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Top 5 super foods with a powerful health impact (BPT) - The term appears on headlines and is splashed on food labels everywhere -”super foods” get people talking. But what really is a super food, and how do you cut through confusion to find the foods that truly have a powerful impact on your health and wellness? “What are super foods? They are foods that have a very high or dense nutrient profile,” says Sophie Uliano, New York Times bestselling author, passionate environmentalist and healthy living advocate. “Some super foods come from countries such as South America, in which case, it’s important to make sure they are sustainably harvested and fair trade. Other super foods can be found in your local grocery store.” Some of the most powerful super foods may surprise you. Uliano’s list of top super foods that pack a big serving of healthy goodness include:
“Different kinds of kale include Curly Kale, Dino Kale, Premier Kale and Redbar Kale,” explains Uliano. “I love to steam kale and drizzle with olive or toasted sesame oil and a little tamari sauce. I eat it warm or as a cold side in the summer. It’s also great to eat raw, but make sure that you wash well and remove all of the tough stems before chopping it up.”
4. Coconut oil
Recommended frequency: 1 to 3 tablespoons per day Raw virgin coconut oil has a plethora of health benefits. It must, however, be raw, not hydrogenated. The lauric acid in coconut oil has been found to increase metabolism as well as fight bacteria and viruses. Coconut oil also has been shown to help lower cholesterol, stimulate the thyroid and is good for the brain. “At room temperature, coconut oil will solidify, and when it’s 1. Goji berries heated, it will liquefy,” Uliano says. “My favorite ways to eat coconut Recommended frequency: every day oil include adding a tablespoon to smoothies or oatmeal, and using These little berries are a very rich source of antioxidants: flavonoids, it in place of butter when baking. Coconut oil has a very high smoke polyphenols and carotenoids. They also contain vitamins C, E and point, so it is great for frying pancakes, or deep frying, too.” A. They have a whopping amount of vitamin C - better than 500 times more than an orange. In addition, these tasty berries contain 5. Maca 19 amino acids, including eight essential amino acids. They are also Recommended frequency: every day anti-inflammatory, anti-bacterial and anti-fungal. Typically from Peru, maca is usually sold as a nutty powder, but “These berries are great for our long-term health. They have anti- it also comes in capsules. “It is an adaptogen, which means that it is aging benefits and help boost your immune system,” says Uliano. “I a biological substance found in a plant, which helps the human body recommend eating them in the same way as you would cranberries adapt to change and stress,” says Uliano. “It has been used for more or raisins. You can add them to smoothies, oatmeal, granola, or even than 3,000 years in South America, and is also thought to be a libido to make a salad a little more interesting.” enhancer.” Perfect for vegans, maca is also a rich source of vitamin B12, 2. Sardines minerals, protein and amino acids. “I like to bake with it or use it Recommended frequency: one can a week in smoothies. I add one heaping tablespoon of maca to my smoothie If you’ve always avoided sardines, their nutritional profile should daily,” notes Uliano. ■ change your mind. Sardines contain B vitamins, phosphorus, potassium and iron. They are particularly rich in the heart-healthy omega-3 fatty acids, which are also important for their anti-inflammatory effects. “Canned sardines are just as healthy and rich in nutrients as fresh sardines,” Uliano says. “If you dislike the taste and texture, try mashing them up with spicy mayo and eating as you would tuna salad. If you’re still not sold, consider a high quality fish oil supplement from Nordic Naturals, which will give you a boost of the omega-3s your body needs to stay healthy and prevent disease.”
