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(JTA)—A Women’s March leader mired in controversy because of her association with the virulently anti-Semitic Nation of Islam leader Louis Farrakhan has attacked Starbucks for including the Anti-Defamation League among its advisers on bias.

Tamika Mallory in a tweet Tuesday, April 17 accused the Jewish group of “constantly attacking black and brown people.”

The coffee giant said that it had solicited counseling from a number of groups, including the ADL, the NAACP and others, after national outrage following the arrest last weekend of two black men sitting at one of its Philadelphia outlets.

Starbucks announced that it would close its more than 8,000 stores in the United States on the afternoon of May 29 to conduct racial-bias education with staff.

“So you are aware, Starbucks was on a decent track until they enlisted the Anti-Defamation League to build their anti-bias training,” Mallory tweeted. “The ADL is CONSTANTLY attacking black and brown people. This is a sign that they are tone deaf and not committed to addressing the concerns of black folks. Be clear about what’s happening here.”

Mallory wasn’t specific in her criticism, although the ADL had criticized her and Women’s March in February after Mallory tweeted enthusiastically about her attendance at a speech in which Farrakhan attacked Jews, women and the LGBTQ community.

The ADL’s CEO, Jonathan Greenblatt, was one of several national and local experts Starbucks had asked to consult on racial bias following the incident. The others include Bryan Stevenson, founder and executive director of the Equal Justice Initiative; Sherrilyn Ifill, president and director-counsel of the NAACP Legal Defense and Education Fund; Heather McGhee, president of Demos; and former U.S. Attorney General Eric Holder.

Mallory indicated that there are some “great” Jewish organizations that fight racism.

“My people… don’t be fooled…Pay close attention to the entire

CHESS BOARD #boycottstarbucks,” she wrote in a second tweet, which also said that the ADL “should have never been enlisted in the first place. There are other great Jewish orgs who fight racism of All kinds every day: Jews for Racial Economic Justice (JFREG) [sic], Bend the Arc: Jewish Action, Jewish Voice for Peace.”

The ADL’s defenders noted that it has a long record in reporting hate crimes and bias against all groups, and has trained law enforcement in recognizing and addressing bias for decades, often in partnership with African-American and civil rights organizations.

Neera Tanden, president of the left-leaning Center for American Progress, backed the ADL in a tweet.

“I support the ADL’s work against white supremacists, politicians who feed hate and everyday acts of intolerance,” wrote Tanden, who is Indian American. “I appreciate that they’ve criticized political leaders at the highest levels who are attacking minority groups of all kinds.”

Rabbi Jill Jacobs, executive director of T’ruah: The Rabbinic Call for Human Rights, also offered her support for the ADL. While acknowledging that she often disagrees with the organization on some of the stands it takes, particularly on Israel, she said that dismissing ADL as racist “ignores history.”

“The @ADL National is one of the oldest and most respected anti-hate groups in the US,” Jacobs tweeted. “They’ve long understood that fighting anti-Semitism must include fighting racism, homophobia, xenophobia, etc. Their legal and advocacy work is a testament to this conviction.”

Greenblatt, who worked in the White House as a special assistant to President Barack Obama, said he was “proud” to work with Starbucks and the other organizations chosen to provide advice on racial bias.

“This is a crucial next step in fighting implicit bias,” he tweeted.

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Up Front . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3 Briefs. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4 Israel’s Memorial Day. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 Election 2016 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6 “Betsy Ross of Israel’s” flag . . . . . . . . . 7 UVa’s Hillel launches campaign. . . . . . 8 Judaica collection seeks a home. . . . . . 8 Leonard Bernstein treasures . . . . . . . 10 Strelitz celebrates Passover. . . . . . . . . 12 Celebrating Women and Mother’s Day. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13

Blue Yarmulke celebrates honorees. . 25 Jewish Family Service’s Spring Into Healthy Living. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27 What’s Happening . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 28 Calendar. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 30 Who Knew?. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31 Mazel Tov. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31 Obituaries. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 Andy Fox on the Frank Family Fellowship. . . . . . . . 34

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briefs 55 Jewish groups ask Senate to oppose bill that weakens the Americans with Disabilities Act Fifty-five national Jewish organizations have called on the U.S. Senate to oppose legislation that would weaken the Americans with Disabilities Act. The organizations sent a letter, organized by the Jewish Federations of North America, to Majority Leader Mitch McConnell, R-Ky., and Minority Leader Chuck Schumer, D-N.Y., opposing the Americans with Disabilities Act Education and Reform Act. The U.S. House of Representatives passed the legislation in February in a 225-192 vote.

President George H.W. Bush signed the Americans with Disabilities Act, which was passed on a bipartisan basis, in 1990. The law has enabled the disabled more access to housing, education, public and private spaces and businesses, and public transit.

Under the reform measure being considered, individuals with disabilities who encounter barriers in public accommodations would need to first notify the business of the issue and observe a waiting period before seeking legal recourse—a lengthier process than under the current law.

The 55 Jewish organizations that signed the letter represent the main religious streams, rabbinical and cantorial organizations, those that focus on disability inclusion, and others promoting social justice and civil rights, social service networks, and groups working with young people and older adults.

“As Jews, we are acutely aware of our obligation to create a more inclusive society and our responsibility to fight against policies that would make life more difficult for people with disabilities,” said William Daroff, senior vice president for public policy for JFNA and director of its Washington office. “We are thrilled that so many of our national partners in the Jewish community understand the importance of inclusion and the necessity in protecting these fundamental civil rights.” (JTA)

Canadian group challenges council’s decision to keep street named Swastika Trail B’nai Brith Canada continued its efforts to rename a street called Swastika Trail, saying a local council’s decision to keep the name was based on an “unfair and biased voting process conducted by residents on the street itself.”

In January, the Puslinch Township Council in Ontario voted 4–1 against changing the name of the privately owned road. Two months earlier, the neighborhood association voted to keep the name, with some residents saying the name referred to an ancient religious symbol, not the Nazi insignia. The street was named in the 1920s.

Local residents launched an application for judicial review of the council vote on behalf of other local residents. The application alleges that the voting process by the Bayview Cottagers Association was “rife with bias.”

“There is no place for a street with the name of a symbol of anti-Semitic hatred in modern Canada, and the irregularities preceding Puslinch Council’s vote on this matter must be addressed,” Michael Mostyn, chief executive officer of B’nai Brith Canada, said in a statement.

A town in northern Ontario is named Swastika for a local goldmine that used the symbol for good luck. (JTA) House members blast antiSemitic attacks on Parkland school shooting survivors Members of a bipartisan U.S. House of Representatives task force on anti-Semitism condemned attacks on survivors of the Florida high school shooting in February, including anti-Semitic images and comparisons of the students to Nazis.

“It is shameful for anyone to attack students—especially survivors of gun violence—with anti-Semitic slurs and Nazi comparisons,” said the statement Friday, April 13 by four members of the task force. “Policy differences are never an excuse for anti-Semitism. We condemn anti-Semitism in all its forms and reject any inappropriate evocation of the Holocaust or comparison to Nazis.”

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Police in Washington, D.C. arrested a man who was hanging anti-Semitic fliers on the American University campus that included a photo of one of the survivors of the Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School shooting in Parkland, Florida.

Some of the leaders of the gun control movement that emerged from among the teenage survivors have been targeted with anti-Semitic slurs on social media.

Additionally, some of the same student leaders of the movement have been likened to Nazis on social media, by media on the far right and, in at least one case, by an aide to a New York state legislator.

Rep. Ted Deutch, a Florida Democrat whose district encompasses the high school, initiated the statement. Joining Deutch on the statement were Reps. Ileana Ros-Lehtinen, a Florida Republican, and Eliot Engel and Nita Lowey, both New York Democrats.

A substantial portion of the high school’s student body is Jewish. Five of the 17 students and teachers killed in the attack were Jewish. (JTA)

concerned about Iranian retaliation from Syria, Israel will keep fighter jets home Israel withdrew its F-15 fighter jets from a joint exercise with the United States over concern about Iranian retaliatory strikes from Syria on Israel’s northern border.

Some Israeli Air Force personnel may attend the Red Flag exercise set for next month in Alaska—the first time Israel was set to participate in the rehearsal for operating in harsh weather conditions.

Tension on Israel’s northern border has increased since an early morning airstrike this month on an air base in central Syria, said to be in use by Iranianbacked forces, that killed 14. Israel has not officially taken responsibility for the airstrike, but an unnamed senior Israeli military official confirmed to New York Times columnist Tom Friedman that Israel carried out the attack.

On Saturday, April 14, an American-led attack in coalition with Britain and France struck three military targets in Syria in response to a chemical attack allegedly carried out by the Syrian government that

left 40 people dead, including children, in the town of Douma, near the capital of Damascus.

On Tuesday, April 17, Syrian aerial defense systems activated in what was initially believed to be strikes on two Syrian air bases, but which Syria later admitted was triggered by an Israeli and American cyberattack on Syrian radar systems.

Later Tuesday, the Israel Defense Forces provided a map to the country’s media demarcating five Iranian-controlled bases in Syria believed to be potential targets for an Israeli response to any retaliatory Iranian attack. Satellite photographs of bases that also were provided were published on several online news sites. (JTA)

Students find 1,400-year-old oil lamp inscribed with menorah Students working to build the “Sanhedrin Trail” in Israel’s Galilee unearthed a 1,400-year-old oil lamp bearing the symbol of the Jerusalem Temple’s menorah, according to the Israel Antiquities Authority.

“The discovery of a lamp decorated with a menorah, a symbol of the Jewish people, is without doubt exciting, especially at a site with such a unique heritage in part of the Sanhedrin Trail,” IAA archaeologist Dr. Einat Ambar-Armon, an expert on ancient clay lamps, said in a statement.

Thousands of students have worked for several months on what will be a smart trail, on which dozens of large “smart” stones will transmit relevant, useful information and activities directly to the hikers’ mobile telephones.

The nearly 45-mile long trail running from Beit She’arim to Tiberias across the lower Galilee is divided into five sections and traces the movements of the sages of the Sanhedrin, the Jewish tribunal that met in the ancient Land of Israel.

In addition to the oil lamp, the student volunteers have uncovered pieces of glass believed to date to the glass industry mentioned in rabbinical texts, and ornamental items dating back 1,800 years. One student discovered a gold coin on the trail bearing an inscription of the sultan Suleiman the Magnificent, builder of Jerusalem’s city walls. Only two other such coins have been discovered. (JTA)

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Israel remembers its fallen soldiers on Memorial Day as kibbutzim, villages and cities,” Rivlin JERUSALEM ( JTA)—A siren sounded said. “We will continue to be a society throughout Israel as people and cars came that fearlessly and relentlessly holds back to a halt at the start of Israel’s Memorial any enemy which disputes our right for a Day. home in our land. At the same time, we At the start of Yom Hazikaron on won’t let any rift, gap or divide ingrain Tuesday night, April 17, the Israel Defense itself amongst us.”

Forces’ chief of staff, Lt.-Gen. Gadi The Memorial Day observance began Eisenkot, had a message for the troops. on Tuesday afternoon with a ceremony “On this day, we bow our heads alongat the Yad Lebanim memorial for fallen side the bereaved families that are living soldiers attended by Prime Minister the incurable pain and longing every day Benjamin Netanyahu and Knesset Speaker that goes by,” he said. “IDF commanders Yuli Edelstein. and soldiers, seven decades have passed “The message left since sirens pierced the by the fallen is sharp streets of the nascent and clear: Our lives state and brought silence may be too short, but to our country. And now we have guaranteed the once again time stands life of the nation forstill. We halt our daily soldiers have died ever,” said Netanyahu, routine and stand still defending Israel whose brother, Yonatan, on streets across the was killed during the country and on the 1976 hostage rescue in side of roads. We stand Entebbe. together embracing our Also Tuesday, some personal memories and 4,000 college-age Jews from around the grieving our national loss.” world participated in an English-language “We unite in cemeteries, gather around memorial ceremony at the Latrun memorial monuments and at IDF bases, Armored Corps Memorial. The students and recall the lives that were lost in the are part of the yearlong Masa program, darkness of memory — the lives of IDF which organized the event. soldiers and commanders, members of The ceremony focused on fallen lone the intelligence community and the secusoldiers, Diaspora Jews who come to rity forces that gave their lives together to Israel to serve in the military without defend the homeland.” their families.

