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ene Mueller considers himself a lucky man. He has spent his career in a radio studio in front of a live microphone informing listeners and “cracking funny,” as he puts it. Early mornings made for early ends of the day when he could go home and be with his children, Alyssa and Matthew. “It was mommy-duty” a great opportunity to be with my kids. I was probably with my kids more than most dads are with their kids.” Alyssa and Matthew are now 27 and 24-years-old, respectively; and fatherhood, as most things, has evolved. “It seems both weird and cool to have your son buy you a beer in a bar. We have great, well-adjusted kids “despite my efforts to the contrary,” he joked. Mueller is quick to give much of the parenting credit to his wife, LuAnn. “I could not have asked for a better mate than her.”

BACK IN THE DAY: Mueller with young son Mathew who is now 24.

“My mom thought I was crazy to leave school, but she trusted my judgment enough to be supportive.” Mueller knew too many people who had degrees, but no jobs. He thought maybe it was better to have a job than the expense of a degree. It seems to have worked out for him. Fatherhood wasn’t necessarily a natural progression for Mueller. “The first baby I ever held was my daughter.” His father died when Mueller was only 13 years old. “My sister was 10 years older than me, so I was alone a lot. Maybe that’s why being alone in the studio feels so comfortable.” At 58, Mueller has a long lens on life. As host of Wisconsin’s Morning News on 620 WTMJ, he is considered the elder statesman of Milwaukee radio. Mueller stepped into his first radio studio when he

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was in high school at Sheboygan North High School. It was a 10-watt station; and he thought “this would be an easy way to make a living.” He applied to the University of Wisconsin – Stevens Point mass communications program and got in. “One of my first interviews was with Chancellor Lee Dreyfus,” Mueller remembered. After two years he left college for a news reporting job at WSPT radio in Stevens Point. “My mom thought I was crazy to leave school but she trusted my judgment enough to be supportive.” Mueller knew too many people who had degrees but no jobs. He thought maybe it was better to have a job than the expense of a degree. It seems to have worked out for him. In the media, people advance their careers by moving to larger markets. If you’re good at what you do, word spreads – quickly. Landing the news director position and morning show host at WQFM, Mueller moved to the Milwaukee market. By 1982, he was paired with Bob Reitman. The duo, Reitman and Mueller, proved radio gold and ruled the morning airwaves on WKTI for 24 years. Mueller’s humor and irreverence was the perfect counterbalance to Reitman’s more proper on-air persona. Their show ended in 2006; the two continue to stay in touch. “I see Bob but we’re way overdue for coffee at Solly’s,” Mueller said. “We tried for a while to do it once a month but it’s been a while now, although in between seeing each, we do chat occasionally on the phone.” In 2007, Mueller moved to WTMJ, KTI’s sister station, to co-host Wisconsin’s Morning News with John Jagler. Mueller was now on the AM side of the dial. “The format is news, sports, weather, interviews and features,” he said of the three-and-a-half-hour radio slot. “I need to know a little bit about lots of things. I like this format. It’s fast-paced.”

Mueller has always worked the morning slot; but contrary to prevailing opinion, a disc jockey’s workday is not 4-hours long. He’s at the station from 3 to 11 a.m. and continues to work from home. “I get up at 1:30 a.m. When my kids were young, they used to tease me that I went to bed before they did.” But his job held some perks, too, and the kids thought it was pretty cool their dad was on the radio. “LuAnn and

Gene’s daughter Alyssa

I have been lucky. We have good kids. They like each other and are each other’s ally.” The Muellers stressed to Alyssa and Matthew that no matter what sibling issues they may have, outside the house they have each other’s backs. Mueller remembered game nights and family vacations. “But really, if you stay at a hotel with a swimming pool, they think it’s the best vacation ever. All your kids really want is to spend time with you.”

“We were lucky to have raised the kids just before the huge digital wave. They were just on the cusp of that. The stuff you can access online now can be a pipeline to no good. Seriously, today you are three clicks away from something no parent wants their kids exposed to.” Mueller invokes the old parental adage, ‘You’re only as happy as your least happy child.’ “I was not much of a disciplinarian. And even though you hate to do it, you’ve got to let your kids fail. Ultimately, it helps them to make better choices as they move along in life.” Today, Matthew is a movie critic with OnMilwaukee.com. “He’s a great writer,” Mueller said without a hint of false bravado in his voice. On occasion, Matthew joins his father in the studio for an on-air movie review. Alyssa is in graduate school and writes proposals for Adelman Travel. “She is also a wonderful writer.” Today, time with the Alyssa and Matthew is special because they older and busier – after all, parents they are should raise their children to go out into world. “They are really great people – free thinking, independent with life experiences. We like being together – sometimes it’s just to watch a Packer game.”

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Prevention

FOR MEN

Diabetes. Get screened for diabetes (high blood sugar) if you have high blood pressure or if you take medication for high blood pressure. • Diabetes can cause problems with your heart, brain, eyes, feet, kidneys, nerves, and other body parts. Hepatitis C virus (HCV). Get screened one time for HCV infection if: • You were born between 1945 and 1965. • You have ever injected drugs. • You received a blood transfusion before 1992. If you currently are an injection drug user, you should be screened regularly. High Blood Cholesterol. If you are age 35 or older, have your

hen you get a preventive medical test, you’re not just doing it for yourself. You’re doing it for your family and loved ones: • Men are 24 percent less likely than women to have visited a doctor within the past year and are 22 percent more likely to have neglected their cholesterol tests. • Men are 28 percent more likely than women to be hospitalized for congestive heart failure. • Men are 32 percent more likely than women to be hospitalized for long-term complications of diabetes and are more than twice as likely than women to have a leg or foot amputated due to complications related to diabetes. • Men are 24 percent more likely than women to be hospitalized for pneumonia that could have been prevented by getting an immunization. The single most important way you can take care of yourself and those you love is to actively take part in your health care. Educate yourself on health care and participate in decisions with your doctor.

