Wedding Issue Special

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Marriage: one among the 16 "sanskars" in life

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arriage is one of the most important days in the life of everyone. So elaborate plannining is needed to make it memorable. The wedding market has also geared up to meet all your needs.

A marriage not only celebrates the union of two souls but also of two families. A Hindu marriage ceremony consists of 'saptapadi', those golden seven steps that is the foundation for a successful married life.

Together the couple chant: "Sakhaa sapta padi bhava sakhyam te gameyam sakhyam te mayoshah sakhyam te mayoshtah..."

(With these seven steps you have become my friend..

May my friendship make me one with you. May your friendship make you one with me.)

Ancient Hindu prince Yudhishtira revealed this "secret" about 4,000 years ago. In an episode known as Yaksha Prashna in the Aranya Parva of that great epic, the Mahabharata, a divine being challenged the prince in exile to answer some questions, satisfactory answers to which may help restore the lives of his “dead” brothers. One of the questions the Yaksha asked Yudhishtira was "kimsvin mitram grhesatah?" i.e. Who is the friend of a householder? To which the prince answered "bhaaryaa mitram grhesatah," i.e., the friend of a householder is his spouse. According to Hindus, therefore, the basis for marriage is friendship and such friendship is the understanding, the promise and the commitment that unites a man and a woman.

Though the rate of divorce is on the rise worldwide, still marriage is the best option available for the human race to continue to grow.

The institution of marriage is beneficial to the society as a whole, because it is the foundation of the family, which in turn is the fundamental building block of the society.

It is said that marriages are made in heaven and celebrated on earth. While the concept of marriage remains the same across the globe, the way of solemnising it differs extensively.

The big fat Indian wedding is of course here to stay.

Of late, it is to “out-do” the last big wedding, Welcome to the 21st century wedding where it is so much more!!!

“Estimated at a whopping Rs 1,90,000 crore (£22.21bn), the big fat Indian wedding industry, when all of us want the big day in a big way. It is because we all feel that getting children married in a nice way, is but our duty.

However "Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a silver sixpence in her shoe” is not today’s scene. Wedding means not wishing for blenders, toasters, coffee makers, for the trousseau of a bride. But now, it stands for an elaborate affair, which require a considerable amount of detail and attention. When it comes to Gujarat Samachar | Asian Voice | 2011

planning a wedding, modern couples take matters into their own hands, or place them into the trusted hands of wedding planners. Although the modern wedding resembles those in traditional fairy tales, technology has changed the planning, preparation and process..

For many engaged couples, wedding planning software has become a beloved new friend. And nowadays not only the NRI parents but also the children want to wed in their hometown and native.

So make it memorable and have it the way you want it. Celebrate it in the most fantastic way but if you care for the planet, why not integrate your principles into your big day? Décor with a theme that is environmentfriendly and organic. Create a scrap book to which friends and relatives can add poems, drawings, pictures, or anecdotes of bride and groom. Create an online donation registry, where you can donate the leftout money from the budget to a suitable charity.

Weddings are not just about what you want, it's also about who you are. So enjoy your wedding with loved and dear ones. This magazine will ensure you can make a perfect plan for your Big day.

My team has worked very hard to ensure this magazine can ease out some of the most difficult decisions for you.

So enjoy and read for a happy & successful married life ahead.

Best Wishes CB Patel Publisher/Editor Gujarat Samachar & Asian Voice

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Radisson Blu Resort Goa Cavelossim Beach

Location: The Radisson Blu Resort Goa Cavelossim Beach —an opulent blend of Goan and Portuguese culture and architecture. The Resort being enviably located at Goa’s most serene “Cavelossim Beach” nestled amidst lush gardens and rising palm trees, is not even an hour’s drive from Dabolim International Airport.

Exciting shopping opportunities, enjoyment, culture and relaxing walks are just around the corner.

offer amongst many other things free access to wireless broadband, a coffee/ tea maker, a minibar and an electronic safe to store valuables with space for a laptop.

Guests enjoy free access to fitness club. All the room prices include a sumptuous breakfast buffet.

Health & Recreation: At Radisson Blu Goa, we have devised a variety of Signature treatments, western treatments and traditional Indian therapies to establish the ultimate in relaxation & rejuvenation or visit our Unisex Salon and get a new look.

The resort offers a modern and inviting workout area for the guest. State of the art cardio vascular machines and treadmills are on hand as well as personal trainer.

Restaurants & Bar: The resort features specialty cuisine restaurants with unmatched state-of-art ambience. Lucio offers authentic Goan delicacies while Upper Deck operates round the clock to serve the guests and also features interactive kitchens. Sagres the lounge bar serves the best of local and imported wines and spirits along with signature cocktails and mocktails with tapas style snacks in a buffet setup.

Conferences & Events: The Radisson Blu Goa is equipped to cater for the new conference culture with our grand conference facility, which also portrays rich Goan culture and Art Deco style. We offer a conference and event venue with every conceivable type of modern technology, freedom of choice and comfort.

Here you can choose from rooms of different shapes and sizes, which are all on the same floor. All our guests have access to a free internet connection as well as a Business Centre.

The Rooms: Elegantly furnished 132 rooms and suites in the resort beautifully exhibits the Goan — Portuguese Architecture and are skillfully blended with Modern luxury and unique designs to provide absolute comfort. These rooms come complete with all modern amenities and high end services.

All the rooms are at least 36m2 ranging to 76m2 in size with individual air conditioning/ climate control and www.abplgroup.com

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Tie the knot in a charter plane: Make your wedding most talked about • Purvi Apurva Shah

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heme wedding is the fast growing trend among brides and grooms, when they have all the right to make a real impression on their big day, something that will be talked about and remembered for years to come. The family members also want a gala grand celebration. Nobody nowadays are ready to settle for anything ordinary.

