Rebirth in Motherhood: A Story of Crisis, Courage, and Connection

ALEYA HARRIS

I died on November 7, 2022. It was the day my daughter, Ruby Coral, was born, marking my transition into motherhood. It was supposed to be a joyous occasion, but instead, it became the start of the most challenging period of my life.

I gave birth after enduring 36 hours of labor, which culminated in a C-section. There I was, holding my beautiful daughter, yet feeling as if a part of me had vanished. During my pictureperfect pregnancy, nobody warned me about the intensity of postpartum depression and anxiety. It was a full-body experience; my brain, emotions, body, and soul hurt. I was caught in a whirlwind of emotions: joy for my new baby and a deep, unshakable sadness.

I struggled with the transition. The image of a happy, glowing new mother clashed violently with the reality of my experience. I felt ashamed of my feelings, as if I was failing at the very first step of motherhood. This internal conflict was compounded by a practical crisis: as a business owner, my mental state directly impacted my work. My revenue dwindled, adding financial stress to my already heavy burden.

It was on March 28, 2023, that I chose to share my story. I posted a raw and honest reflection of my journey on Instagram. The post spoke of the death of my former self and the birth of this new, uncertain version of me. It was a vulnerable moment, one that I was nervous to share, fearing judgment and misunderstanding.

The response, however, was overwhelmingly positive. Women reached out to me, sharing their own struggles with postpartum depression, grateful to know they were not alone. Men thanked me for giving voice to what their partners were experiencing. People lauded my bravery. From this act of sharing, I found a community—a group of people who uplifted me as I uplifted them. It was a healing experience, both for myself and for others.

On July 19, I posted another update. Accompanied by a photo of me holding Ruby Coral, I opened up about the hard truths of my journey. I talked about my struggle with postpartum depression, the loss of my ‘glow,’ and how it affected my business. I shared how energy healing techniques, therapy, and intentional rest and movement helped me find my way back. This post was not just an update; it was a beacon of hope for others in similar situations.

Through these posts, I made a choice. I chose to share my story because the importance of connection, and helping others, outweighed the discomfort of vulnerability. I realized that by sharing my story, I could help break the stigma surrounding postpartum depression. I could help others feel seen and understood.

Now, I share my story from the stage, and it continues to resonate. I have fond memories of stepping out of the spotlight to embrace tearful audience members thanking me for being so empathetic to their lived experiences. It’s a reminder that the prevailing narrative of motherhood often overlooks the complex emotions many women experience. It’s not just about being happy to have a healthy baby. It’s about acknowledging and accepting the myriad feelings that come with the transition from maiden to mother.

This journey has taught me the power of vulnerability. By sharing my story, I’ve not only healed myself but have also provided a space for others to heal. I’ve learned that in moments of crisis, there’s an opportunity for growth, for rebirth. And in this new chapter of my life, as I navigate the complexities of motherhood, I carry with me the lessons of empathy, courage, and the strength found in community.

Aleya Harris, CPCE is the spark for your sparkTM. She is an award-winning international speaker, powerhouse StoryBrand Certified Guide, Strategic Storytelling Consultant, empire-building CEO of The Evolution Collective Inc., and host of the award-winning Flourishing Entrepreneur Podcast. Aleya helps business leaders overcome communication and differentiation challenges by sharing radically authentic stories that transform workplace culture and carve unique market niches. https://www.aleyaharris.com/