Absolute Mama Issue 3

mama S o u t h A f r i c a ’ s P re m i u m L i fe s t y l e M a g a z i n e fo r t h e D i s ce r n i n g Pa re n t

THE BULLY How should you handle your child that bullies

HAPPY FOOD

EATING YOUR WAY TO A HAPPY 2019

GET MORE

SLEEP

• Melatonin, the natural sleep aid • Bedtimes & sleep training • Gorgeous bedroom decor

ISSUE 3 2019

R45.00 (VAT incl.)

ISSN 2617-4502

The Island of Dreams MAURITIUS WITH THE FAMILY

9 772617 450004

winter’s BEST BUYS Everything to love about winter

R49 Scatters from

HOT PRICE

R99 Blankets from

HOT PRICE

99

99

R15999

Coral Fleece Blanket 180x200

REVERSIBLE Get two looks in one

R149 Polycotton Duvet Cover from

GREAT VALUE

99

Ombré Fur Scatter R159.99* | Side Table R399.99 | Potted Orchid R149.99

R289 Ball Fibre Duvet Inners from

GREAT VALUE

99

R109 Winter Fitted Sheet from

GREAT VALUE

Ball Fibre 2Pk Pillows R199.99

Get more of what you love. Open a Sheet Street account online today! Looking for inspiration? Don’t forget to follow us on social media: Sheet Street is part of Mr Price Group Ltd, an authorised Financial Services and Credit Provider. FSP31450 & NCRCP46.

Account approval subject to an affordability check. T’s and C’s apply. *Available at selected stores. Product available from 23 May 2019 while stocks last.

99

Winter Flat Sheet from R139.99

For more great value pop into your favourite Sheet Street store or visit sheetstreet.com Toll Free Line: 0800 21 25 35

Contents ISSUE 3

24

26

20

DIGEST 12

44

22

We Love

Must haves for this season

14

What’s On

94

New Books

Dates & events not to miss for the coming months

Delightful reads for you and your kids

26

The Bully

FASHION & BEAUTY

How to support a child that bullies

18

30

Potty training matters

36

Eco-Mom to the rescue

Beauty Notes

Natural beauty essentials

to keep the body and skin happy

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

All you need to know about this milestone

20

Wild Style

Fabulous fashion for Mom

Play your part in conserving our most precious resource

24

Cool kids

44 Bedtimes and sleep

All the cutest looks from this season’s fashion for kids

4

PARENTHOOD

training your kids

Napping towards better health

contents | ISSUE 3

84

56

48 HEALTH & WELLNESS 40

The Natural sleep aid

64

Ginger’s cousin

64

efining Melatonin and how D to increase yours

The Golden spice, health benefits and nutrition

FOOD & FITNESS 56

Fitness Motivation

Maintain your health and fitness with these latest fitness trends

TRAVEL

60

78 Ancestral paths

Jolly Food

Can food make you happy?

70

Harvest Time

Wholesome & healthy recipes to enjoy with your family

HOME DÉCOR

70 6

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

48

The Bedroom

Create the perfect bedroom environment to get the ultimate sleep

revealed

Discover the richness of the Cradle of Humankind

84

The Island of Dreams

Enjoy Mauritius with the brood

DAD’S CORNER 92

Toxic Shock

A satirical entry into our resident Dad’s diary

Decor, page50

Sleep training page 46

Editor’s Hello

Moms fashion page 20

LETTER

Autumn is here, greens to reds, orange to yellow and finally brown leaves before they are lost in preparation for winter, a transitional period I treasure every year.

I remember from a young age being amazed by the number of things my Mother could do in a day, besides being a daughter, sister, wife, mother and a caring friend. I would wake up to the inviting smell of breakfast, my school uniform washed and ready to wear, my lunch box brimming with delights and all done with love and a smile. With her hair beautifully styled, perfectly applied make-up, manicured nails and trendy ensemble, she would drop us at school and off to work she went, all before she would start the ‘nightshift’. She would be helping us with homework, whilst cooking a wholesome dinner and being a doting wife, loving us before she would put us to bed. Looking back, she didn’t always have the means to, but she made a plan and we never went without, nor did we ever have to worry about anything.

Besides having this phenomenal woman as my Mom teaching me about life, love and all the wonderful things us females are capable off, I had the honour of knowing both my grannies and great grannies. All four bringing something different to the table, all four inspirational women and all four loving their families unconditionally and always putting them

first. I remember thinking to myself how will I ever be half as wise and loving as my Mom, as strong as my Granny or be as kind and giving as my Ouma? And the biggest question of all, would I be such an inspirational woman to my own daughter?

As I strive to raise an empowered mother of the next generation and leave the legacy I would love to leave, I would like to encourage us all to take the time to truly celebrate ourselves and all the mothers and women before us, who without we couldn’t be the women we are today.Here’s to you all, Happy Mother’s Day! This issue we focus on getting the much-needed sleep you deserve, the correct bed times and sleep-training your kids and we look at the latest gorgeous décor to create the perfect bedroom environment. In keeping with the theme, we look at foods affecting your mood, could you eat your way to more sleep? We focus on the bully, types of bullying, reasons for it as well as how parents should support their bullying child. We bring you some fitness inspiration along with uncovering the benefits and nutrition the golden spice has to offer as well as all the regulars, beauty, fashion and much more.

Grab your copy or your tablet, sit back and enjoy!

Here’s to strong women: may we know them, may we be them, may we raise them – Unknown

Join me online Absolutemamamag

8

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

Absolutemamamag

www.absolutemama.co.za

Absolutemamamag

BIG 5 SAFARI & SPA Real Africa. Real Close To Cape Town.

Over 10 000-hectares of Big 5 conservancy.

4-STAR ACCOMMODATION | SPA | GAME DRIVE | HORSEBACK & QUAD BIKE SAFARI At the award-winning Aquila Private Game Reserve and Spa, guests will get the opportunity to experience a Big 5 safari, together with outstanding service; it just does not get any better than this. With game drives, quad bike and horseback safaris situated just 2 hours’ drive from Cape Town, it’s the closest you will get to real Africa, in the lap of luxury.

The world-class spa at Aquila adds to the already exceptional facilities and services on offer. It is a masterpiece of luxury, defined by its serenity and creative use of natural elements.

FACILITIES & ACTIVITIES 4-STAR ESTABLISHMENT | PREMIER, FAMILY & LUXURY COTTAGES | LODGE ROOMS | DAY TRIP SAFARI | HORSEBACK SAFARI | QUAD BIKE SAFARI STAR SAFARI | OVERNIGHT SAFARI | FLY-IN SAFARI | WINE TASTING | INDOOR & OUTDOOR RESTAURANTS | OUTDOOR POOL | WET BAR | CIGAR LOUNGE | CONFERENCE CENTRE | SPA | CURIO SHOP | CHILDREN’S FACILITIES & JUNIOR RANGER PROGRAMME

www.aquilasafari.com

AquilaSafari

AquilaSafaris

RESERVATIONS: +27 (0)21 430 7260 or RES@AQUILASAFARI.COM

absolute

mama S o u t h Af r i c a’ s P re m i u m Li fe s t y l e M a g a z i n e fo r t h e D i s ce r n i n g Pa re n t

Publisher: Absolute Mama (Pty) Ltd Managing Editor: Anje Hill Sub Editor: Reta Robberts Design & Layout: Indio Design Contributors: Alasdair Cunningham, Lori Cohen, Mariza Halliday, Tamara Toti, Taryn Dekel, Accounts: Candice Swart Images & Illustrations: Supplied & Shutterstock Advertising Sales: Jason Hill Distribution: Media Support Editorial enquiries: anje@absolutemama.co.za Sales enquiries: jason@absolutemama.co.za The absolute mama Magazine is published by Absolute Mama (Pty) Ltd www.absolutemama.co.za Tel. 087 802 2035 Fax: 086 416 2977 Email: info@absolutemama.co.za DISCLAIMER ŠAbsolute Mama (Pty) Ltd. ISSN:2617-4502 No article or any part of any article in absolute mama may be reproduced without the prior written consent of the publisher. The information provided and opinions expressed in this publication are provided in good faith, but do not necessarily represent the opinions of Absolute Mama (Pty) Ltd or the editor. Neither this magazine or the publisher can be held legally liable in any way for damages of any kind whatsoever arising directly or indirectly from any facts or information provided or omitted in these pages, or from any statements made or withheld by this publication.

Printed by

A division of Novus Holdings

10

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

digest | WE LOVE

The Sirkel Collection

Custom designs and amazing quality with a twist on a few classics. Sirkel Jewellery is a South African based jewellery design company that specialises in unique contemporary and traditional engagement rings, men’s rings, bespoke hand-made future classics and wearable sculptures for those who celebrate individualism. www.sirkeljewellery.co.za

A LIFETIME OF IMAGINATIVE PLAY

Whether you are fulfilling your childhood dream play-kitchen or wanting to steer away from the toxins and chemicals found in plastic toys, Lil’ Peanut will make your little princess’s playtime sparkly fun with one of their delightful kiddies kitchens. www. lilpeanut.co.za

WE LOVE

Sparkly playtime fun, a botanical boost and bespoke hand-made jewellery are among our top picks this season

High quality, unique design & vibrant colours

For more than a decade, the Lou Harvey brand has become synonymous with high quality, unique design & vibrant colours.

This sophisticated range is the realization of Lou’s desire to balance style and functionality for every woman and child at any lifestyle juncture. Whether you are a new mom in need of a nappy/diaper bag, taking a trip to the beach, headed to the golf course or the gym or even catching a plane, Lou’s creations are designed to support your journey in the most practical and fashionable way. www.louharvey.co.za

12

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

Start their adventure

Deemed the safest bike in its category, FirstBike not only supports your child’s physical development. It has also proven to be a great helper when it comes to the development of children’s self- confidence and enjoyment of learning a stress-free method to ride a bike. The perfect training bike for kids, aged 2-5 years and the first choice for parents worldwide. www.firstbikeafrica.co.za

digest | WE LOVE

A REFRESHING ALTERNATIVE TO ALCOHOL

If you are striving to maintain balance or wanting an uplifting botanical cocktail that takes the edge off, ARTEMIS with its unfiltered natural ingredients is the one for you. This goddess brings you the uplifting botanicals of Sceletium and Sutherlandia with all the health benefits and no sugar overload or hangover to look forward to.

Definitely a #BOTANICALBOOST www.artemisdrinks.co.za

Lots of Locks

Brushing your little cub’s mane has some serious benefits like promoting a healthy blood flow, relaxing your baby and stimulating the nervous system. What better way to groom your baby’s hair than with the Goats Wool Wooden Hairbrush by haakaa. This hairbrush is 100% natural and eco-friendly, PVC, BPA and Phthalates free. Safe for our kids and our planet. www.heykiwi.co.za

A LINEN BLEND SAFARI

Gorgeous linen Kimono’s, beautiful totes and perfectly sewn laptop sleeves to name a few, all locally made by this proudly South African brand with a dedicated love for leather and upholstery. www.mothhome.co.za

Natural sustainable age-defence

Are you seeking a fresh natural start to your fight against ageing? Then Katavi Botanicals should be your first stop. Their products are truly unique, all-natural and contains no parabens or harmful chemical toxins. Their products specifically target the noticeable effects of environmental stress to our skin, harnessing antioxidant-rich extracts from Africa’s Big 5 ‘cosmetic superfruits’. www. katavisouthafrica.co.za

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

13

WHAT’S ON Fun filled events and activities for the whole family

APRIL

The Dino Expo

26 Apr – 21 July Rivonia Oriental City, JHB Experience the Jurassic adventure tour, meet several life-size dinosaurs species, such as Tyrannosaurus Rex, Triceratops, etc. The exhibition features Wits University fossil display, Dinosaur Toy Shop and family dinosaur related activities play area. The event is ideal for family outings, school group visits and kids parties.