At the national ceremony at the Jewish Agency Chairman Natan Western Wall, Eisenkot stressed that Sharansky and Education Minister Naftali Israel’s military would protect the Jewish Bennett, also the Diaspora minister, joined state.

Jewish leaders from the United States and “Against every threat, our soldiers other countries for the memorial. stand firm on the frontline and together Some 23,646 soldiers have died with technology, prove that there on defending Israel. Seventy-one names were the fortress around the country there added to the list since last Yom Hazikaron, is a powerful army, an army that holds including 30 disabled veterans who died unprecedented capabilities and for a realfrom complications of their service-reity of security and prosperity,” he said. lated injuries. The day also memorializes President Reuven Rivlin said at the the 3,134 terror victims; 12 names were ceremony that Israel’s military supersedes added to that list since last year. politics.

A second siren sounded on Wednesday “We did not leap into the tunnels as morning, followed by the memorial cereright-wing or left-wing, we did not lay in mony to fallen soldiers at the military the trenches as the periphery and moshav ceremony on Mount Herzl. communities, we did not storm the enemy

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Election 2018 Jewish Republicans ‘very confident’ white supremacist won’t win party nod to replace Paul Ryan WASHINGTON (JTA)—Thanking House Speaker Paul Ryan for his service, the Republican Jewish Coalition urged the party to seek an alternative to the racist candidate who is running in Ryan’s Wisconsin district.

Ryan said Wednesday, April 11 that he would serve out his term as speaker, but would not run again this year in order to spend more time with his family.

Paul Nehlen, a far-right candidate who challenged Ryan in the 2016 primary and was beaten soundly, is mounting another run this year. He peddles anti-Semitic tropes about Jewish control of the media.

“Although a fringe candidate with abhorrent neo-Nazi views was already running against the Speaker, we are very confident that with the leadership of the Wisconsin GOP, the eventual Republican nominee to fill Paul Ryan’s House seat (WI-01) will be someone who upholds the GOP’s best values and traditions,” Matt

Brooks, the RJC’s director, said.

Nehlen has raised $160,000 for his run, according to the Open Secrets election monitoring website. The only other Republican contender, Nick Polce, an Army Special Forces veteran, has raised under $18,000. The primary is Aug. 14.

Jewish Democrats also weighed in.

“We call on the Republican Party to strongly disavow Paul Nehlen and on all Republicans to condemn Nehlen and his candidacy,” said the Jewish Democratic Council of America in a statement. “AntiSemitic candidates must not be tolerated.”

Nehlen has also embraced the white supremacist slogan “It’s okay to be white,” seemed to endorse a book that blames Jews for introducing vice into Nordic societies, and tweeted a list of media executives he identified as Jewish or married to Jews.

The RJC has said that it was a mistake that the Republican Party failed to stop a

neo-Nazi from winning the GOP primary last month in Illinois’ 3rd Congressional District. National and state Republicans did not bother to seek or back a candidate in the safely Democratic district comprising parts of Chicago and its southwestern suburbs, leaving the field to Arthur Jones, a one-time leader of the American Nazi Party.

“The GOP didn’t invite Jones into the party. The only mistake was not running a candidate in an uncompetitive, safe-Democrat district,” RJC Chairman Norm Coleman said after the primary last month. “There is no place for Nazis and white supremacists in the Republican Party. Arthur Jones will never be accepted in our party.”

With Ryan’s departure, the district, Wisconsin’s 1st, could go Democratic, according to political forecasters. Randy Bryce, an ironworker and union leader who caught public attention when he

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excoriated the jobs policies of Ryan and President Donald Trump, reportedly has raised nearly $5 million, mostly from small donations, in his bid for the Democratic nomination. Also running is Cathy Myers, a former teacher.

The RJC statement was otherwise effusive in its praise for Ryan, who has been solidly pro-Israel both as a congressman and as speaker of the U.S. House of Representatives.

“In his twenty years of serving his constituents and the people of America, Paul Ryan has never been shy about his passion for public policy and public service,” Coleman said. “He has been steadfast in his support for Israel throughout his career, and few have exemplified the inseparable bond between Israel and the United States more than Paul Ryan.”

Bernie Sanders’ son considering run for Congress in New Hampshire

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evi Sanders, the son of Sen. Bernie Sanders, says he is considering a run for Congress in New Hampshire.

“Oh absolutely, I’m definitely considering it,” the younger Sanders told Vice News of his envisaged bid for the open seat in the 1st District, which is expected to be one of the most contested in the country this year. “I’m excited, motivated, and interested in the race.”

Levi Sanders, 48, told Vice that he would run on a similar platform of Medicare for all and free college tuition that animated his father’s presidential run in 2016, when the elder Sanders beat Hillary Clinton in the New Hampshire Democratic primary, 60.4 to 38 percent. Bernie Sanders, an Independent from Vermont, caucuses with Senate Democrats.

“The basic difference is that I’m a vegetarian and he’s not,” Levi says of his father, adding that despite their policy similarities, he would run his own campaign. Sanders says he has talked to his father about the race but declined to elaborate. (JTA)

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NEW YORK April 16, 2018—In honor of the 70th anniversary of the founding of the State of Israel, American Associates, Ben-Gurion University of the Negev (AABGU) has donated an Israeli flag created by Rebecca Affachiner, often called “the Betsy Ross of Israel,� to the Ben-Gurion Archives at BenGurion University of the Negev on the Sede Boqer Campus.

Rebecca Affachiner made aliyah (immigrated to Israel) in the 1930s. In May 1948 when an American consular official urged her to leave Jerusalem Jerusalem collector Ezra Gorodesky, center, transferred ownership immediately due to the expected of the flag to BGU President Prof. Rivka Carmi, left, and Dr. Adi Portughies, director of the Ben-Gurion Archives, in honor of Israel’s outbreak of hostilities, Affachiner 70th anniversary. refused.

Gorodesky contacted his friend, Rabbi “I cannot abandon my sisters and David Geffen, who made aliyah from brothers,� she told the newspaper, Ma’ariv.

Delaware in the 1970s, and asked him “I have waited my entire lifetime to see the to help find the flag a permanent home. rebirth of a Jewish state. I do not intend David Geffen, a longtime friend of Toni to miss it.� She was confined to her apartYoung, president of AABGU, contacted ment on Jabotinsky Street, unable to buy her and a new home was found. supplies, but she spent her time creating Dr. Paula Kabalo, director of the Benan Israeli flag from her bed sheets. She Gurion Institute, found a letter in its sewed on a six-pointed star and colored Archives from Prime Minister David the flag’s stripes with a blue crayon.

Ben-Gurion sent to Rebecca Affachiner Late in the day on May 14, when acknowledging her gift to the Israel Affachiner heard David Ben-Gurion proDefense Fund in 1957. He praised her as claim the formation of the new State an inspiring example of Jewish devotion: of Israel, she proudly went out to her “It is this spirit which has enabled us to balcony, within sight of the Egyptian achieve our independence and this spirit forces gathered nearby, and hung her will ensure the success of our future flag. She continued to fly the flag every endeavors.�

Israel Independence Day until her death “Rebecca’s original Israel flag is an in 1966, when she entrusted the flag to excellent addition to the Ben-Gurion her good friend and caregiver, Ezra P. Archives,� says Kabalo. “It will be disGorodesky. She made him promise he played with Ben-Gurion’s diaries.� would take good care of the flag because Affachiner was born in Nesvizh, Poland “it was my personal way of welcoming (now Belarus) and grew up on New York’s Israel into existence.�

Eastside. She was the first female graduate Gorodesky, who made aliyah from of New York’s Jewish Theological Center Philadelphia in the early 1960s, is widely in 1907, and was a teacher, administraknown in Israel as an avid collector of tor and charity worker. She also lived in books, buttons and photographs, to name Connecticut and Virginia before making a few. He preserved the flag in his small aliyah in 1934 at age 50. Throughout her apartment for 50 years. life, she was devoted to the welfare of Jews He decided that the 70th anniversary in Israel and worldwide. of Israel would be the appropriate time to find a permanent home for the flag.

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This library of diverse Judaica material focuses on a wide range of subjects from assimilation in today’s world to the worldwide history of Jewish people.

The outstanding Judaica collection features many unique documents, as well as 1,556 books including 679 from the library of Rabbi Stanley Rabinowitz (1917-2012). It covers his early days as a student at New York’s Jewish Theological Seminary followed by 26 years of leading Washington’s largest and oldest conservative synagogue, Adas Israel Congregation.

Rabbi Rabinowitz was the spiritual leader to presidents, Supreme Court justices, diplomats, politicians, and business leaders, even through his retirement years as Rabbi Emeritus. The books include titles in Hebrew or Yiddish. Rabbi Rabinowitz was a man of peace, vision, respect, and cooperation. As a rabbi, teacher,

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This collection also includes a rare archive of original letters in the hand of David Judah of Richmond and T.J. Tobias of New York (1820–1830).

A library reveals more than books.

It creates a synergy. The ability to hold and feel a printed book causes the use of other ‘senses’ which releases all types of satisfaction in brains.

The collection also includes a Shabbat lamp (antique) as well as 12 original period photographs from 1941 Poland (Warsaw) showing people and devastation.

History has shown that a spark can ignite a fire of hatred or a spark for a good cause. This library can only serve to inspire positive paths.

A “GoFundMe” campaign is being considered to make this endeavor a success.

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Hillel at UVa launches campaign to restore historic house CHARLOTTESVILLE, VA—To raise funds for the renovation of University of Virginia’s Brody Jewish Center’s historic 1914 home, the Make Our House a Home Capital Campaign is now underway.

This campaign begins after a period of unprecedented growth for the Jewish community at the University and focuses on creating spaces that respond to student needs. Of the $3-million required to complete the project, $1.95-million has already been pledged in donations from alumni and community members, including a naming gift from 1988 alumnus Doug Berman and his wife Jodi.

This is the second of such capital

campaigns Hillel at UVa has undergone in the last 10 years. The previous campaign, which began in 2006, was to raise funds to build a 10,000-square-foot addition to provide larger spaces for services and gatherings.

“The focus of the last campaign was really about outgrowing our space. What makes this campaign different, is that it’s really about close, interpersonal relationships,” says Rabbi Jake Rubin, executive director at the Brody Jewish Center. “We want to create intimate spaces for studying and for group work, places for students to gather in informal settings. That’s where community really begins.”

tidewater The Brody Jewish Center, during the 2016-17 school year, saw 712 undergraduate students at least once, employing student-centric techniques to help match students with programs that align with their interests.

“Hillel at UVa has received well-deserved international recognition for being one of the strongest [Hillels] in the world,” Doug Berman notes. “The leadership, programming, inclusiveness, and overall impact that it has on the Jewish students at UVa is second to none.”

The $3-million will cover construction and an endowment to for future

maintenance and upkeep of the 100+year old building.

“We’re getting close, and we expect to break ground on construction in May,” Rubin says. “We still have naming opportunities and need support, but I’m confident that we can raise what we need.”

For more information, detailed floor plans, and a project timeline for the Make Our House a Home Campaign, visit www.brodyjewishcenter.org/capital or contact Rabbi Rubin at 434-295-4963 or by email at jake@ brodyjewishcenter.org.

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(JTA)—From his birthplace in Boston to New York, Berlin, South Africa, China, and Israel, Leonard Bernstein (1918–1990), the larger-than-life conductor, pianist, composer, educator and bon vivant, is being celebrated in a two-year bonanza of concerts, stage productions, and programs marking the centennial of his birth. (In Tidewater, Virginia Arts Festival presented Bernstein at 100 earlier this month and presents Bernstein on Broadway in May.) The American-born son of Ukrainian Jewish immigrants, Bernstein’s influence spanned the musical world, from classical music to Broadway.

Thousands of events are featured as a part of #Bernsteinat100, including Leonard Bernstein: The Power of Music, an exhibit that recently opened at the National Museum of American Jewish History in Philadelphia.

