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footsteps. For many Jews, the United States has long held a unique role in our collective imagination. It has been an unprecedented land of promise, of refuge, of freedom, of opportunity and of safety. But after the horrific attack Saturday, October 27, at the Tree of Life Congregation in Pittsburgh, in which 11 of our brothers and sisters were brutally murdered, we can’t help but be shaken and concerned for the America we have come to know and love. We therefore join together to unequivocally condemn this brutal act of anti-Semitism and all deadly acts of hate. We also condemn the climate of hate that has been building for some time now, especially on college campuses and on social media, where the veneer of anonymity has allowed anti-Semitic cesspools to flourish, and from irresponsible political leaders who engage in hateful speech and are abetted by the silence of others. As journalists, we hold a variety of opinions about politics in this country and in Israel. The American Jewish community is diverse, and those differences are reflected on the pages of its media. In coming together now, we are not erasing those differences, but rising above them to issue a call for solidarity and respect, and asking our political and communal leaders to do the same. The gunman who invaded a sanctuary on Shabbat did not distinguish among his victims. To him, they were all Jews.

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BRIEFS Government will probe US-funded report targeting ‘multimillionaire Jew’ George Soros The U.S. government broadcasting agency said it is investigating a segment aired on its Spanish-language network about “multimillionaire Jew” George Soros that also said he was “the architect of the financial collapse of 2008.” The U.S. Agency for Global Media said Tuesday, Oct. 30 that it is conducting an internal investigation into the report on Radio Television Marti, which broadcasts news to Cuba to promote American foreign policy interests. The report was aired in May. The program was presented as part of the TV Marti newscast and introduced by the anchor with the phrase “George Soros, the multimillionaire Jew of Hungarian origin...” It also calls him “a non-believing Jew of flexible morals.” The conservative organization Judicial Watch, an outspoken critic of Soros, was the only source for the 15-minute video segment. The producers of the report have been put on administrative leave, John Lansing, CEO and director of the U.S. Agency for Global Media, which oversees Radio and Television Martí’s parent office, said in a statement. “Disciplinary action appropriate under federal law may then be proposed, including the potential removal of those responsible, depending on the outcome of that investigation,” said the statement. The report, which was first reported by the Cuban Triangle blog, followed by Mother Jones, was taken down, but archived copies of a shorter two-part version can be found on YouTube. The report also says that Soros uses his business profits “to finance anti-system [political] groups that fill his pockets.” It calls his Open Society Foundation, which supports civil society groups around the world, with a stated aim of advancing justice, education, public health and independent media, “a facade for investing and looting countries.” Soros, a Holocaust survivor and philanthropist who funds liberal and

pro-democracy causes, has been a frequent target of the far right in the United States and abroad, who often invoke anti-Semitic tropes to exaggerate his influence in politics and economic affairs. (JTA)

Tom Steyer says McCarthy tweet that 3 Jewish billionaires are buying election for Democrats is anti-Semitic Jewish billionaire Tom Steyer, a major donor to Democratic candidates, denounced as anti-Semitic a tweet by House Majority Leader Kevin McCarthy that accused him, George Soros and Michael Bloomberg of trying to “buy” the upcoming elections for Democrats. McCarthy, R-Calif., last month tweeted a video of himself making the comments and temporarily pinned it to the top of his Twitter feed before deleting the post. Steyer said on CNN of the tweet: “In terms of interpreting what he said, that seems, to me, like a straight-up anti-Semitic move. I think that there—that is a classic attempt to separate Americans. I think that absolutely falls into the category of what I’m describing as political violence.” Steyer, who has taken out ads calling for the impeachment of President Donald Trump, also said that while he does not blame Trump for the attack on a Pittsburgh synagogue that left 11 dead, “I’m absolutely associating and blaming him for creating the atmosphere that exists.” McCarthy’s tweet said that “We cannot allow Soros, Steyer, and Bloomberg to BUY this election! Get out and vote Republican November 6th. #MAGA,” and contained audio from that interview and images of the three billionaires. The three donate heavily to liberal causes. Many Twitter users objected that McCarthy’s tweet attacking Soros appeared a day after an explosive device was found at Soros’ suburban New York home. On Oct. 14, McCarthy also said on Maria Bartiromo’s Fox News show that Soros, Steyer and Bloomberg are “funding the Democratic Party” and said of Steyer “his main goal is trying to impeach

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President Trump.” He noted, too, that Bloomberg “re-registered as a Democrat”; Bloomberg was the Republican mayor of New York for two terms before winning his third as an Independent. (JTA)

Connecticut candidate sends out flier featuring Jewish opponent holding $100 bills A state Senate candidate in Connecticut sent out a flier that featured his Jewish opponent holding $100 bills. The mailer distributed by the campaign of Ed Charamut, a Republican, features a manipulated image of Democrat Matt Lesser under text saying that he opposes lowering some taxes. Lesser, 35, told the Hartford Courant that people told him that they had received “an anti-Semitic flier.” “I did not believe them, I thought there was a mistake,” he said. “Someone showed it to me and I think it would be a gross understatement to say I was surprised.” Charamut, 60, dismissed claims that the flier invoked anti-Semitic stereotypes. “I reject hate speech in all its forms,” he told the Courant. “The mailer draws a stark contrast between myself and Matt Lesser. Do you want to protect your wallets, or do you want to make Matt Lesser your new state senator?” The director of the Anti-Defamation League’s Connecticut office, Steve Ginsburg, said the flier suggested anti-Jewish imagery. “We do know though the feelings that the flier is evoking — the juxtaposition of a Jewish candidate for office and money in this manner suggests an age-old anti-Semitic trope,” Ginsburg told the Courant. “We can’t and don’t know the motivation of the producer of the flier, but we do know its impact and they should clarify what they meant.” (JTA) Halloween haunted house holds ‘Swastika Saturday’ on day of Pittsburgh attack An Ohio venue set up as a haunted house for Halloween held a “Swastika Saturday” on the same day as the Pittsburgh synagogue attack. The Haunted Hoochie in Pataskala, near Columbus in the southern part of the

state, advertised Oct. 27 on Facebook as “Swastika Saturday.” Its owner, Tim May, described it in news reports as the last day of the official Halloween season, when the actors paint swastikas on themselves. On Monday, Oct. 29, May issued a statement on Facebook saying “we screwed up big time” and pledging to donate $50,000 to the synagogue, while extending condolences to families affected by the shooting. The statement has since been removed. “The Haunted Hoochie is a place to escape the true evil in the world through the magic of Halloween theater—NOT perpetuate real evil,” the statement also said, Fox 8 reported. “We will in no way tolerate any form of hatred on our grounds, from our staff, or from our guests,” May wrote, and “will not host any musical acts which perpetuate any kind of bigotry, intolerance, hate speech, anti-Semitism, or the like, now, or ever again.” He also said that he was “working with community leaders to mend fences.” At least one band, called Only Flesh, canceled its performance at the venue, saying in a Facebook post: “We do not condone or promote hate speech or racism in any way and cannot be associated with a place that promotes a “swastika Saturday.” Sorry for anybody hoping to see us perform tonight but we must take a stand.” (JTA)

Headstones toppled at small Jewish cemetery in Texas Headstones were pushed over at a small Jewish cemetery in the Texas port city of Orange. The vandalism at the Hebrew Rest Cemetery, which is more than 100 years old, was discovered by the groundskeeper, who had arrived to mow the lawn, the local CBS affiliate KFDM reported. Permanent vases also were ripped from their bases. Orange Police are investigating the incident as criminal mischief, according to the report. Orange Mayor Larry Spears Jr. praised the city’s diversity and said that bigotry and hate will not be tolerated within its borders. (JTA)

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The Struggle to serve, in retrospect


eing a community with extensive ties to the military, we in Hampton Roads have hosted many Jewish chaplains over the decades. Rabbi Sobel, of blessed memory, was a guiding light in several of our civilian congregations after concluding his distinguished career in the military. As well as their service at Norfolk Naval Station, Little Creek Amphibious, Langley, Portsmouth Naval Hospital and other military installations, our Jewish chaplains have taught in our religious schools and strengthened our spiritual bonds. We salute them and thank them for their service. In today’s America, where, despite growing anti-Semitism, left and right, the U.S. Military remains committed to the smooth integration of our diverse citizenry into a highly effective defense force, it is hard to remember that it was once quite difficult to be a Jew in uniform. The anti-Jewish prejudices of officers and enlisted ranks were all too common in the challenges to be faced by Jews serving in our country’s military in the Civil War and the First World War. Even then, it was better for Jews in our country than in most other nation’s militaries, but we had to struggle for equality. This struggle is clearly seen in the conflict-filled story of how Jews first became military chaplains. The story unfolded during the Civil War. In the armies of the Confederacy, there were no legal barriers to Jews serving as military chaplains. However, there were in fact no Jewish chaplains in any of the Confederate forces. Instead, a number of civilian rabbis offered volunteer support for Jews in Confederate forces. The most prominent was the Reform rabbi of Congregation Beth Ahabah in Richmond, Reverend M.J. Michelbacher. He earned the moniker “Friend of the Confederate Soldier.” The prayer he composed for Confederate soldiers begins with the Shema Yisrael, the Jewish declaration of faith, and continues in high rhetorical fashion, urging God to assist the Confederate soldier to defend “the rights, liberties and freedom of this, our Confederacy” against the [Federal] enemy.

Acceptance of the Jew as a fellow soldier was incomplete. The Jewish military cemetery in Richmond owes its existence both to Jewish particularism and to the disinclination of the Christian majority to have their beloved dead resting side by side with Jews. In the Union, there was a legal and political battle over the official appointment of Jews as chaplains. After the outbreak of hostilities in 1861, Reverend Arnold Fischel, a Dutch-born clergyman of the Sepharadi congregation in New York, attempted to receive a commission. He was rebuffed by Simeon Cameron, the Secretary of War, on the grounds that the Congressional Act of 1861 authorizing military chaplains specified “some Christian denomination.” In the aftermath of this initial setback, Congress debated the revision of its chaplaincy laws, finally passing a new chaplaincy law in July, 1862. Jews have been among our military’s chaplains ever since. In one of his reports, Reverend Fischel offered guidance for fellow and future Jewish chaplains: “I would advise…that he be required to visit the Hospitals daily, that he visit each division of the army once a week, and that a card be extensively circulated in the camps to the effect that Jewish soldiers in camps and hospitals who are in need of personal assistance send in a written requites to Dr. _______, etc. Every Jewish soldier would then have the opportunity of enjoying the Chaplain’s services at any time he may wish.” The successors of Reverend Fischel continue to serve in our nation’s military, giving pastoral and religious assistance to men and women in uniform of all denominations. The historical narrative reminds us that Jewish chaplains represent the struggle in American history to become a more perfect union. That struggle is, necessarily, never concluded. God bless our chaplains, and God bless all of those in the military, whose spiritual and emotional needs they serve. Rabbi Michael Panitz, Temple Israel

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Standing with Pittsburgh Across the nation, vigils, services, and town hall meetings have taken place since the horrific murders at Tree of Life Synagogue in Pittsburgh on Saturday, October 27. The same is true for Tidewater. In sanctuaries and in public spaces and in private schools, the Jewish community has mourned and received tremendous support from other faith communities and public officials. A sampling of those events, remarks made at them, and comments and letters received offering condolence, follows.

