Multiplicity Baby Gear Guide 2014

2014 Baby Gear Guide special hospital packing list!

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MAM ANTI-COLIC BOTTLE

MAM has designed a bottle to avoid colic, with a ventilated base that controls air flow and reduces the amount of air your baby swallows. Less air means less gas, less fussing for baby and quieter nights for you. Find out why 9 out of 10 ** babies accept MAM’s Silk Nipple at mambaby.com/bottle.

MAM products are developed in cooperation with ICMRS and other experts. All MAM products are made from BPA-free materials.

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** Market research 2008-2010 of 995 babies

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VENTED BASE Air flows evenly through ventilation holes to regulate the pressure balance.

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AVOID COLIC, GAS AND EPIC CRYING SESSIONS.

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Must-have products for Health & Safety

Executive Editor / Creative Director Talitha A. McGuinness

10 Must-have products for On the Go 12 Must-have Necessories for Baby & Mom

Photographers Firewife Photography

15 They’re Here! Adjusting to Life at Home

Contributing Writers Sharon Knight Tamara Duker Freuman Susan Rassette Mike Crider Carolyn Christensen

18 Must-have products to Relax and Rest 20 Must-have Adorable Duds 22 He Said, She Said: The Things Strangers Say 24 Must-have products for Kicks & Giggles 28 Daddy Duty: What to expect when the twins

Twiniversity Content Mgr. Julie Burt Nichols

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30 Must-have products for Bites & Bits 34

Twiniversity Forums/ Social Meda Mgr. Deanna Burkett

Must-have products Just for Mom

38 Must-have products Store & Stow

Social Media Mgr. Jill Marcum

40 The NICU Stay: Things every parent of multiples should know

cover cuties This issue’s cover features expectant parents, Allison and Michael. Their little girls Clara and Annaleigh were born in June 2012.

Hopefully, dad’s life experience as a firefighter and mom’s experience as a firefighter’s wife prepared and gave them ample skills and wisdom to tackle being parents of multiples! photos courtesy of Firewife Photography

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nutrition & exercise

for breastfeeding moms by tamara duker freuman

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s an expectant mother of multiples, you’re entering into a sisterhood bound by the unparalleled joys — and challenges — of raising twins, triplets or even quads. But if you’re also planning to breastfeed your babies, consider yourself among an even more select group of new mothers.

Breastfeeding multiples — whether partially or exclusively — isn’t easy, but it is certainly possible. Knowing how to best care for your post-partum body through diet and exercise can help improve the likelihood of success in meeting your breastfeeding goals.

Eat up!

If you thought your multiples pregnancy was a calorie-fest, then welcome to lactation! Exclusive breastfeeding requires far more than you needed during pregnancy — at least 500 extra calories per day…per baby! As eager as you may be to lose your pregnancy weight, breastfeeding is not the time to follow a restrictive, low calorie diet.

Research shows that low calorie diets often result in reduced milk supply — a particular concern for nursing moms with more than one mouth to feed.

Besides, breastfeeding multiple babies is probably the only opportunity you’ll have in your life to eat anything you want… and still lose weight without trying!

Many expectant mamas plan ahead so that they won’t need to worry about food once their babies arrive. For example, you can batch cook and freeze hearty meals like stews, chili, lasagnas and casseroles so that a quick, nutritious meal is always

on hand. Some parents create online meal registries, like Mealbaby or Mealtrain, to help friends and family coordinate meal delivery for those hectic first few months. Using grocery delivery services is also a great way to keep the fridge stocked with nutritious staples without having to go food shopping.

When thinking about pantry staples, consider foods that can be eaten one-handed or with a spoon — like yogurt, peanut butter sandwiches, thick stews and oatmeal. After all, chances are you’ll be holding a baby when it comes time to eat!

Stay hydrated. Breastfeeding

infants drink 25-30 ounces daily, so nursing twins means that about seven cups of fluid will exit your breasts daily (scale that up if you’re breastfeeding triplets!). This fluid requirement is in addition to the several cups per day you require to meet your own body’s needs.

In other words, if you’re not eating or sleeping, you probably should be sipping. All fluids count toward meeting your needs — including coffee, tea, broths and soups. Even watery foods like watermelon, Jell-O, popsicles and cooked cereals will make a contribution.

Try keeping a pitcher or large refillable water bottle next to your preferred nursing station so you can sip on liquids while feeding your babies.

Beware of unnecessary diet restrictions. Busy new moms

have a hard enough time feeding themselves, so adding unnecessary diet restrictions to the mix just makes things more difficult. Contrary to Internet lore, avoiding certain multiplicity

foods during lactation does not help prevent food allergies in babies (and in fact, may have the opposite effect), nor will it improve gassiness or discomfort in colicky babies.

Newborn babies are gassy, and this is a function of their immature digestive systems, not the result of anything in the mother’s diet. “Gassy” foods like beans and broccoli — or even spicy foods or dairy — have no bearing on a healthy newborn’s digestive function.

Breastmilk is generated onthe-spot in a woman’s breasts, and there is no mechanism by which gas generated in mom’s own intestines from her diet can travel through the blood, into her mammary glands and transfer itself into baby’s milk!

One exception to the rule is in cases where babies have an actual allergy to a food in mom’s diet (most likely cow’s milk), a situation that affects a small minority of infants. In such cases, symptoms are more likely to be rashes, vomiting or reflux, diarrhea or failure to gain weight.

There are no benefits to avoiding spicy or pungent foods if you enjoy them, either.

While compounds from foods in mom’s diet may affect the flavor of breastmilk, this phenomenon may actually facilitate acclimation and acceptance to the family’s usual diet by infants with a developing palate. So indulge in all the asparagus, wasabi, garlic and Indian food you like!

Safety first.

Virtually all of the food safety restrictions from pregnancy are relaxed during lactation: favorites like

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sushi, deli meats, young cheeses and coffee are all safe to enjoy again. However, a small handful of safety-related considerations persist during lactation due to the potential effects of certain food-borne compounds on a baby’s developing nervous system. These include alcohol, mercury and endocrine-disrupting chemicals like Bisphenol-A (BPA).

One to two alcoholic drinks per week is considered safe while lactating, but experts advise limiting intake to a single drink in a sitting and allowing a full two hours to pass between drinking and nursing. Also, be aware that even trace amounts of alcohol in breastmilk can interfere with babies’ sleep, and newborns are more sensitive to alcohol exposure than older infants and toddlers.

To help protect nervous system development, limiting your intake of high mercury fish — as you did during pregnancy — remains prudent.

If you buy canned foods like soups, beans, tuna and tomatoes, look for brands that use BPA-free can liners, including Eden Organics, Muir Glen, Amy’s Kitchen, Native Forest, Wild Planet and Vital Choice. Products sold in aseptic tetra paks are also BPA-free and safe to use during lactation.

Ease into exercise.

Producing over 1,000 calories worth of milk daily, you’ll burn more by breastfeeding than you could ever expect to walk off on a treadmill. That’s why most nursing moms of multiples lose a substantial amount of baby weight without ever donning a pair of sneakers (let alone a bra!). That’s a good thing, since breastfeeding multiples tends to be a round-the-clock enterprise for the first several months, one that leaves little time and energy for the gym. As your babies grow and the demands of nursing subside, you may find yourself ready to get moving again.

of it. Therefore, a rigorous exercise regimen that produces a significant calorie deficit may adversely affect the amount of milk you produce.

Similarly, poor hydration from excessive sweating can also reduce the amount of breastmilk you produce. For these reasons, light physical activity that focuses on fitness, strength and stress relief (i.e. walking, yoga or pilates) may be more compatible with your demanding lactation regimen than intense workouts like running, interval training and spinning. This rings true at least in the first several months of breastfeeding before your supply is well-established.

