Facilitators Note: Tempers can damage marriage communication and respect. When people are angry, the discussions are mostly self‐oriented, and rarely about what is best for the marriage. Discussions should “end” when a partner becomes angry, and restarted, when a couple is calm and controlled. A person who has angry outbursts needs to work on his/her flaws before marrying. Talking to a third party to work out the anger issues and set healthy boundaries in the future marriage is highly recommended. 29. My fiancé: a. Is upset when I spend time with my parents c. Lets me go alone to visit my parent b. Spends time with my folks 30. My fiancé: a. Likes animals c. Is not nice to my animals b. Dislikes animals d. Not applicable Facilitator’s Note: There are some adults who were raised to treat animals unkindly. This is a character flaw, which needs some help from a third party. Some adults do not believe animals should be treated with respect or actually become jealous of the time spent with them. This can become a large issue in marriage and needs to be worked on before the marriage takes place person. 31. My fiancé: a. Wears a seatbelt b. Never wears a seatbelt 32. My fiancé drives: a. Too fast c. About average b. Too slow Facilitator’s Note: Research has shown that risk taking Americans have a higher likelihood of dangerous behaviors, injuries and illnesses. (Nuering and Markle, 1974) 33. My faith is of great importance to me. a. Agree b. Disagree 34. Do you feel it is as important to put as much (or more) work into planning your marriage as you do your wedding ceremony? a. Yes b. No 35. How important is honesty to you? a. Very important b. Most of the time
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