STRATA
The ACG Strathallan magazine TERM 3 & 4 | 2018
FOSTERING A POSITIVE way of thinking
As we focus on a more holistic approach to education, student wellbeing has been highlighted as a necessary part of student development. This year, we have been fortunate to have Marcia Spyve working with us at ACG Strathallan as student counsellor. Her training and vast experience in both private practice and the public sector have helped her uncover significant insights into the difficulties people can experience, and what can be done to help. Marcia shares some important thoughts for parents with Strata: Each person brings their own story to the counselling room, but something they all have in common is the expression of hopes and dreams being shattered, the grief and loss associated with this, and the array of feelings and thoughts that result from it. Part of moving forward is about readjusting to manage the changes in life. What has stood out for me over the years is that the way we think has a big impact on how we feel and behave, affecting our overall wellbeing. Negative self-talk can lead to low self-esteem and low mood, and affect how we view ourselves and how we believe others view us. It shapes who we are and how we feel about our future. We learn to think negatively and talk negatively about ourselves as children. We often hear societal messages that we are ‘not good enough’. For a child these messages can get stuck and become a way of thinking, reinforcing negativity about themselves and their abilities. Changing negative thinking takes practice. As a parent, try to encourage positive self-talk with more focus on good things. Over time, our minds will gravitate towards a more positive way of thinking and our children will start to feel happier. Our brains are designed to change when we repeat thoughts and actions over and over. When your child is upset, try to understand how they are feeling from their point of view. Help them express how they are feeling, and validate their feelings. Teach your child that everyone experiences challenges and that this is normal. Making and taking the time to be with our children is the most precious gift we can give them.
ACG Strathallan student counsellor Marcia Spyve
FOS TE RI N G A POS ITI V E WAY O F TH I N K I N G | WEL L B EI N G
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