Earlier this month, the Library of Congress got in on the act, making available online for the first time free access to more than 3,700 items including letters, photographs, audio recordings, and other material from its vast Leonard Bernstein Collection. The release nearly tripled the library’s digital offerings.

Curious fans with time on their hands can cue up West Side Story, On the Town or the Chichester Psalms, and peruse volumes of scrapbooks in the Library’s collection that were meticulously compiled by Helen Coates, his piano teacher and later, his career-long secretary.

“Bernstein arguably was the most prominent music figure in America in the second half of the 20th century,” according to Mark Horowitz, the collection’s curator, who has been immersed in the details of the maestro’s life for a quarter century.

He described Bernstein as a “polymath, a Renaissance man who wanted to do it all,” from music to education to social activism.

Born on Aug. 28, 1918 in Lawrence, Massachusetts to Jennie and Samuel Bernstein, the young musician famously catapulted onto the world stage in

November, 1943, when he filled in on short notice as conductor for the New York Philharmonic for an ailing Bruno Walter, in a concert broadcast on national television.

Five years later, with his 1958 appointment as music director of the New York Philharmonic, Bernstein became the first American-born and educated conductor— and the first American Jewish conductor—to lead a major American orchestra.

With an estimated 400,000 items, the Bernstein Collection is one of the largest and most varied in the Library’s music division, Horowitz says. The archives fill 1,723 boxes that measure 710 linear feet.

Here are seven treasures from the Library of Congress collection: 1. Bernstein grew up in Boston in a deeply religious family and was influenced by the music he heard at Congregation Mishkan Tefila.

At Congregation Mishkan Tefila, his family’s synagogue, the young Bernstein came under the influence of Solomon Braslavsky, a Viennese composer who became the synagogue’s music director and led its choir. On Oct. 10, 1946, Bernstein wrote to Braslavsky, shortly after Yom Kippur: “I have come to realize what a debt I really owe to you…for the marvelous music at Mishkan Tefila services. They surpass any that I have ever heard.”

Bernstein had a strained relationship with his father, a successful business owner, whose life was guided by Talmudic learning. While he described his father as authoritarian, he admired his depth of knowledge of Jewish texts and thought.

2. Bernstein’s Harvard years were instrumental in shaping his music.

A page in a bluebook dated Jan. 25, 1937, during Bernstein’s sophomore year at Harvard University, displays “handwriting thoroughly familiar to a Bernstein scholar,” according to Carol Oja, a professor at the Harvard Department of Music. In the exam book, Bernstein described Baroque-era toccatas, a musical notation for virtuosic keyboard, as “dramatic, brilliant,…and

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3. Bernstein was smitten by Israel and became a devoted and influential supporter of the Israel Philharmonic.

In November 1948, during Israel’s War of Independence, amidst fighting between the Israeli and Arab armies, Bernstein made his second conducting tour of Israel.

He wrote a nine-page letter to his mother, Jennie, that glows with colorful, playful illustrations by Yossi Stern, a Hungarian refugee who became known as the “painter of Jerusalem.”

“You can see his passion for the young state of Israel, its land, the people and the culture,” according to Ivy Weingram, curator of the exhibit at the NMAJH, where visitors can see one page of the original letter, on loan from the Library of Congress.

Over his career, Bernstein conducted the Israel Philharmonic in 25 different seasons, in Israel, Europe, and the U.S. 4. Following the Six-Dar War, Bernstein performed a concert in Israel.

The July 1967 concert, with violinist Isaac Stern and the Israel Philharmonic, included Hatikvah, Israel’s national anthem; Mendelssohn’s Violin Concerto; and the final movement of Mahler’s Second Symphony, known as the “Resurrection Symphony.”

In his speech at the performance, handwritten on stationery from Jerusalem’s Shemesh Oriental Restaurant, Bernstein recalled his exhilaration conducting the Mahler symphony 19 years earlier, during Israel’s War of Independence. He marveled at the recent unification of Jerusalem, a city he envisioned would inspire peace.

“Is it too much to hope that this growing together of people in peace may radiate out to this general region…and eventually…the world,” he wrote. “Why not? This is Jerusalem,” with the name of the city written in Hebrew.

5. Bernstein was gay. His wife Felicia seemed okay with that.

In 1946, Bernstein married Felicia Cohn Montealegre, a Chilean actress who performed the role of narrator in Bernstein’s

Symphony No. 3, the Kaddish Symphony.

They had three children, Jamie, Alexander, and Nina.

Bernstein didn’t hide his homosexuality and attraction to men from his wife.

Early in their marriage, Felicia wrote a stirring and remarkably broad-minded letter, undated, that revealed the deep love and bond between the couple.

“You are a homosexual and may never change—you don’t admit to the possibility of a double life, but if your peace of mind, your health…depend on a certain sexual pattern, what can you do?” she wrote. “I am willing to accept you as you are, without being a martyr. I happen to love you very much.”

6. West Side Story was originally about Jews and Catholics.

In the 1950s, Bernstein and choreographer Jerome Robbins took inspiration from William Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet, adapting it to the ethnic and racial tensions

of the 20th century. An annotated copy of Romeo and Juliet in the Library of Congress collection is on view at the NMAJH exhibit and includes notes by Bernstein and Robbins. It was originally conceived as East Side Story, about conflicts between Jews and Catholics. Audition notes for West Side Story, which opened on Broadway in 1957, include Bernstein’s comments about a young Warren Beatty, who sought the role of Riff (“Good voice, can’t open jaw—charming as hell—clean cut”).

7. Bernstein had a passion for education Bernstein relished his role as an educator. His children often say it’s among their father’s most enduring legacies. Just two weeks after beginning his notable role as music director of the New York Philharmonic, Bernstein stepped up to the podium at Carnegie Hall to lead the first of his dozens of Young People’s Concerts. It was the first time the series was broadcast live on national television, bringing the

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engaging maestro into America’s living rooms.

For the Feb. 28, 1961 Young People’s Concert, Bernstein captivated his audience with the question, ‘What Makes Music Funny?” The 39-year old maestro started off with a joke about an elephant and a mouse. Humor, even in music, needs an element of surprise, he said. “It’s like a bag full of tricks coming at you,” and always has “something new and eye opening.”

Throughout, Bernstein lifted his baton, leading the orchestra in selections from Haydn and Gilbert and Sullivan to Prokofiev and Brahms.

The Library of Congress is hosting a series of programs from May 12–19 including performances and film screenings. On Saturday, May 19, rarely seen materials from the collection will be on display.

More details on the Bernstein events are on the Library’s website.

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t the Strelitz Early Childhood Education Center, Passover learning includes all of the children.

In the infant program, for example, one child, attracted by a dimpled faux matzah ball, crawled to an eye level poster with matzah balls attached by Velcro… and pulled the ball off the wall. The teacher reattached and the baby pulled it off again. Soon, the baby did this by herself. The walking babies played with water and plastic frogs foreshadowing the song they will sing as two-year-olds when learning the Passover narrative. Babies can’t sing the words, but they can hear them and can certainly play with water and toys.

Movers and doers, the toddlers created a 3D replica of the parted Red Sea out of paper. During a Toddling Through Passover event for children and their parents, teachers set up the activity in the school’s gross motor room. Down the middle of the sea on dry land, they pushed balls and rolled and tumbled on mats. The themed sensory learning continued as they stuffed felt pillows and built gross motor skills sponging paint onto the covers. Toddlers also experienced the interplay of light and dark with a light table and dark glasses—an activity that refers to the plague of darkness in the Passover story.

In the preschool, which begins with two-year-olds and continues though pre-K, much of the narrative of the Exodus from Egypt is told through songs and whimsical books, with the learning child-centered. For example, children helped make matzah and challah and then compared and contrasted the two.

What is yeast and why does it make things rise? Three-year-old students conducted an experiment to learn why. From age level to age level, the students created ritual objects that bring meaning and enrichment to Seder tables, including Seder plates, matzah trays and bags, afikomen covers, and Elijah cups.

An infant enjoys a sensory experience with a matzah ball.

The culmination of Passover learning in the preschool took place with a model Sederim. Two-year-old teachers led students in a community Seder where the ritual objects they learned about were used and heard a young child’s version of the Maggid. They participated in the story telling through songs about working hard as slaves or telling Pharaoh to “Let my people go.” Three- and four-year-old students participated in an annual family model Seder. Parents and grandparents joined students at a meal of symbolic Seder foods, following the order of the Seder with a Haggadah designed to be user friendly for both children and adults.

While the Seder educated about both leading and participating in a meaningful Seder, it was also fun and interactive.

All classes helped tell the Passover story and there was no telling where the afikomen would end up and how it would be ransomed back from the students who gleefully hid it away.

The Passover learning experiences in the Strelitz Early Childhood Education Center are a bridge to learning even more about this spring festival as students move out of preschool and into kindergarten and beyond.

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Women Dear Readers,

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hile we are gearing up for Mother’s Day next month, this section devoted to women is certainly about more than moms—although those special women are

always front and center, of course!

No longer confined to the home tending to the kitchen and laundry, women are everywhere—working, marching, breaking religious barriers, running for office…and of course, taking care of children, husbands, and parents.

Although there’s plenty to write about concerning today’s hottest news topics with women and Jewish connections—from the #MeToo movement to the Jewish women— young and old—who are front and center leading marches about gun violence, we’ve decided to steer clear from all of that and instead, focus on less ‘hot button’ issues.

And, so, Benita Watts’ first-person account of attending her first BBYO convention as both a mom and an advisor is filled with a special spirit and pride…for her community, her Judaism, her position as interim city advisor, and for her son. Plus, those of us who spent countless days and hours at BBYO conventions will be glad to know that the organization is alive and thriving.

The article on page 16 by a busy mom will most likely be relatable to any woman or man who finds themselves juggling the responsibilities of parenthood with…well, just making it through the day.

What women in Israel and the West learn from each other is the topic of an in-depth exploration of how American Jewish women have viewed (and idealized) Israeli women vs the reality and the impact that American Jewish women have had on Israelis. It’s an interesting piece from our JTA partner. Page 18.

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A mom’s first BBYO convention Benita Watts

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recently spent two days with 120 teenagers. Sounds horrific, right! However, what an honor it turned out to be. As interim city director of Tidewater BBYO, while preparing for Spring Cultural, I quite honestly was dreading it. How wrong I was. Not having been a B’nai B’rith Girl, I did not know what to expect. I had some understanding from my 15-year-old son, but it did not prepare me for my first BBYO convention. Yes, 40 years late, but I feel very privileged to have had the opportunity to attend.

The event kicked off on Friday when we welcomed the out-of-town teens from the Eastern Shore, Richmond, and Charlottesville. Reunions took place everywhere as old friends got together, having not seen each other for some time.

After candle lighting, kiddish, and motzi, the teens proceeded to devour 30 pizzas.

After birkat and evening service, it was time for opening ceremonies. Then, I had my first taste of just what these teens learn through BBYO. The outgoing Regional boards (one each for boys and girls chapters) took the stage and formally opened the convention. The outgoing presidents were seniors and this weekend was bittersweet given that they will be moving away from this “family” with which they have become so connected. The maturity and leadership skills these teens displayed were astounding and I could feel their bonding and love. Before we called it a night, there was time for a quick competition between the chapters—Chopped: Dessert. For those not familiar with the show, each team is given some ingredients with which to create something edible. In this case, it was graham crackers, dessert toppings, and cans of whipped cream.

Great ingredients for a mess, but the judges seemed to try all the offerings and great fun was had by all. Then, it was time to find house guests and head home.

Saturday began bright and early with Shacharit. After services, the competitions began in earnest: Mini-golf,

project runway, debate, and family feud.

It appeared that everyone took part in at least one competition. After lunch came the competitive events that each chapter had worked on for several weeks including best music video and best song, along with chapter shirts, which each chapter had designed and ordered for this convention. Everything these teens presented, they had prepared themselves as a chapter or team with minimal adult input.

Following a couple of hours free time, when we left the Campus and ate dinner (and I even managed to get some laundry done), we returned to the JCC for evening competitions. These are the sporting events—super-competitive, but everyone had a great attitude. Basketball, volleyball, and dodgeball for the sporty ones, and giant games for the not-so-sporty: Connect Four, Jenga, and Corn Hole.

I heard my son telling our guests that Havadala is special, and it really was. I have never experienced one as meaningful.