It’s a huge challenge to prioritize self-care when faced with the overwhelming task of caring for your newborns, so enlist help from your partner, relatives and friends in keeping yourself fed, watered and rested. Raising multiples is a marathon — not a sprint — so consider taking care of you as a form of endurance training!

Tamara Duker Freuman is a registered dietitian who specializes in medical nutrition therapy for digestive disorders and is an expert in celiac disease. In addition to her clinical work, Tamara blogs for US NEWS & WORLD REPORT’s eat + run health page and hosts a popular blog devoted to healthy eating and gluten-free living.

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health & safety crane humidifiers

Get relief from Cold and Flu Symptoms and bring Wellness to your entire Family in Style with a Crane Humidifier. Newborns are Obligate Nasal Breathers, breathing only through their tiny noses for their first 4 - 6 months. Humidifiers help relieve the effects of dryness and congestion, helping your Child to breathe, feed, and sleep through the night peacefully. Our Ultrasonic Cool Mist Humidifiers come in Adorable Animal and Tear Drop Shapes and do not require a filter. They also feature whisper quiet operation, adjustable mist output, and an auto-shutoff feature when the 1 Gallon Tank runs out of water. retail: Adorable $45.99; Drop $49.99

tortle

Tortle helps to prevent and treat flat head syndrome, by gently deflecting your baby’s head when she’s sitting or lying on the back of her head. It’s a natural way to encourage healthy head and neck motion. Tortle comes in Small (0-2 months), Medium (2-4 months), and Large (4-6 months). Tortle caps are machine washable. retail: $19.99

hyland’s baby gas drops

Parents – you know the real price of gas. Your baby pays for it dearly, by enduring the pain and discomfort caused by a swollen and bloated tummy full of gas. It’s an awful feeling, especially when it interrupts a restful night of sleep. Our Baby Gas Drops naturally calm down your baby’s system, relieving painful symptoms. Easy to administer, these natural grape flavored drops soothe the discomfort and pain from gas, so your baby can feel better! retail: $31.49

kidkusion finger guard

Doors ever caught your little one’s fingers? To prevent it from closing, this unique product design allows the Finger Guard to be placed on the side, top or hinge side of the door as needed.

This clear, “out of sight, out of mind” product will prevent a lot of pinched fingers! retail: $5.00 multiplicity

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health & safety stem cells have big power

Cord blood stem cells have already been used in the treatment of 80+ diseases. Over one million children have their cord blood stem cells saved privately and almost half of them are stored with Cord Blood Registry.

Learn more today. Get started at cordblood.com. See what other moms are saying about cord blood banking at Facebook or on YouTube.

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SHE’S JUST 1 OF THE 500,000 REASONS WHY CBR IS #1 WITH OB/GYN S AND EXPECTING PARENTS. *

Over 1 million children have their stem cells saved and nearly half of them are with CBR. Every day, we’re driving stem cell medicine forward. Learn how CBR can provide a lifetime of medical options today and into the future.

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angelcare ac300 movement monitor

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*Note: The Sensor Pad can be used with a regulatory standard baby mattress, whatever the size or thickness. However, it cannot be used with memory foam mattresses, dual sided, mattresses with a hollow frame or Purflo mattresses.

Foldaway Baby Bath offers versatility and convenience for bathing your little one. The tub folds easily and compactly for storage and travel. The large tub includes an inclined positioner that can be removed as your baby grows. The inflatable base provides an extra soft, padded cushion for your little one.

The Angelcare AC 300 Movement Monitor is perfect for twins or triplets sleeping in the same room. The Sensor Pad is the perfect complement to your existing Angelcare® baby monitoring system. Simply place one under the mattress of each additional baby and you have all bases covered. An alarm will sound if no movement is detected after 20 seconds, so you and baby can sleep tight. Turn on the Audio ‘Tic’ feature on your parent unit and this will make a ticking sound to reassure you the monitor is working even when your baby is sleeping silently. This is a good option if you already own an Angelcare® AC401, AC1100 or AC601 Movement and Sound Monitor, but have more than one baby to monitor in the same room. IMPORTANT: babies must all be sleeping in separate cribs. retail: $65.99 (US); $75.99 (Canada)

step to open gate

The Step to Open Gate features a completely hands-free design. A dualsided foot pedal opens the gate, and the door gently closes behind the user. Step to Open Gate is pressure mounted for easy installation. Comes in stylish silver and black finish. 32” tall gate fits doorways 30” – 45” wide retail: $79.99 8

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health & safety summer playsafe playard

With two little ones crawling and walking at the same time, it gets hard to keep up with them. The Playsafe Playard helps parents create a safe play area that is easy to set up, lightweight, and conveniently portable. The six secure plastic panels form a complete enclosure for your child or children. Adding the 2 secure extension panels increases the play area from 18.5 square feet to 34.4 square feet. retail: $89.99

nose frida nasal aspirator

Baby fussy because she can’t breathe? It happens! NoseFrida is noninvasive – instead of going inside the nose like the bulb, it forms a seal with the outside of the baby’s nostril (creating a vacuum).

Parent-powered (mouth) suction is much stronger and more effective than the static suction of the bulb or battery-powered aspirators. NoseFrida is also easy to clean. retail: $15.00

mam oral care rabbit

Designed to maintain baby’s oral hygiene before teeth arrive, the MAM Oral Care Rabbit gently removes plaque and bacteria from baby’s mouth. Mom’s fingers tuck into the rabbit’s super soft “ears” like a glove, allowing her to gently massage and clean baby’s gums.

Regular use of the MAM Oral Care Rabbit also helps prepare baby for a regular tooth brushing routine at an early age. The Oral Care Rabbit’s soft microfiber material is gentle on baby’s tender and sensitive gums. BPA-free and can be washed in the washing machine retail: $5.99

buzz b nail trimmer

Buzz B is a battery operated nail trimmer. It safely trims nails with a gentle yet effective oscillating action. The cushioned pads are specially designed for baby’s nails so it won’t harm surrounding skin.

With two different power settings, parents can control the speed.

Buzz B includes 1 AA battery, 4 different pads of varying textures (2 infant / 2 toddler) and a compact case for easy portability or storage. retail: $30.00 multiplicity

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on the go primo play yard cabana

Sleep and play anywhere! Perfect for indoor or outdoor use for up to 3 children! It is oversized, lightweight, portable and comes fully assembled. The waterproof padded floor mat keeps your child comfortable and dry. Side panels offer see-through mesh for ventilation and easy visibility of your children, with one having a zippered door with lock for easy access to child(ren) when the cover is used. Cloth travel case with shoulder strap included for easy portability. Store the travel case and removable cabana cover in side storage pockets. Fabric is sunproof for added protection. recommended ages: 0-3 years

retail: $199.99

baby trend snap and go stroller

The Baby Trend Snap N Go Stroller allows parents to place two infant car seats on carriage frame without removing child. It’s a convenient alternative to a conventional carriage or stroller because it fits most major brand car seats, folds compactly for storage or travel with one hand fold and features an extra large storage basket. retail: $99.99

booginhead sippigrip

No more lost or dirty cups! SippiGrip prevents your child’s cup, bottle or toy from falling to the floor and getting lost or dirty. SippiGrip is a great ‘On the Go’ and germ protection product! Unique grip material for a strong hold. Washable, durable and non-toxic for little mouths.

Adjustable in length. Attaches to high chairs, strollers, car seats, etc. retail: $7.50

hold-on handles®

As moms of twins and triplets, we know the most challenging times are when out and about with the kids and they want out of the stroller.