Tying the knot thousands of feet high above the earth can be the most extraordinary.. Wedding while you fly, even the guests have a life-time experience with music, dance, food everything on board. Well, it’s expensive but everything is fair in love and wedding. NRI's coming to Gujarat can have this privilege, such services are available now.

After all its an NRI wedding, has to be different.

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In one of such wedding, during sangeet sandhya, with “vrindavan” theme, all the guests were taken in a bullock cart from entrance to the stage, they pass across the village like ambience done on the field.

Ladies in rural clothing making “Rotlas” and one side and were making “Chaas.”in a traditional manner.

Enter the venue in a helicopter

Another theme is the grand entry of groom at the wedding venue in a helicopter, aeroplane or anything that the groom demands. He is the king on the wedding day and the family readily agrees to whatever the bride or groom wants.

If “Varraja” wants to make an exclusive entry, tailored wedding flight services are now available in Gujarat. Now NRIs can come flying and enter at the wedding venue. Landing right at the venue, sounds simply great. An unforgettable entry or exit will add the ultimate touch of style. He can also arrive in a limousine that is specially decorated. And if you want the typical Indian traditional style, it’s a traditional horse drawn carriage or vintage car.

You are check-mated

You have found your mate, now its time to check the life ahead with her. Life is a chess, play skillfully. “Décor is like chess board with black and white checkered floor, bride and groom land on the stage from the height of 40 ft with the focus light on them,” says wedding event manager Pankil Kadiya of “a 4 you” co. He adds, “In Arabian theme wedding, groom wears Arab robe instead of sherwani” and instead of flowers, we use candles everywhere.

Mandap, chori and stages are shaped like an umbrella and lotus. Peacock backdrop just looks mesmerizing.

Go rural and enter in bullock-cart

“You are a King”

Latest funda is ‘Jaan’ (baraat) arriving in bullock carts. Recently such an NRI wedding took place in Savarkundala where 30 decorated bullock carts carried Jaan to set a unique example of “Gamthi” style.

Another example is NRI Vinodbhai Patel who wanted her daughter’s wedding to be held in their native Gujarat and that too in a typical village theme styled wedding.

His daughter who was born in London and brought up in USA also wanted such typical wedding. In order to preserve our heritage and culture, he opted for a wedding in village with village décor. He had invited many foreigners from abroad to come and enjoy the wedding, a chance for them to come closer to village life of India. Shahpur town was decorated like a dulhan. www.abplgroup.com

“I wanted something very special for my husband to be, he has to be made to feel like a king on his D-day, and anyway he thinks that he is a king,” says a bride jokingly.

And that’s why we settled for Jodha-Akbar style wedding.

A resident of Bhagwatnagar in Ahmedabad had a unique wedding, with bride dressed as Jodha and groom as Akbar. The groom sat on a decorated elephant to arrive at the wedding venue with decorated horses also joining in the jaan to make it a “Shahi” style wedding.

Flower dropping from the sky

How about flowers dropping on you from the sky?

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AME GUJARATI !!!

Experience the real taste of Gujarat...

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rmaan Associates offers you the appetizing taste of Gujarati food. An attraction for foreigners as this restaurant – “Ame Gujarati” - is a place with rural Gujarati ambience and over and above it serves a very typical Gujarati food. It caters a taste that can be called a home- made Gujarati cuisine. Gujarati cuisine is very vibrant, tasty and wholesome. The vast array of dishes are all very distinct and unique and will tickle and tantalize the taste buds taking on a culinary journey that Gujaratis and non-Gujaratis both will enjoy.

Gujaratis are passionate about food! From the simplest ‘kadhi’ (curd based dish, served with rice), to the multi flavored ‘oondiyu’ (signature dish in which mixed vegetables are cooked in low flame with special spices), can offer something new to the taste buds!

Lovelish Mehta, Managing Director of Armaan Associates, says, “we are the first to come up with this type of an outlet. Now women are free to work without the tension of making food as we will be providing homemade food at our outlet. Our outlet is Gujarati themed. Here typical Gujarati food is available in

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microwave containers. Typical sweets, farsans, food, etc all you will get from here. The main benefit is that these items are available according to your requirements.”

With the food available in microwave containers, it is ready to eat and easy to enjoy. Here every type of rotlas, 10-12 traditional vegetables, special items from all over Gujarat, traditional pickles, typical festival foods, etc are all available.

“Keeping new generation in mind we are offering mix of traditional food and urban snacks such as bhakhari pizzas.Which has options of 4 types of bhakhri -butter, plain, masala and cheese. Such other combo offers are also available.

Mr Mehta said, “we are planning for the franchisees and a range of farari items are in the pipeline. We are planning for home delivery systems and membership card system also for the convenience of our customers.

The retail outlet is fully computerized and will have trained staff. With people becoming brand conscious, our food is hygienic and economical also.”

“Ame Gujarati” is an ideal place for NRIs to come and enjoy the typical Gujarati delicacies.

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colors to coordinate with the colors on the backdrop of the stage. Narayani Resorts had arranged for such theme where they had digged the floor to create fountains and a stage that was 40 ft high and 60 ft wide with a beautiful Taj Mahal.Ankit Bundela and Rajiv Gupta of Narayani resort says “We were the first one to introduce crystal theme wedding, in which decor is full of crystals all around.

Even chori is fully Photo courtesy: Gandhi corporations made of crystals. One of the amazing NRI wedding was when they were very keen on banquet wedding and we wanted to give them llawn wedding, as we know by experience that lawn wedding come out the best. They were not ready to change their mind, neither we were going to change. So we planned out such a wedding where it will be Banquet-lawn croosover. We created whole banquet on the Lawn itself. It looked like a real banquet and they were overjoyed".