Then, just before the much-anticipated dance, was my favorite part of the

The 28th Virginia Council Board. From left to right: Michael Zedd (Richmond), Jared Gordon (VB), Shane Bishop (Richmond), Zach Sissel (VB), Phillip Goldstein (VB), Mike Stein (Richmond), Andrew Gross (VB), Corinne Brager (Richmond), Jamie Friedman (VB), Leah Weinstock (Richmond), Ariela Press (Richmond), Margaux Gaser (Richmond), Allison Comess (VB), Shelby Brown (VB).

weekend—Havdalah. I heard my son telling our guests that Havadalah is special, and it really was. I have never experienced one as meaningful. Led by the boys’ Schliach and girls’ Sh’licha, candles were lit and carried by the outgoing board members before every other teen entered the room in a snake-like procession.

Thirty minutes of singing took placed accompanied by the guitar and every teen participated. It was so, so special and afterwards my son asked what I thought.

He told me he loves this Havadalah service and that he hopes I get to experience it at a larger event when it is even more impressive. He says he feels such a strong sense of belonging and connection with his fellow BBYO members. Could I ask for more as a parent?

Sunday was election day for the Regional boards. Again, the teens impressed me with their organizational and leadership skills, running the proceedings themselves with occasional guidance from staff. The skills exhibited by the teens on the current Regional board were outstanding and their interactions uplifting. Candidates spoke with poise and confidence and whether or not they were successful, the experience will

Benita Watts with her son, Daniel.

certainly stand them in good stead.

After elections and lunch, the weekend concluded with installations and closing ceremonies. With that completed, the out-of-town teens got on their buses, the local teens went home, and all was quiet.

And, I was left to contemplate this incredible experience. I am so grateful that my son and his friends are so involved in BBYO and I look forward to following their experiences as they embrace the opportunities offered by this amazing organization.

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Women Eight things you have to give up when you have a lot of kids Zibby Owens

(Kveller via JTA)—When I found out I was pregnant with my fourth child, I cried. In fact, I cried for a couple weeks— when I wasn’t vomiting, that is. I had a 10-month-old at the time, and I was still getting used to dealing with three kids.

How I could possibly manage four?

I wasn’t one of those carefree, laidback moms who dealt with things calmly and happily. I like order, clean rooms, being on time, being in control.

And as desperate as I was to have my first three kids, I’d literally never considered having four. Be careful what you wish for: The fertility gods to whom I’d prayed overdelivered. I was going to have to deal with the blessing I’d been given.

Now, almost four years later, I’m still standing. Well, sitting. Actually, I’m slumped over a table at a bookstore cafe

with my third cup of coffee and it isn’t even 9 am. But my gorgeous, sweet, hilarious son is the light of my life. He’s so popular that I spend half my time juggling his social schedule: multiple parties on the weekends, seemingly constant playdates with both girls and boys. Some days he’s the one who keeps me going when I want to return the other three. (Haha, just kidding. I would never write that.)

I knew that in having a big family, I’d have to give up certain things (like sleep).

But here are a few of the bigger surprises: 1. Walking. These days, I run everywhere. My physical therapist is literally on vacation in Morocco—that’s thanks to all the sessions I paid for after a winter spent sprinting up and down Park Avenue in wedge boots. But no matter how much time I budget to get somewhere, something unexpected always happens and

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I have to race to pick up or drop off the kids. Like this morning—I was ready (on time!) to drop off the big kids at school.

I was about to join them on the elevator when I heard my little guy start wailing “Ooww-eee!” Turns out he dropped “Caps for Sale” on his foot while hanging out on the pantry floor. Typical.

2. The blow dryer. I started drying my hair in the 1980s with my mother’s megaphone-size diffuser attached to a salon-size blow dryer. I dried my hair every day, sometimes twice a day. But now that I have absolutely no time to do this—I barely have any time to shower—I’ve realized that all that drying has been a complete waste of time. Yes, my hair is a little wavier. Yes, icicles form on the ends of my hair as I drop the kids off in the frigid mornings. But hey, no biggie!

3. The first hour of every party. You know those invitations that say “7 pm cocktails; 8 pm dinner?” I’m not getting there for cocktails. If I get there at all.

These days I barely get to attend parties that don’t use Octonauts paper plates— but if I do go to an adults-only affair, I’m late. When the school benefit I was supposed to attend, for instance, was starting—I was still collecting goodie bags at a birthday party with three of my kids, who were running loose in a gym, high on cake.

4. Reading newspapers the day they arrive. Call me a Luddite, but I refuse to give up my newspaper habit. There’s something about print that I just can’t relinquish. It’s efficient, too: I can skim three newspapers in about 20 minutes and get enough of the cultural zeitgeist to keep up. The problem? I don’t usually have 20 minutes. So I pile the unread papers on the kitchen counter thinking I’ll get to them the next day. Or the next.

5. Any self-care that occurs outside the house. Eyebrow shaping? Pedicures?

Not going to happen. I can’t do anything that requires an appointment. (Except for highlights to hide the gray hairs. That’s

non-negotiable.) Everything else I’ve figured out how to do myself. I feel like Frenchy with her pink-dyed hair from Grease in the “Beauty School Dropout” scene. I’m like a self-taught, pathetic excuse of an aesthetician—but, hey, it works. Mostly.

6. Sending thoughtful baby gifts. I used to send personalized trains and step stools, monogrammed bibs and diaper bags. Now I can’t remember how many kids even my close friends have. To be honest, I can’t even remember my own kids’ names half the time! Actually, I think I might have sent a baby gift, but I can’t really ask to confirm. But I promise to try again with the next kid.

7. Handwritten thank-you notes. I was brought up to use my best, personalized stationary to write neat, thoughtful letters to anyone who gave me anything. I did this for years, and kept it up until I got to the third kid. By the time my fourth kid arrived, I was lucky to even email a note.

(I feel terrible about this.)

8. Committees. Board meetings? Yes. Brainstorming and fundraising and hosting events? Yes. But any organization that requires my participation on a committee is out of luck—I’m not leaving the kids for any breakout sessions. If something is going to add more emails to my life, I say no.

Yes, it’s true: I’m a sleep-deprived, running-frantic-down-the-street mom with wet hair in winter who hasn’t seen the inside of a workout studio in a couple years. But as they say in The Greatest Showman, “I am brave, I am bruised, I am who I’m meant to be, this is me.”

Zibby Owens is a freelance writer and mother of four in New York. She co-authored the book Your Perfect Fit [McGraw-Hill]. Follow her on Instagram @zibbyowens.)

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Women This Israeli-Ethiopian woman brings the food of her cultures to Harlem Josefin Dolsten

NEW YORK ( JTA)—At Tsion Café in Harlem, visitors can order a vegetable injera, an Ethopian sourdough flatbread topped with vegetable, lentil and chickpea stews. There is traditional shakshuka, a dish common in Israel and the Middle East where eggs are cooked in a hearty tomato sauce. And then there’s the scrambled eggs with caramelized onions and lox.

The assortment of menu items— random as it may seem—tells the story of the eatery’s owner, Beejhy Barhany, an Ethiopian Jew who moved here by way of Israel.

Tsion Cafe, which is located in the historic Sugar Hill district of the Manhattan neighborhood, represents all of Barhany’s identities.

“It’s a celebration of the Ethiopian, Israeli and American [cultures], so we are

encompassing and celebrating all of these together,” she says.

Barhany, 42, also wants the restaurant to serve as a cultural center of sorts. On the wall hang paintings by local artists, and on the weekends, bands play jazz, a nod to the neighborhood’s influential role during the Harlem Renaissance, when African-American artists, musicians and writers converged in Harlem.

Barhany came to New York in 2000.

She was enamored with the city on a trip here after completing her Israeli army service.

In this city, she feels less defined by her race or status as an immigrant than she did in Israel.

“Here you could be whomever you are and nobody knows who I am. I’m Ethiopian, I’m a New Yorker, I’m here, but I’m not categorized as Ethiopian, Russian, Yemenite,” she says, referring to immigrant groups to Israel that have faced

various types of discrimination.

Barhany was four years old when her family left Ethiopia for Israel. The journey took three years, passing through Sudan, Kenya, Uganda, and Europe. They arrived in Israel in 1983, in the early days of the Ethiopian migration to Israel.

In Israel, the family initially lived in an immigrant absorption center in Pardes Hana, in the country’s north, later moving to the city of Ashkelon. At 13, Barhany decided to move to a kibbutz, where she lived until joining the army at 18.

Barhany disputes what she sees as a common but distorted narrative: that Ethiopian Jews were poor and suffering prior to moving to Israel. She says her family chose to leave Ethiopia because of a longstanding wish to return to the Jewish homeland. “[W]e voluntarily left Ethiopia because we wanted to be in Israel,” she says. “We had our land, we had our properties, we

didn’t starve or anything like it. We were doing very well.”

Barhany opened Tsion Café in 2014 with her husband, Padmore John, a native of the Caribbean island republic Dominica.

Barhany is also the founder of Beta Israel of North America, a group for Ethiopian Jews. She founded the group in 2000, so she could come together with others who shared her background. She estimates that some 1,000 Ethiopian Jews live in the New York area.

Her two children, a 12-year-old girl and 8-year-old boy, are part of the Ethiopian Jewish community here—and other communities as well.

“They are Ethiopian, Israeli, American, Caribbean,” she says.

“I’m a proud Ethiopian, a proud Jew, a proud black female living in Harlem, so all of that is part of me,” she says. “I celebrate all of that.”

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NEW YORK ( JTA)—American Jewish women have idealized Israeli women as feminist role models since the days of prestate Israel, when women were photographed plowing fields alongside men.

Post-independence posters featured images of female soldiers fighting alongside men. A chain-smoking Golda Meir served as Israel’s prime minister nearly 50 years before a major American political party would even nominate the first woman for president.

It’s a persistent myth of female empowerment, but a myth all the same.

“Until recently there was a perception that Israel had real equality for women,” says Francine Klagsbrun, a New Yorker and author of the recently published biography Lioness: Golda Meir and the Nation of Israel (Schocken). “Women were in the army.

Only later did we learn they often had servile positions and in the yishuv [prestate Israel] women were laughed at when they tried to build roads. It was not the equality women here believed they had.”

Israeli and American Jewish women have learned much from each other since Israel was born 70 years ago. There has been an intertwined mutual influence, say leaders in both countries. American women were inspired by powerful Israeli role models.

And Israelis absorbed, often slowly, feminist ideas from their sisters abroad.

“We were seen as superwoman,” agrees Anat Hoffman, a Jerusalemite who is the director of Women of the Wall and the Israel Religious Action Center, which advocates for civil and religious rights.

“But we suffer from the disparity of salaries and domestic violence” as American women.

“For too long, Israeli women were romanticized and objectified. How many times I heard the sentence ‘but I thought you guys were so strong!’ No, I’m much more like you than you can imagine,” she says. “Romanticizing has done neither of

us a lot of good.”

Golda Meir had much to do with that romanticization. In 1948, the Kiev-born, Milwaukee-raised kibbutznik was the face of Israel during a barnstorming fundraising tour of the United States ahead of the inevitable war for independence. She went on to serve in a wide range of Jewish Agency and government roles before becoming prime minister in 1969, a position she held until 1974. Since then, there has not been another woman in the role.

“She continues to be seen as a woman who made it, one to emulate, a strong woman who knew how to use both her political and womanly skills to get ahead,” Klagsbrun says.

Overall, American Jewish women have had greater impact on Israelis than the reverse, she says.

“Once the feminist movement became important in America, it very much influenced Israelis in forming their own,” Klagsbrun says.

Yet there was resistance to American feminism among many Israelis. Writer and political activist Betty Friedan wrote in the New York Times in 1984, “On my first pilgrimage to Israel, in 1974, Golda Meir had refused even to meet with me.

Hostile Israeli women leaders, like so many male Jewish leaders in the United States, considered ‘women’s lib’ a threat to the Jewish family.”

That resistance continues today, some say.

Elana Sztokman, a writer focused on gender issues and a rabbinical student in Israel’s Reform movement, was raised in Brooklyn and moved to Israel in 1993.