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nited Jewish Federation of Tidewater held a community-wide service Wednesday, October 31 at the Sandler Family Campus. Several hundred people, including dignitaries and representatives of all faith groups, attended. Antipas L. Harris, founding dean of Urban Renewal Center, Norfolk, and co-founder, Hands United Building Bridges, offered these remarks: e have gathered here today to commemorate lives well lived and cut short at the hands of an evil hearted bigot. To borrow words from the Hebrew Bible, “It is hard to sing the Lord’s songs in this strange place!” The Tree of Life Synagogue has been a symbol of hope in a dark and evil world. May the lives that died there last Shabbat germinate a more robust commitment in all of us to fight more intensely against incivility and out-right evil. We are living in a time when indecent disparagement of historically marginalized people is normalized at a high level. Now is the time for the faith community to build bridges of moral conscience, irresistible courage to love, and an indelible hope that, in the words of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., “we will (STILL) be able to transform the jangling discords of our nation into a beautiful symphony.” Jesus taught us that together we stand and divided we fall. We cannot allow another tragedy rooted in intolerance to be a lethargic moment in history. They are happening frequently, and the bond of the nation is disintegrating before our eyes.

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John Strelitz, Betty Ann Levin, and Antipas L. Harris.

The Jewish Massacre in Pittsburgh must not fade into distant memory and become another footnote in history. We must (in the words on the streets) “GET WOKE!” The ghosts from the past are haunting our nation in this generation. The time of apathy has past. Every American citizen should join in the movement of togetherness; loathe all forms of hate and violence that lurk in the shadows of the nation. The future we leave for the children and future generations depends on what we do about this today! The blood of those who were slaughtered at Tree of Life Synagogue in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, last Shabbat is crying out to us. It is our task, our duty, our obligation to speak and act on behalf of those who cannot speak and act for themselves. May the God of our fathers and mothers embolden and empower us to remain vigilant—not by power, not by might but by the Spirit of our God.

Steve Budman

ur God and God of our Ancestors, Protector of the meek, Defender of the downtrodden, creator of all people. We turn to you today in pain and anger, in sadness and regret, in confusion and bewilderment. From the befuddled haze that has descended upon us since the terrifying attack in the Tree of Life synagogue on Saturday morning we call to you, begging for answers to our unending questions. We are struggling to understand how such hate can exist in a world You created so full of love and wonder, struggling to understand how one man diseased with that hate could so callously and so easily take the lives of 11 Children of Israel so obviously devoted to You and to each other, struggling to understand how we can help each other stand strong and tall against evil so easily perpetrated. And so in this moment of struggle we turn to you God, and pray for you to open our eyes once again to the beauty and the love all around us. Help us see the outpouring of love and support from so many individuals and communities who have reached out to share their care and kindness and resources. Help us to see that while senseless hatred and bigotry will rear its ugly head that there will be those filled with the righteousness of Your love who will stand with us against it. Let them stand up now and let us stand with them to stamp out the scourge of hatred of all kinds once and for all. We pray today for the welfare of the families and communities who mourn this day. We pray today for the heroes who rushed into danger on behalf of strangers, that they make a full recovery and that we may be inspired by their example. We pray today that all people who suffer attacks by those who hate, all those who have been truly victimized and who truly feel vulnerable, we pray that together we stamp out all hatred and bigotry and that together we are able to rise up in strength and dignity. God of all people raise us all up today to serve You and to serve each other in true harmony. Enable us to shine the light of goodness into the darkness we sense creeping over us, so that the words of Your prophet will be realized, that “In all of My sacred mount Nothing evil or vile shall be done; For the land shall be filled with devotion to the LORD As water covers the sea.” And let us say amen. Steve Budman


Rabbi Jeffrey Arnowitz of Congregation Beth El, offered a prayer. An excerpt:

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Healing Service and Town Hall meeting


hef Sholom Temple held a healing service and town hall meeting on Monday, October 29. Approximately 500 people attended the service. Many who spoke during the town hall portion of the evening represented other faith communities. They expressed condolences and a commitment of solidarity. Susan Feit, a social justice consultant, spoke. An excerpt:


y parents are both Holocaust survivors. They did everything they could to get to the United States of America, the country they believed was the greatest nation on earth. They ran for their lives to this country searching for refuge and freedom from religious and ethnic persecution. Looking around this room tonight and feeling the solidarity from such a diverse group of Hampton Road neighbors, I know they were right. The United States is a country of promise and opportunity, a leader of human and civil rights. It is a republic that was founded by We, the People. The authors of the Constitution did not begin with our elected officials, no they began with the Preamble. Let me remind you how the Constitution begins… We the People of the United States, in Order to form a more perfect Union, establish Justice, insure domestic Tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general Welfare, and secure the Blessings of Liberty to ourselves and our Posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America. The authors of the constitution knew it was up to each and every one of us to safeguard our nation and safeguard each other. Brother to brother and sister to sister. And by coming here tonight to participate in this evening of healing and prayer, you too are joining in our nation’s most fundamental belief, that sacred obligation of active citizenry—We the people. We live in a time when it is increasingly critical for each and everyone us to become an active participant in our great democracy. It might seem like a daunting task in this time of trauma and trouble. What can I do? Who am I to face this seemingly insurmountable challenge? What possible difference can one person make? I ask you think again. I ask you to look around at this inspiring room. You are not alone. There is a whole community full of people committed to standing up to hate and denouncing division. There is power in numbers. Look around and remember this room whenever you feel alone. Events like this are happening across our region and across our nation. We are not alone.

Steve Budman

Ohef Sholom Temple’s Healing Service.

It is a time for us to take action, both as individuals and as a community. Never underestimate the power of simply showing up and standing up for what you believe in. It is time to get off the sidelines and become active, consistent participants in building the Hampton Roads we wish to see. It is time for us to stamp out the rhetoric that can lead to dehumanization of whole groups of people and to physical violence. It is time for us to demand this of our public officials and community leaders. We must hold our leaders accountable. Enough is enough!!! It is time for us to go out and vote. It is time for us to demonstrate and it is time for us to show solidarity to our neighbors. It is time for us to teach our children to learn from those who are different, rather than to fear the stranger. It is time for our community to build bridges between groups that makes sure we celebrate rather than fear the diversity of our region. It is time for us to reach out to those who feel that our country has left them behind and find ways to include those who are being marginalized, to include them in the

promise of a bright future. Saturday it was the Jewish community of Pittsburgh. My heart grieves with my Jewish brothers and sisters. As we move forward, let us honor their memory by refusing to be silent witnesses to intolerance and hate.

Office of the governor


was deeply saddened by the horrific tragedy that took place at The Tree of Life Synagogue in Pittsburgh. I stand with the Jewish community during this time of mourning and grief. Since becoming Governor, I have worked diligently to create a community of inclusion, dignity, and equality. I strive to make Virginia a more vibrant and welcoming place to live, work, and raise a family.

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Old Dominion University


ld Dominion University hosted a gathering on Monday, October 29. The program, attended by several hundred people, was sponsored by the Institute of Jewish Studies and Interfaith Understanding, ODU Hillel, Student Engagement and Enrollment Services, and the University Chaplain’s Association. Amy Milligan, the Batten Endowed Assistant Professor of Jewish Studies and the director of ODU’s Institute for Jewish Studies and Interfaith Understanding opened the program. An excerpt:


’m grateful that so many of you were able to join us tonight at ODU’s moment of solidarity with the Tree of Life Synagogue and Jews around the country, as we join together to take a stand against anti-Semitism, hate, and intolerance. It’s difficult to know what to say at times like these when there really aren’t words to capture the pain many of us are feeling. For me, at least, living Jewishly is the best resistance to the current hate and

anti-Semitism I am seeing in our country. This means that I am unafraid to be the voice of Judaism, that I use my personal commitment and platform to talk not only about anti-Semitism, but also about the violence and hate experienced daily by my queer, trans, and Black brothers and sisters. You see, it’s not enough for me to just care about Jews, because Judaism teaches me that we are all in this together, that we have an obligation to work at tikkun olam, at repairing

the world. This week that world came crashing in on the Jewish community, in a stark reminder that despite rallying cries of “Never Again!,” Jews are still targeted daily in our country. So what do we do next? As I was in conversation with Rabbi Litt, who co-directs Hillel with me, he mused, “Do we allow this senseless act to be a headline today and allow it to disappear tomorrow? What must change? What action can we take right now?” Indeed, perhaps the best way to honor the memory of those lost is to live a life of action, a life of actively repairing the world. Tonight, as we gather, we are taking that first step of standing in solidarity, we are working to fill the darkness of the present situation with mitzvot, with good deeds and love. I would like to begin our time together by offering a small reading:

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We begin—with silence. The silence of death: The silence of destruction: There are times when songs falter, When darkness fills life, When martyrdom becomes   a constellation of faith Against the unrelieved black   of space about us. There are no words to reach beyond   the edge of night, No messenger to tell the full tale. There is only silence. The silence of Job. The silence of the Six Million (The Silence of the 11 murdered in   Pittsburgh, simply for being Jews) The silence of memory. L et us remember them   as we link our silences.

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n Monday morning, October 29, Norfolk Academy Headmaster Dennis Manning spoke to Upper School students and faculty about the necessity to respond to evil by “exercising moral agency” in the world. An excerpt:


e have a local, regional, and school history, all of which is intertwined with the historic Jewish community here in Tidewater. That history’s progenitor, Moses Myers, settled here in 1787 and began leading a Jewish settlement and community in Norfolk. In fact, Moses Myers’ children attended Norfolk Academy—as did his descendants.… So whether you are aware of it or not, you are connected to a Jewish heritage and history—a feature of our school history of which we should all be aware and of which we should be proud.... You are part of a community here whose every action militates against the kind of inhumanity and savagery we witnessed in Pittsburgh. The monster who perpetrated this act I liken to Grendel in Beowulf—a monster who lives outside the bounds of human community and fellowship, who embodies evil. Those who believe in love and understanding absolutely must speak up and act in ways that

counter the violence and the hate. Words matter. Words can have agency and action, as Dr. Martin Dennis Manning Luther King Jr. said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” One final request of you, harkening back to the lesson from Genesis that the Tree of Life congregants were studying— the importance of embracing strangers.… Before the end of the day, I’d like for you to reach out—to speak to and engage with—a fellow student you either don’t know or don’t know very well—and just share: “I don’t know you, but I’m here for you and with you—and I care about you.” It might be hard, it might be awkward, but that’s how we share in and reinforce our common humanity, and in so doing, fashion or create an antidote to hatred and to violence. | November 5, 2018 | Jewish News | 9

Standing with Pittsburgh Webcast Supporting Youth and School After a Community Tragedy Thursday, November 8, 11:30 am–3:30 pm Sandler Family Campus, free For Children’s Grief Awareness Month, Jewish Family Service of Tidewater/ Dozoretz Center for Family Healing, will host this webcast on children’s grief. It is presented by the National Alliance for Grieving Children. Topics include: • Lessons learned to promote positive outcomes when responding to traumatic events with Donna Schuurman, Ed.D., FT • S upporting students and staff in the aftermath of a crisis with David Schonfeld, MD • P artnering with schools to support grieving students with Meghan Szafran, MS, CT, & Kevin Carter, MSW, LCSW

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Standing with Pittsburgh On behalf of the Muslim Community of Tidewater (MCT), Norfolk, Dr. Abdous, president MCT wrote:


uslim Community of Tidewater, Norfolk condemns the mass shooting at the Tree of Life synagogue, Pittsburgh; and the heinous acts of bigotry, hatred, and racism against the Jewish people and other minorities. We stand together with the congregants of the Tree of Life synagogue, interfaith, civil and human right organizations in this hour of

sorrow. We will participate with other organizations and individuals to promote peace, justice, freedom and against violence, racism and bigotry. Our stand on this event is consistent with our belief to ‘Repel evil by what is better (the Quran; 41:34)’ and similar sentiments from the local Muslim communities and from Muslims across the country.