MEN: STAY HEALTHY AT ANY AGE

Get the Screenings You Need

Abdominal Aortic Aneurysm. If you are between the ages of

65 and 75 and have ever been a smoker, (smoked 100 or more cigarettes in your lifetime) get screened once for abdominal aortic aneurysm (AAA). AAA is a bulging in your abdominal aorta, your largest artery. An AAA may burst, which can cause dangerous bleeding and death. An ultrasound, a painless procedure in which you lie on a table while a technician slides a medical device over your abdomen, will show whether an aneurysm is present.

Colon Cancer. Have a screening test for colorectal cancer

starting at age 50. If you have a family history of colorectal cancer, you may need to be screened earlier. Several different tests can detect this cancer. Your doctor can help you decide which is best for you. Depression. Your emotional health is as important as your physical health. Talk to your doctor or nurse about being screened for depression, especially if during the last 2 weeks: • You have felt down, sad, or hopeless. • You have felt little interest or pleasure in doing things. 6 | WISCONSIN WOMAN June 2015

blood cholesterol checked regularly with a blood test. High cholesterol increases your chance of heart disease, stroke, and poor circulation. Talk to your doctor or nurse about having your cholesterol checked starting at age 20 if: • You use tobacco. • You are overweight or obese. • You have diabetes or high blood pressure. • You have a history of heart disease or blocked arteries. • A man in your family had a heart attack before age 50 or a woman, before age 60.

High Blood Pressure. Have your blood pressure checked at least every 2 years. High blood pressure can cause strokes, heart attacks, kidney and eye problems, and heart failure. HIV. If you are 65 or younger, get screened for HIV. If you are older than 65, ask your doctor or nurse whether you should be screened. Lung Cancer: Talk to your doctor or nurse about getting screened for lung cancer if you are between the ages of 55 and 80, have a 30 pack-year smoking history, and smoke now or have quit within the past 15 years. (Your pack-year history is the number of packs of cigarettes smoked per day times the number of years you have smoked.) Overweight and Obesity. The best way to learn if you are overweight or obese is to find your body mass index (BMI). A BMI between 18.5 and 25 indicates a normal weight. Persons with a BMI of 30 or higher may be obese. Overweight and obesity can lead to diabetes and cardiovascular disease. GET PREVENTIVE MEDICINES IF YOU NEED THEM Aspirin. If you are 45 or older, your doctor or nurse can help

you decide whether taking aspirin to prevent a heart attack is right for you.

Vitamin D to Avoid Falls. If you are 65 or older and have a history of falls, mobility problems, or other risks for falling, ask your doctor about taking a vitamin D supplement to help reduce your chances of falling. Exercise and physical therapy may also help. Immunizations:

• Get a flu shot every year. • If you are 60 or older, get a shot to prevent shingles. • If you are 65 or older, get a pneumonia shot. • Get a shot for tetanus, diphtheria, and whooping cough. Get a tetanus booster if it has been more than 10 years since your last shot.

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S enior Care is experiencing an exciting change in their demographics. For the first time in their storied 90 year history, they have more males moving in than females. Jan Schneider, Director of VMP Senior Cares “Senior Community Club,” remembers overhearing a comment one day, a long time female resident introduced herself to a new male resident and instantly inquired where his wife was. The female resident seemed surprised when this gentleman indicated he was a widower, but had made the decision on his own to move into VMP’s Independent Living. At that time, VMP Senior Cares independent living apartments, were over 90% female occupied. That trend is moving in a different direction, “woman world” is now becoming “man land,” according to Schneider. When it comes to the “meats and potatoes” about men, Schneider finds that, “even though some of our male residents might have been the master chef at home, they prefer to eat in our dining room, often times ordering carry

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out to forgo cooking for themselves in their apartments”. Along with this gender shift, VMP’s Senior Community Club has found itself redirecting their feminine tendencies when planning programs, classes, events and outings, to that point they have created male specific events, i.e., the Movember Save Off and Celebration and the Hops and Hobbies – Beer

“One gentleman who was touring was actually brought to tears at the smell of the wood working shop”, Spredemann added. Tasting and Boasting “Guy Time” Event as well as “Man Land” adventure tours. “We are gearing up for many more male-themed events and outings as we plan ahead” Schneider noted.

Schneider feels very fortunate that most of the males are still healthy and active enough to take advantage and participate in VMP’s Senior Community Club as well Club VMP. Whether it’s cards, wood carving, or competing in VMP’s Super Senior Softball League, VMP’s offerings meet whatever stage or age the individual is at in their life’s journey. Even though many males tend toward solitude and deny the need to be social, statistics have proven that social engagement promotes a healthier, more vibrant lifestyle. Schneider added that often times she finds that prospective residents will be encouraged by their loved ones to seriously look at VMP’s Independent Living because those loved ones recognize the vibrancy, value and opportunity for human interaction. Tamara Spredemann, VMP Lifestyle Specialist, gives us her take on independent senior living and the male persona. As she tours prospective male residents, she finds they love the idea VMP continued on PAGE 8 June 2015 WISCONSIN WOMAN | 7

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of downsizing and moving but still having access to the hobbies and clubs VMP has on site. A full wood working shop with all the tools that they were accustomed to having in their garage or basement is for some a very strong attraction. “One gentleman who was touring was actually brought to tears at the smell of the wood working shop”, Spredemann added. A group of male residents and Senior Community Club members started their own railroad club and are in the midst of an extensive small gauge railroad project. Others enjoy stain glass, lapidary, ceramics, harmonica and photography to name a few. Many have ventured out of their boxes and taken on a new craft as they begin this next chapter in their lives. One of VMP’s biggest draws by far, are the many different card groups we have available to join, from sheeps-

