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MAS TECTOMY
What if your wife’s breasts are cut off? W
hat is it about a woman’s breast that it so excites men? From childhood, the male child is remarkably more obsessed about the mother’s breast than the female, seeing it both as a source of food and a plaything. As the child progresses into adulthood, this obsession is enigmatically transferred to those of his lover and then wife. So endeared are they to this ‘plaything’ that it often beclouds their definition of beauty. Hence the breasts alone are enough to attract most men to any woman, her personality notwithstanding. “Breasts were the first thing I was ever introduced to as a child. Remember even the Bible says the child will always go the way he was trained. So, you see, we’ve been so wired from birth. Even babies, while
sucking from their mothers, shake their legs in excitement. As a father, I get really jealous seeing this because I feel they’re mine. The breast is fundamental. So, how can I now break away from it as a grown up?”, Johnson Ariyo, a 35year-old Computer Scientist retorted when quizzed by Feminista. “Read your Bible very well and you’ll find that one of the things which made Adam eat from Eve even when he knew that was the
*Breast cancer is fast becoming a leading cause of death in women forbidden fruit, were her breasts. The fall of great men have often been because of the breasts”, Osaze Ebohon, another young man chipped in. But now, imagine the
Did a man just say ‘God forbid’? But that’s a fact because all it takes to be wracked by breast cancer is to simply be a woman! What becomes of her man who so much loves that ‘plaything’? What if such victim were a young, unmarried lady? Will her man disappear into thin air?
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BY JOSEPHINE IGBINOVIA
*Male child wrapped in excitement
woman is diagnosed of breast cancer and the cancer progresses dangerously that she must have a mastectomy- surgical removal of one or both breasts, if she must survive. Did a man just say ‘God forbid’? But that’s a fact because all it takes to be wracked by breast cancer is to simply be a woman! What becomes of her man who so much loves that ‘plaything’? What if such victim were a young, unmarried lady? Will her man disappear into thin air? It’s however amazing how indispensable the female breast is to most men, who, like 42-year-old Onyeka Chidi, must opt for any other breast-carrying specie if his wife’s breasts are hacked by breast cancer. “There are many breasts out there and mind you, breast is breast. It doesn’t matter who is carrying them. Even now, my two sons hardly let me enjoy the breasts I have at home. Imagine you touching your wife and your baby shouting as if you’re stealing her. So, whether my wife has a mastectomy or not, I will still enjoy breasts anywhere”, he said. Anayo Okoli, a 29-year-old, is however of an unsympathetic view. “Why will I marry a girl who has her breasts chopped off? For what? Then what I’m I marrying? What will even take me to her in the first place? I won’t have anything to play with! No feeding bottle will be like the breasts. I’m sorry to say this but if we’ve been married before
the ailment, I’ll have to seek pleasure outside. Though it may not affect my marriage, I don’t think I will find it easy even if she goes for implants”, he said. Bayo Adesina, a 33-yearold about to walk the aisle, however vowed that no deformity would make him turn his back on the woman in his life. “The breasts should not be an issue because love and companionship are most important. I’ve seen a lady with a bad leg being wedded by a very handsome man. I’ve seen a beautiful lady who has turned down handsome, successful young men and married a cripple. I personally do not think I should abandon anyone simply because of any deformity because I do not know what the next minute would result to for me. A cousin of mine always mocked a lady with crippled legs in his neighbourhood but suddenly, he was involved in an auto crash with his friend and he lost an eye. So, mastectomy should not affect a sincere marriage. Besides, marriage is supposed to be for better for worse.” Kayode Ajani, another 32year-old with a view similar to Bayo’s however advised that other points of attraction like character, care, etc., other than the breasts, be strengthened. For him, attraction to a woman’s breast is borne out of lust and not love. Hence, the loss of any body part shouldn’t diminish attraction between partners.