Syed Ismail, Trustee, MCT


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WHEREAS, the clergy, leadership and congregation of Christ and St. Luke’s Episcopal Church, Norfolk, Virginia, are committed to striving for justice and peace among all people and respecting the dignity of every human being; WHEREAS, we as a congregation are blessed with many neighbors, friends and family members of the Jewish faith, and we are committed to loving, supporting, protecting and serving our neighbors; WHEREAS, the unspeakable acts of brutality, hate and anti-Semitism perpetrated against the faithful and innocent congregants of the Tree of Life Synagogue in Pittsburgh as they were gathered in worship on Saturday, October 27, 2018, have horrified and outraged us; WHEREAS, in the past year, there has been a 57% increase in anti-Semitic acts and speech in this country; and WHEREAS, we cannot be silent in the face of this evil which is infecting our land; NOW, THEREFORE, BE IT RESOLVED BY THE VESTRY OF CHRIST AND ST. LUKE’S EPISCOPAL CHURCH: That the clergy, leadership and congregation of Christ and St. Luke’s Episcopal Church stand in solidarity with our Jewish brothers and sisters in their grief, outrage and a yearning for shalom. BE IT FURTHER RESOLVED: That we, the clergy, leadership and congregation of this church commit ourselves to speaking out publicly against all anti-Semitic speech and acts. We commit ourselves to standing as one with our Jewish brothers and sisters and other faith congregations in eliminating the evil of anti-Semitism as we proclaim together, “Never again.”

BE IT FURTHER RESOLVED: That the clergy, leadership and congregation of Christ and St. Luke’s Episcopal Church will pray for those innocent lives lost at the Tree of Life Synagogue and their families and loved ones. We also will pray for those who, by word or action, promote hatred and violence. May their hearts of stone be transformed into hearts of compassion, and their words of hatred be transformed into words of shalom. AND BE IT FURTHER RESOLVED: That the clergy, leadership and music director of Christ and St. Luke’s Episcopal Church, Norfolk, hereby dedicates the performance of the Brahms Requiem, taking place on Sunday, November 4, 2018 at 6:00 p.m., to the memory of those who lost their lives at Tree of Life Synagogue: Joyce Fienberg, 75, of Oakland, City of Pittsburgh Richard Gottfried, 65, of Ross Township Rose Mallinger, 97, of Squirrel Hill, City of Pittsburgh Jerry Rabinowitz, 66, of Edgewood Borough Cecil Rosenthal, 59, of Squirrel Hill, City of Pittsburgh David Rosenthal, 54, (brother of Cecil), of Squirrel Hill Bernice Simon, 84, of Wilkinsburg Sylvan Simon, 86, (husband of Bernice), of Wilkinsburg Daniel Stein, 71, of Squirrel Hill, City of Pittsburgh Melvin Wax, 88, of Squirrel Hill, City of Pittsburgh Irving Younger, 69, of Mt. Washington, City of Pittsburgh Adopted by the Vestry of Christ and St. Luke’s Episcopal Church, Norfolk, Virginia this 29th day of October, 2018.

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HIAS, immigrant aid group vilified by Pittsburgh gunman, vows not to back down Ben Sales

(JTA)—Before he shot dead 11 people at a Pittsburgh synagogue, Robert Bowers blamed one Jewish organization: HIAS, an immigrant aid group that has been helping refugees since the 1880s. “HIAS likes to bring invaders in that kill our people,” he wrote on his website. “I can’t sit by and watch my people get slaughtered. Screw your optics, I’m going in.” In vilifying HIAS, Bowers targeted an organization that helped get the American Jewish community on its feet as it burgeoned more than a century ago. Its mission has shifted as the number of Jewish migrants has fallen to a trickle, from helping its own to advocating for others. It’s also an organization that even amid opposition to refugee admissions from the White House has maintained broad support from a Jewish community that is otherwise increasingly fragmented. “It’s not going to affect our mission one iota,” Mark Hetfield, HIAS president and CEO told JTA on Saturday, October 27, referring to the Pittsburgh attack that morning. “If anything, it’s reinforced the need for the Jewish community to be a welcoming community.” HIAS’ goal once was to welcome Jews to the United States. Founded in 1881 as the Hebrew Immigrant Aid Society, the agency provided resources and education to the Jewish immigrants. It later took an active role in the movement to free Soviet Jewry. As Jewish immigration evaporated in the 1990s, HIAS shifted to becoming a refugee resettlement agency for non-Jews. It is now one of nine agencies tasked with resettling refugees in the United States. Until 2015, the agency stayed mostly apolitical and focused on navigating the bureaucracy involved in bringing refugees to the country and finding them homes. But that year, the refugee crisis rose to the top of global consciousness, and Donald

Trump launched a presidential campaign centered on reducing the flow of undocumented—and even legal—immigrants to the United States. Soon after his inauguration, Trump signed the first in a series of executive orders barring refugees from the United States, as well as the residents of a number of Muslim-majority countries. Thus HIAS, which was accustomed to working with the government, found itself on the front lines of opposition to the Trump administration. It has since advocated for the admittance of refugees, mobilized Jewish communities and synagogues to its cause, and fought Trump’s travel bans in court. “That’s the most troubling thing— refugees were really a bipartisan issue,” Hetfield told JTA in 2017. “Some people say HIAS is a liberal agency or progressive Jewish agency. We’re really not. Our whole focus has been refugees, and refugees are not a partisan issue. It really became politicized over the past couple of years.” HIAS may not have the backing of the White House, but its issue remains popular across the Jewish community. All four major movements opposed Trump’s travel ban last year. More than 400 congregations are part of its “Welcome Campaign.” Last month, HIAS organized a “refugee Shabbat” across synagogues focused on talking about helping refugees. Hetfield says the group has faced opposition in the past. But he said he never expected anything as bad as the tragedy in Pittsburgh. “We’ve been aware that there are people out there that despise HIAS and our mission of welcoming refugees to this country, as hard as it is to understand,” he said. “Its going to make us more aggressive and focused in speaking out against hate—hate directed at refugees, hate directed against Jews.”

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Jewish Cemeteries

Area Jewish cemeteries need and receive care Sharon Freeman


fter the Revolutionary War, numerous Jewish families moved to Tidewater to take advantage of the tremendous economic opportunities and central location that made this region so attractive. The emergence of these Jewish communities resulted in a variety of congregations and cemeteries. The Torah teaches that when a Jewish community is established, two significant elements are needed. There must be a mikveh, a ritual bath or river to achieve and maintain purity, and a cemetery where the dead can be honored and respectfully buried. Land where the cemetery is located is considered holy ground and a special consecration ceremony takes place upon its inauguration. According to Jewish tradition, Jewish burial sites are sacred and must remain undisturbed in perpetuity. The connection between the soul and the human body after death is an essential part of the Jewish belief in the eternity of the soul. Ideally and traditionally, congregants are responsible for taking care of their cemeteries. Yet through the passage of time, members pass away, congregations merge, and people pick up and move. Sometimes they experience economic issues, and sometimes they are forced out. Once the community is gone, no one is left to respect the dead and tend to the cemetery. Art Sandler and his wife Annie

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observed this first hand when traveling through Eastern Europe 20 years ago. Many of the Jewish cemeteries that dotted the countryside were abandoned, had fallen into disarray, were overgrown with weeds, and in some instances, completely destroyed. This desecration greatly impacted Sandler, and when he returned home, he requested that the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater establish funding for the sole purpose of preserving Jewish Workmen’s Circle Cemetery in Chesapeake. cemeteries in Tidewater. to repair the results of vandalism and Fast forward to 2018. Under the subsidence—the gradual caving in or watchful eye of Glenn Saucier, facility sinking of the ground. Several stones had director of the Reba and Sam Sandler been removed, were broken or fallen, and Family Campus, and the hard work of his the property was overgrown. As the result crew, numerous Jewish cemeteries mainof a conversation between the three, the tained by the Federation are beautifully Federation made an $18,000 contribution landscaped and well taken care of. “Glenn has done a wonderful job cleaning up the cemeteries, and has received countless letters from people thanking him for his dedication, hard work, and attention to detail,” says Sandler. B’nai Israel Cemetery is the most recent recipient of UJFT’s Cemetery Fund. The cemetery is 114 years old, and contains more than 1,100 graves of individuals who comprise a significant portion of local Jewish history. Earlier this year, Sandler and Saucier spoke with Jeffrey Brooke, president of B’nai Israel Congregation, about significant maintenance challenges at the cemetery. Most of the work needed was Volunteers work at B’nai Israel Cemetery.

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to B’nai Israel for the repairs and to add security cameras. Lt. Commander Adam Goldberg, chairman of the B’nai Israel Cemetery committee, currently spearheads the cleanup efforts and works with a dedicated group of volunteers to facilitate this project.

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Goldberg says that congregants have been volunteering from 10 am to noon on Sundays to assist with the maintenance effort and will continue to do so as long as the weather holds. “We’ll probably be taking a hiatus during winter and start back in the spring. The work has been predominantly headstone repair, but has also included gardening and foliage removal.” To date, 73 headstones have been lifted

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and repaired. Thirty-nine were repaired by the contractors and 34 repaired by volunteers. Goldberg’s service in the United States Navy takes him to many locations, and he is deeply interested in the histories of the places where he and his family are stationed. “What better place to put history in perspective then the local cemetery?” he asks. The B’nai Israel Cemetery is especially

intriguing, says Goldberg, because many of the internees are connected to friends of his who still live in the community. Son Zev-Adi Goldberg, is assisting with the cemetery cleanup project “because it is a great mitzvah to help out people. I like working with the lifting equipment and seeing stuff get done.” “Keeping our cemeteries in good condition for future generations is a special mission,” says Saucier. “Please consider making a donation to the UJFT Cemetery Fund.” The UJFT manages the Gomley Chesed/Chevra T’helim cemeteries in Portsmouth and the Mikro Kodesh Cemetery (also known as the Berkley Cemetery) and Workman’s Circle Cemetery in Chesapeake. Management duties include maintenance and monument installation supervision, planning and executing restoration projects, record and archive preservation, regular inspections, and choosing burial plots for the indigent. Sandler says it is important “for our current community to continue to work together to preserve and protect our Jewish heritage. A beautiful and peaceful resting place honors those who have come before us and is a touchstone for those yet to come.”

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How can we be unified without being uniform? asks Avraham Infeld Scott Kaplan


uring Avraham Infeld’s recent threeday visit to Tidewater, he made many statements that caught my attention. While here, Infeld spoke with various groups—from BBYO teens to rising young adult leaders, to senior Federation leaders. Infeld is president emeritus of Hillel International. An author and pioneer of Jewish education, he has spent a lifetime building Jewish identity around the world and strengthening our ties to the State of Israel. His recent book, A Passion for a People explores Jewish Peoplehood, connecting Jews together, regardless where they live or how they practice. I had the opportunity to hear him in three different settings during his visit last month. The first was when he spoke with the professional staff of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater and Tidewater Jewish Foundation. Next, I was with my daughter as he addressed a group of BBYO’ers. And, the third time was when he addressed a group of emerging Federation leaders—all of them alumni of the Tom Hofheimer Mission to Israel (the culminating activity of a two-year leadership development program).

“We are not UNIFORM, but we must be UNIFIED as a Jewish people.” As a Jewish communal professional, Infeld inspired me with his passion and dedication to the Jewish people. In his recently published book, he talks about the model of the five-legged table to address the building blocks encompassing Jewish identity and Jewish life. The five “legs” of the table represent: Memory, Family, Mount Sinai, Israel, and Hebrew language.