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Along with this gender shift, VMP’s Senior Community Club has found itself redirecting its feminine tendencies when planning programs, classes, events and outings, to that point, they have created male specific events, i.e., the Movember Save Off and Celebration and the Hops and Hobbies – Beer Tasting and Boasting “Guy Time” Event as well as “Man Land” adventure tours. “We are gearing up for many more male-themed events and outings as we plan ahead” Schneider noted. head to bridge to cribbage, no card goes unturned. One of the Senior Community Club members even built a special table for an anxious group of Texas Hold’em poker players. If crafting isn’t something they like, they can work out in VMP’s Key to Fitness Club. Spredemann noted that she finds that men tend to wait longer and are therefore older than women when they move in. The good news is men tend to remain more active as they age. With men moving in comes new and different talents and hobbies. One of VMP’s newer residents spear-headed a weekly coffee hour while others have connected and become best of friends. A male resident recently commented on how comforting and reassuring it is to be in the company of other males, had he been a widower at home, he would likely have become a very solitary creature. Schneider added that “we are on a mission to make sure our male residents and members are given every opportunity to make the most of the rest of their life journey”. For more information on Independent Living at VMP Senior Care call Tamara at 414-607-4322. For more information on VMP’s Senior Community Club (needn’t be a resident to be a member) call Jan at 414-607-4186 or visit them at www. VMPCares.com. l

LIVING WELL | Sue Ann Says:

Get Outside! Get Active!

re you bored to tears when you walk on the treadmill at your gym? Are you up at dawn lifting weights in your dimly lighted bedroom while your spouse remains sleeping? Do your children or grandchildren prefer to play on their computer than go to play at the park? It’s time for a change! This month I want to help you shift your mindset that exercise must be in a large building where you are jogging along with 28 other people. Understand, I am not against gyms. They provide great support, numerous classes and various machines to keep your heart beating at its peak performance. But exercising in nature has special benefits for the mind and body. Exercise can happen anywhere, but as spring bursts into summer, let’s plan on getting outside to be active!

EXERCISE = HEALTHY MIND

Outside activities and exercise can brighten your mood, lower your risk of depression and help you sleep better at night. The activity you choose can augment your judgment and keep you mentally sharp. Researchers have seen gains in memory for adults who worked out the morning of a memory study compared to adults who did not work out. 1 A 2011 study released in the Environmental Science Technology journal stated, “Compared with exercising indoors, exercising in natural environments was associated with greater feelings of revitalization and positive engagement, decreases in tension, confusion, anger, and depression, and increased energy.” 2

EXERCISE = STRONG BODY

How does exercise help your body? Let me count the ways. 1. Your heart will pump more oxygen to your muscles making them stronger. 2. Your lungs will be working more efficiently. 3. As blood flows to your brain, you will feel more focused. 4. Exercise will increase your bone mass fending off broken bones as you age. 5. Weight bearing exercise helps prevent osteoporosis. 6. The brain releases endorphins

making you feel less stressed. 7. Vitamin D from the sun helps your genes, increases immunity and calcium metabolism.

WHICH OUTSIDE ACTIVITY IS RIGHT FOR YOU?

Choosing lawn or garden work is an excellent way to burn off calories and strengthen your heart. Have you been itching to build a rock wall, trim up some bushes or plant new iris bulbs? The CDC affirms that gardening is an excellent physical activity. Activity reduces your risk of high blood pressure, type 2 diabetes, osteoporosis, heart disease, stroke, depression, colon cancer and premature death. You can burn approximately 238 calories when weeding the garden. Trimming the shrubs will subtract 238 calories per hour and if you manually mow the lawn you can reduce your daily calorie count by 306 calories per hour. Family activities in nature are a fantastic way to bond as a family while building strong muscles and bones. Take your children on a nature walk around the neighborhood. Identify local birds and insects. Seek out some tadpoles. Listen to the crickets in the evening as you walk. Get out the badminton set and set up a team challenge. Bike to the library or to the store and grab your supper for a waist slimming ride. Each time you move your body, you strengthen your overall health, including the health of your family.

SOME OTHER ACTIVITIES TO CONSIDER:

• Tennis is a delightful way to get your cardio and enjoy some time with a friend. Many cities have local tennis courts for your use. Tennis can reduce your blood pressure, decrease body fat, amplify your reaction time, and build flexibility. Tennis is a sport that can be played by a person of any age. • Chase away unhealthy habits with a round of golf in the mornings with your friends. Walking 18 holes is the key to getting up to 3 to 4 miles of exercise. Golfing builds muscles, boosts concentration and will help you lose weight. The green trees and sunwarmed grass do add to the attraction of being outside.

• Swimming is one of the best ways to add years to your life. Check out the local pools for adult swim time, aqua fitness workouts or even one-on-one training with an instructor. You can swim at a lake or ocean beach, but always swim with a lifeguard present. Swimming is an excellent cardiovascular workout and can burn as many as 400 calories an hour when swimming at a slow pace. This low impact activity is great for your joints, muscles and mind.With the sun outside and a soft breeze, your mood will definitely brighten. • If you really want to be adventurous, pack up some water and a small bag of fruit and go hiking. There are plenty of parks, hills, and valleys where you can hike in Wisconsin. To make it even more fun, make yourself a walking stick to take on the journey. Many of the parks have maps that show the difficulty of the trail. Start out slowly on the level path and enjoy the bluff or streams along the way. As your fitness develops over the summer you can increase to a more difficult path. Don’t forget the sunscreen and bug spray! Break Out of the Same Old Routine - Add a new twist to your daily exercise by heading outside this summer. Take advantage of our beautiful days in Wisconsin to stay healthy. l

Because it all begins with a healthy woman…

Sue Ann Thompson is founder and president of the Wisconsin Women’s Health Foundation (WWHF), a statewide non-profit organization whose mission is to help Wisconsin women and their families reach their healthiest potential. WWHF provides programs and conducts forums that focus on education, prevention, and early detection; connects individuals to health resources; produces and distributes the most up-to-date health education and resource materials; and, awards grants and scholarships to women health researchers and related community non-profits. To learn more, visit wwhf.org or call 1-800-4485148. 1 Neuroscience 2012 Jul 26;215:59-68 2 http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/ pubmed/21291246