This is a reality now in Gujarat. Wouldn't it be lovely to accentuate this moment with flowers drop from the sky?

As the pilot nears the venue, he simply turns off the engine. At the appropriate moment he drops loads of flowers onto the wedding party. What a better way to start the D-day of your life? You are tying the knot and vow!

Royal wedding

Rajwada theme-lined wedding adds warmth to the traditional welcome. This is in addition to the Food court gaiety of the lantern lit pathways all table made along the route. The groom can out of ice majestically enter the venue mounted either on an elephant, a camel, a carriage driven by horses or a cavalcade of cars.Rajwada theme has a darbar and lot of sainik in attendence.

Food court table made out of ice

“Recently we did a wedding with ice-carving theme.

Even though the cost comes to nearly Rs 90,00,000 but it was simply beautiful, a concept which leaves people wondering. One just feels as if they are around icebergs, with lot many ice piles around, even the food court had a huge table made only out of ice,” says theme designer Dimple Raval.

Chouki Dhani arranges theme weddings and designer wedding like Floral Theme, Darbar Garh Theme, Colour Theme, Fusion Theme, Mughlai Theme or you name it and their expert designers and event managers are there to turn your thought into reality and that to according to your pocket.

As if you married ages back

Vintage Hollywood means different things to different people (a lot depends on your age). It could mean the fabulous 1940s with black and white photography, vintage Hollywood stars like Audrey Hepburn and Humphrey Bogart, pearls, feathers, bird cage veils and more.

Take saat phera in jungles of Africa

Taj Mahal themed wedding

Chances are you were attending one of those premium theme weddings in Gujarat that transport guests into a different world. Move over traditional songs and dances, it is time to exchange rings in a Roman amphitheatre, take the 'saat phera' amid the jungles of

A giant 10-foot Taj Mahal ice sculpture set in between two crystal columns adorned the stage.

Placed in thewedding hall were four different kinds of centerpieces. Two were tall vases that lit up in different

Taj Mahal themed wedding

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Africa or the desert sands of Arabia. And, people are ready to pay, with packages ranging from anything between Rs 300,000 and 15,00,000 for a theme.

Gandhi decoraters specializes in themes, they can put up venue with Spanish, Roman or Chinese theme any other theme that you fancy. You name it and they have it. Since years they have been in this field.

Palace wedding

The grand palaces and forts of Gujarat which are transformed into heritage hotels serve as the perfect venues for royal weddings. These hotels and inns were originally the old palaces and forts of the kings and Thikanedars. Some of the heritage hotels present in Gujarat are Balram Palace Resort, Palanpur. Another sought after palace is the Nilambagh Palace Hotel of Bhavnagar which is another personification of culture and tradition.Other famous forts and palaces of Gujarat My story theme

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are Uparkot Fort, Kusum Vilas Palace, Nazar Bagh Palace and the majestic and tall Dabhoi Fort. The Lakhota Fort and the Kotha Bastion are popular buildings of the medieval age in the middle of Jamnagar.

These places can also at times organize royal weddings.

My story theme

When Khushi Shah and Babshi Shah got married, they opted for such a theme that revolves round real life. The venue was decorated by innumerable photographs, some of them life size with a small story to tell. A DJ calls out on stage each of their relative, give an introduction and their connection with the bride.

Choreographed dance that is a story like, an anchor talks a lot describing the bride, her feelings, her hopes and life after marriage. “The theme should be such that speaks life and instead of glamorous décor, props reflecting life of bride and groom, connectivity and interaction between family, society and new married couple,” says designer Meeta.

East meets West

With food catering usually Indian mixed with lot of western food varieties, Grand Bhagwati hotel plans for a variation where non-veg items can be made vegetarian.

Marriages are made in heaven, blessed on earth, celebrated with wedding bells decorations. Our decorations cost less, last longer in your memories & looks better.