Infeld spoke with deep passion about the importance of building a Jewish life and identity. He shared his analogy that each of us needs at least three Scott Kaplan of the five legs of the table in order to survive as a people. A table can stand with as few as three legs (on two legs it falls). If each of us has any three of the five legs of that table, we are bound to share something in common. Infeld related a story about his father’s shock and dismay on learning that Infeld

“Judaism is NOT a religion. Judaism is a peoplehood. We are a people, a tribe, and a family.” having to be Uniform.” “Our mission,” he said, repeatedly, “is to ensure the continued, significant, renaissance of the Jewish people.” [As Jewish communal professionals] we have a shared mission among different organizations, each of us with different tasks. We must recognize and understand the

“Our mission is to ensure the continued significant renaissance of the Jewish people.” was to study Jewish History at Hebrew University in Israel. “Jews don’t have history!” his father shouted. “Jews Have Memory!” History is about the past, whereas memory is understanding how past events impact us today and tomorrow. “We must know where we came from, in order to understand and appreciate where we are going,” Infeld said. Infeld spoke about the Jews being part of a big family. Infeld referred to our relationship with God dating back to the covenant made at Mount Sinai. He spoke about the Jewish people’s unique connection with both the land and the State of Israel. Finally, Infeld talked about the importance of Hebrew language, not only as a means of communication, but also as a way of transferring culture across generations. As he addressed the Jewish communal professionals, Infeld talked about the challenges and directions of the Jewish people. He referred to the importance of Jewish identity and that fact that we are a people. We must be able to articulate who we are. Infeld continually emphasized our need as a people to be “Unified without

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“We work on behalf of the Jewish people. We are a member of a tribe WITH a religion.”

difference between the commonality of our MISSION and the different TASKS we take to achieve that mission. And, we must all understand why Israel is an essential part of Jewish life. Israel was created to support the Jewish people. Apathy is our greatest danger, Infeld noted. Infeld challenged each adult group that he spoke with to think about how we

can collectively ensure that intermarriage is not—and does not become—assimilation. “Intermarriage is here to stay,” he said. “We must figure out how to address and engage these couples to bring up Jewish children.” Infeld is involved in a new project offered by federations in various communities called Honeymoon Israel. A birthright-type program for intermarried couples, the program is gaining popularity and showing promising early results across North America. Finally, Infeld spoke about the importance of Tikkun Olum and our responsibility not only to ourselves, but also to make the world a better place. The Tidewater Jewish Foundation is here to embrace and understand our past and to help chart a course for our future. We remember where we’ve come from. We remember our ancestors and the community that was here before we arrived. And we plan for our future as a community and as a people. We embody much of Infeld’s definition of “Jewish memory.” I loved his challenge about finding a way for the Jewish people to be unified, without having to be uniform. We are too small to divide and splinter, but at the same time, we should be able to celebrate and appreciate our differences as Jews. We are fortunate to live in a society where we are accepted (for the most part), but we cannot forget from whence we came. Infeld, in his late 70s, is still full of passion and drive. He recharged my battery by lighting a new spark of my Jewish identity to the interconnectedness of our Jewish people. Scott Kaplan is president & CEO, Tidewater Jewish Foundation. He may be reached at

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ore than most every other corner of the nation, we in Tidewater understand and appreciate those who serve in the United States Military. If

we don’t have family members who have served, we certainly have friends and neighbors who have. And, so, Veteran’s Day is a day that is and should be treated with respect, as well as celebrated as we honor the important work and


dedication of the men and women who so proudly protect our country. Within these pages, we have a variety of military-veteran related articles including one on the Jewish War Veterans Post 158 and Lt. Commander Adam Goldberg’s efforts to revive the chapter (page 20). Tidewater Jewish Foundation’s 9th Annual Veterans Day Service, which takes place this year on Monday, November 12, is featured on page 22. Always a moving morning, the event is certainly worth the time. The article on Friends of the Israel Defense Forces (FIDF) on page 19

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features two young women from Tidewater who currently serve in the IDF. Hannah Yarrow’s and Ilana Peck’s parents talk about their daughters and FDIF. Of course, there’s more, including information on VA benefits and details about an auction of military-related items. Jewish News salutes the Military!

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Celebrating 70 Years of heroes and hope: Israel’s Lone Soldiers and FIDF


Rick Yarow’s daughter, Hannah, serves as a liaison with foreign militaries. “Ilana was instilled with a love of Israel from home. It is in our blood, but she was the first one from our family to act on it,” Marcy Mostofsky says. “During her year and a half in seminary, she developed a special connection with Israel. She didn’t want to just read about Jewish history, she wanted to be a part of it,” adds Michael Mostofsky. “My daughter gave up a very easy life for a very difficult life,” says Rick Yarow. “She went to college, was a part of a sorority, but felt that something was missing from her life. She gave up her support system to be a part of something bigger than herself.” FIDF’s support for Lone Soldiers includes housing, mentoring, a 24-hour call center, financial grants, flights to visit their families abroad, fun days, Shabbat meals, holiday gift packages, and social gatherings. In 2017, FIDF provided guidance and support to more than 3,062 Lone Soldiers from around the world. While Lone Soldiers may be far from the warmth of home, FIDF ensures no soldier ever feels alone. “As a parent, it feels good to know that FIDF is looking out for my daughter and making things easier,” says Yarow. “To her, it is magic. And I know it’s not magic, that there is a lot of work and money to be raised in order to give them the support they need.” Offering advice to other parents of Lone Soldiers, Michael Mostofsky says, “it was really hard at first for the both us, especially when we dropped her off at the airport and it really hit us. But it has been a dream of mine to make aliyah, a dream of our people for the past 2,000 years, so I focus on my pride for my daughter because she is living that dream.” It’s not only the solThursday, November 29 diers who appreciate the Hilton Virginia Beach Oceanfront assistance and programs In honor of Israel’s 70th year of independence, FIDF is hostprovided by FIDF. The ing its first-ever Virginia Gala. parents of Lone Soldiers, who feel a combination of It will be a celebration of heroes and hope and will give pride and concern regardmembers of the community the opportunity to interact with ing their child’s joining and hear stories from IDF soldiers. the IDF, benefit from FIDF support, too. “I can tell when she For information, contact Alex Pomerantz, director of VA, speaks to us that she is MidAtlantic Region, at or 757-472-9054. happy, but that doesn’t

he brave men and women of the Israel Defense Forces (IDF) put their lives on the line each day to protect the hopes and dreams inspired by the Jewish state. Since 1981, Friends of the Israel Defense Forces (FIDF) has supported the defenders of Israel with educational and wellbeing programs and facilities. The organization plays an important role in ensuring that IDF soldiers are cared for while carrying out their crucial tasks, supporting Israel’s soldiers as they protect the Jewish homeland. FIDF cares for Israel’s soldiers through its six pillars of support: education, financial relief, construction projects, fallen and wounded soldiers, Adopt a Brigade, and Lone Soldiers—those who leave their native countries to join the IDF and serve with no immediate family in Israel. Since Israel’s inception in 1948, the relationship between the United States and Israel has continued to grow and evolve. FIDF, through its support for Lone Soldiers, is at the core of that connection. The growing Lone Soldier phenomenon is a treasured link between Jewish communities in the United States and those in Israel. Each Lone Soldier has their own personal reason for joining the IDF, but a strong love of Israel and a sense of duty tend to be universal reasons for the soldiers, as well as for the families they leave behind. Tidewater is home to families with sons and daughters who have served or are currently serving in the IDF as Lone Soldiers, including the Mostofsky and Yarow families. Marcy and Michael Mostofsky’s daughter, Ilana, serves in a search and rescue unit, and Debra and

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make her any less homesick,” says Marcy Mostofsky. “But when she goes to FIDF Lone Soldier events, everyone is going through a similar experience, so it makes her feel like she has a bit of home. Having support like that helps me worry a little less.” | November 5, 2018 | Veterans | Jewish News | 19


Jewish War Veterans Post 158 seeks new members, ramps up activity Terri Denison


hen U.S. Naval Lt. Commander Adam Goldberg was stationed in Rhode Island, he was an active member of

its Jewish War Veterans Post. So, in 2013 when he was transferred to Norfolk, Va., it was only natural to him that he join


JWV Post 158, one of the oldest chapters are inactive.” in the nation. For Active Duty service members, it is For years having been under the free to join, notes Goldberg. watchful care of Samuel Werth—until “We’re trying to do something—a his death—Goldberg found the local Post meeting or an activity—quarterly,” he languishing. Goldberg vowed to revive says. “Our primary goal is to get younger it. Several deployments, however, got members involved, to connect the in the way. Now, with retireyoung vets with older vets ment planned for March, for mentorships and Goldberg is working networking groups.” to reenergize the JWV Post 158 Post. And, for includes all of anyone who Southeaster n wonders, chapVirginia, assists ters are called with a variety Posts based of issues, and on an Army is associated term for a base, with other vetnotes Goldberg. erans groups. E st abl i shed As Post in 1896, and charCom m a nder, tered by Congress Goldberg has been in 1984, the Jewish in contact with area War Veterans is the oldest synagogues and Jewish active veterans organization in organizations to reach as many the nation. It is open to veterans in the area as any Jewish veteran who possible. has served in a time of One of JWV’s ongowar and works to bring ing activities is to put together men and women flags on the headstones the year with the joint ties of a of veterans, especially Jewish War Veterans common Jewish heritage around Memorial Day. was established and a common expeJim Eilberg heads up this rience as a member of effort, which also serves the Armed Forces of the as a fundraiser for the United States. Post. Tidewater’s Post As for Goldberg, includes veterans from the Los Angeles native all branches of the milsays he hopes to make itary. The only criterion Tidewater his permanent is having been involved home once retirement in a war, which according to Goldberg, arrives next year. “This is a great place “is easy right now because one has been to live!” he says without hesitation. And, going on for a long time.” that’s a good thing for JWV Post 158. Current members of JWV Post 158 range in age from the mid-20s to the 90s, For information about Post 158, go to https:// with the bulk in the 40s and 50s. “We For have around two dozen active members,” information about Jewish War Veterans, visit says Goldberg, “with more than 60 that


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Veterans Annual Veterans Day service and celebration honors service to America Monday, November 12, 9:30 am Sandler Family Campus




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n addition to honoring veterans who have served in America’s armed forces, Tidewater Jewish Foundation’s 9th Annual Veterans Day service and celebration honors those who continue to do so with dedication and bravery. This year’s speaker, Captain Marcus Friedman, was born into a military family just two weeks after Japan bombed Pearl Harbor. After graduating from Norfolk’s Granby High School, Friedman received an NROTC scholarship, and was appointed to the Naval Academy. Selected to train for the Navy Nuclear Power Program in 1965, Friedman was later assigned to a ship that returned he and his wife Ronnie Lynn to Norfolk. Over the next 26 years, the Navy took the couple and their two children, Robert and Leslie Jo, to 17 towns and numerous Jewish communities across America…and around the world for Captain Friedman. Finally, as a Commanding Officer at the Naval Guided Missiles School at Dam Neck, the Navy brought the Friedman family back to Tidewater. Captain Friedman retired from the Navy in 1990, and began a career at ECPI University. In addition to Captain Friedman, clergy from across the region will participate in the Veterans Day service. Recently departed veterans from the past year will be remembered and a Quilt of Valor, made

by Ohef Sholom Temple’s Quilting Group will be presented to a veteran by Quilts of Valor. Following the service, When the Smoke Clears: A Story of Brotherhood, Resilience, and Hope will be screened. Presented by the Community Relations Council of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater and the Virginia Festival of Jewish Film presented by Alma and Howard Laderberg and Patricia and Avraham Ashkenazi, the film shares the accounts of Gil, Ofer, and Elad—young war veterans whose unthinkable battle experiences leave them with life-altering mental and physical scars. Returning to society, their trauma disconnects them from all they once valued, turning their lives upside down. When all seems lost, a revolutionary idea gives them the hope, courage, tools, and community to survive, as well as to embrace their identities as heroes both on and off the battlefield. The event is open to the community. The opportunity to honor a veteran with a Jewish War Veterans monument paver is available before and during the event. For more information on the Jewish War Veterans monument, or to RSVP for the Veterans Day Service, contact Ann Swindell at or 965-6106.

