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Drumclogg to Worstead - A Family Tale 13 “Gavin’s father was one of five children who were all raised on the family farm in Torfoot, Drumclog, Scotland. The farm was small and un-mechanised; horses provided the power and the family provided most of the labour.”

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the great east swim 17 “Setting goals is something I like to do. I think it moves me forward in life - I surprise myself. It pushes me to achieve more than I believe possible.”

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BAR - B - NEW 44 Experiment with different flavours on the grill The Kids are Alright Your access rights to the grandchildren after family breakdown

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CLOSE TO HOME 49 How to tailor your Will to ensure your family are cared for

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JOBS 52 Plus tips for the winning interview Odd Bod 53 Road testing the Citroen C4 Cactus Getting to know you #04 LEIGHTEN BALL 55 “My first proper job was working on a farm, the highlight of which was maintaining an aging fleet of Fordson Major tractors.”

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Welcome to the July issue of YLM. I like to tell you what I’m up to while I write my welcome.

Well, it’s Sunday and our parents are here at the house. We have had a wonderful BBQ and played some badminton. Willow is at this moment piggy in the middle with her two grandmothers!

I had a lovely time taking photographs again this month.

Alice and I went to Wortham tennis courts and she tried to hit a tennis ball with me trying to capture the odd moment when she did!

We also had a fabulous time with our friends, including the lovely Gemma Harvey who kindly prepared some yummy food for us all. Be inspired for your next BBQ on page 44.

I have met some amazing ladies at Dream On, during their makeover days. I take the after photos on the day and it’s a huge privilege to be part of the team. Three of The Dream On Ladies, Bridget, Amanda and Clare did the Great East Swim

at Alton Water. My Mum, Willow and I went and watched the swim and it was great fun to observe and photograph. Well done ladies, I couldn’t have done it, you were amazing! You can read all about it on page 17.

I introduced you to Buzby in June’s issue of YLM and we recently met up in Diss for the day. It was great fun and Buzby loved Diss. We walked past the new Steeles Law offices and when I pointed out that they were on the front cover of the June issue Buzby went in to ask if he could have a photo holding the magazine while sitting on the sofa which is featured on the cover! ha, ha, he is so funny, love him. You can see the photo below.

If you do get a chance to get to Latitude Festival this month, do it. It is a fantastic weekend.

We are so lucky to have it, there is something for everyone; music, film, poetry, comedy, crafts, lake swimming, dance, an awesome children’s area and much, much more. Latitude is celebrating its 10th year and I bet they will have a few surprises up their sleeves!

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A Family Tale { The story of Gavin Paterson }

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here is no doubt that we are conditioned to look to the future; to move forward as fast as we can without a backward glance. Our desire to embrace the future is often so strong that we forget to look back and recall what was learned by the generations that went before us. Very few of us take time to listen to the lessons that our parents and grand-parents learned along their way; our journey is the one that is important to us and we are so busy looking for the signposts that will lead us to the land of improvement and increased possibilities that we ignore the wealth of information and knowledge that has already been gleaned by previous generations.

Gavin Alston Paterson is not of that ilk. Gavin is a man that so admires and respects the achievements of his father, James Andrew Paterson that he has written a book that acknowledges and applauds the life and work of a this very successful man.

Gavin’s father was one of five children who were all raised on the family farm in Torfoot, Drumclog, Scotland.

The farm was small and unmechanised; horses provided the power and the family provided most of the labour.

A small herd of milk cows produced the milk that was sold or made into butter and cheese for the markets. The farming techniques that James learned from his father stood him in good stead and in 1925 he joined the wave of other Scottish farmers who were all heading to Norfolk and Suffolk to farm the loamy soil of East Anglia.

Taking over 256 acres of Hall Farm at Rushall was a daunting prospect for any young farmer, but Gavin’s father was

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“The farming techniques that James (Gavin’s father) learned from his father stood him in good stead and in 1925 he joined the wave of other Scottish farmers who were all heading to Norfolk & Suffolk to farm the loamy soil of East Anglia.” mentored by James Alston, an uncle, who had moved to Uphall Farm, East Harling in 1911 and was generally considered to have an opinion that was worth respecting and the advice he offered was always worth heeding. The farmers that headed south from Scotland helped and supported each other and they worked their new farms in the same way as they had worked their farms in Scotland. Rather than raising bullocks for meat which was the norm at that time in Norfolk they kept cows for milk and Gavin’s father started to demonstrate not only sound farming techniques but also

outstanding business acumen.

In a few short years he took over the neighbouring farm at Rushall then a further 319 acres in the village of Pulham Market. Still not content, he looked to the east of the county where his brother in law farmed at Sloley. During a family visit he had noticed how easy the earth could be worked by horse and plough compared to the soil at Rushall and immediately asked his brother in law to look out for land that could be hired. Within days a call came through telling of 400 acres exactly where Gavin’s father had wanted it.

This call prompted his father

to make the decision and move the family to Manor Farm, Worstead.

Gavin’s young life was dominated by the farm, the animals that inhabited it and learning from his father. After a childhood that he describes as “nothing but a happy one” in a delightful chapter of the book entitled Punnets of Fresh Raspberries we are given a charming glimpse of a bygone era when life seemed slower but so much richer. As a young man Gavin did not rebel or try to do things all his own way. He recognised his father’s ability to understand the land they farmed, to work it well and yield a profit from their labours. He listened to his father when most of us are tempted to whistle our own independent tune and he worked with his father to improve their lot.

It was Gavin who, after a visit to The London Dairy Show in 1952, commented to his father that they had cows in their barn that were as good as anything at the show and who found himself the following year with a supreme champion on his hands. His father had provided Gavin with all of the ingredients to achieve such amazing success but had allowed his son to make the decisions that led to championship status. Father and son

“Gavin now watches his three sons as they work the land and make the decisions that will take them and their families into the next generation of farming in our county.”

recognised the value of the win and set about changing their herds to pedigree cows and, to anyone who follows and traces bovine lineage, the rest of that particular story is history.

Under the careful and committed eye of his father the family’s finances flourished and when the estate that their farm was part of came up for sale Gavin’s father was able to purchase it all. This, even by fast track city trader standards, is impressive; from 70 acres on a Scottish hillside to 3,000 acres of prime Norfolk farmland, worked and loved by the family that lives there is a life’s work to be proud of.

Gavin now watches his three sons as they work the land and make the decisions that will take them and their families into the next generation of farming in our county. Times have changed and the rigours placed on today’s farmer are different from those of Gavin’s father’s time but he still believes that the common sense attitude and the canny knack

of his Scots forefathers who made the land yield and the cows produce is important and relevant for those working the land today. For those of us who do not farm but love peering back at the lives and loves of those that have gone before us, Gavin’s tale provides a heartfelt and honest read. ●

Breeding Success by Gavin Alston Paterson is available from Jarrolds and other good book stores.

A quote from the Ghost Writer: Mark Nicholls “It was a real privilege and honour to talk to Gavin Paterson about his life and how his family farming business evolved over the decades. I particularly enjoyed talking to him about how he and his father’s herdsman George Clare took their cow - named Smallburgh Brenda - to the national dairy show London, and won the top prize against all expectations.

“But what was so fascinating for me was all the little anecdotes Gavin has – he’s so full of stories and for me,

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as a writer, it was really rewarding to have the opportunity to bring them to life in the book.

“He’s a man who has lived life to the full, but also contributed so much to the community – whether that is through his support for other farmers, his role in the Worstead Festival, as a councillor, or as a director of Norwich City.”

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the great east swim The Dream On team take on Alton Water “It showed two things; the power of teamwork and the power of the mind when you decide to do something collectively.” ☞ Words by Bridget McIntyre

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e decided to enter the Great East Swim. The we being Clare, Amanda and myself at the Dream On office.

