Here are seven simple tips to help your relationship survive the test of time.
1 - by Shirley Yanez
When you make a mistake, always say you re sorry. Nurturing a healthy relationship is all about creating a two-way street, and not blaming the other person for your mistakes. We all make mistakes, we are all human, and learning to be tolerant and open with your partner is the key to a long, happy relationship.
4
When you desperately seek your partner s approval, your relationship becomes all about what they can do to make you feel good, how often they boost your ego, how often they lift your sprit when you feel down and how well they change your negative feelings into positive ones. This is draining for another person and will only create an unbalanced relationship in the end.
5
2
If you often find yourself focusing on pleasing someone else, or constantly seeking their approval, realize that YOU are creating that need. Instead of focusing on what you can get from another person, just focus on having fun together. Many times the best thing you can do for yourself and someone else, is to just let go and give yourself permission to laugh and be free.
3
Always be a good listener, and be open to give quality time to your partner when they need you. We all need someone to talk to, and we all benefit from someone who can listen without judging or being defensive. In a partnership, both people count and both needs have to be met in order for the relationship to have balance. If you are too busy thinking about yourself, and what you need, there will always be someone else ready to lend an ear. Intimate chats over a candle-lit supper can often lead to intimate closeness in the bedroom, so spice up your life by being a support when your partner most needs you.
Just because you are in a relationship, doesn t mean you have to stop having a life of your own, just as your partner also needs a life of their own, away from you; so trust is paramount, and forgiveness crucial. Never quit in the heat of the moment, and always learn to work it out because every couple has their ups and downs, no matter how perfect the relationship seems on the surface. Communication is vital for a happy, healthy relationship. Your partner can t read your mind, so always let them know what you are feeling and why. Talking openly and rationally about your feelings is a cathartic experience. It allows the other person to understand your moods and anxieties, which creates less stress and more understanding. Take a long look at the things you do that damage the relationship, and recognise that if you want something different, you have to do something different. Ask your partner to tell you the things you do that make them feel special, then make a real effort to do something every day, no matter how you feel, to make it happen.
us Cow
ws you
maintain a
6
7
Love is a powerful drug and can be very addictive, so keep your feet on the ground and never assume that another person can make your problems disappear. Having another person share your life is about making what you already have even better, so make love not war! Shirley Yanez offers a free, interactive life coaching program at www.venuscow.com. Venus Cow centres on common sense and showing people that what they believe to be true is actually untrue.
elationship yourwellness.com
43