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Contents autumn2014

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COVER STORY: Jay & Michelle Barnes Embracing Bipolar Disorder

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Omega-3s Why They’re So Good for You!


Michael Phelps Turning ADHD into an Advantage

Cathy Matthews Using Her Experiences to Help Others

Self-Acceptance vs Self-Esteem Is Trying to Improve Self-Esteem Bad for Your Emotional Stability?


Antidepressants Underrated or Overprescribed?


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Your Brain Whole, Halved and Quartered

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MOVE: Yoga The Complete Mental Wellness Solution?


DO: Positive Affirmations How and Why They Work RELATE: The Inner Critic Quieting the Voice


TRY: Colour Therapy Balance Your Life with Rainbow Hues EAT: Healthy Options Aubergine, Feta & Tomato Salad Roasted Pepper & Tomato Soup



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IN EVERY ISSUE... 03 Editor’s Notes

43 Inspiration

06 Inbox

44 8 Steps for Mental Wellness

07 Newsdesk

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PUBLISHING EDITOR Jen Goy CREATIVE DIRECTOR Angelique da Costa BUSINESS DEVELOPMENT DIRECTOR Andrew Sullivan ASSISTANT EDITOR Jean Jacobs SOCIAL MEDIA Lara Potgieter COPY EDITOR Anna Herrington ADVERTISING ENQUIRIES SUBSCRIPTION ENQUIRIES EDITORIAL ENQUIRIES PRINTED BY Tandym Print RETOUCHING BY Colour Extreme DISTRIBUTED BY Ezweni COPYRIGHT Turquoise Swan Media (Pty)Ltd. All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part is prohibited without prior permission of the Editor.

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Panel of Experts

Prof. Dan Stein BSc(Med), MBChB, FRCPC, PhD, DPhil Dr Judy Bentley MBChB, MMed(Psych), FCPsych(SA) Dr David Dennis MBChB, FCPsych(SA) Dr Neil Horn MBChB, FCPsych(UK) Dr Nazmeera Khamissa MBChB, MRCPsych(London), FCPsych(SA) Dr John Parker MBBCH, FCPsych(SA) Dr Arien van der Merwe MBChB, FRSCH(London), MISMA(UK) Zahava Aarons MA(Clin Psych) Engelie Brand MSc(Med App Psych), MA(Clin Psych) Equivalence Bradley Drake MSc(Clin Psych) Keri Drake BA(HMS) Honours(Biokinetics) Zureida Garda MA(Clin Psych) Tebogo Makgabo MA(Clin Psych) Corrie Davidson MA(Social Work) Dr Rene Jeannes M.Tech Homeopathy Beatrice Rabkin BSc(Nutr Med), Dip.Pharm Shona Saayman BSc(OT) Honours Dr Jaci Schultz M.Tech Homeopathy Nurain Tisaker BSocSc(Social Work) Honours LIFE COACHES: Godfrey Madanhire, Elmarie Potgieter, Susan Roy ACC. PCD. Our Panel of Experts

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I’d love to hear from you! email hello@ thrivemag.

elcome to the Autumn 2014 issue! And yes, it’s been rather a long wait. Many thanks to our subscribers and regular readers for their kind patience. I decided to cancel the Summer 2013 issue. Not an easy decision to make – it never is when one has made a personal commitment to something – but a necessary and unavoidable one. I was approaching burnout. Eighteen months of hard work and minimal time off had taken its toll. Through my extensive experience of depression, I knew the signs: continual exhaustion coupled with a marked decrease in enthusiasm for a project which I knew I absolutely loved. I was also painfully aware of where those signs were pointing to, and that was, euphemistically, not a good place at all. And if I was to crumble, Thrive would crumble with me, making its name tragically ironic.