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ગુજરાતમાં લગ્ન પ્રસંગે ગવાતાં વવનોદગીતોઃ ફટાણાં મયયાદયવયળય ફટયણયં આપવયનો ઉપક્રમ રયખ્યો છે. લગ્નની એક વવવિ વર અને કન્યયને પીઠી ચોળવયની અને જડ વયસવયની છે. વવવિ વખતે કુટુંબની બહેનો હયજર રહેલયં ફૂઆ-ફઈબયની ફટયણયં ગયઈને મીઠી મશ્કરી કરે છેઃ ફઈબાને ફૂમકિયાળી સાડી, તોયે ફઈની અડધી ફાંદ ઉઘાડી, ફૂઆને ડગલો ને વળી ટોપી, તોય ફૂઆ વાળે છે રે લંગોટી... લગ્નવયળય વર-કન્યયનય ઘેર ઉકરડી નોતરવયમયં આવે છે. આમ ઉકરડી શેરીની દેવી મનયય છે. લગ્ન વખતે કુટબ ું ની બહેનો અને દીકરીઓ શેરીનય નયકે સયવિયો દોરી સવય રૂવપયો ને સોપયરી મૂકી, ઊકરડીની લિયપનય કરે છે. એ વખતે લત્રીઓ એકલી જ હોવયિી ઉઘયડયં ફટયણયં ગયઈને આનંદ મયણે છેઃ મારા વાડામાં અરણી રે તલબેલાં લ્યો અમરસંગને અઘરણી રે તલબેલાં લ્યો વાડામાં વવહાણા તલબેલાં લ્યો, બાર બચ્ચાં આવ્યાં તલબેલાં લ્યો ત્રણ વાસે નાહ્યા તલબેલાં લ્યો, સઅડિ સાડી પહેરી તલબેલાં લ્યો ઘમ્મર ઘાઘરો પહેયો​ો તલબેલાં લ્યો, ટચરિ ટીલડી ચોડી તલબેલાં લ્યો મસરિ માથાં ગુંથ્યાં તલબેલાં લ્યો, દેવલા પૂજવા હાલ્યા તલબેલાં લ્યો પૂજતા પૂજતા પાદયા તલબેલાં લ્યો, ભરૂરૂર દેવલા ભાગ્યા તલબેલાં લ્યો આંગણે મંડપયરોપણ િઈ ગયય પછી કુટુંબની બયઈઓ ગીતો ગયતી ગયતી ગયમનય પયદરમયં રહેતય કુંભયરનય ઘરે ચયકડો વિયવવય જાય છે. ચયકડો સજાનનું પ્રતીક છે. વરકન્યયનય કુટુંબ જીવનની વેલ્ય વિતી રહે તેવી ભયવનય એની પયછળ છે. એ વખતે કુંભયર અિયાત્ ઓઝયની મશ્કરી કરતયં વવનોદ ગીતો (ફટયણયં) ગવયય છેઃ ઓઝાની આંખ્ય આવી રે, ઓઝા સોગવિયા ઈને ઓહડ બતાવો, ઓઝા સોગવિયા મહીં આંિડાની ડાળ, મહીં લીમડાની ડાળ મહીં તેલ પળી, મહીં લહણ િળી મહીં મરચું મેલો રે, ઓઝા સોગવિયા... જૂનય કયળે ગયમડયમયં વરરયજાની જાડી જાન જોડયતી. જાનમયં લગ્નગીતો ને ફટયણયંની ગયનયવરયું બહેનોને જાનવડયું તરીકે જોડે લઈ જવયતી. વરરયજા પરણવય બેસે ત્યયરે મયંડવય પક્ષની બહેનો અને જાનમયં આવેલી બહેનો વચ્ચે લગ્નગીતો ને ફટયણયંની રમઝટ બોલતી. કન્યય પક્ષ તરફિી ફટયણયં યુદ્ધનો આરંભ િયો. એનું પ્રિમ વનશયન વરરયજા ભણી તયકવયમયં આવતુંઃ ક્યાંથી લાવ્યા રે, ક્યાંથી લાવ્યા રે, આ ભાદરવાના ભીંડા જેવો ક્યાંથી લાવ્યા રે, આ હળની હાલ્ય જેવો ક્યાંથી લાવ્યા રે, આ ચોમાસાના ચીભડાં જેવો ક્યાંથી લાવ્યા રે... પહોંચેલી જાનવડયું ઉત્સાહભેર જવાબ વાળેઃ રાખી મેલ્યો’ તો, રાખી મેલ્યો’ તો, તમારી શેડાળી છોડીની સારું, અમે રાખી મેલ્યો’ તો... કન્યયની સવહયરો કહે અમયરી દીકરી તો દેવકન્યય છે, સયંભળોઃ રતનબા ચાંદાનું ચાંદરણું રે, માવસંગ જમાઈ વગડાનું વાંદરડું રે રતનબા પાણીડાં ભરવા ગ્યાં’તાં રે, માવસંગ જમાઈ પખાલી થઈને ગ્યાં’તાં રે જમાઈડે બહુ રે િલ્પના િીધી, ત્યારે અમે દેવિન્યા દીધી... આ રમૂજભયુ​ું ગીત પૂરું િયય ન િયય ત્યયં તો દેવકન્યય વરવય આવેલય જમયઈરયજને પહેલયં તો કૂતરી હયયયે પરણયવી દેવયયઃ ઓલ્યા બેચરભાઈ બાળ િુંવારા હો મારુજી... ક્યારા માયલો િેવડો. એમને િૂતરી હાયયે પરણાવો હો મારુજી... ક્યારા માયલો િેવડો. એને િેમ િરી છેડાછેડી બાંધો હો મારુજી... ઓલ્યા માવસંગ જમાઈની મૂંછડી ને િુત્તીબાઈની પૂંછડી એમ િરી છેડાછેડી બાંધો હો મારુજી... ઈ તો િેમ િરી બોલડાં બોલે હો મારુજી... િુત્તીબાઈ ભવસયાં ને બેચર જમાઈ હવસયા હો મારુજી... જમાઈરાજ પછી વેવાઈનો વારો નીિળેઃ એિ સૂયો ને સૂતળી મંગાવો રે, ઓલ્યા નટુભાઈનું નાિ વવંધાવો રે

