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featured

16. Death Al Dente 20. c.e. conrad buffalo bash

outdoor woman 22. Kara Tripp

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love

27. Dain & Keegan 30. Andrew+Caitlin 31. Jordan+ Rindi 34. Joseph+ Hannah

getaway 36. Fort Benton

food & flavor 40. Tomatoes 42. BBQ Beer & Wines

home

44. eco-friendly remodel

health 50. Dental Trauma 52. skincare answers 54. fitness 56. health care 58. Ear Infection 60. Safe Roads

wellness 62. Feel the fear 66. Helping others

family

68. Education and Tecnology

History 72. Sarah Bickford

art

74. Linda Manzer 76. Summer's Musical Finale 78. Sweet Shelley 80. DIY Furniture 82. Book Review

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Mandy Robinson Mandy Robinson grew up right here in Kalispell, Montana. She married her High School sweet heart Kelly and they have 4 amazing children.

Graciee (13) Gunner (10) Grafton (8) and Gandenn (6) Mandy is a trainer at Flathead Heath and Fitness. Her faith, family and friends are what keep her life full of joy. photo by: Molly Claridge (www.bestillphotographymt.com.) makeup by: M e l a n i e H o b u s

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contributors

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Er i n B l air

licensed Esthetician, is owner of the Skin Therapy Studio. Specializing in the effective treatment of acne and aging, Erin helps people have skin they can be proud of. She has trained with the best Acne Specialists in the country, and now brings world class acne therapy home to the Flathead Valley. Erin resides in Whitefish with her husband and daughter, where they enjoy nine months of winter and three months of company every year.

For help with problem skin, visit SkinTherapyStudio.com.

G wenda C. Jonas, MD

is a board certified OB/GYN who has practiced with Kalispell OB/GYN since 2001. Prior to moving to the Flathead Valley, she was in private practice for 4 years in Phoenix, AZ and was an Associate Clinical Professor for the University of Arizona School of Medicine. Dr. Jonas received her undergraduate degree from the University of Alabama. She completed her residency at Good Samaritan Regional Medical Center in Phoenix, AZ. She has served as Chief of Staff of Kalispell Regional Medical Center, as a Northwest Healthcare Board Member and has served on numerous committees. Dr. Jonas specializes in obstetrics and gynecology, including in-office sterilization (Essure) and endometrial ablation procedures. She also has a special interest in infertility and minimally invasive and robotic surgery. Dr. Jonas and her husband, Dr. Ken Jonas, are delighted to call Kalispell their home.

Inge C ahil l ,

Born in Germany, immigrated to the United States in 1977 with $100 and a backpack. Prior to her departure from Germany she studied literature, English, French and psychology. She also taught art, music and dance classes in a school for handicapped children. Inge met her husband Mark, a custom home builder, in New Mexico. They have satisfied the needs and desires of clients in the southwest, northwest and as far away as New Zealand.

They became Montana residents in 2000. Two years later Inge established her interior design business, Home Matters LLC, that provides interior design management and consulting services. Inge is a passionate gardener and loves to cook the organic foods she grows. She enjoys living in the Flathead Valley for all it has to offer and it reminds her of home. email: homematters@centurytel.net

Mo l l y Si pe C l ar i dge

was born and raised in Whitefish, MT., and has been a photographer for about 4 years. After graduating from WHS, she moved to the Pacific Northwest for several years, Molly moved back to Whitefish and met her Husband Jeff Claridge, who had also just moved back to his home town of Kalispell after living in WA. as well. Molly and Jeff have two children, Stella age 8 and Sullivan "Sully" age 5.

Also two Bernese Mountain dogs that are very much a part of the family as well.

Molly enjoys family time over anything. Spending time on Flathead lake, boating, golfing, skiing, and doing anything outside. "We live in a beautiful place, get out there and enjoy it, capture it! Life is too short not to". www.bestillphotographyMT.com

De l i a B uckmaster

Mom, fitness addict and health coach, Delia Buckmaster is the owner of Exhale Pilates Studio, a boutique fitness studio located in the beautiful resort town of Whitefish, Montana. Delia received her Full Pilates Certification in LA through STOTT ® Pilates. With over 10 years of fitness experience and a background in competitive sports, her belief that Pilates is the foundation for fitness makes her a leader in training your body and your mind. Living outside of the mainstream has not stopped her success in bringing the latest trends in fitness to Montana, including TRX ® Suspension Training ™ and Barre Fitness. Delia believes that the key to optimal health is not only fitness but a balance between healthy relationships, a fulfilling career, healthy eating, and spirituality. This belief led her into a career in health coaching through the Institute of Integrative Nutrition in New York City, a cutting edge leader in holistic education.

Alex M. Nei l l , Esq.,

is a lawyer, and blogger. Originally from Kalispell, Alex received her Bachelor of Arts degree in Communication Studies from the University of Otago in New Zealand in 2004. Alex later went on to receive her J.D. from Lewis & Clark Law School in Portland, Oregon, and became a member of the Montana Bar in 2011.

Alex owns her own law firm, Neill Law Firm, PLLC, where she specializes in Family Law. Alex also owns and writes a blog about vacationing in Montana from a local’s perspective, called Montana Vacation Blog. Alex grew up competing in the sport of Freestyle Skiing, and loves the outdoors. Her husband, Matthew Neill, is a lawyer and Partner at Johnson-Gilchrist Law Firm, in Whitefish.

They have a baby girl who is almost one, and reside in Whitefish. www.montanavacationblog.com info@montanavacationblog.com, neill.lawfirm@gmail.com

El izabet h Miche lsen-Jonas

From birth I was surrounded by the sights, smells and the sounds of artisans and the finishes that flowed through their hands. My mother is a Danish immigrant, from a family of woodworkers, painters and tailors. Her father, 'Hans' was gentrifying old barns into homes before it was fashionable.

A renaissance man of vision and enormous talent, he and my gifted mother were my inspiration. I love the smell of linseed oil, the look of a good brush, and the awesome gift of color. I learned the subtle art of a good plaster finish, the beauty and value of natural antiquation, and to not only 'see' color but to absorb it. I started 'Patina' in 1998 here in the Flathead, and have given acres of walls, miles of trim, and mountains of furniture and cabinets a new skin and a look that embraces the home and it's owners. From Milk Paint, to acid washed metal, ornamental motif, to industrial modern stains, Patina uses old world products and progressive techniques to create finishes that hum with warmth and exude the sublime.

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C r i sMar ie C amp be l l

has been a consultant and coach for over 17 years, working with teams, couples and individuals. She also enjoys being on stage, painting and writing. As a result, her coaching specialty is working with actors, athletes and executives as a Performance Coach, helping people bring more of who they are to what they do, to create the results they want.

For the last decade she has had her own Management Consulting and Coaching business, Thrive! Inc., with her partner Susan Clarke. CrisMarie is an Olympian who participated in the 1988 Olympic Games. She is a Master Certified Martha Beck Coach, has her Diploma in Counseling from The Haven Institute, an International Training Center in BC, Canada, and an MBA from the University of Washington. You can contact her at: crismarie@thriveinc.com.

editorsnote

406 Woman Magazine has had yet another remarkable summer. Our audience continues to increase as the dedication of our supporters and contributors grows.

We are fortunate to have such a plethora of intelligent and motivated business people and writers who devote their attention and efforts to our magazine.

Many wonderful events have taken place this summer in the Flathead Valley. We have had good music, amazing food and high class, world-renowned sporting events such as the Event at Rebecca Farms. Thank you to the Broussard family for yet another remarkable year. Also, congratulations to all of the competitors that trained and participated at this challenging display of horsemanship and overall athleticism. Top-level winners, Lisa Marie Fergusson, horse- Feral Errol; Mathew Brown, horse-BCF Belicoso; and Kristi Nunnik, horse-RStar, were amazing to watch and deserve their own congratulations. For results of the winners in all levels, check out the Rebecca Farms website.

In this issue of 406 Woman Magazine, look forward to a lovely display of summer cooking and entertainment ideas. Read up on what to do with delicious summer tomatoes and what wines to serve at… yes…. A BBQ! And, if you’re looking for something a bit less social, take a gander at our book reviews and see what hot summer reads may inspire you to enjoy a relaxing day in a quiet hammock under a shady tree.

The Conrad Mansion does not take a break in the summer. Its ice cream social was better than ever, and once again, thoroughly enjoyed by many community members.

Enjoy the final days of summer, and if you have not taken the time to simply be present and enjoy some sun on one of this Valley’s beautiful lakes or rivers, you better do so, and quick. The days are getting shorter and school begins for most in just a few short weeks. Enjoy family and friends and these last warm days.

Sincerely,

Kristen

Kristen J. Pulsifer Editor

featured} Leslie Budewitz

Death Al Dente

By Leslie Budewitz

salesman, who was gone most weekdays, hearing his stories of life on the road in Montana. Our My mother grew up on a farm and kept a small kitchen and dining room were separated by a garden with tomatoes, beets, peas, carrots, pump- counter, and my mother would pause while cleankins, and a rhubarb patch. She canned peaches ing up to lean against it and listen. To this day, and applesauce, and I loved helping her. my brother can’t pick up a fork without launching into a story.

But garden season is short in Montana, and in the 1960s, our grocery stores did not offer the variety Food is still story to me. I write mysteries where even a small-town grocer provides now. Much of the focus is as much on the characters and their the year, our salads were iceberg lettuce and pink lives as on the puzzle of who killed whom and tomatoes. Our kitchen staples included countless why. You know the traditional mystery—think variations of jello salad and “hot dish”—casse- Agatha Christie. One of its modern incarnations roles made with ground beef, canned soup, and is the cozy. It’s the comfort food of the mystery shell macaroni. world, the mac & cheese. And who doesn’t love that now and again? (Or carbonara if you’re ItalOur dinners may have been ordinary, but my ian, like my protagonist’s mother). No graphic sex mother was an amazing baker. Her Christmas or violence; lots of graphic food. A small town, or cookies were loved by all. Friends and neigh- an identifiable community within a big city, where bors were thrilled to see her on their doorsteps murder is a shock that disturbs the natural order. on chilly December days, a foil-tented plate in An amateur sleuth—typically female—is drawn hand. Many of her recipes came from friends of in by the personal nature of the crime, and uses her parents, the Frank girls, from back in Minne- her skills and connections to solve it. The cozy sota. I never met “the girls,” but I still make their represents the triumph of the individual over evil, cookies—and tell the stories that go with them. and the value of community.

I admit, I was not born into a foodie family.

on the road to Glacier National Park—a town that calls itself a "Food Lover's Village." Erin Murphy, the main character, is the 32-year-old manager of The Merc, a market specializing in regional foods, located in her family's centuryold building that once held the town's original grocery. Erin has a passion for pasta, retail, and huckleberry chocolates—and an unexpected talent for solving murder.

Unlike me, Erin did grow up in a food-loving family. She is half Irish, half Italian. Her mother Fresca makes the fresh pasta, sauces, and pestos that Merc customers love. The series begins with Death al Dente—or as I think of it, murder not quite well-done—set at an Italian food festival Erin cooked up to kick off summer. In the second installment, Crime Rib (out next July), Erin investigates deadly deeds at Jewel Bay’s annual Summer Fair Art & Food Festival, and its signature event, a steak Grill-off. So, in every book, I get to explore food along with the mystery. It’s a natural combination to me. Murder is stressful, and who doesn’t eat when stressed? But more importantly, murder is unnatural. It damages the threads that tie a community together. The killer My family is a story-telling family. I loved to lin- My Food Lovers’ Village Mysteries are set in must be brought to justice, and the social order ger at the table with my father, a traveling Jewel Bay, Montana, a lakeside resort community restored. And, what does that better than food?

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featured} Leslie Budewitz Excerpt: “Smell that Genovese basil, darling.” My mother—I’m still getting used to thinking of her as Fresca, now that we’re in business together—closed her eyes. “Isn’t it heavenly?”

She breathed deeply, the few lines in her lovely, oval face disappearing as she closed her nearly-black eyes in an expression that could only be called rapture, a few strands of silver in the straight, dark hair that brushed her slender shoulders. Her secret for looking youthful at sixty-one?

If it worked for her ... I plucked a stack of tomato, mozzarella, and basil off the platter and savored the peppery-sweet smells before taking the f irst bite, my other hand cupped to catch any stray juices. “Mmm. The taste of summer.”

“Mangia, mangia. But sit. You know women gain weight when we eat on the run.”

“Can’t.” I’d inherited my late father’s “black Irish” fair skin and dark hair along with enough of my mother’s good genes to avoid most weight problems. We’re about the same height—f ive-six—and I’ve got a few pounds on her, but not enough to worry me. Still, being a grocery manager and the daughter of a woman whose idea of hello is a plate of something tempting, I know the risks. “Time to decorate.” I took another anyway.

“Festa di Pasta,” Tracy said, sliding onto a stool and picking up her own Caprese appetizer. “Don’t you love the name?”

“I still think you need a saint in there somewhere,” Fresca said. “Festa di Pasta di San Pietro or Tomaso or San Somebody.”

I laughed. “No saints in this town.”

“To be authentically Italian—” “Mom, the point is to be authentically Jewel Bay. And to show off the new Merc.” Jewel Bay is not what people expect in a Montana town. Cutting-edge art and lip-smacking restaurants instead of cow pies and shoot-outs on dirt streets. But we have our belly-up bar, and plenty of cowboys, with farms and ranches nearby. And even a real live dude ranch, giving guests from around the world a taste of the old Montana and the new.

(Excerpted from Death al Dente by Leslie Budewitz, published by Berkley Prime Crime, August, 2013.)

Fettucine with Minted Tomato Sauce aka Fettucine a la Fresca

2. Seed and chop the tomatoes and place in a medium bowl. Mix in the wine, basil, mint, Known as “Demented Fettucine” in my house, this salt, and pepper. recipe provides Erin a clue to solving one of the mysteries in Death al Dente.

1/2 cup walnuts, coarsely chopped 2 large ripe tomatoes 1/4 cup dry white wine 1 tablespoon fresh basil leaves, chopped 1/4 cup fresh mint leaves, chopped 1/4 teaspoon salt 1/4 teaspoon pepper 1/3 cup olive oil 1 small onion, finely chopped 1 clove garlic, minced or pressed 8oz fettucine Additional grated Parmesan for serving 1. Toast walnuts in a shallow pan in a 350 degrees for about 10-12 minutes. (Don’t wait until they look dark, as they will continue cooking after being removed from the oven.)

3. Heat oil in a medium sauté pan over medium. Sauté onion until soft and just starting to brown; stir in garlic and cook briefly. Add tomato mixture and cook at a gentle boil, uncovered, about 5 minutes. Stir occasionally.

4. Meanwhile, cook the pasta and drain well.

Place in a warm serving bowl and spoon in the sauce, lifting to mix. Sprinkle with toasted walnuts and serve with a bowl of Parmesan.

Alternatively, make nests of spaghetti in individual bowls and spoon sauce into the middle of each nest.

Makes 4-6 servings.

(Taken from Death al Dente by Leslie Budewitz, published by Berkley Prime Crime, August, 2013).

Leslie Budewitz writes The Food Lovers' Village Mysteries, set in Jewel Bay, Montana. "It takes a village to catch a killer." The light-hearted mysteries feature Erin Murphy, proprietor of The Merc, a market specializing in regional foods, located in her family's century-old former grocery. Erin's passion for pasta, retail, and huckleberry chocolates leads to an unexpected talent for solving murder.

Also a lawyer, Leslie's reference book for writers, Books, Crooks & Counselors: How to Write Accurately About Criminal Law and Courtroom Procedure, won the 2011 Agatha Award for Best Nonfiction. She lives in Bigfork with her husband, Don Beans, a musician and doctor of natural medicine, and their Burmese cat, Ruff. Visit her at www.LeslieBudewitz.com

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Where the Buffalo Roam c.e. conrad buffalo bash & sideshow

Written by Kristen Hamilton Photos by Brenda Ahearn Photography

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featured} Conrad Buffalo Bash

Like many areas of the west, buffalo have roamed freely on the plains and hills in the Flathead Valley throughout the 19th century. Over the years these massive herds were close to extinction due to a combination of commercial hunting and slaughter. Since then, these iconic creatures have been spared complete demise with the establishment of protected parks (including Yellowstone National Park and the National Bison Range) as well as private ranches (including Spring Brook Ranch) where buffalo are free to roam again.

Charles E. Conrad, the founder of Kalispell, was instrumental in saving the buffalo when he sent numbers of his herd to Canada and many parts of the U.S. The National Bison Range in Moiese was established in 1908 and Conrad is credited with providing the original herd for this wildlife refuge.