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So I took a break. After all, if nothing else, I needed to practice what I preach and one of those things is acceptance of (in my case) a predisposition to depression and learning to live alongside it. To successfully do the latter, it is important to learn about one’s triggers: firstly, what they are, secondly, how to recognise them, and thirdly, how to respond to them proactively. However, we live in a real world – a world where for any venture to be successful, things need to get done and deadlines need to be met. Part of accepting our limitations is finding a way to work around them, or at least to commit to realistically achievable goals. In my case, the solution was simple – I needed to get help. And so Team Thrive has more than doubled in size. And what a Team … without you Thrive would simply not be Thriving! Yours in Thrivational Wellness,

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Understanding Family Members I subscribed to your magazine a few months ago and can’t wait for the next issue. There is a history of mental illness in my family and the articles in Thrive have helped put things into perspective. Before, I never really took the time to think about mental health issues. I look forward to reading more informative articles that can help sufferers and nonsufferers alike. Keep up the good work! Anonymous, Cape Town

I Am Not Alone … I’m a student and was given a copy of Thrive by the university’s wellness service. It’s filled with lots of useful information that has helped me immensely. I have suffered from intense anxiety for several years and

PROF. DAN STEIN BSc(Med), MBChB, FRCPC, PhD, DPhil Dan is Professor of Psychiatry and Head of the Department of Psychiatry & Mental Health at the University of Cape Town. He is also Director of the Medical Research Council (MRC) Unit on Anxiety & Stress Disorders.

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have recently been diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder. I have found it difficult to talk to my friends about it, mostly as I’m scared that they will judge me. However, the magazine has shown me that lots of people suffer from mental illness and I am definitely not alone or abnormal. Hopefully in time I’ll pluck up courage to tell others about my experiences. Meantime I’ll be scanning the stores for the next issue! Thank you. Adrian, Cape Town

Accepting ADHD Many thanks for the feature on ADHD in the last issue of Thrive. I have been struggling with lack of focus and concentration as far back as I can remember. However, although I suspected I may have ADHD, for some reason I didn’t want it formally diagnosed. I guess I was scared of the label as I thought that it would make me feel inferior; also that if people knew,

DR NAZMEERA KHAMISSA MBChB, MRCPsych(London), FCPsych(SA) Nazmeera is an integrative psychiatrist in private practice in Pretoria. She believes that the search for health, wholeness and wellness goes deeper than simply the treatment of symptoms.

they would treat me differently. What really stood out in the article was the fact that ADHD can be likened to any other physical challenge such as poor eyesight. If one couldn’t see properly one would have no problem getting help in the form of glasses. Yet, somehow one doesn’t feel the same way about a mental condition. I realised this doesn’t make sense and decided to book an appointment with an ADHD specialist. I was diagnosed and recommended, before going on medication, to investigate lifestyle changes in order to manage the condition. I’ve been seeing a nutritionist and a life coach, and it seems to be paying off. It’s early days but I’m optimistic that I will get on top of my disorder. Jenny Frame, Johannesburg Thanks to the readers who wrote in. We so appreciate hearing from you and are thrilled that Thrive is proving to be so helpful to so many.

DR JUDY BENTLEY MBChB, MMed(Psych), FCPsych(SA) Judy is a psychiatrist in private practice in Cape Town. She is on Thrive’s Panel of Experts and wrote the article 8 Steps for Mental Wellness on page 10.

DEBBIE WILDING Debbie was a professional ballet dancer for many years and is now a yoga teacher based in Cape Town. She specialises in remedial yoga and also practices massage, reiki and the Bowen technique. debbiewilding27@


From the wintery depths of mental despair in the heart of poverty, comes the rebirth of hope through reconnection. Bring on the Spring! Visit Lentegeur Psychiatric Hospital on the impoverished Cape Flats in Cape Town and you’ll see, similar to many such hospitals, what looks like a prison. The purpose of the Spring Project is to redesign what a psychiatric hospital looks like, feels like, is and does, using ecological principles. Spring is about getting in touch with our roots as we blossom in the sunshine. This metaphor of spring as the rebirth of hope through connection is brought to life by the project through a series of strategies that involve the development of beautiful gardens, food cultivation, recycling and other rehabilitation projects, as well as a program of cultural revival. The project forms part of the

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programme for Cape Town World Design Capital 2014 and in September it will host a Spring Festival where, for a few days, the hospital will be opened up to the public to celebrate the “beauty and power of true healing”. There will be a series of cultural events as well as tours, lectures and demonstrations exhibiting the different forms of care on offer and examples of how these are being transformed through the project. To raise the funds necessary for this festival, a campaign has been launched on the crowdfunding website, Thundafund (modelled on the US site, Kickstarter). Lovely rewards (such as your name on a pebble lining the flower beds or a T-shirt) are offered for donations from as little as R10. Please help make this innovative and extremely worthwhile project a reality and visit

Various studies led by Lisa Miller, professor and director of clinical psychology and director of the Spirituality Mind Body Institute at Columbia University, have indicated that regular spiritual activity can help alleviate and protect against depression. These studies have been published in both the American Journal of Psychiatry (2012) and JAMA Psychiatry (2013). One study indicated a 90 percent decrease in major depression in high-risk adults who said they highly valued spirituality or religious affiliation. Another study showed that frequent engagement in meditation or other spiritual or religious practice resulted in a thickening of the brain cortex (the outer layer) in precisely the same regions that had otherwise shown thinning in people at high risk for depression. This could account for the enormous decrease in incidence of the condition.