3. Kale
Recommended frequency: every day In addition to vitamin K, which is important for blood-clotting and healthy bones, kale is packed with vitamins A, C and E, calcium and fiber. The veggie also contains loads of carotenoids, which are great for eye health. 4
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What’s the difference? Dear Dave, My wife and I make $140,000 a year, and we’re working on our debt snowball. We’re almost out of debt, but we still have two small car payments and some credit card debt. She wants to get rid of the credit card debt but doesn’t mind us having car payments. Can you help me understand this? - Kelly Dear Kelly, I’m not sure I understand her thinking either. The car payments and the credit card debt are the same thing. They’re both debt payments, and you’re being charged interest on both of them. The only difference is that one is attached to a car and one’s not. It makes about as much sense as saying you like Visa better than MasterCard. Even if she has some strange hang-up about car depreciation, that argument doesn’t hold water either. Cars go down in value whether you borrowed money to buy them or not. A $20,000 vehicle will be worth $10,000 in just a few years no matter what you do. A car payment won’t keep it from depreciating or slow the rate of depreciation. Sometimes people get burned out or tired of paying the price to become debt-free. It can happen when you’ve been working on something for a while, and it seems like you’re never going to get there. Sit down and have a gentle, loving talk with your wife. Find out why she feels that way about the car payments and where the root of the problem really lies. She may just need some support and encouragement from the man in her life. Remind her how far you’ve come together on this journey, how close you are to winning, and how much you love her. You’re too close to making your financial dreams come true to stop now! - Dave There’s a better option Dear Dave, I’m 23 years old, and I was in the military for five years. While serving I received what is now $2,700 in Series EE bonds. Should I keep them? - Tammy Dear Tammy, If it were me, I’d cash them in and do my own investing with the money. Series EE bonds have a very low rate of return. They don’t pay much, and they’re not good longterm investments. They’re almost like keeping your money in a certificate of deposit over the long haul. Investing is never a bad idea, and I know that may
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seem like a lot of money to you at the moment. But my advice is to cash out the bonds, find a financial advisor with the heart of a teacher, and invest the money in growth stock mutual funds with a good five- to 10-year track record. After that, get set up for auto-draft on your checking account and put at least $50 a month into your new mutual fund. That’s a much better plan! - Dave You’re not stunting her Dear Dave, My younger sister moved to Atlanta, and she came to live with my husband and me a few months ago. She’s 19, has a job, and is attending a local college. But even though she’s working, she hasn’t said anything about helping out with utilities or paying rent. We don’t need the money, but do you think it’s time for us to push her out of the nest so she can start living as an adult? - Molly Dear Molly, The way you’ve described your little sister makes me think she’s a pretty good kid. She’s doing all the right things for someone her age, and it doesn’t sound like you’ve got a party animal or drug addict in your home. In my mind, this is the kind of person you want to help. In a sense, you’re acting as surrogate parents to this young lady. If it were my little sister, I’d let her live in the house without paying rent as long as she was living smart and moving in a positive direction. To me, this includes working, saving money, and going to college. At the moment, you’re enabling good, positive behavior. You have a chance to be her biggest cheerleader and prepare her for the future. But if things change and she starts behaving irresponsibly or living a lifestyle you don’t approve of, then it’ll be time to put the brakes on the deal. But right now this kid’s a rock star. Thanks to the generosity and support shown by you and your husband, she can gain traction for a successful launch into the world as a smart, responsible adult. I think it’s awesome! - Dave Forgiven debt Dear Dave, I have some old debts that have been forgiven. Should I still pay these if and when I have the money? - Matt Dear Matt, First, you need to double-check and make sure the debts have been officially forgiven. Commercial debts, such as
Her blessing was to be a blessing Dear Dave, My mom died a few years ago, and she left me an inheritance of $60,000 in stock. She was always investing and saving money. I could sell this and be debt-free while still having plenty left over, but I feel like I’ll lose a part of her if I do this. Do you have any advice? - Janet Dear Janet, I didn’t know your mom, but from what you’ve told me, it sounds like she was a pretty smart and responsible lady. I don’t visualize her as the kind of person who would’ve said, “I’m going to leave you this stock. Always keep it and never cash it out, no matter what happens.” A gift like this is someone wanting to bless another person with some of the good they accomplished in this world. It’s your mom’s way of giving you an opportunity to have a better life. In my mind, the best way for you to have a better life is to use the money to become debt-free then use the cash that used to go toward debt payment to invest. I know you loved your mom, but I think you’ve given this stock more power than she gave it. You’ve gotten her blessing, and that was to be a blessing to you. You know, you can be a blessing to others in lots of different ways. She just accomplished it with the stock. Honor your mom and go be debt-free today. The time is now! - Dave
