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Let's Talk About Sex
Contrary to conventional 'wisdom', being a MILF is cool, classy and should not be considered taboo.
MEET Anna and Alicia aka The Banksy’s behind good sex. Business partners, twin sisters in their forties and lucky enough to call each other best friends, too. The heart of Made Hot is “let us teach you to do you and be you”. “We spent most of our lives missing out on many of life’s greatest joys and pleasures,” they say. “Through many discussions and self-exploration, we’ve found that we weren’t the only ones – and that lots of humans, like us, are missing out on fulfilling relationships and sex lives. There’s nothing we want more than to help change this for others and that is exactly why we
created Made Hot. To provide a trusted, go-to resource for all things mental, emotional, physical and sexual wellness. So humans across the world can live their best, most satisfying lives possible, filled with endless amounts of pleasure, joy, confidence and happiness. We are MOTHERS. FRIENDS. DAUGHTERS. SISTERS. We are on a mission of empowerment. We own our scars. We break down barriers. We step out of our shadows.” Here the sisters – together with coach Anup Sohanta – share their views on how to own your sexuality post childbirth.
Part 1, written by Anup Sohanta, A.K.A Noopface
MOTHERS are often known for their caring and nurturing dispositions, displaying qualities like kind-heartedness and a commitment to being responsible for a child, or multiple children. When I consider the finer aspects of the feminine energy that a mother displays, it’s the ability to soothe with a passionate heart; however, that’s not to say that moms can’t show masculine energy and display dominance when needed to provide for their children.
A mom is more than just a mother, she is a person before anything else. She has her own wants, needs, dreams, ambitions and desires. When I talk about desires, I mean to say that moms don’t automatically lose interest in sexual desires once they have given birth. A mom deserves to experience her life too. To experience sexual pleasure, just as much as a bachelor who feels he’s at the precipice of his carnal desires.
What’s my point? Well, from my own experience, I have seen how being a mom often becomes the identity that a mother carries with her and and how it becomes another label. A mom cannot be put into a box as just a mom, for she has a direct connection with the universe and the divine. She gives life and whether she’s a biological parent or not, she cares for life.
Remember when the term “MILF” was highly popularized by the movie American Pie? It became a label to call attractive moms when younger men wanted to have sex with them. I believe that the term MILF should be used to respect a mother’s sexuality. A mother is not only physically sexy but her mind is to be adored and her prowess respected. I feel like we often get caught up in the idea that a mother loses interest in sex as she progresses in her journey as a human being. That once she gives birth or grows older, her libido somehow diminishes and she loses her sexual appetite. That is certainly not true and recognizing that false notion is a step closer to understanding how to love on a partner that is a mom.
Part 2, written by Made Hot, Anna & Alicia
In light of the recent Mother’s Day, we wanted to let you know that being a MILF is cool, classy, and should not be considered taboo. The expression can often have a certain stigma around it, but don’t we all want to be desired and hot no matter what role we are stepping into for others? Moms are hot. We said it. There is beauty in every stage of life and we’re here to bring that to the forefront of this conversation. As we go through different seasons, sometimes parts of us are put on pause. Becoming a mother alters every aspect of our bodies. It can lower libido or even deplete it, but women still want and need to have sex. It’s part of our DNA to crave that connection. While we sometimes convince ourselves we don’t need it, there’s nothing wrong with admitting, as a woman, to enjoying sex. It calms our nervous system. Touch, warm skin, emotions, whispers between lovers, partners, the release when you relax into your body and when your partner hits all the right notes. The release! You know what we’re talking about … there’s nothing better.
For us here at Made Hot, sex isn’t just a physical act. We want to talk about everything that surrounds it. The intimacy. The build up. Sending a text to your partner or spouse, leaving a little note on the bathroom mirror, giving and receiving compliments, self care. Mentally and physically nurturing your body.
When you are able to align the physical and emotional, you come back to yourself. Your roots. Your magic. Parts of you that may have shut off, come back to life in full bloom. We all need human connection and contact. As mothers, sometimes we’re left feeling overstimulated. Touched out. Our time, our days, as we wake and as we sleep, are all part of someone else’s needs and wants. We’re pulled in a million directions, feeling stretched too thin and oftentimes, not enough.
Remember Mothers, the partners in our life desire us. Crave us. Don’t shut them out just because you are going through a new phase of life and not feeling like yourself. This will pass. Talk about it. Communicate. Sometimes when you share your fears and insecurities with the one you love, you can gain their perspective and understand how they see you through their eyes – in all your beauty of motherhood.
So get out of your head. No matter what path brought you to motherhood, we’re all in this together. It’s hard. But, remember to romanticize your life. Your partner wants to be there for you. Kiss. Touch. Get those endorphins running throughout your entire body and immerse yourself in it. So, a little homework from us … Find the sexiness in your everyday life. Show love and affection. Tease and flirt. Love yourself and be a MILF. Wear it like a badge of honor. Becoming a mother is just the next phase for you; and you’ve never been hotter.
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