Tickets range from R80-R1000

SNOW WHITE – THE BALLET

30 May – 2 Jun Montecasino, JHB After a triumphant debut season in December, Joburg Ballet returns to this popular venue with it’s sparkling production of Snow White – The Ballet. Inspired by the Brothers Grimm fairy tale of a girl whose beauty drives an evil queen to vengeance, Joburg Ballet’s artistic director Iain Macdonald has choreographed a lyrical ballet, with music by the great Russian composer Dmitri Shostakovich, which has all the hallmarks audiences expect from the company: superb dancing, captivating theatre and enchanting settings.

Tickets range from R150-R450

MAY PERFECTLY POSH HIGH TEA

2 May The Vineyard Hotel Newlands, CT Ladies, pair your best frock with your favourite sneakers and join us in support of The Life Matters Foundation and Chic Mamas Do Care.

Enjoy a delicious high tea as we focus on “a healthier, happier you” with a touch of fashion, fitness, and beauty.

The event will feature local comedian Mel Jones as MC; and former singer/songwriter now keynote speaker on innovation, positive productivity and personal success Verity Price. Plenty of prizes are up for grabs. Remember to bring an item (or a few) of “pre-loved” clothing for Chic Mamas to be entered into our lucky draws.

Tickets cost R350pp

14

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

The Hippie Fest 25 May Walkerville, JHB The ultimate family fun festival, hosted by the In the Forest venue, featuring live bands, boho stalls, a vintage hippie car show, DIY tie-dye, and interactive drum circle, fun photo-ops and much more! The venue offers a real forest and fairy trail, which make for a wonderful make-believe world where fairy and story lovers and the tiny folk can let their imaginations soar. The venue is also pet and child friendly, so bring the whole family along.

Tickets tbc, kids under 10 enter free

digest | WHAT’S ON

JUNE

Workshops not to miss

Fitch & Leedes Gin & Tonic Festival 1 Jun Unhlanga, DBN The Fitch & Leedes Gin & Tonic Festival Durban is back for yet another successful day sipping on Gins! Artisanal food, local music, salivating garnishes and the very best Gins.

Tickets cost R160pp

WACKY WINE WEEKEND

7 Jun – 9 Jun Robertson Wine Valley Robertson Wine Valley’s annual Wacky Wine Weekend showcases more than 40 wine estates, boutique wineries and tourism establishments from the Ashton, Bonnievale, McGregor and Robertson region. The family-friendly event offers tutored tastings by winemakers, cellar tours and wine pairings, as well as live music, outdoor sports, arts and craft stalls and a variety of country cuisines. The programme takes place at multiple wineries and tourism establishments, each showcasing a host of activities.

Tickets cost R200 for a weekend pass, kids enter free

Do your own distilling 24 April Babylonstoren, Cape Town Join us for a hands-on day of learning about distillation. Distillation guru, Andries van der Walt, will talk you through the whole process of distilling grapes and other fruits. It will cover fermentation, equipment, distillation and a bit of blending and tasting. Learn how to light up two different pot stills (one with a wood fire and one with gas) for a first and second distillation and get tips on how to keep track of temperatures, measure alcohol and all the other technical bits. www.babylonstoren.com

Fermentation secrets 8 May Babylonstoren, Cape Town Become part of the fermentation revival – come sharpen up your fermentation skills and learn new tricks. The phenomenal health benefits of fermented fruit and vegetables have brought new life to the world of fermentation. Find out about all the secret ingredients while fermentation guru, Theresa Sabo, shares the history of this traditional method of preserving food.

www.babylonstoren.com

The Tree House Free Range Kids Holiday Programme

17 JUN – 12 JUL ‘19 Boschendal Wine Estate, Franschhoek The Tree House is an exciting edu-play centre offering kids the chance to enjoy a holistic farm and forest experience while learning the importance of sustainability through nature. Each morning begins with foraged tea, boiled eggs, fresh fruit, oats and porridge on the fire. Kids get to meet the farmers and enjoy an action-packed schedule of hiking, riding, survival skills and fire cooking with fresh farm produce. We examine the important connections between farm health and human health through creative play and exploration. www.boschendal.com absolute mama | ISSUE 3

15

digest | WHAT’S ON

DISNEY ON ICE PRESENTS MAGICAL ICE FESTIVAL

21 Jun – 30 Jun Ticketpro Dome, JHB Get ready to enter a winter wonderland as Mickey and Minnie Mouse bring the most magical moments from across the Disney kingdom to the Ticketpro Dome. Disney On Ice presents Magical Ice Festival skates to South Africa. In a new twist on fairy tale fun, look forward to action, adventure, magic and unforgettable characters from Little Mermaid, Beauty and the Beast, Tangled and the award-winning Frozen!

Tickets range from R120-R495

JULY

Vodacom Durban July 6 Jul Greyville Racecourse The Vodacom Durban July is a celebration of fashion, lifestyle, the best in marquee hospitality and the most anticipated day on the horse racing calendar. This year the event will again attract the country’s most sociable personalities for a day of non-stop entertainment. This Marquee is widely recognised for consistently providing the ultimate in expert hospitality, and world class stage & lighting complimented by Mzansi’s top musical artists. BOOMTOWN Presented by Heineken will be changing the game in 2019 and raising the bar to bring you an unforgettable Vodacom Durban July experience.

Tickets range R850 – R4500

16

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

Workshops not to miss Teas & Tisanes 15 May Babylonstoren, Cape Town Join us for a relaxing day sipping tea in our Healing Garden. Our gardener Constance demonstrates how to make her grandmother’s immune-boosting tea, a real classic in our valley. Let Gundula, the guardian of our Healing Garden inspire you in concocting tantalising teas and tisanes to suit any taste at any time, and to ease a range of ailments. Enjoy a refreshing glass of herbal kombucha and leave with a cutting of your latest must-have herb.

www.babylonstoren.com

BIG BUG EXPO

28 July – 29 Sept Rivonia Oriental City, JHB A new exhibit, the Big Bug Expo, making it’s first appearance in South Africa at Rivonia Central, featuring the amazing behaviours and extreme characteristics of some of the earth’s most fascinating creatures—insects.

Featuring giant, moving, hissing, clicking insects from different parts of the world. Various animatronic insects such as, oversized monarch butterfly to a gigantic Madagascar hissing cockroach, the exaggerated size of these creatures shines a creative spotlight on what makes them “extreme.” Families will experience a bug’s eye view of their world, explore critter calls and ride a bug train.

A variety of live insects will be on view for close-up inspection, educators will give short insect talks and answer questions.

Tickets range from R80-R750

The Magic World of Mushrooms 19 June Babylonstoren, Cape Town Come and spend the day with local grower Kotie van Tonder from Darling Gourmet Mushrooms. We get practical first thing in the morning, harvesting fresh shiitake and oyster mushrooms in our mushroom room. Kotie will discuss and demonstrate the growing of the beautiful oyster mushroom. Fill your own bags of straw and inoculate them with oyster mushroom spores and oak logs with shiitake plugs, to grow (and harvest!) at home. www.babylonstoren.com

fashion & beauty | BEAUTY BUZZ

Beauty THE

EDIT

As a result of seasonal changes and the skin being exposed to the environment, its vulnerability is bigger than any other organ in the body. Treat your skin with these beauty must-haves.

18

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

fashion & beauty | BEAUTY BUZZ

LUSH Dad’s Garden Lemon Tree Adorn yourself in memories of warm sunshine, tempered by zingy lemon and fresh lime. This scent memory of Mark’s father’s garden in sunny South Africa exudes sweet citrus with a soft bergamot and lavender twist that lingers on the skin and in the mind. Spritz all over to revel in the bright colours of the garden and feel the warm rays touch the nape of your neck.

Lulu & Marula Balancing Cleansing Balm A luxurious facial cleanser with oil-to-milk technology that effectively emulsifies make-up and daily impurities to leave skin soft and glowing.

Bentonite clay adds an extra detoxifying element, while Sweet Orange, Bergamot and Neroli warms your spirit and instills balance.

100g at R340

R255

SUKI SUKI Naturals Açaí Gentle Exfoliating Mask Açaí, a native fruit of Brazil, is an anti-oxidant super food that protects the skin from environmental aggressors and reduces the appearance of ageing. Turmeric has healing, anti-inflammatory and antibacterial properties, great for acne-prone skin. Apricot kernels provide a gentle and effective exfoliation. Suitable for normal, oily and acne-prone skin.

50g at R240

Skin Creamery TwoPhase Skin Tonic Skin Creamery’s two-phase Skin Tonic containing malachite and baobab fruit powder is ideal after cleansing as it hydrates, restores and nurtures.

50ml at R325

Wild Zinc SPF This mineral sun shield, offering up to 20SPF, is a luxuriously smooth, all-natural sun protection. It is Non-absorbent, creating a protective layer on your skin that reflects the sun’s harmful rays. Water resistant, non-toxic and preservative-free.

50ml at R180

Elemis Hydra-Boost Serum Clinically proven* this instantly hydrating serum provides all day moisture. Quinic acid, nourishing Dhatelo oil and Hyaluronic Acid are blended with organic Myrtle, rich in anti-oxidant compounds to help maintain the skin’s natural defence systems.

30ml at R1020

LUSH Ocean Salt Face and Body Scrub Limes steeped in vodka, grapefruit and lashings of salt go into this invigorating face and body scrub. Added to the mineral-rich sea salt - silky avocado butter, coconut oil and seaweed, keeping your skin smooth and conditioned.

250g at R285

Katavi Miracle Hydration Oil Nomvula, a Xhosa word capturing the sensation of the first rainfall at the end of a long, dry season is a perfect match for this product, capturing the feeling dry skin has after fortification with our ‘Miracle’ Hydration Oil. As you age, your skin’s ability to soak up moisture keeping itself young lessens.

Premature aging steps in due to environmental onslaughts. Nature’s answer to moisture-deprived skin is marula oil, rich in antioxidants.

30ml at R450

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

19

fashion & beauty | MAMA FASHION

WILD STYLE No time for ‘autumn sadness’ with this round-up of the season’s top style trends.

4

3

2

9 1

5

10

6

8

7

1. Leather work tote, Karen Millen R5200 2. Cleo smalls garnet quartz earrings, Della R400 3. Print V-neck satin midi dress, Woolworths from R499

20

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

4. Katie soft loafer, Country Road R1099 5. Poppy printed tunic, Poetry R599 6. Button detail skirt, Country Road R799 7. Rachel shoe, Poetry R1299

8. Rebel at Heart women’s watch, Thomas Sabo R13725 9. Dawsyn scalloped tee, Poetry R450 10. Belted print harem pants, Woolworths from R350

fashion & beauty | MAMA FASHION

11

15

13

14

12

19

16

18

20 17

11. Evie midi dress, Forever New R1399 12. Liza cuff bracelet, Della R450 13. Paradise Colours pendant necklace, Thomas Sabo R12450 14. Printed pleat neck top, Witchery R899 15. Stephanie Crombie, Forever New R1799

16. Maggie leather cross body, Poetry R799 17. Stretch slip-on shoe, Woolworths R399 18. Ellington wide leg pants, Poetry R599 19. Wide waist belt, Country Road R699 20. Gwaressa Boots, Call It Spring R899

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

21

fashion & beauty | MAMA FASHION 21 23 22

24

28

27 26 25

29

21. Belted jersey dress, Witchery R999 22. Duchess drop earrings, Della R500 23. Kimono tie top, Witchery R899 24. Dogtooth knitted cape, Karen Millen R3000

22

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

25. Fringe check scarf, Woolworths R199 26. Paradise colours ring, Thomas Sabo R3725 27. Ava top handle bag, Witchery R699 28. Cora pants, Pringle of Scotland R1250 29. Rachel shoe, Poetry R1299

Model: Yakima

www.policetime.co.za

fashion & beauty | KIDS 9 1 5

2

6 10

Run Wild!