In celebration of the upcoming 40th Anniversary of the Conrad Mansion Museum and one of nature’s noblest animals, the buffalo, the C.E. Conrad Buffalo Bash & Sideshow fundraising event was formed.

Mark Norley, six year President of the Conrad Mansion Museum Board, has been promoting an idea of a buffalo celebration for several years, and the anniversary timing seemed appropriate. The full board supported the idea, and the fundraiser was born.

Norley said, “Sadly, very little history credits the Conrad family for their efforts to save and preserve the American buffalo, which to many people symbolized the western movement in the United States, case in point, the buffalo nickel.” Without the efforts and passion of Conrad and his wife, Alicia, to save the buffalo, they may have been obliterated completely.

“I feel that the Conrad’s' unprecedented efforts to save the American buffalo for future generations should be celebrated,” he added. The Buffalo Bash will honor the memory of the Conrad family and acknowledge their monumental success.

Spring Brook Ranch, home of Jim Watson and Carol Bibler, was chosen for the C.E. Conrad Buffalo Bash & Sideshow.

It is a beautiful setting a short distance West of Kalispell near Herron Park and the home of buffalo and yak herds, which will be within viewing distance during the event. The buffalo at the ranch are descendants of the original Conrad herd.

ins’ as well as wine, beer and sarsaparilla.

Guests will be entertained throughout the evening with Watson speaking about the buffalo that are raised on Spring Brook Ranch; Cowboy singer, Bill Humenik, singing at the campfire; Jack Fairchild performing rope tricks; and special guests, C.E. Conrad and his wife Alicia, mingling with the crowd throughout the evening.

The board has secured some wonderful auction items for the fundraiser including a tanned buffalo hide, buffalo paintings by favorite valley artists, and other special unique items.

In conjunction with the event, Going to the Sun Gallery in Whitefish is hosting an art show depicting the buffalo by several of their favorite artists during July and August. The art at the gallery will have “buy now” prices or a bidding system. Those on the bidding system will be on display at the Buffalo Bash for final bids. 30% of the proceeds from the sale of these beautiful paintings will go to the Mansion. This will give everyone the opportunity to help the museum and enjoy a beautiful piece of artwork. The mansion board is grateful to Marlene Denny and Rochelle Lombardi, owners of the Going to the Sun Gallery, for their commitment to the mansion.

Only 130 tickets will be sold for the fundraiser for guests to enjoy an intimate gathering of Mansion supporters in a very special setting. Tickets are $120.00 and all proceeds will directly benefit the Conrad Mansion Museum. $75.00 of the ticket price is tax deductible.

Gennifer Sauter, Executive Director at the Conrad Mansion Museum, said, “In light of the recent thefts on the mansion grounds, we are hoping to cover the costs to update our security measures at the museum.”

Tickets are available now and with limited seating available, we encourage you to get Gini Ogle, Board Member and Co-or- them early. Ticket outlets: In Kalispell ganizer of the event, said, “Jim Watson at the Conrad Mansion Museum, 330 and Carol Bibler have been incredibly Woodland Ave., and The Bookshelf, 101 gracious and generous in helping us with Main; In Whitefish at the Going to the this event.” The setting of Spring Brook Sun Gallery, 137 Central Ave.; In ColumRanch is truly what one thinks of when bia Falls at Station 8, 38 Hwy. 2 East; and they think of majestic Montana. in Bigfork at the Museum of Art and HisThe event is set for Thursday, September tory, on Electric Ave. 12, 2013 starting at 6:00pm. The menu features buffalo stew with all the fix-

In 1895, Charles E. Conrad built the Conrad Mansion. It is the most beautifully preserved pre-1900 mansion in Montana. The mansion has 26 rooms and features over 90% of the original family furnishings and belongings. Located on Woodland Avenue between 3rd and 4th Streets East.

The Conrad Mansion Museum opened to the public in 1974 and will be celebrating its 40th anniversary in 2014. The museum is owned by the city of Kalispell but relies completely on proceeds from tours, special events, and donations to stay open for the public.

Guided tours are available Tuesday-Sunday through October 13, starting at 10:00am, on the hour with the last tour at 4:00pm.

New this summer, the Mansion is offering a specialty evening tour called the “Nooks & Crannies Tour”.

August 22nd is the next available date for this special tour that showcases 100 items not seen on regular tours. Reservations are required.

The popular Ghost Tours are scheduled for October 4 & 5. This annual sell out event is will help you discover for yourself whether spirits exist in the Mansion.

Advance reservations are required.

The 30th Annual Christmas at the Mansion is October 25, 26 & 27. The mansion is beautifully decorated for the holidays complete with a 2-story high tree.

Preview party and celebration is Friday night with advance reservations required, then, Saturday and Sunday enjoy the wonderful Arts & Crafts Bazaar.

Visit www.conradmansion.com or call 406-755-2166 for more information and special event information.

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p p i r T dreams in fly fishing a r a K

Above photos by Justin Miller

By Mike Mercer

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This seemed an epiphany even to her as she spoke – between bites of Thai Café’s famous #41 – about the amazing path she’s traveled in her short 30 years. “You know, it’s true; I absolutely love creating original art, and skiing… but I’ve never dreamt about any of those things.

When I dream, I see a big trout rising against an undercut bank, and my Parachute Adams floating right down into his feeding lane. Or a big wild steelhead cartwheeling in the air, with one of my hand-tied flies stuck in the corner of its mouth.”

Perhaps this shouldn’t be too surprising. After all, Kara grew up in the beautiful Flathead Valley, surrounded by the magnificent Rocky Mountains and all of the trout-filled streams and rivers that cascade off their forested flanks. Her earliest memories are of fishing for small ‘brookies’ on the Little Bitterroot River, a small creek winding its path through the fam-

ily ranch. Even at a young age, she remembers fighting the tangled monofilament from a borrowed spinning reel, and thinking, there must be a better way - A born fly fisher.

And, it wasn’t just the slippery, bejeweled little brook trout that caught her fancy, she was enraptured by everything water. Salamanders, aquatic insects, brightly-colored stones…even the water itself was fascinating. All of its gurgling nuances and hidden mysteries, held an immense fascination for her. Later in her first decade, she discovered the possibilities of aquariums, and spent hours (and most of her allowances) riding her bike into town to buy fish at the pet store, bringing the little treasures home and watching their watery dances.

Part of Kara’s job description at The Fly Shop in Redding, California, where she currently works, is orchestrating their wildly successful KidsCamps and FamilyCamps. The kids absolutely adore her, responding to her natural affection for them and a shared sense of wonder at life lived. The camps may only be for a week,

but they are held beneath massive pine trees, and along the endlessly captivating banks of the property’s trout stream and lakes. Watching her with the budding young anglers, it’s clear she’s in her element and has not forgotten what those early discoveries were like. The kids leave with a lifelong love and understanding for the natural environment…a gift that will never stop giving.

All of her young life, Kara was surrounded by first boys, then young men, who fished… just a normal part of life growing up in Montana.

The trouble was, she desperately wanted to be out there with them, having adventures and catching fish – somehow she rarely seemed invited. Her big break came at age 16 when a group of guy friends from school finally consented to haul her along (wait, what? A 16-year old girl more interested in learning to fly fish, than hanging out with girlfriends?!). The ensuing one day trip was life-changing for her. Just as dusk was falling, having watched the guys catching trout after trout from the waters of the North Fork while she remained frustrated,

outdoor woman} Kara Tripp

Above photo by Marcel Siegle one of them took her aside and, showing her a pod of rising cutthroats, helped her cast and achieve a drag-free drift that put the fly right on their noses. And, she caught one. ..and another…and another! Arriving home that night, she gushed to her family about the experience, overwhelmed with excitement. Her father, did not really know much about fly fishing, but, nevertheless recognized true zeal when he saw it and arranged for the local Rassmussen boys to pick out a nice outfit for her and presented it at her next birthday. Kara’s never looked back.

Feasting on curried vegetables and chicken, Kara’s face lights up as she reveals to me her latest adventure – a fourteen day fly fishing trek to the storied wilderness rivers of Russia’s Kamchatka Peninsula. She is now just weeks away, and her excitement is palpable. This has been a dream for several years, and she has worked hard to 24

turn it into a reality.

She’s been busy during those years; her job at The Fly Shop helped open a door for her into yet another passion - providing fly casting and fishing instruction for the women of Casting for Recovery. Kara explains that this organization offers fly fishing retreats for women in various stages of breast cancer treatment, teaching them not only the art of fly fishing, but immersing them in the calming milieu of the pastime, as well. In fact, Kara spends a lot of time teaching women (and men) from all walks and circumstances of life to fly fish. Once largely the domain of men, she says women are increasingly being drawn to the sport, for various reasons. An analogy she finds that resonates strongly among them is the similarities between fly fishing and yoga; both are often done in proximity to others, but are at their respective hearts personal pursuits. Each is practiced by and for the individual, at their speed, for wherever they are in their life. Neither is about measuring up to anyone else’s standard; but, both allow the individual to proceed at their own pace physically, mentally and emotionally.

“I don’t want to look back in 30 years and have regrets about not pursuing the amazing Godgiven passions I’ve been given, you know? I have so many ideas and projects I’m involved in – there’s the schools and guide service, graphic designs, custom fly fishing jewelry, traveling to new waters, and most importantly working hard at encouraging women to become evolved.” Looking up from her meal, blue eyes dancing with intensity, she continues, “Life is so much like fishing a new stream; not knowing what I’m going to see and experience around the next bend…and yet that anticipation is the wonder of it all, and what I thrive on.”

Kara Tripp has, in relatively few short years, vaulted from a little girl who could never get enough fishing, to one of the most-recognized women in the entire fly fishing industry. I suspect if fly fishing dreams, it’s seeing Kara, wandering down a remote Russian river, letting loose chaotic peals of laughter with each new monster trout hooked…..

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Dain & Keegan

Photographed by Photo by Mic www.photobymic.com

It’s been a year now since we said our vows, such a short amount of time in the big picture, and I can’t help but wonder, “How did I get so lucky?” Not a day goes by that I don’t feel truly blessed to have such a wonderful man by my side, my best friend, someone I never knew I was looking for, for my entire life.

We are both Montana natives. Dain grew up in Rudyard, a small highline farm town, home to “596 nice people and 1 sore-head.” He grew up involved in track sports, playing basketball and football, and playing the drums. His family frequently visited the Flathead Valley over the years for annual ski trips to Big Mountain, band camps on Flathead Lake, and 4th of July gatherings in Lakeside.

After attending college in Missoula and North Dakota, Dain moved to the Flathead Valley.

I grew up in Somers, always playing on the lake and adventuring in the mountains with my brothers. I carried on the family tradition of playing the trumpet, and pursued art through sketching and painting. After a brief year in San Diego, and a few more spent in Bozeman attending college, I moved back home to the Flathead Valley.

We like to imagine that we crossed paths as kids, maybe at band camp or somewhere on the lake, but Dain’s first memory of our meeting was when I worked at a local coffee shop. He says he would only stop by when he knew I was there. I remember basically telling my co-workers to get out of my way so that I could wait on him when he would make his early morning visits.

I thought he was adorable. His huge, gorgeous smile first caught my attention, but I remember seeing that smile for the first time at the gym, not the coffee shop. I would try to exercise in the evenings when I thought he might be there. I guess we were a step away from stalking each other.

Although we have slightly different recollections of exactly when we met, we both agree that from the first time we saw each other, we knew there would be something great between us. That was probably eight or more years ago. We were never single at the same time and never able to get to know each other. We always seemed to be dating someone else until I finished college in 2008, when our paths crossed again in Whitefish.

On April 29th, 2008, when Dain turned 25, we officially started dating. And by the 4th of July, on a boat on Whitefish Lake, under a sky filled with fireworks, he told me that he loved me. The feeling was mutual. That day was one for the books, from beginning to end. We look back on it with fondness. When my Mom and I talk about those first few months that Dain and I dated, we recall knowing that he was “the one.”

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fter four years together, we went on our first “real” vacation to Maui, a very generous gift from my employer. We had the time of our lives exploring and relaxing. On one of the last days we were there, while we were out playing in the ocean, Dain grabbed me and pulled me in close.

He asked me then, in the ocean on a gorgeous day, if I would marry him. I was brimming with happiness. My first reaction was extreme excitement, maybe a little shock and, of course, a big “YES!” My next reaction was that he was crazy for bringing a ring like that into the water, especially because I’m a little clumsy.

Over the next seven months we planned our homemade wedding, doing our best to tackle every detail. Luckily I had planned past parties for my employer and knew where to dive in. I’m not saying it was easy, that would be far from the truth. It honestly was a DIY wedding - with the combined help of our parents and closest friends, we were able to achieve the quaint, country feeling we were looking for. As a tribute to Dain’s upbringing, we incorporated various aspects of his family’s wheat farm, from our wheat-themed wedding invitations to the table centerpieces. Everyone rolled up their sleeves and went to work sewing table runners, baking assorted desserts, making rustic signs out of driftwood and chalkboards, and crafting strands of paper flowers to hang from the sides of our dinner tent. Dain and my Dad built our wedding arch, a sentimental piece we will keep in our garden for years to come. We couldn’t have pulled it off without everyone. Our wedding day was perfect because of our families and friends.

We said our vows on a beautiful day with wonderful company at our dream location. We couldn’t have asked for anything more.

Thank you to everyone that played a part in that special day in our lives. A special ‘thank you’ goes out to our folks for their hard work, to our friends and family for being such a resounding positive part of our lives, and to everyone who traveled to share that memorable time with us.

We wish we could have shared that day with countless more. Our only regret is that we didn’t have our beloved dog there. We wish you could have been there Bosco boy, but you love chasing gophers too much. It would have been a full time job keeping an eye on you.

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Andrew+Caitlin Photographed by Treehouse Photography treehousephotography.org

Who are you?

Andrew- I was born in Hawaii and having moved to Montana at a young age, I love the outdoors, family, and adventure. There is never a lack of exploration and learning to do.

Caitlin- I was born in Montana, but have only recently made my home here. I love the outdoors and spending time with friends and family. I love to laugh and seek adventure. I am lucky to live in a place that is so beautiful, and where people care about each other.

How did you meet?

We met at the Blackfoot River Brewery, up on the balcony. It was complete happenstance.

I had only been in Helena for about 6 months, and Andrew was spending his first day back in Helena after working at a ski hill in Juneau for 6 months. We instantly felt like we had known each other our whole lives- it was easy and comfortable. We just knew we wanted to be together.

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The proposal?

After a sunny day of cross country skiing, I was called by the jeweler who was combining my

grandmother's engagement band with a stone from my mom. I went to pick it up under the guise of getting groceries for dinner. The ring felt as if it was burning a hole in my pocket, and I just needed to get it out of there. I asked Caitlin to marry me immediately when I got home.

What is love?

Andrew- Love is an unavoidable force that guides you to an unimaginable place. Love is seeing the Aurora Borealis in the eyes of Caitlin.

Caitlin- Love is true compassion, loyalty and trust. Love is always being there for each other.

What do you love most about each other?

Andrew- She is incredibly intelligent, loves to help others, and is at the ready when adventure invites us out. She is a fly fishing Montana girl, with a smile that I cannot get enough of.

Caitlin- Andrew is such a happy and spontaneous person. I love that he always puts others before himself and that he loves family and friends. Plus, his grows an awesome mustache. He is just a really special person and I love that I get to spend my life with him.

When did you know you were in love?

Caitlin: Right after we met.

Andrew: Exactly

Fun Facts: We catch fish with the flies we tie at home.

Honeymoon plans: Road trip! We’ve planned a route to Banff, Alberta, and then through the Pacific Northwest, down the 101 to see some really big Redwood trees. Then we’ll swing through Yellowstone on our way back to our favorite town, Helena, MT. We plan to camp with the newest member of our family, a 1986 Volkswagen Westfalia. We have set aside 2-3 weeks to enjoy the trip!

Wedding details: We're getting married at the Cathedral of Saint Helena, and the reception will be at the Grandview Inn this August. We're looking forward to a casual celebratory party with live music, yard games and local eats, with our friends and family.

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Jordan+ Rindi Photos by: Marianne Wiest Photography www.mariannewiest.com

Who are you?

My name is Jordan Remington. I was born and raised in Kalispell, Montana.

Rindi Beagley, I was also born and raised in Kalispell, Montana.

How did you meet?

We met and started dating in high school.

The proposal?