It is one of those things that when you have the idea it sounds great.… however, the reality is somewhat different!

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I love doing new things and setting myself challenges. I’m sure many of you do too.

It’s a good thing to do.

Setting goals is something I like to do. I think it moves me forward in life - I surprise myself. It pushes me to achieve more than I believe possible. Research shows that it uncovers potential that you don’t even know exists.

But a swim outdoors at Alton Water?.… where water tempera-

ture maybe around 13 degrees centigrade! really?... I only have myself to blame!

A few years ago we set ourselves a different challenge. A group of us including Amanda decided to enter Race for Life.

We asked Sally who is our body coach to help us develop a plan to do the run.

Sally gave us a schedule that

would mean we would run (well jog) the 5k. Great, so we, as you would expect, bought our kit (you’ve got to look the part) and started with week one of the six week plan. We met up and did day 1 which comprised of a 3 minute brisk walk, a 1 minute jog, repeated 5 times. Fiona who ran with us was in charge of the stopwatch. The next day was a rest day. Then we went for a 2 minute walk, 1 minute jog repeated 7 times.

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found we were challenged by this approach and every time Fiona tried to move us on to the next stage 1 minute alternate walking and jogging, we resisted!

This continued for the next six weeks and the day of Race for Life suddenly appeared.

On the day, something interesting happened. We all decided we wanted to achieve our goal of running Race for Life.

As we stood on the start line, we all committed to run the event.

We did it. I think it showed two things; the power of teamwork and the power of the mind when you decide to do something collectively.”

So back to the Great East

“Fortunately a delightful canoeist gallantly took the hat from her and allowed her to rest on the canoe whilst she restyled her hair!”

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swim. As I said earlier, I only have myself to blame. I was with a colleague who was talking about last years Great East swim. As he chatted, my brain started whirring, “Could I do this, would Amanda agree to do it?”... “Who else would do it?”

The plan was in action. I rang Amanda and asked her, and she said: “Yes.”, “Really?” I replied, slightly taken aback. “Yes.” she repeated.

And so the training began.

This time we have to be a bit more serious about training as you can’t start walking if you run out of steam in water!

We have devised our own training structure. We have worked out what will challenge us and step-by-step we are fac-

ing the challenges and building our confidence.

We have so far swum in a few rivers and ponds in East Anglia, tonight we are trying to swim half the distance at Fritton Lake.

As we were finding the distance tricky in cold water, we have even had swimming lessons with a fantastic teacherJonathan Drake in Norwich, to learn how to breath well and conserve energy as we swim.

New wet-suits have had to be bought. We have even chosen stylish hats to pose in!

As we were raising money for charity, we promoted our event on Facebook .We posed frequently for pictures and wrote about our challenges. This was a scary challenge for all of us.

Not something any of us had done before. We supported and encouraged each other.

As we trained we realized we swam at quite different speeds.

Front crawl compared to none face wetting breaststroke is quite different .We talked about this and decided that we wanted to come in at the end together.

This was going to be a team effort.

The week of the event we did our final Fritton Lake preparation. We practiced just treading water and relaxing on our backs in the water (just in case we ran out of steam.… we wanted

to make sure we wouldn’t sink). It didn’t go too badly!

We approached the event with some trepidation but reassuring each other that we would be ok.

The big day arrives On the day of the event we set off for the venue. We were due to go in the 12.30 wave- The event started at 8am and waves (or groups) left at different intervals through the day.

Amanda recalls the preparation; “I started getting ready at 9am and we all left in separate cars with our fans (well, a few family members!) to meet at the event.” she continues, “I was there about 30 minutes before we were due to meet, wandering around with my kit bag awaiting a message to say the others had arrived.”

Claire picks up the story, “I found Bridget but we couldn’t find Amanda and so we went to the changing area to get ready hoping she would pick up our messages.” The calm start was starting to feel less calm!

Finally Amanda arrived. We were due to register at 12 but we were nowhere near ready!

Then, Amanda reached into her kitbag to discover her wetsuit was missing! “I realized I’d left it in the car.” More panic followed as Amanda’s sup-

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port crew had the car keys but at 12.10 Amanda was reunited with her wetsuit and the Blossom team dashed to register.

We then warmed up and joined the throng of the 12.30 wave... The horn was sounded and the challenge began.

We decided to hang back from the rush, as our personal best would just be to complete the circuit.

We are off!

Looking fabulous in our kit, (we had slightly customized the official issue hats with lovely flowers to add a little bit of style!) we looked up the course and agreed to meet at the first buoy.

We encouraged each other, waved to the crowd and two of us put our faces in to start the swim. Sadly, my sense of direction was not too good and every time I looked up I was going off course.… I think I swam at least a quarter mile further!

We continued to swim, meeting for a catch up at each buoy (there were five in total) At the halfway point calamity nearly hit as Amanda’s hat started to fall off pulling with it her wonderful floral adornment!

Fortunately a delightful canoeist came to her rescue and gallantly took the hat from her and allowed her to rest on the canoe whilst she restyled her hair!

As we approached the halfway point we all started to feel that, yes, we could do this. It was a fabulous feeling. I think I can say for all of us that we began to enjoy the swim.

Alton water is a beautiful reservoir and the water temperature was surprisingly pleasant!

As we approached the final few metres we grouped up to swim in together. We could hear our family and friends cheering us. We waved and posed for the cameras. We had done it! We collected our T-shirts and medals and posed for a few more photos. Bizarrely we felt like we didn’t want the event to finish!

So... do I still believe setting stretching goals is a good thing?

Absolutely. The thought of doing the swim at times terrified me but by preparing well and supporting each other we all did something we never believed we could do.

How great is that? ●

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es, it’s the time of year when the nation becomes gripped by tennis fever.

It’s funny, since we started to do well in the cycling events at the Olympics three years ago, all of a sudden every country lane looks like a stage of the Tour de France. It’s the same when Wimbledon starts, we dust the cobwebs off our tennis racquets and get out onto the closest tennis court.

Tennis is the one sport (apart from swimming and the odd cycle ride) that I have regularly kept up. Having shown an interest at a fairly young age, I was dispatched to the summer school at Loughborough University during the holidays to be put through my paces. I do remember one afternoon throwing that ball up about a thousand times (well, it seemed that many) to finetune the throwing of a ball for a serve, dedication indeed.

I was also a member of the local tennis club. A great experience socially as well as lots of tennis practice. The only trouble was the courts had to be ‘dragged ‘ to remove all marks at the end of each session. Not to mention a very competitive mother of six who was determined that at least one of her daughters would be the next Martina Navratilova. I don’t think she succeeded. The other memory of Quorn Lawn Tennis Club (not sure where the lawn bit came in as all were clay) was the groundsman. A lovely chap called Arthur who had served in India during the war and repeatedly told us all

“I have given up playing my own son as he just doesn’t make any allowances for his old Mother.”

how tea was the best drink to have on a hot day, as that’s what they did in India!

I spent several years in the school tennis team, eventually becoming Captain. Now I am not showing off, in fact I was constantly overlooked when it came to ‘golden girl’ status. My doubles partner, Caroline was a very attractive girl; blonde with a stylish tennis dress and a metal racquet. Picture the scene. At that time of life I looked rather like Olive from the sit-com ‘On the Buses’ (I kid you not) If you are too young to remember the programme, simply google it.

Back to the tennis court. I always wore a dress my Mother made. Very nice, but practical, rather than a fashion statement. I also used my beloved Dunlop Maxply racquet (wooden, not metal) You can imagine who everyone thought

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was the top player; it certainly wasn’t me.

Caroline and I played a good doubles game but one thing, whenever we had to play each other in the school tournament, guess who won? Yes, you guessed it. The ‘golden girl’ never beat me. However I never won in the final as there was always another girl who beat me. Justice indeed!