Veterans Veterans’ benefits: What’s available, and how attorneys can help Daniel G. Krasnegor, Esquire


esides providing hospitals and medical treatment to America’s veterans, one of the main responsibilities of the Department of Veteran’s Affairs (commonly called “the VA”) has been to provide compensation and other benefits to veterans, their dependents, and survivors. Congress has passed laws creating a variety of benefits for veterans, their dependents and survivors. The VA is responsible for managing a complex system to determine who is eligible for benefits, and once found eligible, what sort of compensation may be paid.

What types of benefits are available? The most basic type of benefit available, disability compensation, is designed to compensate veterans for the effect of diseases or injuries, incurred in service, on their ability to work. This benefit is available to veterans, even if they didn’t serve in combat or during a war, so long as they have a currently diagnosed condition which began in service, was aggravated during service, or was caused by an injury during service. When VA agrees that a current condition meets these requirements, the disability is said to be “service-connected,” and the veteran can be paid a monthly benefit, the amount of which is determined by reference to a schedule set out in the Code of Federal Regulations. Other available benefits include pensions, dependent’s compensation, burial benefits, education, and home loan benefits. The process of seeking benefits A person seeking disability benefits generally begins the process by filing a formal claim application with VA. Once an application has been submitted, the VA is responsible for developing the evidence in the case. The VA’s job (under a legal “duty to assist”) is to help the claimant

in developing the evidence needed to substantiate their claim. Under its duty to assist, the VA is required to tell the claimant what evidence is needed, and to help gather relevant medical records, service records held by the military or other relevant evidence. VA is also required, under many circumstances, to ask its doctors to examine veterans to determine a current diagnosis, etiology and severity of a disability. Once the evidence has been fully developed, VA will issue what is called a rating decision. If the claim is denied or only partially granted, an administrative appeals process is available that leads to a de novo review by the Board of Veterans’ Appeals in Washington, DC. Denials by the Board of Veterans’ Appeals may be appealed to the United

States Court of Appeals for Veterans Claims. Review by the veterans’ court is generally limited to determining whether a decision of the Board of Veterans’ Appeals contains prejudicial error. The delays in receiving a decision in a new claim or on appeal can be particularly frustrating for veterans and their dependents. It can often take five years or more for a decision to be made in an appeal, and even then, decisions frequently fail to address relevant evidence or misapply the law.

What role do attorneys play? The VA system is complex, and attorneys must be aware of the unique aspects of Veterans benefits law, including the fact that there are restrictions on how and

when an attorney may charge for representation, and that attorneys must go through an accreditation process before being allowed to represent a claimant before VA. Veterans benefit attorneys are required to assist clients in developing the evidence needed, deciding which claims have merit and which do not, making sure that VA acts in accordance with its own laws and regulations, helping clients navigate the appeals process and understand generally what is going on with their claims and when to expect resolution, and taking steps to avoid unnecessary delays that sometimes feel like they are built into the system. Daniel G. Krasnegor, Esquire, is with the Veterans Benefit Group of Goodman Allen Donnelly.

VETERAN’S DAY 2018 MILITARIA AUCTION 100th Anniversary of End of World War I

10am • Sunday. November 11, 2018 Collection of 500+ Lots with Focus on Virginia and Maryland Soldiers of the 29th (Blue Gray) and 80th Division (Blue Ridge) Divisions. Items include: Combat and Dress Uniforms • Weapons (1884 Trapdoor Springfield, 1903 Springfield, M-1 Carbine, 98 Krag, Gehr 98 Rifles, Rubber Ducky, Webley Pistol, Knives and Bayonets) • Medals & insignia Photographs (Individual and Unit) • Letters • Mess Kits • Boots, Helmets and Military Headgear • Personal Items • War Trophies • Models

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All are invited to

The annual VETERANS DAY SERVICE on the

Reba and Sam Sandler Family Campus of the Tidewater Jewish Community 5000 Corporate Woods Drive Virginia Beach, VA

Monday, November 12, 2018 at 9:30 A.M. Brunch will be served

After the service, join us for a special screening of the film

“When The Smoke Clears”,

Presented by the Community Relations Council of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater and The Virginia Festival of Jewish Film presented by Alma & Howard Laderberg* and Patricia & Avraham Ashkenazi.

We hope you will join us to honor those who have served our country, and continue to serve, with true dedication and bravery.

RSVP to Ann Swindell at or (757) 965-6106 by Monday, November 5th.


Angels Watching Over Me A Tribute to Veterans Through Dance Veterans’ Day Sunday, November 11, 4 pm Norfolk Academy


he Elbert Watson Dance Company presents Angels Watching Over Me: A Tribute to Veterans Through Dance.

*of blessed memory

This performance is free and open to the public. For information, call 757-461-6236.


I open the doors to learning. We have a responsibility as a community to support and assist each other to guarantee that we are the shoulders for the future. Through Jewish education, we explore our history, culture, religious practice, and ethical behavior. We create community that supports, encourages, and nurtures – and provides the base for our future.

I open the doors to learning and invite children and families to enter. You can help to ensure that those doors exist.

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Jewish Family Service

Jewish Family Service of Tidewater gets new chief executive officer


elly Burroughs, MA, LAC, BHP, CCTP recently joined Jewish Family Service of Tidewater as the agency’s new chief executive officer. She replaces Betty Ann Levin, who joined United Jewish Federation of Tidewater in July as its executive vice president. Burroughs brings strong experience managing social Kelly Burroughs. service and behavioral health programs, from both the clinical and administrative sides, to JFS. As the previous vice president of clinical services for Jewish Family and Children’s Services of Southern Arizona, Burroughs worked in partnership with executive leadership, boards of directors, and community leaders to create sustainable programming to diverse populations. Her work helped shape local and state policies related to human services systems. Additionally, she helped build awareness among community leaders and policymakers on the need to support agencies and programs that serve at-risk populations. Prior to that role, Burroughs provided clinical and administrative supervision to advocacy and behavioral health programs serving thousands of people in Southern Arizona. Jeff Cooper, JFS board president says,

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“When we (the search committee) first met Kelly, we were impressed with her background, but more importantly with her energy, enthusiasm, and openness. Kelly takes a collaborative approach to management, working to integrate different departments together. “We were clearly impressed by her passion for social services. but also her extensive understanding of the unique needs of the Jewish community and the broader community. We look forward to working with Kelly in the years to come.” Burroughs holds a master’s degree in rehabilitation counseling from the University of Arizona, post graduate certification in positive behavioral support from Northern Arizona University, and is a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. “I am so grateful to the board to have been selected to this position,” says Burroughs. “I hear over and over that JFS is a ‘jewel’ in the community. The services that are provided at JFS help fill such a tremendous need for at-risk and vulnerable people. I am honored to be part of an agency whose mission to heal the world with loving kindness is so evident in its programming.”




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It’s a Wrap Super Sunday’s recipe for success: Great ingredients, enthusiastic community Carly Glikman


hat ingredients made this year’s Super Sunday so successful? Community members of all ages volunteering? More than 215 individual gifts pledged to the 2019 campaign? Social action projects teaching kids Tikkun Olam? The answer, of course, is all of these and more. On Sunday, October 21, Tidewater stayed true to the Super Sunday theme, Rise Up: Be a part of Federation’s Recipe for Success, and packed the Reba and Sam Sandler Campus with more than 130 volunteers. For Super Sunday, sponsored by Coastal Towne Mortgage, everyone had the same goal: to make the calls that matter most. “The energy was contagious. Everyone was eager to reach out to community members to ask them to open their hearts and wallets and ensure the success of Jewish Tidewater, bringing the total money raised through 2019 Super Sunday to $126,405,” says Jeremy Krupnick, Super Sunday chair. Success recipes and cooking were at the forefront of each activity at Super Sunday. Volunteers wore shirts designed to look like aprons and the social action project of the day, organized by Nadiv: Men’s Giving Circle, was an assembly line for children of all ages to create jars of cookie ingredients that were donated to Jewish Family Service. Filled with plenty of activities for the entire community, this year’s Super Sunday included the Community Marketplace, which included seven small, local businesses and eight local partner organizations, giving them the opportunity to show off their jewelry, makeup, cupcakes, and other goods and services. In “The Zone,” a family art workshop led by Israel Today’s first ever artist-in-residence, Hanoch Piven, took place. An internationally sought-after Israeli artist and illustrator, Piven led an open family workshop specifically for

Super Sunday. His workshop stimulated creativity, while encouraging exploration of identity through the use of common everyday objects. This year’s campaign theme, It All Starts with You, has been the driving force behind UJFT’s year, with each step led with the understanding that the community and Federation would not be what it is without its people. Typically held at the end of January, this is the first time that UJFT moved Super Sunday to October, with the hopes of front loading the campaign, and having the entire Annual Campaign closed by December 31. So far, the campaign has been strong, raising more money this early in the year than ever before. After Super Sunday, the campaign is officially over $3.8 million. The excitement for an early campaign year is well on its way. The day couldn’t have come together without the help of the Young Adult Division’s Super Sunday Steering Committee. These five individuals worked for four months to plan each aspect of the event, all while learning the importance of being a community leader. For most of the committee, Super Sunday

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was their first experience in Tidewater Jewish leadership. They prepared for the day by learning from other leaders and by completing leadership training exercises. Super Sunday is the perfect setting to jump start involvement, as for some, it’s the only time where they get to have a Jewish conversation all year.

“Our Super Sunday Steering Committee would like to thank you and everyone who joined us on Super Sunday. We are $3.8 million strong and climbing!” says Amie Harrell, Super Sunday vice chair.

Eliot Weinstein, Avi Weinstein, and Hanoch Piven, Israel Today artist-in-residence.

David Abraham and Sara Jo Rubin.

Super Sunday Steering Committee: Carly Glikman YAD associate, Aaron Drory, Tim Thornton, Amie Harrell, Erin Boynton, Danielle Danzaing, and Jasmine Amitay YAD director.

It’s a Wrap Hanoch Piven’s creativity spread through Tidewater


srael Today’s first ever artist-in-residence, Hanoch Piven, took Tidewater by storm with more than 40 events over his two-week visit, engaging more than 1,500 people from both the Jewish and non-Jewish communities. Piven held workshops at the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater’s annual Super Sunday, for leaders of local synagogue and Jewish agencies, at schools including Birdneck Elementary, Granby High School, Cape Henry Collegiate, and Norfolk State University, and for after school programs at ForKids and the William A. Hunton YMCA.

Following a workshop with Old Dominion University’s Genocide Studies Class, Professor Amy Milligan said, “I was really touched by how committed my students were to the process and how vulnerable they were with their art. Moreover, I’m profoundly grateful that the Community Relations Council of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater afforded them this opportunity. For many of my students, this is the first and perhaps only time they’ll have access to this type of learning and art.” Piven’s two week-long visit was a first for UJFT’s Community Relations

ForKids workshop.

Council and Simon Family JCC’s Israel Today program, a year-long offering of scholarly and cultural events celebrating Israel, its people, their stories, and the Jewish community’s shared future. The residency was made possible through the support of numerous community partners.

Ohef Sholom Temple’s Confirmation Class with their self-portraits.

For more information on upcoming Israel Today events, visit IsraelToday.

Patricia Ashkenazi, Wendy Konikoff, Helene Grablosky, Susan Hirschbiel, Leslie Siegel, Betsy Karotkin, Honey Maizel, and Stephanie Calliot.

Jack Trompeter and Arbel Horev with their portraits made at Super Sunday’s Family Workshop.