She lives in Modiin and is involved with Women Wage Peace, a grassroots organization that brings together women from every sector of Israeli life—religious and secular, conservative and progressive, Arab and Jewish—to press for a settlement to the Israeli-Palestinian conflict.

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“There is a resistance of native-born Israelis to impact by American-born women.” By way of example, she noted a distinct lack of interest by the Hebrew-language media in covering events spurred by American issues, like a March for Our Lives in Tel Aviv.

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Women of the Wall, which advocates for women to pray as they wish at the Western Wall, embodies the influence and limits of largely American feminist ideas in Israel. Americans launched the group in 1988. They were in Israel for the First International Feminist Jewish Conference when Rivka Haut organized a group of 70 to pray together at the Kotel.

Klagsbrun headed the procession while carrying a Torah scroll, making her the first woman in history to bring one to the Western Wall.

The prayer group meets at the start of each month at the Western Wall to pray and has met fierce resistance from the Orthodox rabbi who controls the site.

Members have been arrested for trying to read from a Torah scroll.

But while a 2013 poll found that half of Israelis supported the aims of Women of the Wall, and many of its members and supporters are native Israelis, there has been no public outcry to hold the government accountable for agreements it has made with the group and broken.

Women of the Wall continues to be regarded as an American import.

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Kaufman. NCJW convened a symposium in Israel in March that brought together 260 Israeli and American women.

“We are constantly engaging with Israelis when they come to the U.S.,” she says, “and we would love to formalize an exchange program.”

Shalvi, a longtime Jewish educator, described how she was influenced by religious feminists in America. On her first visit to New York, in 1977, she met Judith Hauptman, a Talmud scholar and future rabbi, and Arlene Agus, who revived the ancient custom of celebrating Rosh Chodesh (the start of each month) as a women’s holiday. They told her about Ezrat Nashim, a group advocating for greater ritual roles for women. At the time she was principal of Jerusalem’s Pelech school for Orthodox girls, which from its founding included Talmud study. Yet she had never thought of women leading worship.

On her second visit to the U.S., in 1979, Shalvi was first called to the Torah.

And burst into tears.

“I realized it was the first time I had seen a Torah scroll up close,” she says. “I was 53 years old and thought if I’d been a boy, I would have done this 40 years earlier. The unfairness and injustice of it struck me so.”

Since then there has been enormous growth in the number of women seriously engaged in Torah scholarship, from the plethora of post-high school seminary programs for girls in Israel to graduate programs in Talmud for women in the U.S., including at the Orthodox Yeshiva University, and in Israel at Bar-Ilan University.

Despite the cross-fertilization of ideas, a mystique about Israeli women still has a hold on American Jews, says Galit Peleg, Israel’s consul for public diplomacy in New York.

It has been revived by Wonder Woman herself. Since portraying the superhero in the 2017 film, Israeli actress Gal Gadot has since been nearly ubiquitous in American media, charming late night talk show hosts and audiences alike with her confidence and warm candor.

“She’s the Israeli woman that kicks ass,” says Peleg, Peleg recently spoke to a group of

Americans at a pre-Passover event and mentioned, in passing, having served in Israel’s military. From that moment on, that’s all the American Jewish women wanted to hear about, she says.

It seems that the Wonder Woman effect—the image of Israeli women as strong, confident, funny and warm— tenaciously clings to the way American Jewish women think of their Israeli sisters.

Yet there are challenges unique to Israeli women, say experts.

“The state of constant conflict and a divisive political landscape is a reality that especially marginalizes women’s voices,” according to the NCJW/Dafna Fund report. “Rising nationalism and religious fundamentalism that is increasingly part of the political atmosphere is further preventing the inclusion of women’s voices in public debate.”

There are also ways in which Israeli women are trying to bring their confidence to American Jews.

Take Supersonos. The organization was created in Israel three years ago by advertising executive Hana Rado to increase women’s visibility as speakers, on panels and at conferences, and on boards of directors. Supersonos has grown rapidly in Israel and in newer outposts in Berlin, London and New York, says Keren Kay, a co-founder. Three years ago it had 100 women in its network of professionals. Now it has over 2,000, says Kay, who lives in New York.

But the culture gap has an impact: Supersonos holds networking events in New York. And though there have been powerful women working on the same issues in the American Jewish community for years, Kay was unaware of them.

“It’s a dialogue,” says Women Wage Peace’s Gouri. “I wish there was more of a dialogue and that there was more of an exchange. There is so much for us on both sides to learn.”

NCJW’s Kaufman says: “We have a lot to learn from the Israelis and we have a lot to offer them in building civil society.

There’s learning back and forth from both sides. We’re going to try to build this woman-to-woman relationship over the next 70 years.”

Women What my mini-midlife crisis made me realize Danielle Ames Spivak

(Kveller via JTA)­—My recent 34th birthday brought a mini-midlife crisis. A 48-hour period of existential questioning concluded with a watershed moment: I need to have more fun.

That’s easier said than done. With work, three little kids, bills, and trying to run a traditional Jewish home, I realized I’ve completely forgotten about fun.

When I was in my early 20s, Saturday nights were spent at nightclubs in the Meatpacking District followed by shawarma runs with friends at 3 am. So what happened? After decade’s worth of stresses—which included a husband in surgical residency who was never around, losing my first pregnancy at 22 weeks, and working full-time through nauseous pregnancies with very short maternity leaves—fun had slipped to the bottom of my very long to-do list.

It’s hard to prioritize fun when everyone in your orbit depends on you for survival. But I now realize I need to shift some of these priorities around.

One recent evening, my five-year-old daughter made a joke, and I laughed out loud. Her response? “Mom, I have never heard you laugh before.” That isn’t true, of course. I do laugh, on occasion—especially when I am watching Keeping Up with the Kardashians.

But she had a point: I am too serious.

My mother—who is smart and loving with a doctorate in Jewish studies—seemed to only enjoy life’s little luxuries once her kids left home, like playing mah jongg and going to the gym. For the sake of my sanity, however, I can’t wait until retirement. I need to lighten up now.

“Me time” is something I realized I’d confused with “fun time”—that an occasional manicure wasn’t cutting it in the “fun” department. But since I’m not able to jet off for a long weekend in Cabo with my girlfriends, I’m learning to recognize that fun can be had during life’s little moments.

I’m determined to unearth the slightest instances of humor and lightheartedness

in my everyday life—“being in the now” is my new mantra.

Every weekend, for example, my Instagram friends share their “Sunday Funday” posts. I decided it’s time I had a Sunday Funday, too. The Sunday after my birthday, my husband was working, and my kids and me were coughing as if we had hairballs in our throats. But instead of feeling sorry for myself, we all bundled up—it was 60 degrees—and went to the park.

We climbed to the top of the slide and, one by one, my kids rode down on my lap. We giggled, amusing ourselves in the most simple way. Thoughts of “what should I make for dinner?” faded and I let go of regret that we weren’t going on vacation anytime soon. Instead, I saw the playground through the delighted eyes of my kids. And you know what? It was fun.

Later that week, I brought my fouryear-old daughter to my office. Together, we explored a place familiar to me through her eyes. We ate m&ms and colored at my desk. Another day, my two-year-old son and I did errands, but we stopped on the sidewalk to wait and watch airplanes in the sky, jumping and squealing together.

Don’t get me wrong, I also need adult fun in my life. Whether it means my husband and I get out more to comedy or dance clubs, or to play tennis, or to drink martinis—or all of the above—I’m working on making that happen.

Still, the first step was me acknowledging that fun is a state of mind. I’ve learned that no amount of money or time or energy will bring fun—the key is being present.

As my Nana Goldie always said, “The past is history, the future is a mystery, but the present is a gift.” This year, I am going to relish in the present and laugh a lot more along the way. Who’s with me?

Danielle Ames Spivak is mom to three kids ages five and under based in Los Angeles.

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Women Five books even crazy busy moms will want to read Jordana Horn

(Kveller via JTA)—So many people tell me that they don’t have time to read. I understand the dilemma. Reading is often portrayed as an immersive experience, one that you can’t do without a fullfledged commitment of an event-free day and a deck chair.

Well, would-be reader, I’d say that is wrong. I read in five-minute increments wherever I go, and you can, too, with these riveting books easily broken into small, digestible and delicious chunks.

I Am, I Am, I Am, Maggie O’Farrell’s memoir, is perfect in so many ways.

Among those ways is how suitable it is for those who only have time to read in truncated chunks like commutes or carpool lines: The book is written in a

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From the very first gripping tale of a hike, I found myself riveted by how well she marries well-crafted prose with fascinating experiences. O’Farrell takes the reader along the course of her life, whether it is in a near-miss on a mountain hike or submerged beneath a riptide in a deep, night-darkened sea.

The memoir jumps around O’Farrell’s life non-sequentially, much like how a parent’s mind leapfrogs all over the place in the middle of the night. In choosing to have her stories not be recounted in linear time, the author makes the implicit case that experience is not valuable due to its proximity to the present, but rather due to its proximity to the roots of who we are as people.

Who we are is determined by where we have been and what we take away from those experiences. From childhood encephalitis to near-drowning to miscarriage to birth, we are a jumbled aggregate of feelings, longings and fear.

That jumble takes its fullest and particularly rich form in her chapter, Daughter, in which she recounts the experience of an unexpected pregnancy turned into a daughter with a long list of allergies, several of which could trigger lethal anaphylaxis. As O’Farrell writes about the effects of living with a child with a life-threatening condition, parental readers will feel their very heartbeat synchronize with hers.

“Your lives are conducted with a constant background hum of potential peril,” she writes. “You begin to experience the world differently. You may no longer go for a walk and see a garden, a playground, a farm full of goat kids. You must always be tabulating and assessing risk: that pollinating silver birch, those food wrappers in the rubbish bin, those flowering nut trees, those gamboling dogs, shedding their dander and fur into the air.”

Her masterful choice of the second person to reel you into her life and her love leaves you—no pun intended in a book about near-death—breathless.

Mothers of Sparta: A Memoir in Pieces,

by Dawn Davies, is similar to O’Farrell in that it is a collection of easily readable, hard-to-put-down essays, but radically different in that it is a more humorous and fiercely honest collection.

I’ll cut to the chase: This is one of the best books I have ever read. I can’t say it better than the reviewer who wrote on Goodreads, “This is the first book I have read that both wrenches your gut with heartbreak and makes you laugh out loud at the humor at the same time.” It’s that marriage of pain and humor that Davies makes perfectly in her prose.

Davies tells the story of her itinerant life, moving from place to place as a child, and her tales of finding love and creating a new blended family. She does so with flagrant, fierce honesty, and that honesty resonates with truth and purpose. As she watches her children swimming at night and takes pictures of them, she writes: “And as you click two simple photos, paper fossils that will one day remind you how they once walked the Earth, you realize you have taken everything for granted.

Your time with them. Their brief speck of time as children, the soft faces that turn to you as if you are the sun, the fact that time seems to move so slowly when in fact, it is whipping past you at one thousand miles

Women per hour and why you haven’t flown off into space is beyond your comprehension. They will never stay yours, for they weren’t yours to begin with.”

What a beautiful kick in the face that is.

Mrs., by Caitlin Macy, is a contrast to the others. The novel is a wild and crazy ride through the wild and crazy world of Manhattan schools, parents and students.

I have always been fascinated by this world in the anthropological vein of Wednesday Martin’s Primates of Park Avenue. In a world with so much ambition and so much wealth, what could go wrong? A lot, as it turns out.

Mrs. follows an independent woman as she navigates her way through this world from the vantage point of smart, detached and yet inextricably involved outsider. She has a front-row seat—and even, semi-unintentionally, a role—in the downfall of a prominent and beautiful socialite mother and her Manhattan family. If you liked Big Little Lies, either the book or the show, you will read this and immediately start casting parts in your head.

Only Child, by Rhiannon Navin, is pretty much the antithesis of a light read.

It’s an emotionally gripping, riveting book that will seize you and not let go.

It’s written from the point of view of a six-year-old survivor of a school shooting,

suspicions were unfounded).

