Myth 1: The divorce rate in the country is 50%
do have a 28% decreased risk of getting divorced.
Fact: It’s never been 50%. It’s actually 41%. The odds are better than you think. And a college education decreases the likelihood of divorce. This is shown by more sophisticated research.
Myth 5: On the online dating websites the majority of men are lying about themselves.
Myth 2: You have one soul mate and meeting that “One” is the key to finding love. Fact: Research shows that love and marriage take hard work, including commitment, positive communication, and the ability to resolve fights. The best relationship advice I can give you is that you need to work on yourself and choose someone, a good friend with chemistry, who’s willing to grow with you. These are the keys to a happy marriage. Sorry, no fairy tale.
Myth 3: When you are married fighting is an unhealthy thing. Fact: Couples who suppress their anger have a mortality rate that is twice as high as those in which one partner stands up for him/herself. Fighting with your spouse and then resolving differences is a healthy thing.
Myth 4: Living with a boyfriend/ girlfriend gives you a better sense of who your partner is and will make for a stronger marriage down the road. Fact: Couples who have not lived together before marriage have healthier and more successful marriages. They also have less conflict, less abuse and are less likely to get divorced than couples who live together before marriage. However, a more recent study shows that couples who have committed to be married and live together
Fact: Independent research shows that the number is only about 20%. Common lies concern income, profession, age, marital status and weight.
Myth 6: It’s better to wait until you’re more mature and get married in your thirties rather than your twenties. Fact: People who marry after their mid twenties just as likely to get divorced and surprisingly are much more likely to have a poor quality marriage than those who married earlier.
Myth 7: Choosing marriage means more stress and financial drain in your life. Fact: Married people are healthier emotionally and physically and they have more wealth too. Study after study has shown that love relationships have a huge impact on our psychological, economic, and physical well-being. Having a life partner can create a higher sense of self-worth, provide intimacy and emotional support which fulfills the deepest human need for connection, and lead to greater wealth and economic stability. As a result, married people may be happier, live more satisfying lives, and have fewer psychological problems, including depression. Many researchers say that these factors lead to better physical health, greater healthseeking behavior, and lower rates of alcoholism. Here’s the big take-away: for over 100 years studies around the world have shown that married people live longer and enjoy a higher quality of life than those who aren’t partnered! Written by Dr. Diana Kirschner. Courtesy of Isnare.com.