Hold-On Handles is the ideal tool to help during these “out-handed” situations. It’s not a child restraint or harness, but rather a teaching tool to help keep 1-3 children within arm’s reach. With a quick click of the unique, oversized carabiner, it can transform from stroller accessory to a reinvented walking rope that can be worn comfortably on your wrist or through a belt loop. Your kids will love to hold their favorite handles, freeing up your hands for everything else. You will feel more confident, and your children can be safer, more active, and happily independent. retail: $19.99 - $27.99 10

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on the go monkey mat

Kids will roll around on the floor and play anywhere. But if the thought of that dirty, germy floor makes you cringe, get a Monkey Mat. These adorable, portable, durable, nylon mats are 5-foot-by5-foot and feature weighted corners with loops for securing the mat to the ground as well as four small loops in the center, ideal for clipping infant toys, keys or any other important items you want to keep handy. Monkey Mat can be used in airports, parks, hotels, and anywhere you need a clean surface for your child. Best of all Monkey Mat folds up into a tiny pouch you can clip to a purse or diaper bag! retail: $19.99

tot seat by svan

Made of fabric, this portable, washable and easy-to-use seat is designed to safely anchor a little one in an adult chair in the absence of a high chair. The Totseat weighs mere ounces and easily folds to fit in a diaper bag, purse or tote. The Totseat’s design can be easily adapted to fit a variety of adult chairs and provide perfect seating for babies and toddlers. retail: $35.00

cares child aviation restraint system

CARES Child Aviation Restraint System is designed specifically for aviation use for children age 1 and older who weigh between 22-44 pounds. These youngsters are old enough to be in their own seats, but are too small for the seat belt alone to protect them and provide the safety they require during airplane travel. Their bodies cannot withstand the jolts that are common in routine air travel. The restraint weighs less than 1 lb. and fits perfectly in a purse or carry-on bag. retail: $74.95

bbox essential diaper wallet

This compact, plastic container holds everything for a quick diaper change on the go! It has a built-in wipes box and holds 2 disposable diapers. The diaper wallet has dual access to wipes, with the wipes compartment holding up to 20 wipes. An easy clean change mat included, too! retail: $24.95 multiplicity

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necessories piggy paint

Piggy Paint is a natural, eco-friendly nail polish designed for fancy girls.

Its non-toxic, hypoallergenic formula makes it safe to use on all piggies.

Piggy Paint dries to a hard, durable finish that can easily be removed with our eco-friendly, low odor Piggy Paint nail polish remover. Both are made in the USA! Available in an assortment of gift sets perfect for Holidays and other special occasions. Say good-bye to harsh, smelly chemicals and hello to Piggy Paint...it’s as Natural as Mud!

special offer!

retail: $8.99/ bottle Use code: piggypaintnails for 15% off of your order on www.piggypaint.com through July 1, 2014.

chewbeads

For babies that love to put everything in their mouths, these necklaces are a favorite! Chewbeads are soft, non-toxic jewelry that is colorful, chic, and above all else, safe. Chewbeads also offers teethers and toys that babies can enjoy and feel good about.

Products are 100% Silicone, with no BPA, Phthalates, lead, cadmium, or metal. They are dishwasher safe and are soft on baby’s gums and emerging teeth. Individuals or gift sets available! retail: $29.50+

bink’d temporary tattoo earrings

As mothers, we’re always looking for cute, safe solutions for dolling up our little girls. If you’re looking for a temporary, pain-free method to ear piercing, bINK’d® is the answer! They are the look of earrings without having the commitment, or the dangers associated with young children getting piercings (i.e. infections, choking hazards, etc.). You simply choose your design, tear at the perforation, remove the overlay, place on the ear, and moisten. Beautiful earrings in no time at all! retail: $19.99

booginhead pacipouch

The PaciPouch will keep your pacifiers clean and close by. It attaches to any stroller or bag. PaciPouch holds two pacifiers and two PaciGrips!

The PaciPouch features a zipper closure for easy access and a snap strap to attach easily to any item. Washable and non-toxic. retail: $8.00 12

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necessories cinch post-partum tummy wrap

Feeling a little loose after delivery and looking for a little support? The Cinch helps support, enhance, and tone after natural birth, C-section, or postpartum abdominal surgeries. The Cinch features a 360 degree even and controlled compression, is completely adjustable & multifunctional. It’s also a luxurious postpartum belly band with a back support belt, plus hip shaper. retail: $98.00

balboa baby highchair cover

Worried about germs and dirt when eating out with your little ones?

Balboa Baby’s highchair covers are machine washable and dryable.

They are compact in size, allowing you to carry it all times in your diaper bag or tote. With your hands full, it’s four elastic corners are perfect for easy one-hand installation. Fits most restaurant high chairs.

Comes in 6 designs, made of soft, quilted fabrics. retail: $40.00

bellybuds

The Bellybuds baby-bump sound system consists of specialized speakers that gently adhere to the belly of moms-to-be and safely play memory-shaping sound directly to the womb. A baby’s hearing develops in utero around 20 weeks. Memories begin at 30. Bellybuds are an accessible method of helping moms, dads and other family members bond with the new baby during prenatal stages of sound development. Bellybuds works anywhere, anytime! retail: $49.99

ju-ju-be be prepared diaper bag

This is a great diaper bag for twin mommies, as it will fit everything, including the kitchen sink! This bag has a full zip-down mommy pocket for super easy access of personal things, a memory foam changing pad, and a picture pocket to keep photos handy when bragging to friends (who doesn’t love that?!?). Also features 2 exterior insulated bottle pockets, a structured bottom with luggage feet, and even better, color-coded tabs let you know which pocket is for which child. Made of Teflon, stains don’t stick! Multiple designs available. retail: $180.00 multiplicity

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SHE’S JUST 1 OF THE 500,000 REASONS WHY CBR IS #1 WITH OB/GYN S AND EXPECTING PARENTS. *

Over 1 million children have their stem cells saved and nearly half of them are with CBR. Every day, we’re driving stem cell medicine forward. Learn how CBR can provide a lifetime of medical options today and into the future.

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*Blind survey, Gfk Market Measures for CBR, 07.12 | Ultimate use of newborn stem cells will be determined by the treating physician, who will consider if they are applicable for the condition and should come from the patient or a suitable donor (like an HLA-matched sibling). © 2014 Cbr Systems, Inc. All rights reserved · 0314 · MA02337.00

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adjusting to life at home by carolyn christensen

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ags packed, heading to the hospital today. Your twins will be born and you’ll have the support and resources of the hospital while there, but what can you expect once you bring them home? There are some things you can do to make your first few days home more manageable. I found that lots of lists, charts, advice from books, and some simple organizing made our first weeks and months a little easier.

Once you are home with your little ones, you will realize now you have two newborns to care for. In combination with your lack of sleep, your memory will be put to the test. You will need to use a notebook, printable chart and a computer, ipad or iphone app to keep track of feedings (amounts and times), diapers (wets or dirties), sleeping, or any questions you may have for the pediatrician at the next visit. My husband and I used printed charts he made, but many websites have downloadable charts, as well. I have heard a few MOMs recommend apps too, like iBabyLog & the free Similac Baby Journal app. The main thing is you will need to be able to bring these charts with you to your doctor appointments so that you can refer to them when asking and multiplicity

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answering questions for the pediatrician.

enlist help and never say “no”

Hopefully, the first few days or weeks you can enlist help from family, friends or local church members. Don’t ever say “no” because you feel the need to do it all. You can’t do it all and you should take trusted people up on every offer they make to help. They can be crucial help with meals, chores and just getting into a routine. Enlist a friend to solicit people who plan on helping with meals or use meal scheduling websites so you know you are covered for dinners for at least the first week. It is important to let everyone know allergies, diet needs, like diabetes, and dislikes in advance.

In the event you recently moved, I suggest stocking your freezer with a few microwave or frozen ready-to-bake meals to get you through one or two weeks.

If you have family moving in temporarily or friends offering to help clean, make a chore list similar to the one you can find on Twiniversity’s webpage along with specific instructions on how to use your washer, dryer, bottle steamer, etc. I found being unprepared limited my help on what they could do for me. Extra hands can help sterilize bottles, do laundry (minus the underwear if your hubby is modest!), put laundry away, help care for older children or pets, etc. This is a perfect scenario and what we all as twin moms would love. However, you may encounter the person who is less than helpful. Do not feel at all obligated to entertain them the first few weeks after your kids come home. Get your husband involved if necessary because two crying newborns can be stressful without the thought of keeping the house tidy.