The nosy neighbor Lucille, right out of Central Casting, provides a great triangulation to the relationship. Each person grows unexpectedly from encountering the others. Let’s go with the food analogy and say the book is sweet rather than savory. I’m not making the case that it will change your life. But like those M&Ms carefully hidden in bags of trail mix, the book will make you happy. And sometimes that’s enough.

which initially I worried that I would find cloying. Instead, after getting past some of my issues with language used (“would a six-year-old really say that in that way?”), it was a relief of sorts to read things through a child’s viewpoint.

After all, personally, I am in a mom’s head basically 24/7, so the opportunity to see things through a child’s eyes was the equivalent of shaking the kaleidoscope and acquiring a new sight in exchange. It was a gift, as a parent, to be able to see these events that preoccupy me daily through the eyes (even if fiction) of a child.

It was also truly enlightening to get back in touch with ideas and ideals of forgiveness through childhood innocence.

Kids have feelings, we remember as we read this book, that may not be nuanced in the way ours are, but have their own nuances and permutations and unexpected elements just the same.

Jordana Horn is a contributing editor to Kveller. She has written for the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Washington Post, the Los Angeles Times, the Forward and Tablet. She has appeared as a parenting expert on the Today show and Fox and Friends.

Kveller is a thriving community of women and parents who convene online to share, celebrate and commiserate their experiences of raising kids through a Jewish lens. Visit Kveller.com.

The Story of Arthur Truluv, by Elizabeth Berg, is more of an on-the-go snack for those who might be intimidated by a more immersive and emotional read.

This novel is a comparatively quick read and is upbeat about second chances at happiness. Arthur is a widower who meets a troubled teenager, Maddy, at the cemetery, and strikes up a completely appropriate friendship with her (I know, I am among the more cynical, and that struck me as suspect, too, but my

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Women This video will feature women and transgender Jews teaching you how to wear tefillin Josefin Dolsten

(JTA)—Rachel Putterman never learned how to put on tefillin when she was younger, so when she enrolled in rabbinical school, she consulted with fellow students. But the 52-year-old couldn’t quite get the hang of how to properly align the leather straps and tiny boxes of the phylacteries, which Jews are commanded to bind on their arm and forehead during weekday morning prayers.

She went looking for tutorial videos on YouTube, but was disappointed to see that many of the videos featured only men.

“It was just upsetting to me that there was nobody that looked like me. It seemed like a glaring gap,” Putterman, a student at Hebrew College, a pluralistic rabbinical school near Boston, says.

She also noticed that many of the video tutorials were not shot professionally and

were of poor quality. Putterman decided to change that.

Last month, the former public interest lawyer set up a fundraising page for money to produce a high-quality video featuring a diverse group of people showing how to wrap tefillin. The video, which Putterman is directing and fellow Hebrew College rabbinical student Gita Karasov is producing, will be called All Genders Wrap and include a diverse group of 10 people, including women and men of various ages, ethnic and racial backgrounds, as well as transgender and gender-nonconforming Jews.

“I want to make a statement to counter what you see when you go on YouTube, that there are people of all genders engaged in practice,” says Putterman, who enrolled in Hebrew College as a part-time student in 2013 and is now a third-year full-time student.

The video will also feature a Jew who wraps tefillin according to Sephardic rather than Ashkenazic customs, and a lefthanded person (left-handed people wear tefillin on the right rather than left arm).

Though she initially received a positive response from members of the Hebrew College community, she was not sure if the project would resonate with a larger audience.

“My instinct was that this was going to strike a chord within a small subset of the Jewish community: the part of the community that is interested in laying tefillin but not the Orthodox,” she says.

Tefillin have traditionally been worn almost exclusively by men, and most Orthodox congregations continue to follow that practice. However, many non-Orthodox synagogues encourage both men and women to strap on the leather boxes, which contain handwritten

parchments with texts from the Torah, during prayer.

Putterman’s instinct turned out to be right—she surpassed her goal of $5,000 in eight days, with over 100 people donating.

She will use the money to hire a professional crew (the cast is made up entirely of volunteers) to shoot and edit the video. Putterman hopes to release the video in September, and also plans to launch a website that will feature the personal stories of each of the 10 instructors.

Putterman says that making the video was a way for her to unite her passions for feminism with her Jewish practice.

“I’ve been a feminist activist my whole life,” she says. “There’s something so profoundly satisfying about this visual imagery of non-cis[gender] men wearing this stuff, and not just wearing it but engaged in the practice.”

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it’s a wrap Blue Yarmulke celebrates honorees

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hree area conservative congregations had their annual Men’s Club Blue Yarmulke breakfast at Temple Israel on Sunday, April 15.

Temple Israel honored Jonathan Longman, seen here with his wife, Linda.

Beth El honored Pam Gladstone, seen here with her husband, Arnold.

The annual event drew a large crowd at Temple Israel.

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Save the Date Please join the community as we honor

Harry Graber United Jewish Federation of Tidewater Executive Vice President

On his retirement after 30 years of service to the Tidewater Jewish community

Cocktail reception and program Thursday, June 14, 2018 6 pm Reba and Sam Sandler Family Campus Free and open to the community For information and to RSVP, contact Tammy Mujica at 757-965-6124 or tmujica@ujft.org

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Jewish Family Service’s Spring Into Healthy Living features exercise, music, medicine, and hope Music. Medicine.

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and alternative medicine. In September 2009, she received a double lung transplant at the Cleveland Clinic in Ohio. After complications from rejection, she received a second double lung transplant in January 2012. Since receiving her transplant, she has shared her story and vocal talents at numerous conferences and events around the country. Tilleman-Dick has been featured on NPR Weekend Edition with Scott Simon, CBS This Morning, CNN with Dr. Sanjay Gupta, TED.com, The Huffington Post, The Washington Post, and BBC Radio.

Tilleman-Dick’s memoir, The Encore, was published in October 2017. She has performed throughout the U.S., Asia and Europe. In 2014, Tilleman-Dick released her debut album, American Grace, which reached #1 on the Traditional Classical charts on Billboard.

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14th Annual Run, Roll or Stroll Sunday, May 6 24th Street Park Virginia Beach Boardwalk

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ewish Family Service of Tidewater’s 14th Annual Run, Roll or Stroll features an 8K run, 5K run, 5K walk, and a 1 Mile run/walk. Families and individuals of all ages are encouraged to attend to walk, run, or just cheer on the participants.

“We always look forward to JFS’s annual Run, Roll, and Stroll,” says Robin Mancoll. “We enjoy participating together as a family while walking (or running) with our friends, and at the same time, supporting an organization doing amazing work in the community.”

“This is our 14th Run, Roll or Stroll and we hope to see everyone that Sunday morning at the oceanfront,” says Betty Ann Levin, JFS executive director. “It’s truly a great event for our community.”

The excitement is not just limited to running/walking on the boardwalk.

Inside 24th Street Park, attendees will be

treated to music by the New 101.3 radio station. Kids of all ages have the opportunity to be transformed thanks to face painter, Ashley Pickin, be dazzled by incredible balloon art creations of Ryan the Balloon Guy, and many additional fun things to explore.

Got gently used (or new) athletic shoes to recycle? Drop them off in shoe recycling bins at the race or at Race Packet Pickup on Friday, May 4. The shoes will be donated to MORE Foundation Group (www.morefoundationgroup.org).

JFS hopes to collect at least 50 pairs of shoes. *No street shoes accepted.

Race participants are encouraged to pick up their race packets (bibs, swag bags, etc.) at Race Packet Pickup Friday, May 4, 8 am–4 pm. Packet pickup will be held in the Cardo of the Simon Family JCC, or packets may be picked up on race day if necessary.

This event is sponsored by the Copeland/ Klebanoff families. The finish line is sponsored

by Dr. and Mrs. Ronald Dozoretz.

Register at www.jfsrunrollorstroll.org.

About Dr. Marie Budev

This program is sponsored by Linda H. Kaufman and presented by JFS in partnership with the Brock Institute of Eastern Virginia Medical School, LifeNet Health, WHRO, and the Chrysler Museum of Art. Free and open to the public. Preregistration is required. To register, visit reservations.chrysler.org. For further details, call 757-333-6232.

About Charity Tillemann-Dick After receiving a diagnosis of Idiopathic Pulmonary Arterial Hypertension in 2004, Charity TillemanDick served as the national spokesper- Charity son for the Pulmonary Tillemann-Dick Hypertension Association, working to raise awareness, increase federal research funding, expand stem cell research, and promote preventative

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n uplifting evening featuring Charity Sunshine Tillemann-Dick and Dr. Marie Budev will take place in the Chrysler Museum of Art’s George M. and Linda H. Kaufman Theater.

Charity Sunshine Tillemann-Dick is an American-born soprano and a twotime double lung transplant recipient.

Budev is the medical director of the Cleveland Clinic’s Lung and Heart-Lung Transplant Program and the Macon and Joan Brock Endowed Chair. Together, they will tell an inspiring story of music, medicine, and hope.

Jane Gardner, former local TV news anchor and four-time cancer survivor, will introduce this program and Dr. Kamal Chemali, neurologist and director of Sentara Healthcare’s Music and Medicine Center, will accompany Tillemann-Dick on the piano.

The medical director of the Cleveland Clinic Lung Transplant and Heart and Lung Transplant program, Dr. Marie Budev completed her residency Dr. Marie Budev and chief residency at the Cleveland Clinic Foundation and went on to subspecialize in Pulmonary and Critical Care Medicine at the Cleveland Clinic, as well.

Budev joined the staff of the Cleveland Clinic in 2005 and specializes in the treatment of adult patients who have end stage lung disease and congenital heart diseases who are refractory to further medical and surgical therapies.

She is the primary investigator for multiple clinical trials focusing on reducing chronic rejection and antibody mediated in lung transplant recipients.

Spring Into Healthy Living is sponsored by Presenting Sponsor: TowneBank and Lead Sponsor: The Lee & Bernard Jaffe* Family Fund of the Tidewater Jewish Foundation. *Of blessed memory

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what’s happening What does Israel look like to you?— The Tidewater Umbrella Project

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ALUT—Courageous Expressions In observance of Autism Awareness Month April

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n original and captivating art exhibition that champions self-expression, particularly as a powerful tool of connectivity for those lacking alternative modes of communication, Courageous Expressions is a mixed media, group exhibition of works created by untrained artists from the Israeli Society for Autistic Children (the ALUT Institute), a leading care provider for individuals with autism in Israel.

The exhibition’s body of work is both uniquely beautiful and interestingly abstract, while individual works are supremely complex in depicting the expressive voice behind each piece.

ALUT’s Courageous Expressions exhibition seeks to inspire ongoing creativity and authenticity, honor the courage of all artistic expression, and stimulate unbridled acceptance. In celebrating the varying voices of art, Courageous Expressions hopes to promote access to the untapped, organic, and powerful voices of the ALUT Institute’s many talented artists.

Proceeds from the sales of the Courageous Expressions exhibit will go towards additional art classes in the ALUT employment centers for young adults with severe autism in Israel, as an additional means of therapy and rehabilitation.

About the artist: Osnat Polak works at ALUT’s Occupational Center in Holon, Israel. She is deaf-mute and has high-functioning autism. She expresses a world with colors, drawing in combined techniques and painting from within her private world, not with models.

Celebrating Israel:

Snapshots of the People Behind a Young State Beit Hatfutsot’s Unique Photo Display in Honor of Israel’s 70th Anniversary

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his comprehensive exhibit curated by Beit Hatfutsot, The Museum of the Jewish People, showcases a selection of historical moments that embody the great endeavor that was the establishment of the State of Israel, as seen through the eyes of its people. The experiences of Jews from around the world who escaped hatred and fear to live freely in a Jewish state, are hightlighted.

Primarily new citizens who made Aliyah (immigrated to Israel) to the young country are depicted. Their struggles and triumphs evidence how these immigrants overcame the challenges of running a new state with few resources.

The panels and personal stories explore Israel’s major historical events and consider the lives of its early immigrants—what it took for them to reach the State of Israel and how they adjusted to life in their new homeland. Organized sequentially and by theme, Celebrating Israel gives viewers insight into the country’s formation.

For more information about these or future exhibits, contact Melissa Eichelbaum, program department associate, at MEichelbaum@ujft.org or 321-2304.