Cool kids beat the chill with this season top offerings.

7 3

11

GIRLS 4 8

24

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

12

fashion & beauty | KIDS

17 13

21 14

22

18 15

19

BOYS 23

16

24

20

1. 3-pack scrunchies, H&M R49.99 2. Bird dress, Country Road R569 3. Glitter hearts leggings, Woolworths R89.95 4. Stan Smith 360 shoes, Adidas R799 5. Long stud boot, Country Road R849 6. Unicorn spot sweat, Country Road R499 7. Pocket detail skirt, Country Road R429 8. Riley puffer jacket, Polo R799

9. Pleated dress, Gray Label via KiND.co.za, from R 790 10. Full zip fleece hoody, www.parental-instinct.co.za R449 11. Fun lab creature rain boot, Crocs R549 12. T-shirt and shoulder bag, H&M R249 13. Surf shades, www.parental-instinct.co.za R419.99 14. Wellington boots, Woolworths R140 15. Baseball cardigan, Gray Label via KiND.co.za, from R 790Â

16. Austin golfer, Polo R339 17. W olf pack t-shirt, Country Road R329 18. Baggy pants seamless, KiND from R690 19. U_path running shoes, Adidas R999 20. Riley shirt, Polo R599 21. Lace up boot, Country Road R659 22. Denim bib overalls, H&M R329 23. Marvel multi clog, Crocs R399 24. Patch jogger, Country Road R479

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

25

parenthood | BULLYING

When your child is the

BULLY: What to do

By Mariza Halliday

26

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

parenthood | BULLYING

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

27

parenthood | BULLYING

B

ullying amongst children is a big problem in South Africa. It is something that should always be taken seriously by parents as it causes anxiety and depression which could lead to self-harm, substance abuse and even suicidal thoughts. There are many steps you can take if your child is being bullied, but what do you do when your child is the bully?

Bullies come in all shapes and sizes. They are from every ethnic group, socio-economic class, gender and religion. As a parent, your first response to hearing that your child is potentially being a bully would most likely be that of disbelief. But, if the evidence points to it – or if in doubt, you need to act appropriately.

According to Charlene McIntosh, a counselling psychologist, bullying can usually be identified as one of three things: First, it can be a defence mechanism, a typical “If I hurt you first you can’t hurt me,” behaviour.

Bullies need someone to hurt because they are being hurt

28

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

themselves. So, they think that if they bully other kids, they won’t be picked on anymore.

Second, it’s a learned behaviour, in how we deal with people who do not meet or share our outlooks.

We punish someone for not fitting into the mould of what we want, whether it’s how they respond to us, their life choices, how they dress, etc.

And it almost always starts at home.

Children who are subjected to corporal punishment, or are physically or emotionally abused, are far more likely to be aggressive with their peers.

Thirdly it can be due to trauma.

Trauma makes it harder for children to cope with and regulate their emotions.

THE MAIN TYPES OF BULLYING…

1 Physical Bullying: It occurs

when kids use physical actions to gain power and control over their targets.

2 Verbal Bullying: Use words,

statements and name-calling to gain power and control over a target.

3 Relational Bullying: Is a sneaky

and insidious type of bullying that often goes unnoticed by parents and teachers. Sometimes referred to as emotional bullying, relational bullying is a type of social manipulation to hurt their peers or sabotage their social standing. They often ostracize others from a group, spread rumours, manipulate situations and break confidences. This is most often done to increase their own social standing.

4 Cyber Bullying: The use of the

Internet, a smartphone, or other technology to bully another child.

This is often done by posting hurtful images, making online threats and sending hurtful emails or texts. A lot of children are nowadays always “plugged in,” cyberbullying is a growing issue among young people.

5 Sexual Bullying: This consists of

repeated, harmful and humiliating actions that target a person sexually. Sexual name-calling, vulgar comments, crude gestures, unsolicited touching, sexual

parenthood | BULLYING

propositioning and pornographic materials are all examples of sexual bullying. In extreme cases, this kind of bullying opens the door to sexual assault and often the victims are much younger than the bully.

HOW SHOULD PARENTS HANDLE A CHILD THAT BULLIES? CHARLENE SHARES HER ADVICE AND TIPS WITH US…

Bullying is unacceptable and your child should be made to understand that. Whatever you do, do it from a place of unconditional love. Use positive discipline. If you use physical discipline methods on your child, be prepared for your child to mirror that behaviour on others. Never use hitting or spanking as a punishment.

How can you teach your child that hitting, pushing and shoving others

is never okay if you are hitting and physically hurting them?

Accountability and responsibility is very important. If your child steals or damages another child’s personal belongings, have him or her replace them. Have them do additional chores and take away their allowance for some time to pay for the cost of replacing the victim’s property. They need to understand why you are doing that, and that it is a consequence of their actions.

Help your child develop empathy and caring. Children who are bullies often lack these emotional traits.

It’s important they learn how their behaviour affects others. Bullies begin to think about their behaviour and the outcome of their behaviour when adults discuss situations and ask questions. Parents need to encourage their children to think

about their feelings, their actions and the result of their behaviour on others and themselves.

WHAT CAN PARENTS DO TO GET TO THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM… If your son or daughter is getting into trouble at school or with peers for bullying behaviour, it’s crucial that you get to the root of the problem. Also, remember that their behaviour is a symptom of something deeper. He or she may be feeling vulnerable, insecure, angry or lonely; or he may be in a life situation that causes him to feel helpless and out of control.

It is always good to get professional help for your child with regards to their bullying behaviour. Seeing a psychologist can help get to the root of the problem and intervene in an appropriate way.

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

29

parenthood | POTTY TRAINING 101

The Scoop on

Potty Training Everything you need to know to help your toddler transition from nappies to the loo

By Lori Cohen

Y

ou’d love to be able to strike nappies off your monthly shopping list, but it’s hard to know when the time is right to help your baby make this milestone move. When will your tot be

30

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

ready? According to the American Academy of Family Physicians (AAFP), toddlers master all the skills necessary, including being able to pull up underwear or training nappies, on average at 29.5 months for girls and 33.5 months for boys.

parenthood | POTTY TRAINING 101

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

31

parenthood | POTTY TRAINING 101

SPOT THE SIGNS

All kids are different, and occupational therapist Lara Schoenfeld recommends you look out for signs with your child that he or she is ready to take the first steps to toileting independence. One of the most important signs is that they begin to realise that they are producing a wee or poo. ‘When they develop sensory awareness they will begin to look down at their nappy or get a thoughtful look on their face when they release. Another good sign is that they may start to show an interest in the toilet or show interest in watching

you on the toilet,” she says.

If they have a predictable, regular bowel habit (and are able to hold their bladder/rectal content) and are dry for more than two hours at a time, you are good to go, confirms paediatrician Dr Temlett Hockey.

These skills usually come together at around 18 months of age.

GET THE PARTY STARTED

The most important thing is to make toilet training a fun and relaxed process – for both of you. If your child is already dry for a couple of hours at

a time you could encourage them to move into underwear. Involve your child in choosing the potty, explaining why and what you are doing. You can use a standalone potty or one that rests on top of the toilet. Make sure you buy one with steps, or place a stool beneath it, so your child’s feet have something to rest on.

Start things slow – a few trips to the potty a day to sit on it and get comfortable with it, with no pressure to actually use it. Encourage them to join you at the toilet so they can ‘look and learn’. Keep the experience positive, praising them for any small successes. Punishing, shaming or forcing your child to use the potty will sabotage your efforts. And watch your words! Don’t say things like ‘gosh your poop smells’, or ‘what a mess you’ve made!’ Creating negativity around the process may make your toddler embarrassed and they could take to hiding when making a number two.

FIND WHAT WORKS FOR YOU

Every child is different and the potty training method that worked for one of your kids may not work for your next one. Many parents find success with the ‘child-led incentive method’.

Fill a jar with treats they enjoy – stickers or little toys, for example.

Begin by asking your toddler if they want to wee or poo at regular intervals – maybe every 30 minutes.

When they tell you they are ready and you take them to the potty give them time to finish, with no pressure. If they do release, you give them a prize.

Toilet training is usually easier to do during the warmer summer months, and you can allow your toddler to walk around nappy or underwear-free, which makes it easier for them to remember to use the potty. Remember to chat to the rest of your family and caregivers about how you’re approaching the process of toilet training – you all need to be on the same page.

32

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

THE SMALLEST FOLD AND MORE G B P OCK IT+

#SUPER LIGHTWEIGHT #EASY RECLINE # T R AV E L S Y S T E M R E A D Y

PRODUCT DESI G N iFAward Winner

www.facebook.com/gb.futureperfect/ sales@gbsouthafrica.co.za Tel: 041 811 3355 for Trade Enquiries

parenthood | ECO MOM

34

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

parenthood | ECO MOM

Eco Mom:

Water Conservation

By Mariza Halliday

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

35

parenthood | ECO MOM

W

ater is the most essential resource to life on earth. With that in mind, it makes the global water crisis we find ourselves in that much more terrifying. People around the world are finding it difficult to access the amount and quality of water they need for drinking, cooking, bathing, handwashing and agriculture. Did you know that 1 in 8 people worldwide doesn’t have access to clean drinking water?

South Africa has experienced it’s worst drought in thirty years. Cape Town narrowly avoided Day Zero when the taps were set to run dry, and that’s been a wake-up call to many South Africans to better steward our precious water resources. With South Africa being

36

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

listed as the 39th driest country in the world, we all need to do our bit.

South Africa is not the only country struggling to preserve our precious water resources.

Wasting water is easy, taking clean water for granted is even easier. Fortunately, it’s just as easy to save and conserve water as it is to waste it.

will also help them understand how important it is to tell an adult if they hear or see a leak somewhere.

HERE ARE SEVEN WAYS YOU CAN PLAY YOUR PART:

This might sound strange to you, but do you really need to flush every single time? The toilet is one of the most water-intensive fixtures in the house, best to use it wisely.

1 CHECK FOR LEAKS!

Check and check again for leaks: Up to 37% of South Africa’s water supply is lost due to leaks. Let your kids help you fix the leaks around the house and explain to them the importance of not letting water go to waste. This

2 THE BRICK TRICK

Put a brick in the loo cistern: This gives you the same flush pressure but uses substantially less water per flush.

3 IF IT’S YELLOW, LET IT MELLOW.

DID YOU KNOW the average toilet uses between 9 and 15 litres of water per flush?

parenthood | ECO MOM

4

BE SMART AND RE-USE!

Put cooking and washing water to good use: Use the water from your washing machine or from boiling or steaming vegetables and ask the kids to water the plants. Make sure you choose a biodegradable washing detergent and that you allow cooking water to cool before reusing.

5

THE SHOWER BUCKET

It is much more water-wise to take a quick shower than it is to take a bath.

When having your shower, instead of letting the water pour down the drain, stick a bucket under the running water while you wait for it to heat up.

Place the bucket by your feet while you shower to catch some extra

drops! You can then water your plants or flush your toilet with the excess water. Try to use eco-friendly body washes and shampoos wherever possible.

