story begins
S i tt i ng o n t h e s o fa , I f e e l s o c o m f o r t a b le a b o u t t h i s environment. I like to stay in a small room to keep myself in t he limit space. I lo ve sitting o n t he co uch for a w hile, I lo ve keep ing everything in my room.... You can see the sentence:
Yes, sure. I am a hoarder. You must be curious what a hoarder is. Why am I sitting in a pile of debris. Why is my environment like a clutter garage. Why? Because I am a hoarder.
This is my room. I like living like this. I cherish everything for me. Every cent of my family needs protection. I want to save everything in life. I found that in this way, I can live more comfortable.
Yes this is my room. My room is full of my babies I can't bear to throw it away. I can not let it go. They are every part of my life. My lover, Always want to throw away these things. But
I d o n' t t h i n k understands me.
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Don't care for things. I think even a shopping bag I want to collect it.
They call my stuff junk I never think so. They just don't understand me. They also want to throw away my things. My family members...Why they are so strange? I j u s t w a n t to k e e p m y things. My game, my turf, my rules
They told me I am burying myself. T h ey to l d m e I n e e d to change. They told me I have to clean up all the things. They told me....... T h e y g av e m e s o m a n y suggestions. They do not understand me.
But I like it. I like to buy things. I do not know why. I just feel happy about doing this. S o m e t i m e s t h e y to l d m e i t is no n ee d to kee p unneccessary things. But I think it is useful. I like to do anyway I want.
I like shopping. I like buying things. I like do anything I want. I like be myself. :( ---------------------------
One day I come back to my home. I calling my darling's name... But there is no reply...
Nothing. There is nothing to eat. Noody reply me. I am hungry.
I found a letter after I entered the room. My lover wrote to me. He told me that he loves me very much. But told me many times that I need to change. I didn't change myself, so he left me. I don't want to leave him I d o n' t w a n t t o c h a n g e myself. I'm so upset, I want to be myself Why is the truest myself I cannot keep no one stay?...
I can't sleep all night. I stand in front of the window. Â I really miss him. But he will not come back. Today is the fivth day he left. We have had so many happy memories. Everything with he that I always remember.
I know I need to change recently. He to ld me thousands of times to throw my stuff. But I really do n't kno w where I went wrong. Until I s tumb le d upo n a test online. Tests for hoarding patients I can't believe that every point is same me...
"Hoarding disorder" I cannot believe this word piont to me. I am actually the hoarder. I feel panic. I want to change. But How to change? That is not easily for me.
This keep with me for many years. In my most difficult time, another self out. The other same me came out to save me. " NEVER EVER FORGERT TO REFLECT YOURSELF" "NEVER EVER TO CHANGE YOUR BAD HABITS'' I t h ink t he firs t s te p is change my mind.
"BE CONFIDENT WITH YOURSELF." "JUST CHANGE SOME AND LET THE BEST PART OF YOU STAY" "CLEAN YOUR ROOM" "THROW ALL THE USELESS THINGS AWAY" "CHANGE IT!" "CHANGE IT DEEPLY!"
And, many thanks to another me.
She told me that she always is here for me. Only she is there. "DO NOT HIDE YOU RS E L F I N YOU R OWN WORLD." "COME OUT AN D S EE VDIFFERENT!"
She told me She always be here for me. Only she is there. She is there for me. I k no w t h e b i g g e s t difficulty is that the r e a s o n w h y I h av e difficulty getting out of Hoarding disorder i s b e ca u s e I h av e bo und myself in my own world. It is difficult for me to break..
Neurons are haunting. Ye s it make s m e feel my thinking is right. W h e n I o p e n e d t h e cag e where I was being held, I broke free. I really feel free. I'm not the same self I used to be.
I am gradually changing. Changing the view of my belongings. Changing the bad habit of hoarding things, Changing the new me.
This book is ded icated to those who are suffering from the hoarding disorder people, or w hose fam i ly m embers have the disease, or who do not have the disease. I hope everyone will learn to understand the mentality of people with hoarding. If the people aro und yo u have this sympto m, tr y to unders tand them and u se warm words to change them. They are not dirty people. They just need to help. They just need to be understood.
Do you find it difficult to discard items, even if you never nee d them, or they have broken down?
● Is there a lot of things in your
h o u s e, e v e n if t h i s i s not yo u r permanent residence?
● Do you tend to pile things up and
leave them for future processing, and these things will pile up there for days?
● Is there any area in your house (such as a dining table) that must be
cleaned up before it can be used for its original purpose? Zh
● Do you keep things often because
you worry that you might use them someday?
● Do you often keep things, but you
don't know exactly how they will be used in the future?
● Do you still keep some things that you intended to give as gifts?
● Do you have some storage boxes that you always take with you when
you move house, but never opened them?
● Do you often buy an item multiple
times because you have forgotten that you already own it?
● When you face a "cheap sale", do
you find it hard to do yourself, even if you don't need it?
â—? When you face a "cheap sale", do
you find it hard to do yourself, even if you don't need it?
â—? Do you collect free things, such as
shampoo in a hotel or cookies with soup in a restaurant, which you have never used or eaten afterwards?
T h e m o r e " ye s" y o u a n s w e r, t h e stronger your hoarding tendency, and
the more likely your environment will be cluttered.
How to treat hoarding If yo u have severe hoard ing, ask an expert for help.
Six rules to avoid clutter 1. Come in one, go out one. If you buy a
pair of shoes, you should have a pair of shoes ready to be discarded or donated so as not to fill up the cabinet.
2. There is nothing homeless. If you're thinking about bringing something home, you must be able to find a place for it or
replace it with something else. "Let's put it in the lobby first, knowing that I found a place", this is not an answer you can accept.
Be able to know when and how to use such things. In addition to the storage
place, this thing also needs a usage plan. "Oh, great. There are mo del clay sold here. It's a bargain!" But that's not the
reason to take home. "My nieces come next weekend, they can play clay!" This
is a good friend. Note that there are both specific dates and specific plans.
4. Live in the present. If you bought a new sweater and knew you would lose an old one, put the new one in the closet and take out the old one. If you drag
this thing on, you are unlikely to actually find a sweater to throw away.
5. Do not repeat. If you already have one
thing, buying another similar thing is not
a good idea, even if it is a good deal. The exception is if you do have storage
space for such things as cleaning supplies in the basement. However, you must have a clear plan for when and how to use it.
6. If it needs some sort of repair first, don't bring it back. In most cases, you won't really repair it. If you want to
re d uce clutter, t hen anyt hing t hat is broken or in need of repair should not come into your view.
ALL THIS BOOK CREATED BY
YIQI QIN