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લફટયયો ફયગણ િરતી પરિી વવદયય લે ન લે ત્યયં તો ચૈતર વૈશયખનય વયયરય ઝકોળય લેવય મયંડે છે. આમ્રઘટયઓ કોયલોનય કુંજનિી ગુંજી ઊઠે છે. ઢોલ-શરણયઈનો અવયજ સયંભળતયં જ જોબવનયયનય ઝરૂખે બેસી લગ્નની વયટવડયું જોતયં જુવયનડયઓ અને જુવતીઓનયં હૈયયમયં આનંદનય રંગસયવિયય પુરયય છે. ઉવમાઓનો અવબલ-ગુલયલ ઊડવય મયંડે છે. લગ્નનું મુહૂતા નક્કી િયય એટલે સૌરયષ્ટ્રનય ગયમડયંઓમયં લગ્નનો પ્રસંગ કુટુંબનો મટીને સમગ્ર ગયમનો સવહયયરો ઉત્સવ બની જાય છે. લગ્ન આડે િોડી વરિું (વદવસ) બયકી રહે ત્યયં તો આંગણું, ઓશરી અને ટોડલય મયટે નમણી નયરીઓનયં ટેરવયં ટહુકવયં મયંડે છે. ઓળીપયની અવનવી ભયતોિી ઓરડય અજવયળયય છે. ઓશવરયું લહેવરયય ભયતની ઓકળીિી અરિી ઊઠે છે. બજારની પછીત, વંડી, ખડકી કે ડહેલીની કોરેમોરે ચીતરેલય મોર, પોપટ, ફૂલવેલ્ય અને ઝયડવયંનય વચતરયમણમયંિી સયદગીભયોા સૌંદયાનો સંલકયર જાણે કે સયદ પયડી ઊઠે છે. લગ્નનો અવસર આવ્યો હોય એ ઘરે રોજ રયત્રે સયંજીનયં ગીતો ગવયય. વહેલી સવયરનયં પ્રભયવતયયંિી વયતયવરણ ગુંજી ઊઠેઃ સૂરજ ઊગ્યો રે િેવવડયાની ફણશે િે વાણેલાં ભલે વાયાં રે, સૂતા જાગો રે વાસુદેવના નંદ િે વાણેલા ભણે વાયાં રે... લગ્ન પ્રસંગે લોકજીવનમયં જાણપરનય જોશીને તેડયવયય, બયજોવઠયો ઢળયવયય, પડખે કંકુભરી કંકયવટી મૂકયય. કંકુનય છયંટણય નયખી કંકોતરી લખયય. લીલી-પીળી પયંખનય ભમરલયને અને સોનયની ચયંચ ને રૂપયની પયંખવયળય મોરલયને નોતરયં દેવય મોકલયય. અભણ લોકનયરીઓની કલ્પનય તો જુઓ. મયંડવય મુહૂતાનય આગળનય વદવસે મયટવલયય ગણેશ મંડયય. મયંડવયને વદવસે ગયમ ગણેશ બેસયડયય. ગયમની બહેનો શ્રીફળ લઈને ગણેશ વિયવવય આવે. લગ્ન જેવય મંગળ પ્રસંગે વવઘ્નહતયા દુંદયળય દેવ ગણેશજીનું પ્રિમ લમરણ િયયઃ ગણેશ પાટ બેસાડીએ ભલાં નીપજે પિવાન, સગા-સંબંધી તેડીએ, જો પૂજ્યા હોય મોરાર... લગ્ન પ્રસંગે ટયણયં ટયણયંનય ગીતો ગવયય. વર-કન્યયની પસંદગીનયં, ચૂંદડી ઓઢયડવયનયં, લગ્ન લખવયનયં, મંડપયરોપણનયં, રયંદલ તેડવયનયં, ફૂલેકય ફરવયનયં, ઊકરડી નોતરવયનયં, મયમેરું ભરવયનયં, જાન જુતવયનયં, ગયમનય વસમયડે ગયવયનયં, સયમૈયયનયં, જમવય જતી વખતનયં, સયંયય મયયયં મળવયનય, કલવો જમયડવયનયં, વરઘોડયનયં, મયયરયંનય, ચોરીનયં, વળયમણયંનયં અને પોંખવયનયં એવય જાત-જાતનયં ગીતો ગવયય. એમયં હયલયવવનોદનય ફટયણયં પણ આવે. મયરે અહીં લગ્ન પ્રસંગે ગુજરયતમયં જ્ઞયવતએ જ્ઞયવતએ ગવયતનય ફટયણયંનય ફયગની વયત કરવી છે. ફટયણું શબ્દ ફટ ઉપરિી આવ્યો છે. ફટ એ કંઈક અંશે વતરલકયર સૂચક શબ્દ છે. કોઈ કંઈક ખરયબ કયમ કરે તો એને ફટ કહીએ છીએ. ભગવદ્ ગોમંડલમયં ફટયણયંનો અિાઃ લત્રીનય મોઢયમયંિી નીકળતયં ભૂડં ય શબ્દ, બીભત્સ ગીત કે બોલ એવો આપ્યો છે. ફટયણયંમયં અમુક કોમોમયં બીભત્સતય પ્રવેશી હોવય છતયં ફટયણયં વવનોદ ગીતો છે. મેં સંગ્રહેલયં ૬૦૦ જેટલયં ફટયણયંમયં ઉચ્ચ કક્ષયનો હયલયરસ છે. ભયરોભયર સયવહત્ય તત્વ છે, સંયમ છે, મયયાદય છે, શબ્દોની રમત છે, મયવમાક વવનોદ છે અને લોકનયરીઓની કયમણગયરી કુંવયરી કલ્પનયઓ પણ છે. ગયમડયંનય લોકવરણો ઉપરયંત નગરોમયં વસતય વયવણયય, બ્રયહ્મણ, નયગર જેવી ભણેલી કોમોમયં તિય મુસ્લલમો અને પયરસીઓમયં પણ ફટયણયં ગયવયનો વરવયજ જોવય મળે છે. ઉચ્ચ વણાની નયરીઓએ ફટયણયંમયં મયયાદય જાળવીને હયલયરસ વનષ્પન્ન કયોા છે, છતયં ક્યયંક લિૂળતય કે ઉઘયડો શૃંગયર જોવય મળે છે. નીચલય વગામયં ગવયતયં ફટયણયંમયં બીભત્સ રસ અને ભૂંડય બોલી ગયળોય ભરપેટ સયંપડે છે. લોકજીવનનય પ્રિમ પંવિનય અભ્યયસી એવય મયરય દયદય પ્રતયપસંગભયઈને મેં પૂછ્યુંઃ ‘દયદય, લગ્ન પ્રસંગે ગયવયનયં સરસ ગીતો છે તો પછી બયઈઓ ફટયણયં કેમ ગયતી હશે?’ એમણે ઉત્તર આપ્યો કે ‘ગયમડયંની અભણ બયઈઓ બહુ કોઠયસૂઝવયળી હોય છે. ફટયણયં ગયઈને તેઓ વરરયજા ને તેનય કુટુંબીઓ તિય અન્ય સગયંઓની સહનશીલતયની પરીક્ષય લે છે. સગયં સમદરપેટય ન હોય તો મયંડવય નીચે જ જામી પડે. મેં અહીં ગુજરયતનય ગ્રયમ પ્રદેશોમયં લગ્ન પ્રસંગે વવવવિ જાવતઓમયં ગવયતયં ‘ફરયળી’ અિયાત્ www.abplgroup.com