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hich health screenings and exams are top priorities for you? If you’re like most adults, monitoring your weight, cholesterol, and blood pressure are probably part of your health care routine. But what about vision care? When adults reach their 40s, they often start to notice small changes in their vision, which can impact their daily lives and job performance. Whether having difficulty reading a book or working on a computer screen, such changes can be frustrating, but they can often be addressed by an eye care professional. A comprehensive dilated eye exam is the best way to detect diseases and conditions that can cause vision loss and blindness. That’s because many have no symptoms in their early stages. According to the National Eye Institute, all adults aged 60 and older should have a comprehensive dilated eye exam, with the exception of African Americans, who are advised to get the exams starting at age 40 due to a higher risk of developing glaucoma at an earlier age. Even if you haven’t experienced any issues with your sight, a dilated exam can detect serious eye diseases and conditions such as age-related macular degeneration, cataract, diabetic eye disease, and glaucoma. During a dilated eye exam, your eye care professional places drops in your eyes to dilate, or widen, the pupil. This lets more light enter the eye, similar to the way an open door lets more light into a dark room and allows your eye care professional to get a good look at the back of your eyes to examine them for any signs of damage or disease. Regular eye exams go a long way in helping you see well for a lifetime. But there is more you can do. Experts at the National Eye Institute recommend following these additional steps to protect your vision. 1. LIVE A HEALTHY LIFESTYLE. Living an overall healthy life is good for your eyes. This includes: n Maintaining a healthy weight. Being overweight or obese increases your risk of developing diabetes and other systemic conditions, which can lead to vision loss from diabetic eye disease or glaucoma. n Eating healthy foods. You’ve heard carrots are good for your eyes, but eating a diet rich in fruits and vegetables, particularly dark leafy greens such as spinach, kale, or collard greens is important for keeping your eyes healthy, too. Research has also shown there are eye health benefits from eating fish high in omega-3 fatty acids, such as salmon, tuna, and halibut.

n Not smoking. Smoking is as bad for your eyes as it is for the rest of your body. Research has linked smoking to an increased risk of developing age-related macular degen eration, cataract and optic nerve damage, all of which can lead to blindness. 2. KNOW YOUR FAMILY HISTORY. Talk to your family members about their eye health history. It’s important to know if anyone has been diagnosed with an eye disease or condition since many are hereditary. This will help to determine if you are at higher risk for developing an eye disease or condition. 3. USE PROTECTIVE EYEWEAR. Protect your eyes when playing sports, working with hazardous materials, or doing chores like mowing the lawn. Protective eyewear includes safety glasses and goggles, safety shields and eye guards specially designed to provide the correct protection for a certain activity. Most protective eyewear lenses are made of polycarbonate, which is 10 times stronger than other plastics. Many eye care providers sell protective eyewear, as do some sporting goods stores.

4. WEAR SUNGLASSES. Sunglasses are a great fashion accessory, but their most important job is to protect your eyes from the sun’s ultraviolet rays. When purchasing sunglasses, look for a pair that block out 99 to 100 percent of both UV-A and UV-B radiation. Exposure to excess sunlight can increase your risk of cataract and age-related macular degeneration, tissue growth on the white part of eye that can cause discomfort and blurred vision. You can find more information on these preventive measures and dozens of other vision-related topics at www. nei.nih.gov.

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Dr. Jodi Brehm and Dr. Michael Sweet:

Partners Improving Women’s Lives

heaton Franciscan Medical Group physicians Jodi Brehm, MD and Michael Sweet, MD began a unique partnership about four years ago that started with a common vision; both forward thinking surgeons wanting to use the latest and best techniques to help women overcome breast cancer while achieving a cosmetic result that makes them happy.

BREAST RECONSTRUCTION: DIRECT TO IMPLANT

There have been significant and positive changes in breast cancer treatment in the past ten years, but according to Dr. Sweet, a plastic and reconstructive surgeon, none more than the introduction of the direct to implant surgery, a one-step breast reconstruction procedure in which a breast implant is inserted at the time of a mastectomy without the need for a tissue expander and the subsequent expansion process. “No one wants to have a mastectomy and many women facing this surgery feel overwhelmed. I want to help them get back to all their activities with complete confidence. Reconstruction can actually be positive; it says they’re going to be around for a long time and we want to help them feel and look great,” noted Dr. Sweet.

MASTECTOMY AND RECONSTRUCTION

A mastectomy is the surgical removal of breast tissue to treat or prevent breast cancer, performed by a breast or general surgeon. Breast reconstruction, performed by a plastic surgeon, rebuilds the breasts after mastectomy. Breast reconstruction can be done in a separate surgical procedure but it can also be performed at the same time as the mastectomy called direct to implant. Which surgery is right for each patient depends on the recommendations of the surgeons. Dr. Brehm, breast surgeon, explains, “Women who are undergoing mastectomy and reconstruction are doing so either for risk reduction or for treatment of breast cancer. This is a very difficult and personal decision for a woman to make. For women who are undergoing surgery to decrease their risk of breast cancer, a single surgery allows them to get back to their normal lives faster and greatly reduces the risk of cancer. Women with breast cancer are 12 | WISCONSIN WOMAN June 2015

often looking at additional therapy, in addition to surgery, to treat their disease. To not have to undergo a second operation at the end of an emotionally and physically draining period of treatment can relieve an incredible burden for women mentally, physically, and financially as well.” Drs. Brehm and Sweet have gained considerable experience and knowledge since that first surgery together four years ago. Today, direct to implant surgeries account for more than half the surgeries they perform together and they’re steadily expanding the parameters for who qualifies for this surgery to include more women.

BEST CANDIDATES FOR DIRECT TO IMPLANT SURGERY: y patients with moderate-to-large breasts who will tolerate smaller breasts after reconstruction y patients undergoing skin, or nipple-sparing mastectomies y non-smokers y women whose breast skin is healthy and able to accommodate the implant y women without diabetes

HOW IS DIRECT TO IMPLANT SURGERY DIFFERENT FROM TRADITIONAL BREAST RECONSTRUCTION?

During traditional breast reconstruction, the plastic surgeon inserts a tissue expander immediately after the breast tissue is removed. Over the next several months, the tissue expanders are filled with saline to stretch the skin and chest muscle to create a pocket for a permanent implant. Once the breast skin and muscle are fully expanded, a second surgery is performed to exchange the tissue expander for a silicone or saline breast implant. “With direct to implant breast reconstruction, an implant is inserted immediately following breast tissue removal. By using a special grafting material, I’m able to create a pocket sufficient to place an implant underneath. This procedure allows the patients to bypass the whole expansion process,” explains Dr. Sweet.