“When ‘I’ is replaced by ‘We’, even illness becomes wellness” –

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Review by LARA POTGIETER Social Media Consultant & Contributing Writer

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enowned comedian, author and mental health campaigner Ruby Wax’s Sane New World: Taming the Mind, is packed with useful information about managing the “bucking bronco of a mind” which governs all that we are and all that we do.

Wax earned a degree in mindfulnessbased cognitive therapy from Oxford University, and Sane New World condenses the most significant aspects of what she has learnt and makes them accessible to everyone – mental illness sufferers and non-sufferers alike. Sane New World is filled with frank accounts of her own psychological difficulties and attributes modern mental illness to the many pressures of today’s world, which is saturated with useless information and where everything is expected instantly. After her own burnout, Wax became interested in whether it was possible to take control of the workings of the mind. In her search for answers, she learnt much about the structure and operations of the brain. Through synopses, engaging analogies, accessible illustrations and laughout-loud humour, Sane New World offers readers a crash course in the understanding and best use of their brains. Wax’s academic and personal journey led her to the conclusion that it is indeed


possible to mould our brains by applying patient understanding and careful selfregulation. She recommends mindfulness, the practice of consciously paying attention to the present moment in a non-judgmental way. In Sane New World she says, “Mindfulness gives you some of the utensils to help you turn something you burnt and destroyed into something that tastes good and feels soothing.” Wax traces the development of the practice of mindfulness and outlines its potential to assist with issues such as self-control, the regulation of emotions, anxiety, feelings of disconnectedness, negative thoughts and addictive behaviours. Easy and practical exercises that can be used in the cultivation of mindfulness are also provided. What sets Sane New World apart from other books about mindfulness is not only the author’s sharp wit but her acknowledgement of the realities of using an ancient Eastern philosophy in a modern Western world. Instead of proposing a black-and-white solution, she advises readers on how best to marry the “doing” and “being” modes that are important in our daily lives, and provides alternative practices for those not sold on the mindfulness idea. A worthwhile read, Sane New World may be the resource you have been looking for in your attempt to befriend “the grenade at the bottom of the cookie jar” that is your brain.

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The South African Depression and Anxiety Group was started in 1994 by Zane Wilson. She was motivated by her experience of severe panic disorder which resulted in her not being able to drive, go to restaurants or theatres, do any shopping or even stay at home alone. It took ten years for the correct diagnosis to be made and, after just four weeks of medication, all her symptoms disappeared and she was able to live a normal life again. She became aware how little help and support was available for people suffering from mental disorders and resolved to change this. From small beginnings, SADAG has grown to be the largest mental health NGO in South Africa. It has a 15-line call centre and is open from 8am to 8pm, seven days a week. There are over 100 volunteers and more than 220 support groups countrywide. It is certain that their mental health outreach programmes have reached thousands of people across South Africa during its 20-year existence, and they are guaranteed to reach many more in years to come. THRIVE SUPPORTS Well done, SADAG! SADAG BY DONATING 5% OF ALL OUR SUBSCRIPTION 0800 21 22 23 INCOME

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Good Medicine Patrick Holford


In his latest book, Patrick Holford cites that it 3 is not the lack of drugs, but rather the lack of COPIES good nutrition which is causing the plethora UP FOR of chronic diseases ailing our modern world. GRABS He covers over 75 of the world’s most common health problems and offers nutritional solutions to help prevent or reverse them. These solutions are all tried and tested and indicated to work, both in clinical research and in practice. Email with your full name, phone number and title of the book.