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Gujarat Samachar | Asian Voice | 2011

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ઈમને નાક પરમાણે નથડી જોશે રે, ઈમને કેડ્ય પરમાણે ઘાઘરો જોશે રે ઈમને સડસડતો સાડલો પહેરાવો રે ઈમને કસકસતું કાપડું પહેરાવો રે પાદર આવ્યું છે ભવાયાનું પેડું (ટોળું) રે ઈમને ભવાયા ભેળા રમવા મેલો રે નાચણણયો નાચે ને નથડી રૂડી લાગે રે... વેવાઈ આવે પછી વેવાણ્ય થોડાં જ બાકી રહે? હાં હાં ચૂલેથી ઉનામણણયું પડ્યું હાં હાં જમના વહુનો કૂલો બળ્યો હાં હાં હાં હાં જમના શે નાથી? હાં હા ઉનામણું પડ્યું એનાથી હાં હાં ભીંતે વળગી ગરોળી હાં હાં જેમ જેમ ગરોળી બટકાં ભરે હાં હાં એમ એમ જમના વહુ લટકાં કરે હાં હાં... માંડવા નીચે વરકન્યાને કંસાર પીરસાય. એ વખતે અણવર અને નણદીનાં ફટાણાં પણ ગવાયઃ વર-કન્યા કંસાર જમે, અણવરની તો દાઢ ગળે, અણવર કહે હું ઉંદર થાઉં, બાજોઠની નીચે પેસી જાઉં, કોણળયો કંસાર આલે તો ખાઉં, નઈં તો બાજોઠ ફોલી ખાઉં.

••• વર-કન્યા કંસાર જમે, નણંદની તો દાઢ ગળે, નણંદ કહે હું મીંદડી થાઉં, બાજોઠ નીચે બેસી જાઉં, કોણળયો કંસાર આલે તો ખાઉં, નઈંતર ઉંદર મારી ખાઉં. સૌરાષ્ટ્રમાં ફટાણાં ગવાય છે એમ ઉત્તર ગુજરાતમાં પણ જુદી જુદી જ્ઞાતતઓમાં ફટાણાં ગાવાનો તરવાજ છે. ઈશાતનયા દેશોમાં લગ્નગીતોના સંગ્રહ ‘લોકગુંજન’માંથી પન્નાલાલ પટેલે જમાઈનું ફટાણું આ પ્રમાણે નોંધ્યું છે. જુઓ રે કૈયાભાઈ તમારા જમાઈડાના રૂપ આવું જમાઈડું ક્યાંથી ખોળી કાઢ્યું રે ઊંટોનું ચારનાર, ખૂંટોનું ભાંગનાર ડોબાનું ચારનાર, બીડીઓનું ધૂંહનાર આવું જમાઈડું ક્યાંથી ખોળી કાઢ્યું રે!

લગ્ન પ્રસંગે ‘સકલોમ સ્વાહા’ કરીને ગોરબાપા લગ્નની લાંબી તવતિ કરે ત્યારે ભૂખી થયેલી જાનતડયું એમને ય ઝપટે ચડાવી દ્યેઃ ગોર કરો રે ઉકેલ, ગોર લટપણટયા ગોરને નણળયા જેવડું નાક, ગોર લટપણટયા ગોરની ફણળયા જેવડી ફાંદ, ગોર લટપણટયા ગોરના સૂપડા જેવા કાન, ગોર લટપણટયા ગોરના કોણડયાં જેવા કાન, ગોર લટપણટયા જાન જમવા બેસે ત્યારે ય ફટાણાં તો ગવાય જ. એમાં જમાઈને ખીર જમાડવામાં આવે છે, પણ કેવી રીતે? ગઢમાં ગધાડી ણવહાળી, ભોળા ભમરલા રે ઈના દૂધણડયા મંગાવો, ભોળા ભમરલા રે ઈની ખીરણડયું રંધાવો, ભોળા ભમરલા રે ઈ ખીર ખાહડામાં ઠરાવો, ભોળા ભમરલા રે જમવા જશુભાઈને બેહાડો, ભોળા ભમરલા રે ભેગા ભગવાનજીને બેહાડો, ભોળા ભમરલા રે જશુભાઈ રીંહઈ રીંહઈ જાય, ભોળા ભમરલા રે કૂતરી કલાવાને જાય, ભોળા ભમરલા રે મીંદડી મનાવાને જાય, ભોળા ભમરલા રે જૂના જમાનામાં ફટાણાં ગવાતાં એમાં નવા જમાનાની વહુ-દીકરીઓએ પોતાની રીતે ફેરફારો દાખલ કયા​ા. નવા યુગની નારી ગાડા-ઘોડાગાડીમાં થોડી જ બેસે? એનેય જમાના પ્રમાણે મોટરમાં મહાલવાના કોડ જાગે ને? રતનબા મોટરમાં ફરવાને ગ્યાં’તાં, માવસંગ જમાઈ ડ્રાઈવર થઈને ગ્યાં’તાં. જમઈડે બહુ રે કલ્પના કીધી, ત્યારે અમે દેવકન્યા દીધી... આજે તો ગુજરાતનાં ગામડાં અને ગામડાંના લોકોય સુિરી ગયા છે. લગ્ન પ્રસંગે ગવાતાં ફટાણાંનો આનંદ પણ ઓસરી ગયો છે. આજે ઘતડયા લગ્ન લેવાય છે. કલાકમાં વરકન્યા ઈન્સ્ટન્ટ પરણી જાય છે એટલે લગ્ન પ્રસંગના ગીતો ય ગયાં. ફટાણાં ને લોકતવનોદે લોકજીવનમાંથી તવદાય લીિી છે તેથી લોકકતવ તનસાસો નાખતા કહે છેઃ ગયા ઘોડા ગઈ હાવળ્યો, ગયાં સોનેરી સાજ, મોટર ખટારા માંડવે, કરતાં ભૂં ભૂં અવાજ. (જોરાવરણસંહ જાદવ લોકકલાના મમમજ્ઞ છે)