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Wendy Weissman, Assistant CRC Director

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s the worldwide Jewish and pro-Israel communities celebrate Israel’s 70th anniversary, the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater is offering a new type of exhibit: The Tidewater Umbrella Project.

For the past five years, the Community Relations Council has held the Israel Poster Contest. This year, the CRC did something a little different. With The Tidewater Umbrella Project, the CRC asked students in grades K-12 to paint their vision of what Israel looks like to them— whether it be a landscape, people, food, etc.—on a white umbrella provided by the CRC. The results are now on view at the Simon Family JCC, which is adorned with a “sky” filled with umbrellas to resemble similar installations on the streets of Jerusalem and other cities around the world.

Thanks to the generous support of the Helen G. Gifford Foundation, more than 300 umbrellas were distributed to nearly all local Sunday schools, Jewish Day

Schools, as well as other groups including students at Maury High School, Tallwood High School, Teens with a Purpose, and the JCC Seniors Club.

For more information on the Tidewater Umbrella Project, contact Wendy Weissman at WWeissman@ujft.org or 757-965-6107.

Elie Wiesel student art show Monday, May 7–Thursday, May 31

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he 2018 Elie Wiesel Competition student art show, with more than 50 amazing student art works, will come “home” this year to the Cardo of the Simon Family JCC. A reception for student winners and

their families will take place on Tuesday, May 8.

It’s worth a special trip, or just plan for extra time when visiting the JCC, to check out the remarkable student talent in Tidewater from dozens of schools.

Lag B’Omer Thursday, May 3, 5–7 pm, Simon Family JCC

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ood, drinks, activities for kids, a bonfire, and fun are planned for this annual celebration.

For information, contact Adi Abramov, Jewish Life and Learning program coordinator, at 757-321-2334 aabramov@ujft.org.

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what’s happening Spring Into Art at Park Place School Luncheon: Tuesday, May 1, 11 am–12:30 pm, Congregation Beth El

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eth El is bustling with activity in the art studio now being run in the Park Place School. Each week, under the direction of art therapist Kimberly Fisher, all 65 of the second through sixth graders explore different media to develop their skills as budding artists.

In answer to the call for Beth El congregants to participate with the Park Place students, several have joined in to launch Spring Into Art, a program designed to inspire the students to create, draw, and paint together. Lisa Stein Delevie leads the volunteers in working with the students on two projects. The second, third, and fourth graders diligently trace their hands and then paint designs on their work. Stein Delevie is mounting their art on a giant canvas, making a masterpiece of their creations. Shirley Stein, Patti Wainger, Roy Karp, and Helene Rosenfeld directed the

fifth and sixth graders the students are painting in a study of the art and mermaids, donated by the career of Park Place born Mermaid Factory, to be artist Clayton Singleton. centerpieces at the lunAfter watching WHRO’s cheon. At this event, visitors Curate presentation on will have the opportunity to Singleton, the students learn about the Park Place Skyped with the artist program and its outstandwho spoke with them ing students and staff. A from Lake Taylor High Spring into Art silent aucSchool where he chairs tion will feature art and Park Place students with the art department. The jewelry by local artists, as Lisa Stein Delevie. artist inspired his viewers well creations by the Park to be “the best they can Place students. be” and to create art. With his direction, the students are painting and Stein Delevie The event is free, open to the entire comis mounting their work. To expand their munity, and offered as a “thank you” for horizons, the students will visit art shows the support provided by Park Place donors at Norfolk Academy and the Chrysler and Beth El Synagogue. To attend the lunMuseum. cheon, RSVP to aphillips@parkplaceschool.

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Ohef Sholom’s Got Talent Saturday, May 5, 6–9 pm, Ohef Sholom Temple

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What do these businesses have in common? They are all owned by Ohef Sholom Temple members.

“In my years of board service, I’ve learned that our congregation is filled with talented people, but we often don’t have the chance to hear about each other’s passions Well-known local artist Lorraine Fink donated a piece of her art and interests,” says Alyssa for the silent art auction. musical, comedy, and story telling acts.

Muhlendorf OST, fundraiser chair. “With This event is already building new conthis fundraiser I’ve developed lists of talnections. More than 20 artists donated ented congregants in order to create a original artwork to the silent art auction. fund- and friend-raising opportunity for While asking the artists to participate, Jane all us.”

Goldman and Muhlendorf developed new For Ohef Sholom’s Got Talent, all of the friendships with congregants they’d never live entertainment, food (four restaurants met before. are doing a tasting of three dishes each), “Charlotte Corey, a beautiful 85-yearart for the silent auction, and sponsorships old lady, is simply one of the most dynamic, will come from gifted congregants. The delightful, and creative people I’ve met in entertainment will be a series of short

a very long time. We spent literally hours one afternoon talking about so many things— life in Norfolk, raising children, handling grief, finding one’s path in life…It surprised me to learn that Charlotte didn’t discover her passion for designing and making her bold, expressive jewelry until she was almost 70!” Goldman says.

Muhlendorf felt a deep connection to Mary Anne Katz when she spent a morning touring her art studio, listening to the love story of her marriage to David Katz (of blessed memory), and picking up her donation of an incredible Judaic watercolor.

Tickets are $36 each, and sponsorship opportunities are available. Already have plans, but still want a chance to bid on the unique and beautiful art up for auction? Go to www.ohefsholom.org to bid.

Bidding closes at 8 pm on May 5.

As a “pink lady” Ruth Goodman volunteered more hours than anyone else at the Norfolk hospital where she greeted visitors for years.

Before she died in 1995, Ruth arranged for a Hampton Roads Community Foundation bequest to forever give good health to the community she and her late husband Victor loved.

This year 15 students are studying to become physicians, physical therapists, nurses and other medical professionals thanks to scholarships generated by Ruth’s generosity. Many more Goodman Scholars will follow every year.

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demo track recorded by British singer Amy Winehouse was released by a London music composer.

Composer Gil Cang, who wrote songs for Winehouse early in her career, posted a Winehouse track called My Own Way to YouTube. Winehouse, a six-time Grammy Award winner who died from alcohol poisoning in 2011 at the age of 27, recorded the track when she was 17 and trying to attract the attention of record labels.

“I’ve had it knocking about for so long. I found it again and thought—I’ll put it out there so people could hear it,”

Cang told the Camden New Journal. He co-wrote the song with James McMillan.

“It was at a particularly dire time in the pop world — lots of terrible, terrible girl bands and boy bands and we had to make something for them. Amy came in to see us, opened her mouth and just blew us all away,” he said.

He said she recorded the song “faultlessly” in three takes.

The release of the song comes three years after Universal Music U.K. CEO David Joseph announced that he had destroyed all of Winehouse’s demo recordings in order to prevent anyone from releasing them posthumously. (JTA)

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mazel tov to Jared Berklee on his graduation from Cape Henry Collegiate Emily Erbig, Cape Henry Collegiate Upper School arts department and advisor

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have had the pleasure of having Jared Berklee in my advisory the past four years…watching him grow from a young and curious freshman into a compassionate, hard working leader. I have no doubt Jared will leave a positive mark on the world.

Interested in pursuing business management with the hopes of going into the marketing and advertising field, Jared will attend Tulane in the fall.

Over the years, Jared has been very active in BBYO. This organization provides Jewish teens a place to enrich their identities, as well as participate in leadership development experiences. His passion for BBYO led him to a leadership role,

including serving on the planning committee for the International Convention of BBYO in Orlando.

In addition to Jared’s passion about BBYO, he also participates in Cape Henry’s, “Step-Up” team and finds the time to play soccer on Cape Henry’s varsity team, this year capping his playing career with a Division I state championship. Jared is also a member of the National Honor Society and has maintained a stellar academic record with a rigorous course load that includes four AP and two honors level courses.

Jared also enjoys all things outdoors and is an avid boater and fisherman. He takes advantage of all that living by the ocean provides. His peers describe him as fun and easygoing, but serious when it comes to his studies.

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n Israeli television series won best series at the first Canneseries festival new competition aimed at highlighting international television shows.

When Heroes Fly is the story of four veterans of a special commando unit from the 2006 Lebanon War who reunite for a final mission—to rescue the girlfriend of one of the commandos who was abducted by a cartel in Colombia.

The show had its world premiere earlier this month at the festival, according to Variety. It has not yet been screened in Israel.

When Heroes Fly was created by writer and director Omri Givron, co-creator of the Israeli show Hostages, and based on a book by Amir Gutfreund. It stars Tomer Kapon, known for his role in Fauda, Ninet Tayeb and Moshe Ashkenazi.

“This show deals with the consequences

of war and the prices of it,” Kapon said in his accepting the award at the festival, the Jerusalem Post reported. “So I just want to say, make love and not war.”

A second Israeli series, Miguel, which started broadcasting in Israel in January, won the special performance prize. It’s about a gay Israeli man’s attempts to adopt a child and the 5-year-old Guatemalan child that comes into his life.

Ten international series had their debuts at the festival and vied for six awards. (JTA)

Amar’e Stoudemire is converting to Judaism

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ormer NBA All-Star Amar’e Stoudemire has for years claimed to have “Hebrew roots,” studied Judaism and practiced its cultural customs. Now he is making the ties official by converting to the Jewish religion.

Stoudemire, 35, told HBO sports reporter Jon Frankel at an event at

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WHO KNEW? But he added: Harvard University “My journey on this month that he this path really has is “in the process” of nothing to do with converting. citizenship, it’s just Frankel first really truly a spirasked Stoudemire itual journey, and whether he wanted my goal is to get to become a citizen into the kingdom, of Israel, a country and that’s the only he lived in briefly mission.” while playing for Stoudemire had Hapoel Jerusalem said earlier in the last year, a club conversation that he he partly owns. partly follows both Stoudemire said he the New and the is trying to become Amare Stoudemire taking a free throw, Old Testaments. a citizen, and Jan. 26, 2009.

“Any time to try to redefine yourself, Frankel asked whether he was being told you’re converting, whether it’s religious to convert before achieving citizenship converting or just personal improvement,” status. he said. “I think converting from a reliStoudemire responded by saying he gious point of view allows you to really is converting “simply to get acclimated to look at the biblical point of view from a the culture in Israel and also to apply for different perspective.” (JTA) citizenship.”

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obituaries Leyba Helen Schor Blumenthal NORFOLK—Leyba Helen Schor Blumenthal died on Monday, April 16, 2018 in her residence.

She was born in Brooklyn, New York and was the daughter of the late Benjamin H. and Sylvia Ginberg Schor. She had worked with her husband, Bud, for many years as an officer of L & B Investments Mortgage Co. She was a member of Temple Israel, and formerly of Temple Emanuel, working energetically in both as a volunteer in many temple activities. Leyba was a volunteer at WHRO as a reader to the blind every week when she was able. She was a member and helped found the JudeauChristian Outreach Center and served on the board of directors of ORT. Left to cherish her memory are her husband, Herman “Bud” S. Blumenthal; a daughter, Geri Jean Wilson of South Pasedena, Calif.; two sons, Robert Alan Blumenthal of Jefferson, Md. and Jeffrey Richard Blumenthal of Virginia Beach; seven grandchildren, Hannah Corrin Blumenthal, Devra Ariel Blumenthal, Alex Joseph Blumenthal; Jonathan Cody Weimorts, Benjamin Joseph Blumenthal, David Eli Blumenthal, and Margaret Blumenthal; and five great grandchildren, Rachel and Sydney Feldman, Max and Zac Ovics, and Abigail Weimorts.

A funeral service was conducted in the Norfolk Chapel of H. D. Oliver Funeral Apts. with Rabbi Michael Panitz officiating. Burial followed in Forest

Lawn Cemetery. Memorial contributions to a charity of the donor’s choice. Online condolences may be offered at www. hdoliver.com.

Sidney R. Golding Virginia Beach—Sidney R. Golding, 65, died Monday, April 2, 2018 in a local hospital.

He was a native of Portsmouth, Virginia and a resident of Hampton Roads all of his life. He was the son of the late Murray and Frances Achstein Golding.

He was a retired warehouse supervisor with Fine’s Men’s Shop and a member of Ohef Sholom Temple.

Survivors include his loving wife of 43 years, Robin Kayer Golding of Virginia Beach and his daughter, Rachel G. Ulman and her husband Matan of Virginia Beach and his son, Jonathan C. Golding of Richmond, Va. He is also survived by his brothers, David and Barry Golding of Jacksonville, Florida and his grandchildren, Ze’ev and Talia Ulman.