Thinking long term Dear Dave, My husband and I are in our 60s, and we don’t have longterm care insurance. It would cost us $8,000 a year at this point, and our annual income is $200,000. Do you think we should get this type of coverage? - Toni Dear Toni, I’m a strong proponent of long-term care insurance once a person turns 60. Prior to that age you have less than a one percent chance of spending time in a nursing home, so I wouldn’t spend a dime on it until then. A lot of agents and companies try to sell long-term care insurance to people who are 40 or 50 years old, and I just don’t believe in that stuff. But once you hit age 60, your chances of using it increase almost daily. At that point, it’s a smart buy, and you’ll get a great return on the investment. Eight thousand dollars annually is a lot of money, but nursing home costs can run $50,000 a year. My advice, Toni, is to buy long-term care insurance. I believe in having this type of coverage, even if you can afford to pay for care out of pocket. It takes a lot of stress and worry out of growing older. Most ladies outlive their husbands, and a frequent scenario is that the man goes into the nursing home and drains the nest egg to pay for everything. Of course, this can happen the other way around, but I’m sure neither of you wants to leave the other in a bad situation. - Dave ■
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old credit card debt, are almost never forgiven. They might be in default, or it may be that the company has written it off, but that’s not the same as being forgiven. Years ago, my grandfather loaned me money when I was in college to pay for part of my tuition. He forgave that debt not long after, so I didn’t owe him the money morally, legally or in any other way. But in a commercial setting, meaning you’re dealing with a bank or other lender, that doesn’t happen. If a credit card company decides to take less than the original amount owed, that’s a business decision that has changed the terms of the deal, both morally and legally. Sometimes they’d rather have a bird in the hand rather than promises in the bush. You don’t have an obligation to pay the original amount because the terms of the deal have been altered. Forgiven is forgiven. That means the deal and any obligation is completely wiped out and gone. But chances are, Chase or MasterCard aren’t going to call you up and forgive the debt. - Dave
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“If you can’t explain it to a six year old, you don’t understand it yourself.” - Albert Einstein
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ave you ever noticed that as business continues to grow, everything in operations tend to become more complicated and burdensome? It is almost as if growth requires muddying the waters. The burden of added procedures, reporting and red tape often slows progress to a stop and adds frustration to management and staff alike. Do not misinterpret my comments here. Accountability is the oil that assists in forward movement of business. It allows the daily progress to meet the business goals and objectives. Rather, consider the complications added to the reporting and management cycle of the business. They often become so cumbersome that all forward progress is hampered. Einstein was correct. Procedures must be simple enough to allow the ability to explain the necessary requirements to a child. This is so much simpler to say than to do. Changing thought patterns is complicated and requires careful planning. How do we streamline the running of our business? Ifwe do not gain control of this paper and file beast, moving forward is first hampered by the loss of control of time management. We must, as business owners, look back to the beginning. Ask the tough questions. Which reports are necessary for each aspect of our business? These “new” list of information will help to clarify the key management tools that must be attended to first. Establish, through prioritizing, the list of necessary reports into value ranking units. Which ranks most important?
Allot time for the preparation of reports monthly. Never avoid the process. This is your measuring stick of progress. Categorize into monthly holding files for yearend totals. This establishes a workable system that allows easy information access. It is an invaluable tool for business investors and owners. Also, do not forget to delegate reporting by placing it in the hands of staff to be complied at the end of the day. Finally, put that streamlined reporting to good use. Quarterly review the activity and growth of your business. Reports are of no value if simply placed in a file and forgotten. Check, then recheck, progress and any need for change. It allows the savvy business owner to stay on top of their business, growing and developing. Keep it simple, but keep it relevant. This is the way to build a strong foundation for success! ■ Keitha Story-Stephenson, Ph.D.