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Want to get married? Have a look… youngster, the love happens with an expiry date in most cases. The older generation believes in the proverb, ‘step and through that life is beauty but I awoke and found that life is a duty’. When a youngster faces the hardships and harsh realties of life, all his dreams about the love are shattered. The reasons may be many, like economic or financial soundness, sexual dissatisfaction, social relations, personal breathing space, inner career wish etc. Some times the relatives play villains in the rift of love, though times are changing now. In the times of such difficulties, mutual trust in each other and communication or understanding are much needed to solve the relationship issues.

If you have an ability to prove your resilience about your love, there will always be fewer conflicts.

Everything has its own merits and demerits or plus and minus points in his/her character that may be either physical, mental or social, but it is advisable to understand those and to accept them the way they are and thereby try to sort it out with open communication in a healthy manner. Practice what you expect from your partner. Avoid impulses in all terms and try to be as congenial as you can. Express undesirable matters in good words. I know you can do it. It is a good investment in a strong and positive relationship.

It is necessary that a proposal on a particular point of time is life-long, when relations are wanted or are in the process of formation, there are many cases of depressions, especially after the break-ups in love. It is not easy to forget a profound relation with a person.

But a person should have new aims to be targeted in his life. ‘Let the dead past bury its deads’. Always adopt a positive approach to life. Start a new day with fresh approach in personal life too.

Here let us say that the present generation has grown more practical. Young guys are really fast and precise. Being very practical does not mean emotionless. It has realized the new rules of progressing, forgiving past history. Live today and fetch maximum out of the relationship or marriage. There are many couples who maintain the friendship in the marriage.

That is best part of 21st century relationship of male & female. Even after unfortunate break ups some keep friendly terms with ex-spouse which proves the residual

• Dr. Prashant Bhimani

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t is essential to have a companionship in everybody’s life. Generally, it is said that the chariot of life ply on two wheels. Most of the people seek a perfect match for them. Here, let me say that there is one particular moment of love in everybody’s life which may convert into lifelong relationship. Yet, let me clarify that how many of them can sustain love? It may be easy to forward love proposal either through own self or through other media, but basic questions lies as it is.

Each one has its own view point. The concept of an elderly person and youngsters can be different.

This is a fast moving age. Love has also become speedy go commodity. Today it is transformed into not a ‘love at the first sight.’ It may take many years to come and in many cases, it would have been a proposal for life time. In précis, it is a life time call to remain together.

Of course, we must not forget that today, youngsters consider many things prior to forward his/her proposal for marriage. Is it a true love or a need for a fraction of time (Sex)? This has now become a major question before the aspirants. While love is an emotional matter, the sexual things are just a medium of its expression.

Let me say that it is a drastically different issue for a man and woman as well. For a woman it is a great feeling of personal care and understanding for each other while for a man, it starts with sexual gratification and consequently love and care. Broadly speaking, love is really an ecstasy and not just a sensual pleasure.

Overall, today’s young blood may not know initially what true love is. For this, each generation has its own definition and interpretations. In the previous age, love was considered to be the life time relationship or to live together up to last breath. Now- a- days for an

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need of filtered emotions. Still can it be called a love? Think over, guys.

Let me cite some interesting cases

Flexibility in behavior is sure shot therapy to save your love puzzle or marital disharmony. Don’t go to radio love-gurus blindly. It can be dangerous at times.

One lady had complained that she didn’t know about the love from her husband even after seven years of marriage! She broke down and had tears in her eyes while elaborating. Yet her false ego was intact so she was unable to cry freely. Her businessman husband confessed that he loves her so much but he lost interest in her due to hammering questions like…

'We need to talk…’

‘Honey, you have really changed of late.’

‘What would you like to have today in dinner?’

‘You are never clear what you want to do.’

‘What did you do today in office?’

‘You never share anything about what is going on in our life’.

‘Why are you so late?’

‘Why the hell are you not picking up my phone?’

‘Have you lost interest in me?’

‘Are you in some other relationship?’

Dear friends don’t you think that these sort of conversations or dialogues have become very frequent now a days?

There was one question put forward to me. One young lady asked me: sir is it true that “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus?” This was an eternal question. There were two divisions in her married lifethree years of love life and four and a half years of married life. Both of them know that there was something missing in their life.

It was that some friends having failed married life gave ‘married life coaching’ to her and her husband.

‘Cold war’ between them turned out to be ‘Hot war’.

Although, they use to call each other when the need arises. When she became pregnant, they were forced to take advice. Counseling made their life fruitful, beautiful and blessed.

ancient feeling of ‘let go’ is gold standard.

Flexibility in behavior is sure shot therapy to save your love puzzle or marital disharmony. Don’t go to radio love-gurus blindly. It can be dangerous at times.

Here are some golden rules of love

• learn to talk in terms of ‘our’ instead of ‘mine.’ Forget the words of ‘Your’ or ‘Mine’. Try to use words like ‘We’ or ‘ours’ in day to day conversations.

• be careful and learn to express your love and desire • Mutual care and faith is necessary for long lasting relationships.