We had a lot of fun on the court over the years and even got to visit Wimbledon a few times too (to see how the game really should be played.

I had a brief spell training with the Under 16 Leicestershire squad but don’t mention that much nowadays.

I still enjoy playing tennis although I admit I try not to run too much. It’s self-preservation, as one reaches a certain age. (It’s my knees you know!)

Plus I have plenty of people to play with, namely my husband, stepsons and friends. I have given up playing my own son as he just doesn’t make any allowances for his old Mother.

It’s funny, even on the tennis court, the difference between men and women. I am not talking about the standard of tennis, but the amount of talking! Men hardly ever speak whilst playing, whereas the playing gets in the way of a good old natter when us women get out on court!

Well, we are from different planets aren’t we? ●

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1 The Maverick Festival is a celebration of Americana and roots music from both sides of the Atlantic, presenting music, comedy, dance, film & workshops, set amongst the picturesque Victorian farm buildings of Easton Farm Park. maverickfestival.co.uk

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t’s that time of the year for summer festivals to get well into swing. We hope for the weather to be kind to us but more often than not we end up wearing our funky coloured and patterned wellies and grab our rain coats but this doesn’t sway us, we’re British and not worried by a bit of rain.

Hey, lets be optimistic, we have our sun hats, our sun cream on and our picnic rugs at the ready!

I love the sounds, smells and colours that you’re surrounded by when walking around a festival.

Music comes from every direction, a wonderful variety; Poetry, drama and dance to entertain. If you’re lucky you may find some fairies and elves and I have even seen some pink, green and blue sheep before!

It’s a chance to relax and unwind, listen to live music or go sit and

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If family friendly is what you desire head for the children’s area, where you will find activities of all shapes and sizes and watch their faces beam. Play the African drums, pond dip at some and even watch and listen to the story tellers.

With giant bubbles floating high and the sounds of laughter, great music and yummy food to eat why not give a festival a try? — Wendy

3 One of the best features of Latitude Festival is the chance to see international artists on our doorstep. Portishead headline on Saturday. We’re looking forward to Josef Salvat and Wild Beasts but that’s the second best thing about the festival; there’s always something new and unexpected.

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My big project this spring and summer has been landscaping a garden that has formerly grown mostly docks and nettles! In recent years I have cropped it with potatoes and sunflowers, but my ultimate aim has always been to put a lawn down. A passer-by gave me the idea of a chamomile lawn saying she’d always wanted one but now doesn’t have a garden. So the black landscaping material went down to smother the perennial weeds and then 6 tonnes of top soil (all supplied by Rolling Stone, Hopton) on the top. I looked at the price of plants, but then quickly went to Amazon to order the seed! I ordered a packet of purple creeping Thyme as well. The seed came from China, from one Ding Dong Feng. I could give him a ring in Beijing! I’m not making this up by the way...of course, with a name like that who’s to say it’s not a person of the fairer sex...? I’ll have to ask my friend, Neal, at Happy Palace!

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lowers are the reproduction organs of the tree. Trees are passive organisms and therefore have to rely on a go-between to find a mate and transfer the male pollen to either the female flower of another tree or its own if the tree is self fertile. Depending on the tree this go-between may be wind, water or animal.

Over countless generations each species has developed its own flower to suit a specific gobetween.

There are almost as many different forms of tree flower as there are trees but they are basically the same. Each flower has four parts. The stamen is the male part which produces the pollen, the stigma which receives the pollen; the style which links the stigma to the ovary which contains ovules which after fertilization, produce

“Trees can produce both male and female flowers.”

the seeds. There are some trees which are either male or female – dioecious. A good example of this is Golden Queen and Silver King holly which were incorrectly named – Silver King is the female! Cross pollination is preferred since it allows for a mixture of genes. Hermaphrodite trees (both male and female) include cherry, laburnum and lime. Other trees produce both male and female flowers – monoecious and are common when the vector is wind. Examples are beech, birch and hazel – catkins are specially designed to catch the wind.

Flowers pollinated by animals tend to be bigger and more showy, often with perfume and nectar to attract insects and birds. Some flowers change colour once fertilization has taken place. The markings inside the Horse chestnut flower changes from yellow to red which appears as black to bees so they search for the yellow markings.

Most wind pollinated trees evolved in places where there was a shortage of insects and are, therefore, common in northern temperate regions. All conifers are wind pollinated and produce enormous quantities of tiny grained pollen. The tree can often look as though it were on fire. The conifer stamens are at the tips and the catkins

appear before the leaves giving the maximum chance of wind dispersal.

Insect pollination is by far the most common – 60% of trees in equatorial regions are insect pollinated. The flower produces copious quantities of sticky sweet nectar and the pollen grains are larger. Flowers pollinated by birds tend to be tubular to prevent access to other animals and unscented, as birds have a poor sense of smell. The humming bird uses its long tongue to reach the nectar. The giraffe is unique in that it is responsible for pollinating the knobhorn acacia.

Water pollination in trees is rare – hydrophily, and not fully understood or documented. ●

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hank you to all the lovely YLM readers for coming to Gissing for the garden Open Day last month, on what seemed to be the busiest weekend of the year!

It had been quite a challenge to get the garden into shape for the big day but with ‘all hands on deck’ and much weeding, planting, mowing and edging we got there and despite the rain (which didn’t come to much) it was a real pleasure to open the gates and meet new and old friends alike. It was interesting and encouraging to hear such positive comments and it was a delight to answer your floral and plant enquiries. There was a shared admiration for the sheer beauty of all our garden grown flowers, the peace and tranquillity to be found and the pleasure gained from burying one’s face in the most fragrant of roses (Comte de Chambord) whose heavenly scent could make a grown man swoon!

Pleasant murmurs and mutually expressed respect could be heard as the wild corners of the garden were discussed; where vermillion poppies, dusky foxgloves and clumps of wild grasses hum to the tune of a multitude of bees and insects.

The garden rejoicing and lush after the previous nights rain, created a steamy atmosphere; truly good growing weather, we just need a little more rain, preferably at night! Congratulations

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“Vermillion poppies, dusky foxgloves and clumps of wild grasses hum to the tune of a multitude of bees and insects.” to Chrissie Hewlett for winning the raffle of a Gabriel’s Garden summer flower bouquet.

All suggestions and comments have been welcomed and duly noted –‘more events and workshops in the garden please and garden open days, tea, coffee and cake oh and portable toilets!’

Which brings me neatly to our Dahlia Day on Saturday 18th July 2.30pm – 5.00pm; if you missed our open day in June then this is an ideal opportunity to explore the cutting gardens and see the garden in all its high summer floriferous glory, especially the Dahlia bed with >

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the many different varieties of dahlia, all of which will be coming into flower. There will be Dahlia plants for sale and cut flowers. Feel free to bring cake and I’ll provide an urn for tea!

Entrance £3.50.

As the summer holidays approach it’s the perfect time to plan a trip to visit a garden near you. East Ruston Old Vicarage Garden is a must and the National Gardens Scheme is worth looking up to see what gardens are open in your area. You will find the best of plants, beautiful flowers, inspiring garden design and is quite simply a lovely way to spend a summer’s afternoon.

In the garden, the weekly mantra is hoe and hoe again, best done first thing in the morning and then raked up later when the sun has wilted the weeds; feed and feed again, plants such as Sweet peas, Roses and the Dahlias and other perennials that produce a second crop or continually flower across the season.

They all need feeding to keep producing healthy beautiful blooms; I use a combination of the liquid comfrey feed made earlier in the year (and is an ongoing production), compost mulch and bought in potash.

The weekly round of deadheading has started, any flowers that have gone over before it can be harvested is cut off to the next growing side shoots; this will encourage the plants to produce more flowers for cutting.