WHY CHOOSE DIRECT TO IMPLANT BREAST RECONSTRUCTION?

“Women who are able and decide to have this surgery do so to avoid months of tissue expanding, a second surgery for permanent implants, and to achieve great aesthetic results. The direct to implant breast reconstruction technique is often performed with a nipple-sparing mastectomy when possible, so that a woman can keep her own nipple area for more natural appearing breasts,” said Dr. Brehm. l To schedule an appointment with Dr. Jodi Brehm, call 414-2561920 and Dr. Michael Sweet, 262-687-8677. Learn more on mywheaton.org.

ADVANTAGES OF DIRECT TO IMPLANT SURGERY: y Only one surgery is needed for the mastectomy and breast reconstruction to be complete y Avoidance of tissue expanders and the stretching process, which can be uncomfortable and take several months y Breast in place right after mastectomy may help lessen emotional stress and preserve a positive body image Many patients today do their own research and are aware of all types of treatments. Dr. Brehm says it’s important for patients to know what’s out there. Dr. Sweet adds, “Every woman’s objectives and anatomy is different, so it really is an individual process, but reconstruction is important for many women to feel good again. Dr. Brehm and I walk our patients through all the options available to them. We listen to their wishes and help them accomplish their goals.”

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CAREERS | Building Stronger Women

When it is TIME

une is a month marked by changes. Spring blossoms into summer and graduations, engagements and weddings end one chapter of life, opening a door to the future. Each of these changes is proceeded by events that originate long before the event takes place. You may be feeling like it is time for a change in your life. Spring has a way of stimulating new thinking, which can highlight discontent with the way things are now. Change is natural and normal, though never easy to contemplate and certainly not easy to navigate. What can you do when you feel the nudge of change? First, pay attention to it. People who ignore their discontent tend to brush aside feelings while growing ever more impatient with things that don’t work, people who do not respond as they wish, or sometimes with their own behavior at work or at home. Change is uncomfortable; its message is important. Next, take note of the things that make your current situation dissatisfying. Perhaps you no longer feel challenged. Perhaps new people, systems or practices have changed status quo in a way that does not align with your goals or values. By intentionally noticing the conditions or circumstances that create misalignment for you, you can determine whether these are temporary—adjustment takes time—or a more permanent reordering of things. Perhaps your current work has been accomplished and it is time to find your next challenge. Being aware of the things that create the feeling of change is critical to managing the process of letting go where you are and reaching for what is next. Next, take an objective inventory of your accomplishments, talents and skills. Reflect on the people you have met over the course of your career, especially those with whom you have established favorable relationships. Consider the type of work and working conditions you would most enjoy. What level of challenge would bring

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for a CHANGE

You may be feeling like it is time for a change in your life. Spring has a way of stimulating new thinking, which can highlight discontent with the way things are now. Change is natural and normal, though never easy to contemplate and certainly not easy to navigate. out your best work? What types of people stimulate your thinking and provide the support you need? This is the time to also consider circumstances, environments and perhaps industries that are not attractive to you. When you begin looking for something new, it is natural to feel uncertain about the process and somewhat intimidated by the thought of exposing yourself to evaluation. To alleviate this anxiety, think of this as an exploration—a shopping trip, perhaps—to find the best next engagement. This will also help prevent you from jumping to the next thing just because it is on offer. It may not be a good fit. Begin to have confidential conversations about what is on your mind. This can be a tricky proposition. Confidentiality means different things to different people. Find those who have

proven themselves to be trustworthy and ask for their confidence as you begin. Use these conversations to check your assumptions, uncover opportunities, and begin to get a clearer sense of your next step. Explore broadly; your past success will naturally lead you down familiar paths. Remember, you are ready for a change! Listen intently during these exchanges. You may hear new ideas— perhaps someone sees a quality or talent in you that you take for granted. Work hard to stay objective as you consider a variety of possibilities. There may be new opportunities with your current employer that you were unaware of until you began your exploration. As you are contemplating a different future, be careful to manage your performance in your current role. Many people fall prey to the ‘quit and stay’ syndrome, wherein they have mentally checked out, but continue to show up each day. This creates tension for everyone and, in some cases, may hasten your change on terms you may regret. Finally, when it is time to make a move, announce it respectfully and close out your current role with grace. Thank the people who have helped you learn and grow. You may encounter them in the future and your generosity will be remembered. Now celebrate the change you have chosen and get ready to feel challenged all over again. You have opened a door; your future awaits! l

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AT HOME | Recipes

his year, recognize dad with the gift he’s really looking forward to receiving — a feast fit for a steak-loving king shared with family and friends. Fire up the grill and serve up robust, savory cuts, such as T-bone or Rib Crown selections for your Father’s Day celebrations. The T-bone is a thick cut to give you more bone-in strip and butter-tender Filet Mignon for even the heartiest of appetites, while the Rib Crown is carved from the most prized part of the Ribeye and is known for exceptional marbling, flavor and tender ness. Both cuts are grain-fed, aged to perfection and flash-frozen to capture freshness and flavor. Steaks make the perfect gift, so you can confidently ship them directly to your favorite fellow or grill them up for him at home. l

MAKE IT A MEMORABLE DAY This Father’s Day, give your dad a gift that ignites his love of grilling. The T-bone and Rib Crown cuts from steaks offer up big, meaty portions every guy would be happy to receive. While you’re honoring your dad, be sure to visit www.RemarkableDads.com for quotes, stories and other Father’s Day inspiration.