6

DON’T KEEP IT RUNNING!

Always turn off the tap while brushing your teeth, shaving and washing your

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

37

parenthood | ECO MOM

7 hands or face. Water comes out of the average faucet at 3.7 litres per minute.

To let all that water down the drain is such a waste. Turn off the faucet after you wet your brush and leave it off until it’s time to rinse.

38

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

RE-THINK YOUR GARDEN

Why not rip out your lawn and rather opt for a landscape that incorporates water-wise ground cover, succulents and other plants that thrive in drought conditions. This could be something fun that the entire family can do together. It can be a great bonding

exercise, make for wonderful memories and serve an educational purpose too!

Even if you’re not living in a drought-stricken region, cutting back on water is still important. Not only will it guarantee a lower utility bill, but you will have peace of mind knowing that you are helping to conserve a precious resource.

Is your daughter the next...

Let us nurture her dreams, to become her future Independent day school for girls, Grade 0 – 12, with co-ed Pre-primary.

Horwood Street, Edenvale, Johannesburg | Telephone: +27 11 457 0900 | marketing@holyrosaryschool.co.za @HolyRosaryJHB | HolyRosaryJHB | @holyrosaryjhb | www.holyrosaryschool.co.za Affiliated to Catholic Board of Education (CBE) and member of Independent Schools’ Association of Southern Africa (ISASA)

health & wellness | SLEEP

Sleep

AND MELATONIN

A

good night’s sleep is one of the most important acts of self-care. When we’re falling behind in one area of our busy lives, always looking for that extra hour to our day - sleep is often the first sacrifice we make. It’s no secret that sleep is necessary for our physical health and emotional wellbeing. We’ve denied ourselves proper rest and sleep consistently enough to paint a picture of the glorified sleepless hero: the one who

40

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

By Mariza Halliday

is always busy, who maintains a social life over weekends and is a perfect mom functioning on little to no sleep.

We wear our sleepless nights like a badge of honour, but at what cost?

Various studies have found sleep deprivation not only affects cognitive function but can also negatively affect your ability to carry out essential bodily tasks like digestion. Studies have also found that people who don`t sleep well tend to have a very low tolerance to stress and low empathy which explains why some

people become nervous and suffer from anxiety when they don’t get enough sleep.

The reasons for sleep deprivation are as numerous and diverse as we are, but most can be traced back to a few common themes: anxiety, workload, clinical insomnia, stress, hormone imbalance, new parenthood, or a combination thereof. Getting a proper nights’ rest on a regular basis isn’t just a good idea, it’s an essential one. One of the biggest factors when it comes to your sleep cycle is Melatonin.

health & wellness | SLEEP

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

41

health & wellness | SLEEP

WHAT IS MELATONIN?

It is a hormone that’s made by the pineal gland in the brain. It is primarily responsible for regulating your body’s circadian rhythm to manage your natural sleep cycle. The production and release of Melatonin is connected to the time of day, increasing when it’s dark and decreasing when it’s light.

Melatonin is also a renowned natural sleep aid and is used across the world as a popular dietary supplement. In addition to improving your natural sleep cycle, Melatonin is also involved in managing a healthy immune system, blood pressure, and cortisol levels.

As we get older, our natural Melatonin production declines. Signs of a Melatonin deficiency include the following: • Restless legs syndrome • Sleep problems – including insomnia and difficulty falling/staying asleep • Changes in mood • Menopause symptoms, PMS and menstrual irregularities

42

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

• Intestinal symptoms • Increased aging process Other studies have shown the benefits of Melatonin in weight-loss, cardiac function, breast cancer/ prostate cancer prevention, mitochondrial function, Parkinson’s disease symptoms, high blood pressure, Alzheimer’s, fertility, Type 2 diabetes and immune function.

Melatonin supplements can help, but there are a few things you can do to maximize your natural Melatonin production, such as…

GET MORE SLEEP!

This is not always as easy as it sounds for some individuals, but it is the best way.

LOVE THE DARK

Melatonin production is increased by darkness so use blackout curtains or blinds in your bedroom. Artificial light in the bedroom should be minimized and therefore TVs, mobile phones and bright alarm clocks

should be put away well before going to sleep.

KEEP AN EYE ON YOUR DIET

Avoid foods or drinks before bedtime that will induce stress hormone production or cause blood sugar imbalances during the night e.g. heavy meals, sugar, caffeine, and alcohol (except a little red wine).

LIGHT IS GOOD TOO…

Daytime light exposure will promote a regular circadian rhythm of melatonin and help ensure higher levels at night time.

Keep in mind that although Melatonin is easily accessible and natural, it is still a hormone.

Hormones are some of the most powerful regulatory chemicals functioning within the body. Melatonin supplements can also negatively interact with many different medications, so always check with your doctor before self-medicating.

One of the greatest challenges for human wellbeing in the 21st century will be to focus on the advantage of having a healthy colon and therefore a good immune system – this is where probiotics can play a significant role.

Probiotics are critical for normal digestion and for defence against infection.

Bacteria in the gut are known to: • Stimulate the immune system • Enhance the mucosal barrier • Aid digestion and break down toxins • Inhibit adherence of pathogens

A good probiotic can be beneficial in the following ailments: • Diarrhoea or constipation • Bad breath, gas and bloating • Irritable bowel and lactose intolerance • Gastroenteritis and playschool diseases in young children

parenthood | BED TIMES & SLEEP TRAINING

44

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

parenthood | BED TIMES & SLEEP TRAINING

Could good sleep

MAKE YOUR CHILD

SMARTER?

Helping your baby into a regular sleep cycle is important for their brain, body and more

By Lori Cohen

C

hildren aged between one and three need 12 to 14 hours’ sleep in a 24-hour cycle.

Even preteens are recommended up to 11 hours!

Cracking the elusive sleep code is not only great for your sanity, it’s crucial for your child to reach their full potential – emotionally, physically and cognitively.

NAPPING TOWARDS BETTER HEALTH

Paediatrician Dr Aziza Van Der Schyff, who runs her practice next to The Constantia Sleep Centre in Cape Town, says that children who are not getting enough sleep may experience problems with learning, attention, hyperactivity, and conduct.

Sleep-deprived children may seem over-energised to compensate for their exhaustion. Your child may not have Attention Hyperactivity Disorder by losing just one hour of sleep a night they could display similar symptoms, according to the journal Sleep. Homework, sports and screen time are all sleep thieves.

But there’s more at risk biologically

if your child is lacking shuteye.

Research by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine showed that the growth hormone needed for tissue and muscle development is released primarily during sleep.

Healthy sleep habits can also help prevent your child from developing chronic illnesses later in life because ‘sleep debt’ increases their risk of obesity, diabetes and a suppressed immune system. This is because sleep regulates the neuroendocrine system and glucose metabolism.

BUILD A BETTER BEDTIME

The key is to be consistent with your routine, to keep it short and not to implement it too late at night, says Jolandi Becker, managing director of Good Night Baby. ‘Bedtime and naptime routines help to give children (especially toddlers) a sense of time. By following consistent steps to downtime, they will begin to anticipate and understand when it’s time to sleep,’ she says.

Tip?

Remember that repetition can also bore toddlers so you can

spice things up by including a shower rather than a bath or singing a song rather than reading a book. ‘Keep the steps to sleep similar, but not necessarily exactly the same,’ says

SOME OF THE OPTIONS FOR SLEEP TRAINING INCLUDE: #1 Controlled crying or “check and console” (also called the Ferber Method) The child is allowed to cry for longer periods of time each night with the parent returning to pat and shush for comfort. #2 Gradual withdrawal The child is allowed time to self-settle for a few minutes when it wakes up during the night. If needed the parent reenters the room to soothe verbally for a few moments before leaving again. #3 Pickup/put down The child is picked up to sooth if crying and then placed down to sleep in repeated cycles until they are asleep.

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

45

parenthood | BED TIMES & SLEEP TRAINING

While every child is slightly different in terms of how much sleep they need, most require the following to be fully rested: NEWBORNS (0-3 MONTHS) Recommended: 14-17 hours May be appropriate: 11-13 hours (Not less than 11 hours) 18-19 hours (Not more than 19 hours)

INFANTS (4-11 MONTHS) Recommended: 12-15 hours May be appropriate: 10-11 hours (Not less than 10 hours) 16-18 hours (Not more than 18 hours)

TODDLERS (1-2 YEARS) Jolandi. Keep your routines simple, around three activities in the same order every night during these periods (one of them being milk time) – and then stick to the routine!

A bedtime routine should be about 30 minutes long, she recommends. ‘If it becomes too long your baby or toddler can become overstimulated and overtired.’

Other things to consider if you’re struggling? Expose your baby to lots of natural light during the day during periods when they awake recurrently during the night. Go for walks, open the windows or lie on a blanket outside. Thirty minutes morning and afternoon will help to re-adjust your baby’s internal clock.

CARING FOR OLDER KIDS A bedtime routine shouldn’t stop once your kids are out of nappies.

Jacqui Flint of Baby Love recommends taking ‘back the night’ by avoiding screen time before bed and scheduling quiet time with your child instead.

‘Having this quiet time before

46

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

bedtime with your child is also a beautiful bonding time for child and parent. As your child grows older you can chat about the day, their friends and their activities.

Surprisingly, many parents have found that after the winding down time they have spent with their child, they leave the room feeling more relaxed too,’ she says.

ARE YOU READY FOR SLEEP SCHOOL?

Sleep training is a controversial topic. While the methods may not suit everyone, it’s agreed that developing a regular time to go to sleep is beneficial to both parents and the child. The methods range in duration from a couple of nights to a couple of weeks, depending on the age of the child. ‘Don’t attempt sleep training in isolation,’ warns Jolandi, who favours a holistic approach. ‘Make sure all the building blocks of sleep are in place.

Environment, nutrition, bedtime routine and their schedule during the day,’ she says.

Recommended: 11-14 hours May be appropriate: 9-10 hours (Not less than 9 hours) 15-16 hours (Not more than 16 hours)

PRESCHOOLERS (3-5 YEARS) Recommended: 10-13 hours May be appropriate: 8-9 hours (Not less than 8 hours) 14 hours (Not more than 14 hours)

SCHOOL-AGED CHILDREN (6-13 YEARS) Recommended: 9-11 hours May be appropriate: 7-8 hours (Not less than 7 hours) 12 hours (Not more than 12 hours)

TEENAGERS (14-17 YEARS) Recommended: 8-10 hours May be appropriate: 7 hours (Not less than 7 hours) 11 hours (Not more than 11 hours)

YOUNG ADULTS (18-25 YEARS) Recommended: 7-9 hours May be appropriate: 6 hours (Not less than 6 hours) 10-11 hours (Not more than 11 hours)

home dĂŠcor | THE BEDROOM

48

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

home décor | THE BEDROOM

The Bedroom Environment It is said that your bedroom doesn’t have to be the size of an amphitheatre to embody design. For the bedroom that dreams are made of, here’s our pick of this season’s top bedroom décor and accessories.