I’m also cutting the sage and Rosemary with its beautiful sky blue flowers to make into wreaths full of fresh herbs; capturing the essence of summer, perfect to hang in the kitchen, the wreaths will dry naturally and look decorative as well as being useful for those spontaneous culinary moments.

I’d like to take this opportunity to thank all the volunteers who have helped me to get the garden up to speed this year.

If volunteering in the garden is something you are interested in then please do get in touch and I can give you more information.

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Dates for the diary Tuesday 28th July culinary wreath making workshop The Boiler House, Diss IP22 4IB 10.00am -12.30pm www.disscornhall.co.uk box office 01379 652241 Saturday 18th July A celebration of Dahlias Gabriel’s Garden, Gissing, IP22 5UR 2.30pm – 5.00pm Entrance £3.50 Saturday 8th August Floral hand tie workshop Create a natural and informal hand tie using the very best of the summer flowers from the garden.

The Pennoyer Centre Pulham St. Mary 2.30pm – 4.30pm £45 Saturday 19th September Wild flower floral wreaths Gabriel’s Garden, Gissing, IP22 5UR 3.00pm -5.00pm £45.00 Sunday September 27th Seed collection Gabriel’s Garden, Gissing, IP22 5UR 2.30pm -5pm £35.00

To order and buy flowers, to book a place on a workshop or for more information, please call Gabi 01379 677793, email via hello@gabrielsgarden.co.uk or visit the website, www.gabrielsgarden.co.uk

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he summer sales are in full swing across the retail world and it is a great time to pick up a bargain.

It is good to prepare yourself before you hit the shops by making a list of things that you actually need and take measurements of any space that you need things to fit in as sale bargains can go fast and you don’t always have time to pop home and check the size. It can also be useful to take along anything that you are trying to match. Planning will ensure that your good buy is actually what you need not just an impulse purchase!...

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Compulsive Hoarder is a person who accumulates possessions and often hides things away, with the intention of using them at some point in the future.

However, there is no limit to the amount of “I might need it in the future” possessions a hoarder will gather, often gathering huge quantities of certain objects but being unable or unwilling to “let go” of anything.

Compulsive Hoarding, as it is known, can impact on many areas of a person’s life. It can limit available living space, restrict social interaction and pose a risk both to themselves and others around them from fire, tripping or poor sanitation.

Words by Sue Cotter D.Hyp MHS GQHP Dip CP Genesis Hypnotheraphy

Why do people become hoarders?

A Compulsive Hoarder needs to have possessions around them in order to function. They often believe that it is their right to have as much as they want in their house and no one has the right to take that away from them. This thought pattern often originates from events in childhood or early adulthood with something significant having been taken away from them i.e. a child/loved one/spouse etc.

They may not have been allowed possessions in the home they grew up in or they may have been one of many children in the family, with no possessions to call their own.

Treatment for Compulsive Hoarding is available. Hypnosis is extremely effective, as is CBT. By uncovering the route of the problem i.e. where and when it started, rapid, effective treatment can begin. ●

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It’s all about the eyes don’t you know

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ur neverending fascination with this soulful part of the face has been the inspiration for cosmetic chemists and beauticians for ever. Now, even more so, there are dozens of treatments and enhancements that promise longer lashes, sleeker brows

and generally drop-dead gorgeous peepers. Here is the low down on what’s on offer….

For general grooming every salon should offer lash and brow tinting, along with brow shaping. But that has lately become an art in itself as eyebrows became the fashion statement accessory and for brows that could put Cara Delevingne’s to shame, creating the perfect arch on a strong foundation, is one of the top treatments requested. It comes under a range of self-defining titles; HD Brows, WOW Brows, the Power Brow and so on.

No longer is it sufficient to pop a tint on and then whip the excess hairs away with a quick wax. The brow should

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be measured, tinted, waxed, threaded and pencilled to achieve the sculpted perfection of a vintage screen star.

But you either love it or loathe it – hence the derogatory term (and apologies to all concerned) the ‘Scouse Brow’. In addition, you cannot shape what you do not have. So if you have very little hair to start with, you won’t get much bang for your buck.

It’s the same with lashes.

Extensions are still surprisingly popular considering they are a high maintenance treatment but if you’re lashes are sparse there won’t be a platform to build on. Lashes too, though, come in a range of applications; party lashes, express lashes, cluster lashes. It’s a

“Lashes are just another form of hair that can be permed into shape.”

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mini industry in itself and a “Permanent make up has good technician will ensure you given confidence and don’t look like you’re auditionrejuvenation.” ing for La Cage Aux Folles.

Extensions can be very natural but if you are a fidget or picker or have sensitive eyes, However all of the above options are temporary and need you might prefer to help nature with a lash or brow serum. regular monthly maintenance.

Formulations vary from basic If you’ve reached the end of conditioners to those that state your tether fitting your diary around your eye care the best they aid growth. Regular use option is to have semi perwith many of the top performmanent make up. First, semi ers will give you from good to remarkable results that you permanent and permanent are one and the same thing. It’s a can then perm or lift for added glamour. Perm? Yes. Lashes are form of tattooing which means it’s permanently placed in the just another form of hair and they can be permed into shape. skin, but it needs refreshing on an annual to two yearly Simply ask for a lash lift and a tint of brown, black or blue will basis to keep the colour fresh.

It’s reached unprecedented ensure that even the tips are popularity at the moment as included. equipment, pigments and techniques have evolved to make it a safe and life-changing procedure. A brow can be designed that is personalised for your own physiognomy – or face shape. It can be soft and light (often called a ‘powder brow’) or resemble hairs. In addition, the lash line can be enhanced to subtly define the eye, as a little mascara between the lashes would. You can replace your smudged and wobbly eyeliner with a permanent one (or at least, extremely long lasting). For more mature women, permanent make up has given confidence and rejuvenation. It has returned colour to skin that has lost its bloom. And it won’t run in a sudden storm, or your daughter’s wedding. ●

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he trouble is that at the moment I am a stone over weight.” If I had a pound for every time I heard those immortal words in our changing rooms I would be rich! We understand that you can feel disheartened about shopping when you are not at your perfect weight but really who is, or perhaps I should say, for how long? Everyone has a part of their body they are not happy with but we are all unique and so are our body shapes. You can be a size 10 but still dislike certain parts of your body and there are the very slim ladies who find it hard when they feel they don’t have the curves to show clothes off to their best.

Dressing well is about understanding your shape, emphasising your best bits and disguising the areas you are not so happy with. If you look at people who can do this well it is actually not about their dress size…. they understand what styles work for them as well as colours and even how to accessorise.

There are three main body shapes but there are lots of variations within these so don’t despair if you do not fit into one category. Here is a very brief look at these shapes and a few helpful hints when you are shopping. We love to help you find the right look for you so if you would like to learn more then please just contact us

CURVED 1 This shape is all about the waist…. wrap dresses are perfect as well as garments with belts. If you do not emphasise the waist (e.g. straight dresses and crisp stiff fabric) then the figure can appear larger.

STRAIGHT 2 Most catwalk models have this particular shape. Easily

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“Matt fabrics absorb light and appear to reduce the size of the area they cover where shiny fabrics will do the opposite.”

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identified with a long straight ribcage and with little or no obvious waistline (catwalk models with this shape can develop an exaggerated side to side sway to give the appearance of curves) The best styles to wear are those with straight lines and tailored. Geometric prints are flattering together with garments that have details on the hips. Try to avoid too much emphasis on the waist.

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TAPERED 3 The tapered figure has a short ribcage and hips may appear high. Therefore wide belts and waistbands are best avoided.

Belted coats and jackets are also not for this shape but empire line tunics and dresses are perfect. Palazzo trousers are also a good look.

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There are also a few tips to help whatever category you fall into….