Winning Strokes

In married life, expectations and responsibilities are two extremes ends of the threads and the thread is only one… ‘LOVE…..’

(Dr. Bhimani is a renowned consulting chartered psychologist)

Let us see what happened in counseling?

Both the individuals, in any marriage are having different mentality. You are not what you were previously, how is it that you have changed now and turn ruthless? You are basically a non reliable man…’ when such dialogues occur, some fertilizer of understanding had to be supplied to the roots of married life. Each individual has self respect and the relation is really successful when such a respect is given by each other. When there is a strong wish to get separated, think of the reasons about why you have become one and started a family!

This particular thought repairs the relationship. To start any relation is damn easy but to continue for long time is really a tough task.

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Look your best on the D-day • Rajika Kacheria

and facials from your beautician, leading up to your wedding day. Skin looks its best two days after a facial, so schedule the last skin treatment facial at least two days before the D-day. Do start regular home treatments. Make a tan by mixing haldi, milk cream and gram flour and apply it on your body as this will make your skin glow.

If your skin is oily, skip the cream and add a few drops of lemon juice. For hair, start conditioning your hair with deep conditioning treatments.

Sit with your beautician and decide on what low maintenance, high style hair cut could take you through your pre-wedding events and wedding day styles. Get on a detox diet. Switch to raw veggies and fruits diet. Do not skip meals as this can give you weakness on the Dday. Drink tons of water. Go for a weekly manicure and pedicure, so that your hands and feet look their best.

Leave the body waxing till three days before the wedding. A crash diet is a bad idea when the wedding nears, as this will make you feel tired and low. A body profile does give you a complete picture of your inner health. A healthy shine on the face will any day look good not only on the day of the wedding but even after that. So this has to be worked upon a month or two in advance. And lastly, get enough sleep.

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he wedding day is the most important day of your life where everything - just everything has to be right. From your hair style to your make up all in accordance. And it’s no easy task making sure that you look perfect.

A lot of careful, organized planning and coordination goes into creating that perfect look for that important day. A few things that you can follow will help you a great deal. After you book up a trial with your beauty therapist, make sure that you have a complete run through - of the way you want to look. Take along for reference some magazine clippings or downloads so that the beautician knows what you want. Matching your lip color to your nail polish all have to be well in tune, so discuss in detail to complete the look. When you plan your make-up, think about the camera. Make sure that you do not ask for a few tones of fairer make up as this can make you look very chalky or pasty or even shallow. A good base with well blended concealers can even out the complexion covering spots and pigmentation. Also it can help contouring your face cleverly hiding all the flaws. Glitter and high gloss are great but the pictures are not very sharp so if you want a traditional touch then go for matt. Insist on water resistant make up for a longer stay, especially for the eyes as they may water in the occasion giving you a smudged up look. Dark circles should be well concealed. If false eyelashes are to be used then make sure that they are well blended with the natural lashes.

Let an experienced beautician decide on your liner thickness as it varies eye to eye and person to person.

Use blushers with highlighters that add to the bridal glow. The lips have to be shaped well so that the pictures come out sharp. Use body make up to match the body skin tone well. As for the “peer”– on the forehead you can consider it but if you have a small face keep it light and delicate. However, a bigger face can go for it. A good clear skin is very important as it is like an easel that you can get painted on. On all exposed areas work on the tan. Make sure that you do not experiment anything when the wedding day approaches as sometimes you may have rashes or red skin or pimples on your final day. Firstly, schedule a regular series of skin treatments www.abplgroup.com

Good hairstyles makes you look gorgeous

With the changing trends gone are the days when your hairstyle didn't really matter because you invariably had to cover your hair and half your face with a long ghoonghat. The contemporary bride shows off both her glorious hairstyle and her confidence, therefore, what you do with your hair is important for making or breaking your look.

Getting those glorious hairstyles and hair dos sported by models and film actresses is not something only the glam world can achieve, you too can get the same look with the help of your hair stylist. Check out in advance with your hairstylist what style will go with the shape of your face, your outfit and hair quality.

Sometimes a hair may look good on a model but the same may not gel well with you. Keep your groom in mind while you choose your style. If your groom is much taller than you, a high hairdo will narrow the height difference, while if your groom lacks in the height, you should have a low hair do. Accessories are

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an important part of the hair do. Make sure it all falls well in coordination to your entire look. Also make sure you do not use strong sprays and holding products because after the ceremony your last job will be to get the hair style off.

De-stress as it can play havoc on you. So much of planning and preparation for a wedding can really take their toll on you. Some effective ways to de-stress and look fresh on your wedding: do yoga to improve energy levels, body tone, concentration and relaxation. Get a massage at a spa with aeromatherapy oils or just call a malish wali home. (Make sure that she works with light pressure or you will have bone pains instead of being relaxed). Listen to music and soak your feet in a tub of warm water. Make sure you go for something that removes stress and restore your vitality. This helps in the over all stress- free look.

(The above information is given in good faith and we do not take responsibility for any problem arisen thereafter.)

Rajika Kacheria is a Cosmetologist, Columnist, Aromatherapiet, Nutrition Planner, Skin & hair care expert, Make up for Models & Bride, Facilitator for Personality development & modeling workshops.

The smile factor

A great smile is something that you will share on the D- day. So go and meet a good cosmetic dentist who will first study your facial structure and then work on your teeth so that they will flatter your face. You can get your smile tailormade for you. Whether it's small teeth you want, or an endearing, overlapping incisor, nothing is impossible these days for your dentist.

Beverages and nicotine leave residues that build up over a period and darken the teeth. If your teeth are stained, perhaps you should consider polishing or whitening them. Having fixed your smile, all you need to do is brush and floss your teeth regularly.

Finally, use a mint breath freshener and smile.

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