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book festival Pop-up bookstore open at Simon Family JCC


ith the Simon Family JCC’s Lee and Bernard Jaffe Family Jewish Book Festival in full swing, more than 100 different books by prominent and emerging authors are now available in a pop-up bookstore in the Simon Family JCC’s Copeland Cardo. Works from the genres of fiction, memoir, young adult, self-help, and children—all with a focus on one of the many aspects of Jewish and Israeli life—are now available for purchase through December 2. In addition, authors from around the

nation are headed to Tidewater for the annual celebration of Jewish writers, books, and ideas. The month-long festival offers an opportunity to engage with talented Israeli, Jewish, and non-Jewish authors about their latest books, as well as a chance to peruse the latest titles making the top Jewish booklists. For more information on Book Festival events, visit or contact Callah Terkeltaub at 757-321-2331 or

Be ready for the best part of being a parent, grandparenting. Now you’ll finally know what it means to be adored—and to be absolutely, completely, and helplessly in love! —Betsy and Ed Karotkin

Grandparents: Got any advice?


ane Isay, author of Unconditional Love: A Guide to Navigating the Joys and Challenges of Being a Grandparent Today, has plenty of advice on grandparenting. Still, Jewish News wants to hear from grandparents right here in Tidewater. Words of wisdom, humorous anecdotes, serious tips…all are welcome! To submit, go to or the Jewish News Facebook page. We’ll run as many suggestions as possible in the December 10 issue. Deadline for submission is November 23. If possible, also please submit a photo— one with the grandchildren, of course! Jane Isay, by the way, will be at the Sandler Family Campus on Wednesday, November 21 at 12 pm as part of the Lee and Bernard Jaffe Jewish Book Festival. For information, contact Callah Terkeltaub at 757-321-2331 or

Plenty of opportunities to see RICK RECHT in Tidewater Rick Recht is one of the top touring musicians in Jewish music—evolutionizing and elevating the genre of Jewish rock music as a powerful and effective tool for developing Jewish pride and identity in youth and adults across the United States. He’ll be in Tidewater later this month, performing at various venues.


• Jewish Educator Institute Thursday, November 29, 6 pm, Simon Family JCC

• Shabbat Alive Friday, November 30, 5:30 pm, Ohef Sholom Temple

• Shabbat Family Services Friday, November 30, 6:30 pm, Ohef Sholom Temple

• Camp Reunion Shabbat Saturday, December 1, 9:30 am, Congregation Beth El

• Latkepalooza featuring authors Carrie Jones and Jamie Korngold Sunday, December 2, 12:20-3 pm, Simon Family JCC For more information on Rick Recht’s events, contact Lisa Rosenbach at

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book festival


Avi Jorisch to talk about Israeli innovation Thursday, November 15, 7:30 pm Sandler Family Campus


or a country of just over 8.5-million people, Israel plays a disproportionate role in helping to solve some of the world’s biggest challenges. Why? Thou Shalt Innovate author and Israel Today speaker Avi Jorisch argues that it is because of Tikkun Olam, the Jewish concept of repairing the world. Highlighting innovations such as ReWalk, an exoskeletal motorized walking device created by Jewish Israeli Amit Goffer that helps those who have been paralyzed, stand up straight and walk again; and Alpha Omega, the largest Arab high-tech company in Israel started by Imad and Reem Younis, who created a device that acts as a GPS inside the brain during surgeries, Jorisch shows that it’s not just Jewish Israelis who are changing the world—it is all Israelis—Arab, Christian, and Jewish. A thought leader in exploring global innovation trends, the Arab world, counterterrorism, and illicit finance, Jorisch previously served in the U.S. Departments of Treasury and Defense. He is a seasoned entrepreneur and Middle East expert, Senior Fellow at the American Foreign Policy Council, member of the Council on Foreign Relations and the E n t r epr e n e u r s’ Organization, author of five books, and


Wednesday November 7, 7:30 pm

Matt Goldman

Gone to Dust: A Novel

Thursday November 15, 7:30 pm

Avi Jorisch

Thou Shalt Innovate: How Israeli Ingenuity Repairs the World

Friday November 16, 8:30 am

John Schwartz

This is the Year I Put My Financial Life in Order

Wednesday November 21, 12 pm

Avi Jorish

has had articles published in New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Foreign Affairs, Forbes, and Al-Arabiya. Avi Jorisch will be in Tidewater as part of the 2018–2019 Israel Today series and the Simon Family JCC’s Lee and Bernard Jaffe Family Jewish Book Festival. To learn more about the Israel Today series or to RSVP to this free and open to the community event, visit, or call 757-321-2304.

Jane Isay

Unconditional Love: A Guide to Navigating the Joys and Challenges of Being a Grandparent Today

$12 Lunch/$30 Lunch & Book. Bundled registration for lunch and a signed book closes November 13

Tuesday November 27, 7:30 pm

Jenna Blum

The Lost Family: A Novel

Thursday November 29, 12 pm

Sally Kohn

The Opposite of Hate: A Field Guide to Repairing Our Humanity

$12 Lunch/$30 Lunch & Book. Bundled registration for lunch and a signed book closes November 19

All events, unless otherwise noted, are free and open to the community with RSVP required, and will take place at the Reba and Sam Sandler Family Campus, 5000 Corporate Woods Drive, Virginia Beach | November 5, 2018 | Jewish News | 29

Celebrate the Season with us!

Jewish Book Festival Book Reviews Can be read alone


Nov. 30 & Dec. 2, 2018 Newport News & Virginia Beach JoAnn Falletta, conductor Julian Schwarz, cello Glazunov: Winter from The Seasons, Op. 67 Tchaikovsky: Rococo Variations for Cello and Orchestra Sibelius: Symphony No. 5 Tchaikovsky: Pas de Deux from The Nutcracker


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Dec. 13- 15, 2018 Virginia Beach, Newport News &Norfolk JoAnn Falletta, conductor Virginia Symphony Orchestra Chorus Robert Shoup, chorusmaster


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Sadie’s Snowy Tu B’Shevat Jamie Korngold Kar-Ben Publishing $7.99 978-1512426793 like this book very much because although I could read it by myself, I read it with my mom. Jamie Korngold. Like Sadie, I love Tu B’Shevat, and while I know that it’s winter here, in Israel for my grandfather and grandmother, it’s summer. I also like planting trees and playing in the snow with my sister and my friends, just like Sadie. I am looking forward to meeting the author, who I heard was the Adventure Rabbi, when she comes to visit on December 2!!


Author and Rabbi Jamie Korngold will be at the Sandler Family Campus on Sunday, December 2 at 1 pm as a part of Latkepalooza and Camp Extravaganza with Rick Recht LIVE! For more information about Latkepalooza and Camp Extravaganza, visit Latkepalooza. Omree Horev is a six-year-old first grader at Kingston Elementary.

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Dec. 20- 22, 2018 Newport News, Norfolk, Virginia Beach Robert Shoup,conductor Virginia Symphony Orchestra Chorus

JINGLE BELL JAM Dec. 22, 2018 | Virginia Beach Gonzalo Farias, conductor

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Memoir meets financial guide This Is The Year I Put My Financial Life In Order John Schwartz Penguin Random House LLC, 2018 320 pages, $27 978-0399576812 Brandon Terkeltaub, CFP®, ChFC®


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oney is often an overwhelming and stressful topic. While some people love discussing financial matters, others cringe at the thought of discussing subjects such as retirement plans and monthly budgeting. John Schwartz’s This is the Year I Put My Brandon Terkeltaub. Financial Life in Order chronicles his journey, beginning as a self-described financial “idiot”—navigating the various aspects of how financial matters relate to one’s life. Like most people in 2007 and 2008, Schwartz watched his 401k sink roughly 40%. For years, he had been glancing at his quarterly statements and filing them away in a drawer to deal with at some point in the future. The underlying questions of “am I saving enough?” and “how long will this money last once I stop receiving a pay check?” prompted Schwartz to embark on this project. Through his engaging writing and humorous stories, Schwartz chronicles a year of learning the ‘basics’ of various financial topics. From buying a home, managing debt, tackling life insurance and a will, Schwartz takes these often dull and/or overwhelming topics and presents them in a very readable and relatable fashion. For those who feel like they could benefit from a financial check-in but don’t know how or where to begin, Schwartz’s book provides an excellent and easy-to-read starting point to shed the feelings of being overwhelmed and taking control of your financial future. John Schwartz will speak at the Sandler Family Campus on Friday, November 16 at 8:30 am as a guest author during the Lee and Bernard Jaffe Family Jewish Book Festival. The Book Festival runs from through December 2 and features a variety of authors and programs. Arrive at 7:45 am for a light breakfast and networking. This event is in partnership with Tidewater Jewish Foundation. For more information on the Jewish Book Festival and its visiting authors, contact Callah Terkeltaub at or 321-2331. Brandon Terkeltaub, CFP®, ChFC® is a Certified Financial Planner with Frieden Wealth Management.

Jewish Book Festival Book Reviews An unfortunate topic The Opposite of Hate: A Field Guide to Repairing Our Humanity Sally Kohn Workman Publishing, 2018 250 pages, $27.95 978-1616207281


o be honest, the copy of The Opposite of Hate: A Field Guide to Repairing Our Humanity by Sally Kohn languished on my pile of books to read longer than I anticWendy Juren Auerbach ipated. The reason, as I discovered later in Kohn’s book—it is easier to cling to one’s own biases and stew about the other side. I doubted that this book could help boost my optimism, but I was wrong. No matter what side of the political spectrum you occupy, the cacophony of news and opinion is deafening and seems to be evolving into an epidemic of hate. Finding a safe place for civil discussion these days is like landing on an oasis in the desert. But Sally Kohn in her book encourages us to stop taking sides and start a conversation, and she brings a unique perspective to this topic with a career that has touched the entire political spectrum. As an openly gay woman, she has been a strong voice for LBGT and progressive causes, as well as an active community organizer. Currently a columnist and a political commentator for CNN and MSNBC, a key element of Kohn’s resume includes a spot as a former liberal commentator on the Fox Network. Hate is a vast subject and underpins so many past and present events. The Opposite of Hate breaks hate down into very manageable chapters exploring what hate is, how and why we hate, unconscious hate, hate related to genocide, and how hate has permeated social institutions. Kohn’s very readable cocktail includes her own personal experiences and biases, many extensive studies and research on hate, as well as profiles of former terrorists

and white supremacists, making The Opposite of Hate an engaging journey of discover y— especially given the topic. Kohn does Sally Kohn. not give herself a free pass, and her honest observations as she bravely explores what most of us would rather ignore, are powerful. Throughout the book, Kohn stresses the importance of making connections in order to understand the many aspects of hate. In the book’s final chapter, The Journey Forward, however, she does not tell us to change who we are, nor does she whitewash the fact that overcoming hate is hard. “The opposite of hate also isn’t some mushy middle zone of the passionate centrism. You can still have strongly held beliefs, beliefs that are in strong opposition to the beliefs of other people, and still treat those others with civility and respect. Ultimately, the opposite of hate is the beautiful and powerful reality of how we are all fundamentally linked and equal as human beings. The opposite of hate is connection.” Taking the time to read The Opposite of Hate is well worth it. Our current environment of vitriol is corrosive in so many ways, especially as an example to the generation now growing up amidst all of it. Kohn’s final takeaway is that we all have the power to do something. “Deciding to turn away from hate and pursue its opposite is a daily decision and a daily act, one we must constantly recommit to as vigorously as possible, in spite of all the obstacles. But the good news is, it’s possible.” Sally Kohn will be at the Sandler Family Campus on Thursday, November 29 at 12 pm. For information, contact Callah Terkeltaub at or 757-321-2331. Wendy Juren Auerbach is the past chair of the Holocaust Commission of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater.