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

49

home décor | THE BEDROOM 3

2

1

Tropical Sanctuary 5

9

7

8

6

1.Rattan pendant long – natural, Pilgrimage Spaces R1890 2. Calendula 1 print, Weylandts R5495 3. George scatter cushion ochre square, Volpes R249 4. Arabesque scatter, Weylandts R695 5. Charisse screen natural, Block & Chisel R2995 6. Mango wood tray, Weylandts R1295 7. Aryballos vase, Weylandts R395 8. Cadby bedside table, Block & Chisel R2295 9. Lotus flower carved king size panel, Pilgrimage Spaces R9850 10. Tilly leaf 114 TC duvet cover, Woolworths from R379

50

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

4

10

TheIndulgence

C O L L E C T I O N

M a d e f r o m 1 0 0 % A f r i c a n C o tt o n , t h e I n d u l g e n c e c o l l e c ti o n w a s d e s i g n e d w i t h two things in mind: Luxury and Performance With an extravagant weight of 630 grams p e r s q u a r e m e t e r , t h e l a t e s t c o l l e c ti o n from Nortex will gently and lavishly absorb every drop from your body A boundless array of stylish bright and natural colours wait to indulge your senses and your bathroom

w w w. n o r t e x . c o . z a

Can be used for both home & hospitality industry

APPROVED

BEACH | HOME | HOTEL | SPA | SPORT

home décor | THE BEDROOM

Ivory Bliss

4

3

1 7

5

2

6

10

9

8

52

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

1. Applique cushion with feather down, Pilgrimage Spaces R495 2. Cherry Square Anne Scatter cushion, Volpes R349 3. Geometric hanging candle holder, KNUS R145 4. Kesh mirror, SHF R1990 5. Marsta headboard, KNUS R2810 6. Ponte table lamp, SHF R1290 7. Stalactite bubbles on stand – large, Weylandts R3195 8. Metallic print duvet cover set, Woolworths from R650 9. Yasmine bedside table, Block & Chisel R2995 10.Grande round white basket, SHF R1490

home dĂŠcor | THE BEDROOM

3 2 4

1

5

6 11

KIDS

7

9

12

8 1. Xen metal bed 3/4 , Clever Little Monkey R2950 2. Pom Pom scatter cushion, Woolworths R210 3. Sleepy fox cushion, KNUS R385 4. Bobble blanket, Granny Goose R395 5. Flamingo & Friends mobile, Granny Goose R545 6. Bonjour bear art print, KNUS R255 7. Rechargeable bat night light, Clever Little Monkey R550

54

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

10 8. Grapes scatter cushion cover, KNUS R430 9. First Dreams Lullaby Sheep, Chicco R499 10. Unicorn kids stool, Fox & Moon available from Clever Little Monkey R799 11. Morgan desk lamp, Woolworths R699 12. Slant bedside table, KNUS R3120

Newborn Sleep Tips from Granny Goose.

The fact that newborns tend to sleep a lot should come as no surprise to any new mom. In fact, snoozing for 14–18 hours is considered totally normal for infants.

This means that making sure your newborn’s sleep space is as dreamy as possible is super important.

Here are our top tips and products to help you create the perfect nest.

As infants can only regulate their own temperature from around 2–3 months old, it ’s essential that you ensure that they’re kept at a comfortable temperature at all times.

How to choose the right fabrics?

• Choose pure cotton – this lets their skin breathe.

• Opt for lighter fabrics that are more comfortable.

• Pure down duvets are perfect for wintertime as they allow for air exchange between the body and the air.

A s yo u r n ew b o r n ’s s k i n d o e s n o t re a c h t h e f i r st st a g e o f m a t u r i t y t i l l t h e a g e o f t wo, yo u r b a by ’s s k i n w i l l l i ke l y b e hy p e r s e n s i t i ve to d a i l y st re ss o r s s u c h a s te m p e rat u re, sweating and chafing.

How to alleviate this?

• • • •

Opt for softer weaves or washed cotton.

Choose lower thread counts like 180, 200 or 300.

Go for open weaves like muslin.

For less friction, opt for combed cotton, which is softer.

With Granny Goose you can consciously curate your baby’s sleep space, putting you at ease and helping them sleep better.

Granny Goose Recommends: Combed Cotton Knit Receiving Blanket

R250

Perfect for cooler nights.

Cotton Muslin Swaddle Blanket

R195

Perfect for wiping spills, a swaddle or even doubling as a fitted sheet.

Pure Cotton Percale Fitted Sheet

R325

Soft and super smooth against baby’s skin.

Set up your Gosling Baby Shower Registry at gifts.grannygoose.com.

For more information visit www.grannygoose.com or call one of Granny Goose’s bedding experts today on 0860 388 387.

GrannyGooseSA

ninety9cents 47666T/E

Granny Goose has 3 dedicated Gosling showrooms and an easy-to-use online store for your convenience.

Delivery available throughout South Africa.

food & fitness | FITNESS TRENDS

Fitness MOTIVATION FOR 2019 Are you still trying to nail down a fitness or wellness programme that suits your needs? Read through our latest fitness finds to see how you can maintain your health and fitness.

K

eeping fit used to mean one thing – going to the gym. But times have changed, and we have a variety of fitness options at our fingertips to keep us in shape, to relieve stress and to feed our souls. We had a look around at a few popular fitness trends to share with you now that everyone is settled into the new year.

56

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

MEDITATION AND MINDFULNESS

Meditation is the practice of being still and connecting to a powerful place of peace. Meditation requires no physical fitness experience and has numerous benefits such as deep relaxation, elimination of stress and increased focus. Modern times have made meditation a necessity, in a world where nothing shuts down,

meditation is the break your mind and soul need to recharge. You might have tried meditation before on your own, but the collective energy from a group of people can assist with getting into a meditative state.

If you want to venture into the world of meditation, contact My Urban Retreat based in Cape Town on (021) 418 4008 - a haven for those who like to calm the mind.

food & fitness | FITNESS TRENDS

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

57

food & fitness | FITNESS TRENDS

Reap the benefits of meditation: • Reduces Stress & Anxiety • Learn to Control Your Thoughts • Release Negative Emotions • Concentration • Promotes Deep Relaxation Mindfulness programmes around the world have led to improved focus, creativity and physical and emotional well-being which alleviates stress. A company in Durban has created a program called Clear Mind at Work, which is a mindfulness and meditation program designed to meet the needs of contemporary lifestyles and to meet the demands of busy work and home life.

Contact Meditate in Durban to find out more about their mindful workshops.

Tel: 031 266 0096 or email them at info@meditateindurban.org

ONLINE FITNESS CLASSES

This is an option for you if you have a hectic schedule but still want to keep fit. Exercising in the comfort of your own home isn’t just for agoraphobics.

Many business professionals choose online coaching due to their fast-paced and unpredictable work schedules.

How does it work?

If you’re crunched for time, you can

58

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

appreciate having a personal trainer working around your schedule to keep your fitness goals on track. Exercise and movement are vital for maintaining your health. If you have the selfdiscipline required, online coaching has huge benefits. Through weekly skype check-ins and unlimited email support, you’ll have your fitness needs planned out for a fraction of the cost.

Contact Luke Saner at luke@lukesanerbiokinetics.co.za or visit his website www.lukesanerbiokinetics. co.za for more information.

HIT THE ROOF WITH HIIT HIIT stands for high-intensity interval training and boy does it live up to its name. If you want to kick your fitness goals into high gear, then this is the work-out for you. Don’t be fooled, it’s every bit as gruelling as your trainer says it is. Be honest about your capabilities so that you don’t tank your first class.

You’ll feel the burn from class one, but you’ll also feel your body getting stronger with each passing week. This unique and rigorous form of exercise combines cardio and functional weight training in one session, helping you to lose weight and preserve muscle mass. Doing one class a week for the first six weeks is advisable, giving your body time to adapt. Trying to exercise with stiff muscles or an injury is not advisable nor enjoyable.

Once your body has adapted, you can up your sessions to twice a week and watch your energy levels increase and your number on the scale decrease.

Arena Wellness is a great place to experiment with HIIT, find them at Morningside Shopping Centre, Morningside, Johannesburg. They have energetic trainers who are with you all the way, encouraging you to achieve great results and have fun.

We hope 2019 is the year you find your peace and reach your fitness goals.

You

Tube

food & fitness | FOODS EFFECTING YOUR MOOD

60

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

food & fitness | FOODS EFFECTING YOUR MOOD

Do certain foods effect your

mood?

Eating your way to a happy 2019. Turn that frown upside down with wholesome foods from mother earth.

By Taryn Dekel

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

61

food & fitness | FOODS EFFECTING YOUR MOOD

W

e all know how junk foods and excess sugar can affect our bodies, but did you stop to think about how food can give you a proper pick me up? Instead of the temporary highs and inevitable sugar lows, add these foods to your nutritional feel-good strategy.

HOW TO BOOST YOUR MOOD WITH THESE 8 FOODS 1 FISH Fish contains high amounts of omega 3 fatty acids which your brain needs to function optimally. Increase your intake of oily fish such as salmon, sardines, mackerel and trout to alleviate anxiety and give you the upper hand on stress.

2 DARK CHOCOLATE Many of you will be happy to have this one on the list, and it’s not hard to understand why. A small square of dark chocolate can cause the brain to release endorphins and boost serotonin levels. Dark chocolate is also full of protein and fibre. Keep in mind that it must be 70% cocoa to be an effective mood booster.

3 PUMP UP YOUR MUSSELS Mussels are loaded with vitamin B12, which is great because it helps insulate your brain cells preventing degeneration. They also contain the trace nutrients of zinc, iodine and selenium which are all good at keeping your mood-regulating thyroid in shape.

4 BERRIES Berries are packed with antioxidants which are famous for brain health.

They’re also low on the glycemic index so you don’t have to worry about your sugar levels spiking. Their water and fibre content will keep you regular which automatically improves your mood but also your gut health. A

62

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

cup a day is all you need. Add them to smoothies, oatmeal and even ice cream.

5 OATS Oats is an effective mood booster because of their low glycaemic index as they slowly release energy into your bloodstream, which keeps your blood sugar levels stable. Oats also contain a mineral called selenium which is famous for its mood-boosting properties. Half a cup of oats is all you need to get a good head start, add some nuts or yoghurt for added protein.

6 WATER You might be surprised to see this one on the list, but water is important for overall body function. The smallest degree of water loss can impair your physical and mental wellbeing.

Dehydration can affect your ability to concentrate and the resulting fatigue won’t score you any good mood points. Aim for 1-2L of water per day.

Make things exciting by adding a slice of lemon, a sprig of fresh mint, cucumbers or strawberries.

8 BEANS & OTHER LEGUMES Beans and other legumes are packed with vitamin Bs, such as B6, B12, and folic acid—all of which help you to regulate your sleep-wake cycles and boost your natural levels of serotonin, a feel-good, relaxing hormone.

FOODS TO AVOID OR LIMIT Refined carbs, simple sugars, candy and soda might satisfy your taste buds, but they won’t help you in the long run. Avoid mood swings, fatigue and dehydration by decreasing your intake of caffeine, alcohol, sugar and refined white starches such as white rice, white bread and crackers.

7 HERBAL TEA Herbal teas such as chamomile have calming properties. Black, green and rooibos teas are also rich in antioxidants, which can relieve stress and lifts your spirits.

DID YOU KNOW? Foods can lift your mood and help you get some shut-eye. If you’re battling with insomnia or restless sleep, try bananas or some whole grains. Bananas are high in potassium which is essential for a good night’s rest. Whole grains encourage the production of insulin which in turn produces an amino acid which relaxes the brain. Feeling rested will also add to your general good mood, so get snacking!

Small and steady changes to your diet can have a huge impact on your overall mental health. Before you make any drastic changes to your diet, speak to your healthcare practitioner, especially if you have any chronic illnesses such as diabetes or high blood pressure.

Happy snacking!

ADVERTORIAL

LET’S SAVE THE WORLD AND OUR HEALTH WITH THE SUPERFOOD KNOWN AS

T

he first-ever World Pulses Day took place on 10 February 2019. This date will now be known as World Pulses Day every year going forward. As we have all learnt by now, pulses include dry peas, lentils, chickpeas and beans. Pulses are nutritious and sustainable sources of plantbased protein, a staple food for a healthier diet and planet.