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T-BONE STEAKS WITH DAD’S STEAK RUB

RIB CROWN STEAKS WITH ROASTED ROOT VEGETABLES

Prep time: 60 minutes | Cook time: 15 minutes Total time: 1 hour and 15 minutes Servings: 4 4 Rib Crown Steaks 2 tablespoons cooking oil 2 tablespoons Dad’s Steak Rub (see recipe) Roasted Root Vegetables (see recipe)

Thaw steaks overnight in refrigerator or quick thaw by placing sealed steaks in sink with water for 15–30 minutes. Prepare rub and vegetables. Heat grill on high. Blot dry steaks with clean paper towel, then brush each side with cooking oil. Generously season both sides of steaks with rub. Grill steaks to desired doneness. For medium rare steak, grill for about 5 minutes on first side and 3–4 minutes on second side. Serve each steak with vegetables. (Recipe on next page)

USING THE PROPER GRILLING TECHNIQUE 1. Clean and heat your grill on high. 2. Blot dry any moisture using a clean paper towel, and then lightly oil the steak before you put it on the grill. This helps the searing process and prevents sticking. 3. Season your food before grilling. 4. Sear the outside of steaks when grilling. This really helps with the flavor and juiciness. 5. Use tongs or a spatula to turn your meat on the grill. Using a fork can damage and dry out the meat. 6. Cover your grill as much as possible during the grilling process. This helps to lock in the grilled flavor and will help prevent flare-ups. 7. Keep a spray bottle with water handy to douse any unexpected flare-ups. 8. Use the 60/40 grilling method. Grill for 60 percent of the time on the first side, then grill 40 percent of the time after you turn over the food. This will give you an evenly cooked product. 9. Place your cooked product on a clean plate. Never place cooked product on the plate you used to transport the raw product to the grill without thoroughly washing it first. 10. Allow your steaks to “rest” for 5 minutes between cooking and eating. This will help retain moisture when you cut into them.

T-BONE STEAKS WITH DAD’S STEAK RUB

DAD’S STEAK RUB

Prep time: 15 minutes | Cook time: 15 minutes Total time: 30 minutes Servings: 4 4 T-Bone Steaks 2 tablespoons cooking oil Dad’s Steak Rub (see recipe)

Thaw steaks overnight in refrigerator or quick thaw by placing sealed steaks in sink with water for 30 minutes to 1 hour. Prepare rub recipe. Heat grill on medium. Blot dry steaks with clean paper towel, then brush each side with cooking oil. Generously season both sides of steaks with rub. Grill steaks to desired doneness. For medium rare steak, grill for about 8 minutes on first side and 6–7 minutes on second side.

Yield: 1/2 cup 4 tablespoons coarse sea salt or kosher salt 1 tablespoon coarse ground black pepper 1 tablespoon coarse dehydrated onion flakes 1/2 tablespoon coarse dehydrated garlic 1/2 tablespoon crushed red pepper 1 teaspoon whole dill seed 1 teaspoon dried whole thyme 1 teaspoon whole cumin (toasted and crushed coarse) 1 teaspoon whole coriander (toasted and crushed coarse)

Combine all and mix well. Store in air tight container or zip lock bag for up to 6 months. Note: To prepare cumin and coriander, toast by placing in dry pan over medium heat, shaking pan about 2–3 minutes until seasonings start to brown. Crush using bottom of pan on cutting board or with mortar and pestle. Heat oven to 400°F. Wash and peel root vegetables. Cut into even size wedges about 1/2 to 3/4 inch thick. Toss with olive oil, salt and pepper. Place on foil lined sheet pan. Roast for 30–40 minutes or until all vegetables are done, stirring once half way through cooking time.

ROASTED ROOT VEGETABLES

Prep time: 20 minutes | Cook time: 40 minutes Total time: 60 minutes Servings: 4 2 pounds mixed root vegetables (carrots, red beets, yellow beets, turnips, celery root, baby purple potatoes, baby gold potatoes) 2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil 1 teaspoon kosher salt 1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper

KNOW WHEN YOUR STEAK IS DONE Interior Color

Touch

Internal Temperature

Surface Appearance

Rare

Completely red all the way through

Feels very soft

120° to 130°F

Beads of bright red juices barely begin to form on edges of steak

Medium Rare

Red center with pink edges

Feels soft and spongy

130° to 140°F

Red juices form on surface

Medium

Pink in center with brown edges

Offers resistance to touch

140° to 150°F

Abundant pink juices on surface

Medium Well

Mostly brown, slightly pink in center

Feels slightly firm

150° to 160°F

Brown and pink juices on surface

Well

Brown all the way through

Feels very firm

160° to 170°F

Juice, if present, will be brown

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LIFESTYLE | In Fashion

ACTIVEWEAR is the New Ready-to-Wear

ave you jumped into the ready-to-wear turned activewear trend? I never thought I would see so many stylish sweatpants, spandex and flowing athletic tops being worn everyday in public. There is no question that activewear has woken up the retail world. Everywhere you turn or look lately, you can find their favorite brands carrying a line of stylish athletic/activewear clothing. The looks are being paired with the ready-to-wear (RTW) collections and some collections having a distinct

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blend of both. The different generational cohorts are mixing and taking to this new trend. It is hard not to notice the highschool age group wearing athletic leggings with any and every kind of top; jeans have become a past tense in the stores. The mid-to-late twenties and early thirties are mixing and blending the looks. Weekend looks are becoming an easy transition from going to meet friends, to the gym and then grocery shopping, easily throwing on a layered piece (zip-up sporty jacket) and heading to the store. Forties and fifties are layering the athletic pieces into their looks, by intermixing the sporty pieces into their ready-to-wear looks. No matter what the age, the active trends have impacted the retail stores, brands, and have changed the way consumers shop. Fashion week has shown a strong presence in showcasing these ongoing trends. RTW designers are utilizing the use of textiles and incorporating sportier and functional features like hidden headphone pockets. Fabrics have wicking, powermax and cooling capabilities now. Designers such as Stella McCartney, have collaborated with Adidas and Riccardo Tisci, Givenchy’s creative director for Paris’ fashion house, created a line for Nike. The windows of Bloomingdale’s and Macy’s in New York City recently showcased designers’ activewear collections. Activewear is the new Ready-to-Wear. Whether you are just getting used to this trend or have been rocking it for a few seasons, try integrating the looks into your current wardrobe and RTW outfits. You might be pleasantly surprised on how comfort can be fashionable and stylish. Happy Shopping! l Jessica Little, MSL Fashion Industry Professional/Instructor Stay Lovely!

When Is an Older Driver a Danger on the Road?