Be aware of lines…. horizontal lines are not always a “no, no” some designs can be very flattering when different width of stripe is used to emphasise your slimmer areas. Diagonal lines are also flattering.

Fabric plays a large part in choosing the right look for your body shape…. matt fabrics absorb light and appear to reduce the size of the area they cover where shiny fabrics will do the opposite, so choose wisely. Also remember to wear darker fabric on the area you are disguising and draw the attention to the area you wish to emphasise with lighter shades and more detail.

And remember, fashion and styling are like anything, it takes practise but with a few basic rules hopefully you will start to feel more confident when shopping. ●

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“I loved the day, I felt fabulous and watching the transformation of the other ladies was really interesting. The day was so positive, I didn’t want it to end.” ●

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Cherry was also very brave with her haircut. She decided to take her style shorter and after discussing this with Sam she was happy to let Sam suggest a style she felt would work for her. The result was stunning.

The Makeover also included gelvarnish nails which was a completely new experience for Cherry but again one that she loved.

Cherry said “I’ve learnt so much… great make-up tips from Dionne and I am definitely going to be a little braver with my choice of clothes.” ●

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bar-b-new Experiment with different flavours on the grill

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t the time of writing this I’m not sure if summer is finally here?

Fortunately we had one lovely sunny day out in the garden and there was no better way to enjoy time with friends than to have a barbecue.

Our first thoughts of previous barbecues are often of sausages, burgers and chicken joints – charred black on the outside and still raw in the middle, but a little preparation the day before goes a long way in terms of flavours and choices of food.

Of course you should have burgers and sausages – they are absolute classics, but there are

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“Marinate the mushrooms in harissa paste and olive oil – meat eaters will love them too!”

so many other options readily available. For the carnivores out there how about these Indian spiced lamb chops? Buying individual lamb chops can be pricey – I bought a rack of lamb and cut it into individual portions – much more cost effective.

Make a dry rub the night before - I used cumin, coriander, garam masala, medium curry powder and some grated ginger – use whatever you have lurking in your spice rack – rub the mixture over the meat and leave to develop overnight – cook on the barbecue until nicely charred – serve with mango chutney and raita – so tasty! Ribs are another

barbecue favourite, I made an overnight spice rub for these too with smoked paprika, chilli powder, cumin and soft brown sugar – then cooked in a low oven for 2 hours before brushing with sauce and slapping them on the grill. Pre-cooking in the oven keeps them tender and ensures they are fully cooked.

Not everyone will be a big meat eater, fear not – there are plenty of fish and vegetarian options. We cooked a whole rainbow trout, simply stuffed with some lemon slices, parsley and capers. The prawn and pineapple skewers were flavoured with jerk seasoning –

try to buy raw king prawns if you can. The salmon and lemon skewers are so easy – salmon, sliced lemon, salt and pepper!

Halloumi and vegetable skewers are wonderful – marinated in olive oil and lemon and oregano, the salty, squeaky cheese is a great contrast to the vegetables. You can of course leave the cheese off if you have vegan guests or how about these Moroccan spiced mushroom skewers? Marinate the mushrooms in harissa paste and olive oil – meat eaters will love them too! Courgettes are great on a barbecue – quarter them lengthways, brush with olive oil, salt and pepper, a squeeze of lemon juice if you have it and cook! The char marks look great and add some super flavour to this often overlooked vegetable.

So next time the sun makes an appearance and a barbecue is planned why not venture further than the burgers and sausages? An hour or two in the shops and kitchen the day before and you can wow your guests with something a bit different. ●

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The Kids are Alright Q. My son and his wife have sadly recently separated and matters between them have become very acrimonious. There are 2 grandchildren aged 5 and 7 and as a result of the bad feeling between my son and his wife, my daughter-in-law is refusing to let me have contact with my grandchildren. What can I do?

A. Sadly, it is sometimes the case that when parents separate, the children of the relationship can lose touch with their grandparents.

The first step should be to approach the children’s mother to try and deal with the issue in a positive and non-confrontational way.

Mediation is another possible route to try and resolve the issue. However, it may be the case that the relationship has broken down to such an extent that it is impossible to agree.

If no progress can be made then it is possible to make an application to the court for a Child Arrangements Order.

However, this should always be a last resort and can only be made after a referral to mediation has been made.

A Child Arrangements Order sets out the type of contact a grandparent may have with the grandchildren and states

Words by Emma Alfieri Chartered Legal Executive Steeles Law

Your access rights to the grandchildren after family breakdown “A grandparent does not have an automatic right to apply for a Child Arrangements Order.”

the frequency of contact. For example, the court may order that the grandparents have supervised or unsupervised contact at set times or indirect contact with the grandchildren by letters or email. The court’s decision depends on the circumstances, which are different in every case.

The court’s paramount consideration will always be what is in the children’s best interests and family courts do recognise the invaluable role that grandparents have to play.

Grandparents can be great role models and influences and provide a sense of cultural heritage and family history.

However, unlike parents, a grandparent does not have an automatic right to apply for a Child Arrangements Order and will have to apply to the court for permission to make that application. In order to be successful, the grandparent must show that they have a meaningful and important connection with the child. In most cases, establishing this is relatively easy, as the grandparents are already involved in their

grandchildren’s lives.

If a Child Arrangements Order is made, the court’s powers to enforce such orders have been increased so that it makes it extremely difficult for parents to ignore them. They are therefore a powerful way to ensure that grandparents can maintain a meaningful relationship with their grandchildren.

The courts also have the power to make an order defining where a child should live or a special guardianship order in favour of grandparents or relatives, should this be in the children’s best interests.

If your son is having contact with the children, then in the

short term, it would be advisable to have contact with the children when they are with their father.

It is important that when there are problems legal advice is sought early on, as this area of law is not straightforward and each case is judged upon its own particular merits. ●

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eeping wealth in the family requires thought and planning.

What do Abraham Lincoln, Pablo Picasso, Jimi Hendrix and Stieg Larsson have in common? They all died intestate. Despite hard-working careers, none had put in place measures to protect their accumulated wealth and ensure it was passed on to those they cared about.

Their stories highlight the often disastrous impact of not having a carefully prepared Will. Not only can it mean that accumulated family wealth is dissipated, but it can also cause irreparable family rifts and cause those who should have been beneficiaries to miss out.

Picasso left a fortune in artwork, homes, gold, cash and bonds, but no Will. The battle to settle his estate took six years and cost $30 million. The fight over Jimi Hendrix’s estate continued for more than 30 years after his death, and the royalties that kept pouring in caused further complications.

Perhaps the most tragic case is that of Stieg Larsson, author of The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo. He had lived with his partner, Eva Gabrielsson, for

“In the UK unmarried couples have no rights to inherit if their partner dies intestate.”

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32 years. Having failed to make arrangements to provide for her during his lifetime, Swedish law dictated that his estate should be divided between his estranged father and brother.

Similar rules apply in the UK, where unmarried couples have no rights to inherit if their partner dies intestate.

More than a Will

A Will alone may not be enough to protect assets for future generations; detailed succession planning is also essential. That includes planning how you want your assets to be used, determining who you want to benefit from them – and putting in place structures to protect your wealth and ensure these goals can be achieved.

Most of us would like the wealth we have created to benefit future generations of the family, not just immediate children; with funds for education, perhaps, a deposit for a first home, or capital to establish a new business. No matter how wealthy you are, these goals are not guaranteed without careful planning.

Spending is not the only risk. Tax, divorce, and unwise decisions by vulnerable beneficiaries can all have a big impact. Inheritance Tax, levied at 40% over the nil-rate tax band threshold (currently £325,000), is a major threat to any legacy for loved ones. But the divorce of beneficiaries can be more damaging, and may mean one spouse losing half their wealth. You can protect inherited wealth from divorce

“Inheritance Tax, levied at 40% over the nil-rate tax band threshold (currently £325,000), is a major threat to any legacy for loved ones... the divorce of beneficiaries can be more damaging, and may mean one spouse losing half their wealth.”

settlements, but it needs careful planning and expert advice. Without them, divorce can significantly deplete family wealth and may force the sale of assets that have been in the family for generations.