Rindi was going to school in Idaho and had told Jordan she did not want to be proposed to in Idaho due to the fact that everyone at her school was getting engaged there. So, on their way to Utah to go to the festival of colors with some friends, Jordan formed a plan. They all stopped at the border of Idaho and Utah to take pictures, and that was when Jordan pulled Rindi across the border line, knelt down and said, "We're not in Idaho anymore" and pulled out the ring. He then asked her to be his wife.

What is love?

Rindi- To me, love is total acceptance. To be able to love someone for everything that they are, not

just the good stuff. Love is feeling incomplete when your significant other isn't around. It's complete and pure joy when you think of spending the rest of your life with the love of your life.

Jordan- Love is being able to express yourself.

Love is showing your willingness to respect the person who you are going to spend time and all eternity with. Love is the ability to love and to nurture your children along the side of your spouse. The care that is passed around from person to person, that inner feeling knowing that there is someone out there who truly means the world to you.

What do you love most about each other?

Rindi- I love how thoughtful and selfless Jordan is. He will go out of his way to make someone else happy. He loves to do the little cute stuff for me like take me on a picnic in the park or lie out on a blanket and watch the stars. Sounds cheesy, I know, but I love it!

Jordan- Rindi means the world to me. I love how she is my best friend, and that I can be myself around her. Her willingness to help me be the best

I can, and everything she does for me is just outstanding. I also love her eyes, they are perfect to me.

When did you know you were in love?

Rindi- I was scared of that word in high school.

It wasn't until I said it out loud and it made me feel so good that I knew I was head over heels in love with him.

Jordan- When I surprised her one day by kissing her for the first time when she least expected it. I felt something that I have never felt before!

Fun Facts: We both love to travel and hope to one day make it to all the continents!......except Antarctica.

Honeymoon plans: Trip to Hawaii!!

Wedding details: We're getting married August 31st, 2013 in Calgary, Canada. Our colors are dusty rose and navy blue! We can't wait!!

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Joseph+ Hannah Photos by: Kristine Paulsen Photography kristinepaulsenphotography.com

Who are you?

Hannah Smith, 27 is originally from Livingston, Montana.

She has lived in Missoula since 2007 and loves every minute of it. Hannah enjoys floating the Blackfoot, Clark Fork, and Bitterroot Rivers in inner tubes, and is a selfproclaimed badminton champion.

Joseph St. Peter, 28, a Missoula, Montana native, has worked and lived around the west. He came back to Missoula to pursue a Masters in Forestry at the University of Montana. An avid outdoor enthusiast, Joe participates in league soccer, softball, and ultimate frisbee.

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How did you meet?

I was a waitress at the time, and Joe came in with a friend on Mardi Gras. We immediately hit it off. I thought he was so handsome and funny. He thought I was funny for pronouncing "feta" wrong (fey-ta rather then fett-a). He didn't get my number that night because he was afraid that I was just being nice since I was in customer service.

When he left I was so disappointed that he didn't ask for my number. It was a couple of weeks later that he came back in. I wasn't his waitress that time, but kept giving

him the eye across the room that let him know it was obvious I wanted him to ask me out.

The proposal?

We had started casually ring shopping and we went to a store together and picked out a beautiful ring. Originally we were just looking to get some ideas, but a whirlwind of salesmanship and shiny diamonds later I was putting a deposit on an engagement ring right there in front of Hannah! Needless to say, she knew it was coming, but I was determined to surprise her and make up for buying the ring in front of her. To that end, I scheduled several 'fancy date nights'. That way she wouldn't know which night was the big night. The day of our first scheduled date I picked up a dozen bouquets and potted flowers (her favorite), and a corsage. She had mentioned the previous night that no one had ever given her a corsage. I took all of this loot, minus the corsage, and dropped it off at my parents’ house with specific instructions to set it up in our house when we went out to dinner. With that done, I hustled back to our house and presented Hannah with her corsage. She was cleaning at the time and was very thankful but unimpressed with my timing, saying

that I should have waited until she wasn't cleaning the bathroom. I apologized, saying that I was lousy with surprises, all the while hoping that I wasn't too obviously trying to throw off her suspicions about our date that night. We went out to dinner and on the way in Hannah surreptitiously felt my pockets looking for the ring, Luckily I had left it at home. She definitely had her hopes up, and we were both anxious at dinner so I asked her what was wrong, and she said that it was difficult when any night could be the big night. Again I apologized and said that I didn't have the ring on me (because it was waiting for her at home!). She was very disappointed, and I felt bad for putting her through this emotional roller coaster, but I knew it would pay off once we got back to the house. When we finally got back the house, I rushed into the living room and grabbed the ring from its hiding place and got down on bended knee at the end of an aisle of flowers. Hannah turned the corner and gasped, I had completely surprised her! She stood there with her hand over her mouth repeating, "Oh my God! Oh my God!!”, until I motioned to her to walk down the aisle, where I was nervously waiting. I told her that she was my best friend, that I had loved her from the day we met and that

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Love is probably the hardest thing to define.

It's just something you feel with no questions asked. It's the backbone of your relationship.

When things get hard or the unexpected happens, it's love that makes it all worth it, at the end of the day.

I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her - would she marry me. She said "yes, yes, a million times yes!" and I have never been happier.

What is love?

Joseph- It is hard to describe what love is, but when you find the one to love it is inescapable.

Hannah- Love is probably the hardest thing to define. It's just something you feel with no questions asked. It's the backbone of your relationship. When things get hard or the unexpected happens, it's love that makes it all worth it, at the end of the day. It's looking into his eyes and thinking, "Wow, this is it."

What do you love most about each other?

Hannah- Besides his rugged good looks, amazing sense of humor, and great family values, I know that he will always support and believe in me, even when I can't do it for myself. I know Joe will be an amazing husband and father and grandfather, and will always put our family first.

I love spending my life with him, and he makes the most mundane parts of life become exciting and fun.

Joseph- Her sense of humor, gentleness and immense capacity to care are amazing. I love all of her little mannerisms, her myriad of facial expressions. Every day I find something new to love about her.

When did you know you were in love?

Hannah- We hit it off immediately, but I think it was around the fifth date or so. I could tell this one was different; it was like finding the other piece of the puzzle.

Specific moments that really solidified that feeling were a middle of the night emergency room visit and a Smith family vacation. Even though both were pretty early in our relationship, he didn't run or think it was too muchhe was there for me. That was big. I knew he was feeling the same way when he looked into my eyes and said, "There you are. I've been looking for you my whole life."

Joseph- It was obvious from the beginning that this girl was different. We had similar interests and a similar sense of humor. We got along like we had known each other all of our lives. Everything felt comfortable and natural - no facades or awkwardness. Being with her felt completely right. I knew that this was going to be a very

serious and intense relationship, which was very scary for me. I didn't know if I was ready to meet the 'one'. So, when we first started dating I was trying to balance taking it slow with not trying to make her feel unwanted. I would never forgive myself if I hurt this girl, because I was scared by how great she was. I gave up on that fairly early and fell hard for her. I eventually told her I loved her after a few weeks, because I was worried it would just slip out when I wasn't paying attention.

Wedding details: Our wedding will be on the Summer Solstice of 2014, at Historic Fort Missoula. Heritage Hall has a six acre parade ground, where they used to train the Calvary. We love lawn games so we'll utilize the whole space with bocce ball, croquet, and badminton.

Honeymoon plans: Somewhere tropical with cabanas on stilts, over the water.

Fun Facts Hannah loves unicorns and in addition to flowers, Joe proposed with a bouquet of stuffed unicorns.

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getaway} Fort Benton

Grand Union Hotel Fo r t B e n t o n

By Alex M. Neill, Esq.

We recently took a trip back in time and visited We stayed in the stunning Junior Suite, on the third floor, vas. The building had been abandoned and completely the Grand Union Hotel in Fort Benton, Montana. featuring incredible views of the Missouri River from all stripped. The few pieces that remained were the origiI honestly was not too sure what to expect when we planned to visit the small town of Fort Benton.

We were more than pleasantly surprised! We discovered an intriguing piece of Montana history - a little jewel of a town located in a small river valley along the Missouri River.

The Grand Union Hotel is a stately hotel that has withstood time and will return you to the days of the fur trade, when steamboats lined the river just outside its windows. Fort Benton once earned its fame as a fur trading post, growing in popularity with the discovery of gold in Montana, bringing countless outlaws, merchants, traders, and pioneers to this trade center.

You cannot miss the hotel when you arrive in Fort Benton. It is located right on the Missouri River, and it is one of only two hotels in the town. The hotel looms distinctly over Front Street, just as it did when it first opened in 1882.

The Grand Union is the oldest operating hotel in Montana. The hotel originally opened on November 2, 1882, seven years before Montana became a state. The hotel was built at the height of the steamboat era on the banks of the Upper Missouri River. These were exciting times in Fort Benton, with the fur trade and the steamboats.

The hotel has 26 guest rooms, offering a Deluxe Single, with a queen bed, or a Deluxe Double, with either two queen beds or two full-sized beds. There is also your choice of a Junior Suite, or the Master Suite. One of the main attractions to me is that their rates are affordable for the grandeur and luxury of this historic hotel.

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of the windows in our room. At dusk and dawn there were deer feeding in the trees across the river. People were out jogging on the paved running path that curves along the river in front of the hotel. Our room was of good size, featuring a sitting area with a loveseat, and a queen sized bed. Every detail had been thoughtfully considered, including a pedestal sink in the bathroom, and an old fashioned analog clock on the nightstand table. The rooms are beautiful, making you feel right at home; and, wouldn’t it be amazing to visit during Fort Benton’s heyday.

The Master Suite is huge! The Suite overlooks Front Street, the main street in Fort Benton. When the hotel first opened in 1882, the Master Suite was the Ladies Parlour. There was a saloon downstairs (that is now a conference room) that was considered too rough for the ladies, so only men were allowed. But Front Street was a tough street, and the women would sit on the balcony of the Parlour and watch the gunfights. It is funny that women were not allowed in the saloon, but were given the room that overlooked the chaos of Front Street.

The hotel has seen various owners over the years.

Certainly the current owners, James and Cheryl Gagnon, have to be some of the loveliest. James and Cheryl were living in Hong Kong when they returned to Montana to visit relatives in 1995. Their vehicle happened to break down in Fort Benton, and they discovered the abandoned Grand Union hotel.

As native Montanans (Cheryl grew up in nearby Chester), they saw the opportunity to restore and reopen the old hotel. They purchased it and spent the next few years restoring it to its original splendor.

The restoration began in 1997, and the Gagnon's had the difficult task of working from a nearly empty can-

nal staircase, and the reception area in the main lobby.

Cheryl went right to work, completing all of the design work herself. She had worked in the design department for a Hong Kong architecture firm, and was excited to complete the task. On November 2, 1999, on the hotel's 117th anniversary, the Gagnon's reopened the Grand Union's doors, recreating the atmosphere from so long ago.

One of the things you will notice about the hotel is the expensive glass windows and building ornamentation that are on street side and parking lot side, but not on the back of the building or the side facing the Missouri River sides. When the hotel was first built, the street side and the parking lot side were the premium rooms.

No one wanted a room on the river, due to the noise from the frequent steamboats. Very interesting, considering now I think having a room on the river is a must!

These days, it is much more tranquil than at the height of the fur trade!

The hotel is listed on the National Register of Historic Places, and continues to provide a grand experience for all of its visitors. The Grand Union Hotel is… well, grand. The adventure and history that has taken place within its walls still resonates today.

The Union Grille Restaurant is the hotel’s restaurant, which is also open to the public. The Grille has built an excellent reputation, drawing visitors from near and far.

Their patio opens at the end of May, where you will be served your meal right next to the mighty Missouri River. I would recommend the Lamb Meatballs, the Warm Kamut Chicken Salad, and any of the entrées.

Breakfast is included in your hotel stay, so be sure to head down to the restaurant early. We brought breakfast up and ate it in our room each morning, as we were eager

to get out and explore the town. For Flathead Valley resident coffee drinkers, the Grand Union serves Montana Coffee Traders, so you won’t have to miss out on your coffee from home during your stay.

The Grand Union also offers many fun packages to take advantage of on your trip. There is a 2-day Spring Chefs Tasting with wine, the last weekend in April of each year. One of the hotel’s fun events is the annual poker tournaments, one in the spring and one in the fall. They also cater to weddings, family reunions, and business conferences. I would recommend the “Grand Getaway for Two” Package; running from November 1 through April 30. Fort Benton would be the perfect quiet getaway for you this winter.

The Grand Union also features the Union Goods gift shop, where you will find a variety of western treasures.

We were absolutely blown away by the rich and

charming Fort Benton. A paved trail, which passes

right outside the Grand Union, parallels the Missouri River and Front Street for the length of the

town. It offers a stroll through Montana history in the Historic District and Levee Walk. There are several signs on each block informing you of each block’s history. Your stroll will even take you right through “the Bloodiest Block in the West” – or so it was in the

1800’s. And don’t miss a stop at the Wake Cup Coffee House, for lunch or a dessert and coffee while you are touring the town.

The town itself is located along the Lewis & Clark National Historic Trail, the Nez Perce National Historic Trail, and is the gateway to the Upper Missouri River Breaks National Monument. Fort Benton is also listed on the National Register of Historic Places. We took a drive a few miles downriver to Decision Point, where Captains Lewis and Clark wisely chose the Missouri over the Marias River over two hundred years ago.

The array of museums in this small of an area is incredible! You can visit the Museum of the Upper Missouri, the Museum of the Northern Great Plains, the Upper Missouri River Breaks Interpretive Center, and the Hornaday Buffalo. And, don’t miss the Shep Memorial – the dog who waited five and a half years at the train station for his deceased owner to return. The collections on display at the various museums are unbelievable. They include Chief Joseph’s surrender rifle, which is on display at the Upper Missouri River Breaks Interpretive Center.

The Historic Old Fort Benton is the restored trading fort that existed in the 1800’s, and a stop in the fur trading store to see Mr. Spoon is a must. Clad in 1800’s garb, he will give you the history of the town and fur trade, tell stories, and even sing for you!

Fort Benton offers more than just history. There are guided scenic float and fishing trips available. Adventure Bound is a company that works together with the Grand Union Hotel, offering 1 day, 3 day, or 7 day trips to see the famous White Cliffs. They also offer pickup and drop off at the hotel, and gourmet food.

We had such a great time visiting Fort Benton, waking up next to the river, eating dinner on the patio, and brushing up on Montana history. We did not want to leave, and we will return soon.

For more detailed information on activities in Fort Benton, please visit my website, Montana Vacation Blog, at http://www.montanavacationblog.com. For specific information on visiting the Grand Union Hotel, you can visit their site at http://www.grandunionhotel.com/, or call them directly at (888) 838-1882.

I truly hope you can make a trip to Fort Benton, so that you can experience the interesting history, the beautiful Missouri River, and the elegant Grand Union Hotel for yourself.

COLUMN INFORMATION FOR THE GRAND UNION HOTEL: -Oldest Operating Hotel in Montana -Located directly on the Missouri River -Restaurant on site, with patio during summer -4 hours from Whitefish -Breakfast included in room rate -26 Guest Rooms to choose from -Non-smoking -Children Welcome -No pets allowed (except service animals)

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food} tomatoes

Tomato or Tomawto with Broccoli on the Side

By Kristen Ledyard Owner/Executive Chef of John’s Angels Catering LLC

Welcome to the wonderful world of tomatoes. They

are so easy to grow at home now, with the several inven-

tions on home shopping network. But, instead, simply grow them in the garden and enjoy through the summer

into the fall. From adding a little acid to a sweet element,

the simple tomato is an amazing flavorful addition to so many dishes.

I know my husband will not eat raw tomatoes, but loves

homemade spaghetti sauce. Why you ask? The tomato changes flavor when cooked. Cooking brings out the

sweetness with the garden variety. I personally like a

little salt on a garden fresh tomato as a healthy snack.

The simple tomato is one of the healthiest foods in the world. It has been documented to help protect and fight

cancers. A particular study says that by paring tomatoes with broccoli, a person can help fight prostate cancer.

The antioxidants and lycopene are vital in these studies.

Anyway you like it, let’s explore some health and flavor explosions provided by the tomato.

Minced garlic

If you are as busy as most people are in this day and age, breakfast is sometimes not an option. For myself, I enjoy a to go cup of 2% cottage cheese with those sweet heirloom tomatoes sliced and topped off with a bit of truffle salt. As the saying goes, “try it, you will like it”. That special salt combats any bitterness and adds earthiness. I am hungry now!

