of course, all the other beautiful, sentimental and sometimes whimsical decorations throughout the rooms. “I guess we really kind of feel just like the song says,” Marcy explains. “There’s no place like home for the holidays.”

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f you came over to my house twelve years ago, this is what you’d find on my coffee table: a JC Penney catalog, a Best Buy ad, and a Toys ‘R Us catalog filled with sticky notes and permanent marker etchings with my kids’ initials next to the toys they want… Spongebob Squarepants plush toys, Super Mario Kart for the Wii, Star Wars Legos, etc. But now that all three of my boys are adults, there are no marked-up, highlighted ads sitting around the house. No handwritten lists or letters. Instead, I get links to websites and requests via text messages. Don’t get me wrong, my wife and I talk to our kids all the time and vice versa, but it just seems like our little boys have grown quickly, especially with the access they have to technology. As for me, I’m still old school: on my coffee table this year, you’ll find a Wine Enthusiast catalog with MY name on it… I hope my wife is reading this… As I flip through this catalog I get that same feeling my kids used to get when they would stare at their Christmas catalogs with wide eyes. There isn’t a page that doesn’t interest me, but I’ll try to keep this article to the point. I have a chosen a few items that might just be the perfect gift for that special oenophile in your life.

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Wine Cork Kit This is an environmentally- friendly gift that will help you preserve your memories. Memories are created every day with a simple popping of a cork. After making a lazy susan, trivet, or cork board, you also have something that will protect surfaces and furnish walls. All you have to do is supply the corks… I better go get busy.

Wine Refrigerator Wine refrigerators offer a stylish look to your wine collection while providing a controlled environment for optimal wine storage conditions. Some have awesome reflective smoked-glass doors while others have

natural wood finishes. These silent cooling systems have no moving parts and are CFC-free, meaning that you get silent, long-lasting, and environmentally-safe refrigeration for your wines.

Riedel Eve Decanter My most favorite of the Riedel decanters. This elegant Riedel Eve decanter is an artful masterpiece, as well as an extremely functional wine vessel. The Eve decanter features a generously tall silhouette of almost 20 inches, and the unique design is reminiscent of an elegant upright cobra waiting to drink the wine you pour forth. The person serving from this decanter can create a dramatic presentation, as it is necessary to turn the vessel a specific way to pour. No worries, though. This beautifully-packaged decanter comes with an instructional DVD narrated by Maximilian Riedel, which explains the pouring technique and cleaning instructions. Delight your guests and serve them a lovely red wine in this visual masterpiece. The Eve decanter, designed by Maximilian Riedel in 2008, is a tribute to the family’s matriarch, Eva Riedel. Each Eve decanter is free blown by a master glass blower in Austria and is a unique and functional

work of art. Decanting young wines several hours before they are served gives the wine a chance to bloom and attain a stage of development that normally requires years of aging. The Eve decanter achieves these same results immediately, by allowing for the maximum effect of oxygen on the young tannins and aromas of the wine — liberating the aromas, intensifying the fruitiness of the mid-palate and rounding out the texture. From my family to yours, have a safe and happy holiday this year, and I will see you all next year for some more wine fun in 2024. Carpe Vino! Riccardo and Marybeth will spend Christmas with their three sons, Dante, Berent ( fiancée Molli,) and Jaxon, and they look forward to seeing you at one of their restaurants: R Wine Bar & Kitchen, Brix Wine Bar, and Maribella Ristorante, or at a catering with Vespa Catering. Contact Riccardo at riccardo@rwinebar.com.


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New Old Favorites BY JIM MATHIS


few months ago, I was wandering aimlessly around the local mega-mart, you know the one — based in Iowa and named for founders Hyde and Vredenburg — I was looking for something to cook. More accurately, I was looking for inspiration. We’d fallen into a bit of a food rut. Rotating the same five or six dishes with a predicable assortment of take-out mixed in. I’m sure it’s happened to all of us. We do the same things because they’re familiar, easy, and we can cook them with our eyes closed. But I found inspiration in the meat aisle, tucked between chuck roasts, boneless chicken breasts and ground beef, I saw a package of veal cutlets. Not too expensive, not too exotic, but certainly not something you see every day. The package was just about the right size for a dinner for two (OK perhaps


a little more than my cardiologist would recommend, but not crazy.) Those thin slices of veal screamed “piccata!” to me. I’ve made chicken piccata several times in the past, and my beloved, who is a huge fan of citrus, loved it. But the veal twist seemed like something you’d typically go out to eat. It’s one of those old favorites you might not think to try at home. But it’s easy and it doesn’t take long to cook. And it helped bump us out of the rut. Dishes like this are classic for a reason. They are simple, take just a few ingredients and taste so darned good! Now before I get letters about the cruelty of veal, feel free to substitute chicken breasts if you prefer; just slice them horizontally and pound them to about a quarter of an inch thick. It’s still a classic, but maybe a little less scary. But for me,

it was the spark of inspiration that hit when I saw the veal in the store. The recipe came to mind because in the early days of Covid, my Aisle Online order came with a surprise jar of capers, so I made chicken piccata! We both loved it, but it had fallen out of rotation. With the New Year upon us, let’s all dig a little deeper into the recipe collection; what other old favs are lurking way down on the list? Or what new-to-you dishes are waiting to be discovered? Who knows what old dishes will become new favorites? Do yourself a favor, eat something good today! When Jim’s not playing in the kitchen or digging through old recipes, he runs ADwërks, an advertising and marketing communications agency out here on the prairies.

