DECEMBER ISSUE 2012

The thing is, saying they need a healthy environment and accepting that environment is another thing for they still maintain the “truth” which has been imbibed into the mind from birth in many cases. That “truth” which they have been thought and which they have accepted is: “you are worthless” “You will amount to no good” “You caused me to abuse you” “You know that you feel good when I do those things to you” “This is what life is all about” “Everyone you meet will treat you the same way” “Everyone only wants one thing from you” “You are stupid” And the list can go on.

There are victims who have been abused and who have met a wonderful companion however very soon they (the victim) begins to push and push and push until that person snaps and do one of two things leaves the relationship or lashes out with verbal and or physical abuse, after experiencing the outburst, and the pain of it something within them quiets.

The companion on the other hand is now placed in a position of guilt and remorse and will now do anything to make it up to the victim and whatever the victim says. Sadly, another innocent person is caught in the seducing, subtle tangled web called the cycle of abuse. While another victim now begins to perpetuate the abuse which they hated and despised and swore to themselves that they will never abuse any one or push someone to become abusive.

One of the reasons why this cycle continues is because the victim believes in the confines of his or her mind that they deserve to be mistreated, abused, disrespected, hated, and put down. To end this cycle of abuse the victim must seek help; there must be some sort of intervention 143