4 broccoli florets

and easy when unexpected guests arrive. The following

Fresh garden tomatoes (romas will do if winter season) Fresh basil, rosemary, oregano, thyme EVOO

Red pepper flake 1 carrot

Nice white wine (that’s right= not red) Salt and pepper

Preheat oven to 400 degrees and place your tomatoes sliced in half on a baking sheet. Top them with minced garlic, salt, and pepper. Sprinkle with EVOO. Bake for 3040 minutes until you can peel the skins off. Set aside. In a food processor, once tomatoes are cool and peeled, put in some of the basil, rosemary, oregano, carrot, broccoli, and thyme. Process to desired consistency. Make sure to do in small batches. Once completed, place in a large pot, add salt/pepper, and 1 cup of red white. Lightly sprinkle with red pepper flakes and stir. Set on med low heat. Stir every hour, and if your sauce is too thick, add a bit more white wine. Make sure to check for taste, adding a bit of sugar if too bitter. This sauce does take love, but will amaze anyone when added to any pasta dish. You may cut the time down by using a crock pot. Enjoy your flavor bursts with family and guests.

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Tomatoes as an appetizer option are the answer. Quick

recipe is one of my favorites, especially because it can be put together on the fly.

John’s Mom’s Stuffed Tomatoes

Fresh small garden tomatoes

can bake these until they have a crust and serve warm or serve chilled. Remember, they are also delicious when stuffed with hummus for your vegetarian guests - top with chopped parsley.

Remember to serve on themed platters for effect and great story telling. Always keep your pantry in order and update the inventory daily. Tomatoes can be stored in the refrigerator to extend their life; but, hey are preferably used right away and stored at room temperature.

Think of the health benefits, and the cuisine you will create with the simple tomato. Not to mention, you can hide broccoli from your children, in order to get that added nutrition, in the marinara sauce. Be creative, store properly, use local, and enjoy the last of summer.

Lump crab (hummus is an option for any vegetarian guests)

Coleman’s ground mustard Lite mayonnaise

Fresh parsley (Italian flat leaf is preferable)

Take your tomatoes and slice a small straight slice on the bottom. This makes them stand up. Take the inside out of the tomatoes, place on a baking sheet, and set aside. Combine the lump crab with the mayonnaise and Coleman’s mustard. Add a little of each at a time as to not make the mixture too moist or too hot. (No salt or pepper is needed). Fill the tomatoes with the mixture. You

Photo by Alisia Cubberly

Homemade 10 hour Marinara Sauce

food} wine

From the Lake to the Tailgate, The Season’s Best BBQ Beer & Wines

By Karen Sanderson We still have a few more weeks of good grilling season, and as the nights get cooler, it’s time to get excited about the next big sizzle: Tailgate time!

But what’s a grill to do when it comes to BBQ beverage pairing?

We’ve come up with our top five tips on successful beer, wine and BBQ pairing. Whether it’s your backyard or a parking lot party, use this guide for your next outdoor cookout and you and your Weber will keep things heated up well into September.

Tip #1: Warm up your Grill (Master)

Every chef de la Q needs a little something to sip while doing the diligent task of opening the lid, flipping the meat, and closing the lid as many times as you’ll allow before threatening to take away the tongs. In order to slow the amount of needless flips and overtime on the grill, get your master nice and relaxed so that the meat is on the serving dish the second you say, “nice job, honey, they’re done perfectly!”

“Flathead” 75 (based on the French 75 and coined after an awesome day on Flathead with family) 1 ½ ounce Gin ½ ounce Simple Syrup (DIY= 1c water + 1c sugar) ¾ ounce Squeeze of fresh Lemon Juice Top with Sparkling wine (Any sparkling under $10 works great, like Charles de Fere Blancs de Blancs) Sliced Lemon to garnish Tip #2: Pair Lights with Lights, Heavies with Heavies

There is good reason why first courses and appetizers are served with white or rosé wines. They don’t overpower lighter dishes such as salads. When it comes to meats, white meats and fish usually pair well with whites and red meats with reds. The rule changes, however, when rubs, marinades and sauces come into play. Generally, light meats should be paired according to the added

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spice, and richer, heavier meats are enhanced with bigger wines with structure. The same goes with beer.

Try: Pulled Pork Sandwiches with Les Anges Rosé or an Acme Pale Ale. Try: Beef Brisket with a Napa Sanglier Rouge or Sam Smith Oatmeal Stout.

Tip #3: Tannin in wine & bitterness in beer is softened by salts, proteins, and fats

Various marinades and spices may require different styles of wine regardless of the meat. Even though some people don’t like tannic reds, they would be amazed at how the wine changes when paired with certain meals. Likewise, highly tannic foods (like walnuts) would taste odd with super tannic wines; unless you want your mouth to dry up like a cotton ball.

Try: Tangy BBQ Ribs with Honoro Garanacha from Spain or a Okocim Pale Ale. Tip #4: Spicy Foods pairs best with low alcohol, fruity, and low oak wines.

A touch of sweetness is a bonus as it can balance out the hotness of foods in either beer or wine.

Try: Spicy Sausages Tait Ballbuster Shiraz or a Julius Echter Dunkel Bier.

Try: Spicy Peanut Thai Skewers with Eiffel Shine Riesling, or Crabbie’s Ginger Beer.

Tip #5: Save room for dessert The latest summer dessert trends are all about grilled fruits. From strawberries and plums to pineapple and mangos, just about anything sweet is coming off the grill.

Cooked on low heat, these grill very nicely and pair perfectly with dessert wines like moscatos, sauternes, and ice wines.

Try: Grilled Peach Compote over Olive Oil Cake with Vietti Moscato.

Quick Cheat Sheet: Lightweight Foods with Lightweight Wines Creamy with Creamy Acidity with Acidity Spicy: Sweet, Low Alcohol, Low Oak Salty: Fats, Proteins, Tannins If you have any questions visit Brix Bottleshop. Located at the historic Loading Dock (Next to Brannigan’s Pub) 101 East Center St, Ste 102 in Kalispell or call us at 406-3932202. Brix Bottleshop has a growing selection of great marinades, meat rubs, and seasonings to spice up your BBQ this season. Our knowledgeable staff is happy to help you choose a beer or wine that will score big time with your meal. Cheers!

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an eco-friendly remodel

By Inge Cahill, Home Matters, LLC We are all familiar with the fact that books, art and music tell a story. Home design should tell a story as well. Home design is much more than overall square feet and quantifiable amenities like the number of bed and bathrooms, whether there is a wine cellar, theater room, spa or gourmet kitchen. Like the cover of a book, the exterior of a home should look inviting, draw us in and make us curious about what you see when stepping through the entry door.

A home should go beyond just being a physical refuge of four walls and a roof. Understanding and thoughtful attention to detail can make a home a comfortable environment in which to thrive. Integrating meaningful pieces you have collected is important. Whether it is an old reupholstered chair, a piece of art or handmade blanket from a dear friend or relative, exhibit an individual style and illustrate the personality of a home. Those items with goods and trappings collected from life experiences, make a home uniquely your own. Concern for the way the house is built and the materials you use, influence your quality of life during your time of occupancy.

In our eco-friendly home, the balance of natural materials and custom amenities make it completely comfortable and casual. The home establishes a harmonious relationship with the natural environment, as it is nestled on a bank above the Flathead River with views of the Columbia Range. This dwelling was designed as a series of pods to maximize the efficiency of its small foot print and celebrate the interrelationship of interior and exterior spaces. With a modest floor plan of approximately 1700 square feet, only one window facing north, 4 interior doors, well insulated floors, walls and ceiling, and a laundry line in the yard, this home is a tribute to the pragmatics of efficiency.

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My husband Mark and I searched for a home in the Flathead for about three months following the July 4th holiday of 2000. Our objective was to find a location close to a body of water in a quiet neighborhood, with plenty of space for a garden

and no more than 30 minutes from the lifts on Big Mountain. While en route to viewing another location, we passed by a listing that had just come on the market. It appeared to be just what we were looking for so we stopped in.

It was a small one bedroom, single bath, 1300 square foot dwelling, with a two car detached garage, and a peek-a-boo view of the Flathead River on a little less than two acres. Built in the late 50ʼs with bevel cedar siding, a shake roof and single pane windows, we had to consider upgrading and designing a new layout that would transform it to fit our needs within a very manageable budget. So, shortly after closing, we started tearing everything out. Plumbing, electrical, interior and some exterior walls, all the windows and doors, even the kitchen sink and cabinets were removed.

Those elements were recycled through salvation outlets, scrap yards or sold to the public. With only enough of the original walls to hold up the roof, footings were dug to accommodate the enlarged footprint. We removed nails from old lumber and reused them to make forms for the concrete footings, and then retained interesting moldings for accents throughout the house.

After all the windows and doors had been replaced, the exterior walls were furred out and prepped for stucco in a manner in keeping with traditional southwestern methods. A modern relief, using 2” ridged foam, was affixed around the windows and doors, adding depth and character to those openings. Then chicken wire was applied over tar paper, followed by a cementituous scratch coat which was allowed to cure for a number of months. Then a brown coat was troweled

on and allowed to cure for another six months.

This amount of time allows for thorough curing to occur in the form of expansion, contraction and cracking. A final color coat was applied over the inch thick coats of previously applied stucco, and it is in the same crack free condition as it was the day it cured.

The area that is now our kitchen, used to share space with the bathroom and dining area. We added 300 square feet for the new bathroom and laundry area and retained the kitchen/dining concept. While removing the flooring we discovered that the joists were rotten so we decided to pour concrete in place following the addition of radiant heat coils. A full panel French door to the concrete patio really opened up the kitchen and a new roof line was added to the old one to shelter the new addition. The kitchen design includes industrial features like stainless steel and concrete countertops, slab style Ash cabinet doors, and drawers exhibit interesting grains, density and durability. An original built in corner cabinet in the kitchen/dining area was refinished and holds our tableware.

The newly added bathroom elevated the living sta dards of this home. It is spacious, light and functional, and features a comfort height vanity top, modern Kohler plumbing fixtures, a built in jacuzzi tub with views of the Flathead River, Columbia Mountain and towering tree tops. The spacious glazed, porcelain tile walk in shower walls reflect natural light coming through a skylight. And, a warm, radiant heated concrete floor keeps it comfortable throughout the year.

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A small 6 x 10 foyer was added to the living an interior concrete stairway with plastered walls, perature stays at a comfortable level without air conroom and serves as an area to remove coats and

shoes before entering the home. It has a full glass panel entry door and large windows that allow lots of natural light to filter in.

The final addition was an interior hall and stairway into the basement. The basement was a damp, dark room, like a root cellar and not a livable space. It was only accessible from an exterior door, similar to a storm cellar door. We framed in that doorway, cut an opening through the concrete basement wall and added a window well for emergency egress and sunlight. The basement now contains a bedroom, guest room and dry storage area that are accessed by

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stained concrete and radiant heat. All the walls and ceilings were re-textured, and paint was applied in a harmonious way, using 9 different shades of color.

The original single bedroom was carpeted, and when we removed the carpeting we discovered a narrow plank oak tongue and groove floor that was in good condition. We cleaned it up and applied a new finish to its surface. The living room had a plywood sub floor, so we installed a wall to wall wool carpet. All the floors in our home, with the exception of the living room and original bedroom, are stained concrete with radiant heat.

With well insulated walls, R48 roof insulation, and the surrounding canopy of trees, the interior tem-

ditioning or forced air. The high efficiency natural gas fired boiler circulates radiant heat throughout the home and provides domestic hot water as well.

In case we either made it appear easy or seem that renovating a small cottage is a piece of cake, remember, it has to get ugly before it gets pretty and working through Montana weather conditions can be a bit challenging at times. However, once completed you will find your efforts rewarded with years of comfort, security, pride and satisfaction.

The End. Or rather the beginning of living in a new home. It is so worth it. An Eco-Friendly Remodel by Inge Cahill, Home Matters, LLC

From top to bottom left to right: Bathroom after the remodel, original house built in 1949, House after remodel, Kitchen after the remodel, interior remodel, outdoor living space, remodel in progress.

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D e a t h , Ta x e s , a n d D e n t a l T r a u m a

by Dr. John F. Miller DDS

Every other month, I have the opportunity to brainstorm on my next “dental” topic to discuss with the readers of 406 Woman Magazine. I focus on maintaining relevance and reader interest with the otherwise “unsexy” profession of dentistry. Now that I’ve got you two sentences deep, thanks for reading, and please see my previous articles at 406Woman.com.

I recently had the unique opportunity to perform an aesthetic porcelain crown restoration on a tooth that had spent the better part of fifteen minutes in the murky depths of Whitefish Lake some years earlier during the patient’s teenage years. While swimming with some friends and family, the patient was struck by a knee board causing the complete avulsion (loss) of his front left incisor. The patient’s father had the wherewithal and persistence to perform multiple dives to the 50

bottom of the lake searching for the lost tooth. Upon eventual discovery of the tooth, the father replaced it in its God-given natural location in the patient’s maxillary jaw bone and visited the dentist immediately. The tooth was temporarily stabilized and ultimately a smile was saved.

The above story demonstrates a parent educated in dental trauma protocol. As a dentist I see dental trauma routinely, and it has become clear to me that a refresher course will benefit our amazing Montana women and their families. So grab a refreshing beverage, get comfortable in your favorite chair and think of the teeth that will be saved.

First, let me briefly describe the anatomy of the human tooth. The outer shell of the tooth consists of approximately 1 to 2 millimeters of hard enamel; the hardest tissue in the human body. Beneath the enamel is a yellowish layer

called the dentin. and in the middle of it all is a chamber housing called the pulp, or the nerve and blood supply of the tooth. All of these layers mimic the outer anatomy of their respective teeth much like Russian nesting dolls.

Below the gumline, the enamel and dentin layers converge into the root composed of a tissue called cementum.

Fractures: A tooth fracture that does not involve the pulp is categorized as a Uncomplicated Tooth Fracture and is easily restored or contoured by your dentist depending on the extent of tooth loss.

Also, within the uncomplicated tooth fracture category are Infractions, or fractures that are visible but do not result in the loss of tooth structure.

It probably goes without saying, but tooth fractures that involve the pulp of the tooth and are considered Complicated Tooth Fractures. These fractures require immediate dental inter-

vention and will require some form of pulp therapy.

Luxation: If following dental trauma, the tooth is tender to touch, has increased mobility (can be wiggled; is loose), or is no longer in its natural position (displacement), the tooth has suffered trauma referred to as Luxation. If a tooth is only tender to touch without displacement or increased mobility, then it has sustained a type of luxation known as Concussion. If the tooth is not displaced but has increased mobility and is bleeding around the gums, then it has sustained Subluxation.

More severe luxative injuries involve the tooth being displaced from it’s natural position in any direction: up (intrusive), down (extrusive), front or back (lateral), etc. If the force is severe enough (like, let’s say a hockey stick to the mouth) the result will be a complete loss of the tooth or Avulsion.

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Type of Dental Trauma

Signs // Symptoms

Immediate Treatment

Dental Visit Needed

Infraction

Visible Crack

None

Not Immediately

Uncomplicated Fracture Complicated Fracture

Loss of Enamel & Dentin

None

Yes, for restoration or contouring

Fracture into Pulp with bleeding

See Dentist

Yes, for pulpal therapy and restoration

Subluxation

Tooth is Loose with bleeding gums

None

Yes, for temporary stabilization, etc.

Extrusive Luxation

Tooth appears longer

Reposition tooth to original location

Yes, for temporary stabilization, etc.

Replace tooth into socket

Yes, for temporary stabilization, etc.

Concussion

Lateral Luxation

Intrusive Luxation Avulsion

The above guidelines are specifically for permanent adult teeth but translate seamlessly to the treatment of pediatric tooth trauma, with the exception of tooth avulsion. In this case it is recommended not to replace the baby tooth.

Take your child to the dentist to discuss the best treatment for the missing tooth. It should also be noted that tooth replacement might not always be possible. If that is the case place the tooth in a suitable storage medium, e.g. a glass of milk or saline. The tooth can also be transported in the mouth, keeping it between the molars and the inside of the cheek. If the patient is very young, he or she could swallow the tooth therefore it is advisable to get

Tender to touch

None

Displacement of tooth in a lateral direction

Reposition tooth to original location

Tooth appears shorter

See Dentist

Tooth is gone

Not Immediately

Yes, for temporary stabilization, etc.