In all honesty, your partner can be the most helpful and hopefully, they can take some time from work the first few weeks to help out. Make sure you both understand the feed/ pee/poo/sleep charts, that they are familiar with the changing station or you have labeled everything for them, and you both know what schedule you are hoping to get the twins on.

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they are gagging along with you changing those wonderful newborn diapers. Ha! Those diaper changing times are when you have just one baby to reflect on and it is special. Just remember: you and your partner are a team; communication is key. If you need a break, don’t assume your partner knows; you have to be honest and tell them when you need help.

set a schedule

Schedules are a big deal, so you may want to consider learning about how to begin. It helps you as parents get a better feel for what comes next with them, and for scheduling the rest of your life outside of babies. Obviously, it’s much easier to feed two at a time, have them sleeping at the same time, etc.

Putting the babies on a schedule will take some time, as they often need to eat on demand in the beginning to gain much-needed weight, and it may even take them a bit to get their sleeping cycle adjusted (day vs. night). For us, we put our twins on a routine of every two hours needing to be changed, fed and put back to sleep, but there will always be times your routine gets changed. Schedules for us changed when each of us returned to work. However, the biggest challenge on our routine was severe acid reflux and lactose intolerance in both babies. There is nothing like a projectile vomit or a high fever to throw you off schedule. This is where books, WebMd.com and nurse friends were lifesaving to me. I loved What to Expect When You’re Expecting and Baby 411, as those two books were highlighted and flagged and kept me from making a lot of calls to the pediatrician’s office when unnecessary.

Lucky for you, now you can get a copy of Twiniversity’s twin-specific book What to Do When You’re Having Two, full of helpful information on tandem breastfeeding, NICU information, sleep and feeding schedules, how to register for twins, what you really need when they arrive, etc. I encourage you to use whatever resources you have, but if your mommy instinct says something is wrong, call your doctor as soon as possible, ask your MOM group, or take your little one(s) to the ER. Once your little ones are feeling better, try to get them back on schedule as quickly as possible.

Other schedule changers are when you will have

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those visits from friends, family and sickness. The first few weeks, your twins are still building up their immunity systems. I personally limited visitors for three months because they were born in flu and RSV season, but this is not always an option. Ask friends and family to not come over if they are sick or chose to not vaccinate. If they come anyway, either politely turn them away or offer a paper mask and hand sanitizer. Yes, you will get crazy looks and you possibly may offend someone, but at the end of the day, you will be the one taking care of a sick newborn all night long. Because we had winter babies, we washed everything given to the twins the first few months to limit exposure to sickness. When we were able to take them to the store we used carseat covers to limit strangers from feeling the need to touch them. We used hand sanitizer ourselves after leaving the stores and doctor offices. Again, this may seem extreme, but I like sleep too much to be rocking a sick baby all night long.

prioritize & include the family

Another biggie when bringing the babies home is how much space you have for all of the things you’ll need on hand to either entertain, pacify or just plain live with two babies. You’ll need to consider whether you’re getting two of everything or if one of each will suffice. Of course, budget always plays a role in this, too, and honestly, it’s whatever works best for your family. Many families get by with just one swing and even have the babies share a crib.

If you have older children or pets at home, you’ll want to introduce them to the new babies slowly. Two new additions will take some getting used to, but having your older children help where they can based on age and level of responsibility (i.e. fetching diapers and bottles, or helping feed, etc.) will certainly make the transition go much more smoothly.

keep your chin up & take care of yourself

The most important thing to remember is you are human; you are not perfect. Things will happen, the twins will get sick eventually or be fussy for no known reason, and sometimes you will need to put them in their crib and walk away for a moment. My husband and I found our best routine was change them, feed them, swaddle them, comfort and rock, give a pacifier, repeat. If they did not stop crying we tried putting them in the swing or laying them in their cribs and walking away. You can use a video monitor to keep an eye on them. Take care of yourself through these first weeks. Take breaks as needed, ask for help, eat three meals a day and try to rest when the babies rest. After all, you just gave birth to two precious babies and that is hard work. The first few weeks may be difficult, but are just the beginning of a wonderful new phase of your life! multiplicity

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Journals for keeping track of babies’ activities: *Similac Baby Journal *IBabyLog app *BabyCenter worksheet Sources for organizing help, meals, etc. once babies arrive: *Take Them a Meal - Meal scheduling site *Chore Chart *Organizing Books for everything else: *What to Do When You’re Having Two *What to Expect When You’re Expecting *Baby 411 *Emotionally Healthy Twins: A New Philosophy for Parenting Two Unique Children *On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep *The Happiest Baby on the Block *The Art of Parenting Twins: The Unique Joys and Challenges of Raising Twins and Other Multiples

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relax & rest baby elephant ears

When baby is in the carseat or stroller, this is a must have item!

Chiropractor-inspired and mom-designed, Baby Elephant Ears is a multi-use headrest providing spinal/neck alignment and comfort. They can go wherever baby goes --- in a stroller, swing, car seat, bouncy seat and more! Organic and luxe edition options available. retail: $21.95+

rockabye baby

Rockabye Baby is staffed by music lovers from all corners of the world.

The label takes the rock music parents love and transforms it into soothing instrumental lullabies. In short, Rockabye Baby makes rock music baby-friendly and kids music adult-friendly. The rock lullaby series consists of more than 50 releases, including lullaby renditions of Bob Marley, U2, The Beatles, Coldplay, and Muse. With over 1 million units sold, Rockabye Baby continues to be the brand of choice for music fans everywhere and makes the perfect gift for a newborn, new parents or yourself. retail: $11.99+

halo bassinest swivel sleeper

The HALO® Bassinest™ Swivel Sleeper is the only bassinet that rotates 360 degrees for the ultimate in convenience and safety. Now your little one can sleep as close as you like, while still safely in his own separate sleep area, reducing the risks associated with bed-sharing. In addition to bringing baby close, it swivels to make getting in and out of bed hassle-free. This is a dream-come-true for moms recovering from c-sections! retail: $varies (coming summer 2014)

goochie goo blankets

When baby needs a lovey, these blankets will be the perfect answer.

Soft, frilly and beautiful, they are large enough to cover up and stay warm or simple enough to carry around when a little extra security is needed. With prints like chevron, paisley and polka dots, robots, camo and planes, these blankets will never be outgrown! Blankets come in various sizes, from itty bitty (17x17”) to “the big hug” (60x45”). retail: $34.99+ 18

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relax & rest naturalmat

The Spring Mat is our dual support mattress. Ideal for newborns right through to older babies! Use the supportive coir side for your newborn and then turn the mattress over and use the springier latex side as your little one grows! Includes a removable and washable cotton cover for practicality. Contains organic lambswool. retail: $499.00

journeybee™

JourneyBee’s™ easy-carry bag and pop-open design make it ideal for a sleeping option when travelling, as it weighs under 12 lbs. Of course, it’s also perfect for quick outings like a day at the beach or an afternoon at home. Even if babies aren’t sleeping, the journeyBee™ will allow you to relax and rest easy that they are safe! retail: $169.99+

elli & nooli recordable pal

The most comforting and loved sound for a baby is the voice of the parent. Hearing your voice, with no playbacks will calm and pacify your baby more than any other sound. Record any sound or song your little one loves and RecordablePal will play it for half an hour. retail: $38.00

cloudb sleep sheep on the go

Sleep Sheep On the Go is the perfect cuddly travel companion made with ultra-soft plush material. It includes a Velcro tab for easy attachment to car seats and strollers. There are four soothing sound options: gentle stream, ocean waves, whale songs, and spring showers, with two sleep-timer options: 23 and 45 minutes. retail: $25.95

babyganics orange blossom night time lotion

Baby not ready to settle down at night? How about a soothing massage with lotion made just for the wind-down? With calming, natural fragrances from ingredients like Orange Blossoms and our NeoNourish ® Seed Oil Blend. Perfect prep for a baby-safe sleep. retail: $7.99 multiplicity