People’s quest for alternative protein is driving innovation across several categories involving pulses, backed-up by a rise in vegan and vegetarian trends and an overall growth in meat-free food. People want products with alternative sources of protein as they turn away from traditional meat sources. People also want to focus on protein and fibre content, sugar reduction and weight management.

But let’s not only look at our own health and diet but rather the levels of malnutrition around the world, which are still unacceptably high. Ending global malnutrition is

pulses! within our reach. In fact, we have never been better placed to do it, as we have more knowledge and more data than ever before. But we must act now if we are to prevent a reversal in the progress that has already been made and this will require some critical steps to tackle the challenges we face.

The Global Nutrition Report is the world’s foremost account on the status of malnutrition around the world. Each year it acts as a stock take on the world’s nutrition globally, regionally and country by country, as well as on efforts to improve it. It tracks progress on global nutrition targets, ranging from diet-related non-communicable diseases to maternal, infant and young child nutrition.

Pulses are the answer!

AGT Foods Africa produces a full range of pulses and specialty crops including lentils, peas, chickpeas, beans and as well as food ingredients such as pulse flours, proteins, starches and fibres and spices.

Here is a delicious recipe from AGT Food’s World Pulse Day event:

The Great Canadian salad Ingredients • 1 cup (250 ml) cooked black beans • 1 cup (250 ml) cooked green lentils • 1 cup (250 ml) cooked chickpeas • 1 ½ cups (375 ml) cooked pearl barley • 1 bunch baby spinach • ½ cup (125 ml) dried cranberries, chopped • 2 tablespoons (30 ml) finely sliced green onion Dressing • ¼ cup (60 ml) apple cider vinegar • ¼ cup (60 ml) canola oil • 1 tbsp (30 ml) whole grain mustard • Salt and ground black pepper to taste • 2 tablespoons maple syrup

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

63

health & wellness | THE GOLDEN SPICE

64

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

health & wellness | THE GOLDEN SPICE

Turmeric,

THE GOLDEN SPICE: BENEFITS AND NUTRITION

By Mariza Halliday

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

65

health & wellness | THE GOLDEN SPICE

Y

ou might have seen those beautiful yellow turmeric lattes being whipped up in coffee shops, turmeric poached eggs being served for brunch and the magic golden spice being added to smoothies and ginger shots all around the world. What gives this new “it” ingredient, it’s rock-star status?

You might know Turmeric as the spice that gives your curry and Indian foods that bold yellow-orange pigment, but it also carries an impressive array of health benefits.

Turmeric is a herb plant that grows in India and Central America and is part of the ginger family. Sometimes called the Golden Spice or Indian Saffron, Turmeric has a long history in Ayurvedic medicine. In fact, it’s been used as a culinary spice and in

religious ceremonies in South East Asia for over 4,000 years. In Indian culture, the importance of turmeric goes far beyond medicinal purposes.

The Hindu religion sees turmeric as sacred and it is integrated deep into their culture. As a wedding day tradition, a string dyed yellow with turmeric paste, is tied around the bride’s neck by her groom. This is known as a Mangala sutra and indicates that the woman is married and capable of running a household.

It is a tradition that continues in Hindu communities today and has been compared to the Western exchange of wedding rings. A piece of the turmeric rhizome is worn as an amulet for protection against evil spirits in parts of Southern India.

In Buddhist culture, the beautiful Saffron-hued robes are dyed with Turmeric.

This ancient and widely celebrated spice with its multitude of uses, has resurfaced within the health and

nutrition communities thanks to Curcumin. Curcumin is the healing substance in Turmeric which supplies its vibrant colour and possesses significant anti-inflammatory and anti-oxidant properties.

A NATURAL ANTIINFLAMMATORY

Turmeric is such a powerful antiinflammatory that it matches the effectiveness of some western medicines like Ibuprofen, but without the side effects. It is also used to treat exercise-induced inflammation and muscle soreness, boosting recovery and performance in active people.

Arthritis is a common disorder where joint inflammation leaves patients in a lot of pain and discomfort. Many studies show that Curcumin can help treat symptoms of arthritis and is in some cases more effective than some western medicine.

GRADUALLY INCREASES THE BODY’S ANTIOXIDANT CAPACITY

The Curcumin in Turmeric is a powerful antioxidant that can protect the body from free radicals by neutralizing them,

66

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

BCM-95® The world’s most preferred bioavailable curcumin extract Bio-active for up to

8 hours Up to 7x increased absorption over regular curcumin extracts

Clinically proven.

BCM-95 ® 40 published studies

4

FAST RELIEF

Powerful

ANTIOXIDANT

Superior formula

Supports

HEALTHY INFLAMMATION response

GMO free SUGAR free GLUTEN free SOY free

Bio-Curcumin ® Curcugreen ®, the world’s most preferred bioavailable Curcumin, is 100% natural and quickly absorbed, with it’s proven benefits already being enjoyed by millions of people around the world. The reason for its attraction is simple. Curcumin, the active polyphenolic extract of turmeric root, is one of the best scientifically investigated plant compounds. However, Curcumin’s health benefiting properties depend on oral absorption. Now, Bio-Curcumin ® Curcugreen ® is a patented blend of the most bio-active and potent components of turmeric, notably, curcuminoids and ar-turmerone which are also free from artificial additives. Leading research shows that Bio-Curcumin ® Curcugreen ® has increased absorption and 7 x better bioavailability compared to standard curcumin extracts and is bioactive for up to 8 hours.The result is a high-potency formula, providing nutritional “gold” for the brain and superior support for a healthy inflammation response with joint mobility and flexibility benefits.

Bio-Curcumin ® with BCM95 ® is now the benchmark in potent curcumin supplementation for greater health and wellness.

Now available in South Africa at leading Pharmacies, Health Shops and Medical Practitioners For more information contact Coyne Healthcare: 021 421 9144 | info@coynehealthcare.co.za w w w. c o y n e - h e a l t h c a r e . c o m

Coyne Healthcare

BCM-95®

health & wellness | THE GOLDEN SPICE

thanks to its chemical structure.

Curcumin doesn’t only block free radicals; it also stimulates antioxidant mechanisms in your body.

IMPROVES BRAIN FUNCTION & LOWERS THE RISK OF BRAIN DISEASE

Curcumin boosts levels of certain brain hormones, which increases the growth of new neurons and fights various degenerative processes. It is great for improving overall cognitive health and function.

AIDS IN CONTROLLING DIABETES

Turmeric helps your body control glucose and augments the effects of medications used in the treatment of diabetes. This powerful herb can be used to supplement diabetes treatments, as it helps to moderate your insulin levels. It also decreases the body’s resistance to insulin, which can prevent Type 2 diabetes from developing.

68

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

HELPS LOWER CHOLESTEROL

High cholesterol levels can be detrimental to your health and overall wellbeing. Studies have shown that simply using Turmeric as a food seasoning can significantly lower your blood cholesterol levels. Keeping healthy cholesterol levels is essential to prevent cardiovascular issues and other serious health diseases, so taking this step may be very beneficial to lowering your risk of heart disease.

There are many benefits of incorporating this special spice into your daily diet. Whether through one of the excellent Turmeric natural supplements or adding this brilliant herb to your food.

In some cases, the impact may be minor, others, the benefits will be major. It is always worthwhile incorporating this healthy herb in your daily diet.

BUT IT CAN ONLY WORK IF IT’S ABSORBED

For all its amazing potential, there is a secret to getting all you need from turmeric: some of the valuable flavonoids, like curcumin, are not well absorbed by the body. Fortunately, curcumin’s absorption can be enhanced by more than 2000% with the addition of black pepper.

Astounding, but this goes a long way to explain why black pepper was such a valued spice in the dark ages as it aided in food preservation and the absorption of nutrients. Another way of improving the absorption of turmeric is by consuming it in dishes that contain dietary fats like coconut milk or ghee (clarified butter).

Hats off to the ancient, instinctive wisdom passed down through the ages from mother to child. *it should be noted that Turmeric is NOT without side effects, please consult with your healthcare practitioner.

G YOU N

RC FO

YEARS

HEALTH IN

Available at Dis-Chem, Clicks, other leading pharmacies and health shops, floraforce.co.za, faithful-to-nature.co.za, takealot.com

This unregistered medicine has not been evaluated by the SAHPRA for its quality, safety and intended use.

L,

GIN

URE IN FUL AT

Since 1989

Reducing inflammation is the best health investment you can make. Turmeric has been studied for its impact on inflammation more than any other herb.

The powerful benefits of turmeric and cayenne are magnified by black pepper in our unique formulation.

TurmerynneTM can be use as a therapeutic dose to treat inflammation or in a lower dose for maintenance.

E - BR IN

Being healthy later in life STARTS NOW

food & fitness | RECIPES

A Beautiful

Harvest

Warm your belly this autumn with these delicious and nutritious meals.

Italian Style Mussels in White Wine Sauce

Originally from Naples, mussels in white wine sauce is one of the most popular Italian recipes. The preparation is very easy and requires just a few ingredients. The quality of the mussels is critical, living mussels is preferable.

Ingredients (Serves 4) • 1.8 kg mussels • 1/2 cup (120 ml) white wine (alternatively, 1 tbsp squeezed lemon juice) • 1 bunch fresh parsley • 2 cloves of garlic • 4 tbsp extra-virgin olive oil • Italian bread (optional) • 1 tsp black pepper • 1 pinch of Himalayan pink salt Method How to select and clean mussels 1. T o avoid any foodborne illness, we strongly suggest buying live mussels from reputable suppliers. Once the mussels are cleaned and dead, you want to cook them as soon as possible, and anyway within a few hours.

2. S tore the living mussels in the fridge, in an uncovered glass bowl full of water.

3. J ust before cooking mussels, select them, and discard any broken mussel. Now, rinse and scrub the shells to eliminate any trace of seaweed or debris. Then take each mussel and gently pull the

70

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

little string (called byssus or beard) that sticks out from the shell and discarding it. Repeat this step for any mussel.

4. Finally, rinse the mussels thoroughly until the water is clear and store them in the fridge until you are ready to cook them.

5. Rinse and dry the bunch of parsley, then peel and lightly crush the cloves of garlic. Place the whole parsley and the garlic in a pot big enough to contain the mussels considering they will increase their volume once the shells open. Add the olive oil and the mussels, then cover with a lid and place the pot over high heat.

6. After 3 minutes, baste with white wine, then add the black pepper and a pinch of salt, stirring gently.

Cover again and cook for another 5 mins, until the mussels’ shells are open. After this time, if there are any unopened mussels discard them. If the unopened mussels are several, it is a sign of poor freshness. Do not try to force the unopened mussels, and do not eat them.

7. Finally, discard the parsley and serve the mussels in white wine sauce immediately, along with toasted Italian bread.

food & fitness | RECIPES

Creamy Carrot and Tomato Soup

Comfort food, made from scratch. This creamy carrot and tomato soup freeze beautifully!

Ingredients (8 servings) dairy free • Dairy free option: skip the Parmesan • 2 teaspoons Herbs de Provence and use coconut milk instead of cream • ¼ - ½ tsp cayenne pepper or half and half depending on how much of a •8 large carrots peeled and sliced kick you want • 6 large juicy tomatoes, diced (or place • Pink Himalayan salt and in food processor) pepper to taste • 3 cloves garlic minced • 4 tablespoon butter • 1 yellow onion chopped • ½ cup freshly grated • 1 tablespoon brown sugar Parmesan cheese (for • 1/3 cup cream or half and half or topping) coconut milk if you are dairy free • Packaged crispy onions • Rind of Parmesan cheese skip if you are • Olive oil Method 1. P lace the sliced carrots, 2T butter and 1 tablespoon olive oil in large stock pot and sauté on medium heat for 10 minutes.