Subsequent marriages and divorces can also introduce new members to the family – such as step-children and stepgrandchildren – who may also need to be provided for.

Wealth should provide reassurance, not cause worry. With careful planning and the right Will, you can not only minimise taxation but also ensure the protection and any growth of funds to benefit a family for decades to come. Trusts still play a major role in succession planning, though they must be properly structured. There may also be other simpler planning methods available.

The one thing most families share is the desire to do the best for themselves and their successors. There is no one right answer, but the impact of taking no action can be devastating. Take advice, start a plan and leave a legacy. ●

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“Citroen has an excellent back catalogue in odd, and some of the automotive world’s greatest successes have come from the French firm.”

Odd Bod Citroen C4 Cactus Citroen’S C4 Cactus is, let’s face it, a little odd – but don’t be put off by that statement.

Odd can be good, interesting and a different approach from the norm.

In fact Citroen has an excellent back catalogue in odd, and some of the automotive world’s greatest successes have come from the French firm. If you doubt it at all, just look at the Citroen DS which was revolutionary when it first came out 60 years ago.

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“Turn into a corner and the C4 Cactus has a fair amount of body roll.

It’s nothing to cause sea sickness though and it settles down immediately, letting you know what grip there is available through the steering wheel.”

Words by Chris Lilly

To start with the looks, it certainly stands out from the crowd.

It is a stylish machine with C4 family design cues like the ultraslim running lights. Everything has the “squircle” theme to it, with rounded off squares – or squared off circles – the common factor throughout the design.

The most prominent feature of the exterior is of course the Airbump panels which sit on each corner and along the door panels.

Made of flexible plastic with pockets of air inside it, the Airbump panels are designed to help protect the C4 Cactus from any parking mishaps, walls that you didn’t see and supermarket trolleys that get away from people.

It’s, to use that word again, an odd concept but also a stroke of genius as everyone is conscious of the perils of damaging your car when it is in the real world, not some automotive designer’s imaginary environment.

Moving inside and the C4 Cactus gets similarly sensible – but with the same sense of Gallic shrug-ofthe-shoulders flair. There are very few physical buttons to control the car’s features and almost everything is controlled through a large touch screen system.

You can almost hear the car, harking back to its alternative French ancestors, say “well why not, it tidies everything up and gives you more space – brilliant, non?”.

Well, yes, it is simple and a great idea because it does tidy the cabin up and makes it look nice. It mirrors the driver’s instruments too which are also on a large screen behind the steering wheel.

The only buttons available control the electric front windows, the heated windscreens, the central locking, traction control and the hazard lights.

Everything else is controlled through the dashboard’s tablet, from the air conditioning to the satellite navigation.

It all looks good too. The glove box has shades of travelling trunk to it, sitting on the top of the dashboard rather than tucked underneath.

There are cubby holes everywhere too and there is loads of leg space for both passengers and the driver.

The seats are unusual these days too as they are extremely comfortable. Not in a plush, armchair way like a big Mercedes, the Citroen is an affordable car after all, but in a way that you rarely find these days.

They are soft, welcoming and free from a myriad of bolster cushions holding you in place as though you are in a glorified baby seat.

Those in the back have plenty of head, shoulder and leg space, if anything slightly more than an equivalent sized family hatchback for reasons I shall come on to shortly, and the boot space will deal with all but the biggest flat-pack furniture purchases.

Part of the reason behind that is because the seats don’t fold down flat and there is no split in the seat backs.

Citroen reckons few people use a 60:40 split much and it only adds weight creating it – so it removed the option. And here we come on to the C4 Cactus’ main feature.

Citroen has stripped the C4 Cactus back to basics. One reason for this is to keep costs down and you can pick up a brand new model for less than £13,000.

The main reason though is to keep weight down. Weight is the enemy of all things automotive. It dulls acceleration, hinders braking, ruins fuel economy and puts up a fight during cornering.

Keep the weight down and everything is immediately better.

To this end, Citroen has not only

ditched the split rear seats and it also only offers pop-out rear windows, along with keeping insulation down to a minimum.

Tipping the scales at just under or just over one tonne, depending on the model you pick, shows the measures have worked and allows Citroen to only offer its most frugal engines.

The engine pulls well from low revs, and allows for nippy progress around town and cruising along faster A-roads and motorways.

Rapid pace isn’t what the C4 Cactus was designed for though.

It again harks back to traditional Citroens and is extremely comfortable to drive.

Turn into a corner and the C4 Cactus has a fair amount of body roll. It’s nothing to cause sea sickness though and it settles down immediately, letting you know what grip there is available through the steering wheel. In fact it can be a really good laugh.

It does ride very smoothlythough and only gets caught out a little on jarring pot holes because the lightweight chassis can’t shrug them off as easily as a heavier car can.

Run around town and the light steering and smooth suspension is a dream, making life extremely easy.

It is not a perfect car, no one model is, but the reason that so many of the points made are positive is because the C4 Cactus is that good.

There is a character about the C4 Cactus that makes you realise how a bit of lateral thinking can work wonders. Because the Citroen is light, it is extremely economical to run, fun to drive and comfortable to live with.

It is one of the best cars I have driven over the last 12 months and, although you might consider a Nissan Juke, Renault Captur or Kia Soul – all good cars – I would opt for the C4 Cactus over all of them.

If this is how well they turn out, long may Citroen make odd cars.

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Have you always lived in East Anglia?

No, I was a forces child of the Cold War era; born in West Germany whilst my father was stationed at RAF Laarbruch flying Canberra reconnaissance aircraft - the base was constantly at a high state of alert just in case the Soviets pushed the button... In the early ‘70’s Father was posted to the strategic RAF base of Gan in the Indian Ocean. This was an ‘unaccompanied posting’, so he had to settle the family in the UK before he left - East Anglia was the natural choice because my mother had family connections in the area. Our first family home was in Redenhall and we have lived in the area ever since.

Our readers know you as owner of GM Auto Tech but what other jobs have you had before you were a mechanic?

I was never a proper mechanic, more of an enthusiastic amateur really, but I’ve always had a thing about cars (and

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making them go faster), some would call it a disease, or at the very least an affliction. My first proper job was working on a farm, the highlight of which was maintaining an aging fleet of Fordson Major tractors.

Later on I joined the family business at The Black swan in Homersfield, working in both bar and kitchen, but always with my sights on the motor trade.

In 1997 when the business was sold I knocked on doors at the local garages in the hope that someone would give me a chance - the then owner of GM Autotech gave me that chance, and the rest, as they say is history.

Can you name every car you have ever owned?

My memory is notoriously poor; normally I struggle to recall what I had to eat at my last meal, but with cars it’s different, I probably could remember every car I’ve had, but I’d be in danger of turning YLM into a bit of a telephone directory if I

listed them all. The highlights have been (in no particular order): Golf GTI MK1 in Lhasa green which I took on a tour of Italy in 1990 with my future brother-in-law, and then to the Scottish Highlands in 1992 with my future wife Ali - fond memories from that time. Saab 900 Turbo 16V - the original, so different, so quirky and our first family express. Subaru Legacy Twin Turbo estate - actually not mine, but a birthday present for Ali that we both came to adore - the most complete car we’ve ever owned, so fast, so capable, just brilliant in every respect and our favourite family express. Classics? I’ve mentioned my 1969 Morris Cooper MKII in YLM before - I bought it to restore just as I turned 17 and have yet to complete that restoration - I can see myself driving it in my mind’s eye, and I can only hope that the reality lives up to the dream! Lastly my 1972 Triumph 2.5 PI saloon much modified, rallied, stupidly crashed, rebuilt and modified

“Triumphs of this particular type are an affliction for me - whenever I look at the car I’m reminded that given the right management and investment Triumph could have been where BMW are today.”

even more, toured, but still not quite finished (does any serial car modifier ever reach the end?) Triumphs of this particular type are an affliction for me - whenever I look at the car I’m reminded that given the right management and investment Triumph could have been where

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BMW are today. Secretly I want to believe that the reason BMW covet the Triumph brand more than they do all the other old British car makers names they own (following their acquisition of Rover group in 1994) is because it so closely represents the core values of their own product. Anyway I’m rambling as I said, it’s an affliction.