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adorable duds jammies by helen laure

These sweet pajamas are a must-have for baby. Sizing goes from 0 to 9 months and also includes an “Up to 7lbs” size so moms can dress their smallest bundle of joy with well-fitted and attractive pajamas. These super-soft jammies come in an adorable recyclable jam jar tied with a bow. Order in a beautiful gift box for a treasured gift for a friend, daughter, neighbor, or for your baby on the way! Ten percent of profit from Jammies is donated to Postpartum Progress, an organization dedicated to helping mothers and babies who struggle with Postpartum Depression. retail: $30.00

fancy frills ruffled diaper covers

Baby Bella Maya’s Fancy Frills Ruffled Diaper Covers are bloomer length and made of a soft stretchy fabric complete with lace ruffles on the tush. These diaper covers are one size fits all, and will fit infants all the way through their toddler years. Perfect under a dress or paired with a cute shirt. The ruffled diaper covers are available in white, baby pink, and hot pink. retail: $12.95

kickee pants

If you’re looking for comfy, you’ve come to the right place! This company’s clothing styles are based on the idea that children should feel unrestricted by their clothing, even when they are dressed up, and that apparel for little ones should celebrate the innocence of childhood! With sizes ranging from preemie to size 6 (and even some women’s clothing), you’ll be able to outfit your little ones comfortably, fashionable and affordable, for a long time! retail: $24.00+

jasper hearts wren

This line is a boutique brand featured worldwide, and there’s no wonder! They offer the most adorable styles featuring plush characters created using felt made from recycled plastic bottles. From onesees and tees, to dresses and accessories like headbands and totes, you’ll want to outfit the whole family! retail: $16.00+ 20

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adorable duds mud pie

From kids’ apparel and accessories, women’s clothing and accessories, customized gifts and keepsakes, and products for outdoor entertaining, Mud Pie has got something for everyone!

They are best known for their adorable sets that are perfect for boy/ girl twin sets. Good to know - they also support March of Dimes in growing healthy babies from head to toe! retail: $varies

pediped®

Whether your child is crawling, learning to walk, or running all around, pediped® has a stylish shoe that fits comfortably and ensures healthy foot development. Each of our three footwear lines is specially designed to meet the needs of a particular walking stage. retail: $35.00+

rugged butts

Tired of the typical stripes and sports-themed apparel for your little boys? Spinning off from the success of Ruffle Butts, this mompreneur ventured into creating stylish little boy clothes and accessories, too.

From pants and crawlers to tops, pants and even swimwear, too, this is an unbelievably chic collection that is affordable and a breath of fresh air for moms of little boys! retail: $9.50+

zutano

Zutano boasts clothes as unique as your baby. From their first breaths to their first smiles, their first words to their first steps — every moment in a child’s life is to be celebrated. Zutano recognizes the role it plays in the life of a little boy or girl and proudly creates products as bright and unique as each child, with a seemingly infinite variety of colors and patterns to stimulate or to soothe. From mix and match baby clothing and accessories to crib bedding, nursery furniture, gear, booties, hats, and décor — Zutano brings energy and quality into everything it creates. retail: $10.50+ multiplicity

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he said, she said:

the things strangers say

by sharon knight

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here is something about having twins. They fascinate people. They cause complete strangers to stop, stare, ask questions, and say the most preposterous things to you. There is no escaping it. As a parent of multiples, you will forevermore be treated to “20 Questions,” each time you venture out with your children. So have a little fun with it...if only in your head!

In the two years since I became a mother to twin boys, I have probably heard it all. Some questions and comments are kind, some are humorous, and some are downright ridiculous. I have thought up my own witty, sarcastic responses to give in these circumstances, things I would probably never say aloud. Nevertheless, thinking them helps me to have a little fun with our constant celebrity status because as a parent of multiples, you just became

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something of a celebrity, too. Here are just a few things you’re likely to hear along the way:

Are they twins?

I have always dreamed of answering this with a sassy response, “no, I just found the second one in the parking lot and thought I would take him shopping with us.” The reality is I have two children who are the same size and look remarkably similar. Do you really need to ask me if they are twins? Yet you will probably hear it everywhere you go and that only begins the trip down the rabbit hole. The questions typically get more complicated and more personal from there!

Double trouble!

While I sometimes jokingly refer to my boys as “double trouble,” I find it rather presumptuous

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coming from a stranger. It doesn’t seem fair that my children should automatically be labeled as troublemakers, particularly when they behave well in public. When I hear this, I respond along the lines of, “nope, double blessings.”

Boy, you have your hands full!

Seeing as how my twins also have a brother who is 22 months older, I hear this one every time we head out. In my head, I say, “Well let’s see…I have three children and only two hands…so based on simple arithmetic, yup, my hands are very full!” In reality, I just laugh and tell them my hands are full of love.

Are they identical?

Some questions truly make me wonder what is being taught in high school biology classes these days. My boys happen to be identical, but I know countless other moms who have boy/girl twins and still hear this question. All I can think is the inquirer was playing hooky the day DNA and X and Y-chromosomes were discussed. If you feel up to giving a brief science and anatomy lesson, I say go for it. It certainly couldn’t hurt!

Did you plan to have twins?

“Yes, I had a long, hard talk with my body to make sure it knew I wanted to grow two babies at once.”

I am guessing this question also originates from a lack of a good science education. If you have the desire and the time, feel free to answer with a quick explanation of how twins come to be. Or if you are like me and always in a hurry, it is okay to just say no, smile, and be on your way.

Are they natural?

We all know what they mean by this question; they want to know if some sort of fertility treatment was involved with the conception of your children.

What they do not realize is that by asking you this, they are asking a very personal question that is none of their business. Moreover, by using the term “natural,” they are insinuating that children conceived through reproductive assistance are somehow “unnatural,” which could not be further from the truth. I usually politely tell them my twins were spontaneous, and explaining why “spontaneous” is a more tactful term than “natural.”

My two kids is like having twins.

No, it is not. Trust me, it is not. “You didn’t watch your body stretch to the brinks to afford room for multiplicity

two. You did not have to figure out how to soothe two screaming newborns at the same time. You did not go months without sleep while your babies were on different schedules, and I seriously doubt you’ve ever had two diaper blowouts at the exact same moment.”

That’s what I want to say. But let’s face it, only those of us who have been through the newborn phase of multiples understand just how hard it really is. And that’s okay.

Who is older?

The response in my head is always, “why does it matter?” My boys were born five minutes apart.

Did my one son gain some sort of amazing life experience in those extra five minutes of breathing oxygen before his brother arrived?

Somehow, I think not. However, for whatever reason, inquiring minds want to know.

I guess you are done now.

“Why thank you perfect stranger for doing my family planning for me.” I get this comment about as often as I am asked if we will try for a girl next. I really don’t understand why a stranger feels the need to share their opinion on the size of my family. I would imagine moms with a boy/girl twin set get similar statements since they have one of each.

Better you than me.

This statement almost sounds like an insult, as if I did something wrong and am being punished by having twins. The reality is just the opposite. My twins are a blessing. While on the outside I will smile and nod, on the inside I am thinking that it is better me because I can truly appreciate this amazing double gift that I have been given.