2. A dd the chopped onion and another tablespoon olive oil and sauté for five more minutes. Vegetables should now be soft.

3. A dd minced garlic, sugar, Herbs de Provence and tomatoes.

4. C ut the rind off a Parmesan wedge, place rind in center of soup mixture. The rind will not dissolve and will be removed later.

5. C over and allow to simmer for 25 minutes.

6. R emove rind with a large spoon and discard.

7. P lace tomato carrot mixture in blender or use a hand blender to blend till smooth. Depending on the size of your blender, you may need to divide to blend.

8. P lace a screen colander over large bowl.

9. U sing a soup ladle scoop three ladleful’s of soup into screen colander, then use the back of the ladle to push soup through the screen, straining out all the skin and seeds. Do not skip this step!

10. Discard the solids and repeat till all soup is strained. Return strained soup to pot, add cream, cayenne pepper and remaining butter, reheat.

11. Salt and pepper to taste.

To serve pour into bowls and top with Parmesan and crispy onions.

72

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

food & fitness | RECIPES

Chilli Con Carne

This delicious family favourite, builds flavour after a day or two and you can easily turn this into beef nachos by serving the mixture over corn chips rather than rice.

Ingredients • Chilli Con Carne • 600g beef mince • 1 brown onion, finely diced • 2 teaspoons smoked paprika • 2 teaspoons dried oregano • 2 teaspoons onion powder • 1 teaspoon ground cumin • 1 teaspoon ground coriander chilli flakes or chilli powder a pinch (optional) • 1 cup corn kernels • 400g IMBO kidney beans • 3 tablespoons tomato paste • chopped tomatoes 400g can • 1 carrot, grated • 1 cup beef stock (gluten-free if required) • ½ cup grated cheese To Serve • ¼ cup sour cream • 2 tablespoons tomato sauce • ½ iceberg lettuce Method 1. P reheat oven grill to 200°C/high.

Set aside a large casserole/ baking dish (if you do not have an oven proof frying pan).

2. C ombine all rice ingredients in a medium-sized lidded pot and bring to the boil. As soon as it boils, cover with a tight-fitting lid and reduce to lowest heat to cook for 12 minutes. Turn off heat and leave to steam, still covered, for a further 8 minutes. Do not lift lid during cooking or steaming.

74

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

When rice has finished steaming, fluff up grains with a fork.

3. Heat a little oil in a large frying pan (preferably oven-proof) on a high heat. Cook beef mince and onion, breaking up mince with a wooden spoon as it cooks, for 7-8 minute, until browned. Add chilli spice mix (see recipe below) and chilli flakes/powder (if using) and cook for a further 1 minutes, until fragrant.

4. Add corn, beans, tomato paste, canned tomatoes, carrot and stock to pan. Bring to a simmer then reduce heat to low and simmer, stirring occasionally, for 9-12 minutes, until thickened.

Season to taste with salt and freshly ground black pepper.

5. While sauce is simmering, prepare the rest of the meal. In a small bowl, combine sour cream and tomato sauce and set aside.

Thinly slice lettuce and place in a serving bowl.

6. Sprinkle cheese over mince and place whole pan under grill for about 6 minutes, until cheese is bubbling and golden. If you don’t have an oven-proof frying pan, transfer mixture to an oven-proof dish before adding the cheese.

To serve, place Chilli Con Carne, rice, tomato sour cream and lettuce in the middle of the table for everyone to help themselves.

food & fitness | RECIPES

Yummy Lentil Brownies Fudgy lentil brownies, high in protein that doesn’t taste beany. Vegan, gluten-free recipe that can be nut-free. Use chickpeas for variation.

Ingredients (8 servings) • 1/2 cup IMBO red lentils • 3 tbsp oil • 3 tbsp maple syrup • 1/2 cup vegan chocolate chips • 4 tbsp raw sugar (1 tbsp more for sweeter) • 1/3 cup nut butter (we prefer cashew nut butter) • 1.5 tsp vanilla extract • 1/4 cup flour of choice white, oat or gluten-free blend for gluten-free (add a tbsp starch if using gf flour and not a blend) • 1/2 tsp salt • 1/2 tsp baking powder • 1/4 cup vegan chocolate chips to top and mix in.

Method 1. Line a brownie pan with parchment paper. Preheat the oven to 180ºc .

2. Rinse the red lentils. Drain and add to a saucepan. Add 1.5 cups of water and cook over medium heat. Cook for 12 to 13 minutes or until the lentils are cooked (total time including coming to a boil). Stir once in between. Cool for a few minutes, then drain any excess water from the saucepan (there should be hardly any) and add the lentils to a food processor. Process until somewhat smooth. (Or use a cup of cooked chickpeas instead) 3. Heat the maple syrup and oil in a skillet over medium heat. When hot add chocolate, sugar and mix. Take off heat. Continue to mix until chocolate is melted and well combined.

4. Add the melted chocolate and the rest of the ingredients to the food processor and process until a smooth batter. Add 1 tbsp Cocoa powder for darker brownies (depends on the chocolate used). Add spices such as cinnamon, or fold in chopped walnuts for variation.

5. Pour into prepared brownie pan. Sprinkle 2 tbsp chocolate chips on top and mix them in. Sprinkle more to top. (I like to use mini chocolate chips to top). Bake for 34 to 36 minutes. Bake them a bit longer for more set and crispier edges. Check with a toothpick from the center if too soft/wet.

6. Allow to cool for 15 minutes before slicing and serving.

Refrigerate for up to 4 days, freeze for later. The brownie texture improves after refrigeration for a bit. *You can use chickpeas in these brownies. Use 1 cup cooked. Bake until the edges are well set.

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

75

local travel | CRADLE OF HUMANKIND

78

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

local travel | CRADLE OF HUMANKIND

Ancestral paths revealed at the Cradle of Humankind South Africa is an endless land of discovery that often reveals and adds a new richness to our heritage every now and again.

Learn more about the evolution of humankind by taking a trip back into time at the Cradle of Humankind.

By Tamara Toti

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

79

local travel | CRADLE OF HUMANKIND

P

acked with historical and ancient fossils, the Cradle of Humankind is just 90min away from Johannesburg’s city centre and extends as far as the North West Province. This historical wonder may be made up of rocky highveld, but it’s a treasure trove of discovery for those with a love for the ancient and old. The list of things to do and sights to see is endless Get to dine in its tranquil surroundings, see a collection of both wildlife and exotic birds, or take part in the many sports offered.

Today South Africa has 10 World Heritage sites within its borders and the Cradle of Humankind is just one of these covering 47 000-hectares of land. This beautiful area is made up of the Sterkfontein Caves, Swartkraans, Komdraai and Environs and is famous for the many fossils that have been found here. The area is home to

80

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

17 000 residents, over 200 caves and about 13 fossil sites that provide evidence that human evolution began in Africa almost 3.5million years ago.

MAROPENG VISITOR’S CENTRE

Maropeng is a Setswana word meaning ‘returning to the place of origin’. Upon entering the centre you’ll

be greeted by a thrilling and worldclass exhibition that takes visitors on a journey tracking the evolution of humans through innovative and interactive storytelling methods. This is a self-guided tour that can take an hour and a half to three and is great for families with kids.

For prices and tour times, visit www.maropeng.co.za

local travel | CRADLE OF HUMANKIND

sectioned and opened to the public for the viewing of the excavation site.

Tours are available seven days a week, starting above the ground and going deep into the caves, visit www. thecradleofhumankind.net

WONDER CAVE

STERKFONTEIN CAVES

The Sterkfontein Caves is a worldfamous and a popular visitor’s destination. The caves are the richest in hominid fossils and fossilised fauna, wood and stone tools that tell of our

ancestors and how they used to live.

The caves are home to the earliest fossil discoveries of human ancestors, Mrs Ples and Little Foot. Nowadays the caves are owned by the University of Witwatersrand which they have

Just as the name suggests, Wonder Cave is a natural wonder surrounded by game farms with an abundance of both game and bird life. It’s situated in the internationally known valley Komdraai and is believed to be 2.2 million years old with the most beautiful dripstone formations and a bat population. This cave has an enormous single chamber that one enters from the side on an elevator that gives you the view of the beautiful rock formations inside.

Tours are available seven days a week with experienced guides along well-lit pathways. To book your tour, visit www. thecradleofhumankind.net

LION & SAFARI PARK

Nestled in the Cradle of Humankind, the Lion & Safari Park offers visitors an unforgettable wildlife experience.

Since moving to the Cradle of Humankind in 2016, the park has added some new activities and attractions to its offerings. When visiting the park guests can now look forward to self-drives, guided tours, cheetah encounters and hand feeding a selection of animals. You get the opportunity to get up close to some of Africa’s favourite animals and capture those memories at the photographic centre on site in a photobook, on mugs, keyrings and puzzles.

Visit www.lionandsafaripark.com to book your getaway.

82

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

THE CALL OF THE BERG…

CH A E B E H T R …O

FUN AND RELAXATION IS WITHIN YOUR REACH AT THE BERG OR THE BEACH! This is your personal invitation to experience the excitement and rejuvenation of Champagne Sports Resort and Pumula Beach Hotel.

Get away from it all and discover paradise!

Where friends and family meet

www.champagnesportsresort.com reservations@champagnesportsresort.com +27 (0)36 468 8000

www.pumulabeachhotel.com reservations@pumulabeachhotel.co.za +27 (0)39 684 6717

international travel | MAURITIUS

84

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

international travel | MAURITIUS

On the edge of paradise Exotic, idyllic and romantic Mauritius is praised as the perfect destination for honeymooners, beach lovers and couples, very few even consider this paradise as a family-friendly, holiday destination. This island is more than a romantic rendezvous it’s one of the most magical and charming places to visit.

By Tamara Toti

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

85

international travel | MAURITIUS

PREPARING FOR YOUR HOLIDAY

With a variety of travel packages available, Mauritius is just a flight away from all the major cities in South Africa. Plus with visa-free travel available to South Africans there’s no reason to not visit this island. This destination is great for outdoorsy families. Hotels are family-friendly with kids’ clubs that cater for children between the ages of three and 12, so whether you’re looking to bond with the kids, have time to yourself or take part in extreme water sports, you’ll be able to do all this and more.

The moment you land at Sir Seewoosagur Ramgoolam International Airport, you’ll be greeted by the diversity and friendly hospitality of it’s people. It is recommended that you exchange your Rands to local currency - the Mauritian Rupee - at the airport rather than the hotel. The language widely spoken by the locals is Creole, a French-based dialect but not to worry, English is spoken too.

The best time to visit Mauritius is during the summer season which is between May and December. A Mauritian summer allows for endless days on the beach and fun in the sun.

86

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

Expect hot and humid temperatures that go up to about 30°C. Be sure to pack light, comfortable clothes and shoes, swimsuits and sunscreen. Don’t forget the hat and of course your camera to capture those memories.

Travelling with kids sometimes can be quite stressful and one might need to visit the local hospital. Mauritian hospitals offer good medical services, in addition, hotels have made sure to have a nurse and doctor on call for emergencies.

MAURITIUS WITH THE FAMILY

One of the most popular must-visit

nature reserves on the island is Casela Nature Reserve, a 14-hectare park that forms part of the Yemen reserve that hosts two of the longest rivers to the island - Riviere du Rempart and Tamarin River. Not only is Casela a zoo where you can find most African mammals, big cats and exotic bird species; they offer fun and adventure to their visitors of all ages.

