The Appetite & Admiration Station by Jose Wright Jr

Remember the Snickers commercials that had that one slogan that never dies; “hungry, why wait?” Some of those commercials were actually very funny. “You aren’t yourself when you’re hungry.” Oh yeah, I can definitely see how that applies to the subject at hand. Enough of the food conversation; I’m not trying to make either of us crave any chocolate bars right now. What I want to tackle is Love vs Lust!! Is it easy to differentiate between the two? Is one greater than the other? Why are so many minds confused about the traits of either element? I’m not sure why there’s so much uncertainty about it, but let’s attempt to break into greater understanding. Shall we?

What does lust typically entail? In comparison to that, what is love supposed to look like? If we break a particular phrase down, we might be able to better comprehend their differences. What comes to mind right now are the words “lust of the flesh.” There’s definite usage of that phrase in religious institutions, but to my understanding, that’s the most applicable phrase possible. That being said, LUST has a focus that caters to pleasing the body! Google’s definition of lust simply is, “very strong sexual desire.” Google’s definition of love is “an intense feeling of deep affection.” Which of the two tend to create the most issues & concerns in today’s society? Without question, lust holds that candle proudly. The other is misused in text/ print & audibly, and many have yet to truly find it. In this age & time where social media has been put into use to an even greater measure, the eyes of men have been perpetually ravished and ensnared by consistent, ever more alluring, and creative means of showing skin. OnlyFans accounts and (basically) free pornographic material have showered the internet’s social sites, and caused a downpour of primal reactions that do not cater to reason, or respect towards women. Who remembers Daisy Dukes?

I know I’m not by myself here, but I remember when those were a new trend. I saw aunts and older cousins talking to younger family members about not wearing them, because of how high the cut rose to a woman’s “life giving” space. I know some of you reading this probably owned/own a pair! You can’t lie to yourself about this one. Those shorts were just too short, and depending upon the body type of the woman wearing them, they’d be even more uncomfortable looking in the eyes of some others. Regardless of how they may have fit on some women, the brothers would LOSE THEIR MINDS when we…they saw them. Without full description being written out, the attentive and oh so carnivorous male species couldn’t really handle those shorts. THAT WAS BACK THEN!! Today, lust (through its various displays) is a whole, different kind of visually euphoric, and salivating beast! Speaking with intent and concern, the human eye doesn’t stand a chance (let alone the effect on the mind). Lust puts women in harm’s way! Lust has no regard for the high standard of man (which in many spaces seems almost nonexistent)! Lust’s only concern is the climax that two bodies can achieve by ANY sexual means necessary! That said, what does love look like? What goes through the human heart and mind when you genuinely LOVE someone?

To love someone is to give of yourself intentionally for their benefit, and to accomplish that task even if you must sacrifice something you hold dear. Love is selfless in nature, and a man or woman who loves another shows it in very specific manners. Jennifer Lewis’ character in the 2001 movie “The Brothers” gave an example of love to three women, which spoke of sacrifice. “If he would give you his last piece of food, the very last bite, BABY…that’s love.” It’s a simple act to say the least, but you know most brother’s aren’t giving up that last bite of their sandwich easily, right? There has to be deep rooted affection and adoration for someone, in order to sacrifice something that as small as it may seem, is in that moment the most desired item before their eyes. Come on now ladies AND fellas; you know you DON’T PLAY when it comes to your food! I’m quite certain that if someone tries to grab a chicken wing off of your plate, they’ll be missing a finger or two and regretting the choice they just made.

Are the distinctions between love and lust noticeable?

Love and lust are noticeably different, but based upon the definitions presented, one can lust after someone they love. Can a person lust after someone and learn to love them later? Can someone fall out of love and simply lust after an individual? I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that those questions have confirmed answers that hold true, but not enough caution is brought forward in regards to either element. Swinging back over to the social media mentions for a moment, how many of you ladies don’t even read your DMs anymore? Regarding lust, I rest my case! The ability to more readily and effortlessly use social networks to contact one another, may have created more of a budding concern than most would consider minimal enough to remain on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, SnapChat, etc. Hypersexual consistency feeds the notion that many women have, in believing that most men are simply uncaged animals, mentally enslaved in a constant mating season. You may feel extreme passion (or intense desire) lustfully for someone you consider your partner, but would that mean you are trapped in lust? To love someone truly is displayed in many ways; building a home together, starting a family, co-founding a business, spending quality time and learning about one another are things that are entrenched in love’s domain. Lust is PURELY sexual!

How have you seen love & lust presented in your own life? What is it about love that excites you, or concerns you? Are you authentically loving someone right now, or has sex been the main focus but you didn’t really see it? Is lust all that’s been presented before you? Do you now comprehend the difference?

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