Yes, for monitoring and potential repositioning, etc.

the patient to spit in a container and Prevention: place the tooth in it. Avoid storage in In the interest of ink and paper, wear a mouth guard when necessary. Your water!" dentist can make you a custom lowFollowing any of the above forms of profile mouth guard equivalent to luxation or avulsion, your dentist will what professional athletes are wearing. initially stabilize the tooth with a flex- You name the sport and tooth trauma ible splint for approximately 4 weeks has likely occurred. I once heard of an aggressive checkmate resulting in a to allow the tooth and its supporting luxated tooth...not seriously, but use tissue to heal. The majority of these common sense and let’s not rely on injuries result in what we refer to as a hindsight’s perfect vision. necrotic pulp, and the tooth takes on the characteristic darker gray color of- In this day and age we have many great ten called a “dead” tooth. Your dentist options for tooth replacement if one is will discuss with you a treatment plan lost, but none of these options (imthat will ultimately restore your tooth plant, bridge, etc.) can mimic the subtle anatomy that a natural tooth root aesthetically and functionally.

has on the gums around a tooth. The gums and gingival anatomy are equal partners with the teeth in creating that healthy vibrant smile that we all want.

I want to thank those readers who have made it to the end and offer my standard disclaimer: I have only given you the cliff notes on the topic and invite you to visit dentaltraumaguide.org for a more in depth discussion on the topic. There you will find definitions and images along with a great flowchart called the “trauma pathfinder”.

This will allow the user to make a diagnosis based on the signs and symptoms. Enjoy what remains of another amazing summer here in Montana and don’t forget to smile.

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By Erin Blair, Licensed Esthetician + Certified Health Coach

I think I have sensitive skin. Pretty much everything I use on my face stings, burns or itches. I’ve tried a lot of different products in hopes of finding something that doesn’t irritate me, but I’m having a difficult time of it. Can you help point me in the right direction? Is there a way to know if something will potentially feel uncomfortable? And is there anything I can do to lessen the sensitivity?

Sensitive skin is challenging, because it can have so many causes.

Skin can become sensitized due to various factors, including overuse of products, overzealous exfoliation, exposure to the elements, lack of hydration, and poor diet. This type of sensitivity can be overcome by avoiding what you determine is causing the problem. I’ve seen chronically sensitized skin return to a balanced state with a simple increase in drinking water.

On the other hand, if you’ve always been bothered by practically everything that touches your skin, you’ve likely inherited the sensitive skin type. While you can’t change the fact that your skin is easily aggressed, you can avoid the ingredients that are known to cause irritation. There will be some trial and error involved, but I can help point you in the right direction.

My short list of what not to use? Fragrances, perfumes, or dyes; isopropyl or SD alcohol (note that many other alcohols are actually moisturizing and do not pose a threat); deodorant bar soaps; cleansers or shampoos containing sulfates; makeup containing bismuth oxychloride; AHAs, retinoids, and scrubs. It’s also critical to ensure all your laundry products are free of softeners, dyes, fragrance, and boosters such as Borax or oxy-type additives.

You’ll need to get comfortable reading labels and weeding out the offenders. There is no governance of claims made on product labels, so ‘Hypoallergenic’ can mean whatever the manufacturer wants it to mean. Really, the same goes for ‘Dermatologist Tested’ and ‘Safe for Sensitive Skin’. Don’t trust anything on the front of the label; flip it over and read the back. If that’s daunting, an Esthetician with a solid knowledge of ingredients can help you make sense of the formula.

Keeping your routine as simple as possible will help. It’s best to steer clear of products with long lists of ingredients. Complicated formu- I recommend that my sensitive clients start a simple liquid cleanser, las that include lots of herbal extracts and essential oils, while per- a simple moisturizer, and either zinc or titanium dioxide sunscreen.

We avoid chemical sunscreen ingredients, which can be quite irrihaps ‘all natural’, can wreak havoc on sensitive skin.

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There is no governance of claims made on product labels, so ‘Hypoallergenic’ can mean whatever the manufacturer wants it to mean.

Really, the same goes for ‘Dermatologist Tested’ and ‘Safe for Sensitive Skin’. Don’t trust anything on the front of the label; flip it over and read the back.

tating. If they can tolerate a low percentage lactic acid for gentle exfoliation, I add that in to their routine very gradually. If not, an enzyme exfoliation is a great option, as is a nourishing mask. For makeup, I suggest a simple mineral powder.

When first trying a new product, test for sensitivity by applying a small amount behind your ear and sleeping with it overnight. If that goes well, try applying it to your face, on the temple area adjacent to your eye. If it passes that test, you should be fine. However, if you find that even the simplest products are intolerable, my solution is to take a break from EVERYTHING and only splash with cool water for several days. This gives your barrier time to repair, after which you can try again with some basics.

Regardless of whether your skin is sensitized due to lifestyle factors or genetically sensitive, a healthy diet and increase in drinking water will help keep your skin as balanced and healthy as possible. Lots of fruits and vegetables, omega 3 fatty acids, and healthy fats from nuts, seeds, avocados, and coconut oil in the diet can only benefit your skin. Skin is the last organ to receive nutrients, which means it’s the first to show an imbalance. Lack of healthy fats and water in the diet will translate to an inadequate barrier, incapable of protecting you from moisture loss. A weak barrier also allows potentially irritating ingredients to enter into the skin, causing stinging, itching or burning.

I consider myself a detective. I look for clues by reading skin and what listening to what it’s try to tell us. It’s almost never just about topical products, but rather a combination of what’s going on both inside and outside. Irritated skin is a billboard, announcing that we’re in need of…something different. It’s a beautiful design, really.

Erin Blair, LE CHC specializes in acne treatment and holistic nutrition, and is the owner of Skin Therapy Studio.

Please submit questions for Skincare Answers to skintherapystudio@gmail.com.

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40 Is The New 40

By Delia Buckmaster Photo by Todd Domenic Cribari

As soon as I turned 36 I would tell people I was almost 40. Not because I wanted to be older, but that I wanted to stop anticipating turning the corner. Or maybe, I wanted to be 30 again. After all, it is the new 30?

Being in my profession, there is a ton of pressure to look a certain way, perform with intensity and keep up with young professionals in this industry. Being competitive comes with the territory. Along with knowledge and experience, you do need to maintain a good level of fitness to be a good instructor. Recently, at the IDEA World Fitness Conference in Los Angeles, I participated in a 100 meter rowing challenge. I attempted to beat the record 5 times in a row, only to follow it with a walk to the foam roller booth around the corner, recommended to me by the other middle aged participants.

This level of intensity will get more difficult with every decade that passes. I’m getting tired faster; my body and face have changed just in the last 9 months. And, I have to work harder to keep my rear end from resting on the back of my legs. The point is, if I try to compete with 20 or 30 I will completely set myself up for failure. 40 isn’t the new 30. It’s not even the old 30 (which by the way were not dirty, so I must have missed something). That coined phrase only puts pressure on woman to look a decade younger. I’ve already been 30. Seriously, I don’t want to go back there. I feel 40 is the new 40.

What we have to do is stop comparing and obsessing. We start to magnify our imperfections as we get older and compare ourselves to women, especially those in magazines that are airbrushed and digitally enhanced. This is like comparing yourself to something that is not real. We have to focus on the best that we can be.

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What makes us beautiful as we get older is aging gracefully (maybe a little Botox) and focusing on taking care of ourselves and not focusing on our flaws. Aging really is a state of mind. Sometimes it can be really hard to believe that we see in the mirror isn’t matching to how you feel on the inside. But many woman are looking better their 40’s than in their 30’s. Perhaps that when we are young, we take youth for granted and work harder as we get older.

However there are different factors to consider as we age.

Some of it we can control and others we can’t.

Metabolism It’s no joke that as we age our metabolism changes as does the shape of our figures. Unless you are one of the lucky few to hit the big genetic lottery, staying fit isn’t easy. Your 40’s are a time to pay more attention to our bodies and how we take care of ourselves. "At age 40 to maintain your weight, that is to not gain weight, you're going to have to eat 100 calories less a day, and that has nothing to do with anything other than the natural course of aging.”

Madelyn Fernstrom, PhD, director of the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center Weight Management Center and associate director of the UPMC Nutrition Center in Pittsburgh.

Lifestyle As we age our lives become more complicated, whether it’s with children, work, or relationships. So we have less time on our hands to be more active and pay attention to what we are eating. We have more sleepless nights (and not for cool fun reasons) than the 20 and 30 year olds. During sleep, the body releases hormones. Growth hormone and melatonin are hormones that regulate your biological clock, benefit your body tissues, and work as antioxidants to help you fight off illness. When there is a lack of sleep, there is not enough growth hormone and melatonin released to rejuvenate the body and maintain normal functioning. Your body has less ability to perform basic metabolic functions such as processing and regulating carbohydrates.

Workouts Most adults lose one-half pound of muscle mass each year after age 20, according to the American Council on Exercise. This can be confused with weight loss as the “skinny fat” phase sets in. It’s mostly due to decreased physical activity. Strength training, including lifting weights, can increase your muscle mass, aid in weight control and improve your ability to perform activities of daily living. Strength training should be a part of your fitness routine, especially as you age. Exercise can be a fountain of youth for a lot of women. We have to work harder to keep muscle-mass which helps speed up your metabolism.

Maintaining strong fast-twitch muscle fibers (the ones responsible for power) becomes even more important. You still want to be able to jump up to the top shelf of your

closet for that perfect fall sweater. Walk, swim, dance, hike, bike, and row. Be sure to incorporate flexibility training such as Pilates and yoga in to your routine to remain limber and strong.

Here are 3 great moves to slow down the aging process: Triceps: You don’t want your triceps to keep waving goodbye once the rest of your arm is done waving. Get into a push-up position with your arms close to your body, like you would for Chaturanga in yoga. If you’re starting out, get on your knees, or against a ballet bar. Then simply do push-ups — start with 4 counts push-ups, 3 counts down, 1 count, and finish with 8 single counts. Make sure to pull stabilize your shoulders for maximum impact.

Bonus: Push-ups are also great for toning your abs.

2. Booty… Target the butt from a strength stand point.

Shoulder Bridge with Mini Hand weights. Start in a bridge position, pelvis and spine neutral, one foot on the floor, hip lifted, other leg and arms straight and extended to ceiling, hands holding weights. Keep the hips lifted and then lower the opposite leg, reaching arms out to sides, palms up. Reach leg and arms to ceiling. Repeat 8 times.

3. Stand up straight! Bad posture, rounded shoulders and a hunched back all give away your age. Try exercise that increase extension of your middle and upper back: Begin standing with legs hip-distance apart, holding a golf club or pole straight out at chest level, and your arms shoulder-distance apart. Activate your ab muscles and lift hands above your head. Reach up as you lift your chest as high as you can. Come back to a straight standing position with your hands above your head, and then lower your arms to chest height. 5 repetitions Women in their 40’s are looking and feeling better than ever. For some, it is a new beginning, for others it’s a time where they are comfortable in there own skin. What ever it is, embrace it. If someone says “you look good for 40” say thank you. It’s a compliment, not an insult.

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By Gwenda C. Jonas, MD Kalispell OB-GYN

I have heard that I can have my tubes tied in my doctor’s office. Is this true?

If you have decided that you are happy with the size of your family and would like permanent birth control, there is an in-office sterilization method available. It is called Essure and it has been approved in the United States since 2002.

Over 600,000 women have undergone this procedure with a very high success rate and minimal complications. With a published pregnancy rate of approximately 3 per 1000 procedures, it appears to have the lowest failure rate of any of the present methods of sterilization.

By comparison, the pregnancy rate of having your tubes cut and tied immediately after delivery has an expected pregnancy rate of 6 per 1000 procedures after 5 yrs. Serious complications occur in less than 1% of procedures.

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Essure is a sterilization procedure performed under local anesthesia with little or no pain medications.

It involves dilating the cervix and looking inside the uterus with a lighted instrument to see the opening of the fallopian tubes. A very small coil (the Essure device) is placed through the cervix and uterus into the fallopian tube on each side. The coil is initially tightly wound and expands after release to secure itself into the tube. No incision is required. The body then naturally infiltrates the device with benign tissue forming a blockage in the tube that prevents the sperm from reaching the egg. This process occurs over about three months. The coil made of nickeltitanium, stainless steel, and a polymer; these are the same materials used in heart stents and other medical devices.

If so, is it a safe, effective option?

You will need to continue to use your current method of birth control for 12 weeks. At that time, your doctor will arrange an x-ray procedure, called an HSG, to confirm that both coils have scarred in at the correct level and that both of your tubes are blocked. You may then discontinue other methods of birth control.

Advantages of hysteroscopic sterilization include that it is minimally invasive with lower costs and less pain than other sterilization methods and it does not require being put to sleep. It utilizes no hormones.

It has a lower risk of serious complication (2 complications per 10,000 procedures) than traditional methods of female sterilization performed through the laparoscope or through a small belly button incision immediately after delivery (10 per 10,000 procedures). Most women can return to normal activities w/in 24 hours.

Disadvantages include the fact that 5% of the time both coils cannot be placed with the first procedure and a second procedure or different form of sterilization may be required. In around 8% of cases, both tubes are not blocked at 3 months and a repeat test will be required at 6 months. Very rarely a coil may perforate the tube or uterus requiring further surgery. This occurs less than 1% of the time. As with any surgical procedure there is a risk of infection or long term pain. Again these are very uncommon with hysteroscopic sterilization.

It is important to note that 2-4% of women regret the decision to be permanently sterilized. Studies have

shown that factors associated with these feelings include choosing to do so before the age of 30, after a complicated pregnancy or loss of a baby, or during a time of marital stress. If any of these describe your situation, you may want to consider a long term reversible birth control method such as an IUD or Nexplanon.

You are not an Essure candidate if you are still considering future pregnancy, have an active or recent pelvic infection, are less than six weeks from your last delivery, miscarriage or abortion, or have a history of an allergic reaction to HSG dye.

Insurance coverage is expanding for hysteroscopic sterilization due to the Women’s Preventive Services provision of the Affordable Care Act. As of August 2012, many insurance plans were required to cover all methods of birth control w/o copays, deductibles or out of pocket costs at time of plan renewal. If you are interested in undergoing hysteroscopic sterilization, call your insurance company and ask if Procedure code 58565 is covered. If not, ask when your plan renews and if it will be covered at that time.

Then call your Gynecologist and ask if they perform this in-office procedure. If they do not, they should be able to give you the name of one of their colleagues who does perform the procedure. Or, you can go to www.essure.com and click on the ”Find a Doctor” tab. Enter your zip code and a mileage range (use 100 miles to make sure it accesses the correct MDs), and names of local physicians providing this service will appear.

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Caring for Your Child’s Ear Infection

By Kent Keele, DO

Otitis Media, commonly referred to as middle ear infection, is an ailment that most parents are familiar with. It is the most common ailment requiring medical therapy in children under five years old. It can be a frustrating problem for both parents and the children that suffer through the recurrent pain and hearing loss. Parents often ask what makes one child more likely to get an ear infection than another. Risk factors include allergies, the use of daycare, having older children in school that might expose the younger sibling to a viral illness and exposure to tobacco smoke. There has also been some evidence that children who were breastfeed for the first twelve months of life have a decreased chance of recurrent otitis media.

If risk factors can’t be decreased, treatment to clear the infection may be needed. An ear infection can be treated with analgesics and topical pain relievers, while the body’s own defenses work to resolve the infection. Twen-

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ty percent of ear infections need medical intervention in order to resolve. If conservative measures fail to work, antibiotic therapy may be needed. The first line of antibiotic therapy is oral amoxicillin or antibiotic ear drops. If there is no improvement in the first three days a change in antibiotic may be warranted.

Despite appropriate therapy, some children will continue to suffer from recurrent ear infections and a consultation with an Otolaryngologist may be recommended by your physician. Many children will require Tympanostomy tube placement or ear tubes. The most common criteria to determine when it is time to consider placing ear tubes is when your child has more than 3 episodes of acute otitis media in 6 months or 4 in a year, or fluid in the middle ear for 3 months or more. There are instances when intervention may be recommended earlier, such as when there are preexisting medical conditions or previous infections have been severe.

In order for children to develop age appropriate speech and language skills, they must be able to first hear what those around them are saying. The hearing loss that occurs with a chronic or recurrent ear infection can be detrimental to your child’s speech development and can lead to problems in both social settings and academic performance. Our goal in treating ear infections is to improve hearing and ensure your child the best opportunities to develop natural speech, language and academic success.

Kent Keele, DO, is an Otolaryngologist at Glacier Ear, Nose and Throat with offices in Whitefish and Kalispell. He specializes in the areas of ear, nose and throat, and facial plastics as well as identification and treatment of allergies. Dr. Keele has a special interest in providing cutting-edge care of the ear and sinus disorders for both adults and children.