Choose from mud karting, canyoning or ziplining on one of the longest zip lines on the Indian Ocean.

If you would rather spend your days on the beach building sand castles and enjoying the warm weather, there are various activities

international travel | MAURITIUS

available to you to let you enjoy this part of Mauritius just as much. You could be treated to a glass bottom boat ride where you’ll experience the wonders of nature, go snorkelling where you could spot clownfish and parrotfish, to name a few. There’s everything from scuba diving, jet skiing and beach volleyball.

Whether you’ll be staying at the

88

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

Constance Belle Mare Plage or Heritage Le Telfair & Wellness Resort, which are among the top familyfriendly hotels, the concierge will be able to assist you with booking transport, activities and tours.

EXOTIC FOOD AND DRINK

Mauritian menus offer an exotic

selection of foods. Local cuisine boasts a diversity with a mixture of Indian, Chinese, Creole and Frenchinspired dishes. The drinks menu is just as exciting with Bois Cheri tea, the vanilla flavour is a firm favourite among the island’s people. And you are not to miss out on the Litchi wine.

Yes, we said it - Litchi wine!

Mauritius’ diverse history has created an island made up of a uniqueness that can be experienced through every interaction with the locals and attraction that you visit.

You’ll be enthralled the moment you fly over the stunning landscape and realize that you have made the right decision to holiday there.

A FAMILY HOLIDAY LIKE NO OTHER.

K id s t r ave l for f r e e w it h M S C C r u i s e s! E ac h c h i ld u nde r t he a ge of e ig hte e n s h a r i ng a c abi n w it h t he i r p a r e nt s t r ave l s f r e e of c h a r ge * . W h i le on b o a r d you c a n e nj o y a c a r e f r e e vo y a ge , e x plor i ng t he mo s t b e aut i f u l de s t i n at ion s b y s e a a nd r e s t a s s u r e d t h at you r c h i ld r e n w i l l b e e nte r t a i ne d a nd t a ke n c a r e of f r om t he mome nt t he y s te p on - b o a r d .

O u r v a r ie d K id s’ P r o g r a m me s i nc lude f a m i l y a nd s up e r v i s e d ac t i v it ie s , e xc it i ng e nte r t a i n me nt a nd s o c i a l e ve nt s t a i lor -m ade for fou r s e p a r ate a ge g r oup s . A l l c h i ld r e n s’ ac t i v it ie s a nd e nte r t a i n me nt a r e i nc lude d i n you r c r u i s e f a r e! Pl a n you r ne x t f a m i l y hol id ay on M S C C r u i s e s .

A l l me a l s , ac c om mo d at ion a nd e nte r t a i n me nt a r e i nc lude d i n t he f a r e – R 3 0 0 0 s e c u r e s you r c a bi n!

C a l l u s on 0 87 63 0 03 3 3 or v i s it u s on m s c c r u i s e s .c o. z a to f i nd out mor e .

Up to 2 kids under 18 years* travelling in the same cabin as their parents on local departures, cruise free only paying the mandatory charges. This offer is subject to the availability of 4 berth cabins. Not valid on Grand Voyage or international departures. For a detailed overview of all fares please visit our website www.msccruises.co.za.

Sheer Driving Pleasure

parenthood | DADDY DIARIES

92

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

parenthood | DADDY DIARIES

TOXIC SHOCK

By Alasdair Cunningham

T

he world’s a confusing place, and as my favourite Dude says there’s “a lotta ins, lotta outs, lotta what-have-you’s.”

If you believe half of what you see on the news, then we are all at each other’s throats, but in the real world, the one which we live in? Everyone’s just trying to put one foot in front of the other and keep on truckin’.

But sometimes something comes along that gets us all talking ( not for long mind you, things of this ilk are like buses, there will be another one along in a few minutes) and splits us in two. This one was about razors.

Now, I have a beard, so I don’t have an opinion on the merits of their product, but I am a father, and I do have boys, so the questions raised around “ toxic masculinity “ are genuine to me.

Do I think the company has a vested interest in making us the best we can be? No. No, I don’t. I mean, let’s face it, this is the company that had ladies dressed in skin-tight, brand approved pants, with their logo stretched across their derrières.

Subtle? Nah. Not so much. The same Heads of Department were in place that endorsed that campaign as green-lit this one. I’m cynical, grumpy, hell, I was born an old man writing angry letters to the editor, so in my humble opinion, they’re only doing this because the marketing department said it would increase the bottom line.

What’s different? The times baby, they are a-changin’, and all the cool

kids are doing it.

But by doing this and upping the moral factor in advertising, and no matter how cynical I find it, we’re calling out bad behaviour, turning over rocks, and kicking what dwells beneath out into the sunlight to be exposed. And I’ll go you one better, if the company that nailed their colours to the mast starts pumping millions and millions of their profits into shelters for abused woman and children, who are the first-hand and fists recipients of toxic masculinity, then good on them. That will show the world they have a genuine interest, instead of lining the pockets of the board, patting themselves on the backs, and looking all smug at a job well done. Put your money where your mouth is.

Now, all this being said, it doesn’t mean I don’t agree with the message, I do agree, all the way; I don’t particularly like the messenger.

As a dad, I have to lead by example; I have to be a role model. Why? Because the way I interact in this world, the way I communicate with the people of this world are going to be mirrored by my sons; for good or for ill.

I’m not perfect, and my lads aren’t angels; I grew up in a small industrial town awash with toxic everything, and it took me years to work out what it meant to be a ‘man’. They see me, dad, a male, and they learn that as a male this is how they are supposed to be, supposed to act. If that male is toxic and has a nasty outlook, then that’s how they are going to portray

themselves to society when they are bigger.

Sadly, the portrayal is often one of aggression, misogyny and sexism, all the lowest common denominators you could find. We’re not all like this, not at all, but it’s out there. Here’s a tiny example of toxic masculinity at its finest/worst.

I overheard a parent talking to his son in front of his coach, “ Hey, son, coach tells me you’ve got arms like a girl, that they’re weak, and that you swing like a girl.” I not only felt sorry for the boy, who was standing there with his head down and his face on fire, but I felt sorry for the Neanderthal’s daughter who was standing there too. Imagine what she was thinking? What? Am I not good enough? Why is my brother better than me? Because he’s a boy?

Why am I’m supposed to be weak?

Am I weak? How does that work? I was at a loss for words. Completely.

Luckily the coach stepped in and left the ‘ Parent ‘ with his head down, and his face on fire. I shiver to think what gets said behind closed doors.

Now, why did the dad say that in the first place? Because dollars to doughnuts, he was raised that way and spoken to that way as a child.

Healthy? Nope. It’s sad really. It doesn’t make him tough, or more of a man, it just forges an endless chain of toxicity. We need to break that chain and show our kids a better way by giving them healthier alternatives and removing the muscle-memory of our previous bad behaviour. It’s a start.

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

93

essentials | BOOKS

Autumn READS A legacy, hilarious animal antics and a guide to the story of space featured in this season’s top reads.

JUNGLE JAMBOREE JO EMPSON

3-6

Who will be crowned the most beautiful of all at the Jungle Jamboree? Lion, Leopard, Hippo, Zebra? The jungle creatures all try to change themselves in this beautiful book, bursting with wild splashes of colour and hilarious animal antics. But Fly has a surprise in store -soon the animals learn that they are lovely just the way they are, and that kindness is the most beautiful thing of all.

Hard cover | R150 Penguin Random House

Billy and the Minpins (colour edition) Roald Dahl

Billy’s mum says he must never go out through the garden gate and explore the dark forest beyond. So, one day, that’s exactly what he does! There he meets the Minpins, tiny tree-dwelling people whose children are the size of matchsticks. They live in fear of the terrible, galloping GRUNCHER. Will it gobble Billy too - or can he find a way to defeat the hungry beast?

Softcover | R175 Penguin Random House

94

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

6-9

9-12 Space Race

Ben Hubbard

As the 50th anniversary of the Apollo 11 Moon landing approaches in July, children can now experience the mind-blowing technology and trailblazing science that took humans into space and discover everything there is to know about space exploration today and in the future.

Space Race is a comprehensive and richly illustrated guide to the story of space exploration, from the time of the first satellites to future missions to Mars.

Annotated photographic feature spreads highlight key spacecraft such as Vostok1, the International Space Station, the Space Shuttle and the Hubble Space Telescope.

Detailed step-by-step features explain the science behind each mission clearly and simply.

Hard cover| R200 Penguin Random House

essentials | BOOKS

SPICE ODYSSEY CARIEMA ISAACS

Love for Imperfect Things Haemin Sunim

Many of us respond to the pressures of life by turning inwards and ignoring problems, sometimes resulting in anxiety or depression.

Others react by working harder at work, at school or at home, hoping that this will make ourselves and the people we love happier.

But what if being yourself is enough? Just as we are advised on airplanes to take our own oxygen first before helping others, we must first be at peace with ourselves before we can be at peace with the world around us.

In this beautiful follow-up to his international bestseller The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, Buddhist monk Haemin Sunim turns his trademark wisdom and kindness to self-care, arguing that only by accepting yourself – and the flaws which make you who you are -can you have compassionate and fulfilling relationships with your partner, family and friends.

Hardback | R199 Penguin Random House

‘Spices weaved their way into my kitchen and somehow my collection seems to flourish regardless of the homes and locations I’ve lived in.’

From the author and chef of Cooking for my father in My Cape Malay Kitchen, comes a cookbook that chronicles her adulation and reverence for spices. Cariema Isaacs’s affinity for spices emanates from her Cape Malay heritage and her time spent cooking and baking in her grandmother’s kitchen in Bo-Kaap, the Cape Malay Quarter in Cape Town. Thus, at a very early age she understood the tastes derived from cumin and coriander, the pungency of fennel, cloves and star anise, and the piquancy of chilli powder, cayenne pepper and masala blends.

Spice Odyssey showcases a multitude of beautifully written recipes with some familiar spices from her Cape Malay heritage and fresh aromatics from her travels to India, Turkey, Malaysia, Sri Lanka and the Middle East.

Soft cover | R350 Struik Lifestyle

The Unwinding of the Miracle Julie Yip-Williams

Born blind in Vietnam, Julie Yip-Williams narrowly escaped euthanasia planned by her grandmother, only to have to flee the political upheaval of the late 1970s with her family. Loaded into a rickety boat with three hundred other refugees, Julie made it to Hong Kong and, ultimately, America, where a surgeon gave her partial sight. Against all odds, she became a Harvardeducated lawyer, with a husband, a family, a life. Then, at the age of thirty-seven, with two little girls still at home, Julie was diagnosed with terminal metastatic colon cancer, and a different journey began.The Unwinding of the Miracle is the story of a vigorous life refracted through the prism of imminent death. Motherhood, marriage, ambition, love, wanderlust, tennis, grief, jealousy, anger, comfort, pain, disease -this is a book about a life lived well and cut cruelly short. With glorious humour, bracing honesty and the cleansing power of well-deployed anger, Julie has set the stage for her final legacy: the story of her life.

Inspiring and instructive, delightful and shattering, this is not just a tale about cancer. It’s about truth and honesty, fear and pain, our dreams, our jealousies and our anger. And it’s about how to say goodbye to your children and a life you love

Paperback | R320 Penguin Random House

96

absolute mama | ISSUE 3

The new Nova crossover Folds into your life

Turn every future step into an adventure with the hands-free folding Nova.

Available at leading baby stores www.facebook.com/MaxiCosiSA sales@brandsafrica.co.za Tel: 041 811 3355 for Trade Enquiries