BY DR. DAVID LIPSCHITZ

elling an older person he should no longer drive is difficult. This can be a devastating blow to the person, who may resist the suggestion vigorously. No longer being able to drive takes away one’s independence and increases isolation, depression, risk of illness and a likelihood of placement in a nursing home. It is for those reasons that decisions about driving must be taken seriously, must be based on sound medical facts and must not rely on frantic family members (usually children) who are overly concerned about their parent’s safety. Recently, an angry older person, whose family had forbidden him to drive, came to see me brandishing a report published by the RAND Corp. that showed that “seniors” are safer drivers than young adults. It reported that drivers older than 65 have fewer accidents than those younger than 25. The older group causes only 7 percent of accidents, compared with 43 percent for the younger group. “Of course, I should drive,” this 85-year-old man insisted angrily. Sadly, the RAND report was misleading. Lumping everyone older than 65 together fails to tell the whole story. Many older people elect to stop driving, drive shorter distances and do not drive at night. According to a report published by the National Cooperative Highway Research Program, the number of crashes per 1,000 licensed drivers averages 68 per year, whereas there are only 37 per 1,000 involving drivers older than 65. However, as there are fewer older drivers, a better way to assess risk is to evaluate the number of accidents in relation to the number of miles driv-

en. If we use this approach, the safest drivers range in age from 55 to 64, averaging 3.2 crashes per 1 million vehicle miles driven, compared with 8.2 crashes for those ages 20 to 24, which happens to be the same rate as the one for drivers older than 85. Of greater concern is the number of fatalities. In the United States, for every 1,000 accidents, there are two deaths. For those between the ages of 60 and 74, the number of deaths is 3.2 per 1,000 crashes, increasing to 8.56 per thousand crashes for those older than 85. Furthermore, the percentage of times the driver is at fault increases with age. Only 42 percent of 50 to 64-year-olds are at fault in fatal accidents. The percentage is 72 for those older than 85. We all know of the sad story of the man with Alzheimer’s disease who crashed into a market in Santa Monica, California, killing 10 people. And recently, a patient in my office who has a physical disability slammed his foot on the accelerator instead of the brake, smashing into one of our nurse’s office, creating havoc. Had she been at her desk, she would have been crushed. There is no question there are many safe drivers who are older than 80, but just like the case with teenagers, the risk increases. Here it is because of declines in visual acuity, physical disabilities that can lead to longer reaction times and alterations in cognition that can lead to failure in judgment. Medications such as sleeping pills (including Benadryl), as well as other drugs, including alcohol, of course, also contribute.

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FIANCÈ AND FINANCES

Questions to Ask Before Marriage

arriage is a milestone in life; yet, many enter into the next phase without asking their spouse some vital questions about money. If you are among the soon-to-be wed, consider starting a conversation using the questions below. Couples who plan their expenses ahead of time are more likely to enjoy their earnings, and less likely to need credit repair intervention.

MEN, WOMEN AND WEDDINGS

Females are often portrayed as materialistic or overthe-top when it comes to their big day, but recent findings from an online Harris Poll tell a different story. Surprisingly, the study found that twice the number of men stated they would or did go into debt to pay for their dream wedding. The study also found that both men and women valued financial responsibility. In fact, 91% indicated a preference for entering marriage debt-free as opposed to having a dream wedding.

DISCUSSING MONEY MATTERS

So how does one go into a marriage with a solid financial standing? Those soon-to-be-wed couples who converse openly about their finances are more likely to enjoy their big day with an understanding of their mate’s views on money. The experts at Lexington Law offer these questions every newly engaged couple should ask before the big day:

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June 2, 8 am –6 pm

Free Admission

Boerner Botanical Gardens, 9400 Boerner Drive in Whitnall Park. On the first Tuesday of each month, all Milwaukee County Residents will receive free admission to the Gardens. The Boerner Botanical Gardens Arboretum occupies over 1000 acres in Whitnall Park and the adjoining Root River Parkway. The Arboretum has received Level II Accreditation from the Morton Register. The accreditation program recognizes arboreta for achieving professional standards to advance the planting and conservation of trees. For more information, call Boerner Botanical Gardens at (414) 525-5601 or visit countyparks.com. June 3, 7 pm

Vagabond Ski & Social Club WG’s Banquet Center, 3200 S. 103rd Street. Join an active social club for singles and married couples. Meeting and dance; with great music by Andrea and the Mods. Beginning at 7:00 (meeting), 8:00 (dance), at, (103rd & Oklahoma Ave.). There is a $5.00 admission fee and club is open to all adults. For more information visit www.vagabondskiclub.com. June 4 – 11

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with three-course options at $12.50 for lunch and $25 or $35 for dinner. Downtown Dining Week invites out-of-town guests and area residents to get a taste for all that downtown Milwaukee has to offer. Diners hungry for more info on the event can preview menus of participating restaurants at www. milwaukeedowntown.com. Reservations are encouraged during the event. June 5, 10:30 am – noon

Memory Café: Topic Herbs for the Senses Delafield Public Library, 500 Genesee Street, Delafield Delafield Public Library partners with 3 other local libraries and the Alzheimer’s Association of Southeastern Wisconsin to offer monthly Memory Cafes for those individuals who are living with Mild Cognitive Impairment (MCI), early-stage Alzheimer’s disease or other dementia, and their care partners. A Memory Cafe offers participants a safe and fun way to share stories and socialize with others who have concerns about their memory. For more information visit www.librarymemoryproject.org. The theme for the June Memory Cafe is ‘Herbs for the Senses: Taste, Smell, Feel’ presented by Irene Lewandowski. Please register with Wendy Betley of the Alzheimer’s Association at 414-4798800

June 8, 10 am – 3 pm

June 5,6,7, Friday 3 pm – midnight, Sat. & Sun. noon – midnight

Pride Fest

Henry Maier Festival Park, 200 N Harbor Dr., Milwaukee. Pride Fest is the most dynamic pride festival featuring the largest LGBT music showcase in North America. The three-day festival features, food, music, entertainment, health & wellness, youth area and more. Sunday at 2 pm is the festival parade. For additional information visit pridefest.com or call 414-2723378. June 6,

Spring on Brady 4th Annual Art Walk 1330 E. Brady Street Join fellow art enthusiasts on Brady Street in Milwaukee to celebrate spring with the 4th annual Art Walk. Shop amazing sidewalk sales along with spectacular dining and drink deals. Visit the local Art Market which will be set up outside in the courtyard near 1330 E. Brady Street. Nearly 20 merchants will be hosting live artists from painting and sketching, to pottery and even puppy artistry! Presented by the Brady Street Business Improvement District.