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“Remember how far you’ve come, not just how far you have to go. You are not where you want to be, but neither are you where you used to be.” Unknown

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by Dr Judy Bentley MBChB, MMed(Psych), FCPsych(SA)



1 SEE A DOCTOR If you have symptoms that are starting to affect your daily life, it’s time to see a doctor. Your GP is qualified to treat milder mental illnesses. However, if you have an illness such as depression that is causing you to stay away from work, affecting your relationships, or is recurrent, you need to ask for a referral to a psychiatrist who can give you a more accurate assessment and provide in-depth management. If necessary, your GP or psychiatrist will be able to refer you to a therapist for additional treatment.

Knowledge is power! Get to know the symptoms, signs, and what you can expect from your illness. Briefly record what you are experiencing each day. This will keep track of your improvement, and will show early signs of your symptoms worsening. This information is also extremely helpful to your doctor in assessing your progress. Research your illness and learn about ways to get and stay mentally well. However, make sure that the information comes from a reputable source.


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If medication is prescribed, take it regularly. It is the only way to ensure that you get the response you want. If you have side effects, or notice anything unusual or undesirable while on the medication, speak to your doctor. Don’t just stop taking it. Stopping any medication suddenly can be dangerous or make you feel ill.


5 MOVE Exercise has been proven to reduce stress and improve recovery from depression. Keep moving!

4 EAT Eat regular meals even if you have very little appetite. Little and often is good for you. Keep up your intake of fruit and veg. Try not to give in to the temptation to live off carbohydrate-laden pastries and sweets. Choose low GI foods. This regulates your blood sugar and improves the functioning of your brain. It is particularly important for people who experience a lot of anxiety. A little of what you fancy does you good - eat a square or two of dark chocolate daily. Omega-3s help to protect your brain. Eat oily fish at least three times a week and/or take a supplement.

Remember: Always be gentle with yourself. Accept where you are at and set ‘baby step’ goals. Aim for progress and not perfection.

6 DO Sleep! Ensure that you keep regular hours as much as possible. Go to bed and get up at the same time each day regardless of whether it is during the week or on a weekend. Explore your creativity! Your brain needs stimulation to keep healthy. Get outdoors and soak up as much light and sunshine as possible. Even better, exercise outdoors. Explore stress management and relaxation activities. Find what works for you and do it!

7 RELATE The most important relationship is with yourself. Take time to work on this. Being part of a community is good for your mental health. Improve your relationship skills, and nurture old and new friendships. Get involved in giving back to your community in a way that works for you. Don’t isolate yourself no matter how much you feel like retreating. Contact with friends and family gives perspective and energy. If possible, see a therapist regularly.

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S P L E H P L E A H IC M W O H IM H R O F K R O W IT E MAD When he was nine, Phelps was diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), a condition which remains highly stigmatised despite advances in diagnosis and treatment. ADHD is thought to affect approximately seven percent of children between the ages of six and seventeen. If it remains undiagnosed, and therefore unmanaged, its symptoms continue into adulthood. The areas of the brain that can be involved in this disorder include the frontal lobes (which control our concentration, decision-making, memory and impulse-control processes), the limbic system (the origin of our emotions) and the inhibitory mechanisms of the cortex. Although the disorder does not affect the exact same areas of the brain, the symptoms are universal. In children, these include an inability to sit still, be quiet and concentrate on one task at a time, as well as attentionseeking behaviour and an increase in physical activity. Phelps’ kindergarten and elementary school teachers complained about his lack of focus, distracting behaviour and what they perceived as immaturity. He was prescribed stimulant medication which improved his concentration and enabled him to pay attention. However, even though the medication had no obvious negative side

effects, when he was eleven he decided that he no longer wished to take it. His treatment then took on the form of time management practices, structured daily routines and a healthy diet. From an early age, Phelps loved playing sport, and his involvement in swimming, baseball and lacrosse supported this lifestyle-orientated therapeutic strategy. Swimming, in particular, is a sport that requires a considerable amount of discipline. Early morning practices, weekend meets and repetitive training exercises necessitate focus and determination. In the swimming pool, Phelps cultivated the discipline he lacked in the classroom and, in the process, was able to release his pent-up energy and harness his focus. To this day, Phelps manages his life with strict physical training and an overall healthpromoting regimen. Watching him fly through the water with almost super-human determination, it is hard to imagine that he ever lacked the ability to focus on one thing at a time. He has found a passion that not only has made him a sporting hero, but has assisted him in every other area of his life. The question is not whether Michael Phelps rose to success despite his ADHD, but whether he achieved what he has because of it.

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