He practices with Otolaryngologists Drs., Oehrtman, Schvaneveldt and Tubbs.

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health} buckle up

Keep our roads safe this summer In Montana, summers mean hitting the road. We are a state that is spread out. So, for many of us, enjoying our state means driving long distances, particularly in the summer when the beauty of our state is put on display.

Do yourself a favor this summer and make sure you and your loved ones are buckled up when you hit the road.

Montana is famous for its fast speed limits, wide open roads and long, lonesome highways. However, this isn’t an excuse for recklessness, and not wearing a seatbelt anytime you’re in a vehicle, is simply reckless.

As of mid-June this year, 59 of the 79 people who had died in car accidents in Montana were not wearing their seatbelts. Astonishingly, the number of people who report wearing their seatbelts regularly is on the decline from 81 percent in 2004 to 78 percent last year (according to the Montana Department of Transportation).

Compared to national numbers, Montana is well behind the trend – 86 percent of drivers nationally, report wearing their seatbelts on a regular basis.

Despite the overwhelming evidence that buckling up is the number one factor in determining whether you’ll survive a crash, the Montana legislature again this year failed to pass a bill that would allow police officers to pull people over for not wearing their seatbelts. In Montana, even though wearing your seatbelt is the law, officers must pull your over for some other reason before they can write you a ticket for not wearing a seatbelt.

Even at slow speeds, a person can be seriously injured in a car crash if they are not wearing a seat belt. Here’s a little math lesson to sway the nonbuckling motorists. To find the amount of force needed to stop your body during a crash, we use the following formula: Weight X Speed = Force. If you weigh 120 pounds, and you are traveling at 30 miles per hour, 3600 pounds of force will be needed to stop your body from moving forward (120 X 30 =3600).

To put that into perspective, a midsize sedan weighs about 3600 pounds. The human body is physically

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incapable of protecting itself from these kinds of forces. Seat belts and airbags are designed to help our bodies “ride down” crash forces. Seat belts keep us in the “safety cage” of the vehicle, (the part of the vehicle that was designed to protect occupants in a crash). Airbags work with the seat belt to help slow your body down. They are not intended to be used as a stand-alone safety device. They need to be used with the seat belt.

Seat belts can reduce the chance of fatality by 55%.

Why take a chance? Buckle up! Every trip! Every Time!

Another important reason, to do all you can to protect yourself on Montana roads, is the fact that we are a remote state. Chances are if you wreck on Montana’s highways, it’s going to take a while to get emergency help. It’s just a simple fact of the logistics we deal with. We have dedicated and well-trained emergency responders; but, all the training in the world can’t overcome the distances they often travel to crashes.

Along with wearing your seatbelt and driving safely this summer, remember that along with summer fun comes the other part of summer travel that is not so popular – construction.

Highway construction projects are well underway around the state from Scobey to Sula. And, though these projects can create some annoying delays; but, they are vitally necessary to keep our infrastructure sound and ready to serve our communities and economy. So, remember to slow down in construction zones and follow the posted speed limits to help keep everyone safe.

Summer is a short and fun season in Montana, so let’s all work together to keep our roads safe.

Article modified from an editorial from the Helena Independent Record. Permission granted to use with acknowledgment.

wellness} fear

Feel the fear and do it anyway. Yeah, Right.

Written by CrisMarie Campbell

Well, I tried that two weeks ago when after a glass of wine, well, okay two, I invited myself to a previously arranged zip-lining adventure with friends on Whitefish Mountain. In the clarity of the next morning, I thought, “What was I thinking? What made me think I would like zip-lining?!” However, my social fear of backing out was greater than my physical fear at the time. So after much consternation, I went.

Saturday morning I got weighed, suited up in my crotchsynching harness, watched the video, telling me it was like a rollercoaster. Gulp. I hate rollercoasters. I continued on. We trotted out to the first two zip-lines to learn the basics. For me, it was like being catapulted through space and stopped on a dime by a big spring with a loud thwack! My body started to spin with motion sickness after the first 50 ft. one.

I took the chair lift up to the other 5 runs. While on the lift I could hardly turn my head to look around, my hands were gripping the rail so hard. Hey, I know, I know, afraid of a little chair lift - pretty wimpy, right?

When we got to the top, I heard that the lines were 1900 feet long. OMG! I couldn’t do it. I admitted defeat. With my scarlet S of SHAME on my chest, I waved goodbye to the 14 others, and I braved the chair lift down, alone, mind you. When I finally stepped off the lift at the lodge, I was flooded relief.

Who Likes Fear?

Now, there are many techniques that are out there to deal with fear. If you have one that works for you, use it!

Gavin de Becker in the book Gift of Fear talks about how fear is something that needs to be listened to, but that most of us have disconnected from our natural instinct

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because it is not socially acceptable to show fear so we override it.

We don’t like being around people that are afraid because fear is one of those emotions we can easily resonate with and who wants to feel fear? Equally pervasive is that not many people like to talk about fear, because it sounds so…. wimpy, right? Yet fear can be such a powerful force in our lives stopping us from doing things that maybe we really want to do, (not like zip lining, mind you) like starting a new career or standing up to someone or for something you are passionate about.

When Fear Arises – Client Examples

Fear comes up with the clients I work with when they are trying to make changes that matter most to them. Think about it: If it wasn’t scary, they’d have already made the change. So a key step in moving forward is working with their fear. Here are a couple of examples:

Ana works in health care and loves helping people, yet is depressed by all the bureaucracy. Her heart’s desire would be to have a creative job in design, the arts or personal coaching. While she does allow herself to take classes in art, writing and coaching, she is unable to allow herself leave the security of her health care job even in a part-time capacity. When we started coaching together she already certifications and the skills for her desired areas.

Bren grew up with a physically abusive alcoholic father.

While there were lots of family jokes about how dad had a bad temper, no one was really willing to acknowledge the damage done to the kids. Bren had moved 1000 miles away, grateful to get away. She was fine until her parents announced that were coming to visit and wanted

to stay with her. “Yikes!” She called saying she had absolutely no desire to host them, but was unable to ask her parents to stay at a hotel.

Ana and Bren were both gripped by fear. Fear that rises up as soon as you take steps towards what feels more “right” for you, but something in you says you can’t have it. It is like a giant rubber band that stretches just so far and then snaps you back in place.

How To Listen To Your Fear

So no amount of telling either Ana or Bren to feel the fear and do it anyway worked. One method I often use with my clients comes from a body of work called Inner Relationship Focusing by Ann Weiser Cornell, author of The Power of Focusing. The general idea is to be with your fear like you would be with a frightened child and listen to what it is not wanting to have happen to you.

Then, like with any person who is speaking, let it know you hear it.

Here is how to listen to your fear.

1. Use the Body as a Resource: Pause even for just 5 to 10 minutes. Turn your attention to your body, your whole body, specifically feeling your feet, legs and how your body feels against what it is sitting on, focusing on that contact and support. Notice your breathing.

Why? When we are afraid our attention gets very narrow and focused in our minds, which hold us hostage in an obsessive loop, telling us things that increase the fear.

Using your body as a resource widens your attention, feeling your feet, your back, and what you are sitting on, helps bring your energy down into your body, which is a resource.

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2. Bring it Down a Size: This entails using the magic three words, something in me. Rather than saying, “I’m scared,” try saying, “Something in me is scared.” This works with any “negative” feeling that you experience as uncomfortable. Try the two phrases right now with your “negative” feeling of choice.

For example, I’m scared.

Something in me is scared.

See what you notice internally in your body. Often the shift in language creates a bit more space around the feeling so that it doesn’t feel so overwhelming.

3. Turn Towards it and Say Hello: Imagine you can turn towards the something in you that is scared and say hello to it. When you say something in me is scared – it implies that it is not all of you – that means there is something inside of you that is not scared that is available to say hello to that scared place. By turning towards it, there is automatically more of you, a larger sense of you – a resource - saying hello.

4. Ask What it is Not Wanting – When something in you is scared, it usually worried about something that is not wanting to happen to you.

So from this internally focused place, ask it, “What are you not wanting to happen?”

5. Let it know you hear it: When Susan Clarke and I work with teams and couples we often say, “As humans we don’t need to get our way, but we do need to be listened to and genuinely considered.” This is the same with the something in us that is scared. It may feel silly, but let it know that you really hear what it is not wanting. You will be amazed how the feeling will settle down. Sometimes it takes a while, but just like being with a scared friend, often just letting it know you hear it makes all the difference.

When Ana listened to her fear she realized that something in her was

not wanting her to “look stupid” by pursuing all this “silly” stuff. That something believed that medicine was more “credible.” She let it know she really heard it. Once she listened to the something in her that was afraid, it relaxed. She was then able to start her own personal coaching practice and eventually moved to part time in her job. Later she started showing and selling her paintings, allowing her to quit her job. She is now thriving as a coach and an artist.

When Bren listened to her fear she realized that something in her was not wanting to get hit if she asked her father for what she wanted. Listening to her fear took a few sessions since it was such a traumatic memory, but eventually Bren was able to be with the something in her that was afraid enough that it settled down. She realized, it was better to write an email from 1000 miles away and take the chance of getting an angry email back than have that same angry person in her home. Her parents stayed at a near by hotel and the trip was enjoyable for all.

In Summary

So many of us resist feeling fear, which just keeps us stuck. Feelings are energy that if we allow them move through us. The key is to access your resources, your body and a larger sense of yourself, so that you can allow the feeling to be there. Our fear is our friend trying to keep us safe from danger. It is there for some good reason. It may be an outdated reason, but it doesn’t know that. Ask what it is not wanting to have happen and then let it know you hear it. Just like us, it usually has some good information and relaxes when it is heard.

For me, if I had listened to my fear the first time I would have called back my friend the next morning and said, “You know what, when I agreed to go ziplining last night in the bar, I must have had a hole in my head.” By not listening to my fear I compounded the situation (as one often does) and didn’t just have to tell one person but 14 other people, “Ah…you know what? This body…it’s not meant for zip-lining.”

community} Helping others

M entor your way to a better community

By Mike Kofford, Kalispell Education Foundation Director & Community Outreach Coordinator for SD#5

Last February, as the sun was just rising over the Swan Mountains to the East, school bus after school bus rolled into the Flathead County Fairgrounds to spill out over six hundred eighth graders into the main expo hall. A variety of local businesses and some ninety adults greeted them as they entered into a carnival-like atmosphere of interactive games, dancing, sumo wrestling, and a costuming area for photos. A large I-Pledge banner was draped over several tables, as eager students covered it with signatures pledging to stay in school until graduation. All the fanfare officially launched the new Graduation Matters Kalispell program and announced to would-be drop-outs that help was on the way.

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Graduation Matters Kalispell came in with a bang, but now it’s time for the heavy lifting. As director Kalispell Assistant Superintendent Dan Zorn came away from a recent conference for Graduation Matters districts statewide, he knew establishing the fourth leg of the program would be the most challenging. Getting the word out about your program is much easier than identifying kids in need, and crafting a meaningful support system to keep them in school. Other programs successfully implemented tutoring support for their students, but Kalispell wanted something more expansive and personal to build relationships and show the relevance of planning a path toward a successful career. Enter Big Brothers Big Sisters of Flathead County - who not only have the experience to organize a new mentoring system, but also supply a model for recruiting, training, and matching community mentors with all types of students. The twist to the new

program is that matching interests and career areas between mentor and students will provide a vision of opportunities beyond graduation. The Kalispell Chamber of Commerce is assisting by approaching local businesses to identify mentors from a broad range of fields. An auto mechanic would be matched with a student fascinated by cars, while a student with artistic ability could be matched with a graphic artist.

Long time mentor from Big Brothers Big Sisters, Amy Croover, recently sat down and discussed her experience as a successful mentor in the Kalispell community.

She enlisted for her first assignment over four years ago and has developed a lifelong relationship with a young mentee that began at Kalispell Middle School. She will be matched with another student this Fall as part of the Graduation Matters Kalispell mentoring program. The impact of being a mentor often works both ways; a mentor learns as much about themselves and what they have to offer as they do in the sharing of their experience. Here are some excerpts from our recent conversation:

love and support helped me finish high school, strive to finish my bachelor’s degree, and find a good job. She is a woman of integrity and she has taught and continues to teach me how to live an honorable life by example. Her influence has been instrumental in my life, so I sought out Big Brothers Big Sisters to do the same thing she has done for me – be a friend for a teenager who needs one.

Who makes a good mentor?

What was it about your experience, or personality that made you want to mentor?

I don’t think being a mentor requires any special skills, but it does require being a consistent presence in a youth’s life. I wanted to help because I personally understood the value of having a mentor and how deeply it can impact your life choices. It is hard for some teenagers to think about their long-term goals and they need someone in their life to reinforce the steps they must take to build a successful future. Sometimes they just need someone to be their cheerleader and let them know there is another person in this world that cares about them. They need someone who will be honest and give insight into how life really works. Having someone care about you is a very powerful motivator to strive for success.

I was raised by my grandparents. It was a blessing to have them in my life and devastating to lose them both when I was 12 years old. Fortunately, when I was 14, my best friend’s mother unofficially adopted me. She made it clear that she cared about what happened to me, and her

The staff at Big Brothers Big Sisters, are truly dedicated to the youth of this community. They extensively interview both mentors and mentees to ensure they match common interests and personalities. When the match

Would you tell us a little about your mentoring process?

is made, a mentor will spend time with their mentee every week until they learn who they are, their life history, and what obstacles they face in their lives. As a mentor, once you get to know your match you become invested in their life and want to see them succeed. Even kids facing different challenges listen to their mentor in a different way, and when they push boundaries, a mentor can help bring them back to where they need to be.

When I began meeting with my student, she was not interested in school, and her grades reflected her disinterest. She was missing a lot of classes and had no desire to go to college.

From the beginning of our match, I always asked where she wanted to go to college and what she would be majoring in.

I learned to never make it a question about whether or not she was going, but where she would go. In the four years we have been matched, she has gone from a student with poor grades and attendance to a student with good grades who hasn’t missed a day of school in two years! Now she has informed me she is enrolled in the International Baccalaureate program (advanced classes) at Flathead High School for her junior year: I was so proud I could have cried!

Are there any other special memories you can pass on?

In the four years I have been matched with my student, I have grown to care about her tremendously. I always look forward to spending time with her; she is funny, highly intelligent, and a wonderfully kind human being. Watching her grow as a person, through the Big Brothers Big Sisters program has been one of the most personally rewarding experiences of my life. It will be a joy for me to continue to be her number one cheerleader; she is destined for a great future, and sometimes she just needs someone to remind her of that.

As we finished our interview, I wondered how much potential is lost each year for students who choose to drop out because they don’t have a guiding force in their lives. Amy really brought home how one individual can play a major role in the course of another person’s life.

If you or someone at your business would like to participate as a Graduation Matters Mentor, please visit www.graduationmatters.wordpress.com or call (406)751-3432 to complete a statement of interest. The program requires a one year commitment with mentee meetings taking a minimum of eight hours per month. Applicants should be at least 22 (college senior) and be prepared for a basic background check. Flexible training times (two hours) will be available beginning this September, with mentor matches being completed by September 29th.

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family}tecnology

E d u c at i o n a n d T e c n o l o g y W

By Kristen Pulsifer and Sterling Duval Bax

ith over a hundred pages of reading due for tomorrow, I started with the Internet articles. I opened the links sent from my professor, knowing I could skim over the words more easily on the computer versus in my textbooks. If there is one thing I can say is the most challenging about college, is how hard it is to get everything done. I was always told the workload would be a significant change, but I had no idea that meant reading hundreds of pages overnight, and remembering everything, for my next class. Not to mention getting any sleep for the next day.

I did not always skim over articles for my reading, especially since reading and writing are my favorite subjects. This shift has happened over the past few years. More has been demanded of us as students, and many of our information sources and assignments are found on the web. Nicholas Carr’s article “Is Google Making Us Stupid?” in The Atlantic, describes this trendy phenomenon for students everywhere.

Not only are students experiencing a change in learning, but also adults everywhere are finding difficulties with focusing on one subject for long. Deep reading has become a conscious effort because Internet use has affected our brain cognition. Reading Carr’s article ironically proved its point. When I started reading it for an assignment, and despite my personal interest, my brain had skimmed only the important info. After two pages, I was ready to move on in my virtual pile of homework.

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Our brains no longer succumb to a passive form of media, where we are consuming in-

formation. Due to Internet usage, our brains now work similarly to computers. We take in mass amounts of data as “informational highlights through a constant stream of particles”(Carr).

will no longer work with future generations.