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hile the outside temperature is still sizzling, it is hard to think about sweaters, boots, and scarves, but fall is just around the corner. Whether you need to update your wardrobe for school, the office, or just because you love fashion, you want to make great first impressions without spending a fortune. As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “You only get one chance to make a first impression.” When you meet someone, you make this impression in the first few seconds, and that impression lingers, often for years. The good news is that you don’t need an unlimited clothing budget or a huge wardrobe to have a positive effect; you simply need to choose outfits that support your goals and effectively communicate your personality and lifestyle. In my experience, most people do not plan or budget for their clothing needs. Instead, shopping is viewed as a social event or a relaxing activity. No wonder so many people stand in front of their packed closets each morning, frustrated because they can’t find anything to wear! Do you have a plan and a budget for your wardrobe? If I were to give you $100 to go shopping right now, what would you buy? Could you check your shopping list to know exactly what you were looking for, or would you simply head to the mall on a random search? I find that most people have no clue how much they spend on their wardrobes. Sometimes I ask clients to track their wardrobe spending for one year. These clients write the date on a large envelope and, for the next year, they place every receipt for clothing or accessories purchased or received as a gift in this envelope. At the end of the year, they total all the costs. These clients are often surprised by how much they have invested in the items hanging in their closets. A Deluxe Life Skills student said, “After a year of collecting my receipts from clothing purchases, I totaled the amounts. It turns out that I purchased or received $2,630 of clothing. Is this reasonable?” How much do you spend each year on your clothing and accessories? Do you have a plan for your wardrobe purchases? Is your current wardrobe working for you?
Could you benefit from learning a few tips to make your wardrobe more effective? If so, join us for a course in the Art of Confident Living or the Art of Being a Gentleman, or contact us to set up a private consultation. Knowing your annual wardrobe budget and having a well-thought-out plan for your purchases are essential to creating a wardrobe that meets your needs. Maintaining apparel that effectively supports you and your goals is crucial in making that positive first impression. ■
Deborah King, AICI CIP Deborah King is President of Final Touch Finishing School, Inc. which she founded in 1989 in Seattle. As a certified image professional, with over 30 years of experience, she presents her programs nationally and internationally for youth and corporate clients. She is co-author of “Image Power” and “Executive Etiquette Power” and developer of several education tools. www.finaltouchschool.com.
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STRATEGIES FOR GREATER SCHOOL SUCCESS Practical ideas to help your child become more organized.
“Just so you know, mom I’ve got a test on Friday I’m gonna fail.” y sixth-grader is barely through the front door when this escapes his lips. Because he is an excellent student, my head is spinning. Smiling, I remark “What do you mean? You’ve got three more days to study?” But he is already gritting his teeth, scowling as he announces “I can’t do it.” Still calm, I try to appeal to his reason but with no luck. Within seconds, I am shouting “THEN YOU’RE GROUNDED FOR A MONTH!” Sound familiar? Disorganization and Success What my son probably was communicating after school that day was “I feel distressed, mom. I have no idea how to get organized for this test.” Unfortunately, like so many parents, I let myself grow overly emotional and failed to truly listen to his fear and concern. Organizing the Disorganized Child by Martin Kutscher and Marcella Moran provides a helpful guide for explaining in plain English how disorganized habits interfere with school success and create chaos within the home. The following issues addressed in the book were ones in particular I believe are relevant to helping your child develop healthier habits and achieve more. Understand Why They Procrastinate According to Organizing the Disorganized Child, kids often adopt an “I’ll get to it later” habit and put off school projects or studying for several reasons. Sometimes they simply have a poor concept of time. Other kids have poor memory for ways procrastinating has failed them in the past. Still others are too easily sidetracked and unable to resist temptation to do something more appealing. Kutscher and Moran remind parents that most often these issues are “the fault of the undeveloped brain, not the child” and urge parents not to yell or punish. Instead, stay positive, offer support, and help them break larger tasks down into chunks. They offer these tips to get organized: 1. Write down assignments in a planner. 2. Ask the teacher or a buddy to double-check their planner to be sure it is correct. 3. Place all materials touched that day into a take-home section of a folder. 4. Mark a calendar with completion dates for step in preparing for a project. 5. Put completed work in a Take to School section of a folder. 6. Weekly purge the backpack and folders of papers no longer needed. Teach Them to Question Everything The authors of this guide believe in addition to good notetaking and study skills, the key to your child’s education is