Graveside funeral services were held in Forest Lawn Cemetery. Rabbi Rosalin Mandelberg officiated.

Memorial donations may be made to the American Lung Association or Ohef Sholom Temple.

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Anita L. Howard Virginia Beach—Our dear sister Anita passed quietly and comfortably on Tuesday, April 9.

Anita was born and raised in Norfolk, graduating from Lake Taylor in 1977 and earned her associates degree in Applied Science from Tidewater Community College in 1981. Anita was a gentle soul who loved animals and was loved by all who knew her. She made many friends during her lifetime and will be missed by all.

Anita is survived by her younger brother, Larry, her nephews Nick and Sam and many other close relatives.

A graveside service with Rabbi Israel Zoberman officiating took place at Forest Lawn Cemetery Judge Marc Jacobson Norfolk—Retired Judge Marc Jacobson passed away on April 5, 2018.

Judge Jacobson was born in Waukegan, Ill, the son of Rabbi Solomon Joseph Jacobson and Rose Epstein Jacobson. He leaves behind his beloved wife of 60 years, Connie, and his children, Steven and his wife Dale Smith, his daughter Susan and her husband Gordon Coburn, his brothers Avram and Norman Jacobson and his four grandchildren, Alexander and Zachary Coburn and Joshua and Benjamin Jacobson. His sister Deborah Victorson predeceased him.

Judge Jacobson was a proud graduate of the University of Michigan, where he served on the student legislature and was past president of Sigma Alpha Mu fraternity. He received his Juris Doctor from the University of Virginia Law School.

He served as an enlisted man and as an officer in the United States Army (Judge Advocate General Corps) Reserves.

After practicing law for 32 years, he was appointed a judge in the Norfolk General District Court from 1990 to 1995 and the Norfolk Circuit Court from 1995 to 2004, serving as Chief Judge from 2001 to 2003. Following his retirement in 2004, he was active as a Substitute Judge and arbitrator throughout eastern Virginia.

Prior to being appointed a judge, he served as a hearing officer for regulatory

agencies of the Commonwealth of Virginia, as a commissioner in Chancery for the Circuit Court of the cities of Norfolk and Chesapeake, and as a panel trustee for the United States Bankruptcy Court for the Eastern District of Virginia, Norfolk Division. He was a trustee for the City of Norfolk Employees Retirement System. He was elected to be a fellow of the Virginia Law Foundation.

Judge Jacobson served as president of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater and was a lifetime trustee of the Tidewater Jewish Foundation. He served as president of Temple Israel, and as president of Arnold Gamsey Lodge of B’nai B’rith. He was appointed by the Governor of Virginia as a member of the Virginia Israel Commission, and was honored as a recipient of the Brotherhood Award by the National Conference of Christians and Jews.

Judge Jacobson served on the Board of Visitors of Old Dominion University and as Rector of the Board of Visitors, and as a member of the board of trustees of the Chrysler Museum of Art. He was a trustee of the Virginia Symphony and a longtime supporter of the Virginia Arts Festival. He and his wife established an annual lectureship at the Institute for the Humanities at the University of Michigan, and he served as a member of the Board of Visitors of the Institute.

Judge Jacobson and his wife provided for the welcome center at Old Dominion University as well as for the Athletic Academic Center. They also endowed a full scholarship for a woman basketball player. The Jacobsons established the annual Raoul Wallenberg Lecture as part of the President’s Lecture Series at Old Dominion University.

Judge Jacobson was a devoted husband, father, son, and brother. He maintained close connections with his Michigan fraternity brothers and his high school friends. For more than 50 years he loved meeting weekly with his Thursday night pals.

As a lawyer, judge, and close friend, he was an advisor and confidant to many, and will be sorely missed.

A funeral service was conducted at Temple Israel by Rabbi Michael Panitz.

obituaries Burial was at Forest Lawn Cemetery.

Memorial gifts may be made in Judge Marc Jacobson’s name to Temple Israel, 7255 Granby Street Norfolk, Va. 23505.

H.D. Oliver Funeral Apartments Norfolk Chapel is handling arrangements.

Claude R. Miller Norfolk—Claude Raymond Miller, 92, passed away on Monday, April 16, 2018 in a local hospital.

Born and raised in Norfolk, he was the son of the late Bessie Cohen Miller and Horace Miller. He was preceded in death by his brother, Dr. Bernard Miller.

Mr. Miller was a graduate of Maury High School. He enlisted in the U. S. Coast Guard during World War II having served on the troop transport U.S.S. Callaway and later served as a pilot in the Civil Air Patrol. After the war, he attended The Norfolk Division of William and Mary, V.P.I. Extension in Norfolk. He then opened his own refrigeration and cooling company. Then, he went to work for the Norfolk Sheriff’s Department where he served as a chief deputy with the rank of colonel and retired after 30 years of service. After his retirement, he served as a Boat Captain with Jack’s Launch Service.

Claude was an avid fisherman and truly loved being a waterman. He was a long time member and past commander and trustee of the American Legion Post No. 35, member of the Norfolk Masonic Lodge No. 1, the Khedive Shrine Center, the Police Association of Virginia, and Brith Sholom.

He is survived by his beloved wife of 64 years, Marlene Levinson Miller; a

daughter, Robin M. Bailey and husband, Lance of Chesapeake; two granddaughters who he loved dearly, Shannon Bailey and Lauren Bailey and her fiancé, Dennis Wiltsey; his granddog, Macy; and great granddog, Ludo; and several nieces, nephews, and cousins.

A funeral service was conducted in the Norfolk Chapel of H. D. Oliver Funeral Apts. with Rabbi Sender Haber officiating. Burial with masonic rites followed in Forest Lawn Cemetery.

Memorial contributions may be sent to Congregation B’nai Israel, 420 Spotswood Ave., Norfolk, VA 23517 or the charity of the donor’s choice. Online condolences may be offered to the family through www.hdoliver.com.

Filmmaker Milos Forman, director of One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest Filmmaker Milos Forman, famous for the Academy Award-winning films One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest and Amadeaus, has died.

Forman, who was born in Czechoslovakia and came to the United States at the end of the 1960s, died on Saturday, April 14 at a hospital near his home in Connecticut at the age of 86.

Forman’s parents, who were Protestant and members of the anti-Nazi underground, were killed by the Nazis during the Holocaust; his mother died in Auschwitz and his father died while being interrogated by the Gestapo in the Mittelbau-Dora concentration camp.

Forman later learned that his biological father was a Jewish man with whom his mother had an affair, who survived the

Holocaust and that the filmmaker later found living in Peru. Forman was raised by foster parents in Czechoslovakia and attended film school in Prague.

He moved to the United States after the invasion of communist troops in Czechoslovakia known as the Prague Spring, which squelched artistic freedom. He became a U.S. citizen in 1977.

In his memoir, Forman said the producers of One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest, Michael Douglas and Saul Zaentz, asked him to direct because “I seemed to be in their price range,” the New York Times said in its obituary. The film went on to receive five Academy Awards for Best Director, Best Actor, Best Actress, Best Picture and Best Adapted Screenplay.

Amadeus won eight Oscars, including Best Picture and Best Director.

Other Forman films include Hair, Ragtime, and Man on the Moon.

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ast December, I was fortunate to accompany 12 amazing volunteers representing Community Relations Councils throughout the country and the dedicated staff of the Jewish Council for Public Affairs on a 10-day mission to Poland and Israel. The trip was in many ways a march through Jewish history over hundreds of years, including a literal long trip through a dark, brutally cold night from the historic city of Krakow into the bright and warm sun of the modern state of Israel.

On the day we visited, the vast empty expanse of Auschwitz-Birkenau II stretched as far as the eye could see under a steel gray sky and lightly falling snow.

For the most part, only ruins remain of the barracks and the crematoria that the Nazis constructed there beginning in 1941. A single rebuilt cattle car sits on the tracks as a reminder of the thousands of cars that brought over one million prisoners there to be sorted and exterminated. A short distance away, the original Auschwitz I camp, site of the ubiquitous “Arbeit Macht Frei” sign, seemed in comparison almost like a normal bustling military post despite the unspeakable horrors that occurred there. That same day, we welcomed Shabbat with more than 50 members of Krakow’s thriving Jewish community. Incredibly, many Poles are just now learning of their Jewish heritage from aging family members who had to suppress it from the time of the Nazis through Poland’s decades of communist rule. The Krakow JCC provides resources and a connection both to Poland’s significant Jewish past and its resurgent present.

Our time in Israel included the usual highlights—Tel Aviv’s beach scene, the natural beauty of Safed and the Kinneret, and Jerusalem at sunset on erev Shabbat.

On December 6, directly after receiving an informative brief from a top Israeli scientist on the technical challenges and accomplishments of the Joint Comprehensive Plan of Action to limit Iran’s development of nuclear weapons, we listened to President Trump’s announcement that

the U.S. embassy would be moved to Jerusalem. It was an interesting time to be in Israel, to say the least.

More than a sightseeing trip, however, our mission’s goal was to confront the issues that affect Israel, Poland, and our own American Jewish communities.

Shimon Peres identified three types of people one meets when discussing major issues confronting Israel and the worldwide Jewish and Arab communities: the righteous, the gatherers of arguments, and the problem solvers. Peres’ advice was to listen to the problem solvers. It is impossible to engage in discussions of modern Israeli, Arab, and Jewish problems without acknowledging matters of faith and history, especially among politicians and policy makers, and it is easy to conclude that these problems cannot be solved, especially with the widening political divisions among the would-be problem solvers. We were inspired, however, by the problem solvers we met who are facing down some of the hardest and most human challenges at the level of daily life in the Middle East and who should give us all hope for a more peaceful future in the region: • Walid Issa, a Palestinian who witnessed unspeakable violence as a child in the West Bank and carries the key to the home in Israel his grandfather was forced to flee in 1948, but who looks to a future where Israelis and Palestinians work together to harness the economic strengths of the region. Walid explained to us the importance of Israel and the Jewish community recognizing and acknowledging the losses and deprivations of the Palestinian people; however, he equally believes that Palestinians must be willing to compromise on the issue of restoration of property within Israel and rather focus on improving the lives of their own people through education, competent and accountable governance, and business development opportunities within the Palestinian territories that will bring in international investment similar to what Israel has achieved through its “start-up nation” status.

• Eli Nechama, principal of the

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Mission members (Andy Fox on far right) pose beneath the security wall with Col. Dany Tirza, principal designer of the security wall and fence system.

Bialik-Rogozin school, who has accepted the challenge of educating and nurturing hundreds of children of migrant workers and asylum seekers in South Tel Aviv, providing love and support to children and their families even as they face an uncertain future in Israel.

• Jean-Marc Liling, an international human rights lawyer, and the staff of Mesila, a municipal agency of Tel Aviv dedicated to serving the crucial needs of migrant workers, asylum seekers, and their families as the national government struggles over their rights and status.

• Dr. Michael Ha’rari and the Jewish, Arab, and Druze staff of the Ziv Medical Center in Safed, who treat victims of the vicious Syrian civil war—soldiers, civilians, and, heartbreakingly, children—patients who have been raised to view Israel as a mortal enemy.

• Shirin Natur-Hafi, principal of a majority Arab school within Israel who works with her students to develop conflict resolution skills intended to break the multi-generational cycles of violence in their extended families and community

while at the same time promoting Arab and Palestinian history as part of Israel’s history.

• Orly Erez-Likhovski, an attorney at the Israeli Religious Action Center in Jerusalem who fights for the civil rights of all Israelis in the face of growing ultra-orthodox influence on public affairs and control of religious sites.

Suffice it to say, this trip was a life-changing experience. I am forever grateful to the Frank Family Foundation and to Lois and Larry Frank for their leadership and generosity in making this mission a possibility. In New York City at the JCPA’s Annual Conference this month, our group is discussing how we can spread the lessons of our mission to leaders and volunteers in our communities.

The JCPA is the national umbrella agency of more than 125 Community Relations Councils across the nation. The support of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater’s CRC also made Andy Fox’s participation in the mission possible.

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