Whether books themselves are to be obsolete is another matter. While past generations read history books on the development of America, current history students are expected to have history highlights of the growth of While textbooks have yet to change, news- the entire world. papers and magazines understand the new trend in absorbing information. Magazines Carr argues that we are turning into “pancake have switched to shorter stories and instead people, stretched out with knowledge but do bullet points with plenty of visual aids. no longer deep thinkers.” This change is no When going online for news, one can gain all doubt from Internet use, but has yet to prove the important facts of a story by scanning the itself a change for the better or worse. Voices headline and reading sidebar article high- on the latter side say that students and adults lights. alike rely too much on the computer. Instead of critically thinking for a method to solve a Online companies have learned the power of problem, we can easily search for a computputting hyperlinks in their online articles. We er-generated solution. are addicted to the Internet and the idea of surfing through site after site. By placing the hyperlinks, companies have acknowledged Computer researchers today think of the huthe lack of staying power to any page while man brain as an “outdated computer with a encouraging the viewer to stay within their small hard-drive.” They are working and constantly developing search engines like Google site. to replace the brain with high-speed data When researching, students follow this same processing systems. The other side would armethod of surfing the web for important arti- gue that this allows our brains to access and cles. The technique is “power-browsing”, and use more data than ever before. is one of the biggest differences in generational learning techniques. Students of today can find all of their research sources by typ- With the younger generations reading and ing in their subject on Google Scholar. While learning all through the web, they have acthis cuts hours out of research time for a stu- cess to more data than we could ever imagdent, the number of sources and amount of ine. As long as the Internet continues to grow, information found can be overwhelming. The so will our minds. I believe this means the challenge for students today is narrowing best we can do for our younger generations is their searches and finding credible sources. to try to keep up with technology by providing lesson plans that work with the changing With the amount of information available to- thinking patterns. Perhaps with the changing day, our brains have become decoders when times will “spring a golden-age of intellectual searching the web. Traditional textbooks discovery and universal wisdom”(Carr).

history} Sarah Bickford

C e l e b r at i n g

Sarah

Bickford

By Ellen Baumler

On April 10, 2012, Montana honored Sarah Bickford by inducting her into the Gallery of Outstanding Montanans in the Capitol Rotunda. Sarah was a very special woman who surely saw the West in a different perspective and whose determination, courage, and quiet dignity carried her through the roughest times imaginable. In many ways Sarah Bickford’s life is a puzzle, the pieces difficult to put together. She, like most African Americans who came west, carried the burden of slavery, and this makes her past difficult to trace. Family recollections and official documents record three different birth years, two places of birth, two first names, and four different last names.

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Sarah “Sallie” Bickford was born on Christmas Day in 1852, or 1855, or 1856 in North Carolina or Tennessee. Her parents were slaves of John Blair, a wealthy Tennessee attorney and state senator. Blair had a hotel in Jonesboro, Tennessee. He owned homes there, and in the country. Sarah (nicknamed Sallie) and her family worked as domestics in the Blair household and probably in the hotel. As was common, they took the last name of their owner. We first know Sarah Bickford as Sallie Blair. John Blair died in 1863 amidst the turmoil of the Civil War; and, settling his large estate most certainly caused household upheaval. This is probably when Sarah’s parents were sold away from the Blair household. Sarah never saw them again.

Thus far, Sarah’s parents have not emerged in the written record.

At the end of the Civil War, Sarah went to Knoxville, Tennessee, to live with Nancy and Isaac Gammon. Nancy is referred to as Sarah’s aunt, but the exact relationship remains uncertain.

While in Knoxville, Sarah took the last name of Gammon. There she met John Luttrell Murphy, a local attorney, who was headed west to Montana Territory to take a post as Associate Justice of the Territorial Supreme Court in Virginia City. The judge planned to travel with his two foster children while his wife, Viola, remained in Tennessee. He needed someone to care for the children. Sarah, then a teenager, exchanged her services as a nanny for her passage. Murphy took the bench in 1871 and served only briefly, then left Virginia City but Sarah remained.

Already experienced in domestic work, Sarah was hired on as a chambermaid at Virginia City’s Madison House Hotel. In 1872, she married miner John Brown. The couple had three children, two boys and a girl, but the marriage was not easy. The two little boys died of diphtheria and John Brown proved a miserable husband. In 1880, Sarah showed incredible bravery, engaging the services of prominent attorney Samuel Word to sue Brown for divorce on the grounds of abuse and abandonment. According to her courtroom testimony, her husband beat her repeatedly, and threatened to kill her. The judge granted the divorce, awarding Sarah sole custody of the Browns’ remaining child, seven-year-old Eva. While divorce during this time period is not uncommon, the stigma that it brought was considerable. It took tremendous courage for

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any woman to take legal steps. The fact that Sarah’s divorce was apparently not known even to her surviving children, and only came to light through the recent discovery of her court case in the Madison County courthouse records, indicates just how difficult it must have been for Sarah. It also proves the extraordinary measures she was willing to take to protect her child. As for John Brown, it is impossible to discover what happened to him. With such a common name, even his ethnicity is uncertain.

After her divorce, Sarah worked in the household of Mrs. Adaline Laurin, a very kindly woman whose elegant home was a center of gracious hospitality. In the French-Canadian household, Eva—a very bright and outgoing child—learned to speak fluent French. Sarah also opened a bakery, restaurant and lodging house on Wallace Street. Her advertisements appear frequently in the Madisonian in 1880 and 1881. It is very possible that Adaline Laurin helped Sarah financially in this enterprise.

In 1882 when Eva was nine, she died of pneumonia. All three of Sarah and John Brown’s children are buried in

unmarked graves at Hillside Cemetery in Virginia City. At a time when one in

every five children born died before the age of 5, this story is not unheard of. But

among those women who endured such heartache, Sarah was not one to give up.

Sarah married Stephen Bickford in 1883, changing her name for the last time. Stephen was a white miner, a farmer, and a good provider and husband. Sarah had a second set of children with Stephen, three girls and boy. Sarah’s daughters recalled many years later that growing up, their mother told them poignant little stories about her first family of children, and sang to them the French songs that she and Eva learned in the household of Adaline Laurin.

A contemporary photo of the Hangman’s Building in Virginia City where the water company office was located for decades.

In 1888, Stephen purchased 2/3 share of the Virginia City Water Company and soon after the family moved to the outskirts of town where Sarah began a small truck farm, raising vegetables, cows, chickens, and ducks.

Virginia City’s Chinese provided a ready market for Sarah’s ducks. Her children remembered that their mother kept her proceeds in the sugar bowl in the dining room cupboard.

Stephen died after a three-year illness in 1900. Thirteen-year-old Virginia helped her mother with the water company’s books, but Sarah realized she was not equipped to manage the business. So she took a correspondence course in Business Management.

Once she better understood the business end, Sarah purchased the remaining third of the company and became the sole owner of the utility in 1902. Certainly Sarah was the only woman to own a utility in Montana.

This was an incredible step for an African American woman. In another bold move, she purchased the infamous Hangman’s Building and converted it to her office. Not only did Sarah manage the business, she personally collected the bills, visited every customer, and in this way learned their needs and those of the community. While she earned their respect, Sarah kept after her custom-

ers to pay their bills on time, and it wasn’t always easy to dog her neighbors.

According to the Basin Star, Virginia City’s water was the sweetest in the United States.

Sarah agreed. In late 1917, on the eve of Montana’s Prohibition, Sarah raised water rates ten percent. After paying the same rate for forty years, her customers were shocked and incensed. Longtime saloon keeper Frank McKeen said at the time, as Prohibition was about to claim his livelihood, “Here the State of Montana goes dry, and Sallie Bickford boosts the price of water. It is getting to be a hard world in which to live.” But business is business, fair is fair, and Sarah did what she had to do.

At all times Sarah did what she had to do and that set her apart. She was respected by her community and always worked in the best interests of her customers. She triumphed over tragedy, but she never forgot. When she died in 1931, a portrait of Eva was at her bedside. The Madisonian noted the sadness of the community and declared that Virginia City had lost one of its most devoted mothers and loyal pioneer citizens. Sarah Bickford was a pioneer of pioneers, a woman above women, and Montana is very proud to call her its own.

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art} Linda Manzer

Rare female guitar maker says her Linda Manzer 'peskiness' gave her courage

By Marti Ebbert Kurth

What would a musician be without their instrument? Is it true that the finer the instrument, the better the musician? It's probably safe to say that most people who make their living playing music, even part time, want to own an instrument that they connect with-one that sings to them psychically as well as sonically.

tic guitars for a huge list of stars that includes Pat the only woman for most of those years. The four Metheny, Bruce Cockburn, Carlos Santana...the guys I worked with were just incredibly sensitive new age guys who are still my friends today." list goes on and on.

Linda explains that her adventure in guitar making began innocently about 40 years ago. "I saw Joni Mitchell playing a concert with a dulcimer and I wanted to buy one, but as a teenager they were way too expensive for me. The fellow at the music shop encouraged me to buy a kit, so I made my first instrument and the bug bit," she laughs, adding that even though she was an enthusiastic player, she was That is most true with musicians who play instru- a bad folk singer. "Luckily I found my calling as a ments crafted from wood whether it's a drum, vio- builder shortly after and the ears of the world are lin, wooden flute or a guitar. The unique tone of safe!" the instrument is derived from a skillful instrument maker's ability to balance the type and grain of the It was not easy learning to be a luthier in the malewood against its depth and in the case of a guitar, dominated world of woodworking in 1974. She wanted to study with Claude Larrivee, a master its percussive ability. luthier in Toronto, and kept calling to ask if he It comes as no surprise then that great guitar- would take her on as an apprentice. When she ists seek out the best guitar makers to build their finally got him to take her call his response was instruments. Canadian Linda Manzer is one of "I'm a male chauvinist." During the call she heard those master crafters. She is one of only a handful his wife laughing at him in the background and of female luthiers-stringed instrument makers-in she thought 'it can't be that bad' so she said "Well North America and she's regarded to be one of the I don't care, if you don't care!" and she ended up best, an extraordinary artist who has crafted acous- studying with him for three and half years. "I was 74

She says that her time with Larrivee was like an old fashioned apprenticeship where she worked in every facet of guitar making from the cutting of the wood to the intricacy of the inlays. "I was there at his infancy (as a renowned luthier and mentor). He later moved his operation to San Diego and now has hundreds of people working for him. I got the best snapshot of his skill and I was a fully formed luthier by the time I left my apprenticeship."

Upon leaving Larrivee she struck out on her own, buying an old table saw at a local flea market. She had trouble selling her instruments at first because "in 1974 people didn't want to buy a guitar from girl," she remembers. She says what kept her motivated was the lessons learned growing up with her siblings. "I had two older brothers and I knew that I had to fight for my rights to be included in 'boysonly' situations. This included being allowed in the tree fort and playing hockey in the backyard. I learned that if I was pesky (check) and fought hard enough (check) I could be included in the boy's world. The unexpected surprise was they almost

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liked having me there. So that removed my "He asked me to design and build a guitar fear of going into boys-only territory at a with as many strings as possible and I rose to the challenge. The resulting collaboration very young age." was the 42-string Pikasso guitar. It took Today her advice to women who nine months to build. With three necks it's work in a male-dominated business the guitar for the whole family!" she says is don't give up! "What I found is a laughing.

lot of these 'male only' bastions actually want women in their midst... The innovative Pikasso was named somethey just don't know it yet," she says what tongue-in-cheek after the famous artist but also inspired another invention, a wisely.

Ironically, her career and fame as a luthier was secured because of another Joni Mitchell concert. She had gone to see Mitchell in Detroit where jazz guitarist Pat Metheny was the opening act. "I had never heard him before and when I heard him play a solo ...it was a life changing moment for me-I was musically smitten. I then began to listen to his music religiously."

In 1982 Metheny came to Toronto to do a concert and Manzer sent him a heartfelt note backstage. "After the concert he asked to meet me and I ended up bringing several of my hand built guitars to him to play. He sort of played the whole concert over on my guitars and one of them he really connected with and he said 'I'd like one, but I'd like it to do this,' making a few changes to it and he ordered a guitar right then and there. I was just a young 'baby' luthier but I guess he saw something in me and there was some kind of sonic connection between us. Every time I saw him after that he ordered a different guitar and he started challenging me by coming up with new ideas and I'd say 'sure I'll try.'"

narrower wedge shape for the body of guitar that allows the performer to reach further over the sound board, a necessity for that particular guitar. Manzer has continued to use The Wedge on many of her later guitars some of which are on display in The Smithsonian in Washington DC, The Museum of Fine Arts in Boston and the Museum of Civilization in Canada.

Linda says each instrument is a journey and exploration for her with hundreds of steps between raw wood and the finished guitar.

She makes about 10 guitars a year, each one hand done with routed inlay and her signature wedge shape. She says what she does is offering a tool, like providing a painter with different colors. "My job is to inspire the musician to want to play it and explore it. Some people pick up a guitar and feel completely comfortable with it and that's the guitar for them. I think that's why I've made Pat so many guitars because each one takes him a different musical direction."

Perhaps Metheny sums up her skill best: "She made me that one guitar which I immediately fell in love with. And then I said how about you make me a 12-string. The Since that auspicious meeting 35 years night I got it I wrote four tunes. It was a ago Manzer has built over 25 guitars for totally inspiring instrument."

Metheny who has amassed over 20 Grammy awards in the course of his prolific Linda Manzer will be in residence during the career as a jazz and fusion artist. But the Crown of the Continent Guitar Workshop Auguitar that Metheny requested in 1984 has gust 25-Sept. 1 in Bigfork, Montana. For more become Linda's signature piece, securing information about the event go to www.cocguiher place in the guitar maker's hall of fame. tarfoundation.org or call 855-855-5900.

Top left phot: Linda Manzer working in her guitar shop in Toronto, CA. Top right photo: The iconic 42-string Pikasso Guitar created for jazz master Pat Metheny. Bottom right photo: Linda Manzer with singer/songwriter Paul Simon who purchased one of her special Manzer Metheny collection guitars.

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Summer's Musical Finale

By Marti Ebbert Kurth

Just when you thought all the good music of summer was over…the evening picnic concerts…the weekends of great bands, I’m here to tell you that the best has been saved for last! Even though summer may be cooling off, the musical options around the valley will still be hot, right through the end of August and on into September!

Little ol’ Bigfork, Montana gets the award for hosting the last best summer music festival of the season on August 26th -31st, when the Crown Guitar Festival revs up the amps for its five nights of concerts under a huge big top tent at Flathead Lake Lodge.

The Festival is the public component of the Crown of the Continent Guitar Workshop, which this year claims to bring together the finest lineup of accomplished guitarists ever seen in Montana. The Festival will fulfill their mission to build Flathead Valley into an international mecca for the study of guitar.

The guitar luminaries who are scheduled to perform during the week as soloists, duos, trios and quartets, are some of the biggest names in the music industry; and, if the past three years are a good indicator, expect some incredible musical magic to happen onstage.

Flathead Lake has to be given some credit here also, as its transcendent beauty seems to foster an attitude of relaxation and camaraderie among these world-renowned artists.

Don’t delay in getting tickets because seeing these artists at these prices is unheard of anywhere outside of the Flathead Valley and if you’re lucky you can still get a discounted Festival pass. All concerts begin at 8 pm, but get there early as parking is cozy (carpooling is recommended) and single seats are

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general admission. Visit the website www. cocguitarfoundation.tix.com for tickets or call 855-855-5900.

Crown Guitar Festival Lineup Monday, August 26th - “An evening with Scott Tennant and the LA Guitar Quartet.”

This Grammy-winning group is considered to be one of the world’s best guitar quartets and will feature Tennant, back for his third year teaching classical guitar at the COCGF workshop. Expect a lively evening of classical, jazz, flamenco and bluegrass. Proceeds after expenses from the concert will be donated to the Glacier Symphony and Chorale in a collaboration of support for classical music.

Tuesday, August 27th - “An Evening with Robben Ford and Lee Ritenour.” If you love electric blues, jazz and music that takes you on a musical mystery tour don’t miss this concert. Ford is a 5-time Grammy nominee who has also played with Dylan, Harrison, Raitt, Mayall, Allman…you KNOW this guy! Joining in the fun will be ‘Rit’ and his backup team of Sonny Emory (the phenomenal “Earth Wind and Fire” drummer) John Beasley, keyboardist extraordinaire and Abraham Laboriel, bass.

Wednesday, August 28th - “Pat Metheny Trio.” Yes THAT Pat Metheny! He’s back for his second time with the COCGF. Metheny is a legend among lovers of jazz.