As a new parent of multiples, you will likely hear these questions and comments more times than you care to. For better or worse, it comes with the territory. Handle these strangers in the way that feels best to you, whether you answer them honestly or with a little humor and fun. They think they have the right to ask intimate details about your life and family choices, but you always have the right to smile and politely walk away. You’re safest when remembering: if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all! the must-have magazine for all moms of multiples

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kicks & giggles puppet playland

Great for baby’s first book, delightful self-play, social playing, role playing at its best, narrative thinking skills and so much more! A lovable puppet who travels through an enchanting ocean, sky, city and forest in the soft and colorful book, stimulating imagination all along the way. Puppet can be played with by itself or can integrate with the book. retail: $29.99

edu weights

Colorful Weight Shakers with an integrated small mirror, a rattle and different textured fabrics developing fine and gross motor skills. Set of 2.

Perfect entertainer for babies 3+ months. retail: $34.99

alphabet zoo stroller bar toy

These stroller bar activity toys are perfect for keeping little ones entertained while out and about! It attaches to stroller bars as well as infant carriers, adaptable to any ride you may have. Includes eight developmental activities, banana teether and mirror, with multiple tactile fabrics. retail: $20.00

fold and play book

This unique origami—inspired toy is both a folding book and a learning game in one. One side features a numbers game, while the other helps little kids learn new words—all with the help of brightly-colored safari friends!

Suggested for children 12+ months. retail: $10.00

spin and play rhino

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kicks & giggles alphabet nesting & stacking blocks

Brightly colored animals and familiar objects illustrate the letters of the alphabet on these cardboard blocks. Nested, the ten vibrant blocks fit into the included carrying case. Stacked, they form a tower nearly three feet high! retail: $11.99

busy tot by alex

A solid wood base provides support for little ones as they learn to sit and stand. Bright colors and bold graphics draw attention and smiles! Four sides of activity with dozens of moving parts stimulate through color and shapes. Blocks spin, a mirror reflects facial expressions, and pegs move when pushed along a squiggly line. retail: $38.95

twisty fish

Looking for an all-in-one bath toy with a unique twist? Scoop, drain and watch your little one’s face light up with the Twisty Fish!

This entertaining tub toy is an easy-to-grip bath strainer with lots for baby fingers to explore, from bright colors and textures to a twisting head that clicks and a belly that rattles with beads. retail: $6.99

stretchy puppy by alex

Stretch the puppy and see his colorful body crinkle and grow!

Squeak his soft nose and rattle his tail. Crinkle, rattle and squeak offer multiple sensory exploration. Recommended for 10+ months. retail: $27.95

super seat deluxe® The Deluxe Island Giggles SuperSeat® is a 3-in-1 seat with 360 degrees of floor time activity fun, a support positioner, and a booster seat in one. It provides a secure and comfortable area for your growing infant to learn to sit up and interact with the surrounding environment. An adjustable toy bar and tray feature 6 colorful toys to help keep baby engaged. retail: $54.99 multiplicity

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The creator of the Twiniversity online resource delivers the definitive survival guide for all parents of multiples --- from pregnancy through the first year The rate of twin births has risen by 79% over the last three decades, and continues to grow.

Expectant parents are overwhelmed with questions: do I really need two of everything? Can we do this ourselves or do we need help? Will I have to rob a bank to raise these babies without going broke?

A twins mom herself and national guru on having two (or more!), Natalie Diaz launched Twiniversity, a supportive website with advice from the trenches. What to Do When You’re Having Two covers: *making a Birth Plan checklist *sticking to one sleep schedule *double-duty breastfeeding *must-have gear *building one-on-one relationships with each child early Brimming with tried-and-true tips --- from the diaper budget to stroller sanity --- this is the must-have survival guide for parents of multiples.

Natalie Diaz has been featured in The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, New York Family Magazine, and more. She was named one of the top 100 Social Media Moms on Twitter by Disney and has recently been nominated for a She Knows Parenting Award.

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When you find out you’re having twins, the rules change. Heck, it’s safe to say the game changes. It really takes your breath away and makes you reexamine everything you thought was true about the life of a future parent.

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what to expect when the twins arrive by mike crider

So, many crazy things happen to you when you have twins. It’s truly remarkable to think that people go out of their way to give you special treatment, and you’ll be baffled by the fascination (and the ignorance) that people have when staring at two (or more) children that share the same birthday.

My experience motivates me to offer some tips because they are important pieces of advice. Some are funny, some not so much, but many will make life just a little easier for parents expecting twins. I don’t hold these truths to be self-evident (if you don’t know your history, Thomas Jefferson started the Declaration of Independence that way…not like you care), but I do feel as though they will be helpful. To be fair, this list mostly pertains to twins under the age of one. Mine are over two-and-a-half now, so don’t ask me for advice on toddlers yet. Without further ado…

1. You will likely keep the kids on the same schedule as much as possible.

2. You will not let the schedule dictate your life…your twins are still individuals.

3. You will NOT wake a sleeping baby unless you are feeding at night…do this very quietly.

4. As much as possible, you will not refer to your children as “the twins”.

5. When in doubt, feed the babies.

6. You will accept help from anyone you trust. You can pretend to do it all by yourself, but when you have hit the bottom, you will ask, and gladly accept.

7. You will accept diapers/gifts from anyone and everyone. They will buy you more because you’re having two babies, and you will store it away and find a way to use it or apply it to something you need.

8. You will not be picky when choosing colors of strollers and high-chairs.

9. You will not feel guilt when you have to miss work; your kids will be sick often the first couple of years and few understand the plight of a twin parent.

10. You will have Goldfish or Cheerios with you AT ALL TIMES. 11. You will always have at least four diapers in the bag AT ALL TIMES. 12. When alone with your twins, any place makes a good changing table.

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13. You will have a supply of Tylenol at home and in the bag AT ALL TIMES.

at once. Sure, your Mustang is really nice, but will it work?

14. You will not care about the brand of diapers when you reach for one in a time of need.

31. You will hate bath time, then you will love it.

Then you will hate it again, but the twins will love it. Get used to this love/hate relationship.

15. You will accept checks from formula companies to receive discounts on formula, and you will wait at the register until the cashier rings it up properly.

32. You will not eat the puffs that are designed for babies. They are gross, but your twins will like them a lot.

16. You can use boppy pillows for feeding, at times. If you’re alone, and they get hungry, you’ll understand everything I’m saying.

33. You will have weird dreams; it comes with the lack of sleep and heightened awareness.

34. You will own a calming noise machine. This will last much longer than you anticipate and don’t feel guilty if you must borrow it for yourself from time to time.

17. You will sing James Taylor songs to rock them to sleep (what were you going to sing, Ke$ha?).

18. You will face tantrums during toddlerhood, and you will want a strategy for those difficult days (on weekends, a 45-minute drive does wonders).

35. You will not forget your significant other.

There’s a reason you “ended up” with twins.

19. You will not, under any circumstances, underestimate the value of Goldfish.

36. You will hear others tell you to “sleep when the babies sleep”. You will then laugh at them, because it’s not that easy.

20. You will not feel shame in hauling a red wagon through a shopping mall, or a food truck rodeo, or a farm.

37. You will celebrate joyously when they turn one and the doctor tells you to switch to cow’s milk.

21. You will buy a thermometer that takes temperature by reading it through the temple.

Unless, of course, you insist on doing it other ways…good luck with that.

38. You will buy lots of milk (see #37).

39. You will read to them, even when they appear not to be listening; they will surprise you one day.

22. You will dress your twins alike regardless of how different they may look, that is, until they start school. Or if they are boy/girl (obviously).

40. You will laugh at teething toys, teething necklaces, teething tablets, etc. --- until they start teething. You will cling to anything that will make them stop crying.

23. If you have boy/girl twins and someone at Walmart (because that’s always where it happens) asks you if they are identical, you will remember they know nothing about twins and tell them they are different in one very important way.

41. You will find yourself angry, frustrated, tired, irritated, annoyed, frazzled, clueless, and sometimes feeling hopeless. This will pass, and your babies will get older. They will talk, they will crawl, they will walk, and they will interact with each other in ways that “normal” siblings cannot.