Veal Piccata Here’s what you’ll need: Good Olive Oil 4 cloves garlic, peeled and smashed 1 package of veal cutlets (about 8 ounces) or 6 veal top round scallops pounded with a mallet Salt Fresh cracked pepper About a cup all-purpose flour Half cup dry white wine Half cup chicken stock 2 ounces capers (about half a jar) Juice of 2 lemons Half stick unsalted butter, cut into pieces 8 ounces long pasta, like fettuccine or bucatini Freshly shredded Parmigiano Reggiano

Putting it Together Start by pre-heating the oven to 200 degrees. This will keep the veal warm while you finish the sauce and the pasta. Also, season a large pot of water with salt, and bring it to boil for the pasta. Next coat a large frying pan with olive oil over medium heat, add the garlic and cook until its golden brown and fragrant (give it 3 to 5 minutes). Once it’s golden, remove the garlic and throw it away, it’s left its flavor in the oil and that’s all you need. Meanwhile, season the flour generously with salt and pepper, and working in batches, dredge the veal cutlets in the flour. When the garlic is out, add the floured veal to the hot pan. Cook on each side until golden brown, 2 or 3 minutes per side. When done, put them on a sheet pan and move to the oven to keep warm. Depending on how long the pasta will take to cook, you might want to throw it in the pot. The sauce takes 10 to 15 minutes, so plan your pasta accordingly. When you’re done with all the veal cutlets, pour off the remaining oil, but keep any crunchy brown bits (that’s called fond) that have stuck to the pan. Add the white wine and scrape up the fond. Cook the wine down to about half its volume. Add the chicken stock and capers, cook it until the stock reduces by about half. Stir in the butter and cook until it melts into the sauce. Finally, add the lemon juice. Now give it a taste, and add salt as needed. When the pasta is almost finished, strain it and add it to the sauce to finish cooking and soak up some of the saucy goodness. Divide the pasta onto 2 plates, return the veal cutlets to the sauce briefly, then move to the plates and pour the remaining sauce over. Top with a little Parmigiano Reggiano. Enjoy!

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Thrifting Resolutions



appy December, everyone! Even though we’re in the middle of possibly the busiest time of the year, my brain cannot help jumping ahead to the new year, complete with New Year’s resolutions! Do you make resolutions? I make a few every year, mostly to get through the long, hard winter here in South Dakota. But thrifting resolutions? Those are something I hope to keep all year round. I gathered this list from years of thrifting ‘experience.’ And just because I have experience in something, does not mean I’m good at using that gained wisdom. Maybe 2024 will be my year, because a girl can try!

comfortable side chair, and a nice set of stainless steel cookware to replace my VERY old stuff.

For 2024, I hereby resolve to:

2) Set a budget, please. Oof ! 2023 has been a little bit rough, financially speaking. It seems like everything, including thrift stores, is getting pricier by the minute. An idea for next year that I have is to set a monthly thrifting budget. That way, I know right away what works for me financially, and it’s kind of built-in to my monthly expenses. Even better, I’ve read that if you buy with CASH, you’re less likely to buy things you really don’t want or need. What do you think of this idea? I almost never pay with cash, but it would put a limit on overspending, for sure.

1) Never thrift without a list (or at least a loose plan). Oh sure, I rarely find the thing I’m looking for from a list. Thrift stores are all about the surprise find, after all. But if I don’t have a wish list to begin with, how will I notice things I actually need? On that list for this year: vintage wool rugs, planters or outdoor gardening supplies, a

3) Make thrifting a social event. As a tried and true introvert, I do usually thrift alone. Although I often see fellow thrifters regularly, as well as being on a first-name basis with a lot of the local shop employees in Sioux Falls. That being said, I think thrifting is just so FUN most of the time. So why not make it a resolution to ask a friend to join me once