How many vehicles do you have ?

Now that would be telling, somehow I seem to have no difficulty in acquiring cars but great difficulty in getting rid of them. At last count the total number might have exceeded 20 which is more than any man could justify. In truth most of them are off the road and awaiting disposal or restoration and more than ever before I feel the need to rationalise the ‘collection’. Some are almost scrap, some have been taken in in-lieu of work done (Rolls-Royce Silver Spirit included) and some I’m never going to get round to restoring, so it’s time for a clear out - less is more as they say...

Out of all your cars if you had to choose one to keep and all of the rest had to go which one would you choose and why?

Bearing in mind my previous answer, that’s a cruel question to ask a serial hoarder. I feel like the poor guests on Desert Island Discs who ask if they can save more than just one of their favourite discs from the waves.

Kirsty Young is pretty firm about this, and I think your editor may take the same view, so if it has to be just the one, then I would choose my Triumph, but it’s a close call. The Mini Cooper would be so hard to give up, particularly as it was my first car, but I’ve put so much more into the Triumph that it almost feels like part of the family, I suppose you could say some of my soul is in that car.

There’s also the practical side to consider too; as I approach old age I could gradually take the ‘fast parts’ off the Triumph and

replace them with the ‘slow but comfortable (and quiet) parts’, like swapping running spikes for a comfortable pair of slippers.

You could never do that to a Mini Cooper - comfortable and quiet coupled with Mini would just be too much of an oxymoron. Or perhaps I could just grow old disgracefully.

Do you have any more road trips / challenges planned?

Yes, in September this year I have an entry in the Club Triumph Ten Countries Run. Ali and I will be part of a field of over 100 Triumphs driving some of the best roads Europe has to offer over a period of four days and two nights, and as you might have guessed the aim is to pass through ten countries.

We did a similar tour in 2007 but this time will be heading much further east to the former Soviet Eastern Bloc countries - somewhere we’ve never been before. And after that? Well, I’d like to do some more UK based historic rallies perhaps with my daughter Didi as navigator if she can put up with my driving! My long term ambition is to compete in a transcontinental historic rally, but that would mean a different car and a great deal more experience, not to mention a serious investment.

What do you like doing in your spare time ? (Not that you have much!)

Spare time? I’m not allowed

that at the moment because my other (enforced) hobby is a house restoration that has just dragged on too long. It’s my own fault really - too ambitious, too un-realistic and too fussy that’s enough to slow even the best planned restoration down.

When the house is completed and I have dispensed with the endless ‘to do’ lists, I can think of no greater weekend luxury than to breakfast leisurely and ponder what I might do for the rest of the day. Oh, the luxury of time, with a bit of boredom thrown in for good measure.

You are a great writer and we love having your editorial in YLM. What and

why do you like writing and working with ylm?

Not sure how I fell into this editorial thing because I was a hopeless student of English at school and struggled to write anything meaningful at all. Perhaps the experience of life and my progression into ‘Grumpy Old Manhood’ has given me the impetus and material to spout forth. I’m surprised at how much I actually enjoy writing, but the biggest surprise is that others actually seem to enjoy reading it - I can only assume that there must be lots of other Grumpy Old Men out there! ●

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Pennoyer Centre, Pulham St. Mary | £4 advance, £4.50 on the door | Bar 7.15pm for a 8pm start | 01379 676660 / www.pennoyers.org.uk / admin@pennoyers.org.uk

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FRI 10TH & SAT 11TH Steam Back in Time - Bure Valley Railway Come and celebrate the Railway’s 25th Anniversary. See the return to Norfolk of Winston Churchill from the Romney Hythe & Dymchurch Railway, the locomotive which hauled the very first train. All passengers on this day only will travel at the same fares as when the Railway first opened in 1990! Special intensive timetable in operation.

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SUN 12TH Gig in the Garden at Wicks Farm After the sell-out success of 2013 and 2014, Gig in the Garden is back as a two-day music festival in 2015 on Saturday 11 and Sunday 12 July at Wicks Farm in Mendlesham where the John Peel Centre will be ensuring non stop music with their Acoustic Stage running alongside the main stage as part of the fundraising activities.

Wicks Farm, Mendlesham, Stowmarket, Suffolk IP14 5SX | Doors open 12:05pm | www.action.org.uk/gig-garden

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learning to observe and identify birds by song and sight. Lackford Lakes offers a wide range of habitats and so can support a diverse range of bird species, which optimises your chances of seeing and hearing many different types of birds throughout the day. For beginners/less experienced.

Paul is a popular local ornithologist who has run many enjoyable courses for us. Please bring a packed lunch and binoculars if you have them although some will be available to borrow at the Centre.

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ThuRS 23RD Jimmy Cliff With a legacy stretching back nearly 50 years, Cliff’s catalogue ranks among the most influential in global culture: Many Rivers to Cross, You Can Get It If You Really Want, Wonderful World, Beautiful People, The Harder They Come, and many more.

Cliff remains a forceful voice of power and conscience, creating new music as vital and vibrant as ever; his most recent album Rebirth won the Grammy Award for Best Reggae Album and was included in Rolling Stone’s ‘50 Best Albums of 2012’.

The Apex, Bury St Edmunds | £34.50 | 7.30pm | 01284 758000 / www. theapex.co.uk

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Thurs 23RD - Thurs 3RD Sept Bird ringing demonstrations Waveney Bird Club’s ringing demonstrations are not to be missed. They offer rare opportunities to experience close encounters with Minsmere’s birds - from tiny blue tits to impressive woodpeckers, you never know what you might see! Join us to discover more about the lives of Minsmere birds, what migration adventures they have and the important work the club do every year.

Minsmere Reserve, IP17 3BY | 10am - 4pm Free event, but normal reserve entry fees apply | 01728 648281 / minsmere@ rspb.org.uk www.rspb.org.uk/discoverandenjoynature/seenature/events

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Sat 25th Cut-loose Poets Your monthly chance to surprise yourself and write the poems you’ve always wanted to. Release your inner creativity with the help of two of the most enthusiastic experienced workshop leaders and poets, Michael Laskey & Dean Parkin.

Michael and Dean have been leading lights of the Aldeburgh Poetry Festival for the last 26 years, have worked as editors and publishers, and delivered poetry workshops to people of all ages in schools, universities and the wider community. Beginners welcome – give it a try!

The Cut, Halesworth | 10am | £15 | 01986 873285 / info@newcut.org / www. newcut.org

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SAT 25TH - FRI 7TH Aug Robots Puppet Making A fun, whimsical tale based on the

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a selection of forthcoming events in our region

much-loved children’s book written by local author Joyce Dunbar.

A little boy meets three unusual creatures, the Lostlet, the Strangelet and the Oddlet. Together the new friends find surprising ways to make their hopes, dreams and wishes come true.

Norwich Puppet Theatre’s adaptation visually reimagines the story with a magical mix of puppetry, visual tricks, masks and original music.