They will share a bond that they will take with them throughout the rest of their lives and it will be awesome to witness and foster. And you...you will be a hero. You were, and are, the parent of twins.

24. You will keep their birth “tags” on for at least a week because, well, who wants to mix up babies?

25. You will love bouncy seats. That is all.

26. You will realize that Babies ‘R Us has cool stuff, and they know they do, and that’s why it costs so much. You will learn that Target carries things cheaper and with better shopping carts.

They won’t be this size or in this stage for very long. Life with twins is constantly evolving and changing from one stage to another. Trust me, I’ve been there.

27. When at a restaurant, you will feed the children first. When they are toddlers, you will not be at a restaurant.

28. You will have good luck at consignment stores, both when buying and selling clothes.

29. You will connect with other parents of multiples, because they are the only ones who really know what it’s like.

30. You will need a car that can handle two car seats multiplicity

Mike is a school administrator and a father of twin girls. He writes about his family’s adventures at his blog Twin Dad Talks. He’s also published an e-book though Amazon called Twin Dad Talks: Help for First Time Fathers Navigating Pregnancy. You can find him on facebook and twitter.

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bites & bits sili squeeze™ The Sili Squeeze™ is a reusable squeeze that lets your little one enjoy blends of freshly pureed food, and ready-made favorites like yogurt and applesauce, while on-the-go! Sili Squeeze™ is intended for beginning eaters (6 -9 months) and growing toddlers and comes in 4 and 6 oz. retail: $14.99+

table for two

Cut feeding time & hassle in half! Table for Two is a lifesaver for all parents of twins! This secure, sturdy twin feeder saves you time, energy and sanity, and makes mealtime more comfortable for you and your twins. No more struggling to position your babies in order to bottle-feed them at the same time! Whether expressing breastmilk into bottles or giving formula, Table for Two cuts your work in half!

Table for Two is a must-have product for all parents of twins!

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splat mat

Add some fun to feeding time with Kid Kusion’s Zoo collection of Splat Mats. Perfect for saving a little time (and your floor!)...just place them underneath highchairs to catch the food and spills. Mats measure 36x48”.

Easy to clean with a damp cloth. Colors vary. Sold at Buy Buy Baby, Babies ‘R Us, Target, etc. retail: $varies

sage spoonfuls

Sage Spoonfuls has quickly become one of the most trusted names for homemade baby food products. Sage Spoonfuls’ award-winning product line offers everything busy parents need to make, serve, store and take their healthy homemade baby food on-the-go. The line offers an awardwinning recipe book, an immersion blender and food processor, both glass and plastic food storage jars in various sizes, insulated cooler bags, bamboo baby spoons and more. With Sage Spoonfuls, parents can make a 2 week supply of baby food in only 10 minutes. All products are BPA, Lead, Phthalate and PVC free and most are Made in the USA. Sage Spoonfuls is dedicated to providing only the highest quality products to parents. retail: $19.99+ 30

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bites & bits oogaa mealtime set

Oogaa’s silicone mealtime set is made from food safe, high-grade silicone. The products will not leach chemicals, are non-toxic, PVC and phthalate free! The set consists of a colorful 9 oz. bowl and 2 spoons.

No more chips or breaks when these bowls fall. The set is dishwasher safe, microwave safe, freezer safe, and the bowl is even oven safe! retail: $16.99

b-box essential snack pack

Ideal for meal time on the go, the b.box essential snack pack offers a compact storage container with two compartments and a soft spoon that clips into the lid. BPA, Phthalates and PVC free. Available in three stylish color combinations: Aqualicious, Grape and Pinkalily. retail: $12.00

booginhead pack’ems

Pack’Ems are reusable snack pouches for fruit, veggies, you name it!

They are easy to open and close and the expanding bottom allows the Pack’Ems to stand on their own! Pack’Ems are great for all ages.

Pack’Ems are BPA, PVC & phthalate free, and are top rack, dishwasher safe. They come in two convenient sizes. retail: $9.99

b-box essential travel bib

No more zip lock bags! Just pack the essential travel bib and after baby has finished, simply pop the included spoon inside, fold the bib inside the catcher, zip and go. BPA, Phthalates and PVC Free. Available in six designs: Cherry Delight, Beep Beep, Splish Splash, Flower Power, Shining Star and Retro Circles. retail: $16.00

amara baby food

Amara is focused on raising your babies to eat simple fruits and veggies with no extra additives, preservatives, vitamins or glam.

Amara uses a drying technique, which locks in the nutrients normally lost and allows them to bring their products to supermarket shelves near you. Can be purchased at Amazon.com. retail: $24.99+ multiplicity

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just for mom affinity pro double electric breast pump

Lansinoh’s Affinity Pro is the only one of its kind, with three customizable pumping styles. Now you can find the cycle and suction settings that provide the most comfort and milk production. Innovative technology mimic baby’s natural feeding pattern. Hygienic design guarantees no milk back-up in tubing. Includes an LCD screen with timer to track pumping time, and a carry tote for on-the-go convenience. retail: $134.95

best cradle by it’s you babe

Need help supporting your aching back and tummy? This amazingly soft, super comfortable and fully adjustable maternity support garment provides safe and effective relief from multiple aches and pains often felt during pregnancy. The flexible, flannel backed elastic bands surround and support the entire tummy. With an adjustable support band and adjustable shoulder straps the Best Cradle by It’s You Babe is a perfect choice for moms having multiples.

Enthusiastically recommended by Healthcare Professionals for relief of back, abdominal and hip pain often felt during pregnancy. Made in the USA. retail: $69.00

milkies

Milkies’ patented design allows you to breastfeed anywhere without worrying about embarrassing leaks or uncomfortable nursing pads. Slim and portable, no one will even know you are wearing it. Best of all — it collects your leaking breast milk when you nurse, allowing you to store extra breast milk effortlessly. retail: $27.95

elasticity belly oil

Maintains the look of smooth, healthy skin with scientifically researched ingredients, including Vitamin E and Gotu Kola that help prepare skin for stretching. This oil contains a luxurious blend of pure plant extracts that nourishes and moisturizes to help skin stretch without damage, cocoa butter that provides deep, rich moisture, and lavender and sweet almond oil to soothe and calm the senses. It also contains Vitamin E and grapeseed oil, both of which are rich in antioxidants. retail: $34.00 34

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just for mom pretty pushers delivery gowns

This simple and comfy labor and delivery gown is your smart alternative to the unisex hospital gowns that scratch and show your backside to the world. Own Your Labor! Gowns are 100% Cotton, with a tie-neck halter for immediate skin-to-skin access with babies, and a frontal opening to allow for fetal monitors. It also includes a low-cut back to allow for epidural access if necessary, with adjustable tie closures. retail: $29.99

sticky bellies

Every mom wants to take photos of her babies, but gone are the days of not remembering why you took a photo, or what you were celebrating. Sticky Bellies are removable stickers that help you photograph life’s most important milestones with style and ease.