Home for the Holidays! in awhile when I’m out and about? I’ll probably have to work up some courage for this one, but I’d like to try. 4) Plan more road trips. Seriously. I need to get out more, literally. I plan to use January to make a thrifting road trip map, so that I have goals in mind about once a month to travel to a new location. Of course, it would be great to combine this with item #3 and make a day of it by bringing a friend or two along for the adventure. 5) Sell items as frequently as I purchase them. I don’t know about you, but I find that Marketplace is the ‘marie kondo’ that you never knew you needed. It’s so easy to sell unused items and keep your house from filling up with more and more and more stuff. Although I probably am not going to follow this rule religiously, I do plan on keeping the closets a lot cleaner by purging more frequently and quietly building a home filled with only things I truly love. 6) Turn my thrifting habit into a real-er business. I know it’s not for everyone, but I’ve dabbled in reselling vintage goods for the last few years by holding a couple of pop up shops and calling it a ‘side hustle’ to thrift and resell a bit on the side. In 2024, I’m going to try and be a little more intentional about the business side of thrifting, which is becoming quite popular in the last couple of years. The best part of that goal? I’d like to share some thoughts on the biz side with you as well – just in case you’ve ever had a thought that thrifting might be a fun job that you’d like to try for supplemental income. At any rate, I hope you have a wonderful holiday season filled with much-loved items and much-loved people. Let’s gather again soon to leap into the new year with a wonderful plan for a sustainable and beautiful 2024. See you soon! Bobbi Lynn Gaukel is a full-time graphic designer and part-time thrifter at: instagram.com/bobiluvintage

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ou know how some movies begin with the most exciting moment and then the story time travels back so that you learn what circumstances culminated to allow for this event to happen? Well, I recently had something similar happen … in my real life.

4:45 p.m. Halloween 2023 On his way home from work, on Halloween, my husband, Shon was hit by a drunk driver who blew through a stop sign going at least 40. He was driving our SUV. He broke seven ribs and shattered his clavicle. He was taken by ambulance to the hospital. One surgery and six days later, he was still in pain, but he was able to return to work.





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Seven Weeks Earlier…to the Day Our SUV began to sputter, steam began streaming out from under the hood and the check engine light came on. I was on a gravel road just about 10 miles from the Reliance exit. I did not have cell reception. So, I drove forward a few more yards until I had service. Then, I called the tow company. And hitched a ride to Sioux Falls with a woman being driven by a different tow truck driver who was also the victim of car trouble (thank you!). A day later our vehicle was safely towed to Sioux Falls, but the dealership did not have time to give it a proper once-over. After a quick test, they said it looked as though the engine head was cracked. At 230,000 miles we decided it was time to car shop. Thankfully, we have a friend who enjoys car shopping. Together he and Shon found a Toyota Land Cruiser that we all love. It was in our price range. A few days later, the repair shop did have time to give our SUV a proper examination. It needed a hose replaced. This resulted in the Roti Family now owning three cars. Two big cars and one tiny car. We decided to wait to make any decisions about the future of the tiny car. I began driving the Land Cruiser and Shon began driving the SUV.

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I sent my last work e-mail and looked at the time. “Where was Shon?” Our daughter, Parker, was due home from dance practice any minute and I expected trick-o-treaters to arrive soon. Shon had the cauldron in his car. He had used it for a work Trunk-O-Treat a few days earlier. And we were planning to meet up with neighbor friends for chili and to trick-o-treat together. I decided to call Shon.

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When his phone picked up a woman’s voice was on the other end. “Hello, this is Katie a nurse in the ER. Your husband was in a car accident. He is stable.”

After a night in the hospital, I returned home to let Tulip out and gather a few things. When it was time to head back to the hospital, I walked back to the garage and happened to notice our tiny black car. It had been sitting behind our garage for six weeks. And then it hit me. The SUV broke down September 19 so that on October 31 Shon would be driving an SUV — not our tiny black car. A few hours later, our friend who helped us pick out the Land Cruiser called me and said, “Lura, now you know why your car broke down in Reliance. So, that Shon would still be with us.” Grateful This holiday season the Roti family is back to having two cars – one big and one tiny. AND we have a lot to be thankful for. We are thankful Shon is here to celebrate with us and he continues to heal. We are grateful we get to celebrate the holidays with our families, friends and neighbors.

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The next three days are a bit of a blur. What I do remember are the many friends and neighbors who stepped in to help care for our family – including Tulip, our dog – and continued to do so for more than two weeks. Parker got to trick-o-treat and spend the night with her neighbor friend. This allowed me to spend the night in the hospital and focus 100 percent of my attention on Shon. Another neighbor of mine knew about the accident right away and asked if it would be OK to start a Meal Train. I am so glad I said “yes.” Having dozens of delicious meals delivered by caring neighbors, friends and family was a huge gift. The thing more comforting than a good meal is a good hug. And we appreciated both. My neighbor friend knew about the accident right away, because she happened to capture the drunk driver on security video. The drunk driver fled the scene of the crash. Fortunately, police were able to apprehend the drunk driver. She was not injured. She went straight to jail. She was also not insured. Nor did she have a driver’s license.

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