Norwich Puppet Theatre, St James, Whitefriars, Norwich, NR3 1TN | Mon-Fri, Sat, 11am (baby friendly) and 2.30pm | 3-8 years | £8 individual tickets, £28 family ticket for four | Disabled access | 01603 629921 / info@puppettheatre.co.uk / www.puppettheatre.co.uk

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tues 28th Diss Corn Hall On Tour presents: Make a Culinary Wreath - with Gabriel’s Garden Create a stunning edible wreath to use in the kitchen and to decorate the home.

Our culinary wreaths are created using fresh aromatic herbs organically grown and gathered from Gabriel’s Garden including sage, rosemary and thyme. Hand tied, your wreath will dry naturally, look fabulous and be edible too.

All materials will be provided but please bring a pair of secateurs or scissors.

Upstairs at The Boilerhouse, 3 Cobbs Yard | 10am - 12.30pm | £45.00 | www. disscornhall.co.uk

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COMING SOON Sat 1st Natural dyeing using native plants Join popular local craftswoman Fay Jones for a more in depth look at natural dyeing.

You will learn about solar tie dyeing with tree dyes, experiment with over dyeing colours, discover how to produce 5 different colours from one dye bath and different dyes from the same plant.

There will be a short walk to collect materials for use later in the day.

Fay first learnt about dyeing when she was a Tudor re-enactor at Kentwell Hall.

She has built up an eclectic knowledge of native dye plants and, being trained in countryside management, she has been able to identify plants listed in various dye books and learn where is best to seek them out!

Lackford Lakes, Lackford | 10:00am 4:00pm | www.suffolkwildlifetrust. org/events

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Sunday 2nd Festival of Classic & Sports Cars Held in association with the Suffolk Vehicle Enthusiasts Club (SVEC). Classic and sports car owners exhibit their cars some of which parade up and down the main drive on the two concourse runs throughout the day.

Over 700 vehicles attend, representing the last 10 decades of motoring history, including many from Britain’s motoring heyday – marques on display included Alvis, Bristol, Jensen, AC Riley, Armstong Sideley, Lea Francis, Crossley, BSA, Lagonda, Lanchester and Gordon Keeble. The oldest vehicle seen on display last year was a 1914 Ford Model T and the latest sports car models have included the Chevrolet Corvette and a Ford Mustang as well as Ferraris’ and Porsche.

This amazing collection of vehicles is displayed against the magnificent back drop of Helmingham Hall and its surrounding moat which sits in the middle of the ancient deer park.

There will also be main ring entertainment, craft and trade stalls, birds of prey, lots of live music and great local food & drink!

The 2014 event made a £4,500 donation to EACH - Ipswich Children’s Hospice www.each.org.uk Helmingham Hall | 10:00am - 5:00pm | Adults £8.00 Children 7 years and over £4.00 Family ticket (2 adults and 2 children) £20.00 | 01473 890 799 / www. helmingham.com

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SAT 8TH & SUN 9TH Dunlop MSA British Touring Car Championship at Snetterton Circuit The Dunlop MSA British Touring Car Championship is the UK’s biggest car racing series, featuring highly-modified versions of saloons and hatchbacks seen on the nation’s streets. The BTCC is renowned for ultra-close racing and plenty of incidents between the drivers! Reigning champion Turkington is expected to defend his crown against tough opposition that is sure to include many champions!

Snetterton Circuit, NR16 2JU | 9am6.30pm | All ages | Weekend £33; Sunday £26; Children under 13 free | Disabled access | 0843 453 9000 | www.snetterton.co.uk

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sun 9th August DCH On Tour DOT Productions presents: Northanger Abbey - in the garden at The Oaksmere By the age of 17, Catherine Morland who is obsessed with Gothic novels - is “in training for a heroine”. Her quiet

life changes dramatically when friends invite her to Bath for the season where she meets new friends and possible suitors. A visit to Northanger Abbey, the mysterious home of General Tilney, sends her novel-fuelled imagination into overdrive and she begins to suspect him of having murdered his late wife. Are her new friends all they seem? And is the General hiding a dark secret?

With a cast of six actors and a cleverly comedic adaptation of Jane Austen’s novel, DOT Productions lead you on a humorous Gothic journey.

The Oaksmere Gardens | 16:00 | £12.00 / DCH Friend £10.50 Conc. £10.00 / Friend Conc. £8.50 | www.disscornhall.co.uk

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MONTHLY Every Monday

Odd Balls Knitting Club Just bring along your needles and ‘knit & natter’.

Pennoyer Centre, Pulham St. Mary | 1pm – 3pm | Free | 01379 676660 / www.pennoyers.org.uk admin@pennoyers.org.uk

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Mondays & Saturdays PC Help Club One-to-one PC help from keen and knowledgeable volunteers. All abilities welcome.

Pennoyer Centre, Pulham St. Mary | Mondays 1.30pm – 5.30pm, Saturdays 9.30am – 12 noon | £4 for a one hour session | 01379 676660 / www.pennoyers.org. uk admin@pennoyers.org.uk

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EVERY TUESDAY Tuesday Time Together Come along for a chat, fellowship, refreshments or quiet space.

St John’s Church, Harleston | 10.00am4.00pm | Free | 01379 851148

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FIRST & THIRD TUESDAY DISS & DISTRICT CAMERA CLUB Grasmere Club, Denmark Street, Diss | 7:30pm-9:45pm | www.disscamera. org.uk

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First Tuesday Waveney Bereavement Group Number 7 - Prayer & Counselling Centre, 7-8 Mere Street, Diss | 2pm | 01379 658956

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Third Tuesday Buskers Night A relaxed evening with all types of music including modern, blues and folk. Bring along your instrument & speak to Dave when you arrive. Bar with real ale & bacon butties.

Pennoyer Centre, Pulham St. Mary | 7pm | Free | 01379 676660 / www.pennoyers. org.uk / admin@pennoyers.org.uk

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First Thursday Diss Computer Club The Residents’ Meeting Room, Taylor Road | 7.00pm - 10.00pm | Bob Morgan 01379 650977 / disscomputerclub@ gmail.com

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First Friday & third Sunday African Djembe Drumming Lessons ‘Backspace’, Angel Cafe, Fair Green, Diss | Friday: 10 - 12pm & Sunday: 3 - 5pm | £12 per session | Jane 01379 641233

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The Wyken Vineyard Farmers Market The Wyken Farmers’ Market is about farmers, producers, bakers, makers, friends and family.

Wyken Road, Stanton, Bury St Edmunds | 9am - Noon | 01359 250262

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Every Saturday Strictly Saturdays Dump the shopping and come dancing at The Apex in the upstairs bar! Ballroom, Latin and Rock & Roll.

The Apex, Bury St. Edmunds | 2.30pm4.30pm | Free | 01284 758000 / enquiries@theapex.co.uk

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FIRST Saturday Indoor Flea Market Vintage, antique, collectables, etc.

Swan Hotel, Harleston | 9.00 - 1.00pm | Stalls £10 | 01379 855486

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Every Sunday Stonham Barns CAR Boot Sale Stonham Barns, Pettaugh Road, Stonham Aspal | 8am for Sellers / 9am for Buyers | Simon Tilley 07817 539168

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Second & fourth Saturday Bingo for Cash Prizes £6 for 6 games. All monies paid in is paid out in cash prizes!

Apollo Social Club, Harleston | £6 for 6 games | 8.00pm | 01379 854205 / www.apollo-club.co.uk

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Second & Fourth SUNDAY Come Dancing If you love to dance this is a great night!

Professional DJ, fantastic dance floor & fully licensed bar.

Apollo Rooms, Harleston | 7pm-10pm | £5 | 01379 854205 / www.apollo-club.co.uk

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Disclaimer: Whilst every effort has been made to make this listing as accurate as possible, we recommend that you verify times and dates etc. prior to attending any events.

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