His accolades include 20 Grammy awards in 10 different categories and over 20 million albums sold! He will be joined onstage with Larry Grenadier on bass and Bill Stewart on drums. Get a babysitter and prepare for the best concert you’ve ever heard!

Thursday, August 29 - “An evening with Lee Ritenour and Daryl Stuermer.” Without a doubt jazz/fusion guitarist Ritenour has been an instrumental component of the unprecedented success of the COCGF. His support has brought such fabulous blues musicians as Joe Bonamassa to join in the previous years’ lineup, and his Six String Theory competition for young aspiring guitarists, has brought international recognition to Bigfork, Montana. Lee is a heartfelt, groovin,’ sweetheart of a musician who has played on 42 albums and in over 3000 recording sessions. You can’t help but smile when you hear him play! Stuermer is best known for his guitar licks with the super groups Genesis and the Phil Collins Band.

Joining them will be Emory on drums, Beasley on keyboards on Laboriel on bass.

Expect the unexpected on this rockin’ night!

Saturday, August 31 - “An evening with Livingston Taylor and Mac McAnally.” This performance switches gears to focus on the huge component of singer songwriters and ballads we’ve known and loved and the songs you ‘can’t get out of your head!’ Livingston, a witty, engaging performer has recorded 17 albums and written hit songs for his brother James. McAnally owns 5 Country Music Awards and is in the Nashville Songwriters Hall of Fame. It will be a perfect ending salute to a week of excellent music.

But, what about September? Don’t despair, the music doesn’t stop, it just goes inside.

And, the best news is there are many opportunities to hear it free in more intimate local nightspots. Maybe because of the influence of so many extraordinary guest artists, the Flathead Valley seems to be seeing an influx of talented musicians at open mic nights,

and this rising tide of talent has had a good influence on our local players.

The following is a list of gigs throughout the valley where you are guaranteed to hear some good music for the price of a beer. For details go to www.flatheadevents.net and use the search tab for the most up to date music listings.

Kalispell: Brannigan’s Irish Pub offers live Irish music every Monday at 7 pm. Enjoy traditional Celtic tunes with the “Jacks of Shamrock” along with musicians and singers who are invited to sit in. 101 E Center St, Kalispell, 393-2418.

Scotty’s Bar holds open mic night every Thursday at 9 p.m. Hosted by Luke Lautaret the play list fills up fast; sign up early. 2205 U.S. 93, Kalispell, Mt 59901, 257-8188.

Split Rock Cafe features an Irish Jam every Thursday at 7 pm. Located at 30 2nd St East, 890-7577.

Whitefish: Craggy Range Bar and Grill holds open mic every Wednesday at 9 pm. Greg and Linda host. 10 Central Ave, 862-7550.

Crush Lounge open mic night every Thursday beginning at 9 pm. Don Caverly and Marco Forcone host this weekly musical mystery tour, 124 Central Ave, Whitefish, Mt 59937, 730-1030.

Haskill Station, every Wednesday starting at 6 pm is Open Mic with Craig Wickham.

705 E Lakeshore Dr, 863-5455.

Above photo: LA Guitar Quartet with Scott Tennant on the left.

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I Love You to Heaven and Back

By Miriam Singer

Some people have got it. Call it charisma. Say you can’t take your eyes off them. They grab your attention and win your heart. You know when they enter a room as they touch you with something you can’t forget.

My cousin Shelley could fill a room like that. “Bigger than life!” That’s how her son Yosi describes her. When my friend Colleen met Shelley, she told me, “She’s a pistol.” I would say, “Shelley’s so ALIVE! ” We were both born in Europe a few months apart after World War II into a time of peace and upheaval. When we were babies, my family took me to New York, Shelley’s took her to Israel. So, we grew up in different parts of the world.

And for sixteen years, we never met.

By then, Shelley had fallen madly in love. Her parents disapproved of her boyfriend, so they sent her to America, to live in my family’s Brooklyn apartment, with me, in the hopes of separating them. And we discovered each other.

I was shy, and Shelley wore her heart on her sleeve with outgoing Israeli confidence. I loved her freedom. I’d never known anyone like her.

A few months later, Shelley was sent to live with an aunt in New Jersey, and the next year her exile ended and she returned to Israel. We lost communication...for thirty three years until we each received an invitation to the same cousin’s bar mitzvah, and independently decided to attend.

The funny thing is that during that long separation we both pursued the same passion. We had both become singers.

This time we kept in touch. It was great having a close cousin who was so full of adventure, love and generosity.

Yosi and his family settled in L.A., and Shelley would visit regularly, so we got to meet in New York City on her way to, and even once in, California. And every time we saw each other it was a celebration.

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Sweet Shelley

I finally visited Israel in 2009 and Shelley treated me like royalty. She drove me sightseeing everywhere, took me to shows and plays and threw a big party for family and friends. We went to the Dead Sea where she had a gig in one of the hotels. She invited me on stage to sing. When I sang "Yerushalayim Shel Zahav," everyone in the audience sang as one. She even found a restaurant that played jazz in Tel Aviv, and promoted me so enthusiastically that not only did I get to sing with the band, but they jokingly referred to Shelley as ‘Rivka the Impresario.'

So recently, when Shelley invited me to meet her in New Mexico, and said that we’d share a place to live for three weeks, I didn’t hesitate. I just figured out how to make it happen. We called ourselves The Sakofska Sisters, and said we’d work on our act. You’d think we were going on a vacation. But eight months earlier Shelley had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and didn’t have much time left.

She’d found a doctor in Las Cruces, New Mexico who she believed would cure her. She was thrilled that he’d accepted her for his treatment. She was joyful and full of optimism again. Her love of life was back.

We were so happy to see each other. I met her at the airport in El Paso, Texas after she’d traveled all they way from Israel.

I told her, “You’re amazing.” I said, “You’re so strong!” And she replied, “No. I’m not strong. My will is strong.”

I planned to sing to her, and to read from our journals and letters. I envisioned being very peaceful together and thought we’d spend quiet time resting. But Shelley was chasing the demon of death away, and to her that meant activity. We loved our bright red rental car and our Southwestern style vacation home at The Casitas. It was exciting to be together, and Shelley wanted to drink it up.

Instead of going to bed when we arrived after all that travel, she turned on the tv and found a movie for us to watch, "About Schmidt". And we laughed at the crazy but poignant story. At one point I said that I was tired too, and Shelley said, "You know you’re no spring chicken. But Aunt Minna says, 'Even from an old chicken, you can still make good soup!'" And we laughed.

I realize now that with the tremendous power of her personality, Shelley was acting a part in which she was going to get better. She was an actress playing a role for herself and her family.

She traveled across the world to her miracle doctor to make something happen. And he told her if she wanted his treatment she’d have to stop taking her pain medication.

It didn’t take long for the excruciating pain of pancreatic cancer to scare her and wear her down. And she begged him for something to ease the pain.

Shelley died our third night together. In the evening, after taking her pain pill, she finally got peaceful, and began to relax. When I looked in on her resting in bed, she told me “The pain is gone.” And as she peacefully slept, the final curtain went down.

It was the miracle she’d wished for all along. Yosi said, it’s almost like she planned her escape. My friend Lee Anne said it was who she was for Shelley to get on a plane and fly to her freedom.

You’re free now, sweet Shelley, to sing songs with the angels and make them laugh. You made me laugh and always accused me of being an angel when I sing. If ever I sound like one, it's because I’m singing with you.

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From shabby to chic

By Patina Inc.

So you found that cool old dresser/coffee table/bookshelf at a yard sale this summer-and now it's time to do something wonderful to it...

Going from garage sale score to your homes iconic shabby chic treaure is as much an attitude exercise as it is elbow grease. Most of the charm and esoteric visual charisma that we see in vintage furniture pieces is due to the fact that there are several layers of paint and finish that have not only built up over time, but have also been worn – bumped and scraped off. What is left is the beloved 'worn from time' thing that is so compelling and ultimately becomes a design element full of character that sets the tone for a room. So the first thing to do is to rid yourself of any preconcieved notions of what it will turn out to look like. It is a process that is rather organic, somewhat unpredictable – but altogether loveable. Ready? Let's begin...

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Prepare your work area; plenty of light – somewhere you can sand with a power sander (paint powder will go everywhere), but also warm enough for a finish to dry.

Protect the floor. Or do it outside, and move it in at night so it doesn't get wet.

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Remove drawers if there are any; knobs, hardware, hinges, etc. Now this finish is based on the premise of removing existing paint – so, it is imperitive that the piece you choose has paint on it—the more the better – to take off. Even if there ends up being only one layer, this is okay – it will be beautiful and simple. Remember: (this is the attitude exercise I was talking about) you need

to be good with whatever is revealed, as that is part of the charm of exposing the history of a vintage piece. The piece that I am using as my demo this month ended up having a layer of neon orange – unexpected and utterly charming. *NOTE: – as I was doing top drawer #1, it was revealed that it had different colors than the rest of the piece! A darker orange, and no white. Weird. But, it sure has brought a whole load of personality – perhaps some secret special story that can be embellished; and most importantly – embraced. Okay, load up your sander with some sandpaper; I used an orbitol sander with circular hook & loop pads in a 120 grit.

Put on a dust mask and some goggles, and

let 'er rip. Start with the top as it is less intimidating, and use smooth, even pressure back and forth. This is a patient work, customarily – although some layers of paint fly off. Back and forth, evenly – you will start to see what is under layer number 1...

I saw breakthrough to layer number 2 in about 5 minutes – going from a flat sage green color to a pine green and then hints of neon orange.

Woohoo!! This is easy, you say..until a big chunk of paint flies off – and it becomes a whole different story. This is another opportunity to flex your 'going with the flow'

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At this point I recommend a 'patina' to soften and age the piece a bit. This will make the piece 'more comfortable in it's own skin', softening the tone and leaving an antiqued glow. I used 'Old Masters Gel Stain' (Sherwin Williams) in 'Provincial'. Brush on liberally, then wipe off with a rag in the direction of the grain – leaving a soft residue of the stain to colorize, and letting the stain 'hang up' in crevices.

You can also use a sponge brush (wide one) to help smooth and even out the gel stain. Start with a small section, and do it one area at a time. After this, it will need to dry overnight. If you have a box fan, blow some air at it and it will dry faster.

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Okay, now is the time to put a nice finish on your cool piece. I like using 'Minwax Wipe On Poly'. Shake well and pour some in a container. Using a soft cotton rag, or one of those cloth covered applicator sponges – dip it in, soaking generously and dabbling off excess. Start in a small area and wipe evenly in the direction of the grain. If you have corners or cracks to get in, use a small brush to appy some, and then the rag to wipe off excess. You just want a thin veil of coverage. This will dry in a couple hours or less, and you can add another layer. After that layer is dry, buff out with 000 Steel Wool or a fine Scotchbright Pad – you can add another layer if you like, but two will protect it. The more layers, the richer the finish – but be sure to buff in between.

Congratulations! She is done! Invite your friends over to see your shabby masterpiece!

muscle. This is an older piece of furniture, and probably the bond of one paint to another is good on some layers, not good on others – in some spots, not in others. So, at this point, just keep your pressure even – and see what will 'release'. When you are somewhat pleased with the look, move on to another place – sides, legs and then drawers – just be methodical and bring all sections up to the same level of wear. Change sandpaper often.

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Take a coffee break. Yep, that's right – it's time to step away for awhile, and not stare at it. :)

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I wanted to bring forth more of color #1 – that pine green, to even out that tone on my piece – so I used some Denatured Alcohol on a rag to wipe my sage green back a bit. Just soak a portion of your rag in alcohol and rub – you will see the paint release, and rub to desired effect. Make sure and re-dip often, moving to a clean part of rag.

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What do you think? Stand back, squint your eye – and think Anthropologie store...enough off? Tweek an area? Don't be shy, this is; if you haven't gotten the message already; one of those 'evolving organic masterpiece' deals that requires you to, at the right moment, say: “Voila`, she is perfect!” So,

You can reach Patina by email: patinamontana@gmail.com You can also follow Patina on facebook or pinterest.

here's your chance – color outside of the lines, and sand until you like it! I wanted to see more 'wood', so I used a coarser grit sandpaper(80-100) on my palm sander and concentrated just on edges and spots where the paint 'flew' off – to release it down to the wood. This is fine tuning, and with a coarse grit paper you have to be careful because you can burn it right down to the wood very quickly. That's why we start with the finer grit to just 'coax' out the color story. When you are happy, dust off with a dry paintbrush and a rag, and wipe the whole thing with a rag just dampened with Denatured Alcohol to clean any residual dust off.

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Book Review Sponsored by Bad Monkey By: Carl Hiassen 862-9659 - 242 Central Avenue, Whitefish Below Copperleaf Chocolat Co.

BOOK REVIEWS BY JOAN G. SMITH Bad Monkey is Carl Hiaasen’s newest satirical comedy, just out in June, 2013. It takes place in Florida, and the Bahamas, of course.

Andrew Yancy is our hero, and a former Miami policeman. For various unfair reasons, to be discovered by the reader, Andrew has been reduced to a health inspector. He becomes better known as the ‘roach patrol’ in the Monroe County Sheriff’s Office.

Yancy, despite his present situation, is smarter than most of the wildly unpredictable characters involved in a series of events, which could only take place in Hiaasen’s county. Therefore, Andrew Yancy has a frozen arm in his freezer, and the owner of the arm is not a nice guy, and neither are the members of his family.

Yancy also has quite a list of lovely ladies, the latest one being a kinky

The Redeemer By: Joe Nesbo The Redeemer was first published in Norway in 2005. It was then translated into English and published in Great Britain in 2009. It finally made its way to the United States and was published by Alfred A. Knopf, New York, in 2013.

In this novel, Harry Hole fans will find him to be more mature and in control of his addictions… most of the time. However, he is still the Oslo Police Department’s best investigator and tackles his cases in an independent and original way.

This case involves the homeless junkies in Oslo, and the Salvationists or Salvation Army. This shows both sides of the Salvation Army, and the endless hours of good work and help they give to the homeless and addiction ridden population. It also showcases the good and the bad members as well, and Harry has his hands full when a murder is committed

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in the middle of a Salvation Army concert. There does not seem to be any clues, weapon, suspect or motive.

Harry has his favorites in the police department, and they are an interesting group. There’s Beate Lonn, who never forgets a face, dependable Halvorsen, and then Hagen, the new man in charge.

This is a complicated plot that involves different locations, including Yugoslavia. And I quote, “acidetched character” and nonstop action.

I enjoyed this crime writer’s take on the helter-skelter world of drugs and gangsters more than his previous book, Phantom. The Snowman was a classic as was The Redbreast. Joe Nesbo has received many awards, and he is also a musician and songwriter.

He currently lives in Oslo.

coroner. The Dragon Queen, a voodoo witch, enters the scene, and is truly awful. Real estate speculators enter the scene as well, along with more shady characters.

The way Hiassen presents these characters, in a vivid and fast rotation, is wickedly funny. They mostly get what is coming to them in some nasty way that is mostly their own fault!

I cannot really describe the bad little monkey, Driggs, but he is a wild ride, written by an ingenious, entertaining author. The New York Times Book Review has this comment, and I quote, “Hiassen’s wasteland is as retributive as Cormac McCarthy’s, but funnier.

His pacing is impeccable, and the scenes follow one after the other like Lay’s potato chips.”

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The World According Humphrey Author: Betty G. Birney Children's book Reviews By Kristen Pulsifer and Maggie Pulsifer

This summer, my daughter struggled with what to read. As a soon to be third grader, she needed to keep up with her reading, but she wanted it to be fun. Her choice finally landed on an enjoyable series, about a sweet little hamster. The first book of the series is titled The World According to Humphrey.

The main character Humphrey is a creative little hamster that learns many things that only humans learn.

He lives in room 26 of the Longfellow School, and enjoys all of his classmates. Unfortunately, Humphrey does not like the new teacher nearly as much as the kids that surround him. Humphrey works diligently throughout the story to show his disdain towards the current teacher Mrs. Brisbane. All he wants to do is bring his old friend (the original teacher) Miss Mac, back.

Humphrey desperately tries to speak to Mrs. Brisbane, and tell her his true feelings, but all she hears is squeak, squeak. If Humphrey could only get through to her, maybe Miss Mac would return.

If this book is enjoyed, try reading some of Birney’s other books in the series such as Friendship According to Humphrey, Trouble According Humphrey, and Surprises According to Humphrey. My daughter has several friends who have thoroughly enjoyed this series. Hopefully you and your children will enjoy these books just as much.

This series provides great summer reads, but can also be enjoyed throughout the year.

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