This one’s for every grandparent Unconditional Love: A Guide for Navigating the Joys and Challenges of Being a Grandparent Today. Jane Isay Harper, March 6, 2018 Hardcover: 240 pages, $27.99 978-0062427168 Reviewed by Alene Jo Kaufman


t’s hard to read a book when one’s head is continually nodding up and down, but that’s what happened while reading Jane Isay’s Alene Jo Kaufman Unconditional Love: A Guide for Navigating the Joys and Challenges of Being a Grandparent Today. As the grandmother of two incredible granddaughters, I only wish I had read this before becoming one! Isay grabs the reader as she welcomes us into the feeling of “stardust,” that unconditional love that is the “magic bridge that spans the generations.” She divides her work into four sections, each one filled with illustrative anecdotes and meaningful suggestions. From readying the family for the changes about to take place upon the birth of a grandchild, to understanding the new parents’ requests and providing ways to respond (aka listen!) to them, Isay gives us the tools to forge relationships with our grandchildren and our adult children in their new roles. She does not ignore the challenges of being a custodial

grandparent, or the childcare grandparent, or even the grandparent who lives on the other side of the Jane Isay. country. She provides realistic and often-emotional suggestions for these challenges. Isay addresses additional concerns while looking through the lens of creating and maintaining family relationships. The book is an easy to read and engaging work. I was pleasantly surprised to find research citations, suggestions for additional reading, and an index at the end—all resources for those grandparenting questions that Isay may not have (yet) answered. Finished the book and want more Jane Isay? Check out her blog http:// or come hear her speak at the Lee and Bernard Jaffe Family Jewish Book Festival. Jane Isay will be at the Sandler Family Campus on Wednesday, November 21, at 12 pm during the Lee and Bernard Jaffe Family Jewish Book Festival, which runs through December 2. This event is in partnership with Beth Sholom Village and Hebrew Academy of Tidewater. For more information on the Jewish Book Festival and its visiting authors, contact Callah Terkeltaub at or 757-321-2331. Alene Kaufman is the former director of Strelitz Early Childhood Center and a life long educator.

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What’s happening Portraits of Holocaust survivors on exhibit at Slover

Larger Than Life—New Rosh Chodesh Society series for women Begins on Sunday, November 11, 7 pm

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aces of Survival, an intimate, powerful series of portraits honoring and celebrating the 24 current living Holocaust survivors in Tidewater, made its debut in April at Yom Hashoah at Congregation Beth El. The series exhibited at the Virginia Holocaust Museum in Richmond during June and July. This month, the portraits are on display in the lobby of the Slover Library in downtown Norfolk. Following the Slover exhibit, the portraits will move to their permanent home at the Reba and Sam Sandler Family Campus in Virginia Beach. Faces of Survival is a documentation project for Holocaust education which bridges the survivor stories to places and times in the past, offering insight with relevance for present day. The portraits were created by Richmond photographer Dean Whitbeck, who did a similar exhibit for the Weinstein Jewish Community Center in Richmond in 2015 to mark the 70th anniversary of the liberation of Auschwitz in 1945. Similar projects have also been created in Buffalo, N.Y., Washington, DC and Vancouver, Canada.

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ives are comprised of decisions—large and small. Some decisions are of seemingly no consequence, but others have people stumped while trying to discern between right and wrong. Moral and ethical dilemmas can be found at every turn. The age-old wisdom of the Torah offers help to navigate a variety of problems and predicaments. Now in its sixth year in Hampton Roads, this year’s Rosh Chodesh Society series, offered by Chabad of Tidewater, offers a look at moral and ethical situations through the lens of the Torah. This

year’s series, Larger Than Life, will examine ways to weave G-d into daily lives, while discussing hot, current topics. Jewish women from across Hampton Roads will meet once a month to learn and discuss topics such as privacy, social justice, charity, and more. Each session is a stand-alone lesson, is led by Rashi Brashevitzky, and includes dinner ($20). To register or for more information, visit or email

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Community Relations Council of United Jewish Federation of Tidewater, Simon Family JCC, and Community Partners, in conjunction with The Lee & Bernard Jaffe Family Jewish Book Festival present:

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Avi Jorisch Thursday, November 15 • 7:30 pm • Free! Sandler Family Campus Author Avi Jorisch will discuss Israeli innovations that are changing the lives of billions of people around the world. Jorisch is a seasoned entrepreneur, counterterrorism expert, and global innovation trend explorer.

You won’t want to miss this uplifting evening! For more information and to RSVP, contact Leigh Casson at or 757-321-2304. Reba and Sam Sandler Family Campus • 5000 Corporate Woods Drive • Virginia Beach The Community Relations Council of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater and Simon Family JCC are grateful for the support of our community partners for our 8th annual Israel Today series including: ADL of Greater Washington · AIPAC · AJC · BBYO · Beth Sholom Village · B’nai Israel Congregation · Center for the Study of Religious Freedom at Virginia Wesleyan University · Chabad Lubavitch of Tidewater · Congregation Beth Chaverim · Congregation Beth El · Embassy of Israel in Washington · Freda H. Gordon Hospice & Palliative Care of Tidewater · Hebrew Academy of Tidewater · Jewish Family Service of Tidewater · Jewish News · Kehillat Bet Hamidrash · Norfolk-Virginia Beach Chapter of ORT America · ODU Hillel · Ohef Sholom Temple · Old Dominion University’s Institute of Jewish Studies and Interfaith Understanding · Regent University · Robert C. Nusbaum Honors College of Norfolk State University · Temple Emanuel · Temple Israel · Tidewater Community College · Tidewater Jewish Foundation · UJFT Holocaust Commission · UJFT Men’s Campaign · UJFT Society of Professionals · UJFT Women’s Cabinet · UJFT Young Adult Division

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What’s happening Plenty of opportunities to see Rick Recht in Tidewater


ick Recht is one of the top touring musicians in Jewish music—evolutionizing and elevating the genre of Jewish rock music as a powerful and effective tool for developing Jewish pride and identity in youth and adults across the United States. He’ll be in Tidewater later this month, performing at various venues. See Rick Recht: • Jewish Educator Institute Thursday, November 29, 6 pm, Simon Family JCC • Shabbat Alive Friday, November 30, 5:30 pm, Ohef Sholom Temple • Shabbat Family Services Friday, November 30, 6:30 pm, Ohef Sholom Temple • Camp Reunion Shabbat Saturday, December 1, 9:30 am, Congregation Beth El • Latkepalooza featuring authors Carrie Jones and Jamie Korngold Sunday, December 2, 12:20-3 pm, Simon Family JCC


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hile continuing to serve as Israel’s pre-eminent research library, The National Library of Israel embarked on an ambitious journey to expand access to its treasures. NLI holds the largest collection of written Judaica ever amassed, significant handwritten works by luminaries such as Maimonides and Sir Isaac Newton, exquisite Islamic manuscripts dating to the ninth century, and archival collections of leading cultural and intellectual figures including Martin Buber, Franz Kafka, Natan Sharansky, and Naomi Shemer. The National Library also holds the world’s largest collection of maps of Jerusalem and the Holy Land, as well as the largest collection of Jewish and Israeli music. This exhibition, developed in partnership with the Marlene Meyerson JCC Manhattan, presents highlights from the library’s world-class collections, which encompass manuscripts, books, posters, maps, music, photographs, communal and personal archival materials, and more.

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Calendar October 30–December 20 The Lee and Bernard Jaffe Family Jewish Book Festival. Reba and Sam Sandler Family Campus. For information, contact Callah Terkeltaub at or 757-321-2331. See pages 26–31. November 11, Sunday Brith Sholom general members meeting at 11 am preceded by a board meeting at 10 am. Shannon Brill of the FBI will speak on internet scams (the newest love scams, contest, etc) followed by brunch. Cost: $3 per member ($5 at the door) and $10 for guest. Free for guests exploring membership. Contact LeeAnne Mallory at 757-461-1150 or for information. At Beth Sholom Village. This is Brith Sholom’s annual food drive for Jewish Family Service. Non-perishable foods or monetary donations are requested.

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NOVEMBER 15, THURSDAY The Community Relations Council, Simon Family JCC (as part of the Lee and Bernard Jaffe Family Jewish Book Festival), and community partners, present Israel Today expert and author Avi Jorisch to discuss his book Thou Shalt Innovate: How Israeli Ingenuity Repairs the World. For more information or to RSVP, contact Melissa Eichelbaum at 757-965-6107 or November 18, Sunday Brith Sholom’s pre-Thanksgiving dinner at 5:30 pm at Beth Sholom Village. Enjoy a traditional Thanksgiving meal without the work or clean-up. Entertainment by Billy and Cindy Mitchell singing some great oldies. Cost is $10 per member and $20 per guest. Contact LeeAnne Mallory at 757-461-1150 or for information. November 27, Tuesday YAD Happy Hour. United Jewish Federation of Tidewater’s Young Adult Division Happy Hour at Park Lane Tavern in Virginia Beach. 5:30 pm. YAD Happy Hours are a great way to socialize, network, and meet fellow YADians. For more information and to RSVP, contact Carly Glikman at NOVEMBER 29, Thursday–DECEMBER 1, SATURDAY Shabbaton with Rick Recht, starting with an educators training on November 29 at the Simon Family JCC, followed by events at Ohef Sholom Temple and Congregation Beth El. For more information or to RSVP, contact Lisa Rosenbach at 757-321-3182 or DECEMBER 2, SUNDAY A community celebration of Hanukkah as part of Latkepalooza and One Happy Camper’s Camp Extravaganza, with PJ Library and support from the Tidewater Jewish Foundation including two children’s authors and a live performance by Rick Recht. 12:30-3:30 pm at the Reba and Sam Sandler Family Campus. For more information or to RSVP, contact Lisa Rosenbach at 757-321-3182 or

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December 8, Saturday Hanukkah On Ice. Celebrate Hanukkah with the Norfolk Admirals’ Hanukkah on Ice Game. Free skate takes place following the game. Game starts at 7 pm. For more information, contact Carly Glikman at December 14, Friday YAD-Chabad Shabbat. Join UJFT’s Young Adult Division and Chabad of Tidewater for their annual YAD-Chabad Shabbat. This is a meaningful evening filled with community, Kiddush, and a kosher dinner. Shabbat Dinner starts at 5:45 pm at the Chabad House of Norfolk. $10 per adult, $5 per child ages 3 and up. To register: Send submissions for calendar to Be sure to note “calendar” in the subject. Include date, event name, sponsor, address, time, cost and phone.


onors to Jewish Family Service of Tidewater’s Chanukah Gift Program probably know how much joy they bring to the children who receive the gifts. What they may not know is how much of a burden they lift off of the parents. Without these gifts, many families would have to go without during the holiday, and even throughout the year. Here is what a few of JFS’ past clients have said about the program: “Words cannot describe the feeling I got when I saw the kindness of others. I’m so thankful for your generosity towards my family. My daughter does not ask for much, but I was able to give her a lot more than I would have without your help. So, thank you from the bottom of my heart. You have done a very noble and thankful Mitzvah for my family this year. Happy Chanukah to you!” “Thank you so much for assisting me with Chanukah gifts for my boys again this year! We are always amazed by the generosity of our community by donating items and gift cards so that those of us who have financial difficulties can enjoy the holiday…we were even able to invite a few friends over to celebrate with us thanks to the Chanukah plates, napkins, candles and decorations we received. I cannot express enough how appreciative we are to JFS and to everyone who contributed to our gifts.” This year, JFS expects to serve more than 75 local children and teens. For donors, this is an opportunity to do a mitzvah for those who live in families who are financially struggling. How to Help • P urchase new, unwrapped gifts for specific children and teens in need. Donors may call JFS at 757‑459‑4640


