Paradigm Shift

Tips on Being a LGBTQIA+ Friendly Classmate REMEMBER: I am not a spokesperson. Although I identify as part of the LGBTQIA+ community, I am not a representative of the whole community or even parts of it. I am an individual. I speak for myself. Also, remember that if you hear anyone speak about the community or about personal experiences, do not assume that information, values, or beliefs apply to everyone in the community.

I am complex. My gender and sexual orientation are important parts of my identity, but they are just part of who I am. Like you, I have dreams, values, hobbies, interests, beliefs, etc. Treat me like a whole person, not just a representative of the LGBTQIA+ community.

Respect my pronouns. Don’t make assumptions based on my presentation. Ask me what pronouns I prefer and try to use them. If you mess up, apologize sincerely but briefly.

It is not my job to educate. My identity doesn’t require me to explain myself or my community. Many resources are available, including the internet, that you can access without having to put me or members of my community on the spot.

If you ask questions, be respectful. If you are not sure if it’s polite to ask me a specific question, give me an easy out, like “I don’t want to be rude and if this is uncomfortable, you don’t have to answer, but I was wondering….” Or, better yet, if you are curious and think your question might be offensive, simply Google it.

It is not a choice. You don’t have to support me, but please don’t disrespect me.

Don’t say things like “I don’t accept your lifestyle, but I respect you as a person.”

I am part of what is normal. Well, as much as any of us are. Moreover, I am not weird or gross and neither is anything I do regarding gender or sexual expression. LGBTQIA+ experiences have been a part of the human experience since the beginning.

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