Sticky Bellies offer a creative, stylish and EASY way to document your child’s monthly growth and share with the ones you love. retail: $14.00

nursing cover/infinity scarf

Looking for a way to nurse in public and look stylish at the same time? This mompreneur hit the mark with her design of beautiful nursing covers that double as chic infinity scarves. They come in patterns like chevron, peacock feathers, houndstooth and leopard print, and at such a low price, you could own several to coordinate with many of your outfits! retail: $20.00

nufoot mary janes

Nufoot is reinventing the indoor shoe. Their pregnancy line provides maximum comfort for the expecting mom’s feet. The four way stretch material accommodates swollen feet during pregnancy. They also work well for the hospital, as the water-resistent material protects against germs and the spread of infection. Equipped with skidresistent soles to prevent slipping and falls. retail: $14.99 multiplicity

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store & stow summer kick protect seat back protectors

As your little ones get older, their legs and feet will become more and more restless on those car rides. Protect your car seat back from dirty feet marks with two durable, easy-to-clean seat back guards. Each Kick Protect has three storage pockets for easy access to your most needed items like diapers and wipes, bottles and sippy cups. retail: $9.99

hey sugarsnap files

Diaper bag becoming a black hole, sucking everything into an abyss when you need to find it the most? Hey SugarSNAP’s Files set is a series of five lightweight, beautifully designed bags. They have breathable mesh on the front and a beautiful pattern on the back. Each File has an easy-to-identify tab on top so you can pack up easily and you’ll never have to navigate the “Bermuda Triangle” diaper bag again! All of the Files stay organized by snapping together with an innovative, patent-pending hook-and-ring system. The ring resembles a beautiful silver bracelet with the words “Go Play” imprinted on it, reminding us to play each day. retail: $39.99

the highchair organizer

Getting up 3 and 4 times during a meal? Now, everything a parent needs for mealtime is conveniently organized at the highchair. Attaches easily to most manufacturer’s highchairs or booster seats in 10 seconds using adjustable straps. Folds easily to a compact, transportable size. Includes multiple compartments to hold everything needed for mealtime, such as bottles, sippy cups, pacifiers, wipes, spoons, forks, diapers and related items. Durable linings wipe clean with a damp cloth and mild soap. retail: $24.99

3 sprouts storage bin

Help your kids clean up with these cute animal storage bins. Well sized for storing toys, books or laundry, these storage bins measure 17.5” in height and 17” in diameter. Made of a cotton canvas, these bins are tough enough to hold whatever you throw in it, but cute enough to complement the best-dressed home. A great space saver, these bins also fold away easily when not in use. retail: $29.99 38

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store & stow badger basket company

Need some extra storage, but not extra furniture? This hamper/ organizer is perfect for laundry, toys, diapers, etc. The drawers are easy to pull out and a breeze to load and unload. Stoppers on the drawer tracks prevent the drawers from being pushed out the back of the unit.

Drawer bottoms have supportive hard panels so contents won’t cause the drawers to sag. Bonus? Canvas drawers are removable from the drawer frames and can be spot cleaned as needed. retail: $49.99

3 sprouts wall organizer

Our hanging wall organizer is the perfect solution for clearing up all those small items that add up to one big mess. Easy to hang, the organizer has 3 generous pockets. Ideal for diapers in the nursery, precious art projects or those tiny ‘gotta find it now’ toys, the 3 Sprouts hanging wall organizer helps you find a place for even the smallest of things. retail: $25.99

ikea hensvik wardrobe

We may want them to stay small forever, but our children grow up.

Fast! We believe their furniture should keep up with all the changes.

Our children’s storage furniture is made to be used for years – with wardrobes that let you adjust the height of the clothes rails as your kid gets older, and cabinets where you can remove the changing tables once your little one is (finally) out of diapers. retail: $119.00

ace baby furniture mobile bookcase

Keep everything within reach with this Double-Sided Children’s Bookcase. This bookcase offers two-sided storage, smooth-gliding and locking casters, and chic designs for both parents and children to enjoy for years to come. Wheel this bookcase from room to room while providing ample storage space for all of your child’s storybooks, toys, and other memorabilia. Versatile for the baby’s nursery, toddler’s bedroom, or even the playroom! retail: $299.99 multiplicity

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a delivery hospital with the highest level NICU available, if at all feasible. Otherwise you may be separated from your babies when they are rushed to a higher level NICU hospital than where you delivered. These hospitals typically offer multiple moms the opportunity to tour not only the Labor and Delivery floor, but also the NICU. No mom wishes to have her babies in the NICU, but some preparation for the possibility of it happening is quite important.

the nicu stay things every parent of multiples should know by susan rassette

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earning that you are about to become the mom to multiple babies is a true blessing, but it can also be a scary prospect.

More than half of all multiples are born before their due date.

This may mean that your babies arrive just a few weeks early, as is typically recommended by doctors. The placenta can begin to break down early and not work well for the full 40 weeks of a multiple birth pregnancy. Many doctors consider 38 weeks full term for multiples.

However, some multiples can arrive dangerously early. The typically accepted threshold for viability is 24 weeks. This is the first goal, although babies born this early are at great risk of a long-term NICU stay, long-term developmental issues, or even death. The next goal is 28 weeks. Babies born at 28 weeks still face the risk of long-term complications, but typically do much better with a 90% survival rate.

Babies born between 32-34 weeks have an excellent chance of survival without suffering any long-term complications, but they will spend time in the NICU learning to feed and grow. After 34 weeks, babies do very well and may require little to no NICU time.

The NICU can be a scary place. But a multiple mom should choose

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Some multiple moms have difficult pregnancies and know that a NICU stay will likely be in their babies’ future. While a high risk pregnancy is scary, it gives moms time to prepare and plan for a potential stay (especially if the mom spends extended amounts of time on bed rest). If you find yourself stuck on bed rest, use the time to research, plan, and be as prepared and knowledgeable about the NICU as possible. Some helpful books are: • Preemies – Second Edition: The Essential Guide for Parents of Premature Babies • The Premature Baby Book: Everything You Need to Know About Your Premature Baby from Birth to Age One Regardless of how your babies end up in the NICU, take advantage of the help that it can offer. There should be a Social Worker assigned to you, and they will likely meet with you very early in your babies’ NICU stay, or even prior to your babies being born if you are admitted and expected to deliver premature babies imminently. The Social Worker is an invaluable resource who can help you and your family physically, financially, and emotionally.

The care that you can take part

in with your premature babies will depend upon the gestation at which they are born. Try to take part in all the care that the hospital will allow. Change diapers, give sponge baths, feed them, and take the opportunity to touch your babies whenever you can. Kangaroo Care, which is the act of holding your baby against your chest, skin to skin, has been proven to be beneficial in many ways, including: • Maintaining the baby’s temperature • Regulating the baby’s heart and breathing rates • Helping the baby gain weight • Helping the baby have an easier time learning to breastfeed The special circumstance of multiples allows for one more great option in the NICU --- co-bedding your babies.

Many NICUs will allow, and even encourage, that multiples be co-bedded in the same isolette once they are stable and infection free. They were womb mates, and many studies have shown that co-bedding your multiples is as beneficial as Kangaroo Care.

The NICU experience will have its ups and downs. Many

parents find it helpful to keep a NICU journal, blog, or care page about the experience. The care page or blog is very beneficial to keep others updated on your babies’ progress without having to provide individual updates when all you really want to do is spend time with your babies.

Try to speak with the neonatologist regularly, and document what they tell you so you can refer back to it.

Ask questions if you do not understand, or ask the nurse if you think of a question once the doctor is gone.

Most importantly, take any help people offer. Let your family and friends drive you, bring meals, care for your other children, etc. so you can go to the NICU. Eventually, the time will come when your babies will be ready to go home. This very well may not occur on the same day, and some NICUs will not allow the discharged infant to return back to the NICU. You will need to find someone to care for your baby at home while you visit the other(s). If your NICU allows you to bring your baby back in, take advantage of that. Your baby(ies) still in the NICU will benefit from being able to

co-bed with their siblings and it will also be helpful to you to have them back together.

The NICU can be a difficult experience, but one you’ll appreciate later. Take advantage of all the resources the NICU has. The Social Worker and nurses are there to help. Even when your babies make their way home, you may still need to deal with some long-term prematurity issues. Again, the NICU can make helpful recommendations and assist you with on-going therapies that may be necessary for your premature baby(ies).

Lastly, remember to thank the NICU staff for the care they provide. They work hard for you and your babies and deserve some recognition for helping them survive those first few rocky weeks/months of life.

Susan is the mother of fraternal twin girls, age 7. She lives with her daughters and husband in a suburb of Detroit, Michigan. Susan loves to cook, craft, and many fitness activities. She also works full time from home for a large software company. You can find her on facebook or pinterest.

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