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Obituaries William H. Becker Princeton, N.J.—William H. Becker, 94, died on October 20, 2018 at his home in Princeton, N.J. Bill was born in Brooklyn on January 12, 1924 to Morris and Ethel Becker. A bright, curious, lively young boy, he played sports and possessed a natural gift for making friends. He also enjoyed being a

devoted older brother to sister Renie. Bill graduated from high school in Rosslyn, New York and studied at Queens College. After a year in the US Navy, he attended New York University, then progressed to Virginia Commonwealth University Dental School. A newly-minted dentist in 1949, Bill settled in Norfolk, Virginia. Some years later he was introduced to Merle Skoler, a music teacher and fellow New Yorker, on a blind date. She quickly became the love of his life; and they married in 1959, eventually raising four sons. Bill went on to serve the Norfolk community as a dentist for over five decades. Many of his patients grew up and brought their own children to him. Bill also volunteered his services to underserved communities in Israel. After a long and satisfying career, Bill retired from dentistry at age 85. He and Merle moved north from Virginia Beach to be closer to their sons. In Princeton, Bill built a new life, continuing to collect friends of all ages. He enjoyed family dinners, people-watching in Hinds Plaza, jaunts to Parx Casino, and playing pool, poker, and Scrabble with his grandchildren and friends. Bill was humble, generous, loyal and a man of the highest integrity–in other words, a true mensch. He always put family and friends first. We learned from his example every day and are eternally grateful to have loved and been loved by him. Bill is survived by his cherished wife Merle; his sons Richard (Rachel); Paul (Lori); Daniel (Madeleine); Sam (Jennifer); his sister Renie (Becker) Teitelman; and

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Harvey Jay Kagan, MD. She is also survived by her daughter, Amy, and her husband Edmond, and their two children, Eli and Austin (8 and 6). Joanne is also survived by her son, Michael and his wife Paola, and their one-year-old daughter Evelyn, who was named for Joanne’s mother. She is also survived by her sister Marcy, and her husband Bruce, as well as her brother Jeffery, and his wife Tammy. Joanne was born on October 27, 1948 in Norfolk to Irving and Evelyn Eisenberg. She grew up in Norfolk and attended Granby High School. Joanne went to Beaver College (now Arcadia College) in Pennsylvania where she received a Bachelor of Science in Education. She attended George Washington University where she earned a Masters in Special Education. She soon began teaching first grade at Overlook Elementary School in Oxen Hill, Maryland. It was during this time that she met her future husband, Harvey, after living in the same apartment building in Arlington, Va. They were married for 44 amazingly beautiful and loving years. They were rarely apart and filled their home with love and friendship. Harvey stayed by her side throughout her entire battle with cancer. They were a team. Joanne moved to Virginia Beach and began teaching preschool and kindergarten at Baylake Pines School. During this time, she developed the Reading Resource Program to help students with reading struggles and academic difficulties. She taught at Baylake Pines for 24 years. Joanne was frequently contacted by her previous students throughout their college years and they consistently expressed gratitude and appreciation for all her help as their resource teacher. Joanne retired in 2005. She spent her time knitting beautiful scarves and ponchos and blankets with her weekly knitting circle, sitting on the porch doing crossword puzzles and listening to the waves, and riding her bike with Harvey near the beach. She was a beach girl to the very end. Those who encountered Joanne were always struck by her kindness, warmth, and friendliness. Her smile instantly made people love her and her laughter was contagious. Above everything, Joanne adored her family. She was a role model and selfless as

Obituaries a mom and instilled wisdom, love, safety, and confidence in her children and their close friends. She was everyone’s cheerleader and to know Joanne Kagan was to feel proud of yourself. Joanne adored her role as Mimi and looked forward to weekend travels to Fairfax and Brooklyn to see her grandchildren. Any moment that she spent with her grandchildren was filled with happiness and absolute fun. There was so much more fun to be had. Our world will never be the same without our beloved Joanne. Her time with us was over much too soon. We will press on with the same courage and determination that she showed in the face of cancer. Donations to Virginia Beach General Hospital or the new Sentara Cancer Center that is being built in Norfolk. A memorial service took place at H.D. Oliver Funeral Laskin Road Chapel. Joanne wished to be cremated and have her ashes scattered into her ocean. She had such a joy of the beach and the ocean near her home will be her final resting place. We will miss her, but we will carry on her traditions through the love that she taught us. Online condolences may be shared with the family at www. Edward B. Snyder Virginia Beach—Edward Brown Snyder of Virginia Beach died on October 19, 2018, having lived a full life of 90 years. He leaves behind his proud legacy of husband, father, grandfather, and great-grandfather. His generous charitable, civic, and business contributions significantly improved the quality of life in Hampton Roads, a region he always envisioned as united rather than the sum of political jurisdictions. He was born in Norfolk in 1928 to Ben Paul and Bertha Goodman Snyder. Ed attended the University of Virginia and New York University until serving his country

in the U.S. Air Force. Stationed in London, he met his future bride Jean. After discharge as Staff Sergeant, Ed and Jean came to the U.S. in 1956 to begin their 61-year marriage. They enjoyed visiting almost 100 countries together. She preceded him in death in 2017. Ed’s and Jean’s children are Susan Darnell (granddaughter Sarah Dodd and great-grandchild Riley and granddaughter Gwen Darnell); Robin Brickell (spouse Sean, grandson Alex Snyder and spouse Jessica and great-grandchildren Connor and Oliver; granddaughter Lesley Snyder and grandson Quentin); Stephen Snyder (spouse Russie and grandsons Ben and William); Kate King Jones (spouse Eric and granddaughter Cameron King); and Tammy Murphy (spouse Phil, grandson Josh, granddaughter Emma, and grandsons Charlie and Sam). The love of retail was learned from Ed’s grandfather and father. In 1894, his grandfather established L. Snyder’s, one of downtown Norfolk’s premier department stores. His father continued the family business, which remained open for 75 years. The store’s primary principle recognized the customer as the most important aspect of business, and Ed carried this truth into the automotive arena. His professional motto was “Treat your employees right, and they’ll treat your customers right, and then customers will do the same to your company.” Ed’s home number always was listed in the phone book so any customer could call with a question or concern. Ed and his wife founded Checkered Flag Company as a family business in 1964. It is one of the largest import dealers in Virginia, with 11 franchises providing almost 700 professionals fulltime employment. More than 10,000 people have been employed since the company began. Ed proudly upgraded landscaping to beautify his dealerships. His goal was to have more trees at his stores than all other

dealerships in Hampton Roads combined. The Virginia Beach Garden Club perennially honors Checkered Flag dealerships for their superb landscaping. Ed was named First Citizen in Virginia Beach in 1996. He was crowned Virginia Beach King Neptune in 1992. He served as the first chairman of the DePaul Health Foundation. He was honored with the

President’s Award for the United Way. He was a founding member of the Virginia Aquarium and Marine Science Museum. Other organizations Ed tirelessly supported are the United Jewish Foundation, Hampton Roads Volunteer Council, Douglas MacArthur Memorial Foundation, Virginia Opera, Martin Luther King continued on page 38

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Memorial Statue, King Neptune Statue, Old Coast Guard and Lifesaving Station, Chrysler Museum, Virginia Museum of Contemporary Art, UVa athletics, Salvation Army, and Public Broadcasting of Hampton Roads. Ed was recruited by the National Association of Automobile Dealers to form the Honda National Dealer Council. He also served on National Dealer Councils for Toyota, Jaguar, BMW, Hyundai, Mini, Isuzu, Suzuki, MG, and Austin-Healy. He was president of Tidewater Automobile Dealers Association. In 1980, Ed was recipient of the Automobile Dealer of Distinction Award presented by Sports Illustrated. He was Time Magazine’s 1999 Quality Auto Dealer of the Year in Virginia and was recognized as second nationally among all 50 state representatives that year. Ed’s dream and personal mission for Hampton Roads was laying solid foundations to unify the cities and counties into a single, globally recognized region. He understood and promoted the collective benefits that our citizens, business and government will achieve through mutually advantageous coordination and consolidation. Ed’s funeral celebration took place at Ohef Sholom Temple, where he was a lifelong member and supporter. Visit hdoliver. com to share a memory with the family. Contributions to Virginia Aquarium and the Hampton Roads Cancer Society. Dorothy Farfel Wyron Portsmouth—Dorothy Farfel Wyron, 92, passed away Thursday, October 25, 2018. A graveside service was at Gomley Chesed Cemetery by Rabbi Jeffrey Arnowitz. Memorial donations may be made to Chevra Thelim’s Jewish Museum & Cultural Center or H.E.R. Shelter Inc.

Rabbi David Posner, who served 40 years at flagship NYC Reform temple


abbi David Posner, a spiritual leader at the flagship Reform Temple Emanu-El in New York City for four decades, has died. Posner, who retired from active work at New York City’s first Reform congregation in 2012 after serving 10 years as its senior

rabbi, died Friday, Oct. 19 from complications of Alzheimer’s disease. He was 70. Following his ordination from Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion in Cincinnati in the early 1970s—the Brooklyn native told his parents when he was 10 that he wanted to be a rabbi, according to the New York Times—he was asked to join the rabbinical staff at Temple Emau-El and never left the Manhattan congregation. He was named senior rabbi in 2002, a position he held until his retirement, and was senior rabbi emeritus at the time of his passing. In 2008, Posner was awarded the International Humanitarian Award from the World Union for Progressive Judaism. He served as a member of the board of governors of HUC from 2005 to 2015. “The death of Rabbi David Posner leaves a gaping hole in the heart of the Jewish people and our community,” Rabbi David Ellenson, HUC’s interim president, said in a statement. “His brilliance, his love of scholarship and the arts, his sensitivity and care for others, his love for the State of Israel, his leadership of Congregation Emanu-El, in the Reform Movement, and at the Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion, and his contributions to Klal Yisrael were unsurpassed.” Posner developed relationships with political and faith leaders. He was friends with New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer and mayors Ed Koch and Michael Bloomberg, and had close ties to Cardinals O’Connor, Egan and Dolan, according to the HUC website. He met his wife, Sylvia, when he was 12 and married her when he was 21. She worked for 43 years as the assistant to the president of HUC. An accomplished pianist, Posner earned a doctorate in piano pedagogy from Columbia University in 1988. His doctoral thesis, “Reviving a Lost Art— Piano Music of Russian-Jewish Origin” centered on the modern Jewish art music composed in St. Petersburg, the cultural heart of czarist Russia during the first decade of the 20th century. While attending HUC, he specialized in the study of Semitic languages, and he received the Ralph Lazarus Prize for ranking first in his class. (JTA)

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JFS salutes our Home Health staff during National Home Care Month. Let our professional, compassionate staff help you recover where you want to be — in the comfort of your home. You’ll always feel right at home because our nurses, therapists, and aides will treat you with loving kindness and with the upmost respect. JFS Home Health Care can provide you with: Skilled nursing care • Home Health aides • Care management Specialized wound care • Medical social work Physical, speech and occupational therapies Seated: Lucy Cardon, RN; Susan Riggs, RN; Heather Cole, RN Nurse Liaison; Marion Lisenby, PT; and Judy Laster, RN Nurse Liaison. Standing: Linda Badgley, RN; Joe Anderson, PT; Stacy Powell, LPTA; Jenny Lind, PT; Donna Troici, PT; Sondra Pietrzak, RN; Megan Lewis, PT; Jan Ganderson, RN; Beth Taylor, PT; Ashley Williams, LPN, Nurse Liaison; Maxine Wilson, RN; Julie Van Gorder, RN Nurse Liaison; Sid Barrera, LPTA; and Sally Neilan, PT. Not pictured: Michelle Banazwski, PT; Valerie Busby, QA RN; Bonnie Dudley, OT; Susan Dunkley, SLP; Deb Farmer, QA RN; Kari Fisher, OT; Linda Ginright, QA RN; Kim Herring, RN; Myra Iacono, LPN; Denyse Jenner, PT; Jessica Keetz, PT; Allison Madore, RN; Kim Naylor, PT; and Sharon Rosenbaum, MSW.



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