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questioning everything. Teaching your child to ask the following questions will enhance your child’s learning: 1. What did the teacher just say? 2. What did I just read? 3. Why is that so? Is it true? 4. Where have I seen information like this before? 5. How is this different from material I’ve previously learned? 6. How can I summarize this in as few words as possible? 7. How can I visualize this in pictures of flowcharts? 8. What else do I need to learn about this? 9. What questions about this are likely to be on the test? 10. Why is this important to me and the rest of the world? 11. So what? Test Taking Smarts All students can use a refresher for how to best manage time on a test, and the following strategies are recommended by Kutscher and Moran: 1. Turn over the sheet and jot down keywords, dates, formulas, and phrases you memorized. 2. Look over the entire test quickly to anticipate what’s coming up. 3. Read directions carefully. Underline keywords of the directions. 4. Answer easy questions first. 5. Place a question mark next to answers you guess on. 6. Sometimes the answer to one question is contained somewhere on the test. 7. Sometimes you may be able to get help or clues from the teacher i.e. “Can you rephrase the question.” 8. If you have leftover time, check your answers and scan for careless mistakes. Only change an answer when you’re certain the new response is correct. 9. If unsure, guess. In terms of helping your child become a more organized student, the authors remind parents “We can’t completely fix everything overnight. We can, though, expect continued progress over a mountainous terrain toward an ultimately successful future.” Michele Ranard, M.Ed. Michele Ranard has a husband, two children, and a master’s in counseling. Find her at hellolovelychild.blogspot.com and hellolovelyinc.blogspot.com.
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First day of school - Levi Step / Son of Jim & Erica Step (Krum) Grandson of Janice & Roy Millican (Decatur) / Teacher - Mrs. Walker (1st Grade)
Gavin Olson and Faren Manuel / Children of Jason & Sirena Olson of Little Elm / Grandchildren of Janice & Roy Millican of Decatur
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Monica King 6 years old Jada Nicole Boner 5th grade at Young Elementary
Kallie Jean Boner 8th Grade at McCarroll Middle School
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Wise County Animal Shelter Wisecounty Animalshelter on Facebook Or look for the volunteer ran FB page Urgent Animals at the Wise Co Texas animal shelter Ways you can help the shelter. Donate suppliesCanned and dry dog/cat food Dog/cat treats (No rawhide bones) Kitty Litter Dawn dish soap Bleach Laundry detergent Batteries (9v and AAA) for scale and chip scanner Volunteer your timeCome walk dogs, bathe and groom, interact with cats Donate to sponsor adoptionsEach adoption Is $25.00 you can sponsor adoptions by making a check payable to the Wise County Animal Shelter and mailing it to Brenda Argraves, 425 Hilltop Drive, Decatur, TX 76234. Brenda will post on Facebook when your sponsor fee has been used. She will mail you a receipt from the shelter once your funds have been used.
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Donate to sponsor spay/neuter couponsMail a check made payable to shelter volunteer Brenda Argraves to 425 Hilltop Drive, Decatur, TX 76234. She will pass out coupons to new pet owners who adopt from the Wise County shelter for spay/neuter discount. Make sure you write in the memo section on the check what the donation is for. Foster for rescue groupssometimes when rescue groups are willing to pull a dog or cat from the shelter they need someone to foster the animal until they can have it transported to it’s new home or until it can be adopted. If you would like to find out more about becoming a foster please Contact Shelly Sessums on FB or go to her website at www.safeandsoundanimalrescue.com and fill out the foster application. Donate directlyDonate directly to the shelter for general needs- drop by or mail a check to 200 Rook Ramsey Decatur Texas 76234
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