Red Cross Blood Drive Hartland Public Library, 110 E. Park Av., Hartland. Registration is required: call 1-800-733-2767 to make an appointment. The blood drive will be in the Hartland Library Program Room. For more information, call the library at 262-367-350 or visit their website at www.hartlandlibrary.org June 10, 6:30 - 9 pm

Westown River Rhythms Pere Marquette Park, on Old World Third Street between Kilbourn and State Streets. Join music lovers every Wednesday night for a different free concert. For more information on each concert contact the Westown Association at (414) 276-6696, events@westown. org or visit www.westown.org. June 12, 13, 14, Friday & Saturday Noon to Midnight, Sunday Noon to 8:00 PM

Polish Fest

Henry Maier Festival Park, 200 N Harbor Dr., Milwaukee. Between the cultural village exhibits, artisans, bands, dancers, pageants, Chopin competition, Polish Fest Pageants, Polish organizations, Polish bakery, market place vendors, and all the food and drink vendors

this festival is not to be missed. Polish Fest has a proud history in Milwaukee because of the strong Polish community in the area. Free Admission to Sunday Mass-Gates Open at 9:30 am. June 13, noon – 9 pm

2015 HOG and STEER BBQ Competition and Festival Wisconsin Harley Davidson, 1280 Blue Ribbon Drive, I-94 & Highway 67, Oconomowoc. Harley Davidson is hosting the 3rd Annual HOG and STEER State BBQ Competition and Festival. The best BBQ cooks in the state will be battling head to head to win over your taste buds. Multiple different beverage vendors and unlimited food/BBQ sampling, live entertainment throughout the day, and cold beverages will be available. For ticket information, call 262-569-8500. June 14, 10:00 am – 2:00 pm

FREE Paddle Demonstrations

at CWO Paddle Demo Days 2015 Lake Shore State Park, 500 N Harbor Dr., Milwaukee, Wisconsin Clear Water Outdoor brings paddle opportunities for the whole family to the shores of Lake Michigan at their Annual Paddle Demo Days. Paddlers of all ages and experience levels are welcome to try as many different watercrafts as they’d like, ask questions, get out on the water and have fun! Rain or shine, boats and boards will be available to demo. In the advent of thunder and lightning, the event may be suspended. Interested paddlers are invited to check ClearWaterOutdoor.com or call the Lake Geneva store at 262.348.2420 for more information or to confirm the day’s events. June 12, 13, 14, 11 am – 10 pm

Fiesta Waukesha

Frame Park, 701 E. Moreland Boulevard Waukesha, Free Admission to this festival, which

promotes multi-cultural awareness and offers a wide array of Hispanic entertainment, Latin American cuisine, amusement rides, children’s area and more; located along the banks of the Fox River. For additional information visit lacasadeesperanza. org or call 262-547-0887. June 15, 10:30 am

The University of Wisconsin-Waukesha Foundation Annual Golf Outing The Legends at Merrill Hills, W270 S3425 Merrill Hills Rd, Waukesha. The outing is open to individuals and groups alike. The Shotgun Scramble begins at noon with registration, the driving range and putting contest opening at 10:30 a.m. Registration includes lunch and dinner along with a raffle and a silent and live auction. Non-golfers are invited to register for the dinner. For more information on registering, please contact the UW-Waukesha Foundation at 262-446-3328, or WAKFoundation@uwc.edu. June 18, Starting at Dusk

Moonlit Movies

Fowler Park, Oconomowoc Grab your flashlight, some non-perishable items to donate, bug-spray and blankets and head to Fowler Park. The night starts off with various activities, including a Badgerland ski show. There are concessions and countless opportunities for fun, followed by a FREE family friendly movie under the stars on a 40-foot screen. This year marks the 10th year of this summertime classic. Facebook friends select all the movies. For additional information visit www.moonlitmovies.org.

Village Park The public is invited to throttle over to Sussex Village Park and stay awhile for this free, fun family event. Classic car owners and enthusiasts a like love to share their passion for their cars. Listen to live music and enjoy a cold beverage. Concessions will be available. Classic car owners: There is no fee to cruise. Check in your car at the Sussex Village Hall parking lot by 5:45 p.m. and cruise will start at 6:00 p.m. and end at the Sussex Village Park. June 18, 6 – 7 pm

What Do I Do If I Need Help? Delafield Public Library, 500 Genesee Street, Delafield Are You Caring For Someone You Love? Are You Living Alone and Need Help? What Services are Available and How Do I Pay? Join Diane Ordway, RN, from “At Your Service” in Delafield as she addresses issues and options of aging in place when living at home independently is in question. Call the Delafield Library at 262-646-6230 to register. June 19-21

Lakefront Festival of the Art Located on Milwaukee Art Museum grounds, 700 North Art Museum Dr., Milwaukee. Children’s activities, artists, food & drink and entertainment to fill the

whole weekend. Free for kids 12 & under. Visit www. lfoa.mam.org for additional information. June 19, 12-5 pm

Corporate Kickball Tournament Playworks Wisconsin will host its fourth annual Corporate Kickball Tournament at Brown Deer Park. The event will include tournament play, food and adult beverages, and an opportunity to bid on an assortment of auction items ranging from gift packages from Milwaukee’s “hot spots” to once-in-a-lifetime experiences. For more information on sponsorship opportunities, to register a team or participate as an individual, contact Katy at 414-2204301 or kglodosky@playworks.org. June 20, 1-5 pm

The Wisconsin Beer Lovers Festival Bayshore Town Center, 5800 North Bayshore Drive, Glendale. Hosted in partnership with the Wisconsin Brewers Guild, the event features unlimited samples from more than 30 craft breweries throughout the state. Breweries are paired with local restaurants that create samples of food selections that are expertly matched with different craft beers. For ticket information call 414-390-5500.

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June 18, 6 pm

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